LIVING HAPPILY EVER AFTER

wp-1578155912388.jpgLiving happily ever after in book fiction novels of stories read by children and teenagers imprints toxic phrase on their minds during innocent years of life only to expect life to be happily ever after. So adults protect children from unsettling gory details of life to spare them from the horror tragedies of adult world. But reinforces ignorance is bliss mindset so misled, think real life happily ever after.wp-1578156074640.jpg Misinforms children, practical life cause stress and anxiety if unequipped to face challenges of life. Life gets complex and harder if unprepared for unpredictable circumstances. Mystery telling children Santa brings gifts through chimney over night at Christmas gives ‘peace of mind’ to adults pestered over presents. But the same children exposed to violent games online some parents are unawares of. wp-1578157623245.jpgModern theory says pointing errors to a child to correct them discourages them, seem think they are doing great, creates bubble fantasy spared feeling of children growing up unaware of counter balances of true realities of life. Encouraged to live in insulated bubbles cocoon only relate with peers don’t mix or interact with family on daily basis. So boxed in age groups live them versus us lives unprepared for real life in world. wp-1578156191693.jpgSponsored by some gigantic corporate business interests lives life in a virtual fantasy world on the surface all seems acceptable and cool. Children playing a computer game seen as having fun and not hurting anyone is preoccupied not disturbing adults too busy to interact with them. Told babies come from birds delivered to the family. After exhausting day at work cook, clean do chores tired with no time to spare in the routine set.wp-1578151833694.jpg Life seems alright and few times in the week taken to the music, piano lessons, football games tennis, swimming ballet, Kumon so list endless. Things work well until crucial transitions of encouraging children at their appropriate ages to be independent. Looked after and waited on hand and foot expected to get on as adult in life, moves to university or own apartment often in shock with anxiety. wp-1578156369899.jpgOld system does not allow to help in the family home growing up never help to cook, clean or run errands, considered against the law. Social services called if the child home alone, helps in family to cook, clean, farm etc. grow up naive. So bring laundry home weekends, packed meal to eat or buy take away junk foods. Children are great sources of income for multibillions industries making money at expense of children’s development. wp-1578156464232.jpgStunted brain growth from the years of playing computer games are distracted from focus on studies. Acquire excellent online gaming skills for the multibillion profits for few. UN says they experience mental illness addiction to online games and unable to focus on a school studies, grades drop. Many lack grades to study further or do a work route professional training. Coupled with lack of hands on practical life education without any job.wp-1578156646034.jpg Bored so nothing to do play more online games. Online games are so expensive they need money to pay for it to keep up globally. Without the consistent work or income need new games is conundrum creating scam to get money fuelling the  addiction to games. Few get real jobs or totally unprepared for work place stress demands pressure. In shock, can’t hold down jobs consistently fired from work. wp-1578156746563.jpgBut wants best quality most expensive things in without lifting a finger to help family feeding and looking after them. It helps earn multibillion dollars each year, preoccupied playing online games but frustrates the hopeless majority not knowing what to do with their lives. The families help seem nagging, demanding. Entitlement attitude struggle to make a sense of real world lived. wp-1578156946262.jpgMisconception continue raising children to “only live happily ever after” without preparing them to face realities of life to train to deal with life challenges. Needs to learn to endure, overcome hardship is part and parcel of life ethically right children understand the world at their level out of bubble to learn compassion. Not self-centred if others face trauma in tragic circumstances or in war zones. wp-1578156301675.jpgAs future leaders must be taught to live real lives in consideration of others and happily everafter life happens in fiction novels. Real life understanding helps enable people to cope better to know it’s not always living a perpetually happily ever after in the complex world. People can teach children real life histories of risks taken by many sacrifices, lives for safety and the happiness, peace others enjoy.wp-1578156583540.jpgGod did not promise a bed of roses but available to help those who believe and call Son Jesus to help. Life is not perfect psychologists say demanding perfection at everything all times is mental illness. Never content or at peace blame others not enabling self-indulgence. Academic brilliance is great, computer online skill is excellent, resources to enjoy good life is wonderful but why gain whole world and lose your soul. Beyond this life God waits to get account of HIS PROPERTY on earth. Make sure your name written in the book of life ready for the rapture ONLY GOD KNOWS THE TIME.

 

WHAT DID JESUS SAY ON TAX

IMG-20190718-WA0003.jpgMatthew 17:24-27;22:15, Mark 12; Luke 20, Jesus said, Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar, to God what belongs to God. The Biblical accounts of Gospels in Capernaum said tax collectors of two drachma temple tax asked Peter if Jesus pays tax, he said He does. If Jesus paid taxes then what did Jesus teach His disciples? Matthew records two taxes  Jesus paid in Matthew 17:24-27; 22:15-22 temple tax and tax to government in Rome. People asked Jesus: “Is it right to pay taxes to Caesar?” It was a ploy to set a trap for Jesus. But He saw through their attempt to manipulate Him and falsely accuse Him of asking people not to pay. 15634591710442531419311844554429.jpgSo obliged to pay the tax, Jesus paid His taxes with the coin from the mouth of a fish Peter caught. Tax collector cornered Peter and asked if Jesus paid the temple tax. Later in Matthew 17:2427 Jesus said to Peter at home, “Simon, does the kings collect taxes from their own children or from other people? Peter answered the others. And Jesus replied we don’t want to cause trouble go cast a net in the lake and the first fish you catch open mouth, and you will find a coin. Use coin to pay your taxes and mine.” Take it and give them for my tax and yours.”15634589315132523190425229438762.jpgJesus told the Pharisees and Herodians to give to Caesar things belong to Caesar in Mark 12. The issue is controversial as people disagree on how the government spends money. Some people feel angry because their needs are not met though they pay tax. The Bible example of Jesus to pay taxes again in Gospel of Matthew Mark and Luke are other account of the Pharisees trying to trap Jesus to find the reason to accuse him. In Matthew 22:15-22 Pharisees went out and laid plans to trap Jesus to use His words against Him.Jesus on Taxes in the BiblePharisees disciples with Herodians said “Teacher,” they said, “we know you are sincere so teach the way of God in truth. You are not influenced by men. Tell us, what is your opinion? Is it right to pay taxes to Caesar or not?” Jesus, knowing their evil intention said, “You hypocrites why are you trying to trap me? Show a coin for paying tax.” They brought him a denarius and He asked them, “Whose head inscription?” They said, “Caesar’s. Then He said to them, “Give to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God belongs to God.” When they heard this, they were amazed so they left him and went away.20190718_152609.jpgIf Jesus refused ​to pay or He condemned Caesar they will accuse Jesus of inciting rebellion. People had no choice but to pay as Jesus also did. And Zachaeus a tax collector climbed a tree to see Jesus passing by. Impressed Jesus dined in his home during meal he decided to restore money he extorted by collecting taxes in Mark 2:13-17. In Psalm 24:1, The earth is the LORD’S and everything in it but life requires money to function, pay staff, provide services, resources, processing, printing costs, transporting goods. And maintaining the structures and repairs restoration, regeneration, grounds and gardens etc. Too numerous to list costs of services provided by the nations. Amazon, Google, Wealthy Offshore accounts do not pay tax proportionately fairly like others.20190718_152057.jpgJesus and His disciples voluntarily gave to the Temple tax and state to set a good example. Taxes paid directly to local tax collectors who decided what people pay. Tax collectors paid by charging people more to earn money.  Levi, the apostle was the customs official in Capernaum taxed imports and exports as he liked. The Jews hated him because he worked for Rome and betrayed his countrymen.  Zacchaeus was a chief tax collector for the Jericho district notorious for taxes changed meeting Jesus of Nazareth.15634592789297575198766104501144.jpgPeople are saying the tax exemption for Churches are unfair making mega rich pastors super wealthy multimillionaires Church members struggle to pay bills, food, mortgage, health insurance, fees or basic necessities of life. Private jets, mansions get bigger, fleet of cars longer but members poor. Its a major source of tension rich multi billionaires are state sponsored in extravagant lifestyles. Schools reduce hours, hospitals cut staff budget reduced. The churches use tithe, offerings, donations, for salaries wages, cost of projects, feed orphans, help poor under the radar, homeless, HIV, disaster flood victims, TV ministry, preaching, teaching Gospel Message of Jesus Christ, Evangelism etc. among wonderful work  of God. Admission fee puts people off so first time Benny Hinn was at NEC entry was free. Thousands turned up with no room for overflow solved crowd control next visit with ticket admission. Only a few people turned up venue was almost empty. God said nobody must enter HIS Presence empty handed so Jesus talked about the widow’s mite even poor give. In Exodus 23:15 God said, no one shall appear before ME empty-handed. Also in Exodus 34:20 God said no one must appear before ME empty-handed. Again in  Deuteronomy 16:16 God said do not appear before the LORD empty-handed.20190718_151828.jpgGap between the rich and poor widens causing hunger and the stress, pressure, unemployment, lack, in deprived areas. No resources for disadvantaged so most public servants cannot get on the home ownership ladder. Many depend on the food banks despite their hard work and education. Zero hour job wastes time of trained staff without job or income. And the popular highly influential Christian leaders spew wrong ideas as ‘Christian Ideas.’ Don’t be misled…Study the bible yourself to know the truth of the Word of Christ. Read Bible as JesusFollowers and Christian’s. Some think Churches must follow Jesus’ example to provide fairly for the least in society too. So gap between rich and poor widens as many continue to suffer daily, starve and die in the most advance developed wealthy countries. Unfortunately a Class divide disproportionately allocate lion share to themselves as the world watches them flaunt it in their faces daily. 1 Timothy 6:10 says the LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Craving more money is cause of all evil in doing so wander from true faith so pierce themselves with sorrow.20190718_170247.jpg20190718_152338.jpgIMG-20190717-WA0000.jpgChristian family is fined taxes saying it is against God’s will to pay taxes. The  Christian family refused to pay income tax because its “against God’s will” but are ordered to pay more than A$2m tax (£1.1m $1.4m) to Australia’s tax office. It is Christian debate Rembertus Cornelis Beerepoot and Fanny Alida Beerepoot of Tasmania do not pay income tax since 2011 as their religious right. Their farm was seized and sold by a local council in 2017 for not paying seven years of tax rates. Ms Beerepoot told the court: “We don’t own anything because it is God’s.” The siblings represented themselves in Supreme Court of Tasmania Wednesday, after did not pay $930,000 in income tax or other charges in 2017 ABC News said.The Beerepoots leave court on 17 July 2019Rembertus Cornelis Beerepoot (left) and Fanny Alida Beerepoot (far right) seen here outside the court in Tasmania. Mr Beerepoot argued the law of God is the “supreme law of this land” and making people pay tax weakens dependency on God, leading to “curses… in the form of droughts and infertility.” “Transferring allegiance from God to Commonwealth means rebelling against God breaking first commandment,” he said, according to the public broadcaster. In judgement, Associate Justice Stephen Holt said he believed Beerepoots’ beliefs is genuinely held but there is no specific reference in Bible to support their argument. “In my view, Bible effectively said civil matters and law of God operate in two different spheres.” So the siblings ordered to pay sums of – Ms Beerepoot A$1.17m and Mr Beereport A$1.16m to cover income tax, administrative penalties and all interest charges” and costs in court documents. What do you think about various views?

BBC News excerpts reblogged & updated

FRUIT OF GOD’S HOLY SPIRIT

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THIS PEOPLE NEVER ANGRY

15619803537592179922344463155949.jpgBriggs recollected in her landmark 1971 book “Never in Anger,” about how calm and collected everyone was jarcontrast that created against her own unruly emotions. Even when some truly rage-worthy things happened like a teapot falling and smashing against floor the Inuit never betrayed a hint of anger. An “Emotional control is highly valued among Eskimos,” she wrote in the book. Indeed, maintenance of emotions under trying circumstances is essential sign of maturity, of adulthood.” Why so calm, she wondered? And more importantly, how can the rest of us get there? For the answer, Briggs looked to how children responded in difficult circumstances appeared to be something they learned from their parents. An simple parenting technique of Inuit is “Never scold child.” It became clear to Briggs when a young boy threw rock at her, related in a CBC interview, she didn’t berate him angrily, rather told him calmly it hurt. Instead of rage she told him real consequences of his actions caused her pain. Decades later, the writer Michaeleen Doucleff followed in Briggs’ footsteps in visiting Iqaluit, Canada, “in search of parenting wisdom. Said that teaching children to control their emotions is very important she writes in NPR. Doucleff found that a common strand among Inuit parents is: Across the board all mothers mentioned One Golden Rule: Don’t shout or yell at small children.”20190701_130919.jpgAmong Inuit Arctic community Doucleff found the people practiced the theory that screaming at a child only teaches the child to scream. It is a vicious circle, the University of Pittsburgh researcher Ming-Te Wang noted in a 2013 study. “It is tough call for parents because it goes both ways: the problem behaviours of children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline. That harsh discipline may push adolescents toward the same problem behaviours.” The Inuit society seems to have learned lessons long ago, and managed to break the cycle. And so  “Traditional Inuit parenting incredibly is nurturing, gentle, tender,” as Doucleff writes. “If you took all parenting styles around the world and ranked them by their gentleness, Inuit approach would likely rank near the top.” What kind of children does that society produce? The kind who live harmoniously in world’s harshest climates often with threadbare resources. Survival hinges on making the most efficient use of natural world yet group still manages to be at peace with itself and with others. Maybe that’s because it’s also the kind of society that teaches kindness above all else. Jesus said do not let the sun radiate or set on your anger. Let it go for peace of mind.

Inuit simple way of teaching children to control anger

Christian Cotroneo

CHRISTIAN COTRONEO

Article from March 26, 2019, 2:08 p.m

ACTION FAITH & GOD WORKS

1551352632924-645837703.jpgFaith does the works of God in practical ways by applying theology to help others. And Jesus said whoever feeds or gives a coat, provides shelter or gives drink to the least in His Name is a sheep in His Kingdom. Faith in action works if the gospel preached with loving care to the people. Some think doing works of God earns ‘salvation’ some believers do not show kindness, compassion for fear of displeasing God become Scrooge. Justify lack of compassion by excuse is “works” but is this thinking correct? God commands farmers to leave edges of harvest for the poor and travellers to collect and eat for free. Other people help by donating to charity for good causes. But debate comes up because generosity to the stranger or others seen as lazy parasite. Some use excuse of sponsoring bad habit substance abuse, addiction to alcohol or drugs as reasons not to give. 1551352500856-1051422665.jpgSituations of the homeless approaching others for help is considered an offence to beg so most turn to other ways to get funds but risk their lives. Many people refuse to give them support except to help themselves. In Bible on numerous occasions Jesus preached and taught the multitudes, He fed them. As gap widens between rich and the poor qualified but unemployed without wages on the zero hour contract life is difficult for them. Some are trained as back up emergency stand by staff to fill in for absent staff on vacation, sick or on maternity leave. Tied to company, cannot seek other jobs in the interim, with bills to pay and rent arrears while employers raise their own salaries and bonuses. So the question is how to reach out to help others without judging them. This debate between faith as God works of salvation and salvation based on faith alone exists for centuries.1551353502361-1148304073.jpgThe Bible speaks volumes on this topic of salvation good works. Interpretation or proper understanding these passages is vital to our relationship with the Lord and relationship with others. Search for answers to this question in God’s Word says “Know, O foolish man faith without works is dead. Abraham our father was justified by faith works when he offered Isaac his son on the altar. So faith works together with GOD WORKS by works so faith is made perfect. A man is justified by works not by faith only says James 2:20, 22, 24.” Passage in James 2 proves faith alone is not good enough; we must demonstrate good works of salvation. It seems James is not teaching as Paul said salvation of faith alone in Romans 5:1. 1551352225546-1871068647.jpgTime and time again, Paul says works cannot save but faith is knowing Lord Jesus as our Saviour. “For by Grace you are saved through faith not yourselves; so the GIFT of God not by works so none should boast in Ephesians 2:8-9.” James 2 in full context, is not telling us to earn salvation but confirms that good works helps prove we are really true believers. “Faith by itself works is dead. Show me faith without works and I will show you faith by works in James 2:17-18.” When we accept Christ as our Saviour, there is immediate change. A sinner is immediately forgiven, washed clean of sin and restored to a right relationship with the Lord. No fear of consequences of sin because fully justified in His eyes; covered by the blood of Jesus Christ and His SACRIFICE on the cross. The old self dies to become a new creation says 2 Corinthians 5;17.1551352378675-1148304073.jpg15513524560901901586626.jpgWe are sanctified by blood of Jesus daily by process of constant learning to grow on faith journey. Cultivating the fruits of the spirit in Galatians 5:22-23 in serving God. And 1 Corinthians 12:12-31 reveals the intricacy of Body of Christ working together by love to bring Him Glory and share His Love and Truth in the world. Kindness, compassion and our love to others promotes work based salvation. Jesus moved with compassion in His ministry by His example so expects His followers to do so. Matthew 9:36; 14:14; Philippians 2:1-8; Ephesians 4:32 says be kind and loving to others as Jesus did to those around Him and even those who hated Him. Help and serve others but be not absorbed in works with improper motive. Not a people-pleaser by nature constantly looking for others to praise for good things done to get rewards. 1551352589680-1991211124.jpgJesus sees through ego or pride to earn His good favour by doing good things to others. Developing fruits of kindness and love is Godly works in life. Keeping the heart in check to ensure right motives to serve others. Knowing these things helps to save us so extremely important. The rich man in Bible missed heaven for mistreating Lazarus. God discerns the intentions of the heart and readily help us approach HIM in humility with desire to grow in faith. By our love others know we are Christians as the words of John 13:35 show, “By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another.” It is a great reminder of the responsibility to love others the way God LOVES us. God is LOVE so whoever lives in love lives in God and God in them …We love because Jesus first Loved us,” in 1 John 4:16, 19. 1551353298802-1148304073.jpgGod’s LOVE is unconditional, endless so let’s rest in God’s amazing LOVE and extend love to our spouses, kids, friends and strangers in need of kind words or help.  In Matthew 24:35, “Heaven and Earth shall pass away but MY WORDS Shall Not pass away. Psalms 119:11, “YOUR WORD I have I hidden in my heart so I will not sin against God and Joseph refused to sin against God. In Psalms 12:6, “The WORDS of the LORD are Pure Words, as silver is tried in furnace of Earth is Purified Seven Times.”Psalms 19:14 says “Let the WORDS of our mouth meditations of our Heart be acceptable in YOUR Sight O LORD Our Strength, and OUR Redeemer in Jesus Name. And Psalms 119:105 says “YOUR WORD is a Lamp unto my feet and Light to my Path!!! THANK YOU OUR FATHER LORD GOD ALMIGHTY. Thank you Son Lord Jesus and thank you Holy Spirit in helping us to love another in Jesus Name. 

LYRICS

We are one in the Spirit, we are one in the Lord We are one in the Spirit, we are one in the Lord, And we pray that our unity will one day be restored And they’ll know we are Christians by our love by our love Yes they’ll know we are Christians by our love
We will work with each other, we will work side by side We will work with each other we will work side by side And we’ll guard each man’s dignity and save each man’s pride And they’ll know we are Christians by our love, by our love Yes they’ll know we are Christians by our love.
Songwriter: Peter Scholtes
They’ll Know We Are Christians by Our Love lyrics © Music Services, Inc

 

COOKING, WASHING, TAMES

Man holding babyCooking, washing clothes, cleaning and childcare, tames men who once thought it was only the women’s job. Like most men, Jean Pierre 32 lives in Mwulire in Eastern Province in Rwanda and leaves domestic chores to his wife. Impatient, angry, demands perfection due to lack of awareness that a woman’s job is 24/7 so never ends day or night. He becomes aggressive if his wife did not meet the standards of his expectations so beats her. A grassroots intervention program trying to reduce domestic violence in Rwanda teaches men how to do household chores, and a recent study suggested it has a positive effect on communities. So Muhoza Jean Pierre used to beat his wife because he saw her as someone he married just to have children and and look after them. “I was following example of my father. My father did not do anything at home,” he said. “If ever I came home and found something not done yet I insult her. “I called her lazy, told her she was useless so must go back to her parent’s house.” But something changed after he learnt to cook and clean. It was all part of a grassroots intervention programme in Mwulire village in Eastern Province, Rwanda encouraging men’s domestic roles, including childcare. Jean Pierre says the project called, ‘Bandebereho’ or role model in Kinyarwanda helps tamed and transformed his behaviour. He took part in classes covering everything from cooking and cleaning and discuss how to challenge men’s traditional gender roles. “They asked, if a man can sweep the house, and we would say ‘he can’,” he said. “And then they would ask us: ‘Who among you does that?’ And there was no one.”Man cooking next to his wife

Real men shouldn’t cook

Facilitators from ‘Bandebereho’ taught Jean Pierre how to do tasks previously he believed his wife should do. He also added: “We would go home and try to put this into practice. “Then we would go back to training with witnesses who would testify they had observed some changes in us. “I know how to cook. I do laundry for the kids. I know how to peel plantains, I know how to pound dry cassava and sift the flour.” Jean Pierre and his wife have been married for 10 years and never helped her before. And making changes was not easy as Jean Pierre’s friends discouraged him from doing household tasks, telling him: ‘No real man should cook.’ “My family and friends said my wife bewitched me by giving me some magic drugs. They said no genuine man should carry a bundle of firewood in the street because that is for henpecked men,” he said. But Jean Pierre continued when he saw benefits to his family. He says his children feel closer to him and his wife now runs a banana business that has allowed them to improve their home. “The way my wife treats me now is different from the way she used to treat me,” he said. “She used to treat me badly because I was mistreating her too, but now we discuss and agree on things to do. “I set her free, now she is working and I am working too; whereas before I was convinced she had to stay home and be available whenever I would need her.” Fear and little freedom affected Jean Pierre’s wife Musabyimana Delphine who says she used to have little freedom and lived in fear. She said: “Sometimes I felt like a mere worker, and I would remember a worker has a salary. “I never thought a woman can ever have her own money, because I never even had time to think about any activity that generate money. “Now I have enough freedom in house, I go out and work for money like others. Start training young boys now so when they grow up they will help their wife and help look after the children. When both work, it’s a burden on the woman to care for the family or children alone.man washing a plateThe ‘Bandebereho’ project taught Jean Pierre to do tasks previously believed his wife should do. Delphine leaves at 5am to sell plantains at a market, while Jean Pierre stays at home and takes care of their four young children. “I come home relaxed and find food ready,” she said. The project’s curriculum originally developed in Latin America by global fatherhood campaign MenCare believes true equality will only be reached when men take on 50% of world’s childcare and domestic work. The research looks into changing men’s attitudes towards family care and traditional domestic. It was soon realised the good impact on men. A study looking at couples taking part in the project found two years after taking childcare lessons in Rwanda men were less likely to use violence against their female partners than those who did not attend the classes. But the study suggested one in three women whose partners took part in the programme still reported experiencing intimate partner violence. National Institute of Statistics of Rwanda, released a data in 2015, around 52% of men in the country were violent towards partners. Rwanda Men’s Resource Centre, which delivered the programme in the country, wants ‘Bandebereho’ to be widely adopted by communities and country’s government. Fidele Rutayisire the chairman of centre, said: “We still have negative social norms, negative masculinity perception cultural barriers as main factors of high violence against women in Rwanda. “Traditionally men don’t take care of children here but men control sex, resources, decision-making. “When men are actively involved in the home they realise sacrifices of women in childcare so their attitude on gender changes positively, they understand the value of gender equality.” Delphine and Jean Pierre said the program benefited their family and the whole community. “We are now on honeymoon, 10 years after our wedding,” said Jean Pierre. If there is conflict or security issue in our neighbourhood our opinion is respected because they see we don’t have problem in our household. Men appreciate and help their wives and not demand they do all the housework or take care of the family, business, Church alone without support of husbands. A happy wife is a happy life and the Bible says love your wife as Christ loved His bride Church and gave His life for you. Timothy says a husband must first look after his family and own household before serving the Church. Don’t neglect your wife and the children in the NAME OF GOD leisurely talking to single women while your wife and children at home suffer. Remember your wife is that same beautiful single woman you married and used her body to give birth to your children. And don’t abandon her for fresh young woman to give birth later to become abandoned as wife. This causes baby mama problems because men want to eat their cake and have it. So wants exclusive attention of wife at the expense of the children some are jealous of. Forget their parents took great care of them as done to children. Grow up and be father to the children to mature a responsible man not manchild depending on wife as mother. For even the Son of Man Jesus did not come to be served but to serve and give His life as a ransom for many says Mark 10:45.

  • 27 November 2018
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DO TOYS DISTRACT FOCUS?

Children become distracted when they are surrounded by toys Too many toys are bad for children as a study suggests that the children become distracted when they are surrounded by too many toys. This is what the parents have suspected all along. Children who have too many toys are more also easily distracted so do not enjoy that quality playtime with other children as the new study suggest. Researchers at University of Toledo in Ohio, US, recruited some 36 toddlers and invited them to play in a room for half an hour, with either four toys, or 16 toys. They found youngsters were far more creative when they had fewer toys to play with. And they played with each for twice as long, thinking up more uses for each toy and lengthening and expanding their games. The authors conclude parents, schools and nurseries should pack away most of their toys and just rotate a small number regularly, to help encourage the children to become more creative to improve the attention spans of the children. This study sought to determine if the number of toys in a toddlers’ environments influences their quality of play,” said the lead author Dr Carly Dauch in journalInfant Behaviour and Development.“The higher number of incidences of play in 16 toy condition did interfere with duration and depth of play. Other toys present created their external distractions. “During toddler years, children develop but not master, higher levels of control over attention. And their attention plus their play was disrupted by factors in an environment present with distractions. The results of the present study suggest an abundance of toys create distractions. But provided with fewer toys in their environments the toddlers engaged in longer periods of play with single toy allowing better focus to explore, play more creatively.”Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, say researchers Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, says researchers. Britons spend more than £3 billion each year on toys and surveys shows that a typical child owns 238 toys in total but parents think they play with just the 12 ‘favourites’ on a daily basis making up just five per cent of their toys. It is not the first time research suggested that too many toys distract children. In the 1990s the German researchers, Elke Schubert and Rainer Strick conducted experiment where the toys were taken away from Munich nursery for three months. After a few weeks, the children re-adjusted and their play became far more creative and social. The published research of their findings in their book, called, The Toy-free Nursery. In another book, ClutterFree with Kids the author, Joshua Becker also argued fewer toys are better for children because a sparse playroom encourages creativity to help children develop attention span and to teach youngsters about taking care of their possessions. “A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there countless options are still remaining on the shelf behind them,” he said. “When children have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. And they will not learn to value them if there is their replacement ready at hand. “Fewer toys causes these children to become more resourceful by solving problems with only materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited practical uses in their futures.

The research is published in the journal Infant Behaviour and Development. The conflict of interest of the toy companies advertising children playing with many latest toys makes parents feel obliged to buy them for the children not to feel left out. Children display their toys online on social media to compare with each other including the addictive games that stop children learning, doing homework assignments later in college, university or focus at work. Lack attention span or focus from childhood affects the adults today unable concentrate for few hours to complete tasks at hand. Christmas is around and parents must not let a child manipulate them emotionally to buy a toy without teaching them first value of essential basic reading at level. Children can get a few educational toy to reward them to do exceptionally well in a field of academic achievement at school. The development steared towards a specific direction of any future career requires relevant toys to influence natural gifts, talents and abilities. Otherwise parents unintentionally make children victim of success by their ability to buy too many toys they can afford. Just because it is possible to buy things seen on the TV in adverts does not mean it enhances their specific development. Parent knows the children best, whether they are trained experts or not must help child learn not to depend only on school to learn. Early learning through practical play is now rapidly eroded by virtual reality keep children cocooned online. So important to carefully reflect before Christmas on piling up toys to “prove” your “love” of your children to the world overloading them with too many toys. Experience shows most children are just so happy playing with the box, not expensive toys boosting their parents ego. Millennium children are suffering from the lack of a social understanding or interaction due to isolated attachment to toys valued as more precious than engaging with each other. Time consumed worrying about their toy possessions makes them miss out on appreciating fellow human being as adults due to learned behaviour. The competition among children, teenagers over toys leads further to threats of the perceived anger of friends loving them only for their material possessions. The toys must not take over to babysit their children without adult supervision and input. One of the best ways to bond with children is play with them sometimes to help them value the adults in their lives.

DECEIVER DECEIVES WORLD

1541626902374605598922.jpgThe deceiver deceives proud egoist like devil esteem themselves above God. But God hates the proud and gives grace to the humble. Spirit of pride is why satan  thrown out of heaven deceives people. Jesus warns in Matthew 24:24 elect can be deceived or manipulated if not alert. Jesus said satan is the father of lies and deceives captives by deceit. And satan deceives the whole world turned angels against God to try to overthrow God in heaven so were thrown out. Believers misled because he hates the born-again Christians, Jews, God’s angels who love and obey God. Uses lies to deceive and lead people down wrong paths to ruin. And lucifer knew music impresses God so people praised his voice so too proud to submit to God. Chucked out of heaven targets God’s people on earth to deceive recruits them to hell prepared only for devil and demons. A lot of people think satan just a joke comic invention for fun to mess about taking mick out of people. Subtle deceit in many forms is hard to discern because person being deceived fails to recognise it. Reject advise others see if they make plain the truth to them are offended. Deceiver offers good ideas or good intentions to deceive the person genuinely in need so its easy to deceive the deceived. Motive is to charm and to impress to fain trust of the people taken advantage of. Deceives and create havoc because satan enjoys painful sufferings of the people deceived. Gives deceiver a false sense of control, power dominates a person’s mind. The devil knows Bible and once was God’s best friend still goes to visit God in heaven time to time.wp-1541628604178..jpg The devil comes to steal, kill and destroy but Jesus comes to give life the life more abundantly in John 10:10. The deceiver knows God’s great love for HIS Children in Scriptures. Turns to an angel of light in Church by false counterfeit religions and false preachers Jesus warned about. God is Spirit all who love God to obey in Spirit and Truth. Christ directs or guides us to strengthen and comfort in sorrow. Crafty deception of satan is packaged to deceive uses wicked evil demon spirits pretends to be friendly and deceive. The old serpent devil satan dragon deceives the whole world and causes confusion to rebel against God. Eve said, “serpent deceived her is cause of sin DNA in all mankind. All have sinned so fallen short of the GLORY of God. Cause and effect of deceiver drives people kept in captivity. Bible says satan is calculating, strategic, manipulates to deceive people to make God look as wicked uncaring father who waits to punish people. Its the biggest lie because satan traps the people deceived then uses his entrapment set up against them. And satan knows his time is up so intensifies deceptions to mislead people to hate others. Negative experiences are satan’s spiritual wickedness in the high places to control the gullible people who don’t know God. The devil uses the Bible twisted not how God wants so believers must study the word of God to know the truth like Bereans. God gives all freewill choice to stop devil interfering in your lives. Your interest and wellbeing tested by evil spirits so discern if its from God.1541628137674605598922.jpg People must discern if plans or projects are pleasing to God? If decision is selfish or rebellious or its GOD’S WORD? After Rapture Jesus returns to earth so satan is bound by God not to deceive nations in Revelations 20:1–3. The LORD God is warning: woe to deceivers who do not repent or forsake evil ways, face wrath of God to come in endtimes. There are living stories about deceivers deceiving deceived but focusing on a few in Bible. Merciful Gracious LORD God forgives us genuine repentance by discovering we were deceived. Jacob deceiver deceived father to take Esau’s blessing is deceived by his father in-law who swapped Leah for Rachel he loved. Jacob works seven plus seven years for Rachel so Leah first wife had conflict over speckled animals. God’s Covenant Abraham in Jacob’s sons are twelve tribes of Israel. Story of Jacob whose name means to deceive or cheat; deceived his father deceived by his sons Joseph dead but sold to the Ishmaelites. Sibling rivalry caused brothers to hate Joseph for his dreams. Joseph survived to save his family in famine years later moved to their Canaanland promised to Abraham with other territories. God is aware of deceiver’s ploy to deceive the deceived and God forgives because they know not what they were doing. Jesus prayed on Cross of Calvary for mankind to be forgiven from all sins. Thank God for Jesus and His Grace and Mercy don’t let the devil deceive you. Check if your decisions are in obedience to God’s plan for your life. Don’t be blinded, charmed by manipulating deceiver using abusing you to discard you later traumatised. In the beginning seems to good to be true don’t ignore your gut feelings or friends and family seeing through actions you are blinded too. Addictive seduction can shroud good decisions regretted later so its better to suffer for a short season not to endure a life time of regret. Marry in haste repent in leisure means you live a miserable life instead of what devil lied to you about to con and deceive you. So Jesus said the devil has nothing in me if Christ lived in you choose to obey God it is not mankind’s decisions for your life that counts. It’s better to obey God than men whose motive is to ruin your life to fulfill the selfish greedy desire to enrich  themselves manipulating your life. The only way to overcome deceiver is apply the truth of God’s words. Jesus said, It is written to the deceiver, God says man is not to live by bread alone but by every word that comes from God. Not to tempt God, bow to sell soul to devil for riches that rust or decay not needed in heaven. Jesus said a man’s life doesn’t constitute material possessions but a good name is better than riches. Dont gain the whole world and lose your soul for the love of money is root of all evil. So devil’s envy,  jealousy and pride cause God to throw him out if heaven. Then devil deceived Adam and Eve affecting the world, God BRINGS CHANGE TO RESTORE EARTH in Jesus’ millennial reign in Israel.

4 TYPES OF FRIENDS IN LIFE

15412728607271293330498.jpgAdd value to your life by including good friends to increase and multiply your love to build you up for support and to encourage you in life. Be there for each other in good and challenging times and avoid fake friends who pretend to love you but killing you at the same time as enemies who divide your life. Swap bad influence friends to change your life by replacing frenemies with good friends who add value to your life. Stick with friends who do help you to mature in a good way. Increase and multiply your life with positive people so your life will thrive and flourish, subtract from your life those who divide your life affecting other areas of your career and business, family or friends. It is important to be aware of the kind of friends you allow into your life. Take initiative to know if person is truly what they say or portray themselves to be. Check their motives or know whatever the reason is why they befriend you so do not judging a book by its cover. As soon as you begin to do analysis and reflect on actions, words or behaviours, over time you will discover whatever reasons why you are chosen to be around. This will help you know those really befriending for your best interest at heart or those using you in disguise because you will not tolerate them in your life when you really know them well. Those who add to your life often do not want to openly brag or get credit for adding value to your life so at times are anonymous. Others you know add to your life but do not like to come out boldly to receive praise. They add to your life, bless you, want only the best for your life, are there for you in time of need without asking them for help. This type of friends are rare, few and far in between and loyal for life. You feel good around them and trust them with your life because they are codependable and reliable. Even before you ask about the next thing they already figured it out so come to you to surprise you. They take the time to actively listen, observe and do the best they can without drawing attention to themselves. We all know a few people who consistently behind the scenes are the hidden driving force but never stand out in the crowd. Some are so discreet people are shocked as they find out their benefactors. Some are not necessarily rich or wealthy but love and do good with a compassionate heart to help people. It is in their nature to give, give, even the last shirt on their back to help other people. Nobody forces them to help others but feel joy of fulfillment when they help. People discover some actually spent their entire life as unsung heroes adding value to so many people. It is not done for adulation but genuine caring heart considering people they interact with throughout in life. Often families are surprised when a group of friends or beneficiaries turn up for “this is your life” celebration event occasion commemorating them. Then people see or discover the saint they are all along but humbly never let show throughout knowing them. Pin imageA friend can multiply your life or other areas of your life. In Ecclesiastes 11: 2 give a portion to seven, or even to eight, for you know not when disaster happen on earth. Bible in Acts 20:35 says people in all things work hard to help the weak remember Lord Jesus, said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ Giving includes: kindness, smiles, support, call, check on others eat meal together. What you do to others is done to Jesus so take note and be merciful in Jesus Name. In Acts 17:11 Jews more noble than those in Thessalonica received the word with all eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily to see if these things were so true. Studying help understand God’s words better because God is in HIS Word HE puts above HIMSELF. Isaiah 40:8 says the grass withers, flowers fade but the Word of our God stands forever so live by the word of God. Psalm 119:11 says store God’s word in your heart not sin against God. Be a friend who adds value to other’s lives to build up. As you come in contact with others feel good positive vibe reaching out through connecting with you. Things you struggle with to do to improve for years will turn around suddenly for good by entering your life. Such people carry the favour of God so sent to be Divine helpers. People say if you want to go very fast in life go alone but if you want to go very far you need people. There is only so much to achieve alone by yourself through your limited efforts. Good network friends enhance your life bringing established structures to multiply your life but not take it over to annihilate you. You do not have to be reinventing the wheel for others spent years perfecting what you are doing. It is their experience and maturity after a few errors they know what works best to save time, money, resources wasted in the process. The concept that if you do it all exclusively by yourself then you are patent owner really not true. There is a whole team of people behind scenes helping but as the boss you take credit and some do not acknowledge all those who helped them along the way. Fear of being seen as not doing it drives people conceal their helpers who work hard to make it happen. Bless multipliers and reward them because without an input you will not be where you are by your own efforts alone. 15412860692961293330498.jpgOther types of friends subtracts from your life so toxic since you knew or met them you regret allowing them in your life. All things fall apart around them but they do not take any responsibility for affecting your life in any way. In fact blames everyone else so never expects to help as it is beneath their status. So think too highly of themselves, demand to be always the centre of attention and first served, eat the last morsel of food available. They may not bring shopping in or contribute to chore but think life is only all about them. So have high flaky ego that crumbles in the least moments expected, emotionally drain the people but ungrateful to those helping them. It is the love of God that sustains people to have compassion to help them. So don’t appreciate sacrifices or the compromise people make to accommodate to help them. No matter all the resources put to together to good uses on their behalf to help, they subtract emotionally to take the upper hand by controlling spirits to dominate others. No matter how long you know them seem to be permanently complaining about others letting them down. They seem to take comfort in misery rather than want peace of mind solution due to negative attention given them. Negative attention is better than no attention and so deliberately look for need to cause a moment to drain others to feel better. They derive happiness in pain caused by them to subtract joy of others to cause stress so people around them feel a high-strung energy, on edge, tiptoeing on egg shells. First of all pray to God to touch the heart of those that think it’s by subtracting others from the lives of others they can sneak into your life. They do not value those around as a blessing but see them as a threat due to petty jealousy and lack of confidence in God and in themselves. Churches deals various characters categorised by Seven Churches in Revelations. A Church is a bit like a hospital where various people turn up with ailments. It is not a perfect place so be aware people are seeking a relief to help them cope with life. This means members support new people who are not familiar with the Bible or what God expects from them. Like the new-born baby must be nurtured and fed the word of God to grow spiritually. Pin image15413178444481293330498.jpgActs 20:29 warns the Church after Jesus’ departure to heaven, fierce wolves will not spare flock. So Bible warns brothers and sisters to watch out for those who cause divisions in Church. Jesus’ warns us because satan’s divisive spirit makes people angry as their tool to manipulate others perpetually angry at themselves and the world. One look or a word sets them off explosively, triggered by even innocent comment, suggestion question of normal daily interactions between all people as their fellow human beings. So those watching, see them destroy lives despite great potential to accomplish good things in life. If only they can calm down enough to listen and take it all in. They never have “any time” so making excuses yet you never know exactly the time of day or night used for. They have grand visions and dreams to achieve if only they get the right friends, experts, funds, projects and right location. When challenged become offended and quote psychological terminologies memorised to project their divisive personality onto others. They never do anything wrong or make mistakes yet their track record shows trampling on others and wrecked lives left behind to pick up the pieces as the move to fertile grounds to repeat the egotistical disaster again. They are like a runaway train nobody can stop until a damage is done. They have a gift of the garb, charming, convincing it’s almost impossible to convince victims despite evidence of their damage. It starts with a few people they dismiss not mentally sound to further years of carnage due to their charismatic personality. The more divisions they cause destroying lives it’s the more they are celebrated having a hold over their friends. Despite glaring facts provided people turn on innocent victims to attack them as perpetrators to promote the cause of divisive people. The truth is no human being can handle or tackle a divisive person because their nature comes from satan their master using them. Only Almighty God can deal with them so no use trying to logically reason or talk to them. Those who dare confront them labeled enemies used by them for their dirty works punished. It’s a situation with divisive person of their way or no way though gullible, naive or inexperienced. Impulsive or compulsive abuse position of authority of trust their friends put in them and loyalty. Life is only about them though just one among billions of people on earth. Do not think anybody knows anything think so smart but incompetent. Insist on controlling of all things they do not know, understand but bully people into submission. Those not agreeing to their whims or caprices threatened with complacency and their non – compliance and nonconformity is excuse to ostracize, blacklist, blackmail them. The force in divisive character is satan so God can control their heart. Its growth like wildfire but ceases because in living history tyrants do not last long so their kingdoms fall. The everlasting Kingdom of God Stands Forever so be delivered and saved in Jesus Name.