DEALING WITH LONELINESS

wp-1578499253965.jpgI lifted my windshield wiper to retrieve a frozen pink rose on a cold Valentine’s Day years ago. A freshman in college, I stopped by my car to eat a snack after a morning class. And excitedly wondered who sent me this surprise as my heart pounded in anticipation. Starting up the engine for warmth, I rubbed my palms together and opened the attached card. The rose was from my mother and her words in the card is kind, encouraging, so why did I still feel empty inside? The truth is, I wished the rose was from a secret admirer, a young man, not my mother. My last date spaced far after a previous one I longed for romance to fill me up. My loneliness combined into a frustrating mixture like a cup with no bottom. No matter what I put inside the cup, I didn’t feel full. Roses, chocolates, books, TV shows, fantasies relationships couldn’t fill it. Loneliness seemed to be the only thing filling a bottomless space, and I am weary of its constant haunting presence. My parents divorced when I was 4 years old, the day my daddy left was a day loneliness took up permanent residence in my heart and mind; though I wished it will go away I had no power to push it out the door loneliness lingers on every time I crave love and attention from people’s love its in short supply.wp-1578512659626.jpgIn high school, I developed resentment over flowers and gifts I saw lined up in the cafeteria every February 14. None of them were for me. I believed the devil’s whispered lie, None of them will ever be for you. You’ll always be lonely. About 15 years after that frozen-rose morning, I sat in a counselor’s office. Listening to my stories of constant loneliness, he said, “Relationships are very important to you, aren’t they?” It was his simple, judgment-free question that became a pivotal point in my spiritual journey. A few days after counseling session, God nudged me with a new idea: Perhaps its relationships too important to me yet I was a wife, mother of three and a friend to many, I still felt lonely. God showed me truth to learn from HIS Word: “It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in people” says Psalm 118:8. For far too long, I looked to people to fill me up. My husband, children, best friend, small group companions couldn’t remove my loneliness. They were never designed to completely fill my needs and I realized only God can be my refuge and my safe place and my salvation in lone times.wp-1577904684292.jpgThough people are wonderful, they are not infinite so are not always available when we need them, and none of them provide perfect understanding. God is infinite Revelation 1:8, everpresent says Deuteronomy 31:6 and all-knowing says 1 Chronicles 28:9. As we study His ways, we learn God is ready, able and willing to fill us with HIS LOVE. We learn this best by hiding in HIS place of refuge so the more time I spent in God’s presence, the less I depended on relationships to meet all my needs. My time with loved ones became bonuses on top of loving intimacy I enjoyed with Jesus. No longer required evident proof of a human love on Valentine’s Day or any other day. God is our refuge in lonely times so is more than enough proof He LOVES us. Some inherit loneliness from their mothers. Angel KissiAngel Kissi says she has struggled with loneliness since she was a child she has inherited loneliness from her mother. A parent in the same way affects emotions inherited like hair and eye colour. Two women explain loneliness played a part in their lives and relates to their parents as children. “Loneliness is constant. No matter where I it just does not go away. It’s like you feel it in your bones a deep feeling of wanting to fit in and wanting to be around people you know and love, but you can’t. “So thinks inherited it. It’s been passed says Angel Kissi from her mum Hayley who struggles with anxiety depression and loneliness. Her mum’s spark by severe post-natal depression in Angel started when she was a child. “My family stood out in Peterborough. They all knew who we were because we look different. I’m tall and mixed race and I stood out,” says the 20-year-old. “When I went to university, things were good but still felt didn’t fit in. I thought moving to London would change it but it didn’t. “I felt I was quiet and awkward, struggled to connect with people or make friends straight away. Some go out for drinks after class but never invited. I felt like I did something wrong. I stopped going to lectures, got up, ready to go but back to bed. Avoids going to shared areas of my flat, shut myself away isolated. I went into the loneliness and let it take over.”Angel and HayleyHayley struggle with anxiety depression and loneliness after Angel was born. So unable to cope, Angel left the university before first year was over. She felt then a strong desire to go home and be close to her mum rented a room close-by. “It’s good we don’t live together because we bring each other up, down all the time. She helped me with some aspects of my mental health but at times I didn’t want to speak to her because I didn’t want to make her worse. “If she was different, I will be different. I don’t blame her at all, she didn’t choose to be like this, it’s not her fault. It’s something I have got from her. Personality traits or attitudes I have learnt from her without meaning to.”Angel Kissi struggled with the loneliness from a young age According to Age UK, loneliness is defined as feeling a lack of affection, closeness or social interaction with others.The charity Mind says it is not a mental health issue but research says its associated with increased risk of depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and stress triggered by major life events of bereavement, relationship break-ups or retirement, changing jobs and moving. Dr Rebecca Nowland, who researched the subject of loneliness said it can be passed down in families. “I don’t think we will find a gene for loneliness but it’s response to an experience of loneliness that may be genetic,” she said. “There is a number of studies that loneliness is hereditary so runs in families and there might be associations between parent’s loneliness and a child’s loneliness. The parent who has been lonely for a time may transmit some the negative feelings happening share loneliness experience.”Kirsty and sonKirsty McGrath fears passing feelings of loneliness to her children too. So Kirsty McGrath said her loneliness problem is after her son was born five years ago. She tried going to the mother and baby groups to make new friends, struggled to organise play dates so found herself increasingly isolated. Her husband does support her in the evening but she finds daytimes difficult because she is alone with no-one to talk to. The 33-year-old teacher, lives in Eltham, south London says she is worried of not being able to socialise her children will have an effect on them. She might pass own feelings of loneliness of “grey cloud.“I am paranoid of passing it on to the kids, I wouldn’t be surprised if I did. I am aware so I want them to feel comfortable around others not to feel like they don’t fit in. “My son came home from school and said to me he didn’t have friends so hasn’t played with anyone. I’m worried he is like this because of me didn’t put him in enough social situations to know how to mix in with others.” Loneliness is the common experience among new parents finding groups with shared interests to focus on new parenting skill way to cope says Dr Nowland. Dr Faruq Fazal a GP worked in mental health services on loneliness sats people lack a support network and believes teaching coping skills in school could help. “Nobody really teaches you how to cope through life’s challenges if suffering from loneliness. Its not about physically having people around you, it is when you feel you’re not able to talk to people without an emotional support. People need a support network so their coping strategy is better.” Do not isolate yourself from family or friends unless it is absolutely necessary to prevent virus.Child and parent holding handsExperts say parents may transmit their feelings to their children. Mind suggests a number of ways to manage loneliness, includes peer support talking therapies. Dr Nowland says seeking professional advice can help those stuck in a cycle of behaviour brought about by loneliness. “Loneliness leaves you with emotional feeling quite painful and distressing. If someone is lonely and they felt it for a long time but realising it’s not ok helps overcome developed negative thought patterns. “You need help with cognitive behaviour therapy to help you think and reframe things.” Angel’s counselling helped with anxiety but not helped with her feelings of loneliness. She returned to university but decided to focus on her mental health, work, and learning to drive. “Loneliness is different from anxiety and it’s different from not being able to make friends,” she says. “Anxiety isolates but loneliness felt at university separate from people in your own little world. I’m in a relationship and close to my family but loneliness is still there. To overcome loneliness of Covid-19 in UK children drew rainbow picture put at a window to support each other. Its a fun idea but God is surrounded by rainbows so its appropriate to remind HIM of HIS BIBLE PROMISES to save HIS creation.Rourke and Quinn are seen with their rainbow in CoventryRourke and Quinn are seen with their rainbow in Coventry. Children in UK are placing rainbows in windows of their homed to help keep others entertained during the coronavirus outbreak. These youngsters have been asked to colour in templates of rainbows or to draw their own and display them by their schools. The rainbows are then used as a tool to entertain children as they go on their daily walks with their parents. So this movement dubbed “The Rainbow Trail” helps share common ground interest to deal with corona virus staying indoors.Cllr Adam Clarke, deputy city mayor for Leicester, has displayed two rainbows in his window.Cllr Adam Clarke, deputy city mayor for Leicester, has displayed two rainbows in his window. And Donna Corcoran, 40, from Coventry, praised this movement and said it was a real highlight for her sons, seven-year-old Rourke, six-year-old Quinn and two-year-old daughter, Pearl. So public is warned to respect the personal space to limit spreading virus. Most parts of the world is on lockdown to try to contain the virus. Things to get worse but improves a lot, don’t know if it’s going to go.” Mayor inundated with many lonely citizens appoints specialist councillor. ‘Bureaucracy dehumanises so becoming living robots,’ says a mayor of a small Italian town before the virus.Antonella Argenti, mayor of Villa del Conte in the Veneto region.The mayor of a small town in northern Italy appointed a loneliness councillor being overwhelmed by citizens calling to discuss their problems. So Antonella Argenti elected mayor of Villa del Conte, town of 5,400 people in Veneto region, in May last year noted some inhabitants struggling to cope “You wouldn’t believe it,” she told La Stampa. “In the first few months of my mandate, so many people came to see me. All, young, old, wo/men, complained about problems of the same type of loneliness, the lack of a support network. “Alone with phone take care of bills talk to the automated switchboard refers you to yet other recorded voices. Relationships are missing. Bureaucracy dehumanise all becoming living robots. The Pescueza village in Spain with 130 people with two thirds over 65 years old is adapted to care and provide for their needs. Rails attached to walls to hold on to while walking out and about, slipfree floor to ensure the don’t slip and fall. Its said they are given phones to press red button for emergency needs urgently attended to. They are fed, their clothes are washed for them and transport sent to those who find walking challenging. They meet at daycentre to socialise and a gym tailored to their needs to exercise daily but isolated during corona virus. 20200215_113722

A Facebook group had been set up for the people who want to help others and offer their services to neighbours who might be confined to their homes as a result of the outbreak of Covid-19. They volunteer to fetch their groceries, walk their dogs and pick up prescriptions or have a chat over the phone or Skype if they are feeling lonely or frightened. A young people’s chatroom also discusses people’s feelings and fears. And how to help prevent virus spreading by staying indoors at home. Not to meet in groups, or gather in large groups helps to deal with the virus to protect themselves and others. People are encouraged to try to be active indoors by being busy doing a favourite hobby or sing, dance, exercise write poems, be creative, draw, dribble use crayons, pens, paint with brushes to keep the mind occupied. Ask for help if in need, don’t be shy to suffer in silence people alone. Its said no one cares what you know but KNOW IF YOU CARE in a such a time as this. Actions speak louder than words so it is the time to be there for each other emotionally or physically in extreme cases for intervention by the experts. And for believers in God faith is shared to uplift with word of God in the Name of Jesus with texts, hymns, songs, music, prayer from Bible texts or verses.

Lord, thank You for never abandoning me in my lonely times. I confess I have tried too hard to fill up my lonely spaces with relationships or things that never fill me up. Remind me when I hide away in a safe place with You I will experience Your perfect peace. Meet me in loneliness with Your loving presence. In Jesus Name Amen. Thank you God as your words say I am not alone for Father God is always with me. Jesus you said I am with you in Spirit so will never leave or forsake me to the end of the age. Thank you God. Thank you Jesus. Thank you my comforter Holy Spirit. Thank you for your love and care for me, you supply all my needs in Jesus Name and through people helping bless them all and protect their families too. 

TRUTH FOR TODAY FROM THE BIBLE:

Psalm 118:8-9 Its better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in people so put your CONFIDENCE IN GOD.

Jeremiah 17:5-8, Thus says the LORD God cursed is a man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength so he heart departs from the LORD God.

Psalm 59:17, “O God my Strength, to you I sing praises, O God, my refuge, shows me unfailing love”

Psalm 142:5, “I pray to you, O LORD. I say, ‘You are my place of refuge. You are all I really want in life above all things”

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NURSERY LOVERS MARRIED

Laura and Matt in preschool 20 years ago, a 3-year-old Matt Grodsky stood up in front of his entire preschool class, declaring he would one day marry classmate Laura Scheel. On a December 30th of 2016, he did. The two, now 23 years old, met in preschool in Phoenix, Arizona, and Grodsky was immediately drawn to Scheel. “I don’t remember the first time I saw her, but she was always a girl who let me follow her around,” Grodsky recalled, “Always impresses her reciting lines from movies like ‘The Lion King’ and stuff like that.” Grodsky often tried to impress Scheel by quoting “The Lion King.” Matt played with Laura Scheel always in the nursery. Grodsky’s and Scheel’s earliest memories about each other on play dates and trips to the movies with parent chaperones for the two little lovebirds. Grodsky, infatuated and Scheel felt the same way. “When you like someone, you just kind of stand up and say it,” he said, which is exactly what he did. He declared his love for Scheel before his 3 and 4 year old peers who burst into laughter. And Grodsky’s response was, “Just you wait.”Laura and MattGrodsky knew early on he would marry Scheel one day. Matt Grodsky and Laura Scheel were always together in nursery. So after announcing his love ended up taking quite a bit of waiting. The young couple went to two different elementary schools and lost touch, only watching each other grow up through the annual Christmas cards the two families would send to one another. Then in the fall of their freshman year of high school, once again at two different schools, Scheel was looking through a friend’s phone and saw Grodsky’s name. It turns out Scheel’s friend went into middle school with Grodsky and when a friend found out that they had been quite the item in preschool she offered to reconnect them “I was a freshman in high school so I was like, ‘I don’t think so!'” Scheel said. “But then she ended up giving him my number and he texted me and we hit it off ever since.” Two weeks later, Scheel and Grodsky were dating. Four years and 15 school dances (their high school dances combined) later, it was time for college – again at two separate schools, but this time in two separate states.Laura and Matt at the poolGrodsky and Scheel had play dates all the time in preschool. Matt Grodsky and Laura Scheel. “Right after we graduated from high school were hesitant. Were like, ‘Do we stay together? Do we try to make it work?'” Scheel explained. They made it work. Scheel went to Northern Arizona University, while Grodsky went to Columbia College Chicago, more than 1,600 miles away. It was not easy, but after some trial and error freshman year, they got a system down, figuring out a schedule for when they would visit each other and watching “Friends” on Netflix together when apart. Grodsky didn’t wait until they finished college to pop the question. On May 23, 2015, as the couple prepared to start their senior year, he brought her back to the place where it all began: their preschool.Laura and Matt get engagedScheel did not see it coming as Grodsky got down on one knee.Courtesy of Matt Grodsky and Laura Scheel. Grodsky had bought an engagement ring two months before this day and so already received her dad’s blessing. He had stationed his brother at the school before arrival so he could position himself in the perfect location to capture a photo of moment. On the way there, Grodsky repeatedly checked his pockets for the ring. When they arrived, he got down on one knee. I was like, Oh my gosh is this happening?Scheel said. “I saw the ring and was like, This is gorgeous I’m so happy with ring so the answer was resounding yes! And Grodsky’s brother brought out a picnic basket the very same one that Grodsky’s dad used when he proposed to his mom full of bridal magazines and sparkling cider, bowed out to give newly engaged couple a private picnic to celebrate.Matt and Laura get marriedAfter 20 years, the couple said “I do.” On December 30, 2016 these two preschool sweethearts said “I do.” Grodsky’s uncle, who officiated the marriage, put it best during their ceremony: “For most kids in preschool, its finding your snacks and your sleeping mats, but for them it was about finding their soulmates.” This shows that some three year old toddlers understand true love and romance from an early age. This wonderful testimony is an encounter of God’s LOVE between two innocent children who love each other without bias or any prejudices. It is encouraging the adults or the parents involved honoured them to support the love between them. Congratulations and happy wedding anniversary, enjoy your married lives together forever in Jesus Name.

 

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God’s Time is the best to fulfil the plans and purpose for your life to Glorify God as Gifty Anti’s testimony shows. This is the Lords doing and it is marvellous in our eyes. Wait on GOD ALMIGHTY and do not lean on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge God, HE WILL BRING TO PASS IN JESUS NAME. This powerful message is to encourage all people to Seek God’s Face especially for marriage. Do not marry because you feel it’s too late so rush into relationship to destroy you in the end. So many fear they may not get married after a certain age, convince themselves so share the husband of another woman. They miss their own husband due to impatience so regretted later and wished they waited for God. Delay is not denial so better to build up good character and reputation to wait as a virtuous woman. The same goes for men marrying the children too young with undeveloped body to bear a weight of children or be a matured wife. GLORY to God for matured women that are fully grown and to handle marriage better. Those miserable and lonely who think marriage solves all problems must love themselves first to bring good vibes into the marriage. Spend quality time to enjoy the single years dedicated to God and busy minding your own business. It is true marriage is beautiful, wonderful and fulfilling because God created the first marriage in Garden of Eden. God said, it is not good to be alone so made Eve out of Adam’s rib to join one flesh.

Marriage ordained by God so important to organise marriage as God planned and intends. Adam and Eve are created as fully grown adults with all available resources before their marriage was created by God. Time of singlenesss is time preparation towards marriage because such precious times cannot be regained after marriage. The single person is married to God in Christ so devoted to things of God Bible says. A popular saying is that marriage is like a woollen blanket itches when covered by it and cold without it. Those inside it are desperate to get out while those outside can’t wait to get in. Marriage is so great and wonderful because two better than one strengthening each other when the going gets tough. A real life marriage is not just like a fantasy drama of actors pretending to be couples on TV reciting written scripts and paid. Do not base a choice of a life partner on TV drama or Mills and Boons romantic fantasy novel although it contains elements of truth of real life. Marriage that endures lifetime is deeper than TV drama marriage takes the Grace, Mercy and Favour of God to endure the challenges and adversity of life together as a couple. And marriage is NOT HAPPILY EVER AFTER always as novels say it is practical real life matters of building family, relationship with the in-laws, humility, respect for people in the families, Honour, respect and never just the two couples involved. Be ready to become part of bigger family looking after interests of others not just yourself as God planned. Couples celebrate their wedding interact with family to support them in time of need. And never isolate yourselves to be in love to burn bridges because after the dust settles you need all those people to help the marriage to thrive. Isolated marriages are too close for comfort puts too much stress on each other to ruin marriage. A single person is WHOLE PERSON made in the IMAGE OF GOD. So stop thinking you are incomplete without marriage if not married yet or chooses not to marry marriage is not a competition of friends. Do not rush into marriage because you feel left behind by agemates. A real life journey is personal and individual, seek the face of God before marriage. 

Polyandry marriage of women married to more than one husband is common in India, Nigeria, China, Mountain tribes of Asia where there are more women than men. Similar words are polygyny, bigamy and deuterogamy. The Bible says 7 women will take hold of one man and say we are self-sufficient, so have everything already, we just want to be called by your name “Mrs.” Solomon and 700 wives and his 300 concubines, feminists now demand equal rights of polyandry to be like men. God allowed Abraham, Jacob, David among others to have many wives. Though God said, one man join one wife as ONE FLESH people are greedy so want more. After all God and Jesus are too HOLY without sexual needs, without a wife, so how on earth are they going to understand human needs of the flesh? The signs of end time debauchery and lasciviousness like the days of Noah and Sodom and Gomorrah Jesus has warned about will happen be before His coming again. Hope you are all well by the Grace of God. Pray with intense fasting intercession to break family covenant of spiritual marriage you are dedicated to fighting real life spouse. Secrets are not shared by parents so seek deliverance in Jesus Name for a breakthrough. Don’t consult psychics, necromancers, fortune tellers, native doctor herbalist, witch doctor for marriage because you will be initiated to satan and demons will marry you to prevent real life marriage. It may seem they gave you husband or wife but it is loaded with evil because satan does not give anything free without taking back a life of family members to kill, destroy or make them suffer in life. So may not realise your connection to idol shrine is the cause of all family sickness, poverty, and premature deaths. Ancestors sought ‘protection’ from: evil witchcraft, wars, land disputes, chieftaincy by sacrificing the family to shrines. Such generational covenants are known or unknown to family members suffering today. The LORD GOD ALMIGHTY is the source of life and giver of marriage so follow the plan if God for your life. Do not listen to those who ruined their life embarrassed by your virtuous life to deceive you to ruin your life. They may call you “an old maid” left on the shelf but GOD’S TIME is the BEST in Jesus Name. All laughing and mocking you now will see the Glory of God in your life and your testimony in Jesus Name. Others decide to do their own deceived by those who want their life destroyed to spur on to disgrace them. Beware and stand on the word of God for inspiration, hope, assurance in Christ and trust God in Spirit and Truth to beautify your life in His Own Time for you. You will enjoy your marriage because you are  faithful to God so HE WILL Make A WAY for you where there is no way in Jesus Name. The Bible in Exodus 21:10, says a man can marry an infinite amount of women without limits to how many to marry. And in 2 Samuel 5:13; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, and in 14:3, King David had six wives and his numerous concubines. Also in 1 Kings 11:3, King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Again in 2 Chronicles 11:21, King Solomon’s son Rehoboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines. And in Deuteronomy 21:15 A man with two wives loves one but not the other and both bear sons favours one more. The laws of each land dictate the number of spouse according to that culture.  

IMG_20180915_131117If you have Spiritual Father and Mother in Christ go and talk to them privately about your desire to get married. Study Biblical marriage to read good books on marriage from God to help understand marriage better. Ensure you are able to provide marital needs like rent, food, work to have money to pay the bills, to first take care of yourself before you go to add children’s needs into a marriage for more responsibility. Love alone is not enough because love does not pay bills or provide food just because you declare or flaunt how madly you are in love on social media. Be happy first in yourself, see marriage as bonus adding value to your life rather than depending on person to fulfil your life. Impossible to demand spouse totally fulfil all areas of your life needs because you love and married them. You demand they be God who is ONLY ONE Provider that way. Its misunderstanding to destroy marriage because of your assumption a partner will meets all your needs but you do not tell them what your need is. You insist they read your mind to do all you want from them without TALKING to them or doing good to them in return. Marriage is not a ONE WAY culdesac no return of favour done to you. Negotiate with family through the good servant of God with your family in partnership for a spouse. Even if church helps you find spouse include family or if family finds you spouse include the church if a born again believer. You need them along the journey of married life for sure honour family and stay in church in marriage ordained by God. Families give account to God on judgement day so remember God will deal with you as you deal with spouse and fam vily. Check your heart for motives of marriage to be sure you love, show kindness, peace, joy, so loyal, forgives, self-control, laughter help each other, family after honeymoon is over reality sets in. Marriage not for the fainthearted so treat it with respect, honesty, trust be transparent for your own good to help save to preserve your married life in peace. Continue to pray intensely as you did when seeking that life partner to defeat and conquer the onslaught of forces that contend with the marriage. Do not relax and think nobody fights over conquered fortress to settle down so ignore spouse. This is beginning of married life of challenges in relationship. With God all things are possible so be alert watch out pray, seek deliverance in Mighty Name of Jesus!!!

MIRACLE PEOPLE RESCUE

 

 Burat, 10, is now recovering at home after being found in a freezing-cold sewer in western Russia A woman miraculously saved a child from being frozen to death after she accidentally she fell down a manhole and found him. Gulia Yarullina, 31, was part of a 120-strong volunteer group searching for a missing 10-year-old boy in Tatarstan, western Russia. Burat, 10, is now recovering at home after being found in a freezing-cold sewer in western Russia. While looking for the youngster she was given the fright of her life when he fell through an open sewage well which was covered by snow. But to Gulia’s astonishment, she found the lost lad, named Burat, asleep in the sewer. Speaking with NTV, she said: “My first thought was that the boy was dead. He was lying  there as if he had died.“I started screaming because I was scared. He woke up and started screaming too. Gulia Yarullina, who injured her back during the fall, immediately called for help when she found the ladA volunteer looking for the boy also fell down the manhole and accidentally discovered Burat who had fallen asleep in the dark and freezing cold sewer. Gulia Yarullina, who injured her back during the fall, immediately called for help when she found the lad. The brave schoolboy has since been reunited with his family

The brave schoolboy has since been reunited with his family Authorities said the boy would have frozen to death within an hour if he had not been found by Gulia

Authorities said the boy would have frozen to death within an hour if he had not been found by Gulia. “I told him: ‘Do not be afraid, we were looking for you and we have finally found you.’ He was so happy he started jumping.” And the authorities said later that if the volunteer had not tumbled through manhole the boy would have died an hour later. Gulia, who injured her back during the fall phoned for help once she discovered Burat who was rushed to hospital suffering from severe hypothermia. It is amazing how God works miracles to rescue people in the most wonderful way. At times people feel completely lost, hopeless, unable to figure a way out on their own but God intervened and rescues them. A volunteer looking for the boy also fell down the manhole and accidentally discovered Burat who had fallen asleep in the dark and freezing cold sewerOther cases involve another woman who fell into water spring and another 6 feet down captured by CCTV. A 67-year-old woman was seriously injured after falling into an open cellar door while she was walking and checking her cellphone at the same time, police said. The incident, which occurred Thursday in Plainfield, N.J., was captured on surveillance video by a local window company. In the video, the woman can be seen walking on a sidewalk toward open basement-access doors. She holds a purse in her right hand and a cellphone in her left; just before she arrives at the hole, she glances toward her phone.hqdefault

A moment later, she stumbles over one of the open doors and falls headfirst into the cellar. Two alarmed bystanders cover their mouths in horror. Plainfield police said in a statement that the woman tumbled about six feet down. Firefighters extricated the woman from the hole, and she was taken to a hospital with serious injuries, police said. The basement-access doors had been open at the time because of repairs to gas lines in the area, police added. Similarly, during journey of life, there are bumps, ditches, potholes and unseen dangers on the way. These can cause people to trip accidentally or carelessly if not alert and watching. Unfortunately some are never rescued due to depth of the hole like the man who fell into crater sink hole in his bedroom in America. But another boy was rescued in another sewer this is quite common all over the world. facebook sign

For example, the snow covered road made it impossible to see the pothole so the woman fell into it also. However, it is a miracle because the steps of the righteous are ordered by the LORD God. The woman could have missed that pot hole and that boy would have bed missed his God sent opportunity for rescue. Yet God in His Grace and Mercy at the right time sent help. At times in life, one may feel as if abandoned to the muck and sewers of misfortunes. One tragedy or another trauma after the other until one wonders if even God cares anymore about you. Others due to loss of homes and harsh economic measures are literally living in sewers, rubbish damps and cemetaries all over the world.

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Living a life that is shocking to others beyond measure and yet there is no alternative. No matter the situation in life, there is eternal hope beyond life’s circumstances beyond human control. Jesus said the good Shepherd goes after the one lost sheep until it is found and brought safely home. It is good to know God deeply cares and uses people and all the available resources to rescue people from the potholes and the sewers of life. Interestingly, those who carelessly fall into hole by errors are equally rescued like those who fall down the drain accidentally fell into a hole. The blood of Jesus cleanses all the muck, stench and shame of embarrassment cleaning us as white as snow. Today, maybe you convinced yourself that you have fallen too deep down beyond redemption.58db372312ea5

Romans 6:6-7 says, know that the old self is crucified with Jesus so the body of sin is forgiven. No longer be enslaved to sin for Jesus died to set free from sin. The Bible says, there is now condemnation for those in Christ Jesus. The good news Gospel is God loves you and forever so accept His love. God does not measure salvation by material possessions, status or class. Things are good, necessary and useful but things do not impress God much. God created all things so humans are stewards. God’s does not want anyone to gain the whole world and lose their soul. Salvation is through His Son Jesus Christ. And so there is no muck, stench, grime, slime, gunch, drench of sin beyond the blood of Jesus. God is sending Jesus to rescue all in the holes of sin today. Receive help and be saved in Jesus Name.

ENJOYING NATURE DAILY

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Within the concrete jungles of cities is a whole new world to discovered and explore the flora and fauna. Take time to enjoy nature to smell the flowers and watch the birds no matter how busy you are. Go out with friends in a group as part of relaxation to clear your head and refresh your mind. A study recommends people take a break and observe nature in detail because of the health benefits gained. You should stop and smell the roses according to this study revealing a brief time spent outdoors enjoying walks or riding in nature really does improve mood. Cecile Borkhataria for Dailymail.com wrote online.  The demands of life have become so intense that some do not have the time or feel the need to enjoy their surroundings if possible.-c-michael_werlberger-9995

Those with paranomic views and a delightful beautiful views often miss out by being too busy to notice the view. The study shows spatial awareness and being in tune with nature is good for health and encourages walkabout exercise. Fresh air breathed in also promotes healthy heart and lungs. It is even more fulfilling when done by the family as part of routine and a time for relaxation. A stroll, power walk or riding bikes in fresh air is a simple and an effective way of spending quality family time together is rewarding. Take a picnic as a cost-effective way to enjoy quality family time.361f6935fd2ecc32bf3f82f866f63462

The study found nature helps by spending time outdoors to improve happiness. People who take the time to notice nature, increase their feelings of happiness and emotional well-being  Noticing a tree at a bus stop in the middle of a city can have a positive effect. Noticing nature impacts on prosocial orientation a willingness to share resources and place value on one’s community. New research shows that there’s truth to the idea that nature and spending time outdoors can improve happiness. The study showed if people simply take time to notice the nature around them, it will increase their general happiness and well-being.

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Even if it’s just birds flying in a crowded city or a tree at a bus stop, noticing nature can also improve ‘prosocial orientation’ – the willingness to share and place value on one’s community. If people simply take time to notice the nature around them, it will increase general happiness and well-being the new study has found. A University of British Columbia (UBC) study examined the effects of a two-week intervention involving nature. 395 Undergraduate students were asked to document how nature encountered affects their daily routine and made them feel.  They took photos of items that caught their attention and wrote down a short note about their feelings in response to it. Meanwhile, a second group of study participants tracked their reactions to human-made objects instead, again taking a photo and jotting down their feelings. A third control group did neither, continuing their everyday lives.unnamed

Researchers found that After the intervention, levels of positive emotions, elevating experiences and a general sense of connectedness to other people and nature and life as a whole, as well as prosocial orientation, were significantly higher in the nature group compared to the human-built and control groups. The University of British Columbia (UBC) examined the effects of a two-week intervention involving nature. Undergraduate students documented how nature they encountered in their daily routine made them feel. The photos of the item that caught their attention and wrote down a short note about their feelings in response to it revealed indepth reality of changes felt.IMG_20180105_121342

Paranomic views of the examples of nature could be anything not just about human built things so a house plant, a dandelion growing in a crack in a sidewalk, birds, or sun through a window. Meanwhile, a second group of study participants tracked their reactions to human-made objects instead, again taking a photo and jotting down their feelings.  A third control group did neither, continuing their everyday lives. Often association with nature is seen as primitive and unsophisticated. However, nature is rich with so much knowledge and relevant  information some miss out on. The push towards the virtual world is almost preventing reality check existence crucial for survival in life. It is even better if people begin to grow plants, flowers or simple foods on balcony gardens go keep in tune with nature.5761058

‘This wasn’t just about spending long hours outdoors or going for long walks in wilderness,’ says Holi-Anne Passmore, a PhD psychology student at UBC’s Okanagan campus and the lead author of the study.  ‘This is about paying attention to take in spatial knowledge and look at trees or plants in a meaningful way. Trees at a bus stop in the middle of a city has positive effects just one tree can have on people in the jungle.’ Passmore, who studies wellness, says she was ‘overwhelmed’ not just by the response of the 395 study participants – who submitted more than 2,500 photos and and descriptions of emotions – but also by the impact that noticing emotional responses to nearby nature had on well-being.

GOD’S IMAGE IN MANKIND

coloBible in Colossians 3:9-10 says put on new self in the image of God. The image of God is physical features of mankind. Isaiah saw God like a man sitting on the throne in heaven. God also reveals himself physically visibly to people all over the world including the 70 elders of Israel who ate and dined with God and Moses on the mountain. Jesus said, when you see Him you see the Father God in visible form.  Therefore mankind is made in the image of God according to Genesis. This means God is not an invisible blob too large to be contained by the universe as some think. Mankind has both God’s physical features and the God like qualities of God. As a result God’s human shape is replicated in diverse shapes, forms, and sizes not to make clones of any particular kind. God does not favour any variety of humans above another. As far as God is concerned, the standard for being like HIM is to do what Jesus says by drawing close to God. Those who draw near to God, in return God draws near to them and reveals HIMSELF to them more. Like any friendship or any marriage agreement God is in Covenant with mankind so deeply loves people and wants to have personal relationship with each one.world_pulse_2

This implies, God is the Ultimate standard all varieties of people are to look up to no matter where they live, look like, sound like or what they do in life. God wants all mankind to maintain HIS physical image and live according to God’s expectations.  This means each person is to aim to be more like Jesus who came to dwell among mankind to demonstrate the love of God on earth. Therefore rather than focus on turning people into another person each person is focus on looking more like Jesus. Unfortunately, so much time and resources are invested into turning humans into the clones of other human beings. It seems trying to be like a famous ‘idol’ makes some people think they will gain more confidence. Sadly this is never-ending until they stop looking outside themselves they need confidence in God. Some are have a false sense of self-esteem so go to extra lengths by surgery to imitate and mimic Barbie and others they want to look like. This opens doors for others to capitalise on their insecurities and opportunists fuel this insecurities to cause damage to people.22280731_135895917137860_4145777591179018240_n

Many live with irreparable scars as a result of superficial vanity of never-ending search of perfection. So search for mirage of unattainable perfection turning them into more into Frankenstein. As a result air brushed models create false dolled up superficial images imposed on society. Some whites turn themselves into black using chemicals and tablets to look as they want to fit into black community. Young people become susceptible to these false images and peer pressure creates unhealthy eating patterns to maintain false self-identity. Kim Kardashian recently took off the make up and posted her natural self-image. Her followers complained until she reposted the image they prefer of her. Another famous supermodel Cindy Crawford was told she looked so glamorous and really good on a recent cover of a magazine she replied, “she wished she looked so in real life. Many famous people are airbrushed and wear size zero because the industry prefers a certain image only. This has spilled over into work where people employed based on their looks, shapes and sizes. This unhealthy practice is now even now forced on children wanting to dress like their idols and bullying those who prefer to remain in their image.1bd58822a39ca112a1bd634289f33330--black-women-beauty-black-women-art

The Bible says, do not lie to one another, seeing you have put off the old self with its practices and put on the new self renewed in knowledge after image of the Creator. It is unGodly to force people to conform to the image of others deemed superior to damage their skin with carcinogenic chemicals used to bleach the skin. Others are banned from keeping natural look seen as unfit due to the highlighted phenomenon of colourism. Others deliberately choose white babies in vitro conception although both People catfish the image of others pretending to be somebody else they are not due to insecurity to be revealed. There is ” white” person on earth because everyone has shades of melanin from albinism to black. So those misled by adverts,   like cargo cult of skin color abandon their natural look to imitate preferred image seen as more beautiful. The natural look movement is fighting back by encouraging people to celebrate God’s image in them. This global trend promotes an acceptance of self-image and appreciation of natural beauty. This helps to overcome propaganda that started during slavery and colonialism banning people from wearing the cultural costumes, wearing natural hair styles, speaking mother tongues and eating organic healthy native foods.

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It is important to understand the pressures put on people to promote the cosmetic industry to the detriment of health. Many developed incurable skin conditions by bleaching their skins, pumping industrial chemicals into their body to alter their body shapes and tanning under radiation or Sun rays to look darker. It is an irony the whites are doing liposuction to bulk up certain body parts while the blacks are whitening their skin to turn look lighter. These extremes cost money and time that could have been used wisely. God could have easily created clones on earth to look exclusively like one particular shape, colour, size or sound. Yet God chose to create diversity and variety of HIMSELF to manifest HIS GLORY and wonders through HIS creation. It is complete ignorance to look at another person resentfully to condemn them as inferior based on colourism and false preferences. Celebrate and love you image in God. You did not purchase your original image, colour, shape or size or who are yourself from a supermarket. It is God’s decision to create perfect just as you are in HIS IMAGE. Have confidence in God’s image of you and believe you are equally as beautiful as what you see in others. It is an insult to God to project insecurities and racism on others created by God through no fault of their own as God naturally made them.

 

THE LONDON FIRE OF 1666

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London fire of 1666 that happened 351 years ago on Sunday 2 September, is well known all over the world. Songs sang about the fire as written was sung as follows: London is burning, London is burning, Fetch the engines, Fetch the engines, Fire fire, fire, fire, pour on water, pour on water. London is burning, London is burning, fire fire, fire, fire, pour on water, pour on water. This song was sang continuously and repeatedly as long as the time allowed and was permitted. It was a miracle fewer people died so the official toll was six although in the aftermath of the fire more people died later from related causes. Such as homelessness, displacement, lynchings, and blaming Catholics for starting the fire. Despite the fact that the fire started from a baker’s oven and could have been averted, delay of order to contain and curb the fire caused it to inflame beyond human control.  The most interesting thing about the London fire is that, often most living history books on the fire do not mention the prophetic warnings issued before the fire occurred. This warning is documented in: Theological Works of the Reverend Charles Leslie, 1832, available from https://books.google.co.uk as recorded in a book on Theology.1666-2016-london-fire-babylon-the-great-burning
Solomon Eccles, a Quaker preacher and prophet, went naked through Bartholomew fair the year before the fire of London with a pan of fire upon his head, warning people to repent or fire will destroy the city of London. Charles’s next, sharper message in 1665 warned of the risk of fire from the narrowness of streets and authorised both imprisonment of recalcitrant builders and demolition of crowded buildings. Like the fire of Sodom and Gomorrah and modern fire of Grenfell Tower among other fires globally, often these warning signs are then ignored and the messengers mocked and ridiculed by the very people whose lives would be saved from the fire. Time and time again history records tragedy that could be averted yet somehow people ignore it take things for granted. In His Mercy and Grace, Almighty God sends such advance warnings repeatedly until time runs out. The purpose of allowing fires is mostly to shake awaken mankind from their slumber of sleep of indifference and debauchery. When all avenues of communication fails, due to break down of the relationship between God and mankind, it forces God’s Hands to take extreme measures to compel people to comply or be beaten into submission for their own good. And this also prevents a worse and bigger relentless disaster.    maxresdefault
Left to human devices, the status quo was alright as far as people are concerned. However, from God’s perspective life has taken a turn not pleasing to God. Often some people think God is archaic and draconian so no longer relevant in modern sophisticated society. The irony is that, whether mankind heeds God’s warning signs or not God does exactly as HE says. Once again, the New Year has started and to some it is business as usual. However, the trends and challenges faced globally are all part of God’s Sat Nav warning systems of the directions making is heading in general. There are numerous warnings and the Bible clearly speaks of action God is taking to enforce changes if mankind refuses to change or submit to God’s Authority’s and Rule. It is not a choice of whether one believes in God or not, but rather imminent global storms, thunders, floods, fires, hailstorm, meteorites among ammunitions used by God to force people to rethink their choices and actions in life.london-1666.jpg
These warnings signs are clearly written in Revelations in the Bible yet most people unaware of the connection between daily life occurrences, weather impact and future eternal life. Every action by all the people on earth are meticulously documented by God in the Book of Life. Take a look at storm patterns and weather charts, earthquakes, volcanoes in the world and definitely things are alarmingly different. Consequences of mankind’s ‘evil inventions’ as God calls them distorted nature and has brought about irreparable damage to earth. Global toxic waste polutions among chem trails destroy natural weather patterns, food chain and carbon cycles essential for food remedies for good health. The pursuit of happiness as, ” lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God” is extended into seeking adventure at all cost even if the environment is destroyed. So unpredictable storms, floods, sand dunes, rapid coastal erosions, ice mcap melting are all assigned as “the acts of God” of God. Although God is not responsible for the root causes of the damages and the destruction it accurate and correct to say God put actions in place by laws of nature violated implodes800px-Keeling-fire-engine-illustrationkeeling-fire-engineMoLFireEngineEdit_install 
Therefore, whether religious or not “God Corrects those HE LOVES.  It seems harsh to say, burnt down places, floods, tsunamis destroying expensive homes and the nuclear tragedy suffered as a result is “love.” But the alternative of not taking notice to reflect eventually culminates into worse disaster than London fire or Sodom and Gomorrah. This is because these places are rebuilt and restored even better than before and exist today. Despite the destructions life continues fairly normally like any place on earth. However, the difference unfolding now is the end time warnings taking place now will continue until some parts have no relief so cannot be rebuilt. Tragically, it is not only physical suffering material loss, famines, droughts, poverty, wars, death, it is fulfilment of the warnings of God’s Wrath in the Bible. Sadly, these Biblical messages and warnings often mocked as religious fundamentalism so ignored. Yet unless people begin to listen and reconnect with God there is perpetual unquenchable hellfire and damnation without reprieve or second chance to rebuild. Only God knows exact days of unfolding WRATH so worth taking life seriously to be God’s Chosen Children. All people are God’s creatures but all are not God’s Children who will live in God’s Kingdom through KING JESUS eternal Reign. Know difference and be saved from total annihilation and subsequent hell fire in Jesus Name.

MILLENNIAL SNOWFLAKES?

IMG_20171227_231736.jpgi_m_a_millennial_i_m_a_sensitive_snowflake_t_shirt-r57e8507627ad4bc988500d1178144fcb_k2m06_540Accused constantly of entitlement, lack of spacial awareness, consideration for others so assumes life revolves around them. Many young people are balanced and level-headed and matured for their age. Able to accomplish great things in life above their age. Child geniuses for example, spend hours studying hard so they perform above chronological age. Despite great accomplishment of young people some tarnish their image by actions. Blamed and labelled as fragile millennial snowflake generation is this really a fair label given them?

14639897_1166680306759543_4553867286425944653_n_1478519950_1478519954Some do not understand how the real world works convince themselves they are always right. Easily offended and emotional feel like victims dealt with by wrong hand in life. If graduate job they applied for often is unavailable, feel dehumanized and demeaned to take jobs able to do, seen as beneath them. Overate abilities and ego but excellent at computers, iPhone, yet the irony is a victim of modern success. Technology robots are creating unemployment fast and continues to make many depressed and sad. One would think any job will do under such circumstances instead, their attitude is to look for perfect job with perfect environment to make them truly happy. Hence constantly changing jobs wearing hearts on their sleeves in need of support to even function daily. imageedit_6617_9222504962Their mistake to impress interviewers is erratic, thinking prospective employers being tested. They question how ethical a company is, its attitude to the climate change debate. Is the board diverse or did it suffer from white male culture? It did not occur to precocious young talent they should try to impress the company investigated. Do not feel very privileged but suffer from relative deprivation so their generation is asked to “check their privilege.” Although surrounded by the significant adults like parents, teachers or colleagues some prefer to seek advice online through social networks. This is reason to confirm they receive wisdom from peers of the millennial snowflake generation. Their fragility is established as a narrative stick used against them.

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RELAX & ENJOY CHRISTMAS

BanDtmdIAAAqQ9GRelax and enjoy Christmas as a time of year to recount your blessings and to celebrate Jesus. Remember to thank God for sustaining your life and providing for you throughout the years. Enjoy this time of year which puts much pressure on people to spend more than ever. It is a good time to reflect and take stock of the year to assess what worked well and how to improve life next year. christmas2Above all it is good to keep in mind that Christmas is about love and the birth of Jesus Christ to save mankind. The whole world takes time to celebrate Jesus and give thanks to God for our families and our friends. Enjoy without fussing over the perfectionist details and obsessing over materialistic image, instead value the joyful festive season and be grateful and thankful for life itself. As the world gets worse it is necessary to appreciate favour of God not just material details. Christmas Day can be very difficult day for young care-leavers,” Sissay says.“For some going home for Christmas, painful and there’s arguments and dysfunction. There are young people with nowhere to go feeling sad on their own that day so feel a greater sense of loss. “It’s about making people smile to let them know they matter especially on that day.”

1400975012648So many people are homeless, or live in squalor, poor, cannot afford privilege of safe environment, in dangerous region of war zones. Thank God for the Prince of Peace Jesus and do not hurt family or friends and colleagues over your selfish bizarre stubborn behaviours that ruins the festive season. The weather affects some so can trigger unusual reactions too. With abundant alcohol and substance use can get some situations out of hand. Yet the purpose of Chtistmas is to bring joy to the world, goodwill and peace on earth. Human relations are challenged as families out of touch assemble under one roof with many shenanigans. And emotions and feeling severely tested it is good to hold tongue for sake of comprise and peace. Woman-wrapping-gifts_cejaisFun-ways-to-wrap-gifts.jpgAsk for help or advise if not sure about presents or gifts to give each person as Jesus received gifts relating to his life, call and destiny. Gifts must be relevant and meaningful to the receiver not just what you insist on giving them whether they like or want it or not. Remember the golden rule of gifts to yourself and how it makes you feel. Be kind-hearted especially with the innocent children around do not to ruin the day for them. If physically present be a part of family or rather stay distant and send presents.Dear-Tired-Mama-Its-Time-to-Relax-and-Enjoy-Christmas-1 instead of stressing all. Some might cite Christmas as a cause of breakdown of a family and their marriage. By fighting each year over Christmas among other issues toxic relationships can reach the tipping point at that time. Yet those who listen, change, adapt to enjoy Christmas but the stubborn ones continue ruining it for loved ones. Without an awareness over behaviour that the obsession with achieving that one, symbolic or perfect family causes misery not merriment. In the Bible, Jesus said in Luke 12:15, Take care and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in abundance of possessions.

407d518n663One person described themselves as a tyrant in family festive season. Fretting over every last detail for weeks ahead in a bid to make it all extra special. And refusing to delegate anything even the decorating of the tree or laying the table since none else ever got things right in their opinion. Determined everything goes according to their plans only as the control freaks the atmosphere in family home is more fearful than festive. So it seems more like a dictator than a Father Christmas sharing love, joy, happiness and kindness. Looking back, realised its not worth fussing over nitty gritty silly unnecessary details so enjoy Christmas. 

TEACH CHILDREN HUMILITY

A little girl sits like a princess with her parents bowing down to herTeach children humility to equip them to deal with the daily challenges of life. If a child behaves arrogantly but then expects everyone to treat them special, the parents wonder, ‘What has got into them?’ Each parent wants a child to feel good about themself​ but not to think they are better than everyone else!’So is it ever possible to teach a child humility in a good way without damaging self-worth? Can child be disciplined enough to understand the difference between humility, pride and entitlement as ‘your majesty the child. It is important to let the child understand respect for self and others including the parents. The parents cannot indulge the child at beck and call go become a spoilt brat and antisocial unable to relate with other children or respect authority.102017208_univ_lsr_mdYOU SHOULD KNOW

In recent decades, parents have been encouraged to yield to their children’s desires; to praise them generously, even if they did nothing praiseworthy; to withhold correction and discipline. It was thought that if children were made to feel special, they would grow up with healthy self-esteem. What has results shown? The book Generation Me states: that “Instead of creating well-adjusted, happy children, self-esteem movement created army of little narcissists.” The children raised with an unconditional praise have grown up unprepared for disappointments, criticism, occasional failure. Because of being taught to focus on their own desires, they find it hard as adults to form lasting relationships. As a result, many suffer from anxiety and depression. Children develop real self-worth, not by being constantly told they are special, but through genuine accomplishments. That requires more than believing in themselves. They need to learn, practice, and refine chosen skills carefully. Proverbs 22:29 says they also need to care about other people’s needs. 1 Corinthians 10:24 emphasises all thess require humility.

WHAT YOU CAN DO

Give praise when it is truly deserved. If your daughter scores well on a school test commend her. If she gets low grade, do not automatically blame the teacher. That would hardly help your daughter learn humility. Help her to see how she may do better next time and reserve praise for actual accomplishment.

Give correction when necessary. This does not mean you should criticize your child for every mistake. Colossians 3:21 says serious errors should be corrected as well as wrong attitudes. Otherwise, these become deeply ingrained. For example, suppose your child shows a tendency to brag, if uncorrected they could become conceited and begin to alienate others. Explain to the child that boasting makes them look bad and that it could set them up for embarrassment as Proverbs 27:2 warns. Explain, that a person with balanced view of self does not feel the need to broadcast  abilities to others. Giving correction in spirit of love, you will teach humility without hurting self-respect.​ The Bible instructs parents on children’s input and Bible principles in Matthew 23:12.

Prepare your child for life’s realities. Indulging a child’s every wish can cause him to feel entitled. So, for example, if your child wants something you cannot afford, explain why it is necessary to live within a budget. If you have to cancel an outing or a vacation, you could explain that disappointments are part of life and perhaps discuss how you deal with such disappointments. Rather than shield your children from every hardship, prepare them for challenges they face as adults says Proverbs 29:21.

Encourage giving. Prove to your child that “there is more happiness in giving than in receiving as Acts 20:35 shows. Together prepare list of people in need of help with shopping, transportation, or repair work. Then take your child along as you assist some of them. Allow your child to see your joyful satisfaction as you care for the needs of others. That way you will teach your child humility in the most powerful way​ by example. according Luke 6:38.