Shopping the middleway is choosing the what what is best in life to help balance roles both sides in a family or group of friends. An opportunity to viewpoints of good experiences encounter by varying views of two groups of shoppers. Makes sharing work taking place interesting. A category of adult men or women shop in patterns of a leader and follower. In first group of the family shoppers, men carry shopping bags or push trolleys as women and children follow them empty handed. Stronger men looked after their women helping shop carry goods ahead of the women. In other situations it was women who carried shopping and men walked with them empty handed. This idea shoed men who pay for goods do not goods. Approach in shopping styles was fascinating to watch. So each family chose shopping styles, different families carried goods by size or ability. To be an observed of shopping seems as a trivial pursuit but serious lesson learned from various behaviour shopping patterns.
In another group men carried or pulled shopping trolley while women followed empty handed. At other times, women carried shopping looking like they could do with some help. Experience of hours seeing people freely choose what is best for them to get on with fascinating. And interesting to see categories of shopping styles in peaceful, graceful dignity as its conducted. Experience is not limited to supermarkets but observed in shopping malls and in public places of buying and selling takes place. Antique markets, car boot sale markets looked people carried shopping in this similar pattern. Good to see life goes on, people manage in credit crunch. At least families are not having trolley rage crushing into others or over space turf shop peacefully in harmony. Some debate the choice of brans to buy, ingredients, budget, and menu. People triumphantly exit the shop or store full of hope for their next trip in peace.
Shopping with friends and the family or colleagues trends show it forms part of daily routine especially with the small children needing constant supply. Some have 50/50 role equally sharing tasks at all times if possible. In certain situations must do what is best for those involved in each group. The observation showed two main paradigm shifts. In first group matriarchs, wear the trousers, in charge as they cook more, know best which is a better deal and value for money. If treat men with kid gloves, may not want any one to disrupt shopping or put items not needed wading money. The other group portray women as weaker gender treat them by looking after them so it helps. It seems to spill over in some churches the women cannot speak, lead, be ordained as priests. Play key role behind scenes, without them church will not function. Others ordain and allow women to lead 50/50 like men. Ongoing debate appears to raise issues of finding middle way to discuss approach to produce best result. Women treated as ‘weaker’ gender men in charge as control of shopping trolley.
Others feel the need to have the best of both worlds. Men as head of family and the church help meet roles help carry load. Unspoken defined roles and each knows their place some family tradition men go to work and women stay home doing chores. Raising family and doing ENDLESS FULL TIME JOB highly valued and appreciated helps meet needs. The matriarch rules the roost, pampers the men does the house work, shopping. To reconcile opposing views, some said the 50/50 middle way must be put in place. To ensure fluidity, flexibility, highlight strength when choosing who performs particular job. Some want pre – nuptial written agreement of roles in advance permanently for gender strength to get help if the going gets tough. If indulged, pampered, taking things for granted in dynamic changing life do better to agree to be flexible 50/50 role in advance? Be specific and clear on who does exactly what, when, how where and why. Set roles, if unexpected change happens be flexible quickly to go with the flow.
On the other hand watch against laissez fare attitude not to set role. Assumption automatically means an undefined task not done. Its best if too busy to hire own housekeeper if you can afford it do their shopping or household tasks. A person left doing consistently all the chores feel resentment if contributors to a problem do not lift a finger. House rules include roles for all for peace of mind. If women in household breastfeed, shop, work or combine full time housework need help not penalized with low pension. Being a full time housewife too is a human life treasured. Value priceless life and treat women and children as precious often nation is affected by a low birth. Make decisions in advance which middleway leadership style suitable. Home, church or shopping are all part of the basic life needs. Middleway cannot be ignored as issue causes debates of who does what when and why. Topic analyzed a 50/50 middle pathway of life moderate a lazy extreme indulgence. Honour, respect all actively involved serve in relationships, family and church. Middleway practice work in household life stop repeats of a cycle from generation to generation.
If indulged, pampered, taking things for granted must change to be responsible citizen without impediments in the way who profit from positive engagement. It is to release those trapped accepting the role if spoilt maintain dominant culture. To remove burden of responsibility of a giving person the receiver must render valued service. Not just indulge, waited on hand and foot so narcissistic to let go so codependent can grow. A partnership receives matured capable independence to consider others. Trained children to engage in tasks its not forced labour for children learning to cook, clean or iron at the appropriate age supervised. God Almighty says train child so they grow capable of looking after themselves in a responsible way keeping down jobs.
OVERNIGHT no 16 year old matures to work, study, keep a job or competent. If shopping is done by adults only in such situations dedicated, devoted, enduring pain, suffer silently with stiff upper lip. While the grown up self -indulged child demands more from mother, father’s banks. Redress these unfair treatments, injustice of adults not allowed to train children. The Middleway compromises perspective 50/50 vision training insight knowledge, understanding action affect change. Chance for consideration for a subservient’s rights and feelings is Jesus middleway answer blend help in family. Jesus provides but shopping list to fulfill material needs must be done by person. People care about Price Christ paid for Central MiddleWay Gospel Message for miracle of salvation for golden rule. In the Bible in 1 Timothy 2:5 God mediator in Jesus says believers through the Holy Spirit Middle Way in Christ fulfill an old covenant in new covenant. And Christ accepts enhanced life by progress lives daily changed in Christ. The middle way decision on the narrow way not broad way of destruction so wide many on it. 
Live on narrow way may be hard but hope by faith in Christ says Matthew 7:13, 14. Christ on the middle narrow way separates His sheep to God as God loves all HIS creation only those who know and love Jehovah Nissi, God calls HIS CHILDREN is God’s Kingdom truth. Pleasing God instruction to His people is to help family. Moses talked to God and said, LORD, if I have indeed found favor in Your sight, teach me Your ways, so I will know You and find favour in Your sight. This nations are Your people” in Exodus. 33:12-13. Guide me and teach me clearly your way. Help me to know you and show me your way. (KJV) God spoke with Moses face to face, just as a man speaks with his friend (Ex. 33:11). This verse speaks reality and depth of communion between Moses and God. Moses was God’s friend not because he was perfect, gifted, powerful. 
Good are friends because as friends trust each other. They talk to each other, share common interests. No one can drive a wedge between them. Moses trusted God to accompany Him by His Spirit, Fire and cloud of His Presence daily. God did not provide advance signpost to direct him but knew God was with always. Moses in God’s world so people had best of both worlds. He endured all challenges due to rebellious nature of the people yet responses to God’s call. Recent attempts to teach children about the flood and Noah presented the story in a different light from the believing Christian’s point of view. It is important to know God personally and intimately like Moses to know the Bible to compare the word of God to discern the truth of God. In Matthew 7 reveals the Christian way is moderation. Kingdom. 
The narrow way truth like liberal and conservative, are similar in some ways but different in others. Joshua and Elijah told the people to decide the place to stand. It is called narrow road because few like the scorn, rejection and position on middle way. Jesus calls to live His disciples classic case in Luke 10:38-42 in home. Martha and Mary debate of balancing domestic household duties with ministry. Mary choose to sit at feet of Christ, Martha cooked that day so argued with Mary in front of Christ guest. What what Mary did has greatly exceeded all others by greatly tending to Christ, engaging his attention fully on God’s Kingdom. Mary trusted Jesus with full confidence and assurance all needs will be met in God. Christ and God’s Kingdom First above other things to be added to her. Christ settled matter once and for all, Mary choose eternal life. Believers choose Kingdom of God First. 
Christ fed many multitudes multiplied in Luke 9:16 five loaves and two fish to feed 5, 000, people excluding women, children not counted. So Christ fed 4,000 in miracle of the seven loaves and fishes in Gospel of Matthew 15:32-39, Mark 8:1-13. Christ can fix a meal so Martha need not. This Middle Way with Christ in Holy Spirit in God’s Presence, miracles happen for God provides and supplies needs through His RIches in Glory by Christ Jesus sends His Divine Helpers to sponsor His Kingdom For His Glory In Jesus Name. Faith and works, both are required to enter the Kingdom of God. Christians called to live between faith and works. Do not enter Kingdom by merely believing, nor can we enter by merely doing. We live in tension. We believe and we act on what we believe. Belief action important determined by what we believe, as what we believe is shown by our actions. Is up to each to decide what works for themselves.
Questions for Reflections:
- Does society, culture, status, gender roles influence or impact the two main categories?
- Is change taking place through the years due to education, equal rights on expected roles?
- Can the 50/50 middle way really be fixed as roles set in concrete for each gender to know what to do?
- Can 50/50 middle way, really help to understand this neutral central flexible way.
- How about occasions when situations call for sole 100% active service or require 20/80 ratio service?
- Can middle way trend be accepted in the community with set rules for men and women?
- Can there be a change for people actively serving in relationship duties or in churches?
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