Briggs recollected in her landmark 1971 book “Never in Anger,” about how calm and collected everyone was jarcontrast that created against her own unruly emotions. Even when some truly rage-worthy things happened like a teapot falling and smashing against floor the Inuit never betrayed a hint of anger. An “Emotional control is highly valued among Eskimos,” she wrote in the book. Indeed, maintenance of emotions under trying circumstances is essential sign of maturity, of adulthood.” Why so calm, she wondered? And more importantly, how can the rest of us get there? For the answer, Briggs looked to how children responded in difficult circumstances appeared to be something they learned from their parents. An simple parenting technique of Inuit is “Never scold child.” It became clear to Briggs when a young boy threw rock at her, related in a CBC interview, she didn’t berate him angrily, rather told him calmly it hurt. Instead of rage she told him real consequences of his actions caused her pain. Decades later, the writer Michaeleen Doucleff followed in Briggs’ footsteps in visiting Iqaluit, Canada, “in search of parenting wisdom. Said that teaching children to control their emotions is very important she writes in NPR. Doucleff found that a common strand among Inuit parents is: Across the board all mothers mentioned One Golden Rule: Don’t shout or yell at small children.”Among Inuit Arctic community Doucleff found the people practiced the theory that screaming at a child only teaches the child to scream. It is a vicious circle, the University of Pittsburgh researcher Ming-Te Wang noted in a 2013 study. “It is tough call for parents because it goes both ways: the problem behaviours of children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline. That harsh discipline may push adolescents toward the same problem behaviours.” The Inuit society seems to have learned lessons long ago, and managed to break the cycle. And so “Traditional Inuit parenting incredibly is nurturing, gentle, tender,” as Doucleff writes. “If you took all parenting styles around the world and ranked them by their gentleness, Inuit approach would likely rank near the top.” What kind of children does that society produce? The kind who live harmoniously in world’s harshest climates often with threadbare resources. Survival hinges on making the most efficient use of natural world yet group still manages to be at peace with itself and with others. Maybe that’s because it’s also the kind of society that teaches kindness above all else. Jesus said do not let the sun radiate or set on your anger. Let it go for peace of mind.
A 5 years old Lina Marcela Medina de Jurado is the YOUNGEST MOTHER IN WORLD HISTORY. So talk to CHILDREN about pregnancy as a result of a sexual intercourse unaware of as too young to be told details of life. Boys and girls can be taught in a sensible way to educate them in advance. Born in 23 September 1933 the Peruvian CHILD is youngest confirmed mother in medical history at 5years, 7months, and 21 days. She later married spouse Raúl Jurado in 1970s so had 2 children. Was born and lived in Ticrapo, Castrovirreyna Province Peru. Her parents are a silversmith Tiburelo Medina and Victoria Losea. Taken to a hospital by her parents at the age of five years due to increasing abdominal size, thought is tumor but doctors confirmed she was in her seven months pregnant. Dr Gerardo Lozada took Medina to Lima specialists who confirmed pregnancy. It generated interest in case developed so girl’s expected visit to the U.S. university scientific facilities as San Antonio Light newspaper Texas reported 16 July, 1939.Peruvian national obstetrician/ midwife association wanted the girl to be transported to a national maternity hospital. Lozada made films of Medina for scientific research shown on the 21 April address, Peru’s National Academy of Medicine. A month and half later she gave birth by caesarean section to boy due to her small pelvis. The surgery was performed by Lozada, Dr Busalleu, with Dr Colareta providing anaesthesia. The doctors who performed caesarean to deliver her baby found she had mature sexual organs of a precocious puberty. Her case was reported by Dr. Edmundo Escomel in medical journal La Presse Médicale, including detailed menarche at eight months of age. Some said she had regular periods since three years old, according to others at two and half years old. Medina’s son weighed 2.7 kg (6.0 lb; 0.43 st) at birth, named Gerardo after her doctor. Gerardo was raised as Medina’s sister, but found out at the age of 10 she was his mother. Medina never reveals father of child or circumstances of her impregnation sits here with son.
Escomel said that she might not know as Medina ‘didn’t give precise response.’ Lina’s father was arrested on suspicion of child sexual abuse but released due to lack of evidence so biological father was never identified. Her son grew up healthy and died in 1979 at 40 years old. Medina worked as a secretary in Lima clinic of Lozada who gave her education and put her son through high school. Medina married Raúl Jurado, who fathered second son in 1972. In 2002, they lived in a district of Lima, “Chicago Chico refused interview with Reuters. A lot of doctors verified biopsies, X rays of fetal skeleton in utero, and photographs taken by doctors caring for her around beginning of April 1939 of Medina at 7-and-half months pregnant with left side standing naked published. In 1955, effects of a precocious puberty shows the five-year-old girl could conceive a child. Extreme precocious pregnancy in children aged five or under is not well documented as Medina. A study shows precocious children at four hormones acting sexually seductive but treated to keep them under control. The lesson is parents do not feel embarrassed to talk about sex to children or to assume they are too young to understand. The details of birth in documentaries on TV with so much information highway children are aware. Educate children early about the private body parts and prevent sexual ignorance and naive pregnancies of the children having children.
Paedophiles from word paedophilia in Greek παῖς, παιδός (paîs, paidós) means “child”and φιλία (philía) “friendly love” or “friendship.” Paedophile is a pervert with exclusive sexual interest in young children aged 15 or younger. Abuser misconstrues it as ‘love’ to rape children but its lust not love. A sexually abused child is innocent, too young, too naive, incapable of understanding the emotional damage consequences of abuser’s mind control manipulations. Stockholm syndrome grooming uses lies to deceive child as, “special” “chosen” told “family does” not love them by rogue priests or bishops and cardinals sworn to secrecy. Church goers molested by their trust in them to invest in their faith in God. The child rapist takes advantage of genuine agape love of the innocent children who don’t know about adult sexual abuse. In the name of “love” paedophiles wrongly think its “childlove.” Word Paedo, ‘child’ + philos ‘love’ is sexual abuse disguised as ‘love’ camouflages masquerading adult embedded in family wedged between innocent children and family. Pervert seduces children by stirring an unsuspecting sexual feeling preserved for adult legal age for sex. This addictive attachment misleads the child to “fall in love” with predator for abuse. Child lacks frontal brain cortex of logical reasoning skill to understand the risk or the full consequences of their actions. They mimic their molestor deceiving them and infused by distorted perception of “love” makes the innocent child loyal to the predator. But does not realise the deception is not normal. Join with impudence in secrecy of ignorance as it appears normalised by interaction in family feel guilty by association to let go of abuser. Truly think they “love” abuser but the child is unaware of damage so defends abuser even more seemingly ‘loved’ and adored by them and others. Abuser uses fear tactics and tears to lure a child to sympathise influencing their thought process by brainwashing. Their “love” is overshadowed by denial to protect each other from a perceived threat of society to ruin their exclusive ‘love’ attachment. Genuine, natural, caring agape affection of children is sound foundation of God’s LOVE but the pervert takes advantage of them. An innocent child is ignorant of sex, unaware of motives of child rapists. God’s LOVE if practiced in truth without perversion is the best gift child receives to grow in confidence and thrive. Sadly innocent naive child thinks their love is based on equal, sincere affection. They assume abuser’s exclusive love for them is unique, so special but ‘love’ interest is for sexual abuse. They exploit innocent children who know nothing about sex but love attention. Leads to intimacy as misled for selfish sexual gratification by abuser. Genuine love of child perceived by distorted twisted pervert as ‘consent’ for sex but its mere normal interaction of family. The caring, loving parent has implicit trust so expects genuine mutual affection of others for their children. Their sincere loving care is duly entrusted to ensure due diligence in the best interest of their child. But the dark web of sexual abuse predators use pornography, undermine seriousness of rape. The trivial attitude towards sexual abuse competition to exchange gross or daring inappropriate photos of sexual abuse perpetrates it.Fear of being exposed or consequences of declaring their evil actions makes an abuser to place guilt on the child to hide their evil deeds. But its a bad move to blackmail the child with the burden of secrets to hold the child to ransom by manipulations. This is a complex web of mixed messages of lust misinterpreted to the child as “love.” And so the children become emotionally attached to adult perpetrators as “good people” who ‘love’ them. Exclusive negative attention to them makes them think they are, “one and only one” in a perverts life unaware other children are told exact same lies to keep hold on them all. Pervert abuses children by their cunning brainwashing power of control due to the insecurity of their mind so not a mutual relationship of two consenting adults. The legal age requires minimum age of consent for sex between adults depending on a country. The child does not know laws forbid sex between adult and children under legal age. The legal sexual age for consent is 18 years in other countries 21 years. Then 5 years old girl is youngest mother in Guinness book of record to get pregnant is reason campaigners of sex education start from five years in primary schools to warn children about sexual abuse. So those children sexually molested knew nothing about sex or the grooming by a pervert who raped them. Adults force a child to keep their ‘little dirt secret’ because they know they will be jailed for raping children but a child must not carry burden of brainwashing.Its important to train the child to wash their own private body parts by three years old. Not touched inappropriately, and to teach them not to be in bedroom, bathroom, anywhere alone without the parent present. They deceive the child to deny allegation but they still continue perversion. The innocent child does not understand impact of abuse until after adulthood. Reed tells the BBC, he hopes his film makes all parents to think twice before entrusting child to strangers and make people think twice about idolising cult of celebrity.” Prepare children not to keep secrets or be a favourite special secret friend no matter how famous or generous. And Reed said, “Celebrity cult is so pernicious and leads people to go blind and parents to do stupid things,” says Dan Reed, the director of the new Michael Jackson documentary. Parents do not know motive of pervert so avoid even the appearance of evil entrusting your child to nobody. Be ruthless not to compromise control of your child by an expensive gifts to distract them from an alertness and their sharp focus. Abuse has occurred hundreds of hundreds of times to Mr Robson and Mr Safechuck as agreed in this case. Mr Robson told the programme: “Every time I was with him, every time I stayed the night with him, he abused me.” Jackson fondled him, “touching my entire body,” made him watch the singer performing a sex act, he said. And then, when he was 14, Jackson had tried to rape him. That was one of the last sexual abuse experiences we had,” Mr Robson told programme.Leaving Neverland, Wade Robson here says Jackson sexually abused him in the 1990s Jackson groomed him to believe they “loved each other as God approves how we show our love” he said. So why use “Jesus juice” laced by alcohol or God knows what, to influence their minds. A True love is public agreement including public approval by loved ones. Anyone taking advantage to rape a child knows they are breaking the law so conceal it. But deceives children to think they love them above all else in the world. “And then he would immediately follow-up with, ‘But If anybody else ever found out what we are doing, you and I would go to jail for the rest of our lives and our lives would fall apart,’ he so I would fall apart,” Mr Robson told programme. “All of this was terrifying to me. “The idea of being pulled away from Michael – this man, this other-worldly figure, this god to me who had become my best friend – no way was I going to do anything that would pull me away from him.” And Mr Robson said Jackson told him “I was his best friend and the only person he ever done these sexual acts with.” Out of all the boys in the world was chosen one, I thought,” he said. Mr Safechuck told the programme his abuse had begun with Jackson teaching him how to perform a sex act, at the age of 10. “Then you start French kissing he said taught him to do that,” Mr Safechuck said. Was followed by further abuse and other sex acts.Mr Safechuck told the program Jackson abused him over a sustained period of time because he successfully groomed his parents. There was a long grooming process where Michael inserts himself into your family and becomes a part of your family,” he said. “It takes him a while to build up the trust so it doesn’t happen overnight.” And he then “makes a wedge between you and your parents to isolate you from everybody else.”
“At the same time when you’re being abused also a part of you is dying,” Mr Safechuck added. Mr Robson described Jackson as a “master manipulator.” He had driven “this wedge between myself and my father, and my mother and my father” to make it easier for the abuse to occur, he told the programme. He also said part of responsibility for the abuse should fall “at the door of other people, all the employees around Michael and me and James [Safechuck] all the time who looked the other way.”‘Very innocent’ Is the response, Michael Jackson’s brothers Tito, Marlon, Jackie, and nephew Taj Jackson who reject the claims in Leaving Neverland broadcast in UK the singer abused children. Taj said his uncle’s behaviour seems odd to some is “very innocent,” adding: “its his naivety that was his downfall.” Marlon said, “not one piece of evidence” backs up allegations. Michael Jackson’s estate, said Mr Robson and Mr Safechuck had previously “testified under oath these events never occurred.” “They provided no independent evidence or absolutely no proof in support of their accusations, which means entire film hinges solely on the word of two perjurers,” it said. A crime of raping children is punished In prison and after release their identity is hidden from the public who may attack or want to kill them. In prison are killed by offenders because it’s most heinous crime against innocent vulnerable child. This is why abuser refuses to admit guilt to the public because they know it will destroy their reputation and relationships with friends and family. They lose status and are hated for molesting children, it is so difficult for sexual predators to admit guilt. Their distorted perception makes them feel rape is justified as a mutual “consent” by the child they raped. Their attitude is, by the parents allowing them to be with child it means they approved of their actions. Why would the grown adult would want to rape a child in the name of love. This is gross misconduct and lack of understanding of purpose of sexual intimacy in the context of loving relationship. The mutual consent of two people without substance abuse to bend the mind of vulnerable victims. The law forbids predators from forcing sex upon others without their permission. But the problem is predators do not understand the rights of other people. So they think they can have whatever they want any time whenever they want. They do not genuinely care about victims as long their selfish pervert actions take place. No pervert admits abuse unless caught red handed so its impossible to witness a concealed sexual abuse hidden from view. Those defending perverts have no clues about that side of their personality so shocked to hear of the horrific rapes by them. The victim is victimized too for daring to speak their truth so refuses to put perpetrators behind bars. They feel guilty for betraying sexual escapades in which they partook. Fearful, ashamed of their reputation being tarnished and unfairly wrongly judged as liars with an agenda of looking for money. Often too embarrassed to reveal the abuse, people do not understand the emotional abuse, nightmares haunting survivors for the rest of their lives. No amount of money of their instigators’ compensation can wipe out trauma of sexual abuse which affects marriage relationship intimacy in adulthood. Perpetrators do not know or realise they upset too many people so their damage destroys the life of victims and families including the perpetrator’s loved ones. This does not mean victims to be prevented from educating others to warn them to be more careful in life. Its wise to seek forgiveness on behalf of loved ones for inner healing and peace.Joyce Meyer, Oprah Winfrey and Maya Angelo, Billy Connelly and Dame Esther Rantzen, all spoke about their sexual abuses suffered, as she revealed for the first time in 2011, publicly talk about it and still manage to be successful in life. Don’t let abuse define your life to hurt yourself. Genesis 34:34 tells of the rape Dinah Jacob’s only daughter to visit Canaanite women. And Shechem son of Hamor, the Hivite and chief of region, saw her and raped her…Prince Shechem disgraced Dinah and Jacob’s sons killed Shechem and whole village for revenge. Shechem wants to marry Dinah, whole village told to circumcise to marry her. The circumcision ploy demobilised the village tricked for Dinah’s violation and brothers Simeon and Levi’s killed men. These brother’s extreme measures for vengeance for their sister Dinah’s rape is done by some people who practice it. The damage done by rape is violation of human rights and emotional damage is a lifetime of trauma. Be aware of consequences of pain for whole familyIn 2 Samuel 13-20, Amnon son of David raped his half-sister Tamar a virgin and Absalom’s sister. She said, do not force me; for such a thing is not done in Israel; do not do anything so vile. But he did not listen to her and stronger than her forced her and raped her. Absalom told Tamar, be quiet do not take it to heart…Tamar remained a desolate woman in brother Absalom’s house in 2 Samuel 13:11-12, 14, 20. Absalom later killed Ammon in revenge. In the past victims told to keep abuse secret because nobody will marry her and it brought shame to the family. In talk show TD Jake’s of Potters House said sexual abuse is so rampart that the question is there anyone not sexually abused? It shows many people dealing with rape and healing comes in Christ Jesus who came to heal broken heated. The Spirit of the LORD God is upon me, because the LORD anointed me and sent me to bring Good News to the oppressed, to heal the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to captives and release prisoners to provide for those who mourn in Zion to give them joy for ashes, oil of gladness for mourning, praise for the fainthearted. Are oaks of righteousness planted by the LORD to display HIS GLORY says Isaiah 61:1, 3. Survivors of rape sexual abuse carry wounds into adulthood but Jesus Christ heals the wounded. Isaiah 61:1,3 brings transformation healing through Redeemer Jesus Christ. God heals so breaks silence with HIS Light of hope to be joyful in life again in Jesus Name.
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God’s social media connection marriage partners were just friends but has more plans confirmed through Pastor Alph Lukau. It is reassuring God watches all things on social media and approves of good things happening but hates all evil things taking place there. God gave this spouse to each other to have and to hold to walk together. Amos 3:3 says, do two walk together unless they agree so both friends agreed before congregation to love each other. This is miracle working God we serve in Jesus Name.
Cooking, washing clothes, cleaning and childcare, tames men who once thought it was only the women’s job. Like most men, Jean Pierre 32 lives in Mwulire in Eastern Province in Rwanda and leaves domestic chores to his wife. Impatient, angry, demands perfection due to lack of awareness that a woman’s job is 24/7 so never ends day or night. He becomes aggressive if his wife did not meet the standards of his expectations so beats her. A grassroots intervention program trying to reduce domestic violence in Rwanda teaches men how to do household chores, and a recent study suggested it has a positive effect on communities. So Muhoza Jean Pierre used to beat his wife because he saw her as someone he married just to have children and and look after them. “I was following example of my father. My father did not do anything at home,” he said. “If ever I came home and found something not done yet I insult her. “I called her lazy, told her she was useless so must go back to her parent’s house.” But something changed after he learnt to cook and clean. It was all part of a grassroots intervention programme in Mwulire village in Eastern Province, Rwanda encouraging men’s domestic roles, including childcare. Jean Pierre says the project called, ‘Bandebereho’ or role model in Kinyarwanda helps tamed and transformed his behaviour. He took part in classes covering everything from cooking and cleaning and discuss how to challenge men’s traditional gender roles. “They asked, if a man can sweep the house, and we would say ‘he can’,” he said. “And then they would ask us: ‘Who among you does that?’ And there was no one.”
Real men shouldn’t cook
Facilitators from ‘Bandebereho’ taught Jean Pierre how to do tasks previously he believed his wife should do. He also added: “We would go home and try to put this into practice. “Then we would go back to training with witnesses who would testify they had observed some changes in us. “I know how to cook. I do laundry for the kids. I know how to peel plantains, I know how to pound dry cassava and sift the flour.” Jean Pierre and his wife have been married for 10 years and never helped her before. And making changes was not easy as Jean Pierre’s friends discouraged him from doing household tasks, telling him: ‘No real man should cook.’ “My family and friends said my wife bewitched me by giving me some magic drugs. They said no genuine man should carry a bundle of firewood in the street because that is for henpecked men,” he said. But Jean Pierre continued when he saw benefits to his family. He says his children feel closer to him and his wife now runs a banana business that has allowed them to improve their home. “The way my wife treats me now is different from the way she used to treat me,” he said. “She used to treat me badly because I was mistreating her too, but now we discuss and agree on things to do. “I set her free, now she is working and I am working too; whereas before I was convinced she had to stay home and be available whenever I would need her.” Fear and little freedom affected Jean Pierre’s wife Musabyimana Delphine who says she used to have little freedom and lived in fear. She said: “Sometimes I felt like a mere worker, and I would remember a worker has a salary. “I never thought a woman can ever have her own money, because I never even had time to think about any activity that generate money. “Now I have enough freedom in house, I go out and work for money like others. Start training young boys now so when they grow up they will help their wife and help look after the children. When both work, it’s a burden on the woman to care for the family or children alone.The ‘Bandebereho’ project taught Jean Pierre to do tasks previously believed his wife should do. Delphine leaves at 5am to sell plantains at a market, while Jean Pierre stays at home and takes care of their four young children. “I come home relaxed and find food ready,” she said. The project’s curriculum originally developed in Latin America by global fatherhood campaign MenCare believes true equality will only be reached when men take on 50% of world’s childcare and domestic work. The research looks into changing men’s attitudes towards family care and traditional domestic. It was soon realised the good impact on men. A study looking at couples taking part in the project found two years after taking childcare lessons in Rwanda men were less likely to use violence against their female partners than those who did not attend the classes. But the study suggested one in three women whose partners took part in the programme still reported experiencing intimate partner violence. National Institute of Statistics of Rwanda, released a data in 2015, around 52% of men in the country were violent towards partners. Rwanda Men’s Resource Centre, which delivered the programme in the country, wants ‘Bandebereho’ to be widely adopted by communities and country’s government. Fidele Rutayisire the chairman of centre, said: “We still have negative social norms, negative masculinity perception cultural barriers as main factors of high violence against women in Rwanda. “Traditionally men don’t take care of children here but men control sex, resources, decision-making. “When men are actively involved in the home they realise sacrifices of women in childcare so their attitude on gender changes positively, they understand the value of gender equality.” Delphine and Jean Pierre said the program benefited their family and the whole community. “We are now on honeymoon, 10 years after our wedding,” said Jean Pierre. If there is conflict or security issue in our neighbourhood our opinion is respected because they see we don’t have problem in our household. Men appreciate and help their wives and not demand they do all the housework or take care of the family, business, Church alone without support of husbands. A happy wife is a happy life and the Bible says love your wife as Christ loved His bride Church and gave His life for you. Timothy says a husband must first look after his family and own household before serving the Church. Don’t neglect your wife and the children in the NAME OF GOD leisurely talking to single women while your wife and children at home suffer. Remember your wife is that same beautiful single woman you married and used her body to give birth to your children. And don’t abandon her for fresh young woman to give birth later to become abandoned as wife. This causes baby mama problems because men want to eat their cake and have it. So wants exclusive attention of wife at the expense of the children some are jealous of. Forget their parents took great care of them as done to children. Grow up and be father to the children to mature a responsible man not manchild depending on wife as mother. For even the Son of Man Jesus did not come to be served but to serve and give His life as a ransom for many says Mark 10:45.
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The research is published in the journal Infant Behaviour and Development. The conflict of interest of the toy companies advertising children playing with many latest toys makes parents feel obliged to buy them for the children not to feel left out. Children display their toys online on social media to compare with each other including the addictive games that stop children learning, doing homework assignments later in college, university or focus at work. Lack attention span or focus from childhood affects the adults today unable concentrate for few hours to complete tasks at hand. Christmas is around and parents must not let a child manipulate them emotionally to buy a toy without teaching them first value of essential basic reading at level. Children can get a few educational toy to reward them to do exceptionally well in a field of academic achievement at school. The development steared towards a specific direction of any future career requires relevant toys to influence natural gifts, talents and abilities. Otherwise parents unintentionally make children victim of success by their ability to buy too many toys they can afford. Just because it is possible to buy things seen on the TV in adverts does not mean it enhances their specific development. Parent knows the children best, whether they are trained experts or not must help child learn not to depend only on school to learn. Early learning through practical play is now rapidly eroded by virtual reality keep children cocooned online. So important to carefully reflect before Christmas on piling up toys to “prove” your “love” of your children to the world overloading them with too many toys. Experience shows most children are just so happy playing with the box, not expensive toys boosting their parents ego. Millennium children are suffering from the lack of a social understanding or interaction due to isolated attachment to toys valued as more precious than engaging with each other. Time consumed worrying about their toy possessions makes them miss out on appreciating fellow human being as adults due to learned behaviour. The competition among children, teenagers over toys leads further to threats of the perceived anger of friends loving them only for their material possessions. The toys must not take over to babysit their children without adult supervision and input. One of the best ways to bond with children is play with them sometimes to help them value the adults in their lives.