HAVE CONFIDENCE IN GOD

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Confidence in God is inbuilt in the brain to receive information, process, to take an action, store, apply or discard based on relevance. So scientists successfully have mapped parts of brain enhancing positive thinking to enable reinforcing good thoughts. When we think about ourselves positively, we are stimulating parts of our brains involved in reward, motivation, pleasure, says Dr Stacie Grossman Bloom. According to Dr Stacie Grossman Bloom a neuroscientist who has three daughters who also has a successful career at the NYU Langone Medical Center in New York. She has examined the role neuroscience plays in boosting confidence. This is particularly useful to many people who need exactly that, she writes as part of this year’s 100 Women Challenge. As primary carers or nurtures the mother’s confidence rubs on a child in the formative years of growing up. A happy mother is a happy child and happy family so is important to ensure the confidence of the mother is especially enhanced and supported. It takes a whole village to raise a child so the woman’s confidence is essential for the happiness of the spouse and vice versa. Confidence radiates in a person so is felt by those around that person so necessary to promote positive thinking. The world is so full of negative news it may seem impossible to think or to feel positive at any given moment. However confidence in God is the anchor of hope and joy in spite of adversity.images

confidence-in-the-lord2Confidence in God is unshaken by those circumstances of life having assurance God is still on the throne. Confidence is something many people want but do not know how to get. We need to embrace our abilities, our values and have a self-esteem to be successful. Without it, we are less likely to seek promotion, speak up in meetings and rise into leadership positions. This ultimately has enormous impact as various studies after studies shows having confident people at work in position of power correlates with the profitability collaborative environment and improved problem solving. So with some practice, we can use neuroscience to help to be more confident. The most influential or the inspirational names around the world every year are full of confidence. In 2017, challenging people to tackle the 4 biggest problems facing people today like glass ceiling, female illiteracy, harassment in public spaces and sexism in sport. With the help of all hopefully can be coming up with many real-life solutions and so we want you to get involved with your ideas. 8aa3408d68e32286c91a4aeea3380fd6 CONFIDENCE-IN-GOD+copy

Thinking positively we know enhances self-confidence like all other personality traits reside within our brains. Alhough a large part of architecture of the brain is predetermined yet experiences and the choices we make continue to shape us. Over the course of life we acquire new knowledge, abilities by modulating the intricate and malleable connections between the cells and circuits in brains. We can utilise neuroscience to silence our negative inner voices and boost our confidence. These strategies work by engaging “value areas” of the brain. When we think about ourselves more positively, we are able to stimulate the parts of our brains that are involved in reward, motivation, and pleasure. One output of this pattern of neurological activation is we literally feel good when confident, we hold our heads high.Dr. Bloom with her three daughtersDr. Bloom with her three daughters

A healthy positive feeling is contagious so promotes those around us to be more engaged with us, whether its colleagues, our friends, or troops. The reinforcing reactions we see and feel in response to our confidence feedbacks to our brains to encourage more activity. So the first step is to push back against obstacles we know stand in our way being mindful of situations and deciding to be confident. Making complex decision is a multi-step process that taps into our emotions and engages many other parts of the brain.

Train your brain

brainWhen we have made the decision to be confident, we have to start training our brains. The Above brain scan details by DR. GYORGY BUZSAKI, NEUROSCIENCE INSTITUTE, shows the orange structure here as one of billions of neurons that is often stretching out to make connection (synapses) you see in yellow (more than 75,000). Those connections are what we are tweaking when we learn to choose confidence Just like mastering any other talent, gaining self-assurance requires repetition and time. Every time we do or learn something new, our brains adjust to store our new skill or bit of knowledge. This happens because parts of our brains are plastic and synapses that connect our brain cells, called the neurons, to each other can be modified, strengthened, and even newly created to store what we have acquired in this case confidence boost communication. From a scientific perspective people can blame both nature nurture for stacking the odds against them when it comes to valuing themselves. A biological reality is that women secrete different levels of hormones than men so react differently to the same world around us.brainThis brain scan shows “value areas” of the brain. DR PAUL GLIMCHER AND IFAT LEVY’s image caption reveal the areas of the brain in these images that are coloured to show they are activated “value areas” of the brain. Women tend to have a desire to please others, to seek acceptance, inclusion and avoid conflict. The way women respond to a stressful situations is different to men. While the men tend to take more risk when under pressure, the women look for the surer solutions and reach out to connect with others to manage stress. These genetic differences are compounded by the fact that we are socialized differently from the moment we are born and a pink hat is placed upon our heads.

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Boys and girls

As we grow up, young women are not necessarily taught to exhibit any self-confidence, and if we do, we are often criticized for being “snobby” or “stuck-up” or “bitchy” words seldom associated with men. We hear damaging terms like “women’s intuition” suggesting that we aren’t making strategic analyses, but basing our decisions on some ethereal gut feeling but study after study shows women and men equally data driven. And the relentless emphasis placed on how we look erodes our self-image and for most of us, gets worse over time. As a mother of 3 young girls, this resonates every time daughters receive another impossibly-proportioned doll designed for dress up, caregiving, or primping.

Some women in a perceived masculine job are treated with ridicule finding it hard to convince men they are as good and competent as required to do the job even with their identical qualifications trained by exact same Institute. These bias comes in underhand tactics, jokes derogatory of performance and hurtful comments that can affect confidence. It is sometimes deliberately done hoping it drives away unwanted females from an all male exclusive zone. These can be do traumatic for women that it is very necessary to educate men on how to act, behave or talk to women. Especially the women of diversity background raised in serious environments teach respect of the emotional feeling others. Healthy interactions are required in a civilised  society that prides itself on equal rights or equal opportunities. Women are still facing hitting a glass ceiling if they also desire promotion by climbing a broken ladder. It is well-documented we way we raise girls and women has a lasting impact on way they view themselves and their abilities. Negative messages will engender self-doubt and lead us to underestimate ourselves. The result is not only a nearly universal feeling of imposter syndrome but fear of making mistakes, suspicion of underperforming unattainable quest for perfection. This is what is shutting down when making a decision to be more confident.confidence-blog-Jan1-1

Practice, practice, practice

It doesn’t matter what level of self-assurance you start at, the more time and effort you dedicate to practicing being more confident, the faster your brain will change and the faster you’ll master it. So it is important to remove ourselves from situations and people who make you feel bad because confidence largely comes from being in supportive environment. Environment comprises people around us and what we choose to focus our attention on. It is beneficial to concentrate on things that are empowering and to steer clear of exposure to images and contents that make us feel bad about ourselves. The way we choose to hold and to conduct ourselves is another factor. The mental simulations help envisioning ourselves finishing a race, speaking in public to a standing ovation, mastering job, getting a degree can all help build ourselves up. Just as a coach gives encouraging pep talk to the team before taking the field, we can give ourselves a confidence lift. Notably, these practices have an impact on our overall health and wellbeing, serving as buffer to stress, depression, and fostering good mental and physical health. When we choose confidence, we are rewiring our brains and we are able to change ourselves and our world, for the better. So how would you feel if you can become more confident, happier go influence people in a more confident manner. With God all things are possible.

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Dr Stacie Grossman Bloom is Assistant Vice-President, Policy & Administration, and Associate Professor at Department of Neuroscience & Physiology, NYU Langone Health.

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GOD’S LAMB BOOK OF LIFE

revelation-20Annual Remembrance Day celebrations triggers memories of passed loved ones once again. The timing of events of their pictures and composed messages brings floods of tears by reliving the trauma of loss and grief. The pain of loss is worse especially if person’s death, unexpected, suddenly taken, cutting short all grand plans of their future. The pain is intense unavoidable and unshakable with loss deeply felt almost to point of doubting if one’s own life is worth living without a loved one. Whether a loved one was old or a young person gone suddenly it is a shock to the system. The hurt and pain, tears, numbness, inability to function or think clearly, loss of appetite, sleepless nights or fears, affects lives of the living left behind. Some seem to handle their pain better than others although there is no perfect formula for grieving. So people get on with their lives with such gaping hole of sadness of the missing person in their lives. Others completely lose the plot drowning sorrow with any thing that masks the pain. Some fall into deep depression, mental health issues or even become completely mad from trauma they never recover from. It is written in the Bible to mourn with hope knowing there is eternal reunion with a loved one once again. So there, will be no more tears, crying, grief, sorrow or pain but all will live together forever. Jesus wept over the death of Lazarus his friend but resurrected him from death.jesuswepttop

slide_55thelordisnear.jpgIMG-20171115-WA0000This message of hope gives assurance life on earth is a temporary journey so death is not the end of life. The real life in heaven comes with permanent joy, love happiness and joy forever. Believe in God and Jesus Christ and let not your hearts be troubled. In heaven in Father God’s House are many mansion rooms. If it was not so Jesus would have told you so He goes to prepare a place for you so where God and Jesus live you will live also. Though feeling sad people who mourn or grieve in Christ know they will meet their loved ones again in the future. Loved ones who passed are no more in pain in happier place called heaven. Heaven gains souls returned to God whose names are written in the Book of Life remembered by God. They are happy so do not want those they left behind to be traumatized because they left earth and do not want to see them sad. God’s soul angels harvest and gather into heaven those who arrive each day. It is heart-warming and amazing Godly hope of assurance tells us one day of joy in heaven is better than a thousand years on earth. Thank God for Jesus who conquered death to give us eternal life forever. Those who accept and love God in Christ are in book of Remembrance of God. When people on earth cry, God collects tears in bottle and keeps on HIS altar in heaven. Bible says in Psalms 56:8 God takes account of sorrow and puts tears in HIS bottle on HIS altar in heaven and in HIS BOOKS of Life and Remembrance. Jeremiah 14:17 assures us God CRIES over tragic loss and people who rebel against God. Revelation 7:17 says, Lamb of God Jesus is at the center of God’s Throne as Shepherd to guide all to springs of water of life and God will wipe every tear from their eyes. The sheep of Jesus who hear His voice, follow and live in Christ return to God in heaven.great-council-in-heaven4-1IMG_20171115_080314

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107768ad319998ff223d04366aa24ded--perfume-bottles-revelation-tumblr_owrggkr0Gt1s91yx0o1_500nintchdbpict000266964996God hears people in heaven according to Malachi 3:16-18. As those who fear the LORD God speak to one another the LORD gives attention to them in book of remembrance written before Him, for those who fear the LORD and who esteem His name. ‘They will be Mine,’ says the LORD of hosts, ‘on the day that I prepare My own possession, and I will spare them as a man spares his own son who serves him. God will distinguish between righteous and wicked, between one who serves God and the ones who does not serve Him.’” The book Malachi 3 is detailed account from the LORD God to people about issue of obedience. HIS charges against them are: offering defective sacrifices in 1:8, teaching error in 2:8, unfaithful to wives 2:13–14, complain it is futile to serve the LORD God and 3 divorce their wives on flimsy excuses. God pronounces strict judgments upon those guilty of offenses in Malachi 2:2. God makes it clear HE hears and knows intentions of heart’s desires so honours those who Honour HIM. HE knows all loyal ones who refuse to murmur against God as Numbers 14:27, 36 says or Deuteronomy 1:27 and Psalm 106:25. The Bible says the dead in Christ will be raised first during rapture to go with living into heaven to be in God’s Presence.revelations-king-jesusdanny-hahlbohm-the-invitation_a-l-925627-02002505IMG_20171113_180730

Scripture refers to God’s “BOOKS” in Exodus 32:23, Psalm 56:8, Daniel 7:10 12:1, Revelations 13:8, 2015. God keeps a written record in order to keep track of human deeds. God uses book of remembrance representing list of deeds of people for rewards. The kings of Persia kept book records of those who render services to the king so servants might be rewarded. The book of Esther 6:1-3 in the Bible has important notes so rewards given, even if delayed is seen as worthy deed for the king to reward. In Malachi 3:17 the LORD says, on that day faithful service is rewarded after taking notice. There is coming a day when HE will act to reward obedient but evildoers who think the LORD did not see or care as Malachi 3:14:15, Psalm 94:7, Ezekiel 8:12 says are punished. Scripture is clear loyalty to God is noticed and rewarded. Jesus spoke of this many times in Matthew 10:42, Mark 9:41, Luke 6:23, Revelation 22:12. Life is like storing treasure in heaven, making deposits into bank account as Matthew 6:20 says. What is done on earth is also forever recorded in heaven as shown in 2:Corinthians 5:10. Remembrance book is used by God to encourage His faithful ones their love and service for Him is appreciated and noticed. His promise is that during judgment those love Him He knows His own and will preserve them. The righteous man Noah was preserved by God for Honouring Him in Genesis 6:9. Jesus encourages His followers to rejoice because their names are written in heaven in Luke 10:20. Jesus knows all those faithful to Him despite all earthly troubles, heartaches, death says Bible in Matthew 24:9, Acts 9:6, 12:2. Knowing names are written in God’s BOOK helps disciples persevere to the end as shown in Matthew 10:22, Mark 13:13. Galatians 6:9 continues theme of future reward: “Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” Those who continue to honour the Lord when some fall away can rest assured in the confidence their names are written in God’s book of remembrance in heaven. Revelations 8:3 says another angel, who had golden censer, came and stood at the altar. He was given much incense to offer, along with the prayers of all the saints, on the golden altar before God’s THRONE. 4 So the smoke of the incense and prayers rose before God from the hand of the angel. Then the angel took the censer, filled it with fire from the altar, and hurled it to the earth; and there were rolls of thunder, and rumblings, and flashes of lightning, and an earthquake.8709652ccf870f6b243c6009e3cfdc35bb1f1d6f5ff36ce96e0213155604432321TRIBUTE1-master768226456db3907f6789d896eab08dcc16f--tears-of-sadness-angles2044867.jpgIRAQiraq-war-photos-michael-kamber.sw_.4.photojournalists-on-war-ss01

In a recent revelation, God showed me Jesus preparing bodies of the saints to be awakened. The bodies are carefully wrapped in white garments and laid side by  side. Then the Lord said do not be afraid of these dead bodies. As we walked past them Jesus said “I will marry you” meaning invitation to the marriage supper of the Lamb as chosen bride among many to bridegroom Jesus. Suddenly, Jesus enters the graves again, some in flooded waters others in sealed tombs and continues his preparation of bodies. I walked towards Jesus in the grave and two angels pointed me out and said not that way go here on this path. The next day the revelations continued in church where a woman showed me pictures on the wall. She said these are the faces of those bodies you were shown and this group is from 1911-1921. She handed me a book of life and said their names are written in this book then revelation ended. I am sharing this message on the Lamb’s books of life and remembrance books of life recording accounts of life of all people who lived and in future. It also records unbelievers and atheists so to recall on judgements day by God. And those who Honour God though grieving are guaranteed ETERNAL life FOREVER. This is the reason why it is so important to understand living according to God ‘s plans and purposes. It is appointed unto man once to die but after death there is judgement of God in heaven. Do not let life’s sorrow overwhelm you to miss Lord Jesus Christ’s love for you. So no matter how much you love your loved ones or they love you God’s Love is the greatest LOVE for both you and your family. Remember God is watching and noting all actions on earth to reward as recorded your loved ones and your life in God’s Remembrance Books for eternity. Though time to weep and weeping may endure for a season joy comes in the morning to be eternally happy as citizens of heaven in Jesus Name where there is eternal joy. One final thing to note is there in only one marriage of the Lamb of God in heaven to His bridegroom His Church of God in Christ Jesus. God’s love in heaven is so perfect surpassing human love for one another so human marriages does not exist in heaven as no longer needed in heaven. But all will recognise loved ones and family members and friends in happy reunion.

 

OLD & NEW GENERATIONS

IMG_20171101_083126A youngster asked grandfather Grandpa How did you people live before with:

No technology
No aeroplanes
No internet
No computers
No dramas
No TVs
No air-conditions
No cars
No mobile phones?”

Granddad replied: “Just like how your generation live today

No prayers
No compassion
No honour
No respect
No character
No shame
No modesty”

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We, the people born between 1950-1989 are blessed ones, our life is living proof.

👉While playing and riding bicycles, we never wore helmets.

👉After school, we played until dusk; we never watched TV.

👉We played with real friends, not internet friends.

👉 If we ever felt thirsty, we drank tap water not bottled water.

👉We never got ill sharing the same glass of juice with four friends.

👉We never gained weight eating plates of rice everyday.

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👉Nothing happened to our feet despite roaming barefoot.

👉We never used any supplements to keep ourselves healthy.

👉We used to create our own toys and play with those.

👉Our parents were not rich. They gave love.. not worldly materials.

👉We never had cellphones, DVDs, play station, XBox, video games, personal computers, internet, chat – but we had real friends.

👉We visited our friend’s home uninvited and enjoyed food with them.

👉Relatives lived close by so family time was enjoyed.

👉We may have been in black and white photos but you can find colourful memories in those photos.

👉 We unique and an understanding generation because the last generation who listened to their parents and first who have to listen to their children.

We are a LIMITED edition! Enjoy us. Learn from us. Treasure us.

OBSESSIVE SEX PARANOIA

ea7684f55c211010a61930ebddaf297a--health-guru-health-and-wellnessGalatians 5:24 in Bible says those who belong to Christ Jesus must crucify flesh with its passions and desires not to see the world only through sexual lenses. A paranoid personality disorder (PPD) is a mental disorder characterized by fear and situation of recurrent suspicion yet without justification, regarding sexual fidelity of spouse or sexual interaction of friends. This behaviour ruins that a family and damages relationships as the person is hyperalert constantly listening and looking for signs to convince them of obsessive thoughts. Normal sex organ for obsessive paranoia is used for abuse since sex sells society advertises it with products. It is a nightmare for paranoia as it triggers sex as bad memory they are always uptight and angry. With low self-esteem feel worthless so is pushing buttons to hurt people since they cannot have peace or be happy. Advertised sex images causes people to buy products so cars are advertised by seminaked blond women makes passion flow to purchase car advertised using sexual innuendos leading people to buy product. paranoidlargeWhether subtle sophistication, left to imagination or blatant in face sexual approach adverts in society saturate the mind by their endless images on the TV drama, conditions minds to think sexual thoughts. Longterm impact is world is viewed from such sexual perspectives. Freud said that mothers breastfeeding “have sexual intimacy” connotation with their children in his opinion causing oedipus complex. Such theories lead to these modern attitudes towards mothers for not being allowed to breastfeed in public. Breasts are seen as the object of sexual gratification than source of food. Body organ for passing urine is used more that way than used for having sex yet more associated with sex and birth canal in same manner is treated as exclusively a sexual organ. So much negative attitude is projected onto private parts causing terrified mothers not to and touch clean children’s private part. “Private” is exacerbated to include even wiping poo off the organ. Children are victimized by their parent’s memory triggered by sexual abuse so nurseries are under the pressure to clean without making any form of contact with child’s sexual organs. When the special needs under-developed children are not toilet trained yet aware of the names of body parts, they think that a normal cleaning process or dressing them means being “touched.” Reinforces words in the mind of a child under pressure and stressed to ensure they are never “touched” and “abused” as parents were molested in their childhood. This highlights misuse of normal function of organs is turned into a fearful weapon looking out for ‘predators’ on prowl to ‘defile’ children. b605d756fed629476fa88ad3260f7ad6--boderline-personality-disorder-borderline-personality-disorder-symptomsThe news is full of real life stories that creates are sad but the domino counter effect panic atmosphere of suspicion is damaging children. Genuine carers who do a great job are insulted that they are looking for sexual gratification in child while doing normal duty caring for the wet or soiled children. It’s inconceivable to integrity and reputation of genuine carer to stoop low trying to taint them with same brush of their past abuser. It is despicable to project the vile thoughts of guilty conscience as participants onto innocent children due to obsessive fear and paranoia of repeating history. And many innocent people have been hurt and lost valuable friends for support as a result of accusations. It is necessary to train children to have awareness of use of body parts yet it is also important to not overburden them with sexual use of organs. There are billions not interested in sex who do not live their lives only by sexual thoughts and intimate actions.IMG_20171025_154659PERSONALITY_parentingCompulsive behaviour leads to the low affection and harsh treatment thought wrongly as discipline. The majority of case studies show an inbred abuse sadly perpetrators others unaware of. Despite vulgar sexual language seen as normal jokes some people do not feel or want a sexual attraction experience. Rapidly growing website sprawling online hub of AVEN online community asexuals began to coalesce, and with the website came the journalists and academics curious about similar people. Research suggests you might know some asexual people, even if you don’t realise it. It’s estimated around 1percent of the UK population is asexual, even if they don’t define themselves as such. The criteria is never feeling a sexual attraction to anyone at all. A sociologist based at the University of Warwick first conducted research in asexuality in 2009. Finding the work fascinating has been exploring issues related to asexuality ever since. This research was initially concerned with asexual identity, asking how someone might come to identify as asexual, but I soon realised that we can’t understand why the identity “asexual'” has emerged without looking at broader cultural attitudes relating to asexuality identity. Conducted research study into thoughts and feelings of asexuals was surprised how similar the experiences were of the roughly 200 people who took part. They were all different in so many ways, but were united in having been made to feel there was something fundamentally wrong with them because they didn’t experience sexual attraction. They felt “weird” “broken” “fucked up” phrases came up time and time again. So people who genuinely cared about thought it was them that made them feel that way for not wanting sex. Some parents laughed at those who told them was asexual and still, to this day, don’t seem to believe it.IMG_20171025_154444mental-illness-paranoia-ocd-9-728In the end time, 144,000 virgins sealed by God in Israel are men Chosen from 12 tribes who will not experience sex as party of their role in life. Non perverted in mind permeating other minds with fear and negative thoughts of natural body for urine associated as sex object onto the next generations. Obsessives turn pure good thoughts into suspicious obsessive paranoia fearing sexual abuse of innocent people. Sometimes directed to hurt people who truly care about them attacking them of sleeping with partner etc. because as a man thinks so is he. So bad they do not accept responsibility to seek therapy to deal with guilty anger root of defilement plaguing them. Most friends abandoned such people constantly being accused of intimacy with their man. Or accused of ulterior motives for supporting them is draining emotionally so left them. Their toxic controlling behaviour intimidates and frightens people. Their intolerance for frustration makes slaves out of the people who help them. Their behaviour towards children is so appalling jealous of own children’s happiness. Personality disorders are worse if both partners are people with personlity disorders. BIG_5_PDs_Agreeableness

Hypersexualization oversexualisation of young children plants seeds of their sexualization by early sexualization or precocious sexualizisation. Normal hugs for oxytocin or riding horses on back of children is depicted or treated as sexual objects of interaction. An uptight family is explosive so that the healthy normal nonsexual playing body contact seen is frowned upon for fear it may proceed into sexuality inappropriate action. This is imposed through media, marketing or products directed at them encouraging them to think of adult sexual ways. It is necessary to protect young children by awareness, sexy poses, girls dressing up and dancing porn-style to favourite pop star’s adult lyrics. So obsessive paranoia hypersexualization from TV web trigger constant fear being projected onto the innocent people. Hypersexualisation  by the widespread use of Internet, phones and other communication devices make it commonplace. It affects those who already have inclination to be obsessed with sexual thoughts. The irony is often the accuser are the one having sex and having children conditioned but turn around to point accusing fingers at the ones leading their lives with dignity. It is important to seek anger management, talking therapy for 5 years to clear head of the negative effects of bad memories. And keep a journal to write down such thoughts and learn how to deal with the thoughts to overcome them long-term.  

Therapy Needs to Address

Criticism. Stop criticism of partner and others habitually for you are attacking their personality. Over time, this breeds resentment, stop constantly criticising others as it becomes a huge problem. It is not surprising everyone steers clear after a while of taking so much nose up snobbery and derogatory rudeness. No one is perfect in life so stop harassing people with your insecurities and fears projected on them needlessly. Deal with your inner negative thoughts and stop blaming everyone and everything on those who genuinely cares about you.

Contempt. This is makes it impossible to please you so recognise if consistently looking down on partner, is dismissive, constantly rolling eyes at what the other says, mocking them, sarcastic, sneering at partner and others, this means seeing them as “less than.” Contempt closely follows loss of respect so learn the value of mutual respect not be always right.

Defensiveness and Anger If you can’t talk to one another because one or both of you are defensive and angry this is a problem because you won’t be listening to another’s point of view so over time, switch off. Communication is the key to working on relationship problems and without that you cannot get anywhere. Defensiveness leads to “blame” where each person is lashing out in defence: “You did this,” “Yes, but you did that” so indignant everything is a battle. You’re so busy defending yourself nothing gets resolved. Stop attacking people and get a correct perspective on your life. Give each other space and time to talk, listen to sort things out. Life is not a cul-de-sac only about you so learn to give and take respect with consideration for others. 

Cold Shoulder Take stock to think and reflect on your actions retreat to clear head, talk not just block other person. It is good to hear what is being said, either not afraid to deal directly and honestly with people. The person given the cold shoulder trying to talk to the other often is ignored because feels always right. So may try to trigger a row to get the other to react and talk. It results in an awful atmosphere and can eventually make the person being attacked afraid to have any sort of discussion because they are afraid of the silent treatment. This shuts down communication or reconciliation. In extreme cases medical intervention is required if issues are associated with post partum psychosis or any clinical depression. Persistent anger reacting against others has underlying deeper issues of anger projected on others must be dealt in long-term counselling.

 

DON’T WORRY IN LIFE

Focusing on the present will help apprehensive thoughts to disappear on their own Matthew 6:25-34 in Bible says do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; do not worry about your body what you will wear. Your life is more than food and the body more than clothes. Do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will take care of itself by trusting God to provide and guide you to make wise choices and prosper. And 
when anxiety or panic attack sets in do breathing exercise and remember great peace beyond human understanding is promised within God’s Gospel words bring consolation and joy. In Phillipians 4:6-7 Jesus said, Do not let your hearts be troubled since you believe in God, believe in Jesus. And do not be anxious about anything but in every situation, by prayer, petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God passing all understanding will guard your heart and your mind in Christ Jesus. Jesus is in your lifeboat so it makes a difference despite the reality of circumstances. Isaiah 41:10 says, do not fear for I am with you do not worry or be dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen and help you; And uphold you with a righteous right hand. Psalm 94:19 says cast all your anxiety on Him for He cares for you in anxiety so great is God’s words bringing consolation joy.
Proverbs 14:1 says anxiety weighs down the heart but kind words cheers up. And in Proverbs 12:25, Jesus promised that,

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. John 14:27 states, Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. Psalm 38:9 tells us, All longings lie open before God so sighing not hidden from God. In Mark 13:11, if falsely accused do not worry about what to say just say whatever is given you at the time, for it is not you speaking, but the Holy Spirit.2 Corinthians 9:8 says God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. And in Revelation 21:3-4, And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death, mourning or crying or pain for the old things pass away.” Job2:20-21 states Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb and naked I will depart. The Lord gives and the Lord takes away the name of the Lord be praised.”Luke 12:23 says,

Do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. For your life is worth more than food and body more than clothes.

The Bible proves again worrying as the science research shows is just a waste of time so advises to turn off worrying. The  Experts reveals the THREE STEPS to take control of your apprehensions, stop brooding for good.

  • Recognise that brooding is a waste of time and energy, not problem-solving
  • Focus on the here and now to let worries slip away and stop them taking over
  • Avoid distractions as these have the opposite effect to calming down the mind
  • Distractions don’t work in the long term as you rely on external things to be calm 
  • ‘Our minds are so capable of imagining things and our thoughts become facts’

An expert revealed three steps to stop worrying for good. Recognise brooding thoughts are a waste of time, focusing on the present and avoiding distractions can all help people to take control of apprehensions, according to Professor Hans Nordahl from the department of behavioural medicine at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology. He said:  people confuse ruminative brooding with problem solving, analysis or review, the content tends to be self-critical and self-focused and linked to negative experiences in life. ‘I usually illustrate it by holding a glass of water in my hand. Most people would say that’s easy to do, but if I hold the glass continuously for 2 hours gets heavy. ‘It works the same way with our brooding and worries. They aren’t necessarily that heavy when they’re short-lived, but they get heavy when they last for a long time. Recognise the brooding thoughts are a waste of time and energy and not problem-solving

3 STEPS TO STOP WORRYING

According to Professor Hans Nordahl from the department of behavioural medicine at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology, people can take control of their worries by:

  • Recognising such thoughts are a waste of time – Going over things repeatedly is not a form of problem-solving
  • Focusing on the here and now – Get involved in real-life situations to allow negative thoughts to disappear on their own.
  • Stop seeking distractions – These have opposite effect on calming mind as people rely on external things to find relief.  Recognise it is a waste of time.  

Firstly, recognise that worrying is a waste of time and energy. Professor Nordahl said: ‘Reducing ruminative brooding isn’t as difficult as it may seem, but there are a few prerequisites you need to know before you start. ‘The most important thing about brooding as a mental activity is to realize brooding itself is a meaningless and useless activity. ‘It doesn’t help anything and has no calming or problem-solving effect.’ People often confuse worrying with problem solving, the former is actually negative, repetitive thinking about negative experiences occurred or the way they did reinforces problems. Once you recognise you are worrying, ask yourself if it has any purpose or if there is even an answer to the question you are considering. ‘Focus on the here and now’ in the spatial moment and do enjoy your life no matter how humble. 

Secondly, try and focus on the situation you are currently in. Professor Nordahl said: ‘Get involved in other more real-life things currently happening in your life. ‘If you focus on the here and now, the illusions  that is worry and brooding won’t take hold as much. ‘The thoughts continue to churn, but just let them be there and live their own lives. ‘Anything that isn’t given attention will gradually disappear on its own, and this applies to one’s brooding. 

Thirdly, Focusing on the present helps stop the overwhelming  apprehensive thoughts to disappear on their own.  

STRESS SEES DANGER IN EVEN HARMLESS SITUATIONS

Stress makes people sense danger in harmless situations, research revealed earlier this month. Humans are thought to have learned to identify dangerous scenarios for self-defense, however, certain circumstances can cause people to misidentify such cues. Researchers found people respond with fear when their stress levels are high. Suzannah Creech associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Texas, who was not involved in study, said: ‘These findings provide important laboratory data that helps explain why PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder] symptoms exacerbated during times of stress, and the repeated stress and trauma in the battlefield may lead to increased risk for PTSD.’ Experts believe the findings could aid PTSD treatment. Distractions do not work so avoid distractions as it has the opposite effect on calming the mind. Professor Nordahl said: ‘Turning focus away from your thoughts does not mean trying to escape or distract yourself from them. ‘Many people use television, gambling, computer games or drugs to control or suppress the brooding. ‘Distracting self in order to calm down does not work well in the long run. You’re relying on other people or external things to get calm. ‘Trying not to think of negative thoughts creates a recoil effect, because the brain has to keep track of what you shouldn’t think about, and those are the thoughts you’re trying to avoid.’ ‘Our minds are capable of imagining things’

Professor Nordahl said: ‘some people often confuse ruminative brooding with problem solving, analysis or review, but unfortunately the content tends to be self-critical and self-focused and linked to negative experiences in life. ‘I usually illustrate it by holding a glass of water in my hand. Most people say that’s easy to do, but if I hold a glass continuously for two hours it gets heavy. ‘It works the same way with brooding and worries. They aren’t necessarily heavy when they’re short-lived, but they get heavy when they last for a long time. ‘We’re well equipped to develop anxiety and worry, because our minds are capable of imagining things and our thoughts become facts. ‘Our capacity as humans to analyse ourselves or to anticipate threatening scenarios can be used in constructive ways but has negative and unhelpful effects.’ Life coach Sarah Alexander explained steps to low stress.

Courtesy: Original Science Article
By Alexandra Thompson Health Reporter For Mailonline14:08, 24 Aug 2017, updated 16:45, 24 Aug 2017
Rebloged & Updated on Bible Viewpoint

BIBLE EDUCATION: ORAL SEX

Couple smiling under the covers at home in bedThe Bible talks of sexual conduct within God’s laws, regulations to enjoy loving each other intimately. God created sex so accepts and recommends the mutual sex consent agreement in Bible between married couples in 1 Corinthians 7:5. Its important to read God’s laws on sex in Bible not assume if church recommends oral sex its alright to do so. Often issues of harmful infections of STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) spread by spouse knowingly or unknowingly affects the married partner too. So it is important to discuss diseases transmitted by oral sex because people think it is the safest way to prevent pregnancy. Most people have the Actinomyces species bacteria israelii and bovis in lining of the mouth, throat, digestive tract, urinary tract and in the female genital tract. Practising of oral sex can be infected by contracting it without an immediate effect for years. This can develop into other diseases if the carrier passes it on through mutual sex. Most couples do not necessarily do tests as part of the marriage process. So anyone with the bacteria harmlessly in the body becomes dangerous if a person develops a disease, or if there is damage to the tissue lining causing the bacteria to spread out of normal environment. Actinomyces bacteria are anaerobic, which means they flourish deep inside body tissues where oxygen levels are very low. Bacteria living within deeper tissues are harder to diagnose, and they often take longer to treat. The disease can be triggered when internal body tissues are pierced, for example, by something sharp in the esophagus, or through tooth decay or gum diseaseAs disease progresses, painful abscesses can form and grow in size, usually over a period of months. Some can be severe surrounding bone, muscle penetrated. The infections can be large enough skin breaks open, leaking large amounts of pus. Be safe even if you agree mutually to engage in oral sex use condoms and do not use excuse it creates barriers to prevent natural penetration contact. A lot of couples get throat diseases, host of complex illnesses caused by oral sex.5fc5b207d20602a7d6798a62ad3b25dc

Types of actinomycosis

Actinomycosis can occur in virtually any part of the human body, but certain parts are more commonly affected. Half of all cases affect head, neck area, and the rest occur in areas such as the chest and the gastrointestinal tract. There are four main types:

Orocervicofacial actinomycosis

Orocervicofacial actinomycosis affects the mouth, jaw or neck, and it usually stems from dental problems, often caused by dental decay and poor oral hygiene. Actinomycosis cause abscess  after some dental procedures. Bacteria lives in dental plaque. Trauma to mouth or face also trigger it, including particles that injure mucous membrane. It can develop after some dental procedures. The infection may be obvious at once, or within one to several weeks of the trauma occurring. The person notices a hard, painful swelling in cutaneous or soft tissue, known as “woody” fibrosis, or they may develop an abscess. It is the most common form, and it accounts for 50 percent of all cases.

Thoracic actinomycosis

Thoracic actinomycosis infection can develop in the airways and lungs. It often happens when bacteria from the mouth and throat are unintentionally inhaled and enter the lungs. Symptoms affect lungs to start with but can extend to the area around lungs, chest cavity and vertebrae of the upper trunk. The person experiences weakness, fever, a productive cough or severe weight loss.

Abdominal actinomycosis

Abdominal actinomycosis infection occurs in the abdomen but it can affect other parts of digestive system, from the esophagus to anorectal area. It happens after somes case of appendicitis person develops abscess persistent fever and pain. Actinomyces in abdominal cavity can lead to infection in pericardium sac around the heart, or within the liver or spleen. Sometimes, a secondary pelvic infection may result.1200px-Actinomyces_israelii

Pelvic actinomycosis

Pelvic actinomycosis occurs within the pelvis as infection can spread from the vagina. It used to be thought that the women who use an intrauterine device (IUD) for contraception had the higher chance of developing this infection with extended use, but risk is now estimated to be very low, around 0.001 percent. A gynecological procedure can make it make it likely for women to develop pelvic actinomycosis. The bacteria can cause abscesses in ovaries and fallopian tubes and lead to complications with other organs within the abdomen and pelvis. Actinomycosis rarely affects a central nervous system (CNS). This can happen directly due to neck lesion or face or spread from elsewhere. It can lead to brain abscess causing headaches and neurological symptoms. Other rare type affects skin, bones, usually when infection spreads from deeper tissues.

Actinomycosis symptoms

Actinomycosis can take variety of forms mimicks other infections or neoplasms. It is important to check a private sexual act to see if it is causing health issues as pointed by medical journals referred to. This article informs people to become more aware of sexually related illnesses than can be connected to oral sex, they may not think is affected by oral sex. It good to be in know if sexual activities is contributing to complex health issues. It is vital to remember Actinomycosis as a bacterial infection also spreads through body tissues. Disease features a number of small interlinked abscesses. People have gems on hands even after washing hands. Multitudes of bacteria on hands mixed with bacteria in mouth, throat, digestive tract, vaginal walls is a toxic combination of hybrid gems evolving to complex infections of health problems.

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Symptoms differ according to the type of actinomycosis, but they may include:

  • Swelling and inflammation at the site of the infection
  • Tissue damage and scar tissue
  • Abscesses, or pus-filled lumps
  • Small holes or tunnels in tissue called fistulas that can leak a kind of lumpy pus.

The severity of symptoms depends on area of the body affected by infection. There may be pain and fever with body aches fatigue and generally feeling not well. It is estimated 75 percent to 95 % of actinomycosis lesions and infections involve other bacteria. Actinomycoses does not act alone so infections: group-B streptococcus, E. coli and a range of sexually transmitted infections affect babies at birth. Bible in 1 Corinthians 11:30 says for this cause many are weak and sickly among you and many sleep (die). Profaning of body and Blood of Lord Jesus through sexual immorality as prevalent in Sodom and Gomorrah killed people for their lack of knowledge and understanding of God’s Words. God says HIS PEOPLE perish for their lack of knowledge. Fear of God is beginning of wisdom for preservation into eternal life. A period of abstention every month forces a couple to build a non-sexual bond and sexual one. Helps build couple’s desire for each other making intercourse in the remaining two weeks more special. Gives partners chance to rest not feeling sexually inadequate. So emphasises self-discipline fundamental to high moral value sexual drive.

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Diagnosis and treatment

Laboratory investigations to diagnose actinomycosis include microscopic examination of a culture of sputum or pus, or tissue taken in a biopsy. Pus or tissue typically contain yellow sulfur granules. Actinomycosis can be chronic condition so long-term treatment with antibiotics is common. Patients may need treatment ranging from 6 weeks to 12 months. In some cases, surgery is performed to drain an abscess or to remove an infected part, after which a 3-month course of antibiotics may be needed to resolve problem. To decrease the chance of developing actinomycosis, people should avoid any alcohol abuse, maintain good health and keep chronic medical conditions under control and practice good dental hygiene. Countries with good access to antibiotics or dental services, the incidence of actinomycosis tends to be lower. Increasingly young people told “oral sex is not really sex,” so promoted safe no risk pregnancy no risk of catching a sexually transmitted disease alternative to intercourse. The Bible in Leviticus 18 gives a long list of the sexual dos and don’ts acceptable to God. As the creator and originator of sex God has very high interest in body His Holy temple so gives instructions in Bible. Ephesians 5:3 says to believers, among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality or impurity because these are improper for God’s Holy people.” Bible says “immorality” is forms sexual contact outside marriage. In Hebrews 13:4 the “marriage bed” is pure and undefiled according to Bible, sex is to be reserved for only marriage. Oral sex is sin if done before or outside marriage as the contraception method. Natural rhythm based on the monthly cycle of a woman is the safest method. A few days of 3-5 days before or after her ovulation the sperm can still live on for gestation. The rest of the month is free for natural safe sex. Discipline and self control is required to check her body temperature measured by thermometer to signal safest days for intercourse. The problem is lack of alertness to record a monthly cycle. Impulsive sex fuelled by drugs or alcohol can blur memory. It is necessary to be in tune with one’s body fully so to know exact days of ovulation of peak time for conception. The cervix accompanied by mucous helps to know exact day of ovulation. And men must be trained to have mutual agreement as Bible requires. Sex on demand anytime because you are his wife with threats to seek comfort elsewhere lacks accurate knowledge. God wants a couple to enjoy intimacy and be safe as well. Be careful if pastors and ministers approve of oral sex because it is your body that suffers  consequences of a reckless behaviour.intimacy4.jpgIs oral sex a sin within a marriage?

Christian married couples ask question and Bible disallows oral sex between a husband and wife or any sexual activity involving other people like swapping, threesomes, etc. or lusting after another person and pornography. So restrictions principle of “mutual consent” applies to 1 Corinthians 7:5 text requiring couples to abstain from frequency by “mutual consent” within marriage. This agrees perfectly with rhythm method as God killed Onan for wasting precious seed in the Bible. To fully agree between wife and husband it is good to space sex and enjoy comforting embraces. Depending on fasting total abstinence by spouses is highly recommended. So do not force or coerce into oral sex in marriage in the spirit of good mutual consent. There is a biblical case for declaring coercion sin. It can lead to the complex health issues of health caused by oral sex. Marriage or sex is God’s gift for affection intimacy so moral duty for practising believers to please God in the bedroom. So biblically acceptable for sexual intercourse for a married couple to follow joy of rhythm method. God is not wicked wizard of the West denying pleasure within confines of marriage. It is to ensure that sexual interaction must not cause  curses of the disease of Bible in Deuteronomy 28 to come upon those disobeying God’s Commands. Oral sex is not free from sin by mutual consent if a partner becomes infected with diseases. This costs high medical insurance premiums and life savings to treat lifetime consequence of fleeting moments of passion. So people must know the connection between oral sex and their lifestyle choices. Oral sex is not as “safe” as promoted alternative sexual intercourse, sexually transmitted diseases published by medical journals shows it is definitely not as safe as it is often suggested. Chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, HIV/AIDS, and other STDs can be transmitted through oral sex. So be aware and take great care of your Holy precious Temple if you choose to please God.  In some cultures it is a taboo for a reason because infection spreads to the innocent victims.How-is-it-weve-managed-to-stay-together-Christ-1024x682STORY TO ALL MEN EVERYWHERE:

A man who lived abroad now 64 years old lived in the US for 35 years with his family. Throughout life with family did live ‘happily.’ Had a wonderful wife by his side but took her for granted, didn’t pay much attention to her always had a vision of going back to others. So had affairs she knew and made her feel very sad but never apologised only told to get over it as not first man to be unfaithful. She was depressed for weeks eventually recovers but said she was unhappy. He never went on family holidays with his family all the years. Occasionally travels alone and sleeps with ex girlfriends or a short-term girlfriends to fulfil fantasy, on return wife wasn’t attractive to him for weeks. So effected sex life not great as always thinking of other women. He left his wife and family, thinking grass is greener for a ‘better life’ elsewhere. It was trying to settle alone on retirement idea left family to set up business. They protested but went against wife’s word and daughter stopped talking to him but thought life led without them was best. It seemed plan worked so took all his retirement money and selfishly left wife and daughter, hoping can cope as she’s still working. Promised will be visiting the US often. It was exciting at first and had a beautiful girlfriend who flattered him. Within a year all his money was finished while business was not fully set up, confronted with too many set backs. Hit with brain tumour, prostate cancer had to come to US again for treatment. The wife and daughter did well to take care of him but did not feel love passion from them. Was very depressed because he needed them but realised wife and daughter moved on emotionally having a good life. Wife reinvented herself, lost weight, dressed smarter and suspecting seeing someone because she too happy.Making_the_Hard_Choice-4Within a year in America his health was better so returned to complete so-called business. Went back but sad without wife beside him as she has moved on emotionally after years of neglect. So impotent after cancer and not willing to embarrass himself has no woman so he is very lonely. If he was loyal to his wife and made her happy in marriage his story will be different. Please young men out there, read this story to avoid stupid mistakes he made. His life is in an utter state of confusion and cannot even discuss anything with wife. Now depressed and lonely, husbands make future plans with your wives, stay faithful and love her fully and make her feel special because you have only one chance and one life. Do things so your wife will bless you. Be careful of your plans of setting up businesses back in your old age. It is often fantasy so does not work. All the money goes down the drain. And spoken to so many men stuck in the rut with the same mistake. He had a good life in America but failed to see it. So not saying do not come back to where you are from. Men should not do this alone enjoy your life and wife as life is too short. The cancer spread and has months to live so advised not to bother going back to America because nothing can be done. His wife and daughter are coming to see him before his end and demise. Know the Bible in Matthew 28:18-20 says that Jesus came and said, “All Power and Authority in heaven and earth id given to me. So go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold I am with you always to the end of the age. Amen

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2 RINGS AROUND 2 CARROTS

_97412737_ecefbc06-1a7f-4912-9886-967dab2594d3A Canadian woman got an extra carrot with her diamond ring when it was found in her vegetable patch 13 years after she lost it. Mary Grams, 84, was devastated when she lost the ring while weeding on the family farm in Alberta in 2004. She had kept the ring’s loss a secret from all but her son for more than a decade. On Monday, daughter-in-law discovered the secret and the ring when she pulled up a lumpy carrot. The carrot had grown straight through the ring, enabling it to be plucked out after many years hiding in the soil. She had decided not to tell her husband when she lost it, out of embarrassment, but she told her son. She went and bought a slightly cheaper replacement ring, and carried on as if nothing had happened. “Maybe I did the wrong thing, but you get so worked up,” she said, no one was wiser. This week her daughter-in-law Colleen Daley decided she wanted some carrots for supper.Mary Grams with her diamond ring-carrotImage caption Mary Grams with her diamond ring-carrot. Ms Daley, lives on the farm where Mrs Grams used to live, went to harvest some vegetables in the garden. Lo and behold, she spotted the ring while washing a rather lumpy carrot. Her son instantly knew who ring belongs to and called his mother. And looking back, Mrs Grams said she wishes she had told her husband, who died five years ago. He was a joker, she said, and probably would have found this whole situation pretty funny. Now that she has it back, she said she will be more careful. “If I am going outside or anything I am going to put it in a safe space. That is what I should have done,” she said. This is not first time someone found a diamond ring on a carrot. In 2011, a Swedish woman found her wedding ring 16 years after she lost it. _57636476_57636475 (2)A Swedish woman has discovered her wedding ring on a carrot growing in her garden, 16 years after she lost it, says a newspaper. Lena Paahlsson had long ago lost hope of finding the ring, which she designed herself, reports Dagens Nyheter. The white-gold band, set with seven small diamonds, went missing in her kitchen in 1995 she told the paper. Although the ring no longer fits, she hopes to have it enlarged so she can wear it again. Mrs Paahlsson and her family live on a farm near Mora in central Sweden. She took the ring off to do some Christmas baking with her daughters, but it disappeared from the work surface where it had been left, she explained to Dagens Nyheter. The family searched everywhere and years later took up the tiling on the floor during renovations, in the hope of finding the ring. It was not until 16 years later when Mrs Paahlsson was pulling up carrots in her garden that she noticed one with the gold band fastened tightly around it. The carrot was sprouting in the middle of the ring. It is quite incredible,” her husband Ola said to the newspaper. Lena Paahlsson and her husband, Ola Image caption Lena Paahlsson and her husband Ola say it is incredible the ring was found. The couple believe the ring fell into a sink back in 1995 and was lost in vegetable peelings that were turned into compost or fed to their sheep. “I had given up hope,” Mrs Paahlsson told Dagens Nyheter, adding she wanted to have the ring adjusted to fit her. “Now that I have found the ring again I want to be able to use it,” she said. Jesus says there is great joy shared when lost coin or treasure is found. Often the owner is looking for a ring, coin or lost sheep and persists until it is found. Similarly, God keeps on looking forward to ‘finding’ all HIS Children no matter how many years it takes to return to God, Rightful Owner reunited with their beloved treasured prodigal children in Christ Jesus Name.