WHAT DID JESUS SAY ON TAX

IMG-20190718-WA0003.jpgMatthew 17:24-27;22:15, Mark 12; Luke 20, Jesus said, Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar, to God what belongs to God. The Biblical accounts of Gospels in Capernaum said tax collectors of two drachma temple tax asked Peter if Jesus pays tax, he said He does. If Jesus paid taxes then what did Jesus teach His disciples? Matthew records two taxes  Jesus paid in Matthew 17:24-27; 22:15-22 temple tax and tax to government in Rome. People asked Jesus: “Is it right to pay taxes to Caesar?” It was a ploy to set a trap for Jesus. But He saw through their attempt to manipulate Him and falsely accuse Him of asking people not to pay. 15634591710442531419311844554429.jpgSo obliged to pay the tax, Jesus paid His taxes with the coin from the mouth of a fish Peter caught. Tax collector cornered Peter and asked if Jesus paid the temple tax. Later in Matthew 17:2427 Jesus said to Peter at home, “Simon, does the kings collect taxes from their own children or from other people? Peter answered the others. And Jesus replied we don’t want to cause trouble go cast a net in the lake and the first fish you catch open mouth, and you will find a coin. Use coin to pay your taxes and mine.” Take it and give them for my tax and yours.”15634589315132523190425229438762.jpgJesus told the Pharisees and Herodians to give to Caesar things belong to Caesar in Mark 12. The issue is controversial as people disagree on how the government spends money. Some people feel angry because their needs are not met though they pay tax. The Bible example of Jesus to pay taxes again in Gospel of Matthew Mark and Luke are other account of the Pharisees trying to trap Jesus to find the reason to accuse him. In Matthew 22:15-22 Pharisees went out and laid plans to trap Jesus to use His words against Him.Jesus on Taxes in the BiblePharisees disciples with Herodians said “Teacher,” they said, “we know you are sincere so teach the way of God in truth. You are not influenced by men. Tell us, what is your opinion? Is it right to pay taxes to Caesar or not?” Jesus, knowing their evil intention said, “You hypocrites why are you trying to trap me? Show a coin for paying tax.” They brought him a denarius and He asked them, “Whose head inscription?” They said, “Caesar’s. Then He said to them, “Give to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God belongs to God.” When they heard this, they were amazed so they left him and went away.20190718_152609.jpgIf Jesus refused ​to pay or He condemned Caesar they will accuse Jesus of inciting rebellion. People had no choice but to pay as Jesus also did. And Zachaeus a tax collector climbed a tree to see Jesus passing by. Impressed Jesus dined in his home during meal he decided to restore money he extorted by collecting taxes in Mark 2:13-17. In Psalm 24:1, The earth is the LORD’S and everything in it but life requires money to function, pay staff, provide services, resources, processing, printing costs, transporting goods. And maintaining the structures and repairs restoration, regeneration, grounds and gardens etc. Too numerous to list costs of services provided by the nations. Amazon, Google, Wealthy Offshore accounts do not pay tax proportionately fairly like others.20190718_152057.jpgJesus and His disciples voluntarily gave to the Temple tax and state to set a good example. Taxes paid directly to local tax collectors who decided what people pay. Tax collectors paid by charging people more to earn money.  Levi, the apostle was the customs official in Capernaum taxed imports and exports as he liked. The Jews hated him because he worked for Rome and betrayed his countrymen.  Zacchaeus was a chief tax collector for the Jericho district notorious for taxes changed meeting Jesus of Nazareth.15634592789297575198766104501144.jpgPeople are saying the tax exemption for Churches are unfair making mega rich pastors super wealthy multimillionaires Church members struggle to pay bills, food, mortgage, health insurance, fees or basic necessities of life. Private jets, mansions get bigger, fleet of cars longer but members poor. Its a major source of tension rich multi billionaires are state sponsored in extravagant lifestyles. Schools reduce hours, hospitals cut staff budget reduced. The churches use tithe, offerings, donations, for salaries wages, cost of projects, feed orphans, help poor under the radar, homeless, HIV, disaster flood victims, TV ministry, preaching, teaching Gospel Message of Jesus Christ, Evangelism etc. among wonderful work  of God. Admission fee puts people off so first time Benny Hinn was at NEC entry was free. Thousands turned up with no room for overflow solved crowd control next visit with ticket admission. Only a few people turned up venue was almost empty. God said nobody must enter HIS Presence empty handed so Jesus talked about the widow’s mite even poor give. In Exodus 23:15 God said, no one shall appear before ME empty-handed. Also in Exodus 34:20 God said no one must appear before ME empty-handed. Again in  Deuteronomy 16:16 God said do not appear before the LORD empty-handed.20190718_151828.jpgGap between the rich and poor widens causing hunger and the stress, pressure, unemployment, lack, in deprived areas. No resources for disadvantaged so most public servants cannot get on the home ownership ladder. Many depend on the food banks despite their hard work and education. Zero hour job wastes time of trained staff without job or income. And the popular highly influential Christian leaders spew wrong ideas as ‘Christian Ideas.’ Don’t be misled…Study the bible yourself to know the truth of the Word of Christ. Read Bible as JesusFollowers and Christian’s. Some think Churches must follow Jesus’ example to provide fairly for the least in society too. So gap between rich and poor widens as many continue to suffer daily, starve and die in the most advance developed wealthy countries. Unfortunately a Class divide disproportionately allocate lion share to themselves as the world watches them flaunt it in their faces daily. 1 Timothy 6:10 says the LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Craving more money is cause of all evil in doing so wander from true faith so pierce themselves with sorrow.20190718_170247.jpg20190718_152338.jpgIMG-20190717-WA0000.jpgChristian family is fined taxes saying it is against God’s will to pay taxes. The  Christian family refused to pay income tax because its “against God’s will” but are ordered to pay more than A$2m tax (£1.1m $1.4m) to Australia’s tax office. It is Christian debate Rembertus Cornelis Beerepoot and Fanny Alida Beerepoot of Tasmania do not pay income tax since 2011 as their religious right. Their farm was seized and sold by a local council in 2017 for not paying seven years of tax rates. Ms Beerepoot told the court: “We don’t own anything because it is God’s.” The siblings represented themselves in Supreme Court of Tasmania Wednesday, after did not pay $930,000 in income tax or other charges in 2017 ABC News said.The Beerepoots leave court on 17 July 2019Rembertus Cornelis Beerepoot (left) and Fanny Alida Beerepoot (far right) seen here outside the court in Tasmania. Mr Beerepoot argued the law of God is the “supreme law of this land” and making people pay tax weakens dependency on God, leading to “curses… in the form of droughts and infertility.” “Transferring allegiance from God to Commonwealth means rebelling against God breaking first commandment,” he said, according to the public broadcaster. In judgement, Associate Justice Stephen Holt said he believed Beerepoots’ beliefs is genuinely held but there is no specific reference in Bible to support their argument. “In my view, Bible effectively said civil matters and law of God operate in two different spheres.” So the siblings ordered to pay sums of – Ms Beerepoot A$1.17m and Mr Beereport A$1.16m to cover income tax, administrative penalties and all interest charges” and costs in court documents. What do you think about various views?

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FRUIT OF GOD’S HOLY SPIRIT

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CHILDREN SIGNS&WONDERS

1556533286134-1635185667.jpgChildren are for signs and wonders from God to Glorify God and to help in society. Families need to understand Jesus loves and values all children in all nations. Children are the gifted assets to parents and women do what is beyond comprehension as childbearers. Women are absolutely celebrated as co-creators with God contributing to life cycle and replenish earth. Fulfil God’s command to mulitiply and bear fruit from seed of man and egg of woman is the gift of life. Adults love their children and children love their parents. God’s word says train and teach children Godly values of love, selfrespect, good manners and etiquette for appropriate interaction with others. The value of life is priceless and preserved with dignity even if differences exists by diversity or perspectives. Children are precious to God, Jesus loves little children allowed in His company with their parents and in meetings to learn about God. This is priority in life highly endorsed by God for salvation in the Kingdom of God. 1557243794465-1635185667.jpgSimeon dedicated Jesus to God in the Temple and blessed Him. Simeon said to Mary His mother, “Behold, this Child is appointed for a fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign about a sword piercing Mary’s soul. Hidden thoughts from many hearts will be revealed in Luke 2:34-35. Jesus brings changes to all who accept Him. Simeon’s prophesy is Jesus will be “a light for revelation to the Gentiles, and for GLORY to God’s people Israel in Luke 2:32. Jesus brings ruin in Israel of people like Simeon who worship in the Temple destroyed. Mary is told of literal piercing of her soul due suffering and pain of Jesus she endures. John wrote of the piercing of Jesus’ side after His death in prophesy fulfillment. So emotional turmoil Mary experienced are all treasured things pondering them in her heart in Luke 2:19, 50-51. Messiah Jesus arrived as Simeon was waiting all his life to see the “consolation of Israel.”1557243187090-1635185667.jpgJesus in the Temple during the Passover impressed the learned Synagogue and priests while doing the business of His Father God. But has created upheavals disturbing people in Israel, including mother of Messiah. Her pain is thought losing Jesus unmarried, compassionate son executed for the crimes He did not commit in His life brings Mary pain. A mother to all and His brothers standing outside desiring to see Him, answered, “My mother and my brothers are those who hear the word of God and do in Luke 8:19-21. Simeon’s prophesy comforts her like all mothers who embrace all children as their own. Jesus is a child destined for the fall and rise of many in Israel and a sign so that thoughts of many hearts are revealed.” Peter denied Jesus three times as Judas betrayed him, Pharaseees, Saduccees lied about Him and, people healed and helped voted crucify Him. These are the some thoughts of many hearts revealed.1556578915698-1635185667.jpgToday’s society needs to build a sound foundation from an early childhood like Jesus to grow and apply good values. A child without sound foundation in God is at the mercy of any man-made ideas that do cannot fulfill the void reserved exclusively to be filled only by God. The strong bond created in child connects to God and great reward to bless the child. Father God is the patent owner creator of humans with privileged access in the hearts and minds of children. They are never too young to understand agape LOVE of God for them at any level. The Sunday schools and school assemblies are essential for nurturing their spirit and minds in God in Christ if Christians.1557234117641-1635185667.jpg Placing emphasis on only the academic achievement at an expense of wellbeing lacks growth and the deeper hope for a meaningful life. Focus on only aesthetic external physical appearance or looks, price tag designer labels and superficial ideas deprive them of inner peace and inner strength in God. Some think they are worth the price tag, under pressure to be the first to be seen in those latest most expensive clothing. And gadgets to show off to get ‘street credit respect’ is the cause of competition to impress. A child worries more about external label than contents of character and effects of behaviour on others. Playing games are other sources of addiction they resort so buy the series to play without focussing more on academic excellence. These are some of the challenges facing a society desperate to create the perfect utopia of an academic achievement league table. pictures-jesus-photos-images-jesus-christ.jpgChildren are stressed in the class system society which thinks some are of higher value so deserve better treatment than others deprived. Children bear brunt of doing without a proper meal or sleep to their detriment. Peering children early to socialise them creates us versus them postcode society with a lack of trust for adults separated from them. Parents are too busy chasing money to provide for children often emotionally and socially retarded. Such explosive children feel a right of entitlement without a common sense of the due diligence and care for other people. They are not allowed to be corrected by parents so grow up with an attitude of disregard for Authority and the significant others in charge of them. Some feel like victims despite the privilege compared to other children all over the world. 1556578302852-1635185667.jpgAnd permanently angry, ungrateful and unthankful to the parents who sacrifice time, effort and resources to make their lives better than previous generations. So never content want more and more even if they have abundance beyond an average child globally. Not allowed to be part of family work ethic are made lazy by addiction to games or substance abuse to numb their perceived pains of life. Unrealistic demands to be perfect to fit in with friends causes damage to children growing mimicking adults yet without adult maturity and experience. Jesus warned about these behaviours during the last days of unruly children out of control and a menace to society. IMG-20190409-WA0005.jpgThere is need for rewriting foundation for early years to develop children like Finland to nurture and to protect them from vultures of society. Each time the children hurt each other or the others, accusing fingers are pointed at them without recognising the root of these problems created by society. Parents are treated as lazy for spending quality time with their children. Schools are so understaffed short of budgets education has become position on league table. So naming and shaming them than proper training to prepare children to become self-sufficient to have good success in life. Education, academic performance is only 20% of life so the rest 80% must be taught to prepare people to cope. It’s deception to make education end in life because of billions of educated people unemployed, exist on debt in the world.IMG-20190329-WA0000.jpg Their miseducations deprives children of practical survival skills and essential spatial knowledge. It frustrates young people without ability to farm, garden, do practical hands on life work due to misconception that is a blue collar job beneath them. Older generations piggy back them for life to help them make it but unaware of sacrifices involves and unwilling to support them in old age. So feel too sophisticated to live within their budget to give back to parents seen as a nuisance to their luxury pleasures of life. Honour parents and adults to bring blessings and so it is well with you to live long. A wise person receives good advise to be a wiser person in life but the Bible says the fool gets angry and hates you for advising them. Be kind in all you do towards others because it is seeds sown God sends back to you years later when you do not remember those past years. Life is beautiful and simple to understand because God creates all things beautiful in HIS OWN time. You came individual in this world and will face God alone to give an account of yourself no matter who is backing you in life. The ideas children have must be guided with patience to educate them about the real world. Their perspective may seem superficial but with support and guidance helped to develop better as audacious, bold, confident, resilient people with good success. Some want good things of life not understanding the years behind the scenes preparing through hard work. The end result seen is after years of toiling, sacrifices and sweat. It is necessary to teach children value for time, value for life to be who they truly are with humility, selfrespect without ego attitude problems. Children need incredible encouragement of hope.IMG-20190427-WA0000.jpgIMG-20190428-WA0000.jpgChildren are part of a bigger society that expects the best from them. Investment of quality time spent with their family is essential to bond with them. Above all is to teach them to love themselves first, to have agape love for all others. Kindness, Mercy is far better than cruelty, anger and hatred which destroys person. The society’s excuse is to blame government for lack of funds for youth centres but a need exists to talk to children at home as individuals too. They need their love and support that makes them trust their family more than naive friends. God is LOVE so Spirit of God’s LOVE POWER in you enables you to help children to feel loved and part of society. Abandoned by the system many rely on themselves to make wrong choices and decisions. The fact that they are clothed, fed, have own bedroom, latest gadgets is not enough to meet their emotional needs of peace, joy acceptance if adults too busy to interact one to one with them daily. There is no excuse for not helping them young and consistently with their hobbies at home, music, piano lessons. Parents can afford other things but complain of inability to invest in future of their own children. It is time redesign educational foundation to include interests of children not force them to study subjects they hate. Most are under stress or pressure to perform take their anger on others. Society plays part in responsibility for how they turn up as adults. 

 

THE MODERN BIBLE JONAH

Rainer Schimpf in the mouth of a Bryde’s whale in Port Elizabeth, South Africa.

The Modern Bible Jonah, is the South African marine conservationist who has narrowly survived after being caught in the jaws of a whale. Rainer Schimpf, 51, was swept into the mouth of a large Bryde’s whale off the coast of the South African town of Port Elizabeth while snorkelling and filming a sardine run last month. Looming up out of darkness below came a Bryde’s whale shooting up into the ball of fish, gulping all in its path, as he told AFP, adding that his legs were hanging from mammal’s mouth during incident at end of February. And Rainer Schimpf, said he went back into the water straight after incident. Schimpf’s wife, Silke, a photographer watched on in horror from their boat, chartered to watch the sardines which creates a marine feeding frenzy off Africa’s southern coast. “I felt pressure around my waist and I immediately knew what happened. It accidentally included me in its mouth together with its main meal the sardines.” Schimpf, an award-winning conservationist with 20 years’ experience, said the ordeal lasted a “matter of seconds”rather than three nights Jonah spent in whale’s stomach, according to the Bible story.Rainer Schimpf, who said he went back into the water straight after the incident.Whale realised mistake so opens mouth releasing me. I was washed out with what felt like tonnes of water from its mouth,” he said. Bryde’s whales can weigh up to 30 tons when mature and typically eat krill and fish. When he finally reached the surface he took a breath and rejoined fellow snorkelers who were unaware of the unfolding drama. “We swam back to the vessel, climbed up and checked if I and the camera were OK with no broken bones, no cracked ribs all was good,” he said. I was so “Pumped up with adrenaline and not wanting to miss the bait ball action, I went back into the sea this time looking for sharks,” he added with a smile. Schimpf extensively documented Orcas killing dolphins and their hunting behaviour. Is an authority on sardine tracking and predators that follow the sardine runs. Schimpf is undeterred following his narrow escape, telling AFP that “if I was to be reborn, I would like to come back as a whale.” Like Jonah’s miracle another story of modern event happened to this woman fished in sea. 15523944402621616656549.jpgThis miracle happened in Ghana when fishermen caught this woman alive in the sea trapped in the net while fishing. The woman said a stranger took her to a beach in a taxi so it’s a miracle that she survived three days in sea. She was free to go for refusing to turn to a mermaid. She is a modern-day Jonah found in the deep-sea waters and so survived human ritual sacrifice gone wrong. Said she met a stranger who took taxi and asked any nearby hotel with a seafront beach. In taxi to hotel nearby he administered substance to numb her senses she found herself inside the sea. Then a mermaid told her to join her in the sea but she refused so was told she must leave the sea. It was then she found herself in the net caught by the fishermen in Ghana. She was sacrificed by the stranger who thinks her life thrown away into the sea will be offering to gain the ritual money called sakawa. Lazy people want money for doing nothing deceived to murder innocent victims for ‘money’ rituals. Not knowing they are recruited by the devil to be destroyed by committing murder. God’s Creation will be given account for on judgement day and go to hell if they do not repent. Do hard work, live within your means it’s the best policy for your life not envy and jealousy to copy other people. The root of all evil is the greedy LOVE of money by those who do not love fellow human beings because evil spirits deceive them. Nobody brought anything into the world, no matter how rich they will take nothing out of world except your spirit soul back to God. So important to value all precious lives to preserve life not to kill for money. The Bible says in John 10:10 the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy but Jesus comes to give life to give life more abundantly in Jesus Name. The eternal life in God’s Kingdom is more precious than all gold, silver, diamonds and rubies. Why gain the whole world and lose your soul for material things of no value in heaven?

MODERN CHILDCARE NEEDS

Andy Shelley and babyAndy Shelley says his time on parental leave was “eye-opening.” Following the release of a poll which suggested 27% of mothers did not enjoy their maternity leave as much as they thought they would, parents have been sharing their experience of parental leave – both good and bad. Some people got in touch after following BBC Radio 5 Live presenter Emma Barnett’s open and honest account of her time away from work looking after her baby son, a time which she described as being “bloody hard and at times, lonely.” So what’s it like to be the one who stays at home and looks after the baby? Three parents share their very different experiences. The good, the bad and unexpected child care needs. ‘I thought my partner was just off work.’ Andy Shelley’s girlfriend gave birth to their daughter in March and the couple decided to take shared parental leavePrior to making choice, Andy’s partner had been looking after their daughter while he worked 12-hour days. “It was difficult because I felt like I wasn’t doing enough,” he says. Thirty-year-old Andy took over full-time care for two months in July, but admits he was not aware just how much work was involved in staying home and looking after his daughter. “Initially I thought parental leave would be a nice break from work but it wasn’t easy. “Some days she would be upset and I just didn’t know what to do. Your entire day revolves around feeds. It becomes a full-time job in itself. “I would be happy when my partner came home from work as it meant I could have a break.” The Stoke-On-Trent resident says his experience of parental leave was important as he realised how much his girlfriend had been doing when he thought she was “just off work.” “It made me appreciate everything she had done and ultimately cemented my relationship with my daughter. “It’s a shame more fathers don’t take parental leave as it really opens your eyes and you realise what your partner deals with.”‘I made sure I kept busy’Sandrine Charpentier and her two daughtersSandrine Charpentier said “clear vision” for her maternity leave and made sure its “wonderful experience.” Sandrine Charpentier, from Hayes in Kent, says her maternity leave with both of her daughters, now aged six and nine, was a “really positive experience.” Despite not knowing many people where she lived, Sandrine made sure she wasn’t isolated by booking a different activity every day. “We would do baby swimming, yoga, singing and play groups. It motivated me to get dressed and get out of the house. “The whole time I was really tired but I thought that was just part of the job. “It was great to meet people, be social and talk about our experiences. I was really happy during that time and it was great for my daughters.” As much as she enjoyed her maternity leave, the mum-of-two admits it was nice to return to work. “Being at work was like a holiday because I was free to do what I wanted. I didn’t have somebody glued to me all the time. “It was good to do something different, to meet people and not talk about nappies and babies all the time.” ‘It’s difficult to be accepted as a stay-at-home dad’Child playingPeople were shocked when Craig Smith said he was going to be a stay-at-home father Craig Smith, 42 in Staffordshire became stay-at-home dad to daughter, Matilda, in January when she was eight months old. His wife has a high-level job so they decided that it would be best for him to give up work and focus on their daughter’s early years. “I was very up for the challenge as I’ve always wanted children, but I didn’t really think about what was involved in being a full-time dad. “Sometimes it’s hard because all Matilda wants is her mum.” Craig says his experience made him realise there is not enough support for stay-at-home dads. “I tried to integrate with local playgroups, but the mums can be quite cliquey and it’s very difficult for a dad to be accepted. “A lot of mum-and-baby groups say fathers are welcome but in reality it’s not like that – the mums can be quite cold.” Craig is planning on going back to work part-time when Matilda starts nursery, but says he feels anxious at the prospect of returning to normality. “It feels like my brain has been conditioned to sing to Peppa Pig or nursery rhymes. The thought of carrying out serious and responsible tasks within a role kind of scares me.

Good, bad, unexpected childcare needs

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COOKING, WASHING, TAMES

Man holding babyCooking, washing clothes, cleaning and childcare, tames men who once thought it was only the women’s job. Like most men, Jean Pierre 32 lives in Mwulire in Eastern Province in Rwanda and leaves domestic chores to his wife. Impatient, angry, demands perfection due to lack of awareness that a woman’s job is 24/7 so never ends day or night. He becomes aggressive if his wife did not meet the standards of his expectations so beats her. A grassroots intervention program trying to reduce domestic violence in Rwanda teaches men how to do household chores, and a recent study suggested it has a positive effect on communities. So Muhoza Jean Pierre used to beat his wife because he saw her as someone he married just to have children and and look after them. “I was following example of my father. My father did not do anything at home,” he said. “If ever I came home and found something not done yet I insult her. “I called her lazy, told her she was useless so must go back to her parent’s house.” But something changed after he learnt to cook and clean. It was all part of a grassroots intervention programme in Mwulire village in Eastern Province, Rwanda encouraging men’s domestic roles, including childcare. Jean Pierre says the project called, ‘Bandebereho’ or role model in Kinyarwanda helps tamed and transformed his behaviour. He took part in classes covering everything from cooking and cleaning and discuss how to challenge men’s traditional gender roles. “They asked, if a man can sweep the house, and we would say ‘he can’,” he said. “And then they would ask us: ‘Who among you does that?’ And there was no one.”Man cooking next to his wife

Real men shouldn’t cook

Facilitators from ‘Bandebereho’ taught Jean Pierre how to do tasks previously he believed his wife should do. He also added: “We would go home and try to put this into practice. “Then we would go back to training with witnesses who would testify they had observed some changes in us. “I know how to cook. I do laundry for the kids. I know how to peel plantains, I know how to pound dry cassava and sift the flour.” Jean Pierre and his wife have been married for 10 years and never helped her before. And making changes was not easy as Jean Pierre’s friends discouraged him from doing household tasks, telling him: ‘No real man should cook.’ “My family and friends said my wife bewitched me by giving me some magic drugs. They said no genuine man should carry a bundle of firewood in the street because that is for henpecked men,” he said. But Jean Pierre continued when he saw benefits to his family. He says his children feel closer to him and his wife now runs a banana business that has allowed them to improve their home. “The way my wife treats me now is different from the way she used to treat me,” he said. “She used to treat me badly because I was mistreating her too, but now we discuss and agree on things to do. “I set her free, now she is working and I am working too; whereas before I was convinced she had to stay home and be available whenever I would need her.” Fear and little freedom affected Jean Pierre’s wife Musabyimana Delphine who says she used to have little freedom and lived in fear. She said: “Sometimes I felt like a mere worker, and I would remember a worker has a salary. “I never thought a woman can ever have her own money, because I never even had time to think about any activity that generate money. “Now I have enough freedom in house, I go out and work for money like others. Start training young boys now so when they grow up they will help their wife and help look after the children. When both work, it’s a burden on the woman to care for the family or children alone.man washing a plateThe ‘Bandebereho’ project taught Jean Pierre to do tasks previously believed his wife should do. Delphine leaves at 5am to sell plantains at a market, while Jean Pierre stays at home and takes care of their four young children. “I come home relaxed and find food ready,” she said. The project’s curriculum originally developed in Latin America by global fatherhood campaign MenCare believes true equality will only be reached when men take on 50% of world’s childcare and domestic work. The research looks into changing men’s attitudes towards family care and traditional domestic. It was soon realised the good impact on men. A study looking at couples taking part in the project found two years after taking childcare lessons in Rwanda men were less likely to use violence against their female partners than those who did not attend the classes. But the study suggested one in three women whose partners took part in the programme still reported experiencing intimate partner violence. National Institute of Statistics of Rwanda, released a data in 2015, around 52% of men in the country were violent towards partners. Rwanda Men’s Resource Centre, which delivered the programme in the country, wants ‘Bandebereho’ to be widely adopted by communities and country’s government. Fidele Rutayisire the chairman of centre, said: “We still have negative social norms, negative masculinity perception cultural barriers as main factors of high violence against women in Rwanda. “Traditionally men don’t take care of children here but men control sex, resources, decision-making. “When men are actively involved in the home they realise sacrifices of women in childcare so their attitude on gender changes positively, they understand the value of gender equality.” Delphine and Jean Pierre said the program benefited their family and the whole community. “We are now on honeymoon, 10 years after our wedding,” said Jean Pierre. If there is conflict or security issue in our neighbourhood our opinion is respected because they see we don’t have problem in our household. Men appreciate and help their wives and not demand they do all the housework or take care of the family, business, Church alone without support of husbands. A happy wife is a happy life and the Bible says love your wife as Christ loved His bride Church and gave His life for you. Timothy says a husband must first look after his family and own household before serving the Church. Don’t neglect your wife and the children in the NAME OF GOD leisurely talking to single women while your wife and children at home suffer. Remember your wife is that same beautiful single woman you married and used her body to give birth to your children. And don’t abandon her for fresh young woman to give birth later to become abandoned as wife. This causes baby mama problems because men want to eat their cake and have it. So wants exclusive attention of wife at the expense of the children some are jealous of. Forget their parents took great care of them as done to children. Grow up and be father to the children to mature a responsible man not manchild depending on wife as mother. For even the Son of Man Jesus did not come to be served but to serve and give His life as a ransom for many says Mark 10:45.

  • 27 November 2018
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DO TOYS DISTRACT FOCUS?

Children become distracted when they are surrounded by toys Too many toys are bad for children as a study suggests that the children become distracted when they are surrounded by too many toys. This is what the parents have suspected all along. Children who have too many toys are more also easily distracted so do not enjoy that quality playtime with other children as the new study suggest. Researchers at University of Toledo in Ohio, US, recruited some 36 toddlers and invited them to play in a room for half an hour, with either four toys, or 16 toys. They found youngsters were far more creative when they had fewer toys to play with. And they played with each for twice as long, thinking up more uses for each toy and lengthening and expanding their games. The authors conclude parents, schools and nurseries should pack away most of their toys and just rotate a small number regularly, to help encourage the children to become more creative to improve the attention spans of the children. This study sought to determine if the number of toys in a toddlers’ environments influences their quality of play,” said the lead author Dr Carly Dauch in journalInfant Behaviour and Development.“The higher number of incidences of play in 16 toy condition did interfere with duration and depth of play. Other toys present created their external distractions. “During toddler years, children develop but not master, higher levels of control over attention. And their attention plus their play was disrupted by factors in an environment present with distractions. The results of the present study suggest an abundance of toys create distractions. But provided with fewer toys in their environments the toddlers engaged in longer periods of play with single toy allowing better focus to explore, play more creatively.”Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, say researchers Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, says researchers. Britons spend more than £3 billion each year on toys and surveys shows that a typical child owns 238 toys in total but parents think they play with just the 12 ‘favourites’ on a daily basis making up just five per cent of their toys. It is not the first time research suggested that too many toys distract children. In the 1990s the German researchers, Elke Schubert and Rainer Strick conducted experiment where the toys were taken away from Munich nursery for three months. After a few weeks, the children re-adjusted and their play became far more creative and social. The published research of their findings in their book, called, The Toy-free Nursery. In another book, ClutterFree with Kids the author, Joshua Becker also argued fewer toys are better for children because a sparse playroom encourages creativity to help children develop attention span and to teach youngsters about taking care of their possessions. “A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there countless options are still remaining on the shelf behind them,” he said. “When children have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. And they will not learn to value them if there is their replacement ready at hand. “Fewer toys causes these children to become more resourceful by solving problems with only materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited practical uses in their futures.

The research is published in the journal Infant Behaviour and Development. The conflict of interest of the toy companies advertising children playing with many latest toys makes parents feel obliged to buy them for the children not to feel left out. Children display their toys online on social media to compare with each other including the addictive games that stop children learning, doing homework assignments later in college, university or focus at work. Lack attention span or focus from childhood affects the adults today unable concentrate for few hours to complete tasks at hand. Christmas is around and parents must not let a child manipulate them emotionally to buy a toy without teaching them first value of essential basic reading at level. Children can get a few educational toy to reward them to do exceptionally well in a field of academic achievement at school. The development steared towards a specific direction of any future career requires relevant toys to influence natural gifts, talents and abilities. Otherwise parents unintentionally make children victim of success by their ability to buy too many toys they can afford. Just because it is possible to buy things seen on the TV in adverts does not mean it enhances their specific development. Parent knows the children best, whether they are trained experts or not must help child learn not to depend only on school to learn. Early learning through practical play is now rapidly eroded by virtual reality keep children cocooned online. So important to carefully reflect before Christmas on piling up toys to “prove” your “love” of your children to the world overloading them with too many toys. Experience shows most children are just so happy playing with the box, not expensive toys boosting their parents ego. Millennium children are suffering from the lack of a social understanding or interaction due to isolated attachment to toys valued as more precious than engaging with each other. Time consumed worrying about their toy possessions makes them miss out on appreciating fellow human being as adults due to learned behaviour. The competition among children, teenagers over toys leads further to threats of the perceived anger of friends loving them only for their material possessions. The toys must not take over to babysit their children without adult supervision and input. One of the best ways to bond with children is play with them sometimes to help them value the adults in their lives.