MEN’S EXPRESSED FEELINGS

James Livitski, a Canadian graphic designer, says men should be able to talk about their feelings

Men’s expressed feelings of masculinity of life as a man is not always easy James Livitski Canadian graphic designer says. Men should be able to talk about their feelings without feeling ‘weak’ and ‘not in control.’ Stories of the difficulties of modern women are often told, but how much do you read about the downsides of being a man? This searingly honest conversation unfolded online this week as men shared the negative impact of “toxic masculinity” on their lives. It was a rare chance for many to express how society expects men’s toughness, sexual virility and emotional reserve that lead to isolation, loneliness or just feelings of being uncomfortable around mates. It all started when British columnist and feminist Caitlin Moran put out a call for men on Twitter to talk about drawbacks of being guy today. We spoke to people sharing their thoughts and feelings. A Super Bowl of feelings unfold as James Livitski, Toronto, Canada was really so happy to see topic widely talked about on Twitter. He said, I’ve been saying this forever that there’s a stigma about men talking about feelings. We’re born into thinking a man should be ‘tough,’ push feelings aside because it isn’t ‘manly.’James Livitski, 32James Livitski, 32, sees countless times the impact of social norms that men should not be emotional or vulnerable. “I’ve heard of many relationships end because the man can’t express the way he feels. “We need to be more open to listening to how a man is feeling and push more for them to understand that it’s OK to feel things.” Although his own dad is a “really sensitive man”, he says that many are not taught how do that without fear they will be judged. “We’re all humans and we all feel. You should never be afraid to say what is on your mind. Men should have a Super Bowl for feelings,” he suggests. Increased attention has been paid to men’s mental health in recent years. British Men have the Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) aims to challenge a culture that prevents men seeking help when they need it, highlighting that in Britain the single biggest killer of men under 45 is suicide. Men and women experience many of the same mental health issues, but men with depression or anxiety may hide emotions and express anger or aggression instead, according to the US National Institute of Mental Health.

Missed connections

Pressure is men who express their love for family or friends as feminine and emasculated, according to Phil Chan, a digital artist from California. “My dad never told me he loved me, even though I know he does. He did not hug me even now in his eighties I will love to hear it.”Phil Chan: Phil Chan: “I think #Metoo movement opened up communications between genders.“After I told my closest friends how I feel about them, if, it brought us closer together. We hug on a regular basis!” Phil also explained that when caring for his baby nephew, women in public would assume he was clueless about looking after an infant. At a party with his nephew, a group of women criticised him, giving instructions on how to “properly” change and hold the baby. He worries this negatively affects men’s hopes about fatherhood. “I think if men might to be more vulnerable, we could be more compassionate and empathetic,” he suggests.Mark is a software developer in Sydeny, AustraliaMark is a software developer in Sydney, Australia. Mark Pursey, 46, suggests that men find it difficult to foster friendships if they meet a new person. In contrast to men many women who enthusiastically exchange contact information. “I have definitely got a mental list of ‘missed connections’ where I met some guy at a random event got on really well. It’s like ‘see you later dude’ and we never meet again.” He says that in many cases this overwhelmingly leads to loneliness and isolation. Mark says that’s because men are “not learning the emotional labour stuff”, adding, “we like to show off but not put in the boring maintenance work in relationships. “It’s like we still need play dates organised for us.”

Sexual virility

Another issue talked about is men feeling uncomfortable when peers blatantly check out or sexualize women, commenting on their appearance. “It can get toxic easily, and as a guy we’re expected to contribute. It’s happened a lot and it’s so uncomfortable. Just being around that conversation makes me feel dirty,” commented Alan Gretch, 21, from the US state of Nebraska.Alan is completing a Masters in human services to become a counsellorAlan is completing a Masters in human services to become a counsellor. Alan says these conversations are common especially when there are no women around: “They range from ‘this person is hot’ to more graphic descriptions of girls.” He says it’s difficult to challenge men when the conversations begin. “It’s bully, be bullied, or stay silent. It’s a no win situation,” Alan explains. Anxiety about expectations of sexual virility was raised by many contributors on Twitter. “The idea if you’re not: drinking heavily, trying to shag everything moves, living and breathing sport, solving problems with violence, competing with other men to be the ‘alpha’, then you’re not a man,” wrote Neil Walsh. Another user added assumptions of sexual advances are often made when he tries to be “just friends” with women, adding “Yes I know there are very good reasons for this.”

I don’t want to be daddy

Gin Lowdean, in Edinburgh, Scotland, revealed that her four-year-old son told her he doesn’t want to be a dad when he grows up. Instead he’s “excited to be a mummy.” When Gin pointed out most men don’t become mothers, he became sad because “Daddies have to work all the time, they never get to dance and nobody hugs them.” Gin explained that she was shocked because her husband is very affectionate with his sons, but she presumes her son picked up idea from nursery and television. “His dad was devastated, he hugs him all the time and loves to dance,” she explained, adding that to try to rectify the issue by purchasing books about how to express feelings of stories, challenge traditional masculinity. Express yourself honestly, be polite, straight to the point, upfront with feelings. Its vital learn to talk to the person because individual differences show people hear things from their own point of view. See yourself in another’s shoes before you speak, text, telephone, call or write them letter. Your goal is be friends, acquaintances, colleagues, date or marry. Be specific so your motive is clearly expressed directly not to belittle or blackmail, manipulate or abuse their emotions. Women are very sensitive to words and so remember to be careful what you say because they never forget the details of conversations. No matter how long ago, women remember where conversations take place, when it took place, what worn and tone of voice and moods. Women pay particular attention to details, colours, shapes, sizes, context and your choices of meals, drinks etc. So do not talk out of frustration or anger to offload and dump feelings on others for relief. Respect differences, be pragmatic and agree to disagree when feelings are not mutual. Consider effects of feelings on others if you really care about them you must compromise and find neutral ground to corporate. If shy, looking for the love of your life, approach a trusted reliable friend, family member, pastor, life coach, mentor or counsellors to seek advice. God created marriage so if you need a relationship and desire spouse to marry pray, ask God’s help for wisdom, guidance, direction because God says to find a wife is a good thing. God said it’s not good to be alone so pleases God you meet a right partner to marry. Its Gods idea you marry so ask HIS HELP not go to psychics or witchdoctors to give you charm, potions, lotions, spells to destroy your life, home, career business creates discord. GOD IS LOVE so BEST Expert on love, relationship, family matters.

 

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TWOSIDED COIN LIFE/DEATH

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Gold solidus bust of Jesus with a cross behind His head holding a Bible minted in Constantinople now Istanbul, Turkey AD 705–711 in Britishmuseum.org. Jesus is Resurrection Life raised in eternity to Reign in infinity with hope of assurance to Christian believers in Christ Jesus of Nazareth for eternal life. This coin is from the reign of Byzantine Emperor Justinian II (685-711 AD) is the oldest known image. It’s a GOLD solidus, bust of Black Christ (Yeshua). With this coin facing you, notice short beard and most noticeably the hair wearing pallium and colobium, the Gospels in His left hand, cross behind His head. Side by side comparison of a front and back of coin shows Jesus gold bust.

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You’ll notice the difference between the two from facial makeup, to hair and size. Now look at the coin to the right. On the left of it is Justinian and Tiberius on the right. Note the dealer, author David R. Sear, DOES indeed provide a Certificate of Authenticity for this coin, with the explanation: “The Portrait on this coin was based on an ICON believed by people of a time to bear miraculous resemblance to Christ’s appearance.” So did Constantinople the Christian king’s gold bust testifies of his Christianity.

Constantine I, AD 307-337. Gold Solidus (4.2g) minted in Nicomedia. Two sided coin shows angel associated with death and life helping in grief afterlife passing of loved ones. Words used in grief helps for good to heal or hurt and succumb to overwhelming pain. And Proverb 18:21 says power of life and death in a tongue strengthens faith in God or weakens it. Two strong emotions surface by a death to mourn with hope in Christ in God for future reunion with loved ones.

Grief or total darkness of loss in without comfort of beloved husband of 15 years, died unexpectedly 8 months February 4, 2018 at 3 am after 5 days, watched him die had significant PTSD symptoms. The days and months were dark inky black despair of lonely rock bottom, lowest bottomless abyss of no way out, stayed alive for son so refused to succumb to suicide. A tiny small moment happiness came 3 or 4 months after death enjoying song on radio, looking at sun thinking its a beautiful when outside. Distinctly first time thought of Chad and nostalgic than dissolve into the massive puddle of tears, mourning loss. Kept waiting to be overcome by tears around 5 months but turning point after things got worse was linear climbing into happiness. Checked into  a mental hospital overwhelmed by grief.  Shortly after seeming acceptance, acts on spiraling grief to prevent it from becoming out of control. Before, simply swallowed up whole in early July. After 9 days in hospital felt much better. Had new perspective sorely lacked, stopped crying daily house sold moved to a new home adored didn’t cry anymore. Had new friends who truly understood loss. Later recalled, ‘Be happy after death not alone thrives in love as the best wife in entire world be in love again wants that for you. Never ever feel guilty or like a betrayal falling in love again. Promise you will date again. If you marry again, know will be so happy for you.Pin imageThose words echo in head for no reason totally suppressed in grief, wasn’t ready to think about new love until then. But a combination of feeling grounded after hospital stay at home crying over loss genuinely happy  his words rang in ears. Met via online dating, and it worked out rather well decided give it a try again. Took deep breath, answered questions on eHarmony, hoped for the best. Bob sent smile next day, “smiled” back to pink “pussy hat” in front of Washington Memorial in DC in midst of a massive crowd at the Women’s March intrigued! Had beard as into beards, like his at 54, age appropriate. Struck up a short conversation and agreed to meet for breakfast on date. Not impressed but flashed back on New Year’s Resolution included open mind not judgmental. He texted asking me on a second date less than 5 minutes after left the parking lot from first date. Decided liked that much means, chemistry there so said yes. The second date was much better and third better, fell deeply in love. Shocked now believes in life after grief unambiguous in a way Bobby is man needed, the man wanted, more amazingly, the man Chad wanted for me. Interestingly, Chad and Bobby different men. Both love fiercely, purely, deeply, without conditions, and go to the ends of the earth for love. And decided to get married. So why wait? Is it societal expectations? Fully believe in doing what makes happy by marrying Bobby as ridiculously happy. Its 8–1/2 months Chad died as widow would have judgmental secretly widow didn’t truly love deceased husband. Or making an impulsive, stupid decision will regret. A decision not based in reality. Learned over time ’till death do part’ free, gained new perspective and empathy to love by the permission of late husband. Some widows could not  date immediately and remarry or wait decades. Configuration in- between deep enduring happiness with another man 8 months happened, not ashamed of. Enduring deep love for Chad and to be husband tremendously respectful not threatened by the love of Chad. So 2018 is utterly, horrendously horrific in many ways with beautiful ending. Still cries or grieves at son’s first band competition  so bent over a fence sobbing Chad was not there to see son’s band competition, always at every single one not there hit very hard. Grief is sharp, acute, present but present love, tremendously blessed in love twice, deep love defying words of pain and grief so more grateful.

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Henry VIII of England’s Angel gold coin measuring 29mm, with a weight of 5.12 grams. This was among the King’s first coinage struck at the Tower, Royal Mint.

The legend around the coin: HENRIC VIII DI GRA REX AGL Z FR around the image of the Archangel Michael slaying the Dragon.

PER CRVCE TVA SALVA NOS XPC REDE. A ship bearing the royal shield and cross, the letter “H” and rose flanking cross.

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Queen Elizabeth I’s gold angels differed little from Father’s her name positioned right of Archangel’s depiction minted between 1578 and 1581. At Kenilworth in 1575 Queen Elizabeth I often publicly prepared for healing ritual associated with Angel coins ‘prostrate on knees, body and soul rapt in prayer.’ Known to lay hands on subjects, and made sign of cross, with gold angel, over location of sore or affliction. The inscription on the reverse side of her Angel coins read in Latin: “This is the Lord’s doing and it is marvellous” for healing itself or words spoken by then-princess Elizabeth upon learning of death of older sister Queen Mary I to make her Queen of England!

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An angel example issued by King Henry VI as king of France. The coin weighed 2.34 grams and was struck between the years 1427-1449. The legend: HENRICVS: FRANCORV: AND: A(nglia): REX. Image of Archangel Gabriel over coats of arms of France and England. On reverse, the legend: XPE: VINCIT: XPE: REGNAT: XPE: IMPERAT’s simple cross flanked by a lily and leopard. People literally used death coins Chanol obol to pay the river crossing toll in afterlife. Others used the coins hold eyes shut during funerals. So yet again the expression of death has a function of duality just as life after grief is a double-sided. One remembers loved one’s memories but continues to live in the here and now simultaneously. And gratitude continues to increase in value  as study after study has found a robust association between higher gratitude and wellbeing. Protection from stress and depression, fulfilling relationships, better sleep and greater resilience.” It can be a simple spending part of every day for two weeks writing a list of three things for which grateful. “As pages in diary fills up with a scribbled gratitude started to find concept less vomitous, so Sarner wrote. After four weeks counting gratitude keeps doing it. Even in a midst of death and grief can find joyful ending of pain and suffering, gratitude of years spent together, privilege of medical care and ability to see and bury loved one as friends gather to support or help family, memorial service, giving thanks to God for the gift of eternal life IN CHRIST and worship God, sing songs praising God use Psalms and Bible verses to reinforce trust in God. Faith comes by hearing the word of God, do not let grief overwhelm you to destroy you. Commit family into God’s Hands to protect you from further evil destructions and to cover you with Jesus BLOOD in JESUS NAME.

Gary and his two childrenGary Andrews with daughter Lily (11) and son Ben (eight) unexpectedly death lost partner of 19 years. His 41-year-old wife Joy died suddenly about a year ago. Over the last 12 months discovered for him, the answer is doodling – a doodle a day to cope with grief. Gary, animator and illustrator worked on Fireman Sam and for Disney, began his doodle diary, shared on social media on 55th birthday in 2016. Uses digital media at night to do little sketch based on things happening daily.” Following her death, 27 October:Gary's first doodleImage copyrightGARY ANDREWSGary's second doodleImage copyrightGARY ANDREWSGary's third doodleImage copyrightGARY ANDREWSGary's fourth doodleImage copyrightGARY ANDREWS. His week started with wife waving him off at Heathrow Airport on a Monday for a work trip to Canada. A few days feeling ill with flu-like symptoms, Joy was taken to hospital on Thursday with suspected kidney infection, condition deteriorated rapidly. On the Friday at 03:15 she died from multiple organ failure caused by sepsis. Gary, in the departure lounge in Vancouver waiting for emergency flight home, was told when he landed back in the UK. He had lost the woman he had been married to for 13 years, the person he describes as his best friend, and the mother of his two children Lily, then 10, and Ben, seven. At times a rollercoaster up and down sadness or joy depending on triggers of a music, favourite foods, scents friends, activities. Despite the pain must remain to live for that person too who wishes a happy life for loved ones after passing. It’s important to try for their sake to pull through and smile again, eat, dress well and begin living again. First few days of bereavement of grief, worse; sudden change of direction by unexpected death forces one to make life without the loved ones. God’s angels surround us to help with the family sent from God the Comforter. The Holy Spirit helps grief to be borne in hope through assurance of eternal life in resurrection. There is no specific formula for grief or sorrow so people deal with pain in their own way meaningful to them. Do what you can, ask friends and family to help with any issues made complex by death. It’s not weakness to ask for help and do not wait for people to “offer” help first because they may feel like giving you a private space to grief. Talk about loved ones, laugh over their jokes, keep on in life do not stop living because they want you to be happy even grieving for them.An photo of George smiling while looking at Harriet

George Shelly on his sister’s death says “There are no rules when it comes to grief it’s about doing what feels right for you.” One thing that massively helped me is learning how vital exercise is for mental health. I started exercising when I started getting angry, towards the end of last year. I was punching walls in fits of rage and had load of broken knuckles and scabs, a mess taking frustration and force out on objects and on myself. So started doing meditation in my room, and went to yoga classes, a brother Will, who is a marine, taught me how to lift weights and it’s made me feel so much better mentally. I’d go into the gym with a knot of frustration, anger and turmoil in my stomach, and leave feeling it was untied. The documentary made about grief was trying to come to terms with Harriet’s death. When I started filming, I couldn’t say Harriet’s name out loud without breaking down. It was intense and so damn hard. But hearing other people’s stories of grief, and how they dealt with it, is part of learning how you deal with it yourself. And I learnt that it’s important to allow yourself to feel vulnerable, to accept the crutches that work for you or for antidepressants see a psychiatrist. There is no right way of dealing with this pain you need to know there is support out there, and to not be afraid to ask for it. GEORGE SHELLEY on BBC THREE shared his experience with mental health as it’s something I never thought in a billion years I had to deal with. Through shock, you question what life is a lot. When you have that much of a dramatic change in life, you change. You look in mirror and you’re faced with different person. Losing Harriet is something I am going to deal with for the rest of my life. I feel her smiling with me wherever I am. Her birthday is Christmas day so my future kids will know it’s Christmas, but that it’s also Auntie Harriet’s birthday. We’ll keep saying name keep to remember.Photographer Mandi Knepp surprised Jessica with a final picture side-by-side with her fianceMandi Knepp wanted to show strength so brave for self and others but knew Kendall will not come back after death. A photographer surprised Jessica with final picture side-by-side with fiance for wedding day as part of healing process for Jessica and family. In group is family and friends, some Kendall’s colleagues from a fire department he volunteered before killed attending an accident. 15408330385481483758900.jpg“I told them not to worry about coming. I know the guys usually late at wedding and so they don’t want be there. But got a surprise when all the guys were there standing in the spot where they would have been at the church. I was in shock they took time and they cared enough to do that for me. The images went viral when her photographer posted them on Facebook. Although that changed what Jessica had wanted to be that personal moment, it also brought extra meaning.Family and friends stood by Jessica“I got messages from grieving people I don’t know, telling me stories and how strong and brave I was. They said if I do it so can they. Photos highlighted many ways people grieve if they lost loved one particularly at a young age. After photos felt did something good, felt bit stronger but next day comes and brings back all the sad moments and emotions about him.” She says the photos made her feel closer to Kendall sees him now laughing at it going viral. He brought the strength to those pictures honestly felt presence.15408881248801483758900.jpgSpeaking to The Telegraph at Christmas Miss Lamplugh’s father opened up on how he wondered how his daughter’s life would have turn out. Mr Lamplugh, former solicitor aged 87, East Sheen south-west London does not dwell on the thought for long. Ever since his 25-year-old estate agent daughter Suzy disappeared, believed murdered, July 28 1986, he displays stoic dignity even though hers has been one of the most high-profile and enduring cases of a missing person in recent times. Thirty years on, Mr Lamplugh says: “Time passes. You move on. I don’t picture her or daydream about her. Diana and I brought it to an end when we held a press conference at Scotland Yard to announce that we felt we had done all we could to find her. “You can go on to destroy your life and other people’s lives,” he adds. “Take control over your life again, we imagined she would have said, ‘You have done enough,’ while it doesn’t stop you thinking don’t agonise.’ No trace of his daughter was ever found and no one has ever tried or convicted of her murder. He won’t say if he thinks Cannan or anyone else is to blame. “It was a good lead. It may be right, I don’t know. The fact is, she is never going to come back and that is the way it is,” he said. “My grandchildren may know they had an Aunt Susan who mysteriously vanished 30 years ago,” he admits, “but I have never talked to them about it. My wife Diana and I determined the lives of our other children Richard, 57, Tamsin, 54, and Lizzie, 47, would not suffer as a result of our loss. Suzy herself always believed life was for the living. It was one of the last things she said to Diana before she disappeared.

Shirley HellyarTerminally ill Miss Hellyar wants to stay in Newcastle where she has lots of her friends. This terminally ill woman who had hoped to raise £5,000 to pay for her funeral has smashed her target. Shirley Hellyar, 40, from Glasgow, thought she beat cancer travelled to Newcastle to celebrate her 40th birthday this month. However, while visiting friends suffered chest pains and scan revealed condition was terminal. An online fund has raised £5,570 so far. Ms Hellyar is in a hospice in Newcastle with weeks left to live. She was diagnosed with the lymphoblastic lymphoma in 2017 as a tumour detected in her lung. Early September this year, she said the tumour had shrunk and she was well enough to travel to Newcastle where she lived for years and used to work as a sexual health worker. Miss Hellyar is in St Oswald’s Hospice in Newcastle, where she wants to remain and be close to friends. She said: “The kindness people show is unbelievable so has reinstated my faith in humanity.” More than 250 people donated to the fund to help her parents Elizabeth and Gordon pay for her funeral, as well as travel costs. Message of support offered to provide services at funeral or places for her family to stay in Newcastle. Val Campbell called it a “tragic situation” so Martin Robson said he was moved to tears. He wrote to Miss Hellyar: “I can’t imagine what you are going through but I wish you love and more. Holding your hand from afar.” If you believe in God you know that in year King Uzziah died, Isaiah saw GOD Sitting ON HIS Throne in heaven, looking like a man in Isaiah 1:1 in Bible. Isaiah’s grief over the king’s death made him seek Face of God more than ever before. GOD Comforts people through Holy Spirit comforter so lifted above sin and sorrow into PRESENCE of the LORD. And King David encouraged himself in the LORD in time of adversity and sorrow. Grief is an occasion people run to God, churches are full if disaster strikes. People recognise their human limitations and need a Saviour so turn to God in pain. Its best time to maintain Covenant with God consistently not only in good times but vulnerable times too. Do not blame God and become angry to denounce reject God for not preventing death of a loved one. It’s not God’s fault so be realistic about circumstances of life and human decay. The devil comes to steals, kill and destroys but God gives eternal life more abundantly so GOD is still in the Throne despite death of loved ones. Eternal life brings reunion of the family and friends to live forever in eternity into infinity. A temporary loss by death is for only a short season in life, compared with joy believer have in Resurrection in Christ to live forever in Jesus Name. GLORY to God.

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LIVING COURAGEOUS LIVES

Princess-eugenie-scoliosis-929007PRINCESS Eugenie opened up about battle with debilitating scoliosis which left her with 2 large metal rods in her back. The emotional royal, who will marry Jack Brooskbank in the same venue at Prince Harry and Meghan in October, paid tribute to her older sister Princess Beatrice for her support ever since she was diagnosed and underwent treatment aged 12. Her determination to fight through pain of scoliosis means spine twists and curves to side. During a speech at youth empowerment WE Day in Wembley, London, on Wednesday, Eugenie said her sister encouraged her not to be disheartened. The princess, daughter to the Duke and Duchess of York, urged women to “live fearlessly” in the face of adversity. The 27-year-old told audience: “When I was 12 I was diagnosed with and treated for, scoliosis has two twelve inch metal rods in her back. Understands pain in life but it did not stop her from doing the things she loves to do. Said sister encouraged her not to get disheartened, not give up live fearlessly. Today, able to get to work with and support the young people going through same things, encourage them to not let diagnosis win so live courageous lives. Credits bigger sister’s inspiration, love, team work, support in messages from their speech: “Never give up, find that tiny game inside you that gives you the belief you can change the world so you don’t have to face anything alone. Their mother Sarah Ferguson Duchess of York tweeted congratulations to daughters on Twitter posting: Leading by example of unity and confidence. Well done. And Princess Eugenie announce engagement to long-term partner Jack Brooskbank in January. The pair will tie the knot at St George’s Chapel, Windsor the same place where Prince Harry and Meghan Markle will marry October 12.

 

FOOD IS YOUR MEDICINE

A North Carolina Gospel Minister Sows Seeds of Hope in a Food Desert in USA. The Reverend Richard Joyner of Conetoe Chapel Missionary Baptist Church in Conetoe, NC, exhorts his congregants to strengthen their community. First, the Reverend Richard Joyner got mad. Then he got a trowel. Sick and tired of seeing his congregation suffer from poor nutrition, the North Carolina minister sowed seeds of hope in a food desert. ABOUT A DECADE AGO, the Reverend Richard Joyner of Conetoe Chapel Missionary Baptist Church realized he ministered to a congregation of people often hungry and living in poverty but never complained. He came up with an ingenious use of land that helped keep the young ones involved in learning about nature first hand. The Church members unfamiliar with farming in the city are educated on how to grow own good produce.  The pastor found it difficult to comfort grieving or contain his outrage: “How do you tell someone who’s just lost a child to poor nutrition that this was God’s plan when it was totally preventable? Who would hang out with that God?” Each Sunday, Joyner felt like a hypocrite, urging congregants to worship a deity he doubted. During the week, he was forced to confront the community’s health problems constantly as a hospital chaplain. After one particularly trying hospital shift, Joyner pulled his car over and began to pray. “I heard a voice saying, ‘Open your eyes and look around,’” the 64-year-old remembers. All he saw was farmland. His parents and grandparents had been share- croppers; his great-grandparents, slaves. That moment fields blanketing Edgecombe County represented not untapped opportunity but a painful reminder of the region’s racist past.

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Young people enjoy outdoors activity so this roadside epiphany directly inspired the church’s now-bustling nonprofit agriculture and education center might construct a tidy narrative. It would, however, be inaccurate. Back in 2005, when Joyner first equipped area youth with seeds and spades on a borrowed plot down the road, he simply hoped to engage kids at summer camp. The campers consumed their initial harvest, but the following year, they started delivering free boxes of ‘Hen Pecked’ mustard greens, ‘Puerto Rican Red’ sweet potatoes and the vegetables to local senior citizens. “One 97-year-old lady, she was so excited, she kissed the children,” Joyner says. “That was the first time in a long time I witnessed anybody speaking a blessing over our troubled children.” Not everyone welcomes bounty. Only a generation or two removed from sharecropping, some church elders questioned the wisdom of participating in any sort of agrarian pursuit. They remained uncomfortably familiar with Edgecombe County’s role in the South’s antebellum cotton economy. Henry Toole Clark, a Civil War–era governor of North Carolina, owned a vast plantation—and dozens of slaves here. Joyner explains prevailing concern: “Do we really want our kids going back to that?” He empathized. Then again, he’d witnessed satisfaction junior parishioners derived from the soil. Less encumbered by Conetoe’s complicated history, they were free to dig in the dirt. “They’re bringing food to people who need it,” Joyner says. “They enjoy the process. They’re playing out there.” Meanwhile, various activities on the farm like preparing beds, selecting seeds, tending crops, selling produce, tracking digital data impart valuable lessons in science, technology, exercise, economics, math, and nutrition.IMG_20180106_150511

AN AMAZING WEIGHT LOSS

Among many people’s priority resolution for the new year is the desire to lose weight. An amazing weight loss plan used by this man transformed his life to shed the extra pounds of weight in a short time. So there is hope for many more people to follow his example to lose weight too. The father-of-two lost 12 stones in under a year in remarkable weight loss effort attributed to low calorie diet. Lorry driver Adam Moffat, 44, sheds half his body mass after adjusting eating habits. The Independent Online shared this story of Adam Moffat with his wife Margaret and daughters Hannah, 13, and Holly, nine Katielee pictured here by Arrowsmith /SWNS. The father-of-two is now half the size of the man he used to be after shedding more than 12 stone in less than a year. Prior to shedding half his body weight Adam Moffat, 44, gorged on pies, cakes and daily double rolls crammed with sausages. He would scoff cakes with breakfast and lunch and would even sneak in a kingsize Mars bar before dinner.

THE GET RICH QUICK SCHEMES

A record £1.1bn in overpaid benefits was recovered from fraudsters last year

People lose millions in online ‘get rich quick’ schemes according to an article in the news once again on binary options trading. In Israel and Canada, binary options trading is illegal as Adele Robinson, the News Correspondent stated in the news. An online investment scam targeting people through social media has seen the amount of money lost by victims in the UK rise by 400,000% in six years. Figures from Action Fraud show the amount lost to “binary options” trading increased from £6,200 in 2012, to £27m in 2017 alone, with the total currently standing at £61m. Binary option or fixed odds betting are being used by fraudsters as part of a multi-billion pound industry which is believed to be co-ordinated by overseas criminals. A binary option is where you can gamble on an outcome, usually something to go up or down, with the pay-off being a fixed amount or nothing at all. One example would be to bet on whether the value of gold will be above or below a certain price and investors believe they can gain high returns on little amounts. Consumer group Which? has described binary options scam as “Britain’s biggest investment con” with illegitimate companies targeting victims through pop up adverts online and cold-calling.Frank Thornburrow believes he was conned

Frank Thornburrow was targeted through social media and believes he was conned. As an investment idea it first appeared ten years ago but the industry has grown exponentially in recent years. Detective Sergeant Alex Eristavi from the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau, run by the City of London police, says people are being defrauded on a daily basis. “There is no typical victim,” he told Sky News, “they are just ordinary folk like you and me. The youngest one is 19 years old, that we have recorded so far, and the oldest is 93, so it’s a wide spectrum. “It’s fair to say with binary options coming into play the average victim’s age of investment fraud has dropped because previously it was over 60 and now it’s early 50s. “It’s because the younger generation are taking part in this activity, and it could be easily explained as social media is a lot to do with it, the advertisements and the pop ups etc.”The City of London is home to the UK's financial services sectorThe Financial Conduct Authority will begin to regulate binary options trading this year. Binary options trading is currently regulated by the Gambling Commission but from January 2018 the Financial Conduct Authority will take over. In other countries like Israel and Canada, it has been banned completely. Frank Thornburrow from Kent, lost his life savings when he invested in binary options. He has been unable to get any money back and told Sky News that he believes he was conned. He gives one example from an email telling him that to access his money he would have to make 150,000 trades, which was money he simply did not have. “The last couple of years haven’t been easy,” he said. “I lost my daughter couple of years ago when she died of cancer. I retired and I was looking for a way of making money so I tried binary because it looked good. “And basically it was a big con, it didn’t work out and I lost a lot of money. I’ve ended up with a triple bypass, so that’s the impact it’s had on me.” There is also concern that students are falling victims to scam companies after gambling with their maintenance grants to “flip” their money, according to Action Fraud. The advice from police is that “if you don’t know the field, don’t get involved in it” as there are “so many rogue companies out there.” Which? carried out its own investigations into binary options companies and found evidence of “bad practice across the board”, with high pressure sales tactics and “unfair” terms and conditions. Jenni Allen, managing director at Which? Money, said: “We found for instance that people making a deposit had to invest up to forty times that deposit to even access their money again. “I think most worryingly found examples of where actual data being used was rigged by the company so your initial investments would return some form of profit in return but thereafter you would receive loss after loss.”