Starting a family can be tricky business so you need to know when the time is right and if your partner is ready, and whether you can cope. Not all families are planned but more often than not, parents have given some thought to it. The best age to become a mother or dad is often a decision many have to make at some point in their lives. Now a new research by scientists point to ideal age 35 years. Thanks to science and media, according to Mirror Newspaper, signs, pressure and constant discourse about fertility seem to point to “sooner rather than later time as previously thought. A new research discovered the benefits of motherhood contrary the conventional wisdom. This new study conducted at the University of Southern California found out having a baby after age 35 improves mental abilities of the mother. Serena Williams played tennis during pregnancy and won with baby Alexis Jr. A sound preparation towards family life helps both parents to nurture the child better. The Guinness Book of Records the new mothers existing beyond age 60 as the geriatric mothers. Evidence of having baby after 35 years can increase life expectancy as research shows. This research of 830 postmenopausal women did several tests performed as part of research revealing participants tested on planning, visual perception, verbal memory, concentration and attention performed better. Women who had a first baby after 24 performed better on the mental acuity tests, problem solving, and verbal skills compared to mothers between the ages of 15 and 24. Mothers who had last baby after 35 had the better verbal memory and cognition results. Their increased mental clarity is thought to be related to oestrogen surge and progesterone in pregnancy. And the hormones are believed to improve their brain chemistry and functions if their pregnancy occurred later. Whether or not this informs a woman’s decision to have a child is up to them and should always consult your doctor about any worries but it’s still refreshing to hear having a baby at age 35 or onwards is not all bad news. So there is hope for many single women worried about their body clock. Since frontal cortex brain does not form before age 25 on average it makes sense to grow up first before trying to have a child. Often the world is full of children having children and struggling with shock and reality of caring for children and the pressures of motherhood in general. A 35 year old matured and experienced woman can perhaps handle pressures of sleepless nights better than 15 year old. Research confirms need to grow up first before taking on a responsibility requiring life commitment of financial burdens of taking care of children. Support is also necessary whether one has the children earlier or later in life. Most men really do not fully mature until about 45 years so worth noting that impacts their life. A family life requires hardwork, quality time and lifelong commitment so a child is for life no matter the age of parents.
Thank God that the long-expected good news happened concerning some Chibok girls, turned women’s return. Some freed or escaped back in education. But one had amputated limb and was walking with crutches, an injury sustained, according to what Mr Mustapha was told, during the Nigerian military air strikes against Boko Haram. The girls all ran with joy when told, “You are free today,” said Mr Mustapha to the 82 women after all the names were called out. They all smiled he said, despite a subdued reaction as a result of the presence of the militants all armed with guns or in army camouflage uniforms and boots. Mr Mustapha took some photographs with the women. The militant’s video camera recorded events and ICRC vehicles eventually arrived. So told to go to cars they ran, Mr Mustapha said. Immediately they entered vehicles, they started singing for joy. Some shed tears.” Mr Mustapha received a number of accolades for his work with Future Prowess School. He was a finalist for the 2016 Robert Burns humanitarian award given to those who save, improve enrich the lives of others or society as a whole, through self-sacrifice, selfless service, hands-on charitable or volunteer work, or other acts”. He was also given a 2017 Aurora Prize Modern Day Hero award for those whose “life actions guarantees the safe existence of others.” He said handing over the 82 freed girls to Nigerian government is “the highest point in my life felt he did something worth saying to the world that I have done this,” he said. But in the series of letters from African journalist Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani this happiness is tainted with the sadness as some Chibok women are yet to return, or refuse to return or even go back after being freed. Looking at why some Nigerian women have gone back to the militant Islamists who abducted them is very complex and puzzling to many people. When news emerged that some Chibok schoolgirls, abducted by Boko Haram in 2014, had declined to return home with the batch of 82 freed in May, the world found it difficult to believe. Not even the release of a Boko Haram video showing some hijab-clad, Kalashnikov wielding girls saying they were happy in their new lives, was enough to convince the people. “They must have been coerced,” some said. “It is Stockholm syndrome,” others said. What else explains why any girl or woman, would choose to remain with such horrible men? Yet, some of the women rescued by the Nigerian military from captivity are willingly returning to Boko Haram’s Sambisa forest hideout in north-eastern Nigeria to be with these same horrible men.
In January, I met Aisha Yerima, 25, who was kidnapped by Boko Haram more than four years ago. While in captivity, she got married to a commander who showered her with romance, expensive gifts and Arabic love songs. A fairytale life in the Sambisa forest she described was suddenly cut short by appearance of the Nigerian military in early 2016, at a time her husband went off to battle with other commanders. When she first interviewed Aisha, in the government custody for eight months she completed a de-radicalisation programme run by psychologist Fatima Akilu, the executive director of the Neem Foundation and founder of the Nigerian government’s de-radicalisation programme. “I now see that all the things Boko Haram told us were lies,” Aisha said. “Now, when I listen to them on the radio, I laugh.”
The pull of power?
Image copyrightEPA Image caption The past five years, Dr Akilu worked with former Boko Haram members including some commanders, their wives and children and with hundreds of women who were rescued from captivity. “How women were treated when in Boko Haram captivity depends on which camp a woman was exposed to. It depends on the commander running the camp,” she said. “Those who were treated better were ones who willingly married Boko Haram members or who joined the group voluntarily and that’s not the majority. Most women did not have the same treatment.” Aisha had boasted about the number of slaves she had while in the Sambisa forest, the respect she received from other Boko Haram commanders, and the strong influence she had over her husband. She even accompanied him to battle once. “These were women who for the most part had never worked, had no power, no voice in the communities, and all of a sudden they were in charge of between 30 to 100 women who were now completely under their control and at their beck and call,” Dr Akilu said. “It is difficult to know what to replace it with when you return to society because most of the women are returning to societies where they are not going to be able to wield that kind of power.”
Still in shock
Apart from loss of power, other reasons Dr Akilu believes could lead women to willingly return to Boko Haram include stigmatization from a community which treats them like pariahs because of their association with militants, and tough economic conditions. “De-radicalisation is just one part of it. Reintegration is a part of it. Some have no livelihood or a support built around them, Dr Akilu said. The kind of support in de-radicalisation programmes does not follow them up when they leave. So come out successful in de-radicalisation programmes but struggle in community and it is that struggle that leads them to go back. Recently, visited Aisha’s family, still in shock at her departure, worried about her wellbeing. Image copyrightREUTERSImagecaption. Her mother, Ashe, recalls at least seven former Boko Haram “wives” she knew, all friends of her daughter, who had returned to the Sambisa forest long before her daughter did. “Each time one of them disappeared, her family came to our house to ask Aisha if she heard from their daughter,” she said. That’s how I knew. Some women kept in touch with Aisha after they returned to Boko Haram. Her younger sister, Bintu, was present during at least two phone calls. “They told her to come and join them but she refused,” Bintu said. “She told them she didn’t want to go back.”
Life on track?
Unlike some of the former Boko Haram “wives” met, who are either struggling to survive harsh economic conditions or dealing with stigma, Aisha’s life seemed to be on track. She was earning money by buying and selling fabric, regularly attending social events and then posting photos of herself all primped up on the social media, and had a string of suitors. “At least five different men wanted to marry her,” her mother said, pointing out that there could be no greater form of acceptance shown to a woman, and presenting this as evidence that her daughter faced no stigma whatsoever from the community. “One of the men lives in Lagos. She was thinking of marrying him,” she said.But, everything went awry when Aisha received yet another phone call from the women who had returned to the forest, informing her that her Boko Haram “husband” was now with a woman who had been her rival. From that day, the vivacious and gregarious Aisha became a recluse. “She stopped going out or talking or eating,” Bintu said. “She was always sad.” Two weeks later, she left home and did not return. Some of her clothes were missing. Her phones were switched off. She took the 2 year-old son fathered by commander in the Sambisa forest, but left the older one she had with husband she divorced before her abduction. “De-radicalisation is complicated by the fact that we have an active, ongoing insurgency. In cases where a group has reached settlement with the government and laid down their arms, it is easier,” Dr Akilu said. “But, when you have fathers, husbands, sons still in the movement, they want to be reunited, especially women.” Asta, another former Boko Haram “wife”, told me that she has heard of many women returning to the group, but has no plans to do so herself. However, the 19-year-old described how terribly she misses her husband, and how keen she is to hear from him and to be reunited with him. She insisted that she would not return to the forest, not even if he were to ask her. “I will tell him to come and stay here with us and live a normal life,” she said. But as with Aisha, the desire to be with the man she yearns for may turn out to be more compelling for Asta than the aversion to a group responsible for the deaths of thousands of people in north-east Nigeria, and for the displacement of millions who are struggling to survive in refugee camps.
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Some of the former Jehovah’s Witnesses, live a disfellowshipped shunned life, leaving the religion is seen as a mark of losing faith. It can also mean losing loved ones, in many cases, friends and family are told to cut all ties with ex-believers, leaving them isolated and sometimes suicidal. “I do not speak to any of my family,” Sarah, not her real name tells BBC’s Victoria Derbyshire programme. Being “disfellowshipped” is exclusion from Jehovah’s witness and so no contact is allowed.” Last year, Sarah in her 20s was excluded by Jehovah’s Witnesses in this process known as the “disfellowshipped” members. She says it was sparked by her refusal to live in an abusive relationship. She claims her partner at the time was violent towards her at one stage leaving her with broken ribs.
Removing the ‘wicked?’
Going to the police and involving those from outside the religion is heavily discouraged by Jehovah’s Witnesses, she says, claiming that elders within the faith refused to punish her ex-partner’s behaviour. It was when work colleagues noticed the bruising, and convinced her not to put up with the abuse, she says she fled the relationship. Sarah claims she was consequently disfellowshipped by the religion, and that her friends and family cut all ties with her. This is due to the fact that the Jehovah’s Witnesses think those outside their religion can be of detriment to their faith. In another statement, the religious group told the BBC:”If a baptised Witness makes the practice of breaking the Bible’s moral code and does not give evidence of stopping the practice, he or she will be shunned or disfellowshipped. “When it comes to shunning, Witnesses take their instructions from Bible on this subject as their Bible clearly states, ‘Remove the ‘wicked’ from among you.’ On the night she was disfellowshipped, Sarah said her mother refused to talk to her. Her father woke her up at 07:00 to kick her out of the home. Responding to Sarah’s claims, Jehovah’s Witnesses said while it could not comment on individual cases, “but violence, physical or emotional, is strongly condemned in Bible with no place in Christian family.”Image caption: John, not his real name who became a Jehovah’s Witness as a young boy when his parents decided to join the religious group. However, two years ago, he was disfellowshipped as he missed Jehovah’s Witness memorial service seen in that religion as an important event. He had also begun to privately have doubts about some of the religion’s teachings, questioning the faith’s assertion that the end of the world is imminent, and that only 144,000 human beings will go to heaven. The 144,000 they consider as synonymous with “little flock” of Luke 12:32 serve with Christ as king-priests for a thousand years the other people accepted by God as “other sheep” of John 10:16 “great crowd” in Revelation 7:9,14 as the resurrected righteous and exclusively serve Jehovah on earth.Bible clearly states specifically 144,000 are from 12 tribes of Israel sealed from all tribes in Revelation 7:4.” Nothing in this passage leads to interpreting the 144,000 as the Jehovah’s Witnesses. The literal number of Jews 12,000 are taken from tribe of the “sons of Israel.” The New Testament DID NOT replace Israel with any church on earth. 144,000 adds up from 12,000 from tribe of Judah sealed, 12,000 from tribe of Reuben and 12,000 from tribe of Gad, from tribe of Asher 12,000, tribe of Naphtali 12,000, the tribe of Manasseh 12,000, from tribe of Simeon 12,000, the tribe of Levi 12,000, tribe of Issachar 12,000, from the tribe of Zebulun 12,000, from tribe of Joseph 12,000, from the tribe of Benjamin 12,000. These total 12 tribes multiplied by 12,000 people equals the 144,000 who constitute the children of Jacob called Israel. Ancient history of Israel shows 12 tribes settled according to their names on their land as recorded in the political maps of Israel. Old maps show the names of 12 tribes written on ancient original Jewish maps in living history and world Geography.
The 144,000 Jews are ‘sealed’ for special protection of God from wrath of Divine judgment punishment and Antichrist to perform God’s mission in the tribulation period in Revelation 6:17. So withstand wrath to come in tribulation period of seven-years when God will enact Divine judgment against those who reject HIM and will complete HIS plan of salvation for the nation of Israel. This is according to God’s revelation to prophet Daniel 9:24-27. The 144,000 Jews are ‘firstfruits’ in Revelation 14:4 from redeemed Israel as prophesied in Zechariah 12:10 and in Romans 11:25-27 and their mission is evangelize the post-rapture world and proclaim the Gospel during tribulation period. As a result of their ministry, billions “of great multitude no one can count from every nation, tribe, people and language says Revelation 7:9, come to faith in Christ and saved. In James 1:17-18 every good gift and perfect gift from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. Of HIS OWN WILL HE brought us forth by the Word of truth so we believers are a kind of firstfruits of HIS creatures and become the Children of God in Christ.
The confusion of 144,000 is the result of the false doctrine of Jehovah Witnesses. The Jehovah’s Witnesses claim 144,000 limited number of people only reign with Christ in heaven to spend eternity with God. These, the 144,000 Jehovah’s Witnesses call the heavenly hope. Those who are not among the 144,000 will enjoy what they call the earthly hope paradise on earth ruled by Christ and the 144,000. Jehovah’s Witness teach a caste society in afterlife with a ruling class 144,000 to rule. The Bible DOES NOT teach a “dual class” doctrine. The people ruling in millennium with Christ consist of the church believers in Jesus Christ in Bible in 1 Corinthians 6:2. The Old Testament saint believers who died before Christ’s first advent in Daniel 7:27, tribulation saints those who accept Christ during tribulation in Revelation 20:4. The Bible DOES NOT put a limited place in heaven so includes countless multitudes from all nations, tribes, and languages standing with palm branches before God’s Throne in Heaven. After the millennium life is in eternal state at the completion of the millennial period. At that time, God will dwell with us in New Jerusalem in Israel. Yahweh Our God and HIS people Revelation 21:3 dwell in perfect peace on earth Forever, inherit promise to us in Christ sealed by the Holy Spirit in Ephesians 1:13-14 as Co-Heirs with Christ in Romans 8:17. So 144,000 Jews handpicked exclusively by God from 12 tribes of Israel evangelise post Rapture world are not chosen by Jehovah Witnesses as they teach. And in addition already exists many Messianic Jews from the time of Jesus including the 12 Apostles, disciples and the Jews saved from all nations under heaven.
VIEWS ON BLOOD TRANSFUSIONS
Jehovah’s Witness religious view on the blood transfusions of people is affected and tarnished after John’s friends died, when a blood transfusion which is not allowed in the faith might save him. “It was a waste of a life,” he says. John says he later discovered his wife testified against him during the process that led to his disfellowship, which he believes placed great strain on their relationship. He left family home living temporarily in tents and caravans. “It was a very isolating time. I didn’t have anyone, I felt quite suicidal,” he says. He has now lost contact with his two adult children and siblings. “Sometimes I send them a message saying, ‘I love you, I’m still thinking of you.’ But usually there’s no response,” he says.Image caption of According to Jehovah’s Witnesses faith of more than 138,000 members in UK and more than their eight million followers internationally. Similarly, Terri O’Sullivan left the religion 17 years ago, aged 21, and was kicked out of her home by her mother. She now runs a support network for those who leave or are excluded from it. She says she is yet to find a former Jehovah’s Witness who has not experienced any depression, alcoholism, suicidal feelings or self-harm. She adds going through a formal disfellowship when they leave, the relationships become affected. With some ex-Witnesses,” she says, some of their families will still talk to them but it is always strained. Jehovah’s Witnesses recruit by door to door evangelism and friendly volunteers are people centred.Image copyright GETTY IMAGES Image caption Founded in US towards end of the 19th Century, under leadership of Charles Taze Russell. The Headquarters in New York. They think traditional Christian Churches deviated from the true teachings of the Bible, and do not work in full harmony with God. Traditional Christian Churches do not regard the movement as a mainstream Christian denomination because rejects Christian doctrine’s Trinity: LORD GOD ALMIGHTY the Father and Lord God Almighty the Son Jesus and God Holy Spirit. As heirs to a throne are revered at same level of Kings and Queens so KING OF Kings Yahweh represented by Jesus deserves Glory and Honour. The Jehovah’s Witnesses do not believe that Jesus will come back to earth to Rule in the flesh. The Bible says anyone who does not believe Jesus came on earth in the flesh is anti-Christ and anyone who does not believe Jesus will return in the flesh to be seen by the whole world is an anti-Christ too. They lie Jesus already returned in 1911 to earth as an Invisible Spirit and Jehovah’s Witnesses say Jesus dematerialised into Archangel so they will rule the earth replacing Jesus. So believe humanity in “last day’s” final battle between good evil happenings.
Sarah says loss of her closest family ties is “very, very difficult” to cope with. She is engaged and aware she is “having to plan a wedding where your parents won’t attend.” “I would class myself as an orphan, which is quite sad,” she says. Her support network comes the friends at work. When she left the faith, they “rallied around” her in contrast to what she expected. Jehovah’s Witness people are told non members are awful, so bad association and so God is going to smite them all during Armageddon. To Sarah’s surprise people opened up their homes to her and support her.
Lasting Good Memories
Sarah is still, however, complimentary about most of the people in her former faith. “There are good people in that religion, who believe they are saving people’s lives by spreading the faith’s message,” she says. “I look back with some happy memories, because they were the last memories I have with my family and siblings. “But then I do have to look back and feel a lot of heartbreak that I’m never going to be able to sit down with them for a Sunday meal again. “When they die, I probably won’t be invited to the funeral either.”
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Does looks affect jobs and will your face land you a dream job? Some measure expected standard face as a potential employer to decide whose face best fits the job. This new trend selects mostly females based on their looks or shape of their faces. Some companies go as far as asking for pictures in advance and then measuring faces with tape during their interviews for their required face. This matter is becoming an issue of concern as some do not hear from the employer again after their receiving photos. This way of employing staff members was again in the news. So is this another stereotypical selection method of the beauty considered fit for a workplace? This method is based on facial profiling by face reader’s opinions who claim to predict suitable jobs for specific faces. They are consulted to analyse faces to determine the best face for each job. Is this another underhand tactics and an excuse to discriminate against certain faces? It is possible to send own air brushed picture to look impressive often people send a younger photo than their current looks. Are companies being influenced by the modern concepts of what constitutes good looks online in the media as true standard beauty? What about ‘Ugly Betty’ chosen to help her boss from getting distracted by his beautiful secretaries to focus on managing his company. What happens if a company is catfished as happens often in many cases including Sarah who got a job from a university based on her photo of previous youthful years. The university appointed her and on arrival for work turned out to be confronted by an old lady three times her age. Sarah did not indicate her current age to them so it was assumed she looked like the photo sent. At first, the university thought it was a mix up until she confirmed her identity and she enough she was the same person. She was allowed to do the job based on her excellent and genuine track record on her CV qualifications and work history. Sarah although het looks did not affect her job turned out to be a nightmare. Sarah told university zoology director, she must live literary with all the animals in her home. Therefore Sarah turned posh university accommodation into animal husbandry for her practical research. Her teaching produced great students so made up for lack of her youthful look Was tolerated to live among her beloved animals till she died unexpectedly. Sarah carried on dutifully for many years but became a victim of her own success. One of the animals bit her while taking him to a vet in her vehicle became infected by rhesus as he carried that disease. Sarah dedicated her phenomenal long life collaborating with the university for many years. The university afterwards took the animals to the appropriate zoo set aside for all other animals. Then the house was refurbished and restored for new person employed to fill her place. Sarah was a great character and loyal to her beloved animals and carried on with her zoologist passion to a whole new level. Her presence at university was well-known so she was popular and well loved, one of a kind in that gated community. Her research papers, work was immaculate in both classroom and outside winning many awards. Sarah’s looks and age did not hinder or affect her work in at all. So if the university had based the choice on only superficial or aesthetic looks to reject application, they would have missed out on her skills, talents and practical abilities for many years, as an impressive scientist. So do looks really help in choosing the most competent staff members? Sarah’s job technically did not have age limits in those days so she was able to do her work perfectly well. Sarah did what she loved most so died doing her job carried on faithfully to the end. So is it fair and ethically moral to demand specific looks to determine certain jobs?
The LORD God Almighty corrects those HE LOVES as a father or parents correct the children in whom they delight says the Bible in Proverbs 3:12. God reveals to HIS Children error by love to point out mistakes to reveal the correct way to change for good. Correction is done by God directly or through Jesus Christ the Eraser to wipe out errors to restart correctly to show a person unaware of a mistake due to lack of knowledge. This helps learn from mistakes to improve lives to please God. By doing so the lives transformed grow in righteousness and improves in faith, active listening skills in obedience to God. The person gains useful information previously unknown before. Hebrews 12:6-11 says the LORD chastens, disciplines, scourges all HE LOVES to receive correction to endure to gain better experience in life. God deals with people as individual, family or on corporate basis as required.Correction of Bart Simpson is a classic example of the line writing exercise on the classroom board to highlight point of correction. Years ago, schools gave pupils correction exercise books for rewriting misspelt words. Of course, as children unaware of exact right words intended word teachers point mistake to teach learners to write many times in exercise books to help remember the correct words in future. The brain coordinates hand movements with eyes to record words. Repetition of the words written many times forever registers so etched in minds of pupils to remember better. But along came a contemporary educational theory it constitutes abuse to ask children to use repetition method to write lines for correction so avoided
So spell checker was born so people did not memorize words for rote learning for recall. Computers correct the words obviously misspelt but words like “cap” and “cup”or “hat” and “hut” for example though correct, if not in context can be incorrect. Drinking milk in “cap” does not show on spellchecker so the reader must know word “cup” in the first place to edit it. This affects spelling error not dealt still with by computer in modern times. Therefore it is important to teach correct words in academia for life as a whole. The Bible says if you correct wise people and they become wiser and love you but correct mockers and they hate you. Choose correction carefully at right time in right way to help improve lives. Purpose of correction is not to shame a person in a negative way for vengeance to hurt them. People who love and care about you help with any issues affecting you to deal with it by Godly correction, compassion, support, understanding as God disciplines us.
Godly discipline is for good so it is not punishment though unpleasant because one is compelled to conform or comply against own rebellious ideas. Proverbs 9:8 warns not to attempt to correct fools because they are offended so hate you. Adapting to change is uncomfortable so may seem harsh to recipient until they benefit when they correct the error. So Correction requires determination by the teacher to help ‘wise’ to be ‘wiser’ as challenge to one doing correction. Their unpredictable nature, response reaction to correction depends on the persona at receiving end. Element of risk means a teacher helps learners to avoid mistakes to help correct them through a training experience. Criticising a person affects correction as attack on ego or pride may refuse help or reject correction. In the long run, over a period of time, people realise an insolent person’s ignorance is caused by fear of change. So help stop the devices of mistakes damaging them. Lack of Frontal Cortex means those in crises do not know how mistakes can impact lives. Sadly, some learn the hard way by self-destruction that could be avoided if only they listened. Through arguments a stiff neck refuses to take instructions so does not realise the errors done to themselves or to their family. Blinded by error mindset, causes havoc by process of fear rebuff or reject correction so avoid a pointed out error altogether for improvement. The theory that correction discourages children in the early years from learning affects the attitude to correction in general. Left to figure things out for themselves, many people are unaware of their mistakes. So it becomes problems affecting their performance if the person is allowed to be left to their own devices. In terms of future career the person carries on into other areas of life. Anyone who points out errors to them other than own ideas is not well received. Although a trainer from experience knows exactly what they are talking about, so foresees error, the learner does not accept help, refuses correction. Yet correction is specifically for their good, well-being of the whole family or work place, community and world in general.If a stubborn person resists wisdom at all cost to defy authority in the name of freedom to do as they please, they miss out on the Spirit of excellence. Realise boundaries of correction helps to learn better ways to protect them from a long winding road of mistakes. Like prodigal son, God forgives and restores the ways of error to rescue the lost or misdirected by the wrong choices they made. Proper correction helps to avoid, prevent worse case scenarios. A person corrected must be educated to visualise or understand benefits of the correction in advance. So learners must be taught advantages of correction to instill value of flexibility, humility to bring changes in learning methods. Correction is not to inflict pain or suffering but guidance to give correct information to the person taught. The teacher must be patient and tolerant because learners do not immediately see what they teachers know. Important to understand a soft stick bends because it is malleable than a hard dry stick. The concept that learners grow up to correct themselves is not always the wise move. As they continue in set ways without an understanding of the impact of previous years without correction. Many adults get offended when genuine people try to guide them to correct errors. Some explode in anger and rage so take anger on others. This even spills over into the others aspects of life treating anyone’s suggestions in good faith as an attack on their character or personality.
Reprove not a scorner lest he hates you, rebuke a wise man and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man so he will be still wiser, teach a righteous man and he will thank you and apply correction in their lives. Correct fools and they take offence. Do not despise chastening of the LORD God; neither be weary of HIS correction. So accept correction for your own good. Accept correction of God by Grace and wisdom of the Holy Spirit to lead you into all truth and teach you. A personal Bible study as a faithful Child of God is part of growth and maturity in the LORD. Start correction of children as early as possible from 2 years old to correct them in love at their level not by anger. Teach children by pointing out correct manner of behaviour as part of life for all to learn. It is imperative to carefully train a child to get rewards for their good behaviour to help reinforce correction. Follow up with apology and hug so child learns to accept teachers doing well to teach child to accept critique of work performance. Children with trained good sense accept correction and even recognise error by admitting error if unnoticed by teacher. A child can politely point out error to a teacher because all are human, so make mistakes in life. The secret is to get up immediately for good success not to feel disheartened by correction. Correction is good as it builds a person up to thrive.
Jesus said many fake pastors and false prophets deceive and mislead people to misdirect genuine faith in God. So Bible forbids practice of occult, black magic, sorcery, consulting dead or astrologers. When you live on land the LORD God gives you do not follow abominations of heathen nations. There shall not be found among you anyone who makes sons, daughters pass through fire or practice witchcraft, or soothsayer or interprets omens or sorcerer, conjures spells or a medium or spiritist or calls up the dead. Or casts spells to hex and curse people because vengeance belongs to God. For all who do these things are abominations to the LORD your God who drives out enemies from before you. You shall be blameless before the LORD your God. For nations dispossessed listened to soothsayers and diviners for you, the LORD your God forbids it in Deuteronomy 18:9–13. Bible says be wise to test the spirits to discern and see if they are from God Almighty through Jesus Christ. The devil thrown out of heaven is determined to fool some people to think following the TRUE GOD. Recruits deceiving spirits to mingle in churches to create deception, confusion, strife, entice, entrap souls to hell. God never forgives devil banned from Eternal life in heaven forever kept in hellfire after 1000 year millennium Reign of Jesus on earth. The devil roams about seeking to recruit to destroy some people to take to hell reserved originally exclusively only for devil and rebellious angels turned demons. So deceives and destroys people using fake counterfeit miracles, signs and wonders or rituals thinking the devil is ‘protecting’ them. Rituals embedded in ‘culture’ accepted as norm without realising abomination sin judged by God. Many in fear of life sent by families consult them for ‘help’ with fertility, childbirth, health, wealth ensnaring souls. God’s miracles mixed with trick potions to people invite devil to take control to own lives to destroy them in the end.
The devil knows the Bible better than some believers to quote verses as he did to Jesus Christ. Jesus already knows the real true words of God so said to devil “it is written.” The trouble is they do not read, study or know the contents of the Bible or God’s Will concerning their lives. So turn to psychics, palm readers and fake charlatans to tell them what to do in life. They do not seek their creator or maker to help plan their lives but do take advice from such people enriching themselves at the expense of their lack of knowledge. God says HIS PEOPLE perish due to their lack of knowledge of Bible. God lets them delude themselves by thoughts of reprobate imaginations concocted in their minds. The devil is ready to use and abuse them to distract them from the true love of God. There are millions of genuine pastors doing will of God helping, praying interceding, offering practical solutions, sacrificing time to assist genuine believers. But the ones who attend church and still mix belief in fetish in the name of ‘culture’ have one leg in the kingdom of God and another leg in satan’s world. God says to choose today whom you will serve. If you believe in the One true God, belong exclusively to God alone, do HIS WILL ONLY. Cannot hop on one leg in God’s Kingdom or other to devil but stand in God in Christ on both feet and firmly grounded and rooted in Christ Jesus. True Christian believers come totally under new management of Jesus Christ so old things pass away and all things are made new in the BLOOD OF JESUS IN JESUS NAME. So changes take place inside the heart to transform and renew mind in Christ TRANSLATED from the kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of God’s Glorious Marvellous Gospel of Light in Jesus Christ Name. God has not given believers the spirit of fear but of POWER, LOVE AND A SOUND MIND. So repent and serve God in the Strength of God’s WORDS and devil runs from you. Do not seed fetish ‘protection,’ Seek God Almighty Jehovah Nissi to save you for Eternal life forever. Jesus came to save, heal, deliver you from all destructions and works of the devil over your lives in Jesus Name. Trust God completely to do greater work publicly in your life so to testify by BLOOD OF THE LAMB JESUS CHRIST. Remember, the blood of bulls, goats cannot save only THE ULTIMATE SACRIFICE OF JESUS IS ACCEPTABLE TO JEOVAH YAHWEH IN JESUS NAME.
Steps To recover friends
- Stop pre-empting: Sometimes we are anxious when we do not need to be and it creates conflicts with friends in our heads. Your friend may be sitting thinking the same thing; not think anything is wrong.
- Do not be consumed by guilt: Often you feel guilty or embarrassed you did not make contact for a while. This is what is getting in the way, try not to hold onto these feelings.
- Face conflicts that arise: If your friendships is worthwhile you should be willing to fix them, ask what has gone wrong, what their position may be to work solution.
- Set objectives: Once you have discussed the issues don’t let them drag on, make a decision to move forward and set practical ways of keeping in touch and letting the other know you care.
- Find positive aspects: Friendship may take on a different form with distance allows space to see things objectively. You may be able to help each other more, to make use of the distance when you can.