The GOSPEL OF GOD’S KINGDOM is the MESSAGE to all nations. In Romans 1:16 the GOSPEL is “to Jew FIRST,” then ALL NATIONS. First Choice Jews is GOSPEL POWER of GOD for SALVATION to ALL who BELIEVE in the GOSPEL OF JESUS CHRIST. GOD used HIS POWER to Jews first and ALL the Nations in SALVATION PLAN of GOD. Charity begins at GOD’S Home among HIS Chosen people Israel. GOD’S GOSPEL KINGDOM is established through JESUS CHRIST KING OF Kings, LORD of Lords a Jew. GOD CHOSE Jesus as Abraham’s descendant in Genesis 12 BLESSED by COVENANT. Nehemiah 9:7 says, “GOD … Chose Abram from Ur of the Chaldeans in Iraq.” In Deuteronomy 14:2, GOD CHOSES people for HIS OWN personal possession out of all people on the face of earth.”Amos 3:2 says, “You ONLY GOD CHOSE among all families on earth.” Romans 11:28-29 says GOD’S CHOICE made them HIS Beloved for the sake of the Fathers, for Gifts and Calling of God are irrevocable.” Jews descend from tribe of Judah a son of Jacob. Tribe of Lion of Judah descendant Jesus, GOD CHOSE from the Royal genealogy of King David. GOD’S GOSPEL KINGDOM MESSAGE in Abraham is Isaac CHOSEN by GOD to do HIS WORK and establish HIS KINGDOM on earth. SALVATION BY GOD’S POWER to ALL Nations included in Abraham’s Covenant are grafted in by faith of Jew and Gentiles. God elects Chosen by HIS FREEWILL CHOICE: “The LORD didn’t set HIS LOVE to CHOOSE you because you were more in number than others for you were fewest of all peoples, but the LORD LOVES you and keeps an Oath SWORN to forefathers in Deuteronomy 7:7-8. GOD USED SOVEREIGN POWER and HIS AUTHORITY to Decide Jews join Gentiles in HIS GOSPEL KINGDOM OF GOD. In Romans 3:1, GOD’S Revelations promise to Israel by Moses or prophets to the nations. Romans 9:4 says to Israel belongs Covenants, giving of Laws and promises.” The GOSPEL OF SALVATION is given to Jews in the WORD of God, the Old Testament Scripture is basis of laws. The Messiah Jesus Christ a Jew gave His Life as ULTIMATE SACRIFICE for sins to Jew first and all nations. In Romans 9:5 says Christ is set over all blessed by God.The Messiah Jesus, the Son of David in Romans 1:3 started Ministry with Jews to lost sheep of Israel in Matthew 10:5-6. Jesus in John 4:22 told the Samaritan woman at well, “SALVATION is from the Jews.” CHOSEN nation is GOD’S GOSPEL Revelation through Messiah, SAVIOUR by salvation from Jews.” Romans 11:17-24, says Jews and Gentiles grafted into Covenant by in Christ Jesus True Vine so nations are His Tree’s branches. God in HIS MERCY saves all nations as children of Abraham by faith says Galatians 3:7. All by faith children of Abraham, God’s Covenants with Abraham extends to all the nations on earth. In Acts 13:46, Paul and Barnabas preaching in Antioch of Pisidia told Jews “Its necessary the word of God be spoken to you first for eternal life to turn Gentiles.” From Israel, is the spreading of the GOSPEL to new places, through Jewish Messiah is GOOD News of His Salvation. He who is given much from him required more accountability so in Romans 2:9-10, tribulation and the time of Jacob’s distress is to Jew first and so judgement begins in the Church of God grafted in. Glory, honour, peace rewards to all who does good to the Jews, blessed. For Messiah sake, everyone given much, much is required in Luke 12:48. In Romans 1:16, “The GOSPEL is POWER of God unto Salvation to all who believe, to Jew first and all nations. So important to understand God set up HIS KINGDOM by HIS POWER and Authority. The Seed of the woman through Genesis 29:31-35, “PRAISE THE LORD” son of Jacob, Judah CHOSEN out of 12 sons of Jacob to birth the Messiah. GOD’S GOSPEL KINGDOM is through the Son of God Jesus. GOD’S Salvation is in Christ Jesus, “HIS WAY, THE TRUTH and LIFE so none comes to Father GOD except through Jesus Christ in John 14:6. Salvation is through ONE GOD ONE Mediator between God and all wo/men in Christ Jesus in 1 Timothy 2:5. Bible is clear salvation is found ONLY in Jesus Christ for Christian believer’s in God. Authority of GOD’S WORD is the Biblical Authority of sharing the Saving GOSPEL to all nations to follow GOD’S POWERFUL GOSPEL KINGDOM of Son JESUS CHRIST. God designed and wants salvation as the SOVEREIGN LORD GOD ALMIGHTY with final say in mankind’s eternal destiny. Freewill choice is given to all mankind to accept God’s offer of salvation to join HIS GOSPEL KINGDOM. All in Christ receive GOD’S FREE GIFT of SALVATION but those who reject GOD’S GOSPEL PLAN the WRATH of GOD IS UNLEASHED globally in various forms written in BIBLE. God uses earthquakes, volcanoes floods, tsunamis, wildfires, plagues, hot scorching sun, droughts, famines, Tribulation birthpang warning before the final GREAT TRIBULATIONS. OBEY God’s Sovereign WILL and accept Jesus in your life in Jesus Name.
Children are for signs and wonders from God to Glorify God and to help in society. Families need to understand Jesus loves and values all children in all nations. Children are the gifted assets to parents and women do what is beyond comprehension as childbearers. Women are absolutely celebrated as co-creators with God contributing to life cycle and replenish earth. Fulfil God’s command to mulitiply and bear fruit from seed of man and egg of woman is the gift of life. Adults love their children and children love their parents. God’s word says train and teach children Godly values of love, selfrespect, good manners and etiquette for appropriate interaction with others. The value of life is priceless and preserved with dignity even if differences exists by diversity or perspectives. Children are precious to God, Jesus loves little children allowed in His company with their parents and in meetings to learn about God. This is priority in life highly endorsed by God for salvation in the Kingdom of God. Simeon dedicated Jesus to God in the Temple and blessed Him. Simeon said to Mary His mother, “Behold, this Child is appointed for a fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign about a sword piercing Mary’s soul. Hidden thoughts from many hearts will be revealed in Luke 2:34-35. Jesus brings changes to all who accept Him. Simeon’s prophesy is Jesus will be “a light for revelation to the Gentiles, and for GLORY to God’s people Israel in Luke 2:32. Jesus brings ruin in Israel of people like Simeon who worship in the Temple destroyed. Mary is told of literal piercing of her soul due suffering and pain of Jesus she endures. John wrote of the piercing of Jesus’ side after His death in prophesy fulfillment. So emotional turmoil Mary experienced are all treasured things pondering them in her heart in Luke 2:19, 50-51. Messiah Jesus arrived as Simeon was waiting all his life to see the “consolation of Israel.”Jesus in the Temple during the Passover impressed the learned Synagogue and priests while doing the business of His Father God. But has created upheavals disturbing people in Israel, including mother of Messiah. Her pain is thought losing Jesus unmarried, compassionate son executed for the crimes He did not commit in His life brings Mary pain. A mother to all and His brothers standing outside desiring to see Him, answered, “My mother and my brothers are those who hear the word of God and do in Luke 8:19-21. Simeon’s prophesy comforts her like all mothers who embrace all children as their own. Jesus is a child destined for the fall and rise of many in Israel and a sign so that thoughts of many hearts are revealed.” Peter denied Jesus three times as Judas betrayed him, Pharaseees, Saduccees lied about Him and, people healed and helped voted crucify Him. These are the some thoughts of many hearts revealed.Today’s society needs to build a sound foundation from an early childhood like Jesus to grow and apply good values. A child without sound foundation in God is at the mercy of any man-made ideas that do cannot fulfill the void reserved exclusively to be filled only by God. The strong bond created in child connects to God and great reward to bless the child. Father God is the patent owner creator of humans with privileged access in the hearts and minds of children. They are never too young to understand agape LOVE of God for them at any level. The Sunday schools and school assemblies are essential for nurturing their spirit and minds in God in Christ if Christians. Placing emphasis on only the academic achievement at an expense of wellbeing lacks growth and the deeper hope for a meaningful life. Focus on only aesthetic external physical appearance or looks, price tag designer labels and superficial ideas deprive them of inner peace and inner strength in God. Some think they are worth the price tag, under pressure to be the first to be seen in those latest most expensive clothing. And gadgets to show off to get ‘street credit respect’ is the cause of competition to impress. A child worries more about external label than contents of character and effects of behaviour on others. Playing games are other sources of addiction they resort so buy the series to play without focussing more on academic excellence. These are some of the challenges facing a society desperate to create the perfect utopia of an academic achievement league table. Children are stressed in the class system society which thinks some are of higher value so deserve better treatment than others deprived. Children bear brunt of doing without a proper meal or sleep to their detriment. Peering children early to socialise them creates us versus them postcode society with a lack of trust for adults separated from them. Parents are too busy chasing money to provide for children often emotionally and socially retarded. Such explosive children feel a right of entitlement without a common sense of the due diligence and care for other people. They are not allowed to be corrected by parents so grow up with an attitude of disregard for Authority and the significant others in charge of them. Some feel like victims despite the privilege compared to other children all over the world. And permanently angry, ungrateful and unthankful to the parents who sacrifice time, effort and resources to make their lives better than previous generations. So never content want more and more even if they have abundance beyond an average child globally. Not allowed to be part of family work ethic are made lazy by addiction to games or substance abuse to numb their perceived pains of life. Unrealistic demands to be perfect to fit in with friends causes damage to children growing mimicking adults yet without adult maturity and experience. Jesus warned about these behaviours during the last days of unruly children out of control and a menace to society. There is need for rewriting foundation for early years to develop children like Finland to nurture and to protect them from vultures of society. Each time the children hurt each other or the others, accusing fingers are pointed at them without recognising the root of these problems created by society. Parents are treated as lazy for spending quality time with their children. Schools are so understaffed short of budgets education has become position on league table. So naming and shaming them than proper training to prepare children to become self-sufficient to have good success in life. Education, academic performance is only 20% of life so the rest 80% must be taught to prepare people to cope. It’s deception to make education end in life because of billions of educated people unemployed, exist on debt in the world. Their miseducations deprives children of practical survival skills and essential spatial knowledge. It frustrates young people without ability to farm, garden, do practical hands on life work due to misconception that is a blue collar job beneath them. Older generations piggy back them for life to help them make it but unaware of sacrifices involves and unwilling to support them in old age. So feel too sophisticated to live within their budget to give back to parents seen as a nuisance to their luxury pleasures of life. Honour parents and adults to bring blessings and so it is well with you to live long. A wise person receives good advise to be a wiser person in life but the Bible says the fool gets angry and hates you for advising them. Be kind in all you do towards others because it is seeds sown God sends back to you years later when you do not remember those past years. Life is beautiful and simple to understand because God creates all things beautiful in HIS OWN time. You came individual in this world and will face God alone to give an account of yourself no matter who is backing you in life. The ideas children have must be guided with patience to educate them about the real world. Their perspective may seem superficial but with support and guidance helped to develop better as audacious, bold, confident, resilient people with good success. Some want good things of life not understanding the years behind the scenes preparing through hard work. The end result seen is after years of toiling, sacrifices and sweat. It is necessary to teach children value for time, value for life to be who they truly are with humility, selfrespect without ego attitude problems. Children need incredible encouragement of hope.Children are part of a bigger society that expects the best from them. Investment of quality time spent with their family is essential to bond with them. Above all is to teach them to love themselves first, to have agape love for all others. Kindness, Mercy is far better than cruelty, anger and hatred which destroys person. The society’s excuse is to blame government for lack of funds for youth centres but a need exists to talk to children at home as individuals too. They need their love and support that makes them trust their family more than naive friends. God is LOVE so Spirit of God’s LOVE POWER in you enables you to help children to feel loved and part of society. Abandoned by the system many rely on themselves to make wrong choices and decisions. The fact that they are clothed, fed, have own bedroom, latest gadgets is not enough to meet their emotional needs of peace, joy acceptance if adults too busy to interact one to one with them daily. There is no excuse for not helping them young and consistently with their hobbies at home, music, piano lessons. Parents can afford other things but complain of inability to invest in future of their own children. It is time redesign educational foundation to include interests of children not force them to study subjects they hate. Most are under stress or pressure to perform take their anger on others. Society plays part in responsibility for how they turn up as adults.
The students at the University of Oxford voted to ban a Christian group from one of their colleges because it will threaten their “physical and mental safety.” The JCR at Lady Margaret Hall have voted overwhelmingly in favour of banning Christian Concern group from hosting a residential summer camp on the Oxford premises because their values do not align with those of the college. Christian Concern members protested outside the abortion clinics and its founder Andrea Williams believes in the criminalisation of homosexuality. She claimed the earth is only 4,000 years old not the 4.5 billion years by science community. The group wants to host the residential camp for young people, aims to train and equip the invited students on what it means to proclaim Christ in public life, but JCR members vote rejects the residency by a margin of 81 votes to eight, with two absentia. According to student newspaper OxStu, “members of the JCR spoke in the debate recognised Christian Concern as “real threat to the physical and mental safety of students.” One student made point “we’re inviting them into our home and we can’t invite people who stand against our values.” The debate was consultative, but the college’s governing body will make its final decision next week. The move is understood to be driven by the LGBT students who say they wouldn’t feel so welcome if the college gives platform to the Christian camp. There is a perceived threat because of organisation’s history of pro-life choice protests outside the abortion clinics. The camp is supposed to take place next summer, before term starts but no fixed date has been set. Although the vast majority of students will not be at the college, some will be on site doing research projects. Around 60 postgraduates live permanently on site. In a statement to The OxStu, Oxford student newspaper, a JCR spokesperson said: “The JCR met to discuss and pass a motion that they oppose the Christian group coming. But, until a decision is made, it would not be appropriate to comment further.”
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Men’s expressed feelings of masculinity of life as a man is not always easy James Livitski Canadian graphic designer says. Men should be able to talk about their feelings without feeling ‘weak’ and ‘not in control.’ Stories of the difficulties of modern women are often told, but how much do you read about the downsides of being a man? This searingly honest conversation unfolded online this week as men shared the negative impact of “toxic masculinity” on their lives. It was a rare chance for many to express how society expects men’s toughness, sexual virility and emotional reserve that lead to isolation, loneliness or just feelings of being uncomfortable around mates. It all started when British columnist and feminist Caitlin Moran put out a call for men on Twitter to talk about drawbacks of being guy today. We spoke to people sharing their thoughts and feelings. A Super Bowl of feelings unfold as James Livitski, Toronto, Canada was really so happy to see topic widely talked about on Twitter. He said, I’ve been saying this forever that there’s a stigma about men talking about feelings. We’re born into thinking a man should be ‘tough,’ push feelings aside because it isn’t ‘manly.’James Livitski, 32, sees countless times the impact of social norms that men should not be emotional or vulnerable. “I’ve heard of many relationships end because the man can’t express the way he feels. “We need to be more open to listening to how a man is feeling and push more for them to understand that it’s OK to feel things.” Although his own dad is a “really sensitive man”, he says that many are not taught how do that without fear they will be judged. “We’re all humans and we all feel. You should never be afraid to say what is on your mind. Men should have a Super Bowl for feelings,” he suggests. Increased attention has been paid to men’s mental health in recent years. British Men have the Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) aims to challenge a culture that prevents men seeking help when they need it, highlighting that in Britain the single biggest killer of men under 45 is suicide. Men and women experience many of the same mental health issues, but men with depression or anxiety may hide emotions and express anger or aggression instead, according to the US National Institute of Mental Health.
Pressure is men who express their love for family or friends as feminine and emasculated, according to Phil Chan, a digital artist from California. “My dad never told me he loved me, even though I know he does. He did not hug me even now in his eighties I will love to hear it.”Phil Chan: “I think #Metoo movement opened up communications between genders.“After I told my closest friends how I feel about them, if, it brought us closer together. We hug on a regular basis!” Phil also explained that when caring for his baby nephew, women in public would assume he was clueless about looking after an infant. At a party with his nephew, a group of women criticised him, giving instructions on how to “properly” change and hold the baby. He worries this negatively affects men’s hopes about fatherhood. “I think if men might to be more vulnerable, we could be more compassionate and empathetic,” he suggests.Mark is a software developer in Sydney, Australia. Mark Pursey, 46, suggests that men find it difficult to foster friendships if they meet a new person. In contrast to men many women who enthusiastically exchange contact information. “I have definitely got a mental list of ‘missed connections’ where I met some guy at a random event got on really well. It’s like ‘see you later dude’ and we never meet again.” He says that in many cases this overwhelmingly leads to loneliness and isolation. Mark says that’s because men are “not learning the emotional labour stuff”, adding, “we like to show off but not put in the boring maintenance work in relationships. “It’s like we still need play dates organised for us.”
Another issue talked about is men feeling uncomfortable when peers blatantly check out or sexualize women, commenting on their appearance. “It can get toxic easily, and as a guy we’re expected to contribute. It’s happened a lot and it’s so uncomfortable. Just being around that conversation makes me feel dirty,” commented Alan Gretch, 21, from the US state of Nebraska.Alan is completing a Masters in human services to become a counsellor. Alan says these conversations are common especially when there are no women around: “They range from ‘this person is hot’ to more graphic descriptions of girls.” He says it’s difficult to challenge men when the conversations begin. “It’s bully, be bullied, or stay silent. It’s a no win situation,” Alan explains. Anxiety about expectations of sexual virility was raised by many contributors on Twitter. “The idea if you’re not: drinking heavily, trying to shag everything moves, living and breathing sport, solving problems with violence, competing with other men to be the ‘alpha’, then you’re not a man,” wrote Neil Walsh. Another user added assumptions of sexual advances are often made when he tries to be “just friends” with women, adding “Yes I know there are very good reasons for this.”
I don’t want to be daddy
Gin Lowdean, in Edinburgh, Scotland, revealed that her four-year-old son told her he doesn’t want to be a dad when he grows up. Instead he’s “excited to be a mummy.” When Gin pointed out most men don’t become mothers, he became sad because “Daddies have to work all the time, they never get to dance and nobody hugs them.” Gin explained that she was shocked because her husband is very affectionate with his sons, but she presumes her son picked up idea from nursery and television. “His dad was devastated, he hugs him all the time and loves to dance,” she explained, adding that to try to rectify the issue by purchasing books about how to express feelings of stories, challenge traditional masculinity. Express yourself honestly, be polite, straight to the point, upfront with feelings. Its vital learn to talk to the person because individual differences show people hear things from their own point of view. See yourself in another’s shoes before you speak, text, telephone, call or write them letter. Your goal is be friends, acquaintances, colleagues, date or marry. Be specific so your motive is clearly expressed directly not to belittle or blackmail, manipulate or abuse their emotions. Women are very sensitive to words and so remember to be careful what you say because they never forget the details of conversations. No matter how long ago, women remember where conversations take place, when it took place, what worn and tone of voice and moods. Women pay particular attention to details, colours, shapes, sizes, context and your choices of meals, drinks etc. So do not talk out of frustration or anger to offload and dump feelings on others for relief. Respect differences, be pragmatic and agree to disagree when feelings are not mutual. Consider effects of feelings on others if you really care about them you must compromise and find neutral ground to corporate. If shy, looking for the love of your life, approach a trusted reliable friend, family member, pastor, life coach, mentor or counsellors to seek advice. God created marriage so if you need a relationship and desire spouse to marry pray, ask God’s help for wisdom, guidance, direction because God says to find a wife is a good thing. God said it’s not good to be alone so pleases God you meet a right partner to marry. Its Gods idea you marry so ask HIS HELP not go to psychics or witchdoctors to give you charm, potions, lotions, spells to destroy your life, home, career business creates discord. GOD IS LOVE so BEST Expert on love, relationship, family matters.
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Death is a sensitive matter that brings about all sorts of negative evil emotions and disagreements due to accusations blaming others as their cause of a death. God said it’s appointed unto man to die and there is a time to die except unless one of those who will never see die in the Rapture. It clearly says in the Bible an average age of life is between 70 to 80 years although exceptions mean that some die younger and other people live hundreds of years. However awareness of existence of facts of life about death does not make death easier to accept, no matter how long the person lived. Even when a loved one is ill for many years there is expectation for recovery despite doctor’s prognosis. Letting go of loved ones is painful and soon turns to anger of feelings of being abandoned by loved ones. Soon anger turns to denial and the blame of anyone as cause of their death. Often accusations are levelled against a frontline staff for not trying harder to save loved ones despite the best medical resources. Relatives accuse and blame others for causing death through evil spirits using, sorcery, witchcraft and divinations charms, curses and spells. Often the shock caused by the death is compounded by financial demands imposed on relatives for a grand burial beyond their means and resources. The family is given a list of items to buy by the elders before burial takes place. The families compete for the corpse and the process of burial instead of unifying in grief for the sake of their loved ones. In some parts of the world burial is bigger than wedding so requires lots of money. And the sudden death burdens relatives obliged to provide coffin, food, clothing drinks accommodations for guests. This causes so much debt and puts pressure on families of the deceased because the resources are diverted for burial rather than investments into projects to help those alive. Fear of being haunted and punished by the deceased, if not buried properly or revenge for ” whoever” is responsible for the death becomes their obsession. Until the dead tells them who caused their death, a cloud of suspicion hangs around alleged suspects. They are often targeted and victimized, beaten, ostracised and in some cases killed to ensure that person does not kill more people. Thoughts and fears of potential deaths to be caused by a “perpetrator” drives the community to eliminate such an evil person from their midst. A closer look at alleged perpetrators involve the issue of land disputes envied prosperity and labelling them ritual killers for the material gain. Sudden change in wealth, buildings, or good fortune is thought to be the result of such killings. These are some reasons for delays for funerals for months or years until these issues are resolved. Grief and sorrow overshadow reality with strong desire to pin death on perpetrator for closure to project the pain and loss on them. People are fined, chased away from community banished for life so if anyone shows compassion to them are accused of being part of evil circle causing death. Adults or children are accused by the witchdoctors who fuel confusion by their condemnation of people targetted as perpetrator. Anger, and hatred causes bitterness, sickness, due to unforgiveness, fear and chaos as confusion in the family tarnishes many generations holding grudges by blaming members. An unforgiving person is very poor in spirit, suffers afflictions, many hardships, hypertension, pressure, lack of sleep, stress, exhaustion and serious depression, poor diet so low immunity. These affects quality of life made worse by the copius painkillers literally killing them. Challenges in life of the matured born-again child of God promotes them through furnance of faith to overcome in victory. What does not kill you makes you stronger so problem strengthen you for testimony to the Glory of God God gives solutions in Jesus Name to prove HIS miracle power is same yesterday, today and forever. Problems draw you closer to God to triump always. And we know nothing can separate us from the LOVE OF GOD including death. Personal neglect and the lack of drinking water causes dehydration and death. Do not seek evil sources of secret family idols in shrines through divination sacrifices or offerings on altars destroying people. Their potions, lotions, charms, rings and objects tie them to evil covenants killing them. God says MY people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. These professed Christian believers consult family idols as history reveals in covenant rituals for protection, power, childbirth, help sought for healing and material riches that ENSNARE family to evil spirits. So family members dedicated in the womb or after birth for life to witchdoctors to continue covenant bondage to powers of darkness yet confess to BELIEVE in God as Christians. Deep-rooted rituals secret rituals take place despite official church burials or business success. The family perform secret rituals involving witchdoctors in the name of culture. So these rituals require families paying the huge sums of money to witchdoctors for buying, cows, goats etc to pacify gods or idols from destroying more people. And sadly these rituals cause these divisions separating them from God depriving the family of joy, peace, love and unity. The family gets the worse problems because they held captive by dark powers. Some remain slaves to witchdoctors held in a spiritual captivity and the families takes loans to pay them. Younger generations have no idea of causes of evil challenges in their life as dedicated in the womb by rituals performed by these witchdoctors or herbalist. Fear of evil eyes of enemies reinforce greed of witch doctors fueling hatred among people seeking solutions to problems in time of need. Yet God the Giver of life warns about death as part of life to prepare to deal with death to cope better and to mourn with HOPE OF ASSURANCE OF ETERNAL LIFE IN THE RESURRECTION.
So it is important to remember children pick on these issues affecting by them if unresolved early. The child listens to various insinuations and made to take sides in such conflicts. Developing children who see physically and experience these matters need help to teach them the topic of death and loss sensitively in primary schools to fulfill section (a) of aims of the 1988 Education Reform Act to promote spiritual, moral, cultural, mental, physical development of pupils at school and of society. These issues must be addressed during Death Education in the home and by Teachers in their curriculum. Doctors also call for death education in schools to be taught in classroom to demystify death, ageing and dying. They need resiliency, more compassion positive proactive approach to death. Death Education in Schools is critically important to bring awareness for better understanding and for future generations. Afterlife has many beliefs so necessary to explain a human body is subject to change or decay over lifetime so demands better care of life to treat it as a precious priceless gift to treasure. Someone people think teaching death education in schools is too sensitive or inappropriate so might do the opposite of putting fear in them. Death education if discussed appropriately will not harm children but rather enhance knowledge and understand from the early years as young as three years if relatives died to help them express grief.
Teachers must be trained to handle the changes in children bereaved, the level of coursework, homework, studies and focus or concentrations. Schools must provide one-to-one counselling room for those children grieving to express the grief in private using Educational resources provided for schools, teachers to bring awareness. Healing takes years but a good enough starting point to help ease the pain. Relatives are traumatized after death and some think there is no light at the tunnel. Yet with the right support and compassion families will overcome death to find peace in the midst of adversity of death. Restoring hope after death or questions of cause of death can be dealt with by teacher in simple terms without indepth medical terms to help rather than confuse children. An expert paediatrician if required can be invited to guide children to express and write journals or scrapbook, drawings and to express grief after bereavement. Above all children need financial support, food and extra input into an academic work to catch up with loss of time away from school during such funerals. A conflict over the deceased loved ones seriously impacts children for the rest of live. So it is important to be careful what is said in front of them or listening nearby. The property and assets of a deceased is the major cause of divisions in the families. The family makes sacrifices to educate a deceased person so feels more entitled to their belongings. A wife and children are antagonized by deceased family for feeling cheated while deceased lived. So they are punished to pay for the costs of the burial for killing their only source of income. These issues must be addressed immediately to give scholarship to the children go continue their education. If not death of a parent ends education. Or death of adult breadwinner ends the well-being of elderly parents. Vitriol and rage caused by death means litigations in court drains limited resources. These parents need support too to help their children so both need encouragement. Life originates from God so not owned by anyone. Jesus said He gave His Life to overcome death so the sting of death is crushed by Jesus Christ’s resurrection power by raising from the grave. And so a believer in Jesus Christ is expected to live by God’s Biblical commands only. A secret ritual unseen or unknown to the pastor is SEEN BY GOD. All will be held accountable by God to give an account for their life and other people in their families. These are serious matters to reflect to make a right choice to please God. Living by God’s standard affects a family divided in their thoughts and the actions contrary to God’s WORDS. And it important to remember you come as an individual into this world and will face God as an individual on judgement day. Better to obey God than follow the men leading you into sin and destruction in the name of cultural belief. Despite all the punishment a deceased does not get out alive because of vengeance so does not really solve any problems. Believers can humbly share their faith from Bible in advance on God’s stance on the death and resurrection. Jesus guarantees joy and eternal life after death for a season so believers are assured of seeing loved ones again in the resurrection Rapture if a Christian believer. This means death is not the end families or loved ones, all will be reunited without pain, sorrow, grief, tears or crying anymore in perfect joy eternally. It’s important to EDUCATE people to understand CREATOR GOD’S words on burial and funerals. Excessive display of wealth to show off to others or pay money for journey or bury cars in graves with personal belongings are unbiblical. Worldly attitude to life seeps into church burial ceremonies despite Bible’s position th material goods does not constitute a man’s life. The worldly goods become completely useless in the afterlife and people must know this. The amount of money invested in death will change communities if it’s invested in a life of a deceased while alive. Believers must carefully pray and study word of God and seek deliverance from all these generational entanglements. Educated family members have an important role to play not to be deceived by envious evil people misleading them. God says in his words that where is no vision the people perish. The devil is a liar using deception to often manipulate illiterate family members without knowledge or understanding of medical biology, body chemistry, health and well-being. And so every death is placed on the targeted victim blamed or ostracised to ease the pain of death. Instead hatred breeds depression, low immunity, disease and heart attack, mental illness or madness. Unforgivingness over years destroys the health of people, as stated, hatred is the poison drank by a person expecting an enemy to die. It kills joy, causes misery and deep anger unleashed on innocent family members or colleagues. Endtime events are fast happening so this is time to ask GOD FOR HIS MERCY, GRACE, COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS, LOVE for yourself and your loved ones in Jesus Name. Jesus taught us to forgive and to receive Forgiveness from God so release people to God. Forgiveness does not mean you become best friend of enemy to hang out with them but it clears your heart from offending God and Jesus and grieving the Holy Spirit. The Bible says all sins will be forgiven except the sins against the Holy Spirit. Lifespan is the will of God so work with God and take of your body, Spirit and soul in Christ.
Christian believers in Christ in the grave wait for new glorified bodies like Jesus’ Resurrected body during Rapture. John 5:25 & 5:28 says a time will come dead in graves will hear shout and come out of the graves in first resurrection. Jesus’ Glorified body looks exactly as He lived so was seen and recognised, some touched His wounds and ate with Jesus on many occasions. Jesus went through the walls of a locked door of the Upper Room and interacted with people. 1 Thessalonians 4:14-17 says dead in Christ will rise first then we who are alive will be caught up together with them in the clouds to heaven. During Rapture Bible says in a twinkle of an eye the dead will arise alive first and given new glorified body with those alive before ascending to heaven. God will revitalise dead human figures to resurrect and make them alive again. In Matthew 27:52-53, Jesus’ Resurrection manifested in graves opening and those buried came out of tombs alive. They came out of the graves and went into the HOLY CITY Jerusalem in Israel and appeared to many people. Godly bodies of many saints who died and decayed is clearly stated, came out of their graves alive, seen by many people. Matthew’s statement said those who came out of opened graves, who had been buried went out alive to visit their families and loved ones so lived again. Jesus’ death and Resurrection brought life as Ezekiel 37:1-14 miracle described in the valley of dry bones to prove RESURRECTION POWER of the Living God ALMIGHTY. In the same way, those who died in Christ will be resurrected in the Rapture alive into heaven. Glorified bodies like Jesus live on earth and heaven yet Rapture miracle sounds so impossible to some human minds, they say it will never happen. The thought of dead people coming alive again after so many years of passing as decayed bones is often dismissed. With GOD All Things ARE POSSIBLE as Jesus lives again after burial three days in the grave. Similarly resurrection of all dead in Christ will be happening during Rapture. When Jesus comes in the CLOUDS, Trumpet sounds and shout wakes the dead in Christ so they arise first to meet together with those alive in the air. The Rapture event is imminent but depends on God’s timing alone. Eventually when Rapture happens people will recognise loved ones and reunite as a family. The most important point is that God’s commands restores lives again. Numerous miracles of the dead raised to life is in Bible so all Christians in Christ will be resurrected in Rapture. As vision of Ezekiel 37:1-14 describes spiritual lives restored in the valley of dry bones so will Rapture be. It is significant and relevant to compare these processes described. Because they give insight to Rapture life resurrection although initially means nation restored to God. God will physically restore dead dry bones in Christ in graves in exactly the same way as dry bones in the valley. The Trumpet call sound heard from the four corners will bring dead back to life instantly like Ezekiel 37:1-14. Miracles of God often have precedence in Bible to encourage people to believe. The Spirit of God in mankind is eternal so never dies and this Spirit returns into dead people, wakes them up from death sleeplike coma alive. The vision shows life depends on God’s Power not on circumstances of the people. Putting “breath” of God’s Spirit into the bones shows God will restore them physically and spiritually. Those in Christ fulfill this prophecy with Israel when God will gather believers in Christ from all lands into heaven. Later Christ will return to establish His Millennial Kingdom in the land of Israel says Matthew 24:30–31. Human bodies as described in 1 Corinthians 15:42–53 are perishable, dishonourable and weak due to sin. Our glorified bodies will be imperishable, honourable and powerful. Our new bodies will be no longer mere “natural” bodies but “spiritual” bodies focussed on heavenly places, at one with Holy Spirit of God like Jesus’ Glorified body. Resurrection of Jesus guarantees us that physical death in a grave is not the end. The body sleeps but the spirit soul goes to the LORD God as Philippians 1:20-24 stated. Awake and sing who who dwell in dust for yout dew like dew of herbs and earth shall cast out dead says Isaiah 26:19. Lord Jesus returns in cloud with spirit soul to raise the body in glory and unite body with soul as one being to share His Glory forever.
John 11:17-27 says Jesus is Resurrection and The Life 17 so Jesus found Lazarus was in the tomb four days. 18Bethany was near Jerusalem about two miles off 19 and many of the Jews came to Martha and Mary to console them concerning their brother.20 Martha heard Jesus was coming so went to meet Him, but Mary stayed at the house. 21 Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if You had been here, my brother would not have died. 22 I know whatever You ask God HE will give You. 23 Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.”24 Martha said to Him, “I know he will rise in resurrection on the last day.” 25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life; he who believes in Me will live even if he dies, 26 and all who live and believes in Me will never die. Do you believe this?” 27 She said to Him, “Yes, Lord I believe You are Christ, the Son of God who came to save the world.” Jesus wept, prayed and thanked God for hearing His request so said, “Lazarus, come out.” Immediately Lazarus walked out of the graves after he was buried four days. Events taking place in alignment with God’s plans are unfolding daily to prepare people to get ready for the Rapture. Only God knows exact day, hour or time but it is good to educate yourself and be in the know to make informed choice. It is written in Ezekiel 37:1-14 in Bible describing detailed process God used to bring dry bones to life. The Hand of the LORD God came on Ezekiel in the Spirit of the LORD in the valley full of human bones. Ezekiel was asked to cause dry bones to live again after all hope was lost. God asked Ezekiel, ‘Son of man, can these bones live? Ezekiel answered, “O Lord God, You know.” God said “Prophesy to these bones and say to them ‘dry bones hear the word of the Lord! The LORD God said speak to these bones, “Surely to cause breath to enter you to live. I AM will put sinews on you to bring flesh on you to cover you with skin and put breath in you and you will live. Then you will know I AM the LORD. Ezekiel prophesied as commanded and there was noise and suddenly a rattling and the bones came together bone to bone so sinews and flesh came on them and skin covered them but there was no breath in them. God said to Ezekiel, “Prophesy breath, prophesy, son of man and say to breath, ‘Thus says the LORD God, “Come from four winds, O breath and breathe on the slain that they will live.” And so Ezekiel prophesied as God commanded and breath came into them and they lived and stood on their feet as an exceedingly great army. So God said, “Son of man, these bones are the whole house of Israel. They say, ‘Our bones are dry, our hope is lost and so are cut off! Prophesy the LORD God says, “O My people I will open your graves and you come up from your graves, and bring you into land of Israel. You will know I AM the LORD when I open your graves O My people to bring you up from your graves. I will put My Spirit in you and you will live and I will place you in your own land. Then you will know I AM the LORD and spoken it and performed it,” says the LORD.” This Spiritual change is seen in physical manifestation of nation of Israel and all the nations on earth are grafted in Christ through God’s Eternal covenant with Abraham. Just as a dead situations are restored to life so dead in Christ are restored to life in the Rapture as people believe. Some dead people are best preserved cardava seen waiting for resurrection if Godly believer in Christ. The body of a 2,000-year-old Chinese woman is most well-preserved mummy in the world. Xin Zhui died in 163 BC so found in 1971, her hair was intact, her skin was soft to the touch, and her veins still housed type-A blood.
God’s Consuming Spiritual Fire Power is again demonstrated in preserved prayer room saved intact despite devastating fire that destroyed the Bethel Community Church. A miracle happened at the heart of the church when God’s Supernatural Fire POWER saved HIS WORDS recorded in sermons. The Bible says God puts HIS WORDS ABOVE HIMSELF so human fire did not destroy God’s preserved words on tape. Even in the midst of adversity, tragedy or spiritual attacks God always comes through with a testimony of His Word. In this case literally preserving precious priceless sermons that GLORIFIED HIS Holy Name. The father of current pastor passed into heaven 18 months ago and heaven and the angels ensured God’s words did not perish. The prayers of the righteous avails much as proved by the Holy Presence of God in the church. The Bethel Community Church prayer room survived unscathed in the devastating fire which tore through the church. The pastor of the fire-ravaged church said it is “quite incredible” that a prayer room survived relatively unscathed. Worshippers speculated a “spiritual fire” protected the room, Pastor Andrew Cleverly said. Mr Cleverly is hoping to retrieve tapes of his late father’s sermons which are stored in the room. About 95 firefighters and police officers responded on 15 June but it took until the following evening to put out the blaze. A 43-year-old man and a woman, aged 36, were arrested on suspicion of arson released pending further inquiries. An image released from inside the church shows a room and furniture within it apparently untouched by the fire. “Pastor Andrew Cleverly called for the community to “stand up and be strong” after the fire. Mr Cleverly said some of the community had “found comfort” in the belief that its use as a prayer room had shielded it from the fire. It is quite incredible really,” said Mr Cleverly, who got image from engineer. “Said it was left untouched. And there was no fire door, I think it was just a wooden door. “People are taking comfort in the belief that the reason the room was still intact was because of Spiritual Fire which the ordinary fire could not penetrate.Mr Cleverly’s father was the former church pastor who passed away 18 months ago said the room was used to store audio tape recording of father’s sermons. “When it is safe to do so, will to try and retrieve them,” he said. And a special service will take place nearby at Havelock Street Presbyterian Church from 15:00 BST on Sunday. “It will be a special time of reflection and a time to come together,” added Mr Cleverly. “I would like to thank the Havelock Street Presbyterian church which has very, very generously offered us a space for worship.”The Pastor has thanked Havelock Street Presbyterian Church for offering his congregation a place to worship. He also thanked the community and the local businesses for supporting the church. “Sometimes it takes something like this that shows how a community comes together,” he added. The 130-year Grade-II listed Bethel Community Church on Stow Hill in Newport was destroyed after a fire spread from an old nightclub next door. The significance of this true story is at times tragedy destroys physical structures and the material possessions but God helps to strengthen faith and the Spirit of God in believers encourages us to continue by faith because it is well with our soul in Christ Jesus Name. Material things and structures can be replaced but the Spirit of God in mankind is irreplaceable for eternal salvation.
Jesus preached a social gospel typically to diverse audience of religious leaders, governors, media, officials, the masses, to reach their heart, mind, body, soul to relate with others on Godly terms. This theme King put in historical context as part of social justice to bring awareness to each other. Especially with regard to God’s superabundant human resources provided and entrusted to all as stewards. Reverend King, the prophet, theologian, scholar, preacher, pastor dwelt on these social gospel themes analysing society’s lifelong struggles for economic justice, empowerment of the poor working-class people of all colours. King described himself as “profound advocate of social gospel” who tried to teach the capitalist system not to put profit, property rights ahead of basic human rights demanded people have adequate food, education, housing, decent job, well paid income. His more revolutionary quest for social justice, society above racist poverty, prevention of war not celebrated as his peaceful civil rights movement. Martin Luther King Jr. emphasised there is no intrinsic difference between workers. And King told American Federation of Labour and Congress of Industrial Organizations (AFL-CIO) an American important trade union in 1963, that skin colour, ethnicity must not divide those working for a living, he said. “Economic justice,” King said, required land so men must not take all the basic necessities to give luxuries to the few,” and “where all our gifts and resources are held not for ourselves alone but as instruments of service for the rest of humanity.” Same year, King called on President J. F Kennedy to honour emancipation of African-Americans from slavery in 100 years before. King said, a new freedom agenda is necessary. This agenda was not only about civil rights so 28 August demonstration culminated in King’s “I Have a Dream” speech publicized 4th April Washington for Job Freedom. It was result of many years of organizing by black workers and their unions. In his speech, King said nations gave former slaves a “bad check” promise of freedom that did not materialize. And generations later, his dream is for equal rights for substantive change in people’s economic and social conditions. Though country’s adoption of Civil Rights Act and Voting Rights Act completed “first phase” of freedom movement King said. The “second phase” was for “economic equality” so everyone could have a well-paying job or basic level of income with decent levels of healthcare, education and housing. In October 1966, 100,000 copies of the booklet A Freedom Budget for All Americans, with introduction by King distributed by unions. Freedom Budget proposed a second New Deal to promote job growth of living wages for public spending on social goods. After 50 years since Martin Luther’s demand for equal human rights for all people, it is sad go say things have gotten worse. Although it is true that great strides are achieved since 50 years, some of these issues got worse for working classes. So many are suffering although they built the country and their labour, resourses or blood sacrificed as veterans to fight and defend country they do not receive the due entitlement. As a matter of fact society has shifted from human centred needs of Marlow’s hierarchy to selfish few depriving the majority. The divide of haves and have nots intensified and so many thousands now homeless and without food daily. It is scandalous tons of perfectly good food, clothes, items are thrown away instead of giving it to poor starving and dying daily. Government issued final warning to the businesses to report gender pay gap by midnight it emerged Conservative party did not plan to file its own figures until a day after the deadline. Amber Rudd, the minister for women and equalities as well as home secretary, said there was no excuse for businesses not to be transparent as deadline on Wednesday 4th approached warned them refusing to report is breaking law. Those with 250 or more employees had until before midnight to meet the legal requirement to report a pay gap data to government or face enforcement action by Equality Commission. 50 years after Martin Luther King’s pleas for the social and economic system justice still society seems worse off. Jesus said the rich are getting richer while the poor get poorer due to greed of those in charge of God’s resources misallocated. Hardworking people are poorest dealing with lack of resources, hunger, poverty inspite of challenges keep their heads up high with dignity. Those in charge label them “lazy” underclass not worth same equal treatment. Those entrusted responsible to provide equally for them hurt them by their unfair policies. The world sees more wealth and more resources than ever before limited exclusively to those few privileged at the top. They ensure all their needs and luxurious wants met but despise other’s needs and refuse to provide for them. Many suffer and die needlessly because of such treatments and unfair policies. #Paymetoo women’s platform seeks justice from boardrooms exclusively run by men without realistic knowledge of women and family needs. Society is still run by draconian policies that treat women as inferior weaker sex not competent as male counterparts. So refuse to recognise great talents and the achievements of women globally in all spheres of life. Some men literally think paying women well diminishes power over them use pay gap to bully women. Interesting colleagues trained by same experts, graduates of same universities, employed by same company refuse to pay them equally because is male and other female. Gender is used to punish career women working twice to run the home, family and gender discrimination at work. 21st Century women in space contribute to all aspects of life. Behind every successful man is a woman and men need women’s input so pay well. It is important macho policies recognise a need to provide to help working-class children’s life chances and wellbeing as they are introducing policies actively to make their lives worse. Look at anti-welfare measures like cutting “in-work” benefits freezing housing and children’s benefits. So education system scrapped education maintenance grants, stripped school budgets so teachers are unable to afford paper for their pupils. Closure of local youth clubs and children’s centres as research from Barnardo’s this week finds funding to early-years children’s services has been cut by 50% in some areas since 2010. Families now choose between eating and buying medicines. People gather at the end of Poor People March on 19 June 1968 in Washington DC. Photograph: Arnold Sachs/AFP/Getty Images Before travelling to Memphis in 1968 to participate in garbage-workers’ strike King had been criss-crossing the country for weeks, promoting a multi-racial coalition to pressure Congress to reallocate money from Vietnam war to money for human needs. King called it Poor People’s Campaign so promoted an economic bill of rights for all Americans including five pillars of meaningful jobs at a living wage; a secure and adequate income; access to land; access to capital, for poor people, minorities; ability for ordinary people to play truly significant role in government. It was, King said, a “last ditch” effort to save America from the interrelated evils of racism, poverty and war. Historians constantly search for and reshape knowledge of the past, based on challenges faced in their own times. Public awareness focus on King’s “first phase” of the movement, for civil voting, rights, a plethora of scholarship sees King as inconvenient hero who led a movement beyond civil rights to more fundamental economic or social change.Everything decent and fair in American life is under threat, King said in his time so all must do well to remember a fight for economic justice as King’s dream for better encompassing American society. Remembering King’s economic justice, broadly conceived helps understand the relevance of his legacy today. It helps us to realize King’s moral discourse of the gap between “haves and the have-nots” from his role in labour movement and civil rights movements. Remembering eloquent man in the Lincoln Memorial in 1963, remembers King as man on the streets, sitting in jail cells, or as a man rousing workers at union conventions and on union picket lines. Remembered as nonviolent surrounded by a violent police, screaming mobs, and physically assaulted by white racists sometimes. It is essential all nations remember King’s crusade seeking justice and fairness for all alternatives to America’s exploitative racial capitalism. King is remembered as a pioneer helping to understand the agenda for modern times. Exploitative capitalism will come to an end as Bible warns in the book of Revelations.
- Adapted from To the Promised Land: Martin Luther King and the Fight for Economic Justice by Michael K Honey. Copyright © 2018 by Michael K Honey. With permission of the publisher, WW Norton, Inc. All rights reserved
Traumatic tragic death bereavement is completely unexpected loss, worst form of grief people go through. Suddenly changes lifeplan dramatically, cancels activities so a shock to the system. One minute conversation is taking place about life but the next minute subject changes to unexpected death. It is most painful if the person appeared healthy, full of life with a great future suddenly cut short by death. The numbing shock of loss is hard to sink in and feels that loved one is about to walk through the door home. Seems like a dream, surreal but wide awake with sleepless nights so deep within the heart an overwhelming pain lingers on. Everyday passes by without a text, contact or phone call, facebook so realises it must be really true. Shock is a normal reaction and unbelief deceased person is really no longer with us here on earth. Sudden change of plans means numbness while taking in loss starting to sink in. Though we understand death as part of life it does not make it easier to accept. Death is painful and difficult to experience it hurts beyond belief and complicated. At times pain seems insurmountable but support and a therapy can help to understand, accept and ease the pain. After death of a loved one life is never the same but talking therapy helps to provide skills and tools to assist with creation of the new normal to integrate life into new existence. Annette was on the way to mortuary when Julia phoned to support death of daughter Amber, aged four, who drowned in a swimming pool, and going to see her body. Many people would not call at that moment they feel encroaching on a raw traumatic grief. Julia, friend of couple, a psychotherapist specialises in dealing with loss knows when people in throes of overwhelming grief, sharing the pain is the only thing that makes even the tiniest difference. Grief professionals don’t have endowed special powers its empathy compassion. Phil answered the phone, so Julia liked to say something to make it better but knew nothing could do that, so she said the only thing she could. “I am terribly sorry to hear your daughter, Amber, has died; I’m sorry the devastating pain that has happened to you. How can I help?” 25 years as grief psychotherapist taught Julia great deal about human condition that focus on grief means focus on life, loss exposes things that matters about a person, their strengths and weaknesses. When someone dies, it reveals faultlines in bereaved family, even deepest, most hidden ones. If you know about loss you know about family, about love, survival, resilience and strength. Knowing about loss means you know about life. But there is a paradox at the centre of loss, and it is this. Grief is the most intense pain there is, and we will do anything to avoid pain. So we run away from it; we run away from our own grief, and we run away from others’ grief. Yet, says running away from grief means we will not recover but embracing helps move through the agony and deal with pain.
Allowing ourselves to be while it washes over us, is only way to survive because we have to feel the worst in order to let it change us. Then we can start to find out who we are going to be in wake of it. This is the message at the heart of Julia’s new book, Grief Works. “If you ignore grief and push it down, you can live and you can function, but you live a very narrow emotional life because using emotional energy to cope,” she said. “Everything in psyche will be squashed down, and that means small things can trigger a much bigger kind of effect. The fact is to do the work of grieving. You have to let it run its course. Pain is agent of change; pain allows you to change, it enables you to reach a new reality.” Her book traces journeys of many of the bereaved people she has walked alongside; she describes how she wept and mourned with them. “let clients know what they say has an impact: Tell them when feels shocked, sad or upset,” she says. So talk about relationship with bereaved and a relationship with friends in service of a deceased. Say what you feel if thinking about them if it’s useful to share. One of the many moving stories in her book is that of Bill and Sally, whose 13-year-old son Matthew died of rare virus. Sally tells Julia losing her son has made her feel dead, no more expectations of life; so does not want to go on living. “I said quite plainly, although she was giving up on herself, I refused to; I would fight for her, held her and whispered hidden strength within her said, to live.’ Julia, in 50s, mother of 4 grown up children, grandmother of four, vivacious and fun: has time to feel recharged with life. You know it helps feeling of clients who like Sally regain joy to be alive again. Helps Julia’s interest in answering questions on experiences of traumatic loss to help open hearts for the healing process.
There are two sorts of loss, says Julia: expected loss and traumatic loss. And perhaps, for one in her profession, her own losses have all been expected ones. Her father died at 87, sad, grieved but it not traumatic loss. Bereavement work involves charity Birthright, Well-being of Wo/men made her aware of the pain of losing a baby although wonders was unconsciously influenced by parent’s loss of three parents and three siblings by the time they were 25. “Everything seemed OK, but thinks back aware of some unresolved grief. Almost only personal experience of a shocking, out-of-nowhere, loss figures such death brought loss closer and changed how to deal with grief. Julia was a close friend of Princess Diana, a connection echoed when asked by William and Kate to be a godmother to Prince George in 2013. That is, she says, a very joyful role lots of fun, and the chance to enjoy the little boy as he grows up but she doesn’t want to say much about it or Diana, save she agrees her death made difference to the nation’s approach to grief. So, too, she says, did other major shifts of history, especially the first and second world wars. “Our parents, parents of people of my generation, were the generation that couldn’t afford to grieve. Were parented by survivors of first world war simply to survive but modern luxury means able to deal with it differently.”
Despite public outpouring of grief after Diana’s death, doesn’t think most people are sufficiently aware impact traumatic bereavement has, the ripples it leaves or how long they persist. As someone who experienced a traumatic loss at the age of nine, when three-year-old sister was killed in road accident agrees with her analysis. It is 44 years since death, and shockwaves still reverberate in the family: everyone is different because of it, next generation touched by it in ways too subtle for them to fully understand.
Traumatic losses shape future of family as subject of great interest to Julia; so, is the way men and women deal with loss differently. Men, tend to want to move on to make plans, to focus on new horizons. Women on other hand want to spend more time remembering the person who died so want to immerse themselves in the pain. But the fact is, each can learn from others. “You have to do both things: you must have time to grieve and mourn and other time when you have break from the grief. You can create circumstances where you grieve, and circumstances where you move on; so men and women help one another. He can help her go for a walk to a park or gallery can help him talk about how he feels to express some of his loss.” The problems set in when individuals fails to understand the pattern of grief in the other; they think of them as selfish or they don’t care enough, but it isn’t about that due to the different ways of coping. Grieving is an intensely individual and incredibly lonely experience, which can make it difficult time in family, group of people going through something sparked by same event, but is in each case very different. The way to cope, is be open in communicating feelings to others in your family. Families that fare best share feelings openly when a death disrupts complex finely tuned balance in a family. So needs a reorganised and open approach to help with process.”
At the beginning, and this is especially true of a traumatic loss, the grief is all-consuming: but over time, says Julia, you find you are starting to live again. The mistake some make, though, is believing they can go back to being the way they were. “Some people say, ‘This isn’t going to change us.’ But that’s not how it is: and it’s when you recognise that bereavement is a life-shattering experience, and that you have to grieve and rebuild, that you can move on positively into a new phase of life. You don’t forget the person who’s gone; you can never do that, and you should not worry that you’re going to. But you keep them in memory so their loss helps you become a new person you become; and maybe in the end is greatest tribute to make to anyone who passed to Glory. Grief affects us all so hope in God and read HIS beautiful WORDS in Bible to guide prayers. Powerful scriptures will help you face feelings of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It is very normal to feel it is not really true the person is still alive soo will be at home, then in shock, angry they died, hoping the loved one comes back alive, realising they passed on into Glory and finally accepting loss and accepting new unexpected sudden sad changes of life. Crying, weeping, feeling low not eating properly, sad, confused, depressed are all part of feelings of pain, hurt of loss, bereavement, grieving and mourning. It is normal to feel helpless, lost without a loved one with deep sorrow and pain. One helpful action is remember a loved does not want your life destroyed and ruined because of them. They see you in heaven so like you to live and continue life despite feeling changes happening. There’s no shame in being sad. The life we’ve been given was never promised free of pain or sorrow so during times we hurt most run to God and HIS Word for peace and comfort. Psalm 117:7 says God cares about death of the righteous.
Help from family and friends
Listening. Be a friend who is prepared to give their time, to listen and to acknowledge the extent of your friend’s loss. Listening is the key. Bear witness, and allow your friend to be upset, to be confused and contradictory, or to say nothing at all. Every time they tell their story once more, or are allowed to say how important the person who has died was, burden of carrying pain on their own is incrementally a little lighter.
It’s not about you. Follow a mourner’s lead: they may not want to talk about their grief right now, or with you. It is good to say something to acknowledge their loss, but then let them have the control they need, they had none over death so choose to talk or not. If they ask you to come and be with them, and want to talk openly to you, go. If they truly don’t want a visit or don’t want to deal with it at that time, don’t force it on them. Don’t confuse need to speak, call, contact, with friend’s need of privacy to come to terms with grief. Some kings or or important dignitaries, leaders buried in secret. Deuteronomy 34:5-7, Numbers 27:13-28 says God buried Moses Himself without gravestone marker, headstone, monument remain unmarked, Israelites not have idol worship. So Moses’ eternal soul rests in peace buried in the Moab valley opposite Beth Peor near Mount Nebo from plains of Moab near top of Pisgah. None knows where Moses’ body buried, concealed in grave stops people flocking to idolise him. In Jude 1:9 angel fought with Michael over Moses’ body, only unique burial by God. Moses’ body soul, alive in Transfiguration met Jesus with Elijah alive from heaven on Mount in Matthew 27:1-10.
Mourning state of total shock and disorientation exempts you from performing actions requiring attention to detail. Time is given off work at least minimum of 2 weeks plus due holidays to grieve and mourn. Time is needed to sort out paper work, fill in forms and to notify various agencies of the departed. In mourning people wear symbolic or an appropriate colour suitable for the age of the departed. To be able to attend unhindered to funeral arrangements it is important to dress appropriately. The family decided obligated choice agreed on to help support family. Immediately following burial mourning the mourner does not listen to music, go to concerts, does not attend joyous events or parties unless absolutely necessary. If a date set prior to death strictly forbidden or to be postponed cancelled. Week-long period of grief mourning observance referred to by time to grief. During this period all mourners traditionally gather the home and receive visitors. Mourners refrain for a week from showering or bathing, wearing leather shoes, jewelry, shaving. Some communities cover mirrors in the mourner’s home so they not concerned about their personal appearance. It is customary for mourners to sit on low stools or even the floor, symbolic of the emotional reality of being “brought low” by grief. Meal of consolation first meal eaten on return from funeral consists of hard-boiled egg or other round oblong foods. Biblical hospitality means during this seven-day period, family, friends or colleagues visit and call on mourners to comfort them. Is considered great time of kindness, compassion to pay respects to visit the mourners. No greetings are exchanged, visitors wait for mourners to initiate conversation. Mourner is not obliged to engage in a conversation and may completely ignore his/her visitors. Visitors take on hosting role, attending to guests, bringing food and serving it to the mourning family. Mourning family avoids cooking or cleaning during this period. Those responsibilities become that of visitors to ease burden and pain.
Acknowledgment. Death isn’t catching, but those who are bereaved might think so, judging by the fear they see in other people’s eyes. People are frightened about whether to come forward, about what to say, about saying the wrong thing so, in the end say nothing. All of that comes from a belief whatever you say should make things better but have enough wisdom to make the pain more bearable but you can’t or need to. Be kind enough to acknowledge them and their suffering is difficult enough. Offer to be there if they need you, suggesting that they should be the one to ring you, is probably asking too much of your friend at this time. It is better if you take the initiative and make contact, and then follow their lead: they may want to see or speak with you or not. Often, people don’t make contact because they feel they don’t know the bereaved person well enough. If you are erring one way or the other, better to err on the side of making contact.
Practical help. Doing practical things is often what really makes a difference. Don’t say, “Let me know if I can help”; actually do something helpful. At the beginning of a bereavement, there may be a lot of people around, so bringing food may be the best thing you can do. Taking food around for longer than the initial crisis is particularly appreciated.
Honesty. Be honest because honesty is comforting and easy to deal with. So direct honesty helps complex messiness of grief so an enormous relief to people. Be honest about what you actually can do rather than covering up because you feel guilty about what you can’t. And be specific to say, “I’m going to come round for half an hour” or come on Tuesday” don’t say, “I’ll come when you want, tell me, and I’ll be there”, and then find you can’t deliver on that offer.
Be sensitive. Being honest is important, as being sensitive. Promiscuous honesty is not a good idea. Be aware of showing too openly your life is trotting along as happily as can be, feels like you rubbing their nose in your happiness.
Be in it for the long haul. Remember to make contact and be supportive after everyone else has gone. Usually three months following the death, people get back to their lives, as they should. But it is by no means over for the person who is bereaved. Sending a text or popping is hugely supportive.
Writing. Letters, cards, texts or emails: it doesn’t matter what you write – all are extremely helpful. It is better, however, to say that you don’t want a reply, because some people simply can’t respond. And it is never too late to send them. It is a welcome surprise to receive a card much later, because it is when everyone else has forgotten and your friend is still grieving. When you do write, try to make it personal and avoid tired cliches such as, “She’s had a good innings” or “Better to have loved and lost because they are trite in some way diminish personal importance of this very loved person who died. You don’t need to go into long explanations of why the person died or theological explorations about death; be loving and personal, warm and acknowledging.
RAPTURE ETERNAL RESURRECTION
Believers have assurance of eternal life in Christ so mourn with hope for their resurrection. In the Bible Jesus raised Lazarus from death, widow of Nain son, Peter raised Dorcas, Paul raised young man who fell dead sitting on a window ledge. The dead arose alive when Jesus was crucified and went into town seen by many people. We pray and ask GOD to raise loved one too in Jesus Name so thank God Jesus raised Lazarus. Bible says Christianity lasts beyond earthly life into heaven so mourn and grieve with hope in Jesus Christ. Christians call death falling asleep to pass into glory to be with God. Although grief pain hurts deeply and so feels tragic loss yet know future reunion family circle will be complete in heaven in the Presence of God Almighty. In the Rapture, the dead in Christ will first be resurrected to join those alive together to meet Christ in the clouds into heaven. The signs of the end times are predicted by Jesus in Matthew 24. So death is part of transition into eternal life although it is better to have loved ones on earth as members of a family, God calls them to higher service in heaven. Rest in peace safely beloved in the loving arms of God so no more sorrow, grief, pain, tears we love you and miss you terribly but God LOVES you more. We shall see you one day in Jesus Name for you are delivered because your name is found written in the BOOK OF LIFE according to Daniel 12:1-2. All asleep in Christ in dust of the earth wake to everlasting life in heaven in Glory in GOD’S PRESENCE. The Holy Spirit of God is our Comforter in times like these so we draw strength from the word of God to carry on in life in Jesus Name. GOD Our Father Comforts us too through His Love and Words of comfort from loved ones, friends and family.
Extract from Grief Works by Julia Samuel
- one took part in group singing
- another took part in in creative play sessions
- a third group received their usual care, which could include family support, antidepressants or mindfulness
The singing workshops saw the mothers learning lullabies and songs from around the world with their babies and creating new songs together about motherhood. And those with moderate to severe symptoms of post-natal depression reported a much faster improvement than mothers in the usual care and play groups. All the groups improved over the 10 weeks, but in the first six weeks, singing group already reported an average 35% decrease in depressive symptoms. The Principal investigator Dr Rosie Perkins said the study, although small, was significant because it was important to tackle the symptoms as quickly as possible. “Post-natal depression is debilitating for the mothers and their families. As research indicates some women think accessible singing with their baby helps speed up recovery at one of the most vulnerable times of their lives,” she said. The lead author Dr Daisy Fancourt at University College London, said singing is another useful therapy to offer women. Many mothers have concerns about taking depression medication whilst breast-feeding and uptake of psychological therapies with new mothers is relatively low,” she said. “These results are really exciting as suggests something as simple as referring mothers to this community activities could support their recovery.” Dr Trudi Seneviratne, who chairs the Royal College of Psychiatrists’ Perinatal Faculty, said: “It’s exciting to hear about the growing evidence base for novel psychosocial interventions like singing to facilitate a more rapid recovery for women with post-natal depression. “I look forward to more work in this area in the future, as it will be enjoyed by both mothers and their babies.”Since the study, Breathe Arts Health Research has started running singing workshops in partnership with the Guy’s and St Thomas’ NHS Foundation Trust for women with post-natal depression across the south London boroughs of Lambeth and Southwark. Community and socialising helps overcome isolation and loneliness of new mothers. The feel good factor of singing with the babies is definitely a win- win situation lifting the mood and going out of the home helps to lift their spirit too. Isolated mothers can organise own singing sessions with friends in communities and their babies benefit too from a calm, happy, relaxed mother. If child raising is recognised or considered as a valid hardwork and to celebrate mothers and carers the world will become a better and safer place. So families must be prioritised and to help mother’s like Finland pays both parents to raise their children. Depression is caused by loneliness, pressure, stress of modern living without extended family support and children become depressed too. So it is good news to help mother’s and also to improve motherhood as an honourable collaboration with God’s idea to multiply to replenish the earth.