AS IN THE DAYS OF NOAH…

dna-noahs-ark-950632.jpgAs it was in days of Noah preservation of animal species to be done by modern scientists by DNA genetic data for future posterity. The team of 24 scientists from around the globe are hoping to collect and store genetic codes of 1.5 million species on Earth in a move to “revolutionise understanding of DNA.” The codes will be taken from a plethora of animals, plants and fungi. The £3.4 billion project can be used by scientists to discover more about evolution and how better to treat the environment. The library, created by the Smithsonian Institution, is being described as “most ambitious project in history of modern biology.” Aim of BioGenome Project as it is dubbed will be used for innovations in medicine, agriculture, conservation among other things. Only 0.2 percent of life on Earth has been sequenced. John Kress from Smithsonian Institution told The Times: “We will build a complete library of life that we can sample and delve into for whatever purpose. “We can use it for improving environments and ourselves, and revolutionising our understanding of the evolution of life.”dnaOnly 0.2 percent of life on Earth been sequenced. Researchers wrote in study published in Proceedings of National Academy of Sciences Increasing our understanding of Earth’s biodiversity and responsibly stewarding resources among the crucial scientific and social challenges of the new millennium.” It adds outcomes would “inform a broad range of major issues facing humanity, s impact of climate change of biodiversity conservation of the endangered species, ecosystems, preservation, enhancement of ecosystem services.“Unimaginable biological secrets are held in genomes of the millions of known and unknown organisms on our planet. This ‘dark matter’ of biology can hold the key to unlocking potential for sustaining planetary ecosystems on we depend to provide life support systems for a burgeoning world population.”

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MAJESTY’S HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Queen-Elizabeth-2elizabeth2-xlarge_trans++pUuFqFMsEKHgfH2-ULHMxfkxQ2Lf5qs8hORVjNINGtgThousands of people attended Queen Elizabeth’s Happy Birthday party Royal Albert Hall London. Celebrated occasion of Her Majesty’s 92nd birthday as was born on 21st April 1926. God Save The Queen in Jesus Name and pray for all leaders and those in authority to live quietly in peace with all mankind.

GOD’S GLORY, Glory & glory

Gods-Glory-title-imageGOD’S GLORY BELONGS EXCLUSIVELY TO YAHWEH so not given to anyone as is Jesus’ Glory due to Christ alone. And in the same way man’s glory is given to mankind by God in Christ Jesus. Many people do not realise these three types of categories exist tend to mix them. In Isaiah 48:9-11, God says, For MY NAME sake I defer my anger, for the sake of MY praise I AM restrained so I do not cut you off. I refine you not as silver; I tried you in the furnace of affliction. For MY OWN sake for MY OWN sake I do this so  MY NAME is not profaned MY GLORY I will not give to anyone. For MY NAME’s sake! For the sake of MY Praise! For MY OWN sake! MY OWN sake! MY GLORY I will not give to another! Sovereign God is central passion in GLORIFICATION of God in our hearts and lives. IMG_20180406_210136God’s ultimate goal is uphold GLORY of HIS NAME Chose us for HIS GLORY since foundation of the world to be Holy and blameless before HIM. In love God predestined, adopts us HIS Children in Jesus Christ to HIMSELF by HIS WILL, to the Praise of the GLORY of HIS Grace. (Ephesians 1:4-6, cf. vv. 12, 14. God created us for HIS GLORY. HIS Children from end of earth called by MY NAME created for MY GLORY in Isaiah 43: 6-7. God called Israel first for HIS GLORY. God’s servant Israel will Glorify Yahweh Elohim says Isaiah 49:3 in all nation’s of the earth. Jesus said good works gets God’s GLORY. And so way let your light shine before others so they may see your good works and give GLORY to your Father in heaven so says Matthew 5:16; 1 Peter 2:12. John 17:22 says God’s GLORY flows into Jesus Glory to restore man’s glory after redemption from falling in sin for all to be one in Christ. God and Jesus are ONE so world will believe God sent Jesus to give us back the glory in Jesus Name so we too are one in God in Christ.

7e8f58e6fc5855f09b85baf856e12e91Jesus said do not try to seek GOD’s GLORY for yourself believe in God and do not receive glory from one another or seek glory belonging only to God in John 5:44. God answers prayer so God is GLORIFIED so ask in Jesus Name so Father God is GLORIFIED in the Son states John 14:13. It is written Jesus endured final hours of suffering for GOD’s GLORY Father, GLORIFY YOUR NAME and voice from heaven said I am GLORIFIED and Glorify Him again. Jesus receives us into His fellowship for the GLORY of God: Welcome each other as Christ welcomed you for the GLORY of God says Romans 15:7. The ministry of the Holy Spirit is to Glorify the Son of God: He will Glorify Me, for He will take what is mine and declare it to you. (John 16:14) God instructs us to do all things for HIS GLORY. Whether you eat, drink or whatever you do, do all to GLORY of God in l Corinthians 10:31; 6:20. God tells us to serve HIM this way so HE IS GLORIFIED.YourStoryGodsGlory_596x200-1-34x6itfj1k4r70m2xh1afeJesus is Coming again for the GLORY of God. Jesus Comes to be GLORIFIED in His Saints to be marveled at among all who believe in 2 Thessalonians 1:9-10. Jesus’ ultimate aim is we see and enjoy His Glory so prayed: Father I desire all those you gave me be with me where I am to see My Glory you gave me because you love me before foundation of world in John 17:24. God’s WRATH and Jesus wrath makes known wealth of HIS GLORY, POWER endures with much patience the wrath prepared for destruction to make known riches of HIS GLORY and vessels of Mercy prepare for GLORY in Romans 9:22-23. Sin separates from God’s GLORY as Herod did not give God GLORY in Acts 12:23. God’s plan is to fill earth with knowledge of HIS GLORY: For the earth will be filled with knowledge of GLORY of the LORD as the waters cover the sea in Habakkuk 2:14. Things happen for FATHER God’s GLORY. From HIM GOD through HIM to HIM are all things. To HIM be GLORY forever, Amen, says Romans 11:36. In the New Jerusalem, the GLORY of God replaces the sun: The City needs no sun or moon to shine for the GLORY of God gives Light and the Lamp is the Lamb of God Jesus Christ in Revelation 21:23.

TRAUMATIC DEATH GRIEF

traumaticbereavement-thirdTraumatic tragic death bereavement is completely unexpected loss, worst form of grief people go through. Suddenly changes lifeplan dramatically, cancels activities so a shock to the system. One minute conversation is taking place about life but the next minute subject changes to unexpected death. It is most painful if the person appeared healthy, full of life with a great future suddenly cut short by death. The numbing shock of loss is hard to sink in and feels that loved one is about to walk through the door home. Seems like a dream, surreal but wide awake with sleepless nights so deep within the heart an overwhelming pain lingers on. Everyday passes by without a text, contact or phone call, facebook so realises it must be really true. Shock is a normal reaction and unbelief deceased person is really no longer with us here on earth. Sudden change of plans means numbness while taking in loss starting to sink in. Though we understand death as part of life it does not make it easier to accept. Death is painful and difficult to experience it hurts beyond belief and complicated. At times pain seems insurmountable but support and a therapy can help to understand, accept and ease the pain. After death of a loved one life is never the same but talking therapy helps to provide skills and tools to assist with creation of the new normal to integrate life into new existence. Annette was on the way to mortuary when Julia phoned to support death of daughter Amber, aged four, who drowned in a swimming pool, and going to see her body. Many people would not call at that moment they feel encroaching on a raw traumatic grief. bottomJulia, friend of couple, a psychotherapist specialises in dealing with loss knows when people in throes of overwhelming grief, sharing the pain is the only thing that makes even the tiniest difference. Grief professionals don’t have endowed special powers its empathy compassion. Phil answered the phone, so Julia liked to say something to make it better but knew nothing could do that, so she said the only thing she could. “I am terribly sorry to hear your daughter, Amber, has died; I’m sorry the devastating pain that has happened to you. How can I help?” 25 years as grief psychotherapist taught Julia great deal about human condition that focus on grief means focus on life, loss exposes things that matters about a person, their strengths and weaknesses. When someone dies, it reveals faultlines in bereaved family, even deepest, most hidden ones. If you know about loss you know about family, about love, survival, resilience and strength. Knowing about loss means you know about life. But there is a paradox at the centre of loss, and it is this. Grief is the most intense pain there is, and we will do anything to avoid pain. So we run away from it; we run away from our own grief, and we run away from others’ grief. Yet, says running away from grief means we will not recover but embracing helps move through the agony and deal with pain. bereavement-and-traumatic-grief-counselling-pinnacle-therapy-counselling-in-london

Allowing ourselves to be while it washes over us, is only way to survive because we have to feel the worst in order to let it change us. Then we can start to find out who we are going to be in wake of it. This is the message at the heart of Julia’s new book, Grief Works. “If you ignore grief and push it down, you can live and you can function, but you live a very narrow emotional life because using emotional energy to cope,” she said. “Everything in psyche will be squashed down, and that means small things can trigger a much bigger kind of effect. The fact is to do the work of grieving. You have to let it run its course. Pain is agent of change; pain allows you to change, it enables you to reach a new reality.” Her book traces journeys of many of the bereaved people she has walked alongside; she describes how she wept and mourned with them. “let clients know what they say has an impact: Tell them when feels shocked, sad or upset,” she says. So talk about relationship with bereaved and a relationship with friends in service of a deceased. Say what you feel if thinking about them if it’s useful to share. One of the many moving stories in her book is that of Bill and Sally, whose 13-year-old son Matthew died of rare virus. Sally tells Julia losing her son has made her feel dead, no more expectations of life; so does not want to go on living. “I said quite plainly, although she was giving up on herself, I refused to; I would fight for her, held her and whispered hidden strength within her said, to live.’ Julia, in 50s, mother of 4 grown up children, grandmother of four, vivacious and fun: has time to feel recharged with life. You know it helps feeling of clients who like Sally regain joy to be alive again. Helps Julia’s interest in answering questions on experiences of traumatic loss to help open hearts for the healing process.17848

There are two sorts of loss, says Julia: expected loss and traumatic loss. And perhaps, for one in her profession, her own losses have all been expected ones. Her father died at 87, sad, grieved but it not traumatic loss. Bereavement work involves charity Birthright, Well-being of Wo/men made her aware of the pain of losing a baby although wonders was unconsciously influenced by parent’s loss of three parents and three siblings by the time they were 25. “Everything seemed OK, but thinks back aware of some unresolved grief. Almost only personal experience of a shocking, out-of-nowhere, loss figures such death brought loss closer and changed how to deal with grief. Julia was a close friend of Princess Diana, a connection echoed when asked by William and Kate to be a godmother to Prince George in 2013. That is, she says, a very joyful role lots of fun, and the chance to enjoy the little boy as he grows up but she doesn’t want to say much about it or Diana, save she agrees her death made difference to the nation’s approach to grief. So, too, she says, did other major shifts of history, especially the first and second world wars. “Our parents, parents of people of my generation, were the generation that couldn’t afford to grieve. Were parented by survivors of first world war simply to survive but modern luxury means able to deal with it differently.”traumaticbereavement-fullwidth

Despite public outpouring of grief after Diana’s death, doesn’t think most people are sufficiently aware impact traumatic bereavement has, the ripples it leaves or how long they persist. As someone who experienced a traumatic loss at the age of nine, when three-year-old sister was killed in road accident agrees with her analysis. It is 44 years since death, and shockwaves still reverberate in the family: everyone is different because of it, next generation touched by it in ways too subtle for them to fully understand.

Traumatic losses shape future of family as subject of great interest to Julia; so, is the way men and women deal with loss differently. Men, tend to want to move on to make plans, to focus on new horizons. Women on other hand want to spend more time remembering the person who died so want to immerse themselves in the pain. But the fact is, each can learn from others. “You have to do both things: you must have time to grieve and mourn and other time when you have break from the grief. You can create circumstances where you grieve, and circumstances where you move on; so men and women help one another. IMG_20180303_141134He can help her go for a walk to a park or gallery can help him talk about how he feels to express some of his loss.” The problems set in when individuals fails to understand the pattern of grief in the other; they think of them as selfish or they don’t care enough, but it isn’t about that due to the different ways of coping. Grieving is an intensely individual and incredibly lonely experience, which can make it difficult time in family, group of people going through something sparked by same event, but is in each case very differentThe way to cope, is be open in communicating feelings to others in your family. Families that fare best share feelings openly when a death disrupts complex finely tuned balance in a family. So needs a reorganised and open approach to help with process.”

At the beginning, and this is especially true of a traumatic loss, the grief is all-consuming: but over time, says Julia, you find you are starting to live again. The mistake some make, though, is believing they can go back to being the way they were. “Some people say, ‘This isn’t going to change us.’ But that’s not how it is: and it’s when you recognise that bereavement is a life-shattering experience, and that you have to grieve and rebuild, that you can move on positively into a new phase of life. originalYou don’t forget the person who’s gone; you can never do that, and you should not worry that you’re going to. But you keep them in memory so their loss helps you become a new person you become; and maybe in the end is greatest tribute to make to anyone who passed to Glory. Grief affects us all so hope in God and read HIS beautiful WORDS in Bible to guide prayers. Powerful scriptures will help you face feelings of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It is very normal to feel it is not really true the person is still alive soo will be at home, then in shock, angry they died, hoping the loved one comes back alive, realising they passed on into Glory and finally accepting loss and accepting new unexpected sudden sad changes of life. Crying, weeping, feeling low not eating properly, sad, confused, depressed are all part of feelings of pain, hurt of loss, bereavement, grieving and mourning. It is normal to feel helpless, lost without a loved one with deep sorrow and pain. One helpful action is remember a loved does not want your life destroyed and ruined because of them. They see you in heaven so like you to live and continue life despite feeling changes happening. There’s no shame in being sad. The life we’ve been given was never promised free of pain or sorrow so during times we hurt most run to God and HIS Word for peace and comfort. Psalm 117:7 says God cares about death of the righteous.listingbereavement-jesus-wept

Help from family and friends 

Listening. Be a friend who is prepared to give their time, to listen and to acknowledge the extent of your friend’s loss. Listening is the key. Bear witness, and allow your friend to be upset, to be confused and contradictory, or to say nothing at all. Every time they tell their story once more, or are allowed to say how important the person who has died was, burden of carrying pain on their own is incrementally a little lighter.

It’s not about you. Follow a mourner’s lead: they may not want to talk about their grief right now, or with you. It is good to say something to acknowledge their loss, but then let them have the control they need, they had none over death so choose to talk or not. If they ask you to come and be with them, and want to talk openly to you, go. If they truly don’t want a visit or don’t want to deal with it at that time, don’t force it on them. Don’t confuse need to speak, call, contact, with friend’s need of privacy to come to terms with grief. Some kings or or important dignitaries, leaders buried in secret. Deuteronomy 34:5-7, Numbers 27:13-28 says God buried Moses Himself without gravestone marker, headstone, monument remain unmarked, Israelites not have idol worship. So Moses’ eternal soul rests in peace buried in the Moab valley opposite Beth Peor near Mount Nebo from plains of Moab near top of Pisgah. None knows where Moses’ body buried, concealed in grave stops people flocking to idolise him. In Jude 1:9 angel fought with Michael over Moses’ body, only unique burial by God. Moses’ body soul, alive in Transfiguration met Jesus with Elijah alive from heaven on Mount in Matthew 27:1-10.

loss-300x225 (1)Mourning state of total shock and disorientation exempts you from performing actions requiring attention to detail. Time is given off work at least minimum of 2 weeks plus due holidays to grieve and mourn. Time is needed to sort out paper work, fill in forms and to notify various agencies of the departed. In mourning people wear symbolic or an appropriate colour suitable for the age of the departed. To be able to attend unhindered to funeral arrangements it is important to dress appropriately. The family decided obligated choice agreed on to help support family. Immediately following burial mourning the mourner does not listen to music, go to concerts, does not attend joyous events or parties unless absolutely necessary. If a date set prior to death strictly forbidden or to be postponed cancelled. Week-long period of grief mourning observance referred to by time to grief. During this period all mourners traditionally gather the home and receive visitors. Mourners refrain for a week from showering or bathing, wearing leather shoes, jewelry, shaving. Some communities cover mirrors in the mourner’s home so they not concerned about their personal appearance. It is customary for mourners to sit on low stools or even the floor, symbolic of the emotional reality of being “brought low” by grief. Meal of consolation first meal eaten on return from funeral consists of hard-boiled egg or other round oblong foods. Biblical hospitality means during this seven-day period, family, friends or colleagues visit and call on mourners to comfort them. Is considered great time of kindness, compassion to pay respects to visit the mourners. No greetings are exchanged, visitors wait for mourners to initiate conversation. Mourner is not obliged to engage in a conversation and may completely ignore his/her visitors. Visitors take on hosting role, attending to guests, bringing food and serving it to the mourning family. Mourning family avoids cooking or cleaning during this period. Those responsibilities become that of visitors to ease burden and pain.

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Acknowledgment. Death isn’t catching, but those who are bereaved might think so, judging by the fear they see in other people’s eyes. People are frightened about whether to come forward, about what to say, about saying the wrong thing so, in the end say nothing. All of that comes from a belief whatever you say should make things better but have enough wisdom to make the pain more bearable but you can’t or need to. Be kind enough to acknowledge them and their suffering is difficult enough. Offer to be there if they need you, suggesting that they should be the one to ring you, is probably asking too much of your friend at this time. It is better if you take the initiative and make contact, and then follow their lead: they may want to see or speak with you or not. Often, people don’t make contact because they feel they don’t know the bereaved person well enough. If you are erring one way or the other, better to err on the side of making contact.

Practical help. Doing practical things is often what really makes a difference. Don’t say, “Let me know if I can help”; actually do something helpful. At the beginning of a bereavement, there may be a lot of people around, so bringing food may be the best thing you can do. Taking food around for longer than the initial crisis is particularly appreciated.Traumatic-Bereavement-Ind1_m

Honesty. Be honest because honesty is comforting and easy to deal with. So direct honesty helps complex messiness of grief so an enormous relief to people. Be honest about what you actually can do rather than covering up because you feel guilty about what you can’t. And be specific to say, “I’m going to come round for half an hour” or come on Tuesday” don’t say, “I’ll come when you want, tell me, and I’ll be there”, and then find you can’t deliver on that offer.

Be sensitive. Being honest is important, as being sensitive. Promiscuous honesty is not a good idea. Be aware of showing too openly your life is trotting along as happily as can be, feels like you rubbing their nose in your happiness.

Be in it for the long haul. Remember to make contact and be supportive after everyone else has gone. Usually three months following the death, people get back to their lives, as they should. But it is by no means over for the person who is bereaved. Sending a text or popping is hugely supportive.Gay couple hugging and walking in park

Writing. Letters, cards, texts or emails: it doesn’t matter what you write – all are extremely helpful. It is better, however, to say that you don’t want a reply, because some people simply can’t respond. And it is never too late to send them. It is a welcome surprise to receive a card much later, because it is when everyone else has forgotten and your friend is still grieving. When you do write, try to make it personal and avoid tired cliches such as, “She’s had a good innings” or “Better to have loved and lost because they are trite in some way diminish personal importance of this very loved person who died. You don’t need to go into long explanations of why the person died or theological explorations about death; be loving and personal, warm and acknowledging.

RAPTURE ETERNAL RESURRECTION

Believers have assurance of eternal life in Christ so mourn with hope for their resurrection. In the Bible Jesus raised Lazarus from death, widow of Nain son, Peter raised Dorcas, Paul raised young man who fell dead sitting on a window ledge. The dead arose alive when Jesus was crucified and went into town seen by many people. We pray and ask GOD to raise loved one too in Jesus Name so thank God Jesus raised Lazarus. Bible says Christianity lasts beyond earthly life into heaven so mourn and grieve with hope in Jesus Christ. Christians call death falling asleep to pass into glory to be with God. Although grief pain hurts deeply and so feels tragic loss yet know future reunion family circle will be complete in heaven in the Presence of God Almighty. In the Rapture, the dead in Christ will first be resurrected to join those alive together to meet Christ in the clouds into heaven. The signs of the end times are predicted by Jesus in Matthew 24. So death is part of transition into eternal life although it is better to have loved ones on earth as members of a family, God calls them to higher service in heaven. Rest in peace safely beloved in the loving arms of God so no more sorrow, grief, pain, tears we love you and miss you terribly but God LOVES you more. We shall see you one day in Jesus Name for you are delivered because your name is found written in the BOOK OF LIFE according to Daniel 12:1-2. All asleep in Christ in dust of the earth wake to everlasting life in heaven in Glory in GOD’S PRESENCE. The Holy Spirit of God is our Comforter in times like these so we draw strength from the word of God to carry on in life in Jesus Name. GOD Our Father Comforts us too through His Love and Words of comfort from loved ones, friends and family. 

Extract from Grief Works by Julia Samuel

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EARLY ADOLESCENT KIDS

kids-circleAdolescence starts earlier in modern generations than previous ones lasting twice as long as it did in the 1950s. So children are hitting puberty earlier than ever before said Psychology professor Laurence Steinberg who explained why to BrainwavesAdolescence is a period of life between starting puberty and becoming stable, independent adults. This time is being extended because some children begin puberty earlier.Kids-Diverse-1

Adolescence is three times as long as it was in the 19th Century and it’s twice as long as in the 1950s.
Professor Laurence Steinberg

According to Professor Steinberg, in the western world adolescence runs from age 10 or to about age 25. Professor Steinberg attributed this phenomenon of lengthening of adolescence to several surprising factors as follows:youth-world-header-large

Obesity & Man-made Chemicals

The first and most important is obesity. The kids who are fatter go through puberty earlier than the leaner kids he said. Man-Made Chemicals. There are other factors as well. One has to do with the exposure of children to endocrine-disrupting chemicals in the man-made environment. The chemicals are not just in food, they’re in cosmetics, they’re in plastics, they’re in pesticides they’re ubiquitous.” “When people are exposed to these endocrine disrupters it alters their hormonal development and many chemicals lead to earlier onset puberty mostly in girls.”hot

More SunLight exposure

The third factor that’s been discovered fairly recently has to do with exposure to sunlight.” It turns out that kids who grow up near the equator go through puberty earlier than kids who grow up near the north or south pole and that’s because, when you grow up near the equator, you have more exposure to sunlight over the course of childhood years.” While it may not be of too much concern to parents in northern Europe, recent research suggests a final factor which applies to many children here.

“Scientists discovered recently the light emanating from tablets or smartphones or computer screens can affect onset of puberty by disrupting brain’s melatonin system. Kids who spend more and more time in front of these screens especially in front of the blue light emitted by the devices probably contributed to earlier puberty as well. Light from the phones impacts brains of kids and adults.“World-Population-889x591.jpg

Adolescent Brainwaves

Brainwaves of the adolescent brain as Pennie Latin examines is relatively a young field of teenage neurology. It has revealed lack of frontal cortex ability to understand risk and consequences. And so although adolescent children may hit puberty earlier, they may not be able to handle the harsh realities of the trauma of war years, distress, rations, famine, lack of tough physical life forced upon previous generations. They worked in factories, chimney sweepers, railway as tracks as children making them more mature. They develop faster on growth spurt but face challenges of the modern generation.

EXPRESS MARRIAGE TRENDS

Sophy on her wedding day in traditional attireWith Valentine day approaching people are looking for love and romance for a form relationships. So couples celebrate established meaningful, love fulfilling a family bond. Others also ready to settle down prepare and advertise for love in new ways using social media, Facebook post and was married six days later. The marriage took place quite quickly than the normal traditional longer process of a family searching and taking years for the marriage to be finalised. CHIDIMMA AMEDU, did exactly that advertising for love and marriage on Facebook. He found a beautiful wife who said, ‘he is the most handsome man I’ve ever met and I liked him instantly.” Those who use Facebook come across pretty strange posts in their time. But this time however the random friends requests, being added to groups you did not ask to join, and tags allows “friends” to marry. Others clog up timeline with posts or photos you don’t necessarily want. But a Nigerian man took it to a whole new level posted unusual advert. Chidimma Amedu put up a post on 30 December, asking women interested in being his wife to reply, he told the BBC.Chidimma Amedu on his wedding day

The proposal

“Am of age to and I am ready to say I do and am wasting no time. “Send in your applications – the most qualified will be married on January 6, 2018. Application closes 12 midnight 31/12/2017 he posted. He followed up with subsequent posts. ‘Am serious about this oh and don’t say you did not see it on time Good luck.’ He received a couple of responses, but one from Sophy Ijeoma is someone special who caught his attention. She wrote in her reply “Am interested, just DM me… lols,” her post read. At first, she thought it was a joke and she simply replied to keep thread flowing. A direct message from him to her inbox, followed by a Facebook call, would change her life’s trajectory. Chidimma placed the advert initially as a joke but became optimistic when Sophy said she was interested. So two days after their first conversation, he travelled some 500km (300 miles) from his home in the northern city of Abuja, to Enugu in the east where she lived. She had been waiting for him outside a retail store and in true fairy-tale style, “it was love at first sight”, she recalled. “He is the most handsome man I’ve ever met and I liked him instantly.”The couple on their wedding day in Igbo attire

After 2 hours of awkward conversation, he asked her to go to meet an uncle who incidentally is also resident in Enugu. So he asked what was going through her mind at the time, she said she thought it was all a bit of a joke but was excited about it and thought Chidimma was also quite an interesting character. “We got to the uncle’s house and he said: ‘Uncle, meet the woman I want to marry.'” Like Chidimma his family don’t seem to hang about when it comes to getting things done because uncle gave his approval. The couple are friends on Facebook for over a year but never spoken to each other before the advert. Getting family backing for your choice of spouse is an essential part of Igbo culture. Whereas picking your future wife from dozens of respondents to a Facebook marriage advert and marrying her in six days is decidedly not. At this point in their day-old relationship, it was beginning to dawn on Sophy that this fellow was not playing, but how do you commit to marrying someone you only just me. She would not comment on whether they had even shared as much as a kiss at that point, but maintained she was captivated by how focused, determined her new fiancé was. “When I saw him for the first time, I definitely found him attractive, but what I didn’t know was how serious he was about marrying me. “It was after we met the uncle and his wife, I realised that this could actually happen and I wanted it.”A family member felicitate with the couple

The engagement

It was now her turn to worry about how she was going to get the approval of her family to marry a guy she had just met on Facebook. But they had momentum going for them. Having met and fallen in love at first sight, or first message, if you like, and getting Chidimma’s uncle’s approval, couple decided to complete the cycle by visiting Sophy’s family the same day. Approval from the family is essential in Igbo tradition and Sophy recounted how she relayed information to her mother. Her dad passed away, and her mum said she did not have a final word in terms of giving approval for her to be married, so up to Sophy’s elder brother to give his blessings. It appears the odds firmly in their favour as Sophy’s brother gave his blessings too. So after a few questions from her brother it became official. Chidimma and Sophy were engaged to be married in six days.The happy couple cutting their cake

On the rebound?

Last year Chidimma was engaged to another woman and the wedding was scheduled for December, but then that relationship fell apart in March leaving him dejected. As December approached, the disappointment of not being able to fulfil his dream of getting married made him put up the post, he said. In wedding it was a blend of old and new “I had the desire to get married, had date in mind, but no bride, decided to place an advert as a joke, but I was open and up for it.”  Asked whether she knew about earlier engagement and her thoughts on how this seemingly rushed marriage might be seen as a rebound, Sophy dismissed any suggestions that her relationship was not well thought through. “I don’t care about that when you see what you want, you go for it.” They are friends on Facebook for more than a year, but had never met or spoken to each other until the advert. Am interested just DM me… lols” was all it took for the union to be formed. Sophy admitted her friends were sceptical about the whole thing, while some are still in disbelief, but as she said: “When you see the one, you will know he is the one.” And they got married on 6 January in a traditional Igbo ceremony, and posted photos of wedding day on Facebook of course to the amusement of the social media community. Chidimma put up a post saying people may have thought he had been joking but clearly wasn’t. And as expected there was mixed reactions, but mainly a lot of support for the couple. They hope to have a church wedding in April and honeymoon somewhere nice.

WANT TO BE A BILLIONAIRE?

do-you-want-to-be-a-billionaire-by-ericpesik-1-638This article was forwarded to our group to discuss the matter of concept of how to become a billionaire. The major ideas that came up was to follow with passion any projects worked on. Many become billionaires through hardwork and most of all focus first on their ideas and then billions follow later. Some did not really expect to become billionaires but it was the reward of accomplishing the best they could do and the result was global. Result of producing consistently high quality product demands led to billions. do-you-want-to-be-a-billionaire-by-ericpesik-3-638Some have lucid reasoning concerning making billions according to following the article. A major secret of billionaires is their ability to find solutions to the challenges of humanity. All of them created the solutions that brought in the billions. Bill Gates spent so much time developing computers so uses millions of dollars now in search of renewable energy. By the time he finds one and become a major player in the electricity industry some may say he is lucky. But do not forget he did not pray for a financial breakthrough, he found a solution to a global problem to help humanity.0513e4fe7e3f11711057509addd83a6bc0dfef-retina-thumbnail-large

Wealthy people do not necessarily look for just money they create solutions and money will follow them! Larry Page and Sergey Brin have all helped humanity find things faster on the internet, and billions of dollars followed them. Mark Zuckerberg created the platforms for online socialization and over $71 billion followed him. Steve Jobs and also Steve Wozniak went all out to reduce the size of computer. What problem do you help solve for humanity? Some people spend lots of money thinking it will turn into more money automatically only to find it is a scam so business goes bankrupt.IMG_20180110_203430Too much greed or a love of money over their dedicated interest missed out on investing in something productive so lost money they had. The others spend weeks on the mountain praying for the financial breakthrough without really knowing what to do to be rich. They just want to be rich anyhow but it does not work that way. The real wealth comes through lots of hardwork and solving problems to help others. And so real wealth comes after taking critical look around to see challenges that surround the world to create solutions or discover solutions help to others.13658382_648635705287577_1027477428_n

One of the major reasons why millions live below the poverty line is the belief that magic wands will suddenly mint all the money. How many cups of mustard seeds did Mark Zuckerberg eat so that will make him an ‘instant’ billionaire? How many bottles of the anointing oil did Jeff Bezos drink that turned him into an overnight owner of Amazon? So this is how potential billionaires pray: “Dear LORD where there is electricity problem, health, sanitation or portable drinking water problem give me ideas and knowledge to solve it. LORD, bless me with fresh insight to solve these problems and connect me with to the right business partners to make things happen. Thank you LORD.”0d0680bd91828fc706a88cb2e82c3eb4d398d09c1874917da63643602151f73d So God will definitely download creative ideas into their minds. It is Divine connections to search deeper to find Favour of God to be the best possible inventor, artist or whatever one honestly feels called to do to be fulfilled in life. On the other hand, the others may pray: “Oh LORD, command anyone who said I will not prosper to collapse and die by fire!” And another person will say: “LORD, I need financial favour so I need wealth transfer from the wicked laid up for the righteous. I need God’s financial breakthrough urgently. LORD please do send money to me today in Jesus Name. God listens to prayers and does look on the humble supernaturally to help them through enriching others to bless them. 13744280_1026683677453098_1238823929_nIn the Kingdom of God wealth creation is based on giving and receiving. God look from HIS balcony in heaven and wonderfully provides as Jehovah Jireh. Those who understand wealth creation opportunities also surround themselves with similar minded people willing to collaborate together. It is God who gives power to get wealth and enjoy wealth. It God who owns all the world’s resources but people work hard to manifest their talents and abilities. So do not belittle prayer, but pray specifically for wisdom to design the perfect product at the right time and to market it successfully.maxresdefaultthe-little-black-book-of-billionaire-secrets-28-638

It is time to change thinking and prayer pattern. There are no shortcuts to the hard-work required to get to the top. So start looking for the problems you can solve for humanity. Money is actually a reward for solving problems for people. Keep soaring! Whether instant success overnight from unexpected fortune one inherits or wins the lottery or a product that went global, viral online business it good success. Thanks to all those wealth creators who solved problems. Thanks  especially to all those who remember to give back society to help solve problems through charity to bless less fortunate. Give thanks and Glory to God for you helping solving problems of humanity as an instrument of change.