DOES GOD ANSWER PRAYER?

ASHAMED OF POOR PARENT?

Mother with empty piggy bank

“Wondered what it’s like to live in poor area,” the girl from a posh part of town whispered across classroom table. Even at a small comprehensive in Yorkshire, the divide between the ‘haves’ and ‘have nots’ was clear. At 10 years that time we with two older brothers living in house with mum knew exactly what it was like but said nothing. That night after school burst into angry tears on the mum’s lap. Both parents from working class back grounds: one from family where seven siblings shared two beds; the other started out in one of Leeds’s roughest estates. They grew up wanting a better future, and gradually worked their way up together to become homeowners. At

five parents split up with siblings lived full-time with mum. Suddenly became very aware of money because we just didn’t have any. Our family home was sold to pay off debts. For my mum, the life she’d spent years piecing together, moving away from the estate she grew up on, crashed down around her and it all seemed to happen overnight. The first piece of furniture in council house living room was an old sofa bed that we all crammed ourselves on, given by a kind family friend. So with little money spent evenings by candlelight when the electricity meter ran out, borrow money to top up pre paid card next morning. If

it means poverty according to standard of the time were officially living below the poverty line as a child. By today’s measures, a couple with two children need to earn at least £18,900 (£363 a week) each to achieve the minimum income standard. Since I’m one of three and mum was on her own, this means if I was growing up now and my family was in the same situation, we would still be in poverty.Housing differencesWhen 13, mum started privately renting a house on more affluent side of town, in order to send us to a good secondary school an hour’s bus journey. Mum had a new job, which helped, but she was starting over again after several years of looking after us all at home and her wages barely covered our rent, bills and food for three young kids. Renting is unstable your landlord calls the shots – so lived with constant fear of losing our home if our landlord put the rent up or decided to sell up. It was difficult at my new school, I felt like I didn’t belong at first. I had one friend who had a similar background; she was the only person who I confided everything in. Everyone else received edited versions of my life – nobody knew my uniform was bought with tokens. I dreaded the obligatory McDonald’s pit stop when we went into town, because I just couldn’t afford it.

I remember feeling upset when one of my closest school friends said she was fed up of having to ask her mum to take us places and always inviting me round to their house. She wanted to know why my mum never gave us lifts anywhere and why she was hardly ever invited to mine after school. The truth was I was embarrassed. Despite living in the ‘nice’ side of town, never had enough petrol in car, and friendsallowed round on payday, when there was food in the fridge and enough electricity on the meter. How could I tell her the truth? I imagined my friend’s parents gossiping about my family “not pulling their weight” and looking down at us. The reality was my mum didn’t invite her own friends into the house because she couldn’t afford the extra food.Shabby school uniformFor a long time after leaving school, I continued to try to hide the truth about my background. I can dial my Yorkshire accent up or down depending on my audience. But, the fallout of being such a class chameleon is that I feel ashamed about not being proud of my roots. This follows me no matter where I go or what I do. And it seems I’m not alone in having grown up feeling like being from a poor background is something to be ashamed of. The number of children living in poverty is on the rise but conversely the number of kids claiming free school meals (excluding the universal infant free school meals) is in decline according to a government report. How does that work? Now, I’m ashamed to say that, despite being eligible, I never took free school meals and mum and I regularly rowed about it. I didn’t want to be shamed or, worse, pitied. I knew full well that it would have helped my mum out massively. Instead, she scrimped to put together a packed lunch or dish out the last 50 pence in her purse. Looking back, it makes me cringe. So may think I sound like an ungrateful brat who refused the help offered, just a kid who wanted to be like everyone else. As older, going to uni was something I never considered. At school, I felt like it was just assumed that most people would go but I was scared we couldn’t afford it. A teacher explained the grants and loans that were available and suddenly it seemed like a possibility. I liked studying – I dreamed of one day being a writer and my mum was really excited for me so I applied to study Journalism at Leeds Metropolitan University and got in.

I felt overwhelmed by the amount of money I could borrow from the Student Loan Company. I took loan of £24,000 to cover course and received a grant of just under £3,000 a year. Paying my loans back felt like a lifetime away, so it was easy to ignore the reality that I was getting into serious debt. It seemed like we were all on the same level in our student halls, regardless of where we’d come from. Every time holidays rolled around my new friends disappear back to their family homes or head down to London for exciting-sounding but did unpaid internships. By this point, my mum was renting a house that didn’t have a spare room. If I went back, I’d be on the sofa. I couldn’t afford to do an internship so instead I worked in the local branch of a shoe shop, selling trainers I could never afford, so I could keep paying rent on my student house.

After graduation, I got a lucky break. My shoe sales job led to a full-time role editing the company’s website at their head office in Edinburgh. I found a really cheap flat share and moved there. I was nervous about how I would pay my rent but I felt like I was, at least, making progress because I was getting away from my upbringing and all the stigma and shame that, in my mind, came with it. The sad truth, though, is that not everyone from a background like mine gets a break. A Prince’s Trust report from 2016 found 44% of young people from poorer backgrounds don’t know anyone who can help them find a job, compared to just 26% of their more advantaged peers. Anyway, if you do manage to go to uni and get a graduate job, your social class doesn’t change overnight. In fact, the advantages of other people’s privilege only become more apparent. I was so excited when I got my first job, but underlying that was a constant sense of unease that if something went wrong and I got fired or was made redundant I had no safety net. There was nothing to fall back on and that thought would often keep me awake at night.Bank of Mum and DadSoon after we graduated, some of my friends started buying their first flats, with help from their parents. Last year in the UK, for the lucky ones able to get on the property ladder two thirds (62%) of under-35s received help from family and friends to buy their first home. Around the same time that they were getting on the property ladder, I began earning a bigger salary than all my family members and even helped one of them to pay their rent. When my mates talked about raiding the fridge full of food when going home for Christmas, I quietly set aside money to pay for the supermarket shop and the repairs for my mum’s battered old car. Don’t get me wrong, I know I’m privileged in some ways. I’m white, for a start and I know that gives me certain advantages. But, conversation to start somewhere and, with 51% of journalists being part of the 6.5% of the nation who receive private education, it’s important to listen to anyone who doesn’t fit in that statistic. You see, being poor isn’t just having no money it’s lacking a basic confidence in who you are and what you deserve. Considered self ‘lucky’ to land a graduate job rather than putting it down to having talent and working hard. When I went into my first work meeting and felt like I knew less than the guy with 10 unpaid internships under his belt. When I met a nice guy who invited me to meet his posh parents and I cancelled because I was worried about what they might think of me. These days, I make a living doing a job I love. I rent a small but cute flat share with two friends and I can even afford the odd trip to the seaside.

I make sure I always have a little pot of money to fall back on, because my only alternative is sleeping on my mum’s sofa if things slip. After years of skirting the issue, I’m finally talking openly about our situation with my mum. I can’t imagine how horrible it must be to wipe tears away from daughter’s face after she’s told you how embarrassed she is of the life you’ve always worked so hard to make better for her. The real shame is neither of us will ever be able to gloss over. So do not let shame stop you to say  no to free school meals and starve or not invite friends over. Life is not made up material things according to Jesus it is your heart for loving others that counts most. 

 

Hollie Richardson

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This article was originally published on 2 October 2018.

WE LOVE OUR BIG BODIES

We love our big bodies people call fat and able to do as much as we can by our talents and abilities. We work so hard to accomplish excellence in our fields of expertise yet our size seems to matter to some people more than getting to know us. We are ordinary people doing extraordinary things so enjoy life as much as possible. We decided to speak out on behalf of the people fatshamed to be miserable or to spend their whole life trying to be someone they are not. Some develop anorexia and bulimia by trying to be slim and control their weight. In the extreme cases lost their lives due to pressure to be stereotypical average size whatever that means. Magazine, TV, media, entertainment industry portray an unrealistic image of the majority of women. Young people look up to such images so refuse to eat properly. Photographer Alice Zoo speaks to six women on body positivity and fat activism to support people who face abuse daily go educate the public.

COURTNEY, 24, GRIMSBY

@bodypositivebelle

“I’ve been big from a young age. I was 10, I was diagnosed with underactive thyroid, so each year I’ve put on more weight. I was always really active, so it was strange. New lumps and bumps formed that I didn’t know what to do with. I was bullied a lot throughout my school years I hated my body absolutely hated it. It really affected my mental health. When I was in college, I went on a big, long-term diet and lost five stone. I was a lot slimmer though I was big but I realised I wasn’t a better person, I wasn’t beautiful, I wasn’t amazing. I was still same person, but a lot less happy. Then I discovered Instagram. I remember seeing the first girl that used a body positive hashtag and I thought she looked amazing. I remember seeing the first girl’s body positive hashtag so I thought she looks amazing. But one night someone commented on all of my pictures saying I was fat and looked like someone from Star Wars. I messaged her and asked her why she was doing it. Why she found it fun to hurt someone like that. She replied, and later admitted that she had hang-ups about her own body. She said she felt fat. It made me think that often people are just pushing their own insecurities out. Someone will look at me and think: ‘I don’t want to be that size, I wouldn’t be happy that size, so why should you be happy when you’re fat?’ It makes me sad to think about people struggling so much they think the only way to make themselves feel better is to put someone down. That’s not the way. You can’t be comparing yourself to other people. I know it’s not easy, but the sooner you start to see yourself, how great you are, the better. You won’t need to judge someone by their looks.

ENAM, 23, BIRMINGHAM

@enamasiama

“I love the way I look and feel, because I’m comfortable, don’t feel any different from anyone else. I wake up and see myself as this normal person. I always tell people that I love my belly, I love my boobs. These squidgy parts might be seen as fat to someone else, but to me it’s just comfortable. There’s no-one out there who’s going to tell you that you’re not beautiful when you’re fat, simple as.

Find those who treasure and appreciate you and tell others how good they make you feel. Don’t be a person who always demoralises someone, or always being judgmental, because you have flaws. All have things they need to work on body.

“I have been waiting to be thin most of my life – to lose weight. I’ve put a lot of things on hold. When a kid growing up in Poland, I was quite sickly with upper throat infections and had to go to places we called sanatoriums to get better. Every time I went to one, they would put me on a low-calorie diet. They were always saying that I had to lose weight. Nowadays, when I look at photos from childhood, I don’t see anything wrong. I wasn’t skinny, but I wasn’t fat. But I was made to feel that there was something wrong. A few years ago, I started feeling a growing sense of anger so consuming a lot of feminist blogs and podcasts, and they talked about body positivity and self-love. I got to point where I thought, ‘There’s nothing wrong with the way I look, there’s nothing wrong with the way anyone looks. I’m just going to live my life.’ I stopped waiting to buy nice clothes, I just bought the clothes that fitted me. I started going on holiday. I started wearing a swimsuit and going swimming, which I always used to love when I was a kid. Now my attitude is:
‘Don’t like what you see look elsewhere else!’ N
o longer trying to change myself to fit society so trying to change society so it can fit me. Body positivity is not for fat people or skinny people it’s for everyone. Body positivity is the freedom that comes with being able to be happy with yourself. It gives you so much time to do other things, to travel, to think, to write, to make friends without having to worry about how you look all the time. Everyone could use a bit of body positivity in their life.”

MERCEDEZ, 28, LONDON / CHICAGO @missmermaidezpublic

“I was on a flight recently and I asked for a seat belt extender, I’m totally comfortable asking for – it doesn’t bother me. I was told I would have to pay for it. I said, ‘No thanks’, and they just ignored it, so I went without a seat belt from London to Morocco and back again. People think being fat is our fault. I struggled with not feeling desirable as a teenager. I thought I would never find a partner, that nobody would love me in the body I had. I look back at the time where I hated myself the most and I’m like – I was so cute. Why would anyone think these things? I do feel sensitive about desirability, through relationships and especially the way men have treated me as disposable. But I know that I’m hot. I know that I’m a worthy human being so it has nothing to do with my size. I know my body is some people’s greatest fear, to confront that is uncomfortable. To confront me being happy and living life and feeling healthy whatever that means threatens people’s desires to fit into beauty norm. I think it scares people you exist in the way you haven’t been told you can.”

TARA, 30, NORTHAMPTONSHIRE

@fatandfab88

“Sometimes being fat is awesome, and sometimes it’s difficult. Spaces aren’t designed for larger bodies. And public transport is a nightmare. You need two seats on an plane. But a big body has just as much right as a smaller body.I think as I’ve got older, I just care less. Or I care more about myself and less about what’s expected of me. Being fat feels rebellious. Being fat and loving yourself is something completely different. I used to hate it. I wouldn’t eat. I wanted my skin to be lighter, so when I was in primary school, cover myself in talcum powder. Now, of course, I realise there’s nothing wrong with me. It would help if there were fat dolls out there for kids. Dolls like Barbie, have an unattainable shape. For everyone – of any size, race, whatever it’s not manageable. As I’ve got older, I’ve grown into my body. That’s the best way to say it. It kind of grew on me. When I finally became happy with where I was, when I stopped always trying to improve, that made a big difference. My partner helped loads as well. People think that if you’re fat then you can’t be healthy. You can be really big, and not as healthy as you should be. But then you’re happy, so it’s about weighing up what’s more important. When I’m smaller, I’m a state. I’m a happy size, and a healthy size, for all of me. For my mental health and my physical health, which are almost the same thing.”

SHARON, 30, LONDON

“When I was a kid, I didn’t feel happy in myself. I felt that I was ugly and my self-worth was really low bullied a lot. I developed and came out of myself a bit in my later teens. But it wasn’t until I found out about fat acceptance and fat positivity that I really came into my own. I was able to start looking at my self-worth as being more than whether or not I’m aesthetically pleasing to wider society. Now, some days I think I’m beautiful, other days I don’t. I have the knowledge that when things aren’t great, I can actually break it down and think OK Sharon, it’s not because you’re fat, it’s not because of you, it’s because of society’s impression of you.’ Because you’ve absorbed so many images from the media. There’s nothing wrong with you, it’s just the way that you’ve been made to feel. I’m a lot more in control of how I feel about myself. Fat activism is liberating fat people from social norms, and the discrimination and negativity that comes alongside that. We want society to accept us as human beings whose worth is not defined by weight, appearance or health. The biggest thing is to not make assumptions about why fat people are fat, or that they’re unhealthy. Just ask us. Ask us how we feel about our bodies. Be open-minded.”

BEWARE MARRIED/RICHMEN

Beware men do not choose wife based on beauty and physical appearance only. Look beyond outer beauty into inner heart and seek God’s help to choose Godly wife in Jesus Name. If you have problems right from onset of the relationship from dating, courtship, engagement, wedding, barrenness, low sperm count, business collapse problem after another since meeting spouse you are under serious spiritual attack. And contending with spiritual husband and spiritual wife against physical marriage. Both partners may not realise spiritual husband and wife covenant in you from family working against you. And do not accuse and blame each other but rather seek deliverance immediately in Jesus Name to save you. Do not go to consult idol shrine or witch doctors because this makes problems worse. They dupe you, take all your money, you end up in debt, frustration, suicidal thoughts of a divorce spiritual spouse wants. Do not dismiss spiritual marriage as a delusion because the family initiates children in covenant ceremony dedicating the child to shrine demons. Those spirits entered and married them so are possessive, jealous and angry with a person taking away their wife from them. This is why they attack and destroy the marriages to send back the wife or husband to them. To ordinary human eyes a ritual bath or potion, perfumes, handkerchief, nail or hair cuts, incisions means a ‘protection’ from evil eyes. The truth is its initiation ritual connection’s kingdom of darkness strategy used for destruction.

Ignorance is a reason out of fear people run to the evil spirits causing problems to finish them. The evil spirit’s goal is make them have serial marriages and futile relationships with children to attack their family. This is the marriage initiated by psychics or fortune tellers, the spirit behind it is demons not Holy Spirit from God. They display pictures of Jesus to fool and seem spiritual but God warns against going to seek fortune tellers and necromancers for divination, marriage, future plans concerning your future life. It lasts for a short season but destruction starts unawares causing the fight affecting all relationship problems. God is author and finished of marriage so seek God if you want to marry and be faithful to your Godly spouse to protect your life for good success in life. As the devil roams about looking for people to target to ruin and kill through flirting or illicit affairs to disgrace victims. There is a real kingdom of darkness working against unsuspecting victims who are rich or married to destroy marriages to fight Godly homes. Some who are rich very proud of material wealth do not value God or Honour Him as the source of blessing. So think they made wealth themselves forgetting God is OWNER of all resources on earth show off so don’t respect their wives. Think that having numerous girlfriends or flashy cars is the sign of power. Do not realise they fall into human trafficking traps sets by devil to lure and destroy them. They see these physically beautiful women or handsome men but really sleeping with snakes and demons collecting their sperm and their riches through contact with agents of the devil into the marine world. Many rich men including politicians disgraced, fell due to seduction spirits sent with evil eye to lure them and ruin their progress. Most prostitutes seek strength and favour to attract rich clients through witchcraft. A minder takes to witch doctor invoke the spells, charms, sexy dressing, beads and perfumes, drinks, cigarettes and ensure exclusive regular customer is rich client under their spell. So a married man will fight at home with his wife so can never have intercourse with her again.


Such men become pawns in the marine kingdom unaware of the sources of the problems. A constant fight ensures, his wife “smells badly” to him due to charm against his marriage. The sperm is used in the marine kingdom to make slippers sold so all wearing it becomes initiated. A spiritual world exists beyond physical reality controlled by devil and demons. It is wise to pray everyday over family, food, clothes, material wealth bought as it may look ordinary and harmless but is lethal to harm people. Cover yourself and your family, business, home, wealth with BLOOD of Jesus. Be careful of types of drama or games watched influencing the mind and planting seed of seduction or rebellion against God Almighty. You may think you are exercising your free will or choice but evil spirits behind the scenes are spiritual wickedness in high places the Bible warned about. End time prophecies reveals satan is empowered to recruit rebellious people to kingdom of darkness to self destruct. So the real solution is entrust yourself and family under the protection of Almighty God. A belief in God in Christ is not pick and mix religion you fancy and live as you like. Your very life depends on God to save and deliver you in Jesus Name to preserve you in rapture alive to heaven and in the eternal life in God’s Kingdom. Be encouraged to seek pastors who help poor in troubled times to deliver, help you. A young soldier and treasurer in the army met a woman who used his sperm to charm and seduced him of the amount of N2:5million naira. As payday was due he squandered the salaries of the soldiers but came to his senses and was desperate so wanted to kill himself. Thank God he went to church, problem revealed by God to prophet Jeremiah. So people helped to payoff 2:5 million debt through the intervention of the Colonel in the army. He was given N2:1million for him and family to recover his losses. All these due to his adultery in search of pleasure. He learnt his lesson too so gone back to his wife and his 3 children after the mistress duped him. Vanity of vanity is the unstable spirit lurking in a person searching in vain for happiness outside God. The devil had set places to deceive people to think they are having innocent fun. Only to realise addicted to sex, pornography or substance abuse. The women or men used are victims because money earned by seduction is not allowed to be shared with loved ones, family, charity, church or support good causes. It is exclusively for vanity to buy houses for prostitution clothes to dress seductively, do make up and hair, drink expensive alcohol, to smoke and destroy themselves too. If they give the money to family or good causes giver and receiver die. You know now why such rich relatives cannot help you. So despite luring the wealthy rich married men have nothing to show for it after paying minder who lured and sent them into prostitution. End up with nothing but sickness, HIV, poor health or death. The devil is real so beware and seek the Face of God Almigthy to supply all your needs according God’s riches in heaven by Christ Jesus. Most victims are part of occult kingdom set up to produce such children who grow up to continue cycle of serving the devil unawares. So need serious deliverance to overcome the evil spirits invoked in them from birth that is destroying their lives to be set free as new creation in Jesus Name. So remain faithful in the Kingdom of God, serving God in Christ in Jesus Name in Spirit in Truth daily to the Glory of God.

MARRIED 45 GAVE BIRTH 47

God’s Time is the best to fulfil the plans and purpose for your life to Glorify God as Gifty Anti’s testimony shows. This is the Lords doing and it is marvellous in our eyes. Wait on GOD ALMIGHTY and do not lean on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge God, HE WILL BRING TO PASS IN JESUS NAME. This powerful message is to encourage all people to Seek God’s Face especially for marriage. Do not marry because you feel it’s too late so rush into relationship to destroy you in the end. So many fear they may not get married after a certain age, convince themselves so share the husband of another woman. They miss their own husband due to impatience so regretted later and wished they waited for God. Delay is not denial so better to build up good character and reputation to wait as a virtuous woman. The same goes for men marrying the children too young with undeveloped body to bear a weight of children or be a matured wife. GLORY to God for matured women that are fully grown and to handle marriage better. Those miserable and lonely who think marriage solves all problems must love themselves first to bring good vibes into the marriage. Spend quality time to enjoy the single years dedicated to God and busy minding your own business. It is true marriage is beautiful, wonderful and fulfilling because God created the first marriage in Garden of Eden. God said, it is not good to be alone so made Eve out of Adam’s rib to join one flesh.

Marriage ordained by God so important to organise marriage as God planned and intends. Adam and Eve are created as fully grown adults with all available resources before their marriage was created by God. Time of singlenesss is time preparation towards marriage because such precious times cannot be regained after marriage. The single person is married to God in Christ so devoted to things of God Bible says. A popular saying is that marriage is like a woollen blanket itches when covered by it and cold without it. Those inside it are desperate to get out while those outside can’t wait to get in. Marriage is so great and wonderful because two better than one strengthening each other when the going gets tough. A real life marriage is not just like a fantasy drama of actors pretending to be couples on TV reciting written scripts and paid. Do not base a choice of a life partner on TV drama or Mills and Boons romantic fantasy novel although it contains elements of truth of real life. Marriage that endures lifetime is deeper than TV drama marriage takes the Grace, Mercy and Favour of God to endure the challenges and adversity of life together as a couple. And marriage is NOT HAPPILY EVER AFTER always as novels say it is practical real life matters of building family, relationship with the in-laws, humility, respect for people in the families, Honour, respect and never just the two couples involved. Be ready to become part of bigger family looking after interests of others not just yourself as God planned. Couples celebrate their wedding interact with family to support them in time of need. And never isolate yourselves to be in love to burn bridges because after the dust settles you need all those people to help the marriage to thrive. Isolated marriages are too close for comfort puts too much stress on each other to ruin marriage. A single person is WHOLE PERSON made in the IMAGE OF GOD. So stop thinking you are incomplete without marriage if not married yet or chooses not to marry marriage is not a competition of friends. Do not rush into marriage because you feel left behind by agemates. A real life journey is personal and individual, seek the face of God before marriage. 

Polyandry marriage of women married to more than one husband is common in India, Nigeria, China, Mountain tribes of Asia where there are more women than men. Similar words are polygyny, bigamy and deuterogamy. The Bible says 7 women will take hold of one man and say we are self-sufficient, so have everything already, we just want to be called by your name “Mrs.” Solomon and 700 wives and his 300 concubines, feminists now demand equal rights of polyandry to be like men. God allowed Abraham, Jacob, David among others to have many wives. Though God said, one man join one wife as ONE FLESH people are greedy so want more. After all God and Jesus are too HOLY without sexual needs, without a wife, so how on earth are they going to understand human needs of the flesh? The signs of end time debauchery and lasciviousness like the days of Noah and Sodom and Gomorrah Jesus has warned about will happen be before His coming again. Hope you are all well by the Grace of God. Pray with intense fasting intercession to break family covenant of spiritual marriage you are dedicated to fighting real life spouse. Secrets are not shared by parents so seek deliverance in Jesus Name for a breakthrough. Don’t consult psychics, necromancers, fortune tellers, native doctor herbalist, witch doctor for marriage because you will be initiated to satan and demons will marry you to prevent real life marriage. It may seem they gave you husband or wife but it is loaded with evil because satan does not give anything free without taking back a life of family members to kill, destroy or make them suffer in life. So may not realise your connection to idol shrine is the cause of all family sickness, poverty, and premature deaths. Ancestors sought ‘protection’ from: evil witchcraft, wars, land disputes, chieftaincy by sacrificing the family to shrines. Such generational covenants are known or unknown to family members suffering today. The LORD GOD ALMIGHTY is the source of life and giver of marriage so follow the plan if God for your life. Do not listen to those who ruined their life embarrassed by your virtuous life to deceive you to ruin your life. They may call you “an old maid” left on the shelf but GOD’S TIME is the BEST in Jesus Name. All laughing and mocking you now will see the Glory of God in your life and your testimony in Jesus Name. Others decide to do their own deceived by those who want their life destroyed to spur on to disgrace them. Beware and stand on the word of God for inspiration, hope, assurance in Christ and trust God in Spirit and Truth to beautify your life in His Own Time for you. You will enjoy your marriage because you are  faithful to God so HE WILL Make A WAY for you where there is no way in Jesus Name. The Bible in Exodus 21:10, says a man can marry an infinite amount of women without limits to how many to marry. And in 2 Samuel 5:13; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, and in 14:3, King David had six wives and his numerous concubines. Also in 1 Kings 11:3, King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Again in 2 Chronicles 11:21, King Solomon’s son Rehoboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines. And in Deuteronomy 21:15 A man with two wives loves one but not the other and both bear sons favours one more. The laws of each land dictate the number of spouse according to that culture.  

IMG_20180915_131117If you have Spiritual Father and Mother in Christ go and talk to them privately about your desire to get married. Study Biblical marriage to read good books on marriage from God to help understand marriage better. Ensure you are able to provide marital needs like rent, food, work to have money to pay the bills, to first take care of yourself before you go to add children’s needs into a marriage for more responsibility. Love alone is not enough because love does not pay bills or provide food just because you declare or flaunt how madly you are in love on social media. Be happy first in yourself, see marriage as bonus adding value to your life rather than depending on person to fulfil your life. Impossible to demand spouse totally fulfil all areas of your life needs because you love and married them. You demand they be God who is ONLY ONE Provider that way. Its misunderstanding to destroy marriage because of your assumption a partner will meets all your needs but you do not tell them what your need is. You insist they read your mind to do all you want from them without TALKING to them or doing good to them in return. Marriage is not a ONE WAY culdesac no return of favour done to you. Negotiate with family through the good servant of God with your family in partnership for a spouse. Even if church helps you find spouse include family or if family finds you spouse include the church if a born again believer. You need them along the journey of married life for sure honour family and stay in church in marriage ordained by God. Families give account to God on judgement day so remember God will deal with you as you deal with spouse and fam vily. Check your heart for motives of marriage to be sure you love, show kindness, peace, joy, so loyal, forgives, self-control, laughter help each other, family after honeymoon is over reality sets in. Marriage not for the fainthearted so treat it with respect, honesty, trust be transparent for your own good to help save to preserve your married life in peace. Continue to pray intensely as you did when seeking that life partner to defeat and conquer the onslaught of forces that contend with the marriage. Do not relax and think nobody fights over conquered fortress to settle down so ignore spouse. This is beginning of married life of challenges in relationship. With God all things are possible so be alert watch out pray, seek deliverance in Mighty Name of Jesus!!!

POWER TO TREAD ON SNAKE

crush-serpantJesus Our Mighty God of PEACE crushed evil snake under His Feet so believers have the same POWER and Authority in the Name of Jesus to tread on serpents, adder and scorpions in Jesus Name. God gave you POWER to tread on the adder snake and scorpions, the young lions and so nothing shall by any means hurt you in Jesus Name. As God’s battle axe in Jeremiah 51:1-2 you destroy enemy because God did not give a spirit of fear but POWER, LOVE AND A SOUND MIND so not only pastors, prophets ministers have POWER over evil. Bible says tread on evil snake trying to steal, kill destroy, deceive, attack physically or spiritually. GOD’S MIGHTY POWER PASS evil power in JESUS NAME destroy all evil affliction bondage in family, stop snake dream as you wake up. Fast, pray, cast out and kill snake fighting loved ones in Jesus Name. Cast out evil animal in dream that confuse those attacked. The snakes hides longer in dreams without people knowing, bites, puts a demon in food to inject toxic poisonous things in victims. Dreams of snake kiss, hugging, within home, in trees, under chair or by bed is not good a sign. Capture and kill snake to destroy attack and escape unhurt in Jesus Name in the dream. Waking up from dream in anger or confused God is warning you watch out for physical snake in premises. The people dreaming or visions of snakes in prophecy see snakes in home so kill the snake and set it ablaze. The presence of snake in dream cause spiritual havoc in children’s life. Take dreams of the snake seriously its not goodluck people misled to think. This message will change your life in Jesus Name so be deliverance in Jesus Name. Dream of snakes in a house crawling, running, sleeping with you or cuddling you is a witchcraft attack sent to harm or destroy destiny. So presence of snake dreams mean you cannot enjoy blessing of marriage or good success in life unless snake killed. A snake possess a person as spouse so stops real humans marrying them to bring shame, disgrace destroys family to prevent commitment and loyalty to God. The devil serpent is sent to stop faithful genuine Christians from praying or going to church. Causes affliction, swallow talent, wealth, assets delays born again believer by attacking them to cause strife, anger, bitterness in family. Responsible for fights, argument and divorce because it thinks it owns a person dedicated to family altar idol by covenant. Moses lifted a bronze snake in the wilderness, so the Son of Man Jesus is Lifted Up so whoever believes in Him has eternal life. For God so loved the world HE gave HIS ONLY Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life. God did not send HIS SON Jesus into the world to condemn the world, but so you in the world will be saved through Jesus in John 3:13-17. Believe in God to save and deliver you. For whom the Son Jesus Sets free is FREE indeed. Paul burnt snake on woodfire in Malta so did not die so God delivers people from the evil power of snakes.hch28-1Paul destroyed this wicked spirit so you will receive breakthroughs in your life with blessings from God. Victory verses in Bible show God’s defeat of magician snakes by Moses Snake in confrontation to let Hebrews go from Egypt. Prayer points against witchcraft show its stops manipulation to try to control people using snakes attack spells and curses. Protection from God and covering by BLOOD of Jesus stops the vulnerable attacks. A moving or crawling snakes can cause untimely death, afflictions, sickness and diseases. Marital, family problems, hardships, suffering, shame, stealing, immorality, seeing crocodiles, lions, dogs, masquerades, lying. Reject all these curses if you experience such dreams it means devil wants to dig a pit for you. Your present anointing cannot destroy them you are in serious trouble, as difficulties began in life so go to see deliverance pastor for help. Important to know Biblical meanings of dreams of warfare to get Prayers to tackle it. Get Bible Dream Interpretations Books on snakebites, greensnakes, snake in room, if unable to kill snake escaped in dream. Also, imagination of snakes in mind or snake slithering games allow snakes in dreams. Gospel of John finds healing in Jesus lifted up on Cross as Hebrews found healing as Moses lifted up the bronze serpent in the wilderness. But in 2 Kings 18, Hezekiah destroys the symbolic serpent hardening people’s heart turning from God to the bronze snake in Temple. So God cannot be reduced to idol and if you worship at snake altars, idols in a family ancestral curses affect you so receive deliverance in Jesus Name. Luke 10:19 says, Behold I give you POWER and Authority to tread on serpents and scorpions and over all the power of the enemy so nothing shall by anymeans hurt you in Jesus Name. Isaiah 27:1 says, In that day, the LORD GOD will punish with HIS SWORD by HIS fierce, great and powerful SWORD, Leviathan gliding serpent tormenting people in Jesus Name. Phillipians 2: 9 – 11 says, Therefore God Highly Exalted Jesus and bestowed on Him the Name above every name, 10 so at the Name of Jesus every knee shall bow, in heaven, on earth, under the earth 11 and every tongue confess Jesus Christ is Lord to the GLORY of Father God. 2 Timothy 4:18, says, The LORD shall deliver me from every evil work, and preserve me in HIS HEAVENLY KINGDOM. To God be the GLORY for ever and ever. Amen. In Revelations 12:11, we overcame devil by BLOOD of the Lamb Jesus and by word of our testimony in Jesus Name. In the Bible God’s people spoke against HIM and his prophet Moses and in doing so provoked the LORD to anger. So GOD sent venomous snakes among them to bite the people and many Israelites died in Numbers 21:4-9. The people repented after sinning so asked Moses to pray that the LORD takes away the snakes. Moses prayed on their behalf and the LORD told Moses to make bronze snake and put it on a pole. Anyone bitten by a snake who looks up at the bronze snake, lived. God’s punishment with poisonous snakes designed to teach Israel painful lesson is that consequences of sin bites so stop rebellion against God. Romans 1 25 Warns those who change the TRUTH of GOD into a lie to worship and serve creatures more than Creator God, WHO is blessed for ever. Amen. To celebrate snakes or other creatures above GOD is abominationable sin and death. A snake is a killer loving and worshipping snake or daring snake to prove point of taking serpents is foolishness. Nowhere in the Bible does GOD command HIS Children to tempt HIM by daredevil daring snake above GOD the CREATOR. Its witchcraft so you are devil worshipper if your only focus is on snakes than ALMIGHTY GOD through Jesus Christ. No other name is given among men by which one can be saved except the Name of Jesus. So seek GOD and get rid of snakes so Jesus can save you by the MIGHTY POWER in the Name of Jesus through HOLY SPIRIT’S strength to stop the evil consequences. Without the Mercy of God all perish so get GOD solution to problems in Christ Jesus dying on Cross Who resurrected to bring healing to all by faith. God heals all those who believe in HIS promise and obey because God uses the things foolish to the world to confound wise so does as HE SAID! It was not metal snake charm but a total obedience to God that saved lives in Jesus Name. Check your heart if snake’s torments in dreams are punishment of disobeying God to repent and ask God’s Forgiveness and Mercy.

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INSTRUCTION: Embark on 7 days fasting and prayers between 6am – 6pm. CONFESSION: Luke 10:19, Isaiah 27:1; Philippians 2:9-11, 2 Timothy 4:18, Revelation 12:11.

PRAYER POINTS: Every rage of serpent or snakes assigned to harm me in the dream, I command you to turn back and harm your sender in Jesus name Gen 3:14,  Every serpent using your dream life to trouble, they shall be cursed, in the name of Jesus. Luke 10:19, Any ancestral serpent or snake assigned to hurt me in the dream, you are a liar, be destroyed in Jesus name. I am fully protected by the blood of Jesus. Micah 7:17, Every hidden snake waiting to attack my marriage in the dream, you cannot poison me with your venom, so therefore catch fire, in Jesus name. Every evil imagination of the snakes displaying in my mind, I cancel it with the blood of Jesus. I break the backbone of the serpent, in the name of Jesus. Proverbs 23:32, Every venom of the snake inside my body to cause slow death and sickness, be NULLIFIED BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS. My Father, by the power of the blood of Jesus, I disinfect my room and compound with the blood of Jesus. My family are free from the attack of the serpent in Jesus name. Genesis 3:15, Every agenda of the serpent to cause God to punish me because  of my sin, I destroy you in my life in Jesus name Every power using the spirit of the snake to fight me in the dream, be destroyed by fire by thunder in Jesus name You serpent of darkness, release me and die, in Jesus name Programme of the snakes against me and my family, I scatter your plans in Jesus name Every spirit of the snake using my house as their habitation, get out now in Jesus name O Lord, deliver me from the attacks of the snakes, in the name of Jesus. I frustrate demonic snake over my life and marriage, in the name of Jesus. Every evil snake eating up my blessings in the spirit realm, be roasted by fire, in Jesus name O LORD, expel hidden evil snakes in my dream, in Jesus name. You snake assigned to attack marriage, be attacked by fire in Jesus name. My Father, let the weapon of my prayers kill serpents that refuse to let me go, in Jesus name. I receive POWER to tread on the serpents, snakes, adder, scorpions in the NAME of Jesus according to Psalm 91. My FATHER GOD, whoever sent snake to attack me in the dream, Holy Ghost fire roast them to ashes, in Jesus name. By the BLOOD of Jesus, I destroy the legs of serpents assigned to destroy me in my dream, in Jesus name My Father, let all serpents and scorpion begin to wage war against themselves, in the name of Jesus. Any man or woman turning into a serpent in dream to frustrate God’s will, plan, and purpose for my life, die by fire, in the name of Jesus. I cancel manifestation of this serpentile spirit coming to reality, in the name of Jesus. Shout the blood of Jesus 7 times. Oh LORD by your fire, rescue my glory from the spirit of the python, in the name of Jesus. I take the chains of the spirit in my hands, I chain the heads of the serpentine spirits attacking my glory. O Lord, If husband / wife / partner is possessed with spirit of the serpent, I command marine spirit to die, in the name of Jesus. Every serpent programmed with my destiny, burn to ashes, in the name of Jesus. I destroy by fire, every spirit of python assigned to swallow my glory, in the name of Jesus. My glory in belly and body of serpent, come out by fire, in the name of Jesus. Thanks and GLORY to Father God in Jesus Name for our deliverance. Amen. 

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CHERISH YOUR SPOUSE

IMG_20180331_130704Cherish your spouse by focusing more on their strength and positive points so instead of dwelling on what annoys you make a big deal when your spouse does something positive and good. Have constant urge to make loved one smile always by looking for unique new ways to impress each other. Some go for dinners; some go for gifts, while others go for surprise vacations. One thing that always helps is to manage living lovelife. Do something to bring in the spark each day as a way into the heart is communicate through the mobile phone too and talk daily.
Expressed Love even if you feel upset
Keep Dwelling on positive points that made you love each other and refuse to be drawn into angry negative energy of spouse who wants to hurt your feelings. Do not tolerate anger on because upset spouse delights in winding you up. And learn to protect your joyful spirit.IMG_20180331_130635
Focus on what is working. If you are keen to exit a cycle of negativity, create a list of the lovely things your partner does, no matter how small, that you can be thankful for. Rather than focusing on what annoys you, elevate small details of your partner’s thoughtfulness. Better still, make a big deal out of it when your partner does something positive. It will motivate them towards acts of kindness.
Be vulnerable. A criticism holds veiled wish so when you say, “You’re always at football with your friends,” you mean, I wish you were here with me so ask for what you want with the possibility that you may not always get what you want.
Abolish sweeping accusations. Phrases like “You never, “You always…” are loaded with negativity. Listen to the difference between “I will love it if you do dishes this evening, I’m really tired” instead of  “You never do the dishes!”IMG_20180331_130605
Listen carefully. When something is thrown your way, take a pause. When we are in critical mode, take the time to reflect. Think about the following: why am I feeling angry? What do I want? So take responsibility for feelings, share it.
Adopt the Avatar approach. In James Cameron’s film Avatar, “I see you” is used as a greeting on Pandora. When open up and really “see” your partner, in the spiritual and connected sense of the word, chances are you will be more understanding of the situation at hand.
Think Rumi. The 13th-century Persian poet wrote, “Raise your words, not your voice. Rain grows flowers, not thunder.” A relationship cannot blossom if voices are raised. Try whispering if upset and let God be at the centre of your love life. Forgive spouse daily as Christ forgives us and raise your children to love, fear honour God in Jesus Name.Published by Anne-Celine Jaeger Sources: Esther Perel’s State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity; psychotherapist and author Barton Goldsmith.