Superfast fibreoptic internet is built by farmer’s wife Christine Conder for 2,300 members, rural community Lancashire as a revolutionary internet pioneer. Her DIY solution solved neighbour’s internet connectivity problems in 2009 evolved into B4RN internet service provider of a faster gigabit per second broadband speed to parishes in picturesque Lune Valley. Is 35 times faster than 28.9 Mbps UK speed internet connection according to Ofcom. Began when trees separating Chris’ neighbouring farm from nearest wireless mast only internet connection provided by Lancaster University grew too tall. Something more robust was required and no alternatives available Chris decided to take matters into her own hands. She purchased a kilometre of fibre-optic cable and commandeered her farm tractor to dig a trench. After lighting the cable, the two farms were connected, with hers feeding the one behind the trees. “We dug it ourselves and we lit the cable ourselves and we proved that ordinary people could do it she says. It was not rocket science just 3 days of hard work. Her motto she often repeats in conversation, is JFDI. Three of those letters stand for Just Do It. The fourth is work out for yourself.Fibre optic cable cattle grid. And JFDI she has. B4RN now claims to have laid 2,000 miles 3,218km of cable connected to string of local parishes to its network. It won’t connect a single household, so the entire parish has to be on board before begins to build. Each household pays £30 per month, £150 connection fee, larger businesses pay more. And households must do some installation themselves. The entire infrastructure is fibre-optic cable right to the property than just to cabinet with existing copper phone lines running to home generally offered by British Telecom. The service is so popular the company has work lined up for next 10 years and people from as far as Sierra Leone attended the open days held couple of times a year. The bulk of work is done by volunteers although there are now 15 paid staff on board. Farmers give access to their land and those with equipment like diggers and tractors do the heavy work. Other landowners can charge B4RN complain on Facebook page about price of cabling under a disused railway bridge owned by Highways England. A spokesperson told BBC standard industry cost include a £4,500 fee for surveying, legal fees and price per metre for cable installation. So B4RN has yet to make profit once it pays back shareholders it should be in good financial health although on condition profits ploughed back into community. Chris’ services to rural broadband have recognised by the Queen was awarded an MBE in 2015, alongside Barry Forde, a retired university lecturer who now leads the co-operative.Newborn cattle registered online within 5days in UK. Incredibly B4RN customers had been surviving on dial-up services or paying high fees for satellite feeds. So Chris says some still do. As farmers now register online with the Department for Environment, Food and Rural Affairs (Defra) within 5 days of every calf being born to enter food chain, connectivity is vital. “All the farmers who have not got broadband have to rely on land agents or auction marts or public wi-fi spaces which we haven’t got round here either, or paying somebody to do it,” says Chris. Farmers finding dial-up just could not cope with it. They bought satellites, but children use all satellite feed for things and when they came to use it at night there was no feed left, gone over data and they were being charged a fortune for what they then used. “So the farmers have been incredibly supportive of this and that is why they have given us free rein throughout the fields, which we go through to connect them and then we get to the villages which subsidise the farmers’ connections. “You could not do it for farmers alone, but you could not get to the village without farmers so it is win win.Independent fibre broadband providers like Gigaclear serve 50,000 customers in several UK counties and Hyperoptic is active in 13 cities. They all claim to offer 1Gbps speeds. “The best way to make sure this country has faster up to date internet is support alternative networks says Chris. “When there is competition BT will then up their game. “We cannot do the whole country. BT, Virgin etc are good businesses, they are in it to make profit, as businesses do.” Openreach, currently a division of BT, owns the UK’s largest broadband infrastructure. Big picture is a plan alongside government to get 95% UK fibre coverage,” said Kim Mears, Openreach’s managing director of Infrastructure Delivery. The provider upgraded 90 small Community Fibre Partnership, set up to work in areas it describes as “hard to reach.” Ms Mears appealed to those struggling with poor connectivity to make contact. A lot to gain if communities come together we are really here to help,” she said.
With the festive season comes the time to socialise and celebrate to let the hair down to relax and enjoy life. Soon the atmosphere of goodwill means offices are relaxed and new friendships formed. It is crucial to to watch out to avoid bizarre affairs. Someone one was attracted to but off limit becomes innocent best friend to confide in. Relaxed office environment and party atmosphere means boundaries are broken. Influences of alcohol and substance abuse lets inhibition and guards down. People do not set out to have an affair. Novelty of attention compares long – lasting monogamous stable marriage to ridicule spouse. Friendships cross over subconsciously into affairs. Reinforced by music, songs, lyrics published, brag about daring exploit of infidelity as conquest. Companies train people to conduct affairs undetected. The world celebrates affairs in TV dramas, media, newspapers. Some in relationship look for discreet indulgence for fun. Others need emotional relationship, romantic friendship, passionate attachment long – gone in marriage. Some have affair at play fair so meet adulterers via specialist dating websites to enjoy leisure and pleasure. Most may not feel unloved by partners nor have desire to leave them. But convince and justify third-party to become involved in the new relationship for lust. Texts professing love, showering praises of how wonderful, beautiful is flattering. So told one is best thing that happened to them in secret phone calls, texts and attention.
Although all evidence points to affair, texts, bizarre behaviours, body language, perfumes, lip sticks, awkward silences, restlessness, yet the person involved vehemently denies the affair. Third party told and reassured you are best thing that ever happened to them. Everything is going well, life is great so his full attention every hour, minute, second, receives endearing affirmation texts. Without you, they profess life is meaningless. So you return the love, ensuring you take great care of them. One devotes entire life to meet their needs so at their beck and call day or night. Although all evidence points to affair, in body language, perfumes, lip sticks, awkward silences, restlessness, secret phone calls, texts, the person involved vehemently denies the affair. Told and reassured you are best thing that ever happened to them. Everything is going well, life is great so his full attention every hour, minute, second, receives endearing affirmation texts. Yet in defiance of the law for monogamous marriages married another. Some started off as a bit of fun and side kick to be disposed of when fed up. Only to realise addictive entanglement cannot be so easily broken and shaken off Scot free as they thought. Coupled with affairs are weaving the web of deception to keep up with the dubious lifestyle.The self-deceiving person projects self-destruction onto partner as cause of problems. So the thrill of demolition of another’s spouse makes one feel more than a conqueror. Cheered on, mislead, use, abuse the rescuer from their sadness. They think affair makes them happier from ‘unloving,’ ‘uncaring,’ ‘cruel’ partner so made to feel wonderful as rescuer from miserable long-suffering. Often accusing the spouse or partner of going livid or mental for nor reason or even suggesting they are the ones having affairs to sear their guilty conscience and shift blame onto them. In the world of take over bids receivership marriage has victims. If one sees a happy couple having good times envy them jealously to replace the partner or spouse. One feels great for such an accomplishment as stolen water is very sweet. This successful take over bid is rewarded by numerous gifts, cars, houses, holidays, cruises, clothes, shopping, unlimited credit cards and bank accounts to indulge to one’s pleasure. Eventually the little secret becomes scandal which finally relieves from burden of secrecy. The family becomes embroiled in tensions and confusions as the man becomes piggy in the middle. He withdraws from his long- term family emotionally. Although physically present, he is caught up with pressure to decide next move. The spouse comes to a shocking realisation as suspicions are confirmed and man feels relief. At last, one is finally free to announce engagement and pretty soon the wedding. One has never been happier, receiving all the attention and affection from such a devoted loving partner unappreciated and considered evil by others and all the ex-partners and ex-wives. One hardly sees friends and family any more as this new person in is so satisfying and overwhelming one cuts off family and friends. Some may even forbid contact with friends and family as you now belongs to them. The rings and assets showered as gifts prove their love so now you are hooked to them for life. The intimacy is so great one can hardly get hands off each other. With capacity for scoring several rounds per day and night. Finally the dust settles, and one is expecting at last. The ultimate proof of commitment to seal the deal of love is union of a child made together. The love child or lust child as more appropriately called is now conceived.
Preparation and attentions is focussed to ensure the conception party, the gender announcement baby showers part, baby room is decorated as desired. The next cycle of shopping starts with baby this and bay that with so many gifts. The love is intense as ever if all goes well with the pregnancy. The due date arrives for wonderful news it is a boy or it is a girl or both in case of twins. After birth, woman’s attentions shifts completely to baby in full swing gearing on auto pilot to focus on baby and recover. The body changes so not immediately appealing for intimacy. For wondering eyes once again, cycle begins for serial monogamy. As feels left in the lurch so provokes another woman to jealousy. So he begins to repeat regular pattern to deceive and fool the next woman without a conscience. Soon if the situation between the latest spouse is not redressed not redressed with therapy goes off to off wind on old flames for sympathy. Misery loves company so recalls good times of the past. After a while, the woman finally grasps they have been played. So start crying wolf with people who could foresee the consequences in advance warning them yet ignored, Unfortunately, they had to find out for themselves the hard way.
They now fully understand it was their roving wandering spouse who could not keep their parts up fully zipped. Yet projected their insecurities onto their ex by blaming and bad – mouthing to the naive new person to fool them into thinking they were better than wife. At first they are made to feel they can take a better care of the lousy unfaithful man. The foundation laid by a smooth talking gigolo cannot build up a long- lasting relationship. Although there may be success stories of women who took other’s husband’s or vice versa and it worked for them. One is tarnished forever by ungodly foundation of ruining someone’s family. Children of relationship find numerous half – sisters and brothers previously unknown. They may be forced into some sort of blended relationship to ‘forgive’ the home wrecker to become friends for the sake of the children. It is important to remember if they do it with you they will do it to you no matter how much the promise reassured you or put a ring on it. Some totally misunderstand the reality of practical life of relationships.
So do not compromise or learn to give and take to live in peace by agreeing to disagree on differences. So insist on changing partners fantasize in their minds with unrealistic life demands from spouses and partners. Some are perfectionists so no one is quite excellent to please them. Others become bored with family life, partying, mundane daily duties, tasks of housekeeping. Some seek new thrills as casa nova so permanently demand to remain fixated in dating honeymoon stage of relationships forever. So want to live in fantasy land like Peter Pan never growing up in never-never cuckoo land. They give rings easily to naive girls and women to fool them into thinking they are sincere. Pretty soon they eat their cakes and have by getting their rings back. Damage done is not repaired after they play house. Yet people find it hard to resist enticing, seducing passion, attention, showered if feeling lonely like Bathsheba. King David had many wives yet when the king’s men and the whole Israelite army went to fight in war King David stayed behind at home. Bathsheba was the wife of Uriah the Hittite. King David played peeping Tom coveted by stealing Uriah’s the Hittites wife by affair with Bathsheba. According to the Bible in 2 Samuel 11-12:24 this happened in springtime when kings went to war. King David took her to sleep with him so Bathsheba was King David’s most famous wife because of their illicit extramarital affair at the height of David’s reign in 1005-965 B.C. Bathsheba gets pregnant so King David sent for Uriah to try to conceal his sin but he refused to go home for comfort to sleep with wife while others died in trenches defending nation. King David gave Uriah his death warrant given to Joab so put in the most dangerous part of battle and killed. King David’s evil plan worked, but GOD saw it, so sent Nathan the Prophet to condemn and judge King David’s actions. God said, ‘Out of your own household I am going to bring calamity on you. Before eyes I will take your wives and give them to one close to you and he will sleep with your wives in broad daylight. 12 You did it in secret but I will do this thing in broad daylight before all Israel.’’ 13 King David said to Nathan, “I sinned against God.”Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin so will not die. 14 But because by doing this you shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” King David humbled himself and confessed his sin but paid a hefty price of calamities by his actions which affected whole family for generations. On the contrast, Joseph refused to succumb to a similar invitation for adultery by Portipher his Master’s wife.
King David humbled himself and confessed his sin but Joseph was a young Godly man in a strange land without family support. Portipher’s wife wanted to take advantage of his vulnerability so demanded unrealistic attention of affection from Joseph. Fearing God Joseph rejected her advances as the affair was not right. It would destroy God’s vision and future plans for Joseph if he sinned with such a person with wrong motives. Joseph remained loyal and faithful to God by refusing to SIN AGAINST GOD. God’s Holy Spirit in Joseph and FEAR OF GOD reinforced Joseph’ ability to not commit adultery in marriage by extra marital affairs due to wondering eyes. Joseph rejected Portipher’s immoral advances. Yet endured punishment for standing firm to do the right thing. So in 1 Peter 4:12-14, Christian believers go through fiery trials to refine their faith and renew their strength. What does not kill one makes one stronger. So Joseph was refined as pure gold by enduring the test of morality. This helped Joseph to build up a strong monogamous marriage.
Practising self-control, as a single person who does not indulge in fornication helps remain faithful in marriage. Practising serial monogamy multiple relationships makes it harder to suddenly settle down to stop addictive behaviour. This is why spouse is seen as enemy who prevents them from happiness with other women. Some feel caged by marriage so simple requests to be serious to take responsibilities of life cause resentment. Joseph, endured being uprooted from his native land like Sarah who was barren considered a curse in Middle Eastern culture up to age of 90, being held captive, and being exposed to the advances of foreign kings twice. She completely shared Abraham’s journey with God in a spirit of faith, courage and self-sacrifice if necessary. In order to protect her husband, Sarah agreed twice to enter a foreign king’s harem where she could have potentially been greatly harmed and defiled. Still, she obeyed her husband , though faced risks Sarah was covered by God’s protection blood covenant.
So God ensured they led their lives and God rewarded Sarah’s obedience and rescued her from Pharaoh’s and King Abimilech’s harem. Clearly it was God who did not allow the King of Gerar to touch Sarah. And God said to him in a dream, ‘Yes, I know you did this in integrity of your heart. For I withheld you from sinning against Me. I did not let you touch her in Genesis 20:6. Through it all, she remained faithful to God, to her husband, and to her calling. It is never too late or become so desperate to take another’s husband because one’s biological clock is ticking. God says Christian believers who have faith in God and believe, shall still bring forth fruit in old age so shall be vigorous and flourishing in Psalm 92:14. Sarah’s gave birth to Isaac in old age so expect remain vitally active in latter years. Sarah was her husband’s partner in life and his equal. In Christian faith and belief they are both equally created in God’s Image and Likeness. So considered excellent teachers in their own right, with Sarah teaching the women and Abraham teaching the men. And God Who sees all needs Will duly reward them if they remain loyal and faithful God. The fact that Hagar conceived and not Sarah caused Hagar to think she was more spiritual, better and more blessed than Sarah. In her pride, she exalted herself over Sarah and became insolent so Sarah felt betrayed and humiliated. Hagar learned her lesson the hard way so paid a hefty price for compromising herself with a married man Abraham. The promises given her as surrogate mother of their child turned sour. So God visited Hagar and provided for her and Ishmael. Above all, Abraham and Sarah repaired their marriage while Hagar was thrown out literally with the baby. Abraham and Sarah restored their marriage. A single Godly man or woman is to devote their full attention to serving God. Most men face threats the bigger and more successful they are. Women desperately want them despite other young attractive single men around to marry. They forget the wife is the pillar behind his success nurturing, education, sponsored, supported, fed, clothed by wife beautifying him. Working hard to pay she pays mortgage, buys car for him and raises his children. Women outside see it and want the man only to discover in shock it was not what they imagined. Once such men become successful they treat wife as mother so go looking for younger women for pleasure-seeking adventures.Servants, nannies, housekeepers, butlers, chaperones, gardeners, chauffeurs, best friends and relatives end up in abuse, depression, damaged by affair they dare not meddle with in the first place. The addictive behaviour endorsed by the world affairs triggers the flesh to lust to live carnal lifestyle. Some Christians live exactly like unbelievers without sexual morals. Intensity of new-found passion is pleasure replacing predictable love boredom in marriage. Being made to feel one will replace lousy spouse is flattering and endearing. But this helps buy time for affair to last longer as one is captivated with future plans to be together forever. Meticulous planning of secret rendezvous, subtle, exciting times of secrecy for intimate passion seem undying love so fascinating and thrilling. Many found themselves bamboozled by the charming partner already tethered to another spouse.
Yet just as the spouse was treated it soon becomes romantic interlude after the ecstatic high moment. Pressure from the woman to legalize relationship to ratify affair to sear conscience does not help. Being forced to abandon the spouse and children seems like a great achievement but soon returns to haunt the victim who instigates it. It eventually fizzles out exactly as the previous relationship a few years later. Rushing to become the new spouse feeling on top of the world as the new trophy wife soon passes for the next person to take over. Others driven to end affair weigh all options so do not leave wife as not worth losing, family, friends, mortgage. Hagar had bitter end to affair so realised cost of emotional pain. Although the beginning was romantic, with all she attention enjoyed, it did not end in marriage. As the man is definitely intimate with wife to keep pretence of not having an affair going.He may say all the evil derogatory things about wife to convince you are the best love of his love but do not be fooled into thinking you are God’s gift to him. And do not blackmail him with God told me I am your wife using his obedience to God to compel him to marry you. Statistics show less than 5% of men leave wives for other woman with whom they had an affair. They use the affair to opt out but not marry person due to tarnished reputation associated with relationship. Due ethical, legal, financial problems of divorce, religious beliefs or recognised attached affection for wife. It is extremely comforting for the man to create a quiet space to rest and relax. This is the case of setting up a second or third homes to escape crying baby and cluttered toys. The spouse loses confidence so feels tortured for enduring marriage. The quiet bachelor pad turns into war zone by nagging wife. They lose trust, feel disconnected so spouse in feels tarnished with feeling ignored and abandoned with children.
Above all displaced by the children preoccupied wife from devoting full attention to spouse. The husband feels justified and entitled to seek affection elsewhere with an amoral person rather than deal with the overwhelming marital responsibilities. The other woman becomes enabler but financially, emotionally does not have a leg to stand on. An emotional attachment or bond ends after the affair is over. The habitual adulterer finds a way to extricate from relationship and is painful. Even if the one says she’s just interested in something casual, she gets hurt. I think a woman’s interest in a man grows once they are sleeping together but a man stays interested for about a month then he stops as hormonal evidence to substantiates. Despite deep feeling of love or wonderful expression of professed love he practically knows keeping you as mistress causes problems for his family so will not divorce wife. Remember the chase is often better than the catch because of the fantasy and anticipation of craving of forbidden fruit. When it’s over, he moves on to next thrill for the sake of his reputation and children. In extreme cases, due to his status and stature in the society, he conceals the affair. Due to implications of positions of power and authority he devises false lies to discredit the other woman. If she threatens to blackmail or expose the affair publicly to humiliate him he turns on the other woman with vengeance. So labels her as a stalker, insane, mentally unsound person, a mad woman some put restraining orders and injunctions to exonerate themselves. Some get killed by other woman in jealous rage or husband trying to get rid of wife to pave way for mistress. Others blacklist and spread false rumours to try to disgrace her. It is a case of if they cannot have her nobody else can. Prayer is needed to restore marriage.
Women not alert to manipulative games allow themselves to be ridiculed, mocked, cut off from friends, family who help them recover from affair or broken marriage. It is important to remember despite success of on-line relationship you relate with the person according to what he tells you. Do not define or design your life based only on a man’s profession of love for you. Your life is worth more than romantic life and marriage. As hard as it sounds, eternal life beyond this earth has absolutely no physical marriage. The idea of being single means feeling less human, something wrong with you deceives to fall for anything that comes your way. To be seen as belonging in relationship is used to deceive people into rushing into affairs. Others do not want responsibility of duty of marriage so prefer to be other woman to eat their cake but have it. They think they get the milk for free without taking care of cow. Repent and restore your life by reconnecting with God your creator and spouse before it is too late. Be prepared in the marriage to maintain romance and love in the cooling down moments of marriage. You cannot build you future on emotional feelings which change or start a family from snatching another’s husband an expect him to be loyal to you. A leopard does not change it spot. What you see, approve of you get in payback return to haunt you sooner or later. so decide and fear God like Joseph. God wants to heal marriages and families. The divorce rate among Christians is as high as non-Christians. Adultery does not only happen in bad marriages as believed but really if not affair proofed unprotected good marriages are exposed too. Proverbs 5:18 talks about enjoying wife of youth. Appreciating your woman’s physical beauty should be reserved in marriage for marriage.
Do do not copy the secular world to make unrealistic demands to undermine the marriage. Do not marry for sexual intimacy because intense phase does not last forever so changes after a while. Covenant agreement to obey God’s will through thick and thin is the secret of successful marriage if Christian. The cycle is repeated as many times as ‘unhappy’ daddy or mummy continues to seek ultimate non – existent partner so acquires more partners and spouses. One cup of coffee leads to another and with another or together. One soon hears rumours of indiscretion heard from others or seen. For some it is never-ending until death takes over lives to account to Maker God for breaking His Commandments and devastation heartache caused others on earth. If they do not repent, they may end up in hell for lusts of the flesh.
Seek God’s face and be true to God’s words not fleshly lustful emotional feelings. Forgive and repair the marriage by therapy. Date again and renew vows by new marriage ceremony. Pay attention to each other more. Today Christian believers are covered by God’s Protection and blood cover of Jesus Christ. So can live in integrity if they choose to do so without compromise.
Jesus said in Luke 33:34, in His chicken and chicks sermon, He wants all to come under His wings like Mother Hen protects chicks from preys to be saved. Jesus has unconditional love so gave His life to save and protect believers like chicks safe under mother’s wings. Easter celebrations portray chicken, chicks and eggs as part of the message of resurrection of Christ. Jesus’ heart cry is to save adults and children He Loves dearly and died for. Adults and chicks today need extra attention with from Christ and God’s Help for Protection to grow wisely and live properly. As long as believers obey and remain under God’s authority within the range of Mother Hen’s fold, they are safely protected by Christ who defends and fends off all enemies trying to snatch them from God’s Kingdom. Despite what life throws at us Jesus keeps us all safely wrapped under His warmth and Loving arms to preserve and protect us like Mother Hen does her chicks. Jesus uses everyday happenings to tell parables and stories to help people get a visual image of His messages for better understanding, like the key point of Jesus’ death and resurrection to draw all under His wings.
As part of life, one experiences unexpected life altering changes that keeps one wondering how on earth one will survive after a traumatic event. As life unfolds, things happen, some become overwhelmed and wonder if life is worth living anymore. Others lose hope completely, due to sudden changes of unforeseen circumstances. Some become angry with themselves and blame others for not helping to guide or prevent them from making wrong choices. By putting all eggs in one basket, they fully assured themselves they are in charge until something happens beyond their control. Without back up plan B when that basket falls the eggs break beyond use, although absolutely certain during the preparation process and it seemed right during decision-making process, it was not possible to fully understand implications of choices until that basket fell and the eggs splattered beyond scooping. Similarly Christ shows us we must only put our confidence in God to protect us from situations trying to cause premature breaking and losing precious of life eggs human basket of life sometimes due to circumstances beyond control.
An elderly grandmother testified about her teenangel who visited her every weekend, cleaned, dusted and hovered for her. He helped her wash clothes and ironed them, brought her presents from his pocket money while in College studying. However others grow and join conditioned groups of youth, aimlessly playing games, watching TV all day long or forced to attend unrealistic data enhancing, bonus paying scheme benefiting the rich at their expense as guinea pigs. The adults who created such Frankenstein, Teensteins and Teenzillars do not realize they contributed to it. By deliberately keeping them positively engaged without practical life skills, it results in mind-sets not to receive instruction with humility. Not allowing parents to train them from childhood means some grow up thinking they dared not be corrected for the right reasons because it was inbuilt so discourages active participation. Some generations were raised, without basic standard, acceptable parental discipline, due to state interference. Children fully recognize weakness in scapegoating parents so play system, schools by constantly reporting parents even for disciplining them appropriately. Toddlers and young children are removed without support for struggling families helping their children, to change lifestyle to study and work harder to improve their lot in life with God’s help.
Just as one size does not fit all, chicks have different personalities from introvert, ambovert and extrovert so mother chick has to adapt to each chick’s needs like Christ meets our needs. Parents wait and hope for the bestall will turn out well after hatching to find out variety of gender needs required to support their chicks. The organic farmer entrusts free range mother hen, confidence, ability to keep chicks safe, well fed and return on time despite birds of prey circulating all day around them while feeding unsupervised. Yet human parents are constantly scrutinized and blamed without appropriate empathetic support for the excellent work they do. The state makes some children or youth untouchables allowed to do own thing with post codes rules. However, when it goes wrong, parents are held accountable for youth actions, though denied the necessary foundation of handling and disciplining, which plays a major part in the adults they become. Like mechanized poultry farming, families are compelled against their will to let their children be brainwashed by anti-Christ values. It seems they want them to fester so not be an obstacle force contending and competing against the chosen privileged few. Often parents of a rebellious child are hounded, hunted, punished yet child goes Scot free out of control so Jesus said bring children like chicks to save and protect.
Christ keeps us hidden in Him with God so our strength is from God. However, some have no choice but to face the music and dance to the tune of chosen music or lie in their made bed. Christ comes in to protect and deliver those expecting and may be force to changes to combine school, work and parenthood or drop out because something has to give. When the rubber hits the road support systems available makes or breaks motherhood especially for youth. The impression created to let youth to enjoy innocence, freely explore, be curious, inquire about life, make mistakes in own way is not right. They are encouraged to focus on external, outward outlook on physical appearance, so materialism takes over, without substance and realistic long – term planning for the future of youth. The media, games, education, fashion, attract and boast ego of what is in it for me mentality so some think indulgence means growing up or certain lifestyles make considered matured. However, it cost emotionally, physically, spiritually and unbearable for the youth and families involved in picking up the pieces. Parents are made to feel they have no right to discipline or correct innocent with certain behaviours that need to be nipped in the bud. Some parents in denial wrap the majesty the child in cotton wool to fester as teenstein so no one dare advise their precious child to behave well while other families sacrifice to keep supporting children to fairly consider others.
Believers need to realize the eggs of life must be handled gently and carefully within right environment temperature for the right chicks desired. At times incubators or surrogates nurture to produce young ones due to unavailability of Mother Hen for chicks want to be cared for with loving tender care as they cannot take look after themselves. So children’s lack of development of brain cortex makes it hard to fully grasp risk, consequences of wandering away from safe protection of Mother Hen as believers need Christ. Chicks roam freely until they hear the sound of Mother Hen calling to run to safety from preys. So believers hear the voice of God, run, hide, abide, in the dwelling place of the Most High God’s Secret Place in Psalm 91 from danger. Though some explore options of experiences from own frame of mind to act in a certain way before reality sets in to understand and accept what matured people know. Ignorant chicks roams freely until something happens then they run to Mother Hen to be nursed back to health. Similarly, the believer’s shock from pain can be unbearable, some lose appetite for food, anorexic or comfort eat to develop weight problems. In some cases chicks like adults and children withdraw from fun age appropriate activities that they were once passionate about so need other’s input, support and help. Like mother hen does and becomes committed to seating on the eggs until hatched so is Christ committed to believers for spiritual delivery.
Some are bored without pragmatic knowledge relevant to history and culture so often see no point in wasting time to be educated. After all, the brainiest admired are poorer after university education, unemployed despite filling thousands of applications, numerous interviews, bonus enhancing placements, they owe debts, loans than them. Parents are crucified for daring to discipline their children to study hard to improve their lot in life. They are even persecuted by some teachers and other parents for being firm with their child to do better above average to have good success in life. Such parents are vilified and ostracized for doing the right thing and social services are called because those children are asked to finish the homework before playing games or addicted to social networks. Some children spend all night playing games so go to school tired and sleepless so cannot focus on school work. Others refuse to eat healthy nutritious home – made meals so addicted to junk foods which does not nourish the brain.
Refusing to be led safely, protected due to rebellion, results in opposite effect of ignorance, lack of understanding of loyalty, duty and hard work so must be taught giving back respect. Youth rebellion becomes a force to reckon with at home, always on-line, on the phone, physically present in body but absent in mind and without spatial knowledge and basic survival skills without adult input. Some are taught at a certain age it is okay to indulge in sex and alcohol as long as they consent. However, those who gave them such advise do not live with the consequences of their choices for life. The girls often bear the brunt of the consequences of putting their trust and confidence in fellow youth as they are encouraged to hang around peers than adults. The blind leads the blind based on hormones dictating their profession of love for each other. The naïve youth think just because someone said they loved them they are sincere. After all, their family love is not fantastic like the soap opera happily ever after so they are always looking for affection in the wrong places. There must be a friendly transition from childhood into youth as chicks become hens or cockerels seems full of responsibility and contradictions from society and school to follow their leader.The chick whether a cockerel or hen still needs guidance from God for protection, so it is in their own interest to be trained from youth to grow equipped and prepared to handle life successfully.
The pattern of rebellion cycle is broken when a young person understands who they are from within. This by teaching high self esteem not to repeated reinforced treatment by authorities of not letting parents freely do their job properly. Some give up because they feel it is too much to handle changes to face life under such circumstances and struggles. Yet the good news one can manage to turn life around in victory by the help and support of God, the team through Jesus Christ, helps those wanting to do right if willing to do so. Social media non-denominational support group welcomes those joining to keep moving in faith. Our current interest among others is to help young people understand, endorsed choices permitted has long-term commitment and responsibility. A few minutes of momentary lust has life time of unexpected time – consuming, financial, psychological, generational consequences because a child is for life. Jesus said, what constitutes a person, is not outside influences, but what comes from within. So indulging the flesh by focusing on external physical body building and shape and size or fashion without own property or educating own child is not the right priority. It is difficult for a child to raise another child to keep them under control by themselves while their parents are already struggling but with God all things are possible.
We focus on the within stuff by exploring practical solutions to help youth interested in building up their lives with the support of families believing in them and helping them to do so. It is not easy but with determination, perseverance, hard work, you will succeed at last if you choose to do so. After all, life has taught youth rebellion brings suffering to them, more than the illusion of happiness they thought they would get by putting their life, trust and confidence in the hands of fellow peers as they were misled to do from childhood. When it all goes wrong how many peers helped and took on the sleepless nights of babysitting and nappy changing with them? The ones who professed to love them most, run away when the going got tough and soon found someone to take advantage of. The greatest need of youth is peace of mind, joy, knowledge of God to fulfill their heart and purpose in life. To learn to honour and respect parents and adults so it will be well with them and they will live long. To deliberately focus on socializing a child with peers more than training them to have family values is the devil’s ultimate plan to divide and ruin families. Children who think they are free to do own thing end up gullible, vulnerable taken advantage of and destroyed by vultures out there looking for naive children to abuse. So become victims of seed of rebellion planted in them childhood by refusing to humble themselves for correction but blame everyone else for their problems.
Some families endures years of unthankful, ungrateful, youth demanding to eat like elephants and lazy like lions because they believe they are superior above humble beginnings. They wear the most outrageous expensive clothes, shoes and accessories they cannot afford, yet cannot pay household bills they incur above everyone. Some mess up sleep patterns that cannot keep up with realistic time keeping for normal working hours cannot hold down jobs. Others do not understand boundaries, time for work, leisure, pleasure, weekend rest for chilling out. To them life is one long big continuous party of indulgence for fun so nothing is taken seriously, they talk the talk but do not walk the walk. The expect those who provide for them or employ them to dance to their tune without understanding domino effects of deadlines and working seriously to build strong customer base for reliability success of company. They seem to think life revolves around their spoilt brat behaviour bubble they live in. Some are even tolerated and entertained by the very people who should teach them to behave acceptably. Often they storm off to parasite off friends and family before long they show their true colours. They cannot keep house, cook or clean properly or on the streets with gang drug dealers yet not allowed in the safety and comfort of own home so overwhelms parents.
While some law makers hire chaperons, nannies, security body guards to look after their own, those children misled to rebel are left to street elements while parents do 3 or more jobs to keep a roof over their children’s heads. Those children therefore do not have servants, butlers yet have audacity to complain they feel neglected by the extremely hard-working parents who look after them and imposed grandchildren. They think they are born to be indulged, so never want to be responsible to do the right thing. Often, children are flattered to think they are grown ups so falsely made to believe they are mature enough to handle life without adult input. They are the first running home for help from parents when burnt, battered and bruised, yet act like everything is alright so continue pattern of behaviour to repeat the cycle. They never learn from past mistakes so jump right back in where they left off, believing this time round it is different. They entangle themselves with multiple webs of lust relationships in spite of others helping them to change to restore their lives; often threatened by baby mamma who chose own destiny but blame others they are bitter against for their choice consequences. They refuse to listen to sound advice, complain of being judged yet families deal with raising their children, feeding and taking care of them. Despite pain of heartache, tears, tantrums of ignorance, Jesus loves and accepts such teens kindly and treats them well like mother hen cares for her chicks.
God does not create mistakes for everyone is a perfect blessing from God but parents are often made to feel guilty or held accountable for rebellious teens. They forget when whispering sweet nothings parents had nothing to do with it or knew nothing about it yet innocent children are blamed for showing up unexpectedly and ruining their lives and careers. They are constantly made to feel unwelcome in the world but turn to the law to blackmail baby daddy they accuse of neglect. They refuse to use protection, forgetting men do not get pregnant so onus is on them to prevent conception. Jesus said in the chicken and chick sermon, the rebellious argumentative do not listen to advise, though invited to do the right thing, refuse but the obedient are defended like mother duck protects young ones.
So chicks are not lured from safe protection like others who think and feel their ideas are always the best above God Himself. Some seduce and cunningly manipulate naïve boys for lust then blame them for issue sorrows but do not know or remember their cycle under influence of alcohol and substance abuse to clearly reflect on own actions. They turn in frustration to child maintenance to punish teens they knew had nothing before their indulged lust. For upkeep they sabotage, blackmail, threaten to make teen’s life miserable for their own lustful rebellious failures. They do not feel responsible for actions, decisions so turn to blame, bad mouth innocent blood relations for loose moral consequences but Jehovah Jireh cares so forgives and provides like mother hen.
After playing with ordinary plastic dolls for years children think they understand motherhood and childcare by baby sitting for family and friends. So some struggling children are misled by peer pressure to join others teenagers who think having children or indulging in lustful puppy love solves all life’s problems for happiness need help. With permission and support of interested parents, including potential trouble shooting boys and girls from 11 years, electronic plastic baby dolls taken care of to document thoughts, feelings and ideas about life and child care. This will follow-up again from time to time in the future keep to see how changes in development affect youthful thinking and experience. We strongly believe it is important to help millions of children bringing forth children all over the world in credit crunching season, totally unprepared, burdening an already over stretched parents who need break from life time of child raising to enjoy their freedom. Christ can help to strengthen the family to do all things to overcome.
Some may not be available, to take over care of grandchildren for they must extend life time of working years to earn to secure own future. Some see parents as burdens but forget their sacrifices and input to build them up to grow to participate realistically by contributing to duties in the family. In simple task like cleaning, sweeping, removing rubbish, dish washing, wiping surfaces, ensuring the toilet is properly kept hygienically clean at all times for nest user, shopping, washing up, all help to equip, prepare and train child for the future.
To stop and force parents to keep children ignorant and naïve, to have head knowledge without practical life skills is destroying their future. One young man doing apprentice course said he did not know a deep freezer was cold until the boss asked him to pick something for him at work and another blew his face in university trying to boil eggs in a kettle.God Almighty says where people made mistakes by permitting the mighty prey enemy to take them captive, He will contend with them to deliver them and feed their enemies with their own flesh. Every evil hand-writing of ordinances and curses contrary to youth because of the enemy who wants to put them to shame is removed out-of-the-way and nailed to the cross in Jesus Name.
Some Easter festivities are full of technological jargon, games fantasies so at times cocoons from the reality of life in the shell. As a soft tree branch is malleable and easier to bend than a twig which breaks, teens must be trained in the formative years. Asking parents not to train children but to wait until teen years, after molded and influenced by society and set in ways is the cause of teenage rebellion. As a chick has specific number of days to hatch and grow so is right timing essential for training children. As Jesus said, He is calling people like Mother Hen to run under His Safe Wings to hide from birds of prey which dive unnoticed trying to kill them. By running to Safety of Jesus they are protected from evil pursuers chasing them to kill and eat them for a quick meal. However, stubborn and rebellious who refuse to receive Jesus’ help can be captured and destroyed by enemy if drawn away.
No weapons formed ever against youth will prosper neither will satanic divination and enchantments against the believer work in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. The battle for the souls of youth must continue to be fought relentlessly for devils sees their future destiny and wants to destroy them. God is in control so parents like Mother Hen with prayer and fasting will not toil hard for enemy to take for free by seducing them to use and abuse them in vain for their selfish motives to exploit them for their selfish gratifications of lust. God loves them to be protected and raised according to His Will.
Easter message is enjoy chicken, chocolate eggs but remember Christ who gave His Life to die, to safely protect like chicks under mother hen’s wings. To stop enemy luring to deceive and destroy but never claim responsibility for seduction. No matter what believers face, it is important to trust God to hold on till Jesus Christ returns for rapture. A sound foundation from childhood keeps children trained, rooted, grounded in Christ so remain teenangels who grow as responsible adults like chick dancing by Asda in ww.youtube.com/watch?v=rsY8nb_1Zb8.
The other-half is so much emphasised in relationships people feel they are incomplete unless they have a spouse partner. as significant person for intimacy in their lives. It is absolutely true God said it is not good to be alone so God made Adam for Eve as his help-meet. It did not mean Adam was half – man, incomplete, helpless, so his needs were exclusively met by Eve as the only reason for their marriage or companionship. Adam was in charge of the garden of Eden with responsibilities of naming animals and dominating earth before Eve arrived. Adam did not consider his life meaningless because he was the first man on earth. God visiting him with the angels to talk with him so never alone or had to marry himself..
Adam worked hard and had resources plus wealth more than he needed as a single man. So Adam did not think, unless obliged to support his wife and children, there was no vision or ambition to live for. For love is a two-way street not a cul-de-sac; for supporting the family in love and unity by God’s Grace.So the notion single people are not complete or whole, makes it seem like God created half man. And man had to help God complete man’s creation by finding love. So it means half man cannot live without another. This is why Adam and Eve did not see themselves as wholly complete in God. It is true God said 2 become one flesh but God did not say two halves become one.
The other half, when imagined as a half sawn person, from head toe in equal parts cannot live. So people are not halved without a partner for God made them ALREADY INDIVIDUALLY COMPLETELY WHOLE IN HIS OWN IMAGE FROM CREATION AND BIRTH. Which means mankind is totally PERFECT and capable of achieving anything in life without the other half always by their side. The fact that God joined Adam and Eve with all the worldly goods and material resources did not mean their marriage was perfect. They argued like some people do and had no prenuptial agreement. Instead they were not content or satisfied with all God gave them. They wanted to become like God by touching God’s exclusive tree of life preserved for God’s use only. So allowed themselves to be misled by deceiver to rebel against God with dire consequences so thrown out by God from Eden. Yet God sustained them and increased them by providing for them.
Today relationships are still going through turmoil and malice because of the other half idea making people feel incomplete. Cain incomplete because God rejected his sacrifice but accepted Able’s. Cain mistook God’s rejection of his inadequate offering as rejection of him. So instead of making peace with God with fresh sacrifice he projected his anger on his brother. Such are inconsistencies of codependence emotionally by presuming to live within other’s input to God. It creates generations of some feeling needy and clingy. By comparing themselves to others or other half, do not focus, trust or believe they are completely capable of achieving good success in life. So fulfil destiny purpose for life with or without other half’s rib. If found fits perfectly to complement each other. So there is no need to put life on hold without vision, inspiration or motivation to achieve anything to fulfil themselves. hey run to and fro after anyone who acknowledges or flatters them yet use and abuse them. Some are made to feel lonely or as if something is wrong with them without just anyone on their arm to prove they are lovable. God’s calculations show it takes 1 + 1 =1 whole person not a half man as people think. Furthermore, the most precious years that must be spent enjoying life, growing, nurturing high self-esteem, earning, preparing, planning, building savings, wealth and security for future is wasted. This is because modern society pressures many immature people without full understanding of intimacy, risks and consequences to waste their life on puppy lust ‘love.’ Such people do not ever believe in themselves to comprehend life as a whole person deserving self-love. One does not have to have all the money or possess everything before marriage.The human expectation from half concept needs serious consideration because some communities are communal so not built on 2:4 notion of family. Relationship is not a trophy of conquest to prove one has arrived because family is bigger than just the 2 people involved. They do need God however God and the angels with the wealthy resources provided by God was still not good enough to sustain them. They needed to honour God and obey Him without allowing evil to influence them.They must do their part by contributing fairly and being self-reliant, self- sufficient with God’s help, as part of teamwork. The two becoming one flesh adapts issues of what is mine, yours and ours with a deep sense of belonging. A whole person, fully matured, content and at peace with high self- esteem in tune with God will be able to cater for self plus another as a bonus and icing on the cake. An insecure person feels being alone means loneliness, half man syndrome so always on the look out for fulfilment as a parasite leech attached to others. Some panic in rebound relationships without dealing with themselves as completely whole human beings. Lustful addiction ties people to indulge flesh not have self- control as God’s temple to morally endure to please God. Half man is not God’s reason marriage for relationship is too serious a commitment not for the faint- hearted incomplete half-man. Rethink notions to renew transform one’s mind for wisdom, knowledge and understanding about purpose of relationship according to God’s will.
In Acts 6, as the apostles and disciples lived together and shared belongings, it was not long before some begun to complain about unfair treatment. It was decided a committee be set up to oversee the distribution of food as one of the issues of the source of conflict among the group. A meeting was held to appoint dedicated and devoted, honest, trustworthy and reliable believers for the job. After prayers and deliberations a few were selected and approved. However, Stephen felt since he was not a trained chef his time was better spent in prayer and intercession to seek the face of God. Some took offence that Stephen did not accept their choice for him so harboured bitterness and resentment against him. Other’s thought perhaps it was felt by Stephen they were not considered good enough to be around him. Maybe he looked for an excuse to avoid them rather than partake in the juicy complaints. Whatever the case, Stephen chose to focus more on preaching and teaching the word of God. He knew Jesus prayed intensely and sought the face of God regularly. After all, the cornerstone of the church is Christ Himself who taught them to pray the Lord’s prayer.
Above all, there were more than enough dinner laddies and other committee members devoted to food affairs and meal time arguments. Stephen ‘ decision caused so much anger from those he expected to stand by him and support him. Contrary to Stephen ‘ expectations, gossip and Chinese whispers were fuelled against him. People like elders and those from the synagogues who did not like others converting to Christianity through Stephen’s teachings and miracles, plotted against him with lies in the name of God that they heard him blaspheme against God. Yet who appointed them to defend God’s reputation? It was just to blackmail Stephen an anointed man of God who did wonders and miracles among them. They failed to see that instead of being jealous of Stephen’s anointing, they could also have the same power of the Holy Spirit. If they believed and also practiced the presence of God in prayer like Stephen they could also work miracles like him.
They instead gang up against Stephen and stoned him to death endorsed by Paul (then Saul). Why would a Christian group choose gluttony over faith and dedicated ministry? Wealth seems to be always be bedfellows in some situations like that one. With in abundance suddenly attention shifted from focus on ministry to prosperity infighting. The Christian group that started recovering and recreating their lives in unity and harmony now are dealing with trauma of Stephens death. Christ Jesus stood up for Stephen like Joan of Arc, he saw visions and did miracles that came to pass yet attacked and murdered for their faith in God. Today, unfortunately property and wealth focus at the expense of salvation of souls is alive and going on in some churches. Some pastors know their member’s positions and rank of financial status from their bank details and size of offerings than caring about the less fortunate among them. In fact, some churches will not allow hierarchy of leadership below a certain membership ranking.
To sponsor the Christian ministry heavily relies on and requires excellent jobs with income and finances. Meanwhile those benefiting turn around to condemn them for not doing enough. It seems like they never seem to know when enough is enough. Yet what shall it profit to gain the whole world and lose the soul. The church needs to focus more on prayer action with the sense urgency of salvation and deliverance message again.
It is absolutely true ministry cannot take place without financial support. It cost so much to pay for the crusades, cost of running premises, paying bills, heating, tea and coffee, confectionary, wages of pastors and workers. Today with high cost fuel and private jets to run due to schedules, security, health, safety, body guards, administrative costs, etc. ministry requires big money than ever before.
Many pastors pray with sacrifice for many years without complaining, knowing with assurance their wealth and crowns of rewards are in heaven. Today, church has adapted to meet the needs of modern society however it is important to remember Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever. Above all, Stephen revered the Lord’s prayer so forgave his false accusers in Jesus Name.
In Hebrews 12:1-3 Christian believers are keep eyes on Jesus, who both begins and finishes faith race in Christ. Peter walked on water by keeping his eyes on Jesus.All was well until he turned to see his friends. Jesus quickly rescued Peter when he started sinking. As people face problems, is they keep their eyes on Jesus their challenges are easier to handle. Confidence in Christ helped Peter to overcome tragedy.In addition, it is alright to seek help to receive input from others to manage and cope with daily living. This is a sign of strength to ask for help because no one is an island. Everybody needs somebody to accomplish their mission in life. At times Divine Helpers may not be recognised immediately as seen in Matthew 14:22-33. Jesus walked on water yet apostles mistook Christ for a ghost. Jesus was challenged to prove Himself to allow Peter to walk on water.
When Peter kept his eyes on Jesus, stayed focussed, he walked successfully on the water. But the moment Peter turned to look at others in the boat he begun to sink though the Master Jesus was present. Ask Jesus to enable to keep focus by Holy Spirit. On another occasion Jesus was thought to be gardener when He arose from the dead. This means when we feel sad or not sure of things we lose sight of Jesus who is with us in Spirit together with the angels so we need to cast all burdens unto Jesus for He cares for us. We can confide in Christ and trust Him in those low moments when we feel He seems too busy to remember us. Once we make up mind to change we face distractions from people misery loves company. Jesus at times took time out by Himself regularly to seek the Father God‘s face in prayer.
When Peter was sinking after quick reflection took stock to make necessary changes deemed fit. Passion and enthusiasm motivates with resolve for self-discipline to carry on in life. Unforeseen circumstances cannot distract to abandon to change Godly plans. Whatever the case be grateful and thankful to be alive in Jesus Name and keep eyes on Jesus. If a perfect man like Jesus prays by Himself, it is important to follow example of Christ. So set time aside as often as possible to fast and pray. We must ask God to reveal our Divine helpers and Divine connections to us as co-workers for Jesus.