TACKLING DIFFICULT PEOPLE

wp-1578833977605.jpgQuestion: “What does Bible say about dealing with difficult people?”

Answer: We all know people we find so “difficult”and deal with difficult people. A difficult person is very condescending argumentative, belligerent, selfish, and flippant, obtuse, simply rude. Difficult people “push one’s buttons” and stir up trouble. Dealing with difficult people is an exercise in patience, love, and grace. Response to difficult people from Jesus’ interactions He never displayed attitude of harsh superiority or dismissive pride. wp-1578834260762.jpgHe showed His authority under control to rebuke when necessary in John 8:47 to deal with the difficult people, remain silent in John 8:6 when asked questions in Mark 11:28–29 in Scripture in Mark 10:2–3 tells story in Luke 7:40–42. In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus dealt with difficult people in love and humility: “I tell you: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you pray for all who mistreat you.wp-1578834206139.jpg If someone strikes you on a cheek turn the other. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to who asks you, if anyone takes what belongs to you don’t demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you” in Luke 6:27–31. Never give tit for tat: “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult repay evil with blessing, for this you were called inherit blessing” in 1 Peter 3:9. In dealing with difficult people guard against pride.wp-1578834096919.jpg Its important to recall advise given by apostle Paul in Romans 12:3: “By grace of God I say to you don’t think too highly of yourself. Think of yourself with the humility by faith God has given you” in Philippians 2:3–4. When difficult people approach you deal with the situation in meekness. Love is the key to “Love your neighbour as yourself” in Galatians 5:14 to show God’s love to all difficult people. Wisdom is needed to deal with difficult people. In Proverbs 12:16 patience is the key to such relationships: “A fool shows his annoyance at once but the prudent man overlooks insult.” Proverbs 20:3 says peace-making of honour to avoid strife but fools quickly quarrel.”wp-1578834341622.jpg Proverbs 10:12, encourages giving love, “Hatred stirs up conflict but love covers all wrongs.” Proverbs 17:14 is foresight on “Starting quarrel like breaching dam as disputes breaks out” Best to avoid the situation altogether choosing carefully whom we associate with: “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered” in Proverbs 22:24. Dealing with difficult people in life is unavoidable but do not respond in the flesh to bring out worst in you. Deal with difficult people by the fruit of Spirit in us in Galatians 5:22–23.wp-1578834322634.jpg By the grace of God, deal with difficult people in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control. Extend love, grace, and mercy God extends to us, careful not to be difficult people ourselves. 2 Timothy 3 says in the last days the perilous times shall come. People will be lovers of  self, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful and ungrateful. 4 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, fierce, despisers of those who are good traitors, 5 heady, highminded lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; wp-1578833839523.jpgHaving a form of Godliness, but deny HIS power from such turn away. 6 This sort creep into houses and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of truth. 8 As Jannes and Jambres resisted Moses they resist truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. 9 They will proceed no further their folly manifests to all 10 Know God’s doctrine for life’s purpose, faith, longsuffering, charity, patience, love, forgive like Jesus.wp-1578833896562.jpg9 They will proceed no further 11 So endure persecutions afflictions for the LORD delivers out of all. 12 Live Godly life in Christ Jesus despite persecution. 13 Evil people and seducers get worse deceiving and deceived 14 Continue in the things you learn and know 15 From childhood. You know Holy Scriptures to make you wise unto salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. 16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God is profitable doctrine for correction and instruction in righteousness 17 so the people of God perfectly furnished to do good works.

Recommended Resource: Who’s Pushing Your Buttons? Handling the Difficult People in Your Life by Dr. John Townsend

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LIVING HAPPILY EVER AFTER

wp-1578155912388.jpgLiving happily ever after in book fiction novels of stories read by children and teenagers imprints toxic phrase on their minds during innocent years of life only to expect life to be happily ever after. So adults protect children from unsettling gory details of life to spare them from the horror tragedies of adult world. But reinforces ignorance is bliss mindset so misled, think real life happily ever after.wp-1578156074640.jpg Misinforms children, practical life cause stress and anxiety if unequipped to face challenges of life. Life gets complex and harder if unprepared for unpredictable circumstances. Mystery telling children Santa brings gifts through chimney over night at Christmas gives ‘peace of mind’ to adults pestered over presents. But the same children exposed to violent games online some parents are unawares of. wp-1578157623245.jpgModern theory says pointing errors to a child to correct them discourages them, seem think they are doing great, creates bubble fantasy spared feeling of children growing up unaware of counter balances of true realities of life. Encouraged to live in insulated bubbles cocoon only relate with peers don’t mix or interact with family on daily basis. So boxed in age groups live them versus us lives unprepared for real life in world. wp-1578156191693.jpgSponsored by some gigantic corporate business interests lives life in a virtual fantasy world on the surface all seems acceptable and cool. Children playing a computer game seen as having fun and not hurting anyone is preoccupied not disturbing adults too busy to interact with them. Told babies come from birds delivered to the family. After exhausting day at work cook, clean do chores tired with no time to spare in the routine set.wp-1578151833694.jpg Life seems alright and few times in the week taken to the music, piano lessons, football games tennis, swimming ballet, Kumon so list endless. Things work well until crucial transitions of encouraging children at their appropriate ages to be independent. Looked after and waited on hand and foot expected to get on as adult in life, moves to university or own apartment often in shock with anxiety. wp-1578156369899.jpgOld system does not allow to help in the family home growing up never help to cook, clean or run errands, considered against the law. Social services called if the child home alone, helps in family to cook, clean, farm etc. grow up naive. So bring laundry home weekends, packed meal to eat or buy take away junk foods. Children are great sources of income for multibillions industries making money at expense of children’s development. wp-1578156464232.jpgStunted brain growth from the years of playing computer games are distracted from focus on studies. Acquire excellent online gaming skills for the multibillion profits for few. UN says they experience mental illness addiction to online games and unable to focus on a school studies, grades drop. Many lack grades to study further or do a work route professional training. Coupled with lack of hands on practical life education without any job.wp-1578156646034.jpg Bored so nothing to do play more online games. Online games are so expensive they need money to pay for it to keep up globally. Without the consistent work or income need new games is conundrum creating scam to get money fuelling the  addiction to games. Few get real jobs or totally unprepared for work place stress demands pressure. In shock, can’t hold down jobs consistently fired from work. wp-1578156746563.jpgBut wants best quality most expensive things in without lifting a finger to help family feeding and looking after them. It helps earn multibillion dollars each year, preoccupied playing online games but frustrates the hopeless majority not knowing what to do with their lives. The families help seem nagging, demanding. Entitlement attitude struggle to make a sense of real world lived. wp-1578156946262.jpgMisconception continue raising children to “only live happily ever after” without preparing them to face realities of life to train to deal with life challenges. Needs to learn to endure, overcome hardship is part and parcel of life ethically right children understand the world at their level out of bubble to learn compassion. Not self-centred if others face trauma in tragic circumstances or in war zones. wp-1578156301675.jpgAs future leaders must be taught to live real lives in consideration of others and happily everafter life happens in fiction novels. Real life understanding helps enable people to cope better to know it’s not always living a perpetually happily ever after in the complex world. People can teach children real life histories of risks taken by many sacrifices, lives for safety and the happiness, peace others enjoy.wp-1578156583540.jpgGod did not promise a bed of roses but available to help those who believe and call Son Jesus to help. Life is not perfect psychologists say demanding perfection at everything all times is mental illness. Never content or at peace blame others not enabling self-indulgence. Academic brilliance is great, computer online skill is excellent, resources to enjoy good life is wonderful but why gain whole world and lose your soul. Beyond this life God waits to get account of HIS PROPERTY on earth. Make sure your name written in the book of life ready for the rapture ONLY GOD KNOWS THE TIME.

 

HE PAID ALL DEBT WE OWED

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He paid the debt He did not own, I owe the debt I could not pay, I needed Jesus
to wash my sins away
And now I sing a brand new song
Amazing Grace
My Jesus paid the debt I could never pay
He paid the debt He did not own
He cleanse my soul He set me free
my father Jesus wash my sins away
and now I sing a brand new song
Amazing Grace my Jesus paid the debt
I could never pay one day He is coming
for me to live with him eternally
What will be the Glory to see Him on that day and I will sing a brand new song
Amazing Grace
my Jesus paid the debt I could never pay

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EYE TO EYE CONTACT LOOKS

15698540731157495813780866790507.jpgProverbs 4:25, says let your eyes look up ahead to be fixed in front of you. This is important for total focus to connect and engage attention of listeners. Part of body language requires reading eyes, looks and gestures, moods, posture, tone of voice, colour worn to confirm what is heard or observed. Silent language uses these to indicate if a person is telling the truth or if their actions are congruent to what they are saying. Professionals are trained to apply eye displays to ensure what is see agrees with what is heard.15698541017993568179084049943003.jpg Eye contact is further used in profiling to select those deemed as their potential people that match as assumed role. Face recognition profiling airport by experts trained to assess people using standard measures. Over five billion people are raised in their culture to look down as a sign respect of respect to elders or boss. To bow head moved up and down to say yes or head moved sideways three times to say no. Such communities do not look directly in the eyes of adults and leaders if they do, told they are disrespectfultuning. 15698541660107598815471588664349.jpgThis contradicts Western expectation of eye to eye contact as proof of telling the truth. The irony is the person observed or assessed by Western standards have NO CLUE they are judged. Professionals trained choose potential people without IDEAS of culture of a randomly selected person by these artificial intelligence technology. Bias of institutional racism undertones means the measurement of people unaware of what is taking place. Individual differences and their style of communication is significant. 15698559844632957957749377765166.jpgA person stopped or pulled over for not having the eye contact expected is made uncomfortable, unsettled so agitated by their waste of time on mission. Catch 22 situation is a misinterpretation mistake assuming no eye contact means guilt. A professional spurred on probes further unaware of anger caused by lack of knowledge. Misunderstand cultural differences of innocent person asking for reason for the interruption NOT told lack of EYE TO EYE CONTACT is reason.15698555935354557282682839323441.jpg People NOT TOLD value of eye contact GLOBALLY in developing countries is an issue. Crucial eye to eye contact matter causes confusion and mistrust as those involved unaware of what is going on during their interaction. The person in authority uses the privileged position of power to gain upper hand to gain what they want as it happens. This injustice is felt by innocent facing consequences of chaotic situation set up for intervention purposes. It seem a good idea to observe from safe distance potential threat but concept needs fine tuning. 15698549368068715366091177153195.jpg Blindspots of professional and potential person is neither understands what is going on. And Schools must teach eye contact in PSMA classes not to mislead the people out and about minding their own business. Luke 11:34 Eye is lamp of of body for vision to focus full attention, speaker listens actively to deeply reflect on conversations. The education system and training academies must emphasize need first to educate the experts not to stress out by simple solution. Their time is wasted by overwhelming exhausting treatment given by target. Eye contact is missold as the proof of innocence used to misjudge those perceived as ‘guilty.’ 1569855211223402264736410128350.jpgBible says eye is like the lamp providing light for your body but considered rude by elders to look in the eyes. The double standard is don’t look in the eyes in the developing communities but look in eye in western world. Most people raised in the West do not realise the implications of policy of eye contact use for honesty or lack of it as guilt. Decisions are made on people’s lives by these mechanisms without the full awareness of distorted perception of the professional unaware of facts. People speak with head bowed automatically as habit of life and doing so wherever they are. 15698551529211664758458734048476.jpgWhen told keep eye contact regress into looking down naturally as used to. This is misinterpreted as lying, probed over and over again. Eye contact presumed guilt is part of maltreatment by some of the professionals because the standard scientific test equipment picked them. A strong confidence in gadget technology trusted than awareness of their selected person’s cultural upbringing. Not taken into consideration value of eye contact in developing world as a sign of respect and honour to elders, leaders, bosses or kings in Western countries as ‘lying.’15698553084514133208070762997710.jpgCultural shock and undervalued person targeted does not understand why they are selected. It may be true in Western culture a liar is incapable of keeping an eye contact because hiding something.  It is not the case in other cultures where eyes must look down always as respect. It is often said the eye is the entrance or window to the soul so it is presumed an eye contact us leading interrogator to the deepest truth. Nobody sees the soul so is misnomer only eyes communicate various emotions. A wide-opened eye is interpreted excitement or passionate. 1569856080901921482802635910558.jpgEyes as mirror to soul expresses hidden things believed so use their face reading to know people better through eyes. You can know anyone in glance by a look in their eyes. Right from day nursery body language facial expression is taught. A toddler is given facial chart of laughter, sadness, tears emojis so conditioned to know from childhood these emojis. The child in a developing world is NOT told existence of facial or eye expressions. It is unheard of in some places yet used to determine honesty globally. Eugenism is back using calculation measurements to determine the pure race face and truth by analysing data. 15698563677346650689849970460877.jpg15698567215082823320508322049933.jpg15698567687105836674172911464260.jpgImages produced by an AI data is never identical to an original photo input into the computer. This generates the debate about ethics of uses of facial recognition technology. The EYES ACT AS A MIRROR OF SOUL used to read person’s thoughts ascertained by looking into their eyes. Untrained eyes express natural emotion unsculptured without realising they are being read or coded by their behaviour. Perception of relying on observed data as more reliable than whatever person says means focus is on eyes, their facial expression taken more seriously. 15698564685217602585483894221635.jpg15698564966297660481461924447768.jpg15698560466605823939569402393629.jpg15698555556185845647951945252567.jpg15698554442225817182311506030717.jpgIMG-20190930-WA0004.jpg15698550016522466732695670191677.jpg15698542536351786798650739287017.jpg15698566623168652403132226833191.jpg15698565672722547522470440025800.jpg
Bias shows angry black men no matter what is said the personal situation is not believed if its not synchronised by data. Technology is not 100% perfect so it can misread information to lead to targeted person unaware of what is going on. So  eyes are considered windows to the soul because the pupils tell a lot about what is going on in the mind of a person used by psychologists to determine diagnoses of truth. Matthew 6:22-24 says the eye is the lamp of the body so draws light into body through eyes. Light shines into the spirit through eyes from God so the eyes reflect thoughts. A person’s thought can be ascertained by looking into his or her eyes. The eyes is entrance to the human soul from other entities. That is why its said be careful little eyes what you see. Babies keep their eyes focussed on the person who notices and plays with them or looks after them. The debate goes on among experts of ethics of eye contact as the sole measure of truth telling. 

MODERN CHILDCARE NEEDS

Andy Shelley and babyAndy Shelley says his time on parental leave was “eye-opening.” Following the release of a poll which suggested 27% of mothers did not enjoy their maternity leave as much as they thought they would, parents have been sharing their experience of parental leave – both good and bad. Some people got in touch after following BBC Radio 5 Live presenter Emma Barnett’s open and honest account of her time away from work looking after her baby son, a time which she described as being “bloody hard and at times, lonely.” So what’s it like to be the one who stays at home and looks after the baby? Three parents share their very different experiences. The good, the bad and unexpected child care needs. ‘I thought my partner was just off work.’ Andy Shelley’s girlfriend gave birth to their daughter in March and the couple decided to take shared parental leavePrior to making choice, Andy’s partner had been looking after their daughter while he worked 12-hour days. “It was difficult because I felt like I wasn’t doing enough,” he says. Thirty-year-old Andy took over full-time care for two months in July, but admits he was not aware just how much work was involved in staying home and looking after his daughter. “Initially I thought parental leave would be a nice break from work but it wasn’t easy. “Some days she would be upset and I just didn’t know what to do. Your entire day revolves around feeds. It becomes a full-time job in itself. “I would be happy when my partner came home from work as it meant I could have a break.” The Stoke-On-Trent resident says his experience of parental leave was important as he realised how much his girlfriend had been doing when he thought she was “just off work.” “It made me appreciate everything she had done and ultimately cemented my relationship with my daughter. “It’s a shame more fathers don’t take parental leave as it really opens your eyes and you realise what your partner deals with.”‘I made sure I kept busy’Sandrine Charpentier and her two daughtersSandrine Charpentier said “clear vision” for her maternity leave and made sure its “wonderful experience.” Sandrine Charpentier, from Hayes in Kent, says her maternity leave with both of her daughters, now aged six and nine, was a “really positive experience.” Despite not knowing many people where she lived, Sandrine made sure she wasn’t isolated by booking a different activity every day. “We would do baby swimming, yoga, singing and play groups. It motivated me to get dressed and get out of the house. “The whole time I was really tired but I thought that was just part of the job. “It was great to meet people, be social and talk about our experiences. I was really happy during that time and it was great for my daughters.” As much as she enjoyed her maternity leave, the mum-of-two admits it was nice to return to work. “Being at work was like a holiday because I was free to do what I wanted. I didn’t have somebody glued to me all the time. “It was good to do something different, to meet people and not talk about nappies and babies all the time.” ‘It’s difficult to be accepted as a stay-at-home dad’Child playingPeople were shocked when Craig Smith said he was going to be a stay-at-home father Craig Smith, 42 in Staffordshire became stay-at-home dad to daughter, Matilda, in January when she was eight months old. His wife has a high-level job so they decided that it would be best for him to give up work and focus on their daughter’s early years. “I was very up for the challenge as I’ve always wanted children, but I didn’t really think about what was involved in being a full-time dad. “Sometimes it’s hard because all Matilda wants is her mum.” Craig says his experience made him realise there is not enough support for stay-at-home dads. “I tried to integrate with local playgroups, but the mums can be quite cliquey and it’s very difficult for a dad to be accepted. “A lot of mum-and-baby groups say fathers are welcome but in reality it’s not like that – the mums can be quite cold.” Craig is planning on going back to work part-time when Matilda starts nursery, but says he feels anxious at the prospect of returning to normality. “It feels like my brain has been conditioned to sing to Peppa Pig or nursery rhymes. The thought of carrying out serious and responsible tasks within a role kind of scares me.

Good, bad, unexpected childcare needs

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GOD RESTORES LOST SOULS

1543148057336-452672964.jpgGod RESTORES lost souls says Psalm 23.3-4 and Galatians 6:1 says brothers and sisters if someone sins you who are SPIRITUAL RESTORE person and show them faults in PRIVATE. If they listen, you won your brother. 2 Thessalonians 3:15 says do not treat them as enemy but help them as brother in Christ, ‘just as if’ they never sinned. GOD LOVES sinners but hates sin. 1 Timothy 5:20 says if they continue in sin rebuke them in the presence of all, so the rest will be fearful to sin. Public rebuke is often first used without the private restoration to instill fear in others shames them. Does not lead to genuine repentance, causes chaos, divides the Church members into sympathisers or opponent antagonists. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is inspired by God, profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, training in righteousness; so the man of God is adequately equipped for every GOOD WORK. Acts 20:28 states, “Be on guard for yourselves and for all the flock for the Holy Spirit made you overseers to shepherd the Church of God purchased with Jesus’ BLOOD. James 1:19, beloved brethren be quick to hear slow to speak slow to anger, no critical comments to stir up hatred to flare evil negative emotions. Godly restoration of wrong for reconciliation is hard but the hardest part is forgiving yourself and all others who wrong you or you wronged them. Whether victim or perpetrator, or right or wrong both needs God’s Mercy, Grace to forgive to receive forgiveness. God said you forgive to be forgiven by God. So leave your gifts at the altar and resolve conflict before you enter God’s HOLY PRESENCE HIS Sanctuary through BLOOD OF JESUS. OUR LORD GOD & SAVIOUR ARE PURE IN HEART so pure in heart shall see God. Psalm 51:10 says, create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. And Lamentations 5:21 says, Restore us to yourself, O LORD so we may be restored Renew our days as of old we loved and honoured you. Lamentations 3:40 says it is your conscience that helps to test and examine our ways to return to the Lord. Acts 3:19 says, Repent and turn to God so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the LORD. Jeremiah 3:66 The LORD said if like days of king Josiah you backslided as Israel did on high mountain or under green trees played the harlot God says HE WILL FORGIVE if you repent. Time for the whole church, individuals and in your private prayer closet. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything and a time for talking, silence, joy, grief, tears, love and hate under heaven.” And 1 John 1:19 says, “If we confess our sins, God faithfully forgives sins to purify us from all unrighteousness.” If you are busy minding other’s sins, God says in Matthew 26:41, Watch and pray so you will not fall into same temptations you accuse others of. So spirit is willing but the flesh is weak but Jesus said if you are weak you are strong through Holy Spirit. Ask God’s forgiveness and repent in Jesus Name. Bow down at the feet of Lord Jesus Christ as a humble vessel so GOD will forgive you. And get Spiritual mentor to guide you to quality of Christ not focus on speck in other’s eyes, says Matthew 7:3. And Psalm 145:14 says The LORD upholds all who fall and lifts up all bowed down. All who overcome will be clothed in white garments, and I will not blot out their name from the Book of Life, I will confess their names before My FATHER God and before HIS angels says Revelation 3:4-5. Praise Jesus Christ our Lord, and Saviour. “The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all. Amen. Accept Jesus Christ Who gave His Life on Cross at Calvary, to receive Forgiveness freely available through His ULTIMATE SACRIFICE to Come into your life to live in your heart to be your KING, Lord and Saviour.1543147650346-452672964.jpg And from this day not be controlled by sin or desire to please self but follow Jesus all the days of your life. Ask this in Jesus’ precious Holy Name, Amen. In Matthew 18:15-17, Bible says if refuses to LISTEN take one, two-three people with you so BY MOUTH OF TWO, THREE WITNESSES to CONFIRM action but if still refuses to listen, tell Church. And if refuses to listen to the Church let them be Gentile or tax collector to you. The Bible verses help Church members or their leaders clearly to guide people using God’s right procedure. Know God wants restoration in Church to help to ensure Jesus is at centre of a restoration process. Bible’s approach is opportunity for people to take initiative to seek help for those who miss the mark. A person suffering secretly in sin struggles and to keep up with effects of sin damage their lives and those involved. Some may play games with people’s emotions in denial but deep down in their heart crying out for help. It takes courage to open up and seek help and forgiveness of those they offended. Damage done affects so many people causing others to lose the faith in God. Its painful, sad, shocking believers confess of falling into sin. What do you do when a beloved brother or sister in Christ makes wrong choice to fall in sin? First direct them to pray and ask God’s forgiveness to repent and make effort to actively stop the sin. Abraham restored Lot his fallen nephew in Genesis 14:1-24 when he and Sarah left Haran to travel to Canaan in Genesis 12.4. Abraham’s nephew Lot chose to take risks in a war zone among enemies to stay behind. Abraham rescued Lot in time when Amraphel a king of Shinar, Arioch king of Ellasar, Kedorlaomer the king of Elam and Tidal king of Goyim four kings seized all goods of Sodom, Gomorrah their food, took Abraham’s nephew Lot and his possessions as he lived in Sodom. A man who escaped reported it Abraham living near the great trees of Mamre the Amorite, of Eshkoland Aner allied with Abraham. Abram took 318 trained men in his household in pursuit to Dan. Abraham divided his men to attack and routed them Hobah north of Damascus. He recovered all goods so brought back Lot and his possessions together with the women and others. So Abraham after defeating Kedorlaomer and kings allied with him, the king of Sodom came out to meet him in Valley of Shaveh or the King’s Valley. Abraham risked his life with the others to rescue stubborn nephew who chose to stay in a place against advise. He got into trouble but chose the most fertile land later and did not remember his uncle’s sacrifice. People why God told Abraham to leave his family and kindred in Iraq but chose to bring Lot along with his aged father to slow him down. Despite Abraham’s best efforts Lot eventually flees Sodom with his daughters and his wife turned into Pillar of salt. His daughters mated with their father to create the Moabites known for history of incest. Abraham’s risk and correction of Lot seems a waste of time probably best if he perished life would have been better. Often onlooker is reluctant to get involved in another person’s mess if it endangers their life. Abraham’s effort to RESTORE Lot and his family to reconnect to God under the tutelage of Abraham didn’t last long. As you can take a horse to the water but can’t force it to drink. Abraham played a crucial role in his need to restore Lot by a bold victory in battle yet Lot yields to sin by learning the evil ways of Sodom. Abraham thought Lot learnt his lesson and listened so gained his nephew back. Lot went back to his old ways so became his own master of destruction. It easy to spot anyone in sin to forgive and restore them to SAVE YOUR SOUL. Abraham’s experience with Lot is a classic example of futile efforts to help others in vain. So in this case Abraham saved his soul by doing the right thing to obey God to help his nephew in a time of need by wrong choices. First reaction is condemnation and shaming of person to disgrace them to change. This is not Biblical because it makes the situation worse to harden the heart and embarrass them so never step in Church again. A naive young baby Christian may not fully know the word of God makes mistakes in the beginning.1543147839273-1104846375.jpg Titus 3:10-11, reject them and run away like Joseph after first, second warning if person is bent on sin self-condemns. In 1 Corinthians 5:11, ‘I wrote to you not to associate with immoral person covetous or idolater, reviler, drunkard, swindler do not eat with them. In 2 Romans 13 : 4, if a minister of God to you is good but some do evil, be afraid; for they do not bear sword for nothing; for a minister of God is avenger who brings wrath on the ones who practice evil.In 1 Timothy 1:20 Hymenaeus and Alexander handed over to satan to be afflicted and taught not to blaspheme. Their flesh tormented by satan forces them to seek God’s Face to deliver their souls. In 1 Corinthians 5:5 some believers deliver to satan for destruction of flesh, so the spirit may be saved in day of the Lord Jesus. Romans 16:17 urges brethren to keep eyes on all those who cause divisions, hindrances contrary to teachings learnt and turn away from them. In Galatians 6:1 those Spiritual are to restore sinner in SPIRIT of GENTLENESS so you too will not be tempted. The Righteous fall 7 times but God lifts them up. Jesus said forgive 70 x 70 time = 490 times per day not be bitter and revengeful but leaving judgement to God the GREATEST ‘ Judge and Avenger.’ If they commit atrocities as God’s Children and sin against God the ALMIGHTY God deals with them for all Powers and Authority in Heaven and Earth is given to Lord Jesus Christ and Saviour the rightful judge to restore the backslider. Remember the story of King David, a friend of God punished by God after adultery with Uriah’s wife tried to cover his sins transferred innocent man Uriah to war front killed in battle. God is Righteous and David was punished for his wickedness. God gave David 2 two options for his punishment to choose. a) God wants to hand him to enemies to be punished  b) God punish him HIMSELF. David chose God to inflict punishment for ‘man is cruel and wicked’ but God is compassionate and merciful so restored David. Man will totally and completely will destroy everything about him is a lesson for all to learn in Church. It is God’s BUSINESS so leave it for God. The man of God and sinners disobeys God’s Word so that is God’s exclusive domain. Judas betrayed Christ, but it did not affect His Ministry. Ministers of God and apostles in many Churches of God commit sin in House of God but it does not affect God in those Churches. People out of frustration and lack of patience, deny God to backslide but still God gives them another chance. In Jeremiah 3:14, “Return, O backsliding children” says The LORD; “I AM married to you. I will take you. One from a city and two from a family and bring you to Zion.” Human make mistakes so like all open to Forgiveness and Restoration by God Himself. Encourage, pray, believe God for restoration. Stress pressurizes  people of God to seek relief in a secular way but leave them to God’s judgement. Pray the LORD’s wrath on detractors is cancelled for the unity of Church of God in Jesus Name, Ephesians 4:4-7 says as one body and Spirit, called in one hope of your calling; one LORD, one faith, one baptism: one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all and in you all. To each one grace is given according to measure of Christ’s gift.” These words of God in Jesus Name, Amen, Jesus said, “all those without sin cast the first stone as Jesus told woman caught in adultery, so given second chance to go and sin no more. The man involved her accusers pardoned so left her alone, reminded of their own sinful natures by Jesus Christ. Does it mean this woman can count on Jesus’ forgiveness to repeat sinful action because of guaranteed mercy of God? Of course not Bible says because the Grace of God abounds is not licence to sin. The years of ignorance God forgives because unaware of consequences. A deliberate sin commited and excused by qouting Roman 8:38-39 that nothing separates a believer from God is the willful offence used to manipulate naive Christians to engage in sin. “For I am persuaded that death, life, angels, principalities, powers or things present, things to come, height depth or another creature can separate us from the LOVE of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. So verse is twisted to convince believer God forgives no matter the sin of killing, stealing or destructions due to lust. Joseph refused to “sin against God” but punished for his honesty, loyalty to God and his master Portipher. A person who does not get their evil way harasses the one strong in the LORD who refuses to sin with them like Portipher’s wife lied about Joseph who run from sin. The person blackmails a victim, withdraws all favour, isolates them to stop others defeating them too. Be careful when a person is victimised for standing up for Christ in righteousness. The perpetrator puts them down like Joseph for refusing an evil request for doing the right thing. Its better to Obey and please God rather than join a man to use and abuse you. It may cost you material possessions and reputation but God will supply all your needs from Glory in heaven. Joseph’s is a great example of God rewarding and promoting Joseph who was harassed by his siblings in the family. Though Joseph suffered God honoured him to save the world from the 7 years famine in Egypt. a-gospel-that-doesnt-include-repentance-is-a-false-gospel-768x768.jpgThe woman caught in adultery is sent to seek God’s punishment but found Grace, Mercy for forgiveness Jesus forgave her. The self-righteous condemned her to death but Bible says confess your sins to God and cover all other people’s sins. It does not mean condoning but is none of your business if you witnessed it. Spreading negative rumours DEFILES the innocent mind and distract Gospel. The devil uses gossip to stop receiving deliverance. It takes two tango so those scorned and embittered but didn’t walk away repent. Some went back for more abuse, play victim to attack, spread hatred. Bible says, what is true and of GOOD REPORT think on these things. For evil reports, fast privately on behalf to INTERCEDE with Jesus the INTERCESSOR in heaven. Gossipers will not enter kingdom of God for the sin of defiling minds of others to cause them to depart from the faith. Gossip is as evil as murder, adultery etc. Corinthians 6:9-10 says, backbiters, gossips, slanderers, will not inherit THE KINGDOM OF GOD. Unless they REPENT will be shut out of the KINGDOM of HEAVEN. Let God deal with sin for the greater the calling the bigger the target of satan’s attacks. And despite God’s punishment the Covenant continues through Jesus to sit on throne of King David. God’s Mercy is for people who humble themselves God Forgives. King Solomon’s mother was married to King David after her husband Uriah was killed. Despite sin God chose Solomon to build HIM a Temple in Jerusalem. Don’t sin putting your mouth against people who sin against God the CREATOR and people being destroyed by perpetrators. Who appoint you judge of God’s people? They face Spiritual attack so cover them in prayer and by the Blood of Jesus. And 1 Corinthians 6.9-10 says its duty to God is to pray for mercy but NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS to spread such gossip online, by phone, email, texts or verbally to do more damage to them and yourself. The metoo# movement is global so sleeping with wo/men/girls has become common phenomenon in Church, homes, schools, offices, shrines, Bible college, seminary villages all locations, clubs etc. Angels in heaven fell down and slept with women on earth to produce the giant nephilims. Perfect people do not exist on earth but strive for perfection by God’s Grace. Its crucial Children of God abstain from all sins in the Body of Christ in the Church of God to have good success by God’s Grace in Jesus Name. Such a common occurrence of prevalent drives Church to seek God’s Face more. Church general overseers snatch other’s wives and the paedophile priests falls like the secular people. Church has heard or known all problems in society everywhere but it is the Grace of God that sustains Churches. As David fell and rose again in the Bible so challenge of sin with thoughts, sight or body, is a weakness for everyone to overcome. Have you overcome yours, whether in pulpit or pew? Revealing or advertising sin committed in secret seen by God is non of your business. Pray for all to overcome weaknesses and grow in Jesus Christ. The Church grows because Jesus said, gates of hell will not prevail against it in Jesus Name. A Church often condemned thrives, so attack favour the ministry accused, persecuted or suffers name calling harassment. God is behind the Church despite continued rumours and attacks used to try to cause damage to stop good success. Seek God yourself so Jesus will save, heal and deliver you for Eternal life of your soul not perish. It is endtimes and Jesus is Coming soon in Rapture so Gossip GOSPEL to win souls in Jesus Name for God’s KINGDOM to come on a perfect earth.