LIVING HAPPILY EVER AFTER

wp-1578155912388.jpgLiving happily ever after in book fiction novels of stories read by children and teenagers imprints toxic phrase on their minds during innocent years of life only to expect life to be happily ever after. So adults protect children from unsettling gory details of life to spare them from the horror tragedies of adult world. But reinforces ignorance is bliss mindset so misled, think real life happily ever after.wp-1578156074640.jpg Misinforms children, practical life cause stress and anxiety if unequipped to face challenges of life. Life gets complex and harder if unprepared for unpredictable circumstances. Mystery telling children Santa brings gifts through chimney over night at Christmas gives ‘peace of mind’ to adults pestered over presents. But the same children exposed to violent games online some parents are unawares of. wp-1578157623245.jpgModern theory says pointing errors to a child to correct them discourages them, seem think they are doing great, creates bubble fantasy spared feeling of children growing up unaware of counter balances of true realities of life. Encouraged to live in insulated bubbles cocoon only relate with peers don’t mix or interact with family on daily basis. So boxed in age groups live them versus us lives unprepared for real life in world. wp-1578156191693.jpgSponsored by some gigantic corporate business interests lives life in a virtual fantasy world on the surface all seems acceptable and cool. Children playing a computer game seen as having fun and not hurting anyone is preoccupied not disturbing adults too busy to interact with them. Told babies come from birds delivered to the family. After exhausting day at work cook, clean do chores tired with no time to spare in the routine set.wp-1578151833694.jpg Life seems alright and few times in the week taken to the music, piano lessons, football games tennis, swimming ballet, Kumon so list endless. Things work well until crucial transitions of encouraging children at their appropriate ages to be independent. Looked after and waited on hand and foot expected to get on as adult in life, moves to university or own apartment often in shock with anxiety. wp-1578156369899.jpgOld system does not allow to help in the family home growing up never help to cook, clean or run errands, considered against the law. Social services called if the child home alone, helps in family to cook, clean, farm etc. grow up naive. So bring laundry home weekends, packed meal to eat or buy take away junk foods. Children are great sources of income for multibillions industries making money at expense of children’s development. wp-1578156464232.jpgStunted brain growth from the years of playing computer games are distracted from focus on studies. Acquire excellent online gaming skills for the multibillion profits for few. UN says they experience mental illness addiction to online games and unable to focus on a school studies, grades drop. Many lack grades to study further or do a work route professional training. Coupled with lack of hands on practical life education without any job.wp-1578156646034.jpg Bored so nothing to do play more online games. Online games are so expensive they need money to pay for it to keep up globally. Without the consistent work or income need new games is conundrum creating scam to get money fuelling the  addiction to games. Few get real jobs or totally unprepared for work place stress demands pressure. In shock, can’t hold down jobs consistently fired from work. wp-1578156746563.jpgBut wants best quality most expensive things in without lifting a finger to help family feeding and looking after them. It helps earn multibillion dollars each year, preoccupied playing online games but frustrates the hopeless majority not knowing what to do with their lives. The families help seem nagging, demanding. Entitlement attitude struggle to make a sense of real world lived. wp-1578156946262.jpgMisconception continue raising children to “only live happily ever after” without preparing them to face realities of life to train to deal with life challenges. Needs to learn to endure, overcome hardship is part and parcel of life ethically right children understand the world at their level out of bubble to learn compassion. Not self-centred if others face trauma in tragic circumstances or in war zones. wp-1578156301675.jpgAs future leaders must be taught to live real lives in consideration of others and happily everafter life happens in fiction novels. Real life understanding helps enable people to cope better to know it’s not always living a perpetually happily ever after in the complex world. People can teach children real life histories of risks taken by many sacrifices, lives for safety and the happiness, peace others enjoy.wp-1578156583540.jpgGod did not promise a bed of roses but available to help those who believe and call Son Jesus to help. Life is not perfect psychologists say demanding perfection at everything all times is mental illness. Never content or at peace blame others not enabling self-indulgence. Academic brilliance is great, computer online skill is excellent, resources to enjoy good life is wonderful but why gain whole world and lose your soul. Beyond this life God waits to get account of HIS PROPERTY on earth. Make sure your name written in the book of life ready for the rapture ONLY GOD KNOWS THE TIME.

 

THIS PEOPLE NEVER ANGRY

15619803537592179922344463155949.jpgBriggs recollected in her landmark 1971 book “Never in Anger,” about how calm and collected everyone was jarcontrast that created against her own unruly emotions. Even when some truly rage-worthy things happened like a teapot falling and smashing against floor the Inuit never betrayed a hint of anger. An “Emotional control is highly valued among Eskimos,” she wrote in the book. Indeed, maintenance of emotions under trying circumstances is essential sign of maturity, of adulthood.” Why so calm, she wondered? And more importantly, how can the rest of us get there? For the answer, Briggs looked to how children responded in difficult circumstances appeared to be something they learned from their parents. An simple parenting technique of Inuit is “Never scold child.” It became clear to Briggs when a young boy threw rock at her, related in a CBC interview, she didn’t berate him angrily, rather told him calmly it hurt. Instead of rage she told him real consequences of his actions caused her pain. Decades later, the writer Michaeleen Doucleff followed in Briggs’ footsteps in visiting Iqaluit, Canada, “in search of parenting wisdom. Said that teaching children to control their emotions is very important she writes in NPR. Doucleff found that a common strand among Inuit parents is: Across the board all mothers mentioned One Golden Rule: Don’t shout or yell at small children.”20190701_130919.jpgAmong Inuit Arctic community Doucleff found the people practiced the theory that screaming at a child only teaches the child to scream. It is a vicious circle, the University of Pittsburgh researcher Ming-Te Wang noted in a 2013 study. “It is tough call for parents because it goes both ways: the problem behaviours of children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline. That harsh discipline may push adolescents toward the same problem behaviours.” The Inuit society seems to have learned lessons long ago, and managed to break the cycle. And so  “Traditional Inuit parenting incredibly is nurturing, gentle, tender,” as Doucleff writes. “If you took all parenting styles around the world and ranked them by their gentleness, Inuit approach would likely rank near the top.” What kind of children does that society produce? The kind who live harmoniously in world’s harshest climates often with threadbare resources. Survival hinges on making the most efficient use of natural world yet group still manages to be at peace with itself and with others. Maybe that’s because it’s also the kind of society that teaches kindness above all else. Jesus said do not let the sun radiate or set on your anger. Let it go for peace of mind.

Inuit simple way of teaching children to control anger

Christian Cotroneo

CHRISTIAN COTRONEO

Article from March 26, 2019, 2:08 p.m

5YRS OLD GIRL GIVES BIRTH

1557361258923751059207.jpgA 5 years old Lina Marcela Medina de Jurado is the YOUNGEST MOTHER IN WORLD HISTORY. So talk to CHILDREN about pregnancy as a result of a sexual intercourse unaware of as too young to be told details of life. Boys and girls can be taught in a sensible way to educate them in advance. Born in 23 September 1933 the Peruvian CHILD is youngest confirmed mother in medical history at 5years, 7months, and 21 days. She later married spouse Raúl Jurado in 1970s so had 2 children. Was born and lived in Ticrapo, Castrovirreyna Province Peru. Her parents are a silversmith Tiburelo Medina and Victoria Losea. Taken to a   hospital by her parents at the age of five years due to increasing abdominal size, thought is tumor but doctors confirmed she was in her seven months pregnant. Dr Gerardo Lozada took Medina to Lima specialists who confirmed pregnancy. It generated interest in case developed so girl’s expected visit to the U.S. university scientific facilities as San Antonio Light newspaper Texas reported 16 July, 1939.1557341579049-1635185667.jpg1557341889417-1635185667.jpgPeruvian national obstetrician/ midwife association wanted the girl to be transported to a national maternity hospital. Lozada made films of Medina for scientific research shown on the 21 April address, Peru’s National Academy of Medicine. A month and half later she gave birth by caesarean section to boy due to her small pelvis. The surgery was performed by Lozada, Dr Busalleu, with Dr Colareta providing anaesthesia. The doctors who performed caesarean to deliver her baby found she had mature sexual organs of a precocious puberty. Her case was reported by Dr. Edmundo Escomel in medical journal La Presse Médicale, including detailed menarche at eight months of age. Some said she had regular periods since three years old, according to others at two and half years old. Medina’s son weighed 2.7 kg (6.0 lb; 0.43 st) at birth, named Gerardo after her doctor. Gerardo was raised as Medina’s sister, but found out at the age of 10 she was his mother. Medina never reveals father of child or circumstances of her impregnation sits here with son.1557365079099-9023010.jpg
Escomel said that she might not know as Medina ‘didn’t give precise response.’
Lina’s father was arrested on suspicion of child sexual abuse but released due to lack of evidence so biological father was never identified. Her son grew up healthy and died in 1979 at 40 years old. Medina worked as a secretary in Lima clinic of Lozada who gave her education and put her son through high school. Medina married Raúl Jurado, who fathered second son in 1972. In 2002, they lived in a district of Lima, “Chicago Chico refused interview with Reuters. A lot of doctors verified biopsies, X rays of fetal skeleton in utero, and photographs taken by doctors caring for her around beginning of April 1939 of Medina at 7-and-half months pregnant with left side standing naked published. In 1955, effects of a precocious puberty shows the five-year-old girl could conceive a child. Extreme precocious pregnancy in children aged five or under is not well documented as Medina. A study shows precocious children at four hormones acting sexually seductive but treated to keep them under control. The lesson is parents do not feel embarrassed to talk about sex to children or to assume they are too young to understand. The details of birth in documentaries on TV with so much information highway children are aware. Educate children early about the private body parts and prevent sexual ignorance and naive pregnancies of the children having children.

PAEDOPHILES RAPE children

1552150556538492762843.jpgPaedophiles from word paedophilia in Greek παῖς, παιδός (paîs, paidós) means “child”and φιλία (philía) “friendly love” or “friendship.” Paedophile is a pervert with exclusive sexual interest in young children aged 15 or younger. Abuser misconstrues it as ‘love’ to rape children but its lust not love. A sexually abused child is innocent, too young, too naive, incapable of understanding the emotional damage consequences of abuser’s mind control manipulations. Stockholm syndrome grooming uses lies to deceive child as, “special” “chosen” told “family does” not love them by rogue priests or bishops and cardinals sworn to secrecy. Church goers molested by their trust in them to invest in their faith in God. The child rapist takes advantage of genuine agape love of the innocent children who don’t know about adult sexual abuse. In the name of “love” paedophiles wrongly think its “childlove.” Word Paedo, ‘child’ + philos ‘love’ is sexual abuse disguised as ‘love’ camouflages masquerading adult embedded in family wedged between innocent children and family. Pervert seduces children by stirring an unsuspecting sexual feeling preserved for adult legal age for sex. This addictive attachment misleads the child to “fall in love” with predator for abuse. Child lacks frontal brain cortex of logical reasoning skill to understand the risk or the full consequences of their actions. They mimic their molestor deceiving them and infused by distorted perception of “love” makes the innocent child loyal to the predator. But does not realise the deception is not normal. Join with impudence in secrecy of ignorance as it appears normalised by interaction in family feel guilty by association to let go of abuser. Truly think they “love” abuser but the child is unaware of damage so defends abuser even more seemingly ‘loved’ and adored by them and others. Abuser uses fear tactics and tears to lure a child to sympathise influencing their thought process by brainwashing. Their “love” is overshadowed by denial to protect each other from a perceived threat of society to ruin their exclusive ‘love’ attachment. 1552150497005421197466.jpgGenuine, natural, caring agape affection of children is sound foundation of God’s LOVE but the pervert takes advantage of them. An innocent child is ignorant of sex, unaware of motives of child rapists. God’s LOVE if practiced in truth without perversion is the best gift child receives to grow in confidence and thrive. Sadly innocent naive child thinks their love is based on equal, sincere affection. They assume abuser’s exclusive love for them is unique, so special but ‘love’ interest is for sexual abuse. They exploit innocent children who know nothing about sex but love attention. Leads to intimacy as misled for selfish sexual gratification by abuser. Genuine love of child perceived by distorted twisted pervert as ‘consent’ for sex but its mere normal interaction of family. The caring, loving parent has implicit trust so expects genuine mutual affection of others for their children. Their sincere loving care is duly entrusted to ensure due diligence in the best interest of their child. But the dark web of sexual abuse predators use pornography, undermine seriousness of rape. The trivial attitude towards sexual abuse competition to exchange gross or daring inappropriate photos of sexual abuse perpetrates it.15521641504791558378888.jpgFear of being exposed or consequences of declaring their evil actions makes an abuser to place guilt on the child to hide their evil deeds. But its a bad move to blackmail the child with the burden of secrets to hold the child to ransom by manipulations. This is a complex web of mixed messages of lust misinterpreted to the child as “love.” And so the children become emotionally attached to adult perpetrators as “good people” who ‘love’ them. Exclusive negative attention to them makes them think they are, “one and only one” in a perverts life unaware other children are told exact same lies to keep hold on them all. Pervert abuses children by their cunning brainwashing power of control due to the insecurity of their mind so not a mutual relationship of two consenting adults. The legal age requires minimum age of consent for sex between adults depending on a country. The child does not know laws forbid sex between adult and children under legal age. The legal sexual age for consent is 18 years in other countries 21 years. Then 5 years old girl is youngest mother in Guinness book of record to get pregnant is reason campaigners of sex education start from five years in primary schools to warn children about sexual abuse. So those children sexually molested knew nothing about sex or the grooming by a pervert who raped them. Adults force a child to keep their ‘little dirt secret’ because they know they will be jailed for raping children but a child must not carry burden of brainwashing.1552164299438421197466.jpgIts important to train the child to wash their own private body parts by three years old. Not touched inappropriately, and to teach them not to be in bedroom, bathroom, anywhere alone without the parent present. They deceive the child to deny allegation but they still continue perversion. The innocent child does not understand impact of abuse until after adulthood. Reed tells the BBC, he hopes his film makes all parents to think twice before entrusting child to strangers and make people think twice about idolising cult of celebrity.” Prepare children not to keep secrets or be a favourite special secret friend no matter how famous or generous. And Reed said, “Celebrity cult is so pernicious and leads people to go blind and parents to do stupid things,” says Dan Reed, the director of the new Michael Jackson documentary. Parents do not know motive of pervert so avoid even the appearance of evil entrusting your child to nobody. Be ruthless not to compromise control of your child by an expensive gifts to distract them from an alertness and their sharp focus. Abuse has occurred hundreds of hundreds of times to Mr Robson and Mr Safechuck as agreed in this case. Mr Robson told the programme: “Every time I was with him, every time I stayed the night with him, he abused me.” Jackson fondled him, “touching my entire body,” made him watch the singer performing a sex act, he said. And then, when he was 14, Jackson had tried to rape him. That was one of the last sexual abuse experiences we had,” Mr Robson told programme.Michael Jackson and Wade RobsonLeaving Neverland, Wade Robson here says Jackson sexually abused him in the 1990s Jackson groomed him to believe they “loved each other as God approves how we show our love” he said. So why use “Jesus juice” laced by alcohol or God knows what, to influence their minds. A True love is public agreement including public approval by loved ones. Anyone taking advantage to rape a child knows they are breaking the law so conceal it. But deceives children to think they love them above all else in the world. “And then he would immediately follow-up with, ‘But If anybody else ever found out what we are doing, you and I would go to jail for the rest of our lives and our lives would fall apart,’ he so I would fall apart,” Mr Robson told programme. “All of this was terrifying to me. “The idea of being pulled away from Michael – this man, this other-worldly figure, this god to me who had become my best friend – no way was I going to do anything that would pull me away from him.” And Mr Robson said Jackson told him “I was his best friend and the only person he ever done these sexual acts with.” Out of all the boys in the world was chosen one, I thought,” he said. Mr Safechuck told the programme his abuse had begun with Jackson teaching him how to perform a sex act, at the age of 10. “Then you start French kissing he said taught him to do that,” Mr Safechuck said. Was followed by further abuse and other sex acts.IMG-20190312-WA0000.jpgMr Safechuck told the program Jackson abused him over a sustained period of time because he successfully groomed his parents. There was a long grooming process where Michael inserts himself into your family and becomes a part of your family,” he said. “It takes him a while to build up the trust so it doesn’t happen overnight.” And he then “makes a wedge between you and your parents to isolate you from everybody else.”

‘Master manipulator’

“At the same time when you’re being abused also a part of you is dying,” Mr Safechuck added. Mr Robson described Jackson as a “master manipulator.” He had driven “this wedge between myself and my father, and my mother and my father” to make it easier for the abuse to occur, he told the programme. He also said part of responsibility for the abuse should fall “at the door of other people, all the employees around Michael and me and James [Safechuck] all the time who looked the other way.”IMG-20190311-WA0005.jpg‘Very innocent’ Is the response, Michael Jackson’s brothers Tito, Marlon, Jackie, and nephew Taj Jackson who reject the claims in Leaving Neverland broadcast in UK the singer abused children. Taj said his uncle’s behaviour seems odd to some is “very innocent,” adding: “its his naivety that was his downfall.” Marlon said, “not one piece of evidence” backs up allegations. Michael Jackson’s estate, said Mr Robson and Mr Safechuck had previously “testified under oath these events never occurred.” “They provided no independent evidence or absolutely no proof in support of their accusations, which means entire film hinges solely on the word of two perjurers,” it said. A crime of raping children is punished In prison and after release their identity is hidden from the public who may attack or want to kill them. In prison are killed by offenders because it’s most heinous crime against innocent vulnerable child.1552164720213-1795841944.jpg This is why abuser refuses to admit guilt to the public because they know it will destroy their reputation and relationships with friends and family. They lose status and are hated for molesting children, it is so difficult for sexual predators to admit guilt. Their distorted perception makes them feel rape is justified as a mutual “consent” by the child they raped. Their attitude is, by the parents allowing them to be with child it means they approved of their actions. Why would the grown adult would want to rape a child in the name of love. This is gross misconduct and lack of understanding of purpose of sexual intimacy in the context of loving relationship. The mutual consent of two people without substance abuse to bend the mind of vulnerable victims. The law forbids predators from forcing sex upon others without their permission. But the problem is predators do not understand the rights of other people. So they think they can have whatever they want any time whenever they want. They do not genuinely care about victims as long their selfish pervert actions take place. 1552164496460492762843.jpgNo pervert admits abuse unless caught red handed so its impossible to witness a concealed sexual abuse hidden from view. Those defending perverts have no clues about that side of their personality so shocked to hear of the horrific rapes by them. The victim is victimized too for daring to speak their truth so refuses to put perpetrators behind bars. They feel guilty for betraying sexual escapades in which they partook. Fearful, ashamed of their reputation being tarnished and unfairly wrongly judged as liars with an agenda of looking for money. Often too embarrassed to reveal the abuse, people do not understand the emotional abuse, nightmares haunting survivors for the rest of their lives. No amount of money of their instigators’ compensation can wipe out trauma of sexual abuse which affects marriage relationship intimacy in adulthood. Perpetrators do not know or realise they upset too many people so their damage destroys the life of victims and families including the perpetrator’s loved ones. This does not mean victims to be prevented from educating others to warn them to be more careful in life. Its wise to seek forgiveness on behalf of loved ones for inner healing and peace.1552226246454-95208428.jpgJoyce Meyer, Oprah Winfrey and Maya Angelo, Billy Connelly and Dame Esther Rantzen, all spoke about their sexual abuses suffered, as she revealed for the first time in 2011, publicly talk about it and still manage to be successful in life. Don’t let abuse define your life to hurt yourself. Genesis 34:34 tells of the rape Dinah Jacob’s only daughter to visit Canaanite women. And Shechem son of Hamor, the Hivite and chief of region, saw her and raped her…Prince Shechem disgraced Dinah and Jacob’s sons killed Shechem and whole village for revenge. Shechem wants to marry Dinah, whole village told to circumcise to marry her. The circumcision ploy demobilised the village tricked for Dinah’s violation and brothers Simeon and Levi’s killed men. These brother’s extreme measures for vengeance for their sister Dinah’s rape is done by some people who practice it. The damage done by rape is violation of human rights and emotional damage is a lifetime of trauma. Be aware of consequences of pain for whole family15475586139391824446760.jpgIn 2 Samuel 13-20, Amnon son of David raped his half-sister Tamar a virgin and Absalom’s sister. She said, do not force me; for such a thing is not done in Israel; do not do anything so vile. But he did not listen to her and stronger than her forced her and raped her. Absalom told Tamar, be quiet do not take it to heart…Tamar remained a desolate woman in brother Absalom’s house in 2 Samuel 13:11-12, 14, 20. Absalom later killed Ammon in revenge. In the past victims told to keep abuse secret because nobody will marry her and it brought shame to the family. In talk show TD Jake’s of Potters House said sexual abuse is so rampart that the question is there anyone not sexually abused? It shows many people dealing with rape and healing comes in Christ Jesus who came to heal broken heated. IMG-20190307-WA0016.jpgThe Spirit of the LORD God is upon me, because the LORD anointed me and sent me to bring Good News to the oppressed, to heal the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to captives and release prisoners to provide for those who mourn in Zion to give them joy for ashes, oil of gladness for mourning, praise for the fainthearted. Are oaks of righteousness planted by the LORD to display HIS GLORY says Isaiah 61:1, 3. Survivors of rape sexual abuse carry wounds into adulthood but Jesus Christ heals the wounded. Isaiah 61:1,3 brings transformation healing through Redeemer Jesus Christ. God heals so breaks silence with HIS Light of hope to be joyful in life again in Jesus Name.

 

For information and support, visit the Action Line website.

Find out more

Victoria Derbyshire program interview of Wade Robson and James Safechuck from 10:00 GMT on BBC News Channel in the UK.

Follow the BBC’s Victoria Derbyshire programme on Facebook and Twitter – and see more of our stories here.

GOD’S SOCIALMEDIA SPOUSE

God’s social media connection marriage partners were just friends but has more plans confirmed through Pastor Alph Lukau. It is reassuring God watches all things on social media and approves of good things happening but hates all evil things taking place there. God gave this spouse to each other to have and to hold to walk together. Amos 3:3 says, do two walk together unless they agree so both friends agreed before congregation to love each other. This is miracle working God we serve in Jesus Name.

COOKING, WASHING, TAMES

Man holding babyCooking, washing clothes, cleaning and childcare, tames men who once thought it was only the women’s job. Like most men, Jean Pierre 32 lives in Mwulire in Eastern Province in Rwanda and leaves domestic chores to his wife. Impatient, angry, demands perfection due to lack of awareness that a woman’s job is 24/7 so never ends day or night. He becomes aggressive if his wife did not meet the standards of his expectations so beats her. A grassroots intervention program trying to reduce domestic violence in Rwanda teaches men how to do household chores, and a recent study suggested it has a positive effect on communities. So Muhoza Jean Pierre used to beat his wife because he saw her as someone he married just to have children and and look after them. “I was following example of my father. My father did not do anything at home,” he said. “If ever I came home and found something not done yet I insult her. “I called her lazy, told her she was useless so must go back to her parent’s house.” But something changed after he learnt to cook and clean. It was all part of a grassroots intervention programme in Mwulire village in Eastern Province, Rwanda encouraging men’s domestic roles, including childcare. Jean Pierre says the project called, ‘Bandebereho’ or role model in Kinyarwanda helps tamed and transformed his behaviour. He took part in classes covering everything from cooking and cleaning and discuss how to challenge men’s traditional gender roles. “They asked, if a man can sweep the house, and we would say ‘he can’,” he said. “And then they would ask us: ‘Who among you does that?’ And there was no one.”Man cooking next to his wife

Real men shouldn’t cook

Facilitators from ‘Bandebereho’ taught Jean Pierre how to do tasks previously he believed his wife should do. He also added: “We would go home and try to put this into practice. “Then we would go back to training with witnesses who would testify they had observed some changes in us. “I know how to cook. I do laundry for the kids. I know how to peel plantains, I know how to pound dry cassava and sift the flour.” Jean Pierre and his wife have been married for 10 years and never helped her before. And making changes was not easy as Jean Pierre’s friends discouraged him from doing household tasks, telling him: ‘No real man should cook.’ “My family and friends said my wife bewitched me by giving me some magic drugs. They said no genuine man should carry a bundle of firewood in the street because that is for henpecked men,” he said. But Jean Pierre continued when he saw benefits to his family. He says his children feel closer to him and his wife now runs a banana business that has allowed them to improve their home. “The way my wife treats me now is different from the way she used to treat me,” he said. “She used to treat me badly because I was mistreating her too, but now we discuss and agree on things to do. “I set her free, now she is working and I am working too; whereas before I was convinced she had to stay home and be available whenever I would need her.” Fear and little freedom affected Jean Pierre’s wife Musabyimana Delphine who says she used to have little freedom and lived in fear. She said: “Sometimes I felt like a mere worker, and I would remember a worker has a salary. “I never thought a woman can ever have her own money, because I never even had time to think about any activity that generate money. “Now I have enough freedom in house, I go out and work for money like others. Start training young boys now so when they grow up they will help their wife and help look after the children. When both work, it’s a burden on the woman to care for the family or children alone.man washing a plateThe ‘Bandebereho’ project taught Jean Pierre to do tasks previously believed his wife should do. Delphine leaves at 5am to sell plantains at a market, while Jean Pierre stays at home and takes care of their four young children. “I come home relaxed and find food ready,” she said. The project’s curriculum originally developed in Latin America by global fatherhood campaign MenCare believes true equality will only be reached when men take on 50% of world’s childcare and domestic work. The research looks into changing men’s attitudes towards family care and traditional domestic. It was soon realised the good impact on men. A study looking at couples taking part in the project found two years after taking childcare lessons in Rwanda men were less likely to use violence against their female partners than those who did not attend the classes. But the study suggested one in three women whose partners took part in the programme still reported experiencing intimate partner violence. National Institute of Statistics of Rwanda, released a data in 2015, around 52% of men in the country were violent towards partners. Rwanda Men’s Resource Centre, which delivered the programme in the country, wants ‘Bandebereho’ to be widely adopted by communities and country’s government. Fidele Rutayisire the chairman of centre, said: “We still have negative social norms, negative masculinity perception cultural barriers as main factors of high violence against women in Rwanda. “Traditionally men don’t take care of children here but men control sex, resources, decision-making. “When men are actively involved in the home they realise sacrifices of women in childcare so their attitude on gender changes positively, they understand the value of gender equality.” Delphine and Jean Pierre said the program benefited their family and the whole community. “We are now on honeymoon, 10 years after our wedding,” said Jean Pierre. If there is conflict or security issue in our neighbourhood our opinion is respected because they see we don’t have problem in our household. Men appreciate and help their wives and not demand they do all the housework or take care of the family, business, Church alone without support of husbands. A happy wife is a happy life and the Bible says love your wife as Christ loved His bride Church and gave His life for you. Timothy says a husband must first look after his family and own household before serving the Church. Don’t neglect your wife and the children in the NAME OF GOD leisurely talking to single women while your wife and children at home suffer. Remember your wife is that same beautiful single woman you married and used her body to give birth to your children. And don’t abandon her for fresh young woman to give birth later to become abandoned as wife. This causes baby mama problems because men want to eat their cake and have it. So wants exclusive attention of wife at the expense of the children some are jealous of. Forget their parents took great care of them as done to children. Grow up and be father to the children to mature a responsible man not manchild depending on wife as mother. For even the Son of Man Jesus did not come to be served but to serve and give His life as a ransom for many says Mark 10:45.

  • 27 November 2018
100 Women logo

What is 100 Women?

BBC 100 Women names 100 influential and inspirational women around the world every year and shares their stories. It’s been a momentous year for women’s rights around the globe, so in 2018 BBC 100 Women will reflect the trailblazing women who are using passion, indignation and anger to spark real change in the world around them.

Find us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter and use #100Women

More on this story

DO TOYS DISTRACT FOCUS?

Children become distracted when they are surrounded by toys Too many toys are bad for children as a study suggests that the children become distracted when they are surrounded by too many toys. This is what the parents have suspected all along. Children who have too many toys are more also easily distracted so do not enjoy that quality playtime with other children as the new study suggest. Researchers at University of Toledo in Ohio, US, recruited some 36 toddlers and invited them to play in a room for half an hour, with either four toys, or 16 toys. They found youngsters were far more creative when they had fewer toys to play with. And they played with each for twice as long, thinking up more uses for each toy and lengthening and expanding their games. The authors conclude parents, schools and nurseries should pack away most of their toys and just rotate a small number regularly, to help encourage the children to become more creative to improve the attention spans of the children. This study sought to determine if the number of toys in a toddlers’ environments influences their quality of play,” said the lead author Dr Carly Dauch in journalInfant Behaviour and Development.“The higher number of incidences of play in 16 toy condition did interfere with duration and depth of play. Other toys present created their external distractions. “During toddler years, children develop but not master, higher levels of control over attention. And their attention plus their play was disrupted by factors in an environment present with distractions. The results of the present study suggest an abundance of toys create distractions. But provided with fewer toys in their environments the toddlers engaged in longer periods of play with single toy allowing better focus to explore, play more creatively.”Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, say researchers Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, says researchers. Britons spend more than £3 billion each year on toys and surveys shows that a typical child owns 238 toys in total but parents think they play with just the 12 ‘favourites’ on a daily basis making up just five per cent of their toys. It is not the first time research suggested that too many toys distract children. In the 1990s the German researchers, Elke Schubert and Rainer Strick conducted experiment where the toys were taken away from Munich nursery for three months. After a few weeks, the children re-adjusted and their play became far more creative and social. The published research of their findings in their book, called, The Toy-free Nursery. In another book, ClutterFree with Kids the author, Joshua Becker also argued fewer toys are better for children because a sparse playroom encourages creativity to help children develop attention span and to teach youngsters about taking care of their possessions. “A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there countless options are still remaining on the shelf behind them,” he said. “When children have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. And they will not learn to value them if there is their replacement ready at hand. “Fewer toys causes these children to become more resourceful by solving problems with only materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited practical uses in their futures.

The research is published in the journal Infant Behaviour and Development. The conflict of interest of the toy companies advertising children playing with many latest toys makes parents feel obliged to buy them for the children not to feel left out. Children display their toys online on social media to compare with each other including the addictive games that stop children learning, doing homework assignments later in college, university or focus at work. Lack attention span or focus from childhood affects the adults today unable concentrate for few hours to complete tasks at hand. Christmas is around and parents must not let a child manipulate them emotionally to buy a toy without teaching them first value of essential basic reading at level. Children can get a few educational toy to reward them to do exceptionally well in a field of academic achievement at school. The development steared towards a specific direction of any future career requires relevant toys to influence natural gifts, talents and abilities. Otherwise parents unintentionally make children victim of success by their ability to buy too many toys they can afford. Just because it is possible to buy things seen on the TV in adverts does not mean it enhances their specific development. Parent knows the children best, whether they are trained experts or not must help child learn not to depend only on school to learn. Early learning through practical play is now rapidly eroded by virtual reality keep children cocooned online. So important to carefully reflect before Christmas on piling up toys to “prove” your “love” of your children to the world overloading them with too many toys. Experience shows most children are just so happy playing with the box, not expensive toys boosting their parents ego. Millennium children are suffering from the lack of a social understanding or interaction due to isolated attachment to toys valued as more precious than engaging with each other. Time consumed worrying about their toy possessions makes them miss out on appreciating fellow human being as adults due to learned behaviour. The competition among children, teenagers over toys leads further to threats of the perceived anger of friends loving them only for their material possessions. The toys must not take over to babysit their children without adult supervision and input. One of the best ways to bond with children is play with them sometimes to help them value the adults in their lives.

A POSTPARTUM PSYCHOSIS

Singer Adele and Laura DockrillAdele spotted her friend’s postpartum psychosis illness after the birth of her Godson. Postpartum is also a postnatal depression changing the behaviour of the mother after birth so needs help and support of friends and family to recover. This is a serious illness and mothers struggle to look after the baby and themselves. Adele’s best friend says the singer was the first one to spot her postpartum psychosis. Laura Dockrill gave birth to a baby boy, Adele’s Godson in February this year. Recognised it in me, while on the phone FaceTiming her and she was the first one to detect what she had, Laura told Radio 1 Newsbeat. This serious mental illness affects one in one thousand mums and can lead to hallucinations after giving birth. Laura said: “The last six months can only be described as hell, it was the worst time of my life.” She says her symptoms were “insomnia, delusions, suspiciousness and paranoia” and written a blog post to share her experiences with mums who going through same thing. Adele shared Laura’s story, describedas “intimate and heartbreaking.” The singer says she and Laura friends since they were teenagers and her song My Same, from the album 19, is about her. Laura is a poet, author, illustrator and short story writer, and she went to the same school as Adele – the Brit School of Performing Arts in Croydon. In a blog post she talks about a “horrific” labour her doctor believes might have triggered the illness. After coming home with son, Laura describes feeling like “pushed out my personality as well as a baby.”Laura DockrillLaura and Adele are friends since they were teenagers. She says had suicidal thoughts. “I was begging my sister to let me go, I was begging my mum to let me go. “I have never had those thoughts before in my life and no history of mental illness, this completely took me by surprise and threw me against the rocks.” Laura says her skin went pale, she couldn’t eat or drink and she started getting severe anxiety attacks. As things got worse, Laura needed her partner Hugo to send her photos of herself with friends and family to remind her who she was. “Though postnatal depression and psychosis are treatable, even when my doctor said I would 100% recover I remember thinking, ‘Maybe others do but not me, this is me forever.”A mother holds a baby's handSymptoms of postpartum psychosis also includes delusions and hallucinations so Laura was hospitalised and spent two weeks away from her son. She describes herself as recovering more and more each day and is “happy, confident and strong” after getting support from family and a psychiatrist, as well as using medication. But she also says talking about her psychosis has been a “huge” part of her recovery. “I was constantly searching for any stories that offered me hope or salvation in this dark and testing time so that’s why I’ve shared this,” she says. Vivien Waterfield from the charity Home Start praised Laura for speaking up.“It’s very difficult for mums to talk about their difficulties they’re having,” she said. “Anyone in the public eye brave enough to talk about this publicly helps the mums to realise they are not alone.” A few years back, Kathryn Grant’s postpartum psychosis was an inspiration for an EastEnders storyline so Lacey Turner’s character Stacey had condition. She told Newsbeat that she had a horrendous birth and ended up not sleeping for ten nights.James And Kathryn togetherKathryn gave birth to James five years ago. “I knew I needed to go to the A&E because I had a feeling something was about to go terribly wrong. “By the time James was taken from me and cared for by the staff there, I descended into full blown psychosis.” Kathryn says during her psychotic episode she was seeing things that weren’t there and believing things that weren’t true. “I believed was being tortured and punished because I caused an apocalypse and killed most people in the world and the remaining survivors were torturing and trying to cremate me alive,” she said. “The reality was I was in an ambulance being taken from psychiatric hospital to a regular hospital to be treated for sepsis. To get help and support with postpartum psychosis, take a look at the NHS page on the condition.

Follow Newsbeat on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.

  • 14 August 2018

Listen to Newsbeat live at 12:45 and 17:45 every weekday on BBC Radio 1 and 1Xtra – if you miss us you can listen back here.

More on this story

  • This woman photographed her postpartum psychosis recovery
    20 August 2016

DR JAMES KWEGYIR AGGREY

images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910Dr James Emman Kwegir Aggrey is one of the leading figures in the history of education in Africa. And undoubtedly Dr. James Emmanuel Kwegyir Aggrey, is more popularly known as “Aggrey of Africa.” He is noted as great sociologist, orator, preacher, far-sighted politician, equally famous for witty epigramatic sayings. Aggrey is apostle of inter-racial co-operation, advocated and helped to cut the path of progress for the African race in many fields, in the direction of Religion, Education and Agriculture. Is known as “Father of African Education,” a “First African Gender Activist,” “Pan-Africanist,” “African Theologian,” “Civil Right Activist,” and “Father of Achimota College.”  On Google gets 11,000+ results in 0.30 seconds. Born on Monday, 18th October, 1875, at Anomabo in Central Region, Gold Coast by a Princess Abena Anowa of Ajumako and Okyeame Prince Kodwo Kwegyir the Chief Linguist in the court of King Amonoo V of Anomabu, Aggrey was seventeenth child of father and fourth of his mother Abena Anowa, third, last wife of Okyeame Kwegyir. ( Okyeame Kwegyir had 21 children in total; 9 by his first wife, 4 by his second and 8 a third wife Dr. Kwegyir Aggrey’s mother. Dr. Kwegyir Aggrey was born amidst rumours of an Ashanti invasion of Anomabo in wartime-preparation to name him on eighth day after birth as tradition demands ceremony. Baptism on June 24th, 1883, Aggrey with brother Kodwo Awir. His Christian names James William Emman and brother. His Fanti names are: Kodwo Mensa Otsiwadu Humamfunsam Kwegyir Aggrey.Dr James Kwegyir Aggrey’s family. And Emman, ‘ Great city’ is “Oman” in Fantse language of Cape Coast pronounciation affected it so Aggrey accepted it. Kodwo, ‘male child born on Monday is Kwegyir. or Kwedjo Mensa, is a ‘third male child’ Otsiwadu, tenth. Otsiwa Humamfunsam ‘wide-ruling Agyeman’ Kwegyir, father’s name Aggrey, family name. Kwegyir is a contraction of Kwedjo and Egyir. Egyir  anglicised Aggrey. Dr. Kwegyir Aggrey’s father, respected linguist spokesman of a chief or king, a warrior. His mother, a daughter of a medicine man so he was born in traditional family who became Christians and Dr. Aggrey baptised, as James, Kojo, Kodwo, Mensa. James said: “My father, mother, brothers, sisters became Christians through me. I got a taste for this 8 years old.” Dr Aggrey’s Bust at Achimota School, Accra, Ghana. Before eighteenth birthday he entered Wesleyan School in Cape Coast as father left with mother to seek employment as “goldtaker’ with Mr. John Sarbah of Anomabu and father of late lawyer John Mensah Sarbah, CMG, a merchant and member of Legislative Council. But after bankruptcy of the Hon. George Kuntu-Blankson, whose firm Kodwo Kwegyir held position years at Anomabu, fifteen miles east of Cape Coast. Dr. Aggrey’s younger sister his favourite admired him for prowess of learning to recite what he was taught at school like Lord’s Prayer, Apostle’s Creed, ‘Thirty days has September, multiplication table and so on. A lot is said about how thin he grew but strong and healthy. His mother said he detests ‘fufu’ from boyhood. And Dr. Kwegyir Aggrey pursued knowledge. He rose early did water-carrying, sweeps,  puts a boiled maize under his cloth with books, goes to Amanfu seashore to read till school time. He daily walks across a Chapel Square centre of town “oblivious of things but books, his eyes glued to” is said to be among top four (4th) in class.In Achimota School in 1888, Dr. James Kwegyir Aggrey’s life changed with the arrival of Rev. Dennis Kemp, Wesleyan missionary, who arrived in Cape Coast from Barbados, West Indies. As part of his efforts to curb illiteracy at the time, proposed to take 20 people (all boys) to mission house for training so favoured among them was Dr. James Kwegyir Aggrey. Young Emmanuel distinguished himself in all branches of knowledge, so easily won admiration of Rev. Dennis Kemp. In a spacious mission home, “the most palatial residence in Cape Coast,” Aggrey and twenty three lads received instruction in joinery, blacksmithery, home decoration, painting, in addition to formal literary education, science, logic, etc.  As expected, Aggrey became more engrossed in his books. He was quoted to declare many times, “I want to know everything.”Aggrey had no time for ‘games.’ He lived for books. He would stay up reading long after others were asleep, when weary, tie a soaked towel around his head and sit with his feet in basin of cold water. He loved God as a boy so history books refer to him as ‘a natural Christian.’ Two years later he at 14 years, completed his course at this college, and accepted post of temporary pupil teacher, Abura-Dunkwa, 20 miles east of Cape Coast on monthly salary of 35 shillings. Aggrey was responsible for a class of about 30 boys. Rev. Dennis Kemp appointed to spiritual oversight of the Coast to the Prahso district. And Aggrey and Rev. Dennis Kemp made a two-day journey to this large circuit. At Ekroful, they were handicapped for lack of accommodation, no hotels or lodging houses, slept in the chapel; Rev. Kemp in the pulpit, and Aggrey in a pew. By age 15, was in sole control of the school and compelled shows a leadership prowess. He raised the standard of pupils’ work under his guidance. The day school and Sunday school became the largest in the circuit. In a letter to the school 37 years later, Aggrey recounted, “In 1889 I was in Abura Dunkwa to teach in a village school. I was kindergarten teacher, primary teacher, headmaster and all. He lamented about the poor conditions of teachers but stated, “and yet looking back on my life, if I had chance to live again,  I will gladly do teaching again.images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910A year after, Aggrey transferred to Cape Coast with Christian missionaries had fraternal, literary and social clubs, the Singing Band, Band of Hope, and Christ Little Band and Y.M.C.A. Trade prospers, speculation in gold mines, machinery increasing; railways in nearby district. Banks established, newspapers springs up, study of English became popular. So Aggrey joins staff in Wesleyan Memorial School, built in 1881, taught many years. Studying for Aggrey was a lifestyle and not a task took lessons to prepare for a Cambridge Local Examination. Studied Magnetism, Electricity, traded with the missionaries giving lessons in the Fanti language. In return he learnt lessons in French, Latin, Psychology, always ready shares knowledge with pupils. Aggrey is known for delight in use of long English words. Quoted in a youthful essay, “ In the tropics, nature excels herself in superabundant productiveness.” If he didn’t find word to suit him creates one quoted says, “ the tropician is satisfied on land, frigidian on icy waters.”  He coined title ‘tantabulator’ name of the music instrument, tanta-ba in fanti it was the only instrument he played well. Dr. Aggrey excels in all he ‘touched’ and he was proud of himself. He is quoted to say, “ when I was trained for ministry, I ranked first in Greek, Latin, in Bible History, Logic, Exegesis, yes, first in everything.” He was so good Wesleyan authorities permitted him to preach at age 16. As Dr. Aggrey turned 20, he was Assistant Headmaster at the Wesleyan Centenary Memorial School. Anomabo Etsiwa Posuban Asafo group or military Dr Aggrey belongs. In 1889, the Rev. J.B. Graham entered ministry and Aggrey a Headmaster of the school aged 23. He took Teachers’ Certificate examinations of Department of Education in 1895 was first among 119 candidates all over the country. Only one gained a second class certificate of distinction qualified him without further examination, “to teach in similar school in any British Colony, the world over.” The Legislative Council voted (NC30.00) 15 pounds in his favour for purchase of books in appreciation. His success made Cape Coast Wesleyan School the best school in the Colony. As stated by Director of Education with 400 enrolled students, Aggrey is a figure of great man in Gold Coast at that time.images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910Dr James Emman Kwegyir Aggrey. From 1895 – 1898, Aggrey is educational giant, a politician and soldier. Aggrey became recording Secretary, Aborigines Rights Protection Society and short time acted as Chief Secretary of Society. He carried about a petition for signatures against notorious Public Lands Bill (1897). On one occasion, performed splendid task of walking, in the course of a single day, 36 miles to Manso to send an important cablegram to London on behalf of the Society. Aggrey contributed articles in a Gold Coast Methodist Times, his friend Rev. Jacob Anaman then editor, helped to get the unpopular Bill withdrawn. As a soldier in Fanti-Ashanti war, Aggrey served his expedition under Colonel Sir Francis Cunningham Scott, a veteran of Gold Coast Constabulary who had on his staff two British princes. Prince Henry of Battenberg and the Prince Christian Victor. Aggrey an interpreter was paid 7/6d. per day attached to Telegraph Unit with Captain R. S. Curtis and Lieutenant McInnes marched from Cape Coast to Kumasi in December, 1896. Saw fighting in Kumasi, the following year returned to Cape Coast unhurt. Afterwards, his father’s people made him the Tufuhene a Field Marshall according to the native custom. Although accepted the honour politely sought to be relieved of office, as it would have stood in the way of his education and other civic programmes. This refusal, was not for lack of interest in African customs, but because he felt he could not fulfil all functions at same time. Dr Aggrey was popular amongst the Gold Coast educated elites whatever he wear they mimic his style. In his own words: “In Gold Coast I was popular if I wore my hat over my right brow all young men wore theirs in the same way. I did not know I knew nothing. From Gold Coast I went to America, to obtain two doctorates. Perceived knew nothing.” For the next twenty-six years, from 10th July, 1898 to October 15th 1924, Aggrey pursued knowledge and education in America. Through the generous offer of Rev. John Bryan Small a native of Barbados, Aggrey proceeded to America to train to join the Methodist Episcopal Zion Church. Aggrey left for United States, 10th July, 1898, SS “Accra” reaching America a month later. Aggrey describes life-time student, successfully took examinations every year. Aggrey combined good academic attitude with his diligence and hard work raise funds during long vacation to pay his fees.images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910Dr James Emman recounted experience seeking job at publishing firm, “ When I asked for work, they told me they had no work except for a devil. So I begun to black my face more black, easy to do using hand machines. After three weeks, moved to journeyman another threebweeks is made a proof reader.” For his hard work was asked by editors of Charlotte Daily Observer publishing firm to contribute articles to the papers. Mr. H.E.C Bryant, through whose hands his contributions passed noted:“ He’s dark as dark, but very few in America can use English as he can. His articles go in without blue-penciling.” In 1902 Kwegyir Aggrey graduated with B.A honours. He won gold medal for English composition and a second gold medal for general scholarly deportment. In the same year, delivered a Latin salutatory at Commencement in American colleges at close of the term. He earlier delivered first Greek oration heard in the college.images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910In 1912 M.A degree conferred on him by Livingstone College as Hood Theological Seminary Doctorate Degree. Prior to his graduating assisted staff of the College. And when professor, A.B Johnson fell ill, Aggrey worked for him so death of A.B Johnson appointed him after Registrar, Financial Secretary, he taught English Language, Literature, Sociology and Economics. He acted as Treasurer of the college athletic association, was superintended of College Sunday School ordained an Elder of the Zion Methodist Church in 1903. Made Pastor at Miller’s Chapel and Sandy Ridge in 1914. After completing course, College authorities pressed him to stay. Dr. Kwegyir Aggrey always conscious of time, was known by students as a ‘stickler for punctuality.’ Students accused him of ‘putting on the clock.’ They tried to catch him late, but never succeeded. A fellow student and one-time principal, Dr. W.J. Trent wrote:

“His influence at Livingstone, where he taught for more than 20 years was very precious and had a great deal to do with improvement of moral and spiritual conditions of whole college life” In 1917, position of the President of Livingstone College became vacant passed over, many expected, supported him for the post, Dr. Aggrey remained strong. He stated in a letter: “ I believe the Lord has something else in store for me. I am doing my best, patiently waiting until He gets ready for me to go where He leads I follow. Dr Aggrey obtained Philosophy Degree, Divinities in 1923. He returned home to Achimota College as foundation member of staff in 1924, Assistant Vice-Principal, thanks to Governor Guggisbery, who made the foundation of College possible. In 1924, position of President of Livingstone College vacant again and Dr. Kwegyir Aggrey in Gold Coast was invited to take over as President but declined the offer. Committing himself to work as a staff member of Achimota School in Accra. Despite the big disparity between the income offered or one taken at time.XGltYWdlc1xjb250ZW50XGltMXBndHNmZmFfcGhvdG9fMy5qcGd8NDUwfDEwLzI0LzIwMTg= In a letter to a friend, Dr. Aggrey explained his position: “ In the United States, the Livingstone College stands first in my heart. I love her. And God’s choicest blessing attend her. But in the whole wide world my Africa comes first.” It is Aggrey’s contribution to welfare of the Gold Coast in particular and Africa in general helped in three major fields. He served as only African member on two internationally reputed education commissions for Africa. Phelps-Stokes fund Commission, regarded a key-stone to raising the standard of education in Africa. In will dated 1909, Miss Caroline Phelps-Stokes bequeathed her fortune, amounting to almost a million dollars, to trustees with instruction the income be used, inter alias, “for education of Negroes, in Africa and the United States, North American Indian and needy and deserving white students.” Out of this came two Commissions, which toured countries in Africa for fact-finding, on which Aggrey features prominently. It is during this journey Aggrey made a significant impression and underscored importance of education among people who became important figures in Africa including Hastings Kamuzu Banda, later president of MalawiNnamdi Azikiwe, first president of Nigeria, and Kwame Nkrumah, first president of Ghana. We hear of Aggrey in Sierra Leone, Liberia, September, 1920. Gold Coast, October to November, 1920. Nigeria, Fernando Po November, December 1920. Cameroon, December 1920, Belgian Congo January 1921, Angola January to February 1924, Kenya, February to March 1924, Uganda March 1924, Tanganyika and Zanzibar March, April 1924, Nyasaland Rhodesia in April to June 1924, South Africa again in June 1924, Again Gold Coast October, 1924. In a letter to his wife, wrote about his work on the commission. He said the characteristic of Christian is to do more than he is commanded to do. He added:
“I can bear witness turning the right check wins ultimately. Rightly does
Shakespeare make the critical Iago, Shakespeare’s consummate satan critic of critics, pay sweet-souled Desdemona most excellent tribute: ‘She holds it a vice in her goodness not to do more than is requested.’ … I go forth, Rose, first to serve my God, our God Who has appeared to me by
the side of the mountain and asked me to go lead my people away from Egypt, ignorance and maltreatmet, I go to serve my people.” While visiting Kenya, Commission recommended four separate Education Advisory Committee for racial groups in Kenya: Europeans, Arabs, Indians and Africans. They steer educational development for each race until independence. So recommended rural education and industrial training. The recommendations were adopted in 1925, Jeans School, Kabete opened to train artisans. In South Africa delivered a lecture used, keys of piano as image of racial harmony: “I don’t care what you know; show me what you can do. Many of my people who get educated don’t work, but take to drink. They see white people drink, so they drink too, imitate weakness of white people, but not their greatness. They won’t imitate a white man working hard. If you played only the white notes on a piano you get only sharps; if play only the black keys you get flats; but if you play two together you get harmony and beautiful music”
Dr Aggrey so much impressed the white settlers at public lectures his audience wildly admiringly exclaimed that:images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910“Damn his colour, he’s a saint.” His idea of education was “All inclusive” type, “Secular education” abhorrent to him; education is full development of human personality. “Education” he said, “Does not mean simply learning. it means training the mind, in morals hand helps to make socially efficient. Not simply three R’s but the three H’s the head, the hand and the heart.” He wanted all-round training for girls and boys “No race or people can rise half slave, half free, surest way to keep a people down is educate men, neglect the  women. If you educate a man you educate an  individual, if you educate a woman you educate family nation.” 
On University education, said it should combine the best of east with best of the west, the best of Africa with the best of Europe, Asia and America. “Encourage original thinking, encourage research, helps add to human knowledge. West Africa proved we get classics, theology, philosophy, masters in jurisprudence and dialectics. The question is, can we turn knowledge more and more into the service of common weal? Can we give back with interest what we received? I believe, we can. University Education is to prove what scientific training can do. University education should aim to give women, training co-education to subdue the earth. Training for character: that is Christian: Christianity not Church going.
In United States, greatly helped needy negroes at the mercy of money lenders by encouraging formation Co-operative Farmers’ Association, Farmers Unions Credit Union Banks, and agricultural enterprises to relieve negro’s financial embarrassment. On return to the Gold Coast, while a staff at Achimota, sought permission of Director of Agriculture and toured length and breadth of Gold Coast, preaching same ideals. The result was output and quality of farmers’ crop in twenties improved radically. As an advocate for inter-racial co-operation, Aggrey contributed to cause of peace. So his ideas based on bi-racial grouping, stood for civic pride, social betterment, taking pride in own race but seeking friendly relationship with all races. This was radical opposite view of ultra-racial group of thinkers of ultra-conservative school of intellectuals of Marcus Garvey described a great champion. Aggrey always urged his people to be proud of their race and colour. He believed they should remain distinct because of their definite particular contribution makes harmony of mankind. Amalgamation of no conflict, but co-operation is Aggrey’s ideal. He expressed example Piano Keys
“You can play a tune of sorts on the black keys, and play a tune of sorts on the white keys, but for harmony you must use both black and the white.”
 “True co-operation “involves certain measure of equality of opportunity, if not actual political status. It means each side has something to contribute more than braun one side, brain on other seek well-being of both.”

Aggrey noted for hundreds conferences attended, acted as president, secretary, leading member, represents university, sometimes church, sometimes Africa in
general. Too numerous to be listed, but a few mentioned: National Conference of Methodist Episcopal Church Foreign Missions Conference of North America, Kennedy School Mission Conference, School of Theology, School of Religious Pedagogy, Congregrational Missionary Society Conference, First Congregation Church of Jersey City Conference, And Eastern Union of Students Volunteers Conference, National Conference of Canadian students and International Convention of the Students Volunteer Movement Conference, and British West Africa Congress. Aggrey did not have everything smooth. He suffered many perils, but did his best to overcome them all. He escaped shipwreck October 17th, 1925, as he and Mrs. Aggrey sailed in SS “Cedric” for America. Earlier, July 1925, he experienced his real baptism of fire while away in Koforidua in Eastern part of Gold Coast during long vacation. “All things stolen including 9 suits, 25 shirts, trunks, brandnew suitcase and 6 pounds 11 shillings in cash. Left one old trunk and visiting cards, lost very heavily and never restored valuables stolen, much less those above value. I determined not to give up but moved on to success.”Big blow to him and his family, Aggrey, recorded the financial troubles, mortgaged house in America and furniture for 500 pounds mortgagor wished it redeemed; further related that to raise funds to redeem it, Aggrey sold his farm together with other property at a considerable loss lost over NC 3,400.00 on the transaction. But a man always in good spirits nothing depressed him and
had unexhaustible fund of wise saying, a few recorded as a matter of interest:
“I am proud of my colour; whoever is not proud of his colour is not fit to live.“Keep your temper and smile,” “that’s what Jesus meant when he told men to turn other cheek. “I have no time for revenge that’s not African “Some white people be transformed to negroes for a few days to feel what we feel and suffer what we suffer.” If I find a man scowling at me, I smile back. He scowls again I smile. I don’t find anyone scowl third time.” Some people go to war; we choose to love; some people hate we sing; some angry we take to laughter; some despair; we hope. Patrol bloodhound wants to get you, can’t run as fast as bloodhounds; what can you do, blacks? In darkest night when everybody despaired, we look and sang, long before our white brothers thought of airplane, ‘Swing Low, Sweet Chariot, coming for to carry me Home. I tell southern people of America, with whom I lived over twenty years of contribution towards solving race problem and civilization of Africa. They live side by side with us, know our faith, our loyalty, our honesty, sensitiveness; know things we prize most is knowledge used for extension of God’s Kingdom.”images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910“No first class educated African turns into a White man. An Educated black wants to be first class black not third class European. Superiority complex is a tremendous mischief of whites in Africa. If worried I go on my knees to talk to God in my own language. And laughing is the way throughout life. It is the positive side of Christ’s law of peaceful resistance.” I prefer to be a Spokesman for my entire country: Africa, my Africa.” “You never beat prejudice by frontal attack because mere emotion is the root of it. Always catch more flies with molasses than with the vinegar. I receive kicks from both sides white and black. But all is in a day’s work. Don’t be surprised.” For Only the best is good for Africa.”  Aggrey was a far-sighted man. Those who doubted his words lived to see the truth in the end. He compared Africa to Sleeping Beauty, asserted his confidence in her future she would one day wake up to find herself very important in the comity of nations. This in a letter to Dr. Jesse Jones, a highly reputed American minister of religion a great intellectual, Aggrey’s great friend. “It seems to me,” to Dr. Jones in September, 1919, “this is psychological moment for Africa. and I believe you are destined metaphorically to stoop down and kiss Sleeping Beauty Africa back to life from her centuries of sleep.” Dr. Jones confessed what Aggrey said seemed gross exaggeration to him; “they were fantastic imaginations of an emotional African. I believe in Aggrey, I could not share his forecasts.” But came to see Aggrey was right looking back on the gratifying results that followed the Commission, wrote; “In answer to my own doubts and in acknowledgement of my error, I here record that Aggrey’s dreams have come true with almost miraculous accuracy. Signs of the future indicate that they will continue in their realization until Aggrey’s Africa will take its place amongst the continents of the world.”Aggrey, for all his greatness, was a man of simple life even when the Headmaster of the most outstanding school in his time in 1895. He always washed his own clothes although his younger brother, Awir, “as soon as he began clerkship, employed a laundress.”
While in America as a professor, in spite of illness he preached four times every Sunday.“I did not want to disappoint the public, so I told sickness to hold off for a day, and Monday it returned with a vengeance.” He was a man full of humour, one whose sense of humour captivated and subdued the intentions of his enemies. Once, as Assistant Vice-Principal, at Achimota, he proceeded to Sierra Leone to represent the College at the Centenary Celebrations of Fourah Bay College, Sierra Leone. The situation was delicate, but occasion important. Aggrey had friends in Freetown, some of his friends, others looked askance at Achimota. Fourah Bay College occupied the pre-eminent position in West Coast. Graduates everywhere in West Africa in academic high education in West Africa.images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910Dr James Emman affiliated to Durham University in Great Britain. Achimota was not first nor second college in Gold Coast looked on as upstart; ideals unlike Fourah Bay ideals. Aggrey expected to attend conference at Fourah Bay College as a spokesman of a serious competitor Achimota. Its feared would be mobbed and killed. It required tact, shrewdness, and intelligence, Aggrey’s alone. He got up and started, “My case reminds me of young girl who returns home from a party and told her father a young man kissed her. Her father said, “how many times did he kiss you? She looks in his face replies: “Father, I came to confess not to boast.” He came “not to boast of Achimota, but confess a debt Achimota, Gold Coast owed to Fourah Bay College. Fourah Bay College stand in Gold Coast is a symbol of African’s educational capacity.” It records “after the speech every door and every heart was open to him”. Between November 19th to December 4th, delivered twenty-four speeches. “Aggrey the Great” is said about his family or private life married to a young pretty and learned American a Miss Rosebud Douglas of Portsmouth, USA. Wedding took place on November 8th, 1905, at Portsmouth. In five years of marriage, three children born to them, namely, Abena Azalea (1907), Kwegyir (1908), and Rosebud (1910). On 24th July, 1926 a fourth child born as Orson Rudolf Guggisberg. Aggrey was a great lover of children, and took great pains to train his children, advising them on how to be careful in life as his end was drawing near. Aggrey, a co-founder of Achimota College, first in examinations he took; holder of  degrees of Master of Arts (Livingstone College), Doctor of Divinity (Hood Theological Seminary), Master of Arts (Columbia), Doctor of Philosophy (Columbia holder of many diplomas, joined staff of Achimota in July, 1924. He left for America in July, 1926, returned in November that year. Achimota (Gold Coast) his dream, was formally opened on 28th January, 1927, in May that year he left for England and America died 30th July of pneumococcal meningitis. His death was sad but great affair; was mourned in all continents. Two thousand mourners, white, black, attended the service in auditorium of Livingstone College. Bishop W. J. Walls conducted the service, tributes paid by many dignatories, including Dr. W.H. Goler, ex-President of  College, Professor Branley of Shaw University, Dr. Jesse Jones, Bishop W.W. Jones, Dr. George E. Davis of the State Department of Public Instruction, Dr. S. G. Aikins, President of the Teachers’ College at Winston-Salem.

Birth: 1875, Ghana
Death: Jul. 30, 1927
New York, USA

Son of Kodwo Kwegyir Aggrey & Abna Andua, he was born in Anamabu, Ghana, West Africa.Married Rosebud “Rose” Douglass on November 8, 1905Father of: Abna Azalea (Aggrey) Lancaster(1907-1997)
Kwegyir Aggrey (1908-1986)
Rosebud Douglass Aggrey (1910-1990)
Orison Rudolph Aggrey (1926- )

The honorary pall-bearers were all white citizens of Salisbury: Mr. E.C. Gregory the exMayor, A.L. Smoot, Mr. J.M. McCorkle, Mr. A Buerbaum, Mr. W.H. Leonard and Mr. J.C. Kasler. In Europe, Africa, Asia, America and Australia similar ovations and last respects were offered in his honour: and in the Gold Coast (the land of his birth), every town and village observed his death by weeping and mourning.
For that was the physical end of the man everybody loved, the man who apparently never had an enemy, and the man whose talent and virtues were admired by all classes of the society.
The Aggrey Students’ Society, formed in April, 1928, in America and the Gold Coast, and the Aggrey House, Achimota (Ghana), together with millions of Africans and Europeans who admire his noble achievements will always make Aggrey immortal, and inspire those of later generations to further greatness.

Anomabo beach source:

Dr J E Kwegyir Aggrey is Special

By Professor Felix I D Konotey-Ahulu

‘Only the best is good enough for Africa. My people of Africa, we were created in the image of God, but men have made us think we are chickens, and we still think we are, but we are eagles. Stretch forth your wings and fly! Don’t be content with food of chickens’.  Dr J E Kwegyir Aggrey.
When, at dawn, 50 years ago on Independence Day, Kwame Nkrumah uttered the following memorable words, ‘A greater than Aggrey is here!’ few considered that statement a hyperbole. Admittedly, Nkrumah had had some ground prepared for him by yesteryears’ freedom fighters, and by the Big Five who invited him become the Big Sixth, to lead the struggle for Independence, but the way he rallied the population to achieve the seemingly impossible, namely the translation of Colonial Gold Coast into Self Governing Ghana, placed him in the history books. No mean Feat! However, the mere fact that Nkrumah found it necessary to link his achievement to the name of Kwegyir Aggrey, proved Kwame Nkrumah, held Dr Kwegyir Aggrey in greatest esteem.
Mount Everest. Ghanaian see, Kwame Nkrumah considered justifiably Mount Everest, Kwegyir Aggrey is delegated to Second Highest Peak in the Himalayas of national and international esteem. Inspiration-wise, Kwegyir Aggrey has no rivals, for Kwame Nkrumah inspired nations, Aggrey inspired internationals, including Kwame Nkrumah when he was a student at Achimota College. Read and see, New African Survey highly respected London-based international journal, New African, with a worldwide readership of more than 200,000 results of a 12-month long survey regarding who the readers thought were ‘THE 100 GREATEST AFRICANS OF ALL TIME’. The Editor asked readers to state why they voted as they did. Commenting on votes, and attached reasons show why they voted as they did, New African’s brilliant Editor Mr Baffour Ankomah, said ‘The total shows Nelson Mandela is No. 1 Greatest African of all time closely followed by Nkrumah ‘Ankomah says in some respect ‘results disappoint’ (New African August/September 2004, page 14). Readers voted 5 Ghanaians, 2 (Yaa Asantewa & Kwame Nkrumah) late Kofi Annan, Abedi Pele, in their list, giving their reasons for their choice -reasons published order of merit.images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910I read list I shared Baffour Ankomah’s disappointment wrote letter to Editor, published in very next issue, October 2004, page 4. Aggrey Of Africa surprised to find my name among “100 Greatest Africans of all time” more surprised Aggrey of Africa not mentioned at all, made me agree with comment (New African August/September 2004) ‘in certain respects results disappointing.’ I make two pleas: First, replace it by Dr James E K Aggrey to write article issue of New African to help readers world-wide to realise why a great man called ‘Aggrey of Africa’, unknown by many today.  Felix I D Konotey-Ahulu, London, UK page 50 of same October 2004 issue of the magazine, the Editor published article reproduced around date plaque was unveiled at Anomabo in honour of Dr Kwegyir Aggrey and others who made Ghana proud. The man Dr James Emman Kwegyir Aggrey the title ‘Aggrey of Africa’ but he was early 20th Century phenomenon. I first heard of his name from my father decades ago. Aggrey was born 15 miles from Cape Coast, at Anomabo, in Ghana on 18th October 1875. His father Prince Kodwo Kwegyir, chief linguist in court of King Amonu V of Anomabo, and mother Abena Andua, was a princess of Ajumako. Aggrey’s father was also an expert goldsmith.
At 22, Aggrey left for the USA to pursue further studies. Racial prejudice, known then as ‘Colour Bar’ at its worst, went to ‘Negro’ Colleges. The Americans were surprised at his knowledge of English. A Mr H E C Bryant was to remark: ‘He is dark as dark, but very few in America can use English as he can.’ Aggrey took Masters in 1912, awarded a Doctorate of Divinity by Hood Theological Seminary. His sermons amazed white and black Americans alike. Married Rose Douglass African American Portsmouth, Virginia, on November 8 1905, and they had two girls and two boys [Abena, Kwegyir, Rosebud, Rudolph]. Orison Rudolph Guggisberg Aggrey, last born became a diplomat in the U S Foreign Service and worked in Senegal, Romania. Phelps-Stokes an American lady, Miss Caroline Phelps-Stokes, in her Will dated 1909, bequeathed $1 m (a huge sum in those days) to Trustees to be used mainly ‘on the education of Negroes, in Africa and United States, North American Indians, needy deserving white students. And so Commissioners appointed to do the groundwork, and Aggrey was included among all-white members. This enabled him to return to tour Africa twice in four years. Wherever he went, Aggrey was in demand to speak, advise, and preach. He found the ‘Colour Bar’ as vicious on his continent as in USA, was remarkably equipped to deal with it.images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910In the Belgian Congo, the governor left him out when he invited Commission to dinner! In Angola, when Aggrey saw the treatment of the Portuguese masters to labourers in the forced labour gangs, he wept. In South Africa In South Africa alone, Aggrey addressed audiences 120 times. On one occasion when the hall was packed in Cape Town and Aggrey arrived, the white gate keeper refused to let him in. Calmly, and in a dignified voice, Aggrey said: ‘It is me they are all gathered to hear’. Still gate keeper was recalcitrant, while others filed past him into the hall, until the white chairman of meeting, becoming anxious, rushed out to look for Aggrey. He discovered he was being obstructed. Aggrey was given a standing ovation. In Pretoria, trying to board train to lecture, was pushed out, offered two professorships on the spot; one at Fort Hare, and the other at South Africa College. People listened to him with amazement. USA and Canada
before Phelps-Stokes Commission tour again of Africa, Aggrey lectured in USA and Canada. His ex tempore lectures followed by a series of questions, once Dutch South African minister shed tears at shame of horrors of race problems. It was during a lecture in Canada Aggrey made one of his great statements: ‘Only the best is good enough for Africa.’ And for second Phelps-Stokes Commission In January 1924, Aggrey sailed from New York for England to join Phelps-Stokes Commission to go to the places in Africa they had not visited before – Abyssinia, Kenya, Uganda, Tanganyika,  Zanzibar, Nyasaland, Rhodesia, South Africa and Gold Coast. After hearing him lecture on second visit to South Africa, white man exclaimed; ‘Damn his colour, the man is a saint!’ Fraser, Guggisberg said, Aggrey is a great educationist, as he wished to be when young. By an amazing stroke of fortune, met two great white men with whom he co-founded Achimota College in Accra, Rev A G Fraser and Sir Gordon Guggisberg and colonial governor. Rev Fraser want best for Africa, Guggisberg, so rare colonial governors, recognised potential of black man started building Takoradi Harbour, Korle Bu Hospital, Achimota College School. Rev Fraser the Principal and Aggrey Assistant vice-Principal. Colonial Office London object to making a black man vice-Principal in a college called Prince of Wales College.images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910Aggrey’s Vision Co-education persuaded Governor Guggisberg college to be co-educational. Aggrey said: ‘The surest way to keep people down is educate men to neglect women. If you educate a man you educate an individual but if educate a woman you educate family.’ He stressed education encourage ‘original thinking, research adds to human knowledge. We in West Africa prove we can get classics, theology, and philosophy. We are great masters in jurisprudence and dialectics. The question is to turn knowledge into a service of common wealth. His original thinking and character Training shows
Aggrey held essential part of education, training mind encourage good character and be original. Aggrey thinks on his feet. He was not a robot ‘by heart’ man amazed his audience white and black. Lectures brilliantly gives a deep thought to topic carefully prepared for sole aim of making impression at question time after lecture knew he would be quizzed. Aggrey is even more brilliant after the lecture. His knowledge is encyclopaedic. Co-operation in right measure Aggrey believed in co-operation which involved equality of opportunity. ‘It means each side has something to contribute more than brawn on oneside, brain on other  to well being of both’. [Please read that again; I love it!] Hence his famous piano keys illustration on badge of Achimota School. ‘You can play a tune of sorts on black keys only, and you can play a tune of sorts on white keys, but for perfect harmony, you must use both black and white keys’, Aggrey said. Co-operation is calling for with whites and blacks not that between an ass and rider. Think of his piano keys illustration depicting the black key and Fraser and Guggisberg white keys managed to achieve brought Achimota School. Aggrey’s humility is worth mentioning took his fellow Fante, Rev Anaman, by surprise by polishing Anaman’s shoes as he spent weekend with him. On sea voyage to South Africa ship’s white steward insisted separating Aggrey from the white people by giving him his own table far away from every body to embarrassment of colleagues, Aggrey later remarked: ‘They thought they were punishing me, but who else had a table all by himself?’images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910Dr James Emman Aggrey’s Ambition for Africa Kwegyir Aggrey’s burning for his continent described enigmatic, pointing out its shape on map posing question of ambition is demonstrated in following story he narrated: A certain man went through a forest seeking any bird he might find. He caught a young bird, brought it home, and put it among his fowls and ducks and turkeys, and gave it chicken’s food to eat. Five years later, a naturalist came to visit the man, and noticed the bird. He said to the owner; ‘Look here, is an eagle, not a chicken.’ The man replied ‘Yes, you may well be right, I trained it to be a chicken. It is no longer an eagle; it is a chicken though it is enormous’. Said naturalist: ‘No, it is an eagle, it has the heart of an eagle, and I shall make it soar high to the heavens’. The owner comes back with a retort: ‘No, it is now a chicken, and it will never fly.’ They agreed to test it. The naturalist picked up the bird, held it up, and said loudly: ‘Eagle, you are an eagle; you belong to the sky and not down here. Stretch out your wings and fly’ and he hurled the bird up. The eagle turned this way and that looking down, saw chickens eating, and came to join them. The owner said: ‘I told you it is a chicken.’ ‘No’, said the naturalist, ‘This bird is an eagle. I shall come back and prove this to you’. The exercise was repeated three times, with same result. The bird always came back to feed with chickens. The naturalist yet again on a hill held bird up, pointing it to the rising sun and shouted, ‘Eagle! You are eagle; you do not belong down here. You belong to the sky stretch forth your wings and fly!’ The eagle looked round, as if new life was filling it, and it stretchedits wings, and with the screech of an eagle mounted higher and higher, never returned. It was really an eagle, though kept and tamed as chicken! ‘My people of Africa’ Aggrey ‘are created in image of God, but men make us think we are chickens and think we are, but we are eagles. Stretch out your wings and fly! Don’t be content with food for chickens.’ Opening of Achimota College Final Journey Achimota School in 1927, Aggrey went to USA lectures, preaching complete book in Columbia University. Fell ill 30 July 1927 from meningococcal meningitis in New York, died quickly. Great lamentation was made on both sides of the Atlantic. Tributes included one his best friends, Dr Jesse Jones. The honorary pall bearers carried his coffin were all white citizens of Salisbury, USA a real token of Aggrey’s influence in the community in days of ‘Colour Bar.’ He is source of immense inspiration by ability to inspire African. At the Aggrey House in Achimota, Aggrey Memorial Chapel, and the country has an Aggrey-Fraser-Guggisberg Lecture series. There is an Aggrey Memorial School, a Kwegyyir Aggrey Annual Prize Examination at the University of Cape Coast, linked to the Personal Distinguished Professorship graciously bestowed on me a Professor Samuel K Adjepong, Vice Chancellor. We must not forget Kwegyir Aggrey. Kwame Nkrumah’s states ‘A greater than Aggrey is here’ history established Nkrumah as great judging not only from blow dealt Colonialism but from the way he made Black Diaspora proud. African voters place Kwame Nkrumah second to Nelson Mandela, in their list of ‘ONE HUNDRED GREATEST AFRICANS OF ALL TIME’ indicating he is really great. James Emman Kwegyir Aggrey is rather special, inspiration lengthens with time: Apart from inspiring Nkrumah himself, Kwegyir Aggrey inspired and taught D A Chapman Nyaho, who inspired, taught K B Asante, who inspired and taught me Physics in Achimota School me, who (I’m told) inspired my students, who in turn are inspiring their students.images-James_Emman_Kwegyir_Aggrey_814477910Dr Kwegyir Aggrey’s inspiration chain progresses. His name is yet alive. Search name ‘Kwegyir Aggrey’ on Internet, and you find man marches on. Anomabo. Its most fitting, as reported by Ghana News Agency, Jan. 8 2007 ‘Memorial plaques to honour 3 heroes of Anomabo by great contributions made to the country, be unveiled on February 24, by President John Agyekum Kufuor as part of Golden Jubilee Celebration of nationhood. Dr Kwegyir Aggrey, visionary philosopher educationist, George Ekem-Ferguson, celebrated surveyor credited by survey of area that became the Gold Coast, and Nana Amoonoo V, Anomabo chief, who led traditional rulers in Colony to sign the Bond of 1844’. We say ‘Ayekoo!’ to Anomabo Association and Traditional Area, Paramout Chief and the Chiefs for bringing this to pass. Gratitude: Kwegyir Aggrey’s Relatives in USA: 4 surviving generations of Kwegyir, Rose Aggrey’s relatives living in USA today. Rudolph, last of 4 children is alive, has daughter Roxane Rose Aggrey not married. The middle children Kwegyir and Rosebud Douglass Aggrey had no children. Abna Azalea Aggrey Lancaster the eldest of childen of Kwegyir & Rose Aggrey, had three girls Raemi Rosemarie Lancaster Evans, Carol Aggrey Lancaster Meeks, and Harriet Azalea Lancaster Graves [Generation-3 from Kwegyir Aggrey & Rose as Generation-1]. Raemi, married to Fred M Evans, and have a son Fred and daughter Janine [Generation-4] both with 2 children each [Generation-5] – Janine & Guanah Davis’ are Adria Marie & Lauryn Janine, while Fred & Evette Evans’ are called Kristen Maria and Fred Junior. Abna’s middle girl, Carol has a daughter Abigail who is married to Stewart Mitchell II, and they have just had another Generation-5 offspring, Stewart Mitchell III. Now, Harriet is married to Hubert C Graves, and have a daughter called Meredith Patrice Graves. I took note that Carol’s full name is Carol Aggrey Lancaster Meeks. Speaking to her on the telephone across The Atlantic, it was as if I felt the genetic acoustics of Aggrey of Africa percolating down the generations to me. They are all very, very, grateful that we in Ghana are remembering, in Golden Jubilee Year, Y/our beloved beloved James Emman Kwegyir Aggrey’s dearly beloved Rose. So am I.
BY:Felix I D Konotey-Ahulu, Kwegyir Aggrey Distinguished Professor of Human Genetics, University of Cape Coast, Ghana