WE LOVE OUR BIG BODIES

We love our big bodies people call fat and able to do as much as we can by our talents and abilities. We work so hard to accomplish excellence in our fields of expertise yet our size seems to matter to some people more than getting to know us. We are ordinary people doing extraordinary things so enjoy life as much as possible. We decided to speak out on behalf of the people fatshamed to be miserable or to spend their whole life trying to be someone they are not. Some develop anorexia and bulimia by trying to be slim and control their weight. In the extreme cases lost their lives due to pressure to be stereotypical average size whatever that means. Magazine, TV, media, entertainment industry portray an unrealistic image of the majority of women. Young people look up to such images so refuse to eat properly. Photographer Alice Zoo speaks to six women on body positivity and fat activism to support people who face abuse daily go educate the public.

COURTNEY, 24, GRIMSBY

@bodypositivebelle

“I’ve been big from a young age. I was 10, I was diagnosed with underactive thyroid, so each year I’ve put on more weight. I was always really active, so it was strange. New lumps and bumps formed that I didn’t know what to do with. I was bullied a lot throughout my school years I hated my body absolutely hated it. It really affected my mental health. When I was in college, I went on a big, long-term diet and lost five stone. I was a lot slimmer though I was big but I realised I wasn’t a better person, I wasn’t beautiful, I wasn’t amazing. I was still same person, but a lot less happy. Then I discovered Instagram. I remember seeing the first girl that used a body positive hashtag and I thought she looked amazing. I remember seeing the first girl’s body positive hashtag so I thought she looks amazing. But one night someone commented on all of my pictures saying I was fat and looked like someone from Star Wars. I messaged her and asked her why she was doing it. Why she found it fun to hurt someone like that. She replied, and later admitted that she had hang-ups about her own body. She said she felt fat. It made me think that often people are just pushing their own insecurities out. Someone will look at me and think: ‘I don’t want to be that size, I wouldn’t be happy that size, so why should you be happy when you’re fat?’ It makes me sad to think about people struggling so much they think the only way to make themselves feel better is to put someone down. That’s not the way. You can’t be comparing yourself to other people. I know it’s not easy, but the sooner you start to see yourself, how great you are, the better. You won’t need to judge someone by their looks.

ENAM, 23, BIRMINGHAM

@enamasiama

“I love the way I look and feel, because I’m comfortable, don’t feel any different from anyone else. I wake up and see myself as this normal person. I always tell people that I love my belly, I love my boobs. These squidgy parts might be seen as fat to someone else, but to me it’s just comfortable. There’s no-one out there who’s going to tell you that you’re not beautiful when you’re fat, simple as.

Find those who treasure and appreciate you and tell others how good they make you feel. Don’t be a person who always demoralises someone, or always being judgmental, because you have flaws. All have things they need to work on body.

“I have been waiting to be thin most of my life – to lose weight. I’ve put a lot of things on hold. When a kid growing up in Poland, I was quite sickly with upper throat infections and had to go to places we called sanatoriums to get better. Every time I went to one, they would put me on a low-calorie diet. They were always saying that I had to lose weight. Nowadays, when I look at photos from childhood, I don’t see anything wrong. I wasn’t skinny, but I wasn’t fat. But I was made to feel that there was something wrong. A few years ago, I started feeling a growing sense of anger so consuming a lot of feminist blogs and podcasts, and they talked about body positivity and self-love. I got to point where I thought, ‘There’s nothing wrong with the way I look, there’s nothing wrong with the way anyone looks. I’m just going to live my life.’ I stopped waiting to buy nice clothes, I just bought the clothes that fitted me. I started going on holiday. I started wearing a swimsuit and going swimming, which I always used to love when I was a kid. Now my attitude is:
‘Don’t like what you see look elsewhere else!’ N
o longer trying to change myself to fit society so trying to change society so it can fit me. Body positivity is not for fat people or skinny people it’s for everyone. Body positivity is the freedom that comes with being able to be happy with yourself. It gives you so much time to do other things, to travel, to think, to write, to make friends without having to worry about how you look all the time. Everyone could use a bit of body positivity in their life.”

MERCEDEZ, 28, LONDON / CHICAGO @missmermaidezpublic

“I was on a flight recently and I asked for a seat belt extender, I’m totally comfortable asking for – it doesn’t bother me. I was told I would have to pay for it. I said, ‘No thanks’, and they just ignored it, so I went without a seat belt from London to Morocco and back again. People think being fat is our fault. I struggled with not feeling desirable as a teenager. I thought I would never find a partner, that nobody would love me in the body I had. I look back at the time where I hated myself the most and I’m like – I was so cute. Why would anyone think these things? I do feel sensitive about desirability, through relationships and especially the way men have treated me as disposable. But I know that I’m hot. I know that I’m a worthy human being so it has nothing to do with my size. I know my body is some people’s greatest fear, to confront that is uncomfortable. To confront me being happy and living life and feeling healthy whatever that means threatens people’s desires to fit into beauty norm. I think it scares people you exist in the way you haven’t been told you can.”

TARA, 30, NORTHAMPTONSHIRE

@fatandfab88

“Sometimes being fat is awesome, and sometimes it’s difficult. Spaces aren’t designed for larger bodies. And public transport is a nightmare. You need two seats on an plane. But a big body has just as much right as a smaller body.I think as I’ve got older, I just care less. Or I care more about myself and less about what’s expected of me. Being fat feels rebellious. Being fat and loving yourself is something completely different. I used to hate it. I wouldn’t eat. I wanted my skin to be lighter, so when I was in primary school, cover myself in talcum powder. Now, of course, I realise there’s nothing wrong with me. It would help if there were fat dolls out there for kids. Dolls like Barbie, have an unattainable shape. For everyone – of any size, race, whatever it’s not manageable. As I’ve got older, I’ve grown into my body. That’s the best way to say it. It kind of grew on me. When I finally became happy with where I was, when I stopped always trying to improve, that made a big difference. My partner helped loads as well. People think that if you’re fat then you can’t be healthy. You can be really big, and not as healthy as you should be. But then you’re happy, so it’s about weighing up what’s more important. When I’m smaller, I’m a state. I’m a happy size, and a healthy size, for all of me. For my mental health and my physical health, which are almost the same thing.”

SHARON, 30, LONDON

“When I was a kid, I didn’t feel happy in myself. I felt that I was ugly and my self-worth was really low bullied a lot. I developed and came out of myself a bit in my later teens. But it wasn’t until I found out about fat acceptance and fat positivity that I really came into my own. I was able to start looking at my self-worth as being more than whether or not I’m aesthetically pleasing to wider society. Now, some days I think I’m beautiful, other days I don’t. I have the knowledge that when things aren’t great, I can actually break it down and think OK Sharon, it’s not because you’re fat, it’s not because of you, it’s because of society’s impression of you.’ Because you’ve absorbed so many images from the media. There’s nothing wrong with you, it’s just the way that you’ve been made to feel. I’m a lot more in control of how I feel about myself. Fat activism is liberating fat people from social norms, and the discrimination and negativity that comes alongside that. We want society to accept us as human beings whose worth is not defined by weight, appearance or health. The biggest thing is to not make assumptions about why fat people are fat, or that they’re unhealthy. Just ask us. Ask us how we feel about our bodies. Be open-minded.”

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10 TIPS FOR THE UNIVERSITY

1. Manage your workload

Kaylie Knowles, 24, studied at Nottingham Trent University, then did her PGCE at Derby University. She says staying on top of workload is crucial. “I got on just fine doing my undergrad at Trent, but my final year at Derby was a very stressful year leading me to four or five meltdowns across the year. “All I’d say is prioritise your workload and make sure you take a break when you feel the workload is getting too much. “

2. Plan a weekly budget

Mary O’Connell, 23, who did English literature at York University and an MA in Film Studies at King’s College London, recommends setting yourself a weekly budget. Don’t spend all your money on Freshers Week. If you haven’t really worked before uni then you may not have seen that much money in your account before. But remember that it’s still a loan that you need to be sensible with.Mary O'ConnellLearn to manage your loan as crucial. Plan a weekly budget. You can use an app to track your spending if you want to get an idea of how much you’re spending, because it’s something we usually underestimate.” Sian Reed, 25, studied marketing at Hull University, followed by an MA in sports journalism at Sheffield Hallam, agrees. “My first top tip would be learn to budget. I know it sounds all serious but just because your student loan has come in, doesn’t mean you should spend it all at once. “Just take half an hour or so to sit down and look at what money you have coming in and what you’re spending. “It might mean making some adjustments like boosting your income or reducing your spending (ask for a student discount everywhere, you’ll be surprised at the sort of places that offer it as they don’t always advertise) but it means you can live comfortably.”

3. Back up your work

Peter Rogers, 22, who graduated from York University last year, says it’s a good idea to back up your work in more than one place. We all gmail accounts through our university, so I used Google Drive to save everything which meant it was stored in the cloud. “One piece of advice would be to make sure you save different versions of a piece of work as you go along.Peter RogersPeter recommends back up your work in more than one place. For example, if writing an essay on French Revolution, save it as ‘French Revolution half’ at the halfway stage, and then again as a separate version three-quarters of the way through, etc. “That way if you do manage to delete a copy you will not have to rewrite from the beginning.”

4. Make use of first year

Peter also says that the first year can often be a little lighter academically than subsequent years, so it’s worth enjoying it. “If your first year doesn’t count towards your overall grade, make the most of the freedom that offers you,” he suggests. “I still look back and wish I had done a little less work (nobody asks me what grade I got in first year) and spent more time trying out activities, sports or just hanging out with friends. “Obviously the academic side is important but that really amps up in second and third year anyway.”

5. Choose your friends

Emmeke Megannety 21, a second-year journalism student at Nottingham Trent University, says it’s worth taking your time to find good friends. People starting uni need to remember that the people you meet in your first week will not necessarily be your friends for life.Emmeke MegannetyEmmeke, 21, says friendships take time to evolve don’t think you have to stick to people like glue because you haven’t met anyone else yet. “Throw yourself into activities and societies, get a job, strike up conversation with someone at the gym you’ll make so many friends throughout the year in the oddest of places. Mary recommends joining all societies that interest you. You don’t just want your uni friends to be people on your course and who you live with, join a society to make friends there,” she says. It’s a good way to socialise cheaply if you’re not a big drinker. It makes the uni experience more fulfilling.”

6. Look out for people

Sadly many students suffer with mental health issues, such as depression and anxiety. Recent statistics show 146 students took their lives in 2016.  Peter says it’s important to keep an eye on peers and ask searching questions. I was, and continue to be, regularly surprised at the number of people who would look and act fine outwardly but were actually really struggling. “I think the key is talking directly, especially with men. I know if I were just asked ‘How are you feeling?’ I’d probably just skirt around the question with a generic answer. “But if a friend asked ‘Do you think your mental health has been affected by….?’ we might be tempted to answer more honestly.”

7. Eat a balanced diet

Matt Broderick, 29, a graduate from Queens University Belfast, says a poor diet can affect your mood. “Learn to cook and go to class. I did neither of these things, or very, very little. “I spent all of my money on really unhealthy oven food or nasty takeaways and barely went to lectures. I didn’t realise at the time but was probably depressed because I was living in an awfully cold and dark house, eating dreadful food and only really leaving the house to go drinking with the odd class or lecture thrown in. I wish I could hit the reset button and go to every single lecture, do all of my readings, eat better and spend my time more wisely rather than drinking away my student loan.”

8. Cook on a budget

Picking up on the issue of food, Mary recommends learning how to cook on a budget. “Stop caring about brands just because you have them at home,” she advises. For example, if you’re making something like a bolognese then buy the ‘basics’ version of chopped tomatoes. It’s not an ingredient you need to have a special brand for – chopped tomatoes is chopped tomatoes.Sian ReedSIAN REED says it’s important to “stay true to yourself. “Tupperware is your friend: Cook food in bulk then freeze it in meal-sized portions.” Peter adds: “Like many students I didn’t really have anything other than rudimentary cookery skills before I went, and found learning to cook was reasonably enjoyable.”

9. Talk to friends/ family

Mary says keeping in touch with family and friends from back home is a good way of keeping loneliness at bay, and a good chance to speak openly about any problems. “Uni can be very lonely. Make sure you check in with your home friends who are also at uni and keep track of who might be having a hard time, and make sure you tell your friends if you find yourself struggling.”

10. Stay true to yourself

Sian’s other top tip for university is to “stay true to yourself.“At university, students are usually living away from home for the first time which means no parents. “You don’t have to be extrovert to enjoy experience don’t feel obliged to go on nights out because feel forced so regret it in the morning. “University seems to create a drinking culture so it’s okay if you’re not into it. Trust me, you will not be the only non-drinker on campus. “Alternatively, if you do have a big personality, make the most of your student life, as life after uni is nowhere near as cheap.”

70% 70% 70% 70%
*💰💰💰💰💰💰💰*

*When we die, our money remains in the bank…*

*Yet, when we are alive, we don’t have enough money to spend.*

*In reality, when we are gone, there is still a lot of money not spent.*

*One business tycoon in China passed away.*
*His widow, was left with $1.9 billion in the bank, and married his chauffeur.*

*His chauffeur said:*-
*”All the while, I thought I was working for my boss*…
*it is only now, I realise that my boss was all the time, working for me !!!*”

*The cruel reality is:*
*It is more important to live longer than to have more wealth*.
*So, we must strive to have a strong and healthy body, It really doesn’t matter who is working for who.*

*In a high end hand phone, 70% of the functions are useless!*

*For an expensive car, 70% of the speed and gadgets are not needed.*

*If you own a luxurious villa or mansion, 70% of the space is usually not used or occupied.*

*How about your wardrobes of clothes?*
*70% of them are not worn!*

*A whole life of work and earning…*
*70% is for other people to spend.*

*So, we must protect and make full use of our 30%*.

👉*Go for medical check-ups even if not sick.*
👉*Drink more water, even if not thirsty.*
👉*Learn to let go, even if faced with grave problems.*
👉*Endeavour to give in, even if you are in the right.*
👉*Remain humble, even if you are very rich and powerful.*
👉*Learn to be contented, even if you are not rich.*
👉*Exercise your mind and body, even if you are very busy.*
👉*Make time for people you care about*

*Please☝🏾Ponder*

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Produced by Katherine Sellgren and Shamaan Freeman-Powell

BEWARE MARRIED/RICHMEN

Beware men do not choose wife based on beauty and physical appearance only. Look beyond outer beauty into inner heart and seek God’s help to choose Godly wife in Jesus Name. If you have problems right from onset of the relationship from dating, courtship, engagement, wedding, barrenness, low sperm count, business collapse problem after another since meeting spouse you are under serious spiritual attack. And contending with spiritual husband and spiritual wife against physical marriage. Both partners may not realise spiritual husband and wife covenant in you from family working against you. And do not accuse and blame each other but rather seek deliverance immediately in Jesus Name to save you. Do not go to consult idol shrine or witch doctors because this makes problems worse. They dupe you, take all your money, you end up in debt, frustration, suicidal thoughts of a divorce spiritual spouse wants. Do not dismiss spiritual marriage as a delusion because the family initiates children in covenant ceremony dedicating the child to shrine demons. Those spirits entered and married them so are possessive, jealous and angry with a person taking away their wife from them. This is why they attack and destroy the marriages to send back the wife or husband to them. To ordinary human eyes a ritual bath or potion, perfumes, handkerchief, nail or hair cuts, incisions means a ‘protection’ from evil eyes. The truth is its initiation ritual connection’s kingdom of darkness strategy used for destruction.

Ignorance is a reason out of fear people run to the evil spirits causing problems to finish them. The evil spirit’s goal is make them have serial marriages and futile relationships with children to attack their family. This is the marriage initiated by psychics or fortune tellers, the spirit behind it is demons not Holy Spirit from God. They display pictures of Jesus to fool and seem spiritual but God warns against going to seek fortune tellers and necromancers for divination, marriage, future plans concerning your future life. It lasts for a short season but destruction starts unawares causing the fight affecting all relationship problems. God is author and finished of marriage so seek God if you want to marry and be faithful to your Godly spouse to protect your life for good success in life. As the devil roams about looking for people to target to ruin and kill through flirting or illicit affairs to disgrace victims. There is a real kingdom of darkness working against unsuspecting victims who are rich or married to destroy marriages to fight Godly homes. Some who are rich very proud of material wealth do not value God or Honour Him as the source of blessing. So think they made wealth themselves forgetting God is OWNER of all resources on earth show off so don’t respect their wives. Think that having numerous girlfriends or flashy cars is the sign of power. Do not realise they fall into human trafficking traps sets by devil to lure and destroy them. They see these physically beautiful women or handsome men but really sleeping with snakes and demons collecting their sperm and their riches through contact with agents of the devil into the marine world. Many rich men including politicians disgraced, fell due to seduction spirits sent with evil eye to lure them and ruin their progress. Most prostitutes seek strength and favour to attract rich clients through witchcraft. A minder takes to witch doctor invoke the spells, charms, sexy dressing, beads and perfumes, drinks, cigarettes and ensure exclusive regular customer is rich client under their spell. So a married man will fight at home with his wife so can never have intercourse with her again.


Such men become pawns in the marine kingdom unaware of the sources of the problems. A constant fight ensures, his wife “smells badly” to him due to charm against his marriage. The sperm is used in the marine kingdom to make slippers sold so all wearing it becomes initiated. A spiritual world exists beyond physical reality controlled by devil and demons. It is wise to pray everyday over family, food, clothes, material wealth bought as it may look ordinary and harmless but is lethal to harm people. Cover yourself and your family, business, home, wealth with BLOOD of Jesus. Be careful of types of drama or games watched influencing the mind and planting seed of seduction or rebellion against God Almighty. You may think you are exercising your free will or choice but evil spirits behind the scenes are spiritual wickedness in high places the Bible warned about. End time prophecies reveals satan is empowered to recruit rebellious people to kingdom of darkness to self destruct. So the real solution is entrust yourself and family under the protection of Almighty God. A belief in God in Christ is not pick and mix religion you fancy and live as you like. Your very life depends on God to save and deliver you in Jesus Name to preserve you in rapture alive to heaven and in the eternal life in God’s Kingdom. Be encouraged to seek pastors who help poor in troubled times to deliver, help you. A young soldier and treasurer in the army met a woman who used his sperm to charm and seduced him of the amount of N2:5million naira. As payday was due he squandered the salaries of the soldiers but came to his senses and was desperate so wanted to kill himself. Thank God he went to church, problem revealed by God to prophet Jeremiah. So people helped to payoff 2:5 million debt through the intervention of the Colonel in the army. He was given N2:1million for him and family to recover his losses. All these due to his adultery in search of pleasure. He learnt his lesson too so gone back to his wife and his 3 children after the mistress duped him. Vanity of vanity is the unstable spirit lurking in a person searching in vain for happiness outside God. The devil had set places to deceive people to think they are having innocent fun. Only to realise addicted to sex, pornography or substance abuse. The women or men used are victims because money earned by seduction is not allowed to be shared with loved ones, family, charity, church or support good causes. It is exclusively for vanity to buy houses for prostitution clothes to dress seductively, do make up and hair, drink expensive alcohol, to smoke and destroy themselves too. If they give the money to family or good causes giver and receiver die. You know now why such rich relatives cannot help you. So despite luring the wealthy rich married men have nothing to show for it after paying minder who lured and sent them into prostitution. End up with nothing but sickness, HIV, poor health or death. The devil is real so beware and seek the Face of God Almigthy to supply all your needs according God’s riches in heaven by Christ Jesus. Most victims are part of occult kingdom set up to produce such children who grow up to continue cycle of serving the devil unawares. So need serious deliverance to overcome the evil spirits invoked in them from birth that is destroying their lives to be set free as new creation in Jesus Name. So remain faithful in the Kingdom of God, serving God in Christ in Jesus Name in Spirit in Truth daily to the Glory of God.

JESUS IS THE LION OF JUDAH

The New Testament in Revelation 5:5: says “one elder said to John, weep not for the Lion of the tribe of Judah, the Root of David, has prevailed to open the scroll book to loose seven seals.” Jesus Christ is the ONLY One found Worthy Lion of Judah to count on among the Christians to open the scroll in heaven. Jesus, Lion of the Tribe of Judah, KING of Kings and Lord of lord’s overcame prowling demons devouring believers. Bible in Daniel 6:1-28 said administrator satrap’s exceptional qualities made king plan to set him a ruler over his whole kingdom. Administrators and satraps were jealous so tried to find charges against Daniel in his government affairs did not find anything against him for he is trustworthy, not corrupt or negligent.  5 The men cannot find charges against Daniel unless something to do with law of God.” The administrators and satrap group told king Darius, live forever! So the royal administrators, prefects, satraps, advisers, governors connived the king must issue an edict and enforce a decree anyone who prays to a god or human being in next thirty days, except to the king, shall be thrown in the lion’s den. 8 So issue a decree and write it so it cannot be altered in accordance with law of Medes and Persians or repealed. King Darius put the decree in writing. 10 Daniel learned decree was published so he went home upstairs in room with the windows opened toward Jerusalem. Three times a day he got down on his knees and prayed, giving thanks to his God as he had done always. 11 The men in group and found Daniel praying and asking God for help. 12 So they went to the king and spoke to him about royal decree published that during the next thirty days anyone praying to his God or human being except to you, would be thrown into the lion’s den?” The king said, “The decree stands in accordance with the law of the Medes and Persians, so cannot be repealed.” 13 They said to the king, “Daniel, one of the exiles from Judah, pays no attention to you or to the decree you put in writing. He still prays three times a day.” 14 When the king heard this, he was greatly distressed; he wanted to rescue Daniel so made every effort until sundown to save him. 15 The men told King Darius, “Remember, that according to the law of the Medes and Persians no decree or edict a king issues can be changed.” 16 So the king gave the order so they brought Daniel and threw him into the lions’ den. The king said to Daniel, “May your God, whom you serve continually, rescue you!” 17 A stone was brought and placed over mouth of den, and king sealed it with his own signet ring and the rings of his nobles, so that Daniel’s situation might not be changed. 18 The king returned to his palace, spent the night without eating, entertainment and he could not sleep. 19 At first light of dawn the king got up and hurried to the lion’s den. 20 He came near den, called Daniel in anguish, “Daniel, servant of the living God, has your God, whom you serve continually rescued you from the lions?” 21 Daniel said, “King live forever! 22 My God sent his angel to shut mouths of the lions so did not hurt me, because I was innocent in HIS sight. Have I done any wrong before your majesty?” 23 The king overjoyed and orders to lift Daniel out of the den. And when Daniel was lifted from the den, no wound was found on him, because he trusted in his God. 24 At king’s command the men who falsely accused Daniel were brought in and thrown into lions’ den, along with their wives and children. Before they reached the floor of the den, the lions overpowered them and crushed all their bones. 25 King Darius wrote to all nations and people of every language in all the earth: “May you prosper greatly!

26 “I issue a decree that in every part of my kingdom people must fear and reverence the God of Daniel.

“For he is the living God
    and he endures forever;
his kingdom will not be destroyed,
    his dominion will never end.
27 He rescues and he saves;
    he performs signs and wonders
    in the heavens and on the earth.
He has rescued Daniel
    from the power of the lions.”

28 Daniel prospered during the reign of Darius and reign of Cyrus the Persian.behold-he-is-coming-the-lion-of-the-tribe-of-15304741The Bible says Jesus Lion of Judah has defeated the devil prowling like a lion looking for those to devour. The devil targets people to destroy if God permits it according to Jeremiah 50:7 to force those devoured by adversaries to run to God. They offend not, used against those who sin against God separated by their sin abandoned God fulfill God’s designs to plague them into submission to God. And 1 Peter 5:8 says, be alert, be sober because enemy the devil prowls around be vigilant to defeat adversary the devil, roaring like lion, walking about, seeking those to devour so watch in Jesus Name. The devil is not a real lion like Lion of the tribe of Judah but tries to act like a powerful being, deceiving people and misleading them to sin for destruction by God. Some people perish for lack of accurate real true knowledge that saves and protects them from the devil. This is important to test the spirits to know if it from God. Anyone that does not confess the Name of Jesus the Lion of Judah is at risk from judgement from God as Bible says. Often the lion is described as king of jungle forest as it behaves towards the other animals, fearless, intimidates preys on victims, scares and pounces on them unexpectedly. Yet at times the lion is conquered and killed by these other animals too. POWER pass power so the lion has limits in the PRESENCE of God. This is why Daniel’s life was preserved by God and he survived the enemy’s evil plans against him due to jealousy. In the same way God delivers all who call Lion of Tribe of Judah, Jesus’ Mighty Name so saved from evil covered by His BLOOD in victory. GLORY to God.

PRAYER: Psalm 6

Lord, do not rebuke me in your anger
    or discipline me in your wrath.
Have mercy on me, Lord, I feel faint,  heal me, Lord my bones are in agony.
My soul is in deep anguish.
    How long, Lord, how long?

Turn, Lord, and deliver me; save me because of your unfailing love.
Among the dead no one proclaims your name. Who praises you in grave?

I am worn out from groaning. All night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears.

My eyes grow weak with sorrow;
    they fail because of all my foes.

Away from me, all you who do evil,
    for the Lord has heard my weeping.
The Lord has heard my cry for mercy;
    the Lord accepts my prayer.
10 All my enemies will be overwhelmed with shame and anguish; they will turn back and suddenly be put to shame.

PRAYER: Psalm 35

35 Plead my cause, O Lord, with them that strive with me: fight against them that fight against me. Take hold of shield and buckler, and stand up for mine help. Draw out also the spear, and stop the way against them that persecute me: say unto my soul, I am thy salvation. Let them be confounded and put to shame that seek after my soul: let them be turned back and brought to confusion that device my hurt. Let them be as chaff before the wind: and let the angel of the Lord chase them. Let their way be dark and slippery: and let the angel of the Lord persecute them. For without cause have they hid for me their net in a pit, which without cause they have digged for my soul. Let destruction come upon him at unawares; and let his net that he hath hid catch himself: into that very destruction let him fall. And my soul shall be joyful in the Lord: it shall rejoice in his salvation. 10 All my bones shall say, Lord, who is like you who deliveres the poor from him that is too strong for him, yea, the poor and the needy from him that spoil him?11 False witnesses did rise up; they laid to my charge things that I knew not.  12 They rewarded me evil for good to the spoiling of my soul. 13 But as for me, when they were sick, my clothing was sackcloth: I humbled my soul with fasting; and my prayer returned into mine own bosom. 14 I behaved myself as though he had been my friend or brother: I bowed down heavily, as one that mourns for his mother. 15 But in mine adversity they rejoiced, gathered themselves together: yea, the enemies gathered themselves together against me, and I knew it not; they did tear me, and ceased not: 16 With hypocritical mockers in feasts, they gnashed upon me with their teeth. 17 Lord, how long wilt thou look on? rescue my soul from their destructions, my darling from the lions. 18 I will give thee thanks in the great congregation: I will praise thee among much people. 19 Let not them that are mine enemies wrongfully rejoice over me: neither let them wink with the eye that hate me without a cause. 20 For they speak not peace: but they devise deceitful matters against them that are quiet in the land. 21 Yea, they opened their mouth wide against me, and said, Aha, aha, our eye hath seen it. 22 This thou hast seen, O Lord: keep not silence: O Lord, be not far from me. 23 Stir up thyself, and awake to my rescue, even unto my cause, my God and my Lord. 24 Save me LORD my God, according to thy righteousness; and let them not rejoice over me. 25 Let them not say in their hearts, Ah, so would we have it: let them not say, We have swallowed him up. 26 Let them be ashamed, brought to confusion together that rejoice at mine hurt: let them be clothed with shame, dishonour that magnify themselves against me. 27 Let them shout for joy, and be glad, that favour my righteous cause: yea, let them say continually, Let the Lord be magnified, which hath pleasure in the prosperity of his servant. 28 And my tongue shall speak of thy righteousness and of thy praise all the day long.

PRAYER: Psalm 91 

91 He who dwells in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, HE is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in HIM will I trust. Surely HE shall deliver you from the snare of the fowler, and from noisome pestilence. HE will cover you with HIS feathers, and under HIS wings you will trust: HIS truth shall be your shield and buckler. You will not be afraid of the terror by night; or the arrow that flies by day; Nor for the pestilence that walks in darkness; or the destruction that wastes at noonday. A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee. Only with your eyes shall thou behold and see the reward of the wicked. Because you made the LORD, your refuge, even the most High, your habitation; 10 There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall a plague come nigh your dwelling. 11 For HE shall give HIS angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways. 12 They shall bear you up in their hands, lest you dash your foot against a stone. 13 You shall tread upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet. 14 Because you hath set your love on ME, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he knows MY NAME. 15 He shall call upon ME, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him. 16 With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation. Praise God.

HOW LONG OH LORD JESUS?

timingEvents or tragedy create urgent longing to be rescued from the challenges faced daily. People wonder how to cope often asking how long they have to wait for LORD’S Divine intervention in Christ. 2 Peter 3:4 in the Bible describes the glorious hope of believer’s expectation of Jesus in the clouds for Rapture and Second Coming later on earth to rule. 1. In second epistle Paul writes to beloved believers, to stir up pure minds to remember to hope in God.  2. To be mindful of words spoken by holy prophets and commandment of apostles of Lord Jesus Saviour. 3. Know there shall come in the last days scoffers walking after their own lust so 4. saying Where is the promise of His Coming? Since the fathers fell asleep all things continue as it was since the beginning of creation. 5. For they are ignorant that by the word of God the heavens of old and the earth stand in water. In water 6 past world existence ended overflowed by water and so perished The heavens and earth by same word kept reserved for day of judgment and perdition’s fire for ungodly men. Angels promised disciples Jesus will return to earth in same way He ascended into heaven seated at RIGHT Hand of God. It is written many events will precede His coming so challenging to wait by faith.god-has-not-forgotten-you

Psalm 13 also asks How Long, O LORD? as passage questions How long O Lord? Will you forget us forever? How long O LORD will you hide your face from us? 2 How long must we wait for you for the relief in our soul to stop sorrow in our hearts all the day? How Long, O LORD is the desire in our hearts for God’s quick Divine intervention materialise. Peter tells us the LORD is not slow to fulfill HIS promise as some count slowness in 2 Peter 3:9. God knows HE sometimes appears slow to us, but for HIS merciful reasons given in the Bible shows HE is compassionate toward us when we wait for help according to HIS OWN timings. Habakkuk 1:2 also asks How long LORD, must we call for help before you listen? O LORD, how long shall we cry before you hear when we cry out to you about violence to save mankind! Christians all over the world cry day and night to God asking, How long Oh LORD must we call for your help to save to rescue from evil perdition of ungodly men. Beloved be not ignorant that ONE DAY with Father LORD God is like a thousand years and a thousand years is like ONE DAY to God.1-john-5-13

The LORD is not slow concerning HIS promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us not willing any should perish, but that all should come to repentance for salvation in Christ. So the LORD is patient granting more time and hoping that many more people will repent and change before its too late. 10 For the DAY of the LORD will come as a thief in the night in which the heavens shall pass away with great noise and the elements melt with such fervent heat so earth and the works in it will be burned up. 11 Seeing all these things dissolved it is crucial the manner of persons to be in all holy conversations and in Godliness as we wait for redemption in Christ. So 12 Looking for Rapture and the Coming of DAY of God when heaven’s fire shall dissolve the elements with fervent heat. Yet have CONFIDENCE IN GOD IN JESUS 13 according to His promise, looking for new heavens and a new earth to dwell in righteousness. After all said and done 14 beloved look diligently with vigilance and found in Jesus in peace without any spot and blameless. 15 Longsuffering in our Lord’s salvation beloved Paul wrote according to wisdom given to him, gives hope to endure to the end to be saved. It is in 16 his epistles the things some find hard to understand if they, unlearned in Scriptures or unstable, wrestle to their own destructions. 17 Beloved, since you know these things beware you are not led away with error of the wicked to fall from steadfastness in Christ. 18 Grow in grace in knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To Him be glory both now and forevermore. Amen.

BUILDING A BABY’S BRAINS

pastedImageTop 10 tips to building a baby’s brain as Blackpool Better Start believes, building a brain is a lot like building a house and so must have strong foundation. Strong foundation builds the stronger resilient communities to help parents, essential for healthy structure of child’s brain.”

1) Support

Get support to create a solid foundation by ensuring that parents and caregivers have the right information and support available to meet a baby’s needs. In UK, Blackpool and other parts of country, having parents attend their antenatal programme and being involved with your health visitor, midwife and other people are there to support you through your pregnancy is really important during that transition into parenthood.Reading_800x534

2) Positive nurturing interaction

Developing a brain is an interactive process. ‘Serve and return’ activities can help with this – that’s the “goo goo” and “gaa gaa”, when you respond to what your child is saying to you. It’s like a tennis match. Maybe your child gives you a tissue, you take is and say “thank you”. Embracing those ‘serve and return’ opportunities helps build those interactions.

3) Read, read, read

Research shows us how beneficial reading is to a child’s development. The evidence we have proves children who are read to, by parents or caregivers do better in school. The have higher self-esteem, develop better relationships with other children and are better behaved. We recommend reading 15 minutes a day to your child – that does make a difference to their development.

4) Talk to Babies Early

When adults interact and elaborate what the child is saying to them – like asking questions, sharing rhymes and songs – then children start to develop those cognitive skills and the tools they need to succeed. Even when the child is saying something that’s not particularly intelligible, start a conversation with your child and let them recognise that you will interact with them in that way.

5) Managing stresses

We know that some stress is considered to be good – like meeting a new person, that can be good for a child. It’s for children who grow up in chronically stressful environments, they might be subject to violence, abuse and neglect. Those children experience ‘toxic stress’ and we talk with families about what toxic stress looks like and the impact is has on that child. Caregivers should be aware of the environment a child is in, be able to comfort them when they’re upset and calm their emotions. Helping a child’s stress response system come back to normal levels is really, really important.Family_Singing

6) Be attuned, responsive

The relationship between the main caregiver allows the baby to grow physically, emotionally, intellectually. We know that babies and children need to feel safe, protected and nurtured by caregivers, to identify responds to the child’s needs. Unresponsiveness lead to difficulties socially, behaviourally and emotionally which may affect the child’s physical and emotional development.

7) Outdoors

Remember the importance of outdoor play by using open spaces, parks and other outdoor settings. Look for outdoor opportunities which are vital for brain development and we know that play is essential for a child’s learning and well-being. It can help the parents too. Being outside as a family, particularly if you live in a small house or don’t have much space, getting outside and doing some activity can make you feel better, is good for the child and it’s free!

8) Nutrition and diet

A poor diet can negatively affect a child’s brain development and nervous system. But for us, it’s supporting parents getting their child into solid food. We know breastfeeding is really good for nutrition, because the milk in a mum’s body changes everyday to give the child what they need. We also know that once you move on to solid food, it’s about looking at what kind and how you serve the food to a child. There needs to be a good range of foods that will address their nutrition and diet.

9) Mum & dad take care

Obviously a expectant mother needs to be taken care of during pregnancy, because that vital for the wellbeing of the baby, but that continues well after birth. Establishing regular routines for sleep helps with brain development and stress, as does physical activity. Being physically active for 60 – 90 minutes a day helps strengthen brain connection with motor skills, balance, vision and other abilities. It also helps combat stress for mum. We think mums who have good nutirion, who are acitive during pregnancy are able to have a healthier birth.4-ways-to-nurture-your-childrens-growing-brain-2

10) Communities

We talk about communities a lot, because it’s not just the parents that help grow the child, it’s the whole community and extended family. Studies have shown that children tend to do better from strong, supportive communities. Everything we do is based around gearing up communities and parents to do more for themselves, by giving the community members skills, making them more understanding about child development and what they can do to support that. Children centres, peer supporters and trained volunteers can offset poverty and other risk factors in early development.

ACTIVELY DEEP LISTENING

post_SilentListen_121816Actively deep listening to hear correctly, affirm and understand what people are saying means a lot to them. It is more than being a sounding board to help talk and discuss life matters. To be allowed into the deepest inner thoughts of a person takes courage so be present in here and now. Affirm by nodding and agreeing, saying “yes” to fully engage in the conversation is part of the process to ensure properly hearing person. And a feedback clarifies topics discussed to reassure person listening attentively. Be polite if speaker feels stressed, anxious, calm them, pay attention to help them open up to share innermost feelings or thoughts. It is encouraging to build their confidence to reflect on their plans and fears. Art of listening, hearing is act of love, takes commitment, ability to read between lines and desire to understand, appreciate person talking. Greatest gift coaches have is ability to help people to know where they are coming from. Listening (1)Understandably needs to provide a safe space to see life from their standpoint is so important and necessary. Life can feel lonely sometimes so knowing that someone really cares and understands matters. It is important to open up to share true feelings without thinking being judged. Health and wellbeing help the lonely or isolated to express inner thoughts and their ideas of life. A phone call to friend or passing time of the day with colleagues is what makes society happy and cohesive by including others. Idealised happiness of fantasy, domestic bliss on social media on the Facebook is unnatural needs so private, confidential space helps open up to deal with what is not working in life.Couple speaking on a benchCoach Kenny Mammarella D’Cruz, The Man Whisperer, talks of importance of men opening up, sharing “without any judgments, ‘shoulds’ or ridicule” as he regularly feels safe in his men’s groups. His workshops and meet-ups invaluable for men from teens to pensioners and offers support, understanding and the reassurance that someone really has got your back. Today ask someone about themselves, really listen, reflect and say something generous or insightful back. Watch their faces. Our ears never get us into trouble and here is a lovely quote, as David Augsburger’s thought sums up: “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.”