Death is a sensitive matter that brings about all sorts of negative evil emotions and disagreements due to accusations blaming others as their cause of a death. God said it’s appointed unto man to die and there is a time to die except unless one of those who will never see die in the Rapture. It clearly says in the Bible an average age of life is between 70 to 80 years although exceptions mean that some die younger and other people live hundreds of years. However awareness of existence of facts of life about death does not make death easier to accept, no matter how long the person lived. Even when a loved one is ill for many years there is expectation for recovery despite doctor’s prognosis. Letting go of loved ones is painful and soon turns to anger of feelings of being abandoned by loved ones. Soon anger turns to denial and the blame of anyone as cause of their death. Often accusations are levelled against a frontline staff for not trying harder to save loved ones despite the best medical resources. Relatives accuse and blame others for causing death through evil spirits using, sorcery, witchcraft and divinations charms, curses and spells. Often the shock caused by the death is compounded by financial demands imposed on relatives for a grand burial beyond their means and resources. The family is given a list of items to buy by the elders before burial takes place. The families compete for the corpse and the process of burial instead of unifying in grief for the sake of their loved ones. In some parts of the world burial is bigger than wedding so requires lots of money. And the sudden death burdens relatives obliged to provide coffin, food, clothing drinks accommodations for guests. This causes so much debt and puts pressure on families of the deceased because the resources are diverted for burial rather than investments into projects to help those alive. Fear of being haunted and punished by the deceased, if not buried properly or revenge for ” whoever” is responsible for the death becomes their obsession. Until the dead tells them who caused their death, a cloud of suspicion hangs around alleged suspects. They are often targeted and victimized, beaten, ostracised and in some cases killed to ensure that person does not kill more people. Thoughts and fears of potential deaths to be caused by a “perpetrator” drives the community to eliminate such an evil person from their midst. A closer look at alleged perpetrators involve the issue of land disputes envied prosperity and labelling them ritual killers for the material gain. Sudden change in wealth, buildings, or good fortune is thought to be the result of such killings. These are some reasons for delays for funerals for months or years until these issues are resolved. Grief and sorrow overshadow reality with strong desire to pin death on perpetrator for closure to project the pain and loss on them. People are fined, chased away from community banished for life so if anyone shows compassion to them are accused of being part of evil circle causing death. Adults or children are accused by the witchdoctors who fuel confusion by their condemnation of people targetted as perpetrator. Anger, and hatred causes bitterness, sickness, due to unforgiveness, fear and chaos as confusion in the family tarnishes many generations holding grudges by blaming members. An unforgiving person is very poor in spirit, suffers afflictions, many hardships, hypertension, pressure, lack of sleep, stress, exhaustion and serious depression, poor diet so low immunity. These affects quality of life made worse by the copius painkillers literally killing them. Challenges in life of the matured born-again child of God promotes them through furnance of faith to overcome in victory. What does not kill you makes you stronger so problem strengthen you for testimony to the Glory of God God gives solutions in Jesus Name to prove HIS miracle power is same yesterday, today and forever. Problems draw you closer to God to triump always. And we know nothing can separate us from the LOVE OF GOD including death. Personal neglect and the lack of drinking water causes dehydration and death. Do not seek evil sources of secret family idols in shrines through divination sacrifices or offerings on altars destroying people. Their potions, lotions, charms, rings and objects tie them to evil covenants killing them. God says MY people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. These professed Christian believers consult family idols as history reveals in covenant rituals for protection, power, childbirth, help sought for healing and material riches that ENSNARE family to evil spirits. So family members dedicated in the womb or after birth for life to witchdoctors to continue covenant bondage to powers of darkness yet confess to BELIEVE in God as Christians. Deep-rooted rituals secret rituals take place despite official church burials or business success. The family perform secret rituals involving witchdoctors in the name of culture. So these rituals require families paying the huge sums of money to witchdoctors for buying, cows, goats etc to pacify gods or idols from destroying more people. And sadly these rituals cause these divisions separating them from God depriving the family of joy, peace, love and unity. The family gets the worse problems because they held captive by dark powers. Some remain slaves to witchdoctors held in a spiritual captivity and the families takes loans to pay them. Younger generations have no idea of causes of evil challenges in their life as dedicated in the womb by rituals performed by these witchdoctors or herbalist. Fear of evil eyes of enemies reinforce greed of witch doctors fueling hatred among people seeking solutions to problems in time of need. Yet God the Giver of life warns about death as part of life to prepare to deal with death to cope better and to mourn with HOPE OF ASSURANCE OF ETERNAL LIFE IN THE RESURRECTION.
So it is important to remember children pick on these issues affecting by them if unresolved early. The child listens to various insinuations and made to take sides in such conflicts. Developing children who see physically and experience these matters need help to teach them the topic of death and loss sensitively in primary schools to fulfill section (a) of aims of the 1988 Education Reform Act to promote spiritual, moral, cultural, mental, physical development of pupils at school and of society. These issues must be addressed during Death Education in the home and by Teachers in their curriculum. Doctors also call for death education in schools to be taught in classroom to demystify death, ageing and dying. They need resiliency, more compassion positive proactive approach to death. Death Education in Schools is critically important to bring awareness for better understanding and for future generations. Afterlife has many beliefs so necessary to explain a human body is subject to change or decay over lifetime so demands better care of life to treat it as a precious priceless gift to treasure. Someone people think teaching death education in schools is too sensitive or inappropriate so might do the opposite of putting fear in them. Death education if discussed appropriately will not harm children but rather enhance knowledge and understand from the early years as young as three years if relatives died to help them express grief.
Teachers must be trained to handle the changes in children bereaved, the level of coursework, homework, studies and focus or concentrations. Schools must provide one-to-one counselling room for those children grieving to express the grief in private using Educational resources provided for schools, teachers to bring awareness. Healing takes years but a good enough starting point to help ease the pain. Relatives are traumatized after death and some think there is no light at the tunnel. Yet with the right support and compassion families will overcome death to find peace in the midst of adversity of death. Restoring hope after death or questions of cause of death can be dealt with by teacher in simple terms without indepth medical terms to help rather than confuse children. An expert paediatrician if required can be invited to guide children to express and write journals or scrapbook, drawings and to express grief after bereavement. Above all children need financial support, food and extra input into an academic work to catch up with loss of time away from school during such funerals. A conflict over the deceased loved ones seriously impacts children for the rest of live. So it is important to be careful what is said in front of them or listening nearby. The property and assets of a deceased is the major cause of divisions in the families. The family makes sacrifices to educate a deceased person so feels more entitled to their belongings. A wife and children are antagonized by deceased family for feeling cheated while deceased lived. So they are punished to pay for the costs of the burial for killing their only source of income. These issues must be addressed immediately to give scholarship to the children go continue their education. If not death of a parent ends education. Or death of adult breadwinner ends the well-being of elderly parents. Vitriol and rage caused by death means litigations in court drains limited resources. These parents need support too to help their children so both need encouragement. Life originates from God so not owned by anyone. Jesus said He gave His Life to overcome death so the sting of death is crushed by Jesus Christ’s resurrection power by raising from the grave. And so a believer in Jesus Christ is expected to live by God’s Biblical commands only. A secret ritual unseen or unknown to the pastor is SEEN BY GOD. All will be held accountable by God to give an account for their life and other people in their families. These are serious matters to reflect to make a right choice to please God. Living by God’s standard affects a family divided in their thoughts and the actions contrary to God’s WORDS. And it important to remember you come as an individual into this world and will face God as an individual on judgement day. Better to obey God than follow the men leading you into sin and destruction in the name of cultural belief. Despite all the punishment a deceased does not get out alive because of vengeance so does not really solve any problems. Believers can humbly share their faith from Bible in advance on God’s stance on the death and resurrection. Jesus guarantees joy and eternal life after death for a season so believers are assured of seeing loved ones again in the resurrection Rapture if a Christian believer. This means death is not the end families or loved ones, all will be reunited without pain, sorrow, grief, tears or crying anymore in perfect joy eternally. It’s important to EDUCATE people to understand CREATOR GOD’S words on burial and funerals. Excessive display of wealth to show off to others or pay money for journey or bury cars in graves with personal belongings are unbiblical. Worldly attitude to life seeps into church burial ceremonies despite Bible’s position th material goods does not constitute a man’s life. The worldly goods become completely useless in the afterlife and people must know this. The amount of money invested in death will change communities if it’s invested in a life of a deceased while alive. Believers must carefully pray and study word of God and seek deliverance from all these generational entanglements. Educated family members have an important role to play not to be deceived by envious evil people misleading them. God says in his words that where is no vision the people perish. The devil is a liar using deception to often manipulate illiterate family members without knowledge or understanding of medical biology, body chemistry, health and well-being. And so every death is placed on the targeted victim blamed or ostracised to ease the pain of death. Instead hatred breeds depression, low immunity, disease and heart attack, mental illness or madness. Unforgivingness over years destroys the health of people, as stated, hatred is the poison drank by a person expecting an enemy to die. It kills joy, causes misery and deep anger unleashed on innocent family members or colleagues. Endtime events are fast happening so this is time to ask GOD FOR HIS MERCY, GRACE, COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS, LOVE for yourself and your loved ones in Jesus Name. Jesus taught us to forgive and to receive Forgiveness from God so release people to God. Forgiveness does not mean you become best friend of enemy to hang out with them but it clears your heart from offending God and Jesus and grieving the Holy Spirit. The Bible says all sins will be forgiven except the sins against the Holy Spirit. Lifespan is the will of God so work with God and take of your body, Spirit and soul in Christ.