HOLY KISS GREETING & HUGS

article-2071835-0F1BBF8E00000578-716_634x422In Romans 16:16 in the Bible Paul wrote in New Testament commanding believers to make contact or touch others with a warm smile, hand-clasp and a friendly hug. Paul encouraged the congregation and church members to give each other a hug, a touch as a sign of unity to greet each other with a holy kiss and hugs. And speak through the Psalms as people quote Shakespeare to share favourite lines in literature. The Pentecostals often greet each other with kisses and hugs. Visitors are welcomed this way so if the new members are not used to such a way of greeting they can feel innaudated and intimidated by the zealous members embracing or kissing them if not used to an intimate way of expressing agape love. Recently, in the church a female pastor rushed towards a new male visitor and proceeded to try to hug him as she does for many years. But the new member raised both his hands to indicate, ‘do not touch me or come too close.’ It surprised everyone as it had never happened before. Maybe others out of politeness and courtesy tolerate it or probably just go along with kisses or hugs, but no one ever rejected it before. It is perfectly understable if some people feel uncomfortable and say no, it does not mean rejection of the one expressing such Biblical principles. On other occasions, for security reasons, important leaders are not allowed to be touched or hugged under any circumstances. Of course that scenario can happen in church gatherings so if not sure, ask if it is alright to do so. 22CULTURALSTUDIES1-jumbo.jpgIn some places female to female hugs and kisses are preferred or handshakes encouraged. But the woman must first extend her hand to a man because the man is not allowed to shake a married women’s hands in some cultures. On the other hand there are countries that see kiss or hugs as prerogative of diplomacy so must be done. In some churches women are only allowed to kiss and hug other women as men kiss and hug the men. In an age of legal homosexuality, lesbian partnerships or marriages the churches in favour has no problems or prefer handshakes. However is common in the workplace to encourage hugging for bonding and a sense of belonging. But how about those people in the offices who do not like to be kissed or bugged publicly at least at awkward moments. You are greeting someone or saying goodbye. Should you give that person a hug? Especially if it’s someone you don’t know well? You do not want to seem intrusive if you hug too soon, but you don’t want to appear overly stiff or too formal so you offer a handshake when a hug is expected. So what should you do? There a few good rules about hugging in our society.article-2148121-133B0FA3000005DC-582_468x309On one hand, Americans are famously informal and forthright. On the other hand, our nation has puritan roots so we are known for needing more personal space than other cultures. How do you strike a balance? Here are some guidelines to start from, many of which come from etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore, author of Poised for Success.

1. Mind body language.

With hugs, as with kisses, another person’s body language will tell you whether he or she is willing to accept a hug or not. Before you go in for that squeeze, pay attention to what the person’s position, movement, and facial expression is telling you. Are the feet pointed toward you or away? Is the person leaning in, or distancing him or herself? What does your gut feeling tell you this person wants? When people offend others with a hug, it’s most often because they just barge right in and don’t stop to get a read on what other person wants. Don’t make that mistake. Children are now being taught to meet and greet properly to learn etiquette. t1larg (1).jpg

2. Ask Permission First.

If you want to hug someone, you think it welcomes you if not sure just ask. “May I give you a hug question indicates both affection, respect so likely appreciated. The only down side to this if people feel embarrassed or uncomfortable saying no. So if getting a negative or uncertain vibe do not even asking the question.

3. The Balance of Power.

A boss hugging an employee is a very different matter from two business associates hugging at the conclusion of a meeting. Be extra reserved about hugging if it can in any way seem like you’re using your power to disrespect another person’s boundaries. This is one reason Joe Biden recently drew so many criticisms for his putting his hands on  a cabinet member’s wife during swearing in ceremony.

4. Consider the occasion.

If you haven’t seen a colleague in a long time, or you’ve just gone through a powerful training or other experience together, or you’re at acelebration, then hugging might well be appropriate. The same may apply if the person in question has just had a piece of very good, or very bad news, or is struggling to deal with a difficult situation. On the other hand, if you routinely see this person and nothing special is going on, then a hug probably isn’t warranted.LXNGDEDJXOCNTOWYIIGFSDIU

5. Avoid mixing hug & non hugs.

You’re greeting a group of people, some of whom you know well and others whom you know only slightly or have just met. Do you hug some but not others? No, Whitmore advises. Shake hands with everyone to be consistent avoid making some feel uncomfortable or left out.

6. Keep it short.

A hug can go from natural to awkward if you keep it going for too long. So make your hugs brief. Whitmore recommends a duration of no more than three seconds.

7. Don’t hug if contagious

The last thing you want to do is give your colleague a cold, or catch one from him or her. So if you’re uncertain about your own health, or the other person seems to be fighting an infection, stick to a handshake at most, although not touching at all is probably safest. You can always say that you’re avoiding touch out of concern that you might spread something you’ve been exposed to if you are really afraid of catching something from other person.kissing-in-costa-rica-2

8. Don’t hug if not clean.

Let’s say you’re meeting on a very hot day, and you’ve gotten sweaty on your walk over from the parking lot. Or you’ve had a workout and returned to work but didn’t have time to shower. Or you’ve been out at a site visit and gotten grimy. In those circumstances, avoid hugging. The last thing you want to do is gross someone out.

9. Err on not hugging.

If you’re not sure whether a hug would be welcome, and you don’t think it’s a good idea to ask, then don’t hug. You’ll almost never offend someone with a handshake.

10. Cease the right moment.

In spite of all these caveats, I’m still a believer in the power of human contact. So if you feel like a hug is warranted and none of the obstacles above apply, I say go for it. I once met a business contact face-to-face for the first time after we’d been working together for several years. I felt like I knew him, and he seemed to feel the same, because at our first meeting, he greeted me with a hug. I was surprised, but happily so. During that brief meeting we talked more about our lives than about business and by the time I left, I had a human relationship to go with the emails and voice on the phone. That hug was a great way to start.

DOES LOOKS AFFECT JOBS?

hqdefaultDoes looks affect jobs and will your face land you a dream job? Some measure expected standard face as a potential employer to decide whose face best fits the job. This new trend selects mostly females based on their looks or shape of their faces. Some companies go as far as asking for pictures in advance and then measuring faces with tape during their interviews for their required face. This matter is becoming an issue of concern as some do not hear from the employer again after their receiving photos. This way of employing staff members was again in the news. BLcsr71CAAEkR4ySo is this another stereotypical selection method of the beauty considered fit for a workplace? This method is based on facial profiling by face reader’s opinions who claim to predict suitable jobs for specific faces. They are consulted to analyse faces to determine the best face for each job. Is this another underhand tactics and an excuse to discriminate against certain faces? It is possible to send own air brushed picture to look impressive often people send a younger photo than their current looks. 364309F600000578-3689902-image-a-3_1468489483342Are companies being influenced by the modern concepts of what constitutes good looks online in the media as true standard beauty? What about ‘Ugly Betty’ chosen to help her boss from getting distracted by his beautiful secretaries to focus on managing his company. What happens if a company is catfished as happens often in many cases including Sarah who got a job from a university based on her photo of previous youthful years. The university appointed her and on arrival for work turned out to be confronted by an old lady three times her age. Sarah did not indicate her current age to them so it was assumed she looked like the photo sent. At first, the university thought it was a mix up until she confirmed her identity and she enough she was the same person. She was allowed to do the job based on her excellent and genuine track record on her CV qualifications and work history. Sarah although het looks did not affect her job turned out to be a nightmare. Sarah told university zoology director, she must live literary with all the animals in her home. ae840eace1a73d45b1ba4ac9d0668f97Therefore Sarah turned posh university accommodation into animal husbandry for her practical research. Her teaching produced great students so made up for lack of her youthful look Was tolerated to live among her beloved animals till she died unexpectedly. Sarah carried on dutifully for many years but became a victim of her own success. One of the animals bit her while taking him to a vet in her vehicle became infected by rhesus as he carried that disease. IMG_20170720_194117 Sarah dedicated her phenomenal long life collaborating with the university for many years. The university afterwards took the animals to the appropriate zoo set aside for all other animals. Then the house was refurbished and restored for new person employed to fill her place. Sarah was a great character and loyal to her beloved animals and carried on with her zoologist passion to a whole new level. Her presence at university was well-known so she was popular and well loved, one of a kind in that gated community. Her research papers, work was immaculate in both classroom and outside winning many awards. Sarah’s looks and age did not hinder or affect her work in at all. So if the university had based the choice on only superficial or aesthetic looks to reject application, they would have missed out on her skills, talents and practical abilities for many years, as an impressive scientist. So do looks really help in choosing the most competent staff members? Sarah’s job technically did not have age limits in those days so she was able to do her work perfectly well. Sarah did what she loved most so died doing her job carried on faithfully to the end. So is it fair and ethically moral to demand specific looks to determine certain jobs?

PREVENTING DEMENTIA

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One in three cases of dementia could be prevented if more people looked after their brain health throughout life, according to an international study in the Lancet. It lists nine key risk factors including lack of education, hearing loss, smoking and physical inactivity. The study is being presented at the Alzheimer’s Association International Conference in London. By 2050, 131 million people could be living with dementia globally. There are estimated to be 47 million people with condition at the moment.agy-szkenner-1050x846


9 facts of dementia risk

  • Mid-life hearing loss – responsible for 9% of the risk
  • Failing to complete secondary education – 8%
  • Smoking – 5%
  • Failing to seek early treatment for depression – 4%
  • Physical inactivity – 3%
  • Social isolation – 2%
  • High blood pressure – 2%
  • Obesity – 1%
  • Type 2 diabetes – 1%

DTI_white_matter_tracks_sThese risk factors – which are thought to be modifiable – add up to 35%. The other 65% of dementia risk is beyond the individual’s control. Source: Lancet Commission on dementia prevention, intervention or care. Though dementia is diagnosed in later life, brain changes usually begin to develop years before,” said lead author Prof Gill Livingston, from University College London. “Acting now will vastly improve life for people with dementia and families and, in doing so, will transform the future of society.” The report, which combines the work of 24 international experts, says lifestyle factors can play a major role in increasing or reducing an individual’s dementia risk. It examines the benefits of building a “cognitive reserve”, which means strengthening brain’s networks so it can continue to function in later life despite damage.Eve Laird

Image captionEve Laird is taking part in a study on how to prevent dementia

Eve Laird, from Dumfries, is worried about dementia because her mum is living with the condition. She decided to make some changes to her lifestyle. “I’m terrible for eating processed foods and takeaways and I’ve really been trying to cut back on that.”I definitely drink a lot more water than I used to – and I don’t drink as much coffee now. “I actually took part in the Edinburgh marathon. For that I joined the Dumfries running club – I go there once a week.” She says she felt so much better for the exercise, and for improving her diet. “I felt a lot healthier and mentally sharper as well. It’s something I’d really like to continue, but it is hard to stay on track.” “I just think the small changes can make such a big difference.”Graph on forecast of dementia growth globallyFailure to complete secondary education was a major risk factor, and the authors suggest that individuals who continue to learn throughout life are likely to build additional brain reserves. Another major risk factor is hearing loss in middle age researchers say this can deny people a cognitively rich environment and lead to social isolation and depression, which are among other modifiable risk factors for dementia. Another key message from the report is that what is good for the heart is good for the brain.brainome

‘Positive changes’

Not smoking, doing exercise, keeping a healthy weight, treating high blood pressure and diabetes can all reduce the risk of dementia and cardiovascular disease, and cancer. The researchers say they did not have enough data to include dietary factors or alcohol in their calculations but believe both could be important. Dr Doug Brown, director of research at Alzheimer’s Society, said: “Though it’s not inevitable, dementia is currently set to be the 21st Century’s biggest killer. We all need to be aware of the risks and start making positive lifestyle changes.” Dr David Reynolds, chief scientific officer at Alzheimer’s Research UK, said: “Alongside prevention research, we must continue to invest in research to find a life-changing treatment for people with this devastating condition.”

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JESUS IS THE SAME FOREVER

hebrews-13_8Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever says Hebrews 13:8. The Son of God and Saviour of mankind, Chosen by God Rules God’s Kingdom eternally. Jesus is alive and well in heaven so did not evolve into another person and is not reincarnated as anyone else. Jesus is the Lamb of God and Ultimate Sacrifice of humanity. Nowhere in the Bible does Jesus disintegrate into an angel, pope or any imposter falsely claiming to be the Messiah Yeshua. The authentic, genuine, original, real Jesus is ALIVE AND WELL and coming back physically to earth to rule forever as God ordained Him to be. Jesus never transitioned into any other form of human being as often taught by many people falsely to deceive them to hell. Jesus accurately predicted after His ascension Alive into heaven, there will be many false Christs deceiving people including even chosen, elect, remnant if they are not discerning. Some refuse to submit to God’s plans and purpose for mankind through Jesus Christ so instead create their own version of faith to lure people away from God. Try to convince people Jesus failed God in completing His assignment on earth to bring perfect peace politically so they replace Jesus in doing so. They wanted a political leader to redeem them from exploitation by unjust tyrants who extorted taxes and banned them from worship. Increased agitation and helplessness against their rulers and leaders who exploited them aggravated them to look for a militant conqueror. Disappointed Jesus did not command armies of heaven to eradicate their enemies. Instead, Jesus told them His Kingdom is not of secular world but God’s Kingdom so failed to understand Jesus’ mission on earth. Hebrews+13_8The oppressed wanted immediate relief from their oppressors so looked for new opportunities in militant Leaders. In doing so, they misunderstood that it was God who allowed those imposters as a part of their demands of permissive will against God in the first place. Did not realise as mankind rejected God as Theocratic Leader of all HIS creation so God let them endure those they chose in place of God. God was angered and so allowed humans to control themselves as long as possible to discover the error. God allowed time for people to have the taste of their own medicine as they now prefer man’s rule over God’s Rule. After many generations of suffering and toil, God heard cries of people and sent help through the prophets, priests, ministers, and appointed elders. Although some do listen and obey them, majority refused to accept Godly instructions. Finally God sent HIS OWN SON JESUS, God’s Heir to throne of David to touch their hearts to repent to accept God’s Rule again. Sadly, many did not take keen interest in Jesus as God intends. After many generations of human leaders, lack of knowledge of God as Direct ruler of mankind seems a strange concept to them. God decided to give freedom of choice to mankind to be the master of their own destiny against HIS WILL. Therefore God gave mankind ‘permission’ to convince themselves that they are better without God’s input. As the years passed, it became clearer that mankind desperately needs God’s help even more than ever before. So God in HIS WISDOM and Compassionate Mercy extends beyond measure LOVE to all HIS faithful, loyal Children, crying to God day and night, interceding to God to redeem world from reckless pain and needless suffering. However, there is a problem as an absolute power corrupts absolutely, humans have tasted power and enjoyed the pecks and privileges of power refuse to renounce the powerful positions to God to take HIS RIGHTFUL PLACE of authority over mankind. This is the ultimate source of all conflict on earth. In the process some religious leaders vying for total control of world exclusively, want to prove they are the real McCoy chosen by God among the others competing for the same position. This is why they try to trace their power to Jesus to try to convince people they are the ‘real Messiah Yeshua’ to rule. So reinforce teaching messages to fool people into thinking they are to rule mankind in place of Jesus. The problem is Jesus is Alive and well in heaven and Coming back soon to earth to Rule. jes003Many other ‘Jesuses’ exist today in order to justify themselves as the new ‘Jesus,’ so try to ‘eliminate’ True Authentic Jesus by telling people that Yeshua Messiah is transformed or reborn as that leader. A closer look shows contradictions and an inability to convince from Bible ideas in line with Testimony of the Word of God. Nowhere in the Bible does God say Jesus will be replaced by another Saviour to come after Jesus Christ. Jesus is Ultimate Sacrifice in heaven waiting on God’s Command to come to earth in Rapture in clouds to save to rescue God’s chosen, faithful and loyal remnants awaiting His Coming soon. Jesus WILL Return physically to set up Eternal Kingdom on earth from Israel. In the meantime, God is giving people the chance to repent, to accept and believe in Jesus to join God’s Kingdom before it is too late. After the Rapture, world descends into chaos of evil unseen before culminating in battle of Armageddon says Psalm 83. So God takes by force, God’s Rightful Rule over mankind forever and ever and God’s Kingdom has no end. Those who refuse to submit to God’s Rule sadly will face God’s judgements and punishments in hell fire. This world is changing fast in line with the word of God in the Bible from Genesis to Revelations prophecies are happening daily in the news. Study the Bible yourself like the Bereans and know the truth for yourself. The Truth you know sets you free in Jesus Name so if leader knows exposed and denounced by genuine truth of God will do not let you discover truth for you to abandon them. So tell you to listen exclusively to them only not to read any other sources of information including the Bible. Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Light so changes the brainwashed, transformed and renewed to be saved. As the source of income, some cults manipulate them making it difficult and impossible to leave without threats if convinced by Godly Bible Truth. Take note nobody can save you except Jesus Christ. World events are part of bigger picture unfolding and end time reality happenings everyday. Prepare and make informed choice for your own good in Jesus Name. Be reassured the same Jesus alive in heaven EXACTLY is SAME JESUS COMING AGAIN to earth soon even right at the door. Jesus said many people use His name to perform miracle wonders. God is powerful and HIS Words are sharper than two-edged sword working miracle but if motive is wrong God rejects them. Paul said he did not want to lead others to Christ and perish himself so ran the race to win the prize like all other believers. God highly exalted Jesus above all names so at the mention of Name of Jesus every knee shall bow and every tongue will confess Jesus is Lord to the Glory of LORD God Yahweh. The angels told the disciples on Mount Olives, Jesus they saw going into heaven is SAME JESUS CHRIST COMING back to earth on Mount Olives.. 11So Jesus did not, decay, decompose, degenerate, dematerialized, deteriorate, disintegrate, dissolve, fragment, go to pieces, granulate, grinded, interred in God’s memory, melt, molder, perish, powdered, pulverize, putrefy, triturate, tumble into another human being or turned into Archangel Michael. At the sound of trumpets by archangels, Jesus WILL appear with heavenly host brightly for all eyes to see Jesus’ Second Coming to earth. Romans 6:23 says the wages of sin is death but GIFT of God is ETERNAL Life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Jesus conquered death permanently by GIFT OF ETERNAL LIFE. John 3:16 says, God so LOVED the world HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON JESUS, WHOSOEVER BELIEVES IN JESUS WILL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE ETERNAL LIFE. A born again believer in God does not perish because Spirit lives on as body remains if well-preserved or decays to dust but reawaken at trumpet call. God has enough creation material to make mankind, angels, creatures, the earth, sky and firmament. So God does not recycle human life into new beings because of shortage of ingredients. God does not turn dead into another one so makes zillions of each individual since creation and continues to do so. People are unique, one of a kind, God made to display the wonders of God’s MAJESTY. So the Real Jesus is seated at Right Hand of God on Throne in heaven and is Alive forevermore. Paul warns in latter times some will fall away from true faith by paying attention to follow misleading counterfeit teaching of demons says 1 Timothy 4:1. The doctrine of eternal life in Christ means the Spirit of God in man never dies so returns to God after death to join the saints singing before God’s Throne in heaven. Those in Christ alive on earth join Jesus in Rapture teaching supported by Bible. Jesus said: “You will know the truth and the truth sets you free in John 8:32. All who prefer to be asleep, God allows to remain asleep till after 1000 year Reign of Jesus on earth. So gain accurate knowledge of God’s Bible truth and correct teaching of God’s Kingdom principles and practices for growth promotion by faith in Christ in God. Matthew 25:31 says Jesus RETURNS with thousands of angels accompanying Jesus to earth physically a Divine being.  At Second Coming, Christ will descend to Mount Olives in Jerusalem to Reign 1000 years. After ascension He prepares place for you so will come again and in Rapture receive you to be with Jesus in heaven with God. So Acts 1:11 said to the disciples, you men of Galilee, why do you stand here looking into Heaven, This same Jesus, who has been taken from you into heaven, WILL come back in the same way you saw him ascend to heaven. So they returned to Jerusalem from Mount of Olives in Israel. Jesus has not turned into anyone else so is coming back to earth soon and all eyes will see Jesus Yeshua Messiah on His Return.

GOD’S CORRECTION IS GOOD

proverbs-3-12-god-corrects-us-gold_1398839561The LORD God Almighty corrects those HE LOVES as a father or parents correct the children in whom they delight says the Bible in Proverbs 3:12. God reveals to HIS Children error by love to point out mistakes to reveal the correct way to change for good. Correction is done by God directly or through Jesus Christ the Eraser to wipe out errors to restart correctly to show a person unaware of a mistake due to lack of knowledge. This helps learn from mistakes to improve lives to please God. By doing so the lives transformed grow in righteousness and improves in faith, active listening skills in obedience to God. The person gains useful information previously unknown before. Hebrews 12:6-11 says the LORD chastens, disciplines, scourges all HE LOVES to receive correction to endure to gain better experience in life. God deals with people as individual, family or on corporate basis as required.proverbs-3-12-god-corrects-us-green_1078636053Correction of Bart Simpson is a classic example of the line writing exercise on the classroom board to highlight point of correction. Years ago, schools gave pupils correction exercise books for rewriting misspelt words. Of course, as children unaware of exact right words intended word teachers point mistake to teach learners to write many times in exercise books to help remember the correct words in future. The brain coordinates hand movements with eyes to record words. Repetition of the words written many times forever registers so etched in minds of pupils to remember better. But along came a contemporary educational theory it constitutes abuse to ask children to use repetition method to write lines for correction so avoidedsimpson-i will use google before asking dumb questions

So spell checker was born so people did not memorize words for rote learning for recall. Computers correct the words obviously misspelt but words like “cap” and “cup”or “hat” and “hut” for example though correct, if not in context can be incorrect. Drinking milk in “cap” does not show on spellchecker so the reader must know word “cup” in the first place to edit it. This affects spelling error not dealt still with by computer in modern times. Therefore it is important to teach correct words in academia for life as a whole. The Bible says if you correct wise people and they become wiser and love you but correct mockers and they hate you. Choose correction carefully at right time in right way to help improve lives. Purpose of correction is not to shame a person in a negative way for vengeance to hurt them. People who love and care about you help with any issues affecting you to deal with it by Godly correction, compassion, support, understanding as God disciplines us.  3

Godly discipline is for good so it is not punishment though unpleasant because one is compelled to conform or comply against own rebellious ideas. Proverbs 9:8 warns not to attempt to correct fools because they are offended so hate you. Adapting to change is uncomfortable so may seem harsh to recipient until they benefit when they correct the error. So Correction requires determination by the teacher to help ‘wise’ to be ‘wiser’ as challenge to one doing correction. Their unpredictable nature, response reaction to correction depends on the persona at receiving end. Element of risk means a teacher helps learners to avoid mistakes to help correct them through a training experience. Criticising a person affects correction as attack on ego or pride may refuse help or reject correction. In the long run, over a period of time, people realise an insolent person’s ignorance is caused by fear of change. So help stop the devices of mistakes damaging them. Lack of Frontal Cortex means those in crises do not know how mistakes can impact lives. Sadly, some learn the hard way by self-destruction that could be avoided if only they listened. proverbs3_11-12Through arguments a stiff neck refuses to take instructions so does not realise the errors done to themselves or to their family. Blinded by error mindset, causes havoc by process of fear rebuff or reject correction so avoid a pointed out error altogether for improvement. The theory that correction discourages children in the early years from learning affects the attitude to correction in general. Left to figure things out for themselves, many people are unaware of their mistakes. So it becomes problems affecting their performance if the person is allowed to be left to their own devices. In terms of future career the person carries on into other areas of life. Anyone who points out errors to them other than own ideas is not well received. Although a trainer from experience knows exactly what they are talking about, so foresees error, the learner does not accept help, refuses correction. Yet correction is specifically for their good, well-being of the whole family or work place, community and world in general.Profitable-for-RebukeIf a stubborn person resists wisdom at all cost to defy authority in the name of freedom to do as they please, they miss out on the Spirit of excellence. Realise boundaries of correction helps to learn better ways to protect them from a long winding road of mistakes. Like prodigal son, God forgives and restores the ways of error to rescue the lost or misdirected by the wrong choices they made. Proper correction helps to avoid, prevent worse case scenarios. A person corrected must be educated to visualise or understand benefits of the correction in advance. So learners must be taught advantages of correction to instill value of flexibility, humility to bring changes in learning methods. Correction is not to inflict pain or suffering but guidance to give correct information to the person taught. The teacher must be patient and tolerant because learners do not immediately see what they teachers know. Important to understand a soft stick bends because it is malleable than a hard dry stick. The concept that learners grow up to correct themselves is not always the wise move. As they continue in set ways without an understanding of the impact of previous years without correction. Many adults get offended when genuine people try to guide them to correct errors. Some explode in anger and rage so take anger on others. This even spills over into the others aspects of life treating anyone’s suggestions in good faith as an attack on their character or personality. 54126707d4518b751f9145ee5d192841

Reprove not a scorner lest he hates you, rebuke a wise man and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man so he will be still wiser, teach a righteous man and he will thank you and apply correction in their lives. Correct fools and they take offence. Do not despise chastening of the LORD God; neither be weary of HIS correction. So accept correction for your own goodAccept correction of God by Grace and wisdom of the Holy Spirit to lead you into all truth and teach you. A personal Bible study as a faithful Child of God is part of growth and maturity in the LORD. Start correction of children as early as possible from 2 years old to correct them in love at their level not by anger. Teach children by pointing out correct manner of behaviour as part of life for all to learn. It is imperative to carefully train a child to get rewards for their good behaviour to help reinforce correction. Follow up with apology and hug so child learns to accept teachers doing well to teach child to accept critique of work performance. Children with trained good sense accept correction and even recognise error by admitting error if unnoticed by teacher. A child can politely point out error to a teacher because all are human, so make mistakes in life. The secret is to get up immediately for good success not to feel disheartened by correction. Correction is good as it builds a person up to thrive.

GOD DIDN’T REMOVE REDSEA

e7d5798fb6e085d9f198abb17130bf82God did not remove the red sea when Israel was crossing over to the promised land in living history. God told Moses to lift up the stick already in his hands to part red sea safely with millions of people. This teaches us God uses whatever is at hand to deliver us from problems. Often people pray asking God to remove the challenges from their lives. So focus on removing issues rather asking God for wisdom to deal with the problem faced. The crossing of the red sea is a classic example of God at work through people to reveal HIS Miracle power. God could have shouted for the red sea to part but instead God Chose to use Moses stick to let Israel know God uses even imperfect humble people to do HIS real miracles. Praying in the garden of Gethsemane, Jesus asked Father God if it is possible to remove the cup of sorrow from Him but God sent angel to encourage, strengthen Jesus to go through His Mission on the earth. At times, the reality of challenges is so overwhelming we prefer removal of problems faced. God in HIS Infinite Wisdom Knows us better so helps deal with problems to overcome them. rh-mosescrossesredseaThe ‘red seas’ in life helps us to improve listening skills to follow Godly instructions. Other ‘red seas’ increase faith as we partake God’s Miracle power through us in Jesus Name. The credit and glory always goes to God as vessels of honour to demonstrate HIS POWER on earth to people. Testimony of Godly miracles defeat the devil through the blood of the Lamb Yeshua. This Miracle is well-known globally and today relics of chariots drowned in the red sea are seen and documented to highlight the Victory over enemies of God in history. Therefore, pray and ask God to reveal what is available for you to use for your red sea miracles. God is the same yesterday today and forever so is able to do similar miracles in your life and in your family. salvation-red-seaDo not get angry with God for not removing your ‘red sea’ from you. Instead seek God’s Face to direct you to use abilities, gifts, skills, talents, wisdom the right ‘stick’ at hand to defeat the devil in Jesus Name. Do not set a deadline for God to answer prayer or become restless if answer is delayed as you wish it to happen. God’s Plan for your life is always Higher than yours so depend on God and trust God to guide you to victory. Answers from God are at times different to ours but in long-run things become clearer to understand the thoughts of God for HIS Children. This lesson of Israel crossing the red sea has been disputed as high tide and low tide both of which are still God’s creation so Israel crossed safely but the chariots of horsemen of God’s enemies drowned. It is necessary to give God due Credit not to mock HIS miracles. Living history shows those who mock God’s power do not enjoy the benefits of miracles due to unbelief. Jesus did fewer miracles in the city of Nazareth due to their unbelief. God manifests HIS Presence and Power through Jesus and believers who trust God to do miracles in their lives. Though ‘red sea’ remained firmly in place it parted when God told Moses to lift stick and did so. In same way Israel’s eternal first position before God’s throne and among nations of the earth is forever. Despite red seas Israel graples with, God parts all in right time to resolve issues in life and will do so for you in Jesus Name with thanks and Glory to God Almighty Jehovah Nissi.

5 FREE GIFTS FOR SPOUSES

wife1. Giving hugs is essential to keep love flame alive so give your spouse hugs daily. Hugs are fast disappearing in marriages today. It has been researched hugging is one of the emotional needs of all human being. It is scarcity of spousal hug that makes many men hug ladies not their wives indiscriminately. Many women crave for hugs and they allow every Tom Dick and Harry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hugs. In the morning or at night, let no day pass without hugging your spouse. It is a valuable you must give your spouse. It could be welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, appreciation hug, affirmative hug. Hugging is non-verbal means of communication so use it well. Do not let your husband or wife crave hug from strangers when you are alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically. A married couple is generous to all except their spouses​. These 5 things you should give your spouse daily. These are not weekly, monthly, annual giving. They are things you must give spouse daily. Let us see them. Give your spouse a touch: One of the ways to bond with spouse is touch of encouragement, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch and sexual intimacy touch. Study your partners and know what touch to give at a particular time. If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Do not let day without kissing your partner.

83f6ebfa0be41f0f20e5dd93e6e1adaabacfaad82. Give your spouse a smile: God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, ‘You delight me’, ‘Your presence amuses me,’ ‘I am pleased with you’. Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the way to know your marriage is cold is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day. I love to smile a lot and I love to see my Queen smile. I do not like people who are not generous with their smile. It is free. You do not need to pay for smiles. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, smile, keep smiling! To prevent your marriage going cold keep smiling with spouse.Picture-23. Give your spouse a call/ chat: Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phones & all the friends on their friends list on Facebook. But they never chat or call their spouse throughout​ the day. Chatting or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, ‘Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you’. Make sure you send a chat, or give a call to your spouse today. Make it a daily thing. Nobody is tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.

publication_249679_img54c52dafa3b0e7fb78709e5ce3a9b394.png4: Give your spouse the gift of Peace of mind. A home is the end-point of every thing we do daily. Let me explain it this way. If a doctor you cannot sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you cannot sleep in the site all days. If a lawyer you cannot sleep in the bar all days. As a pastor, you cannot be in the Church 24/7. We all must go back home. Home is the end point. So, if your spouse is excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. So stop the nagging, fighting, insulting, abuse, threatening, behaviour and humiliating your spouse. Give him rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind. Be the head of your wife not the headache of your wife. Madam, be wife and not ‘knife’ to your husband. Blessed are the couples that give each other peace of mind daily! Give your spouse Space. As much as you need to bond with spouse together for intimacy communication, affection, planning, etc. you need to give your spouse space. So make time for couple’s prayers, time for couples bonding, time for own personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planing, etc. Do not be too close for comfort to choke your spouse. Do not be over possessive and also over demanding to spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give spouse a space they need when they need it.4718801-friday-prayer-quotes5: Give your spouse prayer no matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you can not do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say word of prayer for your spouse daily. Other things may fail and may not work. But no force withstands power of prayer. You cannot heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You cannot lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You cannot save your spouse. You cannot take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her. Pray to God. Mention name of your husband / wife to God. As a man, you are the priest of your family, lay your hands on your wife or hold her hands and say a word of prayer to her life. It is a major gift couples have to give each other. Blessed is the wife whose husband gives a gift of prayer daily and vice versa. Pray for your spouse if you do not want him/her to become a prey in the hand of devil. All these 5 things you must give your spouse daily are very easy, simple, free and important. Put them on your ‘to-do-list’. Do not forget to give it. Remember, givers never lack any good thing. If you give your spouse all these, I can assure you that, there is a high assurance that you will get it back in return to make your joy full. Love your marriage as joy of your family is your priority. Bless all family members and thank God daily in Jesus Name through the Holy Spirit.

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© Ebenezer Diyaolu