One most heart wrenching experience we had is dealing with young people who feel sharing chronic life pain with others is embarrassing and belittling oneself. Therefore pain is concealed to prevent humiliation and being mocked as weak. When one is feeling well and able to contain pain within reasonable strength, it may be alright. The issue is the body can only take so much pain at a time. This means containing the pain is limited to circumstances and critical condition affecting ability to hold pain. Internal damage, if not detected early delays, inhibits and prevents treatment. Keeping up appearances, not revealing true pain affects treatment. Not wanting to come across as a ‘crying baby’ means some refuse to tell their doctors, nurses their true extent of pain. Any unusual unfamiliar pain surfacing in the body on and off needs equal attention as the ongoing obvious chronic pain. Please even if pain seems insignificant get checked to eliminate doubt or confirm need for treatment. Many fear being labeled a hypochondriac so they ignore pain until it festers beyond treatment. With health budget cuts it is essential to get to hospital early for a third-party service to be arranged to arrive on time. Health services are stretched beyond measure so few staff available to attend to urgent calls, shortage of beds, among lack of resources. Waiting hours, days for emergency kits delays treatments so client deteriorates in some cases. It is important to attend hospital early at first sign of symptoms because delay causes damage to organs due to lack of detection for appropriate treatment. If pain delayed alright in past, remember things changing so fast one cannot take life for granted anymore. The body’s immune system is impacted by pain and potential to heal faster. A fairly healthy body responds faster to treatment than body damaged and failing although best treatment is given. Attend appointments ask people to buy daysaver for you, pay for your medications or go with you as a friend to support you during treatment. Do not worry or feel embarrassed by an illness or condition because others don’t walk in your shoes so never understand your pain. Do not be stoic, macho about illness thinking the people will laugh at you. Your life is precious so take hold of life and preserve your body as much as you can. Chronic pain affects physical body, mind, emotions, drains, causes pressure, stress, makes person passive, tired, affects finances too. Many years of dealing with chronic pain impacts joy, lifestyle, family, interaction, friends and colleagues. Be kind and help discreetly, invite them for meals, shopping, give token gift cards, vouchers help them. Punitive insurance is very detrimental to congenital health issues so some do not disclose in case it is used against them. Chronic pain affects all aspects of life studies, exams, college, university and employment. Constantly iinterrupts life events surrounding the whole family supporting them. It is quite sad in the midst of superabundance many people with chronic health issues cannot heat their home, eat hot food essential for good health. They hide their needs so not do not share personal details of life as they feel embarrassed. Many live in extreme poverty, punished by system in pain unable to attend GP’s appointments. DWP asking GP to ‘prove’ that a lifelong permanent illness needs medical certificate hurts, is exhausting to chase doctors appointment. People with congenital problems for life need support to manage their lives rather than prove really ill. The one size fits all approach assessment is inappropriate so refusing to pay them income support frustrates them and humiliates them. Unable to hold down jobs due to health problems feel sad because of lack of permanent department for treatment moved around wards. And takes hours, days, weeks for the critical emergency care resources to arrive, put person on hold. It is really unfortunate essential health is delayed, limited by resources so one cannot have a last minute.com attitude to health. It is necessary to eat, sleep, rest, educate the people around you about health matters so they do not think you are act weird. No one wants to focus entire life on painful lifestyle so prefer to keep it quiet disclosed to few trusted people. It’s difficult to seek help, and to intervene in such cases. However breaking confidentiality is necessary if at risk to themselves and need urgent help. They will thank you later when they get better so seek help on their behalf and get the right team to help the recovery process. Do not feel meddling in their private life or business because longterm chronic illness affects clarity, thinking and a decision making process. Dealing with chronic pain affects skills, employment, cumbersome student loan debts do not have any regular source of income. Please kindly help them with donations no matter how small some say they are alright, do not need help. In reality it is because they feel embarrassed or shy not wanting to burden others with their problem, prevents them asking for help. Such a behaviour is detrimental to their health, not eating properly, starving not living with heating, unable to afford bus fare for hospital appointments or to buy prescriptions ultimately affects chronic pain sufferer’s health and well-being to thrive. Worst of all punished by policies that do not consider genetic disorder or chronic pain as deserving support so no funds given so live without any income. No matter age of adult dependant cared for ensure you advocate on their behalf by power of attorney to negotiate best help available for them. Directly contact GPs, consultants, third-party front line service providers to meticulously seek help because they become so exhausted and worn out dealing with the longterm pain. Above all, God is the healer who did surgery and took Adam’s rib used to create Eve, yet Adam healed instantly so woke up immediately and saw his wife. Seek God’s Divine intervention to heal pain of loved one in the mind, body and soul resurrected in Christ into eternity. Be faithful and loyal not to grow weary in well doing because taking care of the loved one can take its toll on feelings or emotions. Ask for strength from God to do your duties in love as unto the LORD knowing your reward is in heaven. Bear with loved ones, chronic pain affects all areas of life. Be there for them, pray for strength to live in peace of God passing all human understanding in the Name of Jesus. Bless and tell them about love of Jesus and eternal life in Christ.