THE NEW GLORIFIED BODIES

Glorified body of Jesus meets disciplesChristian believers in Christ in the grave wait for new glorified bodies like Jesus’ Resurrected body during Rapture. John 5:25 & 5:28 says a time will come dead in graves will hear shout and come out of the graves in first resurrection. Jesus’ Glorified body looks exactly as He lived so was seen and recognised, some touched His wounds and ate with Jesus on many occasions. Jesus went through the walls of a locked door of the Upper Room and interacted with people. 1 Thessalonians 4:14-17 says dead in Christ will rise first then we who are alive will be caught up together with them in the clouds to heaven. During Rapture Bible says in a twinkle of an eye the dead will arise alive first and given new glorified body with those alive before ascending to heaven. God will revitalise dead human figures to resurrect and make them alive again. In Matthew 27:52-53, Jesus’ Resurrection manifested in graves opening and those buried came out of tombs alive. They came out of the graves and went into the HOLY CITY Jerusalem in Israel and appeared to many people. Godly bodies of many saints who died and decayed is clearly stated, came out of their graves alive, seen by many people. Matthew’s statement said those who came out of opened graves, who had been buried went out alive to visit their families and loved ones so lived again. Jesus’ death and Resurrection brought life as Ezekiel 37:1-14 miracle described in the valley of dry bones to prove RESURRECTION POWER of the Living God ALMIGHTY. In the same way, those who died in Christ will be resurrected in the Rapture alive into heaven. Glorified bodies like Jesus live on earth and heaven yet Rapture miracle sounds so impossible to some human minds, they say it will never happen. The thought of dead people coming alive again after so many years of passing as decayed bones is often dismissed. With GOD All Things ARE POSSIBLE as Jesus lives again after burial three days in the grave. Similarly resurrection of all dead in Christ will be happening during Rapture. When Jesus comes in the CLOUDS, Trumpet sounds and shout wakes the dead in Christ so they arise first to meet together with those alive in the air. The Rapture event is imminent but depends on God’s timing alone. Eventually when Rapture happens people will recognise loved ones and reunite as a family. The most important point is that God’s commands restores lives again. Numerous miracles of the dead raised to life is in Bible so all Christians in Christ will be resurrected in Rapture. As vision of Ezekiel 37:1-14 describes spiritual lives restored in the valley of dry bones so will Rapture be. It is significant and relevant to compare these processes described. Because they give insight to Rapture life resurrection although initially means nation restored to God. God will physically restore dead dry bones in Christ in graves in exactly the same way as dry bones in the valley. The Trumpet call sound heard from the four corners will bring dead back to life instantly like Ezekiel 37:1-14. Miracles of God often have precedence in Bible to encourage people to believe. The Spirit of God in mankind is eternal so never dies and this Spirit returns into dead people, wakes them up from death sleeplike coma alive. The vision shows life depends on God’s Power not on circumstances of the people. Putting “breath” of God’s Spirit into the bones shows God will restore them physically and spiritually. Those in Christ fulfill this prophecy with Israel when God will gather believers in Christ from all lands into heaven. Later Christ will return to establish His Millennial Kingdom in the land of Israel says Matthew 24:30–31. Human bodies as described in 1 Corinthians 15:42–53 are perishable, dishonourable and weak due to sin. Our glorified bodies will be imperishable, honourable and powerful. Our new bodies will be no longer mere “natural” bodies but “spiritual” bodies focussed on heavenly places, at one with Holy Spirit of God like Jesus’ Glorified body. Resurrection of Jesus guarantees us that physical death in a grave is not the end. The body sleeps but the spirit soul goes to the LORD God as Philippians 1:20-24 stated. Awake and sing who who dwell in dust for yout dew like dew of herbs and earth shall cast out dead says Isaiah 26:19. Lord Jesus returns in cloud with spirit soul to raise the body in glory and unite body with soul as one being to share His Glory forever.IMG-20180314-WA0005IMG_20180615_060104picture-201Is-the-Hope-of-Rapture-to-meet-Jesus-Christ-Achievable

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John 11:17-27 says Jesus is Resurrection and The Life 17 so Jesus found Lazarus was in the tomb four days. 18Bethany was near Jerusalem about two miles off 19 and many of the Jews came to Martha and Mary to console them concerning their brother.20 Martha heard Jesus was coming so went to meet Him, but Mary stayed at the house. 21 Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if You had been here, my brother would not have died. 22 I know whatever You ask God HE will give You. 23 Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.”24 Martha said to Him, “I know he will rise in resurrection on the last day.” 25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life; he who believes in Me will live even if he dies, 26 and all who live and believes in Me will never die. Do you believe this?” 27 She said to Him, “Yes, Lord I believe You are Christ, the Son of God who came to save the world.” Jesus wept, prayed and thanked God for hearing His request so said, “Lazarus, come out.” Immediately Lazarus walked out of the graves after he was buried four days. Events taking place in alignment with God’s plans are unfolding daily to prepare people to get ready for the Rapture. Only God knows exact day, hour or time but it is good to educate yourself and be in the know to make informed choice. It is written in Ezekiel 37:1-14 in the Bible describing detailed process God used to bring dry bones to life. The Hand of the LORD God came on Ezekiel in the Spirit of the LORD in the valley full of human bones. Ezekiel  was asked to cause dry bones to live again after all hope was lost. God asked Ezekiel, ‘Son of man, can these bones live? Ezekiel answered, “O Lord God, You know.” God said “Prophesy to these bones and say to them ‘dry bones hear the word of the Lord! The LORD God said speak to these bones, “Surely to cause breath to enter you to live. I AM will put sinews on you to bring flesh on you to cover you with skin and put breath in you and you will live. Then you will know I AM the LORD. Ezekiel prophesied as commanded and there was noise and suddenly a rattling and the bones came together bone to bone so sinews and flesh came on them and skin covered them but there was no breath in them. God said to Ezekiel, “Prophesy breath, prophesy, son of man and say to breath, ‘Thus says the LORD God, “Come from four winds, O breath and breathe on the slain that they will live.” And so Ezekiel prophesied as God commanded and breath came into them and they lived and stood on their feet as an exceedingly great army. So God said, “Son of man, these bones are the whole house of Israel. They say, ‘Our bones are dry, our hope is lost and so are cut off! Prophesy the LORD God says, “O My people I will open your graves and you come up from your graves, and bring you into land of Israel. You will know I AM the LORD when I open your graves O My people to bring you up from your graves. I will put My Spirit in you and you will live and I will place you in your own land. Then you will know I AM the LORD and spoken it and performed it,” says the LORD.” This Spiritual change is seen in physical manifestation of nation of Israel and all the nations on earth are grafted in Christ through God’s Eternal covenant with Abraham. Just as a dead situations are restored to life so dead in Christ are restored to life in the Rapture as people believe. Some think there will be no Rapture because flesh and blood cannot dwell in God’s Kingdom. A new glorified body is given so it’s not just a mere flesh and blood anymore. A body is renewed without sickness or body limitations so life is restored in perfect image of God without sin. As Ezekiel’s Spiritual Gospel message came alive in the living history of Israel so Christian believers in Christ Rapture alive into heaven to escape GREAT TRIBULATIONS but God allows unbelievers to remain on earth according to their faith. Seek God in prayer to help you discern HIS SALVATION plan in Jesus Christ. 

 

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ACTIVELY DEEP LISTENING

post_SilentListen_121816Actively deep listening to hear correctly, affirm and understand what people are saying means a lot to them. It is more than being a sounding board to help talk and discuss life matters. To be allowed into the deepest inner thoughts of a person takes courage so be present in here and now. Affirm by nodding and agreeing, saying “yes” to fully engage in the conversation is part of the process to ensure properly hearing person. And a feedback clarifies topics discussed to reassure person listening attentively. Be polite if speaker feels stressed, anxious, calm them, pay attention to help them open up to share innermost feelings or thoughts. It is encouraging to build their confidence to reflect on their plans and fears. Art of listening, hearing is act of love, takes commitment, ability to read between lines and desire to understand, appreciate person talking. Greatest gift coaches have is ability to help people to know where they are coming from. Listening (1)Understandably needs to provide a safe space to see life from their standpoint is so important and necessary. Life can feel lonely sometimes so knowing that someone really cares and understands matters. It is important to open up to share true feelings without thinking being judged. Health and wellbeing help the lonely or isolated to express inner thoughts and their ideas of life. A phone call to friend or passing time of the day with colleagues is what makes society happy and cohesive by including others. Idealised happiness of fantasy, domestic bliss on social media on the Facebook is unnatural needs so private, confidential space helps open up to deal with what is not working in life.Couple speaking on a benchCoach Kenny Mammarella D’Cruz, The Man Whisperer, talks of importance of men opening up, sharing “without any judgments, ‘shoulds’ or ridicule” as he regularly feels safe in his men’s groups. His workshops and meet-ups invaluable for men from teens to pensioners and offers support, understanding and the reassurance that someone really has got your back. Today ask someone about themselves, really listen, reflect and say something generous or insightful back. Watch their faces. Our ears never get us into trouble and here is a lovely quote, as David Augsburger’s thought sums up: “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.”  

OUR INTERCONNECTEDNESS

cultural-diversityToday our interconnectedness requires caring compassion more than ever before for a common good for all in society. In John Ford’s film The Searchers, John Wayne’s character spends years looking for his niece Debbie kidnapped as child by Comanche Indians. When he finally finds her, she wanted to stay with her Comanche husband rather than return home. Although shocking in the film, it’s historically accurate. Whites captured by American Indians commonly chose to stay with their captors and the book cites a case of a captive woman who hid from her would-be rescuers. Sebastian Junger argues in his book that people need to feel connected to others. During war often people from different classes mixed in the ways they did not before and joined together in the face of a common enemy. More astonishingly, from the earliest days of Europeans in America, settlers of both sexes ran away to join Indian tribes. This was not just a few people but hundreds of hundreds as the practice was so rife in the early 1600s settler leaders made it an offence with harsh punishments. But over the following centuries people still ran off in huge numbers. It hardly happened the other way, Indians did not want to join white society. The attraction argues Junger, was the sense of community, the importance of the tribe, evident in other primates primitive human societies. The superficial attractive American Indian life was obvious: more relaxed, clothing more comfortable, religion less harsh. It was mostly structure of Indian society appeal as less hierarchical, essentially classless, egalitarian.438a8-jewish2bimmigration2brussia2bto2bunited2bstates252c2bcopyright2bby2bheb-2bpub-2bco-2b1901252c2bpublic2bdomain2bvia2bwikimedia2bcommons People nomadic so personal property hardly mattered, as limited to what you or horses could carry. What changed this natural way of living for humans was agriculture and industry. And accumulation of personal property led to people doing what they thought best for themselves, rather than for the common good. But, Junger, says we are not happy like this we’re wired to the lifestyle of community tribe. Take the London Blitz during World War II as it began the government feared there would be riots and maybe revolution as people fought one another for space in bomb shelters or for food but infact exactly the reverse happened. People from all different classes mixed in a way they had not before joined together in face of common enemy. Historians credit ‘spirit of the Blitz’ as the cause of the Labour landslide victory in the 1945 election, strong feeling for community led to foundation of NHS and a robust welfare state. Percentage of buildings in Hull destroyed in the Blitz. Junger, an American journalist and former war correspondent, gives many examples of what our modern way of living cost us. In a modern city or suburb you can go through an entire day meeting only strangers. Affluence, urbanisation rise, rates of suicide, depression go up. The World Health Organisation says people in wealthy countries suffer eight times depression rate of those in poorer ones. When we revert to group for support in a community tribe things improve.Sebastian Junger argues in this book that people need to feel connected to others. During the war, people from different classes mixed in a way they hadn¿t before and joined together in the face of a common enemy  Those caught up in the bloody conflict in Bosnia say they were happier during challenges. The reason was all pulled together and so felt connected part of something bigger than themselves and spent time embedded with others. U.S. troops in Afghanistan said they never felt alone there, soldiers slept a dozen to a shelter you couldn’t stretch an arm without touching someone. People of all colours, classes, creeds bonded as they had to look out for one another. So idea of interconnectedness is associated with sustainability, in reference to the manner in which environment, society, and economic systems are inextricably linked. Interconnectedness also refers to phenomena not structured hierarchy systems for dominance and control. So the internet and flight make the world closer than ever before so distance is no longer an issue. The interconnectedness of things allows that common language to take full advantage of all societies in a new way. Breaking all of society into a long-term patterns of change in human interconnectedness. Rising level of such interconnectedness has ‘civilising’ effect in encouraging societies to form ‘unions of states’ to respond to shared problems. These outline of global cliques intensify difference more than common good.  In tribes survival individual depends upon survival of group. Lack of kind support makes it hard for the returning combat veterans to reintegrate in contemporary fragmented society lifestyles. unity-is-found-in-gods-wordAbove all, people need to feel connected to others. It’s a good starting point for rethinking the way we live our troubled modern lives. Community spirit in U.S. rocketed after 9/11. And the suicide rate dropped dramatically. There were no rampage shootings in public places in schools, colleges for 2 years. Shootings happen in middle-class rural suburban areas never in poor inner-city location, gangs provide tribal sense of belonging. Bonding with larger group often begins at birth in and less developed countries children sleep with in close proximity to parents and extended family group. In Northern European countries and U.S. small children sleep alone so go through a developmental stage of bonding with stuffed animals, ‘comfort’ blankets. In Junger’s book self-determination theory of things necessary is life contentment. People need to feel competent at what they do to feel authentic in life. Above all, they need to feel connected with others. It’s a good starting point for rethinking the way we live our troubled modern lives. In Bible this deep sense of intricate belonging is described as the parts of bespoke wheel joined together to function congruently in unison. Each codepends on others to work together and in isolation is just a piece of tool not accomplishing good by itself. Is a notion built upon word of God that it is better to give than to receive. The joy of relief shared being helpful to each other strengthens group rather than division by haves and the have-nots suffering. Coupled with their pressure is a fear of constantly looking over their shoulder of threats of others taking back what they usurped. Means they never relax or feel secure at peace. The inner peace and inner joy thought to be gained by excessive gains and superabundance is illusive replaced by worries. Jesus told the rich young man to sell all to help the poor yet society is enthusiastic about loving money more than loving precious priceless humans. Fragmented society divides materialism which does not constitute real life and yer an entire lifetime is spent collecting and preserving material possessions left behind. Absolutely nothing is taken into the grave but those things caused stress of a lifetime misled to value them as the status of life. Within a second life passes helplessly without those very material things life is enslaved to produce. All the precious years wasted acquiring, chasing, replacing, storing, maintaining if only spent better to take more care of all humans as Jesus recommended. And the cycle continues getting worse as the trend to accumulate more deprives all others more marshal laws are made to safeguard and enforced at cost of whole community deprived. The irony is those communities that hold onto intergrated values of common good for all are being threatened and endangered by a selfish few destroying their own. They stretch further and further afield with a sight on conquering the whole world even if it means losing their souls. This further leads to disappointment, resentment, conflict over demands for fairness and justice. The good news is there is soon coming a great day of recompense to restore all the years the cankerworm and locusts eaten times of double restoration. God is resetting agenda to take back nations to be given rightful owner LORD Jesus.

THE SPRITE THUNDERLIGHTS

Upperatmoslight1Stunning images of the seldom seen elusive sky phenomenon known as sprites. These brilliant strands of red light surge outbound from the tops of clouds towards space by thunderstorms emitting lightning. “Sprites can reach 50-60 miles into space and penetrate downward into the middle of the stratosphere 15-20 miles high.with jellyfish-like tendrils.” imrsGod’s Majestic displays of lightenings or thunder are often interpreted in various ways by Scientists and religious people as signs from their gods. Interestingly in the Bible God often displays thundering and lightenings as signs of HIS presence when God reveals HIMSELF to address HIS people. God’s natural phenomena is displaying HIS majestic wonders. The 7 Thunders sealed by Daniel from God’s Throneroom endtime signs or wonders from heaven. imrs (1)The above sprite was seen in Oklahoma, often last milliseconds so rarely visible from the ground due to the clouds in the way, precious few sprites have been observed. Ahrns, a graduate student at the University of Alaska-Fairbanks and crew of scientists are flown on several sprite-hunting missions from NCAR’s Research Aviation Flight Facility centre. The ISS provides a clear perspective on The Earth’s Weather. _100729621_thunderstorm_seen_from_space_stationThere are bizarre happenings in upper atmosphere of the earth so new mission wants to know more about it. These is done by Atmosphere-Space Interaction Monitor (ASIM), will be brought to the International Space Station on Monday, observes strange electricity phenomena that occur over thunderstorms. The ISS operating at height circulated over 400 km, offers perfect view of the turbulent weather of earth. ASIM will be deployed aboard the station later this month.Media Caption A thunderstorms by ISS. Electrifying effects of storms observed from the space station. When lightning strikes, something completely different happens over the tops of clouds. Known as Transient Luminous Events (TLE the unusual features were first discovered by chance. Thunderstorms are some of the most spectacular events in nature but what is seen from surface of our planet is just beginnings of wonders. 

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WE LIVED IN HEAVENLY CITY

IMG_20180307_153656We lived in the heavenly city of God in spirit with God before birth on earth. Our life on earth is not beginning of any person’s life. The Bible Testifies that Children of God before we were born on earth we all lived with Heavenly Father as spirit children. Our spirit bodies look like our physical bodies, with arms, legs, eyes, and so on without flesh and blood. Our life as spirit children is called premortal life. During premortal life our heavenly Father God and Jesus Christ our parents taught us the Gospel and the plan of life. We are well acquainted with God our Heavenly Father so our spirit soul from God enters human flesh so we lived in HIS HOUSE and dwelt with HIM before our birth on earth. Every person born of God is a son or daughter of God Elohim. It is written in Scripture accounts God decided to replenish earth in Genesis in Bible to recreate, restore and regenrate the earth. God told the people in heaven and agreed with HIM ” Let us replenish earth” so God’s heavenly team given an opportunity to discuss feelings about renewed earth. God Loves mankind so much HE FORGIVES so willing to restart earth in Genesis once again. Important for God LOVES people, so project earth replenishment begun. Jesus was in the premortal life and shows His great love for us. Jesus Christ voluntered to be our Saviour. In premortal life we were spirit children so lived with heavenly parents in Bible in Hebrews 12:9Jesus was the FirstBorn Spirit Son of Heavenly Father and is the older brother joint heir of our spirits. Once others like satan was spirit child of Heavenly Father. God, Heavenly Father called a meeting for all HIS Spirit Children. At this meeting HE explained HIS plan for us to become like HIM. free-bible-studies-online-great-white-throne-judgementHE told us that HE wanted us to go to earth to replenish in physical body. HE then restored the firmaments, earth, oceans, seas, fishes, waters and created Afam and Eve from dust of the earth. And then breathed HIS Spirit breath of life to kick start the process of human life on earth. God said on earth will be tests to see if keeps HIS commandments but made provision for forgiveness in His Son Jesus Christ, Seed of the woman. At a meeting Heavenly Father explains on earth all sin and all die but have the eternal life in Christ Jesus our Saviour. Heaven Father needed someone to be the Saviour, to suffer for our sins to die for us so that we could be resurrected. Heavenly Father kept HIS plan to lead us on earth by HIS Spirit daily but some wanted permissive will freedom to do as they please without any input from God. Although God is the creator who made us in HIS OWN image some want nothing to do with God chose to rebel with satan and fallen angels. God made life possible but with many challenges from opposer fighting against God. To be righteous child of God meant attacks from satan who wants God’s Honour to be given to him. Because God LOVES us in John 15:13, Jesus volunteers to be our Saviour. He followed Heavenly Father’s plan to give GLORY to Heavenly Father. Heavenly Father agreed Jesus to be our Saviour but satan was angry so rebelled against Heavenly Father in Revelations 12:7-9. Heavenly Father’s spirit children followed God in Jesus not satan. And two-thirds of Heavenly Father’s spirit children chose to follow God so stayed with God until birthed on earth. The rest of rebellious angels and satan were cast out of heaven so how lucifer became satan, evil spirits followed him to try to get people to do wrong things. So spirit following satan did not receive physical body from God.IMG_20180307_152950Spirits of God chose Heavenly Father’s plan, followed Jesus in premortal life willing so born on earth physical body of the flesh and blood. God’s Children choose to follow Heavenly Father’s plan and born on earth with mortal bodies. So life on earth is a continuation from heaven so this why the spirit returns to God after passing into Glory in heaven in Christ Jesus. God’s Children learn, understand Bible so apply principles in their lives. Reading Bible references help to gain insights to understand the Scriptures. In heaven is the perfect joy, peace no more tears, sadness or sorrow or pain. Life in heaven with Heavenly Father is full of joy and Happiness only. So wonderful to feel good to know the Heavenly Father is our Father so HIS SPIRIT works in us. What does it mean that Jesus our older brother  of our spirits? Our Heavenly Father’s plans continue today on earth so blessed to know Jesus volunteered to suffer and die for us. We know that we chose to follow Jesus in premortal life so remain God’s Children by not joining rebellion against Father God so glad we all made that choice. The fact we chose to follow Jesus in premortal life tells us we are predestined as Children of God to be loyal to God even if we fall seven times the righteous is lifted up in forgiveness of God in Christ. Isaiah 53:5 says Jesus was wounded for all our transgressions He was bruised for all our iniquities so The chastisement for our peace was upon Him And by His stripes we are healed. So we are redeemed from the curse of the law because Jesus took our curses by being crucified on the Cross in our place for sin. Every handwriting of all ordinances contrary to us is removed out of our way and nailed to the Cross, so Jesus sets us free indeed! 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Now we have been born in mortality, it is important still choose to follow Jesus to be living daily for God in Christ. The Bible explains the New Testament about things Jesus and His Apostles while they lived on earth. It helps to know lessons of life is based on Life and teachings of Jesus, Apostles, disciples. Encourages God’s Children to study their Bibles and Worship God Obey HIS Words. Enrich life activities by joining fellow believers helps build us up in the agape love of God. Join by following activities during Bible lessons, review, summary or any text challenges. As a review, write texts following words from the Bible and apply it in life daily. We KNOW FROM PREVIOUS STUDIES ALL SAVED, BORN-AGAIN CHILDREN OF GOD OF ALL THE AGES ARE IN THE RAPTURE AND DEAD RESURRECTED BEFORE MILLENNIUM. Before Great Tribulation Jesus Comes back to gather together His Church His Bride to be with Him in cloud, God and the saints forever in heaven. We know we will “live & reign with Christ for a thousand years on return to earth in Revelations 20:4. Billions saved as the Children of God as people of all ages are in heaven alive with Jesus because their spirit returns to God. REST OF DEAD do not LIVE AGAIN UNTIL a THOUSAND YEARS is finished in Revelations 20:5. So Jesus Christ returns to earth with saints to live and rule in a perfect world. Later God comes down to Dwell on earth with all Children of God forever so the whole world now believes in God so there is a perfect peace that passes all human understanding forever and ever.

ARE YOU AN ONLY CHILD?

Last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked me the question Daddy and I have been half expecting. With a slight ripple across your brow and your blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister?’

Are you an only child and did you know why you became one literally? Perhaps it is a health or a financial circumstance beyond parent’s control or unfortunate situation of loss of parent making it not possible to have siblings. The parents of an only son have written a letter to him explaining their choice and decision to him alone. The letter stated that mother found out ‘last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked a question Daddy and was half expecting. With slight ripple across your brow and your blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister?’ I kissed the top of your head, squeezed you closer and momentarily panicked about how on earth to answer. At four years and four months, you are clearly starting to notice many of friends at nursery talk of siblings or babies. And thankfully this time, you gave me a reprieve turning your attention straight to dinosaur story read to you.’ Last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked me the question Daddy and I half expected. With a slight ripple across your brow and blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister? But I know one day the ‘why’ will become more persistent. Daddy and I are far from alone in deciding to stop at one child. Apparently by 7years, half of all families in this country will only have one offspring. Not that it stops me from feeling occasional pang of guilt. I know there will be many positives to decision like our undivided attention for starters so you never know a prickly adjustment period when a new baby arrives. How about sibling rough and tumble you’ll miss out on? A constant companionship for better or worse? I cannot pretend it hasn’t been a real dilemma. Yes, there have been moments when my resolve wobbled particularly as you get closer to starting school so baby no more. Who doesn’t get broody when they see a tiny newborn enfolded in a mother’s arms. But deep down, I know we’ve made the most responsible choice. I just hope, as you grow older, you agree. The truth is Daddy and I would loved another child but quite simply are too old. We liked the idea of two or maybe more, Daddy even hoped for twins! We imagined you all together and nobody ever short of a playmate, bundling you all into the bath after a day at the beach or the park. Sometimes I do wonder if we left it too late to start our little family. After all, we’ve been together for 19 years. Will you wonder what we were doing all that time? know many positives to our decision of undivided attention, helps you thrive. But I turned 44 last year, a day you and Daddy helped me devour the birthday cake I’d made. ‘That’s REALLY old!’ you exclaimed. In terms of having another baby, you were right. More women are have babies well into 40s and beyond but risks proven to be grater for mum and baby not least Down’s Syndrome or other birth defects. I wonder if we left it too late to start family. After all, we’ve been together for 19 years so wondering what we were doing all this time? We met through mutual friends in our mid-20s, drawn together by similarities: we’re both driven, determined, sociable and aspire to wring the most from life. But like many of our generation, chose naively it turned out to let time slip by. Distracted by careers, Daddy as a chartered surveyor and board director, and me as a journalist, we saved like mad for our future, bought property, played hard and enjoyed exciting holidays all over the world. Sometimes I do wonder if we left it too late to start our little family. For 19 years prepared in advance for your arrival. Family and friends badgered us about settling down but we felt buying a home together was the greatest commitment. I know there will be many positives to our decision — all that undivided attention, for starters, and you’ll never know that prickly adjustment period when a new baby arrives There were the more important things paying off a mortgage, for example than a wedding to spend money on. As for having a family, conscious of getting older, of course, honestly didn’t think leaving it to late 30s was a problem. After all, many friends in a similar situation. And in February 2011 of 12 years together, finally married at a beautiful country house in North Yorkshire. By then we were financially secure, happy, had bought a spacious barn conversion and wanted nothing more than to have a little family. But three months after our wedding, early one cool, grey May morning, my own beautiful, adoring mummy your granny died. She’d had cancer for four agonising years, and in the end the doctors and nurses couldn’t do anything more to save her. If I had just one wish in life it was that Granny had lived to meet you. She would have been besotted by your mischievousness, love of being silly and making people smile traits you share with her. Losing her made me all the more desperate to become a mum. I wanted to love and nurture another little person the way she’d always loved my brother and me. I longed to watch her warmth, wisdom and trademark cheerfulness live on in her grandchild. Grief stricken, I barely ate or slept for months.Grief stricken, I barely ate or slept for months. I ran for miles at a time as a coping mechanism and lost a lot of weight despite being slim anyway 

I ran for miles at a time as a coping mechanism and lost a lot of weight despite being slim anyway. Perhaps we shouldn’t have been surprised when, after almost two years of trying to have a baby, doctors confirmed that the shock of losing Granny had caused my body to shut down. I was almost 40 by so we referred for IVF. That’s when something magical happened against all the odds. In late January 2013, I went to fertility clinic in outskirt of Nottingham for some initial scans before starting a treatment. After minutes, sonographer took off her glasses, wiped a tear from her eye and said: ‘You’re not going to believe this you are already pregnant!’ I was around five weeks, but there you were on the sonographer’s screen, a microscopic dot. I cried, and couldn’t wait to tell Daddy. We were elated you arrived in September that year by a planned Caesarean section. I adored you in an instant with your cute little face and love of a cuddle. When I delve into my handbag for a lipstick and instead pull out a toy car or a dirty twig from the park that you’ve put there, it makes me smile 

But I admit I struggled emotionally for a long time. Within a space of under two and a half years went through the two significant events in a woman’s life losing my mum and having a baby of my own. Not having Granny around at that time was heart-wrenching. During the three days that you and I were in hospital, I longed for my mum to walk in, beaming and saying: ‘Aren’t you a clever girl? He’s absolutely gorgeous!’ When Gramps came alone to meet you for the first time, he hadn’t seemed more solitary since Granny’s death. In the months that followed, I’d take you for seven-mile walks in pram along the canal paths and country trails close to our home and tears would roll down my cheeks as I daydreamed about Mum walking by my side. When I delve into my handbag for a lipstick and instead pull out a toy car or a dirty twig from the park that you’ve put there, it makes me smile  What I’d give to have just one photograph of her cuddled up cheek-to-cheek with you. Daddy was wonderfully sensitive and supportive. But at times I felt very alone, as many women do after having a baby. The impossible sadness was juxtaposed by the unrivalled joy you brought to Daddy and me.I know that watching you with a little brother or sister would be a delight. But another baby now? I was 40 by the time I had you. We quickly decided it was more important to enjoy you, rather than focus on trying for another simply because the clock was ticking 

You make us laugh uncontrollably often every day with your funny little ways and your constant chatter and wonder at the world around us. I was 40 by the time I had you. You’re as affectionate and loving as you are boisterous and wilful, destined to be strong-willed given our own personalities! And even when you’re throwing a tantrum we wouldn’t want it any other way. I know watching you with a little brother or sister would be a delight. But another baby now? I was 40 by the time I had you. We quickly decided it was more important to enjoy you, rather than focus on trying for another simply because the clock was ticking. After all, there are so many couples who’d give anything to have just one child. And who’s to say it would have happened a second time, given how long it took us to have you? Plus, at what point do you draw a line under the disappointment of trying and failing? Besides, we’d found being a family of three suits all of us. I am still able to do a job I love while you’re at nursery three days a week. More importantly, Daddy and I are able to focus our attention on you rather than feeling torn between more than one child. Your energy knows no bounds and I have to run you like a dog every day to expend it. I’m not sure I could cope with another little one fizzing with such effervescence. You have always loved your sleep, too: And imagine if you had a sibling who wailed all night for months. That said, I can’t deny the occasional well of sadness: the ‘what ifs’ and fear you’ll miss out on the fun of having a sibling. If I had just one wish in life it would be that Granny had lived to meet you. She would have been besotted by your mischievousness, love of being silly and making people smile — traits you share with her Since I’ve always been so close to my own little brother your uncle Robbie, 42, who loves to tickle and dangle you upside down. Daddy and I have often looked wistfully at our friends with four kids: they’re never without a ready-made playmate. On the other hand, we know siblings who fought terribly as children and barely speak as adults. We know lots of gloriously happy, and well grounded, sociable, selfless children including your brilliant cousin, Saffron, who’s five years older than you. It was adorable watching you playing together on the beach and in the pool on a recent family holiday in Spain. How I chuckled listening to the two of you animatedly discussing favourite or not vegetables in back of car. Nobody ever questioned our decision although there are friends who still tell us: ‘Go on, have another!’ Some people assume things of an only child that they are spoilt because they don’t learn to share. Or they miss out on so much. But Daddy and I will ensure you never feel isolated or become spoilt. Bracing ourselves to hosting lots of play dates sleepovers. We’ll do everything to encourage you to continue to be sociable caring confident little boy you already are. What I’ve realised more than anything is there is actuala much shorter answer to your question. Quite simply, Daddy and I feel enormously fortunate to have one healthy, happy, hilarious little boy who fills our lives with magic every day. We have never been left wanting more.