Great life lessons learnt help us through mace of living in this imperfect world.
*MAKE RIGHT LONGTERM CHOICES*
When younger we make various choices without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret.
1. *Marrying the wrong person*
When you’re young, check your motives for wanting to marry. Do not marry to copy your peers, for social standing, out of pressure. Ensure you marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness defines mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.
2. *The opportunities you did not seize*
When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you’re older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.
3. *Do not Burn Bridges*
The younger care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up ladder of success at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, take relationships for granted, messing bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. These bad actions does catch up with ahead. And realizes how empty life is without love or friends. If you have success but has no one around you or trusts you it’s a lonely life.
4. *The child terminatef*
A young lady if pregnant or scared may take termination option rather quickly thinking in the moment. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you are rich and successful you may wish that child you gave up would be around to enjoy fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn’t mean you can’t make it in life or can’t marry in future.
5. *The child rejected*
Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she’s pregnant with your child. You rejected her and baby and ran. Years later you’re 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to the grown up child rejected from the beginning. You regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice.
6. *The marriage destroyed*
So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.
7. *The God disowned*
When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don’t wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don’t be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.
8. *The body messed up*
You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you’re consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.
9. *The time wasted*
The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.
10. *The dreams talents shelved*
Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don’t give up if you encounter set backs, don’t give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you’re older you will look at peers who do what they love and made it and think to self, “That could be me.” Pursue a career, study course you love. Don’t waste years of your life in a field that doesn’t fulfill you.
11 *The name defamed*
When older, a legacy is very important, the value of a name is crucial. You will ask yourself what reputation are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. The written biography of how we live life everyday counts. When you look back your path and see the mud threw at the name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.
12. *The wealth thrown away*
Are you riding on good money during your productive years? Earning good money? Don’t throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so will never say “I wish I knew better”
13. *The good love that got away*
Is there that great person in your life loving you good? Don’t push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of “What if I was still with that person?”
14 *The parents you despised*
When younger, easy to show contempt to parents thinking what do parent’s know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style. Don’t let your parent die separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the priceless value of life. Thanks for reading, quietly send it sharing the journey of life. Appreciate and realize the value of a sister/brother. Check out how it feels for someone who doesn’t have siblings. Realize the value of the past ten years by asking a newly divorced couple how they survived. And realize value of next four years if still in education and graduate with excellence. And realize value of how one year runs so fast. Ask the student who failed final exam how they used their time. Realize value of nine months of pregnancy and ask the mother who gave birth to baby stillborn. And realize the value of one month after the mother has given birth to a premature baby in incubator. Has to wait many months to embrace child. Realize the value of one week for editor of the weekly newspaper. Thousands or millions of copies produced. And realize the value of one minute of a person who missed the train, bus or plane. Realize a value of one second of a person who has survived an accident. Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have. Treasure it even more and share it with someone special. Realize valued friends or family members enhance and enrich your love. Bring blessings to everyone you know and Remember, Hold on tight to the ones you love! Have a great week, month, years days, life, ahead. ❤🌹🌹😊