Be happy in yourself and do not blame others because life is not only about you exclusively to demand always a 24hour self-centred attention from others who love you. A trend of right to entitlement to be happy at expense of others causes problems in families, society of online. The happiness demanding attention is ruining relationships. Some demand a nonstop unrealistic pressure from loved ones all moments be spent only with them day or night. So time taken to do things or working to provide for them is considered ‘dehumanizing neglect’ for not catering always for them only. Onus of their life is always shifted to others to become totally responsible for them. So like emotional babies, do not realise that growing up means taking a full responsibility for actions. Therefore permanently blame others for problems of their lives or for being born in wrong the environment to undesired parents whose fault made them as they are. Do not put all the anger, and bitterness on those who care about you most. As long as they receive help from everyone at all times without need to help others they feel fine. Dare others ask them to be patient or to wait for their turn often become angry or agitated throwing things at people or breaking things to hurt owners. These behaviour often starts from tantrums of terrible twos not corrected by their innocence not to offend them. Some sulk and cry for hours on end or, develop headaches from crying so cycle is repeated over and over again. A bad upbringing ranges from the spectrum of lack of discipline, correction, ADHD or autism not diagnosed early taking its toll into adulthood. Pride, ego, defiance, anti establishment becomes the norm so used to getting own ways for too long. A genuine effort to support and help them seen as intrusion although often naive of the outcome of their actions. Most of the time the very family considered not good enough for them end up picking up the pieces of their trail of damage to others. Always in denial of reality never aware of effects of their behaviour on a family, relatives, friends or children. In extreme cases traumatize or hurt others incapable of understanding risks or the consequences of an action in advance before it happens. Constantly operate in high-strung emotion demand that those around them always walk on egg shells. Unaware of social rules etiquette unable to tolerate if attention or a conversation is not only about them. So emotionally draining others yet complaining about lack of attention from those doing their best to live with them. Underlying this state of mind is influence of the liberal views of deception that they are their own self-made people unaccountable to nobody so must depend exclusively only on their own ideas, feelings choices egos without recognising impact effect of damage in hurting others. If not dealt with grow into megalomania, tyrants in extreme cases never content with their lot in life. Always want more and more beyond realistic expectations or available resources in life. Suck others dry but still moan about not being given enough attention. Emotionally draining accurately described ‘manic behaviour of such a person does not understand brain function process of information or instructions properly in the interest of the good of all others. Unhappiness causes bile toxic chemicals to affect mood swing, sugar withdrawal symptoms, substance abuses affecting genetics of children from some parents, alcohol, poor communication skills, lack of maturity, background experience that intrude into adult years if unchecked. Other times consequence of their sheer pathological wickedness stems from the habitual actions since childhood. Sadly, in schools, emphasis is more on a head knowledge more than personal growth development and emotional maturity required for a longterm living. Another factor is the attitude of certain men seen as powerful if they are rebellious to authority. Some ‘success’ sometimes equated to a bully who tramples over all others bulldozed their way to achieve their goal, be it on corporate ladder, or in family, church, abusers manipulate or attack those who stand up to them. It is predicted in Bible by Jesus during the end time lawlessness will abound as such people become more haughty, and disobedient to authority hate discipline, lovers of self more than Lovers of God, high minded ever learning but unable to grasp truth. So cannot understand basic rules, respect, consideration for others. Always insists on their way or no way, self-destruct snapping because they refuse to help or correction to save them from themselves. Truth hurts but God says His people are destroyed for lack of proper Godly knowledge and proper understanding of daily roles in relation to others on Earth. Confusion today in society and wars come from inability to compromise or to put others first. Some insist their way is only way manipulate or force others put under pressure but indulge without listening or valuing others due to greed, love of money, fear. Worse of all undergirding greed motives spur them on to destroy others for their selfish gains. It is well-known in living history many lives destroyer by not living and let live lifestyle agreement to agree to disagree to live in peace chucked out of window.
Good mood foods improve good feelings and thinking process due to the residues from chemicals, fertilisers, insecticides, pesticides plus environmental toxins. So those with a history of mental health problems can benefit from good food. The Kellogg brothers originally noticed diet deficiencies affecting mental well being so introduced multivitamin cereals to help eat better. Others diagnosed with ADHD nine years ago, and with OCD, and a generalised anxiety and SPOV ( intense phobia of vomiting) in 2016 were helped to change diet too. Panic attacks was dishearteningly regular feature in a life of one man who recently changed his diet as living proof of good mood foods. By actively seek out anything that could make life easier, heard there was a relationship between mood and food. So intrigued, gained from these benefits of knowing diet affects physical health, in bad ways and good. Fast foods can increase your risk of heart disease, while omega-3, found in nuts and oily fish, can boost heart health. There is growing evidence that what we eat affects our mental health, too. Two of my favourite foods doughnuts and muffins are among the baddies. One study found eating mass-produced baked goods affects the risk of developing depression. Others showed increasing levels of zinc in the diet can actually treat depression.
But I started taking the idea seriously when I discovered that Jenny Edwards CBE, the Chief Exec at the Mental Health Foundation, planning series of lectures on the subject. “We’re planning to explore the facts and bust the myths around nutrition and other lifestyle factors in mental health she says. “There’s a growing evidence base showing that a good diet not only impacts on our physical health, but our mental health too.”I’d noticed this myself. Everyone has weeks that include more cheesy chips, chocolate and fast food than is generally advisable. For me, those weeks are ones of lethargy. One of the ways my ADHD manifests itself is I find it difficult to sit and do nothing. But, when I eat badly, I feel exhausted, with little desire to do anything other than plank my own bed. Not only that, but I’ve noticed that after few days of eating junk food, intrusive thoughts synonymous with OCD I worked hard to overcome in therapy starts to re-appear.
Julia Rucklidge, a professor of clinical psychology at University of Canterbury, New Zealand, has spent the majority of her researching life investigating the role of nutrition in mental health. Julia’s work has predominantly revolved around micronutrients. “They are vitamins B, C, D and E,” she explains minerals like zinc, iron, magnesium. Magnesium, for example, is great for helping people with sleep problems.” According to Professor Rucklidge, it’s not about “one magic food or one magic nutrient it’s combination of nutrients that seems to improve mental wellbeing. Julia believes optimal diet for improving mental health would see a reduction in processed foods, including takeaways, sugary drinks, refined grains and refined sugars. She suggests “moving towards Mediterranean-style diet, where you’re eating fresh fruits, vegetables, healthy fats, nuts, fish.” This is echoed by Sarah Owen, specialist dietitian working in mental health, who believes in a poor mental health can be exacerbated by modern diets, where we’re “eating less fruit and vegetables and having fewer home-cooked meals” than in decades past. I decided to have a ‘healthy’ week, avoiding all processed foods, to see how I felt. I stocked up on vegetables, unsalted nuts, fresh fruit, arrived in office each day with prepared Tupperware container of nutritious salads.
Therefore by day three there was already a substantial difference in my mood. I was waking up before my alarm, my energy levels were steadier, and I felt productive. I made sure I ate fish for omega-3, potatoes and pasta for carbohydrates, lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, a little plain dark chocolate this was supposed to be balanced, after all). By the end of the week was grateful chocolate birthday cake was passed around the office. But I was struck by how much better I felt. The World Health Organization says by 2020, depression will be second leading cause of world disability. No one is claiming mental health issues can be solved solely by changing diets. Jenny Edwards raises concerns about some advice already available. There’s a lot of dubious content online she says. “Any advice given has to be based on facts but it’s a step in the right direction. The Bible in Philippians 4:6-7 says do not be anxious, panic about anything but in everything by prayer supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the PEACE OF GOD, which surpasses all human understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
SELF-ACCEPTANCE is influenced by the sublime messages of society children are receiving in the early years. Later as adults in life they bear the consequences of living with others perceived as less than themselves in the communities. A caring attitude towards self-acceptance from a healthy point of view is to detox vitriol hatred seeds sown in early childhood. Educational courses often have biased racist undertones and social networks reinforce hatred of some children in schools. Subtle suggestions becomes inner critic causing grieve by inability to be the perfect child accepted or as adult in society. Pressure to fulfil unrealistic dreams by comparing oneself to another is underlying strategy causing anger and division in society. Propaganda tells the false stories through books and images to influence innocent minds to become racists. So it is important to look at the context in which the person questions self- hatred spewing negative ideas about themselves projecting self- hatred on towards others. People are comparing themselves by the views of people’s lives on social media, TV and in the news. So it becomes easy to convince yourself that everyone is having a better time than you. Recognise you are strong, list what makes you personally happy and have a sense of meaning of life, inner peace for good success, joy and happiness. Believe in God, love Jesus, yourself and family even if not perfect. Do not look up to the external visible surface lifestyle of others but deep within inside yourself to use gifts and talents God gave you. Lots of money spent lavishly and glamorously lasts only a short season before craving a new thrill. Those you admire look cool in your eyes but have no deep God morals.
Invite Jesus in your heart to strengthen you to overcome self hatred and racism. Change your mindset, do small things to make you feel good like eating healthy food and sleeping well. Play works with children struggling with confidence and low self-esteem. Self-acceptance is to change misinformation, bias to think well of yourself in line with GOD’S plan for your life. Take responsibility for your wellbeing and eliminate stress. Some people feel ashamed about who they are due to propaganda targeting them as inferior. Be really honest with yourself to transform and renew your mind. Talk to yourself in the mirror daily and declare I am fearfully and wonderfully made in the Image of God. Accept flaws, use your voice be the best you can be, confident, sure of self-acceptance to overcome any low self-esteem issues. Know what you want from life above all and let peace of mind and inner joy reign in your heart with sound mind of Christ. In reality it is helpful and useful to build up confidence in own head first. To help others see you as reliable, trustworthy, interdependable. Everybody is unique so celebrate yourself and do not look for any affirmation approval before you feel human. Only you can do what you do so be the best you, you can be. Others will respond or react to how best you present yourself and what you spew out of your own mouth. Misery loves company so a pity party attracts the wrong people into your life making things worse. You can overcome by rejecting negative voices unaware was implanted from childhood damaging your life. Life is easy, simple if you know how and believe in God your maker’s opinion about you. Everything will be okay stay strong this is your year. Focus and believe in yourself to love you first and love others as God’s people.