ACCEPT DIFFICULT PEOPLE

IMG_20180416_174241NO MATTER how calm and kind we may be we all have on occasion difficult people to deal with. This can be among family, friends, colleagues or those who are hard to avoid. Recognise you may not like their behaviour but like them as a human being rather than deny your feelings. Separating a person from their actions becomes easier to accept them.05421daff7281196fb1e3b41fb5d3d2fOverwhelmingly imagine that you try with all your might to change direction of a river rushing downstream towards you. It will not happen so it is pointless to wish it would. Accept that person with all their flaws, open your heart to their flow and let it pass with love. And see how free you will be from resistance and pain. Accepting people warts and all builds up a person’s life.

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£10,000:ALL AGE 25 CITIZENS

House keysIPPR says pay all 25-year-olds a £10,000 inheritance, thinktank said government could create a citizens’ wealth fund to address inequality. All UK-born citizens be given £10,000 “universal minimum inheritance” when they turn 25 to help address growing wealth inequality as thinktank proposed. Tax reforms and a selloff of assets including government’s stake in Royal Bank of Scotland to help create the citizens’ wealth fund worth £186bn by 2029/30, Institute for Public Policy Research (IPPR) said. Such a fund will give everyone stake in the economy and help young people invest in their futures. Through buying property and investing, education, starting business, according to report of IPPR Commission on Economic Justice. The fund could be large enough to pay all 25-year-olds as a one-off capital dividend of £10,000 from 2030. Report proposes capitalising fund uses the mixture of asset sales, capital transfers, new revenue streams, borrow amount for return reinvested in decade. These includes reformed wealth taxes as gift tax to replace inheritance tax and “scrip tax” of up to 3% requiring major businesses to issue equity to the fund. The authors propose national asset sales including RBS stake. IPPR on wealthiest tenth UK households own 44% nation’s wealth, least wealthy half of households own 9%. More than 70 governments around world’s sovereign wealth funds help alleviate poverty. Norway invested oil income sovereign wealth fund from 1990 now worth more than $1tn (£713bn). IPPR report claims UK’s revenues from North Sea oil if invested in a sovereign wealth fund in the 1980s, worth more than £500bn today. Carys Roberts, an IPPR senior economist, said: “Who owns wealth and who inherits wealth is more important increasingly so, as share of national income paid to people through wages declines. “A citizens’ wealth fund would enable all citizens to collectively own portion of our national wealth, to ensure everyone benefits from rising returns to capital, not just people who will inherit or who already own assets.” This grand noble idea on paper to help ALL 25 year olds tremendously good but exacerbates wealth gap even more given equally to All regardless of wealth. The rich gets richer by grant £10,000 pocket-money while deprived person gets a headstart. An average property is worth £160,000 to £500,000 depending on location beyond most 25 year olds so does this money bring required change? With most 25 year olds already heavily in debt with student loans, unemployed lives at home £10,000 borrowed wealth another ploy to dump national burden of debt on young people by a very rich wealthy few preserving and growing riches. The rich do not need this money as already provided for realistically it is hardworking citizens struggling to pay mortgages or choose to feed family is a major issue that needs attention. It is brilliant to help 25 years olds get up the property ladder but without the regular paid wages as article points out income depleting means repossessed property for the investors creating this scheme. It is really too good to be true so a rethink by this thinkthank is urgently required. Naive 25 years old will run after a “free” £10,000 pounds grant only to realise the catch years later after losing it all. So do not do these only to add more insults to injuries of people already suffering. Can alternative scheme ensure genuine resources used to pay good salaries so people earn money and live without such borrowed wealth on top of debts? Sure you can.

GIRL’S PUBERTY & PERIODS

maximum-win-when-puberty-goes-right_o_4965805Girls of puberty age face discrimination in society so says the news again. Some banned from crossing river because of monthly periods. Interestingly, God put period in girls for reproductive cycle to be fruitful, multiply to replenish earth according to Bible. Functions of human body are God’s creation so people need proper education to learn to understand these female conditions. Modern times show deataile scientific knowledge on menstruation. So schoolchildren learn biology so know scientific explanation of periods. Period means a girl’s womb is prepared for child-birth each month. The girl’s body waits through ovulation cycle when egg is released to receive the seed/s to become pregnant and to have children. But since girls are too young to bear children and still in education they are not ready to give birth yet. So each month the egg from the fallopian tube is released waiting for conception in the womb. Since no pregnancy takes place, egg and womb linings are shed as the ‘period’ in preparation for repeat of this cycle each month. After birth a womb is still busy continuing monthly cycle until menopause when period stop. A natural of fertility cycle of girls is being used as religious discrimination against young innocent girls. The tradition of outhouse for periods exists in cultures all over the world to keep girls in a special hut.

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The concept of sacred ground of homes and rivers is used to put girls in special huts for exclusively the periods. Elderly women train girls in personal hygiene and after periods they go back to family compounds. The idea is found in Bible too so women are considered “unclean” from sacred spaces during periods. And must have purification baths and must abstain from intimacy during periods. In some places menstrual cups, pads or special cloth is used by women during periods. For those not going through the periods they are allowed to cook, clean and do chores. Those in periods cannot enter the family compounds until after periods. In places where a girl is safe, warm and nearby home period is time of “break and rest” for the girls. Those isolated in places exposed to elements is unsafe, cold, some are at risk from the elements and animals roaming around. Girl’s education is interrupted so do not go to school. If they to ask teachers to be excused from classroom to change in school toilet, i can be embarrassing to tell male teachers such details by girls. So it was concluded by some societies to exclude them during periods. Education is not continued and so school work lags behind when in the hut. No lessons or homework given for missed classes and some it is assumed must not touch other things to ‘contaminate’ it. This why girls in periods are banned from the homes and school still an issue in some places. Other issues of sanitation or washing of cloth or disposing of used pads in home is of concern too. Often a sight of blood is considered sacred to must not touch or taint home or certain holy places. It is necessary to educate people periods are like any normal health experience. Talking-To-Boys-About-Puberty-Periods-And-Girls

Homeschooling during period if this is possible can be set up by the schools to ensure education of these girls are not compromised. Homework can be given but this idea is not popular so girls are affected. The elders making laws need to understand value of a girl’s education often misconstrued as waste of time or money. They say, after all girl’s just end up in kitchen so less education thought as easy way to control girls. This issue has several underlying causes needing to be addressed for the human rights of girls to have periods without attack on their education. In addition the societies can learn from others in other parts of the world on how a girls’ periods does not interrupt education. To some extent social stigma is attached to periods so a natural mood swings and mood changes or pain responded to as ‘oh it’s that time again.’ On other occasions, even if girl is not in their periods is assumed they are always daily going through the periodic cycle. Girls not allowed to touch certain objects in extreme cases even the Bible considered too Holy if in period. Periods-in-Developing-Countries-Header-1Period matters need to be dealt with very carefully in harmony with views of community which associated, interprets lack of rain or good harvests as results of human actions and behaviours. The people who are aware notice changes in the girls during periods so may feel it is inappropriate to socialize in that state. It is awkward for some men unaware of real meaning of a girl’s monthly cycles. Whatever methods girls choose or are available to that society, the well-being of girls must be ensured. Organisations can support by donating their essential personal hygiene items too expensive to buy in some places. The disposal must be done discreetly so the used pads not dragged by dogs from local damp sites. These needs are beyond young girls to meet by own efforts. So discrimination against girls must be reconsidered to stop ‘gods’ harrassing girls to realise God  ALMIGHTY created girls in HIS IMAGE to reproduce on earth.

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Psalm 115:5 says gods have mouths, but cannot speak, eyes but not see so are just man-made idols in Habakkuk 2:18, 1 Kings 18 :26. God ALMIGHTY in the heavens demands veneration by people. Psalm 135:16 says gods have mouths but cannot speak, eyes but not see. A born again Christian believer in Christ is to practice WORSHIP of God only. Christ Shed His precious Blood to cleanse all people including girls in their periods. Believers cannot partake in any idolatry of gods or heathen practice if they claim to be saved. In the 21 century education available to bring an awareness and the relevant knowledge. This issue must be resolved properly to stop picking on the girls going through periods. It is not the fault of girls to put up with natural cycle tolerated monthly with no choice or any control over natural period issues.2-infographic-education God’s plans and purpose for girls is for birth of mankind so must be celebrated not punish girls for being in periods. In addition, a community’s actions are also known and seen by God who will hold decision makers accountable. So read Revelations 19:15 about God’s dealings with leaders in society. Isaiah 44:18 says gods know nothing, understand nothing their eyes do not see. They do not know or understand anything. God shuts their eyes so they cannot see; and so have no knowledge. Those who carry about their idols or pray to gods are like them. The Bible in Psalm 115:5 says those who are praying or praising gods of silver, gold, bronze, iron, wood, stone do not know Jehovah God. Children’s rights activists hit out at traditional leaders banning girls from crossing river while they are menstruating from going to school._99558170_b239af05-8ed2-4257-8153-64b56e998a53Yet Krobo girls in Somanya Ghana are dressed and taken to the riverside for Dipo bath rites. Any girl who dresses in this way is identified as ‘dipo-yo.’ On the Saturday morning the girls have ritual bath (aya-pa) at the riverside. The girl’s calabash contain sponge so proceeds to Srendor (stream) for spiritual bath. The chief priest is told when girl has period for the first time and grouped together with other girls. They are checked to be ensure they are virgins. After that they have a ritual bath in the river and are dressed beautifully in expensive kente, beads on head and around body. The point here is the Dipo god seems to not mind puberty girls in river they literally are bathed in. Later paraded in town to celebrate them by the whole town. This great source of tourism and hospitality attracts people from all over the world. Books are written about this practice. kroboIMG_20180112_103548But in the central region Ghana girls have been banned from crossing the River Ofin by traditional leaders, who say they are enforcing what they call a “directive” from a river-god. Children have to cross the river to get to school in Kyekyewere, in Upper Denkyira East district in the Central Region of Ghana. This means girls cannot attend school while they are on their periods. It is not on period days: a second order from the river gods bans all girls from crossing river on Tuesdays.  Remember Jehovah created rivers and oceans so all are free to cross it. Unicef’s menstrual hygiene ambassador Shamima Muslim Alhassan told BBC directive violates girl’s right to education and freedom of movement.

It seems the gods are really powerful aren’t they? Sometimes I think that we need to ask for some form of accountability from these gods who continue to bar a lot of things from happening, to account for how they have used the tremendous power that we have given them.”

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PeriodTalk-Cloud-600River Ofin serves as boundary between Ashanti and Central Region. Central Regional Minister Kwamena Duncan given indications to coordinate with Ashanti regional minister to find solution. In Madagascar some females are told not to wash during periods and in Nepal some women are forced to sleep in huts away from the rest of the family. Girls in other cultures face this problem since education is becoming compulsory in many countries. Many cultures have myths and taboos around menstruation globally. This must be demystified and debunked to intervene on behalf of young girls to benefit from education. Kweggir Aggrey said if you educate a boy or man you educate an individual but if you educate a girl or woman, YOU EDUCATE A NATION. And behind every successful man is woman so men must listen to women at home, community or in corporate boardrooms for the greater good of society and girls. Stop harrassing young girls all over the world and study reproduction biology. Elijah told people to follow God only not any idols in the Mount Carmel contest by calling fire down to burn sacrifice of Yahweh the real true God. God proved to the people HE has greater power than the idols. Again Gideon was also told to cut down idol shrine grove to build new altar for God and sacrifice cow to God on the new altar. Almighty God does not share His Glory with idols so demands a complete total loyalty because HE IS A JEALOUS GOD. He wants to be the only one people worship not a bit of God and a bit of idols. So school girls must attend school daily in their period, given pads, personal hygiene kit, discreet changing rooms facilities and water to wash with.  

 

ENDURANCE & FORTITUDE

Wang, a left-behind migrant childChinese boy with frozen hair reignites poverty debate. Pictures of eight-year-old Little Wang were shared tens of thousands of times. An eight-year-old Chinese pupil, dubbed “Ice Boy” by social media users after the images emerged of him arriving at school with swollen hands and frost on his hair and eyebrows, has sparked renewed discussion online about child poverty. Many users say the pictures of “Little Wang”, who went viral on Monday, highlight that not enough is being done to help children from poor, rural families in China. They sympathise with the harsh journeys that Little Wang endures in order to get to his school in Ludian County, south-west Yunnan province. State-run China News Service agency says the boy walks 4.5 km (2.8 miles) to get to school, a journey that takes him an hour. On the day the picture was taken, the temperature was -9C, the agency says.Swollen hands of a migrant childOne picture that circulated thousands of times shows Wang received 99 out of 100 on a test, despite swollen hands. A photo of the boy, which has been shared by tens of thousands of people, shows him with swollen red cheeks dressed in thin jacket laughed at by classmates. It is seen in another image the boy’s dirty and swollen hands, next to the near-perfect work in his school exercise book. Wang’s teacher took the pictures on 8 January and sent to headmaster and a few other individuals, according to reports in state media. But they soon came to the attention of local and then national media, and the images went viral online. Thousands of users of the popular Sina Weibo microblog shared the pictures, using the hashtag #IceBoy. One post by People’s Daily received more than 277,000 likes. Many Weibo users posted messages praising Wang’s fortitude and perseverance. “This child knows that knowledge can change his fate,” says one. But others voiced their concern, saying that their hearts ached for him, especially seeing his swollen hands and threadbare clothes.Wang, a left-behind migrant childSwollen hands of a migrant child

“His frozen little red face and he’s wearing so little, he really looks pitiful,” another user commented. Some have responded by posting angry comments targeted at the government. “What is the local Yunnan government doing about this?” one asked. Others urged fellow users for their help in contacting the boy so they could donate money and clothes. ‘His home is made of mud and brick’ Journalists from the popular Pear Video website visited Little Wang to see how he lives. “His home is made of mud and brick and is very dilapidated,” Pear Video said. The site found that the boy is a “left-behind child” – one of tens of millions of Chinese children who rarely see their parents, who have moved to the cities to find work to support them. Little Wang lives with his grandmother and sister. He rarely sees his father, a migrant worker who is able to return home only every four or five months. The boy tells Pear Video that his mother left him when he was very young.Boxes of aid arriving at Little Wang's schoolThe Communist Youth League donated clothing and improved heating system to Little Wang’s school. Wang’s story has prompted an outcry in Chinese media for more to be done to help left-behind children. Some local companies have already responded. State-run CCTV says the provincial Communist Youth League has donated 100,000 yuan (about $15,350: £11,350) so that each child at the school can have better clothing, and for the school to improve its heating system. Influential news website The Paper shares the contact details of the Zhaotong City Youth Development Foundation, a charity that supports children in north-east Yunnan. Many social media users say they hope Wang’s story helps raise issues of social awareness of the poverty facing other children in poorer, rural regions. But some note poignantly that Little Wang’s case is synonymous with many other children’s. ‘SurblueDu’, received 2,000 likes for their comment: “No-one knows how many poor children there are, helping one is only helping one.”A poster of President Xi Jinping visiting people living in poverty

President Xi Jinping vowed to eradicate rural poverty in China by 2020

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DON’T WE ALL NEED HELP?

IMG_20180104_132435DON’T WE ALL NEED HELP

I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car.

I had just come from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work.

Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would consider a tramp.Cs5QkfqW8AA_w4MFrom the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no money.

There are times when you feel generous but there are other times that you just don’t want to be bothered.

This was one of those “don’t want to be bothered times.”

“I hope he doesn’t ask me for any money,” I thought.

He didn’t.c689332549d5608bbef08b7299f5382bHe came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop but he didn’t look like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.

After a few minutes he spoke.

“That’s a very pretty car,” he said.

He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him.

His scraggly blond beard keep more than his face warm.

I said, “thanks,” and continued wiping off my car.IMG_20180104_132600

He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never came.

As the silence between us widened something inside said, “ask him if he needs any help.”

I was sure that he would say “yes” but I held true to the inner voice.

“Do you need any help?” I asked.

He answered in three profound simple words that I shall never forget.IMG_20180104_132504

We often look for wisdom in great men and women.

We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments.

I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand.

He spoke the three words that shook me.

“Don’t we all?” he said.

I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a tramp in the street, until those three words hit me like a twelve gauge shotgun.

*Don’t we all?*

I needed help.IMG_20180104_132819

Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I needed help.

I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus fare, but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day.

Those three little words still ring true.

No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too.

No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or a place to sleep, you can give help.

Even if it’s just a compliment, you can give that.847a47526f2f88dd30751ad5c4fe952f

You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all.

They are waiting on you to give them what they don’t have –

*A different perspective on life,

*a glimpse at something beautiful,

* a respite from daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see.

Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets.

Maybe he was more than that.

Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and wise, to minister to a soul too comfortable in themselves.

Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a tramp, then said, “go minister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help.”

*DON’T WE ALL?*

NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

woman running in mountainsPeople make New Year’s resolutions to keep fit and pray more, read Bible every day, attend church regularly. These are fantastic goals yet New Year resolutions fail as often as non-spiritual resolutions because there is no power in New Year’s resolution. Resolving to start, stop doing certain activity has no value unless with proper motivation to stop or start that activity. For example, why do you want to read Bible every day? Is it to honour God and grow spiritually or because you feel and heard it is good to do so? Why do you want to lose weight? Is it to honour God with your body or is it for vanity to honour self-image, to impress others to find you more attractive to fall in love? Is it for a genuine reason to lose weight if delivered of baby? Isaiah 65:17 says behold God will create new heaven and new earth and so former things not be remembered or come into mind.

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Philippians 4:13 tells us, “I can do all through Christ who gives me strength.” John 15:5 declares, “I am the Vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit apart from me you can do nothing.” If God is at the center of your New Year’s resolution, it has chance for success, depending on your commitment to it. If it is God’s will for something to be done and fulfilled HE will enable you to fulfill it. If a resolution is not God honouring or in agreement in God’s Word we will not receive God’s help in fulfilling the resolution. So, what sort of New Year’s resolution should a Christian make? Here are some suggestions: (1) pray to the LORD God for wisdom (James 1:5) in regards to what resolutions HE would have you make; (2) pray for wisdom as to how to fulfill the goals God gives you; (3) rely on God’s Strength to help you; (4) find an accountability partner who will help you and encourage you; (5) do not become discouraged with relapse or set backs or occasional failures, instead allow them to motivate you further; (6) do not become proud or vain but give God the GLORY. Psalm 37:5-6 also says, “Commit your way to the LORD; trust in HIM to bring things to pass and to make your righteousness shine like the dawn and the justice of your cause bright like the noonday sun. 2 Chronicles 29:17 says, begin the first day of the first month sanctify yourself and on eighth day of month come to the porch of the LORD God Almighty. Sanctify the House of the LORD on eighth day and the sixteenth day of the first month make end to sanctification. Best-10-New-Years-resolutions

To learn a language some reel off  on a list of the typical resolutions made and broken. To know for certain resolutions you are more likely to keep you must do certain things. You decide resolutions you should make but research reveals some clues as to how you should carry them out. There is evidence humans are driven by “loss aversion” that is, more motivated to recover loss than to win gains. That means prevention is better than Cure. Framed resolution to recover something lost is old hobby and former level of fitness is more effective looking than gaining new ability or appearance. This feeds into key piece of advice for a successful resolution is be real: SMART = Specific + Achievable + Measurable + Realistic + Timed. Ensure you keep up with resolution, willing to receive help, feedback to update you on progress. If possible get professional help or friends trained in area of interest to you. Learn to adapt and accept tough changes as it is said, crucify your flesh to endure or no pain no gain. Life is full of challenges so be firm and disciplined with yourself. If you indulge in calories in a day that takes years to shift you cannot expect an overnight miracle. Be practical avoid tempting places attractive for relapse. IMG_20180102_124928

Pope Francis’ Top New Year Resolution: Take care of your spiritual life and your relationship with God, because this is the backbone of everything we do and everything we are.”

– “Take care of your family life, giving your children and loved ones not just money, but most of all your time, attention and love.”

– “Take care of your relationships with others, transforming your faith into life and your words into good works, especially on behalf of the needy.”

– “Be careful how you speak, purify your tongue of offensive words, vulgarity and worldly decadence.”

– “Heal wounds of the heart with the oil of forgiveness, forgiving those who hurt us and put balm of Gilead on all wounds we cause others.”

– “Look after your work, doing it with enthusiasm, humility, competence, passion and with a spirit that knows how to thank the Lord.”

– “Be careful of envy, lust, hatred and negative feelings that devour our interior peace and transform us into destroyed and destructive people.”

– “Watch out for anger that can lead to vengeance; for laziness that leads to existential euthanasia; for pointing the finger at others, which leads to pride; and for complaining continually, which leads to desperation.”

– “Take care of brothers and sisters who are weaker … the elderly, the sick, the hungry, the homeless and strangers, because we will be judged on this.”IMG_20180102_125950

Involve other people

Dr John Michael, a philosopher at Warwick University, studies the social factors involved in making and keeping commitments. He says its more likely to keep resolutions if we see them as being somehow important to other people or “other people’s wellbeing is at stake” if we fail. That might mean committing to attend a class with a friend. The effect could be stronger if you have to pay in advance once we feel someone has invested time and money in something, we are more likely to see through our commitments. Dr Michael is currently testing the theory some more motivated to prevent loss to other people than to themselves. Early evidence from this work suggests people more motivated do continue a boring or a difficult task somebody else has invested effort in.reinvent

Specific Reputation

Reputation is also a powerful motivator. Making resolutions public helps to keep them since for fear people will think less or worse of you if not see through so add reputation to your resolve. “We don’t want reputation as unreliable, so publicly announcing plan is motivating. Challenge people go dare you bet to do it still more motivating,” says Prof Neil Levy at University of Oxford. Willpower is not enough and so make a detailed resolution is necessary and important, he adds. Say, “I’ll go to gym on Tuesday afternoons and Saturday mornings” is more likely to be successful than simply saying “I’ll go to gym more” according to Prof Levy. He recommends intentions to specific cues called ‘implementation of intentions.’ If you want to really learn a language, you first resolve to listen to language-learning podcast on commute each morning. Then, to improve your chances of success further make sure you stick a note to the steering wheel of your car each night to remind you to play it on your journey in the morning. You’re not just making a intention but setting out steps to implement it too.IMG_20180102_125915

Making exceptions

He warns of the potential for “decisions to become precedents.” “Implicitly we recognise exceptions (I won’t go to the gym if the house is on fire). But we can exploit this to detriment by expanding exceptional circumstances. A birthday is legitimate so comes once a year. If I start recognising exceptional things that occur more often its last week of month better to start on the first or it’s too cold to get out of bed early. Making excuses so everything becomes an exception,” Prof Levy says. Make your resolutions part of your longer-term plans and so some things have to be on a list for life.AAEAAQAAAAAAAAZjAAAAJGNkM2Y3YTEwLWQ0MGItNDFiZi1hZTRlLWM0OWMwYTMxM2U0NwAcceptance Quotes8IMG_20180102_121822

Make longer-term plans

For Dr Anne Swinbourne, a behavioural psychologist at James Cook University, Australia, the best resolutions are ones that achieve a chunk of a longer-term plan you have for yourself, rather than those that are vague and aspirational. If you’ve never shown an interest in sport, resolving to become a brilliant athlete is unlikely to stick and so resolving to save money because you’ve always dreamed of travelling the world before you turn 50 might be more successful. Keeping them is about planning, she says. Work out triggers and negative behaviour you want to discourage and also put positive behaviour to encourage in place. If you want to drink less alcohol, plan to meet friends for coffee but not in pub. People who rely only on willpower mostly fail according to Dr Swinbourne. To keep a resolution, you have to be so meticulous and have a plan.” Ensure you time each activity within overall schedules, adapt to change by keeping it simple. Do not overwhelm yourself with multitasking resolutions impossible to achieve. Start and do not despise small beginnings. 

 

THE BEST & WORST GIFTS

bad_gifts_m_(416x288)Jesus received gold, frankincense myrrh gifts from three wise Maggi kings from the East setting pace to exchange gifts at Christmas. The local shepherds brought sheep so family and friends give gifts to contribute to cost of raising baby Jesus. The giving of gifts is popular in so many cultures including gifts of clothes, shoes, fabrics, foodstuffs, some donate time and money to help out. Others visit the family to bring unique gifts from exotic places to bring awareness of the world. 5508df5cd97c0-girl-unhappy-with-present-s3Gifts have become a part and parcel of Christmas celebration season so many scramble to finish the holiday shopping before big day. While some put thought into finding the perfect gift others leave it last-minute by grabbing whatever is available. This means those looking for gifts often try to find out the best items suitable to each person to surprise them. Others do last-minute holiday gifts, than find the inspiration from gift guides or the mall displays. The 4 types of gifts according to science best given this year and three you should not give.Sad-Child-Christmas.jpg

Don’t how off flashy gifts

Most admit giving gift based on person’s interest from clearance sales research suggests it’s the item so not the price tag that matters. Other gift-givers say their choices are better if more expensive but research published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology did not back that. No clear correlation between present price and recipient satisfaction.

Don’t Give Gift for others

Giving a charitable donation for friends or family member’s seem like a perfect gift: Spending goes to a worthy cause so recipient gets gift they feel good about. A 2015 study published in the journal: Organizational Behavior and Human Decisions, disputes that theory. Close friends, family members appreciate a responsible gift, researchers find casual acquaintances feel slighted because the selection focuses “on symbolic meaning of gift,” rather than on the recipient.sad_child_empty_stocking_medium

Don’t: Dress Up Bad Gift.

If a gift is unsuitable it may be tempting to overcompensate with big bows, fancy wrapping paper but data from Yale’s Association for Consumer Research says strategy may backfire. When people get a gift liked, researchers find attractive trappings slightly enhanced experience. If gift is unsatisfactory science research documentary says purposes wrapping worsened recipients’ perception of the gift because expectations didn’t match reality. It is even worse when the giver can afford the most luxurious presents for themselves and scraps for others.

Give Gifts People want

A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found gift-givers overestimate the impact of a surprise gift. The study showed people appreciate the gifts specifically asked for than unsolicited presents. So make your life easy to stick to their list.

Do: Pick a gift card.

Gift cards surveys have found they’re actually popular among gift recipients. A survey conducted by the National Retail Federation, they were the most requested gift. So some keep it simple as other research has found people are perfectly happy to receive cash as a gift.

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A series of studies published in Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found recipients prefer gifts that reflect own interests and hobbies. Researchers found “givers and receivers report greater feelings of closeness to a giver when gift reflects giver’s and receiver’s mutual deep interests. Among favourite gifts are Sharing favorite book garment or keepsake with a loved one, makes strongest impact in the long run.

Give gifts that last longer

Quality long-lasting gift items that meet needs like kitchen gadgets or wardrobe, staples, gifts shows in a study published in Current Directions in Psychological Science people prefer present to use for months and years than gifts that makes statement right away but useless.MAIN-Christmas-gifts

What To Do With Unwanted Gifts

If possible, smile kindly and politely and remember it is the thought that counts. Wait a few days and quietly pass gift on to others. Do not to look at annoying gift in misery. Negotiate with store if there is a receipt and the packaging intact for refund or exchange with another item. Buy a similar or exact item if too small or too big then give gift away to charity. Do not offend giver by letting them know it is another item you paid for yourself. If an understanding person first thank them, appreciate gift before complaining about shape or size if gift is unsuitable or useless to you.celebrate-the-gift-of-jesus-christmas-presentation-for-congregation-3-728Jesus-Perfect-Gift6439651153_347574b8e7_bIMG_20171227_0016048df7b55e0d62ef4d40583dc2fef94b6f--christmas-poems-christmas-things102d3ca895dd94e9c1ab973ce2778325--christmas-quotes-christmas-time

If not a meaningful gift to you let giver explain intention and reason for a gift. At times, you may not immediately see a value of a gift until years later when you understand life better. So let giver explain choice, size, colour, preference, if already owns too many, swap item together in a shop. It is not necessary to blame or take offence to put anger on a giver for your disappointment. It is also important to realise nobody is perfect. People may not fully know you well enough to read your mind so tell them or write down gift to understand you better. If a person cannot afford a gift you like do not use it to blackmail them. Realise it is not good to live above your means in debt for the rest of your life for moments happiness. A person’s life, real true identity, innerself strength comes from within as Jesus said. Do not measure your standard of living by gifts you receive or give to others. the-best-gift-at-christmas-is-easy-to-see-its-not-wrapped-in-paper-or-under-the-tree-cos-the-best-gift-at-christmas-and-all-the-year-through-is-having-someone-as-special-as-youYou are the best Christmas present from God so be happy and reason for giving gifts is to bring happiness, joy and love, help to others not for selfish reasons. So remember Jesus said it is better to give than to receive. The most sentimental gifts are unique, one of a kind, made by you so do not necessarily cost money. Think of gifts to help ease the burdens of others like helping them shop, clean, do laundry if unwell or unable to do so due to health, disability. Regift the gifts to other people through online freebies in Gumtree by sharing or exchanging them. If giving food gift ensure dietary needs, allergies taken into consideration to understand religious restrictions not to cause offence by good intentions. And vegans or some vegetarians do not eat food containing animal products leather or pork so be aware when giving gifts. Above all do remember that Christmas is about love of God to celebrate Jesus Christ not just swapping material gifts. Love and appreciate your gift in Christ.