CATFISH SCAMS UNMASKED

Alex Hobern on The CircleThe Circle’s TV social experiment shows Alex Hobern became ‘Kate’ and won the £75.000 reward. Three weeks indoors so contacts others by an instant messaging only.   to be themselves or catfish to pretend to be someone else to test the theory of how people see others online through social media. The circle tenants lived in close proximity on same tower block but not allowed to physically meet until after blocked elimination. And the docudrama reality TV was watched by the public who voted to select a winner. The media project highlights the online conundrum of people pretending to be a picture of another person to impress a potential date to love them. The admirer genuinely thinks the person is who they claim to be and falls in love with them. It leads to game playing with a victim’s emotions who trusts the photo image so much they invest their love, passion and interest to marry them. Once the victim is ” hooked” it leads to constant requests from catfish to provide the needs of the virtual partner in love with. So genuine desire of unsuspecting victim’s emotion played on by virtual partner influences them into deeper commitment and the urgent need to meet physically. The one duping the victims makes up stories to trick the innocent person truly in love with them. People are tricked to think they are speaking to a female or a man if its a woman. Scammer requests bank details, address, pin number pretending to share multi million inheritance with their victim. Another person revealed himself to be a man, blackmailed and threatened to kill parents coerced Ben to send sexual images performing sex acts live over video chat. Felt helplessfrom a man for three weeks pretending to be a girl, finds out information about every part of his life,” Ben’s father told Victoria Derbyshire programme, knew his family, nans, brothers, sisters and the school Ben went to. Everything they find used as information to manipulate him. The images and videos sent by Ben to the man was shared with five other men, who bombarded Ben with further demands. He felt so helpless and didn’t know what to do his father said. He is a different child now but did not know why. After two years meeting demands, Ben attempted to take his life leading the abuse to be uncovered. The main perpetrator was later jailed for four-and-a-half years so be warned and alert.

Alex Hobern on The CircleCHANNEL 4 constructed a whole new personality participants complete with a new face and new gender to show the viewers how this unfolds in real life. So  try to pretend to be another person for whole three weeks to group of strangers only met through an app. Every move is filmed and broadcast to the nation as a developed concept of big brother. Well that’s what Alex Hobern did on Channel 4 reality show The Circle won himself £50,000 in the process voted the winner by fellow contestants, and winning an extra £25,000 in the public vote. A brief recap for those who didn’t watch is the contestants were asked to create social media profile complete with biography and profile pictures and could either be themselves or massage the truth. Of the original six contestants, one woman knocked a few years off her age and one gay man pretended to be straight, but only Alex chose to take on a completely new identity. Some people criticised The Circle, saying it promoted the catfishing creating false persona to trick others online especially as Alex as “Kate” built up a close friendship with fellow finalist Dan Mosaku. A social media comedian Alex, 26, used girlfriend Millie’s picture to pose as Kate, told the BBC that wasn’t how he saw it. So in his own words, he explains his “rollercoaster” experience.

Alex/Kate’s story

I decided to detach myself from looks and my personality to create popular person I could. I could have been a guy, but I thought ‘let’s explore something different.’ I thought it will be interesting to be a woman on social media and look at the issues that brings. First of all I was going to use a model’s picture, but my girlfriend pointed out I’d need to talk about picture with conviction. Its completely her idea to use the picture. It helped me to have a more compelling story. It started off that I was trying to create the most popular person, but it developed into wanting to raise the awareness of social media fake identity. My audience is young, impressionable and so I thought The Circle was a safe environment to explore as we were told there would be people saying they are something they’re not. But when I was in there, that idea got lost quite quickly.Alex/ KateAlex use girlfriend’s photo to pretend to be Kate because when you’re stuck in a room for three weeks and you’ve only got eight people to talk to, you build up relationships with people. You forget they might be fake. After a while it does not matter because you’re interested in their personality. I was really wishing Christopher, actually 22-year-old called Sinead who used granddad’s photo, into existence. I think people felt that way about Kate. The personality was initially made up. I wrote myself a bio and tried to stick to it but I realised I was woefully underprepared. Like for example when Aiden a female contestant talked about snatching her eyebrows, I had no clue what she meant. And then we had to debate certain topics, like Brexit. I had my own views, and I’ve got a degree in politics, but I didn’t want to be belittling or patronising, so I played it safe.Alex Hobern and girlfriend Millie LoganAlex with his girlfriend Millie whose pictures provided the face of made-up character Kate. The same happened with some of the questions about sexual stuff. I thought ‘I built boring character, she can’t have a sexy side’ but everyone else thought I was just on the fence. So I found the whole situation mentally draining. I lost my appetite, ended up second-guessing everything I was writing on the app. I realised everything I said counted towards my rating. There were a few times I thought ‘I’ve had enough now, I’m going home to my family’. And it was difficult thinking the UK public might be against me, and Millie might have been exposed to the hype and the criticism. So I just thought ‘stuff it, I’m going to be myself now.’ I started having fun and I went up in the ratings against contestants to give each other marks out of five. Towards the end I think people figured something out and realised Kate’s personality had changed but they can’t have known the extent of it. I never wanted to glorify catfishing. In a safe environment we’d been told people might be fake. To me, catfishing is emotional manipulation but I played a fake character. I’ve been catfished myself before and I wanted to raise awareness of it in a controlled, social experiment. I had tried to protect Dan by friend-zoning him but I had to try to protect my game plan too. He may be a woman himself, for all I knew.Dan, a contestant on The Circle.Dan found himself getting closer to Kate who was really Alex. I was so nervous to meet him at the end of the series and was almost desperate for him to be my friend. We had to sit together in a small room alone for 35 minutes, which was one of the most challenging things I’ve had to do. The pair since met up for lunch and smoothed over the situation. It’s still not sunk in I won. I went into the final, thinking fellow finalist Sian had been top of the table to win. And when it came to public vote, I thought ‘I’m playing someone fake’ so I thought I had no chance. But winning showed me my personality as me after four weeks of being fake had been noticed.

Show’s psychologist says:

The TV psychologist Honey Langcaster-James worked with Channel 4 on the series as it was aired and on The Circle Uncovered, being broadcast on Tuesday at 10.25pm. She said the series showed those who weren’t being truthful ended up feeling guilty “when they realised a real human being was on the other end of the screen.”Finalists on Channel 4's The CircleContestants Dan, Sian, Alex and Freddie react to the news there will be a public vote during the final. “There was a real inner tension for Alex, between playing the game and grappling with the moral dilemma of doing that as he got closer to players,” she said. “But interestingly, Alex’s popularity as a player grew when he started being himself more. “I think it shows that as much as you set out to show this version of yourself on social media, people connect with you more when they know the real you that you think and feel.” She said, public voted for Alex to win because they saw the “journey” he went on during the show, and realised his deception “wasn’t being done maliciously in The Circle as Alex Hobern became ‘Kate.’ This experiment teaches people don’t depend on words from online “doctored characters” who con trusting innocent people linked to organised crime human trafficking. Do not give money to catfish scammers who dupe victims badly and disappear with money so learn from TV Circle.Alex Hobern on The CircleMany people lost millions dollars through manipulations of catfish so necessary to learn from TV Circle how social media affects lives. It’s interesting the older woman who pretended to be a young had a gut feeling about Kate and warned Dan in vain. Dan preferred to alert Kate of his suspicion but Kate reassured him there was no problem. This classic mistake gives feedback to catfish to convince victim harder and to dupe them more. Kate won’t have won without the emotional investment of Dan who truly trusted Kate’s words. This goes on daily online with scam letters, catfish photos used to deceive people to lure them to part with money to ‘help meet up’ and consolidate the relationship. Sadly damaged reputation of some online dating that hurt people badly who lost their lifetime savings. They lost trust in genuine people who date them later, as effects and scars of their loses is often projected onto them. Be careful and be aware not to make life commitment by the virtual photo of catfish. Dan learned the hard way just as many realised they were conned by men pretending to be women to dupe them. Some insecure about their size, weight, shape also use catfish to pretend to be a model or use a photo of another famous person online to deceive victim. Scam is revealed after they physically meet and see they do not look like photo used online. Others never find catfish scammer changing identity daily like chameleon to dupe people. Tell friends about potential relationships and listen to gut feelings of friends. Do not wear a love goggle blinded by manipulations to refuse to see sense to save yourself from online scam pain and hardships. 

More on this story

  • The Circle’s Dan: ‘I was furious about TV catfishing’
    10 October 2018
  • The Circle: Alex/Kate wins Channel 4’s reality show 9 October 2018

TRAIN CHILD FOR LIFESKILL

The Bible says train a child in the way they should go so when they grow they will not depart from it. Especially boys are struggling because they do not express their real feelings for fear of being judged weak. This program is wonderful so must continue through teenage years into adulthood. Limited resources must not stop mentoring them at the most critical times in their lives. Like other Science projects of Professor Robert Wilson among others this program must continue for the next few more years so their hard work will not be in vain. This men are doing a great job and need sponsors to extend it further beyond childhood. It will be good to follow up throughout their teenage and adult years so they retain their knowledge and manners. Other peers and friends that come into their lives later without similar training can influence the vulnerable ones. So need help and support of well wishers to continue this program into teenage years, university, training for skills, careers to transition into adult life. Programmes like First University of the Child and Connections in the Secondary Schools enable children to get the right guidance required. In the past projects were limited to 4 years funding if run by government and then changed into another project for the sake of funding conditions. This is not sufficient long term to help them fully grasp life goals for good success. Their contemporaries often get private fundings to develop practical life skills to continue into business men or the chief executives of corporate bodies. While this program is highly valued and appreciated, please let it not be another statistics of 1% success years later because others drifted off. Coach Carter stood by his basketball playing students in their teenage years despite challenges faced. Please continue this hard work into the future so we look forward to more success from this story. Please ask for more help if you need it to support this program. If you can help please do not wait to be asked first because this good success impacts the community and nation as a whole. Well done and God bless you for your sacrifices and precious times devoted to helping these priceless children. Please encourage their reading skills and academic studies too like Coach Carter. EYE CONTACT IS CRUCIAL BECAUSE OTHER CULTURES TEACH CHILDREN OUT OF RESPECT NOT TO LOOK DIRECTLY INTO EYES OF ELDERS. Misunderstood by Western Countries as “lying” unable to keep eye contact, picked on needlessly, harrassed by law enforcement, lacking important knowledge to understand the difference in the upbringing of children by other cultures. This Instagram photo by @bayouredd

FASTFASHION HARMS EARTH

ClothesFast fashion is harming the planet, MPs say environmental impact of disposable clothing in perfect condition needs to be tackled urgently.  Young people’s love of fast fashion is coming under scrutiny of Britain’s law-makers. MPs say fashion industry is major source of greenhouse gases overheating the planet. Discarded clothes are piling up in landfill sites and fibre fragments are flowing into the sea when clothes are washed. The retailers admit more needs to be done, but say they are already working to reduce the impact of their products.Graphic: Numbers on our consumption of fashion

What do MPs say?

The House of Commons Environmental Audit Committee says there is a basic problem with an industry that relies on persuading people to throw away good clothes because they are “last year’s colour.” Psychilogical manipulation of a person feeling left out if not wearing the latest clothing means some even wear an item only once. So do not want to be seen photgraphed or attending function in same clothes. Those who do are even mocked and laughed at by their peers. It has serious consequences because it is affecting the environment. It quotes evidence that:

  • British shoppers buy far more new clothes than any nation in Europe
  • People buy twice as many items of clothing as they did a decade ago
  • Fish in the seas eat synthetic fibres dislodged from the washing

The MPs have written to the UK’s top fashion bosses asking how they can maintain the £28bn benefit their industry brings to the UK economy, while reducing the environmental harm. They believe swift action is essential, because if current clothes consumption continues “…they will account for more than a quarter of our total impact on climate change by 2050”, chairwoman Mary Creagh told BBC News. “Three in five garments end in landfill or incinerators within a year that’s expensive fuel! Half a million tonnes of microfibres a year enter the ocean. Doing nothing is not an option.”Second-handMore clothing must be re-used or gifted

What are the solutions?

The committee’s report to government could include a call for the fashion industry to create less pollution, a demand for longer life for garments and a ban on dumping clothes in landfill. The MPs also have concerns about social impacts. They believe fast fashion is fuelling quick turnarounds among suppliers, which may lead to poor working conditions. Among their questions to retailers are:

  • Do you pay the living wage and how do you ensure child labour is not used in factories?
  • Do you use recycled materials?
  • How long do you keep clothes, and how do you encourage recycling?
  • Do you incinerate unsold or returned stock?
  • How are you reducing the flow of microfibres into the sea?Presentational grey line

The Retailers Response?

Peter Andrews, head of sustainability at the British Retail Consortium, told BBC News population growth and increased demand have led to an increase in the overall volume and environmental impact of clothing. But said members are now designing products that are made to last, and they are encouraging customers to return unwanted clothes for reuse. “We know more needs to be done, but the best answers will be achieved with collaborative global actions.” The companies approached by MPs are: M&S, Primark, Next, Arcadia, Asda, TK Maxx and HomeSense, Tesco, JD Sports Fashion, Debenhams, Sports Direct International.

Science & Environment

GET RELEVANT EDUCATION

Pursuit of academic excellence within the ability of every child is important to reinforce need to help children get their priority right. As individual differences impact talents and abilities it means the child must be guided at own pace to be the best they can be. So children thrive right from onset of education or bloom later like bamboo shoots with delayed growth spurt. These difference in levels of achievements can frustrate children and parents who finds school difficult to cope with. The lack of support to help slow learners or gifted children causes them to implode, misbehave or disrupt the class. Compulsory education society has not succeeded in personally tailored education still. Therefore children find it extremely hard to adapt or adjust to the impossible standard imposed on the children. Worst of all is the unnecessary exams forced on children to grade them on league tables to prove which schools are the best in the country. However, a child in a privileged class private school is sitting exact exams with the deprived in society. This pressure compels some of those children unable to do so well to look for ways out of difficult impossible challenges they face daily in school. And some experience difficult circumstances at home, bereaved, or a divorced family, supporting sick or disabled parents or it is domestic or physical abuse, violence. With such backgrounds in some cases a child faces these extreme problems of a combination of all at the same time. On other occasions the language difficulties also compounds these problems. And its still expected of a child to be A* pupil or student in college and university later. These complex problems of the children can include poverty and starvation if in a deprived community but required to do well. Indeed some do well but most of the children facing these challenges cause them to react by rebelling with peers in similar situations for support. At times some parents are too busy and overwhelmed to realise what is going on a child’s lives before it is too late to help them. Meanwhile children’s look and appearance has become a welcome diversion for not doing so well. This is a major trend whereby their competitive urge to be the best dressed in the most expensive  clothing brands and hair dos become the centre of focus. To belong to a peer group, their friends will not play or interact with them if the appearance is not deemed fit to be in their group. It is a serious issue causing fights and the attacks of those beaten for dressing less or more than peer group. Children are attacked for trainers, iphones, iPads or designer handbags or clothes. Most of the children dress better those working hard footing the bill for their designer wears. To fuel this hierarchy status turf wars, most resort to drug selling and a lifestyle beyond their means. Pressure to conform means whatever means can be used to accomplish demands is used.IMG_20180607_181814 Not focussing on home work to keep up with their academic education means unachievable grades and poor results. The cycle is repeated after not achieving good grades becomes more frustrated with career options. Due to their tastes and expensive lifestyle some find it hard to work a daily job or keep up with stable employment. Some are now used earning thousands of dollars in the streets so continue that way. But it gets complicated as they face threats of attacks of turf wars and gang fights. It is interesting the millennial generation with every abundant material wealth in modern times beyond past generations are also the most unhappy, stressed and miserable ones. On top of all these is an addiction to games, drugs, alcohol and a risk taking dare-devil lifestyle cutting short-lived in their prime. The children have becomes victims of superabundant society more interested in profits or the value of property than emotional needs of these children. Year on year statistics show things are getting worse for these generation trapped in cycle of external appearance and look more than content of their character. Superficial egotistic fleeting looks and clothing labels seems more important to them than priceless God-given natural life. Superabundance around lure them to think only external material things and looks count most. In the process create anger, envy, jealousy, hatred and fights some willing to kill peers for. And yet the root of this problem is not addressed to guide these children to find fulfillment in real value of life preservation. Pressure to get rich quick to get the most expensive gadgets, games and physical looks overrule desire to study hard. Most find academic work too frustrating but remain in school as the las demands. So disturb the class or attack dedicated children working hard and excelling. The solution is not simple but pressure to attain league tables is a part of the cause of frustrations of some those children. In addition, the families have very high expectations of them so also pressurize them to work harder. If a child becomes overwhelmed, look for support from friends and peers to help them rather confide in parents. So the cycle of frustration, is numbed by TV watching, games or playing out with the friends. They cannot stay at home alone so go out on the streets among the drug dealers and grooming paedophiles who take advantage of their naivety. Is there any way educational purpose becomes imparting knowledge to children to gain information relevant to their lives and not merely business for exam boards to grade them on the exam league tables. There is direct connection between the compulsory pressure knowledge power uses to control people. Millions are even more frustrated after university when they realise not many human jobs are available to do. With higher standard of living and surmounting debts now face even more challenging circumstances after graduation. These global millineal generation cannot farm, eat from home-grown produce or survive with money spent several a day. It is a generation revolving around money and material things while tons of food and clothing are thrown away daily by privileged. It sends wrong message about capitalism as acquisition of global resources for a few. Children watch and yearn for such luxury goods at their doorsteps so often above their means. They crave their cut in these illusive wealth they see but do not attain despite academic success. It is gets worse as the system set up frustrate them to turn on each other by hanging around others than value their families.IMG_20180607_181942 Parents under pressure doing several jobs need to set time aside each night to be with their children and talk to them. The support of families in the lives of the children makes a great deal of difference. Sacrifice a personal selfish comfort at expense of children to nurture them and spend quality time with them. Get to know your children to be the first person they talk to rather than a wrong friend putting them under peer pressure to get into trouble. At the end of the day him life is the best gift in life God gives so treasure children and teach them go value their lives. Yes it is good to look good and dress well but it must not becomes a cause of conflict in school education. A decent moderate appearance with excellent grades often helps gain exceptional opportunities to accomplish great things. Just take a look at photo of old clothes and hairstyles to ask yourself is this the reason one could not study hard to build a career? Unless in the fashion industry business clothes change with colours of seasons so worth asking yourself if its better to invest in books, educational gadget, school needs to enhance academic achievement. And parents must not condone with children to argue with schools over hairdo and designer clothing than grades in school. A lot of children waste time on dressing up, make ups, changing their looks for Selfies and preoccupied with vanity. So do not study and hope for quick bucks making money by unrealistic methods. It is necessary to help children study at home, supervised and checked without fibs of assignments done on the school computer. This generation is so smart parents need to be aware to help them. Some play away their youth and pay for it by having to suffer in middle age. And the gifted embark on success sacrificing youth to pave way to rewarding future but feel lonely and isolated. Recently, David Graeber, LSE anthropologist and author, said 37-40% of people feel their jobs are pointless; worse still, they are generally correct. The career they chose did not fulfil them as school subjects were forced on them to meet criteria for grants. The chance of feeling valued in society after emerging from strains of final education is challenging for those who struggled in school or the gifted who made it with excellent grades. Can education meet realistic needs of pupils and students? Others adopt the extreme measures of taking their lives when it was too much to deal with challenges of life. What is the purpose of education if it creates casualties than fulfilled adults.

GOD IS KNOWLEDGE GIVER

Psalm 119:99-100 says that students can have more knowledge, insight and more understanding than all their teachers as testimony of God’s gift, talent or favour. Honouring God, by meditating on word of God, following precept by precept to listen accurately and obey instruction means knowledge expands. I understand more than the ancients, because I keep God’s precepts. God gave Daniel knowledge, intelligence in all letters and in science. Daniel had understanding in all science and interpretation of visions, complex dreams. Daniel 1:4-17 praised the young men without blemish, handsome, gifted in all wisdom. Children in whom there was no blemish, well-favoured, skilful in all wisdom and knowledge with an understanding of science. These four young men God gave them knowledge and skill in all kinds of science of their time. God gave to Daniel special ability in understanding meanings of dreams like Joseph. Daniel and his friends had more knowledge in science and wisdom because of God’s Hands upon their lives. They impressed Babylon king in Iraq so much with knowledge God gave them so they were made courtiers in the king’s palace. They advised the king and also Daniel was promoted to be a supervisor. Daniel’s ability to reveal and interpret a king’s dream brought favour of God’s promotion. The king decreed Daniel’s God is Only ONE TRUE LIVING GOD to be worshipped. Due to miracles seen of Daniel not being eaten in the lion’s den or burnt by fire Son of God Jesus joined them in. It is important to be humble in using whatever gifts of knowledge God gives us for His Glory in Jesus Name. I experienced visions in my dream where God showed me complex statistics and data about various constellations, space calculations I not know existed before my dream. God beamed these data onto the sky so I told God to wait for me to go get paper to write them down because it was too much for me to memorize all in my dream but I woke up. To my greatest surprise all God revealed in my dream was already online available on Google. I could not believe my eyes and I shared testimony many times. God is source of all knowledge so its good to give God all the Glory and thanks for talents helping accomplish good success in Jesus Name. The Holy Spirit brings to remembrance knowledge to recall what we learn or see in visions to testify the goodness of God. If struggling in any field of study seek God’s face for Mercy and Grace to receive knowledge, wisdom to achieve excellence. Akiane is a living example of God teaching her to paint by meditating in the presence of God to receive visions to draw. She is known all over the world as, “Girl Taught Art by God.” God’s gifts, talents, and skills are to enhance quality of life to bless mankind. Remember to thanks to God for protect the knowledge given you. Just as Father God is happy to see HIS Children success the devil wants to sabotage knowledge and the glory of mankind. The devil goes extra miles to pervert, destroy, ruin, counterfeit the real knowledge of God. Some destroyed by family strongholds that subdue the gifts and talents of God due to envy and jealousy. So it is good to be under God’s POWER to protect knowledge given you to flourish and thrive as God wants for you in Jesus Name. Cover yourself with BLOOD of Jesus and talk to your pastor as the young man in this video did to receive breakthrough in Jesus Name.

DEATH AND EVIL EMOTIONS

Death is a sensitive  matter that brings about all sorts of negative evil emotions and disagreements due to accusations blaming others as their cause of a death. God said it’s appointed unto man to die and there is a time to die except unless one of those who will never see die in the Rapture. It clearly says in the Bible an average age of life is between 70 to 80 years although exceptions mean that some die younger and other people live hundreds of years. However awareness of existence of facts of life about death does not make death easier to accept, no matter how long the person lived. Even when a loved one is ill for many years there is expectation for recovery despite doctor’s prognosis. Letting go of loved ones is painful and soon turns to anger of feelings of being abandoned by loved ones. Soon anger turns to denial and the blame of anyone as cause of their death. Often accusations are levelled against a frontline staff for not trying harder to save loved ones despite the best medical resources. Relatives accuse and blame others for causing death through evil spirits using, sorcery, witchcraft and divinations charms, curses and spells. Often the shock caused by the death is compounded by financial demands imposed on relatives for a grand burial beyond their means and resources. The family is given a list of items to buy by the elders before burial takes place. The families compete for the corpse and the process of burial instead of unifying in grief for the sake of their loved ones. In some parts of the world burial is bigger than wedding so requires lots of money. And the sudden death burdens relatives obliged to provide coffin, food, clothing drinks accommodations for guests. This causes so much debt and puts pressure on families of the deceased because the resources are diverted for burial rather than investments into projects to help those alive. Fear of being haunted and punished by the deceased, if not buried properly or revenge for ” whoever” is responsible for the death becomes their obsession. Until the dead tells them who caused their death, a cloud of suspicion hangs around alleged suspects. They are often targeted and victimized, beaten, ostracised and in some cases killed to ensure that person does not kill more people. Thoughts and fears of potential deaths to be caused by a “perpetrator” drives the community to eliminate such an evil person from their midst. A closer look at alleged perpetrators involve the issue of land disputes envied prosperity and labelling them ritual killers for the material gain. Sudden change in wealth, buildings, or good fortune is thought to be the result of such killings. These are some reasons for delays for funerals for months or years until these issues are resolved. Grief and sorrow overshadow reality with strong desire to pin death on perpetrator for closure to project the pain and loss on them. People are fined, chased away from community banished for life so if anyone shows compassion to them are accused of being part of evil circle causing death. Adults or children are accused by the witchdoctors who fuel confusion by their condemnation of people targetted as perpetrator. Anger, and hatred causes bitterness, sickness, due to unforgiveness, fear and chaos as confusion in the family tarnishes many generations holding grudges by blaming members. An unforgiving person is very poor in spirit, suffers afflictions, many hardships, hypertension, pressure, lack of sleep, stress, exhaustion and serious depression, poor diet so low immunity. These affects quality of life made worse by the copius painkillers literally killing them. Challenges in life of the matured born-again child of God promotes them through furnance of faith to overcome in victory. What does not kill you makes you stronger so problem strengthen you for testimony to the Glory of God God gives solutions in Jesus Name to prove HIS miracle power is same yesterday, today and forever. Problems draw you closer to God to triump always. And we know nothing can separate us from the LOVE OF GOD including death. Personal neglect and the lack of drinking water causes dehydration and death. Do not seek evil sources of secret family idols in shrines through divination sacrifices or offerings on altars destroying people. Their potions, lotions, charms, rings and objects tie them to evil covenants killing them. God says MY people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. These professed Christian believers consult family idols as history reveals in covenant rituals for protection, power, childbirth, help sought for healing and material riches that ENSNARE family to evil spirits. So family members dedicated in the womb or after birth for life to witchdoctors to continue covenant bondage to powers of darkness yet confess to BELIEVE in God as Christians. Deep-rooted rituals secret rituals take place despite official church burials or business success. The family perform secret rituals involving witchdoctors in the name of culture. So these rituals require families paying the huge sums of money to witchdoctors for buying, cows, goats etc to pacify gods or idols from destroying more people. And sadly these rituals cause these divisions separating them from God depriving the family of joy, peace, love and unity. The family gets the worse problems because they held captive by dark powers. Some remain slaves to witchdoctors held in a spiritual captivity and the families takes loans to pay them. Younger generations have no idea of causes of evil challenges in their life as dedicated in the womb by rituals performed by these witchdoctors or herbalist. Fear of evil eyes of enemies reinforce greed of witch doctors fueling hatred among people seeking solutions to problems in time of need. Yet God the Giver of life warns about death as part of life to prepare to deal with death to cope better and to mourn with HOPE OF ASSURANCE OF ETERNAL LIFE IN THE RESURRECTION.

So it is important to remember children pick on these issues affecting by them if unresolved early. The child listens to various insinuations and made to take sides in such conflicts. Developing children who see physically and experience these matters need help to teach them the topic of death and loss sensitively in primary schools to fulfill section (a) of aims of the 1988 Education Reform Act to promote spiritual, moral, cultural, mental, physical development of pupils at school and of society. These issues must be addressed during Death Education in the home and by Teachers in their curriculum. Doctors also call for death education in schools to be taught in classroom to demystify death, ageing and dying. They need resiliency, more compassion positive proactive approach to death. Death Education in Schools is critically important to bring awareness for better understanding and for future generations. Afterlife has many beliefs so necessary to explain a human body is subject to change or decay over lifetime so demands better care of life to treat it as a precious priceless gift to treasure. Someone people think teaching death education in schools is too sensitive or inappropriate so might do the opposite of putting fear in them. Death education if discussed appropriately will not harm children but rather enhance knowledge and understand from the early years as young as three years if relatives died to help them express grief.

Teachers must be trained to handle the changes in children bereaved, the level of coursework, homework, studies and focus or concentrations. Schools must provide one-to-one counselling room for those children grieving to express the grief in private using Educational resources provided for schools, teachers to bring awareness. Healing takes years but a good enough starting point to help ease the pain. Relatives are traumatized after death and some think there is no light at the tunnel. Yet with the right support and compassion families will overcome death to find peace in the midst of adversity of death. Restoring hope after death or questions of cause of death can be dealt with by teacher in simple terms without indepth medical terms to help rather than confuse children. An expert paediatrician if required can be invited to guide children to express and write journals or scrapbook, drawings and to express grief after bereavement. Above all children need financial support, food and extra input into an academic work to catch up with loss of time away from school during such funerals. A conflict over the deceased loved ones seriously impacts children for the rest of live. So it is important to be careful what is said in front of them or listening nearby. The property and assets of a deceased is the major cause of divisions in the families. The family makes sacrifices to educate a deceased person so feels more entitled to their belongings. A wife and children are antagonized by deceased family for feeling cheated while deceased lived. So they are punished to pay for the costs of the burial for killing their only source of income. These issues must be addressed immediately to give scholarship to the children go continue their education. If not death of a parent ends education. Or death of adult breadwinner ends the well-being of elderly parents. Vitriol and rage caused by death means litigations in court drains limited resources. These parents need support too to help their children so both need encouragement. Life originates from God so not owned by anyone. Jesus said He gave His Life to overcome death so the sting of death is crushed by Jesus Christ’s resurrection power by raising from the grave. And so a believer in Jesus Christ is expected to live by God’s Biblical commands only. A secret ritual unseen or unknown to the pastor is SEEN BY GOD. All will be held accountable by God to give an account for their life and other people in their families. These are serious matters to reflect to make a right choice to please God. Living by God’s standard affects a family divided in their thoughts and the actions contrary to God’s WORDS. And it important to remember you come as an individual into this world and will face God as an individual on judgement day. Better to obey God than follow the men leading you into sin and destruction in the name of cultural belief. Despite all the punishment a deceased does not get out alive because of vengeance so does not really solve any problems. Believers can humbly share their faith from Bible in advance on God’s stance on the death and resurrection. Jesus guarantees joy and eternal life after death for a season so believers are assured of seeing loved ones again in the resurrection Rapture if a Christian believer. This means death is not the end families or loved ones, all will be reunited without pain, sorrow, grief, tears or crying anymore in perfect joy eternally. It’s important to EDUCATE people to understand CREATOR GOD’S words on burial and funerals. Excessive display of wealth to show off to others or pay money for journey or bury cars in graves with personal belongings are unbiblical. Worldly attitude to life seeps into church burial ceremonies despite Bible’s position th material goods does not constitute a man’s life. The worldly goods become completely useless in the afterlife and people must know this. The amount of money invested in death will change communities if it’s invested in a life of a deceased while alive. Believers must carefully pray and study word of God and seek deliverance from all these generational entanglements. Educated family members have an important role to play not to be deceived by envious evil people misleading them. God says in his words that where is no vision the people perish. The devil is a liar using deception to often manipulate illiterate family members without knowledge or understanding of medical biology, body chemistry, health and well-being. And so every death is placed on the targeted victim blamed or ostracised to ease the pain of death. Instead hatred breeds depression, low immunity, disease and heart attack, mental illness or madness. Unforgivingness over years destroys the health of people, as stated, hatred is the poison drank by a person expecting an enemy to die. It kills joy, causes misery and deep anger unleashed on innocent family members or colleagues. Endtime events are fast happening so this is time to ask GOD FOR HIS MERCY, GRACE, COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS, LOVE for yourself and your loved ones in Jesus Name. Jesus taught us to forgive and to receive Forgiveness from God so release people to God. Forgiveness does not mean you become best friend of enemy to hang out with them but it clears your heart from offending God and Jesus and grieving the Holy Spirit. The Bible says all sins will be forgiven except the sins against the Holy Spirit. Lifespan is the will of God so work with God and take of your body, Spirit and soul in Christ. 

 

MUSICAL INSTRUMENT’S JOY

'This lot play like they breathe,' says proud mum Kadie. pictured with Sheku after his winGod created us to make music and use musical instruments to sing. Music is an important part of worship and praise to God. My school on Fridays dedicated the first two hours of school lessons entirely to playing musical instruments and to sing. It was normal school not a music academy so we loved Fridays and most students can sing verses of the songs by heart. The repeated sessions of singing songs ingrained music in our memory. This love of music expressed meant we knew our head’s favourite as this song was played daily. Fitting music is found throughout scripture, joyful therapeutic or healing music brings comfort to the soul. We rejoice in sounds of music and it unifies people of all cultures sharing collection music. This is joy brought to the whole world through most talented family in UK. A 17-year-old became first black BBC Young Musician, six brilliant siblings and the parents who sacrificed everything for them are all noticed too. The seven Kanneh-Mason children by all accounts each musically gifted as the next. Kadie their mother said, ‘I do not want to take from Sheku’s achievement, I know how hard he works for it. ‘But could really have been anyone of them.’But he is not the only talented musician in the family. In fact, all six of his siblings are equally skilled when it comes to playing instruments. Left to right: Sheku, Isata, Braimah, Mariatu, Konya, Jeneba and AminataNow 19 years Sheku won performer of the year named BBC Young Musician in 2016. The Judges said that his concerto performance in London is ‘electrifying, sincere and also moving.’ The audience marvelled that a young man preparing for his AS exams delivered such great music. Sheku is first black youngster to win title attended the comprehensive school reserve elitist classical musician. To encourage and support him and cry when he broke a string and had to start again were his mum Kadie, dad Stuart and six siblings. This is where Sheku’s remarkable story touches many lives as they were keenly interested in playing musical instruments. His siblings can win award too as two brothers and five sisters: Sheku, Isata, Braimah, Mariatu, Konya, Jeneba and Aminata play instruments to grade eight level. They wakes every Saturday at 4.30am to catch the train to London to attend junior school of Royal Academy. And Konya, 17 Grade 8 piano at 11, violin at 12 won many regional trophies and Jeneba 15 Grade 8 at nine and highest marks in the area. The Cellist Sheku Kanneh-Mason, 19, from Nottingham won BBC Young Musician. And Sheku Kanneh-Mason’s winning the Young Musician performance came through hardwork ethic, discipline, practice. Cellist Sheku Kanneh-Mason, 17, from Nottingham, was named BBC Young MusicianThis talented musician family of all six siblings are equally skilled in playing instruments. This most talented family in Britain, might be the most talented family in the world. Simon Cowell said so when six eldest siblings appeared on Britain’s Got Talent as Kanneh-Masons. This family collection of musical talents shows each plays brilliantly. The eldest, 21-year-old Isata pianist, former Young Musician finalist herself. She studies full-time at Royal Academy of Music, by scholarship paid for by Elton John with whom she performed. She plays violin and viola to Grade 8 standard. In two of her Grade 8 exams she achieved highest marks in country. Braimah, 20, violinist achieved his Grade 8 by age 12. Sheku, first picked up a cello aged six and had his Grade 8 by age nine with the highest marks in the country. Their parents not musical but sacrificed much to ensure children pursue their passions. Sheku and brother Braimah Kanneh-Mason. The really surprising thing is neither of the Kanneh-Mason parents is musician. ‘It started with Isata,’ as the mum Kadie explains. ‘We started her on the piano because she was very bright so wanted to give her something more than just a schoolwork. She was given one piece a week and mastered it in ten minutes. So ‘Isata set the tone and, when the others were born, music practice was normal.’ Their parents, neither of whom are musical, have sacrificed much to ensure their children can pursue their passions.  Pictured: Sheku and his older brother Braimah Kanneh-Mason

‘We never set out to produce orchestra,’ adds Stuart. ‘It came as a bit of a shock to us, too.’ Their home is given over to music in Nottingham suburb, detached.  They have four pianos,’ says Kadie and three cellos, a viola, four violins. These children, called ‘prodigies’ as three of seven have perfect pitch. At home, four pianos, three cellos, viola, four violins, and children practice two hours daily. Consistency is the name of the game to ensure they are excellent at musical skills. Though talented, their successes are down to ‘hardwork.’ Each practises for at least two hours a day or more if preparing for exam or concert and Isata can play for seven hours. Dedication or passion for music came naturally and so were not pushed. The children love and enjoy music as Kadie said ‘they play like they breathe.’ The parents up at 4.30am on a Saturday, so deeply involved with children’s music, making sure a parent in every audience. Despite the high cost of train fares to music event all attend with their musical instruments. Their home has four pianos, three cellos, a viola, and four violins, and the children practice for two hours a dayOnce on way home, so exhausted Stuart fell asleep at the wheel car went into a ditch. He injured his wrist but thank God none seriously hurt decided to use train, despite costs. It’s a worry money dominates not Mozart or Mendelssohn. Costs of seven musicians in the family is quite daunting. Stuart’s work a business manager on a ‘good salary’ but Kadie, once university lecturer gave up work after child three. High costs means the family does not go on holidays in ten years. Their house of six bedrooms is heavily mortgaged and literally falling apart since every penny of our money goes on music. Have not decorated for years, tiles are coming off the roof. Never buys new clothes does girls’ hair because it’s too expensive to take them to all to hair salon. Car a wreck.’ Sheku able to enter Young Musician contest thanks to kindness of a retired luthier maker of stringed instruments. Frank White’s extraordinary loan of an entire package of instruments for the family, worth tens of thousands include Sheku’s first full-sized cello. Sheku’s amazing genius of musical sound hear Kadie says a broken dial oven emited high shriek Sheku identified note as ‘a very sharp G’ a wasp at window buzzing an ‘E flat.’Simon Cowell called them the most talented family in the UK when the six eldest siblings appeared on Britain’s Got Talent a few years agoSimon Cowell called them most talented family in UK when six eldest siblings appeared on Britain’s Got Talent a few years ago. ‘This could not happen if the sponsor did not donate instruments,’ Kadie says. ‘What would we have done without him? What will families do? I don’t know. One of Sheku’s strings cost £80. A cello bow is £2,000. The trains, the sheet music the overnight stays.’ All adds up so some assume they are rich like elite musicians of Royal Academy. Some are talented children from state schools joining private sector as parent with hole in shoes,’ says Kadie making extraordinary sacrifice for the children. Stuart says, we spend money on them as more important priority even if none a professional musician it is still worth it. ‘Playing instrument teaches discipline, self-belief, the importance of hard work. It gives them confidence. As parent, the joy is seeing them play together, or play on stage. They blossom with confidence in every area of their lives. I don’t think we will look back as money wasted.”Sheku picked up the cello at age six (pictured) and had reached grade eight by the age of nine

Issue of music provision in schools is a ‘woeful, inadequate subject,’ says Kadie. ‘I got free one-to-one lessons at school, I didn’t have a fraction of talent of my children yet not entitled to one-to-one lessons.’ Save for a few small council grants, Kanneh-Masons had no state help but support of schools particularly the comprehensive Trinity Catholic School in Nottingham is vital. ‘It’s a very unusual school, big on orchestras and “normalising” classical music,’ says Stuart. ‘A lot of teenage boys, feel it isn’t “cool” to play an instrument. Mercifully, ours never felt that.’ Meanwhile, race was not an issue for the Kanneh-Mason family until recently. Kadie’s family are from Sierra Leone, West Africa; Stuart’s from Antigua, in Caribbean. At school the children were always part of a mix of cultures. In the classical music world, increasingly aware they were rarities. Sheku is not only the first black winner, but he also attended a comprehensive school - unusual in the highly elite world of classical music

There are few more of us now but at the start in Academy, the only black faces were ours,’ says Isata. In the past few years the older Kanneh-Masons have all started to play in Chineke! Orchestra, Europe’s first professional orchestra solely of black ethnic minority players. Stuart believe change is coming, though, and that his family are at the heart of it. ‘I remember it being a huge thing when the first black footballers played in old First Division. Now look at how many black players there are at highest levels. It takes time but does happen and will.’ Sheku is not only the first black winner, but attended a comprehensive school – unusual in highly elite world of classical music. Sheku is looked up to as a role model for black children especially to help them believe all things are possible with God plus hardwork. Being part of a change is good for orchestra ethnic mix reflecting life in London or Nottingham. The colour of your skin has no bearing on how well you can play.’ Possibly the most extraordinary family watch them whenever you can, so fascinating. Two younger siblings, Konya and Jeneba, are already planning to enter next Young Musician contest taking place in 2018. It is necessary to remember that behind every great success or achievement is a loving, dedicated, supportive family.The Bible says in Matthew 6:25-34, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what you will eat, or what you will drink or for your body what you will put on. Life is worth more than meat and your body more than clothes. God will supply all your needs according God’s riches in Glory by Christ. GOD PROVIDES NEEDS IN JESUS NAME!!!