I MUST ENTER THEIR WORLD

IMG-20181209-WA0005.jpgEntering this world to understand their mindset is God’s way of sending Jesus to socialize with people to help their lives to overcome emotional, spiritual and physical concerns. A famous father invited into a nightclub by his daughter hoped and prayed nobody will see or recognise him but someone shouted his name shocked to see him there. And because of his faith, social standing and profession it became a turning point for a better relationship between them. At times called to participate in an unusual circumstance or join situation you may prefer not to be seen doing. If it is safe, not risky to life of both parties or others awkward situations and interaction can create bonds to build on. A farmer once confronted by insane roaming about on his property found he took his hunting gun as he turned in a split second. So he intuitively picked a piece of  wood to join the man dancing with his gun until safe enough to grab it from him. This extreme example not recommended but in unpredictable circumstance dancing with him calmed him down. This man probably lived all his life only criticised, never interacted with people because of insanity but the farmer made him feel acknowledged. Distracting when timing was best time took control of his gun. In life similarly, you win bees with more honey than smoke or carrots than stick approach If he panicked or shouted ‘oi’ give back the gun, it’s not yours, may be a trigger moment to upset him to react rather than respond as dance partner. 1544379792228-1598804135.jpgSimilarities of occasions can be if others do not fully perceive inner thoughts of other confused people. Use the positive moment together to win their hearts to others. On the other hand it its risky be careful to assess person before taking a leap of faith. The person may not make sense but point to good things about them to calm them to diffuse tension. The uncohesive person needs expert intervention but if unavailable reassure but play along. A bond is built showing genuine interest and asking questions related to their life or loved ones. You may not convince or make sense due to distorted perception unable to hear you because of the state of mind. Efforts to guide or correct them seems attack of intelligence, confidence or ability to decide for themselves. And considered ‘violation’ of their personal decision-making process and choices. So after coming to their senses if not drunk on drugs or psychotic the recovery stage creates clarity to see episodes recorded or documented to prove to them what others see or hear. Until then, it’s mere chaotic noise that creates anxiety and tension of feeling judged. Stay calm no matter what shocking things said unless at risk press safety button for help. If an agitated person will listen, record, talk through hallucinations to tell them you believe what they say but not logically make sense. Your goal is not to correct or frustrate them if infuriated or angry about their treatment or any labels. So stress makes things worse because they cannot keep cool if angry to verbalise their true inner feelings or emotions in angry state. Medications do numb some people so not as sensitive as expected to be. Frustrating situations agitate person under pressure to feel worse if ignored. 1544379275947-1598804135.jpgMisunderstood people feel ostracised so keep a written journal signed to offload mind in a safe space. Or talk privately in public place to deal with roots of anger, abandonment, neglect, mental health or other matters pertaining to a pain of the past. Don’t have the victim mentality as it causes low self-confidence and lack of trust in those helping to support them. Some people implode due to inability to express their real feeling because do not realise they cause offense. It turns into anger, bitterness, resentment concealed as politeness but fuming inside. Do not force them to speak immediately while you are doing them a favour. Say that you mean well and mean what you say genuinely without causing pain to hurt them. If an autistic person they may not understand other people’s point of view. Lack of frontal cortex means they do not understand the risk consequence of actions like matured people. And so feel lack of consideration of another point of view which to them is disregard of them as human beings. Unable to adapt or be flexible to change swiftly if need arises is fixated on one idea or one thing only at that level to deal with. Don’t say grow up or do not act their shoe size because they are not acting. Families and friends must understand they live in the head in their own world isolated so cannot be in the here and now. Often drift off into a fogged mind unawares of what goes on around them. Enter their world by becoming interested in their favourite activity, games, passion, hobbies to try to connect with them emotionally. The time spent with them means a lot to them so feel someone believes in them. IMG-20181209-WA0004.jpgIMG-20181209-WA0003.jpgRecreate their stories around talents or skills and abilities to help them literally not to lose to their mind. Do not put on pressure for perfect facade of normality in life situations. It’s essential to heal to overcome loss, bereavement, trauma or past abuses and challenging problems of life. In a speech yesterday it was said you may have flaws, be angry, anxious but do not forget your life is the greatest enterprise in the world so Only you can stop it going bust. People appreciate and admire you and love you so Remember to be happy is not to have a sky without storm, road without bumps, and work without fatigue, relationships without challenges. To be happy means find strength in forgiveness and hope in battles, security in the stage of fear, love in discord. It’s not only if enjoying smiles that life is good but reflect on sadness. It is not only to celebrate successes, but to learn lessons from past failures. It is not only to feel happy with applause, but to be happy in anonymity. Being happy is part of destiny and an achievement for those who can travel within themselves. To be happy means stop feeling like the victim to become your destiny’s author. It is to cross deserts yet able to find an oasis in the depths of our soul. Thank God every morning for miracle of life. Being happy is not being afraid of your own feelings. It’s to be able to talk about you buy having courage to hear a “no” is not rejection of you as human being. Confidence in God in the face of many criticisms even unjustified strengthens your faith and builds you up. What does not kill you makes you stronger so kiss your children, pamper your parents and live poetic moments with friends, even when they hurt us. To be happy is to let live as God’s children created to be free to you, joyful, simple with maturity to be able to say: “I made mistakes.” It is the courage to say “I am sorry” yet have the sensitivity to say, “I need you.” Its to have ability to say “I love you” and your life become garden of opportunities for happiness … in spring be a lover of joy. In winter a lover of wisdom. And when you make a mistake, start all over again. Only then will you be in love with life to be happy even if not perfect life. Use the tears to irrigate tolerance, losses to train patience, mistakes to sculptor serenity, and pain to plaster pleasure, obstacles to open windows of good success. Never give up …. Never give up on people who love you. Never give up on happiness or joy for life is incredible in God.

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MODERN CHILDCARE NEEDS

Andy Shelley and babyAndy Shelley says his time on parental leave was “eye-opening.” Following the release of a poll which suggested 27% of mothers did not enjoy their maternity leave as much as they thought they would, parents have been sharing their experience of parental leave – both good and bad. Some people got in touch after following BBC Radio 5 Live presenter Emma Barnett’s open and honest account of her time away from work looking after her baby son, a time which she described as being “bloody hard and at times, lonely.” So what’s it like to be the one who stays at home and looks after the baby? Three parents share their very different experiences. The good, the bad and unexpected child care needs. ‘I thought my partner was just off work.’ Andy Shelley’s girlfriend gave birth to their daughter in March and the couple decided to take shared parental leavePrior to making choice, Andy’s partner had been looking after their daughter while he worked 12-hour days. “It was difficult because I felt like I wasn’t doing enough,” he says. Thirty-year-old Andy took over full-time care for two months in July, but admits he was not aware just how much work was involved in staying home and looking after his daughter. “Initially I thought parental leave would be a nice break from work but it wasn’t easy. “Some days she would be upset and I just didn’t know what to do. Your entire day revolves around feeds. It becomes a full-time job in itself. “I would be happy when my partner came home from work as it meant I could have a break.” The Stoke-On-Trent resident says his experience of parental leave was important as he realised how much his girlfriend had been doing when he thought she was “just off work.” “It made me appreciate everything she had done and ultimately cemented my relationship with my daughter. “It’s a shame more fathers don’t take parental leave as it really opens your eyes and you realise what your partner deals with.”‘I made sure I kept busy’Sandrine Charpentier and her two daughtersSandrine Charpentier said “clear vision” for her maternity leave and made sure its “wonderful experience.” Sandrine Charpentier, from Hayes in Kent, says her maternity leave with both of her daughters, now aged six and nine, was a “really positive experience.” Despite not knowing many people where she lived, Sandrine made sure she wasn’t isolated by booking a different activity every day. “We would do baby swimming, yoga, singing and play groups. It motivated me to get dressed and get out of the house. “The whole time I was really tired but I thought that was just part of the job. “It was great to meet people, be social and talk about our experiences. I was really happy during that time and it was great for my daughters.” As much as she enjoyed her maternity leave, the mum-of-two admits it was nice to return to work. “Being at work was like a holiday because I was free to do what I wanted. I didn’t have somebody glued to me all the time. “It was good to do something different, to meet people and not talk about nappies and babies all the time.” ‘It’s difficult to be accepted as a stay-at-home dad’Child playingPeople were shocked when Craig Smith said he was going to be a stay-at-home father Craig Smith, 42 in Staffordshire became stay-at-home dad to daughter, Matilda, in January when she was eight months old. His wife has a high-level job so they decided that it would be best for him to give up work and focus on their daughter’s early years. “I was very up for the challenge as I’ve always wanted children, but I didn’t really think about what was involved in being a full-time dad. “Sometimes it’s hard because all Matilda wants is her mum.” Craig says his experience made him realise there is not enough support for stay-at-home dads. “I tried to integrate with local playgroups, but the mums can be quite cliquey and it’s very difficult for a dad to be accepted. “A lot of mum-and-baby groups say fathers are welcome but in reality it’s not like that – the mums can be quite cold.” Craig is planning on going back to work part-time when Matilda starts nursery, but says he feels anxious at the prospect of returning to normality. “It feels like my brain has been conditioned to sing to Peppa Pig or nursery rhymes. The thought of carrying out serious and responsible tasks within a role kind of scares me.

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COOKING, WASHING, TAMES

Man holding babyCooking, washing clothes, cleaning and childcare, tames men who once thought it was only the women’s job. Like most men, Jean Pierre 32 lives in Mwulire in Eastern Province in Rwanda and leaves domestic chores to his wife. Impatient, angry, demands perfection due to lack of awareness that a woman’s job is 24/7 so never ends day or night. He becomes aggressive if his wife did not meet the standards of his expectations so beats her. A grassroots intervention program trying to reduce domestic violence in Rwanda teaches men how to do household chores, and a recent study suggested it has a positive effect on communities. So Muhoza Jean Pierre used to beat his wife because he saw her as someone he married just to have children and and look after them. “I was following example of my father. My father did not do anything at home,” he said. “If ever I came home and found something not done yet I insult her. “I called her lazy, told her she was useless so must go back to her parent’s house.” But something changed after he learnt to cook and clean. It was all part of a grassroots intervention programme in Mwulire village in Eastern Province, Rwanda encouraging men’s domestic roles, including childcare. Jean Pierre says the project called, ‘Bandebereho’ or role model in Kinyarwanda helps tamed and transformed his behaviour. He took part in classes covering everything from cooking and cleaning and discuss how to challenge men’s traditional gender roles. “They asked, if a man can sweep the house, and we would say ‘he can’,” he said. “And then they would ask us: ‘Who among you does that?’ And there was no one.”Man cooking next to his wife

Real men shouldn’t cook

Facilitators from ‘Bandebereho’ taught Jean Pierre how to do tasks previously he believed his wife should do. He also added: “We would go home and try to put this into practice. “Then we would go back to training with witnesses who would testify they had observed some changes in us. “I know how to cook. I do laundry for the kids. I know how to peel plantains, I know how to pound dry cassava and sift the flour.” Jean Pierre and his wife have been married for 10 years and never helped her before. And making changes was not easy as Jean Pierre’s friends discouraged him from doing household tasks, telling him: ‘No real man should cook.’ “My family and friends said my wife bewitched me by giving me some magic drugs. They said no genuine man should carry a bundle of firewood in the street because that is for henpecked men,” he said. But Jean Pierre continued when he saw benefits to his family. He says his children feel closer to him and his wife now runs a banana business that has allowed them to improve their home. “The way my wife treats me now is different from the way she used to treat me,” he said. “She used to treat me badly because I was mistreating her too, but now we discuss and agree on things to do. “I set her free, now she is working and I am working too; whereas before I was convinced she had to stay home and be available whenever I would need her.” Fear and little freedom affected Jean Pierre’s wife Musabyimana Delphine who says she used to have little freedom and lived in fear. She said: “Sometimes I felt like a mere worker, and I would remember a worker has a salary. “I never thought a woman can ever have her own money, because I never even had time to think about any activity that generate money. “Now I have enough freedom in house, I go out and work for money like others. Start training young boys now so when they grow up they will help their wife and help look after the children. When both work, it’s a burden on the woman to care for the family or children alone.man washing a plateThe ‘Bandebereho’ project taught Jean Pierre to do tasks previously believed his wife should do. Delphine leaves at 5am to sell plantains at a market, while Jean Pierre stays at home and takes care of their four young children. “I come home relaxed and find food ready,” she said. The project’s curriculum originally developed in Latin America by global fatherhood campaign MenCare believes true equality will only be reached when men take on 50% of world’s childcare and domestic work. The research looks into changing men’s attitudes towards family care and traditional domestic. It was soon realised the good impact on men. A study looking at couples taking part in the project found two years after taking childcare lessons in Rwanda men were less likely to use violence against their female partners than those who did not attend the classes. But the study suggested one in three women whose partners took part in the programme still reported experiencing intimate partner violence. National Institute of Statistics of Rwanda, released a data in 2015, around 52% of men in the country were violent towards partners. Rwanda Men’s Resource Centre, which delivered the programme in the country, wants ‘Bandebereho’ to be widely adopted by communities and country’s government. Fidele Rutayisire the chairman of centre, said: “We still have negative social norms, negative masculinity perception cultural barriers as main factors of high violence against women in Rwanda. “Traditionally men don’t take care of children here but men control sex, resources, decision-making. “When men are actively involved in the home they realise sacrifices of women in childcare so their attitude on gender changes positively, they understand the value of gender equality.” Delphine and Jean Pierre said the program benefited their family and the whole community. “We are now on honeymoon, 10 years after our wedding,” said Jean Pierre. If there is conflict or security issue in our neighbourhood our opinion is respected because they see we don’t have problem in our household. Men appreciate and help their wives and not demand they do all the housework or take care of the family, business, Church alone without support of husbands. A happy wife is a happy life and the Bible says love your wife as Christ loved His bride Church and gave His life for you. Timothy says a husband must first look after his family and own household before serving the Church. Don’t neglect your wife and the children in the NAME OF GOD leisurely talking to single women while your wife and children at home suffer. Remember your wife is that same beautiful single woman you married and used her body to give birth to your children. And don’t abandon her for fresh young woman to give birth later to become abandoned as wife. This causes baby mama problems because men want to eat their cake and have it. So wants exclusive attention of wife at the expense of the children some are jealous of. Forget their parents took great care of them as done to children. Grow up and be father to the children to mature a responsible man not manchild depending on wife as mother. For even the Son of Man Jesus did not come to be served but to serve and give His life as a ransom for many says Mark 10:45.

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GOD RESTORES LOST SOULS

1543148057336-452672964.jpgGod RESTORES lost souls says Psalm 23.3-4 and Galatians 6:1 says brothers and sisters if someone sins you who are SPIRITUAL RESTORE person and show them faults in PRIVATE. If they listen, you won your brother. 2 Thessalonians 3:15 says do not treat them as enemy but help them as brother in Christ, ‘just as if’ they never sinned. GOD LOVES sinners but hates sin. 1 Timothy 5:20 says if they continue in sin rebuke them in the presence of all, so the rest will be fearful to sin. Public rebuke is often first used without the private restoration to instill fear in others shames them. Does not lead to genuine repentance, causes chaos, divides the Church members into sympathisers or opponent antagonists. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is inspired by God, profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, training in righteousness; so the man of God is adequately equipped for every GOOD WORK. Acts 20:28 states, “Be on guard for yourselves and for all the flock for the Holy Spirit made you overseers to shepherd the Church of God purchased with Jesus’ BLOOD. James 1:19, beloved brethren be quick to hear slow to speak slow to anger, no critical comments to stir up hatred to flare evil negative emotions. Godly restoration of wrong for reconciliation is hard but the hardest part is forgiving yourself and all others who wrong you or you wronged them. Whether victim or perpetrator, or right or wrong both needs God’s Mercy, Grace to forgive to receive forgiveness. God said you forgive to be forgiven by God. So leave your gifts at the altar and resolve conflict before you enter God’s HOLY PRESENCE HIS Sanctuary through BLOOD OF JESUS. OUR LORD GOD & SAVIOUR ARE PURE IN HEART so pure in heart shall see God. Psalm 51:10 says, create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. And Lamentations 5:21 says, Restore us to yourself, O LORD so we may be restored Renew our days as of old we loved and honoured you. Lamentations 3:40 says it is your conscience that helps to test and examine our ways to return to the Lord. Acts 3:19 says, Repent and turn to God so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the LORD. Jeremiah 3:66 The LORD said if like days of king Josiah you backslided as Israel did on high mountain or under green trees played the harlot God says HE WILL FORGIVE if you repent. Time for the whole church, individuals and in your private prayer closet. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything and a time for talking, silence, joy, grief, tears, love and hate under heaven.” And 1 John 1:19 says, “If we confess our sins, God faithfully forgives sins to purify us from all unrighteousness.” If you are busy minding other’s sins, God says in Matthew 26:41, Watch and pray so you will not fall into same temptations you accuse others of. So spirit is willing but the flesh is weak but Jesus said if you are weak you are strong through Holy Spirit. Ask God’s forgiveness and repent in Jesus Name. Bow down at the feet of Lord Jesus Christ as a humble vessel so GOD will forgive you. And get Spiritual mentor to guide you to quality of Christ not focus on speck in other’s eyes, says Matthew 7:3. And Psalm 145:14 says The LORD upholds all who fall and lifts up all bowed down. All who overcome will be clothed in white garments, and I will not blot out their name from the Book of Life, I will confess their names before My FATHER God and before HIS angels says Revelation 3:4-5. Praise Jesus Christ our Lord, and Saviour. “The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all. Amen. Accept Jesus Christ Who gave His Life on Cross at Calvary, to receive Forgiveness freely available through His ULTIMATE SACRIFICE to Come into your life to live in your heart to be your KING, Lord and Saviour.1543147650346-452672964.jpg And from this day not be controlled by sin or desire to please self but follow Jesus all the days of your life. Ask this in Jesus’ precious Holy Name, Amen. In Matthew 18:15-17, Bible says if refuses to LISTEN take one, two-three people with you so BY MOUTH OF TWO, THREE WITNESSES to CONFIRM action but if still refuses to listen, tell Church. And if refuses to listen to the Church let them be Gentile or tax collector to you. The Bible verses help Church members or their leaders clearly to guide people using God’s right procedure. Know God wants restoration in Church to help to ensure Jesus is at centre of a restoration process. Bible’s approach is opportunity for people to take initiative to seek help for those who miss the mark. A person suffering secretly in sin struggles and to keep up with effects of sin damage their lives and those involved. Some may play games with people’s emotions in denial but deep down in their heart crying out for help. It takes courage to open up and seek help and forgiveness of those they offended. Damage done affects so many people causing others to lose the faith in God. Its painful, sad, shocking believers confess of falling into sin. What do you do when a beloved brother or sister in Christ makes wrong choice to fall in sin? First direct them to pray and ask God’s forgiveness to repent and make effort to actively stop the sin. Abraham restored Lot his fallen nephew in Genesis 14:1-24 when he and Sarah left Haran to travel to Canaan in Genesis 12.4. Abraham’s nephew Lot chose to take risks in a war zone among enemies to stay behind. Abraham rescued Lot in time when Amraphel a king of Shinar, Arioch king of Ellasar, Kedorlaomer the king of Elam and Tidal king of Goyim four kings seized all goods of Sodom, Gomorrah their food, took Abraham’s nephew Lot and his possessions as he lived in Sodom. A man who escaped reported it Abraham living near the great trees of Mamre the Amorite, of Eshkoland Aner allied with Abraham. Abram took 318 trained men in his household in pursuit to Dan. Abraham divided his men to attack and routed them Hobah north of Damascus. He recovered all goods so brought back Lot and his possessions together with the women and others. So Abraham after defeating Kedorlaomer and kings allied with him, the king of Sodom came out to meet him in Valley of Shaveh or the King’s Valley. Abraham risked his life with the others to rescue stubborn nephew who chose to stay in a place against advise. He got into trouble but chose the most fertile land later and did not remember his uncle’s sacrifice. People why God told Abraham to leave his family and kindred in Iraq but chose to bring Lot along with his aged father to slow him down. Despite Abraham’s best efforts Lot eventually flees Sodom with his daughters and his wife turned into Pillar of salt. His daughters mated with their father to create the Moabites known for history of incest. Abraham’s risk and correction of Lot seems a waste of time probably best if he perished life would have been better. Often onlooker is reluctant to get involved in another person’s mess if it endangers their life. Abraham’s effort to RESTORE Lot and his family to reconnect to God under the tutelage of Abraham didn’t last long. As you can take a horse to the water but can’t force it to drink. Abraham played a crucial role in his need to restore Lot by a bold victory in battle yet Lot yields to sin by learning the evil ways of Sodom. Abraham thought Lot learnt his lesson and listened so gained his nephew back. Lot went back to his old ways so became his own master of destruction. It easy to spot anyone in sin to forgive and restore them to SAVE YOUR SOUL. Abraham’s experience with Lot is a classic example of futile efforts to help others in vain. So in this case Abraham saved his soul by doing the right thing to obey God to help his nephew in a time of need by wrong choices. First reaction is condemnation and shaming of person to disgrace them to change. This is not Biblical because it makes the situation worse to harden the heart and embarrass them so never step in Church again. A naive young baby Christian may not fully know the word of God makes mistakes in the beginning.1543147839273-1104846375.jpg Titus 3:10-11, reject them and run away like Joseph after first, second warning if person is bent on sin self-condemns. In 1 Corinthians 5:11, ‘I wrote to you not to associate with immoral person covetous or idolater, reviler, drunkard, swindler do not eat with them. In 2 Romans 13 : 4, if a minister of God to you is good but some do evil, be afraid; for they do not bear sword for nothing; for a minister of God is avenger who brings wrath on the ones who practice evil.In 1 Timothy 1:20 Hymenaeus and Alexander handed over to satan to be afflicted and taught not to blaspheme. Their flesh tormented by satan forces them to seek God’s Face to deliver their souls. In 1 Corinthians 5:5 some believers deliver to satan for destruction of flesh, so the spirit may be saved in day of the Lord Jesus. Romans 16:17 urges brethren to keep eyes on all those who cause divisions, hindrances contrary to teachings learnt and turn away from them. In Galatians 6:1 those Spiritual are to restore sinner in SPIRIT of GENTLENESS so you too will not be tempted. The Righteous fall 7 times but God lifts them up. Jesus said forgive 70 x 70 time = 490 times per day not be bitter and revengeful but leaving judgement to God the GREATEST ‘ Judge and Avenger.’ If they commit atrocities as God’s Children and sin against God the ALMIGHTY God deals with them for all Powers and Authority in Heaven and Earth is given to Lord Jesus Christ and Saviour the rightful judge to restore the backslider. Remember the story of King David, a friend of God punished by God after adultery with Uriah’s wife tried to cover his sins transferred innocent man Uriah to war front killed in battle. God is Righteous and David was punished for his wickedness. God gave David 2 two options for his punishment to choose. a) God wants to hand him to enemies to be punished  b) God punish him HIMSELF. David chose God to inflict punishment for ‘man is cruel and wicked’ but God is compassionate and merciful so restored David. Man will totally and completely will destroy everything about him is a lesson for all to learn in Church. It is God’s BUSINESS so leave it for God. The man of God and sinners disobeys God’s Word so that is God’s exclusive domain. Judas betrayed Christ, but it did not affect His Ministry. Ministers of God and apostles in many Churches of God commit sin in House of God but it does not affect God in those Churches. People out of frustration and lack of patience, deny God to backslide but still God gives them another chance. In Jeremiah 3:14, “Return, O backsliding children” says The LORD; “I AM married to you. I will take you. One from a city and two from a family and bring you to Zion.” Human make mistakes so like all open to Forgiveness and Restoration by God Himself. Encourage, pray, believe God for restoration. Stress pressurizes  people of God to seek relief in a secular way but leave them to God’s judgement. Pray the LORD’s wrath on detractors is cancelled for the unity of Church of God in Jesus Name, Ephesians 4:4-7 says as one body and Spirit, called in one hope of your calling; one LORD, one faith, one baptism: one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all and in you all. To each one grace is given according to measure of Christ’s gift.” These words of God in Jesus Name, Amen, Jesus said, “all those without sin cast the first stone as Jesus told woman caught in adultery, so given second chance to go and sin no more. The man involved her accusers pardoned so left her alone, reminded of their own sinful natures by Jesus Christ. Does it mean this woman can count on Jesus’ forgiveness to repeat sinful action because of guaranteed mercy of God? Of course not Bible says because the Grace of God abounds is not licence to sin. The years of ignorance God forgives because unaware of consequences. A deliberate sin commited and excused by qouting Roman 8:38-39 that nothing separates a believer from God is the willful offence used to manipulate naive Christians to engage in sin. “For I am persuaded that death, life, angels, principalities, powers or things present, things to come, height depth or another creature can separate us from the LOVE of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. So verse is twisted to convince believer God forgives no matter the sin of killing, stealing or destructions due to lust. Joseph refused to “sin against God” but punished for his honesty, loyalty to God and his master Portipher. A person who does not get their evil way harasses the one strong in the LORD who refuses to sin with them like Portipher’s wife lied about Joseph who run from sin. The person blackmails a victim, withdraws all favour, isolates them to stop others defeating them too. Be careful when a person is victimised for standing up for Christ in righteousness. The perpetrator puts them down like Joseph for refusing an evil request for doing the right thing. Its better to Obey and please God rather than join a man to use and abuse you. It may cost you material possessions and reputation but God will supply all your needs from Glory in heaven. Joseph’s is a great example of God rewarding and promoting Joseph who was harassed by his siblings in the family. Though Joseph suffered God honoured him to save the world from the 7 years famine in Egypt. a-gospel-that-doesnt-include-repentance-is-a-false-gospel-768x768.jpgThe woman caught in adultery is sent to seek God’s punishment but found Grace, Mercy for forgiveness Jesus forgave her. The self-righteous condemned her to death but Bible says confess your sins to God and cover all other people’s sins. It does not mean condoning but is none of your business if you witnessed it. Spreading negative rumours DEFILES the innocent mind and distract Gospel. The devil uses gossip to stop receiving deliverance. It takes two tango so those scorned and embittered but didn’t walk away repent. Some went back for more abuse, play victim to attack, spread hatred. Bible says, what is true and of GOOD REPORT think on these things. For evil reports, fast privately on behalf to INTERCEDE with Jesus the INTERCESSOR in heaven. Gossipers will not enter kingdom of God for the sin of defiling minds of others to cause them to depart from the faith. Gossip is as evil as murder, adultery etc. Corinthians 6:9-10 says, backbiters, gossips, slanderers, will not inherit THE KINGDOM OF GOD. Unless they REPENT will be shut out of the KINGDOM of HEAVEN. Let God deal with sin for the greater the calling the bigger the target of satan’s attacks. And despite God’s punishment the Covenant continues through Jesus to sit on throne of King David. God’s Mercy is for people who humble themselves God Forgives. King Solomon’s mother was married to King David after her husband Uriah was killed. Despite sin God chose Solomon to build HIM a Temple in Jerusalem. Don’t sin putting your mouth against people who sin against God the CREATOR and people being destroyed by perpetrators. Who appoint you judge of God’s people? They face Spiritual attack so cover them in prayer and by the Blood of Jesus. And 1 Corinthians 6.9-10 says its duty to God is to pray for mercy but NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS to spread such gossip online, by phone, email, texts or verbally to do more damage to them and yourself. The metoo# movement is global so sleeping with wo/men/girls has become common phenomenon in Church, homes, schools, offices, shrines, Bible college, seminary villages all locations, clubs etc. Angels in heaven fell down and slept with women on earth to produce the giant nephilims. Perfect people do not exist on earth but strive for perfection by God’s Grace. Its crucial Children of God abstain from all sins in the Body of Christ in the Church of God to have good success by God’s Grace in Jesus Name. Such a common occurrence of prevalent drives Church to seek God’s Face more. Church general overseers snatch other’s wives and the paedophile priests falls like the secular people. Church has heard or known all problems in society everywhere but it is the Grace of God that sustains Churches. As David fell and rose again in the Bible so challenge of sin with thoughts, sight or body, is a weakness for everyone to overcome. Have you overcome yours, whether in pulpit or pew? Revealing or advertising sin committed in secret seen by God is non of your business. Pray for all to overcome weaknesses and grow in Jesus Christ. The Church grows because Jesus said, gates of hell will not prevail against it in Jesus Name. A Church often condemned thrives, so attack favour the ministry accused, persecuted or suffers name calling harassment. God is behind the Church despite continued rumours and attacks used to try to cause damage to stop good success. Seek God yourself so Jesus will save, heal and deliver you for Eternal life of your soul not perish. It is endtimes and Jesus is Coming soon in Rapture so Gossip GOSPEL to win souls in Jesus Name for God’s KINGDOM to come on a perfect earth.

 

DO TOYS DISTRACT FOCUS?

Children become distracted when they are surrounded by toys Too many toys are bad for children as a study suggests that the children become distracted when they are surrounded by too many toys. This is what the parents have suspected all along. Children who have too many toys are more also easily distracted so do not enjoy that quality playtime with other children as the new study suggest. Researchers at University of Toledo in Ohio, US, recruited some 36 toddlers and invited them to play in a room for half an hour, with either four toys, or 16 toys. They found youngsters were far more creative when they had fewer toys to play with. And they played with each for twice as long, thinking up more uses for each toy and lengthening and expanding their games. The authors conclude parents, schools and nurseries should pack away most of their toys and just rotate a small number regularly, to help encourage the children to become more creative to improve the attention spans of the children. This study sought to determine if the number of toys in a toddlers’ environments influences their quality of play,” said the lead author Dr Carly Dauch in journalInfant Behaviour and Development.“The higher number of incidences of play in 16 toy condition did interfere with duration and depth of play. Other toys present created their external distractions. “During toddler years, children develop but not master, higher levels of control over attention. And their attention plus their play was disrupted by factors in an environment present with distractions. The results of the present study suggest an abundance of toys create distractions. But provided with fewer toys in their environments the toddlers engaged in longer periods of play with single toy allowing better focus to explore, play more creatively.”Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, say researchers Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, says researchers. Britons spend more than £3 billion each year on toys and surveys shows that a typical child owns 238 toys in total but parents think they play with just the 12 ‘favourites’ on a daily basis making up just five per cent of their toys. It is not the first time research suggested that too many toys distract children. In the 1990s the German researchers, Elke Schubert and Rainer Strick conducted experiment where the toys were taken away from Munich nursery for three months. After a few weeks, the children re-adjusted and their play became far more creative and social. The published research of their findings in their book, called, The Toy-free Nursery. In another book, ClutterFree with Kids the author, Joshua Becker also argued fewer toys are better for children because a sparse playroom encourages creativity to help children develop attention span and to teach youngsters about taking care of their possessions. “A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there countless options are still remaining on the shelf behind them,” he said. “When children have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. And they will not learn to value them if there is their replacement ready at hand. “Fewer toys causes these children to become more resourceful by solving problems with only materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited practical uses in their futures.

The research is published in the journal Infant Behaviour and Development. The conflict of interest of the toy companies advertising children playing with many latest toys makes parents feel obliged to buy them for the children not to feel left out. Children display their toys online on social media to compare with each other including the addictive games that stop children learning, doing homework assignments later in college, university or focus at work. Lack attention span or focus from childhood affects the adults today unable concentrate for few hours to complete tasks at hand. Christmas is around and parents must not let a child manipulate them emotionally to buy a toy without teaching them first value of essential basic reading at level. Children can get a few educational toy to reward them to do exceptionally well in a field of academic achievement at school. The development steared towards a specific direction of any future career requires relevant toys to influence natural gifts, talents and abilities. Otherwise parents unintentionally make children victim of success by their ability to buy too many toys they can afford. Just because it is possible to buy things seen on the TV in adverts does not mean it enhances their specific development. Parent knows the children best, whether they are trained experts or not must help child learn not to depend only on school to learn. Early learning through practical play is now rapidly eroded by virtual reality keep children cocooned online. So important to carefully reflect before Christmas on piling up toys to “prove” your “love” of your children to the world overloading them with too many toys. Experience shows most children are just so happy playing with the box, not expensive toys boosting their parents ego. Millennium children are suffering from the lack of a social understanding or interaction due to isolated attachment to toys valued as more precious than engaging with each other. Time consumed worrying about their toy possessions makes them miss out on appreciating fellow human being as adults due to learned behaviour. The competition among children, teenagers over toys leads further to threats of the perceived anger of friends loving them only for their material possessions. The toys must not take over to babysit their children without adult supervision and input. One of the best ways to bond with children is play with them sometimes to help them value the adults in their lives.

IGNORANT Ignorant ignorant

1541706651819605598922-1.jpgIgnorant is ignorant of ignorance due to ignorance is bliss like burying own head in the sand ignoring obvious situations. Ignorance is glaring for all to see except the ignorant person affected. Although no one knows everything in life, basic common sense requires awareness of people’s educational, social, cultural or psychological and health needs to help interact better in society. God in the Bible says, My People perish for lack of knowledge. This means God’s manual of life is abandoned and ignored to search for alternatives to suit each person as they are fit regardless of whether it is in the best interest of others or not. Such an attitude concentrates efforts only on what is in it for me. Such a self-centred personality sees the world through only their viewpoint despite views of billions of other people on earth. Ego is inflated so much despite academic achievement ignorant and unskilled in dealing fairly with people. Unaware of ignorance lives in a bubble without realising difficulties in not recognising own incompetence. It leads to the hyper – inflated exaggerated self-assessment ego ignorant of damage of their own ignorance on themselves or others bullied into coercion. Ignorant naive ignorant but insist on dominating others is the tragedy of today’s society. An ignorant character is too ignorant to realize their ignorance, others deal with and put up with for the sake of peace. If ignorant but insists on making decisions that lacks awareness of consequences, it is often too late to repair damage others saw in advance but were overruled. The power game of feeling in control to tell others what to do feel empowered is a sign if insecurity. Constantly orders the others about without any taking of the responsibility for actions. Power hungry bubble wrapped in virtual reality lacks undertanding of practical daily issues.  15417067548761293330498-1.jpgUnderlying ignorant fear of unknown is reason lurking behind the ignorant who does not value or respect those around them who sacrifice time to portray their fake image perfect, grand, great or best. Yet deep down in their hearts unhappy about coercion threats for fear of being fired for genuine honesty. The truth is not clearly obvious to ignorant and yet argues and fights the best experts in the field of expertise. A strong egotistic will untamed fester’s into all aspects of their lives never having no for an answer. So moves heaven and earth to achieve any thing they fancy or feel like doing. This starts from childhood if the self-centred ego is not nipped in bud. Having control over peers and colleagues to manipulate them to do their bidding and dirty work for them. Ignorance is dangerous if the ignorant makes decisions of the policies they know nothing about. Meanwhile a choice of whatever they want supplied at their beck and call exploiting others. It means an ignorant person affects the other people suffering due to ignorant choices they make on behalf of others. The irony is people are most likely to be ignorant of extent of their ignorance do not listen to anybody. It starts, with the authoritarian, do as I say not what I do type of bullying compulsive behaviour. Impulsive decisions mean they do not remember what they said or what they did previously. Meanwhile everyone around them remembers their insults and tantrums of how they were made to feel small by them. So do not forget but dare not question their ever-changing decisions of instructions in atmosphere of fear. Ignorant lacks knowledge of the basic things even children may know. 1541706870660-566392789.jpgIt gets worse over time when the people hide the truth from them to conceal the effects of their aggressive reactions. The ignorant describe life in their state of unawareness of the things they should know. Means its ignorance defining lack of knowledge or training of ignorance of their harmful side of their ignorance. Lack of awareness is more dangerous as ignorant has not enough knowledge, understanding, or information about somethings they do or have to do on the behalf of others. Their ignorance rubs people the wrong way because but they ignore the expert advise and so do their ignorant things. Their opinion divides, damaging people, health, work, homes, families, etc. Precisely the kind of world ignorant run but unequipped mentally, morally ethically destroy environment and the earth. Ignorance of God’s plans, through Jesus’ purpose for mankind by ignorant people causes ignorant to live their lives trampling on other people like beasts. By ignorance they choose knowledge that leads to woes for many people. The question is how come the ignorant flourish like a great tree so overbearing little trees cannot get their daily Sunshine, nutrition or rain to live and let live and Jesus anymore? Jesus already warns of such perilous times so people must know how to respond not to react to the hatred triggered by them. It’s part of endtime prophecy in Bible on how evil is seen as good so good is seen as evil due to deception. Their negative vibes drive hatred and conflict distracts attention from their ignorance. People latch unto their loathing divide and rule targets fights and wars of destruction to cull the global population to dominate all people on earth. Ignorance leads to a world getting worse fuelled by hatred to spurs gullible to self-destruct. People are too busy projecting hatred on others to scrutinise their incompetency. Stress of constant pressure surround them so chaos and confusion since at the helm of affairs controlling others. Inability to listen to others destroys them so people walk on egg shells around them in fear. The spirit behind this is satan for just a season to be driven out by Jesus to take back power to Reign on earth.