HAPPY MOTHER HAPPY BABY

The Duchess of Cambridge at Stockwell Gardens Nursery and Pre-SchoolThe duchess appeared on the podcast after visiting children at a nursery in south London

The Duchess of Cambridge has said her parenting inspiration is her “amazing granny” who involved her as a child in arts and crafts, gardening and cooking. In her first podcast interview, she said she wants to replicate experiences with Prince George, Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis. The episode of Five Big Questions On The Under Fives is survey launched by Catherine starts debate on early childhood has 200,000 responses so far. Speaking on Happy Mum, Happy Baby podcast, Catherine told author and host Giovanna Fletcher the survey aims to ask people “what is it that matters for them in raising their children today.” I had amazing granny who devoted a lot of time to us, playing with us, doing arts and crafts and going to the greenhouse to do gardening, and cooking with us,” she said. I incorporate lot of experiences she gave us at the time into experiences I give my children now.” The duchess said her priorities include providing her children with a “happy home” and “safe environment” she enjoyed as a child. So she is “passionate” about the children spending a lot of time outside is “great for physical and mental wellbeing to lay foundations for a healthy development. The Duchess of Cambridge and Giovanna FletcherIt is the first timeIt’s a great environment to spend time in, building quality relationship without distraction of ‘I’ve got to cook’ or ‘I’ve got to do this’. And actually, it’s so simple,” she said. A generational change starts from seeds sown in early years throughout family. Even if not ‘highly educated,’ one can invest time and resources in simple way to help children to be happy. Its possible to help children to progress beyond the parents by preparing them in the early years. Choices and priorities of focus to include learning materials from nature found free outdoors on walks to create opportunities for children. So it is the responsibility of the parents to help the children early not to depend entirely on schools for all learning experiences in life. A month-long online poll conducted by Ipsos Mori on behalf of Catherine’s Royal Foundation is to “spark a national conversation” on early childhood as the Kensington Palace has said. Launched in January, it is thought to be the biggest survey of its kind and the results are intended to guide duchess’ future workIMG-20200307-WA0002Its the first time duchess is interviewed on a podcast. “It takes family a long time for generational change but hopefully is a first small step: to start a conversation around importance of early childhood development,” Catherine said. “It’s not just about happy, healthy children. This has lifelong consequences of outcomes.” Ms Fletcher, married to Tom Fletcher from McFly has said Kate is “passionate” about the subject. Its ‘beyond wonderful to sit and talk further about the survey, and her work for she has so much real knowledge, and her own experiences of being a mother.” “It doesn’t matter who you are, what you have, or where you come from we’re all try to do our best with our children while continuously learning from decisions and wondering if we get it right. Talking helps unite us all,” she said on the ‘five big questions.’The Duchess of Cambridge at Stockwell Gardens Nursery and Pre-School1. What do you believe is most important for children growing up in UK today to live a happy adult life? Rank from most important to least important:

  • Good physical and mental health
  • Good friendships & relationships
  • Access to opportunities
  • Access to a good education

2. Which of these statements is closest to your opinion?

  • It is primarily the responsibility of parents to give children aged 0-5 best chance of health & happiness
  • Primarily responsibility of others in society to give children aged 0-5 best chance of health & happiness
  • Shared responsibility of parents or others in society to give children aged 0-5 best chance of health and happiness
  • Don’t know

3. How much do you agree or disagree with this statement? Mental health or wellbeing of parents, carers has a great impact on development of child(ren).

  • Strongly agree
  • Tend to agree
  • Neither agree nor disagree
  • Tend to disagree
  • Strongly disagree

4. Which of the following is closest to your opinion of what influences how children develop from the start of pregnancy to age five?

  • Traits child is born with (nature)
  • Experiences of a child in the early years (i.e. nurture)
  • Both nature and nurture equally
  • Don’t know

5. Which period of a child and young person’s life do you think is the most important for health and happiness in adulthood?

  • Start of pregnancy to five years
  • 5-11 years (primary school)
  • 11-16 years (secondary school)
  • 16-18 years (further education)
  • 18-24 years (young adulthood)
  • Don’t know
  • All equally important

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DO TOYS DISTRACT FOCUS?

Children become distracted when they are surrounded by toys Too many toys are bad for children as a study suggests that the children become distracted when they are surrounded by too many toys. This is what the parents have suspected all along. Children who have too many toys are more also easily distracted so do not enjoy that quality playtime with other children as the new study suggest. Researchers at University of Toledo in Ohio, US, recruited some 36 toddlers and invited them to play in a room for half an hour, with either four toys, or 16 toys. They found youngsters were far more creative when they had fewer toys to play with. And they played with each for twice as long, thinking up more uses for each toy and lengthening and expanding their games. The authors conclude parents, schools and nurseries should pack away most of their toys and just rotate a small number regularly, to help encourage the children to become more creative to improve the attention spans of the children. This study sought to determine if the number of toys in a toddlers’ environments influences their quality of play,” said the lead author Dr Carly Dauch in journalInfant Behaviour and Development.“The higher number of incidences of play in 16 toy condition did interfere with duration and depth of play. Other toys present created their external distractions. “During toddler years, children develop but not master, higher levels of control over attention. And their attention plus their play was disrupted by factors in an environment present with distractions. The results of the present study suggest an abundance of toys create distractions. But provided with fewer toys in their environments the toddlers engaged in longer periods of play with single toy allowing better focus to explore, play more creatively.”Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, say researchers Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, says researchers. Britons spend more than £3 billion each year on toys and surveys shows that a typical child owns 238 toys in total but parents think they play with just the 12 ‘favourites’ on a daily basis making up just five per cent of their toys. It is not the first time research suggested that too many toys distract children. In the 1990s the German researchers, Elke Schubert and Rainer Strick conducted experiment where the toys were taken away from Munich nursery for three months. After a few weeks, the children re-adjusted and their play became far more creative and social. The published research of their findings in their book, called, The Toy-free Nursery. In another book, ClutterFree with Kids the author, Joshua Becker also argued fewer toys are better for children because a sparse playroom encourages creativity to help children develop attention span and to teach youngsters about taking care of their possessions. “A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there countless options are still remaining on the shelf behind them,” he said. “When children have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. And they will not learn to value them if there is their replacement ready at hand. “Fewer toys causes these children to become more resourceful by solving problems with only materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited practical uses in their futures.

The research is published in the journal Infant Behaviour and Development. The conflict of interest of the toy companies advertising children playing with many latest toys makes parents feel obliged to buy them for the children not to feel left out. Children display their toys online on social media to compare with each other including the addictive games that stop children learning, doing homework assignments later in college, university or focus at work. Lack attention span or focus from childhood affects the adults today unable concentrate for few hours to complete tasks at hand. Christmas is around and parents must not let a child manipulate them emotionally to buy a toy without teaching them first value of essential basic reading at level. Children can get a few educational toy to reward them to do exceptionally well in a field of academic achievement at school. The development steared towards a specific direction of any future career requires relevant toys to influence natural gifts, talents and abilities. Otherwise parents unintentionally make children victim of success by their ability to buy too many toys they can afford. Just because it is possible to buy things seen on the TV in adverts does not mean it enhances their specific development. Parent knows the children best, whether they are trained experts or not must help child learn not to depend only on school to learn. Early learning through practical play is now rapidly eroded by virtual reality keep children cocooned online. So important to carefully reflect before Christmas on piling up toys to “prove” your “love” of your children to the world overloading them with too many toys. Experience shows most children are just so happy playing with the box, not expensive toys boosting their parents ego. Millennium children are suffering from the lack of a social understanding or interaction due to isolated attachment to toys valued as more precious than engaging with each other. Time consumed worrying about their toy possessions makes them miss out on appreciating fellow human being as adults due to learned behaviour. The competition among children, teenagers over toys leads further to threats of the perceived anger of friends loving them only for their material possessions. The toys must not take over to babysit their children without adult supervision and input. One of the best ways to bond with children is play with them sometimes to help them value the adults in their lives.

A POSTPARTUM PSYCHOSIS

Singer Adele and Laura DockrillAdele spotted her friend’s postpartum psychosis illness after the birth of her Godson. Postpartum is also a postnatal depression changing the behaviour of the mother after birth so needs help and support of friends and family to recover. This is a serious illness and mothers struggle to look after the baby and themselves. Adele’s best friend says the singer was the first one to spot her postpartum psychosis. Laura Dockrill gave birth to a baby boy, Adele’s Godson in February this year. Recognised it in me, while on the phone FaceTiming her and she was the first one to detect what she had, Laura told Radio 1 Newsbeat. This serious mental illness affects one in one thousand mums and can lead to hallucinations after giving birth. Laura said: “The last six months can only be described as hell, it was the worst time of my life.” She says her symptoms were “insomnia, delusions, suspiciousness and paranoia” and written a blog post to share her experiences with mums who going through same thing. Adele shared Laura’s story, describedas “intimate and heartbreaking.” The singer says she and Laura friends since they were teenagers and her song My Same, from the album 19, is about her. Laura is a poet, author, illustrator and short story writer, and she went to the same school as Adele – the Brit School of Performing Arts in Croydon. In a blog post she talks about a “horrific” labour her doctor believes might have triggered the illness. After coming home with son, Laura describes feeling like “pushed out my personality as well as a baby.”Laura DockrillLaura and Adele are friends since they were teenagers. She says had suicidal thoughts. “I was begging my sister to let me go, I was begging my mum to let me go. “I have never had those thoughts before in my life and no history of mental illness, this completely took me by surprise and threw me against the rocks.” Laura says her skin went pale, she couldn’t eat or drink and she started getting severe anxiety attacks. As things got worse, Laura needed her partner Hugo to send her photos of herself with friends and family to remind her who she was. “Though postnatal depression and psychosis are treatable, even when my doctor said I would 100% recover I remember thinking, ‘Maybe others do but not me, this is me forever.”A mother holds a baby's handSymptoms of postpartum psychosis also includes delusions and hallucinations so Laura was hospitalised and spent two weeks away from her son. She describes herself as recovering more and more each day and is “happy, confident and strong” after getting support from family and a psychiatrist, as well as using medication. But she also says talking about her psychosis has been a “huge” part of her recovery. “I was constantly searching for any stories that offered me hope or salvation in this dark and testing time so that’s why I’ve shared this,” she says. Vivien Waterfield from the charity Home Start praised Laura for speaking up.“It’s very difficult for mums to talk about their difficulties they’re having,” she said. “Anyone in the public eye brave enough to talk about this publicly helps the mums to realise they are not alone.” A few years back, Kathryn Grant’s postpartum psychosis was an inspiration for an EastEnders storyline so Lacey Turner’s character Stacey had condition. She told Newsbeat that she had a horrendous birth and ended up not sleeping for ten nights.James And Kathryn togetherKathryn gave birth to James five years ago. “I knew I needed to go to the A&E because I had a feeling something was about to go terribly wrong. “By the time James was taken from me and cared for by the staff there, I descended into full blown psychosis.” Kathryn says during her psychotic episode she was seeing things that weren’t there and believing things that weren’t true. “I believed was being tortured and punished because I caused an apocalypse and killed most people in the world and the remaining survivors were torturing and trying to cremate me alive,” she said. “The reality was I was in an ambulance being taken from psychiatric hospital to a regular hospital to be treated for sepsis. To get help and support with postpartum psychosis, take a look at the NHS page on the condition.

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MARRIED 45 GAVE BIRTH 47

God’s Time is the best to fulfil the plans and purpose for your life to Glorify God as Gifty Anti’s testimony shows. This is the Lords doing and it is marvellous in our eyes. Wait on GOD ALMIGHTY and do not lean on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge God, HE WILL BRING TO PASS IN JESUS NAME. This powerful message is to encourage all people to Seek God’s Face especially for marriage. Do not marry because you feel it’s too late so rush into relationship to destroy you in the end. So many fear they may not get married after a certain age, convince themselves so share the husband of another woman. They miss their own husband due to impatience so regretted later and wished they waited for God. Delay is not denial so better to build up good character and reputation to wait as a virtuous woman. The same goes for men marrying the children too young with undeveloped body to bear a weight of children or be a matured wife. GLORY to God for matured women that are fully grown and to handle marriage better. Those miserable and lonely who think marriage solves all problems must love themselves first to bring good vibes into the marriage. Spend quality time to enjoy the single years dedicated to God and busy minding your own business. It is true marriage is beautiful, wonderful and fulfilling because God created the first marriage in Garden of Eden. God said, it is not good to be alone so made Eve out of Adam’s rib to join one flesh.

Marriage ordained by God so important to organise marriage as God planned and intends. Adam and Eve are created as fully grown adults with all available resources before their marriage was created by God. Time of singlenesss is time preparation towards marriage because such precious times cannot be regained after marriage. The single person is married to God in Christ so devoted to things of God Bible says. A popular saying is that marriage is like a woollen blanket itches when covered by it and cold without it. Those inside it are desperate to get out while those outside can’t wait to get in. Marriage is so great and wonderful because two better than one strengthening each other when the going gets tough. A real life marriage is not just like a fantasy drama of actors pretending to be couples on TV reciting written scripts and paid. Do not base a choice of a life partner on TV drama or Mills and Boons romantic fantasy novel although it contains elements of truth of real life. Marriage that endures lifetime is deeper than TV drama marriage takes the Grace, Mercy and Favour of God to endure the challenges and adversity of life together as a couple. And marriage is NOT HAPPILY EVER AFTER always as novels say it is practical real life matters of building family, relationship with the in-laws, humility, respect for people in the families, Honour, respect and never just the two couples involved. Be ready to become part of bigger family looking after interests of others not just yourself as God planned. Couples celebrate their wedding interact with family to support them in time of need. And never isolate yourselves to be in love to burn bridges because after the dust settles you need all those people to help the marriage to thrive. Isolated marriages are too close for comfort puts too much stress on each other to ruin marriage. A single person is WHOLE PERSON made in the IMAGE OF GOD. So stop thinking you are incomplete without marriage if not married yet or chooses not to marry marriage is not a competition of friends. Do not rush into marriage because you feel left behind by agemates. A real life journey is personal and individual, seek the face of God before marriage. 

Polyandry marriage of women married to more than one husband is common in India, Nigeria, China, Mountain tribes of Asia where there are more women than men. Similar words are polygyny, bigamy and deuterogamy. The Bible says 7 women will take hold of one man and say we are self-sufficient, so have everything already, we just want to be called by your name “Mrs.” Solomon and 700 wives and his 300 concubines, feminists now demand equal rights of polyandry to be like men. God allowed Abraham, Jacob, David among others to have many wives. Though God said, one man join one wife as ONE FLESH people are greedy so want more. After all God and Jesus are too HOLY without sexual needs, without a wife, so how on earth are they going to understand human needs of the flesh? The signs of end time debauchery and lasciviousness like the days of Noah and Sodom and Gomorrah Jesus has warned about will happen be before His coming again. Hope you are all well by the Grace of God. Pray with intense fasting intercession to break family covenant of spiritual marriage you are dedicated to fighting real life spouse. Secrets are not shared by parents so seek deliverance in Jesus Name for a breakthrough. Don’t consult psychics, necromancers, fortune tellers, native doctor herbalist, witch doctor for marriage because you will be initiated to satan and demons will marry you to prevent real life marriage. It may seem they gave you husband or wife but it is loaded with evil because satan does not give anything free without taking back a life of family members to kill, destroy or make them suffer in life. So may not realise your connection to idol shrine is the cause of all family sickness, poverty, and premature deaths. Ancestors sought ‘protection’ from: evil witchcraft, wars, land disputes, chieftaincy by sacrificing the family to shrines. Such generational covenants are known or unknown to family members suffering today. The LORD GOD ALMIGHTY is the source of life and giver of marriage so follow the plan if God for your life. Do not listen to those who ruined their life embarrassed by your virtuous life to deceive you to ruin your life. They may call you “an old maid” left on the shelf but GOD’S TIME is the BEST in Jesus Name. All laughing and mocking you now will see the Glory of God in your life and your testimony in Jesus Name. Others decide to do their own deceived by those who want their life destroyed to spur on to disgrace them. Beware and stand on the word of God for inspiration, hope, assurance in Christ and trust God in Spirit and Truth to beautify your life in His Own Time for you. You will enjoy your marriage because you are  faithful to God so HE WILL Make A WAY for you where there is no way in Jesus Name. The Bible in Exodus 21:10, says a man can marry an infinite amount of women without limits to how many to marry. And in 2 Samuel 5:13; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, and in 14:3, King David had six wives and his numerous concubines. Also in 1 Kings 11:3, King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Again in 2 Chronicles 11:21, King Solomon’s son Rehoboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines. And in Deuteronomy 21:15 A man with two wives loves one but not the other and both bear sons favours one more. The laws of each land dictate the number of spouse according to that culture.  

IMG_20180915_131117If you have Spiritual Father and Mother in Christ go and talk to them privately about your desire to get married. Study Biblical marriage to read good books on marriage from God to help understand marriage better. Ensure you are able to provide marital needs like rent, food, work to have money to pay the bills, to first take care of yourself before you go to add children’s needs into a marriage for more responsibility. Love alone is not enough because love does not pay bills or provide food just because you declare or flaunt how madly you are in love on social media. Be happy first in yourself, see marriage as bonus adding value to your life rather than depending on person to fulfil your life. Impossible to demand spouse totally fulfil all areas of your life needs because you love and married them. You demand they be God who is ONLY ONE Provider that way. Its misunderstanding to destroy marriage because of your assumption a partner will meets all your needs but you do not tell them what your need is. You insist they read your mind to do all you want from them without TALKING to them or doing good to them in return. Marriage is not a ONE WAY culdesac no return of favour done to you. Negotiate with family through the good servant of God with your family in partnership for a spouse. Even if church helps you find spouse include family or if family finds you spouse include the church if a born again believer. You need them along the journey of married life for sure honour family and stay in church in marriage ordained by God. Families give account to God on judgement day so remember God will deal with you as you deal with spouse and fam vily. Check your heart for motives of marriage to be sure you love, show kindness, peace, joy, so loyal, forgives, self-control, laughter help each other, family after honeymoon is over reality sets in. Marriage not for the fainthearted so treat it with respect, honesty, trust be transparent for your own good to help save to preserve your married life in peace. Continue to pray intensely as you did when seeking that life partner to defeat and conquer the onslaught of forces that contend with the marriage. Do not relax and think nobody fights over conquered fortress to settle down so ignore spouse. This is beginning of married life of challenges in relationship. With God all things are possible so be alert watch out pray, seek deliverance in Mighty Name of Jesus!!!

PRAY WITH YOUR CHILDREN

praying-family-featureJoin me to pray with and for all our children and please take a moment to say this prayer for your children: Heavenly Father God My children ……………………….(name them) are gifts and testimonies you gave me so for this reason, they shall be blessed in their Body, Mind, Spirit and Soul. Their bodies shall be full of the vitality from the LORD in Jesus Name. Their lives are garnished with wealth and abundance, as they experience the peace of God that passes all human understanding all the year round. We shall not mourn over our children, because they are satisfied with long life to live long to take care of their lives as God commands.christian-parenting-handbook They will eat the good of this land and any land they step the soles of their feet on in Jesus Name. Many things come against our children daily beyond human control that it is only the LORD God’s POWER and HIS MERCY that can keep them safe from harm. Train children to trust to depend and rely on God above all else although God uses people to Bless children. The Bible commands Christian parents to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. This commandment given you today is written to be on your hearts. And teach them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home, when you walk along the road and when you lie down and get up” Deuteronomy 6:5-7.f65d3dc952c20f6aabb7e191bd5b6f87The LORD God will not take them to the places where  there is no Grace of God. The LORD will keep us together a united family so our relationship more fruitful than ever before. Our prayer is essential over all our children and our families to stay alert and be aware to discern God’s Voice in their lives too.  Cover your children in prayer and plead the blood of Jesus daily to cover them to protect them from evil in Jesus Name. You must never be too busy to pray. We can intercede for our children, praying for Godly wisdom, protection, strength and joy of the LORD in their lives also. Pray for your children asking God to hear and answer prayers.3ded719a966c14c507b9ee5a870d3dccGod invites all parents to ask, to seek and knock with specific requests for their children in Jesus Name. God is pleased to answer prayer requests as Jesus said, which of you if your children ask for bread you will give them stones or for fish you give them serpents. So if earthly parents know how to give good gifts to your children how much more God is pleased to be asked to supply all your children’s spiritual, physical and emotional plus material needs through you as God’s stewards. Amen! Send this declaration to parents and watch God bless your family richly and even more abundantly. You will help more parents pray for their children. Please whether you have your own children or not does not matter, pray for all childrenThanks and God abundantly Bless you more.

BUILDING A BABY’S BRAINS

pastedImageTop 10 tips to building a baby’s brain as Blackpool Better Start believes, building a brain is a lot like building a house and so must have strong foundation. Strong foundation builds the stronger resilient communities to help parents, essential for healthy structure of child’s brain.”

1) Support

Get support to create a solid foundation by ensuring that parents and caregivers have the right information and support available to meet a baby’s needs. In UK, Blackpool and other parts of country, having parents attend their antenatal programme and being involved with your health visitor, midwife and other people are there to support you through your pregnancy is really important during that transition into parenthood.Reading_800x534

2) Positive nurturing interaction

Developing a brain is an interactive process. ‘Serve and return’ activities can help with this – that’s the “goo goo” and “gaa gaa”, when you respond to what your child is saying to you. It’s like a tennis match. Maybe your child gives you a tissue, you take is and say “thank you”. Embracing those ‘serve and return’ opportunities helps build those interactions.

3) Read, read, read

Research shows us how beneficial reading is to a child’s development. The evidence we have proves children who are read to, by parents or caregivers do better in school. The have higher self-esteem, develop better relationships with other children and are better behaved. We recommend reading 15 minutes a day to your child – that does make a difference to their development.

4) Talk to Babies Early

When adults interact and elaborate what the child is saying to them – like asking questions, sharing rhymes and songs – then children start to develop those cognitive skills and the tools they need to succeed. Even when the child is saying something that’s not particularly intelligible, start a conversation with your child and let them recognise that you will interact with them in that way.

5) Managing stresses

We know that some stress is considered to be good – like meeting a new person, that can be good for a child. It’s for children who grow up in chronically stressful environments, they might be subject to violence, abuse and neglect. Those children experience ‘toxic stress’ and we talk with families about what toxic stress looks like and the impact is has on that child. Caregivers should be aware of the environment a child is in, be able to comfort them when they’re upset and calm their emotions. Helping a child’s stress response system come back to normal levels is really, really important.Family_Singing

6) Be attuned, responsive

The relationship between the main caregiver allows the baby to grow physically, emotionally, intellectually. We know that babies and children need to feel safe, protected and nurtured by caregivers, to identify responds to the child’s needs. Unresponsiveness lead to difficulties socially, behaviourally and emotionally which may affect the child’s physical and emotional development.

7) Outdoors

Remember the importance of outdoor play by using open spaces, parks and other outdoor settings. Look for outdoor opportunities which are vital for brain development and we know that play is essential for a child’s learning and well-being. It can help the parents too. Being outside as a family, particularly if you live in a small house or don’t have much space, getting outside and doing some activity can make you feel better, is good for the child and it’s free!

8) Nutrition and diet

A poor diet can negatively affect a child’s brain development and nervous system. But for us, it’s supporting parents getting their child into solid food. We know breastfeeding is really good for nutrition, because the milk in a mum’s body changes everyday to give the child what they need. We also know that once you move on to solid food, it’s about looking at what kind and how you serve the food to a child. There needs to be a good range of foods that will address their nutrition and diet.

9) Mum & dad take care

Obviously a expectant mother needs to be taken care of during pregnancy, because that vital for the wellbeing of the baby, but that continues well after birth. Establishing regular routines for sleep helps with brain development and stress, as does physical activity. Being physically active for 60 – 90 minutes a day helps strengthen brain connection with motor skills, balance, vision and other abilities. It also helps combat stress for mum. We think mums who have good nutirion, who are acitive during pregnancy are able to have a healthier birth.4-ways-to-nurture-your-childrens-growing-brain-2

10) Communities

We talk about communities a lot, because it’s not just the parents that help grow the child, it’s the whole community and extended family. Studies have shown that children tend to do better from strong, supportive communities. Everything we do is based around gearing up communities and parents to do more for themselves, by giving the community members skills, making them more understanding about child development and what they can do to support that. Children centres, peer supporters and trained volunteers can offset poverty and other risk factors in early development.

TO EAT IS A GIFT FROM GOD

 The youngster from Missouri is a keen footballerThe Bible says in Ecclesiastes 3:13 that the ability to eat and drink with joy and satisfaction is everyone’s gift from God. So people should eat and drink and take pleasure in all their work this is God’s gift to man. Moreover be grateful and thankful to God and enjoy this gift from God by sharing your food with family and friends. So when a teenager was unable to swallow food he became ill not able to teenager was left fighting for his life after his esophagus was torn by a ham and cheese sandwich he ate. Alec Hebblethwaite, 14, spent 106 days in hospital diagnosed with chronic immune system disease eosinophilic esophagitis. Alec Hebblethwaite, 14, in the hospital after terrifying injury. The schoolboy’s mum Kasey Hunter, 35, first noticed something was out of ordinary last April when he ate a cracker during football practice and threw up blood. She took him to the ER where medics said he had scratched his esophagus and told him to stick to soft foods to give it the chance to heal. But the following month, Kasey took Alec to Walmart between football games to grab a snack and he choked on a ham and cheese sandwich. He was rushed to hospital with chest pain and doctors discovered his esophagus was RIPPED but when they tried to fix it with surgery found the wound had become infected. He later ate a sandwich after playing football which ripped his throatHe ended up spending the summer in intensive care, fighting deadly sepsis and having several operations where doctors warned his mom he might not make it. In November seven months after Alec’s first trip to the ER – doctors determined his extreme reaction caused by eosinophilic esophagitis. The rare condition causes white blood cells to build up in lining of tube connecting the mouth and stomach, which can lead to tearing and choking. Alec has to stick to soft foods and cut out rough foods and bread is believed to trigger previous flare-up because it can expand and cause irritation. Alec Hebblethwaite, 14, in hospital following the terrifying injuryHe later ate a sandwich after playing football which ripped his throat. His mum first noticed something wrong when he started coughing up blood after eating a crackerThe youngster from Missouri is a keen footballer. The Mum-of-three Kasey, of Kaiser, Missouri, said: “They said that if we had waited 12 more hours before taking him to the hospital he would have died. “We thought it was just chest pain he was complaining about but the doctors did a swallow study and found out there was a hole. “The doctors said they had never seen it in a kid before. It was very scary. “To stand there and look at your kid and there is nothing you can do for them… You just want to take it all away but you’re not able to. “I had no idea that this could happen. Never in my wildest dreams did I think that crackers and sandwiches would be able to do this.” He medical condition worsened after it was discovered he was suffering from an infectionHis medical condition worsened after it was discovered he was suffering from an infection After choking on sandwich on May 21, Alec, who lives with Kasey and her husband, construction worker Matthew, 36, was admitted to Mercy Hospital in Springfield, Missouri. There doctors tried to perform surgery to repair esophagus but were forced to delay it after opening his chest to find suffering from infection. Alec was transferred to Children’s Mercy in Kansas City, Missouri, where he was admitted to Pediatric Intensive Care Unit. He had a chest tube and drain inserted to help get rid of infection and later surgery to remove his gallbladder infected. Alec, discharged on September 3 and was diagnosed with the rare condition until two months later. He said: “At first I didn’t know anything was wrong at all I just felt like a bit of sandwich stuck in my throat. “But after I found it really hard to get up and my throat hurt. I was in a lot of pain. “I don’t remember most of my time in hospital but there was a time when I wasn’t able to walk, which was very scary. “I knew things like this could happen but I didn’t ever think it would happen to me.” Alec still goes to hospital every few weeks for dilation, where a balloon is inserted into the esophagus to stretch it, to make it easier for him to breathe. Help family with medical and travel costs donate: YouCaring site: https://www.youcaring.com/alechebblethwaite-830977


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THE ADOLESCENT CHILDREN

kids-circleThe adolescent children’s growth spurts starts earlier in the modern generations than previous ones lasts twice as long as it did in 1950s. Children start puberty at an earlier age than before as Psychology professor Laurence Steinberg explained in BrainwavesAdolescent spectrums in life starts at puberty until become stable independent adults. The time extended in the children who begin puberty early.Kids-Diverse-1According to study, Professor Steinberg

said adolescence is three times as long as it was in the 19th Century, twice as long as in the 1950s. Professor Laurence Steinberg on western world adolescence said it runs from age 9 to about age 25. Professor Steinberg attributed this to a phenomenon lengthening adolescence by several surprising factors as follows:youth-world-header-largeObesity and man-made chemicals alter growth spurts in modern adolescence.

The first and most important is obesity, kids who are fatter go through puberty earlier than the leaner children he said. Man-made chemicals plus other factors exposed in children’s endocrine change disrupted bg a man-made environment. These chemicals are not just in the food they’re in cosmetics, plastics, pesticides they’re ubiquitous. When the people are exposed to these endocrine disrupters it alters hormonal development chemicals lead to early onset puberty in most girlshotMore sunLight exposure is a third factor discovered as cosmic ozone rays radiate differently since man made chem trails and acid rains. Exposure to the sunlight can burn causing cancer chemicals used to protect skin. The children who grow up near the equator go through puberty earlier than children growing up near a north or south pole. Those who grow up near the equator exposed to the natural sunlight in childhood years get natural vitamin D, K A good for bone density so grow faster. Parents in northern Europe research says apply skin creams to their children, if outdoors to play in shade.Scientists discovered the radiating light emanating from tablets, smartphones or computer screens affect a puberty onset by disrupting brain’s melatonin system. Children who spend more time in front of these screens of the blue light emitted by devices contribute to earlier puberty as well. Light from the phones impacts the brainwavess of children and adults. Brainwaves of their adolescent brains as Pennie Latin examined is relatively a young field of teenage neurology. It has revealed lack of frontal cortex ability to understand risk and consequences. And adolescent children have puberty early but able to handle harsh realities of life. Their body grows fast but lack maturity of trauma war years of distress, rations famine, lack tough physical life ability challenges faced by previous adolescent generations. They worked in factories, chimney sweepers, on railway tracks so children forced to mature. Now develop faster on growth spurt but canniot deal with challenges of modern generations. World-Population-889x591.jpgAdolescent brainwaves science records children as young as four years old now go through puberty in exceptional cases and as young as five years give birth to a child due to their extreme hormonal development. Good to educate children on healthy diets and outcomes of sexual intimacy and know body boundaries of personal space. Faster puberty does not correspond to maturity on growth spurt chemically induced so don’t synchronise with natural process of development. It seems as if they have grown up but the frontal cortex lacks understanding, risk or consequences. A brain maturity takes place at 25 to 30 years of age. Children mimc adults, perform daily in life seems natural action of personal development but its copying what is seen or heard so well mastered seem as natural growth. Educators and the policy makers must understand the natural growth spurt to create elevant suitable learning in line with modern development. Too much is demanded from children too soon, often because they look like real fully grown adults and treated so, but still children in ‘adult’ bodies mimicking grown ups. It explains complex behaviours unseen in the past and health issues and ADHD lack of focus and short attention spans. Many children are restless and can’t sit still for a few minutes. Some don’t sleep properly playing games on smartphones or computer devices. Their brain, body is not given enough rest to repair body cells. Some eat junk processed food that lack minerals and nutrients good for the body. Most foods or drinks contain the E chemical interfering with neurological transmitters of the brains hence lack of focus. Modern generations face so much thrown at them by greedy selfish money grabers who don’t care about damage to life in the name of economic prosperity. They use food enhancers bulking agents to destroy natural human development of children grow as adults with complex health needs. Some children refuse to eat healthy vegetables necessary for the essential minerals or nutrients for body.

A GIRL’S PUBERTY & PERIODS

maximum-win-when-puberty-goes-right_o_4965805Girls of puberty age face discrimination in society as the news says again. Some banned from crossing rivers because of monthly periods. Interestingly, God put period in girls for reproductive cycle to be fruitful, multiply to replenish earth according to Bible. Functions of human body are God’s creation so people need proper education to learn to understand these female conditions. Modern times show a detailed scientific knowledge on menstruation. So schoolchildren learn biology to know scientific explanations of periods. Period means a girl’s womb is prepared for child-birth each month. The girl’s body waits through ovulation cycle when egg is released to receive the seed/s to become pregnant and to have children. But since girls are too young to bear children and still in education they are not ready to give birth yet. So each month the egg from the fallopian tube is released waiting for conception in the womb. Since no pregnancy takes place, egg and womb linings are shed as the ‘period’ in preparation for repeat of this cycle each month. After birth a womb is still busy continuing monthly cycle until menopause when period stop. A natural of fertility cycle of girls is being used as religious discrimination against young innocent girls. The tradition of outhouse for periods exists in cultures all over the world to keep girls in a special hut but it is endured they are warm, safe and fed. hqdefault (1)The concept of sacred ground of homes and rivers is used to put girls in special huts exclusively during periods. Elderly women train girls in personal hygiene and after periods they go back to family compounds. The idea is found in Bible too as women are considered “unclean” from sacred spaces during periods. And must have purification baths and must abstain from intimacy during periods. In some places menstrual cups, pads or special cloth is used by women during periods. For those not going through the periods they are allowed to cook, clean and do chores. Those in periods cannot enter the family compounds until after periods. In such places the girls are safe, warm in the nearby period hut for time of a “break and rest” for the girls. Those isolated in places exposed to elements is unsafe, cold at risk from elements and animals roaming around is abuse. Girl’s education is interrupted so do not go to school if I  period. If they ask teachers to be excused from classroom to change in a school toilet, it can be embarrassing to tell a male teacher such details by girls. So it was concluded by some societies to exclude them during periods. Education does not continue then and school work lags behind when in the hut. No lessons or homework is given for missed classes and some assume they must not touch things to ‘contaminate’ them. This why girls in periods are banned from homes and school still an issue in some places. Other issues of sanitation or washing of cloth or disposing of used pads in home is of concern too. Often sight of blood is considered sacred so must not touch or taint a home or certain holy places. It is necessary to educate people in period to lead normal life of healthy experience. hqdefaultHomeschooling’ during period possibly set up by schools to ensure education of the girl is not compromised. Homework can be given but this idea is not popular so girls are affected. The elders making laws need to understand value of a girl’s education often misconstrued as waste of time or money. So say, after all a girl’s place is in the kitchen, lack of education is easy way to control girls. These issues have several underlying causes needing to be addressed as human rights of girls to have periods without attacks on their education. Societies to learn from others in other parts of the world on how girls’ periods does not interrupt education. To stop social stigma attached to periods as natural mood swings and mood changes or pain response ‘oh it’s that time again.’ On other occasions, even if a girl is not in her periods assumed they are always daily going through periodic cycle. Girls not allowed to touch certain objects in extreme cases even Bible considered too Holy to be touched by women in period.Talking-To-Boys-About-Puberty-Periods-And-GirlsPeriod matters need to be dealt with in a careful way in harmony with views of a community associating interpreting a lack of rain or food harvests is results of human actions and behaviours. People are aware and so notice changes in girls during periods feel it is inappropriate to socialize with them in that state. Its also awkward for some men unaware of real meaning of girl/women’s monthly cycle. Whatever method girls choose to use in their period must be suitable in society to ensure the well-being of girls/women. Organisations can support by donating essential personal hygiene items as too expensive to buy in some places. Their disposal must be done discreetly a used pad must not be dragged by dogs from a local damp sites. This needs are beyond young girls to meet by their own efforts. So discrimination against girls must be reconsidered to stop ‘gods’ harrassing girls. God ALMIGHTY creates women in HIS IMAGE to reproduce by giving birth to children through the menstrual cycle.Periods-in-Developing-Countries-Header-1Psalm 115:5 says gods have mouths, but cannot speak, eyes but do not see so are just man-made idols in Habakkuk 2:18, 1 Kings 18 :26. So God ALMIGHTY in the heavens demands veneration by people. Psalm 135:16 says gods have mouths but cannot speak or eyes but not see. A born again Christian believer in Christ must practice WORSHIP of God only. As Christ Shed His precious Blood to clean all His people including girls in their periods. Believers cannot partake in any idolatry of god’s heathen practice if saved. The 21st century women’s education brings awareness and relevant knowledge for all nations to resolve this issue properly to stop picking on girls going through a period. Its not the fault of girls to put up with natural cycle to tolerate a monthly period with no choice or control over a natural period issues created by God.2-infographic-education God’s plans and purpose for girls helps for birth of all mankind so celebrate the girls and not to punish girls for being in periods. Without women there is no life on earth. Community’s actions are also known and seen by God who will hold decision makers accountable. So read Revelations 19:15 about God’s dealings with leaders in society. Isaiah 44:18 says gods know nothing, understand nothing their eyes do not see. They do not know or understand anything. God shuts their eyes so they cannot see; and so have no knowledge. God says those who carry it about as their idols or pray to gods are like them. The Bible in Psalm 115:5 says those who are praying or praising gods of silver, gold, bronze, iron, wood, stone do not know Jehovah God. Its children’s right so traditional leaders banning girls from crossing river while menstruating from going to school is a human abuse._99558170_b239af05-8ed2-4257-8153-64b56e998a53Krobo girls in Somanya Ghana dressed in white are taken to the riversides for Dipo bath rites. Any girl who dresses in this way is identified as ‘dipo-yo.’ On the Saturday morning the girls have ritual bath (aya-pa) at the riverside. The girl’s calabash contain sponge so proceeds to Srendor (stream) for spiritual bath. The chief priest is told when girl has period for the first time and grouped together with other girls. They are checked to be ensure they are virgins. After that they have a ritual bath in the river and are dressed beautifully in expensive kente, beads on head and around body. The point here is the Dipo god seems to not mind puberty girls in river they literally are bathed in. Later paraded in town to celebrate them by the whole town. This great source of tourism and hospitality attracts people from all over the world. Books are written about Dipo practices. kroboIMG_20180112_103548In Central region Ghana girls have been banned from crossing the River Ofin by traditional leaders, who are enforcing what they call a “directive” from river-gods. Children have to cross the river to get to school in Kyekyewere, in Upper Denkyira East district in Central Region of Ghana. This means girls can’t attend school if they are in their periods. If not in period: a second order from the river gods bans all girls from crossing a river on Tuesdays. Jehovah created all rivers and oceans and so all are free to cross it. Unicef’s menstrual hygiene ambassador Shamima Muslim Alhassan told the BBC such directives violates the girl’s right to education and freedom of movement.

It seems gods are really powerful aren’t they? So I think that we need to ask for a form of accountability from the gods who continue to bar a lot of things from happening, to account for how they used power we have given them.”

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Picture4-300x247River Ofin serves as boundary between Ashanti and Central Region. So Central Regional Minister Kwamena Duncan is given indications to coordinate with the Ashanti regional minister to find proper solution. In Madagascar some females are told not to wash during periods and in Nepal women forced to sleep in huts away from the rest of the family. Girls in other cultures face these problems since education is now becoming compulsory in many countries. Many cultures have myths and taboos around menstruation globally. This must be demystified and debunked to intervene on behalf of the  young girls to benefit from education. As Kweggir Aggrey said if you educate a boy or man you educate an individual if you educate girl/woman YOU EDUCATE A NATION. Behind every successful man is woman so men must listen to women at home, the community or in corporate boardrooms for the greater good of the society and girls. Stop harrassing young girls all over the world men must study reproduction biology. Elijah told people to follow God only not idols in a Mount Carmel contest by calling fire down to burn sacrifice to Yahweh the real true God. God proves to people HE is greater and more powerful than idols. Gideon was told to cut down idol shrine groves to build new altar for God and sacrifice a cow to God on the new altar. Almighty God does not share His Glory with idols, demands complete total loyalty because HE IS A JEALOUS GOD. He wants to be the only one people worship not a bit of God and a bit of idols. Girls must attend school daily in their period, given pads, personal hygiene kit, discreet changing rooms facilities and water to wash with. Shaming girls and women is an abuse of power by ignorant people who belittle girls or women who carried them in the womb, breastfeed or bottle feed them so grow up now insult God’s birth process.  All people are born due to period cycles of girls and women so respect and value women. Nations are now paying women to bring forth more children due to the problem of underpopulation. Women or girls mistreated for a natural birth cycle period God provides for pregnancy and childbirth to take care of their family is used to harass women. Yet without girls or women’s period menstruation there will be no continuity of life for children by procreation on earth as God planned.

 

SPARE THE ROD SPOIL CHILD

Smacking (actors)Smacking ban goes to public consultation. Plans to outlaw beating, slapping, kicking, smacking, spanking, whipping children in Wales are going out to a three-month consultation. The ministers said removing the defence of reasonable punishment would make it clear smacking is no longer acceptable. Charities including the NSPCC said this would bring Wales in line with dozens of other countries. But campaigners against the law fear it could criminalise ordinary parents. Minister for Children and Social Care, Huw Irranca-Davies, said: “As a parent of three boys myself, I know being a parent can sometimes be a challenging experience. “Our knowledge of what children need to grow and thrive has developed considerably over the last 20 years. We now know that physical punishment can have negative long-term impacts on a child’s life chances and we also know it is an ineffective punishment.”

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Discipline is meted out by using alternative methods like, “grounding” punishment which means the child stays at home so cannot meet up with friends to go to cinema, party, or sleep over. The child’s privileges like toys, games, computers, phones taken away or asked to stay alone isolated in their bedroom. Others sit in a corner alone for 5 minute to 15 minutes within sight of the adult to stay there based on their age  This helps calm a child down and diffuses tension but the child enjoys TV in bedroom or favourite toys, phone, computer, are taken away for a few days or months depending on what the child did. This happens often so some parents feel it is better than physically hitting them with a stick. Some do not have toys or own bedroom so parents find other ways like asking them to do chores they do not like to do to teach them a lesson. In other extreme cases the child may pay for items deliberately damaged in anger with pocket-money or mow the garden and lawn.

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Scotland became the first part of the UK to confirm plans to outlaw smacking children last year. Now ministers in Wales want parents to choose “positive and more effective methods.”Some people think carrots and sticks are choices that makes a difference depending on preference. The “rule of the thumb laws” made by Parliament allowed husband’s to beat their wives with a stick the size of their thumb. God help the woman whose husband has the biggest thumb, you will not want to rub the wrong way. The proposed law would not involve creating a new offence but would instead remove the defence to the existing offences of assault and battery. So, any adult looking after a child would no longer be able to use physical or corporal punishment against them. Physical punishment has already been outlawed in schools and childcare facilities but Mr Irranca-Davies said it was time “to ensure it is no longer acceptable anywhere.”

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The Welsh Government is now allowed to legislate in areas of parental discipline, under the new Wales Act. The consultation runs until 2 April. The Bible says correct the child in love and not in anger because God Corrects those HE LOVES. So explain to the child you are not in a bad mood or hate them. Discipline must be done in context and effective against their behaviour. Mixed messages from parents does not clearly teach them why it is wrong to do something being punished and educate them on the effects of their action on their reputation, others and their peers and society in general. Safely nip the bad behaviour in the bud before it grows out of hand and becomes toxic and destructive. A lot of adults missed out on proper discipline as God said train the child so when they grow they will not depart from it. Children need to understand that discipline corrects and challenges bad behaviour so is not a negative cruel wicked vitriol. God tell parents in Bible not to provoke their children to anger so are to raise children to have consideration for others.семейное-отношение-14317792

A recent TV documentary experimented the carrot and stick approach to see which was more effective. One group was harsh, relentless, no fun, almost military training style of elite soldiers. The other group observed a laissez faire approach, liberal, praising them, mingling appropriately. Both groups performed almost the same without any extra head start or advantage over the other. In extreme cases where a child’s life or others are at risk, a meaningful discipline method is age appropriate and does not ‘hurt’ physically or kill them as happens sometimes. The stress and despair of the parents must never be put upon or projected on to the children. Parents with any psychological problems must seek therapy and not vent their anger on the children by harsh punishment in anger. In extreme cases children’s hands are cut off as punishment for working too slowly or taking and eating food without first asking permission. Sometimes the health of children must be taken into account for suitable punishment. To stop lawlessness, recklessness of society children need discipline important for their future self-discipline to live peacefully with others in community. 1.1994526-1

In Ghana the High Court ruled against smacking so children write apology letters. The Ho Polytechnic Basic School has instituted the writing of apology letters to replace corporal punishment in the school. Pupils now write apology letters, after a written report on the misdemeanor. So what does it mean to “spare the rod and spoil the child? This phrase “spare the rod and spoil the child means modern-day methods imply that if parents refuse to discipline unruly child the child will grow accustomed too set in ways too late to their change bad behaviour. Proverbs 13:24 says whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who corrects them loves them. This is not a licence for aggression and abuse of children for the slightest reason. Children lack FRONTAL CORTEX so do not fully understand life. So take time to make simple easy to understand visual images with rules to REMIND children. This can prevent forgetting rules and children will comply if the know the reasons why they are disciplined. Patents must set good examples to children.

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Afterwards, explain again why disciplined, ask for apology from the child, hug and tell child you love them as is done in the UK.  Children mimic and copy adults so some behaviours reflect on the environment and the actions of the adults who need to set better examples and not pick on children mirroring their behaviour. Parent child bonding must not be destroyed by aggressive discipline or lack of discipline. The Bible says those who love their children care enough to discipline them. Whoever spares the rod hates child, but loves child if diligent to discipline child. A lot of brat, rude, bad behaviour can be traced to children left to own devices who grow up as Dennis the menace to society and untouchable majesty the child doted on by parents who think their beloved children do no wrong. This sensitive matter means each side is equally passionate about their approach. The danger is social workers called because of discipline the law ‘criminalise’ parents for training children for their own good. Yet some grow up and freely hit by batons for undealt with childhood issues. Caring-Adult_woman-high-five-boy_web Bible says the if a child listens and is disciplined that child lives long and it is well with that child. So discipline is not to inflict punishment for cruelty but to train a child into an upstanding valuable member of society. The purpose of discipline is to teach a child to understand the human rules and laws of society to fit in as an adult. Therefore unbred child will find the world harder than the child carefully trained from home to be self- aware and have self discipline and self respect. The world is full of untrained adults who act like children and have to nannied and apprenticed when they should be leaders helping other. The chaos in society and communities is because some have festered unruly children never disciplined because of saying ” it hurts the parent too much to inflict pain” on a child. A trust worthy child is trained to fear God and respect fellow human beings and follow the golden rule. Vilifying parents for any form of discipline sends the wrong message to children who will grow up to make similar decisions in future.