COCONUT OIL SUPER FOOD?

CoconutsCoconut oil classified is considered a superfood according toCoconut oil is high in saturated fatSales of coconut oil are rocketing, propelled by celebrity endorsements and claims that drinking the stuff will cure everything from halitosis to digestive disorders. Actress Angelina Jolie-Pitt is said to have a tablespoon or so with breakfast most mornings, while model Miranda Kerr says she not only adds it to salads and smoothies, but she cooks with it and splashes it on her skin as well. The health claims that swirl around coconut oil are treated with a great deal of scepticism by scientists. Coconut oil is seen, in the scientific community, as an unhealthy fat. It is very high in saturated fat (86%), even more so than butter (51%) or lard (39%). The reason that foods rich in saturated fats are frowned on is because eating them causes a rise in blood levels of LDL (low density lipoprotein). LDL is known as “bad cholesterol” because high levels are linked with increased risk of heart disease. On the other hand, saturated fats – which are particularly bad for you – also tend to raise HDL, “good” cholesterol, which has the opposite effect. It is possible that a particular food can raise overall cholesterol levels, yet still be heart-friendly.

Cholesterol check

So is coconut oil a cholesterol-busting wonder food, as some claim, or is this all dangerous hype? Despite all the sound and fury that surrounds coconut oil there have been surprisingly few human studies carried out to test specific health claims. So for the current BBC2 series of Trust Me I’m a Doctor, we thought we should help organise a trial. The Trust Me team started by contacting Prof Kay-Tee Khaw and Prof Nita Forouhi, both eminent Cambridge academics. With their help we recruited 94 volunteers, aged 50-75 and with no history of diabetes or heart disease, and designed a study to assess what effect eating different types of fat would have on their cholesterol levels. We began by randomly allocating our volunteers to one of three groups. Every day for four weeks, the first was asked to eat 50g of extra virgin coconut oil – that’s about three tablespoons full.

Type of oil or fat Polyunsaturated (%) Monounsaturated (%) Saturated (%)
Coconut oil 2 6 86
Butter 3 21 51
Lard 11 45 39
Goose fat 11 56 27
Olive oil 10 76 14
Rapeseed oil 28 63 7
Sesame oil 41 40 14
Corn oil 54 27 12
Sunflower oil 65 20 10

The second group was asked to consume the same amount of extra virgin olive oil. Olive oil is a key element of the Mediterranean diet, which is widely seen as being extremely healthy. And the third was asked to eat 50g of unsalted butter a day. Again, that adds up to just over three tablespoons. The volunteers were told that they could consume these fats in whatever way they pleased, as long as they did so every day for the whole four weeks. On the other hand others think that Coconut oil ‘as unhealthy as beef fat and butter’ so the Diet debate: Is butter back and is sat fat good? They were also warned that, because they were consuming an extra 450 calories a day, they might well put on some weight. Before our volunteers started on their new high-fat regime we took blood samples to get baseline measurements, focusing mainly on their levels of LDL (the “bad” cholesterol) and HDL (the “good” cholesterol) The importance of these two measures is that your heart attack risk is best calculated, not by looking at your total cholesterol score, but your total cholesterol divided by your HDL score. NHS Choices suggests that this figure should be below four. So what happened? As expected the butter eaters saw an average rise in their LDL levels of about 10%, which was almost matched by a 5% rise in their HDL levels Those consuming olive oil saw a small reduction, albeit a non-significant drop, in LDL cholesterol, and a 5% rise in HDL. So olive oil lived up to its heart-friendly reputation.Olive oil

Early Stages of Studies

But the big surprise was the coconut oil. Not only was there no rise in LDL levels, which was what we were expecting, but there was a particularly large rise in HDL, the “good” cholesterol, up by 15. On the face of it that would suggest that the people consuming the coconut oil had actually reduced their risk of developing heart disease or stroke. Olive oil is a key element of the Mediterranean diet, which is seen as particularly healthy. I asked Prof Khaw, who was clearly surprised by these results, why she thought it had happened. “I have no real idea,” she candidly replied. “Perhaps it is because the main saturated fat in coconut oil is lauric acid and lauric acid may have different biological impacts on blood lipids to other fatty acids. The evidence for that comes mainly from animals, so it was fascinating to see this effect in free-living humans.” So should we be hailing coconut oil as a health food? “I think decisions to eat particular oils depend on more than just the health effects” she said. “This is just one study and it would be irresponsible to suggest changing dietary advice based on one study, however well conducted.” This was a very short-term study and compared to olive oil, research on coconut oil is at an early stage. So the claims about coconut oil being a superfood are premature. But if, like me, you enjoy putting coconut in your curries, there seems no very good reason to stop.

The new series of Trust Me I’m a Doctorcontinues on BBC2 at 20:30 GMT on Wednesday 10 January and will be available on iPlayer afterwards.

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DEPRESSED MUMS SINGING

Mum singing to babySinging speeds up’ recovery from post-natal depression. Singing helps mothers recover from post-natal or post partum depression more quickly study suggests. Researchers found women who took part in group singing sessions with their babies experienced much faster improvement in their symptoms than those who did not. The study, published in the British Journal of Psychiatry, looked at 134 mothers with post-natal depression. Early recovery is seen to be crucial to limit effects on mother and baby. Post-natal depression is estimated to affect one in eight new mothers. And previous studies have indicated singing can help improve the mental health of older people and those with dementia, but this is the first controlled study of its effect on post-natal depression. The women were placed into three groups:Mother and baby music group
  • one took part in group singing
  • another took part in in creative play sessions
  • a third group received their usual care, which could include family support, antidepressants or mindfulness

The singing workshops saw the mothers learning lullabies and songs from around the world with their babies and creating new songs together about motherhood. And those with moderate to severe symptoms of post-natal depression reported a much faster improvement than mothers in the usual care and play groups. All the groups improved over the 10 weeks, but in the first six weeks, singing group already reported an average 35% decrease in depressive symptoms. The Principal investigator Dr Rosie Perkins said the study, although small, was significant because it was important to tackle the symptoms as quickly as possible. “Post-natal depression is debilitating for the mothers and their families. As research indicates some women think accessible singing with their baby helps speed up recovery at one of the most vulnerable times of their lives,” she said. The lead author Dr Daisy Fancourt at University College London, said singing is another useful therapy to offer women. babies with musical instrumentsMany mothers have concerns about taking depression medication whilst breast-feeding and uptake of psychological therapies with new mothers is relatively low,” she said. “These results are really exciting as suggests something as simple as referring mothers to this community activities could support their recovery.” Dr Trudi Seneviratne, who chairs the Royal College of Psychiatrists’ Perinatal Faculty, said: “It’s exciting to hear about the growing evidence base for novel psychosocial interventions like singing to facilitate a more rapid recovery for women with post-natal depression. “I look forward to more work in this area in the future, as it will be enjoyed by both mothers and their babies.”Since the study, Breathe Arts Health Research has started running singing workshops in partnership with the Guy’s and St Thomas’ NHS Foundation Trust for women with post-natal depression across the south London boroughs of Lambeth and Southwark. Community and socialising helps overcome isolation and loneliness of new mothers. The feel good factor of singing with the babies is definitely a win- win situation lifting the mood and going out of the home helps to lift their spirit too. Isolated mothers can organise own singing sessions with friends in communities and their babies benefit too from a calm, happy, relaxed mother. If child raising is recognised or considered as a valid hardwork and to celebrate mothers and carers the world will become a better and safer place. So families must be prioritised and to help mother’s like Finland pays both parents to raise their children. Depression is caused by loneliness, pressure, stress of modern living without extended family support and children become depressed too. So it is good news to help mother’s and also to improve motherhood as an honourable collaboration with God’s idea to multiply to replenish the earth.

AN AMAZING WEIGHT LOSS

Among many people’s priority resolution for the new year is the desire to lose weight. An amazing weight loss plan used by this man transformed his life to shed the extra pounds of weight in a short time. So there is hope for many more people to follow his example to lose weight too. The father-of-two lost 12 stones in under a year in remarkable weight loss effort attributed to low calorie diet. Lorry driver Adam Moffat, 44, sheds half his body mass after adjusting eating habits. The Independent Online shared this story of Adam Moffat with his wife Margaret and daughters Hannah, 13, and Holly, nine Katielee pictured here by Arrowsmith /SWNS. The father-of-two is now half the size of the man he used to be after shedding more than 12 stone in less than a year. Prior to shedding half his body weight Adam Moffat, 44, gorged on pies, cakes and daily double rolls crammed with sausages. He would scoff cakes with breakfast and lunch and would even sneak in a kingsize Mars bar before dinner.

GAME ADDICTION DISORDER

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Gaming addiction classified as disorder by WHO – World Health Organisation. An article byaccording to Oxford University study states that boys are more likely to spend time gaming than girls. Gaming addiction is to be listed as mental health condition for the first time by the World Health Organisation. 11th International Classification of Diseases (ICD) includes the condition “gaming disorder.” The draft document describes it as a pattern of a persistent and a recurrent gaming behaviour so severe it takes precedence over other life interests. Some countries already identified it as a major public health issue. Many, including UK, have private addiction clinics to “treat” the condition. The last version of the ICD was completed in 1992, with the new guide due to be published in 2018. The guide contains codes for diseases, signs and symptoms and is used by doctors and researchers to track and diagnose disease. It suggests abnormal gaming behaviour should be in evidence over a period of 12 months for diagnosis to be assigned but added that period might be shortened “if symptoms are severe.”147453048-730x674

Gaming Addiction Symptoms include:

  • impaired control over gaming (frequency, intensity, duration)
  • increased priority given to gaming
  • continuing escalation of gaming despite negative consequences

Dr Richard Graham, lead technology addiction specialist at the Nightingale Hospital in London, welcomed decision to recognise condition. It is significant because it creates the opportunity for more specialised services. It puts it on the map as something to take seriously.” But he added he would have sympathy for those who do not think the condition should be medicated. “It could lead to confused parents whose children are enthusiastic gamers.” He said he sees about 50 new cases of digital addiction each year and his criteria is based on whether the activity is affecting basic things such as sleep, eating, socializing and education. He said one question he asks himself is: “Is the addiction taking up neurological real-estate, dominating thinking and preoccupation?” So many psychiatrists refer to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), the fifth edition of which was published in 2013. The Internet gaming disorder listed as ‘condition for further study’ meaning not officially recognised as controversial matters are assigned. It will have serious repercussions if the gaming industry accepts responsibility. If families sue them the businesses will collapse as multibillion industries.Linkedin-2

Gaming is introduced to young children before forming prefrontal cortex brain so damage is done through radiation too. Many are absent-minded, aloof, not in the here and now able to experience the common sense needed for survival. Extreme cases often display a psychotic pattern of behaviour. Hallucinations if under stress, pressure or struggling to keep down job due to gaming addiction. Lots of countries are grappling with the issue and the South Korean government has introduced a law banning access for children under 16 from online games between midnight and 06:00. In Japan, players are alerted if they spend more than a certain amount of time online each month playing games. In China, internet giant Tencent has limited hours that children can play its most popular games. A recent study from University of Oxford suggested, although children spend a lot of time on the screens, they generally manage to intertwine digital pastimes with daily life. The research is looking at children aged eight to 18 and found boys spent longer playing video games than girls. Researcher Killian Mullan said: “People think that children are addicted to technology and in front of these screens 24/7, to the exclusion of other activities and we now know that is not the case.” “Our findings show technology is being used with and in some cases perhaps to support other activities, like homework for instance, not pushing them out,” he added. “Like adults do, children spread digital tech use throughout the day, while doing other things.” This issue is ongoing yet gamers become professional gamers, game designers or Internet experts.man-looking-at-his-computer-screen-300x200

However, majority are struggling with school and college work, frustrated, angry, manifest withdrawal symptoms from multiple addictions of high sugar, E chemicals in food, poor decision-making abilities, with stunted growth spurt development stuck in the childish mindset from the age of onset of gaming. Unable to enjoy free mind to grow as previous generations exploring outdoors daily for long hours. Getting a fresh air, physical exercises playing and interacting with friends. Many now live isolated detached lives in their bubble world cocooned in a virtual reality. The years of repeated gaming addiction now affect even basic communication and the social conversations. With majority of school, college, work and the world turning into virtual online lifestyle it is even damaging their health too. Like an issue that is not solved quickly, it leads to aggressive behaviour, sometimes tensions in families. Expecting for such future generations to grow up and take on the responsibilities and duty of care is getting worse. Som parents continue to ‘ raise’ adult children traumatized by gaming addiction and dark web porn. It is an expensive industry where games cost so much causing bad habits as big spenders on games wasting money that could be saved to buy or own home. So become dependent on parents as the bank of mum and dad. Domino effect is serious and even more dangerous when parents lack knowledge and awareness of gaming addiction. Treatment is hard because they are prone to using online facility for study, work shopping, social interaction often tired and lethargic.Young Man With Pad

Many need other hobbies especially outdoors like football hockey, biking, swimming or a practical outdoor volunteer centre to help others to learn practical life skills. In any case this generation faces challenges making choices and decisions even harder and harder everyday by gaming addiction. Often starts as fun time to relax, then it escalates into complex issues. Some children used parent’s bank accounts to run thousands of dollars worth of debts due to gaming addiction. Schools must teach dangers of gaming addiction as part of general knowledge awareness. When children are young parents must not buy expensive games because all the friends have one and they feel left out.  Looking back some parents would have been better off investing a gaming money into extra tuition funds to help a child do better academically. Or pay for music, piano lessons to calm children and learn vital skills. Games change so rapidly that it becomes a life time habit not a phase to grow out of. This is a serious matter to be dealt with globally because it affects children in formative years and influences their thought and worldview. In addition some contents are completely unsuitable for children yet parents unaware of such dangers. Encourage reading skills from with real books they can hold first before ebooks or online ones. Computers are good and useful but can cause harm to children if not used properly under supervision. If parents do not know how to computers take basic lessons to learn safety, adult and child security online and upgrade often to learn new skills to help your children before it becomes too late so turn into gaming addiction disorder.

15 CHRISTMAS MEAL TIPS

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15 cooking tips for a perfect Christmas dinner is from The Kitchen Cabinet to giving advise on the Christmas Dinner based on a long and interesting history. People are preparing food including turkey at Christmas as far back as 16th century, with Henry VIII famously a first English monarch to eat the bird on Christmas Day. Now served up in homes across the nation, a big bird with all the trimmings is much part of Christmas as decorating the tree or squabbling with relatives. It has many different elements to juggle, and cooking the traditional festive feast can seem like an intimidating task. Here is pulled together handy tips to help to make preparing and cooking Christmas meal a piece of cake and easy pease. 

1. Use vegetable peelers

With so much to do, if you’re the head chef you’ll probably want to avoid getting tied up scrubbing and peeling potatoes, parsnips or carrots. If you can, rope in some children to take on tasks. As well as taking strain off you, they’re more likely to want to eat veggies that they’ve prepared themselves. Cunning!

2. Keep up washing up

Try and keep the veggie peelers on as kitchen porters. If there are helpers to wash up as you work it will give you more valuable surface space. You can even think about bribing the kids with a bit of pocket-money or chocolatenintchdbpict000285818935

3. Cheese out of fridge

If you’re having a cheese course, don’t forget to take it out of the fridge earlier in day so it reaches room temperature. Clearing room in the fridge means more space for Champagne of course.

4. For roasties oil & hot

Roast potatoes are an essential part of Christmas dinner. And no one wants a soggy spud. Dusting them in semolina or flour will help to add a bit of crunch, but the real key is to get the oil in the tray as hot as possible before tipping in tatties. Use goose fat for richer flavour.

5. Roasting the sprouts

Brussels are roasted taste completely different to those boiled, steamed or microwaved. Roasting them caramelises the natural sugars that are found in the veg, resulting in a much sweeter sprout. And smaller sprouts are sweeter still. Roast them with some chestnuts and bacon and don’t be afraid to let them get brown and crispy round the edges.Colossal-christmas-meal

6. Don’t score the sprouts

If you are going to go ahead and boil the blighters, there’s no need to score cross in the bottom it just makes them more waterlogged. Keep your eye on timer and don’t go over eight minutes to retain some bite in your brussels.

7. Cook turkey upturned

Popping the turkey breast-side down for the first hour or so of roasting means the bird essentially bastes itself. And if you can manage to turn it a few times throughout the cooking process it will encourage the juices to stay inside.

8. Use a butter muslin

Many people baste the bird with melted butter, cooks top with streaky bacon or wrap it in foil, but a “butter muslin” is great for keeping the meat moist. Soak material in melted butter, season turkey and drape muslin over the meat.

9. Stop burning with foil

If the whole turkey is browning too quickly, you can cover it with a loose foil tent. And if it’s just certain bits of the bird, like the legs, then localise your foil wrappings! Cover meat or fish too.

10. Let the meat rest

The heat of the oven forces the juices into the middle of the bird so, once you’ve extracted it from the oven, let the turkey rest for around 20 minutes under some foil before carving it. The juices redistribute and you’ll have moister meat

11. Glam up your gravy

A roast dinner just isn’t the same without gravy. Try making it richer and especially festive by stirring in some cranberry sauce or a splash of port.

12. Clotted cream sauce

If you’re feeling decadent, stir some clotted cream in to your bread sauce. Another fun idea is to sprinkle the finished sauce with cayenne pepper. It adds a wonderfully festive splash of red and a little extra zing.

13. Zest Christmas pud

Grating orange, lemon or grapefruit zest into your Christmas pudding mix adds a lovely, refreshing citrus note to the finished product.

14. Hot Brandy pudding

The key to a flaming pudding is get the spirit you’re going to set alight really hot beforehand. Pour the brandy, rum, whisky or vodka into a metal ladle and heat it over a gas flame. Light it using a match taking care not to set fire to any eyebrows in process and immediately pour it over the pudding. Remember to wait for flames to go out before serving!

15. Mulled wine not early

Of course, have a small glass to supress the stress of feeding what feels like the 5000, but ensure someone in the family is sober enough to keep an eye on timings. Ensure turkey well done and edible. Bon Appetit, Enjoy your meal!

STOP CHRISTMAS ARGUMENT

This Christmas season be jolly to enjoy the moment. After months of hard work and sacrifices it is good to let your hair down and celebrate the festive parties. It is good to reward yourself and others in your family with the frantic presents bought and protracted during shopping. With possiblity of overeating, many are over-tired so argumentative by the time the big day itself is reached. Therefore it is easy to overeact and be hyper strung over insignificant issues. So thrown into the mix is a handful of the family feuds, with a dash of strong alcohol sprinkled with overtired children are ingredients for an explosive recipe row. A recent survey found the average British family has at least 5 arguments on a Christmas Day. Keep focus on peace, goodwill to prevent fights breaking out by following the top, tension-diffusing tips:

1. Make a seating plan

Arrange and label place if the potential exists for toxic reaction of people based on past history. If you know Uncle Bob is going to press buttons over dinner, moaning about the fox-hunting ban and poor choice of plonk, position yourself opposite end of the table. A seating plan can prevent unnecessary friction during the Christmas meal. It is just a case of knowing who to keep away from who to prevent and stop arguments in advance.

2. Lay off the eggnog

Do not say things to regret after one too many mulled wines. Remember alcohol causes chemical changes in the brain if even it initially makes you feel relaxed, but reduce your ability to think straight. Professor McMurran, a psychologist at the University of Nottingham, explains if provoked under influence of alcohol, people tend to disregard “consequences of rising to the bait. This leads to violent reactions from people who would shrug things off. If tensions are rising, swap a cocktail for a mocktail and encourage others to do the same.

3. Share the cooking

Preparing the festive feast is a huge job. Leave it up to one person and it’s likely that tempers will become frayed and sprouts will be thrown. One way of getting around this is to have different people taking responsibility for each course. Offer to take care of the cheese board, dessert or nibbles and take the strain off the head chef.

4. Budget for presents

With so many outgoings, money can be tight at Christmas so financial pressure can be big source of stress and tension. To ease the pressure on everyone, agree on set budget for presents. Encourage homemade gift-giving options including jams and chutneys, a day of babysitting, orguided pub walk around a local area.

5. Be grateful for gifts

Be diplomatic when you’re unwrapping your presents. Be it a fish steamer, or a shoehorn or Star Wars bath mat, smile and say “its just what I always wanted.” It sets a brilliant example to all the kids. And remember, you can always re-gift it next year to other people so investment.

6. Embrace daytime Nap

If feeling more grumpy and irritable or tired and exhausted that is also because sleep-deprived so amygdala bit of brain control of emotions becomes overactive causing prefrontal cortex brain, the bit in charge of logic and decision-making switched off. The result is more erratic, emotional and likely to lose it over the Christmas pudding. So stay in control, try to get a good night’s sleep before the big day and if you feel yourself nodding off in the Queen’s speech, don’t fight it. You can listen to again later.

7. Channel the innerself

Do something helpful so offer to do the driving, walk the dog, take the kids for a run around, or distribute canapés. By mucking in and lending a hand you’re setting the bar for everyone else, and lightening the load for the people you care about. There is always something required to be done at all times. Doing so helps to distract you and you feel fulfilled by helping others.

8. Learn to let things go

Pick your battles carefully so you do not want to win arguments as and have no friends in life. Do you really care how parsnips are prepared? Or what’s in the box? Grit your teeth and turn blind eye for sake of the peace. Do not be control freak rubbing people wrong way. Avoid controversial topics of football, politics, or who eats last After Eight chocolate.

9. Take a breather

If things are getting a bit much, step in to the garden for some fresh air. Oxygen and sunlight are thought to increase the levels of serotonin released in the body, and more serotonin means lighter mood and more relaxed you. If getting outside isn’t an option, take a cup of tea and the paper to cupboard under stairs, or have a ten-minute phone rant with a friend.

10. Avoid Pictionary gaff

It’s fun playing Monopoly or a game of charades, but there a fine line between competitive spirit, outright aggression. Don’t embark on a board game unless you’re convinced everyone will be able to get to end without crying, fighting or both. Compromise so agree to disagree.

11. Christmas times hard

Christmas time unrealistic expectations or excessive self-reflection create issues in our lives coming starkly into focus. It can be really hard time of year for those who lost the loved ones or experiencing financial hardship, illness, depression. A study by Samaritans revealed, amid pressures to be “merry”, nearly half of men admit they actually feel depressed or sad at Christmas. Be aware of needs of people around you, be patient, and if you feel stressed or anxious yourself too reach out to someone.

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Christmas from Radio 4

RELAX & ENJOY CHRISTMAS

BanDtmdIAAAqQ9GRelax and enjoy Christmas as a time of year to recount your blessings and to celebrate Jesus. Remember to thank God for sustaining your life and providing for you throughout the years. Enjoy this time of year which puts much pressure on people to spend more than ever. It is a good time to reflect and take stock of the year to assess what worked well and how to improve life next year. christmas2Above all it is good to keep in mind that Christmas is about love and the birth of Jesus Christ to save mankind. The whole world takes time to celebrate Jesus and give thanks to God for our families and our friends. Enjoy without fussing over the perfectionist details and obsessing over materialistic image, instead value the joyful festive season and be grateful and thankful for life itself. As the world gets worse it is necessary to appreciate favour of God not just material details. Christmas Day can be very difficult day for young care-leavers,” Sissay says.“For some going home for Christmas, painful and there’s arguments and dysfunction. There are young people with nowhere to go feeling sad on their own that day so feel a greater sense of loss. “It’s about making people smile to let them know they matter especially on that day.”

1400975012648So many people are homeless, or live in squalor, poor, cannot afford privilege of safe environment, in dangerous region of war zones. Thank God for the Prince of Peace Jesus and do not hurt family or friends and colleagues over your selfish bizarre stubborn behaviours that ruins the festive season. The weather affects some so can trigger unusual reactions too. With abundant alcohol and substance use can get some situations out of hand. Yet the purpose of Chtistmas is to bring joy to the world, goodwill and peace on earth. Human relations are challenged as families out of touch assemble under one roof with many shenanigans. And emotions and feeling severely tested it is good to hold tongue for sake of comprise and peace. Woman-wrapping-gifts_cejaisFun-ways-to-wrap-gifts.jpgAsk for help or advise if not sure about presents or gifts to give each person as Jesus received gifts relating to his life, call and destiny. Gifts must be relevant and meaningful to the receiver not just what you insist on giving them whether they like or want it or not. Remember the golden rule of gifts to yourself and how it makes you feel. Be kind-hearted especially with the innocent children around do not to ruin the day for them. If physically present be a part of family or rather stay distant and send presents.Dear-Tired-Mama-Its-Time-to-Relax-and-Enjoy-Christmas-1 instead of stressing all. Some might cite Christmas as a cause of breakdown of a family and their marriage. By fighting each year over Christmas among other issues toxic relationships can reach the tipping point at that time. Yet those who listen, change, adapt to enjoy Christmas but the stubborn ones continue ruining it for loved ones. Without an awareness over behaviour that the obsession with achieving that one, symbolic or perfect family causes misery not merriment. In the Bible, Jesus said in Luke 12:15, Take care and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in abundance of possessions.

407d518n663One person described themselves as a tyrant in family festive season. Fretting over every last detail for weeks ahead in a bid to make it all extra special. And refusing to delegate anything even the decorating of the tree or laying the table since none else ever got things right in their opinion. Determined everything goes according to their plans only as the control freaks the atmosphere in family home is more fearful than festive. So it seems more like a dictator than a Father Christmas sharing love, joy, happiness and kindness. Looking back, realised its not worth fussing over nitty gritty silly unnecessary details so enjoy Christmas.