TACKLING DIFFICULT PEOPLE

wp-1578833977605.jpgQuestion: “What does Bible say about dealing with difficult people?”

Answer: We all know people we find so “difficult”and deal with difficult people. A difficult person is very condescending argumentative, belligerent, selfish, and flippant, obtuse, simply rude. Difficult people “push one’s buttons” and stir up trouble. Dealing with difficult people is an exercise in patience, love, and grace. Response to difficult people from Jesus’ interactions He never displayed attitude of harsh superiority or dismissive pride. He showed His authority under control to rebuke when necessary in John 8:47 to deal with the difficult people, remain silent in John 8:6 when asked questions in Mark 11:28–29 in Scripture in Mark 10:2–3 tells story in Luke 7:40–42. In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus dealt with difficult people in love and humility: “I tell you: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you pray for all who mistreat you.wp-1578834206139.jpg If someone strikes you on a cheek turn the other. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to who asks you, if anyone takes what belongs to you don’t demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you” in Luke 6:27–31. Never give tit for tat: “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult repay evil with blessing, for this you were called inherit blessing” in 1 Peter 3:9. In dealing with difficult people guard against pride.wp-1578834096919.jpg Its important to recall advise given by apostle Paul in Romans 12:3: “By grace of God I say to you don’t think too highly of yourself. Think of yourself with the humility by faith God has given you” in Philippians 2:3–4. When difficult people approach you deal with the situation in meekness. Love is the key to “Love your neighbour as yourself” in Galatians 5:14 to show God’s love to all difficult people. Wisdom is needed to deal with difficult people. In Proverbs 12:16 patience is the key to such relationships: “A fool shows his annoyance at once but the prudent man overlooks insult.” Proverbs 20:3 says peace-making of honour to avoid strife but fools quickly quarrel.”wp-1578834341622.jpg Proverbs 10:12, encourages giving love, “Hatred stirs up conflict but love covers all wrongs.” Proverbs 17:14 is foresight on “Starting quarrel like breaching dam as disputes breaks out” Best to avoid the situation altogether choosing carefully whom we associate with: “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered” in Proverbs 22:24. Dealing with difficult people in life is unavoidable but do not respond in the flesh to bring out worst in you. Deal with difficult people by the fruit of Spirit in us in Galatians 5:22–23.wp-1578834322634.jpg By the grace of God, deal with difficult people in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control. Extend love, grace, and mercy God extends to us, careful not to be difficult people ourselves. 2 Timothy 3 says in the last days the perilous times shall come. People will be lovers of  self, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful and ungrateful. 4 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, fierce, despisers of those who are good traitors, 5 heady, highminded lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; wp-1578833839523.jpgHaving a form of Godliness, but deny HIS power from such turn away. 6 This sort creep into houses and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of truth. 8 As Jannes and Jambres resisted Moses they resist truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. 9 They will proceed no further their folly manifests to all 10 Know God’s doctrine for life’s purpose, faith, longsuffering, charity, patience, love, forgive like Jesus.wp-1578833896562.jpg9 They will proceed no further 11 So endure persecutions afflictions for the LORD delivers out of all. 12 Live Godly life in Christ Jesus despite persecution. 13 Evil people and seducers get worse deceiving and deceived 14 Continue in the things you learn and know 15 From childhood. You know Holy Scriptures to make you wise unto salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. 16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God is profitable doctrine for correction and instruction in righteousness 17 so the people of God perfectly furnished to do good works.

Recommended Resource: Who’s Pushing Your Buttons? Handling the Difficult People in Your Life by Dr. John Townsend

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GOD/BIBLE ON WITCHCRAFT

25 Important Bible Verses About WitchcraftWitchcraft is from the devil and anyone who practices it will not enter Heaven because it is abomination to God. Don’t dabble in witchcraft to open yourself up to demons and demonic influences that can harm you. And satan is crafty so we must never let him take control of your lives. Don’t get involved in wicca so help them to save their life but if they refuse help stay away from them. Christians do not need to fear satan’s power stop evil things of occult. Bible warns witchcraft is rebellion against God repent, get help, get rid of occult items fast, pray and ask Christ to break bondage of witchcraft. If you practices witchcraft you will not enter heaven but perish in hellfire.IMG-20191008-WA0003.jpg

1. Revelation 21:27 Nothing impure will enter heaven no shameful or deceitful, only those whose names are written in the Lamb’s book of life.

2. Revelation 21:8, Cowards, unbelievers corrupt, murderers, immoral, practices of witchcraft, idol worshipers, liars is in fiery lake burning sulfur second death.”

3. Galatians 5:19-21 The actions of flesh sexual immorality, impure, promiscuity, and idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, rivalry, jealously, outbursts of anger, quarrels, conflicts, envy, murder will not inherit the kingdom of God.

4. Micah 5:11-12 I will tear down your walls, demolish your defenses, put end to witchcraft, no more fortune-tellers.  In Acts 19:8-22 Christian reject sorcery after Paul Bible taught God’s words.15705835466792352920556105854708.jpg5. Micah 3:7 Seers will be put to shame, all who practice witchcraft disgraced to cover faces for God won’t answer them.

6. 1 Samuel 15:23 Rebellion is like sinful of witchcraft, stubbornness as worship idols. Because you rejected command of the LORD HE rejected you as king.”

7. Leviticus 19:26  “Do not eat meat not been drained of blood. “Do not practice fortune-telling or witchcraft.

8. Deuteronomy 18:10-13 Don’t sacrifice your son or daughter as burnt offering. Do not practice fortune-telling, sorcery, interpret omens, engage in witchcraft, cast spells as mediums or psychics, call forth spirits of the dead. All who does these things detestable to the LORD. All nations doing these things the LORD your God will drive them out ahead of you. Be blameless before the LORD God.15705837095392703637720246138116.jpg9. Revelation 18:23 The light of a candle shine no more in thee; the voice of the bridegroom and bride heard no more in you, your merchants great men of earth by your sorceries all nations deceived.

10. Isaiah 47:12-14 “Use your magical charms and spells to do you good. Call your astrologers, stargazers to save you and let them save you from burning in a fire; they cannot save themselves or you from the flame. You will get no help and their hearth is no place for warmth.

11. Isaiah 8:19 Some say to you, “Let’s ask mediums and consult the spirits of the dead. Their whispering mutterings to tell you what to do.” But should not a people ask God for guidance? Should the living seek guidance from the dead?15705842640341436067494928143008.jpg12. Leviticus 20:26-27 Be holy because I, the LORD, am Holy. I set you apart from other people to be my own. “Men and women among you who act as mediums or consult spirits of the dead must be put to death by stoning.”

13. 1 Chronicles 10:13-14 Saul died for he was unfaithful to the LORD. He failed to obey the LORD’s command, consulted a medium instead of asking the LORD for guidance. The LORD killed him and gave kingdom to David son of Jesse.

14. 1 John 5:18-19 Whosoever is born of God sins not he that is begotten of God keeps himself so the wicked one cannot touch him. We know we are of God and the whole world lies in wickedness.

15. 1 John 4:4 You God’s little children so overcomes them. Greater is HE that is in you than he in the world.15705841878074711401650381653562.jpg16. Ephesians 5:11 Take no part in deeds of evil of darkness expose it publicly. So MANY BELIEVED CONFESSED TO SHOW THEIR DEEDS In Acts 19 MANY WHO USED CURIOUS ARTS BROUGHT THEIR BOOKS TOGETHER AND BURNED THEM BEFORE ALL MEN PUBLICLY.

17. 3 John 1:11 Dear friend, don’t imitate what is evil so do what is good. Anyone who does what is good is from God but all who do evil don’t know or seen God.

18. 1 Corinthians 10:21 You can’t drink Cup of the LORD and cup of demons at  table of the LORD and table of demons.

19. Galatians 6:7 Don’t be deceived God is not mocked what one sows, will reap.15705843002564576363613375458595.jpg20. 1 John 3:8-10 One who sins is of the devil because devil sins from beginning. The Son of God came to destroy devil’s work. None born of God continues to sin because God’s Spirit in them cannot go on sinning born of God. This is how we know Children of God and children of devil. All who do what is right are God’s children so love their brother or sister.

21. 1 John 4:1-3 Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, many false prophets have gone into the world. This is how you to recognize the Spirit of God: Every spirit that acknowledges Jesus Christ came in the flesh is of God every spirit that does not acknowledge Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you heard is coming and is already in the world.

22. Revelation 9:20-21, The people who did not die in plagues refused to repent of evil deeds to turn to God. Continued to worship demons and idols of gold, silver, bronze, stone, and wood, idols that neither see, hear nor walk! They did not repent of evil witchcraft.15705843431747121818676164556388.jpg23. 2 Kings 9:21-22 Get my chariot ready King Joram commanded. King Joram of Israel and King Ahaziah of Judah rode in their chariots to meet Jehu. They met him at plot land belonging to Naboth of Jezreel. 22 King Joram demanded, “Do you come in peace, Jehu?” Jehu replied, “How can there be peace as long as the idolatry and witchcraft of your mother, Jezebel is all around us?”

24. 2Chronicles33:6 Manasseh sacrificed his sons in fire in valley of Ben-Hinnom. Practiced sorcery, divination, witchcraft, consulted with mediums and psychics. Did evil in LORD’S sight for HIS anger.

25. Nahum 3:4-5 Because of multitude of whoredoms of the harlot of witchcrafts, who sold nations, families to witchcraft. I am against you says the LORD of hosts; I will uncover your skirts on your face to show the nations your nakedness and kingdoms your shame.15706062383126221656731411984810.jpgJesus cast out evil spirits in people takes authority over evil powers. Others take the law into their own hands to attack the perceived witches seen as enemies against greater good of society. Causes of witch huntings include abject poverty epidemics, social crises and the lack of education. The leader of witch-hunt is prominent figure in community or “witch doctor” who gains from economic benefit charging for exorcism or selling body parts of the murdered. Agendas or motives of witch hunters are complex grievances against the victim targeted, blamed, shamed for death, misfortunes accused of. Despite literal obvious cause of disease natural causes, death is blamed on another person. The consequences are revenge attacks unauthorised by any proper legal procedure. Years later victim declared innocent as evidence shows vendetta set up central figure seeking vengeance manipulating others to eliminate them. Vengeance belongs to God and witchcraft spirits cast out of a person in bondage sets them free in the Name of Jesus. Deliverance is available if there is goodwill for solutions rather than anger vendetta against enemies. A witch hunter is accountable to God for the human life and blood shed of others by the judgement of God. It is important to repent to be saved in Christ Jesus for eternal life in God’s Kingdom.

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BLESSED BY GIVING UP SEAT

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God ALMIGHTY blesses those who bless HIS Children according to Genesis 12:3, Benson Idahosa prophesied, “As Aliko Dangote blessed T.L Osborn by giving up his seat for him on plane so the world will stand up for Aliko Dangote, Forbe’s wealthiest man for many years in Africa. Dangote was born on April 10, 1957 in Northern Region of Kano State, Nigeria to Mohammed Dangote and Mariya Sanusi Dantata. An ethnic Hausa showed love for business selling sweets in primary school. As a  teenager, he began to work for his uncle Sani Dangote and served diligently. In 1977 after 20th birthday approached his uncle and told him of his masterplan to establish a business to trade in cement, sugar, rice, pasta, salt, cotton, millet, vegetable oil and other products. His uncle provided a loan of N500,000 but gave a caveat to Aliko to return the loan within three-months time line practice at the time. Dangote first of all relocated to Lagos in June 1977, the commercial nerve centre of Nigeria and travelled around Nigeria to develop a strong distribution channel for a quick and efficient delivery of his products. A few years earlier, the Benin Airport constructed served as one of his routes to the Niger-Delta or South-South area of Nigeria. Benin, through 39 year old Benson Andrew Idahosa established a young Christian in the Assemblies of God pastored Church of God Mission. As Idahosa returned from missionary trip in America Gordon Lindsay, Jim Bakker and T.L Osborn. Tommy Lee Osborn, a great evangelists responded to Benson Idahosa’s letters in 1962. A relationship resulted in Osborn’s visits with his wife, Daisy to Benin on crusades or Idahosa’s Church. In 1970snT.L and Daisy Osborn stayed ministering at Miracle Centre of Church of God Mission opposite Airport. Late to catch flight to Lagos to connect a flight in Johannesburg -France, England to USA Idahosa told last flight for that day was overbooked. No seats available, the passengers boarded and flight about to take off. The jetliner begun to taxi to the runway. Benson Idahosa’s mercedes sped towards tarmac and screeched to a halt in front of plane

All was well for Alhaji Kassim Ajisebata. Business was booming, prospects were looming and he had friends in high places. He was a well-known business man in Kaduna, Nigeria, well established and wealthy. But these good times ended all too soon as his life took a tragic twist. His business collapsed and his close associates flee. Having lost everything he had labored for, he found himself moving from one spiritualist to another, desperate for a way out. The ‘way out’ they offered him came in the form of charms and mysterious items. In one extreme desperation, he was taken to a stream and taught some diabolical incantations. He was also given various evil items supposedly to restore his fortunes but he discovered that they did the absolute opposite. The items included pots with sand inside, black soap, a sponge, oil and other strange substances. He was also given a cloth from the graveyard which he was told to keep under his pillow. These practices isolated him from normal life. His friends became the dead and his comfort was the graveyard. Both day and night, he would be tormented by dead people, following him and hunting him down. He was a dead man living. With his body plagued with sickness, he began in earnest to seek for deliverance. One night in a dream, he saw many elderly people coming towards him and then he heard a voice say, “Go to Prophet T.B. Joshua”. At that instant, he woke up and determined to visit The SCOAN. Alhaji Kassim Ajisebata Sitting in The SCOAN Sunday Service the previous week, the man of God, Prophet T.B. Joshua pointed him out, prophesying that he had some mysterious objects in his house. alhaji-kassim-ajisebutu-1Confirming the prophecy, he declared that it was 100 percent accurate. He went back home and returned last Sunday with his diabolical items. He displayed the mysterious diabolical items before the children of God, exposing what he had previously hidden, even from his own wife. Emphasizing that these items are now rendered powerless, Alhaji Kassim Ajisebata spoke of the freedom he had received in spirit, soul and body after receiving the prophecy. Now, he no longer has nightmares or sees dead people. He has peace and rest of mind and is free from diabetes and many other afflictions that had turned his body into an altar of sicknesses. He advised people to run to God and not away from Him. Short of words to express her joy at the freedom that has now taken over her once fetish home, his wife thanked God for delivering the family.

 

DEFIBRILLATOR SAVES LIFE

article-1329133-0BFE2B7F000005DC-908_468x322Using defibrillator recently installed at a boy’s school highlights urgent training for public to use them. A 15-year-old’s life is saved by father after Ethan Askew started to feel ill in sports class and told his teacher before he stopped breathing and collapsed in his arms. Stuart Askew works as premises manager at Steiner Academy school at Much Dewchurch in Herefordshire, which his son attends, and ran to deliver emergency aid. He said afterwards: It was very scary, but I remembered we had a defibrillator so didn’t doubt it will be OK ending. NHS England and NHS Scotland are joining British Heart Foundation and Microsoft over next 12 months to create database of defibrillators across UK. The move is in response to figures of public-access to defibrillators used is less than 3% of out-of-hospital cardiac arrests British Heart Foundation says it “significantly reduces the survival chances of tens of thousands of people each year.” Stuart says the device was “very easy” to use, acknowledges considering the stressful circumstances. “Thank God this terrible and frightening experience turned into life saving of son. Ambulance arrived in five minutes and Ethan was taken to the hospital and put in induced coma. Tests revealed one of his coronary arteries is too narrow as random genetic condition and because he exercised so much, not enough oxygen was getting to his heart.Ethan Askew went back to school to see his friends three days after his double coronary bypassThree days after his operation Ethan surprised his friends at school and was filled in on what went on at school the day he collapsed. Ethan had surgery to replace his artery. Now 16, he says he’s fully recovered and “even better than before.” He says it feels like a bizarre dream. “I still can’t believe it happened. Honestly I can’t remember anything from that day. I can remember the day before and I can’t remember anything in past until I woke up from my induced coma and then after that it was a bit hazy.” And he was not fully aware it was his Dad that saved him. “Everything was so overwhelming, I didn’t really acknowledge it that much. I kind of just accepted everything that happened from then on. “They only told me they put it in two days before after I came out of hospital, so was quite a surprise.”IMG_20180810_075002Ethan AskewEthan was hiking in the Brecon Beacons six months after his collapse. But Stuart says things could be very different. “He was due to go on his Duke of Edinburgh silver expedition the week after, which means he’d have been in the middle of the Brecon Beacons. We’re so fortunate that it happened within sight almost of a community defibrillator.” The first thing Stuart did when he went back to work was to register the defibrillator with the West Midlands Ambulance service. He says people shouldn’t be scared to use them in an emergency, even if they haven’t had any first aid training. “Have the confidence that the device is there to help. As soon as you unzip pack only one or two buttons to press and the device tells you what to do. “Don’t be afraid and just know that you’re doing some good – you have the potential to save someone’s life having the guts to go get this device is really is having confidence to grab it to help save somebody’s life. Airports, village halls, railway stations and nationwide is now available so look out for them. You can help save 30,000 people who suffer cardiac arrest away from hospital each year.  Chances of survival are as high as 75 per cent if defibrillation is delivered rapidly. British Heart Foundation said at least 230 lives are saved already. A heart attack is the main cause of cardiac arrest, when the heart stops effectively pumping blood around body and goes into ventricular fibrillation, meaning the muscles are contracting randomly rather than regularly so heart stops. A defibrillator uses electricity to shock the heart out of this lethal rhythm and back to normal. From the moment one stops breathing, it takes four minutes before brain starts to die. Applying a controlled shock within five minutes of collapse provides best chance of survival. For every minute heart stopped, chances of staying alive reduced by 14 per cent. It is important to remember you can be someone to use defibrillator,’ says Clive James, St John Ambulance trainer. The AED automatically carries out many of the key stages of resuscitation, such as recognising electrocardiogram rhythm (ECG). ‘This assesses whether the heart is shockable,’ says James. ‘In 80 per cent of cases it will be.’ Shoppers at London's Westfield practice using a defibrillatorShoppers at Westfield practice using a defibrillator, 10,000 AEDs placed in shopping centres, airports, village halls and railway stations. If cardiac arrest has not occurred, rhythm incompatible, a shock not administered. So sensitive are machines they assess how strong the shock needs to be so most city’s Tube and train stations, international airports, churches, schools or in the markets to provide AEDs on sites placed in small white boxes on walls around these places to notice in advance in case you need to help someone. Open the box and lift out the AED to find a small package containing two sticky pads you plug into the main AED box similar to a child’s lunchbox. Its latest technology of adhesive pads for better contact with skin than traditional paddles. The gyms need AED trained volunteers to help the fitness instructors during emergency. A defibrillator pack has turn on machine instruction’s so voice says put pads on a patient’s chest and press buttons.Alice Smellie with a defibrillator pack

Carefully lay the two large, white sticky pads on bare chest, one up near right shoulder and the other down by the left ribs. The normal-electro impulse starts in the top right-hand side of the heart and passes to the bottom left-hand side. The machine’s electricity pass through heart’s normal route. The AED tells you it checks heart rhythm. ‘Clear!’ Means press the orange shock button if heart in arrest, the shock brings back rhythm but for training pads no current runs through. It is crucial to remember the medic and onlookers take care not to touch patient. ‘There are no recorded cases of injury, but it’s not worth risking an electric shock. Importance of AEDs is remember to locate and use them and be sure to supply at least three in small premises and 20 in large complexes of playing sports centres. Clinically dead for minutes saved by the defibrillator available and someone prepared to use it. Defibrillators need onsite training for volunteers to test out AED on dummy. Shoppers be aware where its available, as public allowed its use in emergency. Ideally people should be trained, but lack of training shouldn’t stop use,’ says Dr Jasmeet Soar, of the Resuscitation Council, body behind recent change in regulation. Studies show schoolchildren are able to turn them on and follow the instructions. Trained first-aider may not be at the sight of collapsed patient so people can help save lives. Generis, 37, saved two lives using defibrillator said  help save someone. He felt buzz as the paramedics arrived and they told him he brought patients back.’ If one suffers cardiac arrest there’s a good chance of survival thanks to AED in sports and social clubs. AEDs are everywhere. And that’s very reassuring.Rebecca Shorrocks and Paul F Taylor in hospitalIts always recommended to see a doctor for regular check ups if you feel unwell with changes in your body you cannot understand. It may be the sign of other health issues so take your life seriously and get help immediately. A commedian last year found she had arrhythmogenic right ventricular cardiomyopathy, ARVC condition similar to the Premier League footballer Fabrice Muamba’s collapse on the pitch during an FA Cup game in 2012. He recovered although his heart stopped for 78 minutes, but it ended his career as a top-flight footballer. Paul F Taylor’s wife Becky Shorrocks spent two weeks in hospital, where she was eventually diagnosed with ARVC. The condition is rare but they think there are more people living with it unawares Shorrocks says. With 80% of people it’s found post-mortem so pretty lucky that they did discovered it.” After diagnosis, Shorrocks was fitted with an internal defibrillator, which shocks her when her heart rate rises to a dangerous level. Above all take a personal care of health, eat, rest, sleep, drink plenty of water. Remember God is life Giver so honour and preserve life. It is good to press the chest to kick start or give the kiss of life. Learn more about reviving people using massage in places where there is no defibrillator. People use massage and rely totally on prayer in the Mighty Name of Jesus of Nazareth to raise the dead. GLORY be to God.

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ACTIVELY DEEP LISTENING

post_SilentListen_121816Actively deep listening to hear correctly, affirm and understand what people are saying means a lot to them. It is more than being a sounding board to help talk and discuss life matters. To be allowed into the deepest inner thoughts of a person takes courage so be present in here and now. Affirm by nodding and agreeing, saying “yes” to fully engage in the conversation is part of the process to ensure properly hearing person. And a feedback clarifies topics discussed to reassure person listening attentively. Be polite if speaker feels stressed, anxious, calm them, pay attention to help them open up to share innermost feelings or thoughts. It is encouraging to build their confidence to reflect on their plans and fears. Art of listening, hearing is act of love, takes commitment, ability to read between lines and desire to understand, appreciate person talking. Greatest gift coaches have is ability to help people to know where they are coming from. Listening (1)Understandably needs to provide a safe space to see life from their standpoint is so important and necessary. Life can feel lonely sometimes so knowing that someone really cares and understands matters. It is important to open up to share true feelings without thinking being judged. Health and wellbeing help the lonely or isolated to express inner thoughts and their ideas of life. A phone call to friend or passing time of the day with colleagues is what makes society happy and cohesive by including others. Idealised happiness of fantasy, domestic bliss on social media on the Facebook is unnatural needs so private, confidential space helps open up to deal with what is not working in life.Couple speaking on a benchCoach Kenny Mammarella D’Cruz, The Man Whisperer, talks of importance of men opening up, sharing “without any judgments, ‘shoulds’ or ridicule” as he regularly feels safe in his men’s groups. His workshops and meet-ups invaluable for men from teens to pensioners and offers support, understanding and the reassurance that someone really has got your back. Today ask someone about themselves, really listen, reflect and say something generous or insightful back. Watch their faces. Our ears never get us into trouble and here is a lovely quote, as David Augsburger’s thought sums up: “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.”  

OUR INTERCONNECTEDNESS

cultural-diversityToday our interconnectedness requires caring compassion more than ever before for a common good for all in society. In John Ford’s film The Searchers, John Wayne’s character spends years looking for his niece Debbie kidnapped as child by Comanche Indians. When he finally finds her, she wanted to stay with her Comanche husband rather than return home. Although shocking in the film, it’s historically accurate. Whites captured by American Indians commonly chose to stay with their captors and the book cites a case of a captive woman who hid from her would-be rescuers. Sebastian Junger argues in his book that people need to feel connected to others. During war often people from different classes mixed in the ways they did not before and joined together in the face of a common enemy. More astonishingly, from the earliest days of Europeans in America, settlers of both sexes ran away to join Indian tribes. This was not just a few people but hundreds of hundreds as the practice was so rife in the early 1600s settler leaders made it an offence with harsh punishments. But over the following centuries people still ran off in huge numbers. It hardly happened the other way, Indians did not want to join white society. The attraction argues Junger, was the sense of community, the importance of the tribe, evident in other primates primitive human societies. The superficial attractive American Indian life was obvious: more relaxed, clothing more comfortable, religion less harsh. It was mostly structure of Indian society appeal as less hierarchical, essentially classless, egalitarian.438a8-jewish2bimmigration2brussia2bto2bunited2bstates252c2bcopyright2bby2bheb-2bpub-2bco-2b1901252c2bpublic2bdomain2bvia2bwikimedia2bcommons People nomadic so personal property hardly mattered, as limited to what you or horses could carry. What changed this natural way of living for humans was agriculture and industry. And accumulation of personal property led to people doing what they thought best for themselves, rather than for the common good. But, Junger, says we are not happy like this we’re wired to the lifestyle of community tribe. Take the London Blitz during World War II as it began the government feared there would be riots and maybe revolution as people fought one another for space in bomb shelters or for food but infact exactly the reverse happened. People from all different classes mixed in a way they had not before joined together in face of common enemy. Historians credit ‘spirit of the Blitz’ as the cause of the Labour landslide victory in the 1945 election, strong feeling for community led to foundation of NHS and a robust welfare state. Percentage of buildings in Hull destroyed in the Blitz. Junger, an American journalist and former war correspondent, gives many examples of what our modern way of living cost us. In a modern city or suburb you can go through an entire day meeting only strangers. Affluence, urbanisation rise, rates of suicide, depression go up. The World Health Organisation says people in wealthy countries suffer eight times depression rate of those in poorer ones. When we revert to group for support in a community tribe things improve.Sebastian Junger argues in this book that people need to feel connected to others. During the war, people from different classes mixed in a way they hadn¿t before and joined together in the face of a common enemy  Those caught up in the bloody conflict in Bosnia say they were happier during challenges. The reason was all pulled together and so felt connected part of something bigger than themselves and spent time embedded with others. U.S. troops in Afghanistan said they never felt alone there, soldiers slept a dozen to a shelter you couldn’t stretch an arm without touching someone. People of all colours, classes, creeds bonded as they had to look out for one another. So idea of interconnectedness is associated with sustainability, in reference to the manner in which environment, society, and economic systems are inextricably linked. Interconnectedness also refers to phenomena not structured hierarchy systems for dominance and control. So the internet and flight make the world closer than ever before so distance is no longer an issue. The interconnectedness of things allows that common language to take full advantage of all societies in a new way. Breaking all of society into a long-term patterns of change in human interconnectedness. Rising level of such interconnectedness has ‘civilising’ effect in encouraging societies to form ‘unions of states’ to respond to shared problems. These outline of global cliques intensify difference more than common good.  In tribes survival individual depends upon survival of group. Lack of kind support makes it hard for the returning combat veterans to reintegrate in contemporary fragmented society lifestyles. unity-is-found-in-gods-wordAbove all, people need to feel connected to others. It’s a good starting point for rethinking the way we live our troubled modern lives. Community spirit in U.S. rocketed after 9/11. And the suicide rate dropped dramatically. There were no rampage shootings in public places in schools, colleges for 2 years. Shootings happen in middle-class rural suburban areas never in poor inner-city location, gangs provide tribal sense of belonging. Bonding with larger group often begins at birth in and less developed countries children sleep with in close proximity to parents and extended family group. In Northern European countries and U.S. small children sleep alone so go through a developmental stage of bonding with stuffed animals, ‘comfort’ blankets. In Junger’s book self-determination theory of things necessary is life contentment. People need to feel competent at what they do to feel authentic in life. Above all, they need to feel connected with others. It’s a good starting point for rethinking the way we live our troubled modern lives. In Bible this deep sense of intricate belonging is described as the parts of bespoke wheel joined together to function congruently in unison. Each codepends on others to work together and in isolation is just a piece of tool not accomplishing good by itself. Is a notion built upon word of God that it is better to give than to receive. The joy of relief shared being helpful to each other strengthens group rather than division by haves and the have-nots suffering. Coupled with their pressure is a fear of constantly looking over their shoulder of threats of others taking back what they usurped. Means they never relax or feel secure at peace. The inner peace and inner joy thought to be gained by excessive gains and superabundance is illusive replaced by worries. Jesus told the rich young man to sell all to help the poor yet society is enthusiastic about loving money more than loving precious priceless humans. Fragmented society divides materialism which does not constitute real life and yer an entire lifetime is spent collecting and preserving material possessions left behind. Absolutely nothing is taken into the grave but those things caused stress of a lifetime misled to value them as the status of life. Within a second life passes helplessly without those very material things life is enslaved to produce. All the precious years wasted acquiring, chasing, replacing, storing, maintaining if only spent better to take more care of all humans as Jesus recommended. And the cycle continues getting worse as the trend to accumulate more deprives all others more marshal laws are made to safeguard and enforced at cost of whole community deprived. The irony is those communities that hold onto intergrated values of common good for all are being threatened and endangered by a selfish few destroying their own. They stretch further and further afield with a sight on conquering the whole world even if it means losing their souls. This further leads to disappointment, resentment, conflict over demands for fairness and justice. The good news is there is soon coming a great day of recompense to restore all the years the cankerworm and locusts eaten times of double restoration. God is resetting agenda to take back nations to be given rightful owner LORD Jesus.

MEN’S SAD GRIEVING ISSUES

Bearded adult man with migraine headacheGrief is an inevitable part of every human life, regardless of gender. It is also one of the great isolating forces in the lives of men. Male grief is all too often invisible, misunderstood, and unwanted, which leaves many men in the difficult position of having to deal with their grief on their own, if they deal with it at all. Most men myself included routinely reject vital aspects of themselves and their histories because they do not want, or do not know how, to feel and move through the grief that is bound up and waiting inside them. The fear of being shamed by another when most vulnerable of being stripped of one’s masculinity by women as well as by other men is powerful motivation not to feel and express one’s grief. The requirement to go into grief all alone, in secret for lack of understanding, trusted support is another prime or completely understandable reason for avoidance. There is a deep and profound loneliness in knowing one must do such difficult, intense work alone, without witness, and it’s no wonder so many men don’t want to do it. I fight that battle myself all the time. Today I’d like to share excerpts from three posts I’ve seen recently on the subject of male grief that shine some light on this important and severely neglected aspect of the masculine experience. My hope is that, in some very near future, the dialogue about male grief can become far more common and open than it is today, so that men who are grieving can come out of the shadows and men who need to grieve, but haven’t felt the freedom and support necessary to do so, can begin.repast-after-funeral_f20726a791b0215c

Women Learn About Male Grief
The first selection, written by Mark Mercer, is called “What Women Should Know About Male Grief”. Mark, who has been a hospice bereavement director and counselor for 18 years, says, “Men grieve far more than shown or discuss. I would certainly agree. Excerpt is almost never cry in front of other men. If we feel that a woman is “safe,” we may cry with her. But most of our tears are shed when we are alone, perhaps while driving our vehicles. In too many cases, our hot tears become a deep-freeze of anger or rage. Most very angry men are very sad men dealing with grief. You can read Mark’s entire post hereFor additional thoughts on how women can create safe emotional space for men who are grieving, see my companion post “What If He Cries?” here.men-3-300x200

Teenage Boys – Grieving and Loss
The second post, written by Earl Hipp, is called “Teen Boys – Grief and Loss”. Earl is involved with groups, organizations that focus on men’s issues, development for over thirty years. In his post, Earl talks about learning, as a boy and young man, how he was supposed to deal with grief and loss: The absence of support, or even positive role modeling around dealing with loss, grief, communicated a pretty clear message: You’re on your own, just deal with it. I did … became a kid who was emotionally bound up, pressurized, and lived with thick veneer as shield over all anger and sadness. On the top I wore an “I’m OK” mask. I know that story all too well, as do countless men. Earl’s focus, as always, is on using his own experience as a starting point to help succeeding generations avoid the traps and pitfalls that have caused, and are still causing, so much pain for so many boys and men, and he devotes the majority of the post to that task. You can read Earl’s full post here.depositphotos_53419697-stock-photo-young-man-lost-in-depression

Tom Golden’s The Way Men Heal
The third and final post is a reader review by Andy Thomas of the new book The Way Men Heal. The author of the book, Tom Golden, has been exploring, writing, and speaking on the subject of male grief for many years. In his review, Andy shares a personal experience that illustrates how the taboo against male grief is often enforced, not only for the man who is grieving, but for any other man or boy who might be watching: The day after my Dad died, I was speaking to a friend of his when I broke down, cried briefly I was interrupted by a woman who had known my father but who did not know me. She asked, what would my 4 year old niece think if she saw me crying while handing me a tissue I did not want. Had I been a woman, no doubt she would have put her arm around me, but as a man I was politely told to “man up” my pain was embarrassing her. As someone who has a certain awareness of society’s different expectations for men and women, this experience came as no great surprise to me. For young minds, such experiences are painful however, and quickly teach young boys that “real men don’t cry.” They learn how to keep pain to themselves. Again, this story no doubt resonate powerfully and personally with a lot of men. You can find out more about Tom Golden’s book, The Way Men Heal, here.44934bcc89d831c518266700e7fbc0dc

Male Grief: Not Alien Concept
I hope these excerpts will encourage you to read the full posts and learn more about the male experience of grief in all its aspects. I recall being quite mystified 30 years ago when I was first introduced to the subject via the work of Robert Bly, John Lee, and Dan Jones. They all emphasized critical importance of a man’s awareness of his own grief, his conscious relationship with it, and his ability to feel it and to allow it to move through him so that his natural energy and innate masculine power would not be blocked and withheld, both from himself and the world. At the time, all that talk of grief mystified me. I didn’t have any idea what it was. I was keenly aware I was angry, frustrated, lonely, sad, depressed … had no sense of any grief. I didn’t really understand what grief was or how it might feel. It seemed completely abstract to me, completely foreign. Perplexed, I wrote poem “grief” found in my book Iron Man Family Outing one day as a way of trying to figure out what this grief that I kept hearing about might be. After many years of hard work, I understand. I’m far from fully comfortable with my own grief, but it’s no longer an alien concept to me. I hope to see the day when male grief is no longer an alien concept to other men, and to the women around them, as well.

Image: “Blue Spaceman” by David Jewell. Used by permission. This post is part of Common Grief, a Healthy Living editorial initiative. Grief is an inevitable part of life, but that doesn’t make navigating it any easier. The deep sorrow that accompanies the death of a loved one, the end of a marriage or even moving far away from home, is real. But while grief is universal, we all grieve differently. So we started Common Grief to help learn from each other. Let’s talk about living with loss. If you have a story you’d like to share, email us at strongertogether@huffingtonpost.com.

A SOCIAL GOSPEL OF JESUS

the-new-evangelization-and-social-justice-6-638Jesus preached a social gospel typically to diverse audience of religious leaders, governors, media, officials, the masses, to reach their heart, mind, body, soul to relate with others on Godly terms. This theme King put in historical context as part of social justice to bring awareness to each other. Especially with regard to God’s superabundant human resources provided and entrusted to all as stewards. Reverend King, the prophet, theologian, scholar, preacher, pastor dwelt on these social gospel themes analysing society’s lifelong struggles for economic justice, empowerment of the poor working-class people of all colours. King described himself as “profound advocate of social gospel” who tried to teach the capitalist system not to put profit, property rights ahead of basic human rights demanded people have adequate food, education, housing, decent job, well paid income. His more revolutionary quest for social justice, society above racist poverty, prevention of war not celebrated as his peaceful civil rights movement. Martin Luther King Jr. emphasised there is no intrinsic difference between workers. And King told American Federation of Labour and Congress of Industrial Organizations (AFL-CIO) an American important trade union in 1963, that skin colour, ethnicity must not divide those working for a living, he said. “Economic justice,” King said, required land so men must not take all the basic necessities to give luxuries to the few,” and “where all our gifts and resources are held not for ourselves alone but as instruments of service for the rest of humanity.” Same year, King called on President J. F Kennedy to honour emancipation of African-Americans from slavery in 100 years before. King said, a new freedom agenda is necessary. People gather at the end of the Poor People March on 19 June 19 1968 in Washington DC.This agenda was not only about civil rights so 28 August demonstration culminated in King’s “I Have a Dream” speech publicized 4th April Washington for Job Freedom. It was result of many years of organizing by black workers and their unions. In his speech, King said nations gave former slaves a “bad check” promise of freedom that did not materialize. And generations later, his dream is for equal rights for substantive change in people’s economic and social conditions. Though country’s adoption of Civil Rights Act and Voting Rights Act completed “first phase” of freedom movement King said. The “second phase” was for “economic equality” so everyone could have a well-paying job or basic level of income with decent levels of healthcare, education and housing. In October 1966, 100,000 copies of the booklet A Freedom Budget for All Americans, with introduction by King distributed by unions. Freedom Budget proposed a second New Deal to promote job growth of living wages for public spending on social goods. After 50 years since Martin Luther’s demand for equal human rights for all people, it is sad go say things have gotten worse. Although it is true that great strides are achieved since 50 years, some of these issues got worse for working classes. So many are suffering although they built the country and their labour, resourses or blood sacrificed as veterans to fight and defend country they do not receive the due entitlement. As a matter of fact society has shifted from human centred needs of Marlow’s hierarchy to selfish few depriving the majority. The divide of haves and have nots intensified and so many thousands now homeless and without food daily. It is scandalous tons of perfectly good food, clothes, items are thrown away instead of giving it to poor starving and dying daily. Government issued final warning to the businesses to report gender pay gap by midnight it emerged Conservative party did not plan to file its own figures until a day after the deadline. Amber Rudd, the minister for women and equalities as well as home secretary, said there was no excuse for businesses not to be transparent as deadline on Wednesday 4th approached warned them refusing to report is breaking law. Jesus-expulsa-vendilhoes-do-templo IMG_20180424_195818Those with 250 or more employees had until before midnight to meet the legal requirement to report a pay gap data to government or face enforcement action by Equality Commission. 50 years after Martin Luther King’s pleas for the social and economic system justice still society seems worse off. Jesus said the rich are getting richer while the poor get poorer due to greed of those in charge of God’s resources misallocated. Hardworking people are poorest dealing with lack of resources, hunger, poverty inspite of challenges keep their heads up high with dignity. Those in charge label them “lazy” underclass not worth same equal treatment. Those entrusted responsible to provide equally for them hurt them by their unfair policies. The world sees more wealth and more resources than ever before limited exclusively to those few privileged at the top. They ensure all their needs and luxurious wants met but despise other’s needs and refuse to provide for them. Many suffer and die needlessly because of such treatments and unfair policies. #Paymetoo women’s platform seeks justice from boardrooms exclusively run by men without realistic knowledge of women and family needs. Society is still run by draconian policies that treat women as inferior weaker sex not competent as male counterparts. So refuse to recognise great talents and the achievements of women globally in all spheres of life. Some men literally think paying women well diminishes power over them use pay gap to bully women. Interesting colleagues trained by same experts, graduates of same universities, employed by same company refuse to pay them equally because is male and other female. Gender is used to punish career women working twice to run the home, family and gender discrimination at work. 21st Century women in space contribute to all aspects of life. Behind every successful man is a woman and men need women’s input so pay well. It is important macho policies recognise a need to provide to help working-class children’s life chances and wellbeing as they are introducing policies actively to make their lives worse. Look at anti-welfare measures like cutting “in-work” benefits freezing housing and children’s benefits. So education system scrapped education maintenance grants, stripped school budgets so teachers are unable to afford paper for their pupils. Closure of local youth clubs and children’s centres as research from Barnardo’s this week finds funding to early-years children’s services has been cut by 50% in some areas since 2010. Families now choose between eating and buying medicines. social justice and the gospelPeople gather at the end of Poor People March on 19 June 1968 in Washington DC. Photograph: Arnold Sachs/AFP/Getty Images Before travelling to Memphis in 1968 to participate in garbage-workers’ strike King had been criss-crossing the country for weeks, promoting a multi-racial coalition to pressure Congress to reallocate money from Vietnam war to money for human needs. King called it Poor People’s Campaign so promoted an economic bill of rights for all Americans including five pillars of meaningful jobs at a living wage; a secure and adequate income; access to land; access to capital, for poor people, minorities; ability for ordinary people to play truly significant role in government. It was, King said, a “last ditch” effort to save America from the interrelated evils of racism, poverty and war. Historians constantly search for and reshape knowledge of the past, based on challenges faced in their own times. Public awareness focus on King’s “first phase” of the movement, for civil voting, rights, a plethora of scholarship sees King as inconvenient hero who led a movement beyond civil rights to more fundamental economic or social change.JIMEverything decent and fair in American life is under threat, King said in his time so all must do well to remember a fight for economic justice as King’s dream for better encompassing American society. Remembering King’s economic justice, broadly conceived helps understand the relevance of his legacy today. It helps us to realize King’s moral discourse of the gap between “haves and the have-nots” from his role in labour movement and civil rights movements. Remembering eloquent man in the Lincoln Memorial in 1963, remembers King as man on the streets, sitting in jail cells, or as a man rousing workers at union conventions and on union picket lines. Remembered as nonviolent surrounded by a violent police, screaming mobs, and physically assaulted by white racists sometimes. It is essential all nations remember King’s crusade seeking justice and fairness for all alternatives to America’s exploitative racial capitalism. King is remembered as a pioneer helping to understand the agenda for modern times. Exploitative capitalism will come to an end as Bible warns in the book of Revelations.

  • Adapted from To the Promised Land: Martin Luther King and the Fight for Economic Justice by Michael K Honey. Copyright © 2018 by Michael K Honey. With permission of the publisher, WW Norton, Inc. All rights reserved