Briggs recollected in her landmark 1971 book “Never in Anger,” about how calm and collected everyone was jarcontrast that created against her own unruly emotions. Even when some truly rage-worthy things happened like a teapot falling and smashing against floor the Inuit never betrayed a hint of anger. An “Emotional control is highly valued among Eskimos,” she wrote in the book. Indeed, maintenance of emotions under trying circumstances is essential sign of maturity, of adulthood.” Why so calm, she wondered? And more importantly, how can the rest of us get there? For the answer, Briggs looked to how children responded in difficult circumstances appeared to be something they learned from their parents. An simple parenting technique of Inuit is “Never scold child.” It became clear to Briggs when a young boy threw rock at her, related in a CBC interview, she didn’t berate him angrily, rather told him calmly it hurt. Instead of rage she told him real consequences of his actions caused her pain. Decades later, the writer Michaeleen Doucleff followed in Briggs’ footsteps in visiting Iqaluit, Canada, “in search of parenting wisdom. Said that teaching children to control their emotions is very important she writes in NPR. Doucleff found that a common strand among Inuit parents is: Across the board all mothers mentioned One Golden Rule: Don’t shout or yell at small children.”Among Inuit Arctic community Doucleff found the people practiced the theory that screaming at a child only teaches the child to scream. It is a vicious circle, the University of Pittsburgh researcher Ming-Te Wang noted in a 2013 study. “It is tough call for parents because it goes both ways: the problem behaviours of children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline. That harsh discipline may push adolescents toward the same problem behaviours.” The Inuit society seems to have learned lessons long ago, and managed to break the cycle. And so “Traditional Inuit parenting incredibly is nurturing, gentle, tender,” as Doucleff writes. “If you took all parenting styles around the world and ranked them by their gentleness, Inuit approach would likely rank near the top.” What kind of children does that society produce? The kind who live harmoniously in world’s harshest climates often with threadbare resources. Survival hinges on making the most efficient use of natural world yet group still manages to be at peace with itself and with others. Maybe that’s because it’s also the kind of society that teaches kindness above all else. Jesus said do not let the sun radiate or set on your anger. Let it go for peace of mind.
Children are for signs and wonders from God to Glorify God and to help in society. Families need to understand Jesus loves and values all children in all nations. Children are the gifted assets to parents and women do what is beyond comprehension as childbearers. Women are absolutely celebrated as co-creators with God contributing to life cycle and replenish earth. Fulfil God’s command to mulitiply and bear fruit from seed of man and egg of woman is the gift of life. Adults love their children and children love their parents. God’s word says train and teach children Godly values of love, selfrespect, good manners and etiquette for appropriate interaction with others. The value of life is priceless and preserved with dignity even if differences exists by diversity or perspectives. Children are precious to God, Jesus loves little children allowed in His company with their parents and in meetings to learn about God. This is priority in life highly endorsed by God for salvation in the Kingdom of God. Simeon dedicated Jesus to God in the Temple and blessed Him. Simeon said to Mary His mother, “Behold, this Child is appointed for a fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign about a sword piercing Mary’s soul. Hidden thoughts from many hearts will be revealed in Luke 2:34-35. Jesus brings changes to all who accept Him. Simeon’s prophesy is Jesus will be “a light for revelation to the Gentiles, and for GLORY to God’s people Israel in Luke 2:32. Jesus brings ruin in Israel of people like Simeon who worship in the Temple destroyed. Mary is told of literal piercing of her soul due suffering and pain of Jesus she endures. John wrote of the piercing of Jesus’ side after His death in prophesy fulfillment. So emotional turmoil Mary experienced are all treasured things pondering them in her heart in Luke 2:19, 50-51. Messiah Jesus arrived as Simeon was waiting all his life to see the “consolation of Israel.”Jesus in the Temple during the Passover impressed the learned Synagogue and priests while doing the business of His Father God. But has created upheavals disturbing people in Israel, including mother of Messiah. Her pain is thought losing Jesus unmarried, compassionate son executed for the crimes He did not commit in His life brings Mary pain. A mother to all and His brothers standing outside desiring to see Him, answered, “My mother and my brothers are those who hear the word of God and do in Luke 8:19-21. Simeon’s prophesy comforts her like all mothers who embrace all children as their own. Jesus is a child destined for the fall and rise of many in Israel and a sign so that thoughts of many hearts are revealed.” Peter denied Jesus three times as Judas betrayed him, Pharaseees, Saduccees lied about Him and, people healed and helped voted crucify Him. These are the some thoughts of many hearts revealed.Today’s society needs to build a sound foundation from an early childhood like Jesus to grow and apply good values. A child without sound foundation in God is at the mercy of any man-made ideas that do cannot fulfill the void reserved exclusively to be filled only by God. The strong bond created in child connects to God and great reward to bless the child. Father God is the patent owner creator of humans with privileged access in the hearts and minds of children. They are never too young to understand agape LOVE of God for them at any level. The Sunday schools and school assemblies are essential for nurturing their spirit and minds in God in Christ if Christians. Placing emphasis on only the academic achievement at an expense of wellbeing lacks growth and the deeper hope for a meaningful life. Focus on only aesthetic external physical appearance or looks, price tag designer labels and superficial ideas deprive them of inner peace and inner strength in God. Some think they are worth the price tag, under pressure to be the first to be seen in those latest most expensive clothing. And gadgets to show off to get ‘street credit respect’ is the cause of competition to impress. A child worries more about external label than contents of character and effects of behaviour on others. Playing games are other sources of addiction they resort so buy the series to play without focussing more on academic excellence. These are some of the challenges facing a society desperate to create the perfect utopia of an academic achievement league table. Children are stressed in the class system society which thinks some are of higher value so deserve better treatment than others deprived. Children bear brunt of doing without a proper meal or sleep to their detriment. Peering children early to socialise them creates us versus them postcode society with a lack of trust for adults separated from them. Parents are too busy chasing money to provide for children often emotionally and socially retarded. Such explosive children feel a right of entitlement without a common sense of the due diligence and care for other people. They are not allowed to be corrected by parents so grow up with an attitude of disregard for Authority and the significant others in charge of them. Some feel like victims despite the privilege compared to other children all over the world. And permanently angry, ungrateful and unthankful to the parents who sacrifice time, effort and resources to make their lives better than previous generations. So never content want more and more even if they have abundance beyond an average child globally. Not allowed to be part of family work ethic are made lazy by addiction to games or substance abuse to numb their perceived pains of life. Unrealistic demands to be perfect to fit in with friends causes damage to children growing mimicking adults yet without adult maturity and experience. Jesus warned about these behaviours during the last days of unruly children out of control and a menace to society. There is need for rewriting foundation for early years to develop children like Finland to nurture and to protect them from vultures of society. Each time the children hurt each other or the others, accusing fingers are pointed at them without recognising the root of these problems created by society. Parents are treated as lazy for spending quality time with their children. Schools are so understaffed short of budgets education has become position on league table. So naming and shaming them than proper training to prepare children to become self-sufficient to have good success in life. Education, academic performance is only 20% of life so the rest 80% must be taught to prepare people to cope. It’s deception to make education end in life because of billions of educated people unemployed, exist on debt in the world. Their miseducations deprives children of practical survival skills and essential spatial knowledge. It frustrates young people without ability to farm, garden, do practical hands on life work due to misconception that is a blue collar job beneath them. Older generations piggy back them for life to help them make it but unaware of sacrifices involves and unwilling to support them in old age. So feel too sophisticated to live within their budget to give back to parents seen as a nuisance to their luxury pleasures of life. Honour parents and adults to bring blessings and so it is well with you to live long. A wise person receives good advise to be a wiser person in life but the Bible says the fool gets angry and hates you for advising them. Be kind in all you do towards others because it is seeds sown God sends back to you years later when you do not remember those past years. Life is beautiful and simple to understand because God creates all things beautiful in HIS OWN time. You came individual in this world and will face God alone to give an account of yourself no matter who is backing you in life. The ideas children have must be guided with patience to educate them about the real world. Their perspective may seem superficial but with support and guidance helped to develop better as audacious, bold, confident, resilient people with good success. Some want good things of life not understanding the years behind the scenes preparing through hard work. The end result seen is after years of toiling, sacrifices and sweat. It is necessary to teach children value for time, value for life to be who they truly are with humility, selfrespect without ego attitude problems. Children need incredible encouragement of hope.Children are part of a bigger society that expects the best from them. Investment of quality time spent with their family is essential to bond with them. Above all is to teach them to love themselves first, to have agape love for all others. Kindness, Mercy is far better than cruelty, anger and hatred which destroys person. The society’s excuse is to blame government for lack of funds for youth centres but a need exists to talk to children at home as individuals too. They need their love and support that makes them trust their family more than naive friends. God is LOVE so Spirit of God’s LOVE POWER in you enables you to help children to feel loved and part of society. Abandoned by the system many rely on themselves to make wrong choices and decisions. The fact that they are clothed, fed, have own bedroom, latest gadgets is not enough to meet their emotional needs of peace, joy acceptance if adults too busy to interact one to one with them daily. There is no excuse for not helping them young and consistently with their hobbies at home, music, piano lessons. Parents can afford other things but complain of inability to invest in future of their own children. It is time redesign educational foundation to include interests of children not force them to study subjects they hate. Most are under stress or pressure to perform take their anger on others. Society plays part in responsibility for how they turn up as adults.
Moses saw a burning bush that did not burn the trees. God tells Moses to take shoes off on Holy ground. After God appeared to Moses in the burning bush HE told him to return to Egypt to rescue Israelite slaves because their cries came up to God. Moses said to God, if they ask for a name of God of fathers what should I tell them?” God said tell them, “I AM WHO I AM.
Exodus 4:3-4. God instructs Moses to go to the king of Egypt for Israel freedom. Moses said, “What if they do not believe the LORD appeared to me God performs two miracles with Moses’ staff and hand
The LORD said to Moses, Stretch your hand and grap it by tail so he stretched his hand and caught it and it became a staff in his hand.
The LORD said to him put your hand into your bosom.” So he put his hand into his bosom, and when he took it out, his hand was leprous like snow and the hand leprous back to original form. The Lord told Moses to turn water from the river into blood as a sign.
Then He said, “Put your hand into your bosom again.” So he put his hand into his bosom again, and when he took it out of his bosom, behold, it was restored like the rest of his flesh. LORD I am not a good speaker or eloquent I am slow of speech. God reassured Moses HE gave humans their mouths, ears to hear and gives sight to blind? The Lord said send Aaron to help you.
“But if they will not believe even these two signs or heed what you say, then you shall take some water from the Nile and pour it on the dry ground; and the water which you take from the Nile will become blood on the dry ground.
Moses and Aaron came to Pharaoh, and did as the LORD commanded. So Aaron threw his staff down before Pharaoh and his servants and it turned into a snake. These signs were not enough for Pharaoh. “
So Moses and Aaron did even as the LORD had commanded. He lifted up the staff and struck the water in the Nile, in the sight of Pharaoh and his servants, and water in the Nile turned to blood.
So Aaron stretched out his hand over the waters of Egypt, and the frogs came up and covered the land of Egypt.
The LORD did according to the word of Moses, and the frogs died out of the houses, the courts, and the fields.
They did so as Aaron stretched his hand with his staff, and struck the dust of the earth, and there were gnats on man and beast. All the dust of earth became gnats through all the land of Egypt.
“For if you do not let My people go, behold, I will send swarms of flies on you and on your servants and on your people and into your houses; and the houses of the Egyptians will be full of swarms of flies, and also the ground on which they dwell. “But on that day I will set apart the land of Goshen, where My people are living, so no swarms of flies will be there, in order that you may know that I, the LORD, am in the midst of the land. “I will put division between My people and your people tomorrow this sign will occur.
The LORD did as Moses asked, and removed the swarms of flies from Pharaoh, from his servants and from his people; not one remained.
The hand of the LORD will come with a severe pestilence on your livestock in the field, on horses, on donkeys, on the camels, on herds, and on flocks. “But the LORD will make a distinction between the livestock of Israel and livestock of Egypt, so nothing will die that belongs to the sons of Israel.” The LORD set a definite time, saying, “Tomorrow the LORD will do this things in the land.”
So they took soot from a kiln, and stood before Pharaoh; and Moses threw it toward the sky, and it became boils breaking out with sores on man and beast. The magicians could not stand before Moses because of the boils, for the boils were on the magicians as well as on all the Egyptians.
Moses stretched his staff toward the sky and the LORD sent thunder, hail, and fire ran down to the earth. And the LORD rained hail on the land of Egypt.
Moses went out of city from Pharaoh, and spread out his hands to the LORD; and the thunder and the hail ceased, and rain no longer poured on the earth.
So Moses stretched out his staff over the land of Egypt, and the LORD directed an east wind on the land all that day and all that night; and when it was morning, the east wind brought the locusts.
The LORD shifted the wind to a strong west wind which took the locusts and drove them into the Red Sea; not one locust was left in all territory of Egypt.
So Moses stretched out his hand toward the sky, and there was thick darkness in all the land of Egypt for three days.
Now it came about at midnight that the LORD struck all the firstborn in the land of Egypt, from the firstborn of Pharaoh who sat on his throne to the firstborn of the captive who was in the dungeon, and all the firstborn of cattle.
Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea; and the LORD swept the sea back by a strong east wind all night and turned the sea into dry land, so the waters were divided. The sons of Israel went through midst of the sea on dry land, and the waters like a wall to them on their right hand and on their left..
The LORD said to Moses, “Stretch your hand over the sea for waters to come back over Egyptians, their chariots and horsemen. Moses stretched his hand over the sea to return to normal state at daybreak. While Egyptians were in the sea the LORD overthrew Egyptians in the midst of the sea. The water returned and covered their chariots, horsemen, Pharaoh’s entire army in the sea after Jews so not even one of them remained.
Then he cried out to the LORD, and the LORD showed him a tree; and he threw it into the waters, and the waters became sweet There He made for them a statute and regulation, and there He tested them.
“Behold, I will stand before you there on the rock at Horeb; and you shall strike the rock, and water will come out of it, that the people may drink.” And Moses did so in the sight of the elders of Israel.
So it came about when Moses held his hand up, that Israel prevailed, and when he let his hand down, Amalek prevailed. But Moses’ hands were heavy. Then they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it; and Aaron and Hur supported his hands, one on one side and one on the other. Thus his hands were steady until the sun set. So Joshua overwhelmed Amalek and his people with the edge of the sword.
Moses said, “By this you shall know that the LORD has sent me to do all these deeds; for this is not my doing. “If these men die the death of all men or if they suffer the fate of all men, then the LORD has not sent me. “But if the LORD brings about an entirely new thing and the ground opens its mouth and swallows them up with all that is theirs, and they descend alive into Sheol, then you will understand that these men have spurned the LORD.
Exodus 20:1-26 On the third day, Moses received 10 Commandments on Mt Sinai near where God appeared to Moses in the burning bush.
Then Moses lifted up his hand and struck the rock twice with his rod; and water came forth abundantly, and the congregation and their beasts drank.
Then the LORD said to Moses, “Make a fiery serpent, and set it on a standard; and it shall come about, that everyone who is bitten, when he looks at it, he will live.” Moses made a bronze serpent and set it on the standard; and it came about if a serpent bit any man, when he looked to the bronze serpent, he lived.Exodus is the living history documented as shown in the above timeline of Israel from ancient history. The Jews lived in Cannaanland since the time of Abraham and migrated to Egypt during the severe famines that took place. Joseph brought his father Jacob, siblings and families to Egypt to settle in Goshen in Egypt. The Jews multiplied so rapidly despite their Egyptian Midwives warned to kill male children. The loyal Midwives preserved babies so rewarded with houses. Just as baby Moses escaped death of killing of the infants of Jews so Jesus escaped to Egypt as a baby from Herod. Moses was chosen and preserved by God to save the Jews in Egypt. The book of Micaiah in Bible says Moses will return to earth to join Elijah as two Witnesses to preach during endtimes. Together will help to repeat similar miracles again and more, then raised from death on the third day and taken to heaven alive. The miracles of Moses changing water of Nile river to blood is a symbolic link between Moses and Jesus. Moses is first saviour of Jew’s escape from Egypt as Jesus the Spiritual Saviour of all people. Moses and Jesus grew up in Egypt and will return to save people during endtime on earth. Bible in Deuteronomy 34:5-8 says Moses the servant of the LORD died in the land of Moab as Word of the LORD said 6 God buried him in the valley in the land of Moab beside Beth-peor, no man knows where he is buried to this day.7 Moses was 120 years old when he died. But his eyes were not weak and his strength had not left him. 8 The children of Israel cried for Moses in the valley of Moab for thirty days. Then days of crying and sorrow for Moses came to an end. And in Joshua 1:1-2 Bible says, 1 “After death of Moses Servant of the LORD the LORD spoke to Joshua the son of Nun, Moses’ minister, saying, 2 Moses MY servant is dead arise, go over Jordan with all this people to the land I gave to children of Israel. Moses died but his Spirit lived on so met Jesus and Elijah on the Mountain of transfiguration recognised by Peter, James and John. God confirms Jesus as His Beloved Son so listen and hear Him.
On the mountain in Matthew 17:2 Jesus was transfigured before Moses, Elijah, Peter, James and John. Jesus’ face then became shining as the sun, his garments white as light.” Transfiguration in front of the prophets Elijah and Moses, who appeared before Jesus confirms many interactions between heaven and earth as happens often. Jesus begins to talk to them and God affirms Jesus once again that Jesus is His Son and True Messiah. Peter wanted to built three tents for them to stay longer on the mountain top but was a preview of Jesus’ resurrection so not necessary. Moses and Elijah will return alive to earth as two witnesess in endtime evangelism to lead countless multitudes from all nations, tribes and languages to Christ to be saved in the name of Jesus. Later all will appear in heaven carrying branches before the Throne of God. Afterwards return with God to dwell eternally on a new perfect earth in New Jerusalem in Israel ruled by Jesus Christ.
Faith does the works of God in practical ways by applying theology to help others. And Jesus said whoever feeds or gives a coat, provides shelter or gives drink to the least in His Name is a sheep in His Kingdom. Faith in action works if the gospel preached with loving care to the people. Some think doing works of God earns ‘salvation’ some believers do not show kindness, compassion for fear of displeasing God become Scrooge. Justify lack of compassion by excuse is “works” but is this thinking correct? God commands farmers to leave edges of harvest for the poor and travellers to collect and eat for free. Other people help by donating to charity for good causes. But debate comes up because generosity to the stranger or others seen as lazy parasite. Some use excuse of sponsoring bad habit substance abuse, addiction to alcohol or drugs as reasons not to give. Situations of the homeless approaching others for help is considered an offence to beg so most turn to other ways to get funds but risk their lives. Many people refuse to give them support except to help themselves. In Bible on numerous occasions Jesus preached and taught the multitudes, He fed them. As gap widens between rich and the poor qualified but unemployed without wages on the zero hour contract life is difficult for them. Some are trained as back up emergency stand by staff to fill in for absent staff on vacation, sick or on maternity leave. Tied to company, cannot seek other jobs in the interim, with bills to pay and rent arrears while employers raise their own salaries and bonuses. So the question is how to reach out to help others without judging them. This debate between faith as God works of salvation and salvation based on faith alone exists for centuries.The Bible speaks volumes on this topic of salvation good works. Interpretation or proper understanding these passages is vital to our relationship with the Lord and relationship with others. Search for answers to this question in God’s Word says “Know, O foolish man faith without works is dead. Abraham our father was justified by faith works when he offered Isaac his son on the altar. So faith works together with GOD WORKS by works so faith is made perfect. A man is justified by works not by faith only says James 2:20, 22, 24.” Passage in James 2 proves faith alone is not good enough; we must demonstrate good works of salvation. It seems James is not teaching as Paul said salvation of faith alone in Romans 5:1. Time and time again, Paul says works cannot save but faith is knowing Lord Jesus as our Saviour. “For by Grace you are saved through faith not yourselves; so the GIFT of God not by works so none should boast in Ephesians 2:8-9.” James 2 in full context, is not telling us to earn salvation but confirms that good works helps prove we are really true believers. “Faith by itself works is dead. Show me faith without works and I will show you faith by works in James 2:17-18.” When we accept Christ as our Saviour, there is immediate change. A sinner is immediately forgiven, washed clean of sin and restored to a right relationship with the Lord. No fear of consequences of sin because fully justified in His eyes; covered by the blood of Jesus Christ and His SACRIFICE on the cross. The old self dies to become a new creation says 2 Corinthians 5;17.We are sanctified by blood of Jesus daily by process of constant learning to grow on faith journey. Cultivating the fruits of the spirit in Galatians 5:22-23 in serving God. And 1 Corinthians 12:12-31 reveals the intricacy of Body of Christ working together by love to bring Him Glory and share His Love and Truth in the world. Kindness, compassion and our love to others promotes work based salvation. Jesus moved with compassion in His ministry by His example so expects His followers to do so. Matthew 9:36; 14:14; Philippians 2:1-8; Ephesians 4:32 says be kind and loving to others as Jesus did to those around Him and even those who hated Him. Help and serve others but be not absorbed in works with improper motive. Not a people-pleaser by nature constantly looking for others to praise for good things done to get rewards. Jesus sees through ego or pride to earn His good favour by doing good things to others. Developing fruits of kindness and love is Godly works in life. Keeping the heart in check to ensure right motives to serve others. Knowing these things helps to save us so extremely important. The rich man in Bible missed heaven for mistreating Lazarus. God discerns the intentions of the heart and readily help us approach HIM in humility with desire to grow in faith. By our love others know we are Christians as the words of John 13:35 show, “By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another.” It is a great reminder of the responsibility to love others the way God LOVES us. God is LOVE so whoever lives in love lives in God and God in them …We love because Jesus first Loved us,” in 1 John 4:16, 19. God’s LOVE is unconditional, endless so let’s rest in God’s amazing LOVE and extend love to our spouses, kids, friends and strangers in need of kind words or help. In Matthew 24:35, “Heaven and Earth shall pass away but MY WORDS Shall Not pass away. Psalms 119:11, “YOUR WORD I have I hidden in my heart so I will not sin against God and Joseph refused to sin against God. In Psalms 12:6, “The WORDS of the LORD are Pure Words, as silver is tried in furnace of Earth is Purified Seven Times.”Psalms 19:14 says “Let the WORDS of our mouth meditations of our Heart be acceptable in YOUR Sight O LORD Our Strength, and OUR Redeemer in Jesus Name. And Psalms 119:105 says “YOUR WORD is a Lamp unto my feet and Light to my Path!!! THANK YOU OUR FATHER LORD GOD ALMIGHTY. Thank you Son Lord Jesus and thank you Holy Spirit in helping us to love another in Jesus Name.
Entering this world to understand their mindset is God’s way of sending Jesus to socialize with people to help their lives to overcome emotional, spiritual and physical concerns. A famous father invited into a nightclub by his daughter hoped and prayed nobody will see or recognise him but someone shouted his name shocked to see him there. And because of his faith, social standing and profession it became a turning point for a better relationship between them. At times called to participate in an unusual circumstance or join situation you may prefer not to be seen doing. If it is safe, not risky to life of both parties or others awkward situations and interaction can create bonds to build on. A farmer once confronted by insane roaming about on his property found he took his hunting gun as he turned in a split second. So he intuitively picked a piece of wood to join the man dancing with his gun until safe enough to grab it from him. This extreme example not recommended but in unpredictable circumstance dancing with him calmed him down. This man probably lived all his life only criticised, never interacted with people because of insanity but the farmer made him feel acknowledged. Distracting when timing was best time took control of his gun. In life similarly, you win bees with more honey than smoke or carrots than stick approach If he panicked or shouted ‘oi’ give back the gun, it’s not yours, may be a trigger moment to upset him to react rather than respond as dance partner. Similarities of occasions can be if others do not fully perceive inner thoughts of other confused people. Use the positive moment together to win their hearts to others. On the other hand it its risky be careful to assess person before taking a leap of faith. The person may not make sense but point to good things about them to calm them to diffuse tension. The uncohesive person needs expert intervention but if unavailable reassure but play along. A bond is built showing genuine interest and asking questions related to their life or loved ones. You may not convince or make sense due to distorted perception unable to hear you because of the state of mind. Efforts to guide or correct them seems attack of intelligence, confidence or ability to decide for themselves. And considered ‘violation’ of their personal decision-making process and choices. So after coming to their senses if not drunk on drugs or psychotic the recovery stage creates clarity to see episodes recorded or documented to prove to them what others see or hear. Until then, it’s mere chaotic noise that creates anxiety and tension of feeling judged. Stay calm no matter what shocking things said unless at risk press safety button for help. If an agitated person will listen, record, talk through hallucinations to tell them you believe what they say but not logically make sense. Your goal is not to correct or frustrate them if infuriated or angry about their treatment or any labels. So stress makes things worse because they cannot keep cool if angry to verbalise their true inner feelings or emotions in angry state. Medications do numb some people so not as sensitive as expected to be. Frustrating situations agitate person under pressure to feel worse if ignored. Misunderstood people feel ostracised so keep a written journal signed to offload mind in a safe space. Or talk privately in public place to deal with roots of anger, abandonment, neglect, mental health or other matters pertaining to a pain of the past. Don’t have the victim mentality as it causes low self-confidence and lack of trust in those helping to support them. Some people implode due to inability to express their real feeling because do not realise they cause offense. It turns into anger, bitterness, resentment concealed as politeness but fuming inside. Do not force them to speak immediately while you are doing them a favour. Say that you mean well and mean what you say genuinely without causing pain to hurt them. If an autistic person they may not understand other people’s point of view. Lack of frontal cortex means they do not understand the risk consequence of actions like matured people. And so feel lack of consideration of another point of view which to them is disregard of them as human beings. Unable to adapt or be flexible to change swiftly if need arises is fixated on one idea or one thing only at that level to deal with. Don’t say grow up or do not act their shoe size because they are not acting. Families and friends must understand they live in the head in their own world isolated so cannot be in the here and now. Often drift off into a fogged mind unawares of what goes on around them. Enter their world by becoming interested in their favourite activity, games, passion, hobbies to try to connect with them emotionally. The time spent with them means a lot to them so feel someone believes in them. Recreate their stories around talents or skills and abilities to help them literally not to lose to their mind. Do not put on pressure for perfect facade of normality in life situations. It’s essential to heal to overcome loss, bereavement, trauma or past abuses and challenging problems of life. In a speech yesterday it was said you may have flaws, be angry, anxious but do not forget your life is the greatest enterprise in the world so Only you can stop it going bust. People appreciate and admire you and love you so Remember to be happy is not to have a sky without storm, road without bumps, and work without fatigue, relationships without challenges. To be happy means find strength in forgiveness and hope in battles, security in the stage of fear, love in discord. It’s not only if enjoying smiles that life is good but reflect on sadness. It is not only to celebrate successes, but to learn lessons from past failures. It is not only to feel happy with applause, but to be happy in anonymity. Being happy is part of destiny and an achievement for those who can travel within themselves. To be happy means stop feeling like the victim to become your destiny’s author. It is to cross deserts yet able to find an oasis in the depths of our soul. Thank God every morning for miracle of life. Being happy is not being afraid of your own feelings. It’s to be able to talk about you buy having courage to hear a “no” is not rejection of you as human being. Confidence in God in the face of many criticisms even unjustified strengthens your faith and builds you up. What does not kill you makes you stronger so kiss your children, pamper your parents and live poetic moments with friends, even when they hurt us. To be happy is to let live as God’s children created to be free to you, joyful, simple with maturity to be able to say: “I made mistakes.” It is the courage to say “I am sorry” yet have the sensitivity to say, “I need you.” Its to have ability to say “I love you” and your life become garden of opportunities for happiness … in spring be a lover of joy. In winter a lover of wisdom. And when you make a mistake, start all over again. Only then will you be in love with life to be happy even if not perfect life. Use the tears to irrigate tolerance, losses to train patience, mistakes to sculptor serenity, and pain to plaster pleasure, obstacles to open windows of good success. Never give up …. Never give up on people who love you. Never give up on happiness or joy for life is incredible in God.
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Andy Shelley says his time on parental leave was “eye-opening.” Following the release of a poll which suggested 27% of mothers did not enjoy their maternity leave as much as they thought they would, parents have been sharing their experience of parental leave – both good and bad. Some people got in touch after following BBC Radio 5 Live presenter Emma Barnett’s open and honest account of her time away from work looking after her baby son, a time which she described as being “bloody hard and at times, lonely.” So what’s it like to be the one who stays at home and looks after the baby? Three parents share their very different experiences. The good, the bad and unexpected child care needs. ‘I thought my partner was just off work.’ Andy Shelley’s girlfriend gave birth to their daughter in March and the couple decided to take shared parental leave. Prior to making choice, Andy’s partner had been looking after their daughter while he worked 12-hour days. “It was difficult because I felt like I wasn’t doing enough,” he says. Thirty-year-old Andy took over full-time care for two months in July, but admits he was not aware just how much work was involved in staying home and looking after his daughter. “Initially I thought parental leave would be a nice break from work but it wasn’t easy. “Some days she would be upset and I just didn’t know what to do. Your entire day revolves around feeds. It becomes a full-time job in itself. “I would be happy when my partner came home from work as it meant I could have a break.” The Stoke-On-Trent resident says his experience of parental leave was important as he realised how much his girlfriend had been doing when he thought she was “just off work.” “It made me appreciate everything she had done and ultimately cemented my relationship with my daughter. “It’s a shame more fathers don’t take parental leave as it really opens your eyes and you realise what your partner deals with.”‘I made sure I kept busy’Sandrine Charpentier said “clear vision” for her maternity leave and made sure its “wonderful experience.” Sandrine Charpentier, from Hayes in Kent, says her maternity leave with both of her daughters, now aged six and nine, was a “really positive experience.” Despite not knowing many people where she lived, Sandrine made sure she wasn’t isolated by booking a different activity every day. “We would do baby swimming, yoga, singing and play groups. It motivated me to get dressed and get out of the house. “The whole time I was really tired but I thought that was just part of the job. “It was great to meet people, be social and talk about our experiences. I was really happy during that time and it was great for my daughters.” As much as she enjoyed her maternity leave, the mum-of-two admits it was nice to return to work. “Being at work was like a holiday because I was free to do what I wanted. I didn’t have somebody glued to me all the time. “It was good to do something different, to meet people and not talk about nappies and babies all the time.” ‘It’s difficult to be accepted as a stay-at-home dad’People were shocked when Craig Smith said he was going to be a stay-at-home father Craig Smith, 42 in Staffordshire became stay-at-home dad to daughter, Matilda, in January when she was eight months old. His wife has a high-level job so they decided that it would be best for him to give up work and focus on their daughter’s early years. “I was very up for the challenge as I’ve always wanted children, but I didn’t really think about what was involved in being a full-time dad. “Sometimes it’s hard because all Matilda wants is her mum.” Craig says his experience made him realise there is not enough support for stay-at-home dads. “I tried to integrate with local playgroups, but the mums can be quite cliquey and it’s very difficult for a dad to be accepted. “A lot of mum-and-baby groups say fathers are welcome but in reality it’s not like that – the mums can be quite cold.” Craig is planning on going back to work part-time when Matilda starts nursery, but says he feels anxious at the prospect of returning to normality. “It feels like my brain has been conditioned to sing to Peppa Pig or nursery rhymes. The thought of carrying out serious and responsible tasks within a role kind of scares me.
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God RESTORES lost souls says Psalm 23.3-4 and Galatians 6:1 says brothers and sisters if someone sins you who are SPIRITUAL RESTORE person and show them faults in PRIVATE. If they listen, you won your brother. 2 Thessalonians 3:15 says do not treat them as enemy but help them as brother in Christ, ‘just as if’ they never sinned. GOD LOVES sinners but hates sin. 1 Timothy 5:20 says if they continue in sin rebuke them in the presence of all, so the rest will be fearful to sin. Public rebuke is often first used without the private restoration to instill fear in others shames them. Does not lead to genuine repentance, causes chaos, divides the Church members into sympathisers or opponent antagonists. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is inspired by God, profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, training in righteousness; so the man of God is adequately equipped for every GOOD WORK. Acts 20:28 states, “Be on guard for yourselves and for all the flock for the Holy Spirit made you overseers to shepherd the Church of God purchased with Jesus’ BLOOD. James 1:19, beloved brethren be quick to hear slow to speak slow to anger, no critical comments to stir up hatred to flare evil negative emotions. Godly restoration of wrong for reconciliation is hard but the hardest part is forgiving yourself and all others who wrong you or you wronged them. Whether victim or perpetrator, or right or wrong both needs God’s Mercy, Grace to forgive to receive forgiveness. God said you forgive to be forgiven by God. So leave your gifts at the altar and resolve conflict before you enter God’s HOLY PRESENCE HIS Sanctuary through BLOOD OF JESUS. OUR LORD GOD & SAVIOUR ARE PURE IN HEART so pure in heart shall see God. Psalm 51:10 says, create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. And Lamentations 5:21 says, Restore us to yourself, O LORD so we may be restored Renew our days as of old we loved and honoured you. Lamentations 3:40 says it is your conscience that helps to test and examine our ways to return to the Lord. Acts 3:19 says, Repent and turn to God so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the LORD. Jeremiah 3:66 The LORD said if like days of king Josiah you backslided as Israel did on high mountain or under green trees played the harlot God says HE WILL FORGIVE if you repent. Time for the whole church, individuals and in your private prayer closet. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything and a time for talking, silence, joy, grief, tears, love and hate under heaven.” And 1 John 1:19 says, “If we confess our sins, God faithfully forgives sins to purify us from all unrighteousness.” If you are busy minding other’s sins, God says in Matthew 26:41, Watch and pray so you will not fall into same temptations you accuse others of. So spirit is willing but the flesh is weak but Jesus said if you are weak you are strong through Holy Spirit. Ask God’s forgiveness and repent in Jesus Name. Bow down at the feet of Lord Jesus Christ as a humble vessel so GOD will forgive you. And get Spiritual mentor to guide you to quality of Christ not focus on speck in other’s eyes, says Matthew 7:3. And Psalm 145:14 says The LORD upholds all who fall and lifts up all bowed down. All who overcome will be clothed in white garments, and I will not blot out their name from the Book of Life, I will confess their names before My FATHER God and before HIS angels says Revelation 3:4-5. Praise Jesus Christ our Lord, and Saviour. “The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all. Amen. Accept Jesus Christ Who gave His Life on Cross at Calvary, to receive Forgiveness freely available through His ULTIMATE SACRIFICE to Come into your life to live in your heart to be your KING, Lord and Saviour. And from this day not be controlled by sin or desire to please self but follow Jesus all the days of your life. Ask this in Jesus’ precious Holy Name, Amen. In Matthew 18:15-17, Bible says if refuses to LISTEN take one, two-three people with you so BY MOUTH OF TWO, THREE WITNESSES to CONFIRM action but if still refuses to listen, tell Church. And if refuses to listen to the Church let them be Gentile or tax collector to you. The Bible verses help Church members or their leaders clearly to guide people using God’s right procedure. Know God wants restoration in Church to help to ensure Jesus is at centre of a restoration process. Bible’s approach is opportunity for people to take initiative to seek help for those who miss the mark. A person suffering secretly in sin struggles and to keep up with effects of sin damage their lives and those involved. Some may play games with people’s emotions in denial but deep down in their heart crying out for help. It takes courage to open up and seek help and forgiveness of those they offended. Damage done affects so many people causing others to lose the faith in God. Its painful, sad, shocking believers confess of falling into sin. What do you do when a beloved brother or sister in Christ makes wrong choice to fall in sin? First direct them to pray and ask God’s forgiveness to repent and make effort to actively stop the sin. Abraham restored Lot his fallen nephew in Genesis 14:1-24 when he and Sarah left Haran to travel to Canaan in Genesis 12.4. Abraham’s nephew Lot chose to take risks in a war zone among enemies to stay behind. Abraham rescued Lot in time when Amraphel a king of Shinar, Arioch king of Ellasar, Kedorlaomer the king of Elam and Tidal king of Goyim four kings seized all goods of Sodom, Gomorrah their food, took Abraham’s nephew Lot and his possessions as he lived in Sodom. A man who escaped reported it Abraham living near the great trees of Mamre the Amorite, of Eshkoland Aner allied with Abraham. Abram took 318 trained men in his household in pursuit to Dan. Abraham divided his men to attack and routed them Hobah north of Damascus. He recovered all goods so brought back Lot and his possessions together with the women and others. So Abraham after defeating Kedorlaomer and kings allied with him, the king of Sodom came out to meet him in Valley of Shaveh or the King’s Valley. Abraham risked his life with the others to rescue stubborn nephew who chose to stay in a place against advise. He got into trouble but chose the most fertile land later and did not remember his uncle’s sacrifice. People why God told Abraham to leave his family and kindred in Iraq but chose to bring Lot along with his aged father to slow him down. Despite Abraham’s best efforts Lot eventually flees Sodom with his daughters and his wife turned into Pillar of salt. His daughters mated with their father to create the Moabites known for history of incest. Abraham’s risk and correction of Lot seems a waste of time probably best if he perished life would have been better. Often onlooker is reluctant to get involved in another person’s mess if it endangers their life. Abraham’s effort to RESTORE Lot and his family to reconnect to God under the tutelage of Abraham didn’t last long. As you can take a horse to the water but can’t force it to drink. Abraham played a crucial role in his need to restore Lot by a bold victory in battle yet Lot yields to sin by learning the evil ways of Sodom. Abraham thought Lot learnt his lesson and listened so gained his nephew back. Lot went back to his old ways so became his own master of destruction. It easy to spot anyone in sin to forgive and restore them to SAVE YOUR SOUL. Abraham’s experience with Lot is a classic example of futile efforts to help others in vain. So in this case Abraham saved his soul by doing the right thing to obey God to help his nephew in a time of need by wrong choices. First reaction is condemnation and shaming of person to disgrace them to change. This is not Biblical because it makes the situation worse to harden the heart and embarrass them so never step in Church again. A naive young baby Christian may not fully know the word of God makes mistakes in the beginning. Titus 3:10-11, reject them and run away like Joseph after first, second warning if person is bent on sin self-condemns. In 1 Corinthians 5:11, ‘I wrote to you not to associate with immoral person covetous or idolater, reviler, drunkard, swindler do not eat with them. In 2 Romans 13 : 4, if a minister of God to you is good but some do evil, be afraid; for they do not bear sword for nothing; for a minister of God is avenger who brings wrath on the ones who practice evil.In 1 Timothy 1:20 Hymenaeus and Alexander handed over to satan to be afflicted and taught not to blaspheme. Their flesh tormented by satan forces them to seek God’s Face to deliver their souls. In 1 Corinthians 5:5 some believers deliver to satan for destruction of flesh, so the spirit may be saved in day of the Lord Jesus. Romans 16:17 urges brethren to keep eyes on all those who cause divisions, hindrances contrary to teachings learnt and turn away from them. In Galatians 6:1 those Spiritual are to restore sinner in SPIRIT of GENTLENESS so you too will not be tempted. The Righteous fall 7 times but God lifts them up. Jesus said forgive 70 x 70 time = 490 times per day not be bitter and revengeful but leaving judgement to God the GREATEST ‘ Judge and Avenger.’ If they commit atrocities as God’s Children and sin against God the ALMIGHTY God deals with them for all Powers and Authority in Heaven and Earth is given to Lord Jesus Christ and Saviour the rightful judge to restore the backslider. Remember the story of King David, a friend of God punished by God after adultery with Uriah’s wife tried to cover his sins transferred innocent man Uriah to war front killed in battle. God is Righteous and David was punished for his wickedness. God gave David 2 two options for his punishment to choose. a) God wants to hand him to enemies to be punished b) God punish him HIMSELF. David chose God to inflict punishment for ‘man is cruel and wicked’ but God is compassionate and merciful so restored David. Man will totally and completely will destroy everything about him is a lesson for all to learn in Church. It is God’s BUSINESS so leave it for God. The man of God and sinners disobeys God’s Word so that is God’s exclusive domain. Judas betrayed Christ, but it did not affect His Ministry. Ministers of God and apostles in many Churches of God commit sin in House of God but it does not affect God in those Churches. People out of frustration and lack of patience, deny God to backslide but still God gives them another chance. In Jeremiah 3:14, “Return, O backsliding children” says The LORD; “I AM married to you. I will take you. One from a city and two from a family and bring you to Zion.” Human make mistakes so like all open to Forgiveness and Restoration by God Himself. Encourage, pray, believe God for restoration. Stress pressurizes people of God to seek relief in a secular way but leave them to God’s judgement. Pray the LORD’s wrath on detractors is cancelled for the unity of Church of God in Jesus Name, Ephesians 4:4-7 says as one body and Spirit, called in one hope of your calling; one LORD, one faith, one baptism: one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all and in you all. To each one grace is given according to measure of Christ’s gift.” These words of God in Jesus Name, Amen, Jesus said, “all those without sin cast the first stone as Jesus told woman caught in adultery, so given second chance to go and sin no more. The man involved her accusers pardoned so left her alone, reminded of their own sinful natures by Jesus Christ. Does it mean this woman can count on Jesus’ forgiveness to repeat sinful action because of guaranteed mercy of God? Of course not Bible says because the Grace of God abounds is not licence to sin. The years of ignorance God forgives because unaware of consequences. A deliberate sin commited and excused by qouting Roman 8:38-39 that nothing separates a believer from God is the willful offence used to manipulate naive Christians to engage in sin. “For I am persuaded that death, life, angels, principalities, powers or things present, things to come, height depth or another creature can separate us from the LOVE of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. So verse is twisted to convince believer God forgives no matter the sin of killing, stealing or destructions due to lust. Joseph refused to “sin against God” but punished for his honesty, loyalty to God and his master Portipher. A person who does not get their evil way harasses the one strong in the LORD who refuses to sin with them like Portipher’s wife lied about Joseph who run from sin. The person blackmails a victim, withdraws all favour, isolates them to stop others defeating them too. Be careful when a person is victimised for standing up for Christ in righteousness. The perpetrator puts them down like Joseph for refusing an evil request for doing the right thing. Its better to Obey and please God rather than join a man to use and abuse you. It may cost you material possessions and reputation but God will supply all your needs from Glory in heaven. Joseph’s is a great example of God rewarding and promoting Joseph who was harassed by his siblings in the family. Though Joseph suffered God honoured him to save the world from the 7 years famine in Egypt. The woman caught in adultery is sent to seek God’s punishment but found Grace, Mercy for forgiveness Jesus forgave her. The self-righteous condemned her to death but Bible says confess your sins to God and cover all other people’s sins. It does not mean condoning but is none of your business if you witnessed it. Spreading negative rumours DEFILES the innocent mind and distract Gospel. The devil uses gossip to stop receiving deliverance. It takes two tango so those scorned and embittered but didn’t walk away repent. Some went back for more abuse, play victim to attack, spread hatred. Bible says, what is true and of GOOD REPORT think on these things. For evil reports, fast privately on behalf to INTERCEDE with Jesus the INTERCESSOR in heaven. Gossipers will not enter kingdom of God for the sin of defiling minds of others to cause them to depart from the faith. Gossip is as evil as murder, adultery etc. Corinthians 6:9-10 says, backbiters, gossips, slanderers, will not inherit THE KINGDOM OF GOD. Unless they REPENT will be shut out of the KINGDOM of HEAVEN. Let God deal with sin for the greater the calling the bigger the target of satan’s attacks. And despite God’s punishment the Covenant continues through Jesus to sit on throne of King David. God’s Mercy is for people who humble themselves God Forgives. King Solomon’s mother was married to King David after her husband Uriah was killed. Despite sin God chose Solomon to build HIM a Temple in Jerusalem. Don’t sin putting your mouth against people who sin against God the CREATOR and people being destroyed by perpetrators. Who appoint you judge of God’s people? They face Spiritual attack so cover them in prayer and by the Blood of Jesus. And 1 Corinthians 6.9-10 says its duty to God is to pray for mercy but NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS to spread such gossip online, by phone, email, texts or verbally to do more damage to them and yourself. The metoo# movement is global so sleeping with wo/men/girls has become common phenomenon in Church, homes, schools, offices, shrines, Bible college, seminary villages all locations, clubs etc. Angels in heaven fell down and slept with women on earth to produce the giant nephilims. Perfect people do not exist on earth but strive for perfection by God’s Grace. Its crucial Children of God abstain from all sins in the Body of Christ in the Church of God to have good success by God’s Grace in Jesus Name. Such a common occurrence of prevalent drives Church to seek God’s Face more. Church general overseers snatch other’s wives and the paedophile priests falls like the secular people. Church has heard or known all problems in society everywhere but it is the Grace of God that sustains Churches. As David fell and rose again in the Bible so challenge of sin with thoughts, sight or body, is a weakness for everyone to overcome. Have you overcome yours, whether in pulpit or pew? Revealing or advertising sin committed in secret seen by God is non of your business. Pray for all to overcome weaknesses and grow in Jesus Christ. The Church grows because Jesus said, gates of hell will not prevail against it in Jesus Name. A Church often condemned thrives, so attack favour the ministry accused, persecuted or suffers name calling harassment. God is behind the Church despite continued rumours and attacks used to try to cause damage to stop good success. Seek God yourself so Jesus will save, heal and deliver you for Eternal life of your soul not perish. It is endtimes and Jesus is Coming soon in Rapture so Gossip GOSPEL to win souls in Jesus Name for God’s KINGDOM to come on a perfect earth.