The Bible talks of sexual conduct within God’s laws, regulations to enjoy loving each other intimately. God created sex so accepts and recommends the mutual sex consent agreement in Bible between married couples in 1 Corinthians 7:5. Its important to read God’s laws on sex in Bible not assume if church recommends oral sex its alright to do so. Often issues of harmful infections of STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) spread by spouse knowingly or unknowingly affects the married partner too. So it is important to discuss diseases transmitted by oral sex because people think it is the safest way to prevent pregnancy. Most people have the Actinomyces species bacteria israelii and bovis in lining of the mouth, throat, digestive tract, urinary tract and in the female genital tract. Practising of oral sex can be infected by contracting it without an immediate effect for years. This can develop into other diseases if the carrier passes it on through mutual sex. Most couples do not necessarily do tests as part of the marriage process. So anyone with the bacteria harmlessly in the body becomes dangerous if a person develops a disease, or if there is damage to the tissue lining causing the bacteria to spread out of normal environment. Actinomyces bacteria are anaerobic, which means they flourish deep inside body tissues where oxygen levels are very low. Bacteria living within deeper tissues are harder to diagnose, and they often take longer to treat. The disease can be triggered when internal body tissues are pierced, for example, by something sharp in the esophagus, or through tooth decay or gum disease. As disease progresses, painful abscesses can form and grow in size, usually over a period of months. Some can be severe surrounding bone, muscle penetrated. The infections can be large enough skin breaks open, leaking large amounts of pus. Be safe even if you agree mutually to engage in oral sex use condoms and do not use excuse it creates barriers to prevent natural penetration contact. A lot of couples get throat diseases, host of complex illnesses caused by oral sex.
Types of actinomycosis
Actinomycosis can occur in virtually any part of the human body, but certain parts are more commonly affected. Half of all cases affect head, neck area, and the rest occur in areas such as the chest and the gastrointestinal tract. There are four main types:
Orocervicofacial actinomycosis affects the mouth, jaw or neck, and it usually stems from dental problems, often caused by dental decay and poor oral hygiene. Actinomycosis cause abscess after some dental procedures. Bacteria lives in dental plaque. Trauma to mouth or face also trigger it, including particles that injure mucous membrane. It can develop after some dental procedures. The infection may be obvious at once, or within one to several weeks of the trauma occurring. The person notices a hard, painful swelling in cutaneous or soft tissue, known as “woody” fibrosis, or they may develop an abscess. It is the most common form, and it accounts for 50 percent of all cases.
Thoracic actinomycosis infection can develop in the airways and lungs. It often happens when bacteria from the mouth and throat are unintentionally inhaled and enter the lungs. Symptoms affect lungs to start with but can extend to the area around lungs, chest cavity and vertebrae of the upper trunk. The person experiences weakness, fever, a productive cough or severe weight loss.
Abdominal actinomycosis infection occurs in the abdomen but it can affect other parts of digestive system, from the esophagus to anorectal area. It happens after somes case of appendicitis person develops abscess persistent fever and pain. Actinomyces in abdominal cavity can lead to infection in pericardium sac around the heart, or within the liver or spleen. Sometimes, a secondary pelvic infection may result.
Pelvic actinomycosis occurs within the pelvis as infection can spread from the vagina. It used to be thought that the women who use an intrauterine device (IUD) for contraception had the higher chance of developing this infection with extended use, but risk is now estimated to be very low, around 0.001 percent. A gynecological procedure can make it make it likely for women to develop pelvic actinomycosis. The bacteria can cause abscesses in ovaries and fallopian tubes and lead to complications with other organs within the abdomen and pelvis. Actinomycosis rarely affects a central nervous system (CNS). This can happen directly due to neck lesion or face or spread from elsewhere. It can lead to brain abscess causing headaches and neurological symptoms. Other rare type affects skin, bones, usually when infection spreads from deeper tissues.
Actinomycosis can take variety of forms mimicks other infections or neoplasms. It is important to check a private sexual act to see if it is causing health issues as pointed by medical journals referred to. This article informs people to become more aware of sexually related illnesses than can be connected to oral sex, they may not think is affected by oral sex. It good to be in know if sexual activities is contributing to complex health issues. It is vital to remember Actinomycosis as a bacterial infection also spreads through body tissues. Disease features a number of small interlinked abscesses. People have gems on hands even after washing hands. Multitudes of bacteria on hands mixed with bacteria in mouth, throat, digestive tract, vaginal walls is a toxic combination of hybrid gems evolving to complex infections of health problems.
Symptoms differ according to the type of actinomycosis, but they may include:
- Swelling and inflammation at the site of the infection
- Tissue damage and scar tissue
- Abscesses, or pus-filled lumps
- Small holes or tunnels in tissue called fistulas that can leak a kind of lumpy pus.
The severity of symptoms depends on area of the body affected by infection. There may be pain and fever with body aches fatigue and generally feeling not well. It is estimated 75 percent to 95 % of actinomycosis lesions and infections involve other bacteria. Actinomycoses does not act alone so infections: group-B streptococcus, E. coli and a range of sexually transmitted infections affect babies at birth. Bible in 1 Corinthians 11:30 says for this cause many are weak and sickly among you and many sleep (die). Profaning of body and Blood of Lord Jesus through sexual immorality as prevalent in Sodom and Gomorrah killed people for their lack of knowledge and understanding of God’s Words. God says HIS PEOPLE perish for their lack of knowledge. Fear of God is beginning of wisdom for preservation into eternal life. A period of abstention every month forces a couple to build a non-sexual bond and sexual one. Helps build couple’s desire for each other making intercourse in the remaining two weeks more special. Gives partners chance to rest not feeling sexually inadequate. So emphasises self-discipline fundamental to high moral value sexual drive.
Diagnosis and treatment
Laboratory investigations to diagnose actinomycosis include microscopic examination of a culture of sputum or pus, or tissue taken in a biopsy. Pus or tissue typically contain yellow sulfur granules. Actinomycosis can be chronic condition so long-term treatment with antibiotics is common. Patients may need treatment ranging from 6 weeks to 12 months. In some cases, surgery is performed to drain an abscess or to remove an infected part, after which a 3-month course of antibiotics may be needed to resolve problem. To decrease the chance of developing actinomycosis, people should avoid any alcohol abuse, maintain good health and keep chronic medical conditions under control and practice good dental hygiene. Countries with good access to antibiotics or dental services, the incidence of actinomycosis tends to be lower. Increasingly young people told “oral sex is not really sex,” so promoted safe no risk pregnancy no risk of catching a sexually transmitted disease alternative to intercourse. The Bible in Leviticus 18 gives a long list of the sexual dos and don’ts acceptable to God. As the creator and originator of sex God has very high interest in body His Holy temple so gives instructions in Bible. Ephesians 5:3 says to believers, among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality or impurity because these are improper for God’s Holy people.” Bible says “immorality” is forms sexual contact outside marriage. In Hebrews 13:4 the “marriage bed” is pure and undefiled according to Bible, sex is to be reserved for only marriage. Oral sex is sin if done before or outside marriage as the contraception method. Natural rhythm based on the monthly cycle of a woman is the safest method. A few days of 3-5 days before or after her ovulation the sperm can still live on for gestation. The rest of the month is free for natural safe sex. Discipline and self control is required to check her body temperature measured by thermometer to signal safest days for intercourse. The problem is lack of alertness to record a monthly cycle. Impulsive sex fuelled by drugs or alcohol can blur memory. It is necessary to be in tune with one’s body fully so to know exact days of ovulation of peak time for conception. The cervix accompanied by mucous helps to know exact day of ovulation. And men must be trained to have mutual agreement as Bible requires. Sex on demand anytime because you are his wife with threats to seek comfort elsewhere lacks accurate knowledge. God wants a couple to enjoy intimacy and be safe as well. Be careful if pastors and ministers approve of oral sex because it is your body that suffers consequences of a reckless behaviour.Is oral sex a sin within a marriage?
Christian married couples ask question and Bible disallows oral sex between a husband and wife or any sexual activity involving other people like swapping, threesomes, etc. or lusting after another person and pornography. So restrictions principle of “mutual consent” applies to 1 Corinthians 7:5 text requiring couples to abstain from frequency by “mutual consent” within marriage. This agrees perfectly with rhythm method as God killed Onan for wasting precious seed in the Bible. To fully agree between wife and husband it is good to space sex and enjoy comforting embraces. Depending on fasting total abstinence by spouses is highly recommended. So do not force or coerce into oral sex in marriage in the spirit of good mutual consent. There is a biblical case for declaring coercion sin. It can lead to the complex health issues of health caused by oral sex. Marriage or sex is God’s gift for affection intimacy so moral duty for practising believers to please God in the bedroom. So biblically acceptable for sexual intercourse for a married couple to follow joy of rhythm method. God is not wicked wizard of the West denying pleasure within confines of marriage. It is to ensure that sexual interaction must not cause curses of the disease of Bible in Deuteronomy 28 to come upon those disobeying God’s Commands. Oral sex is not free from sin by mutual consent if a partner becomes infected with diseases. This costs high medical insurance premiums and life savings to treat lifetime consequence of fleeting moments of passion. So people must know the connection between oral sex and their lifestyle choices. Oral sex is not as “safe” as promoted alternative sexual intercourse, sexually transmitted diseases published by medical journals shows it is definitely not as safe as it is often suggested. Chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, HIV/AIDS, and other STDs can be transmitted through oral sex. So be aware and take great care of your Holy precious Temple if you choose to please God. In some cultures it is a taboo for a reason because infection spreads to the innocent victims.STORY TO ALL MEN EVERYWHERE:
A man who lived abroad now 64 years old lived in the US for 35 years with his family. Throughout life with family did live ‘happily.’ Had a wonderful wife by his side but took her for granted, didn’t pay much attention to her always had a vision of going back to others. So had affairs she knew and made her feel very sad but never apologised only told to get over it as not first man to be unfaithful. She was depressed for weeks eventually recovers but said she was unhappy. He never went on family holidays with his family all the years. Occasionally travels alone and sleeps with ex girlfriends or a short-term girlfriends to fulfil fantasy, on return wife wasn’t attractive to him for weeks. So effected sex life not great as always thinking of other women. He left his wife and family, thinking grass is greener for a ‘better life’ elsewhere. It was trying to settle alone on retirement idea left family to set up business. They protested but went against wife’s word and daughter stopped talking to him but thought life led without them was best. It seemed plan worked so took all his retirement money and selfishly left wife and daughter, hoping can cope as she’s still working. Promised will be visiting the US often. It was exciting at first and had a beautiful girlfriend who flattered him. Within a year all his money was finished while business was not fully set up, confronted with too many set backs. Hit with brain tumour, prostate cancer had to come to US again for treatment. The wife and daughter did well to take care of him but did not feel love passion from them. Was very depressed because he needed them but realised wife and daughter moved on emotionally having a good life. Wife reinvented herself, lost weight, dressed smarter and suspecting seeing someone because she too happy.Within a year in America his health was better so returned to complete so-called business. Went back but sad without wife beside him as she has moved on emotionally after years of neglect. So impotent after cancer and not willing to embarrass himself has no woman so he is very lonely. If he was loyal to his wife and made her happy in marriage his story will be different. Please young men out there, read this story to avoid stupid mistakes he made. His life is in an utter state of confusion and cannot even discuss anything with wife. Now depressed and lonely, husbands make future plans with your wives, stay faithful and love her fully and make her feel special because you have only one chance and one life. Do things so your wife will bless you. Be careful of your plans of setting up businesses back in your old age. It is often fantasy so does not work. All the money goes down the drain. And spoken to so many men stuck in the rut with the same mistake. He had a good life in America but failed to see it. So not saying do not come back to where you are from. Men should not do this alone enjoy your life and wife as life is too short. The cancer spread and has months to live so advised not to bother going back to America because nothing can be done. His wife and daughter are coming to see him before his end and demise. Know the Bible in Matthew 28:18-20 says that Jesus came and said, “All Power and Authority in heaven and earth id given to me. So go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold I am with you always to the end of the age. Amen
PLEASE SHARE STORY IT MIGHT SAVE SOMEONE TO LEAD A BETTER LIFE 🙏🏽
In Romans 16:16 in the Bible Paul wrote in New Testament commanding believers to make contact or touch others with a warm smile, hand-clasp and a friendly hug. Paul encouraged the congregation and church members to give each other a hug, a touch as a sign of unity to greet each other with a holy kiss and hugs. And speak through the Psalms as people quote Shakespeare to share favourite lines in literature. The Pentecostals often greet each other with kisses and hugs. Visitors are welcomed this way so if the new members are not used to such a way of greeting they can feel innaudated and intimidated by the zealous members embracing or kissing them if not used to an intimate way of expressing agape love. Recently, in the church a female pastor rushed towards a new male visitor and proceeded to try to hug him as she does for many years. But the new member raised both his hands to indicate, ‘do not touch me or come too close.’ It surprised everyone as it had never happened before. Maybe others out of politeness and courtesy tolerate it or probably just go along with kisses or hugs, but no one ever rejected it before. It is perfectly understable if some people feel uncomfortable and say no, it does not mean rejection of the one expressing such Biblical principles. On other occasions, for security reasons, important leaders are not allowed to be touched or hugged under any circumstances. Of course that scenario can happen in church gatherings so if not sure, ask if it is alright to do so. In some places female to female hugs and kisses are preferred or handshakes encouraged. But the woman must first extend her hand to a man because the man is not allowed to shake a married women’s hands in some cultures. On the other hand there are countries that see kiss or hugs as prerogative of diplomacy so must be done. In some churches women are only allowed to kiss and hug other women as men kiss and hug the men. In an age of legal homosexuality, lesbian partnerships or marriages the churches in favour has no problems or prefer handshakes. However is common in the workplace to encourage hugging for bonding and a sense of belonging. But how about those people in the offices who do not like to be kissed or bugged publicly at least at awkward moments. You are greeting someone or saying goodbye. Should you give that person a hug? Especially if it’s someone you don’t know well? You do not want to seem intrusive if you hug too soon, but you don’t want to appear overly stiff or too formal so you offer a handshake when a hug is expected. So what should you do? There a few good rules about hugging in our society.On one hand, Americans are famously informal and forthright. On the other hand, our nation has puritan roots so we are known for needing more personal space than other cultures. How do you strike a balance? Here are some guidelines to start from, many of which come from etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore, author of Poised for Success.
1. Mind body language.
With hugs, as with kisses, another person’s body language will tell you whether he or she is willing to accept a hug or not. Before you go in for that squeeze, pay attention to what the person’s position, movement, and facial expression is telling you. Are the feet pointed toward you or away? Is the person leaning in, or distancing him or herself? What does your gut feeling tell you this person wants? When people offend others with a hug, it’s most often because they just barge right in and don’t stop to get a read on what other person wants. Don’t make that mistake. Children are now being taught to meet and greet properly to learn etiquette.
2. Ask Permission First.
If you want to hug someone, you think it welcomes you if not sure just ask. “May I give you a hug question indicates both affection, respect so likely appreciated. The only down side to this if people feel embarrassed or uncomfortable saying no. So if getting a negative or uncertain vibe do not even asking the question.
3. The Balance of Power.
A boss hugging an employee is a very different matter from two business associates hugging at the conclusion of a meeting. Be extra reserved about hugging if it can in any way seem like you’re using your power to disrespect another person’s boundaries. This is one reason Joe Biden recently drew so many criticisms for his putting his hands on a cabinet member’s wife during swearing in ceremony.
4. Consider the occasion.
If you haven’t seen a colleague in a long time, or you’ve just gone through a powerful training or other experience together, or you’re at acelebration, then hugging might well be appropriate. The same may apply if the person in question has just had a piece of very good, or very bad news, or is struggling to deal with a difficult situation. On the other hand, if you routinely see this person and nothing special is going on, then a hug probably isn’t warranted.
5. Avoid mixing hug & non hugs.
You’re greeting a group of people, some of whom you know well and others whom you know only slightly or have just met. Do you hug some but not others? No, Whitmore advises. Shake hands with everyone to be consistent avoid making some feel uncomfortable or left out.
6. Keep it short.
A hug can go from natural to awkward if you keep it going for too long. So make your hugs brief. Whitmore recommends a duration of no more than three seconds.
7. Don’t hug if contagious
The last thing you want to do is give your colleague a cold, or catch one from him or her. So if you’re uncertain about your own health, or the other person seems to be fighting an infection, stick to a handshake at most, although not touching at all is probably safest. You can always say that you’re avoiding touch out of concern that you might spread something you’ve been exposed to if you are really afraid of catching something from other person.
8. Don’t hug if not clean.
Let’s say you’re meeting on a very hot day, and you’ve gotten sweaty on your walk over from the parking lot. Or you’ve had a workout and returned to work but didn’t have time to shower. Or you’ve been out at a site visit and gotten grimy. In those circumstances, avoid hugging. The last thing you want to do is gross someone out.
9. Err on not hugging.
If you’re not sure whether a hug would be welcome, and you don’t think it’s a good idea to ask, then don’t hug. You’ll almost never offend someone with a handshake.
10. Cease the right moment.
In spite of all these caveats, I’m still a believer in the power of human contact. So if you feel like a hug is warranted and none of the obstacles above apply, I say go for it. I once met a business contact face-to-face for the first time after we’d been working together for several years. I felt like I knew him, and he seemed to feel the same, because at our first meeting, he greeted me with a hug. I was surprised, but happily so. During that brief meeting we talked more about our lives than about business and by the time I left, I had a human relationship to go with the emails and voice on the phone. That hug was a great way to start.
Today’s news report is full of children harmed or killed by many tragic accidents purposefully orchestrated or unintended by someone seething due to jealousy of affection given the children. Such people forget infant’s life requires sacrifices of parents, loved ones, carers who endure to ensure children thrive in life. Their parents went without basic necessities in life, food so they survived. After growing up they feel reluctant to do the same for their own children or step children. There are many blended families doing a great job looking after children and fantastic at it. They deserve recognition and congratulations though not seeking praise for excellent job done daily. Against the backdrop of great parenting is trend of children seen and treated as inconvenient intrusion into ‘perfect happiness’ of dysfunctional families. Such people, playing superficial happy family fantasize about having children to ‘seal their love’ but discover shock of changes to their relationship after birth of children. This adds on to stress of an already disorganized family affected at times by influence of drugs or computer games. Such parents blame each other or shift the responsibility of caring and discipline styles, cause more stress and infighting. Meanwhile the children internalize effects of chaos caused by immature people in toxic relationships unfit to raise children. Resentful with regret of their decision to have children cannot opt out. Children caught up in the middle of strife endure life worse at times due to alcohol or selfish actions of parents vying for affection at the cost of children’s lives. Some children cry for hours and given calpol for headaches but parents offended if the child laughs. It seems the parents feel satisfied when the child cries but tells child off if seen as happy and cheerful. Modern living isolates couple further without support network required for respite care of children to give the parents a break. The parent not from poor background, well-brought up can be victim of success if over indulged without consideration for others or own children and family. May grow up with sense of entitlement so receive attention without giving back to others. Demand more attention as grown up in charge of own family. Competes with children for attention so never emotionally secure.Surprisingly, such parents lack awareness or previous experience of babysitting children 24/7. Totally unprepared for childcare needs of children they bear or take care of. In the past, schools designed practical living skills of housekeeping, cooking, sewing, cleaning, ironing, childcare as part of curriculum in education. So the young people were trained in hands on real life practical experience life skills to equip them for family life. In addition, extended family in the vicinity living together enhance family experiences of children. Despite family hardships or lack of material trappings of modern living children are nurtured to live in a healthy way. Issues of paedophiles or abuse may exist but at least there was someone in the family who children genuinely rely on in time of emotional need for their support. The attitude of some parents is they think they ‘own’ their children so cause pain to child. And those helping giving real happiness to their children viewed as encroaching, undermining, overriding, imposing threat to them. Additionally, children without FRONTAL CORTEX do not wilfully intend to cause an offence deliberately to hurt parents. Children’s BRAIN NOT FULLY grown or developed do not fully UNDERSTAND adult world.Creating good and happy memories in children is treasured in the heart for life of the children. Mimicking adults seems they understand issues but incapable of the maturity of adults. This is the reason why God entrusts the children into the safe adult hands as parents or stewards to look after them. Adult is REPONSIBLE to ensure child’s needs are met, well-fed healthy foods, trained to make sense of environment, given a spatial awareness to relate to others in interactive ways to build up confidence. A child cannot be blamed or accused of being responsible for coming into world to ruin parent’s life. If adult not ready to sacrifice their life at least 30 years to raise children, use protection to prevent conception. Children are for life and not only for Christmas displays. Some think children will enhance them by having them for wrong reasons. A fractured, disjointed society today focus on external material things at the expense of healthy organic nurturing safe atmosphere surrounded by family and friends. Yet nature and nurture are both vital components to accomplish a balanced upbringing of children’s lives. The shift of emphasis on gadgets, technology, high-tech and high strung high-maintenance intense stress, pressure and atmosphere is not really conducive for children. Attention on the external shoe costs and designer labels to wear and expensive clothes or toys above emotional needs of the children. Damage or loss of items becomes bone of contention in anger beats the child to pulp and causing tragic death. The other children are killed by computer gamers who feel distracted from their addictive games by the children requiring nappy change or food. Again tensions of credit crunch play role in frustrating parents stuck with children without proper jobs. Recent rate of fatalities of the children’s death toll is needlessly rising.Unacceptable levels further exasperated by children having children without the FRONTAL CORTEX BRAIN themselves to UNDERSTAND risk and consequences of their actions on delicate tender body of babies and children. Dangerous attacks of children by jealous lovers or parents fester without dealing with the build up of uncalled for anger towards innocent children. Unfortunately some children become victims destroyed by the naive immature jealous partner who in turn destroys own lives in the process. It is sad the family is ruined by adults who wants to raise children as little soldiers. They DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN TO BE THE HAPPY LITTLE CHILDREN HAVING FUN, LAUGHING, PLAYING WITHOUT A CARE in the world. It is a right of every child to be allowed a proper discipline and corrected in a safe manner within their age range meaningful to the child. A child cannot be treated as a grown up adult in terms of relating deep thoughts to a child. Of course precocious children display maturity, genius beyond some adults but is exception than the norm. God ordained mothers to carry babies as first natural teachers of children so more tolerant and patient than some men. Going against nature to demand mothers abandon children to wo/men INCAPABLE of raising their children contributes to damage of children. Some parents feel ashamed and embarrassed to EXPRESS dark emotions or thoughts to others to get help to deal with their own childhood issues projected on that innocent child. Anger is major cause of such parents who vent on the innocent children bearing brunt of frustrations in their life. Such parents act like if they did not have a happy childhood then the child cannot have one. Of course they cannot give what they do not have so get help to allow children to enjoy their innocent years. Build up good memory and stop tyrants scarring children for life to damage them. A lot of children of this generation have a lot of superficial material needs met but hurting deeply by the lack of proper attention required. Oxytocin hormone CALMS children by hugging the child so gains parental love much more priceless than a temporary material joy happiness. Oxytocin is very necessary for the child’s development so healthy contact of a child is essential. Issue of paedophiles is ruining genuine affection for children treated as robot machines. Hugging the child is viewed with suspicion so many steer clear from it but do not hesitate to inflict pain on same child in moment of madness due to anger. A child is for life so before you have the child think twice of long-term time sacrifices of not going to parties, pubs, discos, travelling alone, sleepless nights for feeding or nappy changes. Get help from trusted family members, and friends, loved ones or good neighbours. Talk to GP to arrange talking therapy or with people in parent’s and child groups to learn how to cope better, ask friends to support you. Do not dump anger or rage on your innocent loving children. Children cannot express their internal damage to organs from assaults by the adults. Modern dolls have a computer link to reveal manhandling by a person entrusted with the doll. Unfortunately children do not have such mechanisms displaying internal bleeding by bashing against walls, shaking babies, fractures broken bone, internal bleeding swelling go unnoticed until final straw ends in a fatality. Yet millions desperately want children but cannot have them due to many reasons. So count your blessings, invest TIME to train child so they grow up and not depart from it. Routine is essential to raising children so set up a flexible dynamic time schedule for the children. Time to sleep and wake up is necessary for toddlers for brain growth and development. Lunch at 12 noon and naps between 1pm to 3 pm for toddlers. The adults quickly prepares supper and dry laundry, clean up ready for children to wake up. Children play, eat at 5-6pm, bath at 7p.m ready for bed after reading at 8 pm. Adults between 8:30pm till 12 midnight have enough hours to wind down, date in home, set up romantic meal, eat, talk, watch TV, play computer games, get someone trusted and reliable to watch children to go to cinema, meal, and sleep by 1 am latest. A disciplined routine helps children to settle down better. It is good to maintain the routine even during holidays because it is harder to get back established routine after mixed messages confuse children. Children always remember those who genuinely love and care for them. And discuss with partner if you feel left out or displaced by children at appropriate time. Set up routine for both to continue to date, be in love after marriage and children. Do not go on an autopilot identifying with one child and pitching against each other as opposing teams. Children grow so fast you can do anything in your life after they fly the nest. It is never too late to learn to take up any unfinished business later after children come along into your life. You can relearn and adapt to use new skills online for web jobs, create blog, give hope to others, encourage and support others in similar situations. For God Sake never blame children for ruining your life or future because you are the ones who chose not to use the appropriate contraception. Even if child unexpected accept, love child unconditionally. Use playful interaction like Sound of Music film to help appreciate the children and they remember you when you are old. Remember you are accountable to God WHO records in BOOK of life treatment of children’s lives.
2017 is special in many ways to Jewish people and nation of Israel as June 7 marks 50th anniversary celebration of recapture, liberation, reunification of Old City of Jerusalem. Jewish military forces of 1967 in 6 Day War Recaptured Holy City of God to regain control again completely in Jewish hands after 2,000 year’s exile and oppression. Historical record shows Jews live in Jerusalem since Adam and Eve, Abraham, King David purchased the threshing floor on Mount Moriah now Temple Mount 3,000 years ago to build Altar to LORD God Almighty full price. David paid Ornan 600 shekels of gold weight for site in 1 Chronicles 21:22–25 in the Bible. Romans destroyed second Jewish Temple in AD 70 and scattered Jewish people into exile but remnant live in Holy Land ever since. The Kotel Jewish connection to Jerusalem’s eternal wall and Temple Mount prove identity of Israel here thousands of years brought back to the homeland.” Jerusalem 2017 celebrates 50th Jubilee comemorating victory and set slaves free plus cancel debts. May to June is time of Shavuot Pentecost in Jewish calendar. Shavuot Festival of Weeks celebrates God’s giving of Law to Jewish people through Moses. Yahweh God confirms covenant commitment to Jewish people’s eternal relationship between God as His Chosen people. God’s COVENANT COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP with Jewish people in real true living history demonstrates SALVATION PLAN OF GOD through this relationship. God Made Israel a Great Nation Blessed by God’s Great Name and a Blessing to Bless ALL who Bless Israel and Curse those who curse Israel. Through Israel all Families of the Earth is Blessed.” GOD Blessed Abraham and descendants as God’s Chosen people with duty of care to God and all nations. The miracle Exodus from Egypt brought the Israelites up out of slavery to settle as God’s Nation. Laws through Moses at Mt. Sinai celebrated Shavuot perfectly collaborates Coming of Holy Spirit to followers of Yeshua on day of Pentecost in Acts 2. Fulfillment of living history prophesies regarding Israel and Jerusalem point to the Great Truth of God’s Loves and Plan through Jewish people. As Role Models of God the Jewish people remain the chosen ones to fulfil God’s Plans for all nations. All nations are GRAFTED into Israel so nobody replaces Jews because of Jesus Christ says Romans 11:29, Gifts and Calling of God is irreversible. God’s Words in Bible reminds all of need for Jewish people to fulfill the relationship with God Reclaiming Messiah Coming to Restore whole through the knowledge of Yeshua. So Key to victory is accepting Jesus Yeshua Saviour whether Jewish or Gentile. Shared covenant commitment God gave through Jewish people require responsibility to share Good News with world. So Jewish people realize Yeshua is the Messiah they have long-awaited. From the biblical standpoint Jerusalem matters, political standpoint Jerusalem matters. From living history standpoint, Jerusalem matters. From the prophetic standpoint Jerusalem matters globally. Old Testament Jerusalem living history says Israel marched 7 times in Bible in Battle of Jericho the first battle Israel conquered Canaan. According to Joshua 6:1-27, the city walls of Jericho fell after Israelite army marched around the city blowing their trumpets. Archaeological artefact and finds prove with evidence, conquest. Records name Israel in the Merneth stele erected for the Egyptian Pharaoh Meneptah c. 1209 BCE, Israel toiled, laid waste in Goshen culturally, politically as a nation perceived by the Egyptians a threat to them. Excavations discovered remains of the networks of collapsed walls dated to 1400 BCE and destruction occurred c.1500 BCE. During wars refugees escape and leave behind city so poor and old to till the land. The famine of Joseph’s time and Egypt’s food reserves campaign period meant Jews deserted Jerusalem. And captivities till mid-late 13th century meant the Jews expelled from land thousands of years after many generations. Abraham and Jacob settled in Canaan with the tribes inhabiting Jerusalem before conquest in Joshua 11:3 & 12:10 or slavery in Egypt. King David in 2 Samuel 5:6-10 as Books of Kings says Jerusalem Jebus city was reconquered by King David between 1003 BCE and 869 BCE. Joshua 15:63 says though wall was breached with great shout and fell, Judah did not get rid of the Jebusites living in Jerusalem. Jebusites live here with people of Judah according to Judges 1:21. And Jebusites continue to dwell in Jerusalem city in territory of the Tribe of Benjamin. 3,000 years ago King David reconquered city of Jerusalem in 11th century BCE from the Jebusites. Bible describes the city as heavily fortified with strong city wall. The city ruled by King David or Ir David is City of David. King Solomon extended city wall 440 BCE in Persian period and Nehemiah returned from Babylon to rebuilt wall. In 41–44 CE, Agrippa the king of Judea built new city Third Wall. Romans, Greeks, Muslims occupied Jerusalem. In 7th Century 637 CE under second caliph, Umar Ibn al-Khattab he annexed Islamic Arab Empire, granted inhabitants assurance treaty in siege of Jerusalem. Ancient Biblical prophecies to the church in Jerusalem was, “a poor, just powerful man” will rise as protector and ally to the Christians of Jerusalem. Sophronius wrote Umar, great warrior led austere life fulfilled that prophecy. Patriarch of Alexander and Eutychius said Umar paid visit to Church of Holy Sepulchre and sat in courtyard. At time for prayer he left the church and prayed outside compound, to avoid future generations of Muslims using his prayer there as a pretext for converting the church into a mosque. Eutychius adds Umar decree handed to the Patriarch prohibited the Muslims gathering in prayer at the site. In 1099, Jerusalem captured by Western Christian army of First Crusade remain in their hands until recapture by Arab Muslims led by Saladin October 2, 1187, he summoned Jews permitted to resettle in city. In 1219 walls of city was razed by Mu’azzim Sultan of Damascus. In 1229 by treaty with Egypt Jerusalem came into hands of Frederick ll of Germany. In 1239 rebuilt wall demolished again by Daud emir of Kerak. In 1243, Jerusalem came again under control of Christians so walls repaired. The Kharezmian Tartars took city in 1244 so Sultan Malik al-Muattam razed walls, rendered defenseless. Dealt heavy blow to city’s status in living history.
Suleiman in 1530 had the current walls of the Old City rebuilt in 1535–42 by the Ottoman Turkish. The walls stretch for approximately 4.5 km (2.8 miles), and rise to a height of 5 to 15 metres (16.4–49 ft), with a thickness of 3 metres (10 feet) at base of wall. The Old City walls contain 35 towers, 15 in more exposed northern wall. Suleiman’s wall had six gates and a 7th New Gate, was added in 1887; several other, older gates walled up over the centuries. The Golden Gate rebuilt and reopened by Suleiman’s architects walled up. Number of gates increased after addition of New Gate in 1887 a smaller 8th Tanners Gate opened for visitors after discovery but unsealed during excavations in 1990s. The sealed historic gates consist of the 4 partially preserved double Golden Gate eastern wall and Single, Triple, Double Gates in the southern wall. Several other gates discovered by archaeologists of traces remaining of the Gate of the Essenes on Mount Zion, gate of Herod’s royal palace south of the citadel and remains of what 19th-century explorers identified as the Gate of the Funerals (Bab al-Jana’iz) or of al-Buraq (Bab al-Buraq) south of the Golden Gate. Until 1887 the gates closed before sunset and opened at sunrise. As indicated these gates known by variety names in exist in the different historical periods by different communities. Like GraecoRoman influences Islamized Jerusalem transformation of city occurs 3 times in history. The first of Jerusalem influence by Umar ibn Al-Khattab in 638 CE. The 2nd Islamization after the fall of Crusader Kingdom of Jerusalem and 3rd by Ayybiud rule in late 12th century by dominant Islamic culture of Mamluk and Ottoman rule. Ottoman era, turned Jerusalem multi-cultural predominantly Jewish during late 19th – 20th century. And Jordan’s annexations of West Bank of Jerusalem became Arabized. Islamic texts on city’s cosmological significance plays central role in Islamic belief. This began with Muhammad’s instruction to his followers to observe the qibla facing Jerusalem during daily prostrations in prayer. After 16 months the direction of prayer changed to Mecca in present-day Saudi Arabia. Jerusalem’s role in Islam rose 682 CE as Abd Allah ibn al-Zubayr rebelled against Damascus Islamic rule, conquered Mecca preventing pilgrims from reaching Mecca.
1st Jerusalem Caliphate
In 638 Islamic Caliphate in Jerusalem by Arab conquest, Jews were allowed back into the city. The majority population of Jerusalem during Arab conquest was Christian. The Jewish Palestine population 300,000-400,000 inhabitants. After cultural Arabization, Islamization took place so adopted Arabic language and conversion of local population to Islam. Muslim scholars, including Mujir ad-Dib, al-Suyuti, al-Muqaddasi mosque was reconstructed and expanded by the caliph Abd al-Malik in 690 with Dome of the Rock. The project on Temple Mount, turned complex into Haram al-Sharif and Abd al-Malik replaced slipshod structure described by Arculf into the sheltered structure enclosing qibla. Jewish background living history was damaged by these construction to ‘rebuild’ Solomon’s Temple or Mihrab Dawud. Grabar and Busse claim was Islamic legitimization for Dome of Rock. Al-miraj tradition transferred to rock later. Islamic tradition from converted rabbi Kaab al Ahbar states Ayrusalaim Jerusalem Rock means Temple and God made David King of Children of Israel.
Under Rashidun Caliphate the treaty to dwell together side by side was agreed. Rashidun caliph Umar ibn al- Khattab signed treaty with Christian Patriarch Sophronius assuring him Jerusalem’s Christian Holy places and population will be protected under Muslim rule. When led to pray at Church of the Holy Sepulchre, the holiest site for Christians, the caliph Umar declined to pray in the church not to establish precedent to be exploited later to convert church into a mosque. He prayed outside the church, where Mosque of Umar (Omar) stands to this day, opposite entrance to Church of Holy Sepulchre. According to Gaullic Bishop Arculf who lived in Jerusalem 679 to 688, the Mosque of Umar was a rectangle wooden structure built over ruins accommodating 3,000 worshipers.
Under Umayyad Caliphate
The Umayyad caliph constructed Dome of the Rock late 7th century. The 10th century historian al-Muqaddasi writes Abd al-Malik built shrine in Jerusalem to compete with monumental churches. So in 400 years Jerusalem’s prominence diminished as Arab powers in region interfered for control. Under Fatimid Caliphate in 1099, expelled the native Christian population before Jerusalem conquered by Crusaders created the Kingdom of Jerusalem. Early June 1099 Jerusalem’s population declined from 70,000 to less than 30,000.
2nd Islamized Jerusalem
Under the Ayyubid dynasty
In 1187, the city was wrested from the Crusaders by Saladin who permitted Jews and Muslims to return and settle in the city. Saladin began constructing houses, markets, public baths, pilgrim hostels and religious endowments. In 13th century Jerusalem’s declined status village after city fell devalued Ayyubid rule by internecine struggles. Mamluk Sultanate in 1244 ransacked Jerusalem by Khwaresmian Tartars, decimated the city’s Christian population and drove out the Jews. The Khwarezmian Tartars were driven out by Ayyubids in 1247. From 1250 to 1517, Jerusalem was ruled by Mamluks, clashes occurred between Mamluks, crusaders, Mongols and area suffered earthquakes and black plague.
Jerusalem under Jordan
1948 to 1967 Jerusalem
Islamised Jerusalem by the Arab Legion soldiers ruins Tiferet Yisrael Synagogue, destroyed Temple Mount antiquities from 1995–2001. Islamic Waqf carried out extensive construction work to build biggest mosque in region of Marwani mosque capacity of 10,000 worshippers area 5,000 square meters. Unsupervised construction means Waqf obliterated the antiquities at Solomon’s stables section of Temple Mount. Herod structure was converted into a mosque. The structure stones were stripped of its original surface. At eastern Hulda gate, the Waqf destroyed original Herodian ornamentation and later plastered them and painted them over. Tens of truck loads of dirt were dumped into Kidron Walley. Thousands of artifacts from the First Temple period rescued in Temple Mount Sifting Project. Findings included 1000 ancient coins, Israelite bullas with ancient Hebrew inscriptions 10,000 year old tools, blade, scraper, Hasmonean, Ptolemaic and Herodian artifacts and ancient stones with signs of the Second Temple destruction and other important artifacts. Waqf justified actions on site “mosque from time of Adam and Eve” rejecting Jewish living history. In 1980 proposed Old City listed as UN Heritage added to List in 1981. In 1982, Jordan request addeds to List of world heritage centre in danger. UN opposed request at first noting Jordan government had no standing to make a nomination and that consent of Israeli government would be required since it controlled Jerusalem. 2011, 2016 UN made East Jerusalem a “part of occupied Palestinian territory yet status of Jerusalem not resolved in permanent status negotiations.” Today Jerusalem matters as never before in living history. God Chose Jerusalem HIS HOLY CITY TO DWELL PERMANENTLY. The Living history of Jerusalem CONFIRMS this City means a lot to God Almighty. Conflicts over Jerusalem will finally be resolved when God TAKES BACK HIS LAND AS PATENT LAWFUL OWNER TO SETTLE PHYSICALLY ON PERFECT EARTH. AFTER ARMAGEDDON JESUS CHRIST RULES FOREVER AND EVER. So antiChrist desolation sacrilege destroyed and HOLY of Holies restored all people join Israel to bring holiness and salvation to the whole world. Israel is God’s connecting point through God’s prophets and Messiah Yeshua Jesus Christ. The Messiah Era will bring total PEACE and end to all conflicts and wars. All people will live in PERFECT PEACE and LOVE God ALMIGHTY so FOCUS IS ON SOVEREIGN GOD to know God love, serve, and Worship God forever. This fulfills holiness of all people in Christ and Jewish people pray for Coming Messiah and God’s salvation in Hebrew, Yeshuah יְשׁוּעָה every day. Jews say in daily prayers, “Every day and all day long we hope for Yeshua’s salvation.” In Thirteen Principles of the Faith, pray: “I await His Coming every day to Israel Jerusalem. Psalms 29:11 says The LORD give strength to HIS people! The LORD BLESS HIS people with PEACE in Yeshua Prince of PEACE! Pray for salvation of Jews and all people who wait with longing daily for the Coming of Messiah again. So salvation is near, right at your door for Revelation 22:2 testifies, “Surely Jesus is Coming soon.” Amen.
Be happy in yourself and do not blame others because life is not only about you exclusively to demand always a 24hour self-centred attention from others who love you. A trend of right to entitlement to be happy at expense of others causes problems in families, society of online. The happiness demanding attention is ruining relationships. Some demand a nonstop unrealistic pressure from loved ones all moments be spent only with them day or night. So time taken to do things or working to provide for them is considered ‘dehumanizing neglect’ for not catering always for them only. Onus of their life is always shifted to others to become totally responsible for them. So like emotional babies, do not realise that growing up means taking a full responsibility for actions. Therefore permanently blame others for problems of their lives or for being born in wrong the environment to undesired parents whose fault made them as they are. Do not put all the anger, and bitterness on those who care about you most. As long as they receive help from everyone at all times without need to help others they feel fine. Dare others ask them to be patient or to wait for their turn often become angry or agitated throwing things at people or breaking things to hurt owners. These behaviour often starts from tantrums of terrible twos not corrected by their innocence not to offend them. Some sulk and cry for hours on end or, develop headaches from crying so cycle is repeated over and over again. A bad upbringing ranges from the spectrum of lack of discipline, correction, ADHD or autism not diagnosed early taking its toll into adulthood. Pride, ego, defiance, anti establishment becomes the norm so used to getting own ways for too long. A genuine effort to support and help them seen as intrusion although often naive of the outcome of their actions. Most of the time the very family considered not good enough for them end up picking up the pieces of their trail of damage to others. Always in denial of reality never aware of effects of their behaviour on a family, relatives, friends or children. In extreme cases traumatize or hurt others incapable of understanding risks or the consequences of an action in advance before it happens. Constantly operate in high-strung emotion demand that those around them always walk on egg shells. Unaware of social rules etiquette unable to tolerate if attention or a conversation is not only about them. So emotionally draining others yet complaining about lack of attention from those doing their best to live with them. Underlying this state of mind is influence of the liberal views of deception that they are their own self-made people unaccountable to nobody so must depend exclusively only on their own ideas, feelings choices egos without recognising impact effect of damage in hurting others. If not dealt with grow into megalomania, tyrants in extreme cases never content with their lot in life. Always want more and more beyond realistic expectations or available resources in life. Suck others dry but still moan about not being given enough attention. Emotionally draining accurately described ‘manic behaviour of such a person does not understand brain function process of information or instructions properly in the interest of the good of all others. Unhappiness causes bile toxic chemicals to affect mood swing, sugar withdrawal symptoms, substance abuses affecting genetics of children from some parents, alcohol, poor communication skills, lack of maturity, background experience that intrude into adult years if unchecked. Other times consequence of their sheer pathological wickedness stems from the habitual actions since childhood. Sadly, in schools, emphasis is more on a head knowledge more than personal growth development and emotional maturity required for a longterm living. Another factor is the attitude of certain men seen as powerful if they are rebellious to authority. Some ‘success’ sometimes equated to a bully who tramples over all others bulldozed their way to achieve their goal, be it on corporate ladder, or in family, church, abusers manipulate or attack those who stand up to them. It is predicted in Bible by Jesus during the end time lawlessness will abound as such people become more haughty, and disobedient to authority hate discipline, lovers of self more than Lovers of God, high minded ever learning but unable to grasp truth. So cannot understand basic rules, respect, consideration for others. Always insists on their way or no way, self-destruct snapping because they refuse to help or correction to save them from themselves. Truth hurts but God says His people are destroyed for lack of proper Godly knowledge and proper understanding of daily roles in relation to others on Earth. Confusion today in society and wars come from inability to compromise or to put others first. Some insist their way is only way manipulate or force others put under pressure but indulge without listening or valuing others due to greed, love of money, fear. Worse of all undergirding greed motives spur them on to destroy others for their selfish gains. It is well-known in living history many lives destroyer by not living and let live lifestyle agreement to agree to disagree to live in peace chucked out of window.