COFFEE’S HISTORY & ORIGINS

20191014_110716.jpg15710468834321102168724083807666.jpg15710437345183676338762388191799.jpgCoffee global originated from Ethiopia as earliest evidence of coffee drinking and knowledge of the coffee tree spread from early 15th century. Africans grow coffee harvested, grounded and drank by families as tropical crops. Coffee spread as commodity for trade from Ethiopia Horn of Africa to Yemen Arabia Felix monks monasteries spreading into Mecca and Cairo. Goats were seen hyper stimulated inspired coffee concoction born long ago in the mountains of Ethiopia. Legend says that Kaldi saw his excited herd dancing after eating coffee cherry berry, 16th century reached rest of Middle East, South India (Karnataka), Persia, Turkey to rest of Horn of Africa and northern Africa. Coffee spread to Balkans, Italy, the rest of Europe, Southeast Asia and Americas despite ban imposed in the 15th century by religious leaders in Mecca and Cairo, and later by the Catholic Church.15710460124356859565088160134012.jpg15710436855935512932863149678515.jpg15710447815743466109153844499277.jpgCoffee spread from Ethiopian ancestors of today’s Kaffa Province name of coffee, the first to recognize energizing effects of native coffee plant. So the tribesmen consumed as hunters on days-long treks benefitting from coffee plant’s ability to quell hunger and provide more energy. Studies of genetic diversity of Coffea arabica varieties retained the residual heterozygosity from ancestral materials, diploid species Coffea canephora and C. liberica. Oral history direct evidence has indicated Africans coffee grow among other crops natives used as stimulant so known earlier spread into seventeenth century. Original domesticated coffee plant from Harar, native population use derived from Ethiopia distinct is found populations in Sudan and Kenya.1571043405765699259889766813539.jpg15710434270053024933810851534611.jpg15710436277878114956373217936851.jpg15710435846402047751185959458711.jpg15710434925723954462411793900624.jpgCoffee is native to tropical Africa but its Brazil that is the world’s largest coffee producing country. Vietnam, Colombia are second and third biggest producers. Coffee was traded through Middle East, Asia and Europe before its taken to the Americas by European colonizers. The crop’s success there depended on slave trade. The history of coffee recognizes racism and the role of colonialism. The history of coffee has a dark side of the exploitation of Western countries taking advantage of the African countries. And multibillion multinational corporations making so much profit but don’t invest in these countries of the supply chains. 15710433560353172288782735507670.jpg15710440983255412735373397344862.jpg15710445900461747951835999486447.jpg15710441400893604583404307719482.jpg15710439366083654047546056266942.jpg15710440294184227315937896153147.jpg15710444445985513000575336350508.jpgMark Pendergrast, author of Uncommon Grounds: The History of Coffee And How It Transformed Our World. In late 1700s, European colonial powers recognized coffee’s profitability. Demand for coffee drinks was high in European countries and their colonies established profitable estates. European companies imported Africa slave labour on plantations in the Caribbean, Asia, and Americas in Trans Atlantic Triangular Slave Trade.1571044828283157220128130682346.jpgwp-1571137280306.jpgdownloadfile.pngwp-1571007286187.jpgIMG-20191014-WA0001.jpgwp-1571136784509.jpgMark Pendergrast, author of Uncommon Grounds: The History of Coffee And How It Transformed Our World. In late 1700s, European colonial powers recognized coffee’s profitability. Demand for coffee drinks was high in European countries and their colonies established profitable estates. European companies imported Africa slave labour on plantations in the Caribbean, Asia, and Americas in Trans Atlantic Triangular Slave Trade.15710478444701786177490462436469.jpg15710456532011356605169476525987.jpg15710456143886626766098078755663.jpg15710455659128566144229800899532.jpg15710448803383604231430384290796.jpg15710449771794187086487037815745.jpg15710450656392204661356868672582.jpg15710451149853942328613469727459.jpgBarbados and Jamaica were some of the earliest British colonies as slave traders provided outposts with human labour from Africa to work on sugar and coffee plantations. Goods and people moved in a triangle between West Africa, colonies in Caribbean and Americas and Europe.wp-1571143326145.jpg15710465101715420187119285288633.jpg1571046665177784825754492463044.jpg15710465806261383212562540144503.jpgwp-1571143230605.jpgwp-1571143279802.jpg15710462101437150544227229786142.jpgSan Domingo in French-occupied Haiti was supplying half of the world’s coffee in 1788 as a direct result of slave labour. Living conditions was appalling, slaves underfed, overworked and housed in the windowless huts. The African slaves were beaten, tortured or killed by their white European rulers.15710466183022452900408860596017.jpgwp-1571142356971.jpgwp-1571138218332.jpgwp-1571142304784.jpg15710467716452899072847031383823.jpg15710449165545412649823065829850.jpg15710450356353051306629389501833.jpg1571046353063816915106442229309.jpg15710432352042400621271070553203.jpgNapoleon tried to regain Haiti in early 1800s led to decline in coffee production prompted the Dutch to fill the gap with coffee produced in their own colony of Java, Indonesia. But has rigid hierarchy between the native Javanese and their colonial overlords. Laziness and apathy of Dutch landowners forced Javanese natives to harvest coffee for a pittance, whole villages died of starvation.15710462360581092218315998157921.jpg15710463381055154496466313978760.jpgwp-1571136892649.jpg15710470158994600447489546368637.jpg15710433079216012543656666705158.jpgUK drinks 95 million cups of coffee day with 500,000 tonnes of waste coffee grounds a year. Some business’s small waste coffee grounds customers to take home as garden fertiliser or homemade exfoliant. Wet coffee grounds waste into landfill in UK tax £88.95/tonne to £94.15 from 1st April 2020 levy operators cost to collection fee. Waste management companies charge for contaminated dry mixed with recycling. 15712234953994380269245425115741.jpgLandfill harmful greenhouse gases such as methane 34 times more potent than carbon dioxide over a 100 year period causing climate change. The wet coffee grounds in an anaerobic digestion plant absent of oxygen microorganisms break down biodegradable material managing waste or producting fuel but grounds sink to bottom in ‘belly’ inhibit rate of biomethane production. Waste grounds incinerated energy generation, not best usel. Bio-bean utilise wet coffee grounds waste recycled bio-products by disposal recycling service generate savings for businesses saving emission as bio-fuel.15710432727097757498507419898001.jpgCoffee declined in the West Indies but it thrived in Latin America. So first coffee bush in Brazil was planted by Francisco de Melo Palheta in Pará in 1727. Brazil became a coffee superpower under the rule of the Portuguese and continued to after independence. By the 1830s, coffee became Brazil’s largest export is around 30% of world coffee production.15710461315717905217574155760681.jpg15710452158122014500876146091126.jpgBrazilian coffee plantations used black or indigenous slave labour. Indentured labourers worked and lived in horrific conditions. Plantation owners treated their labourers as dispensable imported new slaves as they died from overwork. Did not treat existing slaves with any compassion most slaves last seven years from initial bondage.wp-1571142201640.jpg15710455063321556057087774078740.jpgBrazil made slavery illegal in 1888, but four million slaves had been brought from Africa. In Latin America, coffee industry depended on the indigenous labour. Black people not used as slaves in Central American countries anymore, Mayans and other native peoples served as semi-slaves.15710451884962273506023802601097.jpg15710452671042518442429950312232.jpgThe Mayans occupied best fertile lands for growing coffee and so increasingly became disenfranchized by colonial governments. Violently evicted by the military as the demand for coffee grew, forced to work land for the oppressors. Revolts and rebellions common during that time government brutality and the oppression was response.15710454680217849189674356110640.jpg20191015_133547.jpgThe coffee industry in Latin America explaining why the world is dominated by their coffee production. Slave labour no longer but paved the way for today’s industry. Many regions of Brazil and Colombia are now traditional coffee-growing areas with farming as main resource. Legacies of colonialism affect coffee supply chain in Latin America racial divide between farm owners and labourers.15710464500078699002128982820492.jpgMillions of blacks in Latin America Asia, and Africa live in poverty producing the affordable coffee for Western markets. African coffee is the best in the world as Tropical Africa origin of coffee. But that continent not treated on same level of Latin America. Colonialism by former European colonies in Africa left without infrastructure or stable political system. Structural racism economic oppression exists in supply chain. Inequality in the coffee production, baristas, economics. Education, politics of coffee-producing regions of the community in producing countries must contribute to improving sustainability, working conditions, and quality of life for people globally.tree-goat-morocco.jpg15712272641128742041996406789531.jpgObviousTimelyAlligatorsnappingturtle-size_restricted.gifThe Argan coffee like Ethiopian Coffee, Nepal coffee grown on Himalayan climate is ideal for coffee growing. The aroma of brewed coffee fragrance, coffee’s global recognition beans, grown in Nuwakot, a scored 90 points on a scale of 50 to 100 in Coffee Review, California-based trade magazine. In first-ever blind assessment Nepali coffee in Lekali is “savoury sweet in structure with gentle acidity; crisp, satiny mouthfeel.” Concluded the coffee is worth seeking its confident savoury-sweet cup. In 2016, coffee produced by Greenland Organic Farm scored an 89 Specialty Coffee Association of America, California trade group Nepali coffee producers elevate quality of country’s beans to international standards.Workers sort cherries for processing at Lekali Coffee Estate’s farm in Nuwakot in central Nepal. Nepali coffee’s in 2014, Banjara became Nepal’s first Q-grader trained in Xining in China. The West are calling coffee aficionados value beans’ from exotic origin to local cafe. Coffee companies create market for vacuum packed cans of coffee grounds and jars of instant coffee kitchens in the world,  Nepal’s high-end market export coffee. Some claim goat eaten berry coffee also exist like Luwak kopi coffees. Coffee farm in Mauja district of Kaski, view to the Annapurna mountain range Nepal’s first national coffee cupping as Q-graders identify characteristics and flavour, quality of coffee beans. Eight of the world’s 10 highest peaks like Mount Everest Nepal ideal climate high-quality beans. Nepal’s Arabica variety Bourbon and Typica coffee grow on rolling, misty mountain slopes at altitudes from 800 meters to 1,600 meters. First introduced to the country by a monk in the middle of 20th century the crop supports 32,000 farmers in 40 of country’s 77 districts. It exports coffee but Coffee Review rating recognition gives them a much-needed boost in the international market.15712209071994545813192981911343.jpgThe world’s most expensive is Coffee alamid highly sought-after brew among coffee aficionados is “caviar” of coffee. Odour-free coffee alamid aroma, syrup texture, chocolate hint, coffee alamid’s clean aftertaste and flavour is processed by acid from stomach of animals eating coffee cherry berries. The coffee seeds remain intact undigested excreted as a faecal material collected, washed and is grounded as premier luxury coffee sells U$500 -U$1000 per pound. Kopi luwak one of most expensive coffees in world. Vietnamese weasel coffee collecting coffee beans eaten by wild civets in India. Luwak coffee kopi luwak of Java Indonesia is second best.  But traders of this type of coffee exploit animals by caging, feeding them solely on coffee beans instead on an enriched variety of diets in wild more suitable to thrive. The tourists travel to see caged animals in action oblivious to animal rights issues involved in most expensive coffee processs. A cup of coffee cost $80 per cup in the tourist epic centres.

Mark Pendergrast: Uncommon Grounds, History of Coffee & How It Transformed Our World.

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IRON DEFICIENCY ANAEMIA

Iron-rich foodsDo you get enough iron from your diet? If not, liver red meat, green vegetables, nuts and seeds are good dietary sources of iron. And if you often feel tired, short of breath or you feel you heart beating faster inside your chest go for check up from your doctor. If friends commented you look unusually pale iron deficiency anaemia, is the world’s most common nutritional disorder in UK, common among young women. Analysis by the government’s Scientific Advisory Committee Nutrition (SACN) on iron and health in 2011 indicated 21% of women aged between 19 and 34 had below recommended level ferritin of iron is stored in the body. I recently suggested to a friend with the symptoms to get herself checked out by her GP. A blood test revealed she was so anaemic it was surprising she could still walk upstairs. A few iron tablets sorted her out. It’s worth adding that you should talk to your GP if you’re considering taking them – you might not need them and your symptoms could be caused by something else. The body can’t produce iron, so you have to get it in your diet whether through foods that naturally contain it or those fortified with iron, such as white bread and breakfast cereal. The problem is not all of iron is in a form you can actually absorb.Trust Me teamTo get iron from food eat leafy green vegetables raw, steamed, but do lightly boil your spinach. Eat or the fruit juice containing vitamin C with meals And a fermented bread is best for ealth. The Trust Me I’m a Doctor asked nutrition scientist Prof Paul Sharp, from King’s College London, to find the foods you should be eating to boost iron levels naturally. Red meat is rich in the sort of iron bodies find easy to absorb but these days many people are either cutting back on red-meat consumption or cutting it out altogether. And there are good sources of iron in dark-green leafy vegetables, such as kale and spinach, and pulses, such as peas and lentils. The problem is you don’t absorb as much iron from plant sources as you do from red meat. Then, there is the iron you can get from fortified bread and breakfast cereals, though again it is not always in a very absorbable form. To demonstrate this, a neat party trick is to grind up the cereal, add some warm water and you can actually use a magnet to draw the iron filings out of the mush. Wait for your coffee. How you prepare your food and what you drink with it can change how much iron you absorb. To demonstrate this, Prof Sharp carried out experiments to mimic human digestion. The tests mimicked the effect of the enzymes involved in digesting food and the chemical reaction that occurs in human gut cells to show how much iron would be absorbed. Prof Sharp showed that if you drink orange juice with your fortified breakfast cereal you absorb much more iron than when eating the cereal on its own – because orange juice contains vitamin C, makes it easier to absorb iron from food. Disappointingly, if you drink coffee with your morning bowl of cereal, then that will mean you absorb significantly less iron.CabbageRaw cabbage anyone? According to Prof Sharp, it’s because coffee is full of chemicals called polyphenols that are very efficient at binding to the iron and making that iron less soluble. So, if a fortified cereal is your breakfast of choice, then having a small glass of orange juice or an orange will help increase your iron uptake. You might also want to consider postponing your morning coffee until at least 30 minutes after you’ve eaten.But what if you prefer getting your iron from more natural sources? Raw cabbage is a good source of available iron but we found that steaming it lessened the amount of available iron while boiling reduced it even further. That’s because, like oranges, cabbage is rich in vitamin C – and when you boil it, the vitamin C is released into cooking water. If you want to get the maximum nutrients from your cabbage, eat it raw (an acquired taste) or steam it. The same is true of other veggies that contain both iron and vitamin C, such as kale, broccoli, cauliflower and watercress. But, strangely enough, spinach is completely different. We found that when we boiled the spinach, it actually released 55% more “bioavailable” iron than when eaten raw. Prof Sharp says: “Spinach has compounds, called oxalates, and they basically trap the iron. “When we cook spinach, the oxalate is released into the cooking water, and therefore the iron that remains will be more available for absorption.” Finally, what about the bread? We found the best bread for delivering iron was sourdough bread. That’s because wheat contains a chemical called phytic acid that slows down iron absorption by body. When sourdough bread is made, the fermentation process breaks down the phytic acid so the iron that remains is more available for absorption. There are more diet tips on the Trust Me website.

Trust Me I’m a Doctor continues on BBC Two on Wednesday, September 12, at 20:00

GOOD & EVIL FAST IN BIBLE

Proven health benefits of fasting

Bible verses on fasting help decide the kind of fast and purpose of fast. In Luke 4:2-4 Jesus Fasted and Prayed 2 for forty days and was then tempted by the devil. He ate nothing during those days so was hungry. 3 The devil said to him, “If you are the Son of God then turn stones into bread.” 4 Jesus answered, “It is written man shall not live bread alone.’ Jesus told His disciples in Matthew 17:21 and Mark 9:29 in the Bible evil spirits of that kind is only driven out by prayer and fasting. Power of prayer and fasting enables intense time of prayer with God to focus more to seek the Face of God to become more empowered and receive God’s direction to take action. Except by prayer, answers and miracles from God are unattainable, hindered by spiritual wickedness in high places. Fasting is a Biblical normal part of Christian life in obedience for God to hear and answer prayer when HE wants to do so. People fast for various reasons in Bible, based on circumstances God is sought after. Prayer for breakthrough breaks barrier through power of the Holy Spirit’s outpouring. Fasting is part of God’s warfare strategy to defeat the demons of rebellion, pride, witchcraft, poverty and lack. When evil witchcraft spiritual attacks unfold God’s POWER manifest to destroy it in the Mighty Name of Jesus. The evil curses and witchcraft spells are broken and removed in the Name of Jesus to get solution to live in peace and experience healing from God in Jesus Name. Before starting a fast if you have any health or medical problems check with a doctor if on medication. A person starting fast, if first time, especially the young children fast half a day drinking water or fruit juice praying from 6am-12 noon is more than enough for God to answer prayer. If there are no health problems the next level is a full day fasting with water or fruit juice, to help the body to cope with withdrawal of food. If prayer or fasting lasts for three days it is wise to drink water or fruit juice to ensure the body is healthy and coping well. Jesus the Son of God’s body lasted without food for 40 days. An ordinary human body must be careful because the body lasts from two days to a week without liquids but the person’s health, weather and individual physical activity levels help determine how long a person lasts without water. Estimating how long bodies do without food or water tends to depend on weeks worth of reserve energy from food in the body already. Water regulates body temperature, digestion, waste disposal, hydration, 7 days is the maximum limit the body can cope. God’s General Robert Liardon once said, if prayer and fasting is not heard or answered by God within three days something is seriously wrong so join prayer agreement with matured mentor prayer warriors to deal with the root of persistent problem. If one defeat a thousand and two defeat ten thousand then to see value of corporate prayer in Jesus Name. Stop fasting immediately to seek deliverance and Godly direction to overcome challenges. Never start a dry fast without water and food more than three days unless trained Biblically first to know and understand the reasons for fasting. Do not fast for 7 days without any water or fruit unless you are under the authority and guidance of seasoned pastor among other believers for help or support. Do not copy people bragging of fasting: 10, 14, 21, 40, 70 days to think God will answer your prayer too. There is special reason long fasting is required in group fasting for the religious rituals. Children or sick people must never be forced to fast because you fast on behalf of family. The Bible allows intercession prayer on behalf of family household so everyone cannot be forced to partake in it before God HEARS. A personal prayer Jesus says, go into private closet to pray so God will hear to openly reward you.  

Matthew 6:16-18 Fast in Secret

16 “When you fast, do not look sad like hypocrites to disfigure faces to show others you are fasting. Truly I tell you, you will not receive reward from God. 17  When you fast put oil on your head, wash your face 18 so it’s not obvious to others you are fasting, but only Father Goprayerssecret prayers to reward you.

Luke 18:1-12 Persistent Prayer

1 Jesus told his disciples this parable to show them they should always pray and not give up. 2 He said: In a certain town was a judge who did not fear God or cared what people thought. 3 There was a widow in town who kept going to him to plea, ‘Grant me justice against enemy’ 4 “For some time he refused but finally said to himself, ‘though I don’t fear God or care what people think because this widow keeps bothering me I will see to it she gets justice, so she won’t bother me’ ”6 The LORD said, “Listen to what an unjust judge says. 7 If so will God not bring justice for HIS chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will HE keep put them off? 8 I tell you, HE will see they get justice quickly. So when the Son of Man comes, will He find faith on earth?” 9 Those confident of their own righteousness look down on everyone. Jesus told a parable: 10 “Two men went to temple to pray, a Pharisee and a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee stood and prayed: ‘God, I thank you I am not like others, robbers, evildoers, adulterers or like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week and give tenth of all that I get.’ An attitude of repentance and humility is essential for God’s intervention to fast:

1. To prepare for ministry. Jesus spent 40 days and nights in wilderness fasting and praying before He did God’s work on earth. He spent time alone preparing for His Father’s work in Matthew 4:1-17; Mark 1:12-13; Luke 4:1-14.

2. To seek God’s wisdom. Paul and Barnabas prayed and fasted for elders of the churches before committing them to the Lord for His service in Acts 14:23.

3. To show grief. Nehemiah mourned, fasted, and prayed when he learned Jerusalem’s walls broke down, leaving the Israelites vulnerable and disgraced in Nehemiah 1:1-4.
4. To seek deliverance or protection. Ezra declared corporate fast and prayed for safe journey for Israelites as they travelled 900 miles to Jerusalem from Babylon in Ezra 8:21-23.

5. To repent. After Jonah’s judgements against Nineveh city, the king covered himself with sackcloth and sat in the dust with people to fast and pray for 40 days. In Jonah 3:10, “God saw how they turned from their evil ways so forgave

6. To gain victory. After losing 40,000 men in battle in two days, the Israelites cried to God for help. In Judges 20:26 the people went to Bethel, “sat weeping before the Lord.” They “fasted that day until evening.” The next day the Lord gave them victory over the Benjamites.

7. To worship God. Luke 2:37 says that 84 year old prophetess Anna never left temple but worshiped God night and day, fasting and praying, devoted to God and fasting expressing love for God.
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1 Corinthians 7:5 Spouse Agrees

Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent for a time if devoting yourselves to prayer. Come together again so that satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Samuel 7:7 Fighting Battles

Philistines heard Israel assembled at Mizpah when rulers of Philistine came to attack them. Israelites were afraid because of the Philistines so fasted.

2 Samuel 1:12 During Grieving

They mourned and wept and fasted till evening for Saul and son Jonathan, for the army of the LORD and for the nation of Israel fallen by the sword.

Acts 13:2 Choosing The Leaders

In worshiping the LORD and fasting, the Holy Spirit said, “Set apart Barnabas and Saul for the work God called them.”

Acts 14:23 Appointing Elders

Paul and Barnabas appointed elders in each church with prayer and fasting, committed them to the LORD, in whom they had put their trust.

Daniel 10:3 God’s Intervention

I ate no choice food; no meat or wine touched my lips; and I used no lotions at all until the three weeks were over.

Esther 4:16 Seeking God Favour

“Go, gather together all the Jews who are in Susa, and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my attendants will fast too. Then I will go to the king, though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish.”

Exodus 34:28 Seek God’s Face

Moses was with the LORD forty days and forty nights without eating bread or drinking water and wrote on tablets the words of covenant Ten Commandments.

Joel 2:12 During Repentance

The LORD, “said return with all your heart with fasting, weeping, mourning.”

Luke 18:12 Godly Duty To Fast

Fast twice a week give tenth of asset.

Nehemiah 1:4 For Intercession

When I heard these things, I sat down and wept. For days, mourned and fasted and prayed before the God of heaven.

Psalm 69:10 Personal Prayer

10 I weep and fast and endure scorn.

Psalm 35:13-14 God’s Healing

13 When they were ill I put on sackcloth and humbled myself with fasting. If my prayers return to me unanswered, 14 I go about mourning as though for friend or brother. I bow my head in grief like weeping for my mother.

Joel 2:12-13 God’s Forgiveness

12 “Even now,” declares the LORD, “return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning.” 13 Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the LORD your God, for HE is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love, and HE relents from sending calamity.

Acts 13:3-4 To Go On A Mission

3 After they fasted and prayed, placed their hands on them and sent them off. 4 The two went on their way with Holy Spirit to Seleucia and sailed to Cyprus.

Daniel 9:3-5 To Return to God

3 I turned to the LORD God and pleaded with HIM in prayer, petition, fasting in sackcloth and ashes. 4 I prayed to LORD God and confessed: “LORD the great and awesome God, who keeps covenant of love with those who love HIM and keep HIS commandments, 5 we sinned, done wrong, been wicked, rebelled so turned away from your commands and laws.

2 Samuel 12:15-17 To Save Lives

15 Nathan went home, the LORD struck the child Uriah’s wife had with David so he became ill. 16 David pleads with God for the child. He fasted, spent nights in sackcloth on the ground. 17 The elders of his household stood beside him to get him up from the ground, but he refused, and did not eat any food with them.

1 Kings 21:25-27 Godly Humility

Ahab sold himself to do evil in the eyes of the LORD, urged on by Jezebel his wife. 26 He behaved in vilest manner by going after idols like Amorites the LORD drove out before Israel. 27 Ahab heard God’s words from prophet Elijah, tore his clothes, put on sackcloth fasted, lay in sackcloth and went around humbly.

Ezra 8:21-23 For Travel Mercy

21 By Ahava river, I proclaimed a fast, to humble ourselves before God and ask HIM for a safe journey for us and our children, with all our possessions. 22  I did not ask the king for soldiers and his horsemen to protect us from enemies on the road, because told the king, “The gracious hand of our God is on all those who look to him, but his great anger is against all who forsake him.” 23 So we fasted and petitioned our God on this, and he answered our prayer.

Jonah 3:5-9 To Stop God’s Anger

5 The Ninevites believed God. A fast was proclaimed, and all of them, from the greatest to the least, put on sackcloth. 6 When Jonah’s warning reached the king of Nineveh he rose from throne, took off his royal robes, covered himself with sackcloth and sat down in the dust. 7 This is the proclamation he issued in Nineveh: “By the decree of the king and his nobles: Do not let people or animals, herds or flocks, taste anything; do not let them eat or drink. 8 But let people and animals be covered with sackcloth. Let everyone call urgently on God. Let them give up their evil ways and their violence. 9 Who knows? God may relent with compassion turn from his fierce anger so we will not perish.”1312816044_1101-300x298

Isaiah 58:3-7 Be Kind to People

3 ‘Why did we fast,’ they say and not yet seen result? We humbled ourselves, did you notice?’ “On the day of fasting, you do as you please, exploit your workers. Your fast ends in fighting, strife and in striking others with wicked fists. And so cannot fast that way and expect your voice to be heard by God. 5 Is this the kind of fast I have chosen, only a day for people to humble themselves? Is it only for bowing one’s head like a reed and for lying in sackcloth and ashes? Is that what you call a fast day acceptable to the LORD? 6 “Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose chains of injustice to untie the cords of the yoke, to set oppressed free and break every yoke? 7 Is it not to share your food with the hungry to provide poor wanderer with shelter when you see the naked, to clothe them, and not to turn away from your own flesh and blood? Despite the biblical examples throughout Scripture, the wicked people fast too, using fear, ignorance or rebellion to compel others to indulge in evil actions. Jezebel used a witchcraft magic to influence people to cast mind bending spells to manipulate people to join her to attack Naboth. Like going to native witchdoctors, Baal idol worshippers to fast three days to attack Naboth to kill him for his family land king Ahab coveted after murder. It is necessary to know unbelievers fast to their gods to dedicate themselves and to celebrate their feasts. Spiritualists and a new age meditation fast to cleanse their body and thoughts. Medical treatments requires people to abstain from food for long hours for better access to organs to check in details the damaged tissues. It is used to help some medications work better in the body. Therefore the motive and purpose of a fast is very important before starting fast. It’s good to build up and prepare body well fed in advance if going to fast for a long time. Combining prayer and fasting with deliverance is the best way to achieve best results. It is not the length of days of fasting that is a condition for receiving answer. It is the attitude of repentance, humility, Mercy, Grace, lamentations, Kindness, Favour of God that touches God’s heart to hear and forgive people. God decides time to help in HIS Own way it’s not starvation that forces God to answer prayer. If its starvation that caused God to answer prayer the hungriest people all over the would be most blessed. In addition, the fast must be accompanied by realistic practical solutions available it is not by torturing the flesh that brings miracles. You get closer to God through the Name and the BLOOD of Jesus if a born-again Christian believer. Deliverance through a deeper matured deliverance minister is necessary in extreme cases to be free from demons causing family problems. Some cases need God’s wisdom, support from friends and family and the right organisations. In the western world the resources available can help without a fast. Fasting is for spiritual growth and devotion as well as God’s intervention. Help must be sought through available means spiritually, physically to ensure emotional well-being of those fasting. The devil comes to steal, kill to destroy so check your heart about motives and purpose of your fast. Fasting or praying to covet another person’s spouse, break marriage to marry partner, fast to take another’s property as in Naboth’s case is witchcraft in 1 Kings 21:12. To proclaim fast to take Naboth’s asset is greed, envy and jealousy. Jezebel’s plot got what she wanted from a fast but God ALMIGHTY judged them immediately. In the Bible in Acts 23:12-35 people plot to kill Paul the next morning. Some Jews vowed by oath not to eat or drink until they kill Paul. The fanatics want to kill Paul for believing in resurrection, angels, Holy Spirit did not like his teachings in the Bible. A group of more than forty Jews vowed to kill Paul but he managed to escape on a tip off from his sister’s son. They lied Paul is troublemaker, stirs up riots among Jews all over the world as a ringleader of Nazarene sect to desecrate temple seized him. Agrippa examined him to  learnt truth about false charges against him. The other Jews joined in accusation asserting lies were true. The governor let Paul speak but accusers did not find him arguing with anyone at the temple, stirred crowd in the synagogues or anywhere else in city did not prove charges made. Admits he worshipped God of ancestors, follows of way of laws written in prophets with hope in God as the men in resurrection of the righteous and wicked, his conscience clear before God and man. Paul is sent to Rome after two years so lived and preached until his death during Nero’s rule. Attacks by evil fast makes people hungry, angry and violent so seems to get away with it but years later God judges the bloodlust damage caused to others. You may not later like what you fasted and prayed for. Let God’s words guide you in Spirit and in Truth in Jesus Name to supply all your needs from heaven. Do speak to people despite fasting for God uses human beings to answer prayer or needs in Jesus Name. God will not come down personally physically in front of you to give you the miracles. So speak to people as God may reveal your needs in advance to them to provide your needs through them. Use practical wisdom so not let shame or embarrassment cause you to hide in isolation overwhelmed by fear or frustration in anger against God yet fasting. Its good to fast appropriately as Bible requires but not to ‘crucify’ the flesh recklessly in the Name of God. Fasting alone is not enough in satanic cult deliverance so needs God’s prophet to cast that demon out in the Mighty Name of Jesus. Some problems need Spiritual Father in the LORD to guide and support you. So don’t in silence seek help in Jesus Name. GLORY to God.


VEGAN FOOD BEYOND MEAT

The Vegan BEYOND MEAT founder Ethan Brown wants people to eat less meat for healthy eating to save environment. BBC’s weekly The Boss series profiles a different business leaders in the world. This week Ethan Brown, the boss and founder of vegan food company Beyond Meat is featured. Ethan Brown’s 12 year old son eats a burger almost every day. It may not sound like a diet a parent would want for their child, but Mr Brown has no concerns, because the burger patties come from his own company, Beyond Meat. And they are made entirely from plants. “My son gets clean protein and no cholesterol,” he says. “He’s growing like crazy right now so I want him to have that protein.” Mr Brown says he is on mission to redefine the word “meat.” The 40-something’s Los Angeles-based business makes vegan burger patties, chicken strips and sausages from plant proteins. They are formulated to mimic the taste, texture and look of beef, chicken and pork.A Beyond Burger pack being picked off a shelfBeyond Meat asks supermarkets to stock Beyond Meat Burgers next to their packs of meat. Stocks of the company’s flagship Beyond Burger product quickly sold out after launch in the US in 2016, helped by a positive article in the New York Times. And more than 25 million Beyond Burgers have been sold and this summer the company launched product in UK and also mainland Europe. Their High-profile investors are Microsoft’s Bill Gates, Twitter founders Biz Stone and Evan Williams, and actor Leonardo DiCaprio. “There’s no mystery to meat,” says Mr Brown. “It’s amino acids, lipids, trace minerals and water. “And if you can deliver those four things in same blueprint or architecture as muscle – why can’t that be called meat?”Cattle on a ranch in KansasMr Brown is concerned about effects of environmental impact farming animals has causing ozone methane gas and the amount of resources used per cattle. So before launching Beyond Meat in 2009, Mr Brown worked in alternative energy sector as a hydrogen fuel cell developer. While he liked that work because of its potential for lowering vehicle emissions he decided to make bigger contribution to society focusing on trying to reduce the environmental impact livestock has on the planet. He also wants people to eat less meat for animal welfare and the health issues. Mr Brown set up Beyond Meat, and began researching how you can use plant materials to replicate the composition of the proteins and fats in meat. Getting in touch with scientists at the University of Missouri who were doing research on plant-based meat substitutes, he began working with them on creating a viable product.A Beyond Meat patty in a burgerBeyond Burger uses beetroot extract to give it a blood-like colour. Put together by the best scientists on this [challenge], Mr Brown says. He understands meat more than anyone else in the world, so and build it bit by bit using plants.” Mr Brown spent all his savings on venture, raised money from family and friends. “I truly begged family members,” he says. “It’s amazing what do to make it work.” The first product Mr Brown and the team of scientists came up with was Beyond Chicken Strips. After repeatedly phoning grocery Whole Foods, “almost to the point of indecent behaviour”, he says he managed to get a meeting that resulted in the store stocking product from 2013. However, Mr Brown wasn’t happy with the early recipes. “We got the vegetarians by the droves, but we didn’t get the mainstream consumer,” he says. “We had to go back to the drawing board.” Team of biochemists, biophysicists and biomedical scientists got to work on making products even closer to real meat. With improving the formulations Mr Brown says the biggest challenge is people to stop thinking of it “fake meat.” I would never call it that,” he says. A mobile phone is not a fake phone it’s better phone than landline so people need to think about it this way. The best-selling Beyond Burger patties “bleed” like beef burgers, thanks to the addition of beetroot juice. They include pea protein, coconut oil, potato starch, and the company asks supermarkets to stock them beside the raw beef products by chilled counters. The product is now stocked by 8,000 supermarkets across US, and in thousands of the country’s restaurants. In the UK it is served at burger chain Honest Burger. It was also due to be on sale at supermarket chain Tesco from last month, but that has now been delayed until later in the year. Beyond Meat says it’s because it was struggling to keep up with existing demand, both in the US and overseas.UK chain Honest Burger's Beyond BurgerUK chain Honest Burger sells the burger made Beyond Meat’s patty. Consumers are coming round to the notion of plant-based meat substitutes that aim to look and taste like the real thing. More than a quarter of Britons (26%) say they find idea of products appealing, according to research group Mintel.“So this company Beyond Meat is in a strong position to capitalise on current interest in limiting meat intake,” says Mintel’s UK food and drink research director Kiti Soininen. So just how good does company’s products taste? A trawl of online food blogs show reviews are mostly positive. While some reviewers say burgers taste unnervingly like real beef, others say they definitely don’t. While Beyond Meat has many rivals, including US start-up Impossible Meat and the UK’s Moving Mountains, Mr Brown says that Beyond Meat is struggling to keep up with demand. “We are trying as hard as we can to catch up,” he says. The company, started with 10 people operating from a kitchen in a former hospital, now employs 200.An Impossible BurgerA number of other companies make vegan burger patties that replicate beef as closely as possible, as this offering is from Impossible Burger. And it has just opened its second production facility in Columbia, Missouri, which it says will create a further 250 jobs. In addition, it has launched a new research lab in Los Angeles. This expansion is been funded by external investment in the business that now totals $72m (£56m). Mr Brown won’t reveal the stake he retains in the company, but calls it “decent share.” Mr Brown, who spent his childhood outside Washington DC, says he approaches his every working day like an athletic event eating well, exercising and meditating. At work, he admits, his focus is intense, and there’s “not much chitchat time.” “I tell my son this all the time,” You ‘re not going to get extraordinary outcome if you don’t put an extraordinary amount of work in.”

AS IN THE DAYS OF NOAH…

dna-noahs-ark-950632.jpgAs it was in days of Noah preservation of animal species to be done by modern scientists by DNA genetic data for future posterity. The team of 24 scientists from around the globe are hoping to collect and store genetic codes of 1.5 million species on Earth in a move to “revolutionise understanding of DNA.” The codes will be taken from a plethora of animals, plants and fungi. The £3.4 billion project can be used by scientists to discover more about evolution and how better to treat the environment. The library, created by the Smithsonian Institution, is being described as “most ambitious project in history of modern biology.” Aim of BioGenome Project as it is dubbed will be used for innovations in medicine, agriculture, conservation among other things. Only 0.2 percent of life on Earth has been sequenced. John Kress from Smithsonian Institution told The Times: “We will build a complete library of life that we can sample and delve into for whatever purpose. “We can use it for improving environments and ourselves, and revolutionising our understanding of the evolution of life.”dnaOnly 0.2 percent of life on Earth been sequenced. Researchers wrote in study published in Proceedings of National Academy of Sciences Increasing our understanding of Earth’s biodiversity and responsibly stewarding resources among the crucial scientific and social challenges of the new millennium.” It adds outcomes would “inform a broad range of major issues facing humanity, s impact of climate change of biodiversity conservation of the endangered species, ecosystems, preservation, enhancement of ecosystem services.“Unimaginable biological secrets are held in genomes of the millions of known and unknown organisms on our planet. This ‘dark matter’ of biology can hold the key to unlocking potential for sustaining planetary ecosystems on we depend to provide life support systems for a burgeoning world population.”

LIVING COURAGEOUS LIVES

Princess-eugenie-scoliosis-929007PRINCESS Eugenie opened up about battle with debilitating scoliosis which left her with 2 large metal rods in her back. The emotional royal, who will marry Jack Brooskbank in the same venue at Prince Harry and Meghan in October, paid tribute to her older sister Princess Beatrice for her support ever since she was diagnosed and underwent treatment aged 12. Her determination to fight through pain of scoliosis means spine twists and curves to side. During a speech at youth empowerment WE Day in Wembley, London, on Wednesday, Eugenie said her sister encouraged her not to be disheartened. The princess, daughter to the Duke and Duchess of York, urged women to “live fearlessly” in the face of adversity. The 27-year-old told audience: “When I was 12 I was diagnosed with and treated for, scoliosis has two twelve inch metal rods in her back. Understands pain in life but it did not stop her from doing the things she loves to do. Said sister encouraged her not to get disheartened, not give up live fearlessly. Today, able to get to work with and support the young people going through same things, encourage them to not let diagnosis win so live courageous lives. Credits bigger sister’s inspiration, love, team work, support in messages from their speech: “Never give up, find that tiny game inside you that gives you the belief you can change the world so you don’t have to face anything alone. Their mother Sarah Ferguson Duchess of York tweeted congratulations to daughters on Twitter posting: Leading by example of unity and confidence. Well done. And Princess Eugenie announce engagement to long-term partner Jack Brooskbank in January. The pair will tie the knot at St George’s Chapel, Windsor the same place where Prince Harry and Meghan Markle will marry October 12.

 

TRAUMATIC DEATH GRIEF

traumaticbereavement-thirdTraumatic tragic death bereavement is completely unexpected loss, worst form of grief people go through. Suddenly changes lifeplan dramatically, cancels activities so a shock to the system. One minute conversation is taking place about life but the next minute subject changes to unexpected death. It is most painful if the person appeared healthy, full of life with a great future suddenly cut short by death. The numbing shock of loss is hard to sink in and feels that loved one is about to walk through the door home. Seems like a dream, surreal but wide awake with sleepless nights so deep within the heart an overwhelming pain lingers on. Everyday passes by without a text, contact or phone call, facebook so realises it must be really true. Shock is a normal reaction and unbelief deceased person is really no longer with us here on earth. Sudden change of plans means numbness while taking in loss starting to sink in. Though we understand death as part of life it does not make it easier to accept. Death is painful and difficult to experience it hurts beyond belief and complicated. At times pain seems insurmountable but support and a therapy can help to understand, accept and ease the pain. After death of a loved one life is never the same but talking therapy helps to provide skills and tools to assist with creation of the new normal to integrate life into new existence. Annette was on the way to mortuary when Julia phoned to support death of daughter Amber, aged four, who drowned in a swimming pool, and going to see her body. Many people would not call at that moment they feel encroaching on a raw traumatic grief. bottomJulia, friend of couple, a psychotherapist specialises in dealing with loss knows when people in throes of overwhelming grief, sharing the pain is the only thing that makes even the tiniest difference. Grief professionals don’t have endowed special powers its empathy compassion. Phil answered the phone, so Julia liked to say something to make it better but knew nothing could do that, so she said the only thing she could. “I am terribly sorry to hear your daughter, Amber, has died; I’m sorry the devastating pain that has happened to you. How can I help?” 25 years as grief psychotherapist taught Julia great deal about human condition that focus on grief means focus on life, loss exposes things that matters about a person, their strengths and weaknesses. When someone dies, it reveals faultlines in bereaved family, even deepest, most hidden ones. If you know about loss you know about family, about love, survival, resilience and strength. Knowing about loss means you know about life. But there is a paradox at the centre of loss, and it is this. Grief is the most intense pain there is, and we will do anything to avoid pain. So we run away from it; we run away from our own grief, and we run away from others’ grief. Yet, says running away from grief means we will not recover but embracing helps move through the agony and deal with pain. bereavement-and-traumatic-grief-counselling-pinnacle-therapy-counselling-in-london

Allowing ourselves to be while it washes over us, is only way to survive because we have to feel the worst in order to let it change us. Then we can start to find out who we are going to be in wake of it. This is the message at the heart of Julia’s new book, Grief Works. “If you ignore grief and push it down, you can live and you can function, but you live a very narrow emotional life because using emotional energy to cope,” she said. “Everything in psyche will be squashed down, and that means small things can trigger a much bigger kind of effect. The fact is to do the work of grieving. You have to let it run its course. Pain is agent of change; pain allows you to change, it enables you to reach a new reality.” Her book traces journeys of many of the bereaved people she has walked alongside; she describes how she wept and mourned with them. “let clients know what they say has an impact: Tell them when feels shocked, sad or upset,” she says. So talk about relationship with bereaved and a relationship with friends in service of a deceased. Say what you feel if thinking about them if it’s useful to share. One of the many moving stories in her book is that of Bill and Sally, whose 13-year-old son Matthew died of rare virus. Sally tells Julia losing her son has made her feel dead, no more expectations of life; so does not want to go on living. “I said quite plainly, although she was giving up on herself, I refused to; I would fight for her, held her and whispered hidden strength within her said, to live.’ Julia, in 50s, mother of 4 grown up children, grandmother of four, vivacious and fun: has time to feel recharged with life. You know it helps feeling of clients who like Sally regain joy to be alive again. Helps Julia’s interest in answering questions on experiences of traumatic loss to help open hearts for the healing process.17848

There are two sorts of loss, says Julia: expected loss and traumatic loss. And perhaps, for one in her profession, her own losses have all been expected ones. Her father died at 87, sad, grieved but it not traumatic loss. Bereavement work involves charity Birthright, Well-being of Wo/men made her aware of the pain of losing a baby although wonders was unconsciously influenced by parent’s loss of three parents and three siblings by the time they were 25. “Everything seemed OK, but thinks back aware of some unresolved grief. Almost only personal experience of a shocking, out-of-nowhere, loss figures such death brought loss closer and changed how to deal with grief. Julia was a close friend of Princess Diana, a connection echoed when asked by William and Kate to be a godmother to Prince George in 2013. That is, she says, a very joyful role lots of fun, and the chance to enjoy the little boy as he grows up but she doesn’t want to say much about it or Diana, save she agrees her death made difference to the nation’s approach to grief. So, too, she says, did other major shifts of history, especially the first and second world wars. “Our parents, parents of people of my generation, were the generation that couldn’t afford to grieve. Were parented by survivors of first world war simply to survive but modern luxury means able to deal with it differently.”traumaticbereavement-fullwidth

Despite public outpouring of grief after Diana’s death, doesn’t think most people are sufficiently aware impact traumatic bereavement has, the ripples it leaves or how long they persist. As someone who experienced a traumatic loss at the age of nine, when three-year-old sister was killed in road accident agrees with her analysis. It is 44 years since death, and shockwaves still reverberate in the family: everyone is different because of it, next generation touched by it in ways too subtle for them to fully understand.

Traumatic losses shape future of family as subject of great interest to Julia; so, is the way men and women deal with loss differently. Men, tend to want to move on to make plans, to focus on new horizons. Women on other hand want to spend more time remembering the person who died so want to immerse themselves in the pain. But the fact is, each can learn from others. “You have to do both things: you must have time to grieve and mourn and other time when you have break from the grief. You can create circumstances where you grieve, and circumstances where you move on; so men and women help one another. IMG_20180303_141134He can help her go for a walk to a park or gallery can help him talk about how he feels to express some of his loss.” The problems set in when individuals fails to understand the pattern of grief in the other; they think of them as selfish or they don’t care enough, but it isn’t about that due to the different ways of coping. Grieving is an intensely individual and incredibly lonely experience, which can make it difficult time in family, group of people going through something sparked by same event, but is in each case very differentThe way to cope, is be open in communicating feelings to others in your family. Families that fare best share feelings openly when a death disrupts complex finely tuned balance in a family. So needs a reorganised and open approach to help with process.”

At the beginning, and this is especially true of a traumatic loss, the grief is all-consuming: but over time, says Julia, you find you are starting to live again. The mistake some make, though, is believing they can go back to being the way they were. “Some people say, ‘This isn’t going to change us.’ But that’s not how it is: and it’s when you recognise that bereavement is a life-shattering experience, and that you have to grieve and rebuild, that you can move on positively into a new phase of life. originalYou don’t forget the person who’s gone; you can never do that, and you should not worry that you’re going to. But you keep them in memory so their loss helps you become a new person you become; and maybe in the end is greatest tribute to make to anyone who passed to Glory. Grief affects us all so hope in God and read HIS beautiful WORDS in Bible to guide prayers. Powerful scriptures will help you face feelings of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It is very normal to feel it is not really true the person is still alive soo will be at home, then in shock, angry they died, hoping the loved one comes back alive, realising they passed on into Glory and finally accepting loss and accepting new unexpected sudden sad changes of life. Crying, weeping, feeling low not eating properly, sad, confused, depressed are all part of feelings of pain, hurt of loss, bereavement, grieving and mourning. It is normal to feel helpless, lost without a loved one with deep sorrow and pain. One helpful action is remember a loved does not want your life destroyed and ruined because of them. They see you in heaven so like you to live and continue life despite feeling changes happening. There’s no shame in being sad. The life we’ve been given was never promised free of pain or sorrow so during times we hurt most run to God and HIS Word for peace and comfort. Psalm 117:7 says God cares about death of the righteous.listingbereavement-jesus-wept

Help from family and friends 

Listening. Be a friend who is prepared to give their time, to listen and to acknowledge the extent of your friend’s loss. Listening is the key. Bear witness, and allow your friend to be upset, to be confused and contradictory, or to say nothing at all. Every time they tell their story once more, or are allowed to say how important the person who has died was, burden of carrying pain on their own is incrementally a little lighter.

It’s not about you. Follow a mourner’s lead: they may not want to talk about their grief right now, or with you. It is good to say something to acknowledge their loss, but then let them have the control they need, they had none over death so choose to talk or not. If they ask you to come and be with them, and want to talk openly to you, go. If they truly don’t want a visit or don’t want to deal with it at that time, don’t force it on them. Don’t confuse need to speak, call, contact, with friend’s need of privacy to come to terms with grief. Some kings or or important dignitaries, leaders buried in secret. Deuteronomy 34:5-7, Numbers 27:13-28 says God buried Moses Himself without gravestone marker, headstone, monument remain unmarked, Israelites not have idol worship. So Moses’ eternal soul rests in peace buried in the Moab valley opposite Beth Peor near Mount Nebo from plains of Moab near top of Pisgah. None knows where Moses’ body buried, concealed in grave stops people flocking to idolise him. In Jude 1:9 angel fought with Michael over Moses’ body, only unique burial by God. Moses’ body soul, alive in Transfiguration met Jesus with Elijah alive from heaven on Mount in Matthew 27:1-10.

loss-300x225 (1)Mourning state of total shock and disorientation exempts you from performing actions requiring attention to detail. Time is given off work at least minimum of 2 weeks plus due holidays to grieve and mourn. Time is needed to sort out paper work, fill in forms and to notify various agencies of the departed. In mourning people wear symbolic or an appropriate colour suitable for the age of the departed. To be able to attend unhindered to funeral arrangements it is important to dress appropriately. The family decided obligated choice agreed on to help support family. Immediately following burial mourning the mourner does not listen to music, go to concerts, does not attend joyous events or parties unless absolutely necessary. If a date set prior to death strictly forbidden or to be postponed cancelled. Week-long period of grief mourning observance referred to by time to grief. During this period all mourners traditionally gather the home and receive visitors. Mourners refrain for a week from showering or bathing, wearing leather shoes, jewelry, shaving. Some communities cover mirrors in the mourner’s home so they not concerned about their personal appearance. It is customary for mourners to sit on low stools or even the floor, symbolic of the emotional reality of being “brought low” by grief. Meal of consolation first meal eaten on return from funeral consists of hard-boiled egg or other round oblong foods. Biblical hospitality means during this seven-day period, family, friends or colleagues visit and call on mourners to comfort them. Is considered great time of kindness, compassion to pay respects to visit the mourners. No greetings are exchanged, visitors wait for mourners to initiate conversation. Mourner is not obliged to engage in a conversation and may completely ignore his/her visitors. Visitors take on hosting role, attending to guests, bringing food and serving it to the mourning family. Mourning family avoids cooking or cleaning during this period. Those responsibilities become that of visitors to ease burden and pain.

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Acknowledgment. Death isn’t catching, but those who are bereaved might think so, judging by the fear they see in other people’s eyes. People are frightened about whether to come forward, about what to say, about saying the wrong thing so, in the end say nothing. All of that comes from a belief whatever you say should make things better but have enough wisdom to make the pain more bearable but you can’t or need to. Be kind enough to acknowledge them and their suffering is difficult enough. Offer to be there if they need you, suggesting that they should be the one to ring you, is probably asking too much of your friend at this time. It is better if you take the initiative and make contact, and then follow their lead: they may want to see or speak with you or not. Often, people don’t make contact because they feel they don’t know the bereaved person well enough. If you are erring one way or the other, better to err on the side of making contact.

Practical help. Doing practical things is often what really makes a difference. Don’t say, “Let me know if I can help”; actually do something helpful. At the beginning of a bereavement, there may be a lot of people around, so bringing food may be the best thing you can do. Taking food around for longer than the initial crisis is particularly appreciated.Traumatic-Bereavement-Ind1_m

Honesty. Be honest because honesty is comforting and easy to deal with. So direct honesty helps complex messiness of grief so an enormous relief to people. Be honest about what you actually can do rather than covering up because you feel guilty about what you can’t. And be specific to say, “I’m going to come round for half an hour” or come on Tuesday” don’t say, “I’ll come when you want, tell me, and I’ll be there”, and then find you can’t deliver on that offer.

Be sensitive. Being honest is important, as being sensitive. Promiscuous honesty is not a good idea. Be aware of showing too openly your life is trotting along as happily as can be, feels like you rubbing their nose in your happiness.

Be in it for the long haul. Remember to make contact and be supportive after everyone else has gone. Usually three months following the death, people get back to their lives, as they should. But it is by no means over for the person who is bereaved. Sending a text or popping is hugely supportive.Gay couple hugging and walking in park

Writing. Letters, cards, texts or emails: it doesn’t matter what you write – all are extremely helpful. It is better, however, to say that you don’t want a reply, because some people simply can’t respond. And it is never too late to send them. It is a welcome surprise to receive a card much later, because it is when everyone else has forgotten and your friend is still grieving. When you do write, try to make it personal and avoid tired cliches such as, “She’s had a good innings” or “Better to have loved and lost because they are trite in some way diminish personal importance of this very loved person who died. You don’t need to go into long explanations of why the person died or theological explorations about death; be loving and personal, warm and acknowledging.

RAPTURE ETERNAL RESURRECTION

Believers have assurance of eternal life in Christ so mourn with hope for their resurrection. In the Bible Jesus raised Lazarus from death, widow of Nain son, Peter raised Dorcas, Paul raised young man who fell dead sitting on a window ledge. The dead arose alive when Jesus was crucified and went into town seen by many people. We pray and ask GOD to raise loved one too in Jesus Name so thank God Jesus raised Lazarus. Bible says Christianity lasts beyond earthly life into heaven so mourn and grieve with hope in Jesus Christ. Christians call death falling asleep to pass into glory to be with God. Although grief pain hurts deeply and so feels tragic loss yet know future reunion family circle will be complete in heaven in the Presence of God Almighty. In the Rapture, the dead in Christ will first be resurrected to join those alive together to meet Christ in the clouds into heaven. The signs of the end times are predicted by Jesus in Matthew 24. So death is part of transition into eternal life although it is better to have loved ones on earth as members of a family, God calls them to higher service in heaven. Rest in peace safely beloved in the loving arms of God so no more sorrow, grief, pain, tears we love you and miss you terribly but God LOVES you more. We shall see you one day in Jesus Name for you are delivered because your name is found written in the BOOK OF LIFE according to Daniel 12:1-2. All asleep in Christ in dust of the earth wake to everlasting life in heaven in Glory in GOD’S PRESENCE. The Holy Spirit of God is our Comforter in times like these so we draw strength from the word of God to carry on in life in Jesus Name. GOD Our Father Comforts us too through His Love and Words of comfort from loved ones, friends and family. 

Extract from Grief Works by Julia Samuel

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