EARLY ADOLESCENT KIDS

kids-circleAdolescence starts earlier in modern generations than previous ones lasting twice as long as it did in the 1950s. So children are hitting puberty earlier than ever before said Psychology professor Laurence Steinberg who explained why to BrainwavesAdolescence is a period of life between starting puberty and becoming stable, independent adults. This time is being extended because some children begin puberty earlier.Kids-Diverse-1

Adolescence is three times as long as it was in the 19th Century and it’s twice as long as in the 1950s.
Professor Laurence Steinberg

According to Professor Steinberg, in the western world adolescence runs from age 10 or to about age 25. Professor Steinberg attributed this phenomenon of lengthening of adolescence to several surprising factors as follows:youth-world-header-large

Obesity & Man-made Chemicals

The first and most important is obesity. The kids who are fatter go through puberty earlier than the leaner kids he said. Man-Made Chemicals. There are other factors as well. One has to do with the exposure of children to endocrine-disrupting chemicals in the man-made environment. The chemicals are not just in food, they’re in cosmetics, they’re in plastics, they’re in pesticides they’re ubiquitous.” “When people are exposed to these endocrine disrupters it alters their hormonal development and many chemicals lead to earlier onset puberty mostly in girls.”hot

More SunLight exposure

The third factor that’s been discovered fairly recently has to do with exposure to sunlight.” It turns out that kids who grow up near the equator go through puberty earlier than kids who grow up near the north or south pole and that’s because, when you grow up near the equator, you have more exposure to sunlight over the course of childhood years.” While it may not be of too much concern to parents in northern Europe, recent research suggests a final factor which applies to many children here.

“Scientists discovered recently the light emanating from tablets or smartphones or computer screens can affect onset of puberty by disrupting brain’s melatonin system. Kids who spend more and more time in front of these screens especially in front of the blue light emitted by the devices probably contributed to earlier puberty as well. Light from the phones impacts brains of kids and adults.“World-Population-889x591.jpg

Adolescent Brainwaves

Brainwaves of the adolescent brain as Pennie Latin examines is relatively a young field of teenage neurology. It has revealed lack of frontal cortex ability to understand risk and consequences. And so although adolescent children may hit puberty earlier, they may not be able to handle the harsh realities of the trauma of war years, distress, rations, famine, lack of tough physical life forced upon previous generations. They worked in factories, chimney sweepers, railway as tracks as children making them more mature. They develop faster on growth spurt but face challenges of the modern generation.

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DIVERSITY AND MARRIAGE

uk-scotland-42510187Congratulations on celebration of inter marriage between different groups of people often seen as source of blending families. In the past was not considered able to do so even within same nation a tribe saw other tribes in the draconian age as enemies unable to relate in long term marriage of family members. And many people missed potential marriage of choice thwarted by feuding families of past generations. Today it is good to see the acceptance and tolerance after many years people recognise humans come from one race. Although some people do not really fully understand the challenges involved it is nice to see a successful couple overcome diversity. It is equally challenging to be married in a common social background because all marriages are hardwork, tolerance and forgiveness of each other. No matter the issues faced its good to see marriage on top of the agenda once again. So nation of Britain prepares to celebrate Prince Harry’s marriage to Meghan as Queen Charlotte of Portugal married in UK’s past history of a royal mixed marriage. According to PBS, Charlotte “directly descended from Margarita de Castro y Sousa, a black branch of the Portuguese Royal HoHouse. That distinction goes way back to the 18th century to Queen Charlotte of Mecklenburg-Strelitz. So a black woman in the royal family in the 1700s history nerds say turns out that, while many Englanders were in denial at the time, the wife of King George III, who was Queen from 1761 until her death in 1818, was of mixed race. According to PBSMmmm, Charlotte was “directly descended from Margarita de Castro y Sousa, a black branch of the Portuguese Royal House.” So not of unsavoury mixed-race origins, but actual black royalty. Her race mostly went under the radar over the course of history until decades later art historians began to take a closer look at distinctly black features in her portraits. Her regal nose, those full lips; as a mixed girl myself who can often spot a person with even a small amount of Black ancestry from a mile away, it’s pretty blatant from looking at her painting.

The fact that her black physical traits were visible in those paintings was, in itself noteworthy because as customary at the time for artists air brushed to “play down soften or even obliterate undesirable features in a subjects’ face,” also according to PBS. Even more controversial is the fact that the artist who depicted Queen Charlotte in all of her portraits was Sir Allan Ramsay, an anti-slavery advocate who went on to marry a black woman himself. All that being said, many historians believe the mere existence of Queen Charlotte and these portraits could have played a major role in the slavery abolition movement of the time. And that makes total sense. I mean, think about it: As we saw on The Crown, Queen Elizabeth II wouldn’t even allow her sister to marry a man who had once been divorced. And that was in the 1950s. Can you imagine the existence of a black queen back in the 18th century. Another major plot twis is Queen Charlotte, the actual first black and bi-racial member of royalty, happens to be Prince Harry’s great-great-great-great-great-grandmother. She’s Queen Victoria’s grandmother, which makes them relatives, several generations removed. So not only is it possible that Prince Harry’s 14th great-uncle may have beheaded one of Markle’s ancestors, but now, it’s looking like Prince Harry himself has some interracial genes. It   turns out Queen Charlotte might not be the lone mixed royal and potentially not the first, either. Philippa of Hainault, a fourteenth-century Queen of England, was also rumoured to have African ancestry. And in 2004, former sheep sheerer and builder Gary Lewis became the first Maori or aboriginal New Zealander to join the extended royal family by marrying Lady Davina Lewis, daughter of the Duke of Glouchester and 28th in line to the British throne. (I know, I know. Let me know if y’all need me to draw a family tree for all of this.)
Regardless, I think it’s long overdue (like, seven generations long) for Queen Charlotte to get some credit for being an early trailblazer among the royals. And even though the official title of the first black member of royalty technically taken a long time ago. Meghan Markle’s recent engagement reminds people that love heart matters for pure happiness.

EXPELLED FOR HUGGING?

The 16-year-old who was expelledAn Indian teenager was expelled from school for hugging a schoolmate after a stage performance in a play. The 16-year-old boy said its congratulatory with no other motive behind it. This hug between 2 teenagers in southern India snowballed into a national controversy after their school expelled them for a “public display of affection.” The BBC’s Ashraf Padanna spoke to them. After she had sung on stage in a competition at St Thomas Central School in Kerala, the 15-year-old asked her friend, a boy of 16, how she had done. He hugged her, congratulating her on the performance. The hug lasted for a second or two, said girl who did not want to be in a photo. 1cff2fa1a1c4dde739eea72ab350b6fe

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no_pda_-_playbuzz-dot-com.width-800There were lots of students and teachers around and did not feel did anything wrong. One of the teachers reportedly complained to the principal and, in the girl’s words, “all hell broke loose. “The following day, on 22 July, the pair were suspended indefinitely. Four months later on 22 November the boy expelled. Neither was named in media. Schooling is about reformation of child,” principal Sebastian T Joseph told the BBC. “Was given chance to apologise but told parents he did nothing wrong. And the boy said he has already apologised “immediately.” The girl never rejoined the school because according to school’s record she was not enrolled. It was said she recently moved from Dubai, where her father worked so joined St Thomas school in June. The paperwork related to her admission was incomplete when the hug sparked a furore. Both students were asked to appear at a disciplinary committee school formed to investigate the “charges against them.”The St Thomas Central School

The school drew criticism for decision to expel the students for hugging. The BBC has a copy of a charge sheet drafted by the school accusing the two students of engaging in “indecent, immoral and undisciplined public display of affection in front of other students and teachers. It alleges their personal blogs Instagram accounts included the “conversations and photographs” of “intimate, explicit, vulgar, obscene, objectionable.” And as  Instagram account is private followers see stories,” the boy told BBC. “There’s nothing vulgar or obscene as mentioned in charge sheet.” He said he responded to the allegations by explaining the hug was congratulatory so no other motive was behind it. The girl said committee members had copies of photos they had posted on Instagram and called them abusive names. “An official on the panel called her a bitch in heat,” she said. And by time committee found them “guilty” already missed 4 months of school.School children in Kerala

The girl said the school has violated her right to education. During that time, the boy’s parents appealed to Kerala child rights commission, which ordered the school to revoke suspension. But school petitioned the Kerala high court, which upheld order expelling the boy on the grounds that the school had the right to protects its “standard and reputation.” His parents waiting for court to reopen after annual Christmas vacation so they can appeal. “We are pinning our hopes on the judiciary,” said the boy’s father, who has not been working since his son was suspended so he could be home to sort out problem to support his son. He said school officials were not among his son’s or girl’s followers on Instagram he alleged, they somehow saw the photos, made copies and submitted it in court. It seems they were snooping on them?” he asked, adding they would raise the issue of privacy in court. His wife’s concern is their son will miss exams at end of the year, which would affect his chances at gaining admission into college since this is his final year of schooling. Yet the boy has not attended school 4 months now.The 16-year-old who was expelled

School authorities told BBC they allowed the boy to transfer to another school so central education board independent body decides if he appears for exam. In the meantime, the school is criticised for being peculiar with harsh response. On Thursday, the boy received a letter from principal inviting him to meet on 3 January to re-examine “issue.” The girl’s situation is unclear. Her parents are not sure if they will approach court. Although she doesn’t want to continue studying at St Thomas school, she said she hopes they will let her write annual exam so she doesn’t lose a whole year. “I want to study on a better campus in a safer environment, where they won’t treat you in a demeaning manner,” she added. She said she already applied to another school but denied admission because of the “incident.” St Thomas school ‘violated’ my right to education and my right to privacy,” she said. The school policy must boldly print notice on all school walls warning pupils: NO BODY CONTACT BETWEEN PUPILS OR THE STAFF UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES IN BOLD CAPITAL LETTERS IN SCHOOL ADMISSION LETTERS, BILL BOARD ADVERTS IN CORRIDORS, ON STAGE, IN SCHOOL POLICY NO HUGGING, NO KISSING, NO DATING IN THE SCHOOL PREMISES. NO PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION IS ALLOWED.House-Rules_girlsln some societies hugs, kisses show love and public display of affection so in Europe it is acceptable. Though it may seem callous or cold some people in other places are not encouraged to show or demonstrate affection publicly as proof of love. Films inundate children with romantic love without teaching intimacy is a private sacred matter though on bill boards. So children see one thing displayed by the adult world without WARNING NOTICE banning public display of affection. The solution publish school posters to train, instruct pupils in advance to pay more attention when out and about in foreign countries. The liberal views of Europe is forbidden in strict countries so officially in beaches or pubs, restaurants, Temple among others you cannot hug even your wife, husband or own family members in mentioned public places. This must be understood to comply in context of each country or community.  There are unwritten rules for not leaving children home alone yet free to meet up in parks with friends among drug dealers, total strangers. Ask about the rules of each country, do not assume dating rules are the same or acceptable in all countries. Including office behavioural conduct in workplace rules, interactions between men and women. So do not rely sorely on online opinions to make the personal decisions in life. Be careful even if your spouse when abroad on holidays.holding_hands_prohibited2

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Pupils must be taught again and again high values of sacredness of intimacy so not to copy or mimic actors hired to play happy family in TV drama. This generation is bombarded by seductive images on TV, adverts, soap operas and magazines targeting them. They lack a FRONTAL CORTEX brain to understand adult world and fantasy in films. Many look for friendship in each other but do not know STI risks and consequences of intimacy. The world misleads teenagers at 16 years old they are adults free to date and indulge in sex with consent in a relationship. So schools must educate children that real relationship is hard work and requires support of FAMILY and friends or loved ones, it’s not secret online chat between bored teenagers. Education policy must redress mixed messages to teenagers on one hand they are adults free to have intimacy by law yet schools expel them for ‘dating.’ So world confuses teenagers and parents have moral duty as primary carers to honestly teach or talk about appropriate messages on proper intimacy without embarrassment. It is better to teach teenagers NOT TO BE naive and ignorant of consequences of actions modelled on a fantasy TV acting or chatroom prowls unaware of danger lurking online. Proper education is the key to teach them in early years from 5 years onwards repeated again again.

HEAD RELENTS ON YOUNG LOVE THREAT

A head teacher, Toby Belfield in a UK boarding school in North Wales decided to warn pupils in relationships with a boyfriends or girlfriends he will give them worse references for University.  The head of the £34,500 – a year Ruthin school threatened pupils in a leaked email to the press for worse reference has backtracked. This issue of dealing with pupils in schools is a matter that can distract some students on focus of  studies. Girls can fall pregnant through illicit sex destroy future opportunity for career. Others continue with education after having baby but struggle to cope with motherhood and academic work. Therefore schools dealing with teenage relationships face challenges handling pupils to protect and save them from themselves. This is really so common and becoming a problem so is best to advice pupils on one to one basis by school counsellors. In addition the pupils need to be careful not to cause pain to themselves if relationships do not work out. This can affect studies or academic performance in general. The parents too must help pupils at home to understand their responsibilities and to explain commitments, STI’S and risk of pregnancy. Some schools go as far as the school nurse arranging private abortion for pregnant girls without knowledge of parents. This can affect future medical condition of not having children so the girls are given contraceptives pills or a condom to boys. But whether pupils do remember to use them if alcohol, drugs or substance abuse is involved is also a problem. The best thing to do is to help children understand intimacy matters in early years from 5-7 years onwards depending on level of understanding. It is constant support to help them avoid looking for love in wrong places to be taken advantage of. Naming, shaming or expelling them does not help their education in the long run. Supervising them and supporting them is important especially away from home in boarding school looking for affection or attention. Parents must visit them often if possible once a month with favourite homemade meals and be allowed exeats to go home regularly. Keep in touch through texts, phonecalls, Skype, What’s up, Instagram Facebook, Snapchat, inspirational letter to feel valued and not abandoned. The teenager may not fully appreciate the sacrifices of parents to educate them. So in addition want parental love and their attention or acceptance above all else. If too busy delegate a family member or a reliable trustworthy person to support the teenager on your behalf. Also show interest in them as a person, hobbies or sports not just academic report critised. Above all, you are the adult and they lack frontal cortex so may not fully hear or listen to your experience and wisdom so pray daily for them. Entrust children into God’s hands for Divine protection cover under Jesus Blood in Jesus Name.