EYE TO EYE CONTACT LOOKS

15698540731157495813780866790507.jpgProverbs 4:25, says let your eyes look up ahead to be fixed in front of you. This is important for total focus to connect and engage attention of listeners. Part of body language requires reading eyes, looks and gestures, moods, posture, tone of voice, colour worn to confirm what is heard or observed. Silent language uses these to indicate if a person is telling the truth or if their actions are congruent to what they are saying. Professionals are trained to apply eye displays to ensure what is see agrees with what is heard.15698541017993568179084049943003.jpg Eye contact is further used in profiling to select those deemed as their potential people that match as assumed role. Face recognition profiling airport by experts trained to assess people using standard measures. Over five billion people are raised in their culture to look down as a sign respect of respect to elders or boss. To bow head moved up and down to say yes or head moved sideways three times to say no. Such communities do not look directly in the eyes of adults and leaders if they do, told they are disrespectfultuning. 15698541660107598815471588664349.jpgThis contradicts Western expectation of eye to eye contact as proof of telling the truth. The irony is the person observed or assessed by Western standards have NO CLUE they are judged. Professionals trained choose potential people without IDEAS of culture of a randomly selected person by these artificial intelligence technology. Bias of institutional racism undertones means the measurement of people unaware of what is taking place. Individual differences and their style of communication is significant. 15698559844632957957749377765166.jpgA person stopped or pulled over for not having the eye contact expected is made uncomfortable, unsettled so agitated by their waste of time on mission. Catch 22 situation is a misinterpretation mistake assuming no eye contact means guilt. A professional spurred on probes further unaware of anger caused by lack of knowledge. Misunderstand cultural differences of innocent person asking for reason for the interruption NOT told lack of EYE TO EYE CONTACT is reason.15698555935354557282682839323441.jpg People NOT TOLD value of eye contact GLOBALLY in developing countries is an issue. Crucial eye to eye contact matter causes confusion and mistrust as those involved unaware of what is going on during their interaction. The person in authority uses the privileged position of power to gain upper hand to gain what they want as it happens. This injustice is felt by innocent facing consequences of chaotic situation set up for intervention purposes. It seem a good idea to observe from safe distance potential threat but concept needs fine tuning. 15698549368068715366091177153195.jpg Blindspots of professional and potential person is neither understands what is going on. And Schools must teach eye contact in PSMA classes not to mislead the people out and about minding their own business. Luke 11:34 Eye is lamp of of body for vision to focus full attention, speaker listens actively to deeply reflect on conversations. The education system and training academies must emphasize need first to educate the experts not to stress out by simple solution. Their time is wasted by overwhelming exhausting treatment given by target. Eye contact is missold as the proof of innocence used to misjudge those perceived as ‘guilty.’ 1569855211223402264736410128350.jpgBible says eye is like the lamp providing light for your body but considered rude by elders to look in the eyes. The double standard is don’t look in the eyes in the developing communities but look in eye in western world. Most people raised in the West do not realise the implications of policy of eye contact use for honesty or lack of it as guilt. Decisions are made on people’s lives by these mechanisms without the full awareness of distorted perception of the professional unaware of facts. People speak with head bowed automatically as habit of life and doing so wherever they are. 15698551529211664758458734048476.jpgWhen told keep eye contact regress into looking down naturally as used to. This is misinterpreted as lying, probed over and over again. Eye contact presumed guilt is part of maltreatment by some of the professionals because the standard scientific test equipment picked them. A strong confidence in gadget technology trusted than awareness of their selected person’s cultural upbringing. Not taken into consideration value of eye contact in developing world as a sign of respect and honour to elders, leaders, bosses or kings in Western countries as ‘lying.’15698553084514133208070762997710.jpgCultural shock and undervalued person targeted does not understand why they are selected. It may be true in Western culture a liar is incapable of keeping an eye contact because hiding something.  It is not the case in other cultures where eyes must look down always as respect. It is often said the eye is the entrance or window to the soul so it is presumed an eye contact us leading interrogator to the deepest truth. Nobody sees the soul so is misnomer only eyes communicate various emotions. A wide-opened eye is interpreted excitement or passionate. 1569856080901921482802635910558.jpgEyes as mirror to soul expresses hidden things believed so use their face reading to know people better through eyes. You can know anyone in glance by a look in their eyes. Right from day nursery body language facial expression is taught. A toddler is given facial chart of laughter, sadness, tears emojis so conditioned to know from childhood these emojis. The child in a developing world is NOT told existence of facial or eye expressions. It is unheard of in some places yet used to determine honesty globally. Eugenism is back using calculation measurements to determine the pure race face and truth by analysing data. 15698563677346650689849970460877.jpg15698567215082823320508322049933.jpg15698567687105836674172911464260.jpgImages produced by an AI data is never identical to an original photo input into the computer. This generates the debate about ethics of uses of facial recognition technology. The EYES ACT AS A MIRROR OF SOUL used to read person’s thoughts ascertained by looking into their eyes. Untrained eyes express natural emotion unsculptured without realising they are being read or coded by their behaviour. Perception of relying on observed data as more reliable than whatever person says means focus is on eyes, their facial expression taken more seriously. 15698564685217602585483894221635.jpg15698564966297660481461924447768.jpg15698560466605823939569402393629.jpg15698555556185845647951945252567.jpg15698554442225817182311506030717.jpgIMG-20190930-WA0004.jpg15698550016522466732695670191677.jpg15698542536351786798650739287017.jpg15698566623168652403132226833191.jpg15698565672722547522470440025800.jpg
Bias shows angry black men no matter what is said the personal situation is not believed if its not synchronised by data. Technology is not 100% perfect so it can misread information to lead to targeted person unaware of what is going on. So  eyes are considered windows to the soul because the pupils tell a lot about what is going on in the mind of a person used by psychologists to determine diagnoses of truth. Matthew 6:22-24 says the eye is the lamp of the body so draws light into body through eyes. Light shines into the spirit through eyes from God so the eyes reflect thoughts. A person’s thought can be ascertained by looking into his or her eyes. The eyes is entrance to the human soul from other entities. That is why its said be careful little eyes what you see. Babies keep their eyes focussed on the person who notices and plays with them or looks after them. The debate goes on among experts of ethics of eye contact as the sole measure of truth telling. 

5YRS OLD GIRL GIVES BIRTH

1557361258923751059207.jpgA 5 years old Lina Marcela Medina de Jurado is the YOUNGEST MOTHER IN WORLD HISTORY. So talk to CHILDREN about pregnancy as a result of a sexual intercourse unaware of as too young to be told details of life. Boys and girls can be taught in a sensible way to educate them in advance. Born in 23 September 1933 the Peruvian CHILD is youngest confirmed mother in medical history at 5years, 7months, and 21 days. She later married spouse Raúl Jurado in 1970s so had 2 children. Was born and lived in Ticrapo, Castrovirreyna Province Peru. Her parents are a silversmith Tiburelo Medina and Victoria Losea. Taken to a   hospital by her parents at the age of five years due to increasing abdominal size, thought is tumor but doctors confirmed she was in her seven months pregnant. Dr Gerardo Lozada took Medina to Lima specialists who confirmed pregnancy. It generated interest in case developed so girl’s expected visit to the U.S. university scientific facilities as San Antonio Light newspaper Texas reported 16 July, 1939.1557341579049-1635185667.jpg1557341889417-1635185667.jpgPeruvian national obstetrician/ midwife association wanted the girl to be transported to a national maternity hospital. Lozada made films of Medina for scientific research shown on the 21 April address, Peru’s National Academy of Medicine. A month and half later she gave birth by caesarean section to boy due to her small pelvis. The surgery was performed by Lozada, Dr Busalleu, with Dr Colareta providing anaesthesia. The doctors who performed caesarean to deliver her baby found she had mature sexual organs of a precocious puberty. Her case was reported by Dr. Edmundo Escomel in medical journal La Presse Médicale, including detailed menarche at eight months of age. Some said she had regular periods since three years old, according to others at two and half years old. Medina’s son weighed 2.7 kg (6.0 lb; 0.43 st) at birth, named Gerardo after her doctor. Gerardo was raised as Medina’s sister, but found out at the age of 10 she was his mother. Medina never reveals father of child or circumstances of her impregnation sits here with son.1557365079099-9023010.jpg
Escomel said that she might not know as Medina ‘didn’t give precise response.’
Lina’s father was arrested on suspicion of child sexual abuse but released due to lack of evidence so biological father was never identified. Her son grew up healthy and died in 1979 at 40 years old. Medina worked as a secretary in Lima clinic of Lozada who gave her education and put her son through high school. Medina married Raúl Jurado, who fathered second son in 1972. In 2002, they lived in a district of Lima, “Chicago Chico refused interview with Reuters. A lot of doctors verified biopsies, X rays of fetal skeleton in utero, and photographs taken by doctors caring for her around beginning of April 1939 of Medina at 7-and-half months pregnant with left side standing naked published. In 1955, effects of a precocious puberty shows the five-year-old girl could conceive a child. Extreme precocious pregnancy in children aged five or under is not well documented as Medina. A study shows precocious children at four hormones acting sexually seductive but treated to keep them under control. The lesson is parents do not feel embarrassed to talk about sex to children or to assume they are too young to understand. The details of birth in documentaries on TV with so much information highway children are aware. Educate children early about the private body parts and prevent sexual ignorance and naive pregnancies of the children having children.

CHILDREN SIGNS&WONDERS

1556533286134-1635185667.jpgChildren are for signs and wonders from God to Glorify God and to help in society. Families need to understand Jesus loves and values all children in all nations. Children are the gifted assets to parents and women do what is beyond comprehension as childbearers. Women are absolutely celebrated as co-creators with God contributing to life cycle and replenish earth. Fulfil God’s command to mulitiply and bear fruit from seed of man and egg of woman is the gift of life. Adults love their children and children love their parents. God’s word says train and teach children Godly values of love, selfrespect, good manners and etiquette for appropriate interaction with others. The value of life is priceless and preserved with dignity even if differences exists by diversity or perspectives. Children are precious to God, Jesus loves little children allowed in His company with their parents and in meetings to learn about God. This is priority in life highly endorsed by God for salvation in the Kingdom of God. 1557243794465-1635185667.jpgSimeon dedicated Jesus to God in the Temple and blessed Him. Simeon said to Mary His mother, “Behold, this Child is appointed for a fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign about a sword piercing Mary’s soul. Hidden thoughts from many hearts will be revealed in Luke 2:34-35. Jesus brings changes to all who accept Him. Simeon’s prophesy is Jesus will be “a light for revelation to the Gentiles, and for GLORY to God’s people Israel in Luke 2:32. Jesus brings ruin in Israel of people like Simeon who worship in the Temple destroyed. Mary is told of literal piercing of her soul due suffering and pain of Jesus she endures. John wrote of the piercing of Jesus’ side after His death in prophesy fulfillment. So emotional turmoil Mary experienced are all treasured things pondering them in her heart in Luke 2:19, 50-51. Messiah Jesus arrived as Simeon was waiting all his life to see the “consolation of Israel.”1557243187090-1635185667.jpgJesus in the Temple during the Passover impressed the learned Synagogue and priests while doing the business of His Father God. But has created upheavals disturbing people in Israel, including mother of Messiah. Her pain is thought losing Jesus unmarried, compassionate son executed for the crimes He did not commit in His life brings Mary pain. A mother to all and His brothers standing outside desiring to see Him, answered, “My mother and my brothers are those who hear the word of God and do in Luke 8:19-21. Simeon’s prophesy comforts her like all mothers who embrace all children as their own. Jesus is a child destined for the fall and rise of many in Israel and a sign so that thoughts of many hearts are revealed.” Peter denied Jesus three times as Judas betrayed him, Pharaseees, Saduccees lied about Him and, people healed and helped voted crucify Him. These are the some thoughts of many hearts revealed.1556578915698-1635185667.jpgToday’s society needs to build a sound foundation from an early childhood like Jesus to grow and apply good values. A child without sound foundation in God is at the mercy of any man-made ideas that do cannot fulfill the void reserved exclusively to be filled only by God. The strong bond created in child connects to God and great reward to bless the child. Father God is the patent owner creator of humans with privileged access in the hearts and minds of children. They are never too young to understand agape LOVE of God for them at any level. The Sunday schools and school assemblies are essential for nurturing their spirit and minds in God in Christ if Christians.1557234117641-1635185667.jpg Placing emphasis on only the academic achievement at an expense of wellbeing lacks growth and the deeper hope for a meaningful life. Focus on only aesthetic external physical appearance or looks, price tag designer labels and superficial ideas deprive them of inner peace and inner strength in God. Some think they are worth the price tag, under pressure to be the first to be seen in those latest most expensive clothing. And gadgets to show off to get ‘street credit respect’ is the cause of competition to impress. A child worries more about external label than contents of character and effects of behaviour on others. Playing games are other sources of addiction they resort so buy the series to play without focussing more on academic excellence. These are some of the challenges facing a society desperate to create the perfect utopia of an academic achievement league table. pictures-jesus-photos-images-jesus-christ.jpgChildren are stressed in the class system society which thinks some are of higher value so deserve better treatment than others deprived. Children bear brunt of doing without a proper meal or sleep to their detriment. Peering children early to socialise them creates us versus them postcode society with a lack of trust for adults separated from them. Parents are too busy chasing money to provide for children often emotionally and socially retarded. Such explosive children feel a right of entitlement without a common sense of the due diligence and care for other people. They are not allowed to be corrected by parents so grow up with an attitude of disregard for Authority and the significant others in charge of them. Some feel like victims despite the privilege compared to other children all over the world. 1556578302852-1635185667.jpgAnd permanently angry, ungrateful and unthankful to the parents who sacrifice time, effort and resources to make their lives better than previous generations. So never content want more and more even if they have abundance beyond an average child globally. Not allowed to be part of family work ethic are made lazy by addiction to games or substance abuse to numb their perceived pains of life. Unrealistic demands to be perfect to fit in with friends causes damage to children growing mimicking adults yet without adult maturity and experience. Jesus warned about these behaviours during the last days of unruly children out of control and a menace to society. IMG-20190409-WA0005.jpgThere is need for rewriting foundation for early years to develop children like Finland to nurture and to protect them from vultures of society. Each time the children hurt each other or the others, accusing fingers are pointed at them without recognising the root of these problems created by society. Parents are treated as lazy for spending quality time with their children. Schools are so understaffed short of budgets education has become position on league table. So naming and shaming them than proper training to prepare children to become self-sufficient to have good success in life. Education, academic performance is only 20% of life so the rest 80% must be taught to prepare people to cope. It’s deception to make education end in life because of billions of educated people unemployed, exist on debt in the world.IMG-20190329-WA0000.jpg Their miseducations deprives children of practical survival skills and essential spatial knowledge. It frustrates young people without ability to farm, garden, do practical hands on life work due to misconception that is a blue collar job beneath them. Older generations piggy back them for life to help them make it but unaware of sacrifices involves and unwilling to support them in old age. So feel too sophisticated to live within their budget to give back to parents seen as a nuisance to their luxury pleasures of life. Honour parents and adults to bring blessings and so it is well with you to live long. A wise person receives good advise to be a wiser person in life but the Bible says the fool gets angry and hates you for advising them. Be kind in all you do towards others because it is seeds sown God sends back to you years later when you do not remember those past years. Life is beautiful and simple to understand because God creates all things beautiful in HIS OWN time. You came individual in this world and will face God alone to give an account of yourself no matter who is backing you in life. The ideas children have must be guided with patience to educate them about the real world. Their perspective may seem superficial but with support and guidance helped to develop better as audacious, bold, confident, resilient people with good success. Some want good things of life not understanding the years behind the scenes preparing through hard work. The end result seen is after years of toiling, sacrifices and sweat. It is necessary to teach children value for time, value for life to be who they truly are with humility, selfrespect without ego attitude problems. Children need incredible encouragement of hope.IMG-20190427-WA0000.jpgIMG-20190428-WA0000.jpgChildren are part of a bigger society that expects the best from them. Investment of quality time spent with their family is essential to bond with them. Above all is to teach them to love themselves first, to have agape love for all others. Kindness, Mercy is far better than cruelty, anger and hatred which destroys person. The society’s excuse is to blame government for lack of funds for youth centres but a need exists to talk to children at home as individuals too. They need their love and support that makes them trust their family more than naive friends. God is LOVE so Spirit of God’s LOVE POWER in you enables you to help children to feel loved and part of society. Abandoned by the system many rely on themselves to make wrong choices and decisions. The fact that they are clothed, fed, have own bedroom, latest gadgets is not enough to meet their emotional needs of peace, joy acceptance if adults too busy to interact one to one with them daily. There is no excuse for not helping them young and consistently with their hobbies at home, music, piano lessons. Parents can afford other things but complain of inability to invest in future of their own children. It is time redesign educational foundation to include interests of children not force them to study subjects they hate. Most are under stress or pressure to perform take their anger on others. Society plays part in responsibility for how they turn up as adults. 

 

DO TOYS DISTRACT FOCUS?

Children become distracted when they are surrounded by toys Too many toys are bad for children as a study suggests that the children become distracted when they are surrounded by too many toys. This is what the parents have suspected all along. Children who have too many toys are more also easily distracted so do not enjoy that quality playtime with other children as the new study suggest. Researchers at University of Toledo in Ohio, US, recruited some 36 toddlers and invited them to play in a room for half an hour, with either four toys, or 16 toys. They found youngsters were far more creative when they had fewer toys to play with. And they played with each for twice as long, thinking up more uses for each toy and lengthening and expanding their games. The authors conclude parents, schools and nurseries should pack away most of their toys and just rotate a small number regularly, to help encourage the children to become more creative to improve the attention spans of the children. This study sought to determine if the number of toys in a toddlers’ environments influences their quality of play,” said the lead author Dr Carly Dauch in journalInfant Behaviour and Development.“The higher number of incidences of play in 16 toy condition did interfere with duration and depth of play. Other toys present created their external distractions. “During toddler years, children develop but not master, higher levels of control over attention. And their attention plus their play was disrupted by factors in an environment present with distractions. The results of the present study suggest an abundance of toys create distractions. But provided with fewer toys in their environments the toddlers engaged in longer periods of play with single toy allowing better focus to explore, play more creatively.”Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, say researchers Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, says researchers. Britons spend more than £3 billion each year on toys and surveys shows that a typical child owns 238 toys in total but parents think they play with just the 12 ‘favourites’ on a daily basis making up just five per cent of their toys. It is not the first time research suggested that too many toys distract children. In the 1990s the German researchers, Elke Schubert and Rainer Strick conducted experiment where the toys were taken away from Munich nursery for three months. After a few weeks, the children re-adjusted and their play became far more creative and social. The published research of their findings in their book, called, The Toy-free Nursery. In another book, ClutterFree with Kids the author, Joshua Becker also argued fewer toys are better for children because a sparse playroom encourages creativity to help children develop attention span and to teach youngsters about taking care of their possessions. “A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there countless options are still remaining on the shelf behind them,” he said. “When children have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. And they will not learn to value them if there is their replacement ready at hand. “Fewer toys causes these children to become more resourceful by solving problems with only materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited practical uses in their futures.

The research is published in the journal Infant Behaviour and Development. The conflict of interest of the toy companies advertising children playing with many latest toys makes parents feel obliged to buy them for the children not to feel left out. Children display their toys online on social media to compare with each other including the addictive games that stop children learning, doing homework assignments later in college, university or focus at work. Lack attention span or focus from childhood affects the adults today unable concentrate for few hours to complete tasks at hand. Christmas is around and parents must not let a child manipulate them emotionally to buy a toy without teaching them first value of essential basic reading at level. Children can get a few educational toy to reward them to do exceptionally well in a field of academic achievement at school. The development steared towards a specific direction of any future career requires relevant toys to influence natural gifts, talents and abilities. Otherwise parents unintentionally make children victim of success by their ability to buy too many toys they can afford. Just because it is possible to buy things seen on the TV in adverts does not mean it enhances their specific development. Parent knows the children best, whether they are trained experts or not must help child learn not to depend only on school to learn. Early learning through practical play is now rapidly eroded by virtual reality keep children cocooned online. So important to carefully reflect before Christmas on piling up toys to “prove” your “love” of your children to the world overloading them with too many toys. Experience shows most children are just so happy playing with the box, not expensive toys boosting their parents ego. Millennium children are suffering from the lack of a social understanding or interaction due to isolated attachment to toys valued as more precious than engaging with each other. Time consumed worrying about their toy possessions makes them miss out on appreciating fellow human being as adults due to learned behaviour. The competition among children, teenagers over toys leads further to threats of the perceived anger of friends loving them only for their material possessions. The toys must not take over to babysit their children without adult supervision and input. One of the best ways to bond with children is play with them sometimes to help them value the adults in their lives.

CATFISH SCAMS UNMASKED

Alex Hobern on The CircleThe Circle’s TV social experiment shows Alex Hobern became ‘Kate’ and won the £75.000 reward. Three weeks indoors so contacts others by an instant messaging only.   to be themselves or catfish to pretend to be someone else to test the theory of how people see others online through social media. The circle tenants lived in close proximity on same tower block but not allowed to physically meet until after blocked elimination. And the docudrama reality TV was watched by the public who voted to select a winner. The media project highlights the online conundrum of people pretending to be a picture of another person to impress a potential date to love them. The admirer genuinely thinks the person is who they claim to be and falls in love with them. It leads to game playing with a victim’s emotions who trusts the photo image so much they invest their love, passion and interest to marry them. Once the victim is ” hooked” it leads to constant requests from catfish to provide the needs of the virtual partner in love with. So genuine desire of unsuspecting victim’s emotion played on by virtual partner influences them into deeper commitment and the urgent need to meet physically. The one duping the victims makes up stories to trick the innocent person truly in love with them. People are tricked to think they are speaking to a female or a man if its a woman. Scammer requests bank details, address, pin number pretending to share multi million inheritance with their victim. Another person revealed himself to be a man, blackmailed and threatened to kill parents coerced Ben to send sexual images performing sex acts live over video chat. Felt helplessfrom a man for three weeks pretending to be a girl, finds out information about every part of his life,” Ben’s father told Victoria Derbyshire programme, knew his family, nans, brothers, sisters and the school Ben went to. Everything they find used as information to manipulate him. The images and videos sent by Ben to the man was shared with five other men, who bombarded Ben with further demands. He felt so helpless and didn’t know what to do his father said. He is a different child now but did not know why. After two years meeting demands, Ben attempted to take his life leading the abuse to be uncovered. The main perpetrator was later jailed for four-and-a-half years so be warned and alert.

Alex Hobern on The CircleCHANNEL 4 constructed a whole new personality participants complete with a new face and new gender to show the viewers how this unfolds in real life. So  try to pretend to be another person for whole three weeks to group of strangers only met through an app. Every move is filmed and broadcast to the nation as a developed concept of big brother. Well that’s what Alex Hobern did on Channel 4 reality show The Circle won himself £50,000 in the process voted the winner by fellow contestants, and winning an extra £25,000 in the public vote. A brief recap for those who didn’t watch is the contestants were asked to create social media profile complete with biography and profile pictures and could either be themselves or massage the truth. Of the original six contestants, one woman knocked a few years off her age and one gay man pretended to be straight, but only Alex chose to take on a completely new identity. Some people criticised The Circle, saying it promoted the catfishing creating false persona to trick others online especially as Alex as “Kate” built up a close friendship with fellow finalist Dan Mosaku. A social media comedian Alex, 26, used girlfriend Millie’s picture to pose as Kate, told the BBC that wasn’t how he saw it. So in his own words, he explains his “rollercoaster” experience.

Alex/Kate’s story

I decided to detach myself from looks and my personality to create popular person I could. I could have been a guy, but I thought ‘let’s explore something different.’ I thought it will be interesting to be a woman on social media and look at the issues that brings. First of all I was going to use a model’s picture, but my girlfriend pointed out I’d need to talk about picture with conviction. Its completely her idea to use the picture. It helped me to have a more compelling story. It started off that I was trying to create the most popular person, but it developed into wanting to raise the awareness of social media fake identity. My audience is young, impressionable and so I thought The Circle was a safe environment to explore as we were told there would be people saying they are something they’re not. But when I was in there, that idea got lost quite quickly.Alex/ KateAlex use girlfriend’s photo to pretend to be Kate because when you’re stuck in a room for three weeks and you’ve only got eight people to talk to, you build up relationships with people. You forget they might be fake. After a while it does not matter because you’re interested in their personality. I was really wishing Christopher, actually 22-year-old called Sinead who used granddad’s photo, into existence. I think people felt that way about Kate. The personality was initially made up. I wrote myself a bio and tried to stick to it but I realised I was woefully underprepared. Like for example when Aiden a female contestant talked about snatching her eyebrows, I had no clue what she meant. And then we had to debate certain topics, like Brexit. I had my own views, and I’ve got a degree in politics, but I didn’t want to be belittling or patronising, so I played it safe.Alex Hobern and girlfriend Millie LoganAlex with his girlfriend Millie whose pictures provided the face of made-up character Kate. The same happened with some of the questions about sexual stuff. I thought ‘I built boring character, she can’t have a sexy side’ but everyone else thought I was just on the fence. So I found the whole situation mentally draining. I lost my appetite, ended up second-guessing everything I was writing on the app. I realised everything I said counted towards my rating. There were a few times I thought ‘I’ve had enough now, I’m going home to my family’. And it was difficult thinking the UK public might be against me, and Millie might have been exposed to the hype and the criticism. So I just thought ‘stuff it, I’m going to be myself now.’ I started having fun and I went up in the ratings against contestants to give each other marks out of five. Towards the end I think people figured something out and realised Kate’s personality had changed but they can’t have known the extent of it. I never wanted to glorify catfishing. In a safe environment we’d been told people might be fake. To me, catfishing is emotional manipulation but I played a fake character. I’ve been catfished myself before and I wanted to raise awareness of it in a controlled, social experiment. I had tried to protect Dan by friend-zoning him but I had to try to protect my game plan too. He may be a woman himself, for all I knew.Dan, a contestant on The Circle.Dan found himself getting closer to Kate who was really Alex. I was so nervous to meet him at the end of the series and was almost desperate for him to be my friend. We had to sit together in a small room alone for 35 minutes, which was one of the most challenging things I’ve had to do. The pair since met up for lunch and smoothed over the situation. It’s still not sunk in I won. I went into the final, thinking fellow finalist Sian had been top of the table to win. And when it came to public vote, I thought ‘I’m playing someone fake’ so I thought I had no chance. But winning showed me my personality as me after four weeks of being fake had been noticed.

Show’s psychologist says:

The TV psychologist Honey Langcaster-James worked with Channel 4 on the series as it was aired and on The Circle Uncovered, being broadcast on Tuesday at 10.25pm. She said the series showed those who weren’t being truthful ended up feeling guilty “when they realised a real human being was on the other end of the screen.”Finalists on Channel 4's The CircleContestants Dan, Sian, Alex and Freddie react to the news there will be a public vote during the final. “There was a real inner tension for Alex, between playing the game and grappling with the moral dilemma of doing that as he got closer to players,” she said. “But interestingly, Alex’s popularity as a player grew when he started being himself more. “I think it shows that as much as you set out to show this version of yourself on social media, people connect with you more when they know the real you that you think and feel.” She said, public voted for Alex to win because they saw the “journey” he went on during the show, and realised his deception “wasn’t being done maliciously in The Circle as Alex Hobern became ‘Kate.’ This experiment teaches people don’t depend on words from online “doctored characters” who con trusting innocent people linked to organised crime human trafficking. Do not give money to catfish scammers who dupe victims badly and disappear with money so learn from TV Circle.Alex Hobern on The CircleMany people lost millions dollars through manipulations of catfish so necessary to learn from TV Circle how social media affects lives. It’s interesting the older woman who pretended to be a young had a gut feeling about Kate and warned Dan in vain. Dan preferred to alert Kate of his suspicion but Kate reassured him there was no problem. This classic mistake gives feedback to catfish to convince victim harder and to dupe them more. Kate won’t have won without the emotional investment of Dan who truly trusted Kate’s words. This goes on daily online with scam letters, catfish photos used to deceive people to lure them to part with money to ‘help meet up’ and consolidate the relationship. Sadly damaged reputation of some online dating that hurt people badly who lost their lifetime savings. They lost trust in genuine people who date them later, as effects and scars of their loses is often projected onto them. Be careful and be aware not to make life commitment by the virtual photo of catfish. Dan learned the hard way just as many realised they were conned by men pretending to be women to dupe them. Some insecure about their size, weight, shape also use catfish to pretend to be a model or use a photo of another famous person online to deceive victim. Scam is revealed after they physically meet and see they do not look like photo used online. Others never find catfish scammer changing identity daily like chameleon to dupe people. Tell friends about potential relationships and listen to gut feelings of friends. Do not wear a love goggle blinded by manipulations to refuse to see sense to save yourself from online scam pain and hardships. 

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    10 October 2018
  • The Circle: Alex/Kate wins Channel 4’s reality show 9 October 2018

SCHOOL OPENS OWN BANK

Pupils save over £100 in new school bank!

 

Ws4g3Students at Walthamstow School for Girls have thrown open the doors of their very own bank.

11-14 year olds have been trained by MyBnk to get fellow pupils into good financial habits by offering accounts and loans of up to £40. Using real money, their MyBnk-in-a-Box scheme opens once a week at lunchtime and is also accessible online.

“I opened an account today with £2 and I think it’s important to save so you don’t have to worry about your parents spending all of their money on you! I would like to buy things for myself and be independent”. Amy 12, young saver.

Ws4g2Also opening accounts on launch day were the Mayor of Waltham Forest, Saima Mahmud and our patron, broadcaster and campaigner, June Sarpong. Scores of young people deposited over £100 in a single lunch break.

The young bankers now will also run incentivised saving and enterprise start-up drives for their fellow pupils. This is backed up with financial education workshops covering everything from tax and pensions to student finance, supported by Prudential.

“At WSFG we believe that our girls should understand how banks work and understand how to manage their personal finances. We try to build in transferable and lifelong skills that they will use in their everyday lives, as well as ensuring that they achieve the very best academic achievements they can”. Marianna Philippou, Maths teacher, Walthamstow School for Girls.

 

Ws4gSoon, Walthamstow will be joined by another London school bank, run by young people for young people. Savers bank on average £3.64 a week, 59% of their pocket money, an adult would bank £295 a week on an a £26,000 salary!

“The sooner young people are familiar with banking, the better they can develop sound financial habits like saving and navigate the system. We’re going all out for a generation that will have to make smarter financial decisions and create their own opportunities”. MyBnk CEO & Founder Lily Lapenna.

If you are interested in running the MyBnk-in-a-Box financial education programme in your school, get in touch via info@mybnk.org or 0207 377 8770!

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EARLY ADOLESCENT KIDS

kids-circleAdolescence starts earlier in modern generations than previous ones lasting twice as long as it did in the 1950s. So children are hitting puberty earlier than ever before said Psychology professor Laurence Steinberg who explained why to BrainwavesAdolescence is a period of life between starting puberty and becoming stable, independent adults. This time is being extended because some children begin puberty earlier.Kids-Diverse-1

Adolescence is three times as long as it was in the 19th Century and it’s twice as long as in the 1950s.
Professor Laurence Steinberg

According to Professor Steinberg, in the western world adolescence runs from age 10 or to about age 25. Professor Steinberg attributed this phenomenon of lengthening of adolescence to several surprising factors as follows:youth-world-header-large

Obesity & Man-made Chemicals

The first and most important is obesity. The kids who are fatter go through puberty earlier than the leaner kids he said. Man-Made Chemicals. There are other factors as well. One has to do with the exposure of children to endocrine-disrupting chemicals in the man-made environment. The chemicals are not just in food, they’re in cosmetics, they’re in plastics, they’re in pesticides they’re ubiquitous.” “When people are exposed to these endocrine disrupters it alters their hormonal development and many chemicals lead to earlier onset puberty mostly in girls.”hot

More SunLight exposure

The third factor that’s been discovered fairly recently has to do with exposure to sunlight.” It turns out that kids who grow up near the equator go through puberty earlier than kids who grow up near the north or south pole and that’s because, when you grow up near the equator, you have more exposure to sunlight over the course of childhood years.” While it may not be of too much concern to parents in northern Europe, recent research suggests a final factor which applies to many children here.

“Scientists discovered recently the light emanating from tablets or smartphones or computer screens can affect onset of puberty by disrupting brain’s melatonin system. Kids who spend more and more time in front of these screens especially in front of the blue light emitted by the devices probably contributed to earlier puberty as well. Light from the phones impacts brains of kids and adults.“World-Population-889x591.jpg

Adolescent Brainwaves

Brainwaves of the adolescent brain as Pennie Latin examines is relatively a young field of teenage neurology. It has revealed lack of frontal cortex ability to understand risk and consequences. And so although adolescent children may hit puberty earlier, they may not be able to handle the harsh realities of the trauma of war years, distress, rations, famine, lack of tough physical life forced upon previous generations. They worked in factories, chimney sweepers, railway as tracks as children making them more mature. They develop faster on growth spurt but face challenges of the modern generation.