TACKLING DIFFICULT PEOPLE

wp-1578833977605.jpgQuestion: “What does Bible say about dealing with difficult people?”

Answer: We all know people we find so “difficult”and deal with difficult people. A difficult person is very condescending argumentative, belligerent, selfish, and flippant, obtuse, simply rude. Difficult people “push one’s buttons” and stir up trouble. Dealing with difficult people is an exercise in patience, love, and grace. Response to difficult people from Jesus’ interactions He never displayed attitude of harsh superiority or dismissive pride. He showed His authority under control to rebuke when necessary in John 8:47 to deal with the difficult people, remain silent in John 8:6 when asked questions in Mark 11:28–29 in Scripture in Mark 10:2–3 tells story in Luke 7:40–42. In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus dealt with difficult people in love and humility: “I tell you: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you pray for all who mistreat you.wp-1578834206139.jpg If someone strikes you on a cheek turn the other. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to who asks you, if anyone takes what belongs to you don’t demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you” in Luke 6:27–31. Never give tit for tat: “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult repay evil with blessing, for this you were called inherit blessing” in 1 Peter 3:9. In dealing with difficult people guard against pride.wp-1578834096919.jpg Its important to recall advise given by apostle Paul in Romans 12:3: “By grace of God I say to you don’t think too highly of yourself. Think of yourself with the humility by faith God has given you” in Philippians 2:3–4. When difficult people approach you deal with the situation in meekness. Love is the key to “Love your neighbour as yourself” in Galatians 5:14 to show God’s love to all difficult people. Wisdom is needed to deal with difficult people. In Proverbs 12:16 patience is the key to such relationships: “A fool shows his annoyance at once but the prudent man overlooks insult.” Proverbs 20:3 says peace-making of honour to avoid strife but fools quickly quarrel.”wp-1578834341622.jpg Proverbs 10:12, encourages giving love, “Hatred stirs up conflict but love covers all wrongs.” Proverbs 17:14 is foresight on “Starting quarrel like breaching dam as disputes breaks out” Best to avoid the situation altogether choosing carefully whom we associate with: “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered” in Proverbs 22:24. Dealing with difficult people in life is unavoidable but do not respond in the flesh to bring out worst in you. Deal with difficult people by the fruit of Spirit in us in Galatians 5:22–23.wp-1578834322634.jpg By the grace of God, deal with difficult people in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control. Extend love, grace, and mercy God extends to us, careful not to be difficult people ourselves. 2 Timothy 3 says in the last days the perilous times shall come. People will be lovers of  self, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful and ungrateful. 4 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, fierce, despisers of those who are good traitors, 5 heady, highminded lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; wp-1578833839523.jpgHaving a form of Godliness, but deny HIS power from such turn away. 6 This sort creep into houses and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of truth. 8 As Jannes and Jambres resisted Moses they resist truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. 9 They will proceed no further their folly manifests to all 10 Know God’s doctrine for life’s purpose, faith, longsuffering, charity, patience, love, forgive like Jesus.wp-1578833896562.jpg9 They will proceed no further 11 So endure persecutions afflictions for the LORD delivers out of all. 12 Live Godly life in Christ Jesus despite persecution. 13 Evil people and seducers get worse deceiving and deceived 14 Continue in the things you learn and know 15 From childhood. You know Holy Scriptures to make you wise unto salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. 16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God is profitable doctrine for correction and instruction in righteousness 17 so the people of God perfectly furnished to do good works.

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PEOPLE TACKLING POVERTY

Malachi's ProjectMalachi’s tooth fairy cash helps create a £5m homeless centre now opened in east London. He gave £5 donation when 5 years old to the Salvation Army with a note and prayer to “use it to buy a house for homeless” people. Now at ten-years-old Malachi’s donated tooth fairy money to Salvation Army was topped up by the Redbridge Council and Salvation Army to create Malachi’s Place on the freeland donated. The building’s 42 flats helps  homeless people get a home in Ilford in new housing for tenants. This shows no gifts are too small to help tackle poverty or homelessness in the world.

20200321_134948Wolverhampton Wanderers donated thousands of pieces of some protective equipment to health teams in response to the coronavirus epidemic. The club and owners Fosun donated 2,300 items. Medical coveralls and 1,000 N95 masks were among items distributed to Royal Wolverhampton NHS Trust and public health teams. Executive chairman Jeff Shi said the club would do “all it can” to support doctors or community workers. Landlords of pub forced to close set up a service delivering fruit and vegetables to NHS and healthcare workers. Bradley Richards and Trina Lake set up a stall by their pub in Costessey, near Norwich, on Wednesday after deciding to sell the groceries. Ms Lake said they then struck on the idea of delivering food to health workers after spotting a nurse’s plea. A  fair trade coffee roaster pays fair prices to poor lower income farmers featured in Equator set up from the home garage. Grew to unique excellent tasting coffee talked about where their coffee comes from offers kind of level of service big guys don’t. Customers responded to that so simply trying to be the local versions of big company this unique selling point helps or would be unable to compete.Bags of Equator coffeeFans of coffee include top US chefs and  Equator is unusual in coffee shop sector all staff have access to health insurance. “It’s expensive but health insurance is a right of all Americans,” says Helen. “Any CEO who has a private plane and people working for them uninsured is running their business wrong turned their focus to opening retail cafe to close a revenue gap created by losing La Boulange,” says Helen. In first year of business we didn’t show sales growth but added a million dollars new business that year.A young Brooke McDonnell roasting beans in the couple's garageThe first roasted coffee beans in garage but increased so Equator grown to 155 employees across eight retail stores in the San Francisco Bay Area, with three new branches opening. This shows if a door closes another opens by hardwork if willing to start all over using the skills acquired. Some retrain to improve new abilities yo adapt to current changes.Paths to SuccessThis story from a new mini-series called Paths to Success of Coffee expert Willem Boot, founder of Boot Coffee, a company trains people to work in the industry. He says Equator stands against competitors because of the quality of staff. ” People working for them are coffee dedicated, socially minded, kind human beings. It is these qualities that define the essence of the Equator coffee experience.”Dan PriceDan Price boss’ card payment company in Seattle introduced $70,000 minimum salary for all of his 120 staff – and took a pay cut of $1m. Five years later he’s still on the minimum salary, and says the gamble has paid off. Dan Price was hiking with his friend Valerie in the Cascade mountains looms majestically over Seattle as he had an uncomfortable revelation. As they walked, she told him that her life was in chaos her landlord had put her monthly rent up by $200 and she was struggling to pay her bills. It made Price angry. Valerie, who he had once dated, had served for 11 years in the military, doing two tours in Iraq, and was now working 50 hours a week in two jobs to make ends meet. “She is somebody for whom service, honour and hard work just defines who she is as a person,” he says. Though she was earning around $40,000 a year in Seattle t wasn’t enough to afford a decent home. He was angry that the world had become such an unequal place. And suddenly it struck him that he was part of the problem. At 31, Price was millionaire. His company, Gravity Payments, set up as a teen had about 2,000 customers and an estimated worth of millions of dollars. Though he earned $1.1m a year Valerie brought home to him lots of his staff must be struggling – and he decided to change that. Raised in deeply Christian, rural Idaho, Dan Price is upbeat and positive, generous in his praise of others and impeccably polite has become crusader against inequality in the US. “People are starving or being laid off or being taken advantage of, so that somebody can have a penthouse at the top of a tower in New York with gold chairs. “We’re glorifying greed all the time as a society, in our culture. And, you know, the Forbes list is the worst example – ‘Bill Gates has passed Jeff Bezos as the richest man.’ Who cares!?”Dan PriceBefore 1995 poorest half of population of the United States earned a greater share of national wealth than richest 1%, he points out. That year the tables turned so top 1% earned more than the bottom 50%. And the gap is continuing to widen. In 1965, CEOs in US earned 20 times more than average worker but by 2015 it had risen to 300 times (in the UK, the bosses of FTSE 100 companies now earn 117 times salary of their average worker). Breathing in crisp mountain air as he hiked with Valerie, Price had an idea. He read a study by Nobel prize-winner economist Daniel Kahneman and Angus Deaton, looked at how much money an American needs to be happy. Promised Valerie he would significantly raise minimum salary at Gravity. After crunching the numbers, he arrived at the figure of $70,000. He realised that he would not have to slash his salary, but mortgage his two houses or give up his stocks and savings. He gathered his staff together and gave them the news. He’d expected scenes of celebration, but at first announcement floated in the room  was an anti-climax, Price says. He had to repeat himself before the enormity of what was happening landed. Five years later, Dan laughs about the fact that he missed a key point in the Princeton professors’ research. The amount they people need to be happy was $75,000. A third of workers at company’s salaries doubled Gravity transforms Headcount doubled and value of payment company processes rose $3.8bn a year to $10.2bn. Other metrics Price is more proud of is “before $70,000 minimum wage, having between zero and two babies born per year amongst team,” he says. “Since the announcement and it’s been only about four-and-a-half years we’ve had more than 40 babies.”Dan Price with his motherDan Price with his mother. More than 10% of the company have been able to buy their own home, in one of the US’s most expensive cities for renters. Before the figure was less than 1%. “There was a bit of concern amongst pontificators out there that people would squander any gains that they would have. And we’ve really seen the opposite,” Price says. The amount of money employees are voluntarily putting into their own pension funds has more than doubled and 70% of employees say they’ve paid off debt. Price did get a lot of flak. Along with hundreds of letters of support, and magazine cover labelled him “America’s best boss” many of Gravity’s customers wrote handwritten letters objected its a political statement. At the time, Seattle was debating increase to the minimum wage to $15, making it highest in the US at the time. Small business owners were fighting it, claiming they would go out of business. A right-wing radio pundit, Rush Limbaugh, Price listened to daily in childhood, called him a communist. “I hope this company is a case study in MBA programmes on how socialism does not work because it’s going to fail,” he said. Two senior Gravity employees resigned in protest. They weren’t happy salaries of junior staff jump overnight, argued it will make them lazy, company uncompetitive but it hasn’t happened.Rosita BarlowRosita Barlow, director of sales, Gravity, says since salaries were raised junior colleagues pull more weight. “When money is not at the forefront of your mind when you’re doing your job, it allows you to be more passionate about what motivates you,” she says. Senior staff found their workload reduced. They’re under less pressure and can do things like take all of the holiday leave to which they are entitled. Price tells the story about one staff member who works in Gravity’s call centre. “He was commuting over an hour and a half a day,” he says. “He was worried that during his commute he was going to blow out a tyre and not have enough money to fix that tyre. He was stressing about it every day.” When his salary was raised to $70,000 this man moved closer to the office, now he spends more money on his health, he exercises every day and eats more healthily. “We had another gentleman on a similar team and he literally lost more than 50lb (22kg),” he says. Others report spending more time with their families or helping their parents pay off debt. “We saw, everyday, effects of giving somebody freedom,” Price says. He thinks it is why Gravity is making more money than ever. Raising salaries didn’t change people’s motivation staff were already motivated to work hard it increased what he calls their capability. “You’re not thinking I go to work because I have to make money,” Rosita Barlow agrees. “Now it’s become focused on ‘How do I do good work?'” Barlow has been with Gravity since the early days and knows Price wasn’t always so generous. And he acknowledges himself a time in the wake of 2008 financial crisis when he was obsessed with saving money. The downturn in the US economy decimated Gravity’s customer base and its income fell by 20%. Business logic would have dictated letting go about 12 of the company’s 35 staff, but instead Price focused on cutting costs. After five tense months, the company started turning a profit again, but Price was profoundly spooked, and kept salaries low. At this time Rosita Barlow was experiencing her own financial problems, secretly working at McDonald’s outside work hours. When McDonald’s offered her a promotion, she left a training manual on her desk at Gravity, and someone spotted it. Her bosses called her in for a meeting. “They sat me down and my immediate reaction was to cry,” Barlow says. She thought she is fired. Instead they told her to figure out how much money she’d need to stay on at the company and they raised her salary to $40,000. “I was impressed and proud of her and mad at myself,” Price says. It took him a few more years to grasp the scale of problem among his staff. “Most were too intimidated to come to me and tell me how a lack of pay was hurting them,” he says. Before 2015, he already begun giving employees 20% annual pay rises. But it was his conversation with Valerie that convinced him to go further. Price hopes Gravity’s example leads to far-reaching global changes in US business. He’s deeply disappointed and sad this hasn’t happened. Some did like PharmaLogics in Boston raised the minimum salary to $50,000, Rented.com in Atlanta raised theirs too. He believes by means of online lobbying influenced Amazon’s decisions to raise minimum wage. He hopes a widespread structural change takes place all over the world. It blesses the company to bring increases.  And it’s changed my perspective on things because I believed through the actions that I did and that other people could do, that we could turn the tide on income inequality.” The change has had profound effect on Price’s lifestyle. And  before taking a pay cut, Price was cliché of a young white tech millionaire, lived in beautiful house overlooking Seattle’s Puget Sound and he drank champagne in expensive restaurants. Afterwards, he rented his house out on Airbnb to help stay afloat. A group of employees became sick of watching him turn up at work in a 12-year-old Audi and secretly clubbed together to buy him a new car.Dan Price with Alyssa O'Neal, accepting his TeslaA film posted on YouTube follows one of the group, Alyssa O’Neal’s schemes with her colleagues to surprise him with the car. “I feel like this is the ultimate way to say thank you for all the sacrifices he’s made and any of the negative stuff he’s had to deal with,” she says. Price walks out of the office into the car park, sees the car, starts crying. Five years later Price still on Gravity’s minimum salary, says he’s more fulfilled than he ever was when he was earning millions though it’s not all easy. “There’s tests every day,” he says. “I’m the same age as Mark Zuckerberg and in dark moments I think, ‘I want to be just as rich as Mark Zuckerberg and I want to compete with him to be on the Forbes list. I want to be on cover of Time magazine, making lots of money.’ All these greedy things are tempting.” “It’s not so easy to turn down lavish lifestyle but much happier.”Dr RonxThis doctor sees patients in chicken shops. GP appointments of doctor seeing patients in chicken shops in BBC Three shows The Unshockable Dr. Ronx, a doctor who takes appointments out of surgery in search of people who would n’t normally see a GP. “I don’t go to GP anymore, it took so long to be believed now I feel like they are listening.” And when Bethany was 13 was diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondylitis – a type of inflammatory arthritis. She says it took years for her GP to recognise its serious symptoms. “I think they assumed I was a young teenager so I couldn’t really be having severe joint difficulties.” Despite describing some of her symptoms, like chest pain, as “very scary” Bethany says she feels too embarrassed to go back to see a GP. In the UK, 16 to 30-year-olds are the most likely age group to miss a doctor’s appointment (along with over 90s). That’s according to analysis of GP Patient Survey, suggested 16 to 24-year-olds less positive about experiences at a GP’s, compared with the older patients.  Some of the young people featured in BBC Three’s new show The Unshockable Dr. Ronx say things like embarrassment, a lack of time, using internet instead are some of the reasons that have stopped them from seeking professional medical care in the past. Dr Ronx, an A&E doctor from Hackney in London, wants young people to take their health seriously so she takes GP pop up shop to them. Ratan Tata: An unlikely friendship between a magnate and a millennial.Shantanu Naidu and Ratan TataMr Naidu and Mr Tata watch movies together. Its not everyday octogenarian goes viral on Instagram. It’s so unusual if octogenarian billionaire businessman with a carefully cultivated reputation as a reclusive tycoon. Perhaps its the most unusual particular story of a friendship led to Ratan Tata’s India’s newest social media star. With the help of Shantanu Naidu, the 27-year-old who introduced him to social media platform and taught him about hashtag trends in the world discovered “man crush.” And Mr Naidu hopes the mix of old family pictures, snapshots of dogs and photographs of mogul’s younger days one from five decades of more than half million hits  gave people glimpse of the man behind the tycoon. The man who led the salt-to-software conglomerate Tata Group for 21 years classes of closest friends. The two of them do everything together by getting haircuts to watching films. Their “intergenerational friendship” is quite unusual, but, Mr Naidu says, it is pretty special. “He’s been a hard boss, a core mentor understanding friend,” he told the BBC. This doe-eyed and curly-haired millennial became a business assistant as best friends to India’s internationally recognised business leaders?Shantanu NaiduMr Naidu’s non-profit provide stray dog glow-in-dark collars. Mr Naidu is a fifth generation Tata employee and although family has a strong connection to Tata brand never thought he would end up working closely with man responsible for it. Mutual love of dogs brought the two together while younger man works  for one of Mr Tata’s companies in city of Pune, west India. And Mr Naidu ‘s social initiative Motopaws glow-in-dark collar for stray dog’s work highlighted in the company newsletter prompted Mr Tata to write letter inviting him to Mumbai. “Shantanu and I first met because of our common concern and affection for stray dogs,” Mr Tata in email said BBC. He led team of young college students to adopt dogs and give them affection, food, find homes for them for sense of belonging.” The meeting proved to be their first of Motopaw’s scaling up so became closer. Work emails slowly turned into asking questions about one another,” Mr Naidu said. Soon after friendship took off, Mr Naidu left India for university in US. “I was sad, I felt I just discovered a friend in Mr Tata.” The connection between the two strengthened. Mr Naidu was at Mr Tata’s alma mater Cornell University, and started work on the businessman’s dream project, building a veterinary hospital in Mumbai. The construction for this hospital is set to begin this year. Mr Tata attended his graduation. “I had mentioned it to him in passing and he said yes,” Mr Naidu recalls. “Cut to the actual day and there he was!”Ratan Tata and Shantanu NaiduMr Naidu graduated from Mr Tata’s alma mater, Cornell University. On his return to India, Mr Naidu took up a job as Mr Tata’s business assistant. Things changed in a single minute. I had never imagined my life to pan out this way. Mr Tata told BBC “I enjoy seeing Shantanu’s freshness, concern never seen in a ‘dog eat dog’ world we live in.'” What does a typical day look like? Business assistant to Mr Tata meets, takes copious notes, keeps records for future discussions. Mr Tata briefs him on happenings of day or plan and start attacking them. He’s very focused, non-stop no break,” Mr Naidu explained. The Tata Group patriarch has invested in more than 73 Indian start up ride-hailing service, Ola. Mr Tata uses Instagram profile Mr Naidu set up to connect with the youth and has shared “recipe” for successful start-up pitches. The 82-year-old shares pictures of him in his 20s a popular hashtag Throwback Thursday to set the internet alight.

It isn’t just business so two remain fast friends. He added they both like action comedy films such as The Other Guys and Lone Ranger series of experiences in the Israel Defence Force called Fauda is Mr Tata’s favourite Netflix binge, Mr Naidu said. Last year a radio interview with BBC met Mr Tata and Mr Naidu. It was easy to sense warm bond between the two a great degree of camaraderie and mutual respect. Mr Tata spoke of retirement plans and love for dogs. Mr Naidu continues to work on ths project that brought Mr Tata and him together. Motopaws expanded over the years and now operating in four countries it isn’t just non-profit evolving. “If something bothers me or makes me happy he is the first person I call. The foundation is the constantly blossoming tree. Mr Tata has always been there for me I do the same for him,” Mr Naidu said with a smile.

Micah Lammie sitting in carPhoto exhibition showcases the people tackling the impact of poverty in 21st Century Britain. The focus of the new exhibition showcases those trying to help their struggling neighbours. And four people making a difference in their communities explain how they became involved. ‘I want to be a spark in the plug’ as Micah Lammie learned from everyone in his community. And Battersea and Brixton helped to shape Micah Lammie into the man he is today, so now he is repaying the debt. “Life was difficult as a kid from a one-parent family,” the 30-year-old said. ” defiant in trouble at school. It takes whole village to raise a child I learn from my parents, I learned from everyone in community. “These things I want to continue raising our next generation.” He worked in call centres at a funeral Brixton Soup met Kitchen founder Solomon Smith who gave him his true calling.Micah Lammie close upAs “I’ve known Solomon from back in the day,” Micah said. “I got involved and I’ve never looked back.”He is the centre manager of service offers food and legal advice to rough sleepers or community. “It’s a safe haven for misunderstood people. Everything starts somewhere, there’s been ups and downs but we’re helping people. I want to be a spark in the plug, I won’t change the world but I’ll invest in a person who will.”Micah Lammie at workMicah is now its centre manager ‘I knew hunger.’ After experiencing a financial struggles Mary Brennan’s neighbours in Cross Green, Leeds, faced difficulties. “I knew hunger and poverty,” the 68-year-old said.Mary Brennan

Mary Brennan started a community group in LeedsPresentational white space

“It used to be just families round here, then landlords started bedding seven people in four-bedroom terraced houses. I noticed they were hungry.”Cross GreenImage copyrightJILLIAN EDELSTEIN

Image captionShe settled in Cross Green, where she witnessed the struggles of her neighbours

So she helped set up Community Unity, a neighbourhood group that runs a lunch club at St Hilda’s Church and created a garden on a disused railway bridge where the community can pick their own food.”We don’t have many facilities round here, no shop where you can buy fresh food and [there’s] terrible problems with transport,” she added.

‘If you’re poor, you can’t afford ideas’Steve Arnott

Steve Arnott says hip-hop has always been his love

Poverty can be a barrier to creativity because people can’t afford either the money or time to do it, according to Steve Arnott. The 44-year-old from Hull said hip-hop helped him through a tough childhood and he saw how it could do the same for others. “Hip-hop has always been my love,” he said. “There were local workshops which weren’t getting many kids because families couldn’t afford the fares into town. “I had idea of taking it to them.”Beats BusThe workshops were aimed at helping children in the community. In 2017, his hometown was the UK City of Culture, so he launched the Beats Bus – a mobile recording studio which he takes into the communities to attract youngsters eager to learn more about hip-hop, DJing, break-dancing and graffiti art. “If you’re poor, you can’t afford the time to create ideas,” Steve said. “The Beats Bus is trying to change that, bringing free studio time to talented kids.”Close up showing tattoo of microphone on Steve's lower armSteve has a tattoo of a microphone on his forearm.

‘There’s no shame in being poor through no fault of your own’

The issues blighting the Sholes area of Wigan are being tackled by Barbara Nettleton. She previously spearheaded a residents’ association to reduce anti-social behaviour and improve services, before taking over the running of the Sunshine House community centre. The site opened in 2005, runs art groups and youth projects with a view to helping people find work. It also operates three shops in the area offering necessities including second-hand clothes and prams, toys and baby clothes.Barbara Nettleton covers her faceBarbara Nettleton was a bit shy about being photographed. “When the mines, steelworks and mills closed years ago, it took the apprenticeships away, broke families and industrial areas like ours,” Barbara said. There is no shame in being poor when you work hard all your life and end up poor. God judges a nation by how it treats the poor in the society. Jesus said, in Matthew 25:40-46 whoever cares for the poor by feeding them, gives them water to drink or had provided shelter for the “least of these” receives JESUS. The poor are priceless in God’s sight because HE created them in HIS OWN IMAGE AND LIKENESS. Bible says value of material possessions is not true measure of quality of human life in God’s sight as mankind thinks. Its loving care and fair share of all the resources provided by God as Marslow hierarchy shows God counts towards eternal life.Greg and MarieThis homeless couple moved in with a millionaire in America. The homeless couple moved in with the millionaire after living on California’s streets for 20 years Greg and Marie invited to stay in the home of the millionaire. The local businessman asked if they wanted to share his $4m home. A year later other rich neighbours complain so call police tells us about homelessness crisis in the Western countries. Luke 16 says a rich man enjoyed all great wealth on earth but ended in hell for abuse of the poor Lazarus who went into heaven and is comforted by Abraham. So God judges mankind by how HIS RESOURCES are shared on this earth. Gospel of Matthew 25, 34-46 34 says, KING of Kings “Jesus will say to those on His right, ‘Come in, you who are blessed by my Father God because you the fed poor and you clothe them by your kindness, you did it to me so enter heaven. You didn’t do it to show off to get praise of people but you did it genuinely from kibdness of your heart to help others. George Medal for saving Princess Anne sells for £50k.George MedalThe medal sold at auction for £50,000 is a medal awarded to a boxer who helped save Princess Royal from an attempted armed kidnap has sold at auction for £50,000. Former heavyweight Ronnie Russell, 72, punched Ian Ball in the head tried to abduct princess at gunpoint in London in 1974. Mr Russell said he sold the George Medal as he had been “very unwell for quite some time.” “I want to know that I’ve done enough to pay for my own funeral,” he said. After auction, Mr Russell, who lives in Bristol, said: “For something I thought I would never sell, I never believed it will sell for this amount, I am absolutely blown away.”Ronnie Russell with his medalRonnie Russell was awarded the George Medal for bravery by the Queen. He said he had one request for UK buyer, who asked to remain anonymous which was for them to meet in person to tell the story of what happened.Princess AnnePrincess Anne’s car had been blocked and Ian Ball had fired shots, wounding four people Mr Russell, heading home to his wife and children in Strood, Kent, when he thwarted late-night ambush on 20 March 1974. Ball blocked princess’s car on Mall in central London and fired shots, wounding four people. Mr Russell said Ball was trying to drag Princess Anne from her car while her husband, Captain Mark Phillips, was pulling her back. “She was very, together, telling him: ‘Just go away and don’t be such a silly man’,” he said. “He stood there glaring at me with the gun and I hit him. I hit him as hard as I could and he was flat on the floor face down. “I said to Princess Anne: ‘We’re going to walk away and he’s going to have to go through me to get you’.”Princess Anne's car on The Mall 1974Ian Ball attempted to kidnap Princess Anne who telegrams RONNIE RUSSELLTelegram from Princess AnnePrincess Anne sent Mr Russell telegram when he received medal Ball was later sent to a psychiatric hospital by an Old Bailey judge. Mr Russell was awarded George Medal for bravery by the Queen, who told him: “The medal from Queen, I want to thank you as Anne’s mother.” It was sold with a letter from 10 Downing Street informing Mr Russell of award and telegram from Princess Anne. 

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Picture Britain: Our People, Our Poverty was commissioned by the Joseph Rowntree Foundation and created by photographer Jillian Edelstein and investigative journalist Stephen Armstrong. It will be at Borough Market, London, from 20 February to 8 March.

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CHRISTMAS CAROLS HISTORY

christmas_carols_by_jasuli93-d4jqkgaThe word Christmas carol is a theme of “Christmas” based on music related to Christmas. Christmas carol hymns  had  lyrics  message of Christmas. Christmas carol is sung traditionally at Christmas itself or in holiday season. Christmas carols are regarded as the subset of the broader category of Christmas music.christmas-carolsSequence” or “Prose” was introduced in the Northern European monasteries as developed by Bernard of Clairvaux into sequence of rhymed stanzas. In twelvth century the Parisian monk Adam of St. Victor began to derive music from such many popular songs, introducing closer ones to the traditional Christmas carol.16273000-christmas-carol-singers-theme-23-1024x949In thirteenth century, France, Germany, and Italy, under influence of Francis of Assisi the strong tradition of Christmas songs in regional native languages sang so music styles developed. Christmas carols in English first appear in 1426 by John Awdlay, Shropshire chaplain, lists 25 “caroles Cristemas” sung by groups of wassailers from house to house.31477660-christmas-carolThe songs we know specifically carols were originally communal songs sung during celebrations like harvest time as well as Christmas. It was only later that carols begun to be sung in church, and associated with Christmas. Research has conducted on carol singing, but one of the few sociological studies of caroling in the early 21st century determined sources of songs are misunderstood.

6d4cc6b4663cfa06f7afd45a4f9631d9Some think it is simplistic to suggest the caroling is mostly related to Christian beliefs. Other carol singing reinforces the preservation of diverse national customs or local family traditions. This entry encourages you to sing carols with friends, family, loved ones to create camadier. Singing is therapeutic to clear the head. The Christmas song lyrics are biblically based with words of hope celebrating the birth of JESUS Christ.4b5dd714aa873a10f94160c5378e87b1Sing your heart out to JESUS CHRIST and use your voice given by God to thank, praise and worship Lord God Almighty. Do not worry about not being a musician not professionally trained. God loves to hear voice so sing from your heart to God. Express yourself and sing even your own written songs to God. God is not requiring perfection from your songs just expression of your feelings, thoughts, joy to glorify God and bless His Holy Name. chrstmas-carols16157-caroling-kids-400x200

COFFEE’S HISTORY & ORIGINS

20191014_110716.jpg15710468834321102168724083807666.jpg15710437345183676338762388191799.jpgCoffee global originated from Ethiopia as earliest evidence of coffee drinking and knowledge of the coffee tree spread from early 15th century. Africans grow coffee harvested, grounded and drank by families as tropical crops. Coffee spread as commodity for trade from Ethiopia Horn of Africa to Yemen Arabia Felix monks monasteries spreading into Mecca and Cairo. Goats were seen hyper stimulated inspired coffee concoction born long ago in the mountains of Ethiopia. Legend says that Kaldi saw his excited herd dancing after eating coffee cherry berry, 16th century reached rest of Middle East, South India (Karnataka), Persia, Turkey to rest of Horn of Africa and northern Africa. Coffee spread to Balkans, Italy, the rest of Europe, Southeast Asia and Americas despite ban imposed in the 15th century by religious leaders in Mecca and Cairo, and later by the Catholic Church.15710460124356859565088160134012.jpg15710436855935512932863149678515.jpg15710447815743466109153844499277.jpgCoffee spread from Ethiopian ancestors of today’s Kaffa Province name of coffee, the first to recognize energizing effects of native coffee plant. So the tribesmen consumed as hunters on days-long treks benefitting from coffee plant’s ability to quell hunger and provide more energy. Studies of genetic diversity of Coffea arabica varieties retained the residual heterozygosity from ancestral materials, diploid species Coffea canephora and C. liberica. Oral history direct evidence has indicated Africans coffee grow among other crops natives used as stimulant so known earlier spread into seventeenth century. Original domesticated coffee plant from Harar, native population use derived from Ethiopia distinct is found populations in Sudan and Kenya.1571043405765699259889766813539.jpg15710434270053024933810851534611.jpg15710436277878114956373217936851.jpg15710435846402047751185959458711.jpg15710434925723954462411793900624.jpgCoffee is native to tropical Africa but its Brazil that is the world’s largest coffee producing country. Vietnam, Colombia are second and third biggest producers. Coffee was traded through Middle East, Asia and Europe before its taken to the Americas by European colonizers. The crop’s success there depended on slave trade. The history of coffee recognizes racism and the role of colonialism. The history of coffee has a dark side of the exploitation of Western countries taking advantage of the African countries. And multibillion multinational corporations making so much profit but don’t invest in these countries of the supply chains. 15710433560353172288782735507670.jpg15710440983255412735373397344862.jpg15710445900461747951835999486447.jpg15710441400893604583404307719482.jpg15710439366083654047546056266942.jpg15710440294184227315937896153147.jpg15710444445985513000575336350508.jpgMark Pendergrast, author of Uncommon Grounds: The History of Coffee And How It Transformed Our World. In late 1700s, European colonial powers recognized coffee’s profitability. Demand for coffee drinks was high in European countries and their colonies established profitable estates. European companies imported Africa slave labour on plantations in the Caribbean, Asia, and Americas in Trans Atlantic Triangular Slave Trade.1571044828283157220128130682346.jpgwp-1571137280306.jpgdownloadfile.pngwp-1571007286187.jpgIMG-20191014-WA0001.jpgwp-1571136784509.jpgMark Pendergrast, author of Uncommon Grounds: The History of Coffee And How It Transformed Our World. In late 1700s, European colonial powers recognized coffee’s profitability. Demand for coffee drinks was high in European countries and their colonies established profitable estates. European companies imported Africa slave labour on plantations in the Caribbean, Asia, and Americas in Trans Atlantic Triangular Slave Trade.15710478444701786177490462436469.jpg15710456532011356605169476525987.jpg15710456143886626766098078755663.jpg15710455659128566144229800899532.jpg15710448803383604231430384290796.jpg15710449771794187086487037815745.jpg15710450656392204661356868672582.jpg15710451149853942328613469727459.jpgBarbados and Jamaica were some of the earliest British colonies as slave traders provided outposts with human labour from Africa to work on sugar and coffee plantations. Goods and people moved in a triangle between West Africa, colonies in Caribbean and Americas and Europe.wp-1571143326145.jpg15710465101715420187119285288633.jpg1571046665177784825754492463044.jpg15710465806261383212562540144503.jpgwp-1571143230605.jpgwp-1571143279802.jpg15710462101437150544227229786142.jpgSan Domingo in French-occupied Haiti was supplying half of the world’s coffee in 1788 as a direct result of slave labour. Living conditions was appalling, slaves underfed, overworked and housed in the windowless huts. The African slaves were beaten, tortured or killed by their white European rulers.15710466183022452900408860596017.jpgwp-1571142356971.jpgwp-1571138218332.jpgwp-1571142304784.jpg15710467716452899072847031383823.jpg15710449165545412649823065829850.jpg15710450356353051306629389501833.jpg1571046353063816915106442229309.jpg15710432352042400621271070553203.jpgNapoleon tried to regain Haiti in early 1800s led to decline in coffee production prompted the Dutch to fill the gap with coffee produced in their own colony of Java, Indonesia. But has rigid hierarchy between the native Javanese and their colonial overlords. Laziness and apathy of Dutch landowners forced Javanese natives to harvest coffee for a pittance, whole villages died of starvation.15710462360581092218315998157921.jpg15710463381055154496466313978760.jpgwp-1571136892649.jpg15710470158994600447489546368637.jpg15710433079216012543656666705158.jpgUK drinks 95 million cups of coffee day with 500,000 tonnes of waste coffee grounds a year. Some business’s small waste coffee grounds customers to take home as garden fertiliser or homemade exfoliant. Wet coffee grounds waste into landfill in UK tax £88.95/tonne to £94.15 from 1st April 2020 levy operators cost to collection fee. Waste management companies charge for contaminated dry mixed with recycling. 15712234953994380269245425115741.jpgLandfill harmful greenhouse gases such as methane 34 times more potent than carbon dioxide over a 100 year period causing climate change. The wet coffee grounds in an anaerobic digestion plant absent of oxygen microorganisms break down biodegradable material managing waste or producting fuel but grounds sink to bottom in ‘belly’ inhibit rate of biomethane production. Waste grounds incinerated energy generation, not best usel. Bio-bean utilise wet coffee grounds waste recycled bio-products by disposal recycling service generate savings for businesses saving emission as bio-fuel.15710432727097757498507419898001.jpgCoffee declined in the West Indies but it thrived in Latin America. So first coffee bush in Brazil was planted by Francisco de Melo Palheta in Pará in 1727. Brazil became a coffee superpower under the rule of the Portuguese and continued to after independence. By the 1830s, coffee became Brazil’s largest export is around 30% of world coffee production.15710461315717905217574155760681.jpg15710452158122014500876146091126.jpgBrazilian coffee plantations used black or indigenous slave labour. Indentured labourers worked and lived in horrific conditions. Plantation owners treated their labourers as dispensable imported new slaves as they died from overwork. Did not treat existing slaves with any compassion most slaves last seven years from initial bondage.wp-1571142201640.jpg15710455063321556057087774078740.jpgBrazil made slavery illegal in 1888, but four million slaves had been brought from Africa. In Latin America, coffee industry depended on the indigenous labour. Black people not used as slaves in Central American countries anymore, Mayans and other native peoples served as semi-slaves.15710451884962273506023802601097.jpg15710452671042518442429950312232.jpgThe Mayans occupied best fertile lands for growing coffee and so increasingly became disenfranchized by colonial governments. Violently evicted by the military as the demand for coffee grew, forced to work land for the oppressors. Revolts and rebellions common during that time government brutality and the oppression was response.15710454680217849189674356110640.jpg20191015_133547.jpgThe coffee industry in Latin America explaining why the world is dominated by their coffee production. Slave labour no longer but paved the way for today’s industry. Many regions of Brazil and Colombia are now traditional coffee-growing areas with farming as main resource. Legacies of colonialism affect coffee supply chain in Latin America racial divide between farm owners and labourers.15710464500078699002128982820492.jpgMillions of blacks in Latin America Asia, and Africa live in poverty producing the affordable coffee for Western markets. African coffee is the best in the world as Tropical Africa origin of coffee. But that continent not treated on same level of Latin America. Colonialism by former European colonies in Africa left without infrastructure or stable political system. Structural racism economic oppression exists in supply chain. Inequality in the coffee production, baristas, economics. Education, politics of coffee-producing regions of the community in producing countries must contribute to improving sustainability, working conditions, and quality of life for people globally.tree-goat-morocco.jpg15712272641128742041996406789531.jpgObviousTimelyAlligatorsnappingturtle-size_restricted.gifThe Argan coffee like Ethiopian Coffee, Nepal coffee grown on Himalayan climate is ideal for coffee growing. The aroma of brewed coffee fragrance, coffee’s global recognition beans, grown in Nuwakot, a scored 90 points on a scale of 50 to 100 in Coffee Review, California-based trade magazine. In first-ever blind assessment Nepali coffee in Lekali is “savoury sweet in structure with gentle acidity; crisp, satiny mouthfeel.” Concluded the coffee is worth seeking its confident savoury-sweet cup. In 2016, coffee produced by Greenland Organic Farm scored an 89 Specialty Coffee Association of America, California trade group Nepali coffee producers elevate quality of country’s beans to international standards.Workers sort cherries for processing at Lekali Coffee Estate’s farm in Nuwakot in central Nepal. Nepali coffee’s in 2014, Banjara became Nepal’s first Q-grader trained in Xining in China. The West are calling coffee aficionados value beans’ from exotic origin to local cafe. Coffee companies create market for vacuum packed cans of coffee grounds and jars of instant coffee kitchens in the world,  Nepal’s high-end market export coffee. Some claim goat eaten berry coffee also exist like Luwak kopi coffees. Coffee farm in Mauja district of Kaski, view to the Annapurna mountain range Nepal’s first national coffee cupping as Q-graders identify characteristics and flavour, quality of coffee beans. Eight of the world’s 10 highest peaks like Mount Everest Nepal ideal climate high-quality beans. Nepal’s Arabica variety Bourbon and Typica coffee grow on rolling, misty mountain slopes at altitudes from 800 meters to 1,600 meters. First introduced to the country by a monk in the middle of 20th century the crop supports 32,000 farmers in 40 of country’s 77 districts. It exports coffee but Coffee Review rating recognition gives them a much-needed boost in the international market.15712209071994545813192981911343.jpgThe world’s most expensive is Coffee alamid highly sought-after brew among coffee aficionados is “caviar” of coffee. Odour-free coffee alamid aroma, syrup texture, chocolate hint, coffee alamid’s clean aftertaste and flavour is processed by acid from stomach of animals eating coffee cherry berries. The coffee seeds remain intact undigested excreted as a faecal material collected, washed and is grounded as premier luxury coffee sells U$500 -U$1000 per pound. Kopi luwak one of most expensive coffees in world. Vietnamese weasel coffee collecting coffee beans eaten by wild civets in India. Luwak coffee kopi luwak of Java Indonesia is second best.  But traders of this type of coffee exploit animals by caging, feeding them solely on coffee beans instead on an enriched variety of diets in wild more suitable to thrive. The tourists travel to see caged animals in action oblivious to animal rights issues involved in most expensive coffee processs. A cup of coffee cost $80 per cup in the tourist epic centres.

Mark Pendergrast: Uncommon Grounds, History of Coffee & How It Transformed Our World.

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HISTORY OF JESUS IN EGYPT

15650236527013619008052888259795.jpgAccording to Coptic Church is ‘altar’ of Mary in Al-Muharraq Monastery. The site where the Holy Family is believed to have settled for a period of more than six months; and the altar-stone was the bed on which the Infant Saviour lay. So the Al-Muharraq Monastery is located, in the land of Egypt’s exact geographical center. According to Matthew’s Gospel a flight of Holy Family into Egypt to seek refuge as an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and said,”Rise, take the child and His mother, flee to Egypt, and stay there. Herod is going to search for the child to destroy him in Matthew 2:13. On their flight, Holy Family fled by night from Bethlehem and so returned when Joseph told in a dream it was safe to take the Saviour back to the land of His nativity. The Holy Family in Egypt in exile from Palestine lived at Matareya, a few miles northeast of Cairo. A fountain and a Sycamore tree they rested under exists as baby Jesus’ miracle. So they left the desert behind and made their way southwards crossing Nile eastern bank, to Matareyah and Ain Shams or ancient  Heliopolis site oldest in history ancient times since Jeremiah 43:13. The district suburb today’s Cairo miles city center.Virgin Mary's tree in MatariyaThe Holy Family avoid pagan areas and looked for places of Jewish settlements. Historical sources reveal Holy Family’s stay at Matareyah. Apocryphal gospel of Matthew, Coptic and Egyptian synaxar details Holy Family places. Matareyah, tree stands today, visited, called ‘Mary’s Tree’ as Family rested in shade. Infant Jesus caused water to flow from spring. He blessed it, drank from it and Mary washed His clothes, poured the washing water on ground and from spot fragrant balsam blossomed. It is used for healing and pain soothing properties of a balm essence prepared in scents of perfumes of holy Chrism. Southwards crossed Nile eastern bank, Matariya and Ain Shams ancient Heliopolis Cairo 10 km city. At Ain Shams large Jewish community, had temple Synagogue of Unias for worship. The Family rested shade of infant Old Cairo in Zeitoun landmarks of a Coptic heritage marking paths Holy Family. It is area called Old Cairo, Misr el Kadima, locations brief visit by Holy Family. The Governor of Fustat enraged their idols  fell at Jesus’ approach sought to kill the Child. Took shelter in the cave Church of Abu Serga St. Sergius built. And they  moved south Maadi to Memphis capital of Egypt. Boarded a sailing boat up Nile to southern Egypt. Historic church built on the spot they embarked dedicated to virgin is “Al Adaweya,” Virgin’s Church “of Ferry.” Maadi, Arabic, “the crossing time.” Stone steps lead down to River’s bank used by Holy Family accessible to pilgrims through the Church courtyard.15650274286609034532649623462935.jpg15650239357008186881934449794928.jpgOn Friday the 3rd of the Coptic month of Baramhat, 12 of March, 1976, a Bible floated along ripples of Nile to bank by the Church opened to Isaiah 19:25 says: “Blessed be Egypt My People.” The Bible is in glass in Sanctuary of in the Church. Sail-boat docked at village of Ashnein El Nassara or Deir el Garnous Monastery of Arganos 10 km west of Ashnein El Nassara near Maghagha. Western wall of church of Virgin deep well provided Holy Family with water needed. Then to a spot Abai Issous, “the Home of Jesus,” the site of present-day Sandafa village, east of Al Bahnassa 17 km west town Beni Mazar. To Samalout cross the Nile again to east bank of River Monastery of Virgin near Gabal al Tair east Samalout, thousands of birds. Holy Family rested in cave in ancient Church there. Coptics say Holy Family rested in the shade of the Mountain, Jesus stretched His little Hand to hold the rock about to fall from mountain-side imprint of His palm still visible. The Holy Family passed laurel tree south of Gabal El Tair by Nile from Mountain to Nazlet-ebeid Minia Bridge.The recorded events testify of townsfolk infuriated when their stone statue of a  local idol cracked and fell. They evicted Holy Family from town. A historically recorded incident dating to that period refers to devastation of Qussqam, and Coptic tradition asserts the ruin befell the town was the consequence of the violent rejection of their gentle visitors. The tree bows to worship Jesus passing Tree branches downwards on ground and upwards covered in green leaves called: “al abed” or “Worshipper.” They pass Beni-Hassan, town Al Ashmounein or Hermopolis Magna. Jesus’ Presence triggered idols to crumble as foretold by the prophets of old. So the townsfolk in consequence, turned angry, aggressive, and the Holy Family turned their backs on town and headed southwards. Their idols fell but blessed Al Ashmounein by Dairout Um Nakhla Jesus’ spring water flows. Sailed across Nile 10 km south to Qussqam or Qost-Qoussia stone statue of idol cracked and fell so evicted Holy Family from town. Qussqam in Coptic tradition ruin consequence of rejection of Holy Family in land to built “Altar to LORD in midst of the land of Egypt.
15650137815178169806773825198128.jpg15650137416176017490009855160550.jpg15650139764656406210421673527323.jpgContinued southwards, the Holy family passed Fortress of Babylon in Old Cairo, and saw pyramids of Giza. According to tradition there used to be a palm tree at Giza under which Blessed Virgin Mary nursed Baby Jesus. This palm tree in the region bearing fruit. Holy Family moved south, reaching Cairo suburb of Maady district Memphis capital of Egypt. Maadi crossing doorway step by Nile as Joseph acquainted with sailors of Nile boats. So Holy Family taken south to Upper Egypt with the historic church built on spot they embarked.dedicated to the Blessed Mother, ‘Al-Adaweya’.Virgin’s Church ‘of the Ferry.’ Maady, derives from Arabic word means ‘the crossing point. There  stone steps lead down to the River bank used by Holy Family and the pilgrims through Church courtyard. On Friday 3rd of Coptic month of Baramhat 12 March, 1976, Bible floated on ripples of Nile to bank by Church. This opened Isaiah miracle occurred Friday on Nile to bank below the Church. Was opened to Isaiah 19: 25 says, “Blessed be Egypt My People.” Bible in glass in Sanctuary of the Church for all to see. And at Jesus’ entrance in country, all idols of the land of Egypt fell with a crash, shattered and broken upon their faces. Some received cures of leprosy, demoniac deliverance by His word. Route as travelers of Sinai from Palestine to Egypt cross Nile from infanticide fury of King Herod. The Holy Family avoid public paths of passing to cross Sinai. In Egypt, are chronicled by Theophilus, twenty-third Patriarch of Alexandria in 384 – 412 A.D. He testified on eve of sixth of Hator Coptic month of November details Holy Family’s journey to and from was Egypt recorded.

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Apocrypha Infancy Gospel of James says Holy Family fled together with Salome, Mary’s midwife. They made their way through Judaic desert to Jordan valley. Majority of images show their journey travelling in one direction and return to the Holy Family to The Holy Land. Then Holy Family proceeded from Bethlehem to Gaza, to El-Zaraniq Floussiat twenty-eight miles west of al-Arish, near oasis of Ain Hagla to Jordan River. A church honours Holy Family to mark the place where the Holy Family rest. Ain Hagla or Kalamonia means ‘good abode.’ To  northern Sinai reached Farma ancient Pelusium mid – way between al-Arish and present-day Port Said. The Greek monk Epiphanius Hagiopolites eighth century and Western monk Bernard the Wise in 870 AD mention in their writing the Holy Family stopped in the city. The church is dedicated to Mary as an angel gave message to Joseph to leave Egypt to ancient city of Hebron one of the oldest cities of the world of Holy site for Jews, Christians and Muslims is the cave of Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, Rebecca, Jacob, Lea’s resting place bought from Ephron, son of Zohar cave of Machpelah owned at the edge of field. Sell at its full price for a burial place in Genesis 23:9. Holy Family continued journey to Ashkelon where Samson slaughtered Philistines by The Spirit of LORD upon him killed thirty men and despoiled and gave their garments to those who answered his riddle in Judges 14:19. On twenty-fourth day of Coptic month of Bashans to first of June, Coptic Church celebrates entry of Lord Jesus Christ to Land of Egypt. On that day churches pray doxology saying  “Rejoice, Oh Egypt; O, people of Egypt and all Children of Egypt who live in its borders, rejoice lift up your hearts, for the lover of all mankind, He is before the beginning of ages, has come to you.”7

Addeir Al-Moharraq – Al-Qussia – Assiut  is the place they stayed in Assuit known as Al-Qussia or Al-Muharraq Monastery later built and still stands today. All the places mentioned are significant in the history of Egypt for centuries. The Pope Francis made Egypt the Roman Catholic pilgrimage route to celebrate Jesus, Son of God. Millions retrace the steps of the Holy Family in Egypt on map including numbers of the thirty places associated with their flight map route in Egypt. In various places Holy Family discovered many springs and wells in the area of the Nile delta and valley. And so many villages mention of a palm tree, which offered shade to the Holy Family and nourished them with its fruit as well. In the years between 7 – 4 BC when Gaius Turranius was governor in Egypt, the Holy Family crossed narrow Isthmus of al Qantara where Abraham in Genesis 12:10 Jacob and sons traveled to Egypt. Since creation, famines people of Israel travelled to Egypt freely or sent into the captivity God allowed to correct them to follow God exclusively. Moses was also in Egypt and as part of Garden of Eden is fertile so popular rulers took it over many times fighting battles of conquest.1565023204177488196839903038456.jpg
15648316192607707449909183363327.jpg20190803_193407The Coptic Synaxar calendar of saints records Tal Basta is seventy-two miles northeast of Cairo Egyptian town visited by Holy Family.  Oral traditions say that in Tal-Basta or Basta Jesus made spring well up from ground. and His presence triggered idols to crumble, as foretold by the prophets of old. The townsfolk, in consequence, turned malevolent and aggressive, whereupon the Holy Family turned their backs on the town and headed southwards. Reached Mostorod which later received name Al-Mahmma north west of Cairo. Al-Mahmma means ‘the Bathing place’ a name given to the town because the Virgin Mary bathed yhe Christ Child and washed His clothes there. On their way back into Palestine, the Holy Family stopped once more at Mostorod and caused a spring to gush from earth still flows forth today. There  are many walks credited to baby Jesus’ stay in Egypt still in existence today and used by many people for healing and to quench physical and Spiritual thirst. 15650136314072668717207106597809.jpg15650131602917997655590875821286.jpg15650137058841916118992256363270.jpg15650138379915733734401461513335.jpg15647671716299194124761044331387.jpgTheir flight continued to Belbeis where Mary Tree used by local citizens for the cemetery. The tree was removed in 1850 from the corner of Al-Ansârî Street. The other stories relate to token memorials of Jesus at Meniet Samanoud and Sakha, Burullus. The journey north to Meniet Samanoud is where the local population received them with kindness and good hospitality that earned them a deserved blessing. There is a large granite trough according to local belief used by Mary to knead dough and a water-well Christ Child, Himself, blessed still seen today. A
footprint of Christ child imprinted on a rock is stored to see  by many people in the Coptic Church in Egypt. According to Bishop Zacharias of Sakhâ Holy Family travels from Samanoud to Burullus via Sakha that tradition says Jesus left His footprint on rock. So place called Bikha Isus Pekha Issous or Lysous Footprint of Jesus. The rock is preserved hidden for centuries until 1984 in public in Sakha recorded in document of philus’ vision attested by Coptic practice Christians. 15650135107787450424615441894790.jpg15650135434734516151163585908850.jpg15650135901896726421233761475197.jpgThey journeyed into Wadi el-Natroun  and arrive at Wadi El Natroun Natroun Valley after crossing the Rosetta branch of the Nile to western Delta heading to south into Wadi El-Natroun Al Asqeet in the Western Desert of Egypt. In.earliest decades of Christianity, desert expanse to Wadi El-Natroun site of settlements and later many monasteries. And Jesus blessed desert and future settlements so monks occupy the four Wadi ‘n-Natrun  monasteries. Continued southwards the Holy family passed Fortress of Babylon in.Old Cairo and saw pyramids of Giza. According to tradition there used to be a palm tree at Giza under which Mary nursed Baby Jesus. This palm tree was tree in the region bears fruit eaten.On arrival at Wadi El-Natroun Natroun Valley after crossing the Rosetta branch of the Nile to the western Delta headed south into Wadi El-Natroun called Al Asqeet in Western Desert of Egypt. And on to Al Bahnassa and Samalout went on from there to spot later named Abai Issous, “the Home of Jesus” the site of present-day Sandafa village, east of Al Bahnassa some thirteen miles west of town of Beni Mazar. The Blessed Mary took her Son and watched over Him for God gave Him wisdom to teach all, this 
is still true to believers. They went from Bahnassa to Samalout and crossed Nile again from that town to spot on the east bank of the River where the Monastery of Virgin now stands upon Gabal Al-Tair Bird Mountain east of Samalout, south of Meadeyat Beni Khaled. Holy Family rested in cave located inside the ancient Church. Gabal Al-Tair is called Gabal El-kaf Palm Mountain. Coptic tradition say the Holy Family rested in the shade of the mountain, Jesus stretched His little hand rock to stop from mountain side so His imprint of His palm is still visible.

When they resumed their travels, the Holy Family laurel tree a stone’s throw south of Gabal El-Tair, along pathway flanking the Nile and leading from the mountain to Nazlet-Ebeid and the New Minia Bridge of today. That tree bowed to worship Lord Christ as passing. The tree is unique all branches downwards, trailing on the ground, turn upwards again, covered i  cloak of green leaves. They call tree Al-Abed “Worshipper.6

Minya – Sondos Ahmed Continuing their journey through Upper Egypt crossing to west side of the river to Assuit, where they stayed for six months. The longest spent in the place during their journey through Egypt is where Joseph had the dream in which an angel told him that Herod the great was dead and was safe to return to Palestine. After spending more than three years in Egypt the Holy Family started the journey back, taking the same route to Palestine. The place they stayed in Assuit is Al-Qussia, where Al-Muharraq Monastery later built and still stands today. Once more by crossing the Nile, back to its west bank, the Holy Family traveled southwards to town of Al-Ashmounein or Harmopolis Magna but did not tarry long there. Left behind fallen idols to Dairout Al-Sharif like Al-Ashmounein Greek named Philes and to Qussqam or Qost-Qoussia. There exists a story of the warm welcome Holy family refugees moved to the next stop at Meir or Meira west of Qoussia. They found a kind hospitality so the town and people were abundantly blessed. Destination in the land of Egypt is a place they built an Altar to the LORD in the land of Egypt in Gabal Mount Qussqam. The Monastery of Al-Moharraq was built around area where Holy Family remained over six months. Their time spent in the cave in the Coptic era the altar of the Church of Mary and the altar stone was the resting place of the Child Jesus during months He dwelt there. Some refer to it as the Second Bethlehem. It is believed is the spot Al-Moharraq Monastery stands and angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream, and said “Arise, take the young Child and His mother and go back to the land of Israel for they are dead all who seek the young Child’s life says Matthew 2:20. The church dedicated to Blessed Mary in Dair al-Moharraq was the first church built in Egypt. It is believed that it was built immediately after St. Mark’s arrival in Egypt around 60 AD. Return route deviated from one they came. It took them to city of Assiut and blessed locations commemorate the Christian buildings of mountaintop convent of the Virgin Mary chastity meditating to God.415647695989351293166802210656252.jpg15647718419366416825063876946834.jpg15647712266209045641125033054206.jpg15647716181057066058634311693047.jpg1564771488438193546246232715775.jpg15647722291825170952994978781330.jpgBiblical history says at the end of it all, they arrived home in Joseph’s old house in small town of Nazareth in Galilee. It’s from the land of Jewish Palestine where message of Christ in fullness of time will be heard. Journey from Bethlehem and a return to Nazareth lasted over three years and covering about 1242.80 miles. They travelled on a donkey and sailboat on Nile. These 25-stop-journeys in Egypt churches and monasteries from Gaza to North Sinai through Wadi Al-Arish and Al-Farama Pelusium southeast in a Nile Delta. They stopped at Al-Basta on their way in a place of monastery first home to of worship plus meditating to God. A flight into Egypt Al-Matarya district and Al-Zaytoun stops of Holy Family journey in Toman Bey Street Al-Zaytoun Church some church visitors report sightings of appearing near the church’s domes.IMG-20190805-WA0009.jpg15647696687232513344905955504971.jpg
Virgin Mary Church at Zaytoun Moving on to “Old Cairo” (Al-Fustaat), the Holy Family stayed for a short period of time in cave turned later to Abi Serja Church, inside Roman Fortress of Babylon. After they moved on to Al-Maadi district and stayed in location later turned to “Virgin Mary” Church. Sailed a boat south the Nile stream crossing east bank of river. Where Monastery of the Virgin on top of Gabal Al-Kaf is now located. Gabal Al-Kaf translates Mountain of the Palm is where Jesus is left imprint of His palm on the stones of mountain. Continued their journey through the Upper Egypt crossing back to western side of river to Assuit they stayed six months. It was the longest period spent in the same place during the journey through Egypt. And is where Joseph had a dream an angel told him that Herod the great was dead so safe to return to Palestine. After they spent more than three years in Egypt it then Holy Family started their journey back taking same route to Palestine. The place in Assuit is known as Al-Qussia or Al-Muharraq Monastery later built and still stands today. Place stayed in Assuit Al-Qussia Al-Muharraq Monastery was later on built and still stands today.7
Addeir Al-Moharraq – Al-Qussia – Assiut  As Pope Francis made it Roman Catholic pilgrimage route is expected to promote religious tourism in Egypt. Eight stops of the 25 chosen to form the main stops of these pilgrimage route. The pilgrimages starts in the city of Al-Arish, North Sinai, crosses to Eastern Delta of Nile reaching Wadi Al-Natroun. Number of important Coptic monasteries include the St. Mary Church in Mostorod, Saints Sergius and Bacchus Church and Garnos Monastery. In living history the Bible is confirmed as Joseph was warned in dream. Herod died the family returned from Egypt in 4 BCE. Herod Archelaus succeeded his father in Judea so they went to Galilee. Archelaus was so cruel in response to people’s complaints in 6 AD is deposed  by Augustus and banished to Vienne  in Gaul. Galilee was ruled by Archelaus brother, Herod Antipas. Matthew 2:23 says the return to Nazareth fulfilled the prophecy, “He shall be called Nazarene” in Isaiah 11:1, “A shoot will come from stump of Jesse from his roots a Branch will bear fruit.” Hebrew word “branch” means nezer and His disciples called the Nezarenes. Acts 24:5 says, What do You want with us Jesus of Nazareth, Master of the disciples. The Church of Nazarene and disciples of Jesus were as originally called the Nezarenes. Jesus calls Himself Nazarene to Paul in Acts 22:8 when he confronted Paul on way to Damascus to persecute the Christians.  The journey of Holy Family in Egypt is recorded by the Coptic Church follows exact path taken. 15647655726303558687336232351551.jpg15650134058157648650473818335824.jpg15650145416886883446397429289675.jpg15650146754766124226511878336471.jpg15650144556876398706482817113942.jpg15650143884118620840048854420774.jpg15650134365218379220791181379860.jpgIMG-20190802-WA0024.jpgJourney starts from Bethlehem to Gaza to El Zaraniq Floussiat 37 km west El Arish. To northern Sinai in Farma or ancient Pelusium mid-way between El Arish and Port-Said. To Tel Basta near Zagazig, in Sharqiah Governorate about 81 km northeast of Cairo, Jesus’ water sprung from ground. Into Mostorod 10 km from Cairo called Al Mahamma, the Bathing place, Mary bathed Christ Child and washed His clothes. On way back to Palestine Holy Family passed Mostorod again and spring gushed from the earth, flowing till present day. Northeastwards to Belbeis (ancient Philippos), back into Sharqiah Governorate, at a distance of about 55 km from Cairo. They rested in  shade of tree called, “The Virgin Mary’s Tree.” Holy Family continued journey north and passed by Zagazig. In Meniet Sammanoud Meniet Genah they passed by town Daqadous the church of Mary is found water-well Holy Family drank. Crossed Nile to city Sammanoud in the Delta were received with kindness and hospitality. A large granite trough used for kneading dough and the water-well Christ Child blessed. To north-west, Holy Family traveled Sakha, in lake-district of Burullus, present-day Governorate of Kafr El-Sheikh. Jesus Foot PekhaIssous  is Holy Child’s footprint marked in relief rock. The rock is preserved, hidden for centuries unearthed on 27 September 1984. Towns and cities in Governorates of Gharbia, Kafr El –Sheikh traditions say used to the Belqas wastelands. St. Bishoy - Wadi NatrounFrom Sakha, came to Wadi El Natroun (Natroun Valley) after crossing Rosetta branch of Nile to Western Delta, south to Western Wadi El Natroun (Scetis) so  crossed the Rosetta branch of the Nile to the Western Delta, and headed south into Wadi El Natroun (Scetis) in Western Desert of Egypt. Passed by the spring of Al Humra, infant Jesus caused a water spring from ground the well called Beer Mariam (Mary’s Well) today.  Christian Wadi El Natroun is site of the monastic settlements and commemoration of the Holy Family’s passage in valley. So left desert southwards across Nile, eastern bank to Matariya, Ain Shams ancient Heliopolis in Cairo, 10 km from the city center. At Ain Shams Jewish community, temple Synagogue of Unias for worship. In Matariya tree  day called the “Mary’s Tree.” The Family rest in shade and the infant Jesus caused water to flow from spring they drank and blessed. Mary washed His clothes, poured washing water on the ground spot is the fragrant balsam plant blossom. Healing, pain soothing balm is essence used in scents and perfumes of holy Chrism. In Old Cairo, Holy Family rested in Zeitoun, to Cairo landmarks of a Coptic heritage marking paths Holy Family. In called Old Cairo, Misr el Kadima brief visit by Holy Family. Governor of Fustat idols  fell at Jesus’ approach sought to kill the Child. Took shelter in the cave Church of Abu Serga St. Sergius. They moved south Maadi, Pharaonic to Memphis capital of Egypt. Boarded a sailing boat Nile to southern Egypt. Historic church built on spot embarked dedicated to “Al Adaweya,” Virgin’s Church “of Ferry” in Maadi, Arabic word “crossing time with stonesteps lead to River’s bank by Holy Family or pilgrims in Church courtyard.15650231719345177325429646183144.jpg15647746591524750616617573836161.jpg15648206312166047298118212240313.jpg15648205249871418165775925570653.jpg15647750292113261430125356731064.jpgOn Friday the 3rd of the Coptic month of Baramhat, 12 of March, 1976, a Bible floated along ripples of Nile to bank by the Church opened to Isaiah 19:25 says: “Blessed be Egypt My People.” The Bible is in glass in Sanctuary of in the Church. Sail-boat docked at village of Ashnein El Nassara or Deir el Garnous Monastery of Arganos 10 km west of Ashnein El Nassara near Maghagha. Western wall of church of Virgin deep well provided Holy Family with water needed. Then to a spot Abai Issous, “the Home of Jesus,” the site of present-day Sandafa village, east of Al Bahnassa 17 km west town Beni Mazar. To Samalout, crossed Nile again to spot on east bank of River the Monastery of the Virgin stands Gabal al Tair east Samalout, thousands of birds there. Holy Family rested in cave in an ancient Church there. Coptics say Holy Family rested in shade of the Mountain, Jesus stretched His little Hand to hold rock about to fall from mountain-side on them imprint of His palm still visible. The Holy Family passed the laurel tree  south of Gabal El Tair by Nile from the Mountain to Nazlet-ebeid Minia Bridge. 15647657550798137027371597634471.jpgThe tree bowed to worship Jesus as He was passing Tree branches downwards on the ground and upwards covered in green leaves called: “al abed” or “the Worshipper.” Passed by Beni-Hassan to town of Al Ashmounein or Hermopolis Magna. There idols fell but they blessed Al Ashmounein to Dairout Um Nakhla Jesus spring of water flow. Sailed across Nile 10 km south to Qussqam or Qost-Qoussia infuriated stone statue of idol cracked and fell evicted the Holy Family from town. Qussqam, Coptic tradition asserts ruined as consequence of violent rejection. The Holy Family in the land of Egypt, built “altar to the LORD in midst of the land of Egypt.” The Gabal (mount) Qussqam, named from town laid waste, is 327 km south of Cairo, Governorate of Assiut, Monastery of Al Muharraq west foothills of the Mountain.15647670730353519001504066386624.jpg15650125485287456901946279490158.jpgBuilt the area where Holy Family stayed six months in a cave Coptic altar Church of Virgin Mary monastery compound. Is altar stone resting place of Child Jesus during months there. Monastery and its surrounding Coptic Christian ethos. It is spot Al Muharraq Monastery an angel of LORD appeared to Joseph in a dream and said: “Arise and take young Child and His mother into the land of Israel; for they are dead which sought young Child’s life, in Mathew 2:20. They return journey on the same route but deviated slightly from first Western Mountain, 8 km southwest of city of Assiut. Location commemorated by Christians building a mountain-top Convent of Mary. In Old Cairo Matariya Mahamma retrace steps journey across Sinai into Palestine. The return journey Jesus to Israel in 4BC as Herod died to Nazareth. The Gospel in Luke 2:22-40 Mary and Joseph took their Infant Jesus to the Temple in Jerusalem  after forty days of His birth to complete Mary’s ritual purification of childbirth. Perform the redemption of the firstborn son in obedience to the Leviticus 12, the  Exodus 13:12–15. Luke says Joseph and Mary provided for poor people instead of lamb sacrifice in Temple. Leviticus 12:8, sacrificing of pair of turtledoves or two young pigeons.” In Leviticus 12:1- 4  event takes place forty days after birth for male child. Presentation celebrated forty days after birth of Christ. Jesus in temple encountered Simeon. The Gospel records Simeon promised ” not to see death before sees Lord’s Christ” in Luke 2:26. Simeon prayed, blessed Jesus, told future of Jesus Mary kept in her heart. 15648316192607707449909183363327.jpg

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WHAT DID JESUS SAY ON TAX

IMG-20190718-WA0003.jpgMatthew 17:24-27;22:15, Mark 12; Luke 20, Jesus said, Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar, to God what belongs to God. The Biblical accounts of Gospels in Capernaum said tax collectors of two drachma temple tax asked Peter if Jesus pays tax, he said He does. If Jesus paid taxes then what did Jesus teach His disciples? Matthew records two taxes  Jesus paid in Matthew 17:24-27; 22:15-22 temple tax and tax to government in Rome. People asked Jesus: “Is it right to pay taxes to Caesar?” It was a ploy to set a trap for Jesus. But He saw through their attempt to manipulate Him and falsely accuse Him of asking people not to pay. 15634591710442531419311844554429.jpgSo obliged to pay the tax, Jesus paid His taxes with the coin from the mouth of a fish Peter caught. Tax collector cornered Peter and asked if Jesus paid the temple tax. Later in Matthew 17:2427 Jesus said to Peter at home, “Simon, does the kings collect taxes from their own children or from other people? Peter answered the others. And Jesus replied we don’t want to cause trouble go cast a net in the lake and the first fish you catch open mouth, and you will find a coin. Use coin to pay your taxes and mine.” Take it and give them for my tax and yours.”15634589315132523190425229438762.jpgJesus told the Pharisees and Herodians to give to Caesar things belong to Caesar in Mark 12. The issue is controversial as people disagree on how the government spends money. Some people feel angry because their needs are not met though they pay tax. The Bible example of Jesus to pay taxes again in Gospel of Matthew Mark and Luke are other account of the Pharisees trying to trap Jesus to find the reason to accuse him. In Matthew 22:15-22 Pharisees went out and laid plans to trap Jesus to use His words against Him.Jesus on Taxes in the BiblePharisees disciples with Herodians said “Teacher,” they said, “we know you are sincere so teach the way of God in truth. You are not influenced by men. Tell us, what is your opinion? Is it right to pay taxes to Caesar or not?” Jesus, knowing their evil intention said, “You hypocrites why are you trying to trap me? Show a coin for paying tax.” They brought him a denarius and He asked them, “Whose head inscription?” They said, “Caesar’s. Then He said to them, “Give to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God belongs to God.” When they heard this, they were amazed so they left him and went away.20190718_152609.jpgIf Jesus refused ​to pay or He condemned Caesar they will accuse Jesus of inciting rebellion. People had no choice but to pay as Jesus also did. And Zachaeus a tax collector climbed a tree to see Jesus passing by. Impressed Jesus dined in his home during meal he decided to restore money he extorted by collecting taxes in Mark 2:13-17. In Psalm 24:1, The earth is the LORD’S and everything in it but life requires money to function, pay staff, provide services, resources, processing, printing costs, transporting goods. And maintaining the structures and repairs restoration, regeneration, grounds and gardens etc. Too numerous to list costs of services provided by the nations. Amazon, Google, Wealthy Offshore accounts do not pay tax proportionately fairly like others.20190718_152057.jpgJesus and His disciples voluntarily gave to the Temple tax and state to set a good example. Taxes paid directly to local tax collectors who decided what people pay. Tax collectors paid by charging people more to earn money.  Levi, the apostle was the customs official in Capernaum taxed imports and exports as he liked. The Jews hated him because he worked for Rome and betrayed his countrymen.  Zacchaeus was a chief tax collector for the Jericho district notorious for taxes changed meeting Jesus of Nazareth.15634592789297575198766104501144.jpgPeople are saying the tax exemption for Churches are unfair making mega rich pastors super wealthy multimillionaires Church members struggle to pay bills, food, mortgage, health insurance, fees or basic necessities of life. Private jets, mansions get bigger, fleet of cars longer but members poor. Its a major source of tension rich multi billionaires are state sponsored in extravagant lifestyles. Schools reduce hours, hospitals cut staff budget reduced. The churches use tithe, offerings, donations, for salaries wages, cost of projects, feed orphans, help poor under the radar, homeless, HIV, disaster flood victims, TV ministry, preaching, teaching Gospel Message of Jesus Christ, Evangelism etc. among wonderful work  of God. Admission fee puts people off so first time Benny Hinn was at NEC entry was free. Thousands turned up with no room for overflow solved crowd control next visit with ticket admission. Only a few people turned up venue was almost empty. God said nobody must enter HIS Presence empty handed so Jesus talked about the widow’s mite even poor give. In Exodus 23:15 God said, no one shall appear before ME empty-handed. Also in Exodus 34:20 God said no one must appear before ME empty-handed. Again in  Deuteronomy 16:16 God said do not appear before the LORD empty-handed.20190718_151828.jpgGap between the rich and poor widens causing hunger and the stress, pressure, unemployment, lack, in deprived areas. No resources for disadvantaged so most public servants cannot get on the home ownership ladder. Many depend on the food banks despite their hard work and education. Zero hour job wastes time of trained staff without job or income. And the popular highly influential Christian leaders spew wrong ideas as ‘Christian Ideas.’ Don’t be misled…Study the bible yourself to know the truth of the Word of Christ. Read Bible as JesusFollowers and Christian’s. Some think Churches must follow Jesus’ example to provide fairly for the least in society too. So gap between rich and poor widens as many continue to suffer daily, starve and die in the most advance developed wealthy countries. Unfortunately a Class divide disproportionately allocate lion share to themselves as the world watches them flaunt it in their faces daily. 1 Timothy 6:10 says the LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Craving more money is cause of all evil in doing so wander from true faith so pierce themselves with sorrow.20190718_170247.jpg20190718_152338.jpgIMG-20190717-WA0000.jpgChristian family is fined taxes saying it is against God’s will to pay taxes. The  Christian family refused to pay income tax because its “against God’s will” but are ordered to pay more than A$2m tax (£1.1m $1.4m) to Australia’s tax office. It is Christian debate Rembertus Cornelis Beerepoot and Fanny Alida Beerepoot of Tasmania do not pay income tax since 2011 as their religious right. Their farm was seized and sold by a local council in 2017 for not paying seven years of tax rates. Ms Beerepoot told the court: “We don’t own anything because it is God’s.” The siblings represented themselves in Supreme Court of Tasmania Wednesday, after did not pay $930,000 in income tax or other charges in 2017 ABC News said.The Beerepoots leave court on 17 July 2019Rembertus Cornelis Beerepoot (left) and Fanny Alida Beerepoot (far right) seen here outside the court in Tasmania. Mr Beerepoot argued the law of God is the “supreme law of this land” and making people pay tax weakens dependency on God, leading to “curses… in the form of droughts and infertility.” “Transferring allegiance from God to Commonwealth means rebelling against God breaking first commandment,” he said, according to the public broadcaster. In judgement, Associate Justice Stephen Holt said he believed Beerepoots’ beliefs is genuinely held but there is no specific reference in Bible to support their argument. “In my view, Bible effectively said civil matters and law of God operate in two different spheres.” So the siblings ordered to pay sums of – Ms Beerepoot A$1.17m and Mr Beereport A$1.16m to cover income tax, administrative penalties and all interest charges” and costs in court documents. What do you think about various views?

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COOKING, WASHING, TAMES

Man holding babyCooking, washing clothes, cleaning and childcare, tames men who once thought it was only the women’s job. Like most men, Jean Pierre 32 lives in Mwulire in Eastern Province in Rwanda and leaves domestic chores to his wife. Impatient, angry, demands perfection due to lack of awareness that a woman’s job is 24/7 so never ends day or night. He becomes aggressive if his wife did not meet the standards of his expectations so beats her. A grassroots intervention program trying to reduce domestic violence in Rwanda teaches men how to do household chores, and a recent study suggested it has a positive effect on communities. So Muhoza Jean Pierre used to beat his wife because he saw her as someone he married just to have children and and look after them. “I was following example of my father. My father did not do anything at home,” he said. “If ever I came home and found something not done yet I insult her. “I called her lazy, told her she was useless so must go back to her parent’s house.” But something changed after he learnt to cook and clean. It was all part of a grassroots intervention programme in Mwulire village in Eastern Province, Rwanda encouraging men’s domestic roles, including childcare. Jean Pierre says the project called, ‘Bandebereho’ or role model in Kinyarwanda helps tamed and transformed his behaviour. He took part in classes covering everything from cooking and cleaning and discuss how to challenge men’s traditional gender roles. “They asked, if a man can sweep the house, and we would say ‘he can’,” he said. “And then they would ask us: ‘Who among you does that?’ And there was no one.”Man cooking next to his wife

Real men shouldn’t cook

Facilitators from ‘Bandebereho’ taught Jean Pierre how to do tasks previously he believed his wife should do. He also added: “We would go home and try to put this into practice. “Then we would go back to training with witnesses who would testify they had observed some changes in us. “I know how to cook. I do laundry for the kids. I know how to peel plantains, I know how to pound dry cassava and sift the flour.” Jean Pierre and his wife have been married for 10 years and never helped her before. And making changes was not easy as Jean Pierre’s friends discouraged him from doing household tasks, telling him: ‘No real man should cook.’ “My family and friends said my wife bewitched me by giving me some magic drugs. They said no genuine man should carry a bundle of firewood in the street because that is for henpecked men,” he said. But Jean Pierre continued when he saw benefits to his family. He says his children feel closer to him and his wife now runs a banana business that has allowed them to improve their home. “The way my wife treats me now is different from the way she used to treat me,” he said. “She used to treat me badly because I was mistreating her too, but now we discuss and agree on things to do. “I set her free, now she is working and I am working too; whereas before I was convinced she had to stay home and be available whenever I would need her.” Fear and little freedom affected Jean Pierre’s wife Musabyimana Delphine who says she used to have little freedom and lived in fear. She said: “Sometimes I felt like a mere worker, and I would remember a worker has a salary. “I never thought a woman can ever have her own money, because I never even had time to think about any activity that generate money. “Now I have enough freedom in house, I go out and work for money like others. Start training young boys now so when they grow up they will help their wife and help look after the children. When both work, it’s a burden on the woman to care for the family or children alone.man washing a plateThe ‘Bandebereho’ project taught Jean Pierre to do tasks previously believed his wife should do. Delphine leaves at 5am to sell plantains at a market, while Jean Pierre stays at home and takes care of their four young children. “I come home relaxed and find food ready,” she said. The project’s curriculum originally developed in Latin America by global fatherhood campaign MenCare believes true equality will only be reached when men take on 50% of world’s childcare and domestic work. The research looks into changing men’s attitudes towards family care and traditional domestic. It was soon realised the good impact on men. A study looking at couples taking part in the project found two years after taking childcare lessons in Rwanda men were less likely to use violence against their female partners than those who did not attend the classes. But the study suggested one in three women whose partners took part in the programme still reported experiencing intimate partner violence. National Institute of Statistics of Rwanda, released a data in 2015, around 52% of men in the country were violent towards partners. Rwanda Men’s Resource Centre, which delivered the programme in the country, wants ‘Bandebereho’ to be widely adopted by communities and country’s government. Fidele Rutayisire the chairman of centre, said: “We still have negative social norms, negative masculinity perception cultural barriers as main factors of high violence against women in Rwanda. “Traditionally men don’t take care of children here but men control sex, resources, decision-making. “When men are actively involved in the home they realise sacrifices of women in childcare so their attitude on gender changes positively, they understand the value of gender equality.” Delphine and Jean Pierre said the program benefited their family and the whole community. “We are now on honeymoon, 10 years after our wedding,” said Jean Pierre. If there is conflict or security issue in our neighbourhood our opinion is respected because they see we don’t have problem in our household. Men appreciate and help their wives and not demand they do all the housework or take care of the family, business, Church alone without support of husbands. A happy wife is a happy life and the Bible says love your wife as Christ loved His bride Church and gave His life for you. Timothy says a husband must first look after his family and own household before serving the Church. Don’t neglect your wife and the children in the NAME OF GOD leisurely talking to single women while your wife and children at home suffer. Remember your wife is that same beautiful single woman you married and used her body to give birth to your children. And don’t abandon her for fresh young woman to give birth later to become abandoned as wife. This causes baby mama problems because men want to eat their cake and have it. So wants exclusive attention of wife at the expense of the children some are jealous of. Forget their parents took great care of them as done to children. Grow up and be father to the children to mature a responsible man not manchild depending on wife as mother. For even the Son of Man Jesus did not come to be served but to serve and give His life as a ransom for many says Mark 10:45.

  • 27 November 2018
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OXFORD CHRISTIAN CAMPS

Oxford_skyline_0The students at the University of Oxford voted to ban a Christian group from one of their colleges because it will threaten their “physical and mental safety.” The JCR at Lady Margaret Hall have voted overwhelmingly in favour of banning Christian Concern group from hosting a residential summer camp on the Oxford premises because their values do not align with those of the college. Christian Concern members protested outside the abortion clinics and its founder Andrea Williams believes in the criminalisation of homosexuality. She claimed the earth is only 4,000 years old not the 4.5 billion years by science community. The group wants to host the residential camp for young people, aims to train and equip the invited students on what it means to proclaim Christ in public life, but JCR members vote rejects the residency by a margin of 81 votes to eight, with two absentia. According to student newspaper OxStu, “members of the JCR spoke in the debate recognised Christian Concern as “real threat to the physical and mental safety of students.” One student made point “we’re inviting them into our home and we can’t invite people who stand against our values.” The debate was consultative, but the college’s governing body will make its final decision next week. The move is understood to be driven by the LGBT students who say they wouldn’t feel so welcome if the college gives platform to the Christian camp. There is a perceived threat because of organisation’s history of pro-life choice protests outside the abortion clinics. The camp is supposed to take place next summer, before term starts but no fixed date has been set. Although the vast majority of students will not be at the college, some will be on site doing research projects. Around 60 postgraduates live permanently on site. In a statement to The OxStu, Oxford student newspaper, a JCR spokesperson said: “The JCR met to discuss and pass a motion that they oppose the Christian group coming. But, until a decision is made, it would not be appropriate to comment further.”

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MARRIED 45 GAVE BIRTH 47

God’s Time is the best to fulfil the plans and purpose for your life to Glorify God as Gifty Anti’s testimony shows. This is the Lords doing and it is marvellous in our eyes. Wait on GOD ALMIGHTY and do not lean on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge God, HE WILL BRING TO PASS IN JESUS NAME. This powerful message is to encourage all people to Seek God’s Face especially for marriage. Do not marry because you feel it’s too late so rush into relationship to destroy you in the end. So many fear they may not get married after a certain age, convince themselves so share the husband of another woman. They miss their own husband due to impatience so regretted later and wished they waited for God. Delay is not denial so better to build up good character and reputation to wait as a virtuous woman. The same goes for men marrying the children too young with undeveloped body to bear a weight of children or be a matured wife. GLORY to God for matured women that are fully grown and to handle marriage better. Those miserable and lonely who think marriage solves all problems must love themselves first to bring good vibes into the marriage. Spend quality time to enjoy the single years dedicated to God and busy minding your own business. It is true marriage is beautiful, wonderful and fulfilling because God created the first marriage in Garden of Eden. God said, it is not good to be alone so made Eve out of Adam’s rib to join one flesh.

Marriage ordained by God so important to organise marriage as God planned and intends. Adam and Eve are created as fully grown adults with all available resources before their marriage was created by God. Time of singlenesss is time preparation towards marriage because such precious times cannot be regained after marriage. The single person is married to God in Christ so devoted to things of God Bible says. A popular saying is that marriage is like a woollen blanket itches when covered by it and cold without it. Those inside it are desperate to get out while those outside can’t wait to get in. Marriage is so great and wonderful because two better than one strengthening each other when the going gets tough. A real life marriage is not just like a fantasy drama of actors pretending to be couples on TV reciting written scripts and paid. Do not base a choice of a life partner on TV drama or Mills and Boons romantic fantasy novel although it contains elements of truth of real life. Marriage that endures lifetime is deeper than TV drama marriage takes the Grace, Mercy and Favour of God to endure the challenges and adversity of life together as a couple. And marriage is NOT HAPPILY EVER AFTER always as novels say it is practical real life matters of building family, relationship with the in-laws, humility, respect for people in the families, Honour, respect and never just the two couples involved. Be ready to become part of bigger family looking after interests of others not just yourself as God planned. Couples celebrate their wedding interact with family to support them in time of need. And never isolate yourselves to be in love to burn bridges because after the dust settles you need all those people to help the marriage to thrive. Isolated marriages are too close for comfort puts too much stress on each other to ruin marriage. A single person is WHOLE PERSON made in the IMAGE OF GOD. So stop thinking you are incomplete without marriage if not married yet or chooses not to marry marriage is not a competition of friends. Do not rush into marriage because you feel left behind by agemates. A real life journey is personal and individual, seek the face of God before marriage. 

Polyandry marriage of women married to more than one husband is common in India, Nigeria, China, Mountain tribes of Asia where there are more women than men. Similar words are polygyny, bigamy and deuterogamy. The Bible says 7 women will take hold of one man and say we are self-sufficient, so have everything already, we just want to be called by your name “Mrs.” Solomon and 700 wives and his 300 concubines, feminists now demand equal rights of polyandry to be like men. God allowed Abraham, Jacob, David among others to have many wives. Though God said, one man join one wife as ONE FLESH people are greedy so want more. After all God and Jesus are too HOLY without sexual needs, without a wife, so how on earth are they going to understand human needs of the flesh? The signs of end time debauchery and lasciviousness like the days of Noah and Sodom and Gomorrah Jesus has warned about will happen be before His coming again. Hope you are all well by the Grace of God. Pray with intense fasting intercession to break family covenant of spiritual marriage you are dedicated to fighting real life spouse. Secrets are not shared by parents so seek deliverance in Jesus Name for a breakthrough. Don’t consult psychics, necromancers, fortune tellers, native doctor herbalist, witch doctor for marriage because you will be initiated to satan and demons will marry you to prevent real life marriage. It may seem they gave you husband or wife but it is loaded with evil because satan does not give anything free without taking back a life of family members to kill, destroy or make them suffer in life. So may not realise your connection to idol shrine is the cause of all family sickness, poverty, and premature deaths. Ancestors sought ‘protection’ from: evil witchcraft, wars, land disputes, chieftaincy by sacrificing the family to shrines. Such generational covenants are known or unknown to family members suffering today. The LORD GOD ALMIGHTY is the source of life and giver of marriage so follow the plan if God for your life. Do not listen to those who ruined their life embarrassed by your virtuous life to deceive you to ruin your life. They may call you “an old maid” left on the shelf but GOD’S TIME is the BEST in Jesus Name. All laughing and mocking you now will see the Glory of God in your life and your testimony in Jesus Name. Others decide to do their own deceived by those who want their life destroyed to spur on to disgrace them. Beware and stand on the word of God for inspiration, hope, assurance in Christ and trust God in Spirit and Truth to beautify your life in His Own Time for you. You will enjoy your marriage because you are  faithful to God so HE WILL Make A WAY for you where there is no way in Jesus Name. The Bible in Exodus 21:10, says a man can marry an infinite amount of women without limits to how many to marry. And in 2 Samuel 5:13; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, and in 14:3, King David had six wives and his numerous concubines. Also in 1 Kings 11:3, King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Again in 2 Chronicles 11:21, King Solomon’s son Rehoboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines. And in Deuteronomy 21:15 A man with two wives loves one but not the other and both bear sons favours one more. The laws of each land dictate the number of spouse according to that culture.  

IMG_20180915_131117If you have Spiritual Father and Mother in Christ go and talk to them privately about your desire to get married. Study Biblical marriage to read good books on marriage from God to help understand marriage better. Ensure you are able to provide marital needs like rent, food, work to have money to pay the bills, to first take care of yourself before you go to add children’s needs into a marriage for more responsibility. Love alone is not enough because love does not pay bills or provide food just because you declare or flaunt how madly you are in love on social media. Be happy first in yourself, see marriage as bonus adding value to your life rather than depending on person to fulfil your life. Impossible to demand spouse totally fulfil all areas of your life needs because you love and married them. You demand they be God who is ONLY ONE Provider that way. Its misunderstanding to destroy marriage because of your assumption a partner will meets all your needs but you do not tell them what your need is. You insist they read your mind to do all you want from them without TALKING to them or doing good to them in return. Marriage is not a ONE WAY culdesac no return of favour done to you. Negotiate with family through the good servant of God with your family in partnership for a spouse. Even if church helps you find spouse include family or if family finds you spouse include the church if a born again believer. You need them along the journey of married life for sure honour family and stay in church in marriage ordained by God. Families give account to God on judgement day so remember God will deal with you as you deal with spouse and fam vily. Check your heart for motives of marriage to be sure you love, show kindness, peace, joy, so loyal, forgives, self-control, laughter help each other, family after honeymoon is over reality sets in. Marriage not for the fainthearted so treat it with respect, honesty, trust be transparent for your own good to help save to preserve your married life in peace. Continue to pray intensely as you did when seeking that life partner to defeat and conquer the onslaught of forces that contend with the marriage. Do not relax and think nobody fights over conquered fortress to settle down so ignore spouse. This is beginning of married life of challenges in relationship. With God all things are possible so be alert watch out pray, seek deliverance in Mighty Name of Jesus!!!

IRON DEFICIENCY ANAEMIA

Iron-rich foodsDo you get enough iron from your diet? If not, liver red meat, green vegetables, nuts and seeds are good dietary sources of iron. And if you often feel tired, short of breath or you feel you heart beating faster inside your chest go for check up from your doctor. If friends commented you look unusually pale iron deficiency anaemia, is the world’s most common nutritional disorder in UK, common among young women. Analysis by the government’s Scientific Advisory Committee Nutrition (SACN) on iron and health in 2011 indicated 21% of women aged between 19 and 34 had below recommended level ferritin of iron is stored in the body. I recently suggested to a friend with the symptoms to get herself checked out by her GP. A blood test revealed she was so anaemic it was surprising she could still walk upstairs. A few iron tablets sorted her out. It’s worth adding that you should talk to your GP if you’re considering taking them – you might not need them and your symptoms could be caused by something else. The body can’t produce iron, so you have to get it in your diet whether through foods that naturally contain it or those fortified with iron, such as white bread and breakfast cereal. The problem is not all of iron is in a form you can actually absorb.Trust Me teamTo get iron from food eat leafy green vegetables raw, steamed, but do lightly boil your spinach. Eat or the fruit juice containing vitamin C with meals And a fermented bread is best for ealth. The Trust Me I’m a Doctor asked nutrition scientist Prof Paul Sharp, from King’s College London, to find the foods you should be eating to boost iron levels naturally. Red meat is rich in the sort of iron bodies find easy to absorb but these days many people are either cutting back on red-meat consumption or cutting it out altogether. And there are good sources of iron in dark-green leafy vegetables, such as kale and spinach, and pulses, such as peas and lentils. The problem is you don’t absorb as much iron from plant sources as you do from red meat. Then, there is the iron you can get from fortified bread and breakfast cereals, though again it is not always in a very absorbable form. To demonstrate this, a neat party trick is to grind up the cereal, add some warm water and you can actually use a magnet to draw the iron filings out of the mush. Wait for your coffee. How you prepare your food and what you drink with it can change how much iron you absorb. To demonstrate this, Prof Sharp carried out experiments to mimic human digestion. The tests mimicked the effect of the enzymes involved in digesting food and the chemical reaction that occurs in human gut cells to show how much iron would be absorbed. Prof Sharp showed that if you drink orange juice with your fortified breakfast cereal you absorb much more iron than when eating the cereal on its own – because orange juice contains vitamin C, makes it easier to absorb iron from food. Disappointingly, if you drink coffee with your morning bowl of cereal, then that will mean you absorb significantly less iron.CabbageRaw cabbage anyone? According to Prof Sharp, it’s because coffee is full of chemicals called polyphenols that are very efficient at binding to the iron and making that iron less soluble. So, if a fortified cereal is your breakfast of choice, then having a small glass of orange juice or an orange will help increase your iron uptake. You might also want to consider postponing your morning coffee until at least 30 minutes after you’ve eaten.But what if you prefer getting your iron from more natural sources? Raw cabbage is a good source of available iron but we found that steaming it lessened the amount of available iron while boiling reduced it even further. That’s because, like oranges, cabbage is rich in vitamin C – and when you boil it, the vitamin C is released into cooking water. If you want to get the maximum nutrients from your cabbage, eat it raw (an acquired taste) or steam it. The same is true of other veggies that contain both iron and vitamin C, such as kale, broccoli, cauliflower and watercress. But, strangely enough, spinach is completely different. We found that when we boiled the spinach, it actually released 55% more “bioavailable” iron than when eaten raw. Prof Sharp says: “Spinach has compounds, called oxalates, and they basically trap the iron. “When we cook spinach, the oxalate is released into the cooking water, and therefore the iron that remains will be more available for absorption.” Finally, what about the bread? We found the best bread for delivering iron was sourdough bread. That’s because wheat contains a chemical called phytic acid that slows down iron absorption by body. When sourdough bread is made, the fermentation process breaks down the phytic acid so the iron that remains is more available for absorption. There are more diet tips on the Trust Me website.

Trust Me I’m a Doctor continues on BBC Two on Wednesday, September 12, at 20:00