THE FOOD CHOICE FORCES

Modern food choices are influenced by forces out of control. An average person makes over 200 food-related decisions each day – but environmental forces can cause us to overeat by taking advantage of biological, psychological, and social and economic vulnerabilities. And so following a healthy diet can be hard. From deciding when and what to eat to how much food you actually put on your plate, the average person makes decisions each day, most of which are automatic. These automatic choices dubbed mindless eating by some experts happen when we eat and drink without consciously considering what kind of or how much food to consume. We’ll keep eating from a bowl of chips past the point of fullness simply because they’re in front of us. Even the most disciplined consumers are not fully in control of what they eat. Studies have shown that decisions such as when, what and how much to eat are often shaped by subtle forces outside of our awareness or direct control. These environmental forces can cause us to overeat taking advantage of biological, psychological, and social and economic vulnerabilities. This helps explain why 2 billion people worldwide overweight or obese, and why no country has yet been able to reverse their obesity epidemic. There’s hope. Research shed light on the major forces that encourage overeating, including biological, psychological, social, and economic. Now that we know more about them, we are in a better position to intervene.

BIOLOGY INFLUENCES APPETITES

Why do humans tend to crave items like chocolate over salad? Taste preferences such as a “sweet tooth” are innate to human biology, and they can change over the course of our lives. Children, for example, have a stronger preference for sweet foods than adults do. Modern food environment introduced an influx of processed foods filled with sugar, fat, salt, flavor enhancers, food additives, caffeine and so on. These ingredients are manipulated to try to maximize our biological enjoyment and satisfy those innate taste preferences. For instance, research finding says a certain highly palatable food like chocolate milkshake trigger brain responses like people’s reactions to addictive substances, giving new meaning to idea of ‘sugar high’. But processed foods are frequently stripped of components such as water, fiber and protein that cause us to feel full, making it difficult for the body to regulate food intake and maintain weight.

THE BRAIN LOVES FOOD

In addition to biological enjoyment of highly processed foods, there’s a lot to love about them psychologically. From McDonald’s Happy Meals toys to Coca-Cola’s global “Open Happiness” special marketing campaign, examples abound of the link between food and pleasure. Companies spend billions of the dollars used in marketing foods to create image of strong, positive association with their products. One study found that children actually think same food tastes better adorned with a cartoon character like Dora the Explorer or Shrek. There are lots of small ways our environment can promote overeating. People eat more when served larger portions, regardless of how hungry they are. Unhealthy foods are very noticeable and desired because they are everywhere in schools, restaurants, convenience stores, or the supermarkets and vending machines. They’ve even infiltrated stores selling office supplies and home goods.

The places where we make many of our food decisions can be overwhelming for busy consumers with 40,000 different products in a typical supermarket), and most psychological cues in environment signal us to eat more not less. Examples are large portion sizes, food prices, the placement of food items in stores and promotional strategies to market foods affect dietary decisions on daily basis. Consider portion size alone: Drinking Coca-Cola in 1950s meant consuming a 6.5-ounce glass; today 7-Eleven Double Gulp is roughly 10 times that size and contains nearly 800 calories. But for food out of sight means out of mind. Google provides free snack foods for employees, and found that employees were eating too many M&Ms. So they placed the M&Ms in opaque containers and made healthier snacks more visible. Simply placing M&Ms out of sight from 2,000 employees in the New York office meant they consumed 3.1 million fewer calories in just seven weeks.

ENVIRONMENT INFLUENCE FOOD

Unhealthy foods are often inexpensive, making them especially appealing to those on a tight budget. But fast food and ready-to-eat convenience store items are also widely available and quicker and easier to prepare than home-cooked meals, which makes busy consumers vulnerable to overeating them. Food companies also engage in targeted efforts to market to certain groups. For example, recent reports have shown that soda companies are increasing their spending in the US on targeting black and Hispanic youth, a concerning strategy as these groups have greater rates of obesity. The good news is public discourse about obesity and policy-making is starting to reflect science. The public and policymakers are realizing that health issues like obesity and its related chronic diseases are not just about people’s individual food decisions. People are prone to over-consume unhealthy foods because our current food environments exploit biological, psychological, and social and economic vulnerabilities, undermining people’s ability, personal responsibility for their food choices. Because weight loss programs lead to limited weight loss difficult to maintain, bolder efforts are needed to prevent overweight and obesity in the first place. Fortunately, policy-level interventions introduced. In US, by Food and Drug Administration will require large chain restaurants to list calorie content on food menus in 2016 and it has proposed adding a Daily Value for Added Sugars on food labels to limit consumption.

US Food and Drug Administration check large chain restaurant’s calorie list of food menus since 2016. Although the research or influence of calorie label and food choice mixed current evidence suggests that calorie labeling promotes lower calorie food choices for some consumers, some of the time, at some restaurants. The FDA has also taken action to remove harmful trans fats which increase risk of heart disease from processed foods. The US, United Kingdom, Peru, Uruguay and Costa Rica enacted policies to remove “junk food” from public schools out of sight out of mind. UK imposed sugar tax to help reduce sugar content levels in food and drinks. And Mexico recently enacted a one peso (8 cents) per liter tax on sugar-sweetened beverages to curb obesity epidemic. Berkeley, California passed a US$0.01 per ounce excise tax on sugar-sweetened beverages in 2014 and expects to generate $1.2 million from this year.Chile and Peru banned toys in Happy Meals. McDonald’s, Wendy’s and Burger King all dropped soft drinks from their children’s menus. These are important steps in tackling obesity epidemic, and more research is needed for us to understand which interventions will work best. Innovative policies are needed to change what and how much we eat, alongside the efforts by food industry to make healthier life choices easier yet food more desirable.

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Christina Roberto, Assistant Professor of Social and Behavioral Sciences and Nutrition, University of Pennsylvaniaand Mary Gorski, PhD Student, Health Policy, Harvard University

This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.

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RIGHT DEGREE RIGHT JOBS

IMG_20171122_142856.jpgWill doing a degree land you the right career? As16 November 2017 with over 180 comments.  Poppy Hunt will definitely like to earn a bit more money. Although she graduated in Fine Art from the University of the West of England six months ago, she’s currently working as a customer services assistant for Sainsbury’s in Bristol. She feels overqualified at the moment working in a supermarket, because for this job I’m doing now, I don’t necessarily need a degree,” she says. She’s got plenty of company. The Chartered Institute for Personnel and Development (CIPD) has been tracking graduate outcomes and reckons that for those who left in the 2015 university year, 48% ended up in non-graduate jobs six months on. Lizzie Crowley, the author of the report, says: “Unless we actually see degrees creating value for the economy, it is a big problem.” She says 77% of students will not pay loans back in full. Her organisation wants UK universities to be prevented from charging the maximum level of tuition fees unless they deliver better graduate outcomes. The CIPD argues that with the spiralling costs of university, students need to ask themselves whether a degree path is the best route into a career. It says there is a need for much better career advice and guidance, alongside high-quality alternative vocational routes into employment other than university education. Poppy Hunt wants to apply for museum and art gallery jobs, but working 39 hours a week in a supermarket, she is finding it tough to build up the required experience to secure a break into arts. Poppy HuntThose interviewed include POPPY HUNT on challenges since graduation. Some people think it might be better to be in one of the careers to have needed work experience than having a degree,” she says. Poppy was not sure what she wanted to do when she left university in the summer, but it didn’t take long for graduate Jessica Davies to land on her feet and forge a career in the world of recruitment. She just wishes she hadn’t racked up £48,000 of student debt in the process. I left university as anyone does and suddenly thought: what now? I had this great degree and wanted to go out there and get a job that suited me.” But she ended up in a job which doesn’t require a degree. Jessica left the London School of Economics in 2016 with a 2:1 in Economic History. She doesn’t regret it. But for her career, it wasn’t really necessary: “I’ve found something that I’m good at, that I can do well, but also that I enjoy. I could have gone into recruitment four years ago before my degree and probably done just as well. It’s not something worth £48,000 now,” says Jessica Davies who ended up in a job that didn’t need a degree.Jessica Davies

Fee incentive

Lizzie Crowley wants the government to step in. “As we look ahead to the budget, the government should consider linking tuition fees to graduate destination data in order to prevent higher education institutions charging top-rate fees while delivering bottom-rate outcomes,” she says. “This report shows pre-occupation of successive governments boosting graduate numbers leading to high levels of over-qualification, potentially skills mismatches, which the OECD suggests undermines productivity growth.” The CIPD figures are based on most recent data from Higher Education Statistics Authority. The CIPD found almost third of graduates (29%) on salary of less than £20,000 six months after graduating, well below UK average of £28,300. But the head of Universities UK, Alistair Jarvis, says assessing the employment outcomes for graduates only six months after they leave is too crude a measure. “Six months after graduation, a lot of graduates are deciding what they want to do in the future still,” he says. “Over last year, there were 4% more graduate vacancies than the year before and this is the fifth year in a row that employers are telling us we need more graduates not fewer.” Mr Jarvis said: “University is not best choice for all, apprenticeships are the right choice for some people. But employers are demanding more graduates. “The graduate earnings premium is an average £9,500 per year and graduates are half as likely to be unemployed as non-graduates. There are many good graduate outcomes coming from university. Do not fall apart managing your mind at work if under stress from work. “For the whole eight-hour shift you may pretend you’re OK.” Talking to family or friends is one thing, but speaking about your mental health at work can be daunting. Here on Like Minds we’ve been finding out who you should tell to make it a bit easier to start  conversation. Graduate with sign on hatBear in mind that the global trends of unemployment due to machines, robots self-drive cars or vehicles taking over jobs of millions of people. So important to remember you must reassess your priority to make changes to adapt to modern trends. With huge debts and no jobs for life young people are drifting into depression through no fault of their own. Be aware the system benefits the privileged few 1% wealthy who gain more from educated trained people working on zero hours. These matters have come to attention of ALMIGHTY LORD GOD, transforming earth to restore justice and fairness. Be in the know not to worry because your life is different from expected standard. God requires all to work to eat but if the jobs are destroyed mass unemployment is used to ensure reduction in wealth of people. This is part of bigger agenda so practical relevance of majority of jobs is ignored. The plan is train highly skilled but use their skills and them in debt for life. Understand this is why many do so many jobs yet cannot own own home, pay bills but go to food banks despite being graduates in menial job’s. God put zillions of resources on earth for all but is unfairly distributed. Sooner or later God patent owner of all resources will take it back and King Jesus will rule and reign forever in peace with no poverty. It is happening faster than expected so have hope and be encouraged in Christ.   

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KING JESUS WILL TAKE OVER

king-jesus-will-reignEzekiel 38 describes an upcoming world event to happen globally so be educated on changes taking place. God heard the cries of suffering people and seen their sorrows so taking action now. Sovereing LORD God Yahweh gave 6,0000 years to mankind to change in vain. Global fulfilment culminates in Armageddon battle so people must understand what is happening. Ezekiel 38 describes LORD GOD’s Great Victory Over the Nations as follows in Ezekiel 38. The word of the LORD says “Son of man, set your face against Gog of land of Magog, the chief prince of Meshek and Tubal; prophesy against himand say: ‘This is what the Sovereign LORD says: I AM against Gog, chief prince of Meshek and Tubal. 4  So will turn around, put hooks in jaws and bring out with your whole army, horses, horsemen fully armed, great horde with large and the small shields brandishing sword. Persia, Cush and Put will be with them with shields and helmets.maxresdefault  Gomer with troops, and Beth Togarmah from the far north with troops with the many nations with them. ‘Get ready; prepare you and all the hordes gathered about you and take command of them. After many days you will be called to arms. In future years you will invade a land that recovered from war, whose people gathered from many nations to mountains of Israel, which used to be desolate. They had been brought out from the nations, and now all of them live in safety. You and all your troops and the many nations with you will go advancing like a storm; you will be like cloud covering the land. 10 This is what the Sovereign LORD says: On that day thoughts will come into your mind to devise evil schemes.end-times-bible-prophecy-unfolding-newspaper-headlines-scripture-being-fulfilled-now-begins

11 You will say, “I will invade a land of unwalled villages; attack a peaceful and unsuspecting people all of them living without walls and without gates and bars. 12 I will plunder and loot and turn my hand against the resettled ruins and the people gathered from the nations, rich in livestock and goods, living at the center of the land. 13 Sheba and Dedan and the merchants of Tarshish and all her villages will say to you, “Have you come to plunder? Have you gathered your hordes to loot, to carry off silver and gold, to take away livestock and goods and to seize much plunder. 14 “Therefore, son of man, prophesy and say to Gog: ‘This is what the Sovereign LORD says: In that day, when my people Israel are living in safety, will you not take notice of it? 15 You will come from your place in far north, you and many nations with you, all of them riding on horses, a great horde, a mighty army. 16 You will advance against my people Israel like a cloud that covers the land. In days to come, Gog, I will bring you against my land, so nations may know me when I am proved holy through you before their eyes.ee2f1777fb9d37f66bfe8bf72ce368cd--christian-symbols-christian-quotes

17 “‘This is what the Sovereign LORD  God says: You are the one I spoke of in former days by my servants, prophets of Israel. At that time they prophesied for years that I would bring you against them. 18 This is what will happen in that day: When Gog attacks land of Israel, my hot anger will be aroused, declares the Sovereign LORD God. 19 In zeal and fiery wrath declares at that time there shall be a great earthquake in the land of Israel.20 The fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the beasts of the field, every creature that moves along the ground, and all people on the face of the earth will tremble at my presence. The mountains will be overturned, the cliffs will crumble and every wall will fall to the ground. 21 God summons a sword against Gog on all mountains declares the Sovereign LORD. And every man’s sword will be against his brother. And 22 God executes HIS judgment with the plague, bloodshed, pours down torrents of rain, hailstones, burning sulfur on him and on his troops and on the many nations with him. 23 God will show HIS greatness, Holiness and make HIMSELF known in the sight of many nations and they will know that I AM the LORD God Yahweh.’ This battle involves all nations and accomplices gathered against Israel chosen to replace them through Jesus. It is final showdown of God to take over world to make it perfectly fair for all.

Footnotes:

  1. Ezekiel 38:2 Or the prince of Rosh,
  2. Ezekiel 38:3 Or Gog, prince of Rosh,
  3. Ezekiel 38:5 Upper Nile region
  4. Ezekiel 38:12 The Hebrew phrase means the navel of the earth.
  5. Ezekiel 38:13 Or her strong lions

WHY MEN LEAVE FAMILIES

Women-Do-that-Cause-Men-to-LeaveWhy does a man leave his wife and his children for another woman? An advice column in a local paper recently had a poignant letter, timed close to Father’s Day. It alluded to other several previous columns. The first consisted of letters from children whose fathers who left families for another woman. Another had been from a woman who wanted to know why her husband had sought a one-night sexual tryst with another woman and had asked how a decent, educated man who supposedly loved his wife could do such an “unspeakable” thing. I hadn’t seen previous columns but I felt the pain and bewilderment from this letter. A woman wanted to know whether men had written to tell their stories. The writer said she hoped such letters would help her understand her own abandonment. Let me as a social psychologist take a stab at trying to imagine what happens inside some of these men, to prompt them to turn to other women. I want to make very clear that none of this is designed to excuse or justify immoral acts. This is intended as an exercise in social science, not moralizing at all. Indeed, as I wrote in my book Evil: Inside Human Violence and Cruelty, if we want to understand people who do things we disapprove, it is essential to set aside disapproval and moral judgments temporarily, in order to try to see how things look to them.jacobs-coffee-dad-is-leaving-small-17876

What do we know about such men? Not much but apparently its quite common. Society condemns them without much effort to understand or accommodate them. It doesn’t help advice columns, relationship authorities, and moral discourse are dominated by women. It is hard to understand the perpetrators from the victim’s perspective. Men who leave wives and children for another partner present a difficult problem for society. Let us suspend moralizing for a moment to understand them. Possibly some of them are simply immature and irresponsible and give not a thought or care to wife and little ones left behind. More likely many of these men agonize and suffer over the loss of their family. Society has not made it easy for the men who desire more sex. Marriage demand that desires only his wife. Standing at the altar reciting her wedding vows, the bride may be utterly beautiful and sexy and desirable, and perhaps he thinks he can desire only her forever. But what happens? She ages, gains weight, maybe loses interest in sex. Research has found that most wives are satisfied with the amount of sex in their marriage, while most husbands wish for substantially more than they get. The implication is that for many men, marriage means years and years of sexual frustration.How-a-stressful-marriage-can-lead-to-depression

The man is told to respect wife’s wishes. When she does not want sex, he should not push her to engage in it. Although it sounds reasonable and decent but given well documented fact women want sex less frequently than men is condemned to countless nights of helpless wishes for sex. And that’s assuming he desires her. What is he supposed to feel when she becomes less attractive to him? We have all heard endless and sympathetic discussions about how hard it is for women to see beautiful female models depicted in the media, because ordinary women feel they cannot live up to those idealized images. What about how hard those same images are on men? How are they supposed to continue desiring only their wives when they constantly see countless images of slim, gorgeous women all around? Mandatory divorce laws pull men apart from their families. If man finds a woman for sex with him and wants to form relationship, society puts obstacles in his path. He is told he cannot marry the new woman unless he divorces his previous wife first. A wife at a time, that’s the rule: If you want a new one, you must first get rid of the previous one. There is some ambiguity as to whether the monogamy rule was designed for the benefit of men or of women, but regardless of its intent, its function is to force many men to choose between sex and family. We should not be surprised though not approve some men choose sex. Meanwhile, what’s to hold them back? It is hard personally to imagine a man who does not love his children deeply, though I suspect such men do exist. Intuitively, my powers of empathy fail to make the case of a man casually abandoning his children. But I could imagine him deciding to leave them anyway, if in grip of passionate love and sexual desire for someone other than his wife, and when he sees society requires him to leave his family in order to experience that love and sex.1297970059685_ORIGINAL

Consider how hard alternative choice must be for some men. Imagine a man whose wife long ago stopped wanting to have sex with him most of the time. And his desire for her diminished as well, as she stopped flirting with him or started nagging or simply added pounds and wrinkles with the years. He has found someone new, with whom the sex is great and the emotional connection is blossoming into love. We as a society ask him to turn his back on this promise of love and sex, out of obligation to his wife and children. He thinks he sees the opportunity to have great sex every day with the new woman (it is often thus in the beginning, and may well have been that way long ago with his wife), and we ask him to give that up forever. Some wives do not allow their husbands to watch porn or masturbate so choosing to stay with his family means giving up most or all sexual pleasure for the rest of his life. A man who gives up love and sex to remain with family might think he deserves credit and appreciation for this difficult choice and sacrifice. Sadly, he is not likely to get it in many cases. If he had an affair, he may be made to feel guilty for having it, rather than made to feel noble for electing to stay with his family in the end. I don’t know whether the men think of this when they are pondering whether to stay or leave, but surely some must expect their wives will be inducing guilt more than their lovers, for that is almost certainly what is happening right during period when he is deciding. His wife may bring up the affair in future years, and he will always have to suffer the guilt over it. Or at least he may anticipate this even if it is not true. What about fatherhood? What society, including psychology, told him about it? This is part of the tragedy. Society wants men to accept obligations of fatherhood but are not respected for doing so. In media, fathers are mostly portrayed as clueless, hapless buffoons or, occasionally, violent abusers. Social policy and social science have affirmed for decades it is perfectly fine a woman raises children without husband, father.Mommy-Dear-Esq.jpg

Possibly message was initially intended to encourage and support women who found themselves in a widow or single-parent situation, but men have all heard message fathers are unnecessary. If an honest open-minded look is taken at the social science publications on fathers, you can find plenty of support for the view there is no need to stay, children of single mothers do just fine, departed father must continue to send money. So other views here and there vary but society rushed to remove the stigma of single motherhood plenty of confident reporting of findings says fatherlessness is not a handicap if children do well too. Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying I approve of men abandoning families. Moral judgments are not implied here. The goal is to try to imagine what could prompt a man to choose to leave his family. Perhaps, then, we can begin to understand this supposedly mysterious sort of man who although “supposedly” loving his wife can desire sex with another woman and might even at some point decide to leave wife and child for her. Consider his decision options. The option of having a bit of extra sex and remaining with his family is perhaps not available to him, though might be what he most wants. Society does not approve his wife not tolerate. The law requires him to choose. I am reminded of a character in a television skit I saw as impressionable teenager. The man said marriage was harder than being in the army, because army gave him a furlough now and then. That’s all he wanted. “I will come back,” he said. I always came back from furlough.”working-mom-with-kid

On the one side, he sees sex and love. Society extols love as one of the highest good things. Sex may not enjoy quite as much official cultural prestige, but he doesn’t need culture to tell him to want sex. He already wants it from his core. The downside of this choice is that he has to leave his wife and children. But remember, he has been told over and over that they do not really need him and will be OK without him. Looking around, it seems, everybody’s doing it. On the other side, he can stay with his family. He can cling to his role of father, which society disrespects. It is a familiar life that he knows well and may or may not find pleasant. It means giving up sex for the most part, perhaps almost a de facto vow of celibacy. Certainly alliance with other woman will not endear him to his wife or made her seem sexually desirable to him. He will be reminded of his affair and made to feel guilty on future occasions. Sad to say, this choice, which the culture would prefer him to make, may appear to him as being a sucker. Again, I’m not moralizing, just trying to understand. But when you look at it from his point of view, we should perhaps not be surprised that some men opt for change. It’s worth adding that men who leave their families are often sorry later. The relationship with the new woman may follow the same pattern, with great sex and passion at first, but less over time. Perhaps the man finds himself in the same position he was in with his previous wife. He thought it would be great forever, but often things do not go that way. One can see it as stupid or tragic that he causes suffering in the pursuit of happiness but the happiness eventually eludes him again. Still, at the time he is making the choice, it is his expectation that is decisive, even if the expectation may turn out to be wrong.

Originally Published in Psychology Today by Roy Baumiers

FATHER/SON DEPRESSION

Unhappy father and sonDepresssion in fathers and mothers, has an impact on children despite mothers often of focus when treating adolescent depression, a study suggests. University College London (UCL) report looked at 14,000 families in the UK and Ireland. It said both parents had a role to play in preventing teenage depression. The researchers encouraged more fathers to seek help for depressive symptoms by speaking to their doctor. Dr Gemma Lewis from UCL, who led the study, said because mothers tended to spend more time with their children, there was often a tradition of “mother-blaming” when treating mental health issues in offspring. But she said the research showed that “we should be bringing fathers into the picture more.” Dr Lewis added: “If you’re a father who hasn’t sought treatment for your depression, it could have an impact on your child. We hope our findings could encourage men who experience depression to speak to their doctor about it.”Men should seek treatment if they are experiencing symptoms of depression, researchers said.Father hugging his son

The study is based on two large samples of the general population 6,000 families from Ireland and nearly 8,000 from the UK – in which parents and children, at the ages of seven, nine and 13-14, filled in questionnaires about their feelings. Children were asked about emotional symptoms and parents also answered questions on their feelings, which were measured against a depression scale. The results showed a link between depressive symptoms in fathers and similar symptoms in their adolescent children that was similar in size to the effect of a mother’s depression. Many mental health problems, including depression, start at about age of 13, the researchers said although depression in mothers was already known to increase the risk, influence of fathers’ wellbeing was a new finding.

‘Negative thinking’

In the home, depressive symptoms can make mothers and fathers more prone to fatigue, more irritable likely to argue with their children. “Children see the way their parents behave and act and could bring negative ways of thinking, which could lead to depression,” Dr Lewis said. The study concluded that fathers as well as mothers should be involved in tackling the problem of adolescent depression at an early stage. It highlighted the importance of treating depression in both parents.

Symptoms of depression

  • They can vary widely but often you will feel sad, hopeless and lose interest in the thing you enjoy.
  • Normally, it becomes bad enough to affect your work, social life and family relationships.
  • Psychological symptoms can include low self-esteem, no motivation and feeling tearful.
  • Physical symptoms can include changes in appetite, lack of energy and disturbed sleep.
  • Social symptoms may include avoiding contact with friends and withdrawing from social activities.

How to seek help

  • Go and see your GP if you experience symptoms of depression every day for more than two weeks.
  • Treatment usually involves a combination of self-help, talking therapies and medicines, depending on the type of depression you have.

Jo Hardy, head of parents services at charity YoungMinds, said parents often wanted to hide their own mental health problems so as not to burden children but she said it was better “to be honest, open, and give children a chance to ask questions.” “It’s important to remember that having depression does not need to stop you from being a great parent. You and your family can support your child, provide reassurance and love, and help them to do things they enjoy.

 

 

MOTHER/SON RELATIONSHIP

Mother son relationship is profound extending into lifetime adulthood and beyond into eternity. Here re some tips on how to develop and nurture healthy, strong relationship with your son! As a mother you’re always getting advice on how to raise your kids. If you have a son, you might be warned against coddling him and told to “cut the apron strings.” But what does it really mean to have a good mother-son relationship? Sure, you don’t want to be one of those moms who hovers and panics at the site of tears or a small cut, but you want your little boy to know you will always be there for him. Here are some tips on how to build and maintain a healthy, strong relationship with your son.

How Can You Build a Strong Bond?
Here are five steps you can take to develop a healthy relationship with your little boy:

  1. Teach Your Son Important Life Skills
    It’s important for you to teach your child how to grow into an independent adult. Perhaps your son can cook and clean with you every once in a while, or maybe you can help him sew the eye back onto his favorite stuffed animal. Not only will this allow you to bond in a unique way, but it will help your son gain confidence. He’ll be sure to thank you when he has to teach his college roommate how to do laundry.
  2. Spend Quality Time Together Doing the Things He Loves
    Whether your son loves to play video games, build with Legos or go bike riding, make an effort to do his favorite things together. He’ll appreciate the fact that you took an interest in his interests!
  3. Help Him Build Strong Relationships With Others
    Your son’s relationship with you will have a major impact on his relationships with all the other important people in his life. Nurture his relationship with his father, encourage friendships with boys and girls, schedule time for grandparents and older relatives and provide opportunities for mentors. Here are some tips on How to Nurture the Dad-Bond.
  4. Respect and Trust Each Other
    Your relationship with your little boy will play a major role in his emotional development. By forming a bond built upon mutual trust and respect, you can teach your son to also respect himself, as well as others.
  5. Be Human
    By being open about your mistakes and downfalls, you can reinforce the idea that no one’s perfect. This will help your son feel more comfortable in his own skin.

Can You Nurture This Relationship Over Time?
Like all mothers, you will encounter lots of trials and tribulations during your parenting journey. But by continuing to build and nurture your relationship with your son, you can handle any obstacles that come your way together. Here are four steps you should take to maintain a strong bond:

  1. Continue to Make Time to Talk One-on-One
    Be honest with your son as much as you staying age appropriate. And be sure to listen and really listen when he talks to you. It’s important that he knows he can come to you with his problems and concerns.
  2. Build Up Independence
    As your child gets older, you need to learn when to let go and allow him to take on the world on his own. Every kid needs a chance to make his own mistakes and learn life lessons.
  3. Know When to Stay Out of It
    When it comes to certain topics, like relationships, be careful that you don’t come off as overbearing. If you give too many opinions or unwanted advice, you risk the possibility that your son will feel the urge to rebel against you. But if he comes to you in this situation, be sure to be as tactful as possible. Try to remember that anyone your son cares for must have some redeeming qualities, and it’s your job to try to see the good he sees in his significant other.
  4. Avoid Battle of Wills (Especially During the Teenage Years)
    There’s no one more hardheaded than a teenage boy who’s determined to have his way. But that doesn’t mean you should let your son walk all over you. Just do your best to avoid getting into arguments or yelling matches, as they are never the best solution. Instead, try to have levelheaded conversations in which each person listens to the other’s point of view. Lay out why and how you came to a decision that may have upset him, but feel confident that you made the right call. With a balance of freedom, boundaries, rules and independence, you’ll show your son that you care for his safety but respect his ability to make some decisions for himself.

Do you have more tips on how to foster a healthy mother-son relationship? Tell us in the comments below!

Kit Arbuckle writes for numerous publications specializing on topics such as parenting, health and education. She has two teenage sons that inspire her every day.

PLANET X WAVES ON EARTH

b64beea69243108f538bb2b987ac9755.gifHigh waves on the earth are happening all over the world in extreme situations beyond expectations. The strong radiation changes seawaves to high waves from built-up sea energy. The rate of rampart waves are so many people feel some cities will be drowned by them. Global warming affects the tidal waves still debated so the frontiers in Marine Science launched new section on changing Physical Oceanography to show undercurrent changing patterns in modern times. Combined with plenty of available information data from the climatology records rapid changes must be noted by those living in coastal areas. Planetary magnetic tidal impacts core of earth causing volcanoes, tsunamis and high waves. These waves of destruction are being forecast to rip through some mainlands globally, killing millions of people yet governments doing nothing about it as a documentary has claimed. Manmade efforts trying to curb, prevent or stop global warming seems to do the opposite. Flash floods in some places is now more common than ever before with damaging effects of earthquakes. Furthermore, fracking, aluminium and other toxic chemicals being pumped into atmosphere damage ozone layer of earth. The green house effect is causing acid rain back in soil seeping in oceans repeating the cycle.wave-crash-cinemagraph.gif

The UN is warning that we are now on course for 3C of global warming. This will ultimately redraw the map of the world. UN climate negotiators met for summit talks this month on new figure on data available. Until now, global efforts such as the Paris climate agreement have tried to limit global warming to 2C above pre-industrial levels. However, with latest projections pointing to an increase of 3.2C by 2100, these goals seem to be slipping out of reach. The situation is most people love the sea and are drawn to live as close by as possible. Surfers do wonders by courageous daring displays which attract more people in search of adventure. It is good to enjoy life, have fun but equally important to educate people about imminent risks involved. These rapid changes require decisions to do enough to save precious hundreds of millions of people from a miserable future,” said Erik Solheim, the UN environment chief, ahead of upcoming Bonn conference. The biggest resulting threats to cities around the world is sea-level rise, caused by expansion of water at higher temperatures and melting ice sheets on the north and the south poles. Scientists at the non-profit organisation Climate Central estimate 275 million people worldwide live in areas that will be flooded at 3C of global warming.a-musician-just-played-the-violin-while-surfing-mile-high-waves-in-portugal

Asian cities worst affected

The regional impact of these changes is highly uneven, with 4 out of 5 people affected living in Asia. Although the sea levels will not rise instantaneously, the calculated increases will be “locked in” at a temperature rise of 3C, meaning it will be irreversible though warming eventually slows down. In Osaka, Japan 5.2 million people affected At the end of a month battered by unseasonably late typhoons and relentless rain, Japan is already confronting the threat posed by climate change-induced flooding. Data recorded by meteorological department shows swaths of Osaka the commercial heart of a region whose GDP is almost as big as that of the Netherlands would disappear beneath water in a 3C world, threatening local economy and almost 1/3 wider region’s 19 million residents. Millions of people live in the urban area surrounding Osaka. A sea-level rise will reshape densely and sparsely populated areas. As a result of global sea-level rise, storm surges, other factors, economists project that coastal flooding could put almost $1tn of Osaka’s assets at risk by the 2070s, according to the Union of Concerned Scientists.article-0-07838117000005DC-359_964x592

The costs of protecting cities from rising sea levels and storms are likely to rise so is costs of repairing storm damage,” it said. “Decisions made today can have a profound impact on security, culture and lives of people of this ancient city. Like much of Japan, Osaka has network of seawalls and other coastal defences in place to combat tsunami although their effectiveness disputed in the aftermath of the 2011 triple disasters. Osaka city authorities are investing in other infrastructure to mitigate effects of flooding, but public education is vital, according to Toshikazu Nakaaki, Osaka municipal government environmental bureau. Past response was focused on reducing causes of global warming, but given that climate change is inevitable, according to Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC), discussions turned to how to respond to the natural disasters that will follow,” Nakaaki said. Like other major coastal city areas it is anticipated Osaka will be affected by natural disasters caused by the climate change. So needs to establish exactly what might happen in advance to help prepare adequate tools for survival and how much financial damage it causes.Tsunami_(19)

The expected sea levels rising is a point worth noting now rather than in the future as seas are already rising. Keiko Kanai is aware that her home city is susceptible to natural disasters. She heard historically, tsunamis caused by earthquakes put many parts of Osaka underwater and knows some parts of the world are at risk too from rising sea levels,” said Kanai, who teaches at local university. But didn’t put two and two together until now did not give much thought to the idea Osaka too could be engulfed by rising sea levels. Kaori Akazawa, a nursing care consultant, said flooding was a consideration when she was deciding where in Osaka to live. When she moved there she talked to her colleagues about risks, she said. That is why shr always rented apartments on the fourth storey or higher. Alhough it is worrying, never considerd moving. In Alexandria, Egypt 3 million people are affected. On the Alexandria Corniche, waves slowly lap at a shoreline dotted with plastic chairs and umbrellas from beachside cafes. Students perch on steps of imposing Alexandria library. Its the same coastline that draws locals to its scenic vistas threatening to slowly engulf historic city as sea levels rises. 847-waspadai_perairan_babel_hujan_petir_dan_gelombang_tinggi-696x341

The IPCC reported that Alexandria’s beaches would be submerged with a 0.5-metre sea-level rise, while 8 million people would be displaced by flooding in Alexandria and the Nile Delta if no protective measures are taken. A 3C world threatens far greater damage than that. Yet for many residents, there is little public information to connect the increasingly chaotic weather and floods with climate change. The vast majority of Alexandrians do not have access to knowledge so quite worrying. Experts say governments must raise awareness of problems not wait until it too late as already happening, said 22-year-old student Kareem Mohammed. It is necessary to train people to prepare in advance for high waves damaging a city impacted by storm surges. Some do not realise urgency of such impending disasters so everyone thinks we should act on this problem 50 or 80 years from now, agreed his friend, Hazem Hassan, a student in marine biology at a nearby Alexandria University. FANTASY_Moses_Ocean_Freeway Officials maintain protective measures are being taken as Egypt spends 700m EGP [£30m] annually to protect north coast,” said Dr Magdy Allam, head of Arab Environmental Experts Union and was part of the Egyptian environment ministry. So miracles are needed to save humanity from drowning by highwaves towering over cities breaching walls too small to contain such pressures. Allam cited Mohammed Ali sea wall, built in 1830 as key protection as well as the concrete blocks lining the shoreline designed to detour flood water away from residential neighbourhoods. But critics say this is far from enough given the large-scale high wave problems. So studies indicating the city, one of many coastal human settlements around the world will be partially submerged by 2070 if nothing is done,” said Ahmed Hassan, of Save Alexandria Initiative, a group that works to raise awareness of the effects of climate change on the city.2DDC00D000000578-3294639-Photos_of_yesterday_s_remarkable_attempts_to_surf_Atlantic_swell-a-4_1446107336034

Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

1.8 million people affected as residents of Brazil’s postcard city with plenty of reasons to fear global warming even if they do not quite know it. According to Climate Central temperature rise of 3C would cause flooding of not just Rio’s famous beaches such as Copacabana and its waterfront domestic airport, but also inland areas of the Barra de Tijuca neighbourhood, where that last year’s Olympic Games were held. Barra is built around a network of heavily polluted lagoons that empty into the sea. The prospect of it being underwater alarms resident Sueli Gonçalves, 46, who runs pensioners’ health projects, with a 23-year-old son Yuri Sanchez carrying the shopping past Olympic Park. “My God. Oh Jesus,” she said, with nervous laugh  will leave there, go to United States, To Canada.” The family knew about global warming but unaware of potential scale of impact on upscale neighbourhood of smart condominiums and the shopping mall. She said, Nobody takes it seriously people do not think longterm. The storm surges recently destroyed hundreds of metre’s beautiful beachfront pavement overlooking Macumba beach, a popular surfing spot on Rio’s western fringes. Last year, heavy waves in other storm surges felled an elevated, clifftop cycle path between Leblon beach and Barra de Tijuca which had not been built to survive high seas, killing two people.Tidal-wave-Tsunami-Spain-portugal-796446

So last year, Rio’s city government and the Federal University of Rio de Janeiro produced a study entitled Strategy for Adapting to Climate Change. Current challenge consist of the need to deepen knowledge and monitoring of oceanic phenomena and the evolution of the sea bed and coast,” a spokeswoman for the city’s secretariat of the environment said in an email. An “adaption plan” for climate change produced with the help of professors from federal university suggests strategies to deal with needs and vulnerabilities in areas such as transport, health and housing. But so far little has been done. Nara Pinto, 38, who lives in the sprawling Rocinha favela and sells snacks on the pavement overlooking Copacabana beach, said the loss of Rio’s famous beaches would cost a lot of jobs. “The beach is tourist point,” she said. What can be done to stop this?U414P886T1D12824F12DT20120416143632

Shanghai, China

17.5 million people affected if Shanghai is completely gone some think they will move to Tibet!” says the resident Wang Liubin, when he is shown projections for the city after 3C of global warming. When it comes to flooding coastal city is one of the world’s most vulnerable. As one of the world’s biggest ports, former fishing village is bordered by Yangtze river in the north and divided through the middle by the Huangpu river; the municipality involves several islands, two long coastlines, shipping ports, and miles of canals, rivers, and waterways. In 2012, a report from a team of UK and Dutch scientists declared Shanghai the most vulnerable major city in the world to serious flooding, based on the factors such as numbers of people living close to the coastline, time needed to recover from flooding, and measures to prevent floodwater. According to those Climate Central projections, 17.5 million people could be displaced by rising waters if the global temperatures increase by 3C. Projections show a vast majority of city could be submerged in water, including much of the downtown area, landmarks such as Lujiazui skyline and historical Bund, airports and outlying Chongming Island. Since 2012, the government has been making steady inroads to tackle the threat, including building China’s largest deepwater drainage system beneath Suzhou Creek waterway, made up of 15km of pipes to drain rainwater across a 58 sq km area. It has rolled out 40bn yuan (£5bn) River Flood Discharge project stretching for 120km between Lake Taihu and the Huangpu river to try to mitigate the risk of upstream lake flooding. Flood prevention walls are being built along waterfront in places so high the river is blocked from view and 200km more are promised across city’s outlying districts. Flood controls are put in place along famous Bund waterfront, where walkway was raised to help counter flood risk, as well as a series of water controls and dams.b4adfbf40ebb52097fa252ab0eead7c4c38bb9536dc408b439e85280e8b4d467ce67cc4064d7e525c51d2c39fd68607b40ddd90a6bb5b6bf6a234408756de1af (1)Ingeniero afirma que Harvey e Irma fueron creados por el hombreat195403

Miami, US

2.7 million people are affected but few other cities in the world have as much go lose from rising sea levels as Miami, and the alarm bells sound ever louder with each successive the king tide that overwhelms coastal defences and sends knee-deep seawater coursing through downtown streets. Locals consider this the “new normal” if the biggest city of Florida’s largest metropolitan area is to cease to exist with 3C temperature rise. At 2C, forecasts show the entire bottom third of Florida area south of the Lake Okeechobee currently home to more than 7 million people submerged, with grim projections for the rest of the state in a little more than half a century. In Miami-Dade county alone, almost $15bn of coastal property at risk of flooding in the next 15 years. A sense of urgency is evident at city hall as commissioners are asking voters to approve a Miami Forever Bond in the November ballot including $192m for upgrading pump stations, improving drainage to raising sea walls. As a really precious city many people love it willing to invest right now but it is going to take lots of more funds to protect it,” said Ken Russell, the city commission’s vice-chair. Last year, the city of Miami appointed sea-rise expert Jane Gilbert in newly created role chief resilience officer with instructions for a robust stormwater management plan to look at storm surge like Hurricane Irma in September which brought significant flooding to downtown Brickell and the neighbouring Coconut GroveProposals include elevating roads or abandoning neighbourhoods to the water to protect others. Needs universal recognition all in this together, to protect this amazing global city that it has become,” she said. Natalia Ortiz, grew up in Miami, fears the future as its very scary,” said Ortiz, who works with Cleo, a climate change advocacy group. Says son is 11 daughter nine, so they’re young but thinks about their future, will they be able to raise their children in Miami the way had the luxury of raising mine?” San-Andreas-Faultmaxresdefault

California and Canada

California is said to be awaiting ‘big one’ caused by the stress faultline increasing earthquakes and subsequent tsunamis. Since September 2017, CALIFORNIA has been rocked by 28 earthquakes in just 24 hours, sparking fears “big one” could roar any moment soon.  Big One WILL hit California soon as huge earthquake rattles Mexico scientist said. California could be in for a huge earthquake as a scientists warns potentially catastrophic San Andreas fault could be about to rupture following the deadly tremors in Mexico. In days following the powerful 7.1 quake in Mexico City which killed more than 200 people warnings are being issued to prepare survival kits of food and water and be alert daily while going about normal business. California is preparing for next big earthquake as a leading Los Angeles News reported on ‘The Big One’ 03:43 (CNN) Channel, 30th September 2017. The scene is terrifying as entire sections of a Mexico crumbled so people are being warned to get ready for any changes that will take place. San Andreas Fault in California stretching in continental fault extends roughly 1,200 kilometers through California. It forms tectonic boundary between Pacific Plate and North American Plate and motion is right-lateral strike-slip. Its Length:1,200 km (750 miles) with Cities:San Francisco affected among others.CnOyfD6VUAA_v9K

In 2000, living in landlocked region with no sea whatsoever I was completely surrounded by the high sea waves yet not drowned in a dream. It was before popular internet data readily available or current events recorded on tsunamis so the dream bothered me. I went to an environmental lecture the next day and the lecturer’s topic was on exactly what I saw in the dream. He showed us maps and gave notes on the rising sea levels and the earthquakes happening. I did not mention my dream to anyone just was amazed at the information given. The lecture said it was all happening so continues to happen. He gave namelist of same cities and many more in lecture notes that will be submerged if nothing is done about them advance. It sent a chill down my spine as I pondered over those lecture notes. I recalled my dream and felt spirit of heaviness crying tears over the details. I mentioned to some people affected if possible to move or do something about it to help others. On the whole not long after dream so many cities shared on TV high wave disasters we were taught about. The lecturer said he had friends who owned tourist travel businesses in some of those places so was also deeply concerned. Then other places like Louisiana, the Philippines, Japan among other started experiencing the highwaves. In addition, tidal Sun and moon magnetic waves compound a sea warmed up to produce huge waves. As Fatima predicted in 1917 tsunamis to be shared in 1962, it was sealed and was never made public so many perished. In Isaiah 52:7 God’s word says beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of one who brings good news to publish peace bringing good news of happiness and publishes salvation saying to Zion, Your God reigns. In same way God extends HIS Mercy and grace by delaying these disasters so people can hear the Gospel before it is too late. As Moses and Israel faced red sea and were miraculously saved and delivered from danger so God is able to save those crying unto Him to save humanity once again. With God all things are possible ask for God’s miraculous protection and deliverance. Jesus calmed storm at sea so call Jesus to help and be kind to yourself listening to instructions on the weather forecasts. Take action in advance to preserve lives in Jesus Name because God is able.moses-parting-red-sea-prince-of-egypt

This happenings sadly are part of end time judgements of WRATH of God and Wrath of Christ. Humanity is given a choice to change behaviour patterns since invention of electricity damage to earth increased. From planes throwing nuclear bombs to chem trails or missiles there comes a point God wants earth to be restored from destructions. People are unwilling to accept change or live simple lives that does not destroy earth with plastic wastes, damaging flora and fauna.  Toxic chemical destroy nature, organic plants and human lives now suffering from previously unheard of diseases. God decided enough is enough so sending Nibiru wormwood to cause havoc to shake earth. God waited 6,000 years patiently by hoping all mankind would come their senses by their own choice to submit to God. Although It is true billions love God and devoted to HIM transition is taking place by God wanting to restore HIS earth to original perfection again. The great Tribulation cataclysmic events are beggining to unfold and sadly it gets worse before it gets better. If you are reading this article make sure you are in God’s Kingdom by accepting His Son. This is the condition God gives for HIS salvation plan through Jesus to endure ETERNAL life. After Rapture things get even worse than happening now and one does not want to be left behind in Jesus Name. Afterwards the new earth will be brought into existence replacing the old destroyed planet. This is in the Bible orchestrated by the creator of the universe to take back HIS property. In the past God destroyed people by flood waters in Noah’s days and fire, Sodom and Gomorrah. Jesus said as it was in days of Noah, Sodom and Gomorrah so will it be until Son of man Jesus returns to take back power to rule and Reign as KING of Kings on earth in Israel.

Courtesy and Data Information

Flood maps created using sea level rise estimates from the Climate Central and digital elevation data. These population estimates refer to urban agglomerations comprising built-up area of a city and the suburbs linked with it. Data comes from maps including OpenStreetMap data. The Temperature projections are based on the University of Washington emissions modelling and UN warming estimates. Trajectories have been updated to match the latest temperatures as recorded by the Met Office Hadley Centre.

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