SPARE THE ROD SPOIL CHILD

Smacking (actors)Smacking ban goes to public consultation. Plans to outlaw beating, slapping, kicking, smacking, spanking, whipping children in Wales are going out to a three-month consultation. The ministers said removing the defence of reasonable punishment would make it clear smacking is no longer acceptable. Charities including the NSPCC said this would bring Wales in line with dozens of other countries. But campaigners against the law fear it could criminalise ordinary parents. Minister for Children and Social Care, Huw Irranca-Davies, said: “As a parent of three boys myself, I know being a parent can sometimes be a challenging experience. “Our knowledge of what children need to grow and thrive has developed considerably over the last 20 years. We now know that physical punishment can have negative long-term impacts on a child’s life chances and we also know it is an ineffective punishment.”

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Discipline is meted out by using alternative methods like, “grounding” punishment which means the child stays at home so cannot meet up with friends to go to cinema, party, or sleep over. The child’s privileges like toys, games, computers, phones taken away or asked to stay alone isolated in their bedroom. Others sit in a corner alone for 5 minute to 15 minutes within sight of the adult to stay there based on their age  This helps calm a child down and diffuses tension but the child enjoys TV in bedroom or favourite toys, phone, computer, are taken away for a few days or months depending on what the child did. This happens often so some parents feel it is better than physically hitting them with a stick. Some do not have toys or own bedroom so parents find other ways like asking them to do chores they do not like to do to teach them a lesson. In other extreme cases the child may pay for items deliberately damaged in anger with pocket-money or mow the garden and lawn.

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Scotland became the first part of the UK to confirm plans to outlaw smacking children last year. Now ministers in Wales want parents to choose “positive and more effective methods.”Some people think carrots and sticks are choices that makes a difference depending on preference. The “rule of the thumb laws” made by Parliament allowed husband’s to beat their wives with a stick the size of their thumb. God help the woman whose husband has the biggest thumb, you will not want to rub the wrong way. The proposed law would not involve creating a new offence but would instead remove the defence to the existing offences of assault and battery. So, any adult looking after a child would no longer be able to use physical or corporal punishment against them. Physical punishment has already been outlawed in schools and childcare facilities but Mr Irranca-Davies said it was time “to ensure it is no longer acceptable anywhere.”

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The Welsh Government is now allowed to legislate in areas of parental discipline, under the new Wales Act. The consultation runs until 2 April. The Bible says correct the child in love and not in anger because God Corrects those HE LOVES. So explain to the child you are not in a bad mood or hate them. Discipline must be done in context and effective against their behaviour. Mixed messages from parents does not clearly teach them why it is wrong to do something being punished and educate them on the effects of their action on their reputation, others and their peers and society in general. Safely nip the bad behaviour in the bud before it grows out of hand and becomes toxic and destructive. A lot of adults missed out on proper discipline as God said train the child so when they grow they will not depart from it. Children need to understand that discipline corrects and challenges bad behaviour so is not a negative cruel wicked vitriol. God tell parents in Bible not to provoke their children to anger so are to raise children to have consideration for others.семейное-отношение-14317792

A recent TV documentary experimented the carrot and stick approach to see which was more effective. One group was harsh, relentless, no fun, almost military training style of elite soldiers. The other group observed a laissez faire approach, liberal, praising them, mingling appropriately. Both groups performed almost the same without any extra head start or advantage over the other. In extreme cases where a child’s life or others are at risk, a meaningful discipline method is age appropriate and does not ‘hurt’ physically or kill them as happens sometimes. The stress and despair of the parents must never be put upon or projected on to the children. Parents with any psychological problems must seek therapy and not vent their anger on the children by harsh punishment in anger. In extreme cases children’s hands are cut off as punishment for working too slowly or taking and eating food without first asking permission. Sometimes the health of children must be taken into account for suitable punishment. To stop lawlessness, recklessness of society children need discipline important for their future self-discipline to live peacefully with others in community. 1.1994526-1

In Ghana the High Court ruled against smacking so children write apology letters. The Ho Polytechnic Basic School has instituted the writing of apology letters to replace corporal punishment in the school. Pupils now write apology letters, after a written report on the misdemeanor. So what does it mean to “spare the rod and spoil the child? This phrase “spare the rod and spoil the child means modern-day methods imply that if parents refuse to discipline unruly child the child will grow accustomed too set in ways too late to their change bad behaviour. Proverbs 13:24 says whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who corrects them loves them. This is not a licence for aggression and abuse of children for the slightest reason. Children lack FRONTAL CORTEX so do not fully understand life. So take time to make simple easy to understand visual images with rules to REMIND children. This can prevent forgetting rules and children will comply if the know the reasons why they are disciplined. Patents must set good examples to children.

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Afterwards, explain again why disciplined, ask for apology from the child, hug and tell child you love them as is done in the UK.  Children mimic and copy adults so some behaviours reflect on the environment and the actions of the adults who need to set better examples and not pick on children mirroring their behaviour. Parent child bonding must not be destroyed by aggressive discipline or lack of discipline. The Bible says those who love their children care enough to discipline them. Whoever spares the rod hates child, but loves child if diligent to discipline child. A lot of brat, rude, bad behaviour can be traced to children left to own devices who grow up as Dennis the menace to society and untouchable majesty the child doted on by parents who think their beloved children do no wrong. This sensitive matter means each side is equally passionate about their approach. The danger is social workers called because of discipline the law ‘criminalise’ parents for training children for their own good. Yet some grow up and freely hit by batons for undealt with childhood issues. Caring-Adult_woman-high-five-boy_web Bible says the if a child listens and is disciplined that child lives long and it is well with that child. So discipline is not to inflict punishment for cruelty but to train a child into an upstanding valuable member of society. The purpose of discipline is to teach a child to understand the human rules and laws of society to fit in as an adult. Therefore unbred child will find the world harder than the child carefully trained from home to be self- aware and have self discipline and self respect. The world is full of untrained adults who act like children and have to nannied and apprenticed when they should be leaders helping other. The chaos in society and communities is because some have festered unruly children never disciplined because of saying ” it hurts the parent too much to inflict pain” on a child. A trust worthy child is trained to fear God and respect fellow human beings and follow the golden rule. Vilifying parents for any form of discipline sends the wrong message to children who will grow up to make similar decisions in future.

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FOOD IS YOUR MEDICINE

A North Carolina Gospel Minister Sows Seeds of Hope in a Food Desert in USA. The Reverend Richard Joyner of Conetoe Chapel Missionary Baptist Church in Conetoe, NC, exhorts his congregants to strengthen their community. First, the Reverend Richard Joyner got mad. Then he got a trowel. Sick and tired of seeing his congregation suffer from poor nutrition, the North Carolina minister sowed seeds of hope in a food desert. ABOUT A DECADE AGO, the Reverend Richard Joyner of Conetoe Chapel Missionary Baptist Church realized he ministered to a congregation of people often hungry and living in poverty but never complained. He came up with an ingenious use of land that helped keep the young ones involved in learning about nature first hand. The Church members unfamiliar with farming in the city are educated on how to grow own good produce.  The pastor found it difficult to comfort grieving or contain his outrage: “How do you tell someone who’s just lost a child to poor nutrition that this was God’s plan when it was totally preventable? Who would hang out with that God?” Each Sunday, Joyner felt like a hypocrite, urging congregants to worship a deity he doubted. During the week, he was forced to confront the community’s health problems constantly as a hospital chaplain. After one particularly trying hospital shift, Joyner pulled his car over and began to pray. “I heard a voice saying, ‘Open your eyes and look around,’” the 64-year-old remembers. All he saw was farmland. His parents and grandparents had been share- croppers; his great-grandparents, slaves. That moment fields blanketing Edgecombe County represented not untapped opportunity but a painful reminder of the region’s racist past.

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Young people enjoy outdoors activity so this roadside epiphany directly inspired the church’s now-bustling nonprofit agriculture and education center might construct a tidy narrative. It would, however, be inaccurate. Back in 2005, when Joyner first equipped area youth with seeds and spades on a borrowed plot down the road, he simply hoped to engage kids at summer camp. The campers consumed their initial harvest, but the following year, they started delivering free boxes of ‘Hen Pecked’ mustard greens, ‘Puerto Rican Red’ sweet potatoes and the vegetables to local senior citizens. “One 97-year-old lady, she was so excited, she kissed the children,” Joyner says. “That was the first time in a long time I witnessed anybody speaking a blessing over our troubled children.” Not everyone welcomes bounty. Only a generation or two removed from sharecropping, some church elders questioned the wisdom of participating in any sort of agrarian pursuit. They remained uncomfortably familiar with Edgecombe County’s role in the South’s antebellum cotton economy. Henry Toole Clark, a Civil War–era governor of North Carolina, owned a vast plantation—and dozens of slaves here. Joyner explains prevailing concern: “Do we really want our kids going back to that?” He empathized. Then again, he’d witnessed satisfaction junior parishioners derived from the soil. Less encumbered by Conetoe’s complicated history, they were free to dig in the dirt. “They’re bringing food to people who need it,” Joyner says. “They enjoy the process. They’re playing out there.” Meanwhile, various activities on the farm like preparing beds, selecting seeds, tending crops, selling produce, tracking digital data impart valuable lessons in science, technology, exercise, economics, math, and nutrition.IMG_20180106_150511

ENJOYING NATURE DAILY

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Within the concrete jungles of cities is a whole new world to discovered and explore the flora and fauna. Take time to enjoy nature to smell the flowers and watch the birds no matter how busy you are. Go out with friends in a group as part of relaxation to clear your head and refresh your mind. A study recommends people take a break and observe nature in detail because of the health benefits gained. You should stop and smell the roses according to this study revealing a brief time spent outdoors enjoying walks or riding in nature really does improve mood. Cecile Borkhataria for Dailymail.com wrote online.  The demands of life have become so intense that some do not have the time or feel the need to enjoy their surroundings if possible.-c-michael_werlberger-9995

Those with paranomic views and a delightful beautiful views often miss out by being too busy to notice the view. The study shows spatial awareness and being in tune with nature is good for health and encourages walkabout exercise. Fresh air breathed in also promotes healthy heart and lungs. It is even more fulfilling when done by the family as part of routine and a time for relaxation. A stroll, power walk or riding bikes in fresh air is a simple and an effective way of spending quality family time together is rewarding. Take a picnic as a cost-effective way to enjoy quality family time.361f6935fd2ecc32bf3f82f866f63462

The study found nature helps by spending time outdoors to improve happiness. People who take the time to notice nature, increase their feelings of happiness and emotional well-being  Noticing a tree at a bus stop in the middle of a city can have a positive effect. Noticing nature impacts on prosocial orientation a willingness to share resources and place value on one’s community. New research shows that there’s truth to the idea that nature and spending time outdoors can improve happiness. The study showed if people simply take time to notice the nature around them, it will increase their general happiness and well-being.

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Even if it’s just birds flying in a crowded city or a tree at a bus stop, noticing nature can also improve ‘prosocial orientation’ – the willingness to share and place value on one’s community. If people simply take time to notice the nature around them, it will increase general happiness and well-being the new study has found. A University of British Columbia (UBC) study examined the effects of a two-week intervention involving nature. 395 Undergraduate students were asked to document how nature encountered affects their daily routine and made them feel.  They took photos of items that caught their attention and wrote down a short note about their feelings in response to it. Meanwhile, a second group of study participants tracked their reactions to human-made objects instead, again taking a photo and jotting down their feelings. A third control group did neither, continuing their everyday lives.unnamed

Researchers found that After the intervention, levels of positive emotions, elevating experiences and a general sense of connectedness to other people and nature and life as a whole, as well as prosocial orientation, were significantly higher in the nature group compared to the human-built and control groups. The University of British Columbia (UBC) examined the effects of a two-week intervention involving nature. Undergraduate students documented how nature they encountered in their daily routine made them feel. The photos of the item that caught their attention and wrote down a short note about their feelings in response to it revealed indepth reality of changes felt.IMG_20180105_121342

Paranomic views of the examples of nature could be anything not just about human built things so a house plant, a dandelion growing in a crack in a sidewalk, birds, or sun through a window. Meanwhile, a second group of study participants tracked their reactions to human-made objects instead, again taking a photo and jotting down their feelings.  A third control group did neither, continuing their everyday lives. Often association with nature is seen as primitive and unsophisticated. However, nature is rich with so much knowledge and relevant  information some miss out on. The push towards the virtual world is almost preventing reality check existence crucial for survival in life. It is even better if people begin to grow plants, flowers or simple foods on balcony gardens go keep in tune with nature.5761058

‘This wasn’t just about spending long hours outdoors or going for long walks in wilderness,’ says Holi-Anne Passmore, a PhD psychology student at UBC’s Okanagan campus and the lead author of the study.  ‘This is about paying attention to take in spatial knowledge and look at trees or plants in a meaningful way. Trees at a bus stop in the middle of a city has positive effects just one tree can have on people in the jungle.’ Passmore, who studies wellness, says she was ‘overwhelmed’ not just by the response of the 395 study participants – who submitted more than 2,500 photos and and descriptions of emotions – but also by the impact that noticing emotional responses to nearby nature had on well-being.

MEN DON’T WANT KIDS?

Men don’t want to repeat mistakes

The biggest reason I don't want to be a father is because I don't want to be a failure as a dad to the child the same way my dad was to me

Lots of patience some men don’t have

I tell everyone I don't want to be a dad because I can't afford it. Truth is, I've been a surrogate father before, and I had really bad anger issues. I'm afraid that I'd be an abusive father.

Some men have different life plans.

I feel like all the girls my age who are into me, already have kids. I feel bad but I can't date someone with a child because I don't want to be a father figure. It's just not for me.
WAS ADOPTED SO FELT UNWANTED 
I never want kids because I'm  adopted and I know how hard it is to feel unwanted. I wouldn't make a good father.ABANDONED SO NOT WANT KIDS
I don't want to be a father because I think I'll end up hating it and abandoning my kids.

Apples not fall far away from trees.

My partner doesn't understand I never want kids because I never want to end up turning out like my father.

NOT REALLY A FAN OF CHILDREN

I'm glad I'm gay because i hate children. i really hate children and i don't want to be a dad.

MAY RAISE KIDS AS WAS RAISED

I'm thinking about getting a vasectomy when I'm older because I don't want to be a dad and wouldn't want to raise kids like the way my father did to me
AFRAID MIGHT HURT CHILDREN 
The reason I don't want to be a father is because I'm afraid I'll hurt my child.

You don’t want to take this chance.

I secretly don't want to be a father because I'm scared I will be a horrible one.

Kids aren’t everyone’s cup of tea.

I never want kids..  Because to be honest, I don't even like kids.

Not everyone wants to be like parents

I tell people I never want kids because I don't like them. Truth is I am afraid a part of my father will come out and I will be cursed to be a terrible dad.

Has Real fears so avoids children.

I never want to be a father because mine was a complete failure, like his father, and probably his father.

 A Person’s Individuality is important

I never want kids because I don't want my whole identity to become "daddy." Among other reasons of course.

LIKES HAVING TIME TO HIMSELF

I'm a 25 year old man and I never want kids because I love having time to myself.

Some couples do not want kids

I never want kids because I've basically raised my siblings and I'm over it

Raising children lot of responsibility.

I tell people I never want kids because I hate them. The truth is that I don't want to be responsible for ruining their childhood. I couldn't live with myself knowing I screwed up

Health issues are a serious thing.

I never want kids, because I don't want to pass down my mental illness

Child pain lifelong commitment gain

I never want kids because they hold you back. As a dad you have to watch family movies, eat up at your money, don't let you travel and that's only the beginning...

Some couples do not want kids which is fair if they can afford to pay others to care for them in old age. However, deliberately refusing to bear children due to inconvenience they cause then get support from those who sacrificed to have children is interesting. This is a lifelong commitment. The real reasons men these days do not want kids are given as to why they do no want kids and others want children. Everyone has own reasons so men are opening up about why they do not want children. Not every man has a paternal instinct and desire to start a family as some men show. So not holding back in the honest confessions about why they don’t want kids in life.

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It is good to talk to the men again in the future to reassess their current mindset. Talk to other men to discuss if they had such feelings or any regrets later in old age when it was too late. Do their real fears merit not enjoying being a parent? How about needing loved ones to look after them when older? Do they know people who live without children and managed to be alright in life? Certain decisions made precortex may not be always reversible years later.
Haven Alexander Kincaid
Not everyone NEEDS to have children to be fulfilled. Children are not the sole purpose for existing, thanks.
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Haven Alexander Kincaid
Plus if you’re only having kids to have someone to “look after you” when you’re old, you’re having kids for the wrong damn reason.
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Menno van Oosten
Haven Alexander Kincaid Actually, from a biological standpoint, it is. All animals except humans die as soon as they reach the age where they cannot reproduce anymore.
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There’s a lot of patience involved that some men don’t have.

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I tell everyone I don't want to be a dad because I can't afford it. Truth is, I've been a surrogate father before, and I had really bad anger issues. I'm afraid that I'd be an abusive father.

Some men have different life plans.

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I feel like all the girls my age who are into me, already have kids. I feel bad but I can't date someone with a child because I don't want to be a father figure. It's just not for me.

He’s experienced pain.

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I never want kids because I'm  adopted and I know how hard it is to feel unwanted. I wouldn't make a good father.

Whoah.

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I don't want to be a father because I think I'll end up hating it and abandoning my kids.

This apple wants to fall far away from the tree.

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My partner doesn't understand I never want kids because I never want to end up turning out like my father.

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A FAMILY FEELS NO PAIN?

Letizia MarsiliA family does not feel pain according to the story recently reported in the news. Letizia Marsili and five other members rarely feel pain  Letizia Marsili, 52, first realised she was different when she was very young. She has high threshold for pain meaning she did not feel burns or notice broken bones. Five other family members are also affected by condition which means they are insensitive to pain. Letizia told the BBC: “From day to day we live a very normal life, perhaps better than the rest of the population, because we very rarely get unwell and we hardly feel any pain. “However, in truth we do feel pain perception of pain, but this only lasts for a few seconds.” Scientists believe the condition could be down to some nerves not reacting properly. Researchers who studied the family hope their discovery of a gene mutation in family members could help chronic-pain sufferers in future. “We have opened up a whole new route to drug discovery for pain relief,” said Prof Anna Maria Aloisi from the University of Siena in Italy.

How is family affected?

Letizia’s mother, two sons, sister and niece all show signs of being affected by syndrome that is named after the family Marsili pain syndrome. She said pain was an important alarm signal because they feel it fleetingly, the family often have fractures go undetected and this leads to inflammation in their bones. They also experience burns and other injuries without knowing. Letizia said her 24-year-old son Ludovico, who plays football, has encountered problems. “He rarely stays on the ground, even when he is knocked down. However, he has fragility at the ankles and he suffers distortions, which are micro fractures. “In fact, recently X-rays have shown that he has lots of micro fractures in both ankles.” She said her younger son Bernardo, 21, had a calcification of the elbow without realising he had broken it after falling off his bike. He continued cycling another nine miles. Fractures, broken bones and burns are often not noticed and don’t heal properly.Fractures are often missed because the family doesn't feel the pain

Letizia says when she fractured right shoulder skiing she continued to ski all afternoon, only going to the hospital the next morning because her fingers were tingling. So same thing happened when she broke a bone in her elbow playing tennis. “Because of a lack of pain, it got so stressed that it ended up breaking,” she says. But the worst thing, she says, was problems in her mouth because of a tooth implant went wrong. Letizia’s mother, Maria Domenica, 78, has had a number of fractures which have never healed properly and have hardened naturally. She suffers burns because she doesn’t feel any pain. Her sister Maria Elena often damages the top of her mouth because she burns herself with hot drinks, and her daughter Virginia once left her hand in ice for about 20 minutes without feeling pain. Despite all this, Letizia says she has never seen  condition “as a negative for our lives.”

Do they feel little pain?

Lead study author Dr James Cox, from University College London said Marsili family members had all their nerves present, but “they’re just not working how they should be.” He said: “We’re working to gain a better understanding of exactly why they don’t feel much pain, to see if could help us find new pain relief treatments.” The research team, whose findings are published in the journal Brain, worked with family to find out nature of their phenotype the observable characteristics caused by their genetics. The Marsili syndrome, named after them, means the affected individuals are less than normally sensitive (or hyposensitive) to extreme heat, capsaicin in chilli peppers, have experienced pain-free bone fractures.

Scientists discover genes

The researchers mapped out protein-coding genes in each family member’s genome and found a mutation in the ZFHX2 gene. They then conducted two studies in mice which had been bred without this gene and found their pain thresholds had been altered. When they bred a new line of mice with relevant mutation they found they were notably insensitive to high temperatures. Prof Aloisi said: “With more research to understand exactly how the mutation impacts pain sensitivity, and to see what other genes might be involved, we could identify novel targets for drug development.” The family is believed to be the one in the world to be affected by this faulty gene.

Additional reporting by Mauro Galluzzo

FINDING TRUE LOVE AGAIN

BLOG-ARIS-CAVES-3Find true love again if your friends are all coupled up is possible. If one key New Year’s resolution is again find yourself a relationship, where to start can become daunting. We find ourselves deep in the party season, when even those who are antisocial rest of the year feel obliged to enter the fray. If at no other moment one is compelled to meet people so as to commune, converse often suggestion of intimacy hovers alluringly in the air as surely as mull and the pine. Christmas is time for encounters, social interaction opportunities for a stable romantic love.Valentines_beach_620

And I know of what I speak. Three years ago, at the age of 43, I met my beloved at a Christmas party after years of living solo dream, including writing a column about being single. Still thinks of myself  as ‘professionally single’, despite loved one’s protestations. ‘How,’ people often constantly ask me, ‘did you pull it off?’ given I defied conventional platitudes by relishing my lone life, having a ball, not being particularly bent on ending, it then meeting chap perfect other women refer to him as ‘illusion dream unicorn.’

To my mind, the answer is not only just mere luck but avoiding these platitudes in the first place. Smug I most certainly am not. My relationship hope embraces the new circumstances recommended. Neither do I believe coupledom is for everyone. Cue my first tip…

Work out if needs finding love

It’s not always self-evident as a lot of people assume merely because they are single they must desire partner. Yet the message of behaviour may be entirely the opposite. A friend once informed me I was ‘ideologically single’ so was right. My relationship status wasn’t going to change until this did. Relationships are hard work a different sort of hard work to keeping the show on the road on one’s tod. There can be an ease to single living: a briskness and knowing where one is with it. Despite ability to act as a salve to loneliness one is never more lonelir than in the most difficult flailing, relationship. There are many ways of having love, companionship, and/or sex in your life, and different approaches may be appropriate to different stages of existence. Consider whether it is a partner that you want if it is act on it.

Cultivate a dazzling social life

If you are determined to stay solo not to become conjoined your single or social life is your life; if seeking a relationship, socialising will be means of achieving it. In either case, new blood  is all. Plus, it’s terrific fun. The majority of my closest alliances were forged when  I became single in my mid-30s and I would take a bullet for each and every one of those friends. They are far more involved in my life than friends of yesteryear; what a pal refers to as‘heritage friends’ (like ‘heritage tomatoes’, only frequently  less palatable).Hannah snaps a selfie with her boyfriend, Terence Hannah snaps selfie with her boyfriend, Terence. A lawyer who unhappily single for 15 years, invariably barks, ‘I don’t need friends. I have enough friends. So what is needed is a boyfriend, wonders why she never meets someone, while spending time boring with the same two couples from her university days. The One, or even merely A.N. Other, is not going to appear on doorstep by way of some benevolent deus ex machina. If going to have to put the work in: meet people, risk vulnerability, put yourself out there. Falling back on the argument you ‘never meet anyone’ means you have only yourself to blame. What are you doing about it? Now? Tonight? I get it. I’m a closet introvert myself,  but introverts want to have intimacy. Take some responsibility and get off solo life.

Embrace change for partner

Not only do you have to work at it, you also have to work on yourself as we all do, single or enmeshed, at every age. In the main, single individuals know love is best if people considerably sane like coupled friends, active, self-sufficient, stay on their toes, without an ounce of co-dependency in them. In respect of a few situations, it is immediately obvious why someone is alone, despite repeated attempts to be otherwise. Personally, I needed to stop drinking after a lifetime of raucous carousing. I was 90 days sober the night I met my beloved, and he would have run a mile had this not been the case, as I would be in direction of the next inveterate party animal. So by removing drink blinkers allowed our eyes to meet mine in focus.Honeymoon-couple-romance-and-love-at-beach-1024x576

Finding myself non-plastered while all about me were revelling, I thought, ‘I’m going to talk to most handsome man in room,’ proceeded to do so. A friend said was ‘ideologically single’ so relationship status will not change until embraces compromise for change to include the partner in life. It turned out being hot, clever, kind, witty, generous, entirely sans baggage, and shared interest in literary theory. When another chap (my usual type, a lewd and lovable drunk) endeavoured to go home with me, I had wits to decline and to secure handsome ashing man’s number. Only by altering  the habits of a lifetime could this fateful encounter take place. Three chief single bleaters acquaintance driven away put frankly is exhausting maniac, a swivel-eyed neurotic, and a carping bitch. It’s difficult to be around them let alone as lover.  All badly need therapy; all refuse to countenance it. As it is often said, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.’ See yourself as others see you, consider doing things required differently to have good success.valentines-Image-by-Pexels-CC0

Don’t settle for less in life

As a woman, one is constantly being fed that bullshit about being more likely to be blown up in a terrorist attack than meet your partner over the age of 40 etc etc. And it is what it is. Moreover, later life has potential for far more satisfying relationships: you’ve been around the block, know who you are, and you’re 4,000 times more fascinating than you were at 25. Plus, 400,000 times better at sex. My ex-boyfriend and I could have settled not separated when in my 30s. Having the guts to call it a day meant both met people more compatible with. He got together with the love of his life shortly afterwards. Meanwhile, I got to have time of my life. By way of bonus we didn’t kill each other. When I was 40, met some bore at party, wine-fugged, unfaithful to his wife informed me I will only find someone broken as divorcé or some sort of failure’. I refer him to the hot Disney prince scored 3 fun-filled years later.shutterstock_105487772-557

Enjoy life daily though single!

For legions, going solo is a dream. Even those less enamoured will be forced to admit it has its moments. However,  the trouble with single life for those who aim to be out of it is that one never knows when it might end. If only it were akin to gardening leave: a few months’ dazzling hedonistic licence before getting stuck back into the old routine. I say ‘trouble’, but it is also its brilliance. For, really, there is nothing like setting  forth on a glacial December evening, not knowing where the night’s adventures will lead you, or with whom they will be hazarded. So, put your soul into it, to be sure, relax, uncoil, enjoy. If you happen to find love and entwined, single are the days you will look back on with nostalgia. So make the most of it and your life is not worth less because you are single. You are precious to God and Jesus Christ so love yourself first and other people until you find love.

Originally published in Telegraph

21 FOODS UNCLOG ARTERIES

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If your goal is to restore or maintain a healthy heart, there are a variety of foods that can help to unclog arteries of plaque build-up, lower your blood pressure, and reduce inflammation – the main culprits of cardiovascular illness. Many of the foods on this list contain healthy fats, antioxidants, and soluble fiber which are great not only for your heart, but also to promote healthy skin, hair, hormone production, and nutrient absorption.  You can feel better, have more energy, and improve your heart health without the use of toxic chemicals.

1. Asparagus

One of the best vegetables for clearing arteries, asparagus is full of fiber and minerals, as well as a long list of vitamins including K, B1, B2, C, and E.  Asparagus can help to lower blood pressure and prevent blood clots that can cause serious cardiovascular illness.  Try steaming raw asparagus for maximum vitamin potential!

2. Avocado

avocado2avocado-pesto-pasta-with-hot-smoked-salmon-105302-1The next time you make a sandwich or salad, consider adding a few slices of avocado in lieu of mayonnaise or heavy salad dressing. Studies have shown that the daily consumption of avocado result in improved blood cholesterol with a decrease in triglycerides and LDL of around 22% and an 11% increase in HDL – the “good” cholesterol that helps to keep arteries clear of obstructions.  Not only can this delicious fruit help to keep your blood flowing smoothly, the average avocado also contains around 4 grams protein and 11 grams of fiber, not to mention an impressive list of vitamins and antioxidants. For an even more potent dose of avocado, why not try adding avocado oil for your diet. Read our recent article here revealing ten reasons you should add avocado oil to your diet.420970_1280x720

3. Broccoli

Broccoli is another vegetable that is loaded with vitamin K which helps to prevent calcification or hardening of arteries. Eating vitamins, antioxidant packed broccoli can also help to prevent oxidation of LDL cholesterol which can lead to serious heart conditions.  This super healthy veggie also offers a heart-healthy dose of fiber which helps to normalize blood-pressure and reduce stress that cause tears and eventually plaque build-up) in arterial walls.

4. Chia Seeds

11750070877199195178When included daily as part of a heart-healthy diet, fiber and alpha-linolenic acid contained in just two ounces of Chia seeds can help to keep arteries clear by regulating blood pressure, reducing LDL cholesterol, lowering triglycerides, and increasing HDL cholesterol.  Daily cardiovascular exercise is another excellent way to improve heart health and keep arteries clear, Chia seeds are doubly effective.  The boost of protein and nutrients offered by this tiny superfood can help to make any workout feel just a little bit easier. If you want to try Chia seeds then you can get some from this page on Amazon.

(Further reading: 10 Emphatic Reasons Why You Should Add Chia Seeds To Your Diet Today)

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5. Cinnamon

You’ve probably heard that a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down.  But did you know that a spoonful of cinnamon makes your risk of heart disease go down?  Just one tablespoon of ground cinnamon per day can work to reduce cholesterol levels while at the same time clearing and preventing plaque build-up.  Cinnamon is also full of antioxidants which further improve cardiovascular health by protecting blood from damaging oxidation.  So put down the sugar and start enjoying cinnamon.  Try this fragrant spice in a cup of tea or sprinkled on top of coffee.  Or check out the recipes on EatingWell with cinnamon.

6. Coconut Oil

21 Foods That Naturally Unclog ArteriesDisregard the old myth all saturated fats bad and leading cause of cardiovascular diseases like atherosclerosis.  Regular consumption of coconut oil – about 2 or 3 tablespoons per day – can help to reduce plaque build-up in the arteries by aiding the conversion of cholesterol in the blood stream into a form that our bodies can use.  High concentration of medium chain triglyceride, lauric acid present in coconut oil is also thought to improve blood coagulation as well as to perform antioxidant functions in the blood stream, further diminishing the risk of heart disease.

Want to try coconut oil? You can get a jar from this page on Amazon.

Further Reading: 23 Reasons You Should Have A Spoonful Of Coconut Oil Every Morning

7. Coffee

Also contrary to popular belief, coffee is not bad for your healthStudies have found that drinking between 8 and 16 oz of coffee per day can reduce your risk of heart disease by around 20%.  Just remember to take all things in moderation, including caffeine.  Over-consumption of any stimulant has the potential to increase your blood pressure and heart rate, which can lead to some serious health problems. There are some ways you can make your coffee extra healthy. Here are seven things you can do.

Further Reading: 14 Genius Ways To Recycle Used Coffee Grounds

8. Cranberries

health-benefits-of-cranberriesCranberries are another antioxidant-rich food which can help to improve cardiovascular health by reducing LDL and raising HDL cholesterol levels. In fact, cranberry juice has more antioxidant power than all but one other fruit juice (100% red or black grape being the exception.)  Enjoy two servings of 100% pure organic cranberry juice daily to protect your heart and improve your health.

9. Cold-water ‘Fatty Fish’

Also rich in healthy fats, cold-water fish like salmon, mackerel, sardines, and tuna can help to clear arteries.  Try to eat fish twice per week to reduce plaque build-up and inflammation that can lead to heart disease.  Also, eating cold-water fish can help to improve your overall cholesterol lowering triglyceride levels and increasing HDL cholesterol in the blood-stream.

10. Flax/seeds

150506112204-fruits-nuts-vegetables-grains-stockOne of the best sources of alpha-linolenic acid (ALA), flaxseeds are known for their ability to reduce blood-pressure and inflammation, helping to keep arteries clear of obstructions and improve overall heart health.  Enjoy a serving of 100% organic golden flaxseed added to a delicious smoothie or in one of these heart-healthy recipes by EatingWell!

11. Green Tea

21 Foods That Naturally Unclog Arteries

Green tea –especially nutrient-rich Matcha green tea  contains high levels of catechins, antioxidant plant phenols which hinder the absorption of cholesterol during digestion.  Enjoy a cup or two of green tea every day to improve your blood-lipid levels and help reduce arterial blockage.  Green tea also provides a natural boost to the metabolism which can help you to lose weight, further bolstering your cardiovascular health.

(Further reading: 10 Amazing Benefits Of Matcha Green Tea)

12. Nuts

raw-postA heart healthy snack alternative to prepackaged and processed foods, raw nuts are a delicious way to clear arteries with many auxiliary benefits, to boot!  Almonds are by far the best option, being high in monounsaturated fats, vitamin E, fiber, and protein.  Walnuts are another great choice.  As an excellent source of alpha-linolenic acid (ALA) the same EFA that gives flaxseeds their favorable reputation – eating a serving of walnuts every day can help to improve blood-pressure, reduce inflammation, and keep arteries clear of obstructions.

Further reading: 500 Healthy All-Natural Snack Recipes

13. Olive Oil

Rich in monounsaturated oleic acid – an essential fatty acid (EFA) known for its positive effects on cholesterol levels and oxidative stress in the blood stream – olive oil is widely considered to be one of the healthiest oils for cooking and dressing food.  According to a recent study, use of olive oil for these purposes can actually reduce the risk of serious cardiovascular illnesses by up to 41%. A word of caution: When shopping for olive oil, avoid buying the lowest-priced option on the shelf.  These products are inexpensive for a good reason. Low-cost olive oils are often cut with cheaper, less-healthy oils or have been damaged by heat during the extraction process.  Instead, go with certified 100% organic virgin olive oil.

14. Orange Fruits/Juice

anitoxidants-foodsDrinking just two cups of 100% orange juice (no sugar added) every day can help to improve blood pressure and reduce inflammation of arteries.  Also, orange juice is full of antioxidant vitamin C which helps to keep arteries clear by preventing oxidative damage in blood stream.  For more information about how orange juice improves circulatory function, read this article by the Bastyr Center for Natural Health.

15. Persimmon

A-simple-Persimmon-Smoothie-recipe-perfect-for-using-this-delicious-winter-fruit-uprootfromoregon.com_-1024x681DOxWroOVAAAqNM9Persimmons are loaded with antioxidants and polyphenols, both of which work to decrease LDL and triglycerides in the blood-stream.  Persimmons are also a great source of fiber which helps to regulate blood pressure, keep your heart healthy, and your arteries clear.

16. Pomegranate

Antioxidant phytochemicals naturally present in pomegranates do an excellent job of protecting circulatory system from damaging oxidation which cause plaque build-up and dangerous blood clots.  Pomegranate also naturally stimulates production of nitric oxide in the blood which helps to open arteries and regulate blood pressure. Try eating fresh pomegranate or enjoy the organic pomegranate juice!

17. Spinach

One of the famed dark leafy greens, spinach is loaded with fiber, potassium, and folate all of which help to lower blood pressure and keep arteries clear.  According to recent studies, just one serving per day of folate-rich greens like spinach can lower homocysteine levels as risk factor for cardiovascular diseases like atherosclerosis.  Why not mix it up a little?  Enjoy your spinach sautéed, in a salad, or as part of a heart-smart smoothie!

18. Spirulina

Spirulina is a cytobacteria (or blue-green algaeas they are often called) which not only helps to regulate lipid levels in the blood, it is also a complete protein.  Unlike other plant sources of protein, Spirulina contains all of the essential amino acids needed by the human body to maintain optimum health.  Spirulina is also packed with EFAs, including alpha-linolenic acid the essential omega-3 fatty acid found in chia and flaxseeds that has been researched extensively for its ability to reduce arterial inflammation, improves cardiovascular health.  Take Spirulina daily as supplement or try it in powder form in some of these delicious recipes.

Further Reading: 10 Wonderful Benefits Of Spirulina

19. Turmeric

21 Foods That Naturally Unclog ArteriesCurcumin, the main component of Turmeric, is a powerful anti-inflammatory.  Adding turmeric to your diet can seriously reduce inflammation and damage to arterial walls which are leading causes of plaque build-up and blood clots.  Furthermore, studies have shown us the high levels of curcumin in Turmeric aid reduction of fatty deposits in the arteries by up to 26%.  Try some of these excellent recipes using all-natural organic turmeric.

20. Watermelon

Not only is it delicious, watermelon is another fruit that is great for your heart.  As an excellent natural source of the amino acid L-citrulline, watermelon can help to keep arteries clear by lowering blood pressure and decreasing inflammation.  In much the same way as pomegranate, watermelon naturally stimulates production of nitric oxide, which further improves artery health and blood pressure. Try some of these Best Watermelon Recipes by Southern Living!

21. Whole Grains

1019 Trade out your bleached carbohydrates for theirwhole grain alternatives to give your heart health a boost.  Foods like whole grain beans, breads, whole wheat pastas, brown rice, quinoa, barley, and oatmeal have long been celebrated for the role in improving blood cholesterol levels, keeping arteries clear, and reducing the risk of serious heart disease. Need a little help finding foods that fit the bill?  Check out this great guide to whole grain groceries.