Last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked me the question Daddy and I have been half expecting. With a slight ripple across your brow and your blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister?’

Are you an only child and did you know why you became one literally? Perhaps it is a health or a financial circumstance beyond parent’s control or unfortunate situation of loss of parent making it not possible to have siblings. The parents of an only son have written a letter to him explaining their choice and decision to him alone. The letter stated that mother found out ‘last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked a question Daddy and was half expecting. With slight ripple across your brow and your blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister?’ I kissed the top of your head, squeezed you closer and momentarily panicked about how on earth to answer. At four years and four months, you are clearly starting to notice many of friends at nursery talk of siblings or babies. And thankfully this time, you gave me a reprieve turning your attention straight to dinosaur story read to you.’ Last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked me the question Daddy and I half expected. With a slight ripple across your brow and blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister? But I know one day the ‘why’ will become more persistent. Daddy and I are far from alone in deciding to stop at one child. Apparently by 7years, half of all families in this country will only have one offspring. Not that it stops me from feeling occasional pang of guilt. I know there will be many positives to decision like our undivided attention for starters so you never know a prickly adjustment period when a new baby arrives. How about sibling rough and tumble you’ll miss out on? A constant companionship for better or worse? I cannot pretend it hasn’t been a real dilemma. Yes, there have been moments when my resolve wobbled particularly as you get closer to starting school so baby no more. Who doesn’t get broody when they see a tiny newborn enfolded in a mother’s arms. But deep down, I know we’ve made the most responsible choice. I just hope, as you grow older, you agree. The truth is Daddy and I would loved another child but quite simply are too old. We liked the idea of two or maybe more, Daddy even hoped for twins! We imagined you all together and nobody ever short of a playmate, bundling you all into the bath after a day at the beach or the park. Sometimes I do wonder if we left it too late to start our little family. After all, we’ve been together for 19 years. Will you wonder what we were doing all that time? know many positives to our decision of undivided attention, helps you thrive. But I turned 44 last year, a day you and Daddy helped me devour the birthday cake I’d made. ‘That’s REALLY old!’ you exclaimed. In terms of having another baby, you were right. More women are have babies well into 40s and beyond but risks proven to be grater for mum and baby not least Down’s Syndrome or other birth defects. I wonder if we left it too late to start family. After all, we’ve been together for 19 years so wondering what we were doing all this time? We met through mutual friends in our mid-20s, drawn together by similarities: we’re both driven, determined, sociable and aspire to wring the most from life. But like many of our generation, chose naively it turned out to let time slip by. Distracted by careers, Daddy as a chartered surveyor and board director, and me as a journalist, we saved like mad for our future, bought property, played hard and enjoyed exciting holidays all over the world. Sometimes I do wonder if we left it too late to start our little family. For 19 years prepared in advance for your arrival. Family and friends badgered us about settling down but we felt buying a home together was the greatest commitment. I know there will be many positives to our decision — all that undivided attention, for starters, and you’ll never know that prickly adjustment period when a new baby arrives There were the more important things paying off a mortgage, for example than a wedding to spend money on. As for having a family, conscious of getting older, of course, honestly didn’t think leaving it to late 30s was a problem. After all, many friends in a similar situation. And in February 2011 of 12 years together, finally married at a beautiful country house in North Yorkshire. By then we were financially secure, happy, had bought a spacious barn conversion and wanted nothing more than to have a little family. But three months after our wedding, early one cool, grey May morning, my own beautiful, adoring mummy your granny died. She’d had cancer for four agonising years, and in the end the doctors and nurses couldn’t do anything more to save her. If I had just one wish in life it was that Granny had lived to meet you. She would have been besotted by your mischievousness, love of being silly and making people smile traits you share with her. Losing her made me all the more desperate to become a mum. I wanted to love and nurture another little person the way she’d always loved my brother and me. I longed to watch her warmth, wisdom and trademark cheerfulness live on in her grandchild. Grief stricken, I barely ate or slept for months.Grief stricken, I barely ate or slept for months. I ran for miles at a time as a coping mechanism and lost a lot of weight despite being slim anyway 

I ran for miles at a time as a coping mechanism and lost a lot of weight despite being slim anyway. Perhaps we shouldn’t have been surprised when, after almost two years of trying to have a baby, doctors confirmed that the shock of losing Granny had caused my body to shut down. I was almost 40 by so we referred for IVF. That’s when something magical happened against all the odds. In late January 2013, I went to fertility clinic in outskirt of Nottingham for some initial scans before starting a treatment. After minutes, sonographer took off her glasses, wiped a tear from her eye and said: ‘You’re not going to believe this you are already pregnant!’ I was around five weeks, but there you were on the sonographer’s screen, a microscopic dot. I cried, and couldn’t wait to tell Daddy. We were elated you arrived in September that year by a planned Caesarean section. I adored you in an instant with your cute little face and love of a cuddle. When I delve into my handbag for a lipstick and instead pull out a toy car or a dirty twig from the park that you’ve put there, it makes me smile 

But I admit I struggled emotionally for a long time. Within a space of under two and a half years went through the two significant events in a woman’s life losing my mum and having a baby of my own. Not having Granny around at that time was heart-wrenching. During the three days that you and I were in hospital, I longed for my mum to walk in, beaming and saying: ‘Aren’t you a clever girl? He’s absolutely gorgeous!’ When Gramps came alone to meet you for the first time, he hadn’t seemed more solitary since Granny’s death. In the months that followed, I’d take you for seven-mile walks in pram along the canal paths and country trails close to our home and tears would roll down my cheeks as I daydreamed about Mum walking by my side. When I delve into my handbag for a lipstick and instead pull out a toy car or a dirty twig from the park that you’ve put there, it makes me smile  What I’d give to have just one photograph of her cuddled up cheek-to-cheek with you. Daddy was wonderfully sensitive and supportive. But at times I felt very alone, as many women do after having a baby. The impossible sadness was juxtaposed by the unrivalled joy you brought to Daddy and me.I know that watching you with a little brother or sister would be a delight. But another baby now? I was 40 by the time I had you. We quickly decided it was more important to enjoy you, rather than focus on trying for another simply because the clock was ticking 

You make us laugh uncontrollably often every day with your funny little ways and your constant chatter and wonder at the world around us. I was 40 by the time I had you. You’re as affectionate and loving as you are boisterous and wilful, destined to be strong-willed given our own personalities! And even when you’re throwing a tantrum we wouldn’t want it any other way. I know watching you with a little brother or sister would be a delight. But another baby now? I was 40 by the time I had you. We quickly decided it was more important to enjoy you, rather than focus on trying for another simply because the clock was ticking. After all, there are so many couples who’d give anything to have just one child. And who’s to say it would have happened a second time, given how long it took us to have you? Plus, at what point do you draw a line under the disappointment of trying and failing? Besides, we’d found being a family of three suits all of us. I am still able to do a job I love while you’re at nursery three days a week. More importantly, Daddy and I are able to focus our attention on you rather than feeling torn between more than one child. Your energy knows no bounds and I have to run you like a dog every day to expend it. I’m not sure I could cope with another little one fizzing with such effervescence. You have always loved your sleep, too: And imagine if you had a sibling who wailed all night for months. That said, I can’t deny the occasional well of sadness: the ‘what ifs’ and fear you’ll miss out on the fun of having a sibling. If I had just one wish in life it would be that Granny had lived to meet you. She would have been besotted by your mischievousness, love of being silly and making people smile — traits you share with her Since I’ve always been so close to my own little brother your uncle Robbie, 42, who loves to tickle and dangle you upside down. Daddy and I have often looked wistfully at our friends with four kids: they’re never without a ready-made playmate. On the other hand, we know siblings who fought terribly as children and barely speak as adults. We know lots of gloriously happy, and well grounded, sociable, selfless children including your brilliant cousin, Saffron, who’s five years older than you. It was adorable watching you playing together on the beach and in the pool on a recent family holiday in Spain. How I chuckled listening to the two of you animatedly discussing favourite or not vegetables in back of car. Nobody ever questioned our decision although there are friends who still tell us: ‘Go on, have another!’ Some people assume things of an only child that they are spoilt because they don’t learn to share. Or they miss out on so much. But Daddy and I will ensure you never feel isolated or become spoilt. Bracing ourselves to hosting lots of play dates sleepovers. We’ll do everything to encourage you to continue to be sociable caring confident little boy you already are. What I’ve realised more than anything is there is actuala much shorter answer to your question. Quite simply, Daddy and I feel enormously fortunate to have one healthy, happy, hilarious little boy who fills our lives with magic every day. We have never been left wanting more.




 The youngster from Missouri is a keen footballerThe Bible says in Ecclesiastes 3:13 that the ability to eat and drink with joy and satisfaction is everyone’s gift from God. So people should eat and drink and take pleasure in all their work this is God’s gift to man. Moreover be grateful and thankful to God and enjoy this gift from God by sharing your food with family and friends. So when a teenager was unable to swallow food he became ill not able to teenager was left fighting for his life after his esophagus was torn by a ham and cheese sandwich he ate. Alec Hebblethwaite, 14, spent 106 days in hospital diagnosed with chronic immune system disease eosinophilic esophagitis. Alec Hebblethwaite, 14, in the hospital after terrifying injury. The schoolboy’s mum Kasey Hunter, 35, first noticed something was out of ordinary last April when he ate a cracker during football practice and threw up blood. She took him to the ER where medics said he had scratched his esophagus and told him to stick to soft foods to give it the chance to heal. But the following month, Kasey took Alec to Walmart between football games to grab a snack and he choked on a ham and cheese sandwich. He was rushed to hospital with chest pain and doctors discovered his esophagus was RIPPED but when they tried to fix it with surgery found the wound had become infected. He later ate a sandwich after playing football which ripped his throatHe ended up spending the summer in intensive care, fighting deadly sepsis and having several operations where doctors warned his mom he might not make it. In November seven months after Alec’s first trip to the ER – doctors determined his extreme reaction caused by eosinophilic esophagitis. The rare condition causes white blood cells to build up in lining of tube connecting the mouth and stomach, which can lead to tearing and choking. Alec has to stick to soft foods and cut out rough foods and bread is believed to trigger previous flare-up because it can expand and cause irritation. Alec Hebblethwaite, 14, in hospital following the terrifying injuryHe later ate a sandwich after playing football which ripped his throat. His mum first noticed something wrong when he started coughing up blood after eating a crackerThe youngster from Missouri is a keen footballer. The Mum-of-three Kasey, of Kaiser, Missouri, said: “They said that if we had waited 12 more hours before taking him to the hospital he would have died. “We thought it was just chest pain he was complaining about but the doctors did a swallow study and found out there was a hole. “The doctors said they had never seen it in a kid before. It was very scary. “To stand there and look at your kid and there is nothing you can do for them… You just want to take it all away but you’re not able to. “I had no idea that this could happen. Never in my wildest dreams did I think that crackers and sandwiches would be able to do this.” He medical condition worsened after it was discovered he was suffering from an infectionHis medical condition worsened after it was discovered he was suffering from an infection After choking on sandwich on May 21, Alec, who lives with Kasey and her husband, construction worker Matthew, 36, was admitted to Mercy Hospital in Springfield, Missouri. There doctors tried to perform surgery to repair esophagus but were forced to delay it after opening his chest to find suffering from infection. Alec was transferred to Children’s Mercy in Kansas City, Missouri, where he was admitted to Pediatric Intensive Care Unit. He had a chest tube and drain inserted to help get rid of infection and later surgery to remove his gallbladder infected. Alec, discharged on September 3 and was diagnosed with the rare condition until two months later. He said: “At first I didn’t know anything was wrong at all I just felt like a bit of sandwich stuck in my throat. “But after I found it really hard to get up and my throat hurt. I was in a lot of pain. “I don’t remember most of my time in hospital but there was a time when I wasn’t able to walk, which was very scary. “I knew things like this could happen but I didn’t ever think it would happen to me.” Alec still goes to hospital every few weeks for dilation, where a balloon is inserted into the esophagus to stretch it, to make it easier for him to breathe. Help family with medical and travel costs donate: YouCaring site:

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Wang, a left-behind migrant childChinese boy with frozen hair reignites poverty debate. Pictures of eight-year-old Little Wang were shared tens of thousands of times. An eight-year-old Chinese pupil, dubbed “Ice Boy” by social media users after the images emerged of him arriving at school with swollen hands and frost on his hair and eyebrows, has sparked renewed discussion online about child poverty. Many users say the pictures of “Little Wang”, who went viral on Monday, highlight that not enough is being done to help children from poor, rural families in China. They sympathise with the harsh journeys that Little Wang endures in order to get to his school in Ludian County, south-west Yunnan province. State-run China News Service agency says the boy walks 4.5 km (2.8 miles) to get to school, a journey that takes him an hour. On the day the picture was taken, the temperature was -9C, the agency says.Swollen hands of a migrant childOne picture that circulated thousands of times shows Wang received 99 out of 100 on a test, despite swollen hands. A photo of the boy, which has been shared by tens of thousands of people, shows him with swollen red cheeks dressed in thin jacket laughed at by classmates. It is seen in another image the boy’s dirty and swollen hands, next to the near-perfect work in his school exercise book. Wang’s teacher took the pictures on 8 January and sent to headmaster and a few other individuals, according to reports in state media. But they soon came to the attention of local and then national media, and the images went viral online. Thousands of users of the popular Sina Weibo microblog shared the pictures, using the hashtag #IceBoy. One post by People’s Daily received more than 277,000 likes. Many Weibo users posted messages praising Wang’s fortitude and perseverance. “This child knows that knowledge can change his fate,” says one. But others voiced their concern, saying that their hearts ached for him, especially seeing his swollen hands and threadbare clothes.Wang, a left-behind migrant childSwollen hands of a migrant child

“His frozen little red face and he’s wearing so little, he really looks pitiful,” another user commented. Some have responded by posting angry comments targeted at the government. “What is the local Yunnan government doing about this?” one asked. Others urged fellow users for their help in contacting the boy so they could donate money and clothes. ‘His home is made of mud and brick’ Journalists from the popular Pear Video website visited Little Wang to see how he lives. “His home is made of mud and brick and is very dilapidated,” Pear Video said. The site found that the boy is a “left-behind child” – one of tens of millions of Chinese children who rarely see their parents, who have moved to the cities to find work to support them. Little Wang lives with his grandmother and sister. He rarely sees his father, a migrant worker who is able to return home only every four or five months. The boy tells Pear Video that his mother left him when he was very young.Boxes of aid arriving at Little Wang's schoolThe Communist Youth League donated clothing and improved heating system to Little Wang’s school. Wang’s story has prompted an outcry in Chinese media for more to be done to help left-behind children. Some local companies have already responded. State-run CCTV says the provincial Communist Youth League has donated 100,000 yuan (about $15,350: £11,350) so that each child at the school can have better clothing, and for the school to improve its heating system. Influential news website The Paper shares the contact details of the Zhaotong City Youth Development Foundation, a charity that supports children in north-east Yunnan. Many social media users say they hope Wang’s story helps raise issues of social awareness of the poverty facing other children in poorer, rural regions. But some note poignantly that Little Wang’s case is synonymous with many other children’s. ‘SurblueDu’, received 2,000 likes for their comment: “No-one knows how many poor children there are, helping one is only helping one.”A poster of President Xi Jinping visiting people living in poverty

President Xi Jinping vowed to eradicate rural poverty in China by 2020

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VOLVO SWEDEN FORDMankind faces upheaval of robot trends in hotels, airports, hospitals and homes. There is a strong argument in favour of advantages of using machines that now replace people in industries, factories or personal carers at home. The shortage of staff in underpopulated regions with the aged requiring care are some of the arguments used. Modern trend demand people adapt and get used to machines or miss out. In 1998, Kodak had 170,000 employees and sold 85% of photo paper worldwide. Within a few years their business model disappeared and they went bankrupt. Interestingly inventor of digital photography in 1975 Steven Sasson worked for Kodak but Kodak ignored the new technology and in the process ignored their future!! Some say what happened to Kodak will happen in a lot of industries in the next 10 years and most people don’t see it coming.e1c03d62f4da47159d5a9dff9c2af2bdDid you think in 1998 that 3 years later you would never take pictures on paper film again? Yet digital cameras were invented in 1975. The first ones had 10,000 pixels, but followed Moore’s law. As with all exponential technologies, it was a disappointment for a long time, before it became way superior and got mainstream in a few short years. It will now happen with Artificial Intelligence, health, autonomous and electric cars, education, 3D printing, agriculture and jobs in the 4th Industrial Revolution. So the Exponential Age, Software will also disrupt the most traditional industries in the next 5-10 years. Uber software tool does not own cars but the biggest taxi company in the world. Airbnb is the biggest hotel company in the world, although they don’t own any properties.12945Artificial Intelligence Computers said to be exponentially better understanding the world. This year, a computer beat the best Go player in the world 10 years earlier than expected. In the US, young lawyers not getting jobs. Due to IBM Watson you can get a legal advice so far for more on a basic stuff within seconds with the 90% accuracy compared with 70% accuracy when done by humans. If you study law it is good to immediately think about areas of specialisation. People say there will be 90% fewer lawyers in future so only specialists will remain. Watson already helps nurses diagnosing cancer, 4 times more accurate than human nurses. And Facebook now has a pattern recognition software that can recognize faces better than humans. By 2030, computers will become more intelligent than humans.Ishiguro-721161 (1)Autonomous Cars: in 2018 the first self-driving cars will appear for the public. Around 2020, the complete industry will start to be disrupted. Some don’t want to own a car anymore since you will call a car with your phone, it will show up at your location and drive you to your destination. You will not need to park it, you only pay for driven distance and it can be productive while driving. Future kids may never get driver’s license and never own a car. So it will change cities, because will need 90-95% fewer cars for that. So can transform former parking space into parks. 1.2 million people die each year in car accidents worldwide. It says one accident in every 100,000 km, with autonomous driving that will drop to one accident in 10 million km. That will save a million lives each year..Most car companies may become bankrupt. Traditional car companies evolutionary approach builds better cars, while tech companies Tesla, Apple, Google will do the revolutionary approach and build a computer on wheels. A lot of engineers from Volkswagen and Audi are said to be completely terrified of Tesla.unnamedAAEAAQAAAAAAAAeeAAAAJDEwNTkzOWQ3LWRlZDktNDM4NS1hZTI0LTdjNzZlYjdmOGZkMQInsurance Companies will have massive trouble because without accidents, the insurance will become 100x cheaper. Their car insurance business model will disappear. Real estate will change since you can work while you commute, and people will move further away to live in more beautiful neighbourhood. Electric cars won’t become mainstream until 2020. Cities will be less noisy because all cars will run on electric. Electricity will be incredibly cheap because now Solar production has been on an exponential curve for 30 years so will see impact. In the last year, solar energy was installed worldwide than fossil. So price for solar will drop so much all coal companies may be out of business by 2025. Cheap electricity means cheap and abundant water. Desalination only needs 2kWh per cubic meter. We don’t have scarce water in most places, we only have scarce drinking water. Imagine what will be possible if all can have as much clean water as wanted without cost.hqdefault (1)Health: There will be companies that will build a medical devices called the “Tricorder” from Star Trek that works with phone, takes retina scan, blood sample and breathed into. It analyses 54 biomarkers that will identify nearly any disease. It will be cheap, in a few years everyone on this planet will have access to world class medicine, nearly for free. 3D printing price of cheapest 3D printer came down from $18,000 to $400 within 10 years. At the same time its 100 times faster. All major shoe companies started 3D printing shoes. Spare airplane parts already 3D printed in remote airports. The space station printer eliminates the need for large number of spare parts used in the past. By end of this year new smart phones will have the 3D scanning possibilities. You can then 3D scan your feet and print perfect shoe size at home.science0_2315587bIn China, already 3D printed completed 6-storey office building. By 2027, 10% of everything that’s being produced will be 3D printed. Business Opportunities now mean if you think of a niche you want to go in, ask yourself: “in the future, do you think we will still have that?” and if answer is yes how can it happen sooner. If it doesn’t work with phone, forget the idea. And ideas limited in design for just success in the 20th century is doomed in to failure in the 21st century. Workers with 70-80% of jobs will disappear in the next 20 years. There will be a lot of new jobs, but it is not clear if there will be enough new jobs that time. Already unemployment is rising in terms of the people getting appropriate relevant job.AAEAAQAAAAAAAAXlAAAAJGE3YjYwMzdkLWNkYjgtNGMwZC1iODk5LTRkMGIyNTA1MTMyNgAgriculture will have $100 agricultural robot in future. Farmers in 3rd world countries can then become managers of their field instead of working all days on their fields. And agroponics will also need much less water. The first Petri dish produced veal is now available and will be cheaper than cow-produced veal in 2018. 30% of all agricultural surfaces are used for cows so imagine if we don’t need all that space anymore. There are several startups to bring insect protein to the market shortly. It contains more protein than meat. It will be labeled as ‘alternative protein source’ because most people still reject the idea of eating insects. There is an app call “moodies” which can already tell in which mood you are. By 2020 there will be apps that can tell by facial expressions if one is lying. Imagine debates displayed when people tell the truth or not. Bitcoin will be mainstream and might even become the default reserve currency. Right now, average life span increases by 3 months per year. Four years ago, the life span used to be 79 years, now it’s 80 years. The increase itself is increasing and by 2030, there will be more than one year increase per year. So we all might live for a long long time, probably way more than 100. By that time the elites will have a secondary Brain embedded close to both sides of their fronto-temporal scalp it stores information about their experiences books they read what they heard etc through a High Def Camera below the eyelids. Those who can afford it forgetfulness is a past phenomenon.videoblocks-robot-helping-man-at-home-kitchen-table-desk-doing-office-work-walks-and-hands-man-pen-artificial-intelligence-and-future-robotics-technology-with-humanoid-cyborg-futuristic-Advanced stem cell technology will also allow “choosing” own organs or replace defective ones early. Life expectancy will be around 115 to 125 yrs in most of developed world and around 100 years in the rest of the world. Education: The cheapest smart phones are already at $10 in Africa and Asia. Until 2020, 70% of all humans will own a smart phone. That means, everyone has same access to world class education. Are you ready for the future. With so much benefits of progress agreed, question is what shall be done with the unemployed humans displaced? Some say the available free time means all will all be on holidays. It will indeed be wonderful to put feet up to let hair down to enjoy life. So robots and machines do all the work and serve humans. A few humans program these robots so intervene when required. Yet the reality of the mass unemployment without income and zero hour contracts is of concern that must be addressed. It is important to reflect on these matters because people have become homeless, unable to afford homes. People still pay bills, eat, pay cost of travel, student fees, rent, mortgages, taxes, etc. Whether one earns income or not bills get higher and higher. Artificial intelligence deliberate tactics based on the Georgia guidelines in America like 10 commandments is to reduce world population to 250million. GettyImages-521719874-e1477257469619Creating starvation, deprivation, lack of resources, burying tons of good food in the soil while people starve. This is all part of that strategy so few people own everything, living in luxury while the rest are dealt a bad hand. On paper all these sounds fantastic yet the reality is the MAJORITY of humans suffer as a result. Robots in industries mean loss of jobs, starving and poverty but is not dealt with in the news. Since privileged few already have enough on their plate they are not too keen or interested in plights of those displaced unemployed. It is absolutely true robots are essential today in some fields, save lives, drones deliver goods. However if one truly and honestly analyses overall cost of longterm investments in robots, the machines deprive workers of jobs. .artificial-intelligence-will-man-be-ever-replaced-by-machine-5-638In addition, they do not raise children, feed families, pay tuition fees or rents and mortgages. On one hand robots are necessary but on the other hand too it is important to ensure humans are not all replaced by machines. The humans now globally have no jobs, resources or land in the hand of a few. Most investments and the profits go to shareholders who benefit not the staff laid off on the dole. Trillions of dollars are invested globally to create robots with zillions of electric wattage used to run them. But it affects electric power and oil supply needed to generate electricity. Alternative to fossil fuel like wind turbines still need electric to power them. Now when a problem is solved it creates lots more problems not foreseen by inventors. When Tsunamis, tornadoes, floods, wildfire, thunders or toxic waste burnt trickle into soil to shut down whole neigbourhoods, nothing is done to rectify problems. As long as the rich share holders are happily making more money they do not care about the damage done to the earth. The rush to overproduced cars, gadgets with inbuilt obsolence means products are changed for cosmetic or aesthetic reasons than functions. This creates disposable waste of tons of plastics that natural speed of human working hours would The rat race constantly produces more items than realistically purchased so is shredded or buried in landfill that could be used for housing. A greedy excessive love of materialist products consumer habit damages planets with pollution. It is industry driven to produce faster, get to places faster and faster because it is easier to do so than work in tune with nature. The passion for wanting things yesterday to meet demands results in a need for the faster production methods beyond human abilities. That is why the robots are man’s friends to help them to accomplish their wants faster. It is good to be able to enjoy life and live a little yet longterm damage climate change is irreversible. The world already pays the price of sufferings from global turf wars over natural resources fuelling robots. It peaks beyond measure with plans for all future living mechanised by robots, people are displaced and frustrated. The young people graduating all over world feel the robotic trend of displacement. aibusinessAIPostJS91501769hqdefaultterminator-outdated-future-robot-nod32-eset-wallpaper-black-background2560 x 1600 ESET NOD32 ANTIVIRUS ROBOT HD Computers,NEW,hd wallpapers,widescreen wallpapers,high defination,widescreen,Robot,Latest,Apple,google android,laptop,iPhone,iPad,iphone 4,netbook,Cell,scifi,phones,ipad 2,iphone 4s,eset,nod32,antivirus,i robotIMG_20171230_135010bicentennial-man-artificial-intelligence-misconceptionswalle11Man and robot meet and handshake. Concept of the future interactThe good news is when things peak God will intervene by Rapture to restore earth to organic natural wholesome beauty again like paradise. God owns chariots, wheels in wheels technologies and a great designer of unique human intelligence. Technology displaces the workers but life in general improved. Machines replaced, outmoded, causes toxic waste in landfill sites buried at or burnt to destroy archaic old technology. Humans still need to program robots but must work alongside humans. Lots of businesses, companies are shut down or gone bankrupt due to changes. And online businesses affect direct human personal touch interaction on a daily basis. These issues must be addressed as much as debates in favour of using the robots and machines. The world is now reaching tipping point of inability to sustain these design using solar power or nuclear power. The pursuit of more power to maintain robots damages use of natural resources diverted by hydro power displacing communities. Many farms and food production destroyed by the seizure of generational family lands. The hybrid genetic modified foods often lack rich natural nutrients for organic food remedies created by God. Limited land use of the area means depending on imported foods than local produce. Robots are useful and helpful but must not be allowed to displace and destroy humans in the process. Both must live alongside each other with dignity of human life not dehumanising people.


_92117174_yola_afpThank God that the long-expected good news happened concerning some Chibok girls, turned women’s return. Some freed or escaped back in education. But one had amputated limb and was walking with crutches, an injury sustained, according to what Mr Mustapha was told, during the Nigerian military air strikes against Boko Haram. The girls all ran with joy when told, “You are free today,” said Mr Mustapha to the 82 women after all the names were called out. They all smiled he said, despite a subdued reaction as a result of the presence of the militants all armed with guns or in army camouflage uniforms and boots. Mr Mustapha took some photographs with the women._96078257_chibokhi039356204 The militant’s video camera recorded events and ICRC vehicles eventually arrived. So told to go to cars they ran, Mr Mustapha said. Immediately they entered vehicles, they started singing for joy. Some shed tears.” Mr Mustapha received a number of accolades for his work with Future Prowess School. He was a finalist for the 2016 Robert Burns humanitarian award given to those who save, improve enrich the lives of others or society as a whole, through self-sacrifice, selfless service, hands-on charitable or volunteer work, or other acts”. He was also given a 2017 Aurora Prize Modern Day Hero award for those whose “life actions guarantees the safe existence of others.” _96078650_chibokhi039356085He said handing over the 82 freed girls to Nigerian government is “the highest point in my life felt he did something worth saying to the world that I have done this,” he said. But in the series of letters from African journalist Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani this happiness is tainted with the sadness as some Chibok women are yet to return, or refuse to return or even go back after being freed. Looking at why some Nigerian women have gone back to the militant Islamists who abducted them is very complex and puzzling to many people. _92110166_reutersWhen news emerged that some Chibok schoolgirls, abducted by Boko Haram in 2014, had declined to return home with the batch of 82 freed in May, the world found it difficult to believe. Not even the release of a Boko Haram video showing some hijab-clad, Kalashnikov wielding girls saying they were happy in their new lives, was enough to convince the people. “They must have been coerced,” some said. “It is Stockholm syndrome,” others said. What else explains why any girl or woman, would choose to remain with such horrible men? Yet, some of the women rescued by the Nigerian military from captivity are willingly returning to Boko Haram’s Sambisa forest hideout in north-eastern Nigeria to be with these same horrible

‘Fairytale life’

In January, I met Aisha Yerima, 25, who was kidnapped by Boko Haram more than four years ago. While in captivity, she got married to a commander who showered her with romance, expensive gifts and Arabic love songs. A fairytale life in the Sambisa forest she described was suddenly cut short by appearance of the Nigerian military in early 2016, at a time her husband went off to battle with other commanders. When she first interviewed Aisha, in the government custody for eight months she completed a de-radicalisation programme run by psychologist Fatima Akilu, the executive director of the Neem Foundation and founder of the Nigerian government’s de-radicalisation programme. “I now see that all the things Boko Haram told us were lies,” Aisha said. “Now, when I listen to them on the radio, I laugh.”

The pull of power?

A handout picture released by the Nigerian Army shows an insurgents' camp being destroyed by Nigerian military in the Sambisa forest (archive pic)Image copyrightEPA Image captionThe Nigerian military have been battling Boko Haram since 2009. But, in May, less than five months after being released into the care of her family in north-eastern Maiduguri city, she returned to the forest hideout of Boko Haram. The past five years, Dr Akilu worked with former Boko Haram members including some commanders, their wives and children and with hundreds of women who were rescued from captivity. “How women were treated when in Boko Haram captivity depends on which camp a woman was exposed to. It depends on the commander running the camp,” she said. “Those who were treated better were ones who willingly married Boko Haram members or who joined the group voluntarily and that’s not the majority. Most women did not have the same treatment.” _97056835_blurredAisha had boasted about the number of slaves she had while in the Sambisa forest, the respect she received from other Boko Haram commanders, and the strong influence she had over her husband. She even accompanied him to battle once. “These were women who for the most part had never worked, had no power, no voice in the communities, and all of a sudden they were in charge of between 30 to 100 women who were now completely under their control and at their beck and call,” Dr Akilu said. “It is difficult to know what to replace it with when you return to society because most of the women are returning to societies where they are not going to be able to wield that kind of power.”_96080364_mediaitem96080363

Still in shock

Apart from loss of power, other reasons Dr Akilu believes could lead women to willingly return to Boko Haram include stigmatization from a community which treats them like pariahs because of their association with militants, and tough economic conditions. Dealing with the aftermath of release is a struggle for some of those who were abducted. The “De-radicalisation is just one part of it. Reintegration is a part of it. Some have no livelihood or a support built around them, Dr Akilu said. The kind of support in de-radicalisation programmes does not follow them up when they leave. So come out successful in de-radicalisation programmes but struggle in community and it is that struggle that leads them to go back. Recently, visited Aisha’s family, still in shock at her departure, worried about her wellbeing.Chibok schoolgirls are reunited with their families in Abuja20/05/2017 Image copyrightREUTERSImagecaption. Her mother, Ashe, recalls at least seven former Boko Haram “wives” she knew, all friends of her daughter, who had returned to the Sambisa forest long before her daughter did. “Each time one of them disappeared, her family came to our house to ask Aisha if she heard from their daughter,” she said. That’s how I knew. Some women kept in touch with Aisha after they returned to Boko Haram. Her younger sister, Bintu, was present during at least two phone calls. “They told her to come and join them but she refused,” Bintu said. “She told them she didn’t want to go back.”

Life on track?

Unlike some of the former Boko Haram “wives” met, who are either struggling to survive harsh economic conditions or dealing with stigma, Aisha’s life seemed to be on track. She was earning money by buying and selling fabric, regularly attending social events and then posting photos of herself all primped up on the social media, and had a string of suitors. “At least five different men wanted to marry her,” her mother said, pointing out that there could be no greater form of acceptance shown to a woman, and presenting this as evidence that her daughter faced no stigma whatsoever from the community. “One of the men lives in Lagos. She was thinking of marrying him,” she said._90811551_nigeria_portharcourt_adamawa_borno464But, everything went awry when Aisha received yet another phone call from the women who had returned to the forest, informing her that her Boko Haram “husband” was now with a woman who had been her rival. From that day, the vivacious and gregarious Aisha became a recluse. “She stopped going out or talking or eating,” Bintu said. “She was always sad.” Two weeks later, she left home and did not return. Some of her clothes were missing. Her phones were switched off. She took the 2 year-old son fathered by commander in the Sambisa forest, but left the older one she had with husband she divorced before her abduction. “De-radicalisation is complicated by the fact that we have an active, ongoing insurgency. In cases where a group has reached settlement with the government and laid down their arms, it is easier,” Dr Akilu said. “But, when you have fathers, husbands, sons still in the movement, they want to be reunited, especially women.” Asta, another former Boko Haram “wife”, told me that she has heard of many women returning to the group, but has no plans to do so herself. However, the 19-year-old described how terribly she misses her husband, and how keen she is to hear from him and to be reunited with him. She insisted that she would not return to the forest, not even if he were to ask her. “I will tell him to come and stay here with us and live a normal life,” she said. But as with Aisha, the desire to be with the man she yearns for may turn out to be more compelling for Asta than the aversion to a group responsible for the deaths of thousands of people in north-east Nigeria, and for the displacement of millions who are struggling to survive in refugee camps.

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1033.gifWomen have intense close friendships, men tend not to have that according to Professor Dunbar, the Psychologist Professor at Oxford University. Professor Dunbar found women view best friend relationships in between sisters and soul mates. Men tend to see theirs purely in terms of the convenience. He came to this conclusion by exploring how people’s friendship circles changed when they left school for university. So what determined original friendships or whether they survived long-term? Did women make effort to talk more to each other on the phone as explored? And did “talking have any absolute effects on mens’ relationships at all? For men it was doing stuff together that held close friendships together. Doing activities like going to a football match or the pub for a drink, playing five a side was more meaningful to men. They made effort if was such an activity.” He looked at the differences between the sexes and said women clearly have much more intense close friendships than men. Men tend not to have that sort of relationship but they tend to have a group of four men they do such stuff with. So relationship is much more casual. With men it is out of sight out of mind. They just find four more guys to go drinking with.”The cast of Channel 4's university-themed sitcom Fresh Meat The cast of Channel 4’s university-themed sitcom Fresh Meat. This will be familiar to any woman who has had both the pleasure and disappointment of close male friend particularly in their twenties and thirties. At first, things are wonderful. Life is full of great catch ups, and laughter over pints of beer. They listen to your woes and you help them with their woman problems. It is the friendship neither knew needed. Only then, something changes. They start a new relationship. They move to a new postcode really not very far. They get a new job with a ready-made social life. They get a new flatmate. Whatever the change they suddenly have the new set of replacement ready and can’t seem to find the time to meet you for that coffee. You, naively, keep trying. You call them, you send jokey pictures and do exactly what you will do if that was a girlfriend growing distant: bombard her with the attention you wish she was showing you. Except with a male friend, it just does not work. Whether it is nature or nurture, most men simply do not view friendships in the same way as women. Gender is hardly the issue it is practical problem of how much time and effort they put into a platonic relationship. As the study says, there’s always another drinking buddy around the corner. Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis in Friends with BenefitsJustin Timberlake and Mila Kunis in Friends with Benefits. Men reading this may feel unfairly judged. So I put it to a colleague and current male friend let’s be honest, the second we stop sharing a desk, I will never hear from him again. “Some of my best friends are women,” he says vaguely. When I ask if the effort he made with friends is comparable to that his girlfriend makes with hers, he begrudgingly accepts that he could not spend hours on the phone with his pals of either gender. He lost count of the male friends who have disappeared over the years. Often, it coincides with the arrival of a new girlfriend. But contrary to popular interpretation, it is rarely to do with that new girlfriend’s jealousy. As one former male friend charmingly told me: “I have to hear all my girlfriend’s emotional stresses now. I don’t have time for yours.” With male mates like that it is probably no surprise all efforts go into his female friendships. And now academics backed my choice.tmg-article_default_mobile

Steps To recover friends

  • Stop pre-empting: Sometimes we are anxious when we do not need to be and it creates conflicts with friends in our heads. Your friend may be sitting thinking the same thing; not think anything is wrong.
  • Do not be consumed by guilt: Often you feel guilty or embarrassed you did not make contact for a while. This is what is getting in the way, try not to hold onto these feelings.
  • Face conflicts that arise: If your friendships is worthwhile you should be willing to fix them, ask what has gone wrong, what their position may be to work  solution.
  • Set objectives: Once you have discussed the issues don’t let them drag on, make a decision to move forward and set practical ways of keeping in touch and letting the other know you care.
  • Find positive aspects: Friendship may take on a different form with distance allows space to see things objectively. You may be able to help each other more, to make use of the distance when you can.


A salmon clears a weir at Hexham Bridge on the River Tyne as shown by North News Pictures. This hurdle feat reminds us of athletes jumping over hurdles in sports competition. It seems impossible for natural habitat fish to fly but with God all things are possible. Christian believers find themselves in situations of hurdles of impossibilities. Yet with faith and inbuilt ability, seemingly impossible circumstances become possible. Unrealistic fear as false evidence appears real, trying to prevent leap of faith by believers like salmon in picture. Some natural issues scream impossible yet a supernatural mind filled with the Mind of Christ Jesus takes action.      

On occasions believers spiritually are like salmon heading in the opposite direction. When the strong current flows downstream pulling all things along in its way, the salmon literary jumps upwards uphill. The salmon discovered other fish float along the river driving all things in its path in search of greener pastures. Meanwhile the rich nutrients uphill were abandoned and not fully explored. Adventure into the unknown by thrilling seeking fish means current resources available are not optimized. Therefore, the school of fish floats downhill without much effort but goes with the flow. As a result, other fish carried by the river compete for less- resources downhill. Often, the rich mineral nutrient left behind in rush feeds salmon on abandoned rich omega 5 nutrients.

The adversary, often lurks in the same vicinity looking for those to devour. While the salmon is busy minding its own business along its way upstream, the bear decides to enter the water to sustain itself on any one in their path. As the world moves on to adapt to fast pace modernization, Christian roots face adversity. Some abandon or blend faith with new alternatives which seem better options, more appealing, trendy, sophisticated to fit with the in-crowd on the broad way. New paradigm shifts cause sudden halt to previously tried and tested methods over time in the name of progress. Sooner or later, something happens so whole project is abandoned in search of new ones. Like salmon fishing in Yemen, for cinephiles who really appreciate film it is probably as comedy creating the impossible. 

This is an opportunity to take stock of life and reassess options. The challenge is prioritize and re-evaluate own life to see what is the purpose for living. Is it just to live, eat, sleep,work, party, and repeat the cycle by reproducing new generations to repeat the cycle. The salmon travels upwards back to its rich source of resources to spawn, to produce or lay eggs in water. Similarly, the believer flows upstream in the river of life through the living water Christ Jesus, to reconnect to God the rich source of life. The Christian faces the choice to make a decision to flow with God. Therefore it is necessary to redeem the time, watching and alert in prayer in Jesus Name. To cause something new to happen by new thinking to develop or begin to produce new lifestyle. To recreate life this way is called being born again through Christ accepting salvation to renew covenant with God.

In the salmon dance a friend teaches another unfamiliar fun techniques and facts about salmon. In brand new dance, the beat is made with puffer fish inflating and deflating in time to the pulse. In God’s Kingdom, Jesus is the ultimate fisher of all sorts of mankind, saving variety of fishes. Like a journey in life, modern man, Christian believers face challenges, while doing the right thing suitable for its best interest and survival.  There are so many victories to be won before Christ returns for rapture and second coming for ultimate victory and prize for the Christian believer. In recognition of  power of Holy Spirit remember Christian roots, values, practices over time for the sake of God’s new trends. As a brand new creation and mighty man of valour search for right timing possible opportunity for Christian renewal, to transform, renew mind and lifestyle through regeneration and rebirth like the salmon upstream.


So while some salmon Christian may swim against the current, others may choose to live on land farmed in special tanks and restricted but turning out as salmon all the same. To prove my point, others may wear distinctive created salmon design label dresses or just look at Sofia Vergara in this Vera Wang salmon gown at the Emmys. I know she looks fresh, glowing, and dreamy in any color. The salmon jacket keeps warm in cold temperatures. Still some may choose salmon shoes to equip them along the way on land to tread carefully outside the waters. Sometime ago the “Thrift Shop” singer took to instagram to debut the North West ‘King Salmon’ M 10 for fans, in warm bright colours. It is said you are what you eat or wear so salmon gets bright colour from shrimps eaten. So, what one stays around gets into one’s system. Believers were first called Christians in Antioch due to the beauty of Christ Jesus seen in them, reflected by their faith practice, confidence, trust in God and actions that made lasting impressions on people.