IMG-20180321-WA0000The Bible says during the Passover Jesus was crucified the “people from ALL THE NATIONS UNDER HEAVEN” in the city of Jerusalem shouted, ‘crucify Jesus and let His blood be on them and their children chose Barabbas. Acts 2, verse 9, says list of people from all places under heaven were in Jerusalem 3 times in a year. Were Parthians, Medes Elamites, residents of Mesopotamia. Judea and Cappadocia, Pontus and Asia, Phrygia Pamphylia, Egypt, parts of Libya of Cyrene, visitors from Rome, Jews and proselytes, Cretans and Arabians.”All people in Jerusalem Jewish converts as text says: dwelling in Jerusalem as Jews, devout men from every nation under heaven.” Jews by birth but in the crowd were Gentiles converted to Jewish faith. Devoted Jews or proselytes Gentile-Jews present yearly in crowd from all nations under heaven every year for 33 years in Jerusalem those particular days. Who-Killed-Jesus 3 million Jewish converts in Jerusalem, going to temple, on appointed days for 3 major festivals in Hebrew calendar for people of Israel to be at the temples. So pilgrimage festivals included the Feast of Passover–“Pesach,” in the Hebrew language in early spring; the Feast of Weeks, “Shavuoth,” which occurs fifty days in late spring, “Pentecost,” means “fifty days after Jesus Resurrection.” The third major pilgrimage festival, Feast of Booths, Tabernacles, “Sukkoth,” in the fall. Kenyans were there too, Ethiopians, all other nations were represented by Jewish proselytes. Ethiopian eunuch or Christian believers from all nations travelled 3 times in the year required for the feasts for all men. Israel is a multicultural City of God from diverse nations of various people living during persecutions and feasts.who-killed-jesus-4-638 Since time of Abraham, his entourage of converts from various nations lived in Canaan now Israel from there to and fro during famines or droughts or exiles by God. After restoration of Israel worship service continued in Temples attended by Jesus and disciples too. Multitudes from countless nations and people from all tongues, kindred and nations saved in heaven holding palm branches is beauty, diversity, humanity displayed all brilliance as all types of saved people meet in heaven in God’s presence. Need to read his Bible Jesus as said He could have called down armies of heaven to RESCUE Him but chose to LAY DOWN His life as ransom for many. Nobody killed Jesus, He offered His Life Ultimate Sacrifice to freely save people. The generation that crucified Jesus is not alive to take to court because Jesus has forgiven all by praying on the Cross, FATHER FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY WERE DOING.7747C0E7-105E-4392-9141-2E5D949A8F71 who-killed-jesus-2-638All people sinned so this led to need for redemption on Cross for Jesus to atone for sin. Therefore he bears part of the responsibility too as a sinner. The Bible says all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, there is none righteous without the blood of Jesus, no not one. Romans enforced crucifixion to ensure people do not follow Jesus for a political upheaval to takeover ruling the nation as God allowed due to rebellion. It was revealed to Jesus Judas Iscariot will betray Him so could cast demonic Spirit out of him. Jesus gave His Word, committed Himself in heaven came to earth saved mankind by voluntary will. The Seed of woman promised in Genesis crushed head of serpent Conquering death took all sting of death from satan. So enemies of Jesus thought they were killing Him to get rid of Him and His ministry shocked Jesus RESURRECTED after 3 days in grave. Jesus continued 40 more days after resurrection and to heaven alive forevermore. Jesus is the only Saviour alive so is Coming back again in Rapture then later in Second Coming to live on earth in Millennium. doul5God HIMSELF will come down in New Jerusalem to Dwell on earth in Israel. Jesus is not dead but ALIVE IN HEAVEN. Jesus said His Kingdom is not of this world so had no intention of any political affiliation as they accused Him. The Chief Priests, Pharisees, Sadducees, and the crowd colluded and condoned to falsely accuse Jesus to try to kill Him to attempt to stop God’s Kingdom on the earth. When Jesus asked God in the garden of Gethsemane to remove cup of sorrows God sent angel to comfort Jesus knowing Jesus will resurrect from grave after death. Just as one cannot make an omelet without breaking eggs, Jesus had to die to prove His Own resurrection. It was necessary for Jesus to die so when Peter tried to stop Jesus from fulfilling His Mission rebuked him so said, ‘satan get behind me.’ Jesus is not victim but gave His Life Freelly to save mankind. PM-Blog_Who-Killed-Jesus_4-6-16-1020x420IMG_20180321_143456God loved the world so gave HIS ONLY begotten Son to die to save all people on earth. Any issues with God’s salvation plan in Jesus go seek redress from God ALMIGHTY. Jews did not exclusively kill Jesus so all nations are responsible for they were represented in Jerusalem and took part in shouting crucify Him. Jesus makes it clear nobody took His Life but He gave His Life freely as a random for many to be saved from sin and death to gain eternal life. Without Jesus’ sacrifice there is no redemption of sin, Jesus died to set mankind free. Jesus is Alive today in heaven Coming in clouds in Rapture to rescue the elect into heaven into the presence of God. Jesus returns to earth for a Millennial Reign to Reign on earth with God eternally in Jerusalem Israel.



Seven Spirits

Isaiah 11:2 says the Spirit of the LORD rests upon Jesus, Spirit of wisdom and understanding, the Spirit of counsel and Might, Spirit of knowledge reverence and obedient fear of the LORD Yahweh. The “seven spirits of God” in Revelation 1:4; 3:1; 4:5; and 5:6 are the Spirits of God identified. Revelation 1:4 mentions these 7 spirits before God’s Throne in Revelation 3:1 show Jesus Christ “holds” the seven spirits of God. Revelation 4:5 links the seven Spirits of God with seven burning lamps before God’s Throne. So Revelation 5:6 identifies seven Spirits with “seven eyes” of the Lamb stating they are “sent out into all the earth.” It the will of God people have God’s Holy Spirits manifestations in all believers.

  1. Spirit of the LORD
  2. Spirit of Wisdom
  3. Spirit of Understanding
  4. Spirit of Counsel
  5. Spirit of Might and Strength
  6. Spirit of Knowledge
  7. Spirit of fear of the LORD

fruit-of-the-spirit-tree (1)These 7 Spirits of God bears good fruits of the Holy Spirit in a biblical way as evidenced of functions. The term sums up 9 attributes of believers, people or the community living according to Holy Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23 says fruits of God’s Holy Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness to others, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. The 7 Spirits of God is for God’s Glory to edify God’s Holy Name and do greater works Jesus commanded to do. Purpose of God’s 7 Spirit is doing works of God on earth enables complete Godly ability, talent, skills all necessary for Children of God to study to be approved by God to serve and to witness daily in Christ. They are not detached titled deeds only exclusively given to Christ Jesus alone. The 7 Spirits are Power of God’s Spirit at work in each believer who receives the Holy Spirit in Christ Jesus Name. So not only for trained pastors but whole body of Christ in Church of God to empower believers in the righteousness of God. It is for believers to receive finished work of Christ to bear Godly good fruits. God created mankind in HIS own image and God’s Spirit life-breath in people. The 7 Spirits nature of God equips believers to get to know God better to represent God well daily in Jesus Name. Believers bear good fruits of God’s Holy Spirit so doing the work of God manifest these 7 Spirits of God. Apples do not fall far from trees, all grafted in Christ as branches of the True Vine act like Jesus. The Christians in Antioch in Pisidia were identified as Jesus associates or Jesus’ friend. God’s 7 Spirits at work in Jesus followers seen in faithful apostles, disciples, believers. Christlike Godly qualities required in Millenium Reign after Jesus defeats His enemies in the Armageddon battle to usher in New Heaven and New Earth.


cross-671379_640 (1)Jesus said on the Cross, “Father forgive them for they did not know what they were doing.” The Blood of the Lamb is significant in preparation for Passover in 2 weeks called Shabbat HaChodesh (החודש שבת). Blood Sacrifice of Jesus Once accepted by God restores closeness, intimacy between God and HIS people. Iniquities, sins separating from God prevents maintaining a close relationship with HIM restored by Jesus. Bible says, Iniquities separate people from God because sins hide HIS Face so HE does not hear in Isaiah 59:2. Core concept of blood sacrifice to atone for sin is God’s redemption plan sacrificial death of Messiah. Yeshua’s death on the Cross is solid basis of Christianity. It is the solid foundation in the Word of God to rightly understand how Jesus forgives people. Despite forgiveness of God some people have guilty conscience over past sins causes so alienated from God, despite receiving forgiveness. So Blood Sacrifice of Yeshua shed restores right relationship with God completely cleans traces of a guilty conscience. The Blood of Messiah through eternal Spirit offered Himself without blemish to God cleans conscience from dead works to serve living God in Hebrews 9:14. Yet some followers of Yeshua struggle with guilt and condemnation though Word of God promises all in Christ Messiah are free indeed. Therefore there is now no condemnation for those in Yeshua the Messiah who do not walk in the flesh in Romans 8:1. The blood of the lamb was applied to the doorposts of homes in Egypt so blood of Yeshua is applied to our hearts, by faith, to wash us clean from every trace of guilty conscience and shame over our past sins. Draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having hearts sprinkled from evil conscience and bodies washed with pure water in Hebrews 10:22. The pure living water Jesus cleans by immersion symbolic of the new spiritual birth.


International-Bereaved-Mothers-Day-Alexis-Marie-Chute-Wanted-Chosen-Planned-mothers-grow-loveBereaved mother’s day celebrates their precious memories of loved ones who passed into heaven. Mothers nurture children so their loss feels like the heart is ripped out. After crying until no more tears left this day is also a time to reflect on good times to remember loved ones. Recalling a loved ones nature, favourite foods, jokes, life, personality, nuances is still part of life within family. Continue to talk if ones feels like doing so, cry if it is how one feels, sing, dance, join others especially friends to express loved one’s life from various forms. Family, friends, colleague’s take on life with loved ones different so shared experiences from a fascinating perspective. mothers-dayns memory book and collage of loved ones to post on a wall, Facebook, website anywhere they are celebrated. Passing into Glory is not the end of life neither is it an end of your life. Heaven is continuation of life on earth so continue to remember and to honour memories. Out of all the challenges of life the loss of a child is the worst form of pain because no one expects to bury their child. One expects children as arrows in the quiver to bury parents to continue the family line. Such unexpected events happen in life and despite adversity life goes on. Especially the loved ones do not want to be their source of grief and sorrow forever.Mothers-Day-Flower-792x1024 One great lesson learnt losing a loved one is one understands how God feels about giving HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON as ransom for many. Bereavement is an experience one cannot fully describe to anyone unless they have personally been through it too. However, God Omnipotent is loving Father even in the midst of pain, grief and sorrow our God is good all the time and all the time God is good. And Father God strengthens and comforts through the Holy Spirit our comforter. There are days one copes better than others and other days one feels like is meaningless without loved ones. Loved one are part of life in family so not lost just because they passed into Glory to be with our LORD. IMG_20180310_084906As a matter of heaven connects directly with earth on a constant daily basis that life is in tune with both. God’s will is done on earth as it is in heaven so GOD sends angels to surround and help us sometimes we are unaware of God’s Divine interventions on earth. So mother as many people as you can and if possible keep memories alive and be available to support others in similar situations. God entrusts mothers with a family as stewards and so does the best they can to look after their loved ones. It is important to remember Psalm 117:7 says God cares about the righteous who die so knows and understands the pain of grief. With prayer, praise, Worship of God and support of friends and family a loss is easier to bear.51JARx7VB-L._SY400_I-give-thanks-to-my-God-upon-every-remembrance-of-you.-Mothers-Day-AnExtraordinaryDay.net_ IMG_20180310_085206

Mourning with HOPE and trust God to carry you through the dreadful pain of bereavement. Another powerful source of encouragement is to remember that life on earth is a passing journey. Our life on earth is wonderful but as citizens of heaven our real home is heaven in the presence of the LORD Jesus and Father God. Then in Rapture the dead arise together meet Jesus into the clouds into heaven. End time events rapidly approaching on earth point to a world-changing as Jesus said in Matthew 24 warned. And so with God all things are possible including the strength to live and go through bereavement grief with God holds your hands and footsteps of Jesus in the sand carries you through the difficult days. Each day is different so embrace love of God to endure to the end as a faithful steward of God in Jesus Name with thanks and Glory to God.


IMG_20180307_153656We lived in the heavenly city of God in spirit with God before birth on earth. Our life on earth is not beginning of any person’s life. The Bible Testifies that Children of God before we were born on earth we all lived with Heavenly Father as spirit children. Our spirit bodies look like our physical bodies, with arms, legs, eyes, and so on without flesh and blood. Our life as spirit children is called premortal life. During premortal life our heavenly Father God and Jesus Christ our parents taught us the Gospel and the plan of life. We are well acquainted with God our Heavenly Father so our spirit soul from God enters human flesh so we lived in HIS HOUSE and dwelt with HIM before our birth on earth. Every person born of God is a son or daughter of God Elohim. It is written in Scripture accounts God decided to replenish earth in Genesis in Bible to recreate, restore and regenrate the earth. God told the people in heaven and agreed with HIM ” Let us replenish earth” so God’s heavenly team given an opportunity to discuss feelings about renewed earth. God Loves mankind so much HE FORGIVES so willing to restart earth in Genesis once again. Important for God LOVES people, so project earth replenishment begun. Jesus was in the premortal life and shows His great love for us. Jesus Christ voluntered to be our Saviour. In premortal life we were spirit children so lived with heavenly parents in Bible in Hebrews 12:9Jesus was the FirstBorn Spirit Son of Heavenly Father and is the older brother joint heir of our spirits. Once others like satan was spirit child of Heavenly Father. God, Heavenly Father called a meeting for all HIS Spirit Children. At this meeting HE explained HIS plan for us to become like HIM. free-bible-studies-online-great-white-throne-judgementHE told us that HE wanted us to go to earth to replenish in physical body. HE then restored the firmaments, earth, oceans, seas, fishes, waters and created Afam and Eve from dust of the earth. And then breathed HIS Spirit breath of life to kick start the process of human life on earth. God said on earth will be tests to see if keeps HIS commandments but made provision for forgiveness in His Son Jesus Christ, Seed of the woman. At a meeting Heavenly Father explains on earth all sin and all die but have the eternal life in Christ Jesus our Saviour. Heaven Father needed someone to be the Saviour, to suffer for our sins to die for us so that we could be resurrected. Heavenly Father kept HIS plan to lead us on earth by HIS Spirit daily but some wanted permissive will freedom to do as they please without any input from God. Although God is the creator who made us in HIS OWN image some want nothing to do with God chose to rebel with satan and fallen angels. God made life possible but with many challenges from opposer fighting against God. To be righteous child of God meant attacks from satan who wants God’s Honour to be given to him. Because God LOVES us in John 15:13, Jesus volunteers to be our Saviour. He followed Heavenly Father’s plan to give GLORY to Heavenly Father. Heavenly Father agreed Jesus to be our Saviour but satan was angry so rebelled against Heavenly Father in Revelations 12:7-9. Heavenly Father’s spirit children followed God in Jesus not satan. And two-thirds of Heavenly Father’s spirit children chose to follow God so stayed with God until birthed on earth. The rest of rebellious angels and satan were cast out of heaven so how lucifer became satan, evil spirits followed him to try to get people to do wrong things. So spirit following satan did not receive physical body from God.IMG_20180307_152950Spirits of God chose Heavenly Father’s plan, followed Jesus in premortal life willing so born on earth physical body of the flesh and blood. God’s Children choose to follow Heavenly Father’s plan and born on earth with mortal bodies. So life on earth is a continuation from heaven so this why the spirit returns to God after passing into Glory in heaven in Christ Jesus. God’s Children learn, understand Bible so apply principles in their lives. Reading Bible references help to gain insights to understand the Scriptures. In heaven is the perfect joy, peace no more tears, sadness or sorrow or pain. Life in heaven with Heavenly Father is full of joy and Happiness only. So wonderful to feel good to know the Heavenly Father is our Father so HIS SPIRIT works in us. What does it mean that Jesus our older brother  of our spirits? Our Heavenly Father’s plans continue today on earth so blessed to know Jesus volunteered to suffer and die for us. We know that we chose to follow Jesus in premortal life so remain God’s Children by not joining rebellion against Father God so glad we all made that choice. The fact we chose to follow Jesus in premortal life tells us we are predestined as Children of God to be loyal to God even if we fall seven times the righteous is lifted up in forgiveness of God in Christ. Isaiah 53:5 says Jesus was wounded for all our transgressions He was bruised for all our iniquities so The chastisement for our peace was upon Him And by His stripes we are healed. So we are redeemed from the curse of the law because Jesus took our curses by being crucified on the Cross in our place for sin. Every handwriting of all ordinances contrary to us is removed out of our way and nailed to the Cross, so Jesus sets us free indeed! Thank you Jesus and Praise God Almighty.IMG_20180307_151543

Now we have been born in mortality, it is important still choose to follow Jesus to be living daily for God in Christ. The Bible explains the New Testament about things Jesus and His Apostles while they lived on earth. It helps to know lessons of life is based on Life and teachings of Jesus, Apostles, disciples. Encourages God’s Children to study their Bibles and Worship God Obey HIS Words. Enrich life activities by joining fellow believers helps build us up in the agape love of God. Join by following activities during Bible lessons, review, summary or any text challenges. As a review, write texts following words from the Bible and apply it in life daily. We KNOW FROM PREVIOUS STUDIES ALL SAVED, BORN-AGAIN CHILDREN OF GOD OF ALL THE AGES ARE IN THE RAPTURE AND DEAD RESURRECTED BEFORE MILLENNIUM. Before Great Tribulation Jesus Comes back to gather together His Church His Bride to be with Him in cloud, God and the saints forever in heaven. We know we will “live & reign with Christ for a thousand years on return to earth in Revelations 20:4. Billions saved as the Children of God as people of all ages are in heaven alive with Jesus because their spirit returns to God. REST OF DEAD do not LIVE AGAIN UNTIL a THOUSAND YEARS is finished in Revelations 20:5. So Jesus Christ returns to earth with saints to live and rule in a perfect world. Later God comes down to Dwell on earth with all Children of God forever so the whole world now believes in God so there is a perfect peace that passes all human understanding forever and ever.


traumaticbereavement-thirdTraumatic tragic death bereavement is completely unexpected loss, worst form of grief people go through. Suddenly changes lifeplan dramatically, cancels activities so a shock to the system. One minute conversation is taking place about life but the next minute subject changes to unexpected death. It is most painful if the person appeared healthy, full of life with a great future suddenly cut short by death. The numbing shock of loss is hard to sink in and feels that loved one is about to walk through the door home. Seems like a dream, surreal but wide awake with sleepless nights so deep within the heart an overwhelming pain lingers on. Everyday passes by without a text, contact or phone call, facebook so realises it must be really true. Shock is a normal reaction and unbelief deceased person is really no longer with us here on earth. Sudden change of plans means numbness while taking in loss starting to sink in. Though we understand death as part of life it does not make it easier to accept. Death is painful and difficult to experience it hurts beyond belief and complicated. At times pain seems insurmountable but support and a therapy can help to understand, accept and ease the pain. After death of a loved one life is never the same but talking therapy helps to provide skills and tools to assist with creation of the new normal to integrate life into new existence. Annette was on the way to mortuary when Julia phoned to support death of daughter Amber, aged four, who drowned in a swimming pool, and going to see her body. Many people would not call at that moment they feel encroaching on a raw traumatic grief. bottomJulia, friend of couple, a psychotherapist specialises in dealing with loss knows when people in throes of overwhelming grief, sharing the pain is the only thing that makes even the tiniest difference. Grief professionals don’t have endowed special powers its empathy compassion. Phil answered the phone, so Julia liked to say something to make it better but knew nothing could do that, so she said the only thing she could. “I am terribly sorry to hear your daughter, Amber, has died; I’m sorry the devastating pain that has happened to you. How can I help?” 25 years as grief psychotherapist taught Julia great deal about human condition that focus on grief means focus on life, loss exposes things that matters about a person, their strengths and weaknesses. When someone dies, it reveals faultlines in bereaved family, even deepest, most hidden ones. If you know about loss you know about family, about love, survival, resilience and strength. Knowing about loss means you know about life. But there is a paradox at the centre of loss, and it is this. Grief is the most intense pain there is, and we will do anything to avoid pain. So we run away from it; we run away from our own grief, and we run away from others’ grief. Yet, says running away from grief means we will not recover but embracing helps move through the agony and deal with pain. bereavement-and-traumatic-grief-counselling-pinnacle-therapy-counselling-in-london

Allowing ourselves to be while it washes over us, is only way to survive because we have to feel the worst in order to let it change us. Then we can start to find out who we are going to be in wake of it. This is the message at the heart of Julia’s new book, Grief Works. “If you ignore grief and push it down, you can live and you can function, but you live a very narrow emotional life because using emotional energy to cope,” she said. “Everything in psyche will be squashed down, and that means small things can trigger a much bigger kind of effect. The fact is to do the work of grieving. You have to let it run its course. Pain is agent of change; pain allows you to change, it enables you to reach a new reality.” Her book traces journeys of many of the bereaved people she has walked alongside; she describes how she wept and mourned with them. “let clients know what they say has an impact: Tell them when feels shocked, sad or upset,” she says. So talk about relationship with bereaved and a relationship with friends in service of a deceased. Say what you feel if thinking about them if it’s useful to share. One of the many moving stories in her book is that of Bill and Sally, whose 13-year-old son Matthew died of rare virus. Sally tells Julia losing her son has made her feel dead, no more expectations of life; so does not want to go on living. “I said quite plainly, although she was giving up on herself, I refused to; I would fight for her, held her and whispered hidden strength within her said, to live.’ Julia, in 50s, mother of 4 grown up children, grandmother of four, vivacious and fun: has time to feel recharged with life. You know it helps feeling of clients who like Sally regain joy to be alive again. Helps Julia’s interest in answering questions on experiences of traumatic loss to help open hearts for the healing process.17848

There are two sorts of loss, says Julia: expected loss and traumatic loss. And perhaps, for one in her profession, her own losses have all been expected ones. Her father died at 87, sad, grieved but it not traumatic loss. Bereavement work involves charity Birthright, Well-being of Wo/men made her aware of the pain of losing a baby although wonders was unconsciously influenced by parent’s loss of three parents and three siblings by the time they were 25. “Everything seemed OK, but thinks back aware of some unresolved grief. Almost only personal experience of a shocking, out-of-nowhere, loss figures such death brought loss closer and changed how to deal with grief. Julia was a close friend of Princess Diana, a connection echoed when asked by William and Kate to be a godmother to Prince George in 2013. That is, she says, a very joyful role lots of fun, and the chance to enjoy the little boy as he grows up but she doesn’t want to say much about it or Diana, save she agrees her death made difference to the nation’s approach to grief. So, too, she says, did other major shifts of history, especially the first and second world wars. “Our parents, parents of people of my generation, were the generation that couldn’t afford to grieve. Were parented by survivors of first world war simply to survive but modern luxury means able to deal with it differently.”traumaticbereavement-fullwidth

Despite public outpouring of grief after Diana’s death, doesn’t think most people are sufficiently aware impact traumatic bereavement has, the ripples it leaves or how long they persist. As someone who experienced a traumatic loss at the age of nine, when three-year-old sister was killed in road accident agrees with her analysis. It is 44 years since death, and shockwaves still reverberate in the family: everyone is different because of it, next generation touched by it in ways too subtle for them to fully understand.

Traumatic losses shape future of family as subject of great interest to Julia; so, is the way men and women deal with loss differently. Men, tend to want to move on to make plans, to focus on new horizons. Women on other hand want to spend more time remembering the person who died so want to immerse themselves in the pain. But the fact is, each can learn from others. “You have to do both things: you must have time to grieve and mourn and other time when you have break from the grief. You can create circumstances where you grieve, and circumstances where you move on; so men and women help one another. IMG_20180303_141134He can help her go for a walk to a park or gallery can help him talk about how he feels to express some of his loss.” The problems set in when individuals fails to understand the pattern of grief in the other; they think of them as selfish or they don’t care enough, but it isn’t about that due to the different ways of coping. Grieving is an intensely individual and incredibly lonely experience, which can make it difficult time in family, group of people going through something sparked by same event, but is in each case very differentThe way to cope, is be open in communicating feelings to others in your family. Families that fare best share feelings openly when a death disrupts complex finely tuned balance in a family. So needs a reorganised and open approach to help with process.”

At the beginning, and this is especially true of a traumatic loss, the grief is all-consuming: but over time, says Julia, you find you are starting to live again. The mistake some make, though, is believing they can go back to being the way they were. “Some people say, ‘This isn’t going to change us.’ But that’s not how it is: and it’s when you recognise that bereavement is a life-shattering experience, and that you have to grieve and rebuild, that you can move on positively into a new phase of life. originalYou don’t forget the person who’s gone; you can never do that, and you should not worry that you’re going to. But you keep them in memory so their loss helps you become a new person you become; and maybe in the end is greatest tribute to make to anyone who passed to Glory. Grief affects us all so hope in God and read HIS beautiful WORDS in Bible to guide prayers. Powerful scriptures will help you face feelings of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It is very normal to feel it is not really true the person is still alive soo will be at home, then in shock, angry they died, hoping the loved one comes back alive, realising they passed on into Glory and finally accepting loss and accepting new unexpected sudden sad changes of life. Crying, weeping, feeling low not eating properly, sad, confused, depressed are all part of feelings of pain, hurt of loss, bereavement, grieving and mourning. It is normal to feel helpless, lost without a loved one with deep sorrow and pain. One helpful action is remember a loved does not want your life destroyed and ruined because of them. They see you in heaven so like you to live and continue life despite feeling changes happening. There’s no shame in being sad. The life we’ve been given was never promised free of pain or sorrow so during times we hurt most run to God and HIS Word for peace and comfort. Psalm 117:7 says God cares about death of the righteous.listingbereavement-jesus-wept

Help from family and friends 

Listening. Be a friend who is prepared to give their time, to listen and to acknowledge the extent of your friend’s loss. Listening is the key. Bear witness, and allow your friend to be upset, to be confused and contradictory, or to say nothing at all. Every time they tell their story once more, or are allowed to say how important the person who has died was, burden of carrying pain on their own is incrementally a little lighter.

It’s not about you. Follow a mourner’s lead: they may not want to talk about their grief right now, or with you. It is good to say something to acknowledge their loss, but then let them have the control they need, they had none over death so choose to talk or not. If they ask you to come and be with them, and want to talk openly to you, go. If they truly don’t want a visit or don’t want to deal with it at that time, don’t force it on them. Don’t confuse need to speak, call, contact, with friend’s need of privacy to come to terms with grief. Some kings or or important dignitaries, leaders buried in secret. Deuteronomy 34:5-7, Numbers 27:13-28 says God buried Moses Himself without gravestone marker, headstone, monument remain unmarked, Israelites not have idol worship. So Moses’ eternal soul rests in peace buried in the Moab valley opposite Beth Peor near Mount Nebo from plains of Moab near top of Pisgah. None knows where Moses’ body buried, concealed in grave stops people flocking to idolise him. In Jude 1:9 angel fought with Michael over Moses’ body, only unique burial by God. Moses’ body soul, alive in Transfiguration met Jesus with Elijah alive from heaven on Mount in Matthew 27:1-10.

loss-300x225 (1)Mourning state of total shock and disorientation exempts you from performing actions requiring attention to detail. Time is given off work at least minimum of 2 weeks plus due holidays to grieve and mourn. Time is needed to sort out paper work, fill in forms and to notify various agencies of the departed. In mourning people wear symbolic or an appropriate colour suitable for the age of the departed. To be able to attend unhindered to funeral arrangements it is important to dress appropriately. The family decided obligated choice agreed on to help support family. Immediately following burial mourning the mourner does not listen to music, go to concerts, does not attend joyous events or parties unless absolutely necessary. If a date set prior to death strictly forbidden or to be postponed cancelled. Week-long period of grief mourning observance referred to by time to grief. During this period all mourners traditionally gather the home and receive visitors. Mourners refrain for a week from showering or bathing, wearing leather shoes, jewelry, shaving. Some communities cover mirrors in the mourner’s home so they not concerned about their personal appearance. It is customary for mourners to sit on low stools or even the floor, symbolic of the emotional reality of being “brought low” by grief. Meal of consolation first meal eaten on return from funeral consists of hard-boiled egg or other round oblong foods. Biblical hospitality means during this seven-day period, family, friends or colleagues visit and call on mourners to comfort them. Is considered great time of kindness, compassion to pay respects to visit the mourners. No greetings are exchanged, visitors wait for mourners to initiate conversation. Mourner is not obliged to engage in a conversation and may completely ignore his/her visitors. Visitors take on hosting role, attending to guests, bringing food and serving it to the mourning family. Mourning family avoids cooking or cleaning during this period. Those responsibilities become that of visitors to ease burden and pain.


Acknowledgment. Death isn’t catching, but those who are bereaved might think so, judging by the fear they see in other people’s eyes. People are frightened about whether to come forward, about what to say, about saying the wrong thing so, in the end say nothing. All of that comes from a belief whatever you say should make things better but have enough wisdom to make the pain more bearable but you can’t or need to. Be kind enough to acknowledge them and their suffering is difficult enough. Offer to be there if they need you, suggesting that they should be the one to ring you, is probably asking too much of your friend at this time. It is better if you take the initiative and make contact, and then follow their lead: they may want to see or speak with you or not. Often, people don’t make contact because they feel they don’t know the bereaved person well enough. If you are erring one way or the other, better to err on the side of making contact.

Practical help. Doing practical things is often what really makes a difference. Don’t say, “Let me know if I can help”; actually do something helpful. At the beginning of a bereavement, there may be a lot of people around, so bringing food may be the best thing you can do. Taking food around for longer than the initial crisis is particularly appreciated.Traumatic-Bereavement-Ind1_m

Honesty. Be honest because honesty is comforting and easy to deal with. So direct honesty helps complex messiness of grief so an enormous relief to people. Be honest about what you actually can do rather than covering up because you feel guilty about what you can’t. And be specific to say, “I’m going to come round for half an hour” or come on Tuesday” don’t say, “I’ll come when you want, tell me, and I’ll be there”, and then find you can’t deliver on that offer.

Be sensitive. Being honest is important, as being sensitive. Promiscuous honesty is not a good idea. Be aware of showing too openly your life is trotting along as happily as can be, feels like you rubbing their nose in your happiness.

Be in it for the long haul. Remember to make contact and be supportive after everyone else has gone. Usually three months following the death, people get back to their lives, as they should. But it is by no means over for the person who is bereaved. Sending a text or popping is hugely supportive.Gay couple hugging and walking in park

Writing. Letters, cards, texts or emails: it doesn’t matter what you write – all are extremely helpful. It is better, however, to say that you don’t want a reply, because some people simply can’t respond. And it is never too late to send them. It is a welcome surprise to receive a card much later, because it is when everyone else has forgotten and your friend is still grieving. When you do write, try to make it personal and avoid tired cliches such as, “She’s had a good innings” or “Better to have loved and lost because they are trite in some way diminish personal importance of this very loved person who died. You don’t need to go into long explanations of why the person died or theological explorations about death; be loving and personal, warm and acknowledging.


Believers have assurance of eternal life in Christ so mourn with hope for their resurrection. In the Bible Jesus raised Lazarus from death, widow of Nain son, Peter raised Dorcas, Paul raised young man who fell dead sitting on a window ledge. The dead arose alive when Jesus was crucified and went into town seen by many people. We pray and ask GOD to raise loved one too in Jesus Name so thank God Jesus raised Lazarus. Bible says Christianity lasts beyond earthly life into heaven so mourn and grieve with hope in Jesus Christ. Christians call death falling asleep to pass into glory to be with God. Although grief pain hurts deeply and so feels tragic loss yet know future reunion family circle will be complete in heaven in the Presence of God Almighty. In the Rapture, the dead in Christ will first be resurrected to join those alive together to meet Christ in the clouds into heaven. The signs of the end times are predicted by Jesus in Matthew 24. So death is part of transition into eternal life although it is better to have loved ones on earth as members of a family, God calls them to higher service in heaven. Rest in peace safely beloved in the loving arms of God so no more sorrow, grief, pain, tears we love you and miss you terribly but God LOVES you more. We shall see you one day in Jesus Name for you are delivered because your name is found written in the BOOK OF LIFE according to Daniel 12:1-2. All asleep in Christ in dust of the earth wake to everlasting life in heaven in Glory in GOD’S PRESENCE. The Holy Spirit of God is our Comforter in times like these so we draw strength from the word of God to carry on in life in Jesus Name. GOD Our Father Comforts us too through His Love and Words of comfort from loved ones, friends and family. 

Extract from Grief Works by Julia Samuel