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YOUTH BUSINESS GROWTH

IMG_20180410_065558The teenage entrepreneur Tommie Rose has become young ambassador for The National Enterprise Challenge (TNEC). The youngster, from Ordsall joins forces with former ‘Dragon’ Theo Paphitis who is supporting competition a second year in a row. The budding businessman Tommie, 15, became an M.E.N favourite when he raked in £14,000 from selling treats to students at Salford Buile Hill High School. He was also offered his job within hours of enterprising story going online. He puts his experience to good use as he champions inter-school competition sponsored by a stationary company Ryman. The challenge, a ‘real life’ business situation set by Theo and Rymans is divided into 2 age categories: Key Stage 3 (Year 7-8) and Key Stage 4 (Year 9-10). Tommie’s role is to deliver talks and workshops at schools entering competition to inspire them to work together and sharing with them his own success tips.Tommie with Ben, Michael Dyer, CEO and Co-Founders at Ryman National Enterprise. Since appearing in world renowned Forbes magazine, and having the backing of likes of Sir Alan Sugar, Tommie made a point of encouraging youthg to get involved in business and entrepreneurship. He said: “I think this opportunity fits really well together, I think what TNEC does is brilliant by motivating young people interested in business such as myself. “Importantly for me it highlights the fact that you do not need to be top of your class or necessarily academic high achiever to be good at enterprise I think I will be able to inspire so many young people as they will see themselves in me and more likely to take on board what I say as I am a young person achieving success.” And The National Enterprise Challenge aims to focus on developing skills in young people like; teamwork, leadership, communication and their presentation of ideas and projects. Each school that takes part in the challenge will send winning team of 6 pupils and 2 teachers to The National Finals to be held at Alton Towers in July. There are also awards for the most enterprising students, teachers and schools. This is good news to really help young people to encourage them in society to become savvy business people. Take a good look at how families and the schools channel energy of young people to be productive and more focussed on good ideas. This is a dedicated young entrepreneur who needed guidance to grow business idea. Good to know the business community understands his motivation and passion to help him establish his plans. This is a better option than idlying and bored so lured into mischief as some tend to do. It is good to support young people to be contributing to society in a good way to not be overburdened by debt without jobs for life. Cumbersome yoke of debt around young people’s neck is broken by Tommie Rose to earn money early in life and have good success.

 

CHERISH YOUR SPOUSE

IMG_20180331_130704Cherish your spouse by focusing more on their strength and positive points so instead of dwelling on what annoys you make a big deal when your spouse does something positive and good. Have constant urge to make loved one smile always by looking for unique new ways to impress each other. Some go for dinners; some go for gifts, while others go for surprise vacations. One thing that always helps is to manage living lovelife. Do something to bring in the spark each day as a way into the heart is communicate through the mobile phone too and talk daily.
Expressed Love even if you feel upset
Keep Dwelling on positive points that made you love each other and refuse to be drawn into angry negative energy of spouse who wants to hurt your feelings. Do not tolerate anger on because upset spouse delights in winding you up. And learn to protect your joyful spirit.IMG_20180331_130635
Focus on what is working. If you are keen to exit a cycle of negativity, create a list of the lovely things your partner does, no matter how small, that you can be thankful for. Rather than focusing on what annoys you, elevate small details of your partner’s thoughtfulness. Better still, make a big deal out of it when your partner does something positive. It will motivate them towards acts of kindness.
Be vulnerable. A criticism holds veiled wish so when you say, “You’re always at football with your friends,” you mean, I wish you were here with me so ask for what you want with the possibility that you may not always get what you want.
Abolish sweeping accusations. Phrases like “You never, “You always…” are loaded with negativity. Listen to the difference between “I will love it if you do dishes this evening, I’m really tired” instead of  “You never do the dishes!”IMG_20180331_130605
Listen carefully. When something is thrown your way, take a pause. When we are in critical mode, take the time to reflect. Think about the following: why am I feeling angry? What do I want? So take responsibility for feelings, share it.
Adopt the Avatar approach. In James Cameron’s film Avatar, “I see you” is used as a greeting on Pandora. When open up and really “see” your partner, in the spiritual and connected sense of the word, chances are you will be more understanding of the situation at hand.
Think Rumi. The 13th-century Persian poet wrote, “Raise your words, not your voice. Rain grows flowers, not thunder.” A relationship cannot blossom if voices are raised. Try whispering if upset and let God be at the centre of your love life. Forgive spouse daily as Christ forgives us and raise your children to love, fear honour God in Jesus Name.Published by Anne-Celine Jaeger Sources: Esther Perel’s State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity; psychotherapist and author Barton Goldsmith.

#GET HELP DON’T TAKE PAIN

IMG_20180314_170036One most heart wrenching experience we had is dealing with young people who feel sharing chronic life pain with others is embarrassing and belittling oneself. Therefore pain is concealed to prevent humiliation and being mocked as weak. When one is feeling well and able to contain pain within reasonable strength, it may be alright. The issue is the body can only take so much pain at a time. This means containing the pain is limited to circumstances and critical condition affecting ability to hold pain. Internal damage, if not detected early delays, inhibits and prevents treatment. Keeping up appearances, not revealing true pain affects treatment. Not wanting to come across as a ‘crying baby’ means some refuse to tell their doctors, nurses their true extent of pain. Any unusual unfamiliar pain surfacing in the body on and off needs equal attention as the ongoing obvious chronic pain. Please even if pain seems insignificant get checked to eliminate doubt or confirm need for treatment. Many fear being labeled a hypochondriac so they ignore pain until it festers beyond treatment. With health budget cuts it is essential to get to hospital early for a third-party service to be arranged to arrive on time. Health services are stretched beyond measure so few staff available to attend to urgent calls, shortage of beds, among lack of resources. Waiting hours, days for emergency kits delays treatments so client deteriorates in some cases. IMG-20180314-WA0004 It is important to attend hospital early at first sign of symptoms because delay causes damage to organs due to lack of detection for appropriate treatment. If pain delayed alright in past, remember things changing so fast one cannot take life for granted anymore. The body’s immune system is impacted by pain and potential to heal faster. A fairly healthy body responds faster to treatment than body damaged and failing although best treatment is given. Attend appointments ask people to buy daysaver for you, pay for your medications or go with you as a friend to support you during treatment. Do not worry or feel embarrassed by an illness or condition because others don’t walk in your shoes so never understand your pain. Do not be stoic, macho about illness thinking the people will laugh at you. Your life is precious so take hold of life and preserve your body as much as you can. Chronic pain affects physical body, mind, emotions, drains, causes pressure, stress, makes person passive, tired, affects finances too. Many years of dealing with chronic pain impacts joy, lifestyle, family, interaction, friends and colleagues. Be kind and help discreetly, invite them for meals, shopping, give token gift cards, vouchers help them. when-problems-comes-into-your-life-like-a-non-stop-rain-30859647Punitive insurance is very detrimental to congenital health issues so some do not disclose in case it is used against them. Chronic pain affects all aspects of life studies, exams, college, university and employment. Constantly iinterrupts life events surrounding the whole family supporting them. It is quite sad in the midst of superabundance many people with chronic health issues cannot heat their home, eat hot food essential for good health. They hide their needs so not do not share personal details of life as they feel embarrassed. Many live in extreme poverty, punished by system in pain unable to attend GP’s appointments. DWP asking GP to ‘prove’ that a lifelong permanent illness needs medical certificate hurts, is exhausting to chase doctors appointment. People with congenital problems for life need support to manage their lives rather than prove really ill. The one size fits all approach assessment is inappropriate so refusing to pay them income support frustrates them and humiliates them. Unable to hold down jobs due to health problems feel sad because of lack of permanent department for treatment moved around wards. And takes hours, days, weeks for the critical emergency care resources to arrive, put person on hold. It is really unfortunate essential health is delayed, limited by resources so one cannot have a last minute.com attitude to health. It is necessary to eat, sleep, rest, educate the people around you about health matters so they do not think you are act weird. No one wants to focus entire life on painful lifestyle so prefer to keep it quiet disclosed to few trusted people. It’s difficult to seek help, and to intervene in such cases. However breaking confidentiality is necessary if at risk to themselves and need urgent help. They will thank you later when they get better so seek help on their behalf and get the right team to help the recovery process. Do not feel meddling in their private life or business because longterm chronic illness affects clarity, thinking and a decision making process. Dealing with chronic pain affects skills, employment, cumbersome student loan debts do not have any regular source of income. Please kindly help them with donations no matter how small some say they are alright, do not need help. In reality it is because they feel embarrassed or shy not wanting to burden others with their problem, prevents them asking for help. Such a behaviour is detrimental to their health, not eating properly, starving not living with heating, unable to afford bus fare for hospital appointments or to buy prescriptions ultimately affects chronic pain sufferer’s health and well-being to thrive. Worst of all punished by policies that do not consider genetic disorder or chronic pain as deserving support so no funds given so live without any income. No matter age of adult dependant cared for ensure you advocate on their behalf by power of attorney to negotiate best help available for them. Directly contact GPs, consultants, third-party front line service providers to meticulously seek help because they become so exhausted and worn out dealing with the longterm pain. Above all, God is the healer who did surgery and took Adam’s rib used to create Eve, yet Adam healed instantly so woke up immediately and saw his wife. Seek God’s Divine intervention to heal pain of loved one in the mind, body and soul resurrected in Christ into eternity. Be faithful and loyal not to grow weary in well doing because taking care of the loved one can take its toll on feelings or emotions. Ask for strength from God to do your duties in love as unto the LORD knowing your reward is in heaven. Bear with loved ones, chronic pain affects all areas of life. Be there for them, pray for strength to live in peace of God passing all human understanding in the Name of Jesus. Bless and tell them about love of Jesus and eternal life in Christ.

SCHOOL OPENS OWN BANK

Pupils save over £100 in new school bank!

 

Ws4g3Students at Walthamstow School for Girls have thrown open the doors of their very own bank.

11-14 year olds have been trained by MyBnk to get fellow pupils into good financial habits by offering accounts and loans of up to £40. Using real money, their MyBnk-in-a-Box scheme opens once a week at lunchtime and is also accessible online.

“I opened an account today with £2 and I think it’s important to save so you don’t have to worry about your parents spending all of their money on you! I would like to buy things for myself and be independent”. Amy 12, young saver.

Ws4g2Also opening accounts on launch day were the Mayor of Waltham Forest, Saima Mahmud and our patron, broadcaster and campaigner, June Sarpong. Scores of young people deposited over £100 in a single lunch break.

The young bankers now will also run incentivised saving and enterprise start-up drives for their fellow pupils. This is backed up with financial education workshops covering everything from tax and pensions to student finance, supported by Prudential.

“At WSFG we believe that our girls should understand how banks work and understand how to manage their personal finances. We try to build in transferable and lifelong skills that they will use in their everyday lives, as well as ensuring that they achieve the very best academic achievements they can”. Marianna Philippou, Maths teacher, Walthamstow School for Girls.

 

Ws4gSoon, Walthamstow will be joined by another London school bank, run by young people for young people. Savers bank on average £3.64 a week, 59% of their pocket money, an adult would bank £295 a week on an a £26,000 salary!

“The sooner young people are familiar with banking, the better they can develop sound financial habits like saving and navigate the system. We’re going all out for a generation that will have to make smarter financial decisions and create their own opportunities”. MyBnk CEO & Founder Lily Lapenna.

If you are interested in running the MyBnk-in-a-Box financial education programme in your school, get in touch via info@mybnk.org or 0207 377 8770!

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GIRL’S PUBERTY & PERIODS

maximum-win-when-puberty-goes-right_o_4965805Girls of puberty age face discrimination in society so says the news again. Some banned from crossing river because of monthly periods. Interestingly, God put period in girls for reproductive cycle to be fruitful, multiply to replenish earth according to Bible. Functions of human body are God’s creation so people need proper education to learn to understand these female conditions. Modern times show deataile scientific knowledge on menstruation. So schoolchildren learn biology so know scientific explanation of periods. Period means a girl’s womb is prepared for child-birth each month. The girl’s body waits through ovulation cycle when egg is released to receive the seed/s to become pregnant and to have children. But since girls are too young to bear children and still in education they are not ready to give birth yet. So each month the egg from the fallopian tube is released waiting for conception in the womb. Since no pregnancy takes place, egg and womb linings are shed as the ‘period’ in preparation for repeat of this cycle each month. After birth a womb is still busy continuing monthly cycle until menopause when period stop. A natural of fertility cycle of girls is being used as religious discrimination against young innocent girls. The tradition of outhouse for periods exists in cultures all over the world to keep girls in a special hut.

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The concept of sacred ground of homes and rivers is used to put girls in special huts for exclusively the periods. Elderly women train girls in personal hygiene and after periods they go back to family compounds. The idea is found in Bible too so women are considered “unclean” from sacred spaces during periods. And must have purification baths and must abstain from intimacy during periods. In some places menstrual cups, pads or special cloth is used by women during periods. For those not going through the periods they are allowed to cook, clean and do chores. Those in periods cannot enter the family compounds until after periods. In places where a girl is safe, warm and nearby home period is time of “break and rest” for the girls. Those isolated in places exposed to elements is unsafe, cold, some are at risk from the elements and animals roaming around. Girl’s education is interrupted so do not go to school. If they to ask teachers to be excused from classroom to change in school toilet, i can be embarrassing to tell male teachers such details by girls. So it was concluded by some societies to exclude them during periods. Education is not continued and so school work lags behind when in the hut. No lessons or homework given for missed classes and some it is assumed must not touch other things to ‘contaminate’ it. This why girls in periods are banned from the homes and school still an issue in some places. Other issues of sanitation or washing of cloth or disposing of used pads in home is of concern too. Often a sight of blood is considered sacred to must not touch or taint home or certain holy places. It is necessary to educate people periods are like any normal health experience. Talking-To-Boys-About-Puberty-Periods-And-Girls

Homeschooling during period if this is possible can be set up by the schools to ensure education of these girls are not compromised. Homework can be given but this idea is not popular so girls are affected. The elders making laws need to understand value of a girl’s education often misconstrued as waste of time or money. They say, after all girl’s just end up in kitchen so less education thought as easy way to control girls. This issue has several underlying causes needing to be addressed for the human rights of girls to have periods without attack on their education. In addition the societies can learn from others in other parts of the world on how a girls’ periods does not interrupt education. To some extent social stigma is attached to periods so a natural mood swings and mood changes or pain responded to as ‘oh it’s that time again.’ On other occasions, even if girl is not in their periods is assumed they are always daily going through the periodic cycle. Girls not allowed to touch certain objects in extreme cases even the Bible considered too Holy if in period. Periods-in-Developing-Countries-Header-1Period matters need to be dealt with very carefully in harmony with views of community which associated, interprets lack of rain or good harvests as results of human actions and behaviours. The people who are aware notice changes in the girls during periods so may feel it is inappropriate to socialize in that state. It is awkward for some men unaware of real meaning of a girl’s monthly cycles. Whatever methods girls choose or are available to that society, the well-being of girls must be ensured. Organisations can support by donating their essential personal hygiene items too expensive to buy in some places. The disposal must be done discreetly so the used pads not dragged by dogs from local damp sites. These needs are beyond young girls to meet by own efforts. So discrimination against girls must be reconsidered to stop ‘gods’ harrassing girls to realise God  ALMIGHTY created girls in HIS IMAGE to reproduce on earth.

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Psalm 115:5 says gods have mouths, but cannot speak, eyes but not see so are just man-made idols in Habakkuk 2:18, 1 Kings 18 :26. God ALMIGHTY in the heavens demands veneration by people. Psalm 135:16 says gods have mouths but cannot speak, eyes but not see. A born again Christian believer in Christ is to practice WORSHIP of God only. Christ Shed His precious Blood to cleanse all people including girls in their periods. Believers cannot partake in any idolatry of gods or heathen practice if they claim to be saved. In the 21 century education available to bring an awareness and the relevant knowledge. This issue must be resolved properly to stop picking on the girls going through periods. It is not the fault of girls to put up with natural cycle tolerated monthly with no choice or any control over natural period issues.2-infographic-education God’s plans and purpose for girls is for birth of mankind so must be celebrated not punish girls for being in periods. In addition, a community’s actions are also known and seen by God who will hold decision makers accountable. So read Revelations 19:15 about God’s dealings with leaders in society. Isaiah 44:18 says gods know nothing, understand nothing their eyes do not see. They do not know or understand anything. God shuts their eyes so they cannot see; and so have no knowledge. Those who carry about their idols or pray to gods are like them. The Bible in Psalm 115:5 says those who are praying or praising gods of silver, gold, bronze, iron, wood, stone do not know Jehovah God. Children’s rights activists hit out at traditional leaders banning girls from crossing river while they are menstruating from going to school._99558170_b239af05-8ed2-4257-8153-64b56e998a53Yet Krobo girls in Somanya Ghana are dressed and taken to the riverside for Dipo bath rites. Any girl who dresses in this way is identified as ‘dipo-yo.’ On the Saturday morning the girls have ritual bath (aya-pa) at the riverside. The girl’s calabash contain sponge so proceeds to Srendor (stream) for spiritual bath. The chief priest is told when girl has period for the first time and grouped together with other girls. They are checked to be ensure they are virgins. After that they have a ritual bath in the river and are dressed beautifully in expensive kente, beads on head and around body. The point here is the Dipo god seems to not mind puberty girls in river they literally are bathed in. Later paraded in town to celebrate them by the whole town. This great source of tourism and hospitality attracts people from all over the world. Books are written about this practice. kroboIMG_20180112_103548But in the central region Ghana girls have been banned from crossing the River Ofin by traditional leaders, who say they are enforcing what they call a “directive” from a river-god. Children have to cross the river to get to school in Kyekyewere, in Upper Denkyira East district in the Central Region of Ghana. This means girls cannot attend school while they are on their periods. It is not on period days: a second order from the river gods bans all girls from crossing river on Tuesdays.  Remember Jehovah created rivers and oceans so all are free to cross it. Unicef’s menstrual hygiene ambassador Shamima Muslim Alhassan told BBC directive violates girl’s right to education and freedom of movement.

It seems the gods are really powerful aren’t they? Sometimes I think that we need to ask for some form of accountability from these gods who continue to bar a lot of things from happening, to account for how they have used the tremendous power that we have given them.”

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PeriodTalk-Cloud-600River Ofin serves as boundary between Ashanti and Central Region. Central Regional Minister Kwamena Duncan given indications to coordinate with Ashanti regional minister to find solution. In Madagascar some females are told not to wash during periods and in Nepal some women are forced to sleep in huts away from the rest of the family. Girls in other cultures face this problem since education is becoming compulsory in many countries. Many cultures have myths and taboos around menstruation globally. This must be demystified and debunked to intervene on behalf of young girls to benefit from education. Kweggir Aggrey said if you educate a boy or man you educate an individual but if you educate a girl or woman, YOU EDUCATE A NATION. And behind every successful man is woman so men must listen to women at home, community or in corporate boardrooms for the greater good of society and girls. Stop harrassing young girls all over the world and study reproduction biology. Elijah told people to follow God only not any idols in the Mount Carmel contest by calling fire down to burn sacrifice of Yahweh the real true God. God proved to the people HE has greater power than the idols. Again Gideon was also told to cut down idol shrine grove to build new altar for God and sacrifice cow to God on the new altar. Almighty God does not share His Glory with idols so demands a complete total loyalty because HE IS A JEALOUS GOD. He wants to be the only one people worship not a bit of God and a bit of idols. So school girls must attend school daily in their period, given pads, personal hygiene kit, discreet changing rooms facilities and water to wash with.  

 

EXPRESS MARRIAGE TRENDS

Sophy on her wedding day in traditional attireWith Valentine day approaching people are looking for love and romance for a form relationships. So couples celebrate established meaningful, love fulfilling a family bond. Others also ready to settle down prepare and advertise for love in new ways using social media, Facebook post and was married six days later. The marriage took place quite quickly than the normal traditional longer process of a family searching and taking years for the marriage to be finalised. CHIDIMMA AMEDU, did exactly that advertising for love and marriage on Facebook. He found a beautiful wife who said, ‘he is the most handsome man I’ve ever met and I liked him instantly.” Those who use Facebook come across pretty strange posts in their time. But this time however the random friends requests, being added to groups you did not ask to join, and tags allows “friends” to marry. Others clog up timeline with posts or photos you don’t necessarily want. But a Nigerian man took it to a whole new level posted unusual advert. Chidimma Amedu put up a post on 30 December, asking women interested in being his wife to reply, he told the BBC.Chidimma Amedu on his wedding day

The proposal

“Am of age to and I am ready to say I do and am wasting no time. “Send in your applications – the most qualified will be married on January 6, 2018. Application closes 12 midnight 31/12/2017 he posted. He followed up with subsequent posts. ‘Am serious about this oh and don’t say you did not see it on time Good luck.’ He received a couple of responses, but one from Sophy Ijeoma is someone special who caught his attention. She wrote in her reply “Am interested, just DM me… lols,” her post read. At first, she thought it was a joke and she simply replied to keep thread flowing. A direct message from him to her inbox, followed by a Facebook call, would change her life’s trajectory. Chidimma placed the advert initially as a joke but became optimistic when Sophy said she was interested. So two days after their first conversation, he travelled some 500km (300 miles) from his home in the northern city of Abuja, to Enugu in the east where she lived. She had been waiting for him outside a retail store and in true fairy-tale style, “it was love at first sight”, she recalled. “He is the most handsome man I’ve ever met and I liked him instantly.”The couple on their wedding day in Igbo attire

After 2 hours of awkward conversation, he asked her to go to meet an uncle who incidentally is also resident in Enugu. So he asked what was going through her mind at the time, she said she thought it was all a bit of a joke but was excited about it and thought Chidimma was also quite an interesting character. “We got to the uncle’s house and he said: ‘Uncle, meet the woman I want to marry.'” Like Chidimma his family don’t seem to hang about when it comes to getting things done because uncle gave his approval. The couple are friends on Facebook for over a year but never spoken to each other before the advert. Getting family backing for your choice of spouse is an essential part of Igbo culture. Whereas picking your future wife from dozens of respondents to a Facebook marriage advert and marrying her in six days is decidedly not. At this point in their day-old relationship, it was beginning to dawn on Sophy that this fellow was not playing, but how do you commit to marrying someone you only just me. She would not comment on whether they had even shared as much as a kiss at that point, but maintained she was captivated by how focused, determined her new fiancé was. “When I saw him for the first time, I definitely found him attractive, but what I didn’t know was how serious he was about marrying me. “It was after we met the uncle and his wife, I realised that this could actually happen and I wanted it.”A family member felicitate with the couple

The engagement

It was now her turn to worry about how she was going to get the approval of her family to marry a guy she had just met on Facebook. But they had momentum going for them. Having met and fallen in love at first sight, or first message, if you like, and getting Chidimma’s uncle’s approval, couple decided to complete the cycle by visiting Sophy’s family the same day. Approval from the family is essential in Igbo tradition and Sophy recounted how she relayed information to her mother. Her dad passed away, and her mum said she did not have a final word in terms of giving approval for her to be married, so up to Sophy’s elder brother to give his blessings. It appears the odds firmly in their favour as Sophy’s brother gave his blessings too. So after a few questions from her brother it became official. Chidimma and Sophy were engaged to be married in six days.The happy couple cutting their cake

On the rebound?

Last year Chidimma was engaged to another woman and the wedding was scheduled for December, but then that relationship fell apart in March leaving him dejected. As December approached, the disappointment of not being able to fulfil his dream of getting married made him put up the post, he said. In wedding it was a blend of old and new “I had the desire to get married, had date in mind, but no bride, decided to place an advert as a joke, but I was open and up for it.”  Asked whether she knew about earlier engagement and her thoughts on how this seemingly rushed marriage might be seen as a rebound, Sophy dismissed any suggestions that her relationship was not well thought through. “I don’t care about that when you see what you want, you go for it.” They are friends on Facebook for more than a year, but had never met or spoken to each other until the advert. Am interested just DM me… lols” was all it took for the union to be formed. Sophy admitted her friends were sceptical about the whole thing, while some are still in disbelief, but as she said: “When you see the one, you will know he is the one.” And they got married on 6 January in a traditional Igbo ceremony, and posted photos of wedding day on Facebook of course to the amusement of the social media community. Chidimma put up a post saying people may have thought he had been joking but clearly wasn’t. And as expected there was mixed reactions, but mainly a lot of support for the couple. They hope to have a church wedding in April and honeymoon somewhere nice.