hqdefaultDoes looks affect jobs and will your face land you a dream job? Some measure expected standard face as a potential employer to decide whose face best fits the job. This new trend selects mostly females based on their looks or shape of their faces. Some companies go as far as asking for pictures in advance and then measuring faces with tape during their interviews for their required face. This matter is becoming an issue of concern as some do not hear from the employer again after their receiving photos. This way of employing staff members was again in the news. BLcsr71CAAEkR4ySo is this another stereotypical selection method of the beauty considered fit for a workplace? This method is based on facial profiling by face reader’s opinions who claim to predict suitable jobs for specific faces. They are consulted to analyse faces to determine the best face for each job. Is this another underhand tactics and an excuse to discriminate against certain faces? It is possible to send own air brushed picture to look impressive often people send a younger photo than their current looks. 364309F600000578-3689902-image-a-3_1468489483342Are companies being influenced by the modern concepts of what constitutes good looks online in the media as true standard beauty? What about ‘Ugly Betty’ chosen to help her boss from getting distracted by his beautiful secretaries to focus on managing his company. What happens if a company is catfished as happens often in many cases including Sarah who got a job from a university based on her photo of previous youthful years. The university appointed her and on arrival for work turned out to be confronted by an old lady three times her age. Sarah did not indicate her current age to them so it was assumed she looked like the photo sent. At first, the university thought it was a mix up until she confirmed her identity and she enough she was the same person. She was allowed to do the job based on her excellent and genuine track record on her CV qualifications and work history. Sarah although het looks did not affect her job turned out to be a nightmare. Sarah told university zoology director, she must live literary with all the animals in her home. ae840eace1a73d45b1ba4ac9d0668f97Therefore Sarah turned posh university accommodation into animal husbandry for her practical research. Her teaching produced great students so made up for lack of her youthful look Was tolerated to live among her beloved animals till she died unexpectedly. Sarah carried on dutifully for many years but became a victim of her own success. One of the animals bit her while taking him to a vet in her vehicle became infected by rhesus as he carried that disease. IMG_20170720_194117 Sarah dedicated her phenomenal long life collaborating with the university for many years. The university afterwards took the animals to the appropriate zoo set aside for all other animals. Then the house was refurbished and restored for new person employed to fill her place. Sarah was a great character and loyal to her beloved animals and carried on with her zoologist passion to a whole new level. Her presence at university was well-known so she was popular and well loved, one of a kind in that gated community. Her research papers, work was immaculate in both classroom and outside winning many awards. Sarah’s looks and age did not hinder or affect her work in at all. So if the university had based the choice on only superficial or aesthetic looks to reject application, they would have missed out on her skills, talents and practical abilities for many years, as an impressive scientist. So do looks really help in choosing the most competent staff members? Sarah’s job technically did not have age limits in those days so she was able to do her work perfectly well. Sarah did what she loved most so died doing her job carried on faithfully to the end. So is it fair and ethically moral to demand specific looks to determine certain jobs?


proverbs-3-12-god-corrects-us-gold_1398839561The LORD God Almighty corrects those HE LOVES as a father or parents correct the children in whom they delight says the Bible in Proverbs 3:12. God reveals to HIS Children error by love to point out mistakes to reveal the correct way to change for good. Correction is done by God directly or through Jesus Christ the Eraser to wipe out errors to restart correctly to show a person unaware of a mistake due to lack of knowledge. This helps learn from mistakes to improve lives to please God. By doing so the lives transformed grow in righteousness and improves in faith, active listening skills in obedience to God. The person gains useful information previously unknown before. Hebrews 12:6-11 says the LORD chastens, disciplines, scourges all HE LOVES to receive correction to endure to gain better experience in life. God deals with people as individual, family or on corporate basis as required.proverbs-3-12-god-corrects-us-green_1078636053Correction of Bart Simpson is a classic example of the line writing exercise on the classroom board to highlight point of correction. Years ago, schools gave pupils correction exercise books for rewriting misspelt words. Of course, as children unaware of exact right words intended word teachers point mistake to teach learners to write many times in exercise books to help remember the correct words in future. The brain coordinates hand movements with eyes to record words. Repetition of the words written many times forever registers so etched in minds of pupils to remember better. But along came a contemporary educational theory it constitutes abuse to ask children to use repetition method to write lines for correction so avoidedsimpson-i will use google before asking dumb questions

So spell checker was born so people did not memorize words for rote learning for recall. Computers correct the words obviously misspelt but words like “cap” and “cup”or “hat” and “hut” for example though correct, if not in context can be incorrect. Drinking milk in “cap” does not show on spellchecker so the reader must know word “cup” in the first place to edit it. This affects spelling error not dealt still with by computer in modern times. Therefore it is important to teach correct words in academia for life as a whole. The Bible says if you correct wise people and they become wiser and love you but correct mockers and they hate you. Choose correction carefully at right time in right way to help improve lives. Purpose of correction is not to shame a person in a negative way for vengeance to hurt them. People who love and care about you help with any issues affecting you to deal with it by Godly correction, compassion, support, understanding as God disciplines us.  3

Godly discipline is for good so it is not punishment though unpleasant because one is compelled to conform or comply against own rebellious ideas. Proverbs 9:8 warns not to attempt to correct fools because they are offended so hate you. Adapting to change is uncomfortable so may seem harsh to recipient until they benefit when they correct the error. So Correction requires determination by the teacher to help ‘wise’ to be ‘wiser’ as challenge to one doing correction. Their unpredictable nature, response reaction to correction depends on the persona at receiving end. Element of risk means a teacher helps learners to avoid mistakes to help correct them through a training experience. Criticising a person affects correction as attack on ego or pride may refuse help or reject correction. In the long run, over a period of time, people realise an insolent person’s ignorance is caused by fear of change. So help stop the devices of mistakes damaging them. Lack of Frontal Cortex means those in crises do not know how mistakes can impact lives. Sadly, some learn the hard way by self-destruction that could be avoided if only they listened. proverbs3_11-12Through arguments a stiff neck refuses to take instructions so does not realise the errors done to themselves or to their family. Blinded by error mindset, causes havoc by process of fear rebuff or reject correction so avoid a pointed out error altogether for improvement. The theory that correction discourages children in the early years from learning affects the attitude to correction in general. Left to figure things out for themselves, many people are unaware of their mistakes. So it becomes problems affecting their performance if the person is allowed to be left to their own devices. In terms of future career the person carries on into other areas of life. Anyone who points out errors to them other than own ideas is not well received. Although a trainer from experience knows exactly what they are talking about, so foresees error, the learner does not accept help, refuses correction. Yet correction is specifically for their good, well-being of the whole family or work place, community and world in general.Profitable-for-RebukeIf a stubborn person resists wisdom at all cost to defy authority in the name of freedom to do as they please, they miss out on the Spirit of excellence. Realise boundaries of correction helps to learn better ways to protect them from a long winding road of mistakes. Like prodigal son, God forgives and restores the ways of error to rescue the lost or misdirected by the wrong choices they made. Proper correction helps to avoid, prevent worse case scenarios. A person corrected must be educated to visualise or understand benefits of the correction in advance. So learners must be taught advantages of correction to instill value of flexibility, humility to bring changes in learning methods. Correction is not to inflict pain or suffering but guidance to give correct information to the person taught. The teacher must be patient and tolerant because learners do not immediately see what they teachers know. Important to understand a soft stick bends because it is malleable than a hard dry stick. The concept that learners grow up to correct themselves is not always the wise move. As they continue in set ways without an understanding of the impact of previous years without correction. Many adults get offended when genuine people try to guide them to correct errors. Some explode in anger and rage so take anger on others. This even spills over into the others aspects of life treating anyone’s suggestions in good faith as an attack on their character or personality. 54126707d4518b751f9145ee5d192841

Reprove not a scorner lest he hates you, rebuke a wise man and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man so he will be still wiser, teach a righteous man and he will thank you and apply correction in their lives. Correct fools and they take offence. Do not despise chastening of the LORD God; neither be weary of HIS correction. So accept correction for your own goodAccept correction of God by Grace and wisdom of the Holy Spirit to lead you into all truth and teach you. A personal Bible study as a faithful Child of God is part of growth and maturity in the LORD. Start correction of children as early as possible from 2 years old to correct them in love at their level not by anger. Teach children by pointing out correct manner of behaviour as part of life for all to learn. It is imperative to carefully train a child to get rewards for their good behaviour to help reinforce correction. Follow up with apology and hug so child learns to accept teachers doing well to teach child to accept critique of work performance. Children with trained good sense accept correction and even recognise error by admitting error if unnoticed by teacher. A child can politely point out error to a teacher because all are human, so make mistakes in life. The secret is to get up immediately for good success not to feel disheartened by correction. Correction is good as it builds a person up to thrive.


Jesus said many fake pastors and false prophets deceive and mislead people to misdirect genuine faith in God. So Bible forbids practice of occult, black magic, sorcery, consulting dead or astrologers. When you live on land the LORD God gives you do not follow abominations of heathen nations. There shall not be found among you anyone who makes sons, daughters pass through fire or practice witchcraft, or soothsayer or interprets omens or sorcerer, conjures spells or a medium or spiritist or calls up the dead. Or casts spells to hex and curse people because vengeance belongs to God. For all who do these things are abominations to the LORD your God who drives out enemies from before you. You shall be blameless before the LORD your God. For nations dispossessed listened to soothsayers and diviners for you, the LORD your God forbids it in Deuteronomy 18:9–13. Bible says be wise to test the spirits to discern and see if they are from God Almighty through Jesus Christ. The devil thrown out of heaven is determined to fool some people to think following the TRUE GOD. Recruits deceiving spirits to mingle in churches to create deception, confusion, strife, entice, entrap souls to hell. God never forgives devil banned from Eternal life in heaven forever kept in hellfire after 1000 year millennium Reign of Jesus on earth. The devil roams about seeking to recruit to destroy some people to take to hell reserved originally exclusively only for devil and rebellious angels turned demons. So deceives and destroys people using fake counterfeit miracles, signs and wonders or rituals thinking the devil is ‘protecting’ them. Rituals embedded in ‘culture’ accepted as norm without realising abomination sin judged by God. Many in fear of life sent by families consult them for ‘help’ with fertility, childbirth, health, wealth ensnaring souls. God’s miracles mixed with trick potions to people invite devil to take control to own lives to destroy them in the end.

The devil knows the Bible better than some believers to quote verses as he did to Jesus Christ. Jesus already knows the real true words of God so said to devil “it is  written.” The trouble is they do not read, study or know the contents of the Bible or God’s Will concerning their lives. So turn to psychics, palm readers and fake charlatans to tell them what to do in life. They do not seek their creator or maker to help plan their lives but do take advice from such people enriching themselves at the expense of their lack of knowledge. God says HIS PEOPLE perish due to their lack of knowledge of Bible. God lets them delude themselves by thoughts of reprobate imaginations concocted in their minds. The devil is ready to use and abuse them to distract them from the true love of God. There are millions of genuine pastors doing will of God helping, praying interceding, offering practical solutions, sacrificing time to assist genuine believers. But the ones who attend church and still mix belief in fetish in the name of ‘culture’ have one leg in the kingdom of God and another leg in satan’s world. God says to choose today whom you will serve. If you believe in the One true God, belong exclusively to God alone, do HIS WILL ONLY. Cannot hop on one leg in God’s Kingdom or other to devil but stand in God in Christ on both feet and firmly grounded and rooted in Christ Jesus. True Christian believers come totally under new management of Jesus Christ so old things pass away and all things are made new in the BLOOD OF JESUS IN JESUS NAME. So changes take place inside the heart to transform and renew mind in Christ TRANSLATED from the kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of God’s Glorious Marvellous Gospel of Light in Jesus Christ Name. God has not given believers the spirit of fear but of POWER, LOVE AND A SOUND MIND. So repent and serve God in the Strength of God’s WORDS and devil runs from you. Do not seed fetish ‘protection,’ Seek God Almighty Jehovah Nissi to save you for Eternal life forever. Jesus came to save, heal, deliver you from all destructions and works of the devil over your lives in Jesus Name. Trust God completely to do greater work publicly in your life so to testify by BLOOD OF THE LAMB JESUS CHRIST. Remember, the blood of bulls, goats cannot save only THE ULTIMATE SACRIFICE OF JESUS IS ACCEPTABLE TO JEOVAH YAHWEH IN JESUS NAME.


1033.gifWomen have intense close friendships, men tend not to have that according to Professor Dunbar, the Psychologist Professor at Oxford University. Professor Dunbar found women view best friend relationships in between sisters and soul mates. Men tend to see theirs purely in terms of the convenience. He came to this conclusion by exploring how people’s friendship circles changed when they left school for university. So what determined original friendships or whether they survived long-term? Did women make effort to talk more to each other on the phone as explored? And did “talking have any absolute effects on mens’ relationships at all? For men it was doing stuff together that held close friendships together. Doing activities like going to a football match or the pub for a drink, playing five a side was more meaningful to men. They made effort if was such an activity.” He looked at the differences between the sexes and said women clearly have much more intense close friendships than men. Men tend not to have that sort of relationship but they tend to have a group of four men they do such stuff with. So relationship is much more casual. With men it is out of sight out of mind. They just find four more guys to go drinking with.”The cast of Channel 4's university-themed sitcom Fresh Meat The cast of Channel 4’s university-themed sitcom Fresh Meat. This will be familiar to any woman who has had both the pleasure and disappointment of close male friend particularly in their twenties and thirties. At first, things are wonderful. Life is full of great catch ups, and laughter over pints of beer. They listen to your woes and you help them with their woman problems. It is the friendship neither knew needed. Only then, something changes. They start a new relationship. They move to a new postcode really not very far. They get a new job with a ready-made social life. They get a new flatmate. Whatever the change they suddenly have the new set of replacement ready and can’t seem to find the time to meet you for that coffee. You, naively, keep trying. You call them, you send jokey pictures and do exactly what you will do if that was a girlfriend growing distant: bombard her with the attention you wish she was showing you. Except with a male friend, it just does not work. Whether it is nature or nurture, most men simply do not view friendships in the same way as women. Gender is hardly the issue it is practical problem of how much time and effort they put into a platonic relationship. As the study says, there’s always another drinking buddy around the corner. Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis in Friends with BenefitsJustin Timberlake and Mila Kunis in Friends with Benefits. Men reading this may feel unfairly judged. So I put it to a colleague and current male friend let’s be honest, the second we stop sharing a desk, I will never hear from him again. “Some of my best friends are women,” he says vaguely. When I ask if the effort he made with friends is comparable to that his girlfriend makes with hers, he begrudgingly accepts that he could not spend hours on the phone with his pals of either gender. He lost count of the male friends who have disappeared over the years. Often, it coincides with the arrival of a new girlfriend. But contrary to popular interpretation, it is rarely to do with that new girlfriend’s jealousy. As one former male friend charmingly told me: “I have to hear all my girlfriend’s emotional stresses now. I don’t have time for yours.” With male mates like that it is probably no surprise all efforts go into his female friendships. And now academics backed my choice.tmg-article_default_mobile

Steps To recover friends

  • Stop pre-empting: Sometimes we are anxious when we do not need to be and it creates conflicts with friends in our heads. Your friend may be sitting thinking the same thing; not think anything is wrong.
  • Do not be consumed by guilt: Often you feel guilty or embarrassed you did not make contact for a while. This is what is getting in the way, try not to hold onto these feelings.
  • Face conflicts that arise: If your friendships is worthwhile you should be willing to fix them, ask what has gone wrong, what their position may be to work  solution.
  • Set objectives: Once you have discussed the issues don’t let them drag on, make a decision to move forward and set practical ways of keeping in touch and letting the other know you care.
  • Find positive aspects: Friendship may take on a different form with distance allows space to see things objectively. You may be able to help each other more, to make use of the distance when you can.


A group of adults asked question, what is love? GOD IS LOVE so Love God First, love yourself next, love neighbours and others as yourself. Jesus answered same question on love in Matthew 22:36-40. Most important commandment in whole Bible is to Love God with all your heart, your whole soul, whole mind, your whole strength and to love your neighbour as yourself. This love command of God is confirmed in Mark 12:28-32 by Jesus’ answer to, of all commandments which is the most important one? Answer to young man Love God and love your neighbours. On love, Hear Oh Israel and all nations grafted in, LOVE GOD for God is Love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says, Love is patient, love is kind, does not envy, does not boast, is not proud, does not dishonour others, is not self-seeking, not arrogant or rude. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. If one speaks in tongues of men or angels but does not love, one is resounding gong or clanging cymbal. If one has gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries, all knowledge, and faith to move all mountains but does not have love God’s True Love is not in you. This important and relevant question of discussions includes many clarifications. As it soon clears various issues of man’s concepts of love. With so many self-help books and psychological definitions love is simplified into 4 essential categories following original Greek understanding of love. In broader context love extends to includes Godly perspective definition of love.  Love is special inner emotion to understand if one is truly fully prepared to work at it for good success. Although most people believe that love revolves around the heart, it is actually occurring in the brain. Thought processes activate love in a good way or in lustful concepts. Artists, poets and painters epitomize heart as love symbol but it is the brain generating chemical signals to make people understand love. Different forms and styles of expressing love as described by Ancient Greeks are 4 terms being agape, phileo-philia-philos, storge, eros. To symbolize these 4 let us look at the 4 loves in details as follows.

Agape – Godly Love

Agape love is rooted and grounded in God as the Source of Love through Christ dwelling in your hearts by faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, can comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God in Ephesians 3:17-19. To attain agape love one has to be connected to God through Christ the Vine and believer as the branch. Love of God flows through Christ to enable, equip, to achieve agape love. It is impossible to achieve agape love by mankind’s own personal efforts without God in the heart at the centre of life. Each created person by God has God’s Spirit of Love Naturally inborn in mankind. The capacity to share agape love is enhanced by obedience to God’s word to love God, yourself and neighbour as yourself. Neighbour includes all people, family, loved ones and enemies. Jesus said agape love must be extended to love for enemies. Agape love is deepened by praying together, reading and studying the Bible as a family unit. God gave Christ, the first unconditional love that sees beyond outer surface to accept recipient for whom they are, regardless of flaws, shortcomings or faults. It’s the type of love everyone strives to have for fellow human beings. Although you may not like someone, you decide to love them just as a human being. Agape love is sacrifice giving so expects nothing in return. Agape is real life love action demonstrates good deeds behaviour towards others. Agape Godly Love is committed, inbuilt, so not influenced by circumstances of life or others or changed by people’s response.

Phileo-Philia-Philos-Platonic Love

These phileo- philia- philos love refers to affectionate, warm, tender platonic love. It makes you desire friendship with someone. Philos love activates and livens demonstration of agape love. Philos is selective love because one feels naturally more drawn towards certain people than others. So cannot always explain why you may not have a phileo love for the same people. Therefore you feel more connected to someone better than others. It is a committed and chosen love than can last throughout life based on location, duration, situation, proximity or distance if nurtured long-term. Philos can be affected by background history, understanding of emotions, mutual respect, life experiences, may be gender related or have shared goals. One seems to identify better with philos because of appealing nature or common interests. Qualities of love is seen in actions and behaviour but with clear boundaries. Friendship lines are not blurred by friends with benefits.

Storge- Family Love

Family love of compassion, caring, nurturing, friendship that parents naturally feel for their children. Storge is a unique often blood affection that related members of the family have for each other. This is enhanced by mutual family traditions, living together. Eating together, sharing chores and generational activities create healthy interaction than lasts for years. Although blood related, storge also includes adopted family members. Storge again is long – term friendships closer than a brother. Or through years of schooling together and living in a neighbourhood so feel for each other. In some cases, storge friendship love may ultimately become part of a blood related family. Others develop into romantic relationship but the couple were at first best friends. Storge love is unconditional, accepts flaws, faults ability to forgive. Knowing each other first before passion helps commit with better understanding of family sacrifices so feels secure, comfortable and safe.Eros- Romantic Love

Eros is the most popular concept of love known by people because it is passionate, intense romantic love. Erotic love triggers indulgent high feelings in new relationship to declare love. It is intimate, emotional, sexual love, originally exclusively intended by God within marriage. God said it is not good to be alone so God gave Adam a wife and companion to help meet each other’s needs. Although romantic love is important in the beginning of a new relationship, it is not the only factor to depend on for life in a relationship. Eros sexual, self- serving, tunnel vision, love alone is not enough to fulfil other real demands of matured nitty-gritty love long – term. This may not last unless it moves a notch higher. It is usually based on personal self- interest gratification so focuses more on self instead of the other person. So if erotic love is the only foundation of the relationship, then it fizzles out when the honeymoon is over. It is important to feel good in relationship to love partner steadfastly.  This is a broad general understanding and description of love which promotes good, healthy and progressive relationship. In any relationship, you should have all these four loves working together to enable it survive for a longer time. In some cases a relationship may be long-lasting if partners share similar views on love. Opposites do attract too, so compassion, understanding, care, emotional support, active listening, empathy, two-way relationship.

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538690625_jesus_and_earth_xlargeIn Phillipians 4:7, God’s Peace is far above and beyond understanding. So surpasses all knowledge shall keep our  hearts and mind safe in union with Christ. God’s peace, is far beyond understanding, so keeps the heart fixed on God even in the midst of adversity. God’s Peace comes through accepting Christ Jesus. So our lives is hidden inside Christ in God. God protects through the fire and drought and storms of life. God’s Peace keeps our hearts and minds within the powerful confines of Christ Jesus. This peace is possible because our minds are stayed on God who gives us great peace. This peace comes only from God, not as world gives. Peace means be still and feel God’s presence in tough moments of lives. Despite the circumstances around us, we are assured that a thousand will fall at our side and ten thousand at our right side but it shall not come near us in Jesus Name. Our life is of great value to God because we are precious to God. While on God’s narrow road of life, problems of life face us. Greater is He that is in us than he that is in the world. God’s Divine help keeps us safe in the midst of the storms of life. God’s Peace comes from advance preparation reading Word, Prayer and thanks giving to God.Problems of life wants us to have doubt and unbelief to try to blame and reject God. It is God’s Peace that keeps us safe in union with God through Christ Jesus for so our hearts remain fixed within the True Vine forever and ever. By finding  relevant Bible texts that speak into our situation, memorize simple texts in advance before the occasion comes to apply them in life. Learn excellent Bible stories as good examples to follow and prioritize plans to focus on God throughout the day without interfering with duties. There is so much distractions so one needs discipline to remember to keep one’s mind STAYED ON GOD. It is when the mind is stayed on God that problems have no place to take root to destroy our faith, trust, belief and confidence in God. Avoid negative people who want to keep in fearful negative thoughts to doubt God. God’s revelation knowledge is beyond intellectual logical analysis so walk by faith not by sight through natural eyes. God’s Eyes are roaming to and fro on our behalf to do us good so the things of God are spiritually discerned through the Holy Spirit in Jesus Name. 

God’s power and gifts are spiritually discerned but foolishness to the  unbelieving mind concentrating on facts and details. God gives us power and assurance to believe His Truth in our hearts in Romans 10:10, to only speak by faith to manifest the miracles of God in us. In difficult times, we have the joy of the Lord and God’s Peace which does not make sense to the natural mind. It is our Confidence in God’s Word that helps us by faith to accomplish great things beyond our expectations.  God empowers us with His strength to grow through the gift of faith to fight the good fight of faith to receive our miracles. This Peace of God must be constantly dwelt upon daily despite visible challenges. True faith is evidence of things hoped for and believed through faith mixed with God’s word to win to receive the promises of God in our lives. Our mind acts on God’s Peace by staying on God’s Word to apply and fulfil God’s plans and purposes daily in our lives in Jesus Name for our testimony.  Money and relationships cannot buy this Peace of God that passes all human understanding in Jesus Name.

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