Briggs recollected in her landmark 1971 book “Never in Anger,” about how calm and collected everyone was jarcontrast that created against her own unruly emotions. Even when some truly rage-worthy things happened like a teapot falling and smashing against floor the Inuit never betrayed a hint of anger. An “Emotional control is highly valued among Eskimos,” she wrote in the book. Indeed, maintenance of emotions under trying circumstances is essential sign of maturity, of adulthood.” Why so calm, she wondered? And more importantly, how can the rest of us get there? For the answer, Briggs looked to how children responded in difficult circumstances appeared to be something they learned from their parents. An simple parenting technique of Inuit is “Never scold child.” It became clear to Briggs when a young boy threw rock at her, related in a CBC interview, she didn’t berate him angrily, rather told him calmly it hurt. Instead of rage she told him real consequences of his actions caused her pain. Decades later, the writer Michaeleen Doucleff followed in Briggs’ footsteps in visiting Iqaluit, Canada, “in search of parenting wisdom. Said that teaching children to control their emotions is very important she writes in NPR. Doucleff found that a common strand among Inuit parents is: Across the board all mothers mentioned One Golden Rule: Don’t shout or yell at small children.”Among Inuit Arctic community Doucleff found the people practiced the theory that screaming at a child only teaches the child to scream. It is a vicious circle, the University of Pittsburgh researcher Ming-Te Wang noted in a 2013 study. “It is tough call for parents because it goes both ways: the problem behaviours of children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline. That harsh discipline may push adolescents toward the same problem behaviours.” The Inuit society seems to have learned lessons long ago, and managed to break the cycle. And so “Traditional Inuit parenting incredibly is nurturing, gentle, tender,” as Doucleff writes. “If you took all parenting styles around the world and ranked them by their gentleness, Inuit approach would likely rank near the top.” What kind of children does that society produce? The kind who live harmoniously in world’s harshest climates often with threadbare resources. Survival hinges on making the most efficient use of natural world yet group still manages to be at peace with itself and with others. Maybe that’s because it’s also the kind of society that teaches kindness above all else. Jesus said do not let the sun radiate or set on your anger. Let it go for peace of mind.
Paedophiles from word paedophilia in Greek παῖς, παιδός (paîs, paidós) means “child”and φιλία (philía) “friendly love” or “friendship.” Paedophile is a pervert with exclusive sexual interest in young children aged 15 or younger. Abuser misconstrues it as ‘love’ to rape children but its lust not love. A sexually abused child is innocent, too young, too naive, incapable of understanding the emotional damage consequences of abuser’s mind control manipulations. Stockholm syndrome grooming uses lies to deceive child as, “special” “chosen” told “family does” not love them by rogue priests or bishops and cardinals sworn to secrecy. Church goers molested by their trust in them to invest in their faith in God. The child rapist takes advantage of genuine agape love of the innocent children who don’t know about adult sexual abuse. In the name of “love” paedophiles wrongly think its “childlove.” Word Paedo, ‘child’ + philos ‘love’ is sexual abuse disguised as ‘love’ camouflages masquerading adult embedded in family wedged between innocent children and family. Pervert seduces children by stirring an unsuspecting sexual feeling preserved for adult legal age for sex. This addictive attachment misleads the child to “fall in love” with predator for abuse. Child lacks frontal brain cortex of logical reasoning skill to understand the risk or the full consequences of their actions. They mimic their molestor deceiving them and infused by distorted perception of “love” makes the innocent child loyal to the predator. But does not realise the deception is not normal. Join with impudence in secrecy of ignorance as it appears normalised by interaction in family feel guilty by association to let go of abuser. Truly think they “love” abuser but the child is unaware of damage so defends abuser even more seemingly ‘loved’ and adored by them and others. Abuser uses fear tactics and tears to lure a child to sympathise influencing their thought process by brainwashing. Their “love” is overshadowed by denial to protect each other from a perceived threat of society to ruin their exclusive ‘love’ attachment. Genuine, natural, caring agape affection of children is sound foundation of God’s LOVE but the pervert takes advantage of them. An innocent child is ignorant of sex, unaware of motives of child rapists. God’s LOVE if practiced in truth without perversion is the best gift child receives to grow in confidence and thrive. Sadly innocent naive child thinks their love is based on equal, sincere affection. They assume abuser’s exclusive love for them is unique, so special but ‘love’ interest is for sexual abuse. They exploit innocent children who know nothing about sex but love attention. Leads to intimacy as misled for selfish sexual gratification by abuser. Genuine love of child perceived by distorted twisted pervert as ‘consent’ for sex but its mere normal interaction of family. The caring, loving parent has implicit trust so expects genuine mutual affection of others for their children. Their sincere loving care is duly entrusted to ensure due diligence in the best interest of their child. But the dark web of sexual abuse predators use pornography, undermine seriousness of rape. The trivial attitude towards sexual abuse competition to exchange gross or daring inappropriate photos of sexual abuse perpetrates it.Fear of being exposed or consequences of declaring their evil actions makes an abuser to place guilt on the child to hide their evil deeds. But its a bad move to blackmail the child with the burden of secrets to hold the child to ransom by manipulations. This is a complex web of mixed messages of lust misinterpreted to the child as “love.” And so the children become emotionally attached to adult perpetrators as “good people” who ‘love’ them. Exclusive negative attention to them makes them think they are, “one and only one” in a perverts life unaware other children are told exact same lies to keep hold on them all. Pervert abuses children by their cunning brainwashing power of control due to the insecurity of their mind so not a mutual relationship of two consenting adults. The legal age requires minimum age of consent for sex between adults depending on a country. The child does not know laws forbid sex between adult and children under legal age. The legal sexual age for consent is 18 years in other countries 21 years. Then 5 years old girl is youngest mother in Guinness book of record to get pregnant is reason campaigners of sex education start from five years in primary schools to warn children about sexual abuse. So those children sexually molested knew nothing about sex or the grooming by a pervert who raped them. Adults force a child to keep their ‘little dirt secret’ because they know they will be jailed for raping children but a child must not carry burden of brainwashing.Its important to train the child to wash their own private body parts by three years old. Not touched inappropriately, and to teach them not to be in bedroom, bathroom, anywhere alone without the parent present. They deceive the child to deny allegation but they still continue perversion. The innocent child does not understand impact of abuse until after adulthood. Reed tells the BBC, he hopes his film makes all parents to think twice before entrusting child to strangers and make people think twice about idolising cult of celebrity.” Prepare children not to keep secrets or be a favourite special secret friend no matter how famous or generous. And Reed said, “Celebrity cult is so pernicious and leads people to go blind and parents to do stupid things,” says Dan Reed, the director of the new Michael Jackson documentary. Parents do not know motive of pervert so avoid even the appearance of evil entrusting your child to nobody. Be ruthless not to compromise control of your child by an expensive gifts to distract them from an alertness and their sharp focus. Abuse has occurred hundreds of hundreds of times to Mr Robson and Mr Safechuck as agreed in this case. Mr Robson told the programme: “Every time I was with him, every time I stayed the night with him, he abused me.” Jackson fondled him, “touching my entire body,” made him watch the singer performing a sex act, he said. And then, when he was 14, Jackson had tried to rape him. That was one of the last sexual abuse experiences we had,” Mr Robson told programme.Leaving Neverland, Wade Robson here says Jackson sexually abused him in the 1990s Jackson groomed him to believe they “loved each other as God approves how we show our love” he said. So why use “Jesus juice” laced by alcohol or God knows what, to influence their minds. A True love is public agreement including public approval by loved ones. Anyone taking advantage to rape a child knows they are breaking the law so conceal it. But deceives children to think they love them above all else in the world. “And then he would immediately follow-up with, ‘But If anybody else ever found out what we are doing, you and I would go to jail for the rest of our lives and our lives would fall apart,’ he so I would fall apart,” Mr Robson told programme. “All of this was terrifying to me. “The idea of being pulled away from Michael – this man, this other-worldly figure, this god to me who had become my best friend – no way was I going to do anything that would pull me away from him.” And Mr Robson said Jackson told him “I was his best friend and the only person he ever done these sexual acts with.” Out of all the boys in the world was chosen one, I thought,” he said. Mr Safechuck told the programme his abuse had begun with Jackson teaching him how to perform a sex act, at the age of 10. “Then you start French kissing he said taught him to do that,” Mr Safechuck said. Was followed by further abuse and other sex acts.Mr Safechuck told the program Jackson abused him over a sustained period of time because he successfully groomed his parents. There was a long grooming process where Michael inserts himself into your family and becomes a part of your family,” he said. “It takes him a while to build up the trust so it doesn’t happen overnight.” And he then “makes a wedge between you and your parents to isolate you from everybody else.”
“At the same time when you’re being abused also a part of you is dying,” Mr Safechuck added. Mr Robson described Jackson as a “master manipulator.” He had driven “this wedge between myself and my father, and my mother and my father” to make it easier for the abuse to occur, he told the programme. He also said part of responsibility for the abuse should fall “at the door of other people, all the employees around Michael and me and James [Safechuck] all the time who looked the other way.”‘Very innocent’ Is the response, Michael Jackson’s brothers Tito, Marlon, Jackie, and nephew Taj Jackson who reject the claims in Leaving Neverland broadcast in UK the singer abused children. Taj said his uncle’s behaviour seems odd to some is “very innocent,” adding: “its his naivety that was his downfall.” Marlon said, “not one piece of evidence” backs up allegations. Michael Jackson’s estate, said Mr Robson and Mr Safechuck had previously “testified under oath these events never occurred.” “They provided no independent evidence or absolutely no proof in support of their accusations, which means entire film hinges solely on the word of two perjurers,” it said. A crime of raping children is punished In prison and after release their identity is hidden from the public who may attack or want to kill them. In prison are killed by offenders because it’s most heinous crime against innocent vulnerable child. This is why abuser refuses to admit guilt to the public because they know it will destroy their reputation and relationships with friends and family. They lose status and are hated for molesting children, it is so difficult for sexual predators to admit guilt. Their distorted perception makes them feel rape is justified as a mutual “consent” by the child they raped. Their attitude is, by the parents allowing them to be with child it means they approved of their actions. Why would the grown adult would want to rape a child in the name of love. This is gross misconduct and lack of understanding of purpose of sexual intimacy in the context of loving relationship. The mutual consent of two people without substance abuse to bend the mind of vulnerable victims. The law forbids predators from forcing sex upon others without their permission. But the problem is predators do not understand the rights of other people. So they think they can have whatever they want any time whenever they want. They do not genuinely care about victims as long their selfish pervert actions take place. No pervert admits abuse unless caught red handed so its impossible to witness a concealed sexual abuse hidden from view. Those defending perverts have no clues about that side of their personality so shocked to hear of the horrific rapes by them. The victim is victimized too for daring to speak their truth so refuses to put perpetrators behind bars. They feel guilty for betraying sexual escapades in which they partook. Fearful, ashamed of their reputation being tarnished and unfairly wrongly judged as liars with an agenda of looking for money. Often too embarrassed to reveal the abuse, people do not understand the emotional abuse, nightmares haunting survivors for the rest of their lives. No amount of money of their instigators’ compensation can wipe out trauma of sexual abuse which affects marriage relationship intimacy in adulthood. Perpetrators do not know or realise they upset too many people so their damage destroys the life of victims and families including the perpetrator’s loved ones. This does not mean victims to be prevented from educating others to warn them to be more careful in life. Its wise to seek forgiveness on behalf of loved ones for inner healing and peace.Joyce Meyer, Oprah Winfrey and Maya Angelo, Billy Connelly and Dame Esther Rantzen, all spoke about their sexual abuses suffered, as she revealed for the first time in 2011, publicly talk about it and still manage to be successful in life. Don’t let abuse define your life to hurt yourself. Genesis 34:34 tells of the rape Dinah Jacob’s only daughter to visit Canaanite women. And Shechem son of Hamor, the Hivite and chief of region, saw her and raped her…Prince Shechem disgraced Dinah and Jacob’s sons killed Shechem and whole village for revenge. Shechem wants to marry Dinah, whole village told to circumcise to marry her. The circumcision ploy demobilised the village tricked for Dinah’s violation and brothers Simeon and Levi’s killed men. These brother’s extreme measures for vengeance for their sister Dinah’s rape is done by some people who practice it. The damage done by rape is violation of human rights and emotional damage is a lifetime of trauma. Be aware of consequences of pain for whole familyIn 2 Samuel 13-20, Amnon son of David raped his half-sister Tamar a virgin and Absalom’s sister. She said, do not force me; for such a thing is not done in Israel; do not do anything so vile. But he did not listen to her and stronger than her forced her and raped her. Absalom told Tamar, be quiet do not take it to heart…Tamar remained a desolate woman in brother Absalom’s house in 2 Samuel 13:11-12, 14, 20. Absalom later killed Ammon in revenge. In the past victims told to keep abuse secret because nobody will marry her and it brought shame to the family. In talk show TD Jake’s of Potters House said sexual abuse is so rampart that the question is there anyone not sexually abused? It shows many people dealing with rape and healing comes in Christ Jesus who came to heal broken heated. The Spirit of the LORD God is upon me, because the LORD anointed me and sent me to bring Good News to the oppressed, to heal the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to captives and release prisoners to provide for those who mourn in Zion to give them joy for ashes, oil of gladness for mourning, praise for the fainthearted. Are oaks of righteousness planted by the LORD to display HIS GLORY says Isaiah 61:1, 3. Survivors of rape sexual abuse carry wounds into adulthood but Jesus Christ heals the wounded. Isaiah 61:1,3 brings transformation healing through Redeemer Jesus Christ. God heals so breaks silence with HIS Light of hope to be joyful in life again in Jesus Name.
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God’s social media connection marriage partners were just friends but has more plans confirmed through Pastor Alph Lukau. It is reassuring God watches all things on social media and approves of good things happening but hates all evil things taking place there. God gave this spouse to each other to have and to hold to walk together. Amos 3:3 says, do two walk together unless they agree so both friends agreed before congregation to love each other. This is miracle working God we serve in Jesus Name.
Entering this world to understand their mindset is God’s way of sending Jesus to socialize with people to help their lives to overcome emotional, spiritual and physical concerns. A famous father invited into a nightclub by his daughter hoped and prayed nobody will see or recognise him but someone shouted his name shocked to see him there. And because of his faith, social standing and profession it became a turning point for a better relationship between them. At times called to participate in an unusual circumstance or join situation you may prefer not to be seen doing. If it is safe, not risky to life of both parties or others awkward situations and interaction can create bonds to build on. A farmer once confronted by insane roaming about on his property found he took his hunting gun as he turned in a split second. So he intuitively picked a piece of wood to join the man dancing with his gun until safe enough to grab it from him. This extreme example not recommended but in unpredictable circumstance dancing with him calmed him down. This man probably lived all his life only criticised, never interacted with people because of insanity but the farmer made him feel acknowledged. Distracting when timing was best time took control of his gun. In life similarly, you win bees with more honey than smoke or carrots than stick approach If he panicked or shouted ‘oi’ give back the gun, it’s not yours, may be a trigger moment to upset him to react rather than respond as dance partner. Similarities of occasions can be if others do not fully perceive inner thoughts of other confused people. Use the positive moment together to win their hearts to others. On the other hand it its risky be careful to assess person before taking a leap of faith. The person may not make sense but point to good things about them to calm them to diffuse tension. The uncohesive person needs expert intervention but if unavailable reassure but play along. A bond is built showing genuine interest and asking questions related to their life or loved ones. You may not convince or make sense due to distorted perception unable to hear you because of the state of mind. Efforts to guide or correct them seems attack of intelligence, confidence or ability to decide for themselves. And considered ‘violation’ of their personal decision-making process and choices. So after coming to their senses if not drunk on drugs or psychotic the recovery stage creates clarity to see episodes recorded or documented to prove to them what others see or hear. Until then, it’s mere chaotic noise that creates anxiety and tension of feeling judged. Stay calm no matter what shocking things said unless at risk press safety button for help. If an agitated person will listen, record, talk through hallucinations to tell them you believe what they say but not logically make sense. Your goal is not to correct or frustrate them if infuriated or angry about their treatment or any labels. So stress makes things worse because they cannot keep cool if angry to verbalise their true inner feelings or emotions in angry state. Medications do numb some people so not as sensitive as expected to be. Frustrating situations agitate person under pressure to feel worse if ignored. Misunderstood people feel ostracised so keep a written journal signed to offload mind in a safe space. Or talk privately in public place to deal with roots of anger, abandonment, neglect, mental health or other matters pertaining to a pain of the past. Don’t have the victim mentality as it causes low self-confidence and lack of trust in those helping to support them. Some people implode due to inability to express their real feeling because do not realise they cause offense. It turns into anger, bitterness, resentment concealed as politeness but fuming inside. Do not force them to speak immediately while you are doing them a favour. Say that you mean well and mean what you say genuinely without causing pain to hurt them. If an autistic person they may not understand other people’s point of view. Lack of frontal cortex means they do not understand the risk consequence of actions like matured people. And so feel lack of consideration of another point of view which to them is disregard of them as human beings. Unable to adapt or be flexible to change swiftly if need arises is fixated on one idea or one thing only at that level to deal with. Don’t say grow up or do not act their shoe size because they are not acting. Families and friends must understand they live in the head in their own world isolated so cannot be in the here and now. Often drift off into a fogged mind unawares of what goes on around them. Enter their world by becoming interested in their favourite activity, games, passion, hobbies to try to connect with them emotionally. The time spent with them means a lot to them so feel someone believes in them. Recreate their stories around talents or skills and abilities to help them literally not to lose to their mind. Do not put on pressure for perfect facade of normality in life situations. It’s essential to heal to overcome loss, bereavement, trauma or past abuses and challenging problems of life. In a speech yesterday it was said you may have flaws, be angry, anxious but do not forget your life is the greatest enterprise in the world so Only you can stop it going bust. People appreciate and admire you and love you so Remember to be happy is not to have a sky without storm, road without bumps, and work without fatigue, relationships without challenges. To be happy means find strength in forgiveness and hope in battles, security in the stage of fear, love in discord. It’s not only if enjoying smiles that life is good but reflect on sadness. It is not only to celebrate successes, but to learn lessons from past failures. It is not only to feel happy with applause, but to be happy in anonymity. Being happy is part of destiny and an achievement for those who can travel within themselves. To be happy means stop feeling like the victim to become your destiny’s author. It is to cross deserts yet able to find an oasis in the depths of our soul. Thank God every morning for miracle of life. Being happy is not being afraid of your own feelings. It’s to be able to talk about you buy having courage to hear a “no” is not rejection of you as human being. Confidence in God in the face of many criticisms even unjustified strengthens your faith and builds you up. What does not kill you makes you stronger so kiss your children, pamper your parents and live poetic moments with friends, even when they hurt us. To be happy is to let live as God’s children created to be free to you, joyful, simple with maturity to be able to say: “I made mistakes.” It is the courage to say “I am sorry” yet have the sensitivity to say, “I need you.” Its to have ability to say “I love you” and your life become garden of opportunities for happiness … in spring be a lover of joy. In winter a lover of wisdom. And when you make a mistake, start all over again. Only then will you be in love with life to be happy even if not perfect life. Use the tears to irrigate tolerance, losses to train patience, mistakes to sculptor serenity, and pain to plaster pleasure, obstacles to open windows of good success. Never give up …. Never give up on people who love you. Never give up on happiness or joy for life is incredible in God.
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Andy Shelley says his time on parental leave was “eye-opening.” Following the release of a poll which suggested 27% of mothers did not enjoy their maternity leave as much as they thought they would, parents have been sharing their experience of parental leave – both good and bad. Some people got in touch after following BBC Radio 5 Live presenter Emma Barnett’s open and honest account of her time away from work looking after her baby son, a time which she described as being “bloody hard and at times, lonely.” So what’s it like to be the one who stays at home and looks after the baby? Three parents share their very different experiences. The good, the bad and unexpected child care needs. ‘I thought my partner was just off work.’ Andy Shelley’s girlfriend gave birth to their daughter in March and the couple decided to take shared parental leave. Prior to making choice, Andy’s partner had been looking after their daughter while he worked 12-hour days. “It was difficult because I felt like I wasn’t doing enough,” he says. Thirty-year-old Andy took over full-time care for two months in July, but admits he was not aware just how much work was involved in staying home and looking after his daughter. “Initially I thought parental leave would be a nice break from work but it wasn’t easy. “Some days she would be upset and I just didn’t know what to do. Your entire day revolves around feeds. It becomes a full-time job in itself. “I would be happy when my partner came home from work as it meant I could have a break.” The Stoke-On-Trent resident says his experience of parental leave was important as he realised how much his girlfriend had been doing when he thought she was “just off work.” “It made me appreciate everything she had done and ultimately cemented my relationship with my daughter. “It’s a shame more fathers don’t take parental leave as it really opens your eyes and you realise what your partner deals with.”‘I made sure I kept busy’Sandrine Charpentier said “clear vision” for her maternity leave and made sure its “wonderful experience.” Sandrine Charpentier, from Hayes in Kent, says her maternity leave with both of her daughters, now aged six and nine, was a “really positive experience.” Despite not knowing many people where she lived, Sandrine made sure she wasn’t isolated by booking a different activity every day. “We would do baby swimming, yoga, singing and play groups. It motivated me to get dressed and get out of the house. “The whole time I was really tired but I thought that was just part of the job. “It was great to meet people, be social and talk about our experiences. I was really happy during that time and it was great for my daughters.” As much as she enjoyed her maternity leave, the mum-of-two admits it was nice to return to work. “Being at work was like a holiday because I was free to do what I wanted. I didn’t have somebody glued to me all the time. “It was good to do something different, to meet people and not talk about nappies and babies all the time.” ‘It’s difficult to be accepted as a stay-at-home dad’People were shocked when Craig Smith said he was going to be a stay-at-home father Craig Smith, 42 in Staffordshire became stay-at-home dad to daughter, Matilda, in January when she was eight months old. His wife has a high-level job so they decided that it would be best for him to give up work and focus on their daughter’s early years. “I was very up for the challenge as I’ve always wanted children, but I didn’t really think about what was involved in being a full-time dad. “Sometimes it’s hard because all Matilda wants is her mum.” Craig says his experience made him realise there is not enough support for stay-at-home dads. “I tried to integrate with local playgroups, but the mums can be quite cliquey and it’s very difficult for a dad to be accepted. “A lot of mum-and-baby groups say fathers are welcome but in reality it’s not like that – the mums can be quite cold.” Craig is planning on going back to work part-time when Matilda starts nursery, but says he feels anxious at the prospect of returning to normality. “It feels like my brain has been conditioned to sing to Peppa Pig or nursery rhymes. The thought of carrying out serious and responsible tasks within a role kind of scares me.
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God RESTORES lost souls says Psalm 23.3-4 and Galatians 6:1 says brothers and sisters if someone sins you who are SPIRITUAL RESTORE person and show them faults in PRIVATE. If they listen, you won your brother. 2 Thessalonians 3:15 says do not treat them as enemy but help them as brother in Christ, ‘just as if’ they never sinned. GOD LOVES sinners but hates sin. 1 Timothy 5:20 says if they continue in sin rebuke them in the presence of all, so the rest will be fearful to sin. Public rebuke is often first used without the private restoration to instill fear in others shames them. Does not lead to genuine repentance, causes chaos, divides the Church members into sympathisers or opponent antagonists. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is inspired by God, profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, training in righteousness; so the man of God is adequately equipped for every GOOD WORK. Acts 20:28 states, “Be on guard for yourselves and for all the flock for the Holy Spirit made you overseers to shepherd the Church of God purchased with Jesus’ BLOOD. James 1:19, beloved brethren be quick to hear slow to speak slow to anger, no critical comments to stir up hatred to flare evil negative emotions. Godly restoration of wrong for reconciliation is hard but the hardest part is forgiving yourself and all others who wrong you or you wronged them. Whether victim or perpetrator, or right or wrong both needs God’s Mercy, Grace to forgive to receive forgiveness. God said you forgive to be forgiven by God. So leave your gifts at the altar and resolve conflict before you enter God’s HOLY PRESENCE HIS Sanctuary through BLOOD OF JESUS. OUR LORD GOD & SAVIOUR ARE PURE IN HEART so pure in heart shall see God. Psalm 51:10 says, create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. And Lamentations 5:21 says, Restore us to yourself, O LORD so we may be restored Renew our days as of old we loved and honoured you. Lamentations 3:40 says it is your conscience that helps to test and examine our ways to return to the Lord. Acts 3:19 says, Repent and turn to God so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the LORD. Jeremiah 3:66 The LORD said if like days of king Josiah you backslided as Israel did on high mountain or under green trees played the harlot God says HE WILL FORGIVE if you repent. Time for the whole church, individuals and in your private prayer closet. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything and a time for talking, silence, joy, grief, tears, love and hate under heaven.” And 1 John 1:19 says, “If we confess our sins, God faithfully forgives sins to purify us from all unrighteousness.” If you are busy minding other’s sins, God says in Matthew 26:41, Watch and pray so you will not fall into same temptations you accuse others of. So spirit is willing but the flesh is weak but Jesus said if you are weak you are strong through Holy Spirit. Ask God’s forgiveness and repent in Jesus Name. Bow down at the feet of Lord Jesus Christ as a humble vessel so GOD will forgive you. And get Spiritual mentor to guide you to quality of Christ not focus on speck in other’s eyes, says Matthew 7:3. And Psalm 145:14 says The LORD upholds all who fall and lifts up all bowed down. All who overcome will be clothed in white garments, and I will not blot out their name from the Book of Life, I will confess their names before My FATHER God and before HIS angels says Revelation 3:4-5. Praise Jesus Christ our Lord, and Saviour. “The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all. Amen. Accept Jesus Christ Who gave His Life on Cross at Calvary, to receive Forgiveness freely available through His ULTIMATE SACRIFICE to Come into your life to live in your heart to be your KING, Lord and Saviour. And from this day not be controlled by sin or desire to please self but follow Jesus all the days of your life. Ask this in Jesus’ precious Holy Name, Amen. In Matthew 18:15-17, Bible says if refuses to LISTEN take one, two-three people with you so BY MOUTH OF TWO, THREE WITNESSES to CONFIRM action but if still refuses to listen, tell Church. And if refuses to listen to the Church let them be Gentile or tax collector to you. The Bible verses help Church members or their leaders clearly to guide people using God’s right procedure. Know God wants restoration in Church to help to ensure Jesus is at centre of a restoration process. Bible’s approach is opportunity for people to take initiative to seek help for those who miss the mark. A person suffering secretly in sin struggles and to keep up with effects of sin damage their lives and those involved. Some may play games with people’s emotions in denial but deep down in their heart crying out for help. It takes courage to open up and seek help and forgiveness of those they offended. Damage done affects so many people causing others to lose the faith in God. Its painful, sad, shocking believers confess of falling into sin. What do you do when a beloved brother or sister in Christ makes wrong choice to fall in sin? First direct them to pray and ask God’s forgiveness to repent and make effort to actively stop the sin. Abraham restored Lot his fallen nephew in Genesis 14:1-24 when he and Sarah left Haran to travel to Canaan in Genesis 12.4. Abraham’s nephew Lot chose to take risks in a war zone among enemies to stay behind. Abraham rescued Lot in time when Amraphel a king of Shinar, Arioch king of Ellasar, Kedorlaomer the king of Elam and Tidal king of Goyim four kings seized all goods of Sodom, Gomorrah their food, took Abraham’s nephew Lot and his possessions as he lived in Sodom. A man who escaped reported it Abraham living near the great trees of Mamre the Amorite, of Eshkoland Aner allied with Abraham. Abram took 318 trained men in his household in pursuit to Dan. Abraham divided his men to attack and routed them Hobah north of Damascus. He recovered all goods so brought back Lot and his possessions together with the women and others. So Abraham after defeating Kedorlaomer and kings allied with him, the king of Sodom came out to meet him in Valley of Shaveh or the King’s Valley. Abraham risked his life with the others to rescue stubborn nephew who chose to stay in a place against advise. He got into trouble but chose the most fertile land later and did not remember his uncle’s sacrifice. People why God told Abraham to leave his family and kindred in Iraq but chose to bring Lot along with his aged father to slow him down. Despite Abraham’s best efforts Lot eventually flees Sodom with his daughters and his wife turned into Pillar of salt. His daughters mated with their father to create the Moabites known for history of incest. Abraham’s risk and correction of Lot seems a waste of time probably best if he perished life would have been better. Often onlooker is reluctant to get involved in another person’s mess if it endangers their life. Abraham’s effort to RESTORE Lot and his family to reconnect to God under the tutelage of Abraham didn’t last long. As you can take a horse to the water but can’t force it to drink. Abraham played a crucial role in his need to restore Lot by a bold victory in battle yet Lot yields to sin by learning the evil ways of Sodom. Abraham thought Lot learnt his lesson and listened so gained his nephew back. Lot went back to his old ways so became his own master of destruction. It easy to spot anyone in sin to forgive and restore them to SAVE YOUR SOUL. Abraham’s experience with Lot is a classic example of futile efforts to help others in vain. So in this case Abraham saved his soul by doing the right thing to obey God to help his nephew in a time of need by wrong choices. First reaction is condemnation and shaming of person to disgrace them to change. This is not Biblical because it makes the situation worse to harden the heart and embarrass them so never step in Church again. A naive young baby Christian may not fully know the word of God makes mistakes in the beginning. Titus 3:10-11, reject them and run away like Joseph after first, second warning if person is bent on sin self-condemns. In 1 Corinthians 5:11, ‘I wrote to you not to associate with immoral person covetous or idolater, reviler, drunkard, swindler do not eat with them. In 2 Romans 13 : 4, if a minister of God to you is good but some do evil, be afraid; for they do not bear sword for nothing; for a minister of God is avenger who brings wrath on the ones who practice evil.In 1 Timothy 1:20 Hymenaeus and Alexander handed over to satan to be afflicted and taught not to blaspheme. Their flesh tormented by satan forces them to seek God’s Face to deliver their souls. In 1 Corinthians 5:5 some believers deliver to satan for destruction of flesh, so the spirit may be saved in day of the Lord Jesus. Romans 16:17 urges brethren to keep eyes on all those who cause divisions, hindrances contrary to teachings learnt and turn away from them. In Galatians 6:1 those Spiritual are to restore sinner in SPIRIT of GENTLENESS so you too will not be tempted. The Righteous fall 7 times but God lifts them up. Jesus said forgive 70 x 70 time = 490 times per day not be bitter and revengeful but leaving judgement to God the GREATEST ‘ Judge and Avenger.’ If they commit atrocities as God’s Children and sin against God the ALMIGHTY God deals with them for all Powers and Authority in Heaven and Earth is given to Lord Jesus Christ and Saviour the rightful judge to restore the backslider. Remember the story of King David, a friend of God punished by God after adultery with Uriah’s wife tried to cover his sins transferred innocent man Uriah to war front killed in battle. God is Righteous and David was punished for his wickedness. God gave David 2 two options for his punishment to choose. a) God wants to hand him to enemies to be punished b) God punish him HIMSELF. David chose God to inflict punishment for ‘man is cruel and wicked’ but God is compassionate and merciful so restored David. Man will totally and completely will destroy everything about him is a lesson for all to learn in Church. It is God’s BUSINESS so leave it for God. The man of God and sinners disobeys God’s Word so that is God’s exclusive domain. Judas betrayed Christ, but it did not affect His Ministry. Ministers of God and apostles in many Churches of God commit sin in House of God but it does not affect God in those Churches. People out of frustration and lack of patience, deny God to backslide but still God gives them another chance. In Jeremiah 3:14, “Return, O backsliding children” says The LORD; “I AM married to you. I will take you. One from a city and two from a family and bring you to Zion.” Human make mistakes so like all open to Forgiveness and Restoration by God Himself. Encourage, pray, believe God for restoration. Stress pressurizes people of God to seek relief in a secular way but leave them to God’s judgement. Pray the LORD’s wrath on detractors is cancelled for the unity of Church of God in Jesus Name, Ephesians 4:4-7 says as one body and Spirit, called in one hope of your calling; one LORD, one faith, one baptism: one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all and in you all. To each one grace is given according to measure of Christ’s gift.” These words of God in Jesus Name, Amen, Jesus said, “all those without sin cast the first stone as Jesus told woman caught in adultery, so given second chance to go and sin no more. The man involved her accusers pardoned so left her alone, reminded of their own sinful natures by Jesus Christ. Does it mean this woman can count on Jesus’ forgiveness to repeat sinful action because of guaranteed mercy of God? Of course not Bible says because the Grace of God abounds is not licence to sin. The years of ignorance God forgives because unaware of consequences. A deliberate sin commited and excused by qouting Roman 8:38-39 that nothing separates a believer from God is the willful offence used to manipulate naive Christians to engage in sin. “For I am persuaded that death, life, angels, principalities, powers or things present, things to come, height depth or another creature can separate us from the LOVE of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. So verse is twisted to convince believer God forgives no matter the sin of killing, stealing or destructions due to lust. Joseph refused to “sin against God” but punished for his honesty, loyalty to God and his master Portipher. A person who does not get their evil way harasses the one strong in the LORD who refuses to sin with them like Portipher’s wife lied about Joseph who run from sin. The person blackmails a victim, withdraws all favour, isolates them to stop others defeating them too. Be careful when a person is victimised for standing up for Christ in righteousness. The perpetrator puts them down like Joseph for refusing an evil request for doing the right thing. Its better to Obey and please God rather than join a man to use and abuse you. It may cost you material possessions and reputation but God will supply all your needs from Glory in heaven. Joseph’s is a great example of God rewarding and promoting Joseph who was harassed by his siblings in the family. Though Joseph suffered God honoured him to save the world from the 7 years famine in Egypt. The woman caught in adultery is sent to seek God’s punishment but found Grace, Mercy for forgiveness Jesus forgave her. The self-righteous condemned her to death but Bible says confess your sins to God and cover all other people’s sins. It does not mean condoning but is none of your business if you witnessed it. Spreading negative rumours DEFILES the innocent mind and distract Gospel. The devil uses gossip to stop receiving deliverance. It takes two tango so those scorned and embittered but didn’t walk away repent. Some went back for more abuse, play victim to attack, spread hatred. Bible says, what is true and of GOOD REPORT think on these things. For evil reports, fast privately on behalf to INTERCEDE with Jesus the INTERCESSOR in heaven. Gossipers will not enter kingdom of God for the sin of defiling minds of others to cause them to depart from the faith. Gossip is as evil as murder, adultery etc. Corinthians 6:9-10 says, backbiters, gossips, slanderers, will not inherit THE KINGDOM OF GOD. Unless they REPENT will be shut out of the KINGDOM of HEAVEN. Let God deal with sin for the greater the calling the bigger the target of satan’s attacks. And despite God’s punishment the Covenant continues through Jesus to sit on throne of King David. God’s Mercy is for people who humble themselves God Forgives. King Solomon’s mother was married to King David after her husband Uriah was killed. Despite sin God chose Solomon to build HIM a Temple in Jerusalem. Don’t sin putting your mouth against people who sin against God the CREATOR and people being destroyed by perpetrators. Who appoint you judge of God’s people? They face Spiritual attack so cover them in prayer and by the Blood of Jesus. And 1 Corinthians 6.9-10 says its duty to God is to pray for mercy but NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS to spread such gossip online, by phone, email, texts or verbally to do more damage to them and yourself. The metoo# movement is global so sleeping with wo/men/girls has become common phenomenon in Church, homes, schools, offices, shrines, Bible college, seminary villages all locations, clubs etc. Angels in heaven fell down and slept with women on earth to produce the giant nephilims. Perfect people do not exist on earth but strive for perfection by God’s Grace. Its crucial Children of God abstain from all sins in the Body of Christ in the Church of God to have good success by God’s Grace in Jesus Name. Such a common occurrence of prevalent drives Church to seek God’s Face more. Church general overseers snatch other’s wives and the paedophile priests falls like the secular people. Church has heard or known all problems in society everywhere but it is the Grace of God that sustains Churches. As David fell and rose again in the Bible so challenge of sin with thoughts, sight or body, is a weakness for everyone to overcome. Have you overcome yours, whether in pulpit or pew? Revealing or advertising sin committed in secret seen by God is non of your business. Pray for all to overcome weaknesses and grow in Jesus Christ. The Church grows because Jesus said, gates of hell will not prevail against it in Jesus Name. A Church often condemned thrives, so attack favour the ministry accused, persecuted or suffers name calling harassment. God is behind the Church despite continued rumours and attacks used to try to cause damage to stop good success. Seek God yourself so Jesus will save, heal and deliver you for Eternal life of your soul not perish. It is endtimes and Jesus is Coming soon in Rapture so Gossip GOSPEL to win souls in Jesus Name for God’s KINGDOM to come on a perfect earth.