Andy Shelley says his time on parental leave was “eye-opening.” Following the release of a poll which suggested 27% of mothers did not enjoy their maternity leave as much as they thought they would, parents have been sharing their experience of parental leave – both good and bad. Some people got in touch after following BBC Radio 5 Live presenter Emma Barnett’s open and honest account of her time away from work looking after her baby son, a time which she described as being “bloody hard and at times, lonely.” So what’s it like to be the one who stays at home and looks after the baby? Three parents share their very different experiences. The good, the bad and unexpected child care needs. ‘I thought my partner was just off work.’ Andy Shelley’s girlfriend gave birth to their daughter in March and the couple decided to take shared parental leave. Prior to making choice, Andy’s partner had been looking after their daughter while he worked 12-hour days. “It was difficult because I felt like I wasn’t doing enough,” he says. Thirty-year-old Andy took over full-time care for two months in July, but admits he was not aware just how much work was involved in staying home and looking after his daughter. “Initially I thought parental leave would be a nice break from work but it wasn’t easy. “Some days she would be upset and I just didn’t know what to do. Your entire day revolves around feeds. It becomes a full-time job in itself. “I would be happy when my partner came home from work as it meant I could have a break.” The Stoke-On-Trent resident says his experience of parental leave was important as he realised how much his girlfriend had been doing when he thought she was “just off work.” “It made me appreciate everything she had done and ultimately cemented my relationship with my daughter. “It’s a shame more fathers don’t take parental leave as it really opens your eyes and you realise what your partner deals with.”‘I made sure I kept busy’Sandrine Charpentier said “clear vision” for her maternity leave and made sure its “wonderful experience.” Sandrine Charpentier, from Hayes in Kent, says her maternity leave with both of her daughters, now aged six and nine, was a “really positive experience.” Despite not knowing many people where she lived, Sandrine made sure she wasn’t isolated by booking a different activity every day. “We would do baby swimming, yoga, singing and play groups. It motivated me to get dressed and get out of the house. “The whole time I was really tired but I thought that was just part of the job. “It was great to meet people, be social and talk about our experiences. I was really happy during that time and it was great for my daughters.” As much as she enjoyed her maternity leave, the mum-of-two admits it was nice to return to work. “Being at work was like a holiday because I was free to do what I wanted. I didn’t have somebody glued to me all the time. “It was good to do something different, to meet people and not talk about nappies and babies all the time.” ‘It’s difficult to be accepted as a stay-at-home dad’People were shocked when Craig Smith said he was going to be a stay-at-home father Craig Smith, 42 in Staffordshire became stay-at-home dad to daughter, Matilda, in January when she was eight months old. His wife has a high-level job so they decided that it would be best for him to give up work and focus on their daughter’s early years. “I was very up for the challenge as I’ve always wanted children, but I didn’t really think about what was involved in being a full-time dad. “Sometimes it’s hard because all Matilda wants is her mum.” Craig says his experience made him realise there is not enough support for stay-at-home dads. “I tried to integrate with local playgroups, but the mums can be quite cliquey and it’s very difficult for a dad to be accepted. “A lot of mum-and-baby groups say fathers are welcome but in reality it’s not like that – the mums can be quite cold.” Craig is planning on going back to work part-time when Matilda starts nursery, but says he feels anxious at the prospect of returning to normality. “It feels like my brain has been conditioned to sing to Peppa Pig or nursery rhymes. The thought of carrying out serious and responsible tasks within a role kind of scares me.
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Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever says Hebrews 13:8. The Son of God and Saviour of mankind, Chosen by God Rules God’s Kingdom eternally. Jesus is alive and well in heaven so did not evolve into another person and is not reincarnated as anyone else. Jesus is the Lamb of God and Ultimate Sacrifice of humanity. Nowhere in the Bible does Jesus disintegrate into an angel, pope or any imposter falsely claiming to be the Messiah Yeshua. The authentic, genuine, original, real Jesus is ALIVE AND WELL and coming back physically to earth to rule forever as God ordained Him to be. Jesus never transitioned into any other form of human being as often taught by many people falsely to deceive them to hell. Jesus accurately predicted after His ascension Alive into heaven, there will be many false Christs deceiving people including even chosen, elect, remnant if they are not discerning. Some refuse to submit to God’s plans and purpose for mankind through Jesus Christ so instead create their own version of faith to lure people away from God. Try to convince people Jesus failed God in completing His assignment on earth to bring perfect peace politically so they replace Jesus in doing so. They wanted a political leader to redeem them from exploitation by unjust tyrants who extorted taxes and banned them from worship. Increased agitation and helplessness against their rulers and leaders who exploited them aggravated them to look for a militant conqueror. Disappointed Jesus did not command armies of heaven to eradicate their enemies. Instead, Jesus told them His Kingdom is not of secular world but God’s Kingdom so failed to understand Jesus’ mission on earth. The oppressed wanted immediate relief from their oppressors so looked for new opportunities in militant Leaders. In doing so, they misunderstood that it was God who allowed those imposters as a part of their demands of permissive will against God in the first place. Did not realise as mankind rejected God as Theocratic Leader of all HIS creation so God let them endure those they chose in place of God. God was angered and so allowed humans to control themselves as long as possible to discover the error. God allowed time for people to have the taste of their own medicine as they now prefer man’s rule over God’s Rule. After many generations of suffering and toil, God heard cries of people and sent help through the prophets, priests, ministers, and appointed elders. Although some do listen and obey them, majority refused to accept Godly instructions. Finally God sent HIS OWN SON JESUS, God’s Heir to throne of David to touch their hearts to repent to accept God’s Rule again. Sadly, many did not take keen interest in Jesus as God intends. After many generations of human leaders, lack of knowledge of God as Direct ruler of mankind seems a strange concept to them. God decided to give freedom of choice to mankind to be the master of their own destiny against HIS WILL. Therefore God gave mankind ‘permission’ to convince themselves that they are better without God’s input. As the years passed, it became clearer that mankind desperately needs God’s help even more than ever before. So God in HIS WISDOM and Compassionate Mercy extends beyond measure LOVE to all HIS faithful, loyal Children, crying to God day and night, interceding to God to redeem world from reckless pain and needless suffering. However, there is a problem as an absolute power corrupts absolutely, humans have tasted power and enjoyed the pecks and privileges of power refuse to renounce the powerful positions to God to take HIS RIGHTFUL PLACE of authority over mankind. This is the ultimate source of all conflict on earth. In the process some religious leaders vying for total control of world exclusively, want to prove they are the real McCoy chosen by God among the others competing for the same position. This is why they try to trace their power to Jesus to try to convince people they are the ‘real Messiah Yeshua’ to rule. So reinforce teaching messages to fool people into thinking they are to rule mankind in place of Jesus. The problem is Jesus is Alive and well in heaven and Coming back soon to earth to Rule. Many other ‘Jesuses’ exist today in order to justify themselves as the new ‘Jesus,’ so try to ‘eliminate’ True Authentic Jesus by telling people that Yeshua Messiah is transformed or reborn as that leader. A closer look shows contradictions and an inability to convince from Bible ideas in line with Testimony of the Word of God. Nowhere in the Bible does God say Jesus will be replaced by another Saviour to come after Jesus Christ. Jesus is Ultimate Sacrifice in heaven waiting on God’s Command to come to earth in Rapture in clouds to save to rescue God’s chosen, faithful and loyal remnants awaiting His Coming soon. Jesus WILL Return physically to set up Eternal Kingdom on earth from Israel. In the meantime, God is giving people the chance to repent, to accept and believe in Jesus to join God’s Kingdom before it is too late. After the Rapture, world descends into chaos of evil unseen before culminating in battle of Armageddon says Psalm 83. So God takes by force, God’s Rightful Rule over mankind forever and ever and God’s Kingdom has no end. Those who refuse to submit to God’s Rule sadly will face God’s judgements and punishments in hell fire. This world is changing fast in line with the word of God in the Bible from Genesis to Revelations prophecies are happening daily in the news. Study the Bible yourself like the Bereans and know the truth for yourself. The Truth you know sets you free in Jesus Name so if leader knows exposed and denounced by genuine truth of God will do not let you discover truth for you to abandon them. So tell you to listen exclusively to them only not to read any other sources of information including the Bible. Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Light so changes the brainwashed, transformed and renewed to be saved. As the source of income, some cults manipulate them making it difficult and impossible to leave without threats if convinced by Godly Bible Truth. Take note nobody can save you except Jesus Christ. World events are part of bigger picture unfolding and end time reality happenings everyday. Prepare and make informed choice for your own good in Jesus Name. Be reassured the same Jesus alive in heaven EXACTLY is SAME JESUS COMING AGAIN to earth soon even right at the door. Jesus said many people use His name to perform miracle wonders. God is powerful and HIS Words are sharper than two-edged sword working miracle but if motive is wrong God rejects them. Paul said he did not want to lead others to Christ and perish himself so ran the race to win the prize like all other believers. God highly exalted Jesus above all names so at the mention of Name of Jesus every knee shall bow and every tongue will confess Jesus is Lord to the Glory of LORD God Yahweh. The angels told the disciples on Mount Olives, Jesus they saw going into heaven is SAME JESUS CHRIST COMING back to earth on Mount Olives.. So Jesus did not, decay, decompose, degenerate, dematerialized, deteriorate, disintegrate, dissolve, fragment, go to pieces, granulate, grinded, interred in God’s memory, melt, molder, perish, powdered, pulverize, putrefy, triturate, tumble into another human being or turned into Archangel Michael. At the sound of trumpets by archangels, Jesus WILL appear with heavenly host brightly for all eyes to see Jesus’ Second Coming to earth. Romans 6:23 says the wages of sin is death but GIFT of God is ETERNAL Life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Jesus conquered death permanently by GIFT OF ETERNAL LIFE. John 3:16 says, God so LOVED the world HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON JESUS, WHOSOEVER BELIEVES IN JESUS WILL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE ETERNAL LIFE. Jesus did not resurrect as the woman of the Church of Almighty God cult started in 1990s claims Jesus was resurrected as a woman in China. Chinese authorities frequently crack down on cult members over the years, confiscated computers and books used by cult for recruitment. The Church of Almighty God refused to give a direct response to BBC but refers to its US-based website which contains multiple alleged testimonies of believers tortured by Chinese authorities. So cult’s core belief is Jesus returned to earth as a Chinese woman to wreak apocalypse. The person who claims direct contact with God as founder is former physics teacher, Zhao Weishan, who founded cult 25 years ago and fled to the United States. Jesus is not resurrected into any other person. A born again believer in God does not perish because Spirit lives on but body interred, if well-preserved intact or decays to dust but reawaken at trumpet call. God has enough creation material to make all of mankind, angels, creatures, the earth, sky and firmament. So God does not recycle human life into new beings because of shortage of ingredients. God does not turn dead into another one so makes zillions of each individual since creation and continues to do so. People are unique, one of a kind, God made to display the wonders of God’s MAJESTY. So the Real Jesus is seated at Right Hand of God on Throne in heaven and is Alive forevermore. Paul warns in latter times some will fall away from true faith by paying attention to follow misleading counterfeit teaching of demons says 1 Timothy 4:1. The doctrine of eternal life in Christ means the Spirit of God in man never dies so returns to God after death to join the saints singing before God’s Throne in heaven. Those in Christ alive on earth join Jesus in Rapture teaching supported by Bible. Jesus said: “You will know the truth and the truth sets you free in John 8:32. All who prefer to be asleep, God allows to remain asleep till after 1000 year Reign of Jesus on earth. So gain accurate knowledge of God’s Bible truth and correct teaching of God’s Kingdom principles and practices for growth promotion by faith in Christ in God. Matthew 25:31 says Jesus RETURNS with thousands of angels accompanying Jesus to earth physically a Divine being. At Second Coming, Christ will descend to Mount Olives in Jerusalem to Reign 1000 years. After ascension He prepares place for you so will come again and in Rapture receive you to be with Jesus in heaven with God. So Acts 1:11 said to the disciples, you men of Galilee, why do you stand here looking into Heaven, This same Jesus, who has been taken from you into heaven, WILL come back in the same way you saw him ascend to heaven. So they returned to Jerusalem from Mount of Olives in Israel. Jesus has not turned into anyone else so is coming back to earth soon and all eyes will see Jesus Yeshua Messiah on His Return.
Galatians 6:17 says MARKS of Jesus are on true believers in Christ in God. Real genuine friends of Jesus gain His deep knowledge developed over the years. So act, look and sound like Jesus. Believers in Christ do what Jesus would do and so become more like Jesus in their actions thoughts and deeds. Easily recognised as Peter Jesus follower was without him saying anything to those warming by a fire. In Antioch people recognised the MARKS of Jesus on apostles as a result of keeping His company. Strong bonds develop by association so behaviours, mannerisms, outlook, mirrored actions, traits, reflect Godly ideas of discussions exchanged and deductions made from common experiences shared. One reads each other’s minds and completes each other’s sentences, predict answers, tell favourite: foods, colours, designers. So knowledge of genuine true friend Jesus, develops over the years to be like Jesus. Christians do what Jesus would do so more like Jesus in actions by example and in deeds. Without telling people, or wearing any badges, stickers, carrying placards people know the true Christian Spirit supernaturally. True Christians live, move and have being in Christ so no longer own but are living sermons.
When we bear on body the marks of Jesus according to Galatians 6:17 we change, so different in pleasing God. Christians in the world are set apart by marks of Christ. Apostle Paul was marked by Christ as a true servant of our Lord Jesus Christ. He bore marks, brands in his body as marks of Jesus. By belonging to Christ in God, identifies us Christians. And Christians believe truly because they know Jesus personally in Spirit. The marks of the Lord Jesus upon believers through salvation and blood brands them as proof of attachment to Christ. Distinctive marks about finished work of Christ in our lives identify us as Christians. Accepting full responsibility as the followers of Christ means facing daily challenges of life. In Galatians 6:17 Jesus brand on believers like a designer label shows patent mark ownership. So in Christ God brands of salvation shows believers are God’s property. As Master Jesus paid price with His life so we are not our own but bought by sacrifice of Jesus. Father God and Son Jesus brands remove mark of shame, ignominy as soldiers of the Cross God, brand marks show allegiance to God. Some have crest of favourite icon tattoo on body so God’s faithful worshippers have Jesus marks. As devotees are branded by priests in heathen temples, shrines mark devotion and fidelity so Jesus MARKS His Own.
The brand-marks on the body of Paul consist of treatmentd meted to those persecuted. The church’s spiritual or physical brand marks in some places identified loyal servants of Christ says Philemon 1:1 in the eyes of world. In 1 Corinthians 9:22 brandmarks of soldiers says 2 Timothy 4:7 marks devotion and their fidelity 2 Corinthians 5:14. Marks, scar blemishes by persecution because of faithfulness to Jesus. 2 Corinthians 11 : 23-28 describes such physical suffering in Acts 16:23 and Ephesians 3:1. Many risk life for Gospel and God mercifully raises them like Paul in Acts 14:19-20 and 2 Corinthians 12:1-4. Overcomers endure pain inflicted with long leather strap thongs and stones, pieces of metal, lashed like Jesus bled, lacerated, torn to save us on the Cross. Paul and Silas at Philippi in Acts 16:22 were beaten and large boulders hurled at body reduced to pulp. Passages of scripture explains physical marks on Paul’s body as brand-marks of the Lord Jesus. Most Christians know little of suffering Christ endured bear Marks of Jesus for His NAME SAKE by grace saved, live faithfully, eternally according in Revelation 2:10. Salvation automatically puts the marks of Jesus all who accept and confess He is Lord. So spiritual meaning applies to all who bear name of Jesus brand marks as Christians are His property, His soldiers His followers. Master Jesus Spiritually marks as brand name belongs to Jesus. Marks of God refines us in Malachi 3:3, so our faith is deepened in 1 Peter 1:7. We become born again in 1 Peter 1:23 so saved in Romans 10:9, justified Romans 5:1 and made partakers of divine nature in 2 Peter 1:4. Fruits of Holy Spirit in Galatians 5:22 and 23 are Marks of Jesus personifies to unite with God by perfect example by faith and prayer. The marks characterise our life by Spirit of Godly meekness or humility in Galatians 6:1 as one of the fruits of the HOLY Spirit mentioned. An important characteristic of real Christian says Galatians 5:26 not to be conceited or proud! God says all to Learn from Jesus, gentle, humble in His Heart says Matthew 11:28-30. Joshua 1:8 says Book of God’s Laws marks must not depart from your mouth but MEDITATE on Bible day and night. Be careful to do according to all written in Bible to make way prosperous for GOOD SUCCESS. As farmers mark their sheep and cattle to register ownership so Christ marks His followers as the Good Shepherd. The big family of Christ Brand Marks all God’s Children belonging in God’s Kingdom.
Sharing burdens of others in Galatians 6:2 truly marks Jesus’ followers in His Steps doing likewise. Helping support God’s ministers in Galatians 6:6 and 1 Corinthians 9:7-15, 1 Timothy 5:18. And leading life of doing good in Galatians 6:9-10, Acts 10:38. Complete separation from the world in Galatians 6:14. The marks of Lord Jesus helps to recognise we are in the world but not of it. So His prayer for us is fulfilled in John 17:15-16. Glorying in Cross in Galatians 6:14. Glorying in cross means glory in Jesus life story on the cross, victory, virtue of the cross. Through Cross of Jesus we are saved and sanctified so Cross means so much to Christ to the GLORY of God’s WILL for Him. Jesus Gloried in doing the WILL of Father God. The Supreme Marks of Jesus’ Example to followers is to do the WILL of God with passion like did in Luke 22:42. Lord Jesus Honours God by placing on us the marks of Jesus as God’s Children and Joint-Heirs with Christ so God’s property and partakers of God’s Kingdom. Readily waiting for the Rapture and Second Coming serving till time Jesus Comes to earth to rule. So in 2 Timothy 4: 6-8 we run to win Gospel Race in Jesus Name retaining precious BLOOD Marks of Jesus on Christians!