HIGHLY EDUCATED STUPID?

051a9879c98b9715605584256aeb1a99c50c6a-wmThis outrageous statement is brought to our attention through debate by people discussing the direction of the world. It was argued George Orwell and Pascal, among great achievers and influencers never went to university yet successful. Some points made include these facts as follows: that education restricts natural wisdom and insists on compliance and conformity of students. One size fits all curriculum is not designed to promote natural skills, talents or abilities rather imposes views and propaganda agenda of a dominant culture. Regardless of the relevance of education to each student its compulsory to study pass assessed on league table to determine course of career. Generalised syllabus is market driven for sales and profit for lucrative exam boards which is another factor. So government funding based on category of subjects considered for grants means schools must present candidates for the courses without teachers and resources to qualify for allowance for the budget. Children’s subjects imposed on them for the sake of keeping up appearances but their certificates registered ‘failed’ even though hardly taught subjects. A school size matters too so their population size determines the amount school receives. Children incapable of reading, spelling, communicating by up to date academic standard copy subjects not taught so it seems performance is excellent in their school report. Teachers do performance related but struggle with children below average forced to learn. Exceptionally gifted talented children suffer because time for lessons too limited to motivate them at their level. Some are bored and lose interest or are homeschooled by a parent giving up career to teach them. It is the context of such extreme cases that frustrate students that they become an educated person. Hoping to get a job to earn income or take loans to continue higher and further education. Despite a life choice in either direction education is still not considered enough to meet all needs of everyone in society. The elite view is that education is the key to life to solve all problems. nelsonmandela1Get so cross when others don’t take such view of education as they do due to a sense of entitlement. People talk of culture of entitlement by those who live on benefits but the elite has its own entitlement culture. They think because they studied at particular University or a specific subject it means they understand the world better than a ‘plebeians.’ They think they are superior so their view should prevail. They also think they are morally superior because they hold views they are told, virtuous. Anyone who appears not to subscribe to these views considered a sinner or else appallingly misled by some other evil force. It is outrageous to elite works of “devil” should prevail against them. It is they who are virtuous so knows best as the chosen ones. Their views or ideas they impose on others they expect and intend to prevail whether society likes it or not. This basic fundamental belief is the construct of education as if every other culture is tabula rasa non-existent blank society waiting to be civilised. It is such condescending biased views some responses complained damages diverse cultures in society. Jefferson-education-768x476Forced, suppressed and the subdued by compulsory subjects to tow the line of only civilised society. History is always written by victors from their point of view portraying victims as perpetrators. Underlying fear is that subdued cultures will find way to overcome suppression to make new life for themselves without total dependence on dominant culture. Their economies will collapse because other cultures are the extension of their market place. Without selling good to such cultures will be limited in growth. Secondly, resources exploited from this cultures will not be available if they can process and sell it directly to each other without the middleman meddling with their minds and paying them with old rustic weapons to fight and kill each other. The study of some subjects never come up int classroom way down at the bottom of the curriculum. There is not enough weeks in the year to reach the subject deliberately fixed in the holiday months. Disparity of one-way education limits an appropriate knowledge of the dominant culture who despise and lack understanding “plebeians.” benjaminfranklin1-2xDerogatory attitude towards the other culture, insults treating them as inferior permeates society. Causes frustration of younger generations made to think they will improve their lot in life through an education. It is worse after education because theory does not match reality in life worst of all now heavily indebted without jobs. Irony is billionaires have free accommodations, free perks or free fares to fly globally to spend allowance given them in free hotels paid for. And the compulsory educated look on while it seems provisions are readily available for certain elites of society from their taxes paid. Worst of all the least treated are original owners of wealth misused and flaunted in their faces. How does an elite class indulging in luxury expect the starving hungry ‘plebeian’ servant class running up and down to fulfill all their egotistical demand and tantrum wishes to feel? Is too much to ask to live and let live to agree to disagree? Go to remotest hovel on planet earth and TV is there, fresh clean spring water rejected for the unhealthy fizzy sugary drink, packaged canned food preferred to a rich natural local nourishment in the name modern sophistication. Free milk ban in schools led to fizzy drink increasing allergies. ekhaya-ekasiWomen must consulted for an inclusive policy to benefit familes, disabled and all sectors of society. Education cannot be just to enrich a few powerful men in power to waste resources only on their wants at the expense of all people. The everyday reports shows people’s health damaged by junk food published in data and statistics by many nutrition boards. Environment is destroyed by persistent distorted belief a privilged few deserve the best in life. Others flabbergasted like cargo cult want imported things best to consume than grow their local produce. Unless agricultural students or a family business, farm producing poultry, cattle milk etc. most educated want to sit by computer all day. They sincerely believe educated people must never do the blue colour jobs. Billions all over the world are waiting and hoping for day things will automatically fall into place so they will become rich like those they aspire to be like. They do not realise the most successful people spend years on shop floor learning skills, doing odd jobs and perfecting crafts before breakthroughs. Many strongly think preposterous ideas, flaunted on a social media followed by a lots of people suddenly turns to millions dollars to make them rich. Look to a few making billions misguided and misled by online money scams. Rich offshore accounts of hidden wealth of the rich is grown by a pyramid scheme investors creating debts for the young who want such expensive things free too. alberteinstein1-2xSome think expensive products with the glamorous packaging thrown away is a better quality. This misnomer is driving society geared it towards AI robots and a driverless car creating unemployment due to fear middle classes will take over to control society. Perpetually subdue, stress put under pressure mental health sleepless nights on medication driven to suicide because of policies harassing citizens. What is good for the goose is not obviously good for the gander with low pay for the women doing equal jobs it seems education has a lot to learn from society to fix itself. It seems Jesus’ words of that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer is played right before our eyes. It is as if licence is given to the rich to go all the way out to exploit the poor to humiliate to fulfil the prophecy of Jesus. Jesus the OWNER of all wealth will hold educated elite rich to account for how they managed and shared HIS WEALTH.  Projects enrich wealthy who can afford to pay while people deemed less in society on scandalous zero hour contract or work hard but go to food banks for food. They deliberately kill off society softly keeping wealth for greedy privileged few. The world is soon going to be over elite need to reconsider their views towards God’s priceless humans created treated badly. Read Revelations 19:15-19 describing the consequences of mistreatment of plebeians by the highly educated who consistently maintain the structures that affects people. They may not value them but are Highly Valued by God their CREATOR. Fear of lacking resources drives many to deprive others but remember God Owns it all. Why will you gain the whole world and perish by losing your soul to material things that cannot be taken out of this world. Yet is going to be used by God to judge people for not sharing material things totally useless in heaven or hell depending on destination. Intelligence in not enough because education is one component of life among other factors: family matters, child or elderly care, health, neighbours and finances. More years are spend on education but untrained to handle long-term life issues concerning others.bertrandrussell1-2x

In 1999 in publication of David Dunning and Justin Kruger the psychologists had noticed in prior studies that areas like reading comprehension, playing chess, driving car, blissful ignorance is falsely confident more than a knowledgeable. Cornell University conducts experiment on effect showing less competent people overestimate their own skills and don’t recognize when other’s superior skills. It requires competent skills to produce a right answer to recognize right answers in life. Smart people listen attentively to consider argument before any decision.

3. Stupid people react by aggressive anger 

The smartest people do get angry from time to time but for the less intelligent people its go-to reaction if things aren’t going their way. Loss of control over a situation tends to use angry aggressive behavior to secure their view. Research by University of Michigan studying 600 participants with parents and children, over 22 years found distinct correlation between aggressive behaviour and the lower IQ-score. The researchers wrote in their elaboration: “We hypothesized low intelligence made learnt aggressive responses more likely at early age, and this aggressive behaviour continued so an intellectual development difficult.”750124-Neal-Stephenson-Quote-The-difference-between-stupid-and (1)

4. Stupid people ignore needs feelings of others  

Intelligent people tend to be very good at empathizing with others. This makes it easy for them to understand another person’s point of view. Russel James of the Texas Tech University conducted a representative study with thousands of Americans and found out that people with a higher IQ are more inclined to give without expecting anything in return. As it turns out, an intelligent person is better at assessing the needs of other people and also more likely to want to help them. “People with higher cognitive ability able to understand and fulfill needs of distant others.” People less smart have a hard time imagining people think differently than them so disagree with them. A concept of doing things for others without expecting a favour in return is foreign to them. It’s completely normal, human, important to keep balance between need to pursue our goals but consider other’s feelings.

5. Stupid people think better than all

Intelligent people motivate and help others because they are not afraid of being overshadowed. They have healthy level of confidence and smart enough to accurately assess own competence. The stupid people on the other hand tend to badmouth others in order to look better themselves. They believe they are above everyone else so always quick to judge. Prejudice is not a sign of intelligence. A Canadian “Psychological Science” study by two scientists at Brock University of Ontario found “those with low IQs tend more in favour of harsh punishments, more homophobic and more likely to be racist.” Many biologists believe human ability to cooperate is instrumental to our overall development. It means the most important signifier of intelligence is being good at working with others.

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David Dunning and Justin Kruger 1999 Psychologists, Smart and Stupid people, University of Michigan.

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CATFISH SCAMS UNMASKED

Alex Hobern on The CircleThe Circle’s TV social experiment shows Alex Hobern became ‘Kate’ and won the £75.000 reward. Three weeks indoors so contacts others by an instant messaging only.   to be themselves or catfish to pretend to be someone else to test the theory of how people see others online through social media. The circle tenants lived in close proximity on same tower block but not allowed to physically meet until after blocked elimination. And the docudrama reality TV was watched by the public who voted to select a winner. The media project highlights the online conundrum of people pretending to be a picture of another person to impress a potential date to love them. The admirer genuinely thinks the person is who they claim to be and falls in love with them. It leads to game playing with a victim’s emotions who trusts the photo image so much they invest their love, passion and interest to marry them. Once the victim is ” hooked” it leads to constant requests from catfish to provide the needs of the virtual partner in love with. So genuine desire of unsuspecting victim’s emotion played on by virtual partner influences them into deeper commitment and the urgent need to meet physically. The one duping the victims makes up stories to trick the innocent person truly in love with them. People are tricked to think they are speaking to a female or a man if its a woman. Scammer requests bank details, address, pin number pretending to share multi million inheritance with their victim. Another person revealed himself to be a man, blackmailed and threatened to kill parents coerced Ben to send sexual images performing sex acts live over video chat. Felt helplessfrom a man for three weeks pretending to be a girl, finds out information about every part of his life,” Ben’s father told Victoria Derbyshire programme, knew his family, nans, brothers, sisters and the school Ben went to. Everything they find used as information to manipulate him. The images and videos sent by Ben to the man was shared with five other men, who bombarded Ben with further demands. He felt so helpless and didn’t know what to do his father said. He is a different child now but did not know why. After two years meeting demands, Ben attempted to take his life leading the abuse to be uncovered. The main perpetrator was later jailed for four-and-a-half years so be warned and alert.

Alex Hobern on The CircleCHANNEL 4 constructed a whole new personality participants complete with a new face and new gender to show the viewers how this unfolds in real life. So  try to pretend to be another person for whole three weeks to group of strangers only met through an app. Every move is filmed and broadcast to the nation as a developed concept of big brother. Well that’s what Alex Hobern did on Channel 4 reality show The Circle won himself £50,000 in the process voted the winner by fellow contestants, and winning an extra £25,000 in the public vote. A brief recap for those who didn’t watch is the contestants were asked to create social media profile complete with biography and profile pictures and could either be themselves or massage the truth. Of the original six contestants, one woman knocked a few years off her age and one gay man pretended to be straight, but only Alex chose to take on a completely new identity. Some people criticised The Circle, saying it promoted the catfishing creating false persona to trick others online especially as Alex as “Kate” built up a close friendship with fellow finalist Dan Mosaku. A social media comedian Alex, 26, used girlfriend Millie’s picture to pose as Kate, told the BBC that wasn’t how he saw it. So in his own words, he explains his “rollercoaster” experience.

Alex/Kate’s story

I decided to detach myself from looks and my personality to create popular person I could. I could have been a guy, but I thought ‘let’s explore something different.’ I thought it will be interesting to be a woman on social media and look at the issues that brings. First of all I was going to use a model’s picture, but my girlfriend pointed out I’d need to talk about picture with conviction. Its completely her idea to use the picture. It helped me to have a more compelling story. It started off that I was trying to create the most popular person, but it developed into wanting to raise the awareness of social media fake identity. My audience is young, impressionable and so I thought The Circle was a safe environment to explore as we were told there would be people saying they are something they’re not. But when I was in there, that idea got lost quite quickly.Alex/ KateAlex use girlfriend’s photo to pretend to be Kate because when you’re stuck in a room for three weeks and you’ve only got eight people to talk to, you build up relationships with people. You forget they might be fake. After a while it does not matter because you’re interested in their personality. I was really wishing Christopher, actually 22-year-old called Sinead who used granddad’s photo, into existence. I think people felt that way about Kate. The personality was initially made up. I wrote myself a bio and tried to stick to it but I realised I was woefully underprepared. Like for example when Aiden a female contestant talked about snatching her eyebrows, I had no clue what she meant. And then we had to debate certain topics, like Brexit. I had my own views, and I’ve got a degree in politics, but I didn’t want to be belittling or patronising, so I played it safe.Alex Hobern and girlfriend Millie LoganAlex with his girlfriend Millie whose pictures provided the face of made-up character Kate. The same happened with some of the questions about sexual stuff. I thought ‘I built boring character, she can’t have a sexy side’ but everyone else thought I was just on the fence. So I found the whole situation mentally draining. I lost my appetite, ended up second-guessing everything I was writing on the app. I realised everything I said counted towards my rating. There were a few times I thought ‘I’ve had enough now, I’m going home to my family’. And it was difficult thinking the UK public might be against me, and Millie might have been exposed to the hype and the criticism. So I just thought ‘stuff it, I’m going to be myself now.’ I started having fun and I went up in the ratings against contestants to give each other marks out of five. Towards the end I think people figured something out and realised Kate’s personality had changed but they can’t have known the extent of it. I never wanted to glorify catfishing. In a safe environment we’d been told people might be fake. To me, catfishing is emotional manipulation but I played a fake character. I’ve been catfished myself before and I wanted to raise awareness of it in a controlled, social experiment. I had tried to protect Dan by friend-zoning him but I had to try to protect my game plan too. He may be a woman himself, for all I knew.Dan, a contestant on The Circle.Dan found himself getting closer to Kate who was really Alex. I was so nervous to meet him at the end of the series and was almost desperate for him to be my friend. We had to sit together in a small room alone for 35 minutes, which was one of the most challenging things I’ve had to do. The pair since met up for lunch and smoothed over the situation. It’s still not sunk in I won. I went into the final, thinking fellow finalist Sian had been top of the table to win. And when it came to public vote, I thought ‘I’m playing someone fake’ so I thought I had no chance. But winning showed me my personality as me after four weeks of being fake had been noticed.

Show’s psychologist says:

The TV psychologist Honey Langcaster-James worked with Channel 4 on the series as it was aired and on The Circle Uncovered, being broadcast on Tuesday at 10.25pm. She said the series showed those who weren’t being truthful ended up feeling guilty “when they realised a real human being was on the other end of the screen.”Finalists on Channel 4's The CircleContestants Dan, Sian, Alex and Freddie react to the news there will be a public vote during the final. “There was a real inner tension for Alex, between playing the game and grappling with the moral dilemma of doing that as he got closer to players,” she said. “But interestingly, Alex’s popularity as a player grew when he started being himself more. “I think it shows that as much as you set out to show this version of yourself on social media, people connect with you more when they know the real you that you think and feel.” She said, public voted for Alex to win because they saw the “journey” he went on during the show, and realised his deception “wasn’t being done maliciously in The Circle as Alex Hobern became ‘Kate.’ This experiment teaches people don’t depend on words from online “doctored characters” who con trusting innocent people linked to organised crime human trafficking. Do not give money to catfish scammers who dupe victims badly and disappear with money so learn from TV Circle.Alex Hobern on The CircleMany people lost millions dollars through manipulations of catfish so necessary to learn from TV Circle how social media affects lives. It’s interesting the older woman who pretended to be a young had a gut feeling about Kate and warned Dan in vain. Dan preferred to alert Kate of his suspicion but Kate reassured him there was no problem. This classic mistake gives feedback to catfish to convince victim harder and to dupe them more. Kate won’t have won without the emotional investment of Dan who truly trusted Kate’s words. This goes on daily online with scam letters, catfish photos used to deceive people to lure them to part with money to ‘help meet up’ and consolidate the relationship. Sadly damaged reputation of some online dating that hurt people badly who lost their lifetime savings. They lost trust in genuine people who date them later, as effects and scars of their loses is often projected onto them. Be careful and be aware not to make life commitment by the virtual photo of catfish. Dan learned the hard way just as many realised they were conned by men pretending to be women to dupe them. Some insecure about their size, weight, shape also use catfish to pretend to be a model or use a photo of another famous person online to deceive victim. Scam is revealed after they physically meet and see they do not look like photo used online. Others never find catfish scammer changing identity daily like chameleon to dupe people. Tell friends about potential relationships and listen to gut feelings of friends. Do not wear a love goggle blinded by manipulations to refuse to see sense to save yourself from online scam pain and hardships. 

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MONEY CHARMS TO BE RICH

Money charms to become rich is the trend some people use to get quick gratification in life. Love of money for vanity to buy material things is concept sold by capitalist as source of happiness and status. This idea affects people’s ego to compete so seen with latest gadgets, latest fashion, latest clothes, cars even if unemployed. Bondage yoke materialism puts some people under pressure to conform so accepted by peers in clicks or gangs. Mistake material possession is equal to value of life so lack of material things, “dehumanize” them so acquire it through dubious mean at cost of others. Its bizarre the least hard-working wants most expensive things due to jealousy and envy, laugh at those living humbly within their means. People perish for lack of knowledge. So paradigm shift to acquire wealth by any means necessary causes brilliant people to lose focus, not concentrate on skills, talents, abilities, to earn genuine honest income. Love of money for lust misguides some to look for such money sources instantly to fit into constantly changing trends. Martin Luther King Jr. said, “people be judged by CONTENTS OF THEIR CHARACTER” not by skin tone, class, race or fashion labels, price tags left on garments to show off brand. Martin Luther’s points out damage done to people not treated fairly. Some actively involved in money charm scams, due to pride, arrogance of entitled generation seeing themselves above “working class” reject physical normal jobs involving sweating or toil. So impatient want everything yesterday without knowing or understanding of principles of how long things take to be made and costs. Live in the moment, to be permanently high, enjoying life seen from their perspective as having fun. Its unrealistic pressure to own only latest constantly in fashion, cars, gadgets that lead to evil lifestyle bondage conscience obsessed to impress others to get Street credit. School textbook topics teach the capitalist model influencing young minds advertising sales contents shops calculate maths and English lessons etc. Compare old textbooks with classrooms disguised market generation shoppers. Money spending preoccupation has no ethics to save money, wait, earn enough to buy things NEEDED without instant loans or credit cards. Free access to money creates debt for people deluded by things of the world, grass is greener keeping up with Jones. Live this lifestyle for years but still empty because of void in heart. Look for fulfilment in wrong places, vulnerable to wiles of deception and entrapment into bondage. People struggling with self-worth taught to get self-worth from how much money they earn equals power. Grow up see others getting self-esteem from earning money. With lack of money, face life of struggle, end up feeling ashamed and humiliated for not enjoying the glamorous luxury lifestyle of others flaunted on TV and in newspapers. So see sophisticated luxury lifestyle of slavery and colonial masters enjoying wealth resources usurped copy lifestyle they cannot afford. Others feel they deserve to take back what the devil stole from them by exploitation resort to such methods. All wealth belongs to God so people are stewards entrusted with God’s wealth to provide for all. Do not seek vengeance on capitalists who dupe, hide billions, reward themselves in luxury. God owns all wealth so God’s business to deal with them, leave it for God Jehovah Jireh to provide for you in Jesus Name. Wealth will not save people as Jesus returns to judge they will throw wealth in caves trying to hide from God.  

The Bible says in last days people will go to and fro in wrong places looking for happiness and enjoyment to feel good about themselves. People want an unrealistic virtual lifestyle not real life existence within God’s will and plans or purpose. Love of money is root of ALL evil as Bible says leading these innocent people to sell souls to spiritualists, witch doctors to get instant money. Money has conditions attached, destroy themselves or others initiated. Innocent people are victims in bondage as the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy. So naive, greedy children lured into dark forces by a love of money not realising they get into evil satanism too late. So devil goes for best people’s destiny to destroy and disgrace the family. Ironically, families sacrifice to provide needs so lack nothing from a good home with loving parents, orphan, divorced, widows, poor given all family has. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is met beyond basic necessity so live in luxury but bored, restless seek illusion to have fun in wrong places, entangle lives with the forces beyond control. accompanied by nightmares, evil spirits follow them daily to torment them. Seek deliverance since they got more than they bargained for. Money charms continue working by demanding human sacrifice blood to keep potency or lose everything. They do not become rich or established with charmed money, spend it recklessly as instructed to buy clothes, shoes, drink, smoke, do drugs live a lustful lifestyle. Gain the whole world but lose their soul to devil tormenting them changing rules demand to control them gets worse and deeper in marine initiation meeting satan who gives assignment to kill loved ones and relatives for money. So money contaminates real money causing loss to genuine money mixed with money in bank saving through purchases. So evil spirit money in shops changed sends original money back into evil wallet. So empty coffers of hard-earned money people have. Necessary for good success by entrusting money into God’s HANDS to protect your finances in Jesus Name. Jesus warned there will be lawlessness lack of respect for parents, family in-laws without fear of offending people. The witchdoctor initiation controls their minds secret life is hidden from family members. Loved ones from good family targeted by friends who recruit initiate them. Quantification of the value of life lures people under pressure to destroy others to make satan happy with their pain. As pawns, realise their mistake so run to God for help after coming to their senses. Go down a destructive path, lose friends who died recognise they are next unless urgently delivered in Jesus Name. This time evil spirits fights and struggles with them not to seek help because evil spirits will be cast out. To denounce evil spirit seek deliverance from a deliverance church. Jesus came to destroy all works of devil to DELIVER people from all destruction. Find pastors who deliver you without charging money. Give thanks and Glory to God, Jesus Christ through Holy Spirit. Change sim card, delete online contacts porn sites, bad friends and live actively under deliverance pastor’s anointing. Divine cover of Spiritual father in Christ in church, read to study Bible, maintain deliverance living according to word of God in Jesus Christ Name. Praise God.

VALUE & CARE FOR ELDERS

God says value elders and care for them so you will live long and be blessed by God it will be well with you. This is the commandment God made and condition attached for those obeying word of God. There are three types of care provided for elders depending on their needs. 1. Medical Care for their health by doctors, pharmacists, nurses and auxiliary staff. 2. Personal Assistants: family, friends or employed to feed, wash, clean premises, personal hygiene, laundry, shop, outing and talking to them as human beings daily if able to communicate. If unable to talk suitable contact for awareness so not alone. 3. Financial Provisions by family if they can afford it or support from public funds. Examine your life and see which category of care needs is possibly provided by you. There are so many unsung heroes 24/7 doing all care needs alone without support or respite care or break to rest and recover from stress. God says HE judges the nations by care provided for “the least of these” in society which includes elders. Those unable to repay the cost of kindness and generosity towards them is important to Jesus who at times disguises Himself to test love for others. There is assumption as long as money is sent regularly to the elders, latest most expensive gadget and grandest designer homes provided, paid for agency staff taking care of them they will be fine. Genuine caring agencies have limited time per person from 15 minutes to hour because of shortage of staff. Quality care impossible to provide within such a limited time frame. They must spread their time between many patients and rush through care because it’s so expensive to pay for the services. Most elders are forced to sell the family homes to pay for medical care so have no inheritance left to pass on to loved ones. These elders sacrificed and fought wars to defend and protect the nation’s and resources taken for granted by the modern generations. Sadly, when elders are too old to work, earn or mobile they are considered useless by very society indulging in their labour, sweat or toils. cheerful african family at home using tablet pcRemember one day you too will grow old and must not forget the elders. Many have incomes that can provide for elders but choose to ignore them. Others lost contact so do not have awareness of their wellbeing whether they are even alive. Many live close by for many years unknown to each other until after death they discover how near each other they were. A misconception of Bible to “leave father and mother and cleave to wife” misinterpreted by some to mean ABANDON FAMILY. So they cut the family off, isolate themselves from a family that sacrifice everything to raise them into who they are. They prefer the company of their vibrant friends as the society promotes friendships above the family. Many do not realise they can set up funds to provide an elders needs and delegate assistant for the personal care PAY for their time and services and not taken for granted because relatives in the family. Gadget care is good idea but is limited in PRACTICAL FUNCTIONS so mechanised human care. People in their last stages of life need comforting touch of healing even from a hired wellbeing or death doula is better than complete isolation. Often an elder in “second childhood” of life is literally a helpless toddler unable to think, decide or care for themselves. This shocks the family who watch a strong parent turn into a helpless child. To many people they seem as acting to demand attention so may not be helped immediately. It is after years of trying in vain before the help required is ascertained for them. It is necessary to understand some cannot keep up with paper work, documents, online technology constantly changing, become forgetful and in extreme cases suffer from dementia. Dementia means they have no control over thoughts so can offend others, use perverted speech totally unlike them in the previous years. May eat but forget and say they have not eaten or not eat and say they have eaten. Those immobile are carried like baby, washed, fed or use commode wheelchair, zema frame. ideas_reuniones_familiares.destacadaActive elders can be slow in walking or going up and descending stairs as Mr Bean’s video experience shows. Some drive slower or misunderstand road signs so find themselves in the wrong lane. Its not attention seeking deliberate winding of modern generations. It is the lack of awareness due to peering society so seen as them versus us. It is worse if they cannot express themselves or they became dependent on the very people they raised. Some unfortunately resent them or are embarrassed due to their nature, illness or condition. Elders now live longer due to better health care but after pension some outlive their income and need top up from the family or the society as a whole. The amount of waste thrown away can be used to provide the care needed. So many unemployed can volunteer to help clean premises, shop and cook for those who want help. Pool of human resources available is ignored for the sophisticated expensive gadgets gulping limited resources. So society is responsible for all elders not privileged few whose needs are not compromised. It’s beyond belief how quickly resources are made available for some while the others are delayed or ignored because not regarded as human enough. Above all nobody brought anything into this world or will anyone take anything out. So GOD is the source of all human life and the material resources HE provides for the well-being of all. A competitive spirit wants to be seen as having the best and most expensive material things mislead some to not provide for elders. Take a look at past gadgets, you often ask yourself “what was I thinking?” You laugh at old useless past fads, fashions, bags, shoes, clothes, hairstyles, decors, gadgets, or phones, homes etc. prices paid for by starving elders abandoned. Some use coban excuse to give to God, church, other societies, organisations, charities, animal welfare but not give to human relatives. The irony is those abandoned elders celebrated after death by family members dressed like going to wedding. Changing funeral clothes to show off or partying into late hours, nights for days, weeks and some for months. The house painted, decorated to impress guests, plenty food or drinks provided to feed thousands. But if elder requested help for food or a medicine ignored as needy or greedy or too demanding. Fear of not burying in grand style overrules need to provide adequate care to celebrate life while alive. Needs of the elders must be compulsory academic subject taught in schools to put some sense into modern generations to teach them respect and value of senior citizens who built the nation’s they enjoy so take for granted. Volunteer must support professional medical teams and value each other. Befrienders can visit and talk to elders to keep them in their own homes than lump them together just for high profit margins at the expense of priceless lives now devalued and treated as worthless by those who do not understand God’s command with condition attached for the good of the blesser and the blessed. The government must stop punishing carers and mothers who provide 24/7 care often treated as unemployed. They provide care, manage home and work in addition but mistreated. Human life is priceless and children, women, elders pay the price for reckless policies that abandon those not considered worthy for equal treatment by privileged. Those working have limited time allowed off work to care for elders, forced, abandon them to work to pay for their rent, basic food without the essential human touch. Everyone has relative somewhere who is elderly and needs their attention and care. Others may not be aware a family extends beyond 2:4 structured family. It is not EASY to care but God’s command instructs all to value and care for elders who bear or sacrificed their life to help you. God did not say only care if they are perfect, so do it through negotiated family team appointed, well noted by all on board of care plan. Past cultures use to frown on stranger seeing ‘nakedness’ of elders but better than abandonment. If you do not provide care while elders are alive, spare yourself debt to impress your friends for grand funeral. God will not ask you how grand was their send off funeral party you organised. God will ask for souls you provided for alive, entrusted to you, believe it or not. God says your life and wellbeing depends on their care. Ethical medicine must treat them as humans not commodities for sale to lowest bid cheap services. Some carers punished “as not working” this must be reconciled to treat them well as foster carers paid for doing same jobs. Just because they are relatives or family members does not mean they do not provide excellent care. In fact the elders prefer loved ones in their last moment but work prevents them. So those who choose to fulfil God’s command to care for and value their loved ones must not be treated less than other professional carers. Elders and poor people must be valued and treated better everywhere in the whole world including deprived underprivileged in Western countries to obey God in Jesus Name.

ANOREXIA DAMAGES BODY

Lizzie Porter lived with anorexia throughout her teens. Now in late 20s, she’s been discovering that those years of starvation have left a lasting imprint on her body. “You have osteoporosis in your spine and osteopenia in your hip. I’m going to put you on calcium and vitamin D and I think you should take them forever. We need to prevent breaks and fractures.” It is May 2018, and my doctor’s words jolt me out of a long-standing state of denial. They come with a set of complicated graphs, which apparently show my low bone density. I don’t understand them. But I can read the words printed next to a fuzzy X-ray-like picture of my spine: “World Health Organization classification: osteoporosis. Fracture risk: high.” For years, I have muddled along, pretending to myself that I had pretty much made a full recovery from anorexia. Yes, I was told back in 2010 that I had osteoporosis. But over the next eight years I persuaded myself that things must have improved, that the holes in my spine must have healed.

Sadly, they haven’t.


Osteoporosis and osteopenia

  • Osteoporosis is a condition in which bones lose their strength and are more likely to break
  • If your bone density is between the lower end of the normal range and the osteoporosis range, you have osteopenia.

Source: National Osteoporosis Society


I was first diagnosed with anorexia at the age of 12, and soon experienced its unglamorous consequences. As summers grew hotter, I shivered: I was like a reptile, unable to generate my own body heat. In winter, my skin cracked and bled, but would not heal, for want of nutrition. I had constipation, bloating and my hair fell out in great clumps. My life revolved around avoiding food.  Over the past 15 years, I have had two in-patient stints in hospital and taken thousands of antidepressants – anorexia is often accompanied by a low mood, sometimes even a suicidal mood is one reason it has the highest mortality rate of all psychiatric disorders. I have seen more doctors than I can be bothered to remember. I have done my best to keep what my mother calls the “anorexic minx” in my mind in check, preventing it from doing a Jack-in-the-Box-style bounce back into my life. The desire to get on with things has spurred me to give up many of my anorexic behaviour patterns. Time was, I would spend hours weighing out salad components in the kitchen, using a different knife to chop each tomato, cucumber and lettuce leaf. I no longer want to waste time on my old routines. And, mostly, I do not.

Lizzie Porter and Muhammad EidoLizzie Porter with a friend – her teeth may look healthy but have required expensive treatment

Anorexia caused my body to age rapidly and I am struggling with the disorder’s longer-term consequences. Osteoporosis involves loss of bone density, and in later life may lead to painful breakages, curvature of the spine, and loss of height. Although it has many causes and often affects post-menopausal women, anorexics are also at risk, especially girls who develop the illness at puberty when the body is trying to build a strong skeleton. For a day or so, the bone scans shake me awake. I walk around the Lebanese capital Beirut, where I live, feeling a bit sick. What am I doing to myself? The thought rolls over in my mind. I remember one elderly woman in my home village in Hertfordshire, who used to walk bent double. Osteoporosis is an old ladies’ problem, I tell myself angrily. I am only 27. Yet all too soon I return to my state of calm apathy. I pretend that my bones aren’t really thin and weak. I’m strong and perfectly healthy, I tell myself, even though I am on calcium and Vitamin D supplements for life, I get dizzy when I stand up, and blood tests show I have been suffering badly from anaemia – a lack of red blood cells or haemoglobin in the blood. To improve my bone density I should eat more and gain a little weight. But my life is “too busy” to deal with the stress of challenging the last remnants of my anorexic behaviour. I still add up my daily calorie count on a calculator, and I am prone to lash out at anyone who forces to me to eat things I am scared of, such as cake, pastry and cream. This year I have at least allowed a friend to coax me into ordering salad with oil – this fills me with pride, though at the same time I feel ashamed of years I spent worrying over salad dressing. But I need to go further. Osteoporosis is not the only long-term effect of my anorexia. The loss of bone density has also affected my teeth, which ache and easily rot. Since the beginning of the year I have spent £4,200 ($5,500) on dental treatment, including eight fillings, root canal treatment, two crowns and an implant.

X-ray of Lizzie Porter's teeth
 X-ray of Lizzie Porter’s teeth

“The lack of calcium and vitamin D is definitely contributing to this,” says my doctor – a GP who happens to be a specialist in eating disorders. One upshot of my weak teeth and gums is that after years of being subject to psychological barriers that restricted my diet, I now have physical ones. Anything chewy, crunchy or cold is almost impossible to eat. Can you recover from anorexia?

  • A 2002 study found that 46% of patients made a full recovery, a third improved (but retained some eating disorder symptoms), and 20% remained chronically ill over the long term
  • The eating disorder charity, Beat, says recovery is always possible with the right help and support – but what recovery looks like is individual to the person
  • It adds that most medical complications arising from anorexia are reversible, but not all – for example, osteoporosis

It is difficult to predict how badly anorexia will affect each sufferer’s long-term health: bodies react in different ways. Other possible long-term effects can include infertility and difficulty conceiving, heart problems, and kidney and liver complications, according to the UK-based eating disorders charity, Beat. “I don’t think people realise the dangers of the illness and its physical and mental consequences, including the suicide risk. I know it frightens people, but we need to know the facts,” says Jane Smith, chief executive of the UK-registered charity Anorexia and Bulimia Care. The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence guidelines for treating anorexia instruct doctors to explain to sufferers that the main way of preventing and treating low bone density is “reaching and maintaining a healthy body weight or BMI for their age.”If I am entirely honest with myself, I know I have to try a little bit harder if I am to minimise the long-term consequences of anorexia. I certainly cannot go backwards. I have enough purpose in my life to want to live it. I have a job as a journalist that I love, friends I trust, and parents who support my every move. One morning this May, one of my closest friends, Leila, sent me a WhatsApp message in response to one of my many rants. I was tired and fed-up with life. “I’m not going to tell you a few kilos won’t make you fat, because that’s what’s in your head,” she wrote. “I’m going to tell you that you get to choose between being ‘fat’ and functioning, or thin and bed-bound. You get to be thin but your life is over. That’s all there is to it.”

What can I say? Most of me knows she is right.

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TRAIN CHILD FOR LIFESKILL

The Bible says train a child in the way they should go so when they grow they will not depart from it. Especially boys are struggling because they do not express their real feelings for fear of being judged weak. This program is wonderful so must continue through teenage years into adulthood. Limited resources must not stop mentoring them at the most critical times in their lives. Like other Science projects of Professor Robert Wilson among others this program must continue for the next few more years so their hard work will not be in vain. This men are doing a great job and need sponsors to extend it further beyond childhood. It will be good to follow up throughout their teenage and adult years so they retain their knowledge and manners. Other peers and friends that come into their lives later without similar training can influence the vulnerable ones. So need help and support of well wishers to continue this program into teenage years, university, training for skills, careers to transition into adult life. Programmes like First University of the Child and Connections in the Secondary Schools enable children to get the right guidance required. In the past projects were limited to 4 years funding if run by government and then changed into another project for the sake of funding conditions. This is not sufficient long term to help them fully grasp life goals for good success. Their contemporaries often get private fundings to develop practical life skills to continue into business men or the chief executives of corporate bodies. While this program is highly valued and appreciated, please let it not be another statistics of 1% success years later because others drifted off. Coach Carter stood by his basketball playing students in their teenage years despite challenges faced. Please continue this hard work into the future so we look forward to more success from this story. Please ask for more help if you need it to support this program. If you can help please do not wait to be asked first because this good success impacts the community and nation as a whole. Well done and God bless you for your sacrifices and precious times devoted to helping these priceless children. Please encourage their reading skills and academic studies too like Coach Carter. EYE CONTACT IS CRUCIAL BECAUSE OTHER CULTURES TEACH CHILDREN OUT OF RESPECT NOT TO LOOK DIRECTLY INTO EYES OF ELDERS. Misunderstood by Western Countries as “lying” unable to keep eye contact, picked on needlessly, harrassed by law enforcement, lacking important knowledge to understand the difference in the upbringing of children by other cultures. This Instagram photo by @bayouredd

ASHAMED OF POOR PARENT?

Mother with empty piggy bank

“Wondered what it’s like to live in poor area,” the girl from a posh part of town whispered across classroom table. Even at a small comprehensive in Yorkshire, the divide between the ‘haves’ and ‘have nots’ was clear. At 10 years that time we with two older brothers living in house with mum knew exactly what it was like but said nothing. That night after school burst into angry tears on the mum’s lap. Both parents from working class back grounds: one from family where seven siblings shared two beds; the other started out in one of Leeds’s roughest estates. They grew up wanting a better future, and gradually worked their way up together to become homeowners. At

five parents split up with siblings lived full-time with mum. Suddenly became very aware of money because we just didn’t have any. Our family home was sold to pay off debts. For my mum, the life she’d spent years piecing together, moving away from the estate she grew up on, crashed down around her and it all seemed to happen overnight. The first piece of furniture in council house living room was an old sofa bed that we all crammed ourselves on, given by a kind family friend. So with little money spent evenings by candlelight when the electricity meter ran out, borrow money to top up pre paid card next morning. If

it means poverty according to standard of the time were officially living below the poverty line as a child. By today’s measures, a couple with two children need to earn at least £18,900 (£363 a week) each to achieve the minimum income standard. Since I’m one of three and mum was on her own, this means if I was growing up now and my family was in the same situation, we would still be in poverty.Housing differencesWhen 13, mum started privately renting a house on more affluent side of town, in order to send us to a good secondary school an hour’s bus journey. Mum had a new job, which helped, but she was starting over again after several years of looking after us all at home and her wages barely covered our rent, bills and food for three young kids. Renting is unstable your landlord calls the shots – so lived with constant fear of losing our home if our landlord put the rent up or decided to sell up. It was difficult at my new school, I felt like I didn’t belong at first. I had one friend who had a similar background; she was the only person who I confided everything in. Everyone else received edited versions of my life – nobody knew my uniform was bought with tokens. I dreaded the obligatory McDonald’s pit stop when we went into town, because I just couldn’t afford it.

I remember feeling upset when one of my closest school friends said she was fed up of having to ask her mum to take us places and always inviting me round to their house. She wanted to know why my mum never gave us lifts anywhere and why she was hardly ever invited to mine after school. The truth was I was embarrassed. Despite living in the ‘nice’ side of town, never had enough petrol in car, and friendsallowed round on payday, when there was food in the fridge and enough electricity on the meter. How could I tell her the truth? I imagined my friend’s parents gossiping about my family “not pulling their weight” and looking down at us. The reality was my mum didn’t invite her own friends into the house because she couldn’t afford the extra food.Shabby school uniformFor a long time after leaving school, I continued to try to hide the truth about my background. I can dial my Yorkshire accent up or down depending on my audience. But, the fallout of being such a class chameleon is that I feel ashamed about not being proud of my roots. This follows me no matter where I go or what I do. And it seems I’m not alone in having grown up feeling like being from a poor background is something to be ashamed of. The number of children living in poverty is on the rise but conversely the number of kids claiming free school meals (excluding the universal infant free school meals) is in decline according to a government report. How does that work? Now, I’m ashamed to say that, despite being eligible, I never took free school meals and mum and I regularly rowed about it. I didn’t want to be shamed or, worse, pitied. I knew full well that it would have helped my mum out massively. Instead, she scrimped to put together a packed lunch or dish out the last 50 pence in her purse. Looking back, it makes me cringe. So may think I sound like an ungrateful brat who refused the help offered, just a kid who wanted to be like everyone else. As older, going to uni was something I never considered. At school, I felt like it was just assumed that most people would go but I was scared we couldn’t afford it. A teacher explained the grants and loans that were available and suddenly it seemed like a possibility. I liked studying – I dreamed of one day being a writer and my mum was really excited for me so I applied to study Journalism at Leeds Metropolitan University and got in.

I felt overwhelmed by the amount of money I could borrow from the Student Loan Company. I took loan of £24,000 to cover course and received a grant of just under £3,000 a year. Paying my loans back felt like a lifetime away, so it was easy to ignore the reality that I was getting into serious debt. It seemed like we were all on the same level in our student halls, regardless of where we’d come from. Every time holidays rolled around my new friends disappear back to their family homes or head down to London for exciting-sounding but did unpaid internships. By this point, my mum was renting a house that didn’t have a spare room. If I went back, I’d be on the sofa. I couldn’t afford to do an internship so instead I worked in the local branch of a shoe shop, selling trainers I could never afford, so I could keep paying rent on my student house.

After graduation, I got a lucky break. My shoe sales job led to a full-time role editing the company’s website at their head office in Edinburgh. I found a really cheap flat share and moved there. I was nervous about how I would pay my rent but I felt like I was, at least, making progress because I was getting away from my upbringing and all the stigma and shame that, in my mind, came with it. The sad truth, though, is that not everyone from a background like mine gets a break. A Prince’s Trust report from 2016 found 44% of young people from poorer backgrounds don’t know anyone who can help them find a job, compared to just 26% of their more advantaged peers. Anyway, if you do manage to go to uni and get a graduate job, your social class doesn’t change overnight. In fact, the advantages of other people’s privilege only become more apparent. I was so excited when I got my first job, but underlying that was a constant sense of unease that if something went wrong and I got fired or was made redundant I had no safety net. There was nothing to fall back on and that thought would often keep me awake at night.Bank of Mum and DadSoon after we graduated, some of my friends started buying their first flats, with help from their parents. Last year in the UK, for the lucky ones able to get on the property ladder two thirds (62%) of under-35s received help from family and friends to buy their first home. Around the same time that they were getting on the property ladder, I began earning a bigger salary than all my family members and even helped one of them to pay their rent. When my mates talked about raiding the fridge full of food when going home for Christmas, I quietly set aside money to pay for the supermarket shop and the repairs for my mum’s battered old car. Don’t get me wrong, I know I’m privileged in some ways. I’m white, for a start and I know that gives me certain advantages. But, conversation to start somewhere and, with 51% of journalists being part of the 6.5% of the nation who receive private education, it’s important to listen to anyone who doesn’t fit in that statistic. You see, being poor isn’t just having no money it’s lacking a basic confidence in who you are and what you deserve. Considered self ‘lucky’ to land a graduate job rather than putting it down to having talent and working hard. When I went into my first work meeting and felt like I knew less than the guy with 10 unpaid internships under his belt. When I met a nice guy who invited me to meet his posh parents and I cancelled because I was worried about what they might think of me. These days, I make a living doing a job I love. I rent a small but cute flat share with two friends and I can even afford the odd trip to the seaside.

I make sure I always have a little pot of money to fall back on, because my only alternative is sleeping on my mum’s sofa if things slip. After years of skirting the issue, I’m finally talking openly about our situation with my mum. I can’t imagine how horrible it must be to wipe tears away from daughter’s face after she’s told you how embarrassed she is of the life you’ve always worked so hard to make better for her. The real shame is neither of us will ever be able to gloss over. So do not let shame stop you to say  no to free school meals and starve or not invite friends over. Life is not made up material things according to Jesus it is your heart for loving others that counts most. 

 

Hollie Richardson

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This article was originally published on 2 October 2018.