TACKLING DIFFICULT PEOPLE

wp-1578833977605.jpgQuestion: “What does Bible say about dealing with difficult people?”

Answer: We all know people we find so “difficult”and deal with difficult people. A difficult person is very condescending argumentative, belligerent, selfish, and flippant, obtuse, simply rude. Difficult people “push one’s buttons” and stir up trouble. Dealing with difficult people is an exercise in patience, love, and grace. Response to difficult people from Jesus’ interactions He never displayed attitude of harsh superiority or dismissive pride. He showed His authority under control to rebuke when necessary in John 8:47 to deal with the difficult people, remain silent in John 8:6 when asked questions in Mark 11:28–29 in Scripture in Mark 10:2–3 tells story in Luke 7:40–42. In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus dealt with difficult people in love and humility: “I tell you: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you pray for all who mistreat you.wp-1578834206139.jpg If someone strikes you on a cheek turn the other. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to who asks you, if anyone takes what belongs to you don’t demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you” in Luke 6:27–31. Never give tit for tat: “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult repay evil with blessing, for this you were called inherit blessing” in 1 Peter 3:9. In dealing with difficult people guard against pride.wp-1578834096919.jpg Its important to recall advise given by apostle Paul in Romans 12:3: “By grace of God I say to you don’t think too highly of yourself. Think of yourself with the humility by faith God has given you” in Philippians 2:3–4. When difficult people approach you deal with the situation in meekness. Love is the key to “Love your neighbour as yourself” in Galatians 5:14 to show God’s love to all difficult people. Wisdom is needed to deal with difficult people. In Proverbs 12:16 patience is the key to such relationships: “A fool shows his annoyance at once but the prudent man overlooks insult.” Proverbs 20:3 says peace-making of honour to avoid strife but fools quickly quarrel.”wp-1578834341622.jpg Proverbs 10:12, encourages giving love, “Hatred stirs up conflict but love covers all wrongs.” Proverbs 17:14 is foresight on “Starting quarrel like breaching dam as disputes breaks out” Best to avoid the situation altogether choosing carefully whom we associate with: “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered” in Proverbs 22:24. Dealing with difficult people in life is unavoidable but do not respond in the flesh to bring out worst in you. Deal with difficult people by the fruit of Spirit in us in Galatians 5:22–23.wp-1578834322634.jpg By the grace of God, deal with difficult people in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control. Extend love, grace, and mercy God extends to us, careful not to be difficult people ourselves. 2 Timothy 3 says in the last days the perilous times shall come. People will be lovers of  self, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful and ungrateful. 4 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, fierce, despisers of those who are good traitors, 5 heady, highminded lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; wp-1578833839523.jpgHaving a form of Godliness, but deny HIS power from such turn away. 6 This sort creep into houses and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of truth. 8 As Jannes and Jambres resisted Moses they resist truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. 9 They will proceed no further their folly manifests to all 10 Know God’s doctrine for life’s purpose, faith, longsuffering, charity, patience, love, forgive like Jesus.wp-1578833896562.jpg9 They will proceed no further 11 So endure persecutions afflictions for the LORD delivers out of all. 12 Live Godly life in Christ Jesus despite persecution. 13 Evil people and seducers get worse deceiving and deceived 14 Continue in the things you learn and know 15 From childhood. You know Holy Scriptures to make you wise unto salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. 16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God is profitable doctrine for correction and instruction in righteousness 17 so the people of God perfectly furnished to do good works.

Recommended Resource: Who’s Pushing Your Buttons? Handling the Difficult People in Your Life by Dr. John Townsend

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REAL TRUE VALENTINE LOVE

One of the oldest and rarest Valentines in existence uncovered offers the secret to lasting love. Centuries-old illustrated letter sent on February 14, 1818, coming up for auction on Valentine’s Day and it could potentially fetch a four-figure sum. For the last 20 years, its carefully stored in an album and protected from sunlight by Gavin Littaur, from London. On Friday, February 14 set to go under the hammer at Derbyshire’s Hansons Auctioneers, with a guide price of £600-£800. Mr Littaur said: “I’m a bit of a romantic so talking about Valentine rekindles my love for it. It’s so beautiful exceptionally. One of the reasons I’m selling it is to show the collecting world what an outstanding early Valentine really looks like. “I bought it at auction more than 20 years ago. I don’t recall exactly how much I paid for it, but it was expensive at the time. George III would have been on the throne when this embossed letter was made by Dobbs of London more than 200 years ago. It’s one of the earliest postally-used Valentines in existence.“Any pre-Victorian one is very rare. I once owned a Valentine from 1801 but it wasn’t as stunning as this one. I’ve been a collector of postal history for decades and it’s the finest I’ve ever seen.” The hand-painted, 202-year-old Regency letter features hearts, flowers, Cupid, lovebirds and the address of the recipient. It was sent to Miss L Shafe, of White Row, Spitalfields, London. She received the following message under title, ‘Affectionate Pledge of Unfeigned Attachment’: ‘From him who upon the return of another Valentine’s Day, looks forward with pleasure to the time when his hopes may be realised to receive her hand accompanied with her heart for whom he feels not a wild romantic love, which abates after a short acquaintance but affection which time increases and not diminishes.’ Jim Spencer anpaper specialist at Hansons, said: “What a sensible chap no flash-in-the-pan passion for him. It’s a Valentine message worthy of Jane Austen novel. It’s formal, honest, honourable far cry from some of  messages we see on Valentines for sale today. “Perhaps his message to Miss Shafe offers us the secret of lasting love affection gradually increases over time

“We’ll never know if he won her heart by his admission of not feeling wild passion, but I hope he did. It’s a superb early Valentine in very good condition and deserves to excel at auction. “Mr Littaur is respected and knowledgeable collector and I agree wholeheartedly with his comments about its pedigree. Someone will surely fall in love with this.” Gavin says: “Collecting is a bit like marriage. The most passionate moment is the first time you see something special, like this Valentine. It’s also very satisfying, when one actually acquires the item. But, over time, the intense excitement gradually fades. “Though I look at it on Valentine day occasionally show it to friends if you own something for decades the time comes when you want others to enjoy it, while you are still around.” The Regency Valentine on folding paper bears the manufacturer’s watermark, Dobbs 1815, and its original red sealing wax. As well as the central romantic verse within a gilt love heart, it has embossed floral border of vibrant watercolour floral border surmounted by two gilt doves and a heart pierced with crossed arrows on Valentine card.20200307_124541

Fascinating Footnote: A Happy Ending?

After story published story received the following message from reader: ‘I don’t know if you’re interested but I looked for the marriage of Miss L Shafe and found Miss Lydia Shafe who married Edmundus Burn at St Leonard’s Church, Shoreditch, on 28th December, 1819. The witnesses were Mary Burn and Clifford Elisha. Edmundas was stationer and bookbinder. He and Lydia lived in Brighton. They had five children. This original owner of card said he  desired a genuine caring lover. She turned out to be the real wife he needed. And to find this kind of spouse this book will help to many things about yourself truth and an honesty people need. The occasion to speak with specific people to deal with a specific circumstance of the truth in life.
Reading this book helps to discover the motives and intentions of the heart in a situation of honesty. Books of the Bible are applied in this process of studying to be sincere without hurting others. In Book of Proverbs Taming your Tongue’ helps spouses to relate better. So many other Books of the Bible verses in plan to study daily for 30 days to focus on the exact need for the truth and nothing but the whole truth in a humble and polite manner to guide others to grow wiser. It is not to feel proud or superior to others but to seek what is best for people. This book truly is life altering book for me to make people more aware not to cause offence to people. The truth is better to help deal with situations to support the loved ones or colleagues at work. Helps to approach others by deep reflection of what to say to think of impact of words to the hearer. Will it uplift their spirit or encourage them to build up confidence. Word salads to prove how smart or how intelligent one is puts people off not to listen to that person they soon avoid. To become a truly better person you need this informative book. Thank God HIS words are put in this book for specific moments in life to communicate better in love as a family of God in this global world community.

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Lot 1000 was sold on February 14, 2020 at Hansons Auctioneers, Heage Lane, Etwall, Derbyshire DE65 6LS. To find out more to arrange free valuations of books or works on paper, email jspencer@hansonsauctioneers.co.uk.