DEATH AND EVIL EMOTIONS

Death is a sensitive  matter that brings about all sorts of negative evil emotions and disagreements due to accusations blaming others as their cause of a death. God said it’s appointed unto man to die and there is a time to die except unless one of those who will never see die in the Rapture. It clearly says in the Bible an average age of life is between 70 to 80 years although exceptions mean that some die younger and other people live hundreds of years. However awareness of existence of facts of life about death does not make death easier to accept, no matter how long the person lived. Even when a loved one is ill for many years there is expectation for recovery despite doctor’s prognosis. Letting go of loved ones is painful and soon turns to anger of feelings of being abandoned by loved ones. Soon anger turns to denial and the blame of anyone as cause of their death. Often accusations are levelled against a frontline staff for not trying harder to save loved ones despite the best medical resources. Relatives accuse and blame others for causing death through evil spirits using, sorcery, witchcraft and divinations charms, curses and spells. Often the shock caused by the death is compounded by financial demands imposed on relatives for a grand burial beyond their means and resources. The family is given a list of items to buy by the elders before burial takes place. The families compete for the corpse and the process of burial instead of unifying in grief for the sake of their loved ones. In some parts of the world burial is bigger than wedding so requires lots of money. And the sudden death burdens relatives obliged to provide coffin, food, clothing drinks accommodations for guests. This causes so much debt and puts pressure on families of the deceased because the resources are diverted for burial rather than investments into projects to help those alive. Fear of being haunted and punished by the deceased, if not buried properly or revenge for ” whoever” is responsible for the death becomes their obsession. Until the dead tells them who caused their death, a cloud of suspicion hangs around alleged suspects. They are often targeted and victimized, beaten, ostracised and in some cases killed to ensure that person does not kill more people. Thoughts and fears of potential deaths to be caused by a “perpetrator” drives the community to eliminate such an evil person from their midst. A closer look at alleged perpetrators involve the issue of land disputes envied prosperity and labelling them ritual killers for the material gain. Sudden change in wealth, buildings, or good fortune is thought to be the result of such killings. These are some reasons for delays for funerals for months or years until these issues are resolved. Grief and sorrow overshadow reality with strong desire to pin death on perpetrator for closure to project the pain and loss on them. People are fined, chased away from community banished for life so if anyone shows compassion to them are accused of being part of evil circle causing death. Adults or children are accused by the witchdoctors who fuel confusion by their condemnation of people targetted as perpetrator. Anger, and hatred causes bitterness, sickness, due to unforgiveness, fear and chaos as confusion in the family tarnishes many generations holding grudges by blaming members. An unforgiving person is very poor in spirit, suffers afflictions, many hardships, hypertension, pressure, lack of sleep, stress, exhaustion and serious depression, poor diet so low immunity. These affects quality of life made worse by the copius painkillers literally killing them. Challenges in life of the matured born-again child of God promotes them through furnance of faith to overcome in victory. What does not kill you makes you stronger so problem strengthen you for testimony to the Glory of God God gives solutions in Jesus Name to prove HIS miracle power is same yesterday, today and forever. Problems draw you closer to God to triump always. And we know nothing can separate us from the LOVE OF GOD including death. Personal neglect and the lack of drinking water causes dehydration and death. Do not seek evil sources of secret family idols in shrines through divination sacrifices or offerings on altars destroying people. Their potions, lotions, charms, rings and objects tie them to evil covenants killing them. God says MY people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. These professed Christian believers consult family idols as history reveals in covenant rituals for protection, power, childbirth, help sought for healing and material riches that ENSNARE family to evil spirits. So family members dedicated in the womb or after birth for life to witchdoctors to continue covenant bondage to powers of darkness yet confess to BELIEVE in God as Christians. Deep-rooted rituals secret rituals take place despite official church burials or business success. The family perform secret rituals involving witchdoctors in the name of culture. So these rituals require families paying the huge sums of money to witchdoctors for buying, cows, goats etc to pacify gods or idols from destroying more people. And sadly these rituals cause these divisions separating them from God depriving the family of joy, peace, love and unity. The family gets the worse problems because they held captive by dark powers. Some remain slaves to witchdoctors held in a spiritual captivity and the families takes loans to pay them. Younger generations have no idea of causes of evil challenges in their life as dedicated in the womb by rituals performed by these witchdoctors or herbalist. Fear of evil eyes of enemies reinforce greed of witch doctors fueling hatred among people seeking solutions to problems in time of need. Yet God the Giver of life warns about death as part of life to prepare to deal with death to cope better and to mourn with HOPE OF ASSURANCE OF ETERNAL LIFE IN THE RESURRECTION.

So it is important to remember children pick on these issues affecting by them if unresolved early. The child listens to various insinuations and made to take sides in such conflicts. Developing children who see physically and experience these matters need help to teach them the topic of death and loss sensitively in primary schools to fulfill section (a) of aims of the 1988 Education Reform Act to promote spiritual, moral, cultural, mental, physical development of pupils at school and of society. These issues must be addressed during Death Education in the home and by Teachers in their curriculum. Doctors also call for death education in schools to be taught in classroom to demystify death, ageing and dying. They need resiliency, more compassion positive proactive approach to death. Death Education in Schools is critically important to bring awareness for better understanding and for future generations. Afterlife has many beliefs so necessary to explain a human body is subject to change or decay over lifetime so demands better care of life to treat it as a precious priceless gift to treasure. Someone people think teaching death education in schools is too sensitive or inappropriate so might do the opposite of putting fear in them. Death education if discussed appropriately will not harm children but rather enhance knowledge and understand from the early years as young as three years if relatives died to help them express grief.

Teachers must be trained to handle the changes in children bereaved, the level of coursework, homework, studies and focus or concentrations. Schools must provide one-to-one counselling room for those children grieving to express the grief in private using Educational resources provided for schools, teachers to bring awareness. Healing takes years but a good enough starting point to help ease the pain. Relatives are traumatized after death and some think there is no light at the tunnel. Yet with the right support and compassion families will overcome death to find peace in the midst of adversity of death. Restoring hope after death or questions of cause of death can be dealt with by teacher in simple terms without indepth medical terms to help rather than confuse children. An expert paediatrician if required can be invited to guide children to express and write journals or scrapbook, drawings and to express grief after bereavement. Above all children need financial support, food and extra input into an academic work to catch up with loss of time away from school during such funerals. A conflict over the deceased loved ones seriously impacts children for the rest of live. So it is important to be careful what is said in front of them or listening nearby. The property and assets of a deceased is the major cause of divisions in the families. The family makes sacrifices to educate a deceased person so feels more entitled to their belongings. A wife and children are antagonized by deceased family for feeling cheated while deceased lived. So they are punished to pay for the costs of the burial for killing their only source of income. These issues must be addressed immediately to give scholarship to the children go continue their education. If not death of a parent ends education. Or death of adult breadwinner ends the well-being of elderly parents. Vitriol and rage caused by death means litigations in court drains limited resources. These parents need support too to help their children so both need encouragement. Life originates from God so not owned by anyone. Jesus said He gave His Life to overcome death so the sting of death is crushed by Jesus Christ’s resurrection power by raising from the grave. And so a believer in Jesus Christ is expected to live by God’s Biblical commands only. A secret ritual unseen or unknown to the pastor is SEEN BY GOD. All will be held accountable by God to give an account for their life and other people in their families. These are serious matters to reflect to make a right choice to please God. Living by God’s standard affects a family divided in their thoughts and the actions contrary to God’s WORDS. And it important to remember you come as an individual into this world and will face God as an individual on judgement day. Better to obey God than follow the men leading you into sin and destruction in the name of cultural belief. Despite all the punishment a deceased does not get out alive because of vengeance so does not really solve any problems. Believers can humbly share their faith from Bible in advance on God’s stance on the death and resurrection. Jesus guarantees joy and eternal life after death for a season so believers are assured of seeing loved ones again in the resurrection Rapture if a Christian believer. This means death is not the end families or loved ones, all will be reunited without pain, sorrow, grief, tears or crying anymore in perfect joy eternally. It’s important to EDUCATE people to understand CREATOR GOD’S words on burial and funerals. Excessive display of wealth to show off to others or pay money for journey or bury cars in graves with personal belongings are unbiblical. Worldly attitude to life seeps into church burial ceremonies despite Bible’s position th material goods does not constitute a man’s life. The worldly goods become completely useless in the afterlife and people must know this. The amount of money invested in death will change communities if it’s invested in a life of a deceased while alive. Believers must carefully pray and study word of God and seek deliverance from all these generational entanglements. Educated family members have an important role to play not to be deceived by envious evil people misleading them. God says in his words that where is no vision the people perish. The devil is a liar using deception to often manipulate illiterate family members without knowledge or understanding of medical biology, body chemistry, health and well-being. And so every death is placed on the targeted victim blamed or ostracised to ease the pain of death. Instead hatred breeds depression, low immunity, disease and heart attack, mental illness or madness. Unforgivingness over years destroys the health of people, as stated, hatred is the poison drank by a person expecting an enemy to die. It kills joy, causes misery and deep anger unleashed on innocent family members or colleagues. Endtime events are fast happening so this is time to ask GOD FOR HIS MERCY, GRACE, COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS, LOVE for yourself and your loved ones in Jesus Name. Jesus taught us to forgive and to receive Forgiveness from God so release people to God. Forgiveness does not mean you become best friend of enemy to hang out with them but it clears your heart from offending God and Jesus and grieving the Holy Spirit. The Bible says all sins will be forgiven except the sins against the Holy Spirit. Lifespan is the will of God so work with God and take of your body, Spirit and soul in Christ. 

 

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SCHOOL OPENS OWN BANK

Pupils save over £100 in new school bank!

 

Ws4g3Students at Walthamstow School for Girls have thrown open the doors of their very own bank.

11-14 year olds have been trained by MyBnk to get fellow pupils into good financial habits by offering accounts and loans of up to £40. Using real money, their MyBnk-in-a-Box scheme opens once a week at lunchtime and is also accessible online.

“I opened an account today with £2 and I think it’s important to save so you don’t have to worry about your parents spending all of their money on you! I would like to buy things for myself and be independent”. Amy 12, young saver.

Ws4g2Also opening accounts on launch day were the Mayor of Waltham Forest, Saima Mahmud and our patron, broadcaster and campaigner, June Sarpong. Scores of young people deposited over £100 in a single lunch break.

The young bankers now will also run incentivised saving and enterprise start-up drives for their fellow pupils. This is backed up with financial education workshops covering everything from tax and pensions to student finance, supported by Prudential.

“At WSFG we believe that our girls should understand how banks work and understand how to manage their personal finances. We try to build in transferable and lifelong skills that they will use in their everyday lives, as well as ensuring that they achieve the very best academic achievements they can”. Marianna Philippou, Maths teacher, Walthamstow School for Girls.

 

Ws4gSoon, Walthamstow will be joined by another London school bank, run by young people for young people. Savers bank on average £3.64 a week, 59% of their pocket money, an adult would bank £295 a week on an a £26,000 salary!

“The sooner young people are familiar with banking, the better they can develop sound financial habits like saving and navigate the system. We’re going all out for a generation that will have to make smarter financial decisions and create their own opportunities”. MyBnk CEO & Founder Lily Lapenna.

If you are interested in running the MyBnk-in-a-Box financial education programme in your school, get in touch via info@mybnk.org or 0207 377 8770!

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WANT TO BE A BILLIONAIRE?

do-you-want-to-be-a-billionaire-by-ericpesik-1-638This article was forwarded to our group to discuss the matter of concept of how to become a billionaire. The major ideas that came up was to follow with passion any projects worked on. Many become billionaires through hardwork and most of all focus first on their ideas and then billions follow later. Some did not really expect to become billionaires but it was the reward of accomplishing the best they could do and the result was global. Result of producing consistently high quality product demands led to billions. do-you-want-to-be-a-billionaire-by-ericpesik-3-638Some have lucid reasoning concerning making billions according to following the article. A major secret of billionaires is their ability to find solutions to the challenges of humanity. All of them created the solutions that brought in the billions. Bill Gates spent so much time developing computers so uses millions of dollars now in search of renewable energy. By the time he finds one and become a major player in the electricity industry some may say he is lucky. But do not forget he did not pray for a financial breakthrough, he found a solution to a global problem to help humanity.0513e4fe7e3f11711057509addd83a6bc0dfef-retina-thumbnail-large

Wealthy people do not necessarily look for just money they create solutions and money will follow them! Larry Page and Sergey Brin have all helped humanity find things faster on the internet, and billions of dollars followed them. Mark Zuckerberg created the platforms for online socialization and over $71 billion followed him. Steve Jobs and also Steve Wozniak went all out to reduce the size of computer. What problem do you help solve for humanity? Some people spend lots of money thinking it will turn into more money automatically only to find it is a scam so business goes bankrupt.IMG_20180110_203430Too much greed or a love of money over their dedicated interest missed out on investing in something productive so lost money they had. The others spend weeks on the mountain praying for the financial breakthrough without really knowing what to do to be rich. They just want to be rich anyhow but it does not work that way. The real wealth comes through lots of hardwork and solving problems to help others. And so real wealth comes after taking critical look around to see challenges that surround the world to create solutions or discover solutions help to others.13658382_648635705287577_1027477428_n

One of the major reasons why millions live below the poverty line is the belief that magic wands will suddenly mint all the money. How many cups of mustard seeds did Mark Zuckerberg eat so that will make him an ‘instant’ billionaire? How many bottles of the anointing oil did Jeff Bezos drink that turned him into an overnight owner of Amazon? So this is how potential billionaires pray: “Dear LORD where there is electricity problem, health, sanitation or portable drinking water problem give me ideas and knowledge to solve it. LORD, bless me with fresh insight to solve these problems and connect me with to the right business partners to make things happen. Thank you LORD.”0d0680bd91828fc706a88cb2e82c3eb4d398d09c1874917da63643602151f73d So God will definitely download creative ideas into their minds. It is Divine connections to search deeper to find Favour of God to be the best possible inventor, artist or whatever one honestly feels called to do to be fulfilled in life. On the other hand, the others may pray: “Oh LORD, command anyone who said I will not prosper to collapse and die by fire!” And another person will say: “LORD, I need financial favour so I need wealth transfer from the wicked laid up for the righteous. I need God’s financial breakthrough urgently. LORD please do send money to me today in Jesus Name. God listens to prayers and does look on the humble supernaturally to help them through enriching others to bless them. 13744280_1026683677453098_1238823929_nIn the Kingdom of God wealth creation is based on giving and receiving. God look from HIS balcony in heaven and wonderfully provides as Jehovah Jireh. Those who understand wealth creation opportunities also surround themselves with similar minded people willing to collaborate together. It is God who gives power to get wealth and enjoy wealth. It God who owns all the world’s resources but people work hard to manifest their talents and abilities. So do not belittle prayer, but pray specifically for wisdom to design the perfect product at the right time and to market it successfully.maxresdefaultthe-little-black-book-of-billionaire-secrets-28-638

It is time to change thinking and prayer pattern. There are no shortcuts to the hard-work required to get to the top. So start looking for the problems you can solve for humanity. Money is actually a reward for solving problems for people. Keep soaring! Whether instant success overnight from unexpected fortune one inherits or wins the lottery or a product that went global, viral online business it good success. Thanks to all those wealth creators who solved problems. Thanks  especially to all those who remember to give back society to help solve problems through charity to bless less fortunate. Give thanks and Glory to God for you helping solving problems of humanity as an instrument of change.

 

THE GET RICH QUICK SCHEMES

A record £1.1bn in overpaid benefits was recovered from fraudsters last year

People lose millions in online ‘get rich quick’ schemes according to an article in the news once again on binary options trading. In Israel and Canada, binary options trading is illegal as Adele Robinson, the News Correspondent stated in the news. An online investment scam targeting people through social media has seen the amount of money lost by victims in the UK rise by 400,000% in six years. Figures from Action Fraud show the amount lost to “binary options” trading increased from £6,200 in 2012, to £27m in 2017 alone, with the total currently standing at £61m. Binary option or fixed odds betting are being used by fraudsters as part of a multi-billion pound industry which is believed to be co-ordinated by overseas criminals. A binary option is where you can gamble on an outcome, usually something to go up or down, with the pay-off being a fixed amount or nothing at all. One example would be to bet on whether the value of gold will be above or below a certain price and investors believe they can gain high returns on little amounts. Consumer group Which? has described binary options scam as “Britain’s biggest investment con” with illegitimate companies targeting victims through pop up adverts online and cold-calling.Frank Thornburrow believes he was conned

Frank Thornburrow was targeted through social media and believes he was conned. As an investment idea it first appeared ten years ago but the industry has grown exponentially in recent years. Detective Sergeant Alex Eristavi from the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau, run by the City of London police, says people are being defrauded on a daily basis. “There is no typical victim,” he told Sky News, “they are just ordinary folk like you and me. The youngest one is 19 years old, that we have recorded so far, and the oldest is 93, so it’s a wide spectrum. “It’s fair to say with binary options coming into play the average victim’s age of investment fraud has dropped because previously it was over 60 and now it’s early 50s. “It’s because the younger generation are taking part in this activity, and it could be easily explained as social media is a lot to do with it, the advertisements and the pop ups etc.”The City of London is home to the UK's financial services sectorThe Financial Conduct Authority will begin to regulate binary options trading this year. Binary options trading is currently regulated by the Gambling Commission but from January 2018 the Financial Conduct Authority will take over. In other countries like Israel and Canada, it has been banned completely. Frank Thornburrow from Kent, lost his life savings when he invested in binary options. He has been unable to get any money back and told Sky News that he believes he was conned. He gives one example from an email telling him that to access his money he would have to make 150,000 trades, which was money he simply did not have. “The last couple of years haven’t been easy,” he said. “I lost my daughter couple of years ago when she died of cancer. I retired and I was looking for a way of making money so I tried binary because it looked good. “And basically it was a big con, it didn’t work out and I lost a lot of money. I’ve ended up with a triple bypass, so that’s the impact it’s had on me.” There is also concern that students are falling victims to scam companies after gambling with their maintenance grants to “flip” their money, according to Action Fraud. The advice from police is that “if you don’t know the field, don’t get involved in it” as there are “so many rogue companies out there.” Which? carried out its own investigations into binary options companies and found evidence of “bad practice across the board”, with high pressure sales tactics and “unfair” terms and conditions. Jenni Allen, managing director at Which? Money, said: “We found for instance that people making a deposit had to invest up to forty times that deposit to even access their money again. “I think most worryingly found examples of where actual data being used was rigged by the company so your initial investments would return some form of profit in return but thereafter you would receive loss after loss.”

GOODFOOD TO BIN RESCUED

People eating snacks and dips

the food tucked into in Kilner jars filled with delicious goods as piccalilli, vegan chocolate mousse with a creamy tofu topping all was made from ingredients that would have otherwise been thrown away. Adam Handling launched Bean & Wheat in June to use surplus food from a kitchen of his nearby restaurant, The Frog E1. The Masterchef finalist wanted to help reduce around 199,000 tonnes of food waste produce each year by British restaurants, which he feels harms the environment but also “wastes money.”Adam Handling

Bean & Wheat’s dishes include salads made from unusual parts of vegetables, such as cauliflower stalks, pates made with off-cuts, and oils made with the tops of the herbs which are usually binned. Adam Handling reuses surplus food from the kitchen at his restaurant, the Frog E1. Mr Handling also makes his own compost from vegetable peelings, cold-pressed juices, misshapen fruit, and soap with coffee grounds. One of his priorities is to minimise food waste at restaurants to the point that we have hardly any,” he says. Bean & Wheat is one of a rising number of companies looking to tackle the issue of food waste, which sees a third of food produced for human consumption is lost or is wasted, according to UN’s Food and Agriculture Organisation. That’s equivalent to 1.3 billion tonnes globally every year. The overproduction of food, rules restricting sale of discoloured or “wonky” produce, and aversion to leftovers, despite being perfectly fine to eat are all to blame. So campaigners say not only is such waste morally wrong, it also wastes water and worsens global warming as swelling landfills emit more greenhouse gasses.Kilner jars at Bean and Wheat

Jenny Dawson Costa quit her job in the hedge fund industry in 2011 to launch Rubies in the Rubble, hoping to offer a practical solution to the problem. The British firm uses unwanted “ugly” fruit and veg from UK farms to make their condiments, such as pink onion, chilli relish, banana ketchup and piccalilli. Its products are available in 500 stockists, including Waitrose, Selfridges and independent stores. Ms Dawson says that since she started, the public has become more aware about the issue of food waste and more open to eating surplus food. “Many consumers used to be put off by it and were worried about the quality but I think that’s changing. Brands like ours are also showing it can be used in products that taste great,” she adds, noting that her firm has won several awards. Indeed, even major retailers are embracing the trend, with Tesco and Asda among those now stocking misshapen fruit and veg. More stories from BBC’s Business Brain series looking at interesting business topics from around the world.The firm's condiments are sold in Waitrose and Selfridges

Rubies in the Rubble’s products are sold in Waitrose and Selfridges. Others are taking a different approach to tackling problem, such as Danish tech company Too Good To Go. It is one of a number of new apps that allow customers to buy unsold food from the local restaurants, cafes and bakeries for knockdown prices. The firm works with more than 6,000 food businesses including Yo! Sushi and Exmouth Coffee Company, and operates in six countries including UK, Sweden and Germany. Co-founder Chris Wilson says it saved two million meals from the bin since its launch in June 2016, however the firm still has to fight against negative perceptions around surplus food. “Whilst there’s been a shift in the mentality of people, most people are sceptical vast majority of the UK still looks upon food waste as being scraps from people’s plates. With us it’s not that at all.”Jamie Crummie and Chris Wilson co-founded Too good to go. Trish Caddy, food industry analyst at Mintel believes though surplus food continues to be stigmatised. “Consumers demand that companies address food waste but currently do not translate it to own behaviour remains to be seen if trend goes mainstream soon.Too good to goShe points to a Mintel survey, which found that 77% of those who eat out or buy takeaways agree restaurants should be more committed to reducing food waste, but only 17% are interested in eating dishes made from food was due to be thrown away. Of course, the hospitality industry will not be able tackle problem of food waste alone. So manufacturers, retailers, importantly households as the biggest producers of food waste must all play their part, says UK charity Waste & Resources Action Programme. Mr Handling says every little helps and there are plenty of ways food businesses can contribute. They can incorporate more ‘nose-to-tail’ cooking, send anything that can’t be cooked to be composted, or find another way to use off-cuts and by-products, or donate leftovers to charities as some restaurants and supermarkets do. “It’s about taking a second to think ‘have I absolutely exhausted all possibilities with this ingredient?’ before throwing it away.” Famine and child starvation can be stopped by food alert centres and a delivery system that makes use of good food away. Supermarkets can be also encouraged to reset sell by and use by dates as perfectly good food is thrown away because computers programmed reject sales if good foods. Yet constantly restock with similar good foods only to be thrown away but cost of production is affecting the environment. A win win situation is to help people understand how long it takes to grow food so not to easily throw away good food without second thought. Those who grew up in ration years know value of such quality good foods unavailable in the past now in superabundance taken for granted.

OBSESSIVE SEX PARANOIA

ea7684f55c211010a61930ebddaf297a--health-guru-health-and-wellnessGalatians 5:24 in Bible says those who belong to Christ Jesus must crucify flesh with its passions and desires not to see the world only through sexual lenses. A paranoid personality disorder (PPD) is a mental disorder characterized by fear and situation of recurrent suspicion yet without justification, regarding sexual fidelity of spouse or sexual interaction of friends. This behaviour ruins that a family and damages relationships as the person is hyperalert constantly listening and looking for signs to convince them of obsessive thoughts. Normal sex organ for obsessive paranoia is used for abuse since sex sells society advertises it with products. It is a nightmare for paranoia as it triggers sex as bad memory they are always uptight and angry. With low self-esteem feel worthless so is pushing buttons to hurt people since they cannot have peace or be happy. Advertised sex images causes people to buy products so cars are advertised by seminaked blond women makes passion flow to purchase car advertised using sexual innuendos leading people to buy product. paranoidlargeWhether subtle sophistication, left to imagination or blatant in face sexual approach adverts in society saturate the mind by their endless images on the TV drama, conditions minds to think sexual thoughts. Longterm impact is world is viewed from such sexual perspectives. Freud said that mothers breastfeeding “have sexual intimacy” connotation with their children in his opinion causing oedipus complex. Such theories lead to these modern attitudes towards mothers for not being allowed to breastfeed in public. Breasts are seen as the object of sexual gratification than source of food. Body organ for passing urine is used more that way than used for having sex yet more associated with sex and birth canal in same manner is treated as exclusively a sexual organ. So much negative attitude is projected onto private parts causing terrified mothers not to and touch clean children’s private part. “Private” is exacerbated to include even wiping poo off the organ. Children are victimized by their parent’s memory triggered by sexual abuse so nurseries are under the pressure to clean without making any form of contact with child’s sexual organs. When the special needs under-developed children are not toilet trained yet aware of the names of body parts, they think that a normal cleaning process or dressing them means being “touched.” Reinforces words in the mind of a child under pressure and stressed to ensure they are never “touched” and “abused” as parents were molested in their childhood. This highlights misuse of normal function of organs is turned into a fearful weapon looking out for ‘predators’ on prowl to ‘defile’ children. b605d756fed629476fa88ad3260f7ad6--boderline-personality-disorder-borderline-personality-disorder-symptomsThe news is full of real life stories that creates are sad but the domino counter effect panic atmosphere of suspicion is damaging children. Genuine carers who do a great job are insulted that they are looking for sexual gratification in child while doing normal duty caring for the wet or soiled children. It’s inconceivable to integrity and reputation of genuine carer to stoop low trying to taint them with same brush of their past abuser. It is despicable to project the vile thoughts of guilty conscience as participants onto innocent children due to obsessive fear and paranoia of repeating history. And many innocent people have been hurt and lost valuable friends for support as a result of accusations. It is necessary to train children to have awareness of use of body parts yet it is also important to not overburden them with sexual use of organs. There are billions not interested in sex who do not live their lives only by sexual thoughts and intimate actions.IMG_20171025_154659PERSONALITY_parentingCompulsive behaviour leads to the low affection and harsh treatment thought wrongly as discipline. The majority of case studies show an inbred abuse sadly perpetrators others unaware of. Despite vulgar sexual language seen as normal jokes some people do not feel or want a sexual attraction experience. Rapidly growing website sprawling online hub of AVEN online community asexuals began to coalesce, and with the website came the journalists and academics curious about similar people. Research suggests you might know some asexual people, even if you don’t realise it. It’s estimated around 1percent of the UK population is asexual, even if they don’t define themselves as such. The criteria is never feeling a sexual attraction to anyone at all. A sociologist based at the University of Warwick first conducted research in asexuality in 2009. Finding the work fascinating has been exploring issues related to asexuality ever since. This research was initially concerned with asexual identity, asking how someone might come to identify as asexual, but I soon realised that we can’t understand why the identity “asexual'” has emerged without looking at broader cultural attitudes relating to asexuality identity. Conducted research study into thoughts and feelings of asexuals was surprised how similar the experiences were of the roughly 200 people who took part. They were all different in so many ways, but were united in having been made to feel there was something fundamentally wrong with them because they didn’t experience sexual attraction. They felt “weird” “broken” “fucked up” phrases came up time and time again. So people who genuinely cared about thought it was them that made them feel that way for not wanting sex. Some parents laughed at those who told them was asexual and still, to this day, don’t seem to believe it.IMG_20171025_154444mental-illness-paranoia-ocd-9-728In the end time, 144,000 virgins sealed by God in Israel are men Chosen from 12 tribes who will not experience sex as party of their role in life. Non perverted in mind permeating other minds with fear and negative thoughts of natural body for urine associated as sex object onto the next generations. Obsessives turn pure good thoughts into suspicious obsessive paranoia fearing sexual abuse of innocent people. Sometimes directed to hurt people who truly care about them attacking them of sleeping with partner etc. because as a man thinks so is he. So bad they do not accept responsibility to seek therapy to deal with guilty anger root of defilement plaguing them. Most friends abandoned such people constantly being accused of intimacy with their man. Or accused of ulterior motives for supporting them is draining emotionally so left them. Their toxic controlling behaviour intimidates and frightens people. Their intolerance for frustration makes slaves out of the people who help them. Their behaviour towards children is so appalling jealous of own children’s happiness. Personality disorders are worse if both partners are people with personlity disorders. BIG_5_PDs_Agreeableness

Hypersexualization oversexualisation of young children plants seeds of their sexualization by early sexualization or precocious sexualizisation. Normal hugs for oxytocin or riding horses on back of children is depicted or treated as sexual objects of interaction. An uptight family is explosive so that the healthy normal nonsexual playing body contact seen is frowned upon for fear it may proceed into sexuality inappropriate action. This is imposed through media, marketing or products directed at them encouraging them to think of adult sexual ways. It is necessary to protect young children by awareness, sexy poses, girls dressing up and dancing porn-style to favourite pop star’s adult lyrics. So obsessive paranoia hypersexualization from TV web trigger constant fear being projected onto the innocent people. Hypersexualisation  by the widespread use of Internet, phones and other communication devices make it commonplace. It affects those who already have inclination to be obsessed with sexual thoughts. The irony is often the accuser are the one having sex and having children conditioned but turn around to point accusing fingers at the ones leading their lives with dignity. It is important to seek anger management, talking therapy for 5 years to clear head of the negative effects of bad memories. And keep a journal to write down such thoughts and learn how to deal with the thoughts to overcome them long-term.  

Therapy Needs to Address

Criticism. Stop criticism of partner and others habitually for you are attacking their personality. Over time, this breeds resentment, stop constantly criticising others as it becomes a huge problem. It is not surprising everyone steers clear after a while of taking so much nose up snobbery and derogatory rudeness. No one is perfect in life so stop harassing people with your insecurities and fears projected on them needlessly. Deal with your inner negative thoughts and stop blaming everyone and everything on those who genuinely cares about you.

Contempt. This is makes it impossible to please you so recognise if consistently looking down on partner, is dismissive, constantly rolling eyes at what the other says, mocking them, sarcastic, sneering at partner and others, this means seeing them as “less than.” Contempt closely follows loss of respect so learn the value of mutual respect not be always right.

Defensiveness and Anger If you can’t talk to one another because one or both of you are defensive and angry this is a problem because you won’t be listening to another’s point of view so over time, switch off. Communication is the key to working on relationship problems and without that you cannot get anywhere. Defensiveness leads to “blame” where each person is lashing out in defence: “You did this,” “Yes, but you did that” so indignant everything is a battle. You’re so busy defending yourself nothing gets resolved. Stop attacking people and get a correct perspective on your life. Give each other space and time to talk, listen to sort things out. Life is not a cul-de-sac only about you so learn to give and take respect with consideration for others. 

Cold Shoulder Take stock to think and reflect on your actions retreat to clear head, talk not just block other person. It is good to hear what is being said, either not afraid to deal directly and honestly with people. The person given the cold shoulder trying to talk to the other often is ignored because feels always right. So may try to trigger a row to get the other to react and talk. It results in an awful atmosphere and can eventually make the person being attacked afraid to have any sort of discussion because they are afraid of the silent treatment. This shuts down communication or reconciliation. In extreme cases medical intervention is required if issues are associated with post partum psychosis or any clinical depression. Persistent anger reacting against others has underlying deeper issues of anger projected on others must be dealt in long-term counselling.

 

SAD WINTER DEPRESSION

171629_20140102_170028_timeSeasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) used to affect me so badly at times I was in bed for days. Also known as the ‘winter depression’ is exacerbated by loss and grief, pain to become unfit and unwell not very actively doing any work for all such reasons or no particular reasons. I did not feel like bubbly self but wanted the curtains drawn during the daytime. I became unwell at times bed ridden for days. It happened consistently for years until my doctor told me about SAD as a condition that affects people during the cold months of transition from summer to winter. The body feels changes in the weather so responds in a different way making people feel sad, down, anxious and depressed. These changes happen so some people dread winter months of returning to work, school in September. Autumn to Winter shorter, colder days seem like a gloomy prospect. Autumn can worsen anxiety and depression as experts say, so why does it affect us and can we beat the blues. I discovered the reason was less Sunshine means less light affects brain parts that control mood swings when it is colder too. Some few people manage to escape into hot zones during winter months for a while. But few people are privileged to escape harsh cold winter. It affects people if too busy to take care of self in a healthy way. Being too busy doing too many things to manage own personal life due to the other demands on time and attention given others often seen as more urgent than own personal needs for quality time. Any yes person understands that trying to help others mostly in crises after waiting too long drains the mind and sometimes too late to seek help. During such times can feel obliged to jump in at deep end to rescue others until one has a burn out.01_Silent_signs_seasonal_depression_disorder_SAD_good_zzs_yanyong Realise doing so for years means hardly any time left to meet personal needs. Its really SAD that awoke me to change my lifestyle to be able to stay healthy to overcome SAD moments consistently. I discovered solutions that help deal with SAD by increasing light, strong light is helpful to provide similar effects of the Sunshine light. Special halogen lamp helps body to adapt to mood changes and mood swings as the light and heat combined transforms the brain. It is important to open the curtains to get Sunlight and fresh air. To wear a winter clothing suitable for the weather rather than about fashion and image. It is necessary to wear good soled shoes with foot warmer insoles to protect the feet from cold affecting brains neurons connected to the feet. A warm feet and hands, face equals good moods so cover up well in winter clothing. Although the Sun seems bright it is not really hot as in the summer months. If indoors and getting up to dress for the outdoors remember indoor room temperature is warmer so do not dress by indoor warm temperatures. Carry a spare clothings for any unpredictable changes in the weather to be safe than sorry. Be aware of the fabrics best for winter clothing and wear them earlier in Autumn than wait for coldest winter. This changed my life as body preserves summer heat throughout into winter not waiting for freezing cold months to put on warm clothes. My body and feet even sweat in winter as if still summer days. I am active in winter again eating healthier hot foods to keep my body temperature up. I ensure my sleep improves by time routine structure. My sleep pattern gets better by a set room conditions adapted to let body wind down to sleep better. insomnia2-1038x576If not mind becomes fogged by lack of sleep, red eyes, inability to focus. Extra effort is required make changes to get better results, rest, rest, rest from exhaustion, tiredness, fatigue, stress, pressure, noise pollution, fuels SAD. Distract yourself by playing crosswords, puzzles to improve brain muscles. If not on any emergency standby call of duty it is wise to switch phone off at night. Tell all people to call you only at certain times unless it is an urgent call, cut down the online time to give your brain rest. If the work entails online duties cut down on the personal browsing for “fun” as mind overworked does not get rest to replenish brain cells and the tissues vital for your well-being. Resist urge to stay sloppy, unkempt unwashed, not getting out of bed with the curtains drawn in your comfort zone. Even if cannot afford hot bath daily, top and tail and change clothes. Do not let yourself drift into an oblivion by pity party feeling sorry for yourself. Invite people over to force you to make effort to do something, ask for help, maintain your home and ask any friends to bring meals to share. Bake or buy good meals to share, charities are serving food and food banks are helping help yourself. So important not to let life overwhelm you. A good friend surprised the depressed friend with this homemade cake though not valentine day to cheer friend up. IMG_20170701_214235340

Do not be so private or proud to isolate yourself and hide because you do not feel good, it only gets worse until some cannot leave the house for years. Go out frequently and spend quality time at home to rest. Its these combinations of outdoors and indoors that helps you to get better. Volunteer, if you have no job at the moment, offer to help neighbours to run errands for them, etc and get joy of building others up its a great healer of mood swings. As you step outside self to focus on others you bring joy to them and yourself. In turn, no more isolated, so belong to a choir, music group other community support project help change moods. Take good quality vitamins to boost body’s energy level performance in winter months especially. Rest is very important to continue feeling better and emotionally stronger. Tell your friends and family about these changes asking them to help you keep up with the new plans you put in place. Exercise helps and keeping healthy friends to support you maintain changes is wonderful. You may help some improve their mood too. In extreme cases of clinically depressed people, doctors help with medication to lift the moods. So do not tough it out by yourself alone, seek help as I did years ago to share the results with you. If you have underlying deep-rooted causes of depression talking therapy or cognitive behaviour therapy required depending on issues dealt with. Remember to give place to God in Christ in life as it makes life easier to bear assured of eternal life.today-is-the-right-timeAs the weather is here to stay you must prepare to be able to function without blaming the weather. In fact changes in the weather is essential for carbon cycle regeneration so work with the weather not against it. “Every year I tell myself this is the last winter I can do in the UK,” says Cal Strode, 25, who lives in London and has seasonal affective disorder (SAD), a condition can bring on low moods and depression during autumn and winter. “It’s already starting to look darker and colder, and is when I tend to feel low and lack energy.” SAD affects about one in 15 people in UK between the months of September and April, according to the NHS. For more serious sufferers, it can prevent people from functioning normally during the autumn and winter months and is thought to be caused by lack of light, as well as other factors such as colder temperatures and the return to normal routines. Anxiety UK, a mental health charity, also says it expects to receive more calls to its helpline in September saying far fewer people contact the charity about anxiety and depression when the sun is shining.

‘My mood dropped’

Cal, who works for the Mental Health Foundation charity, was diagnosed with SAD six years ago when he was studying abroad in the US. “I was in San Diego and went home for Christmas, when suddenly my mood dropped and it felt like I had no energy to do anything,” he says. “It was supposed to be a happy time with my family and celebrations but I was staying in bed until the late afternoon.” With SAD, the lack of light is thought to affect the part of the brain that rules sleep and energy levels. As September looms, Cal plans to spend 45 minutes a day next to a light box to alleviate his symptoms, but admits finding the time can be uphill struggle. “Even on the way to work this week I thought this is such a beautiful day and my mood was so uplifted by it,” he says.A lunch on a pile of notepads, back to school

Back to school

Even for people without the disorder, September can be a difficult time as school starts and workplaces get busier. Added to this, the weather worsens, days get shorter, and it is a long wait until the next bank holiday over Christmas. “We see it every year; summer really does impact people’s moods,” says Nicky Lidbetter, chief executive of Anxiety UK. “People feel more resilient and able to cope when the sun is shining,” says Ms Lidbetter. “Summer is a time when it’s a more relaxed atmosphere in general, there is less traffic on the roads, it’s not as structured.” Autumn can leave us “pining that summer is gone”, she says, especially if any grand plans failed to materialise. “Even if we left school a long time ago, September feels like a time to be more serious and that can instil a sense of anxiety,” she says. But it is not all bad psychologists say we thrive on routine since it brings about structure and offers us a chance to be around people. “After a period of relaxation there’s the stress of a new academic year, or work getting busy, but also healthy routines and habits,” says Dr Sherylin Thompson, a counselling psychologist. “It can be worse if you’re feeling stuck in the routine, and haven’t got a choice, but it can be a chance to change things.” She suggests preparing for September by picking a new challenge or vowing not to give up on a hobby or activity you did during summer. “Keep up health habits, keep up socialising that would usually revive you in good company,” she says. Clinical psychologist Dr Camilla Rosan from Mental Health Foundation adds: “Over the summer people go on lots of holidays and they aren’t always around, now’s an opportunity to see friends.” She recommends planning days in advance, including going to the gym and seeing people. “When the days are shorter, it is important to make a clear routine about when we’re going to fit in exercise, get to the gym, see our friends,” she says. “The weather and light might be stopping us from going outdoors, but stuck at home when it’s dark and dismal into opportunity.” Cal makes an effort to eat well and avoid comfort food during the autumn and winter months. “Some days I don’t feel like I have the energy to cook, and you can crave fast foods high in fat and carbohydrates,” he says. “I’ll try to spend time over the weekends making something like a big bean stew that will last throughout week it is not sunshine but it helps.” Recognise features of this condition affects extreme behaviours or perfectionist tendencies from childhood so deal with the root causes of anxiety. Woman in a forest with autumnal treesListen to advise from the therapist to clarify thoughts in yout head. Not eating properly means losing weight which is very low for any healthy size suitable for you. Do not be angry if people say you are thin and be offended. Check if daily performances gets worse and worse and more more isolated to a point you identify not ok and not yourself anymore to completely lose yourself. Admitting issues helps to solves problems before it gets worse. Do not hide away and refuse to see anybody and stay in the bedroom thinking people are ashamed of you. Even in the depths of struggles set life goals to qualify and achieve a better you. Do not spent years trying to avoid to speaking anyone or be fluctuating in thought so not happy in yourself. Get a therapist at any point and start working through older issues that you may not realise exist affecting you. Deeper issues will be unravelled so things you never knew existed in your head to overcome anxiety depression. Clear your head and do not be forever angry and bitter, hot tempered, easily offended, narcissistic control freak, highstrung, uptight and explosive, raging inconsiderate temper tantrums, hysterical negative temperament anxiously living in fear and confused in thought. Do not be hyper alert feeling like being judged, on trial, scrutinized etc even fof helpful advise and support that enhances your welbeing. It is important not to project hurts or pain to those around because you blame all except yourself for all problems. Set long term and short life goals to achieve, be committed, disciplined, firm, filled with confidence. Understand the fickleness of human relationship require personal selfcontrol and tolerance. Search the meaning of your life to understand life on deeper level. Enjoy life, stay humble, encourage yourself in the Lord like King David did in his most formative years whether a young man or woman or adult. Remember, that the most permanent influences shaping your worldview is priceless quality time growing up in family. Do not become paranoid, shattered in the maelstrom of vengeful anger. Do not humiliate those who care or help you be strong when criticised. It is good to learn to survive on wits to develop emotional toughness not victim mentality but independence of thought. Reflect on ability to listen to other points of view without necessarily bowing to all of them. Learn to enjoy errors pointed out but not swayed too much by that. God corrects those HE LOVES so stand corrected and do not be obsessive about being always right. Just because so-and-so says something does not start weighing cost and benefit to lose appetite over it. Give in to good helpful advise to build you up. The Bible says give advise to a wise person and they thank you and become wiser. Give advise to a fool and he will hate you so choose your words carefully knowing when to apply golden rule in life at all times show kindness to even those who misunderstand your motives because you do things unto the LORD.

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