EARLY ADOLESCENT KIDS

kids-circleAdolescence starts earlier in modern generations than previous ones lasting twice as long as it did in the 1950s. So children are hitting puberty earlier than ever before said Psychology professor Laurence Steinberg who explained why to BrainwavesAdolescence is a period of life between starting puberty and becoming stable, independent adults. This time is being extended because some children begin puberty earlier.Kids-Diverse-1

Adolescence is three times as long as it was in the 19th Century and it’s twice as long as in the 1950s.
Professor Laurence Steinberg

According to Professor Steinberg, in the western world adolescence runs from age 10 or to about age 25. Professor Steinberg attributed this phenomenon of lengthening of adolescence to several surprising factors as follows:youth-world-header-large

Obesity & Man-made Chemicals

The first and most important is obesity. The kids who are fatter go through puberty earlier than the leaner kids he said. Man-Made Chemicals. There are other factors as well. One has to do with the exposure of children to endocrine-disrupting chemicals in the man-made environment. The chemicals are not just in food, they’re in cosmetics, they’re in plastics, they’re in pesticides they’re ubiquitous.” “When people are exposed to these endocrine disrupters it alters their hormonal development and many chemicals lead to earlier onset puberty mostly in girls.”hot

More SunLight exposure

The third factor that’s been discovered fairly recently has to do with exposure to sunlight.” It turns out that kids who grow up near the equator go through puberty earlier than kids who grow up near the north or south pole and that’s because, when you grow up near the equator, you have more exposure to sunlight over the course of childhood years.” While it may not be of too much concern to parents in northern Europe, recent research suggests a final factor which applies to many children here.

“Scientists discovered recently the light emanating from tablets or smartphones or computer screens can affect onset of puberty by disrupting brain’s melatonin system. Kids who spend more and more time in front of these screens especially in front of the blue light emitted by the devices probably contributed to earlier puberty as well. Light from the phones impacts brains of kids and adults.“World-Population-889x591.jpg

Adolescent Brainwaves

Brainwaves of the adolescent brain as Pennie Latin examines is relatively a young field of teenage neurology. It has revealed lack of frontal cortex ability to understand risk and consequences. And so although adolescent children may hit puberty earlier, they may not be able to handle the harsh realities of the trauma of war years, distress, rations, famine, lack of tough physical life forced upon previous generations. They worked in factories, chimney sweepers, railway as tracks as children making them more mature. They develop faster on growth spurt but face challenges of the modern generation.

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FOOD IS YOUR MEDICINE

A North Carolina Gospel Minister Sows Seeds of Hope in a Food Desert in USA. The Reverend Richard Joyner of Conetoe Chapel Missionary Baptist Church in Conetoe, NC, exhorts his congregants to strengthen their community. First, the Reverend Richard Joyner got mad. Then he got a trowel. Sick and tired of seeing his congregation suffer from poor nutrition, the North Carolina minister sowed seeds of hope in a food desert. ABOUT A DECADE AGO, the Reverend Richard Joyner of Conetoe Chapel Missionary Baptist Church realized he ministered to a congregation of people often hungry and living in poverty but never complained. He came up with an ingenious use of land that helped keep the young ones involved in learning about nature first hand. The Church members unfamiliar with farming in the city are educated on how to grow own good produce.  The pastor found it difficult to comfort grieving or contain his outrage: “How do you tell someone who’s just lost a child to poor nutrition that this was God’s plan when it was totally preventable? Who would hang out with that God?” Each Sunday, Joyner felt like a hypocrite, urging congregants to worship a deity he doubted. During the week, he was forced to confront the community’s health problems constantly as a hospital chaplain. After one particularly trying hospital shift, Joyner pulled his car over and began to pray. “I heard a voice saying, ‘Open your eyes and look around,’” the 64-year-old remembers. All he saw was farmland. His parents and grandparents had been share- croppers; his great-grandparents, slaves. That moment fields blanketing Edgecombe County represented not untapped opportunity but a painful reminder of the region’s racist past.

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Young people enjoy outdoors activity so this roadside epiphany directly inspired the church’s now-bustling nonprofit agriculture and education center might construct a tidy narrative. It would, however, be inaccurate. Back in 2005, when Joyner first equipped area youth with seeds and spades on a borrowed plot down the road, he simply hoped to engage kids at summer camp. The campers consumed their initial harvest, but the following year, they started delivering free boxes of ‘Hen Pecked’ mustard greens, ‘Puerto Rican Red’ sweet potatoes and the vegetables to local senior citizens. “One 97-year-old lady, she was so excited, she kissed the children,” Joyner says. “That was the first time in a long time I witnessed anybody speaking a blessing over our troubled children.” Not everyone welcomes bounty. Only a generation or two removed from sharecropping, some church elders questioned the wisdom of participating in any sort of agrarian pursuit. They remained uncomfortably familiar with Edgecombe County’s role in the South’s antebellum cotton economy. Henry Toole Clark, a Civil War–era governor of North Carolina, owned a vast plantation—and dozens of slaves here. Joyner explains prevailing concern: “Do we really want our kids going back to that?” He empathized. Then again, he’d witnessed satisfaction junior parishioners derived from the soil. Less encumbered by Conetoe’s complicated history, they were free to dig in the dirt. “They’re bringing food to people who need it,” Joyner says. “They enjoy the process. They’re playing out there.” Meanwhile, various activities on the farm like preparing beds, selecting seeds, tending crops, selling produce, tracking digital data impart valuable lessons in science, technology, exercise, economics, math, and nutrition.IMG_20180106_150511

DIVERSITY AND MARRIAGE

uk-scotland-42510187Congratulations on celebration of inter marriage between different groups of people often seen as source of blending families. In the past was not considered able to do so even within same nation a tribe saw other tribes in the draconian age as enemies unable to relate in long term marriage of family members. And many people missed potential marriage of choice thwarted by feuding families of past generations. Today it is good to see the acceptance and tolerance after many years people recognise humans come from one race. Although some people do not really fully understand the challenges involved it is nice to see a successful couple overcome diversity. It is equally challenging to be married in a common social background because all marriages are hardwork, tolerance and forgiveness of each other. No matter the issues faced its good to see marriage on top of the agenda once again. So nation of Britain prepares to celebrate Prince Harry’s marriage to Meghan as Queen Charlotte of Portugal married in UK’s past history of a royal mixed marriage. According to PBS, Charlotte “directly descended from Margarita de Castro y Sousa, a black branch of the Portuguese Royal HoHouse. That distinction goes way back to the 18th century to Queen Charlotte of Mecklenburg-Strelitz. So a black woman in the royal family in the 1700s history nerds say turns out that, while many Englanders were in denial at the time, the wife of King George III, who was Queen from 1761 until her death in 1818, was of mixed race. According to PBSMmmm, Charlotte was “directly descended from Margarita de Castro y Sousa, a black branch of the Portuguese Royal House.” So not of unsavoury mixed-race origins, but actual black royalty. Her race mostly went under the radar over the course of history until decades later art historians began to take a closer look at distinctly black features in her portraits. Her regal nose, those full lips; as a mixed girl myself who can often spot a person with even a small amount of Black ancestry from a mile away, it’s pretty blatant from looking at her painting.

The fact that her black physical traits were visible in those paintings was, in itself noteworthy because as customary at the time for artists air brushed to “play down soften or even obliterate undesirable features in a subjects’ face,” also according to PBS. Even more controversial is the fact that the artist who depicted Queen Charlotte in all of her portraits was Sir Allan Ramsay, an anti-slavery advocate who went on to marry a black woman himself. All that being said, many historians believe the mere existence of Queen Charlotte and these portraits could have played a major role in the slavery abolition movement of the time. And that makes total sense. I mean, think about it: As we saw on The Crown, Queen Elizabeth II wouldn’t even allow her sister to marry a man who had once been divorced. And that was in the 1950s. Can you imagine the existence of a black queen back in the 18th century. Another major plot twis is Queen Charlotte, the actual first black and bi-racial member of royalty, happens to be Prince Harry’s great-great-great-great-great-grandmother. She’s Queen Victoria’s grandmother, which makes them relatives, several generations removed. So not only is it possible that Prince Harry’s 14th great-uncle may have beheaded one of Markle’s ancestors, but now, it’s looking like Prince Harry himself has some interracial genes. It   turns out Queen Charlotte might not be the lone mixed royal and potentially not the first, either. Philippa of Hainault, a fourteenth-century Queen of England, was also rumoured to have African ancestry. And in 2004, former sheep sheerer and builder Gary Lewis became the first Maori or aboriginal New Zealander to join the extended royal family by marrying Lady Davina Lewis, daughter of the Duke of Glouchester and 28th in line to the British throne. (I know, I know. Let me know if y’all need me to draw a family tree for all of this.)
Regardless, I think it’s long overdue (like, seven generations long) for Queen Charlotte to get some credit for being an early trailblazer among the royals. And even though the official title of the first black member of royalty technically taken a long time ago. Meghan Markle’s recent engagement reminds people that love heart matters for pure happiness.

MERRY CHRISTMAS THANKS

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With Compliments of Christmas Season, May I take this opportunity on behalf of my family and myself to wish you and your family, Merry Christmas and Happy Prosperous New Year. May your Christmas be filled with joy, love, peace and precious special memories. And as the New Year unfolds, may it bring you everything you ever hope for and God’s Blessings everyday in Jesus Name.

God bless you always,

With Love From God’sHotSpot

YOU LOOK LIKE CHRISTMAS

Best-Christmas-Greeting-Card“Christmas is usually a noisy party: we could use a bit of silence, to hear the voice of Love.” Christmas is you, when you decide to be born again each day and let God into your soul. Christmas pine is you when you resist vigorous winds and difficulties of life because of Jesus Christ the hope of Glory in you. HOL033-G-01Christmas decorations are you, when your virtuous colours adorn your life. The Christmas bell is you, when you call, gather and seek to unite. You are a Christmas light, when you illuminate with your life the path of others with kindness, patience, joy and generosity. The Christmas angels are you, when you sing to the world a message of peace, justice and love.efdffd5e29e003a571e7cac928d871ef The Christmas star is you, when you lead someone to meet the Lord. You are also the wise men, when you give the best you have no matter who. Christmas music is you when you conquer the harmony within you. The Christmas gift is you when you are truly friend and brother of every human being. The Christmas card is you when kindness is written in your hands. The Christmas greeting is you when you forgive and restablish peace, even when you suffer. 6365-inspirational-christmas-quotesThe Christmas dinner is you, when you sated bread and hope to the poor man who is by your side. You are Christmas night when humble and conscious, you receive in silent night the Saviour Jesus of the world without noise or great celebrations; you are a smile of trust and tenderness, in the inner peace of perennial Christmas that establishes God’s Kingdom within you. A very Merry Christmas for all those who look like Christmas.

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FINDING TRUE LOVE AGAIN

BLOG-ARIS-CAVES-3Find true love again if your friends are all coupled up is possible. If one key New Year’s resolution is again find yourself a relationship, where to start can become daunting. We find ourselves deep in the party season, when even those who are antisocial rest of the year feel obliged to enter the fray. If at no other moment one is compelled to meet people so as to commune, converse often suggestion of intimacy hovers alluringly in the air as surely as mull and the pine. Christmas is time for encounters, social interaction opportunities for a stable romantic love.Valentines_beach_620

And I know of what I speak. Three years ago, at the age of 43, I met my beloved at a Christmas party after years of living solo dream, including writing a column about being single. Still thinks of myself  as ‘professionally single’, despite loved one’s protestations. ‘How,’ people often constantly ask me, ‘did you pull it off?’ given I defied conventional platitudes by relishing my lone life, having a ball, not being particularly bent on ending, it then meeting chap perfect other women refer to him as ‘illusion dream unicorn.’

To my mind, the answer is not only just mere luck but avoiding these platitudes in the first place. Smug I most certainly am not. My relationship hope embraces the new circumstances recommended. Neither do I believe coupledom is for everyone. Cue my first tip…

Work out if needs finding love

It’s not always self-evident as a lot of people assume merely because they are single they must desire partner. Yet the message of behaviour may be entirely the opposite. A friend once informed me I was ‘ideologically single’ so was right. My relationship status wasn’t going to change until this did. Relationships are hard work a different sort of hard work to keeping the show on the road on one’s tod. There can be an ease to single living: a briskness and knowing where one is with it. Despite ability to act as a salve to loneliness one is never more lonelir than in the most difficult flailing, relationship. There are many ways of having love, companionship, and/or sex in your life, and different approaches may be appropriate to different stages of existence. Consider whether it is a partner that you want if it is act on it.

Cultivate a dazzling social life

If you are determined to stay solo not to become conjoined your single or social life is your life; if seeking a relationship, socialising will be means of achieving it. In either case, new blood  is all. Plus, it’s terrific fun. The majority of my closest alliances were forged when  I became single in my mid-30s and I would take a bullet for each and every one of those friends. They are far more involved in my life than friends of yesteryear; what a pal refers to as‘heritage friends’ (like ‘heritage tomatoes’, only frequently  less palatable).Hannah snaps a selfie with her boyfriend, Terence Hannah snaps selfie with her boyfriend, Terence. A lawyer who unhappily single for 15 years, invariably barks, ‘I don’t need friends. I have enough friends. So what is needed is a boyfriend, wonders why she never meets someone, while spending time boring with the same two couples from her university days. The One, or even merely A.N. Other, is not going to appear on doorstep by way of some benevolent deus ex machina. If going to have to put the work in: meet people, risk vulnerability, put yourself out there. Falling back on the argument you ‘never meet anyone’ means you have only yourself to blame. What are you doing about it? Now? Tonight? I get it. I’m a closet introvert myself,  but introverts want to have intimacy. Take some responsibility and get off solo life.

Embrace change for partner

Not only do you have to work at it, you also have to work on yourself as we all do, single or enmeshed, at every age. In the main, single individuals know love is best if people considerably sane like coupled friends, active, self-sufficient, stay on their toes, without an ounce of co-dependency in them. In respect of a few situations, it is immediately obvious why someone is alone, despite repeated attempts to be otherwise. Personally, I needed to stop drinking after a lifetime of raucous carousing. I was 90 days sober the night I met my beloved, and he would have run a mile had this not been the case, as I would be in direction of the next inveterate party animal. So by removing drink blinkers allowed our eyes to meet mine in focus.Honeymoon-couple-romance-and-love-at-beach-1024x576

Finding myself non-plastered while all about me were revelling, I thought, ‘I’m going to talk to most handsome man in room,’ proceeded to do so. A friend said was ‘ideologically single’ so relationship status will not change until embraces compromise for change to include the partner in life. It turned out being hot, clever, kind, witty, generous, entirely sans baggage, and shared interest in literary theory. When another chap (my usual type, a lewd and lovable drunk) endeavoured to go home with me, I had wits to decline and to secure handsome ashing man’s number. Only by altering  the habits of a lifetime could this fateful encounter take place. Three chief single bleaters acquaintance driven away put frankly is exhausting maniac, a swivel-eyed neurotic, and a carping bitch. It’s difficult to be around them let alone as lover.  All badly need therapy; all refuse to countenance it. As it is often said, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.’ See yourself as others see you, consider doing things required differently to have good success.valentines-Image-by-Pexels-CC0

Don’t settle for less in life

As a woman, one is constantly being fed that bullshit about being more likely to be blown up in a terrorist attack than meet your partner over the age of 40 etc etc. And it is what it is. Moreover, later life has potential for far more satisfying relationships: you’ve been around the block, know who you are, and you’re 4,000 times more fascinating than you were at 25. Plus, 400,000 times better at sex. My ex-boyfriend and I could have settled not separated when in my 30s. Having the guts to call it a day meant both met people more compatible with. He got together with the love of his life shortly afterwards. Meanwhile, I got to have time of my life. By way of bonus we didn’t kill each other. When I was 40, met some bore at party, wine-fugged, unfaithful to his wife informed me I will only find someone broken as divorcé or some sort of failure’. I refer him to the hot Disney prince scored 3 fun-filled years later.shutterstock_105487772-557

Enjoy life daily though single!

For legions, going solo is a dream. Even those less enamoured will be forced to admit it has its moments. However,  the trouble with single life for those who aim to be out of it is that one never knows when it might end. If only it were akin to gardening leave: a few months’ dazzling hedonistic licence before getting stuck back into the old routine. I say ‘trouble’, but it is also its brilliance. For, really, there is nothing like setting  forth on a glacial December evening, not knowing where the night’s adventures will lead you, or with whom they will be hazarded. So, put your soul into it, to be sure, relax, uncoil, enjoy. If you happen to find love and entwined, single are the days you will look back on with nostalgia. So make the most of it and your life is not worth less because you are single. You are precious to God and Jesus Christ so love yourself first and other people until you find love.

Originally published in Telegraph

FATHER/SON DEPRESSION

Unhappy father and sonDepresssion in fathers and mothers, has an impact on children despite mothers often of focus when treating adolescent depression, a study suggests. University College London (UCL) report looked at 14,000 families in the UK and Ireland. It said both parents had a role to play in preventing teenage depression. The researchers encouraged more fathers to seek help for depressive symptoms by speaking to their doctor. Dr Gemma Lewis from UCL, who led the study, said because mothers tended to spend more time with their children, there was often a tradition of “mother-blaming” when treating mental health issues in offspring. But she said the research showed that “we should be bringing fathers into the picture more.” Dr Lewis added: “If you’re a father who hasn’t sought treatment for your depression, it could have an impact on your child. We hope our findings could encourage men who experience depression to speak to their doctor about it.”Men should seek treatment if they are experiencing symptoms of depression, researchers said.Father hugging his son

The study is based on two large samples of the general population 6,000 families from Ireland and nearly 8,000 from the UK – in which parents and children, at the ages of seven, nine and 13-14, filled in questionnaires about their feelings. Children were asked about emotional symptoms and parents also answered questions on their feelings, which were measured against a depression scale. The results showed a link between depressive symptoms in fathers and similar symptoms in their adolescent children that was similar in size to the effect of a mother’s depression. Many mental health problems, including depression, start at about age of 13, the researchers said although depression in mothers was already known to increase the risk, influence of fathers’ wellbeing was a new finding.

‘Negative thinking’

In the home, depressive symptoms can make mothers and fathers more prone to fatigue, more irritable likely to argue with their children. “Children see the way their parents behave and act and could bring negative ways of thinking, which could lead to depression,” Dr Lewis said. The study concluded that fathers as well as mothers should be involved in tackling the problem of adolescent depression at an early stage. It highlighted the importance of treating depression in both parents.

Symptoms of depression

  • They can vary widely but often you will feel sad, hopeless and lose interest in the thing you enjoy.
  • Normally, it becomes bad enough to affect your work, social life and family relationships.
  • Psychological symptoms can include low self-esteem, no motivation and feeling tearful.
  • Physical symptoms can include changes in appetite, lack of energy and disturbed sleep.
  • Social symptoms may include avoiding contact with friends and withdrawing from social activities.

How to seek help

  • Go and see your GP if you experience symptoms of depression every day for more than two weeks.
  • Treatment usually involves a combination of self-help, talking therapies and medicines, depending on the type of depression you have.

Jo Hardy, head of parents services at charity YoungMinds, said parents often wanted to hide their own mental health problems so as not to burden children but she said it was better “to be honest, open, and give children a chance to ask questions.” “It’s important to remember that having depression does not need to stop you from being a great parent. You and your family can support your child, provide reassurance and love, and help them to do things they enjoy.