HOLY KISS GREETING & HUGS

article-2071835-0F1BBF8E00000578-716_634x422In Romans 16:16 in the Bible Paul wrote in New Testament commanding believers to make contact or touch others with a warm smile, hand-clasp and a friendly hug. Paul encouraged the congregation and church members to give each other a hug, a touch as a sign of unity to greet each other with a holy kiss and hugs. And speak through the Psalms as people quote Shakespeare to share favourite lines in literature. The Pentecostals often greet each other with kisses and hugs. Visitors are welcomed this way so if the new members are not used to such a way of greeting they can feel innaudated and intimidated by the zealous members embracing or kissing them if not used to an intimate way of expressing agape love. Recently, in the church a female pastor rushed towards a new male visitor and proceeded to try to hug him as she does for many years. But the new member raised both his hands to indicate, ‘do not touch me or come too close.’ It surprised everyone as it had never happened before. Maybe others out of politeness and courtesy tolerate it or probably just go along with kisses or hugs, but no one ever rejected it before. It is perfectly understable if some people feel uncomfortable and say no, it does not mean rejection of the one expressing such Biblical principles. On other occasions, for security reasons, important leaders are not allowed to be touched or hugged under any circumstances. Of course that scenario can happen in church gatherings so if not sure, ask if it is alright to do so. 22CULTURALSTUDIES1-jumbo.jpgIn some places female to female hugs and kisses are preferred or handshakes encouraged. But the woman must first extend her hand to a man because the man is not allowed to shake a married women’s hands in some cultures. On the other hand there are countries that see kiss or hugs as prerogative of diplomacy so must be done. In some churches women are only allowed to kiss and hug other women as men kiss and hug the men. In an age of legal homosexuality, lesbian partnerships or marriages the churches in favour has no problems or prefer handshakes. However is common in the workplace to encourage hugging for bonding and a sense of belonging. But how about those people in the offices who do not like to be kissed or bugged publicly at least at awkward moments. You are greeting someone or saying goodbye. Should you give that person a hug? Especially if it’s someone you don’t know well? You do not want to seem intrusive if you hug too soon, but you don’t want to appear overly stiff or too formal so you offer a handshake when a hug is expected. So what should you do? There a few good rules about hugging in our society.article-2148121-133B0FA3000005DC-582_468x309On one hand, Americans are famously informal and forthright. On the other hand, our nation has puritan roots so we are known for needing more personal space than other cultures. How do you strike a balance? Here are some guidelines to start from, many of which come from etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore, author of Poised for Success.

1. Mind body language.

With hugs, as with kisses, another person’s body language will tell you whether he or she is willing to accept a hug or not. Before you go in for that squeeze, pay attention to what the person’s position, movement, and facial expression is telling you. Are the feet pointed toward you or away? Is the person leaning in, or distancing him or herself? What does your gut feeling tell you this person wants? When people offend others with a hug, it’s most often because they just barge right in and don’t stop to get a read on what other person wants. Don’t make that mistake. Children are now being taught to meet and greet properly to learn etiquette. t1larg (1).jpg

2. Ask Permission First.

If you want to hug someone, you think it welcomes you if not sure just ask. “May I give you a hug question indicates both affection, respect so likely appreciated. The only down side to this if people feel embarrassed or uncomfortable saying no. So if getting a negative or uncertain vibe do not even asking the question.

3. The Balance of Power.

A boss hugging an employee is a very different matter from two business associates hugging at the conclusion of a meeting. Be extra reserved about hugging if it can in any way seem like you’re using your power to disrespect another person’s boundaries. This is one reason Joe Biden recently drew so many criticisms for his putting his hands on  a cabinet member’s wife during swearing in ceremony.

4. Consider the occasion.

If you haven’t seen a colleague in a long time, or you’ve just gone through a powerful training or other experience together, or you’re at acelebration, then hugging might well be appropriate. The same may apply if the person in question has just had a piece of very good, or very bad news, or is struggling to deal with a difficult situation. On the other hand, if you routinely see this person and nothing special is going on, then a hug probably isn’t warranted.LXNGDEDJXOCNTOWYIIGFSDIU

5. Avoid mixing hug & non hugs.

You’re greeting a group of people, some of whom you know well and others whom you know only slightly or have just met. Do you hug some but not others? No, Whitmore advises. Shake hands with everyone to be consistent avoid making some feel uncomfortable or left out.

6. Keep it short.

A hug can go from natural to awkward if you keep it going for too long. So make your hugs brief. Whitmore recommends a duration of no more than three seconds.

7. Don’t hug if contagious

The last thing you want to do is give your colleague a cold, or catch one from him or her. So if you’re uncertain about your own health, or the other person seems to be fighting an infection, stick to a handshake at most, although not touching at all is probably safest. You can always say that you’re avoiding touch out of concern that you might spread something you’ve been exposed to if you are really afraid of catching something from other person.kissing-in-costa-rica-2

8. Don’t hug if not clean.

Let’s say you’re meeting on a very hot day, and you’ve gotten sweaty on your walk over from the parking lot. Or you’ve had a workout and returned to work but didn’t have time to shower. Or you’ve been out at a site visit and gotten grimy. In those circumstances, avoid hugging. The last thing you want to do is gross someone out.

9. Err on not hugging.

If you’re not sure whether a hug would be welcome, and you don’t think it’s a good idea to ask, then don’t hug. You’ll almost never offend someone with a handshake.

10. Cease the right moment.

In spite of all these caveats, I’m still a believer in the power of human contact. So if you feel like a hug is warranted and none of the obstacles above apply, I say go for it. I once met a business contact face-to-face for the first time after we’d been working together for several years. I felt like I knew him, and he seemed to feel the same, because at our first meeting, he greeted me with a hug. I was surprised, but happily so. During that brief meeting we talked more about our lives than about business and by the time I left, I had a human relationship to go with the emails and voice on the phone. That hug was a great way to start.

A HOLY LAND EXPERIENCE

 

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In the centre of Buenos Aires, there is a theme park named Tierra Santa (Holy Land) that claims to be the first religious theme park in the world.

Tierra Santa attempts to replicate the streets of Jerusalem during Jesus’ time.

Visitors walk around the narrow streets that are full of plastic palm trees, statues and actors recreating crucial scenes from Jesus’ life.

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Long queues of families, tourists and young couples stand at the entrance.

Many of them are come from all over Argentina, but it is not uncommon to spot foreigners.

The park is almost a pilgrimage site for some visitors, with its unique mix of religious reverence and kitschy entertainment.

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The main attraction of the amusement park is a 60ft (18m) high mechanical statue of Jesus that rises up once an hour from a plaster replica of the Golgotha mountaintop.

The event is accompanied by a loud chorus from Handel’s Messiah.

When the giant Jesus has completed his ascent, he swivels, closes his eyes and rotates the palms of his hands, provoking great emotion in the visitors at the bottom of the mountain.

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The staff of the park are all dressed in costume inspired by Jesus’ era.

Visitors can take pictures next to security guards dressed as ancient Romans or buy a waffle from a Middle Eastern inspired cafe.

The only reminders of modern life come from above: the park is situated right next to Jorge Newbery Airport, and a plane flies over the plastic palm trees every few minutes.

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All photographs by Erica Canepa.

PRAYER HOUSE FOR NATIONS

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Jesus said, Temple in Jerusalem is House of Prayer for all nations on pilgrimage to Worship Yahweh. Zephaniah 14:16-17 says, all nations must come to Jerusalem to Worship KING of Kings and LORD of Lords ALMIGHTY LORD RULER of the earth. Remnant survivors from nations after Armageddon go to pray in Jerusalem to Worship LORD of hosts or there will be no rain for nations that refuse to do so. This will result in droughts and famines after Jesus’ RETURN to live in Jerusalem Physically in the flesh as a Divine Being seen by all people in the world. All the nations worship God in Jerusalem after Armageddon according to God’s words in the Bible. This significant statement Jesus made is overshadowed by Jesus’ action of whipping traders in Temple for duping worshippers. Jesus entered temple area driving out those buying and selling animals at unfair prices. He overturned tables of money changers and benches of those selling doves so did not allow them to sell merchandise in the temple courts. Jesus taught them and said, “Is it not written: ‘My HOUSE will be called House of Prayer for All Nations but you made it den of robbers in Mark 11:15-17.
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Jesus Gentle, Meek and Mild reveals His anger unseen before in that manner in Temple. Jesus Christ is compassionate, kind, heals, feeds, forgives people, calms sea, teaches word of God, prophesied. It surprised people who followed Jesus in crowds seeing Him in a different Light. This incident stands out today as Jesus’ anger out of character in the Temple in Jerusalem still affects Worship of God in some places today. Temple is important place for pilgrims all over the world for worship, festivals, other celebrations so required to sacrifice animals like dove, goat or lamb. Pilgrims from different places had different currencies used to buy from merchants who sold animals. Money changers charged large amounts to convert currency so took advantage of people who bought animals. So the system designed for profit did not help promote true worship of Yahweh. The money changers hindered God worship so Jesus’ anger was unleashed on them. God’s anger and wrath is unleashed on all who prevent GOD WORSHIP taking place globally and in Jerusalem. Those who obstruct, oppose, prevent, sabotage Worship from taking place face God’s judgement and punishment for their actions. Jesus whipped traders, turned tables to bring about change but they refused to listen. They whipped Jesus 40 times after trumped up false charges against Jesus Yeshua the True Messiah.calling-all-nations-talit
Repentance and God’s forgiveness is the solution to problem of greed exploiting others for unfair profit margins. Buying and selling is considered worldly affair but actually is seriously God’s business matter. Jesus warns the unfair traders whose practices shortchange people to change for good or face the damnation torment in hell fire as enemies of God. Hindering GOD’S PATENT RIGHT OF WORSHIP IN JERUSALEM is sin against Yahweh. Out of all cities and countries in the world the only PLACE CHOSEN BY GOD TO DWELL IS JERUSALEM. So Jesus reminds all, God’s TEMPLE is HOUSE OF PRAYER for ALL NATIONS in 4 Gospels. Matthew, Mark, Luke focus on events, John interprets meaning of what Jesus said and did. Jesus stayed in Temple area healing blind and lame in Matthew 21:14. Leaders of Temple for all nations gained from people changing currency so did not conform to the Standard set by God for HIS Worship. As God’s people meet to worship HIM distraction disturb HIS true order by money loving greedy few. God’s Holy Sacred Space, set aside for Worship of God Almighty’s Temple is not revered. Greedy lovers of money, not Lovers of God dupe ordinary hard-working people’s time to worship God, exploited by the opportunist salesmen. Even God the Creator, Maker, exploited shamelessly by greedy few ruining it in House of God for Prayer for All Nations.YS-Tolerance-2011-03-10
After 2000 years Jesus endtime priority to FOCUS on Sovereign Yahweh GOD’S WORSHIP IN JERUSALEM in the Temple is an important matter once again. The Temple builders and churches raise funds to rebuild GOD’S HOUSE. People are taught to WORSHIP and LOVE GOD to trust God so not taken advantage or duped as was done in Jesus’ time. Then people paid exorbitant prices for animal sacrifice. Modern time greed is worse in some areas where people pay for things promised in the name of God but never materialise. Guerrilla business tactics shamelessly exploits people to dupe them of money they never receive true value for by such traders. The POWER in the Blood and Name of Jesus is still freely available to call on God in Jesus Name for help in time of need. Father God’s House is infiltrated during church meetings to take advantage of meetings offering pyramid schemes and prayers for sale, fees to vulnerable people, jilted spouses or those looking for material wealth and love. Riches in God’s House often made in the name of the “pillars” or “chosen vessels” fuel megarich grand greedy lifestyle by people. Jesus warns, as it was in the days of Noah and Lot so people keep on buying and selling and getting married unaware of the wrath of God. So that destruction Jesus warns about is unfolding culminating in great tribulation. The love of material things beyond measure above human life is not true mark of disciples of God. The priority of life shifts from looking unto God to supply needs to a greedy profit that starves, deprives, exploits or kills to dupe people. So God’s Temple House of Prayer for all nations becomes part of the problem not solution. The exploited are victims of such reinforced practices allowing selfish monopolist domination detrimental to life and spiritual growth, maturity, well-being. In limited confined monopolized space worshippers cannot prepare in advance to buy the animals elsewhere cheaper than relying on last-minute expensive purchase in a temple vicinity. Jesus said focus on Worship of God in House of prayer for all nations.1428808

Stop the vulnerable destructive patterns fuelling the cycle process taking unfair advantage of people worshiping God. In time of need authentic change does not happen unless the challenges faced are dealt with truly in the heart. Salvation and deliverance prayer sale is the root cause of emotional bankruptcy of life of followers of Christ tagged to the price of sacrifices like days of Jesus. God’s House demands pure heart worship not just an animal sacrifice to depend on. So Jesus’ BLOOD SACRIFICE atones for sin ONCE AND FOR ALL not by expensive animals sold in Temple or their money sacrifice. Guaranteed Christian salvation Focus is on Jesus explained by Martin Luther to churches. Licence of dependency on the purchase gains exploiting people does not point them directly to God. So they become richer in the name of God while the congregations lose out and leave as fresh members continue cycle. This is why judgement begins in House of God. Sadly creates false image of Christianity to onlookers, disappointed and put off by such actions depicting God in a bad light. It is essential to be honest not to gain the whole world to lose your soul. God prefers genuine worship not just a sacrifice so acknowledge the problem. Accept once and for all that Jesus saves lives PAID for by His LIFE and BLOOD. This issue is part of consequences of sin DNA imperfections but FIXED BY JESUS. God confidence is from direct impact of reaching God given potential in Christ. Trusting Jesus to help overcome doubts, anxieties, depression, fears, insecurities, stress, pressure or questioning without break or rest, health, problems left at Jesus’ Feet. Searching for the unrealistic gold at end of rainbow to resolve life’s problems causes exploitative patterns of behaviour as victim insists on getting a relief from such salesmen. God Honours all who honour parents, release the past to seek God’s method of help. God is not deaf or powerless to answer prayer but effects of such behaviour affect God’s HELP. Take total control responsibly in Christ to live and have being in Christ in God personally in prayer and in actions.greybacklogo2

People find inner healing as the new creation in Christ. Relationship in Christ Jesus as His disciple is based on sound Biblical Wisdom gained from studying the word of God. Godly Counsel feeds and satisfies soul, spirit, mind and body to Trust God directly, boldly through the BLOOD OF JESUS with God Confidence. Leaders run race to win too and heal by seeking First God’s Face not blessings from God’s Hands. Those in Christ Look to God to keep on the right path in life. Seek God Face as SOURCE OF HELP and God despatches help through people. So gain God Truth searching Scriptures to KNOW GOD FOR YOURSELF. Believers grow from PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP with God. The Bible says do not enter God’s PRESENCE without offering gift, sacrifice but do not depend on the gifts more than SOVEREIGN GOD ALMIGHTY GIVER AND SUSTAINER OF ALL LIFE. By overcoming in life gives God Strength to be stronger in the Lord’s Power to help and support each other in God’s House.jesus-with-a-whip

Regular focus of New life in Christ Jesus erases old influence so mind is renewed by future in Christ. Old ideas and habits are possible to control when new life in Christ is taken seriously, Godly Future is guaranteed in Christ. God must increase in your life in Christ and flesh decrease. Consider how God Cares and Provides beautifully for birds and flowers more than Solomon in all his glory. Challenges in life arena are conquered to overcome in Jesus by keeping life real. Unrealistic utopia expectations put pressure on the people fascinated by not thinking God’s Way. Through challenges faith grows so rely First on God. Accept plan of God to seek first His Kingdom and all things added to your life in Christ. The Key to good success in life in Christ Jesus on the whole is listen to God’s Words. Jesus Knows about you more than you think. Good success in life is in Christ in God. It does not mean spend all day and night 24/7 in prayer rather be mindful of the fact that Worship of Sovereign God with love and reverence. Jesus’ statement did not mean money must never exchange hands in church or not give in church.1150DE37505151A435252F

Jesus is teaching accurate knowledge to seek God first and blessings are added. Short-changing others by the expensive sales of animals, relics, tokens, sales to gain profit rather than true worship of God is offence to God. Freewill giving and fair trade price is required more in God’s House when buying and selling takes place. In 1 John 4:9, the LOVE of God manifests among us for God sent HIS First Born Only Son into the world, so we might live through Jesus. God in past tolerated people to come to their senses to change to submit to God. After thousands of generations of freewill to do as pleased, God is bringing CHANGE to whole world to be under HIS OWN TOTAL CONTROL again as it was before sin in garden of Eden. And people must change to belong exclusively to God or people will sadly perish. The transitions taking place in the world is part of God’s wrath against rebellious who refuse to worship God. The House of Prayer for all nations means exactly all the nations belong to God. So Jerusalem Temple for all nations welcomes all to worship God forever in Jesus Name. So Jesus disrupts routine in Temple to show sinfulness prevents God Seekers from knowing Yahweh truly. Put confidence in God not animal sacrifice extortion to gain profit. Put CONFIDENCE IN CHRIST IN GOD for one of the endtime signs is rebuilding Temple in Jerusalem. After thousands of years this will happen and Jesus will RETURN TO JERUSALEM. Israel will accept and Welcome Hamashiah Yeshua Adonai in Jesus Name in the Temple for prayer for all nations in Jerusalem.

DON’T ADD TO/DELETE BIBLE

IMG_20170509_094533.jpgRevelations 22:19 says if anyone adds to the words of God or deletes taking away from the words of God it is sin God will reprove and deal with that person. Be a Berean and Study the Bible yourself and compare original texts to note changes in meaning. Deuteronomy 4:2 says do not add to or subtract God’s Commands so keep the Commands LORD God gives you. Consequences for tampering with the Word of God either adding, deleting or substrating from Bible is warned by God Who said HE WILL remove names of those who do from HIS Book of Life. The Shakespearean English translation of Bible modernised must remain true to original meaning of God. Salvation depends on Christ’s finished work on Cross so people have to abide by God’s Standards. Effort to make Bible easier to read must not destroy Central Message of the Gospel. Christ is Word made flesh Who dwelt amongs us on earth to save by Sovereign God’s Words directing us on Godpath of life for eternal salvation.hebrew-context-of-galatians-41-728.jpgWe had Bible study group meeting some time ago, taking turns to read out loud the Scriptures for particular day. A few people could not follow text and kept on asking for verses referred to. We took a look at their Bible and surprised their texts varied from ours. This happened many years ago when we realised these subtles changes, especially if you once memorised Bible verses growing up like the King James Bibles then words sound different in meaning. Those who feast on God’s Words readily notice changes. God’s Words energises to feed, protect and incapsulate you. When you revise prayer affirmations daily, at first you will not know anxiety and doubt creep in from negative misformation. So after two weeks saying praying affirmations, you will know Scripture by heart as the word daily protects you and shields you from fear and doubt. feast-on-gods-wordDo do not panic for Word of God says everybody must know word themselves. There is no second-hand faith so you have to know God’s Words yourself to save you. We noticed some Bible texts completely disappeared and today we received important message reinforcing changes taking place in Bible as follows: “A VERY CRITICAL ALERT!!! says, Hello beloved saints, I am sure you know new international version (NIV), published by Zondervan is now owned by Harper Collins who publishes Satanic Bible and The Joy of Gay Sex. NIV and the English Standard Version (ESV) removed 64,575 words from Bible including Jehovah Calvary, Holy Ghost, Omnipotent a few named. Bible renews and transforms a life held in darkness to be translated to Kingdom of Glorious Gospel of Light. It is how the strongholds are broken and people set free to serve Almighty God. KJV_Matthew_24-24The opportunity to receive God’s Words is beset with opposer contenders trying to stop gladiators from winning games. Spiritual warfare tactics is used by the devil’s false Christ’s and false prophets, showing great signs, wonders to deceive itching ears. So those not well versed in word of God are deceived including the very elect as Jesus warned. The NIV, ESV has removed 45 complete verses. Most Bibles device on phones e.g OLIVE TREE BIBLE STUDY APP. Try to find following scriptures in NIV and ESV on computer, phone, device right now if in doubt: Matthew 17:21, 18:11, 23:14; Mark 7:16, 9:44, 9:46; Luke 17:36, 23:17; John 5:4; Acts 8:37 you will not believe your eyes. Refuse to be blinded by satan and do not act like you do not care. Let us remember what Lord Jesus said in John 10:10 (King James Version). These attempts are to lure and deceive people into false security of their messages but God does not approve manipulations by people bending texts to suit themselves.beware-of-faith-based-on-feelings-rather-than-gods-wordTHE SOLUTION If you must use NIV and ESV, BUY and KEEP EARLIER VERSION OF the BIBLE. A Hard Copy cannot be updated. The changes occur when they ask you to update app. on your phone or laptop etc. Buy and KEEP EARLIER VERSIONS AND STORE THEM. There is a crusade geared towards altering Bible as we know it; NIV, ESV and many more versions are affected. We are living in the last days and Jesus is Coming Soon as the Gospel is preached everywhere all the prophecies being fulfilled. The devil is working hard to try to occupy Christians with things of the world so Jesus Coming will catch them unawares. Those who reject God texts reprint own versions to suit their interpretations to seem as if Bible said so. Be sure read to original versions especially New King James changed from Shakespeare era.e9ae378a96912ce06a61f66053e47c09Please prepared there is no more time to waste. And take advantage of sms, WhatsApp, BBM, Facebook, twitter etc to send this message to all your contact. Do not ignore this source of evangelism reaching dying souls to save and rescue the perishing. God be with you always and bless you for doing His Command! This confirms what we realised many years ago as God says My people perish for lack of knowledge. The Bible says God’s Truth you know sets you free and faith comes by hearing word of God. So the church that used to cry and repent for sin, after hearing the word of God, today compromises by defending sin of changing Bible texts to suit the church. revelation-22-vs-18-19bowl-1-webedc8377f4d945edcabd547c737e12f13af1385821bbc43cffd5b7246f948ee46Accurate knowledge is so essential like Bereans to study to know the word of God to impact lives. If a person does not know the words of God they assume it opinions of man imposed on them. So reading Bible in context helps to learn to understand God better. The Bible also has many verses in different places to emphasise God’s Words for repetition to reinforce the message. Jesus answered the  devil from the Word of by saying it is written you must not tempt the LORD your God. So do not twist God’s Words to suit intentions against God’s Words to mislead people, often baby Christians in search of God’s Love. Use faith building Bible encouraging you and leading you to God not distorted versions promoting rebellion against God. They often look for error to justify the Bible is not worth believing to lure you from salvation in Christ. The word of God is Sacred Texts written in the Bible through Holy Spirit according to Timothy 3:16- 17;5:1-2 says The Bible is necessary to teach, reproof, for correction, training in righteousness for all believers not just men of God. To be able to answer Biblically from texts as God’s manual for life equips by the Word of God. The WORD of God is Alive and is sharper than a two-edged sword cutting through bones and narrow to perform changes in hearts and minds of people. Hebrews-4-2-The-Word-Is-Living-and-Active-red-copy1.jpgThis is why devil fights hard to prevent gaining knowledge from Bible because it is greatest weapon that defeats satan in the name of Jesus. Whole generations are kept ignorant from powerful words of God that gives perfect peace beyond human understanding. So to overcome adversary, Word of God must be stored in your heart and your mind to actively recall from memory to replay moment by moment, to feed your soul for hope, assurance and confidence in God. This chaotic world is a man-made version so God will restore His Kingdom for all His Children in Jesus Name. The Word of God is the Lamp to your feet and Light to your path driving away darkness. So knowing the Bible is protection armour that keeps you strong in faith not to be deceived. Jesus said in Matthew 24:24 that the very elect, if not careful can be deceived and misled by the devil. The Bible is a living word so people become living sermons to Glorify God.

BE HAPPY IN YOURSELF

Be happy in yourself and do not blame others because life is not only about you exclusively to demand always a 24hour self-centred attention from others who love you. A trend of right to entitlement to be happy at expense of others causes problems in families, society of online. The happiness demanding attention is ruining relationships. Some demand a nonstop unrealistic pressure from loved ones all moments be spent only with them day or night. So time taken to do things or working to provide for them is considered ‘dehumanizing neglect’ for not catering always for them only. Onus of their life is always shifted to others to become totally responsible for them. So like emotional babies, do not realise that growing up means taking a full responsibility for actions. Therefore permanently blame others for problems of their lives or for being born in wrong the environment to undesired parents whose fault made them as they are. Do not put all the anger, and bitterness on those who care about you most. As long as they receive help from everyone at all times without need to help others they feel fine.58216d1a9df4cedf435f5d8a037d7cc4 Dare others ask them to be patient or to wait for their turn often become angry or agitated throwing things at people or breaking things to hurt owners. These behaviour often starts from tantrums of terrible twos not corrected by their innocence not to offend them. Some sulk and cry for hours on end or, develop headaches from crying so cycle is repeated over and over again. A bad upbringing ranges from the spectrum of lack of discipline, correction, ADHD or autism not diagnosed early taking its toll into adulthood. Pride, ego, defiance, anti establishment becomes the norm so used to getting own ways for too long. A genuine effort to support and help them seen as intrusion although often naive of the outcome of their actions. Most of the time the very family considered not good enough for them end up picking up the pieces of their trail of damage to others. Always in denial of reality never aware of effects of their behaviour on a family, relatives, friends or children. In extreme cases traumatize or hurt others incapable of understanding risks or the consequences of an action in advance before it happens. Constantly operate in high-strung emotion demand that those around them always walk on egg shells. Unaware792e6019ecd1c629c0ad3c773ee524ca of social rules etiquette unable to tolerate if attention or a conversation is not only about them. So emotionally draining others yet complaining about lack of attention from those doing their best to live with them. Underlying this state of mind is influence of the liberal views of deception that they are their own self-made people unaccountable to nobody so must depend exclusively only on their own ideas, feelings choices egos without recognising impact effect of damage in hurting others. If not dealt with grow into megalomania, tyrants in extreme cases never content with their lot in life. Always want more and more beyond realistic expectations or available resources in life. Suck others dry but still moan about not being given enough attention. Emotionally draining accurately described ‘manic behaviour of such a person does not understand brain function process of information or instructions properly in the interest of the good of all others. be-happyUnhappiness causes bile toxic chemicals to affect mood swing, sugar withdrawal symptoms, substance abuses affecting genetics of children from some parents, alcohol, poor communication skills, lack of maturity, background experience that intrude into adult years if unchecked. Other times consequence of their sheer pathological wickedness stems from the habitual actions since childhood. Sadly, in schools, emphasis is more on a head knowledge more than personal growth development and emotional maturity required for a longterm living. Another factor is the attitude of certain men seen as powerful if they are rebellious to authority. Some ‘success’ sometimes equated to a bully who tramples over all others bulldozed their way to achieve their goal, be it on corporate ladder, or in family, church, abusers manipulate or attack those who stand up to them. 57c69b8d9a2cff284ba95ed892061acaIt is predicted in Bible by Jesus during the end time lawlessness will abound as such people become more haughty, and disobedient to authority hate discipline, lovers of self more than Lovers of God, high minded ever learning but unable to grasp truth. So cannot understand basic rules, respect, consideration for others. Always insists on their way or no way, self-destruct snapping because they refuse to help or correction to save them from themselves. Truth hurts but God says His people are destroyed for lack of proper Godly knowledge and proper understanding of daily roles in relation to others on Earth. Confusion today in society and wars come from inability to compromise or to put others first. Some insist their way is only way manipulate or force others put under pressure but indulge without listening or valuing others due to greed, love of money, fear. Worse of all undergirding greed motives spur them on to destroy others for their selfish gains. It is well-known in  living history many lives destroyer by not living and let live lifestyle agreement to agree to disagree to live in peace chucked out of window.

BLACK AND WHITE DOLLS

SELF-ACCEPTANCE is influenced by the sublime messages of society children are receiving in the early years. Later as adults in life they bear the consequences of living with others perceived as less than themselves in the communities. A caring attitude towards self-acceptance from a healthy point of view is to detox vitriol hatred seeds sown in early childhood. Educational courses often have biased racist undertones and social networks reinforce hatred of some children in schools. Subtle suggestions becomes inner critic causing grieve by inability to be the perfect child accepted or as adult in society. Pressure to fulfil unrealistic dreams by comparing oneself to another is underlying strategy causing anger and division in society. Propaganda tells the false stories through books and images to influence innocent minds to become racists. So it is important to look at the context in which the person questions self- hatred spewing negative ideas about themselves projecting self- hatred on towards others. People are comparing themselves by the views of people’s lives on social media, TV and in the news. So it becomes easy to convince yourself that everyone is having a better time than you. Recognise you are strong, list what makes you personally happy and have a sense of meaning of life, inner peace for good success, joy and happiness. Believe in God, love Jesus, yourself and family even if not perfect. Do not look up to the external visible surface lifestyle of others but deep within inside yourself to use gifts and talents God gave you. Lots of money spent lavishly and glamorously lasts only a short season before craving a new thrill. Those you admire look cool in your eyes but have no deep God morals.img_20161201_160530

Invite Jesus in your heart to strengthen you to overcome self hatred and racism. Change your mindset, do small things to make you feel good like eating healthy food and sleeping well. Play works with children struggling with confidence and low self-esteem. Self-acceptance is to change misinformation, bias to think well of yourself in line with GOD’S plan for your life. Take responsibility for your wellbeing and eliminate stress.  Some people feel ashamed about who they are due to propaganda targeting them as inferior. Be really honest with yourself to transform and renew your mind. Talk to yourself in the mirror daily and declare I am fearfully and wonderfully made in the Image of God. Accept flaws, use your voice be the best you can be, confident, sure of self-acceptance to overcome any low self-esteem issues. Know what you want from life above all and let peace of mind and inner joy reign in your heart with sound mind of Christ. In reality it is helpful and useful to build up confidence in own head first. To help others see you as reliable, trustworthy, interdependable. Everybody is unique so celebrate yourself and do not look for any affirmation approval before you feel human. Only you can do what you do so be the best you, you can be. Others will respond or react to how best you present yourself and what you spew out of your own mouth. Misery loves company so a pity party attracts the wrong people into your life making things worse. You can overcome by rejecting negative voices unaware was implanted from childhood damaging your life. Life is easy, simple if you know how and believe in God your maker’s opinion about you. Everything will be okay stay strong this is your year. Focus and believe in yourself to love you first and love others as God’s people.

CHILDBIRTH LONELINESS

_93856458_img_3770Childbirth loneliness transition affects mothers in isolation without extended family support. As many experience, Molly Forbes is a sociable person but became very lonely when she had a baby
A commission started by murdered MP Jo Cox is investigating loneliness in the UK, which is an epidemic affecting people of all ages and backgrounds. Here, two young women share their stories. In 2010 Molly Forbes had her first child, Freya. But after the birth she was confronted with something she had not prepared for: loneliness. A “sociable person”, Molly – then 26 – was one of the first of her friends to have a baby. Her husband was out at work all day and she did not have close family living by. The loneliness of being a new mother was a real surprise for me. It just hit me,” she said. You are suddenly at home with a baby. You feel safer there so you stay home but it makes you more isolated. “When you go out, you want to be seen to be doing a good job and being happy. If you admit you’re lonely, you might be labelled as not coping. Molly Forbes says you want to be seen to be doing a good job and being happy says Molly. The commission planned by West Yorkshire Labour MP Jo Cox before she was murdered last June – says a fifth of the population privately admit they are “always or often lonely.”_93856435_photo-17
But two-thirds of those would never confess to having a problem in public, it says Molly, from Devon, said that rather than being honest about how she was feeling, she had “put a brave face on – and that can make you more lonely”.
“Looking back, I was definitely feeling quite anxious. “I was worrying about money, about whether I’d go back to my job – and when you don’t have someone to talk to, these worries can spiral out of control.” Molly had lots of friends, but found she couldn’t talk to them about her post-baby concerns. She started writing a blog and made connections with other mums online, and from there I started meeting up with people and found friends that way. The commission says three-quarters of people who are lonely on a regular basis do not know where to turn for support. It is looking for practical solutions to beat loneliness. Molly’s advice for new mums? “Spend time making friends with pregnant women, so you have a support network ready to go once the baby is born.” Find other mums to provide support network Molly said._93885386_ornstein

Who is feeling lonely? Parents – Action for Children found 24% of parents surveyed were always or often lonely. Teenagers – 62% are ‘sometimes lonely’ and one in 20 never spend time with friends at weekends. Carers – 8 out of 10 carers feel lonely or isolated as a result of looking after loved ones. Refugees and migrants 58% of those surveyed in London cited loneliness and isolation as their biggest challenge. The elderly 1 in 3 people aged 75 and over say feelings of loneliness are out of their control. The deafblind charity Sense has said that up to half of disabled people will be lonely on any given day. Have you experienced loneliness? Do you have advice or tips about how to deal with feeling isolated? Talking is key says Michelle so avoid ‘Bottling’ it up. For Michelle Ornstein who has a learning disability, there is nothing worse than being alone. “When Iam here on my own, I feel really down and anxious,” she said. The 22-year-old, from Essex, said her anxieties had got worse in recent years, leading her to leave college. There was an incident on school bus where Michelle was wearing her hearing aids close to a group of people being loud. “I just burst out in tears on the bus. I got myself so worked up and thought this is it. I cannot do this Michelle said. At one point I couldn’t be left on my own at all, I would not let [my parents] out the door. Spending time out of the house and with friends is key to countering loneliness but, Rossanna Trudgian, the Head of Campaigns at Mencap explained, a third of youngsters with learning disabilities spend less than an hour outside their homes on a Saturday. “Social isolation and fear of negative attitudes can remain huge barriers towards feeling welcome and included in society,” she said. But things have got better for Michelle. Talking things through with her family helps and this week she starts a new course. Michelle’s advice is talk she said: “If you keep it to yourself, you will bottle it up to build up anxieties so not go out.”‘Few admit it.’ Michelle is not the only young person experiencing loneliness. _93856429_photo-2

The Mix is an online support service for under-25s. This year, it has seen a 26% rise in the numbers of those accessing loneliness support service, compared to the previous year. Jo Cox begun setting up the commission before murdered in her constituency last June. Community manager James Pickstone said loneliness was an underlying issue shared by many people who visit the service though it was “rarely discussed openly.” He said: We see a lot of young people feeling very isolated at college and university, living away from home, not having the social life expected associated with university experience.” Younger people experience loneliness differently from how older adults do. Prof Graham Davey from the University of Sussex explained “Younger people appear to be focused on the friendship networks and number of relationships they have and experience loneliness as a function of the fewer friends they have.” In today’s society, friendship networks represented nowhere more obviously than on social media. Whether perceived to be a successful user of social media is with many followers one is likely to have impact on feelings of loneliness, anxiety, paranoia and mental health generally,” the psychology professor said. But you won’t find too many status updates about feeling lonely because ultimately Prof Davey argued loneliness has a stigma and few people want to admit they’re lonely. Have you experienced loneliness? Do you have advice or tips about how to deal with feeling isolated? Email your comments to haveyoursay@bbc.co.uk

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