Does looks affect jobs and will your face land you a dream job? Some measure expected standard face as a potential employer to decide whose face best fits the job. This new trend selects mostly females based on their looks or shape of their faces. Some companies go as far as asking for pictures in advance and then measuring faces with tape during their interviews for their required face. This matter is becoming an issue of concern as some do not hear from the employer again after their receiving photos. This way of employing staff members was again in the news. So is this another stereotypical selection method of the beauty considered fit for a workplace? This method is based on facial profiling by face reader’s opinions who claim to predict suitable jobs for specific faces. They are consulted to analyse faces to determine the best face for each job. Is this another underhand tactics and an excuse to discriminate against certain faces? It is possible to send own air brushed picture to look impressive often people send a younger photo than their current looks. Are companies being influenced by the modern concepts of what constitutes good looks online in the media as true standard beauty? What about ‘Ugly Betty’ chosen to help her boss from getting distracted by his beautiful secretaries to focus on managing his company. What happens if a company is catfished as happens often in many cases including Sarah who got a job from a university based on her photo of previous youthful years. The university appointed her and on arrival for work turned out to be confronted by an old lady three times her age. Sarah did not indicate her current age to them so it was assumed she looked like the photo sent. At first, the university thought it was a mix up until she confirmed her identity and she enough she was the same person. She was allowed to do the job based on her excellent and genuine track record on her CV qualifications and work history. Sarah although het looks did not affect her job turned out to be a nightmare. Sarah told university zoology director, she must live literary with all the animals in her home. Therefore Sarah turned posh university accommodation into animal husbandry for her practical research. Her teaching produced great students so made up for lack of her youthful look Was tolerated to live among her beloved animals till she died unexpectedly. Sarah carried on dutifully for many years but became a victim of her own success. One of the animals bit her while taking him to a vet in her vehicle became infected by rhesus as he carried that disease. Sarah dedicated her phenomenal long life collaborating with the university for many years. The university afterwards took the animals to the appropriate zoo set aside for all other animals. Then the house was refurbished and restored for new person employed to fill her place. Sarah was a great character and loyal to her beloved animals and carried on with her zoologist passion to a whole new level. Her presence at university was well-known so she was popular and well loved, one of a kind in that gated community. Her research papers, work was immaculate in both classroom and outside winning many awards. Sarah’s looks and age did not hinder or affect her work in at all. So if the university had based the choice on only superficial or aesthetic looks to reject application, they would have missed out on her skills, talents and practical abilities for many years, as an impressive scientist. So do looks really help in choosing the most competent staff members? Sarah’s job technically did not have age limits in those days so she was able to do her work perfectly well. Sarah did what she loved most so died doing her job carried on faithfully to the end. So is it fair and ethically moral to demand specific looks to determine certain jobs?
God did not remove the red sea when Israel was crossing over to the promised land in living history. God told Moses to lift up the stick already in his hands to part red sea safely with millions of people. This teaches us God uses whatever is at hand to deliver us from problems. Often people pray asking God to remove the challenges from their lives. So focus on removing issues rather asking God for wisdom to deal with the problem faced. The crossing of the red sea is a classic example of God at work through people to reveal HIS Miracle power. God could have shouted for the red sea to part but instead God Chose to use Moses stick to let Israel know God uses even imperfect humble people to do HIS real miracles. Praying in the garden of Gethsemane, Jesus asked Father God if it is possible to remove the cup of sorrow from Him but God sent angel to encourage, strengthen Jesus to go through His Mission on the earth. At times, the reality of challenges is so overwhelming we prefer removal of problems faced. God in HIS Infinite Wisdom Knows us better so helps deal with problems to overcome them. The ‘red seas’ in life helps us to improve listening skills to follow Godly instructions. Other ‘red seas’ increase faith as we partake God’s Miracle power through us in Jesus Name. The credit and glory always goes to God as vessels of honour to demonstrate HIS POWER on earth to people. Testimony of Godly miracles defeat the devil through the blood of the Lamb Yeshua. This Miracle is well-known globally and today relics of chariots drowned in the red sea are seen and documented to highlight the Victory over enemies of God in history. Therefore, pray and ask God to reveal what is available for you to use for your red sea miracles. God is the same yesterday today and forever so is able to do similar miracles in your life and in your family. Do not get angry with God for not removing your ‘red sea’ from you. Instead seek God’s Face to direct you to use abilities, gifts, skills, talents, wisdom the right ‘stick’ at hand to defeat the devil in Jesus Name. Do not set a deadline for God to answer prayer or become restless if answer is delayed as you wish it to happen. God’s Plan for your life is always Higher than yours so depend on God and trust God to guide you to victory. Answers from God are at times different to ours but in long-run things become clearer to understand the thoughts of God for HIS Children. This lesson of Israel crossing the red sea has been disputed as high tide and low tide both of which are still God’s creation so Israel crossed safely but the chariots of horsemen of God’s enemies drowned. It is necessary to give God due Credit not to mock HIS miracles. Living history shows those who mock God’s power do not enjoy the benefits of miracles due to unbelief. Jesus did fewer miracles in the city of Nazareth due to their unbelief. God manifests HIS Presence and Power through Jesus and believers who trust God to do miracles in their lives. Though ‘red sea’ remained firmly in place it parted when God told Moses to lift stick and did so. In same way Israel’s eternal first position before God’s throne and among nations of the earth is forever. Despite red seas Israel graples with, God parts all in right time to resolve issues in life and will do so for you in Jesus Name with thanks and Glory to God Almighty Jehovah Nissi.
1. Giving hugs is essential to keep love flame alive so give your spouse hugs daily. Hugs are fast disappearing in marriages today. It has been researched hugging is one of the emotional needs of all human being. It is scarcity of spousal hug that makes many men hug ladies not their wives indiscriminately. Many women crave for hugs and they allow every Tom Dick and Harry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hugs. In the morning or at night, let no day pass without hugging your spouse. It is a valuable you must give your spouse. It could be welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, appreciation hug, affirmative hug. Hugging is non-verbal means of communication so use it well. Do not let your husband or wife crave hug from strangers when you are alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically. A married couple is generous to all except their spouses. These 5 things you should give your spouse daily. These are not weekly, monthly, annual giving. They are things you must give spouse daily. Let us see them. Give your spouse a touch: One of the ways to bond with spouse is touch of encouragement, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch and sexual intimacy touch. Study your partners and know what touch to give at a particular time. If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Do not let day without kissing your partner.
2. Give your spouse a smile: God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, ‘You delight me’, ‘Your presence amuses me,’ ‘I am pleased with you’. Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the way to know your marriage is cold is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day. I love to smile a lot and I love to see my Queen smile. I do not like people who are not generous with their smile. It is free. You do not need to pay for smiles. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, smile, keep smiling! To prevent your marriage going cold keep smiling with spouse.3. Give your spouse a call/ chat: Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phones & all the friends on their friends list on Facebook. But they never chat or call their spouse throughout the day. Chatting or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, ‘Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you’. Make sure you send a chat, or give a call to your spouse today. Make it a daily thing. Nobody is tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.
4: Give your spouse the gift of Peace of mind. A home is the end-point of every thing we do daily. Let me explain it this way. If a doctor you cannot sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you cannot sleep in the site all days. If a lawyer you cannot sleep in the bar all days. As a pastor, you cannot be in the Church 24/7. We all must go back home. Home is the end point. So, if your spouse is excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. So stop the nagging, fighting, insulting, abuse, threatening, behaviour and humiliating your spouse. Give him rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind. Be the head of your wife not the headache of your wife. Madam, be wife and not ‘knife’ to your husband. Blessed are the couples that give each other peace of mind daily! Give your spouse Space. As much as you need to bond with spouse together for intimacy communication, affection, planning, etc. you need to give your spouse space. So make time for couple’s prayers, time for couples bonding, time for own personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planing, etc. Do not be too close for comfort to choke your spouse. Do not be over possessive and also over demanding to spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give spouse a space they need when they need it.5: Give your spouse prayer no matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you can not do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say word of prayer for your spouse daily. Other things may fail and may not work. But no force withstands power of prayer. You cannot heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You cannot lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You cannot save your spouse. You cannot take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her. Pray to God. Mention name of your husband / wife to God. As a man, you are the priest of your family, lay your hands on your wife or hold her hands and say a word of prayer to her life. It is a major gift couples have to give each other. Blessed is the wife whose husband gives a gift of prayer daily and vice versa. Pray for your spouse if you do not want him/her to become a prey in the hand of devil. All these 5 things you must give your spouse daily are very easy, simple, free and important. Put them on your ‘to-do-list’. Do not forget to give it. Remember, givers never lack any good thing. If you give your spouse all these, I can assure you that, there is a high assurance that you will get it back in return to make your joy full. Love your marriage as joy of your family is your priority. Bless all family members and thank God daily in Jesus Name through the Holy Spirit.
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© Ebenezer Diyaolu
Today’s news report is full of children harmed or killed by many tragic accidents purposefully orchestrated or unintended by someone seething due to jealousy of affection given the children. Such people forget infant’s life requires sacrifices of parents, loved ones, carers who endure to ensure children thrive in life. Their parents went without basic necessities in life, food so they survived. After growing up they feel reluctant to do the same for their own children or step children. There are many blended families doing a great job looking after children and fantastic at it. They deserve recognition and congratulations though not seeking praise for excellent job done daily. Against the backdrop of great parenting is trend of children seen and treated as inconvenient intrusion into ‘perfect happiness’ of dysfunctional families. Such people, playing superficial happy family fantasize about having children to ‘seal their love’ but discover shock of changes to their relationship after birth of children. This adds on to stress of an already disorganized family affected at times by influence of drugs or computer games. Such parents blame each other or shift the responsibility of caring and discipline styles, cause more stress and infighting. Meanwhile the children internalize effects of chaos caused by immature people in toxic relationships unfit to raise children. Resentful with regret of their decision to have children cannot opt out. Children caught up in the middle of strife endure life worse at times due to alcohol or selfish actions of parents vying for affection at the cost of children’s lives. Some children cry for hours and given calpol for headaches but parents offended if the child laughs. It seems the parents feel satisfied when the child cries but tells child off if seen as happy and cheerful. Modern living isolates couple further without support network required for respite care of children to give the parents a break. The parent not from poor background, well-brought up can be victim of success if over indulged without consideration for others or own children and family. May grow up with sense of entitlement so receive attention without giving back to others. Demand more attention as grown up in charge of own family. Competes with children for attention so never emotionally secure.Surprisingly, such parents lack awareness or previous experience of babysitting children 24/7. Totally unprepared for childcare needs of children they bear or take care of. In the past, schools designed practical living skills of housekeeping, cooking, sewing, cleaning, ironing, childcare as part of curriculum in education. So the young people were trained in hands on real life practical experience life skills to equip them for family life. In addition, extended family in the vicinity living together enhance family experiences of children. Despite family hardships or lack of material trappings of modern living children are nurtured to live in a healthy way. Issues of paedophiles or abuse may exist but at least there was someone in the family who children genuinely rely on in time of emotional need for their support. The attitude of some parents is they think they ‘own’ their children so cause pain to child. And those helping giving real happiness to their children viewed as encroaching, undermining, overriding, imposing threat to them. Additionally, children without FRONTAL CORTEX do not wilfully intend to cause an offence deliberately to hurt parents. Children’s BRAIN NOT FULLY grown or developed do not fully UNDERSTAND adult world.Creating good and happy memories in children is treasured in the heart for life of the children. Mimicking adults seems they understand issues but incapable of the maturity of adults. This is the reason why God entrusts the children into the safe adult hands as parents or stewards to look after them. Adult is REPONSIBLE to ensure child’s needs are met, well-fed healthy foods, trained to make sense of environment, given a spatial awareness to relate to others in interactive ways to build up confidence. A child cannot be blamed or accused of being responsible for coming into world to ruin parent’s life. If adult not ready to sacrifice their life at least 30 years to raise children, use protection to prevent conception. Children are for life and not only for Christmas displays. Some think children will enhance them by having them for wrong reasons. A fractured, disjointed society today focus on external material things at the expense of healthy organic nurturing safe atmosphere surrounded by family and friends. Yet nature and nurture are both vital components to accomplish a balanced upbringing of children’s lives. The shift of emphasis on gadgets, technology, high-tech and high strung high-maintenance intense stress, pressure and atmosphere is not really conducive for children. Attention on the external shoe costs and designer labels to wear and expensive clothes or toys above emotional needs of the children. Damage or loss of items becomes bone of contention in anger beats the child to pulp and causing tragic death. The other children are killed by computer gamers who feel distracted from their addictive games by the children requiring nappy change or food. Again tensions of credit crunch play role in frustrating parents stuck with children without proper jobs. Recent rate of fatalities of the children’s death toll is needlessly rising.Unacceptable levels further exasperated by children having children without the FRONTAL CORTEX BRAIN themselves to UNDERSTAND risk and consequences of their actions on delicate tender body of babies and children. Dangerous attacks of children by jealous lovers or parents fester without dealing with the build up of uncalled for anger towards innocent children. Unfortunately some children become victims destroyed by the naive immature jealous partner who in turn destroys own lives in the process. It is sad the family is ruined by adults who wants to raise children as little soldiers. They DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN TO BE THE HAPPY LITTLE CHILDREN HAVING FUN, LAUGHING, PLAYING WITHOUT A CARE in the world. It is a right of every child to be allowed a proper discipline and corrected in a safe manner within their age range meaningful to the child. A child cannot be treated as a grown up adult in terms of relating deep thoughts to a child. Of course precocious children display maturity, genius beyond some adults but is exception than the norm. God ordained mothers to carry babies as first natural teachers of children so more tolerant and patient than some men. Going against nature to demand mothers abandon children to wo/men INCAPABLE of raising their children contributes to damage of children. Some parents feel ashamed and embarrassed to EXPRESS dark emotions or thoughts to others to get help to deal with their own childhood issues projected on that innocent child. Anger is major cause of such parents who vent on the innocent children bearing brunt of frustrations in their life. Such parents act like if they did not have a happy childhood then the child cannot have one. Of course they cannot give what they do not have so get help to allow children to enjoy their innocent years. Build up good memory and stop tyrants scarring children for life to damage them. A lot of children of this generation have a lot of superficial material needs met but hurting deeply by the lack of proper attention required. Oxytocin hormone CALMS children by hugging the child so gains parental love much more priceless than a temporary material joy happiness. Oxytocin is very necessary for the child’s development so healthy contact of a child is essential. Issue of paedophiles is ruining genuine affection for children treated as robot machines. Hugging the child is viewed with suspicion so many steer clear from it but do not hesitate to inflict pain on same child in moment of madness due to anger. A child is for life so before you have the child think twice of long-term time sacrifices of not going to parties, pubs, discos, travelling alone, sleepless nights for feeding or nappy changes. Get help from trusted family members, and friends, loved ones or good neighbours. Talk to GP to arrange talking therapy or with people in parent’s and child groups to learn how to cope better, ask friends to support you. Do not dump anger or rage on your innocent loving children. Children cannot express their internal damage to organs from assaults by the adults. Modern dolls have a computer link to reveal manhandling by a person entrusted with the doll. Unfortunately children do not have such mechanisms displaying internal bleeding by bashing against walls, shaking babies, fractures broken bone, internal bleeding swelling go unnoticed until final straw ends in a fatality. Yet millions desperately want children but cannot have them due to many reasons. So count your blessings, invest TIME to train child so they grow up and not depart from it. Routine is essential to raising children so set up a flexible dynamic time schedule for the children. Time to sleep and wake up is necessary for toddlers for brain growth and development. Lunch at 12 noon and naps between 1pm to 3 pm for toddlers. The adults quickly prepares supper and dry laundry, clean up ready for children to wake up. Children play, eat at 5-6pm, bath at 7p.m ready for bed after reading at 8 pm. Adults between 8:30pm till 12 midnight have enough hours to wind down, date in home, set up romantic meal, eat, talk, watch TV, play computer games, get someone trusted and reliable to watch children to go to cinema, meal, and sleep by 1 am latest. A disciplined routine helps children to settle down better. It is good to maintain the routine even during holidays because it is harder to get back established routine after mixed messages confuse children. Children always remember those who genuinely love and care for them. And discuss with partner if you feel left out or displaced by children at appropriate time. Set up routine for both to continue to date, be in love after marriage and children. Do not go on an autopilot identifying with one child and pitching against each other as opposing teams. Children grow so fast you can do anything in your life after they fly the nest. It is never too late to learn to take up any unfinished business later after children come along into your life. You can relearn and adapt to use new skills online for web jobs, create blog, give hope to others, encourage and support others in similar situations. For God Sake never blame children for ruining your life or future because you are the ones who chose not to use the appropriate contraception. Even if child unexpected accept, love child unconditionally. Use playful interaction like Sound of Music film to help appreciate the children and they remember you when you are old. Remember you are accountable to God WHO records in BOOK of life treatment of children’s lives.
Stop the vulnerable destructive patterns fuelling the cycle process taking unfair advantage of people worshiping God. In time of need authentic change does not happen unless the challenges faced are dealt with truly in the heart. Salvation and deliverance prayer sale is the root cause of emotional bankruptcy of life of followers of Christ tagged to the price of sacrifices like days of Jesus. God’s House demands pure heart worship not just an animal sacrifice to depend on. So Jesus’ BLOOD SACRIFICE atones for sin ONCE AND FOR ALL not by expensive animals sold in Temple or their money sacrifice. Guaranteed Christian salvation Focus is on Jesus explained by Martin Luther to churches. Licence of dependency on the purchase gains exploiting people does not point them directly to God. So they become richer in the name of God while the congregations lose out and leave as fresh members continue cycle. This is why judgement begins in House of God. Sadly creates false image of Christianity to onlookers, disappointed and put off by such actions depicting God in a bad light. It is essential to be honest not to gain the whole world to lose your soul. God prefers genuine worship not just a sacrifice so acknowledge the problem. Accept once and for all that Jesus saves lives PAID for by His LIFE and BLOOD. This issue is part of consequences of sin DNA imperfections but FIXED BY JESUS. God confidence is from direct impact of reaching God given potential in Christ. Trusting Jesus to help overcome doubts, anxieties, depression, fears, insecurities, stress, pressure or questioning without break or rest, health, problems left at Jesus’ Feet. Searching for the unrealistic gold at end of rainbow to resolve life’s problems causes exploitative patterns of behaviour as victim insists on getting a relief from such salesmen. God Honours all who honour parents, release the past to seek God’s method of help. God is not deaf or powerless to answer prayer but effects of such behaviour affect God’s HELP. Take total control responsibly in Christ to live and have being in Christ in God personally in prayer and in actions.
People find inner healing as the new creation in Christ. Relationship in Christ Jesus as His disciple is based on sound Biblical Wisdom gained from studying the word of God. Godly Counsel feeds and satisfies soul, spirit, mind and body to Trust God directly, boldly through the BLOOD OF JESUS with God Confidence. Leaders run race to win too and heal by seeking First God’s Face not blessings from God’s Hands. Those in Christ Look to God to keep on the right path in life. Seek God Face as SOURCE OF HELP and God despatches help through people. So gain God Truth searching Scriptures to KNOW GOD FOR YOURSELF. Believers grow from PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP with God. The Bible says do not enter God’s PRESENCE without offering gift, sacrifice but do not depend on the gifts more than SOVEREIGN GOD ALMIGHTY GIVER AND SUSTAINER OF ALL LIFE. By overcoming in life gives God Strength to be stronger in the Lord’s Power to help and support each other in God’s House.
Regular focus of New life in Christ Jesus erases old influence so mind is renewed by future in Christ. Old ideas and habits are possible to control when new life in Christ is taken seriously, Godly Future is guaranteed in Christ. God must increase in your life in Christ and flesh decrease. Consider how God Cares and Provides beautifully for birds and flowers more than Solomon in all his glory. Challenges in life arena are conquered to overcome in Jesus by keeping life real. Unrealistic utopia expectations put pressure on the people fascinated by not thinking God’s Way. Through challenges faith grows so rely First on God. Accept plan of God to seek first His Kingdom and all things added to your life in Christ. The Key to good success in life in Christ Jesus on the whole is listen to God’s Words. Jesus Knows about you more than you think. Good success in life is in Christ in God. It does not mean spend all day and night 24/7 in prayer rather be mindful of the fact that Worship of Sovereign God with love and reverence. Jesus’ statement did not mean money must never exchange hands in church or not give in church.
Jesus is teaching accurate knowledge to seek God first and blessings are added. Short-changing others by the expensive sales of animals, relics, tokens, sales to gain profit rather than true worship of God is offence to God. Freewill giving and fair trade price is required more in God’s House when buying and selling takes place. In 1 John 4:9, the LOVE of God manifests among us for God sent HIS First Born Only Son into the world, so we might live through Jesus. God in past tolerated people to come to their senses to change to submit to God. After thousands of generations of freewill to do as pleased, God is bringing CHANGE to whole world to be under HIS OWN TOTAL CONTROL again as it was before sin in garden of Eden. And people must change to belong exclusively to God or people will sadly perish. The transitions taking place in the world is part of God’s wrath against rebellious who refuse to worship God. The House of Prayer for all nations means exactly all the nations belong to God. So Jerusalem Temple for all nations welcomes all to worship God forever in Jesus Name. So Jesus disrupts routine in Temple to show sinfulness prevents God Seekers from knowing Yahweh truly. Put confidence in God not animal sacrifice extortion to gain profit. Put CONFIDENCE IN CHRIST IN GOD for one of the endtime signs is rebuilding Temple in Jerusalem. After thousands of years this will happen and Jesus will RETURN TO JERUSALEM. Israel will accept and Welcome Hamashiah Yeshua Adonai in Jesus Name in the Temple for prayer for all nations in Jerusalem.