ARE YOU AN ONLY CHILD?

Last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked me the question Daddy and I have been half expecting. With a slight ripple across your brow and your blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister?’

Are you an only child and did you know why you became one literally? Perhaps it is a health or a financial circumstance beyond parent’s control or unfortunate situation of loss of parent making it not possible to have siblings. The parents of an only son have written a letter to him explaining their choice and decision to him alone. The letter stated that mother found out ‘last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked a question Daddy and was half expecting. With slight ripple across your brow and your blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister?’ I kissed the top of your head, squeezed you closer and momentarily panicked about how on earth to answer. At four years and four months, you are clearly starting to notice many of friends at nursery talk of siblings or babies. And thankfully this time, you gave me a reprieve turning your attention straight to dinosaur story read to you.’ Last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked me the question Daddy and I half expected. With a slight ripple across your brow and blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister? But I know one day the ‘why’ will become more persistent. Daddy and I are far from alone in deciding to stop at one child. Apparently by 7years, half of all families in this country will only have one offspring. Not that it stops me from feeling occasional pang of guilt. I know there will be many positives to decision like our undivided attention for starters so you never know a prickly adjustment period when a new baby arrives. How about sibling rough and tumble you’ll miss out on? A constant companionship for better or worse? I cannot pretend it hasn’t been a real dilemma. Yes, there have been moments when my resolve wobbled particularly as you get closer to starting school so baby no more. Who doesn’t get broody when they see a tiny newborn enfolded in a mother’s arms. But deep down, I know we’ve made the most responsible choice. I just hope, as you grow older, you agree. The truth is Daddy and I would loved another child but quite simply are too old. We liked the idea of two or maybe more, Daddy even hoped for twins! We imagined you all together and nobody ever short of a playmate, bundling you all into the bath after a day at the beach or the park. Sometimes I do wonder if we left it too late to start our little family. After all, we’ve been together for 19 years. Will you wonder what we were doing all that time? know many positives to our decision of undivided attention, helps you thrive. But I turned 44 last year, a day you and Daddy helped me devour the birthday cake I’d made. ‘That’s REALLY old!’ you exclaimed. In terms of having another baby, you were right. More women are have babies well into 40s and beyond but risks proven to be grater for mum and baby not least Down’s Syndrome or other birth defects. I wonder if we left it too late to start family. After all, we’ve been together for 19 years so wondering what we were doing all this time? We met through mutual friends in our mid-20s, drawn together by similarities: we’re both driven, determined, sociable and aspire to wring the most from life. But like many of our generation, chose naively it turned out to let time slip by. Distracted by careers, Daddy as a chartered surveyor and board director, and me as a journalist, we saved like mad for our future, bought property, played hard and enjoyed exciting holidays all over the world. Sometimes I do wonder if we left it too late to start our little family. For 19 years prepared in advance for your arrival. Family and friends badgered us about settling down but we felt buying a home together was the greatest commitment. I know there will be many positives to our decision — all that undivided attention, for starters, and you’ll never know that prickly adjustment period when a new baby arrives There were the more important things paying off a mortgage, for example than a wedding to spend money on. As for having a family, conscious of getting older, of course, honestly didn’t think leaving it to late 30s was a problem. After all, many friends in a similar situation. And in February 2011 of 12 years together, finally married at a beautiful country house in North Yorkshire. By then we were financially secure, happy, had bought a spacious barn conversion and wanted nothing more than to have a little family. But three months after our wedding, early one cool, grey May morning, my own beautiful, adoring mummy your granny died. She’d had cancer for four agonising years, and in the end the doctors and nurses couldn’t do anything more to save her. If I had just one wish in life it was that Granny had lived to meet you. She would have been besotted by your mischievousness, love of being silly and making people smile traits you share with her. Losing her made me all the more desperate to become a mum. I wanted to love and nurture another little person the way she’d always loved my brother and me. I longed to watch her warmth, wisdom and trademark cheerfulness live on in her grandchild. Grief stricken, I barely ate or slept for months.Grief stricken, I barely ate or slept for months. I ran for miles at a time as a coping mechanism and lost a lot of weight despite being slim anyway 

I ran for miles at a time as a coping mechanism and lost a lot of weight despite being slim anyway. Perhaps we shouldn’t have been surprised when, after almost two years of trying to have a baby, doctors confirmed that the shock of losing Granny had caused my body to shut down. I was almost 40 by so we referred for IVF. That’s when something magical happened against all the odds. In late January 2013, I went to fertility clinic in outskirt of Nottingham for some initial scans before starting a treatment. After minutes, sonographer took off her glasses, wiped a tear from her eye and said: ‘You’re not going to believe this you are already pregnant!’ I was around five weeks, but there you were on the sonographer’s screen, a microscopic dot. I cried, and couldn’t wait to tell Daddy. We were elated you arrived in September that year by a planned Caesarean section. I adored you in an instant with your cute little face and love of a cuddle. When I delve into my handbag for a lipstick and instead pull out a toy car or a dirty twig from the park that you’ve put there, it makes me smile 

But I admit I struggled emotionally for a long time. Within a space of under two and a half years went through the two significant events in a woman’s life losing my mum and having a baby of my own. Not having Granny around at that time was heart-wrenching. During the three days that you and I were in hospital, I longed for my mum to walk in, beaming and saying: ‘Aren’t you a clever girl? He’s absolutely gorgeous!’ When Gramps came alone to meet you for the first time, he hadn’t seemed more solitary since Granny’s death. In the months that followed, I’d take you for seven-mile walks in pram along the canal paths and country trails close to our home and tears would roll down my cheeks as I daydreamed about Mum walking by my side. When I delve into my handbag for a lipstick and instead pull out a toy car or a dirty twig from the park that you’ve put there, it makes me smile  What I’d give to have just one photograph of her cuddled up cheek-to-cheek with you. Daddy was wonderfully sensitive and supportive. But at times I felt very alone, as many women do after having a baby. The impossible sadness was juxtaposed by the unrivalled joy you brought to Daddy and me.I know that watching you with a little brother or sister would be a delight. But another baby now? I was 40 by the time I had you. We quickly decided it was more important to enjoy you, rather than focus on trying for another simply because the clock was ticking 

You make us laugh uncontrollably often every day with your funny little ways and your constant chatter and wonder at the world around us. I was 40 by the time I had you. You’re as affectionate and loving as you are boisterous and wilful, destined to be strong-willed given our own personalities! And even when you’re throwing a tantrum we wouldn’t want it any other way. I know watching you with a little brother or sister would be a delight. But another baby now? I was 40 by the time I had you. We quickly decided it was more important to enjoy you, rather than focus on trying for another simply because the clock was ticking. After all, there are so many couples who’d give anything to have just one child. And who’s to say it would have happened a second time, given how long it took us to have you? Plus, at what point do you draw a line under the disappointment of trying and failing? Besides, we’d found being a family of three suits all of us. I am still able to do a job I love while you’re at nursery three days a week. More importantly, Daddy and I are able to focus our attention on you rather than feeling torn between more than one child. Your energy knows no bounds and I have to run you like a dog every day to expend it. I’m not sure I could cope with another little one fizzing with such effervescence. You have always loved your sleep, too: And imagine if you had a sibling who wailed all night for months. That said, I can’t deny the occasional well of sadness: the ‘what ifs’ and fear you’ll miss out on the fun of having a sibling. If I had just one wish in life it would be that Granny had lived to meet you. She would have been besotted by your mischievousness, love of being silly and making people smile — traits you share with her Since I’ve always been so close to my own little brother your uncle Robbie, 42, who loves to tickle and dangle you upside down. Daddy and I have often looked wistfully at our friends with four kids: they’re never without a ready-made playmate. On the other hand, we know siblings who fought terribly as children and barely speak as adults. We know lots of gloriously happy, and well grounded, sociable, selfless children including your brilliant cousin, Saffron, who’s five years older than you. It was adorable watching you playing together on the beach and in the pool on a recent family holiday in Spain. How I chuckled listening to the two of you animatedly discussing favourite or not vegetables in back of car. Nobody ever questioned our decision although there are friends who still tell us: ‘Go on, have another!’ Some people assume things of an only child that they are spoilt because they don’t learn to share. Or they miss out on so much. But Daddy and I will ensure you never feel isolated or become spoilt. Bracing ourselves to hosting lots of play dates sleepovers. We’ll do everything to encourage you to continue to be sociable caring confident little boy you already are. What I’ve realised more than anything is there is actuala much shorter answer to your question. Quite simply, Daddy and I feel enormously fortunate to have one healthy, happy, hilarious little boy who fills our lives with magic every day. We have never been left wanting more.

 

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EXPRESS MARRIAGE TRENDS

Sophy on her wedding day in traditional attireWith Valentine day approaching people are looking for love and romance for a form relationships. So couples celebrate established meaningful, love fulfilling a family bond. Others also ready to settle down prepare and advertise for love in new ways using social media, Facebook post and was married six days later. The marriage took place quite quickly than the normal traditional longer process of a family searching and taking years for the marriage to be finalised. CHIDIMMA AMEDU, did exactly that advertising for love and marriage on Facebook. He found a beautiful wife who said, ‘he is the most handsome man I’ve ever met and I liked him instantly.” Those who use Facebook come across pretty strange posts in their time. But this time however the random friends requests, being added to groups you did not ask to join, and tags allows “friends” to marry. Others clog up timeline with posts or photos you don’t necessarily want. But a Nigerian man took it to a whole new level posted unusual advert. Chidimma Amedu put up a post on 30 December, asking women interested in being his wife to reply, he told the BBC.Chidimma Amedu on his wedding day

The proposal

“Am of age to and I am ready to say I do and am wasting no time. “Send in your applications – the most qualified will be married on January 6, 2018. Application closes 12 midnight 31/12/2017 he posted. He followed up with subsequent posts. ‘Am serious about this oh and don’t say you did not see it on time Good luck.’ He received a couple of responses, but one from Sophy Ijeoma is someone special who caught his attention. She wrote in her reply “Am interested, just DM me… lols,” her post read. At first, she thought it was a joke and she simply replied to keep thread flowing. A direct message from him to her inbox, followed by a Facebook call, would change her life’s trajectory. Chidimma placed the advert initially as a joke but became optimistic when Sophy said she was interested. So two days after their first conversation, he travelled some 500km (300 miles) from his home in the northern city of Abuja, to Enugu in the east where she lived. She had been waiting for him outside a retail store and in true fairy-tale style, “it was love at first sight”, she recalled. “He is the most handsome man I’ve ever met and I liked him instantly.”The couple on their wedding day in Igbo attire

After 2 hours of awkward conversation, he asked her to go to meet an uncle who incidentally is also resident in Enugu. So he asked what was going through her mind at the time, she said she thought it was all a bit of a joke but was excited about it and thought Chidimma was also quite an interesting character. “We got to the uncle’s house and he said: ‘Uncle, meet the woman I want to marry.'” Like Chidimma his family don’t seem to hang about when it comes to getting things done because uncle gave his approval. The couple are friends on Facebook for over a year but never spoken to each other before the advert. Getting family backing for your choice of spouse is an essential part of Igbo culture. Whereas picking your future wife from dozens of respondents to a Facebook marriage advert and marrying her in six days is decidedly not. At this point in their day-old relationship, it was beginning to dawn on Sophy that this fellow was not playing, but how do you commit to marrying someone you only just me. She would not comment on whether they had even shared as much as a kiss at that point, but maintained she was captivated by how focused, determined her new fiancé was. “When I saw him for the first time, I definitely found him attractive, but what I didn’t know was how serious he was about marrying me. “It was after we met the uncle and his wife, I realised that this could actually happen and I wanted it.”A family member felicitate with the couple

The engagement

It was now her turn to worry about how she was going to get the approval of her family to marry a guy she had just met on Facebook. But they had momentum going for them. Having met and fallen in love at first sight, or first message, if you like, and getting Chidimma’s uncle’s approval, couple decided to complete the cycle by visiting Sophy’s family the same day. Approval from the family is essential in Igbo tradition and Sophy recounted how she relayed information to her mother. Her dad passed away, and her mum said she did not have a final word in terms of giving approval for her to be married, so up to Sophy’s elder brother to give his blessings. It appears the odds firmly in their favour as Sophy’s brother gave his blessings too. So after a few questions from her brother it became official. Chidimma and Sophy were engaged to be married in six days.The happy couple cutting their cake

On the rebound?

Last year Chidimma was engaged to another woman and the wedding was scheduled for December, but then that relationship fell apart in March leaving him dejected. As December approached, the disappointment of not being able to fulfil his dream of getting married made him put up the post, he said. In wedding it was a blend of old and new “I had the desire to get married, had date in mind, but no bride, decided to place an advert as a joke, but I was open and up for it.”  Asked whether she knew about earlier engagement and her thoughts on how this seemingly rushed marriage might be seen as a rebound, Sophy dismissed any suggestions that her relationship was not well thought through. “I don’t care about that when you see what you want, you go for it.” They are friends on Facebook for more than a year, but had never met or spoken to each other until the advert. Am interested just DM me… lols” was all it took for the union to be formed. Sophy admitted her friends were sceptical about the whole thing, while some are still in disbelief, but as she said: “When you see the one, you will know he is the one.” And they got married on 6 January in a traditional Igbo ceremony, and posted photos of wedding day on Facebook of course to the amusement of the social media community. Chidimma put up a post saying people may have thought he had been joking but clearly wasn’t. And as expected there was mixed reactions, but mainly a lot of support for the couple. They hope to have a church wedding in April and honeymoon somewhere nice.

SPARE THE ROD SPOIL CHILD

Smacking (actors)Smacking ban goes to public consultation. Plans to outlaw beating, slapping, kicking, smacking, spanking, whipping children in Wales are going out to a three-month consultation. The ministers said removing the defence of reasonable punishment would make it clear smacking is no longer acceptable. Charities including the NSPCC said this would bring Wales in line with dozens of other countries. But campaigners against the law fear it could criminalise ordinary parents. Minister for Children and Social Care, Huw Irranca-Davies, said: “As a parent of three boys myself, I know being a parent can sometimes be a challenging experience. “Our knowledge of what children need to grow and thrive has developed considerably over the last 20 years. We now know that physical punishment can have negative long-term impacts on a child’s life chances and we also know it is an ineffective punishment.”

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Discipline is meted out by using alternative methods like, “grounding” punishment which means the child stays at home so cannot meet up with friends to go to cinema, party, or sleep over. The child’s privileges like toys, games, computers, phones taken away or asked to stay alone isolated in their bedroom. Others sit in a corner alone for 5 minute to 15 minutes within sight of the adult to stay there based on their age  This helps calm a child down and diffuses tension but the child enjoys TV in bedroom or favourite toys, phone, computer, are taken away for a few days or months depending on what the child did. This happens often so some parents feel it is better than physically hitting them with a stick. Some do not have toys or own bedroom so parents find other ways like asking them to do chores they do not like to do to teach them a lesson. In other extreme cases the child may pay for items deliberately damaged in anger with pocket-money or mow the garden and lawn.

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Scotland became the first part of the UK to confirm plans to outlaw smacking children last year. Now ministers in Wales want parents to choose “positive and more effective methods.”Some people think carrots and sticks are choices that makes a difference depending on preference. The “rule of the thumb laws” made by Parliament allowed husband’s to beat their wives with a stick the size of their thumb. God help the woman whose husband has the biggest thumb, you will not want to rub the wrong way. The proposed law would not involve creating a new offence but would instead remove the defence to the existing offences of assault and battery. So, any adult looking after a child would no longer be able to use physical or corporal punishment against them. Physical punishment has already been outlawed in schools and childcare facilities but Mr Irranca-Davies said it was time “to ensure it is no longer acceptable anywhere.”

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The Welsh Government is now allowed to legislate in areas of parental discipline, under the new Wales Act. The consultation runs until 2 April. The Bible says correct the child in love and not in anger because God Corrects those HE LOVES. So explain to the child you are not in a bad mood or hate them. Discipline must be done in context and effective against their behaviour. Mixed messages from parents does not clearly teach them why it is wrong to do something being punished and educate them on the effects of their action on their reputation, others and their peers and society in general. Safely nip the bad behaviour in the bud before it grows out of hand and becomes toxic and destructive. A lot of adults missed out on proper discipline as God said train the child so when they grow they will not depart from it. Children need to understand that discipline corrects and challenges bad behaviour so is not a negative cruel wicked vitriol. God tell parents in Bible not to provoke their children to anger so are to raise children to have consideration for others.семейное-отношение-14317792

A recent TV documentary experimented the carrot and stick approach to see which was more effective. One group was harsh, relentless, no fun, almost military training style of elite soldiers. The other group observed a laissez faire approach, liberal, praising them, mingling appropriately. Both groups performed almost the same without any extra head start or advantage over the other. In extreme cases where a child’s life or others are at risk, a meaningful discipline method is age appropriate and does not ‘hurt’ physically or kill them as happens sometimes. The stress and despair of the parents must never be put upon or projected on to the children. Parents with any psychological problems must seek therapy and not vent their anger on the children by harsh punishment in anger. In extreme cases children’s hands are cut off as punishment for working too slowly or taking and eating food without first asking permission. Sometimes the health of children must be taken into account for suitable punishment. To stop lawlessness, recklessness of society children need discipline important for their future self-discipline to live peacefully with others in community. 1.1994526-1

In Ghana the High Court ruled against smacking so children write apology letters. The Ho Polytechnic Basic School has instituted the writing of apology letters to replace corporal punishment in the school. Pupils now write apology letters, after a written report on the misdemeanor. So what does it mean to “spare the rod and spoil the child? This phrase “spare the rod and spoil the child means modern-day methods imply that if parents refuse to discipline unruly child the child will grow accustomed too set in ways too late to their change bad behaviour. Proverbs 13:24 says whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who corrects them loves them. This is not a licence for aggression and abuse of children for the slightest reason. Children lack FRONTAL CORTEX so do not fully understand life. So take time to make simple easy to understand visual images with rules to REMIND children. This can prevent forgetting rules and children will comply if the know the reasons why they are disciplined. Patents must set good examples to children.

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Afterwards, explain again why disciplined, ask for apology from the child, hug and tell child you love them as is done in the UK.  Children mimic and copy adults so some behaviours reflect on the environment and the actions of the adults who need to set better examples and not pick on children mirroring their behaviour. Parent child bonding must not be destroyed by aggressive discipline or lack of discipline. The Bible says those who love their children care enough to discipline them. Whoever spares the rod hates child, but loves child if diligent to discipline child. A lot of brat, rude, bad behaviour can be traced to children left to own devices who grow up as Dennis the menace to society and untouchable majesty the child doted on by parents who think their beloved children do no wrong. This sensitive matter means each side is equally passionate about their approach. The danger is social workers called because of discipline the law ‘criminalise’ parents for training children for their own good. Yet some grow up and freely hit by batons for undealt with childhood issues. Caring-Adult_woman-high-five-boy_web Bible says the if a child listens and is disciplined that child lives long and it is well with that child. So discipline is not to inflict punishment for cruelty but to train a child into an upstanding valuable member of society. The purpose of discipline is to teach a child to understand the human rules and laws of society to fit in as an adult. Therefore unbred child will find the world harder than the child carefully trained from home to be self- aware and have self discipline and self respect. The world is full of untrained adults who act like children and have to nannied and apprenticed when they should be leaders helping other. The chaos in society and communities is because some have festered unruly children never disciplined because of saying ” it hurts the parent too much to inflict pain” on a child. A trust worthy child is trained to fear God and respect fellow human beings and follow the golden rule. Vilifying parents for any form of discipline sends the wrong message to children who will grow up to make similar decisions in future.

ENGAGED/MARRIED ONE DAY

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Nicole and Danny married in their back-garden by the groom’s father in Smithtown, New York. The couple got engaged and married on the same day. Nicole Rios, née Carfagna married Danny Rios less than two hours after he proposed to her surrounded by friends and family. Nicole suffers from lupus, a long-term condition with no cure, which is aggravated by stress – so to save Nicole the anxiety of planning a wedding, Danny put it together for her. The symptoms range in severity and can affect different parts of the body. In 2015, singer Selena Gomez  suffered same condition and was treated by chemotherapy. The pair had gone on a trip to Walt Disney World for Nicole’s birthday, and were returning home when Nicole noticed a string of lights in their driveway. “Danny leads Nicole by the hand, he is smiling, while she is open-mouthed in shockI thought Danny’s mum and step-dad had decorated our house for Christmas,” Nicole said. “But Danny took me by the hand and I saw a big tent in our backyard, with our family lined up outside it. “Behind me I hear Danny saying ‘you know how much I love you, right?’ that’s when I realised I was about to get engaged.”When we walked into the tent I saw more family and friends were there. He brought me into the middle of the tent and proposed, I was so happy, I couldn’t believe it.”According to Nicole, Danny’s favourite moment of the day was her facial expression as they approached the tent and she has framed this photo and placed it on his nightstand. The proposal was only the first major life event for Nicole planned by her husband-to-be for that evening. “I said hi to everyone and Danny asked me to come inside the house and talk to him,” she said. “I assumed he just wanted to process what happened. “In the bedroom he told me he loved me and he said, ‘If you want, I have everything set up to get married.’ Danny, on one knee, proposes to Nicole in front of their friendsThere was a dress and tux hanging there in the bedroom. His dad had gotten ordained that morning. There was no pressure because our friends and family thought it was just an engagement party, he told me to think about it. “But I didn’t need to think about it. Suddenly all my jitters and anxiousness went away because I knew I wanted to marry him. I just said yes.”Not even their friends and family knew about the wedding as Danny had told them it was an engagement party. Nicole says she would not have coped well with planning a wedding. “Stress is not good with lupus. I would have been sick the majority of the time, I wouldn’t have enjoyed it. “It’s been a tough time with me being sick and Danny helping me with everything. “What if we’d planned the wedding then on the wedding day I’m sick? So this took all that stress away.”Nicole and Danny, in dress and tuxedo, kiss at their weddingDanny picked out the wedding dress with Nicole’s mother and bought it in two sizes, with the smaller size a perfect fit. Despite the short turnaround, Nicole said everything went ahead without a hitch – including a hasty arrangement of her ‘man of honour.’ “I had joked with my brother Mike in the past that I wished I could have a best man because he’s my best friend,” she said. “When I was getting ready, Mike came into the room and asked to be my man of honour. That was the best thing ever. “The wedding was perfect with us surrounded by our family and friends. I felt so loved. “It was a great surprise. There had to have been people watching over us for it to run as perfectly as it did.”

By Tom Gerken and George Pierpoint, UGC & Social News Team

GOD’S IMAGE IN MANKIND

coloBible in Colossians 3:9-10 says put on new self in the image of God. The image of God is physical features of mankind. Isaiah saw God like a man sitting on the throne in heaven. God also reveals himself physically visibly to people all over the world including the 70 elders of Israel who ate and dined with God and Moses on the mountain. Jesus said, when you see Him you see the Father God in visible form.  Therefore mankind is made in the image of God according to Genesis. This means God is not an invisible blob too large to be contained by the universe as some think. Mankind has both God’s physical features and the God like qualities of God. As a result God’s human shape is replicated in diverse shapes, forms, and sizes not to make clones of any particular kind. God does not favour any variety of humans above another. As far as God is concerned, the standard for being like HIM is to do what Jesus says by drawing close to God. Those who draw near to God, in return God draws near to them and reveals HIMSELF to them more. Like any friendship or any marriage agreement God is in Covenant with mankind so deeply loves people and wants to have personal relationship with each one.world_pulse_2

This implies, God is the Ultimate standard all varieties of people are to look up to no matter where they live, look like, sound like or what they do in life. God wants all mankind to maintain HIS physical image and live according to God’s expectations.  This means each person is to aim to be more like Jesus who came to dwell among mankind to demonstrate the love of God on earth. Therefore rather than focus on turning people into another person each person is focus on looking more like Jesus. Unfortunately, so much time and resources are invested into turning humans into the clones of other human beings. It seems trying to be like a famous ‘idol’ makes some people think they will gain more confidence. Sadly this is never-ending until they stop looking outside themselves they need confidence in God. Some are have a false sense of self-esteem so go to extra lengths by surgery to imitate and mimic Barbie and others they want to look like. This opens doors for others to capitalise on their insecurities and opportunists fuel this insecurities to cause damage to people.22280731_135895917137860_4145777591179018240_n

Many live with irreparable scars as a result of superficial vanity of never-ending search of perfection. So search for mirage of unattainable perfection turning them into more into Frankenstein. As a result air brushed models create false dolled up superficial images imposed on society. Some whites turn themselves into black using chemicals and tablets to look as they want to fit into black community. Young people become susceptible to these false images and peer pressure creates unhealthy eating patterns to maintain false self-identity. Kim Kardashian recently took off the make up and posted her natural self-image. Her followers complained until she reposted the image they prefer of her. Another famous supermodel Cindy Crawford was told she looked so glamorous and really good on a recent cover of a magazine she replied, “she wished she looked so in real life. Many famous people are airbrushed and wear size zero because the industry prefers a certain image only. This has spilled over into work where people employed based on their looks, shapes and sizes. This unhealthy practice is now even now forced on children wanting to dress like their idols and bullying those who prefer to remain in their image.1bd58822a39ca112a1bd634289f33330--black-women-beauty-black-women-art

The Bible says, do not lie to one another, seeing you have put off the old self with its practices and put on the new self renewed in knowledge after image of the Creator. It is unGodly to force people to conform to the image of others deemed superior to damage their skin with carcinogenic chemicals used to bleach the skin. Others are banned from keeping natural look seen as unfit due to the highlighted phenomenon of colourism. Others deliberately choose white babies in vitro conception although both People catfish the image of others pretending to be somebody else they are not due to insecurity to be revealed. There is ” white” person on earth because everyone has shades of melanin from albinism to black. So those misled by adverts,   like cargo cult of skin color abandon their natural look to imitate preferred image seen as more beautiful. The natural look movement is fighting back by encouraging people to celebrate God’s image in them. This global trend promotes an acceptance of self-image and appreciation of natural beauty. This helps to overcome propaganda that started during slavery and colonialism banning people from wearing the cultural costumes, wearing natural hair styles, speaking mother tongues and eating organic healthy native foods.

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It is important to understand the pressures put on people to promote the cosmetic industry to the detriment of health. Many developed incurable skin conditions by bleaching their skins, pumping industrial chemicals into their body to alter their body shapes and tanning under radiation or Sun rays to look darker. It is an irony the whites are doing liposuction to bulk up certain body parts while the blacks are whitening their skin to turn look lighter. These extremes cost money and time that could have been used wisely. God could have easily created clones on earth to look exclusively like one particular shape, colour, size or sound. Yet God chose to create diversity and variety of HIMSELF to manifest HIS GLORY and wonders through HIS creation. It is complete ignorance to look at another person resentfully to condemn them as inferior based on colourism and false preferences. Celebrate and love you image in God. You did not purchase your original image, colour, shape or size or who are yourself from a supermarket. It is God’s decision to create perfect just as you are in HIS IMAGE. Have confidence in God’s image of you and believe you are equally as beautiful as what you see in others. It is an insult to God to project insecurities and racism on others created by God through no fault of their own as God naturally made them.

 

THE LONDON FIRE OF 1666

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London fire of 1666 that happened 351 years ago on Sunday 2 September, is well known all over the world. Songs sang about the fire as written was sung as follows: London is burning, London is burning, Fetch the engines, Fetch the engines, Fire fire, fire, fire, pour on water, pour on water. London is burning, London is burning, fire fire, fire, fire, pour on water, pour on water. This song was sang continuously and repeatedly as long as the time allowed and was permitted. It was a miracle fewer people died so the official toll was six although in the aftermath of the fire more people died later from related causes. Such as homelessness, displacement, lynchings, and blaming Catholics for starting the fire. Despite the fact that the fire started from a baker’s oven and could have been averted, delay of order to contain and curb the fire caused it to inflame beyond human control.  The most interesting thing about the London fire is that, often most living history books on the fire do not mention the prophetic warnings issued before the fire occurred. This warning is documented in: Theological Works of the Reverend Charles Leslie, 1832, available from https://books.google.co.uk as recorded in a book on Theology.1666-2016-london-fire-babylon-the-great-burning
Solomon Eccles, a Quaker preacher and prophet, went naked through Bartholomew fair the year before the fire of London with a pan of fire upon his head, warning people to repent or fire will destroy the city of London. Charles’s next, sharper message in 1665 warned of the risk of fire from the narrowness of streets and authorised both imprisonment of recalcitrant builders and demolition of crowded buildings. Like the fire of Sodom and Gomorrah and modern fire of Grenfell Tower among other fires globally, often these warning signs are then ignored and the messengers mocked and ridiculed by the very people whose lives would be saved from the fire. Time and time again history records tragedy that could be averted yet somehow people ignore it take things for granted. In His Mercy and Grace, Almighty God sends such advance warnings repeatedly until time runs out. The purpose of allowing fires is mostly to shake awaken mankind from their slumber of sleep of indifference and debauchery. When all avenues of communication fails, due to break down of the relationship between God and mankind, it forces God’s Hands to take extreme measures to compel people to comply or be beaten into submission for their own good. And this also prevents a worse and bigger relentless disaster.    maxresdefault
Left to human devices, the status quo was alright as far as people are concerned. However, from God’s perspective life has taken a turn not pleasing to God. Often some people think God is archaic and draconian so no longer relevant in modern sophisticated society. The irony is that, whether mankind heeds God’s warning signs or not God does exactly as HE says. Once again, the New Year has started and to some it is business as usual. However, the trends and challenges faced globally are all part of God’s Sat Nav warning systems of the directions making is heading in general. There are numerous warnings and the Bible clearly speaks of action God is taking to enforce changes if mankind refuses to change or submit to God’s Authority’s and Rule. It is not a choice of whether one believes in God or not, but rather imminent global storms, thunders, floods, fires, hailstorm, meteorites among ammunitions used by God to force people to rethink their choices and actions in life.london-1666.jpg
These warnings signs are clearly written in Revelations in the Bible yet most people unaware of the connection between daily life occurrences, weather impact and future eternal life. Every action by all the people on earth are meticulously documented by God in the Book of Life. Take a look at storm patterns and weather charts, earthquakes, volcanoes in the world and definitely things are alarmingly different. Consequences of mankind’s ‘evil inventions’ as God calls them distorted nature and has brought about irreparable damage to earth. Global toxic waste polutions among chem trails destroy natural weather patterns, food chain and carbon cycles essential for food remedies for good health. The pursuit of happiness as, ” lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God” is extended into seeking adventure at all cost even if the environment is destroyed. So unpredictable storms, floods, sand dunes, rapid coastal erosions, ice mcap melting are all assigned as “the acts of God” of God. Although God is not responsible for the root causes of the damages and the destruction it accurate and correct to say God put actions in place by laws of nature violated implodes800px-Keeling-fire-engine-illustrationkeeling-fire-engineMoLFireEngineEdit_install 
Therefore, whether religious or not “God Corrects those HE LOVES.  It seems harsh to say, burnt down places, floods, tsunamis destroying expensive homes and the nuclear tragedy suffered as a result is “love.” But the alternative of not taking notice to reflect eventually culminates into worse disaster than London fire or Sodom and Gomorrah. This is because these places are rebuilt and restored even better than before and exist today. Despite the destructions life continues fairly normally like any place on earth. However, the difference unfolding now is the end time warnings taking place now will continue until some parts have no relief so cannot be rebuilt. Tragically, it is not only physical suffering material loss, famines, droughts, poverty, wars, death, it is fulfilment of the warnings of God’s Wrath in the Bible. Sadly, these Biblical messages and warnings often mocked as religious fundamentalism so ignored. Yet unless people begin to listen and reconnect with God there is perpetual unquenchable hellfire and damnation without reprieve or second chance to rebuild. Only God knows exact days of unfolding WRATH so worth taking life seriously to be God’s Chosen Children. All people are God’s creatures but all are not God’s Children who will live in God’s Kingdom through KING JESUS eternal Reign. Know difference and be saved from total annihilation and subsequent hell fire in Jesus Name.

THE ORION SEEN IN UK SKY

orion-taurus_5-stacked-ended-w-img0054_2300_010416We saw Orion belt and M42 nebula culmination at midnight on 1st January 2018 immediately during the New Year celebrations in UK. We wanted to look at the fireworks outside in the sky but was pleasantly surprised by Orion. First seen was orion nebula as we focused more Orion became clearer because the cloud lifted the belt in full view. We called other people to come and watch it with us until it went out of view so we continued the New Year celebrations. This particularly a special moment for us because God revealed Orion to us in three previous dreams 3 times. We have see the Orion for many years as part of night sky wonders of God’s creation. God specifically already revealed Orion three times in visions and dreams already blogged about in previous post. This1-Q7esli9-w9JXy2sxyMnxEg orionThese dream visions of God is again repeated twice in one night on 6th January, 2018 between my sleep breaks. I woke up in the middle of the night and went to check something then went back to bed to sleep again. This same night God repeated Orion vision to me again same night. Prophetically, Jesus is the Orion expected in the sky clouds for Rapture and later the Second Coming for Armageddon. Only God knows reasons for repeating the Orion symbols in the sky. The Orionid Meteor Star Showers in annual Orionid Meteor Shower. This regular showers are derived from the celestial materials left by repeated passages of Comet Halley which runs from October 4 to November 14. It is followed by visible presence by Orion belt globally all the way from December to January 7th 2018. Those with giant Telescopes track Orion throughout the year within the 26 constellations of earth’s galaxy.Orion (1)Especially from early nightimes between 9pm through midnight go the early hours of the morning about 2:30 am. So many beautiful pictures are taken by various Telescopes all over the world. UW researchers are ready for the new era of unistellar Telescopes. Astronomers and Physicists reveals the Orion nebula seen here in more detail than amateur Telescopes or seen by the naked eyes. The ZTF “first light” image is shown here (inset) within the Orion constellation. The Orion nebula can be seen within the ZTF image that captured view of 247 noons within it’s range. These details are observed better directly by these Telescopes. Other larger Telescopes portray the Orion nebula seen as red spot in the sword of Orion. The red spot in Orion sword represents Biblically the birth and death of stars symbolic metaphorically of life and eternal death by judgement of Jesus Sword coming from Jesus mouth. Those who accept Jesus Christ will live eternally but those condemned are damned by hellfire.1-withlaunchof

Seeing orion after visions makes us paid more attention and take notice from the prophetic point of view. This time we observed Orion with new interest and passion seeing magnificent presence of God’s signs and wonders in the sky. It is amazing how beautiful and glorious God’s night sky is. To see Orion as the first sight during this New Year’s celebration makes it more amazing. The Almighty God reveals HIS secrets to the prophets so we trust God to understand better HIS symbolic end time messages. God uses the normal, routine and daily occurrences to communicate to people. The UMD Astronomers partner on powerful new automatic sky survey. UMD scientists will use powerful new telescope camera for research and education to bring detailed knowledge. Academic excellence is good and essential yet must not over rule God’s marvellous creations on the universe so give God the credit as patent creator and owner of the firmaments.

Orion Constellation (ground-based image)The world must know in Biblical terms  the Orion represents Jesus with sickle coming to harvest the wheat and tares. The Orion is also called the Hunter now easy to view since 27th November 2017 depending on the visibility and location. From January 01 to January 07 2018 the sky will be filled also as follows with the largest SUPERMOON’ on January 1-2. So again on 4th January, moon and regulus will be seen. Then Orion the Hunter will be seen again on 5th January 2018. The brightest seen is the orion nebula often with the three stars above. The nebula is where stars are birthed and also die. It is marvellous to see indepth of nebula with bright multiple colours in Orion trapezium. NASA recorded years of the various aspects of Orion throughout the years. These was compiled and turned into indepth data accumulated for the Scientists and amateurs to study.

Sirius_Orion_10-3-2012_Susan_Jensen_Odessa_WA (1)Watch out for the Orion the 3 Kings the easiest to identify of all constellations rising from mid-evening. It started from late November to late December when some people begun to notice the Orion in the evening sky and comment on it. Orion climbed over the eastern horizon around 9 p.m. that night so found orion constellation and watching it for the months to come. The most noticeable part of Orion is the pattern called Orion’s Belt: 3 medium bright stars in a short straight row from mid-northern latitudes. Orion appears to be lying on the side with 3 Belt stars pointing upward when first ascends up eastern sky in mid-evening this time of year. Orion’s bright star Betelgeuse and Ridel shine on opposite sides of the Belt.

Stars trails constellation Orion through EarthSky Facebook  image Jean Baptiste Feldman displayed. Can you pick three stars in Orion’s Belt? Notice different colours of stars in Orion. Beneath the sky, Orion will climb higher in the sky. When this constellation is highest in the south it is a huge noticeable star pattern clearly sesn. But Orion doesn’t reach its highest point until an hour or two after midnight that’s local time, for all times zones around the world at this time of year. Like all the stars, Orion’s stars rise some four minutes earlier with each of the passing day about two hours earlier with each passing month. If you see Orion shining in the east at 9:00 p.m. tonight, look for Orion to be in the same place in the sky at 7:00 p.m. that month. Orion due south at 1:30 a.m. and again Orion due south from 11:30 p.m. in the last month of December 2017.

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Triángulo_de_invierno_asterismowintertmethode-times-prod-web-bin-9cda16a4-eb17-11e7-ad3e-1cc26d7d8b0cThe mirrow view of Orion from Hunter from Johannes Hevelius’ Uranographia (1690) This shift in Orion’s location is due to the Earth’s movement in orbit around the sun. As we move around sun perspective on stars surrounding us shifts. At the same hour daily all stars in eastern half of sky climb up a bit higher whereas all the stars in the western half of sky sink a bit closer to the western horizon. Are you familiar with the W- or M-shaped constellation Cassiopeia the Queen? Or Polaris, the North Star? As Orion rises in the east evening, look for Cassiopeia to soar to highest point for the night, above Polaris in northern sky.

Karthik Easvur caught the constellation Orion on November 26, 2016, from his balcony in Hyderabad, India.  The round translucent object in the photo, by the way, is a lens flare - an internal reflection from Karthik's camera - like caused by the same artificial light that's illuminating the palm tree on the right.

Karthik Easvur  recorded constellation Orion on November 26, 2016, from his balcony in Hyderabad, India. The round translucent object in photo, by the way, is a lens flare internal reflection from Karthik’s camera likely caused by the same artificial light illuminating palm tree on right. The famous constellation Orion Hunter rose at mid-evening in late November and early December. This is seen in the midnight culmination on New Years Eve in UK. We saw this brightest star in the sky, Sirius, in the constellation Canis Major. This star is up in evening every year at this time from all parts of Earth except those far-southern realms in continuous daylight Sirius is easy to identify. December 31 is a special night as end of calendar year. And it is also special night for Sirius too. This star’s official midnight culmination  is highest in sky at midnight comes only once every year. At midnight time in the night the Northern Hemisphere looked toward the south and easily noticed the Sirius shining there at around midnight. From the Southern Hemisphere others look overhead or high in north around midnight. And this middle of the night, experience midway between sunset and sunrise shows this star is so bright that you might notice it twinkling fiercely, from northerly latitudes, where the star stays closer to the horizon. You might even see it flashing hints of different colours. When you see Sirius high in the sky, as you will from Earth’s Southern Hemisphere shine with a bright, steady white light. Remember the midnight culmination of Sirius by clock might be off as much as half hour or depending on how far east or west you live from meridian governing your time zone. 
Orion_12-March-2012_Nick-Lomb-1Appearance of Orion depends so it is worth noting that the shape and the location of Orion changes depending on the northern and southern hemisphere. Therefore Orion appears tilted at angles different from various places. Sometime Orion is also seen upside down due to ecliptic movement directions. Whatever the position of the Orion takes either up standing or upside down it is clearly identified and seen globally. It is worth noting God uses symbols and wonderful signs to rely messages to world as was done to Job in Bible concerning Orion and 7 stars Pleadez. The shared beauty of the skies is a giant canvass God uses to manifest HIS existence to all people. As said earlier in this post, when God uses repetition to emphasise a message it is worth noting and being taken very seriously. For some reason God chose to repeat Orion vision with accurate detail and numbers exactly as recoreded by the scientific data. Only God knows the purpose of revealing Orion but like Job it is a message of hope in the midst of adversity and suffering. People all over the world sometimes feel like Job who was shown Orion by God to reassure him of God’s Providence and remind him that His cared about his challenges. As we seen God’s signs and wonders let us be aware of God’s Love, Grace, Mercy and Hope of redemption in Christ.

Even from big cities, you can see Sirius, the sky’s brightest star. Gowrishankar Lakshminarayanan created this composite image on December 26, 2017 and wrote: “After a series of clouded night skies in New York City, we finally got a clear night though it was bitter cold and the temperature dropped to 25 F.! Here you can see the brightest star of the winter night sky Sirius and its path as it rises in the southeast sky to clip the spire of the Freedom Tower. This is a 78-image composite, spaced 30 seconds apart. I always thought that star trails within light-polluted city skies weren’t a good idea, since we hardly see any stars. de-constellatie-van-orion-16935269Thanks to God for bright stars like Orion, Sirius and others we see a nice star trail in NYC!” If celebrating the New Year, and you happen to gaze up at the sky, look for Sirius. This star’s midnight culmination – when it’s highest in the sky at midnight We are were pleased to find this article by Bruce McClure who served as lead writer for EarthSky’s popular Tonight pages since 2004. He’s a sundial aficionado, whose love for the heavens has taken him to Lake Titicaca in Bolivia and sailing in the North Atlantic, where he earned his celestial navigation certificate through School of Ocean Sailing and Navigation. He writes and hosts public astronomy programs and planetarium programs in and around home in upstate New York. Watch again for Orion on 5th January and have a Blessed New Year.  It is seen again in other parts of the globe depending on location and position of stars.