BEST AGE TO START FAMILY

DIqlGRVUwAASjVlStarting a family can be tricky business so you need to know when the time is right and if your partner is ready, and whether you can cope. Not all families are planned but more often than not, parents have given some thought to it. The best age to become a mother or dad is often a decision many have to make at some point in their lives. Now a new research by scientists point to ideal age 35 years. Thanks to science and media, according to Mirror Newspaper, signs, pressure and constant discourse about fertility seem to point to “sooner rather than later time as previously thought. A new research discovered the benefits of motherhood contrary the conventional wisdom. This new study conducted at the University of Southern California found out having a baby after age 35 improves mental abilities of the mother. _97789987_serenawilliamsSerena Williams played tennis during pregnancy and won with baby Alexis Jr. A sound preparation towards family life helps both parents to nurture the child better. The Guinness Book of Records the new mothers existing beyond age 60 as the geriatric mothers. Evidence of having baby after 35 years can increase life expectancy as research shows. This research of 830 postmenopausal women did several tests performed as part of research revealing participants tested on planning, visual perception, verbal memory, concentration and attention performed better. Women who had a first baby after 24 performed better on the mental acuity tests, problem solving, and verbal skills compared to mothers between the ages of 15 and 24. Mothers who had last baby after 35 had the better verbal memory and cognition results. Their increased mental clarity is thought to be related to oestrogen surge and progesterone in pregnancy. And the hormones are believed to improve their brain chemistry and functions if their pregnancy occurred later. Whether or not this informs a woman’s decision to have a child is up to them and should always consult your doctor about any worries but it’s still refreshing to hear having a baby at age 35 or onwards is not all bad news. So there is hope for many single women worried about their body clock. Since frontal cortex brain does not form before age 25 on average it makes sense to grow up first before trying to have a child. Often the world is full of children having children and struggling with shock and reality of caring for children and the pressures of motherhood in general. A 35 year old matured and experienced woman can perhaps handle pressures of sleepless nights better than 15 year old. Research confirms need to grow up first before taking on a responsibility requiring life commitment of financial burdens of taking care of children. Support is also necessary whether one has the children earlier or later in life. Most men really do not fully mature until about 45 years so worth noting that impacts their life. A family life requires hardwork, quality time and lifelong commitment so a child is for life no matter the age of parents.

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JESUS CRUSHED snake’s head

DIOS MALDICE LA SERPIENTESupernaturally Jesus’ Miracle POWER from God as The Seed of the woman crushed head of serpent the snake by a fatal blow in Genesis 3:15 in Bible. Jesus defeated God’s arch- enemy serpent and death at Calvary Cross as foretold after Adam and Eve sinned God said the Seed of the woman Jesus will bruise serpent’s head. The serpent or snake caused the deception of Adam and Eve to fall into sin in Genesis 3 to be separated from direct interaction with God. Their sin affected the perfect relationship with God so contaminated DNA of mankind. God set up redemption plan to restore mankind to God through Seed Jesus so forgives those who accept Jesus the Son of God and Messiah. The serpent snake fallen angel satan devil lucifer punished by God’s Seed Jesus for attacking God’s Children is crushed forever. satan bruise Adam EveMiraculously, redemption from the generational sin of Adam and Eve is through the Seed Jesus. God PROVED HIS POWER over death in Jesus to save all mankind. Again, God called Moses in Exodus 4 by turning his stick into snake to PROVE GOD I AM sent Moses to Egypt to speak to Pharaoh to let HIS people go from the slavery. Exodus 7:10-15 says Moses was accompanied by his brother Aaron so appeared before king Pharaoh who stubbornly refused to let God’s people go. God commanded Moses to go to Pharaoh and demand release of the slaves to go and worship God. When Moses and Aaron appeared before king Pharaoh Aaron’s rod transformed into a serpent snake. Then pharaoh’s sorcerers and magicians also changed their staff into snakes. Aaron’s Serpent swallowed the magician’s serpents before Pharaoh in Egypt to prove that Highest POWER belongs to God over serpent satan. 1The LORD God told Moses, “Pharaoh will refuse to listen so MY wonders will multiply in Egypt. So Moses and Aaron performed all these wonders yet Pharaoh hardened his heart so did not let the Israelites go out of his country. After several miracles and the death of first borns of Egyptians Hebrews gained freedom at last and left Egypt. Exodus 7:10-12 highlights again and again in Scripture in all generations how MIGHTY POWER of Living God subdues evil. Practice of snake worship some say is traditional alternative to Christianity. Culturally biased people seek true justice so put confidence in the creature in Romans 1, not Creator God Ultimate Saviour from swallowing by God’s Serpent. 1-15Despite miracles of Aaron and Moses’ snakes proving the Almighty God’s POWER swallowing sorcerer’s snakes still God hardened heart of Pharaoh. Those seeking deliverance or repent to stop following satan can face such challenges after salvation. The snake serpent stronghold defeated by God’s POWER, SUPERIOR SUPERNATURAL MIRACLE SUPERCEDING such snakes relentlessly want to attack. The good news is Jesus crushed serpent’s head so saves all who repent by a changed heart. The miracles of God’s POWER is duplicated by sorcerers and occult because the serpent was once angel of God. So the reason for what God does may not be understood but it is Best to belong to God’s SUPERIOR POWER of the Universe. God’s Perspective is above all the imitated counterfeits of the devil which cannot compare with Almighty God’s MEGA SUPERPOWER Proved over and over again in living history into infinity in Jesus, Moses among others in brass serpent story. 800px-Flemish_17th_century_Moses_and_the_Brass_SerpentIn John 3:14-15 Jesus told Nicodemus He is Like the bronze serpent in Numbers 21:4-9 as Moses lifted up snake so those who lift up eyes to look to Jesus saved from venomous bite of devil. God sent Jesus to save all mankind from snake worship culture. Jesus said be wise like serpents among enemies in the world. The serpent is crafty so tricks, deceives people to sin against God. The devil is spirit behind tricks of people of thinking the snake has mystical powers. Though it is true magician’s had some power to change their sticks into snakes the spirit behind that power is satan the devil. So God says do not gain whole world and lose your soul to the devil. Pursuit of material assets caused some to trust satan not God. In Psalm 91 POWER is given to believers over adders, serpents, snakes, young lions, scorpions to tread and CRUSH under the feet because Jesus lives in you as Paul demonstrates here. hch28 (1)The Christian’s POWER and Authority over snakes is seen in St. Paul’s actions in Acts 28:1-10 in Malta after shipwreck. Paul gathered sticks laid on fire when the poisonous snake  driven out by heat bit him on the hand between AD 59-AD 60. They arrived ashore after shipwreck in which ship was lost but all lives saved as God told Paul. God uses such occasions to show HIS POWER over snakes in many lives. This power is not to be abused to tempt God to taunt snakes unleashed to show off. Some people died in ignorance by going out deliberately to collect snakes to invade their private space and died bitten by snakes. There is absolutely nowhere in the Bible God Commands a Christian to only focus on treading on serpents. A believer is to share Gospel daily and win souls without tempting God’s POWER. Snakes in nature are part of food chain to fight rats, mice etc. Zoos or private collections keep them in view for the public to see and study them. So ritual abuse of God’s POWER this blog is talking about. God’s MIGHTY POWER is manifested through Jesus’ Power and Victory over serpent satan. The Bible describes satan as serpent and wicked as possessed by the serpentine spirit. crush-serpantSo God warns against snake worship of the creature. Things done by serpent spirits can be mistaken for God’s Holy Spirit if not discerning. Fear in snake worship is the foundation of binding covenants in many families keeping ritual snakes. A sense of belonging devotees experience, cause them to prefer gathering of such similar minded people in shrines often to sacrifice during annual ceremonies. Paul wrote in Romans 1:18-32 on God’s Wrath on Unrighteousness. 18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness unrighteousness of men who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. 19 They know God plainly, because God shows 20 HIS invisible attributes, HIS ETERNAL POWER and Divine Nature 20 clearly perceived since creation of the world in things made. So they are without an excuse.091e0afe0d1e7c557e19c6c3c44041d2 21 Although know God, do not honour HIM as God or give thanks to HIM, but futile in thinking their foolish hearts were darkened. 22 Claiming to be wise became fools 23 exchanged GLORY of Almighty Immortal God for images resembling man, birds, animals and creeping things. 24 So God gave them up to lusts of their hearts to impurity to dishonor the bodies among themselves. 25 They exchanged Truth about God for a lie to worship and serve the creatures than Creator Blessed forever! Amen. So 26 For this reason God gave them up to dishonourable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those contrary to nature 27 men gave up the natural relations with women consumed with passion for each other, men committing shameless acts with men receiving in themselves God’s due penalty for error. Pharaoh and enemies of God were swallowed by God’s wrath.1101978084_univ_cnt_2_xl 28 They did not see fit to acknowledge God so God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. 29 With manners of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice, full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malicious gossips, 30 slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, 31 And foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32 Though they know God’s righteous decree those who practice such things deserve to die not only do so but approve of those who practice them. Such serpent shrines or temple prostitution use rampant fear to control shrines dominated by the leader to deceive the devotees. Wielding power over vulnerable soul-searching people looking for answers in life often drawn to cults orgies of coerced false promises. Some sex traffickers initiate victims by rituals to influence their minds. There are stories told of people losing ritual snakes and begging people not to kill them or they will die. Others practice divination occult serving snakes. Such powers are not acceptable to God as born again believers in Christ. Moses’ stick turned back into wood again now kept in Birmingham Museum in UK. It was same the stick used in the miracles including parting of red sea to Canaan.aaron-staff-turns-to-serpent1The serpent is God’s nemesis devil that destroyed humanity so why is believer worshipping God’s enemy? This article shares Christ’s Love so people will know God does not want HIS Children to be involved in snake shrines to perish. The serpent or snake, represents satan the devil and most evil all of God’s creation. Some people worship snakes literally carried inside body or kept at home as their god. The shrines have live snakes fed daily and given blood sacrifices by all those who serve shrine. Emmanuel Eni, once part of kingdom of darkness shared testimony of carrying snake in his leg. Such wealth seekers initiated in snake shrine are given token snakes to keep as point of contact for allegiance to shrine. Such people have logo symbols of snakes as a sign of potent power to try to put fear in them. Jesus, the Head of all principalities and powers has the Highest POWER people search for. God PROVES HIS POWER to Moses in Exodus by turning his stick into snake to PROVE HE IS I AM to convince Moses to go back into Egypt to speak to Pharaoh to let HIS people go from slavery. 8eb8d77cab537b8701fca2209140265d

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Saviour Messiah Yeshua is second Adam Seed born of the woman Mary Who will save mankind. Just as in Exodus 7:10-15 God Commanded Moses to see Pharaoh with Aaron to demand Hebrew freedom so Jesus delivers from bondage to snake. God sends His Words to people to be set free from captivity and slavery of sin of snake worship. God is calling on people to change their hearts and minds to gain understanding and wisdom to be saved in Jesus Name before it is too late. Jesus defeated serpent so cast the great dragon out, that old serpent, called the devil, and satan, which deceiveth the whole world: he was cast out into the earth and his angels were cast out with him in Revelations 12:9. So Jesus will cast them into hellfire eternally. All POWER and AUTHORITY is given to Jesus to cast out devil and demon from people. Jesus cast 1000 demons out from Gadarene demoniac. All who truly repent and seek God will receive salvation, deliverance and healing from serpents and snakes destroyed to set free from ritual bondage. There is no need to gain the whole world and lose the soul. The material things obtained by those sacrifices are accompanied by so many unforeseen tragedies. The BLOOD of Jesus cleanses from all sin so those who accept Christ Jesus genuinely are set free in Jesus Name. Many people are serving the living God today who were once under such bondanges. Whom the Son Jesus sets free is free indeed thanks and Glory be to God Almighty.    

JESUS’ HEAVENLY REWARDS

IMG_20170827_214404Jesus will reward believers in heaven according to quality of their work for God in life. An eternal crown category is described by types of effort or sacrifices made in life by doing the works of God. So Bible in 1 Corinthians 3:12 describes rewards as gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw.  That great day all will receive reward based on the foundation laid in building their life and ministry. So each person’s ultimate performance in life is built on God foundation of gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay and stubble, merits of rewards guaranteed. A loyal believer is guaranteed salvation in Christ if one remains faithful to the end so saved. On entry into heaven in passing or Rapture is the great reunion of family and loved ones in Christ sanctified by blood of Lamb Jesus. This guarantees salvation means eternal joy in God’s Presence above all plus reward of the quality of faithful servants of God. This rewards are cast at the feet of Jesus and believers continue in heaven praising God. They face reward assessment seat of God so believers receive Jesus their appropriate rewards entitled to by their performance in life by the grace of God. Various books of life and remembrance are opened and checked to tell believers their lifestyle deeds recorded by God. 5 golden crowns for righteusness, crown of life, crown of glory, the incorruptible crown, crown of rejoicing in the Lord.b8Gold star standard reward is based on a trial of enduring ‘fire’ process as Daniel and friends were tested in fire survived with Jesus. Jesus decides who is faithful so rewards believer’s shared testimony. Each reward level is compared to gold standard, silver, precious stones like the Olympic gold medals a person gets what they deserve by their hard work in life. Believer’s life work merits gold, silver, according to the record books of God. So a reward is compared to other precious stones like diamonds, rubies, sapphires as God decides based on assessment of their lifestyle history and faithfulness. Precious stones put through fire often produce the best quality priceless most durable treasures. A believer’s work is tested in fire check if merits high level precious stones quality or is chaff. firegoldstonesGood works of gold, silver and precious stone last as John 15:16 says in the Bible God ordains believer appointed, chosen to bear fruit that will remain. Paul said he ran the race to win as the disciples of Jesus do, saving others so did not want to be lost or left behind. Prayers of soul winners is their fruit will last to remain rooted and grounded in Christ eternally saved to receive respective rewards. So believers then can ask God for anything  within the WILL of God. God chose the belivers appointed to bear good fruit and for fruits to remain. So trees not bearing good fruits accordinly then God cuts off, prunes branches to divert nourishment to healthy viable plants and all grafted in. Some fruits do not remain as drawn away by own lusts or cares of the world. Like wood, hay, straw, stubble, burns in fire combusting too quickly so is not fire retardant or resistant. God’s Consuming fire puts believer’s works to test so good works last but others burn so does not last. Like parable of sower, seed on good soil grow 100% but others get lost or fall away by snares, cares or worries of the world. God’s Mercy, Compassion saves sower whose fault it is not when some believers drift off like the prodigal son. Freewill means some leave God, Ezekiel 3:33 and 33:7 says if believers saves soul his blood is not demanded from them. If believers refuse to save a soul his blood will be accounted for to God for a lost soul. God knows those ministered but if rejects God and soul lost believer’s work tried in fire receives a reward because such lost blood is not demanded by God. Therefore a believer remains saved in God’s Presence in heaven despite loss. It confirms what Jesus said that some use His Name in vain so He rejects them for falling short of Glory of God. No reward is given except God’s wrath sending lost into hellfire for gnashing of teeth.gold-silver-stones-fireSo Judgement starts in the House of God during Rapture those in Christ qualify so rescued from great tribulation way of escape to go to heaven. Jesus intercedes at the Right Hand of God on behalf of all believers to remain faithful to endure to the end so saved as His Chosen jewels. God so loved the world HE GAVE HIS ONLY SON Jesus Who died to set free all from sins and condemnation. Jesus after death and His resurrection visited and encouraged apostles, disciples, believers to reassure He is praying for them. But Jesus draws the line against those who totally reject God forever by not wasting time to cast pearls before swine. Those who reject God Jesus warns that if they do not repent they have no reward but REJECTION in return by God. John 17:9 says penalty of rejection of God is Jesus not praying for the world anymore after proving He is Messiah and Son of God Raised from death, healed the sick, did miracles, saved souls, raised the dead and fed thousands many times before ascension He told disciples to continue in the faith. But those still in the world not convinced He is Messiah unless all repent there is no more hope for them. Jesus continues to pray specifically for His disciples those saved He loves to be protected from evil viles. Jesus said in Mathew 24:24 if elect are not discerning can be deceived, as the rest world of the world who reject him forever, cannot be saved even if prayed for by Jesus they have reprobate minds. Like wood, hay and stubble burns forever despite time devoted for years to minister to help them but believer is rewarded by Jesus. All who prefer the world and things of the world burn forever in hell fire and their assets burn like wood straw hay or stubble. The material things confidence is put in life burns like wood, hay, straw, stubble to chaff ashes in God’s unquenchable fire without rewards.e0638f16bea1d1e3180d3f514774f661--the-day-for-the Jesus rewards faithful with gold, silver, precious stones but others in Romans 1, their rebellious destructive freewill God allows them to deceive themselves by a reprobate mind. Such prefer to honour creatures more than Creator God and so endorse rebellion against the church of God in Christ. God warns them Jesus is even at the door so cannot tolerate any longer those that choose to reject God. During evangelism powerful instruction given is test the spirit to discern if they are of God. Avoid time wasters sent to distract reaching precious souls whose last chance it may to be saved before passing on. God’s Word is the Seed sown and different soils represent people but God’s Holy Spirit Nurtures for Spiritual growth through watering and sunshine. This principle enables Jesus to decide if the believer’s duty of agape love or care for lost souls was gold standard, not to blame them for lost souls. God knows as HE records those who qualify for God’s Kingdom Life. The required Wisdom of God to ministers for lost is to depend on prayers of intercession and dedication. Many are lost even in church as Joyce Meyer says living in a garage does not make you a car. God before foundation of earth preordained those predisposed to salvation and those who chose to side with fallen angels against God. So keep up prayer and trust God that your fruits remain. The Bible says, God appointed those Chosen to bear fruit and ask God for more souls in prayer for God’s Mercy to keep you, family, loved ones and to save backsliders and prodigals to return into Father God’s House in Lord Jesus’ Name quickly before it is too late. In the long-run God eliminates all who reject HIM forever from HIS HOLY CITY PRESENCE to hell based on HIS WORDS in BOOK of Remembrance in Malachi 3:16.

RETURNED CHIBOK WOMEN

_92117174_yola_afpThank God that the long-expected good news happened concerning some Chibok girls, turned women’s return. Some freed or escaped back in education. But one had amputated limb and was walking with crutches, an injury sustained, according to what Mr Mustapha was told, during the Nigerian military air strikes against Boko Haram. The girls all ran with joy when told, “You are free today,” said Mr Mustapha to the 82 women after all the names were called out. They all smiled he said, despite a subdued reaction as a result of the presence of the militants all armed with guns or in army camouflage uniforms and boots. Mr Mustapha took some photographs with the women._96078257_chibokhi039356204 The militant’s video camera recorded events and ICRC vehicles eventually arrived. So told to go to cars they ran, Mr Mustapha said. Immediately they entered vehicles, they started singing for joy. Some shed tears.” Mr Mustapha received a number of accolades for his work with Future Prowess School. He was a finalist for the 2016 Robert Burns humanitarian award given to those who save, improve enrich the lives of others or society as a whole, through self-sacrifice, selfless service, hands-on charitable or volunteer work, or other acts”. He was also given a 2017 Aurora Prize Modern Day Hero award for those whose “life actions guarantees the safe existence of others.” _96078650_chibokhi039356085He said handing over the 82 freed girls to Nigerian government is “the highest point in my life felt he did something worth saying to the world that I have done this,” he said. But in the series of letters from African journalist Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani this happiness is tainted with the sadness as some Chibok women are yet to return, or refuse to return or even go back after being freed. Looking at why some Nigerian women have gone back to the militant Islamists who abducted them is very complex and puzzling to many people. _92110166_reutersWhen news emerged that some Chibok schoolgirls, abducted by Boko Haram in 2014, had declined to return home with the batch of 82 freed in May, the world found it difficult to believe. Not even the release of a Boko Haram video showing some hijab-clad, Kalashnikov wielding girls saying they were happy in their new lives, was enough to convince the people. “They must have been coerced,” some said. “It is Stockholm syndrome,” others said. What else explains why any girl or woman, would choose to remain with such horrible men? Yet, some of the women rescued by the Nigerian military from captivity are willingly returning to Boko Haram’s Sambisa forest hideout in north-eastern Nigeria to be with these same horrible men.map

‘Fairytale life’

In January, I met Aisha Yerima, 25, who was kidnapped by Boko Haram more than four years ago. While in captivity, she got married to a commander who showered her with romance, expensive gifts and Arabic love songs. A fairytale life in the Sambisa forest she described was suddenly cut short by appearance of the Nigerian military in early 2016, at a time her husband went off to battle with other commanders. When she first interviewed Aisha, in the government custody for eight months she completed a de-radicalisation programme run by psychologist Fatima Akilu, the executive director of the Neem Foundation and founder of the Nigerian government’s de-radicalisation programme. “I now see that all the things Boko Haram told us were lies,” Aisha said. “Now, when I listen to them on the radio, I laugh.”

The pull of power?

A handout picture released by the Nigerian Army shows an insurgents' camp being destroyed by Nigerian military in the Sambisa forest (archive pic)Image copyrightEPA Image captionThe Nigerian military have been battling Boko Haram since 2009. But, in May, less than five months after being released into the care of her family in north-eastern Maiduguri city, she returned to the forest hideout of Boko Haram. The past five years, Dr Akilu worked with former Boko Haram members including some commanders, their wives and children and with hundreds of women who were rescued from captivity. “How women were treated when in Boko Haram captivity depends on which camp a woman was exposed to. It depends on the commander running the camp,” she said. “Those who were treated better were ones who willingly married Boko Haram members or who joined the group voluntarily and that’s not the majority. Most women did not have the same treatment.” _97056835_blurredAisha had boasted about the number of slaves she had while in the Sambisa forest, the respect she received from other Boko Haram commanders, and the strong influence she had over her husband. She even accompanied him to battle once. “These were women who for the most part had never worked, had no power, no voice in the communities, and all of a sudden they were in charge of between 30 to 100 women who were now completely under their control and at their beck and call,” Dr Akilu said. “It is difficult to know what to replace it with when you return to society because most of the women are returning to societies where they are not going to be able to wield that kind of power.”_96080364_mediaitem96080363

Still in shock

Apart from loss of power, other reasons Dr Akilu believes could lead women to willingly return to Boko Haram include stigmatization from a community which treats them like pariahs because of their association with militants, and tough economic conditions. Dealing with the aftermath of release is a struggle for some of those who were abducted. The “De-radicalisation is just one part of it. Reintegration is a part of it. Some have no livelihood or a support built around them, Dr Akilu said. The kind of support in de-radicalisation programmes does not follow them up when they leave. So come out successful in de-radicalisation programmes but struggle in community and it is that struggle that leads them to go back. Recently, visited Aisha’s family, still in shock at her departure, worried about her wellbeing.Chibok schoolgirls are reunited with their families in Abuja20/05/2017 Image copyrightREUTERSImagecaption. Her mother, Ashe, recalls at least seven former Boko Haram “wives” she knew, all friends of her daughter, who had returned to the Sambisa forest long before her daughter did. “Each time one of them disappeared, her family came to our house to ask Aisha if she heard from their daughter,” she said. That’s how I knew. Some women kept in touch with Aisha after they returned to Boko Haram. Her younger sister, Bintu, was present during at least two phone calls. “They told her to come and join them but she refused,” Bintu said. “She told them she didn’t want to go back.”

Life on track?

Unlike some of the former Boko Haram “wives” met, who are either struggling to survive harsh economic conditions or dealing with stigma, Aisha’s life seemed to be on track. She was earning money by buying and selling fabric, regularly attending social events and then posting photos of herself all primped up on the social media, and had a string of suitors. “At least five different men wanted to marry her,” her mother said, pointing out that there could be no greater form of acceptance shown to a woman, and presenting this as evidence that her daughter faced no stigma whatsoever from the community. “One of the men lives in Lagos. She was thinking of marrying him,” she said._90811551_nigeria_portharcourt_adamawa_borno464But, everything went awry when Aisha received yet another phone call from the women who had returned to the forest, informing her that her Boko Haram “husband” was now with a woman who had been her rival. From that day, the vivacious and gregarious Aisha became a recluse. “She stopped going out or talking or eating,” Bintu said. “She was always sad.” Two weeks later, she left home and did not return. Some of her clothes were missing. Her phones were switched off. She took the 2 year-old son fathered by commander in the Sambisa forest, but left the older one she had with husband she divorced before her abduction. “De-radicalisation is complicated by the fact that we have an active, ongoing insurgency. In cases where a group has reached settlement with the government and laid down their arms, it is easier,” Dr Akilu said. “But, when you have fathers, husbands, sons still in the movement, they want to be reunited, especially women.” Asta, another former Boko Haram “wife”, told me that she has heard of many women returning to the group, but has no plans to do so herself. However, the 19-year-old described how terribly she misses her husband, and how keen she is to hear from him and to be reunited with him. She insisted that she would not return to the forest, not even if he were to ask her. “I will tell him to come and stay here with us and live a normal life,” she said. But as with Aisha, the desire to be with the man she yearns for may turn out to be more compelling for Asta than the aversion to a group responsible for the deaths of thousands of people in north-east Nigeria, and for the displacement of millions who are struggling to survive in refugee camps.


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THOSE DISFELLOWSHIPPED

maxresdefault.jpgSome of the former Jehovah’s Witnesses, live a disfellowshipped shunned life, leaving the religion is seen as a mark of losing faith. It can also mean losing loved ones, in many cases, friends and family are told to cut all ties with ex-believers, leaving them isolated and sometimes suicidal. “I do not speak to any of my family,” Sarah, not her real name tells BBC’s Victoria Derbyshire programme. Being “disfellowshipped” is exclusion from Jehovah’s witness and so no contact is allowed.” Last year, Sarah in her 20s was excluded by Jehovah’s Witnesses in this process known as the “disfellowshipped” members. She says it was sparked by her refusal to live in an abusive relationship. She claims her partner at the time was violent towards her at one stage leaving her with broken ribs.Alone.jpg

Removing the ‘wicked?’

Going to the police and involving those from outside the religion is heavily discouraged by Jehovah’s Witnesses, she says, claiming that elders within the faith refused to punish her ex-partner’s behaviour. It was when work colleagues noticed the bruising, and convinced her not to put up with the abuse, she says she fled the relationship. Sarah claims she was consequently disfellowshipped by the religion, and that her friends and family cut all ties with her. This is due to the fact that the Jehovah’s Witnesses think those outside their religion can be of detriment to their faith. In another statement, the religious group told the BBC:”If a baptised Witness makes the practice of breaking the Bible’s moral code and does not give evidence of stopping the practice, he or she will be shunned or disfellowshipped. “When it comes to shunning, Witnesses take their instructions from Bible on this subject as their Bible clearly states, ‘Remove the ‘wicked’ from among you.’ On the night she was disfellowshipped, Sarah said her mother refused to talk to her. Her father woke her up at 07:00 to kick her out of the home. Responding to Sarah’s claims, Jehovah’s Witnesses said while it could not comment on individual cases, “but violence, physical or emotional, is strongly condemned in Bible with no place in Christian family.”Sarah and JohnImage caption: Sarah and John (front of shot) told Victoria Derbyshire they were shunned by their family and friends. So is John, not his real name who became a Jehovah’s Witness as a young boy when his parents decided to join the religious group. However, two years ago, he was disfellowshipped as he missed Jehovah’s Witness memorial service seen in that religion as an important event. He had also begun to privately have doubts about some of the religion’s teachings, questioning the faith’s assertion that the end of the world is imminent, and that only 144,000 human beings will go to heaven. The 144,000 they consider as synonymous with “little flock” of Luke 12:32 serve with Christ as king-priests for a thousand years the other people accepted by God as “other sheep” of John 10:16 “great crowd” in Revelation 7:9,14 as the resurrected righteous and exclusively serve Jehovah on earth.Who-are-the-144000-Witness-of-Revelation-7-explainedBible clearly states specifically 144,000 are from 12 tribes of Israel sealed from all tribes in Revelation 7:4.” Nothing in this passage leads to interpreting the 144,000 as the Jehovah’s Witnesses. The literal number of Jews 12,000 are taken from tribe of the “sons of Israel.” The New Testament DID NOT replace Israel with any church on earth. 144,000 adds up from 12,000 from tribe of Judah sealed, 12,000 from tribe of Reuben and 12,000 from tribe of Gad, from tribe of Asher 12,000, tribe of Naphtali 12,000, the tribe of Manasseh 12,000, from tribe of Simeon 12,000, the tribe of Levi 12,000, tribe of Issachar 12,000, from the tribe of Zebulun 12,000, from tribe of Joseph 12,000, from the tribe of Benjamin 12,000. These total 12 tribes multiplied by 12,000 people equals the 144,000 who constitute the children of Jacob called Israel. Ancient history of Israel shows 12 tribes settled according to their names on their land as recorded in the political maps of Israel. Old maps show the names of 12 tribes written on ancient original Jewish maps in living history and world Geography.tribal-boundaries.jpg
The 144,000 Jews are ‘sealed’ for special protection of God from wrath of Divine judgment punishment and Antichrist to perform God’s mission in the tribulation period in Revelation 6:17. So withstand wrath to come in tribulation period of seven-years when God will enact Divine judgment against those who reject HIM and will complete HIS plan of salvation for the nation of Israel. This is according to God’s revelation to prophet Daniel 9:24-27. The 144,000 Jews are ‘firstfruits’ in Revelation 14:4 from redeemed Israel as prophesied in Zechariah 12:10 and in Romans 11:25-27 and their mission is evangelize the post-rapture world and proclaim the Gospel during tribulation period. As a result of their ministry, billions “of great multitude no one can count from every nation, tribe, people and language says Revelation 7:9, come to faith in Christ and saved. In James 1:17-18 every good gift and perfect gift from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. Of HIS OWN WILL HE brought us forth by the Word of truth so we believers are a kind of firstfruits of HIS creatures and become the Children of God in Christ.

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SEALED BY 144,000 FROM ISRAELThe confusion of 144,000 is the result of the false doctrine of Jehovah Witnesses. The Jehovah’s Witnesses claim 144,000 limited number of people only reign with Christ in heaven to spend eternity with God. These, the 144,000 Jehovah’s Witnesses call the heavenly hope. Those who are not among the 144,000 will enjoy what they call the earthly hope paradise on earth ruled by Christ and the 144,000. Jehovah’s Witness teach a caste society in afterlife with a ruling class 144,000 to rule. The Bible DOES NOT teach a “dual class” doctrine. The people ruling in millennium with Christ consist of the church believers in Jesus Christ in Bible in 1 Corinthians 6:2. The Old Testament saint believers who died before Christ’s first advent in Daniel 7:27, tribulation saints those who accept Christ during tribulation in Revelation 20:4. The Bible DOES NOT put a limited place in heaven so includes countless multitudes from all nations, tribes, and languages standing with palm branches before God’s Throne in Heaven. After the millennium life is in eternal state at the completion of the millennial period. At that time, God will dwell with us in New Jerusalem in Israel. Yahweh Our God and HIS people Revelation 21:3 dwell in perfect peace on earth Forever, inherit promise to us in Christ sealed by the Holy Spirit in Ephesians 1:13-14 as Co-Heirs with Christ in Romans 8:17. So 144,000 Jews handpicked exclusively by God from 12 tribes of Israel evangelise post Rapture world are not chosen by Jehovah Witnesses as they teach. And in addition already exists many Messianic Jews from the time of Jesus including the 12 Apostles, disciples and the Jews saved from all nations under heaven.

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Jehovah-WitnessJehovah’s Witness religious view on the blood transfusions of people is affected and tarnished after John’s friends died, when a blood transfusion which is not allowed in the faith might save him. “It was a waste of a life,” he says. John says he later discovered his wife testified against him during the process that led to his disfellowship, which he believes placed great strain on their relationship. He left family home living temporarily in tents and caravans. “It was a very isolating time. I didn’t have anyone, I felt quite suicidal,” he says. He has now lost contact with his two adult children and siblings. “Sometimes I send them a message saying, ‘I love you, I’m still thinking of you.’ But usually there’s no response,” he says.Terri O'SullivanImage caption of Terri O’Sullivan kicked out of her home by her mother based on belief. According to Jehovah’s Witnesses faith of more than 138,000 members in UK and more than their eight million followers internationally. Similarly, Terri O’Sullivan left the religion 17 years ago, aged 21, and was kicked out of her home by her mother. She now runs a support network for those who leave or are excluded from it. She says she is yet to find a former Jehovah’s Witness who has not experienced any depression, alcoholism, suicidal feelings or self-harm. She adds going through a formal disfellowship when they leave, the relationships become affected. With some ex-Witnesses,” she says, some of their families will still talk to them but it is always strained. Jehovah’s Witnesses recruit by door to door evangelism and friendly volunteers are people centred.alone_in_crowd_8486Recruitment drive in Twickenham, London 1966Image copyright GETTY IMAGES Image caption Jehovah’s Witness recruitment drive in London in 1966. Founded in US towards end of the 19th Century, under leadership of Charles Taze Russell. The Headquarters in New York. They think traditional Christian Churches deviated from the true teachings of the Bible, and do not work in full harmony with God. Traditional Christian Churches do not regard the movement as a mainstream Christian denomination because rejects Christian doctrine’s Trinity: LORD GOD ALMIGHTY the Father and Lord God Almighty the Son Jesus and God Holy Spirit. As heirs to a throne are revered at same level of Kings and Queens so KING OF Kings Yahweh represented by Jesus deserves Glory and Honour. The Jehovah’s Witnesses do not believe that Jesus will come back to earth to Rule in the flesh. The Bible says anyone who does not believe Jesus came on earth in the flesh is anti-Christ and anyone who does not believe Jesus will return in the flesh to be seen by the whole world is an anti-Christ too. They lie Jesus already returned in 1911 to earth as an Invisible Spirit and Jehovah’s Witnesses say Jesus dematerialised into Archangel so they will rule the earth replacing Jesus. So believe humanity in “last day’s”  final battle between good evil happenings.shunning-300x256573905-2984-22

Sarah says loss of her closest family ties is “very, very difficult” to cope with. She is engaged and aware she is “having to plan a wedding where your parents won’t attend.” “I would class myself as an orphan, which is quite sad,” she says. Her support network comes the friends at work. When she left the faith, they “rallied around” her in contrast to what she expected. Jehovah’s Witness people are told non members are awful, so bad association and so God is going to smite them all during Armageddon. To Sarah’s surprise people opened up their homes to her and support her.

Lasting Good Memories

Sarah is still, however, complimentary about most of the people in her former faith. “There are good people in that religion, who believe they are saving people’s lives by spreading the faith’s message,” she says. “I look back with some happy memories, because they were the last memories I have with my family and siblings. “But then I do have to look back and feel a lot of heartbreak that I’m never going to be able to sit down with them for a Sunday meal again. “When they die, I probably won’t be invited to the funeral either.”

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THE WORKPLACE NURSERIES

n-ikuboss-a-20160509With the long vacation approaching fast many working parents are faced with a dilemma of childcare. The high cost of childcare means some parents are better off at home caring for children. It is impossible to afford cost of hiring child minders or nannies like the few privileged. Parents must work at the same time looking after their children or their income support is cut off. This is because 24/7 full-time care of children is not legally recognised as paid work in Britain among many countries. Children go to nursery part-time paid for parents and it seems almost punitive to have a child in modern times. Children miss out on such expensive nursery places they cannot afford. Many parents are in debt and policy makers, often males, do not understand the depth of nurturing needs of babies and children. Wages are too meagre to pay rent, buy food and pay bills for most in these advanced wealthy countries throwing away tons of perfectly good food and material things everyday. Bankno_photo_4 balance seems to take precedence over priceless human lives. Worst of all in these countries the parents who leave children home alone are arrested and jailed but children are allowed free to roam the streets among paedophile predators and drug dealers. So with summer holidays parents are worried about safety of children and looking for relatives, family or friends to help look after children. The hardest job in the world is caring for children because they require 24/7 supervision. Anyone who cares for their, children, cooking, feeding, teaching, bathing, hospital appointments, doing laundry, garden, shopping, chores, running errands each day etc, plus looking after family other needs knows it is not easy or simple as often dismissed as unemployed person. 6a00d8341c4eab53ef01b7c7f5bfef970b-800wiHuman life of parents seems further displaced by machines yet unemployed must still pay their nursery fees, bills and mortgages through no fault of their own. So wonder what will happen if all the women in the world refused to have children due to attitude of government towards parents. There will be shortage of wives for men as happens in China and Japan. Germany and Russia after the war had to devise better maternity packages to entice women to repopulate the nation. With longer living of the elderly due to better medical care governments must address birthrate provisions with long-term vision into the future. Children and young people will be leaders and the carers in the future. So a great investment to nurture them today to help prepare them for their future roles. Treating children as unwanted nuisance draining state Resources is the greatest mistake every nation. Ignoring them as not an urgent issue keeps many out of schools and illiterate. Over 11 million children are out of school in Nigeria the highest record in the world. Most parents pay for education, buy books and pay exam fees so do not enjoy the privilege few. nursery3Yet education is taken for granted by the ones given their right to in education. In order not to lose vital front line staff it is essential to build company nursery to be included in building design by their architects. Employers can adapt their buildings to meet nursery standard to solve complex issues addressed by some compassionate companies. Their highly valued staff are retained for their input them after childbirth so children from 3-12 months provided for in workplace. Those not able to gain place must work from home to supervise children. These countries do not allow children to be left at home alone unsupervised like many other countries in other parts of the world. It is against the law and a nightmare for the majority of working parents without the flexible working hours to solve childcare cost problems. Affected by credit crunch and austerity budget cuts, that does not seem to dent the pockets of a privileged few. Holiday season makes childcare major problem for families. So recently, 20th July 2017 wrote on workplace child care facility in a bank in London.Amanda Wong, Goldman Sachs

Image caption Amanda Wong and her daughter Naomi use the Goldman Sachs nursery. So Head into nursery into the Goldman Sachs building on London’s Fleet Street and you’re greeted by wall to wall marble, a bank of receptionists and a water feature in the London City. But wind your way past lifts through an anonymous fire door and you enter a world that couldn’t be less corporate. The sounds, colours and laughter of a nursery. The Goldman Sachs Children’s Centre is both incongruous anomaly as the only on site childcare facility in the Square Mile. Started in 2003 to offer back up provision for staff, it takes kids between the ages of three months and 12 years old. The expense or regulatory requirements for such a facility are the main reasons why it is unique – and peculiar to a bank with deep pockets. This is part of a day of BBC coverage looking at the cost of holiday childcare. Find out at bbc.co.uk/business or follow conversation on social media using the hashtag #Childcare. According to latest figures from the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development, only 5% of businesses in the UK offer childcare in workplace. Anecdotally, this is almost exclusively made up of large employers because they have the money and space to allow for it. They include government departments, Royal Mail, a variety of universities, Microsoft and Toyota. There are tax breaks for those companies that do.Goldman Sachs Children's Centre

Childcare facility at the Goldman Sachs takes children from three months to 12 years old. Employers who include their childcare costs as the part of employee remuneration package, attract tax and National Insurance and obligations. But employers that offer in-workplace nurseries do not and they get relief for the day-to-day running and capital costs of providing the service, for example heating and lighting, and premises.

Flexible work

It might be seen as a perk but an onsite childcare flourished in the immediate post-war years out of necessity. A labour shortage meant women were needed to work and factories and mills started to offer the creches that allowed them to. Dr Laura Paterson of Oxford University, who specialises in history of women’s employment, says childcare provision by businesses died away in the 1950s as the need for women became less acute and the way they worked changed. The. “Part-time and flexible working hours reduced need for workplace nurseries to some extent,” she says, “Women who worked from the 1950s to the 70s tell us they did part-time jobs when children were young to fit around school hours. They worked in the evening so their Goldman Sachs Children's Centrepartner could care for their children. Goldman Sachs are allowed 20 days of emergency childcare a year. But what about the people working full-time at Goldman? For Amanda Wong, who project manages new trades for the firm and is a mum to 12-month-old Naomi, children’s centre has been a lifesaver. Ms Wong put her daughter into nursery same day she returned to work, shortly after Naomi turned nine months. “It has made me feel a lot more relaxed and mentally ready to come back to work a lot earlier than I would have and I think it helps new mums with separation guilt or anxieties about returning to work,” she says. Though she admits it is not ideal to take a one-year-old on the Tube through central London each day. Yet it makes a great difference child is within reach in vicinity giving parents peace of mind. Assured the child is in safe hands, well taken care of by employer pecks.6295314-3x2-940x627

Ishmeet Rayit, who manages Goldman Sachs Children’s Centre, tells me they have a higher staff ratio than Ofsted regulations require (one-to-two in the baby room rather than one-to-three), because they need to make children who might not be familiar with them, settle in quickly. Of the 5,500 people who work in the office, about a quarter are registered users. Each parent at the bank gets 20 free “back-up” days to use the centre, renewed each year. The most coveted facility in the centre is the after-school and holiday programme where the 5-12 year olds come. It’s stuffed full of bilingual books and toys, showing just how multicultural the bank is. “The kids call it an office day,” Ms Rayit says. “They get taken out for lunch by their parents and they make friends here.” Parents are only allowed to book 10 days of this holiday service at a time, the room can accommodate 12, and the waiting list to get in is long.Goldman Sachs office in London

Goldman Sachs is in two old newspaper offices on London’s Fleet Street. Sally Boyle, the international head of human resources at Goldman, says it is a “significant cost” to the firm – but it is worth it. We are definitely seen it have an impact on retention of a smallish group of women but important women who wouldn’t have stayed I suspect if they hadn’t been able to manage that childcare in a way that they can here,” she says. The centre is run by Bright Horizons, largest provider of workplace nurseries in the UK. Goldman pays it a monthly management fee, and parents who need childcare beyond that paid for by the bank, deal directly with the nursery. A spokesperson for company says demand for onsite care increasing. “In today’s competitive talent market, recruiting and retaining exceptional people is high priority for organisations. “On site childcare has been identified as a key factor in encouraging parents to return to work and, in turn, helping organisations to thrive”.

‘Chronic shortage’

But Rohan Silva, whose Second Home drop-in work spaces are planning in-house creches, says the barriers to entry today of setting up onsite childcare are enormous. “The Ofsted accreditation process takes at least three months, and costs hundreds of pounds in registration costs and consultancy fees. In addition, there are multiple additional inspections each year, plus a chronic shortage of trained staff,” he says.Second Home nursery plansSecond Home found designing its onsite creches difficultAnother challenge is the fact that so few architects and designers have ever designed childcare facilities, because so few are created by property developers. That means thinking from scratch the issues around access and child-friendly materials,” Mr Silva says. He believes it’s a vital way of allowing more parents to work. “The UK’s rate of maternal employment is 27% lower than other Western countries making childcare more accessible will make a big difference. “This is especially true of single parents – who are much more likely to be unemployed, and for whom access to childcare is the biggest barrier to finding work” Mr Silva adds. A recent Institute of Directors survey backs this up. It found over half of its members think that the cost of childcare hurts careers – particularly those of women. It is currently consulting on whether to open a creche for its members. For now, though unlike those women working in factories after the war, the option of taking your child to work is offered at a company’s largesse rather than out of compulsion. And it’s reserved for a privileged few.

GOD’S CORRECTION IS GOOD

proverbs-3-12-god-corrects-us-gold_1398839561The LORD God Almighty corrects those HE LOVES as a father or parents correct the children in whom they delight says the Bible in Proverbs 3:12. God reveals to HIS Children error by love to point out mistakes to reveal the correct way to change for good. Correction is done by God directly or through Jesus Christ the Eraser to wipe out errors to restart correctly to show a person unaware of a mistake due to lack of knowledge. This helps learn from mistakes to improve lives to please God. By doing so the lives transformed grow in righteousness and improves in faith, active listening skills in obedience to God. The person gains useful information previously unknown before. Hebrews 12:6-11 says the LORD chastens, disciplines, scourges all HE LOVES to receive correction to endure to gain better experience in life. God deals with people as individual, family or on corporate basis as required.proverbs-3-12-god-corrects-us-green_1078636053Correction of Bart Simpson is a classic example of the line writing exercise on the classroom board to highlight point of correction. Years ago, schools gave pupils correction exercise books for rewriting misspelt words. Of course, as children unaware of exact right words intended word teachers point mistake to teach learners to write many times in exercise books to help remember the correct words in future. The brain coordinates hand movements with eyes to record words. Repetition of the words written many times forever registers so etched in minds of pupils to remember better. But along came a contemporary educational theory it constitutes abuse to ask children to use repetition method to write lines for correction so avoidedsimpson-i will use google before asking dumb questions

So spell checker was born so people did not memorize words for rote learning for recall. Computers correct the words obviously misspelt but words like “cap” and “cup”or “hat” and “hut” for example though correct, if not in context can be incorrect. Drinking milk in “cap” does not show on spellchecker so the reader must know word “cup” in the first place to edit it. This affects spelling error not dealt still with by computer in modern times. Therefore it is important to teach correct words in academia for life as a whole. The Bible says if you correct wise people and they become wiser and love you but correct mockers and they hate you. Choose correction carefully at right time in right way to help improve lives. Purpose of correction is not to shame a person in a negative way for vengeance to hurt them. People who love and care about you help with any issues affecting you to deal with it by Godly correction, compassion, support, understanding as God disciplines us.  3

Godly discipline is for good so it is not punishment though unpleasant because one is compelled to conform or comply against own rebellious ideas. Proverbs 9:8 warns not to attempt to correct fools because they are offended so hate you. Adapting to change is uncomfortable so may seem harsh to recipient until they benefit when they correct the error. So Correction requires determination by the teacher to help ‘wise’ to be ‘wiser’ as challenge to one doing correction. Their unpredictable nature, response reaction to correction depends on the persona at receiving end. Element of risk means a teacher helps learners to avoid mistakes to help correct them through a training experience. Criticising a person affects correction as attack on ego or pride may refuse help or reject correction. In the long run, over a period of time, people realise an insolent person’s ignorance is caused by fear of change. So help stop the devices of mistakes damaging them. Lack of Frontal Cortex means those in crises do not know how mistakes can impact lives. Sadly, some learn the hard way by self-destruction that could be avoided if only they listened. proverbs3_11-12Through arguments a stiff neck refuses to take instructions so does not realise the errors done to themselves or to their family. Blinded by error mindset, causes havoc by process of fear rebuff or reject correction so avoid a pointed out error altogether for improvement. The theory that correction discourages children in the early years from learning affects the attitude to correction in general. Left to figure things out for themselves, many people are unaware of their mistakes. So it becomes problems affecting their performance if the person is allowed to be left to their own devices. In terms of future career the person carries on into other areas of life. Anyone who points out errors to them other than own ideas is not well received. Although a trainer from experience knows exactly what they are talking about, so foresees error, the learner does not accept help, refuses correction. Yet correction is specifically for their good, well-being of the whole family or work place, community and world in general.Profitable-for-RebukeIf a stubborn person resists wisdom at all cost to defy authority in the name of freedom to do as they please, they miss out on the Spirit of excellence. Realise boundaries of correction helps to learn better ways to protect them from a long winding road of mistakes. Like prodigal son, God forgives and restores the ways of error to rescue the lost or misdirected by the wrong choices they made. Proper correction helps to avoid, prevent worse case scenarios. A person corrected must be educated to visualise or understand benefits of the correction in advance. So learners must be taught advantages of correction to instill value of flexibility, humility to bring changes in learning methods. Correction is not to inflict pain or suffering but guidance to give correct information to the person taught. The teacher must be patient and tolerant because learners do not immediately see what they teachers know. Important to understand a soft stick bends because it is malleable than a hard dry stick. The concept that learners grow up to correct themselves is not always the wise move. As they continue in set ways without an understanding of the impact of previous years without correction. Many adults get offended when genuine people try to guide them to correct errors. Some explode in anger and rage so take anger on others. This even spills over into the others aspects of life treating anyone’s suggestions in good faith as an attack on their character or personality. 54126707d4518b751f9145ee5d192841

Reprove not a scorner lest he hates you, rebuke a wise man and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man so he will be still wiser, teach a righteous man and he will thank you and apply correction in their lives. Correct fools and they take offence. Do not despise chastening of the LORD God; neither be weary of HIS correction. So accept correction for your own goodAccept correction of God by Grace and wisdom of the Holy Spirit to lead you into all truth and teach you. A personal Bible study as a faithful Child of God is part of growth and maturity in the LORD. Start correction of children as early as possible from 2 years old to correct them in love at their level not by anger. Teach children by pointing out correct manner of behaviour as part of life for all to learn. It is imperative to carefully train a child to get rewards for their good behaviour to help reinforce correction. Follow up with apology and hug so child learns to accept teachers doing well to teach child to accept critique of work performance. Children with trained good sense accept correction and even recognise error by admitting error if unnoticed by teacher. A child can politely point out error to a teacher because all are human, so make mistakes in life. The secret is to get up immediately for good success not to feel disheartened by correction. Correction is good as it builds a person up to thrive.