TACKLING DIFFICULT PEOPLE

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Answer: We all know people we find so “difficult”and deal with difficult people. A difficult person is very condescending argumentative, belligerent, selfish, and flippant, obtuse, simply rude. Difficult people “push one’s buttons” and stir up trouble. Dealing with difficult people is an exercise in patience, love, and grace. Response to difficult people from Jesus’ interactions He never displayed attitude of harsh superiority or dismissive pride. wp-1578834260762.jpgHe showed His authority under control to rebuke when necessary in John 8:47 to deal with the difficult people, remain silent in John 8:6 when asked questions in Mark 11:28–29 in Scripture in Mark 10:2–3 tells story in Luke 7:40–42. In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus dealt with difficult people in love and humility: “I tell you: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you pray for all who mistreat you.wp-1578834206139.jpg If someone strikes you on a cheek turn the other. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to who asks you, if anyone takes what belongs to you don’t demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you” in Luke 6:27–31. Never give tit for tat: “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult repay evil with blessing, for this you were called inherit blessing” in 1 Peter 3:9. In dealing with difficult people guard against pride.wp-1578834096919.jpg Its important to recall advise given by apostle Paul in Romans 12:3: “By grace of God I say to you don’t think too highly of yourself. Think of yourself with the humility by faith God has given you” in Philippians 2:3–4. When difficult people approach you deal with the situation in meekness. Love is the key to “Love your neighbour as yourself” in Galatians 5:14 to show God’s love to all difficult people. Wisdom is needed to deal with difficult people. In Proverbs 12:16 patience is the key to such relationships: “A fool shows his annoyance at once but the prudent man overlooks insult.” Proverbs 20:3 says peace-making of honour to avoid strife but fools quickly quarrel.”wp-1578834341622.jpg Proverbs 10:12, encourages giving love, “Hatred stirs up conflict but love covers all wrongs.” Proverbs 17:14 is foresight on “Starting quarrel like breaching dam as disputes breaks out” Best to avoid the situation altogether choosing carefully whom we associate with: “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered” in Proverbs 22:24. Dealing with difficult people in life is unavoidable but do not respond in the flesh to bring out worst in you. Deal with difficult people by the fruit of Spirit in us in Galatians 5:22–23.wp-1578834322634.jpg By the grace of God, deal with difficult people in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control. Extend love, grace, and mercy God extends to us, careful not to be difficult people ourselves. 2 Timothy 3 says in the last days the perilous times shall come. People will be lovers of  self, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful and ungrateful. 4 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, fierce, despisers of those who are good traitors, 5 heady, highminded lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; wp-1578833839523.jpgHaving a form of Godliness, but deny HIS power from such turn away. 6 This sort creep into houses and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of truth. 8 As Jannes and Jambres resisted Moses they resist truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. 9 They will proceed no further their folly manifests to all 10 Know God’s doctrine for life’s purpose, faith, longsuffering, charity, patience, love, forgive like Jesus.wp-1578833896562.jpg9 They will proceed no further 11 So endure persecutions afflictions for the LORD delivers out of all. 12 Live Godly life in Christ Jesus despite persecution. 13 Evil people and seducers get worse deceiving and deceived 14 Continue in the things you learn and know 15 From childhood. You know Holy Scriptures to make you wise unto salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. 16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God is profitable doctrine for correction and instruction in righteousness 17 so the people of God perfectly furnished to do good works.

Recommended Resource: Who’s Pushing Your Buttons? Handling the Difficult People in Your Life by Dr. John Townsend

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JESUS TELL US ABOUT BABIES

wp-1578501683427.jpgJesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not stop them for their’s is kingdom of heaven.” Jesus blessed the children as people were bringing them in the crowd to meet Jesus. Babies and infants talked to Jesus and He taught them about their heavenly Father God’s love for all children in the world. All the children are created in Yahweh’s Image. wp-1578501807860.jpgChildren are blessings from God to their family and all people so it takes a whole village raise them. Children are the gifts from God to bring joy to the family and community and to their nation. God at times sends special babies in the world to bring solution to family and whole world gains from children’s abilities.wp-1578521975634.jpgGod makes different kinds of babies to show HIS majestic beauty in HIS IMAGE Psalm 139:13 says God creates body knit together in mother’s womb formed the inward parts 14 Praise God for fearfully wonderfully making babies as precious gifts from God to bless society to ensure continuity of life on earth as others pass into heaven. New babies grow as adults to maintain population of society, work, sustain businesses buying products. wp-1578657590860.jpg15695937154576726216725543685279.jpg20200115_225911IMG-20190927-WA0003.jpgScreenshot_20200114-065505_Chrome20200115_22580920200115_225617wp-1578504034802.jpgGod sends baby angels to help look after babies with support families they learn social skills of mixing with other people. Babies go to nursery infant schools to be looked after by trained staff or nannies to give rest to parents working hard to look after them. Family, midwife, grand parents help look after babies but more experienced, mature, wise kids help too.wp-1578554780990.jpgBrave children, toddlers, get involved in helping their mothers give birth, taught process in advance. Prepared life lesson natural childbirth experience of helping mum give birth to sibling at 14 gave life-changing practical training for Izzy help deliver baby Henry. Izzy helps mother take care of baby who came out of a sac in womb. Water broke from baby sac so came of out from the mother’s vulva.wp-1578505349425.jpgBaby is surrounded and cushioned by a fluid-filled membranous sac called the amniotic sac. At the beginning of labour membranes rupture or water breaking. Water breaks before labour starts but some babies born inside sac post labour rupture of membranes. Babies are loved welcomed in family given gifts to help support family look after the baby. Jesus received gifts gold, myrrh, frankincense from three kings of East shepherds gave sheep. People look after mother to heal, feel better after carrying baby so long.wp-1578505364546.jpg Babies grow daily in size by an average of nine months. Some love being in the womb they are born later than the nine months. Others come out earlier than a date expected. Hospitals or home births im some places babies are born but the adventurous one surprise people born anywhere anytime. Parents ask God for a child angels sent to deliver baby and a baby is 24/7 hard work so accept help. A doctor and midwife look after pregnant mother throughout pregnancy to check babies are healthy so growing properly.wp-1578505293912.jpgSome receive more than one baby at a time others receive many more in their pregnacy. Often its the fastest who swim into the womb by running fast to enjoy womb ready to nurture them. Others in a race of life take another womb or stay in another part near womb and survive. As fast the baby grows people notice the growing stomach and congratulate the mother and the family. Lots of talking about baby baby baby everyone excited.wp-1578505272716.jpgSome people get help so treated become pregnant after losing other past babies in a special hospital by IVF or an invitro fertilisation called test tube babies. The treatments involves taking eggs from a mother and seed sperms from the man to incubate in a special temperature to grow ready to put into the womb of the mother or surrogate paid to carry baby. wp-1578505427967.jpg Example shows twins put back into the womb although this picture is not exact way it’s done is to illustrate the process.  These babies grow like the other babies naturally conceive by intercourse of the sex between man and a woman. Those who go through fertility route pay lots of money for treatment not guaranteed due to health of mother or sperm count. They eventually get pregnant and have baby some tried over twenty five yearswp-1578505442035.jpgwp-1578505409597.jpgNow more years like 60 or 90 years old give birth through IVF treatments and have healthy bouncy babies. No matter how a child conceived whether by IVF or natural conception all are gifts from God created IN HIS IMAGE. A modern scientific way of helping the infertile couples is wisdom from God although it nay seem strange to some. Couples have said they would have used IVF if it was available during maternal clock years.wp-1578505394536.jpgPeople who have sex get pregnant when the sperm from the man enters a womb of a woman. The youngest mother in the world was five years old so teach children about playing houses show me yours and I will show mine doctors and nurses. So quickest sperm enters womb of a woman or girl whether its sex once or more depends on ovulation of womb. A baby is designed by God to enter the womb during intercourse naturally as part of God’s programme. If not ready to conceive or father child use protection.wp-1578512659626.jpgYour child’s body is gift from God made in HIS IMAGE to celebrate life on earth so all good and perfect gifts come from God no matter their shape or size. Sex is for couple to enjoy with each other and children shared with others. Today life expectancy is better compared to past people grow beyond fifth generation. A family life is joint heir with Christ into eternity so cherish and value longterm commitment to family even if not as perfect as you want. God puts you in the family for a reason even adopted ones love to embrace you. Moses was raised by God’s enemy Pharaoh’s daughter that is God for you. Children angel’s watch over them and God says if anyone hurts children the millstone should be put on their neck to drown in sea. God blesses those who bless, help babies, infants, children in Jesus Name.

BORN OF GOD NOT OF FLESH

wp-1578403267950.jpgBorn of God not of flesh means Children of God reborn in Christ born again by a Spiritual rebirth. Through Jesus’ BLOOD is reborn not by natural birth of flesh by women. Nicodemus asked Jesus: Crawl back into the mother’s womb to be born again? Nicodemus Pharisee member of Sanhedrin in Gospel of John visits Jesus at night to discuss Jesus’ teachings. John 3:1–21 says Nicodemus ruler of the Jews asks Jesus if he must enter second time into his mother’s womb and be born?” wp-1578403436681.jpgJesus answered, “I say to you unless one is born of water and Spirit cannot enter kingdom of God. People ask these same questions in Scripture about being born again. Jesus said being born again is not crawling back into a mother’s womb but to be Spiritually regenerated in Christ to be saved in God’s Son Jesus accept Jesus teaching in Bible. This is God’s ENTRY requirement to heaven to live in eternal life reunited with all loved ones in God’s Presence. A person born again accepts Jesus as Lord and lives as the Bible says.wp-1578403490238.jpgAll in Christ in Rapture with resurrected dead go into heaven and escape GREAT TRIBULATION WRATH of God that takes place. This what born again means in the Bible you become the Child of God. After DNA of sin contaminated mankind you need detox through Jesus Blood to be redeemed. Believe and receive Jesus Christ as personal Saviour. People are God’s creation but not all are God’s CHILDREN. So what must you do to be born again according to Jesus in Bible?  wp-1578403700196.jpgTo enter kingdom of God John 3:3-8 says God’s True Light Jesus shines on people to be saved in the world. He came into the world but the world He created did not recognise him. He came to his own creation and own people didn’t accept Him. All ACCEPT him He gave them the power to become the Children of God so all those who truly believe in Him their birth does not depend not on the course of nature or impulse plan of man but on God. Christ offspring not birth by blood or of flesh and man but God CHOOSES subjects of HIS KINGDOM in Christwp-1578500026778.jpgTo be born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God is to be again. God in His mercy allows people the freedom of choice to make up their own minds to become the citizens of heaven in HIS KINGDOM. HE sent Gospel message from time of Adam and Eve to save all mankind from HIS WRATH anger destroying one third of the earth. God rebuilds earth and comes to live on the perfect earth in future. HE warned in Daniel 9-12 of the destruction taking place till GREAT TRIBULATION. wp-1578403776396.jpg

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Its a crucial time in history to decide if you want to belong to Yahweh in Christ Jesus the Only way chosen by God. This is not religious debate of which Church you attend or which faith you prefer or force onto people. God is warning world if consequences if people still refuse to accept Jesus as Lord and Saviour. Life is normal with challenges here and there overcome to survive often celebrated to thank God for delivering from adversity. Being born again is decision time choice for those in Christ in God in eternal life.wp-1578406322133.jpg

John 1:12 says all those who receive and believe in Jesus Name become children of God. 13 Its not by birth, blood or flesh of man but of God, not based on natural descent of human decision but through birth out of God. Joint heirs of Christ are His Blood kindreds not by natural flesh but by predestination of God’s salvation.

HAVE A BLESSED NEW YEAR

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YOUNG HELPING HOMELESS

wp-1577603600932.jpgAn 11 year old helped 20,000 homeless people by giving them “Blessing Bags.” In Chicago, IL Jahkil Jackson the 11-year old boy from Chicago already helped over 20,000 homeless people in his city by giving away ‘Blessing Bags’ through his organization Project I Am. At young age of 8, started helping people through small ways and he is up for bigger goals as he grows older. “Seeing people on the street made me really sad and I thought everybody had homes,” Jackson told Today. Jackson was 5-years old when he first saw a homeless person. Since then, he asked his mother if they could buy houses for all homeless people. It seems a far-fetched idea a young child, made efforts to help through his organization Project I Am established when he was 8-years old. He gives toiletries, food, and water stuffed in what he called ‘Blessing Bags’ to homeless people in Chicago, Los Angeles, Washington, DC, Atlanta, Idaho and Virginia. His efforts are not limited nationally he helps internationally like orphans in Mbabane, Swaziland, volcano victims in Guatemala, hurricane survivors in Florida, Houston and Puerto Rico. “Giving bags to people makes me feel like getting step closer to demolishing the whole homeless thing… it makes me happy to see the smiles on their faces,” Jackson said. Jackson, who was named Youth Ambassador for one of a world’s anti-poverty organizations Heartland Alliance International in 2016, has been acknowledged by the former President Barack Obama of three most influential people of 2017. “To know someone like him knows my name, supports what I do encourages me to keep doing every day,” he said in interview with Forbes. Basketball superstar LeBron James recognized him helps promote Project I Am. Jackson, who loves basketball as a fan and a player, dreams of having his NBA team one day. Jackson help the less-fortunate people in any way he can. “There’s way more homeless people in the world I can help, that I need to help.”wp-1577608273851.jpgIn Birmingham, AL Ethan Hill, a 9-year old boy from Alabama, is applauded for his efforts of giving back to community by helping the homeless. He purchased 100 sleeping bags and food for homeless in Birmingham. For two years Ethan has been helping homeless in every holiday season by giving sleeping bags and care packages. In third year doing so, Ethan is trying to make sure he gets to help more homeless people set goal buying 100 $10 sleeping bags. Ethan and family fundraising campaign on Facebook is to raise funds for the homeless raised over $6,500. His advocacy caught attention of City of Birmingham and Mayor Randall Woodfin, who described his efforts as “servant leadership at its finest,” wrote on Twitter. Academy Sports, Outdoors reached out to Ethan and offered him a $1,000 shopping spree to contribute to his initiative. The store opened early to accommodate Ethan purchases sleeping bags, gloves, cold weather socks, hand warmers, meal assortment buckets, and more for the homeless people. What a great example these two young boys are to encourage all to show compassion to the homeless. A veteran soldier became homeless after injuring his back. He had a pregnant  wife at home and medical bills unpaid. Yet when he found wallet full.of cash run after the owner to give it back.  When asked why, he said its the right thing to do it did not belong to him so there are honest poor people in this world. He was rewarded for his honesty but spent the money for food shared with the other homeless people around him. The wallet owner saw his action so gave him more insisting that he keeps it for himself and his family. Jesus said by giving to the least into give to Him. wp-1577616455517.jpgGod says kindness to the poor touches HIM to heal. Children are given boxes to save to give to the poor. And pray daily three times if they “neglect the poor in society God must curse them.” I was surprised at their prayer but they practice what they teach. Is example to others to learn from them. So never underestimate the homeless if you talk to them you realise they were once successful people. Some in high positions of society they owned homes, raised family but due to health issues or divorce end up homeless. The word of God says a nation is judged by how they treat the poor in society. There are negative stereotype images of what a homeless person is. Mother Theresa said poor people are the most kindest they share the little they have. Another  Maryland boy hands out ‘Hero Boxes’ to homeless vets for Thanksgiving Day and others on Christmas day too numerous to include all in this post. An eight-year-old boy from Maryland gave back this Thanksgiving by providing homeless veterans with ‘Hero Bags’ filled with warm clothes and hygiene products. On Tuesday, Tyler Shillings and his mother, Andrea Blackstone, gave out 65 of the bags to needy men and women who served. Giving is not just about money, a smile, talking to homeless treating them with dignity rather than as scum of the earth makes God very happy because all people are HIS creation and HE loves them all too. God provides more than enough resources for all and all to be like little children  to enter the Kingdom of God in Jesus Name. Some received by Christ for such godly deeds they did not realise God notices so keeps records of. Bedford teenager foregoes birthday gifts to help food banKatya Barwood with donated foodKatya Barwood 13, chose items nappies, tin openers, toiletries and washing-up liquid. The 13-year-old girl asked for charity donations instead of birthday presents handed over groceries worth of £500 to a food bank. Katya Barwood, of Bedford, wanted to help those less fortunate than her. “I got way more joy giving them the food rather than having presents all to myself,” she said. Bedford Foodbank manager Sarah Broughton said Katya’s donation was “unusual” and described her as an “amazing and incredible young lady.Isaac and Katya donating foodKatya went with her brother Isaac to personally donate the food. Katya said she got the idea after visiting food bank with her Scout group. Used donations to pay for large online supermarket order. A lot of people need help but the charity can’t help all, so I thought instead of me having a birthday that was all about me, I could do something to help them,” she said. I’m probably a lot more fortunate than they are and they deserve to have this so I put them before me. Her father Tom Barwood, said: “She is a very single-minded and motivated girl and when she gets an idea, off she goes.”Katya Barwood with donated foodTwo full car loads of items were taken to Bedford Foodbank. Ms Broughton said Katya’s donation weighed about 260kg (41st) would make 108 meals. The charity is currently feeding about 650 people a month, and last academic year fed 7,433, she said. After her father praised her endeavours on Facebook page We Are Bedford, Carly Kaczorowski, who has used a foodbank, said: “What an amazing young lady you have raised. “Too many children nowadays only think of themselves and or material items. She is a credit to you.”

Bedford teenager foregoes birthday gifts to help food bank

JESUS LOVES YOU SO MUCH

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