HOLY KISS GREETING & HUGS

article-2071835-0F1BBF8E00000578-716_634x422In Romans 16:16 in the Bible Paul wrote in New Testament commanding believers to make contact or touch others with a warm smile, hand-clasp and a friendly hug. Paul encouraged the congregation and church members to give each other a hug, a touch as a sign of unity to greet each other with a holy kiss and hugs. And speak through the Psalms as people quote Shakespeare to share favourite lines in literature. The Pentecostals often greet each other with kisses and hugs. Visitors are welcomed this way so if the new members are not used to such a way of greeting they can feel innaudated and intimidated by the zealous members embracing or kissing them if not used to an intimate way of expressing agape love. Recently, in the church a female pastor rushed towards a new male visitor and proceeded to try to hug him as she does for many years. But the new member raised both his hands to indicate, ‘do not touch me or come too close.’ It surprised everyone as it had never happened before. Maybe others out of politeness and courtesy tolerate it or probably just go along with kisses or hugs, but no one ever rejected it before. It is perfectly understable if some people feel uncomfortable and say no, it does not mean rejection of the one expressing such Biblical principles. On other occasions, for security reasons, important leaders are not allowed to be touched or hugged under any circumstances. Of course that scenario can happen in church gatherings so if not sure, ask if it is alright to do so. 22CULTURALSTUDIES1-jumbo.jpgIn some places female to female hugs and kisses are preferred or handshakes encouraged. But the woman must first extend her hand to a man because the man is not allowed to shake a married women’s hands in some cultures. On the other hand there are countries that see kiss or hugs as prerogative of diplomacy so must be done. In some churches women are only allowed to kiss and hug other women as men kiss and hug the men. In an age of legal homosexuality, lesbian partnerships or marriages the churches in favour has no problems or prefer handshakes. However is common in the workplace to encourage hugging for bonding and a sense of belonging. But how about those people in the offices who do not like to be kissed or bugged publicly at least at awkward moments. You are greeting someone or saying goodbye. Should you give that person a hug? Especially if it’s someone you don’t know well? You do not want to seem intrusive if you hug too soon, but you don’t want to appear overly stiff or too formal so you offer a handshake when a hug is expected. So what should you do? There a few good rules about hugging in our society.article-2148121-133B0FA3000005DC-582_468x309On one hand, Americans are famously informal and forthright. On the other hand, our nation has puritan roots so we are known for needing more personal space than other cultures. How do you strike a balance? Here are some guidelines to start from, many of which come from etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore, author of Poised for Success.

1. Mind body language.

With hugs, as with kisses, another person’s body language will tell you whether he or she is willing to accept a hug or not. Before you go in for that squeeze, pay attention to what the person’s position, movement, and facial expression is telling you. Are the feet pointed toward you or away? Is the person leaning in, or distancing him or herself? What does your gut feeling tell you this person wants? When people offend others with a hug, it’s most often because they just barge right in and don’t stop to get a read on what other person wants. Don’t make that mistake. Children are now being taught to meet and greet properly to learn etiquette. t1larg (1).jpg

2. Ask Permission First.

If you want to hug someone, you think it welcomes you if not sure just ask. “May I give you a hug question indicates both affection, respect so likely appreciated. The only down side to this if people feel embarrassed or uncomfortable saying no. So if getting a negative or uncertain vibe do not even asking the question.

3. The Balance of Power.

A boss hugging an employee is a very different matter from two business associates hugging at the conclusion of a meeting. Be extra reserved about hugging if it can in any way seem like you’re using your power to disrespect another person’s boundaries. This is one reason Joe Biden recently drew so many criticisms for his putting his hands on  a cabinet member’s wife during swearing in ceremony.

4. Consider the occasion.

If you haven’t seen a colleague in a long time, or you’ve just gone through a powerful training or other experience together, or you’re at acelebration, then hugging might well be appropriate. The same may apply if the person in question has just had a piece of very good, or very bad news, or is struggling to deal with a difficult situation. On the other hand, if you routinely see this person and nothing special is going on, then a hug probably isn’t warranted.LXNGDEDJXOCNTOWYIIGFSDIU

5. Avoid mixing hug & non hugs.

You’re greeting a group of people, some of whom you know well and others whom you know only slightly or have just met. Do you hug some but not others? No, Whitmore advises. Shake hands with everyone to be consistent avoid making some feel uncomfortable or left out.

6. Keep it short.

A hug can go from natural to awkward if you keep it going for too long. So make your hugs brief. Whitmore recommends a duration of no more than three seconds.

7. Don’t hug if contagious

The last thing you want to do is give your colleague a cold, or catch one from him or her. So if you’re uncertain about your own health, or the other person seems to be fighting an infection, stick to a handshake at most, although not touching at all is probably safest. You can always say that you’re avoiding touch out of concern that you might spread something you’ve been exposed to if you are really afraid of catching something from other person.kissing-in-costa-rica-2

8. Don’t hug if not clean.

Let’s say you’re meeting on a very hot day, and you’ve gotten sweaty on your walk over from the parking lot. Or you’ve had a workout and returned to work but didn’t have time to shower. Or you’ve been out at a site visit and gotten grimy. In those circumstances, avoid hugging. The last thing you want to do is gross someone out.

9. Err on not hugging.

If you’re not sure whether a hug would be welcome, and you don’t think it’s a good idea to ask, then don’t hug. You’ll almost never offend someone with a handshake.

10. Cease the right moment.

In spite of all these caveats, I’m still a believer in the power of human contact. So if you feel like a hug is warranted and none of the obstacles above apply, I say go for it. I once met a business contact face-to-face for the first time after we’d been working together for several years. I felt like I knew him, and he seemed to feel the same, because at our first meeting, he greeted me with a hug. I was surprised, but happily so. During that brief meeting we talked more about our lives than about business and by the time I left, I had a human relationship to go with the emails and voice on the phone. That hug was a great way to start.

GOD DIDN’T REMOVE REDSEA

e7d5798fb6e085d9f198abb17130bf82God did not remove the red sea when Israel was crossing over to the promised land in living history. God told Moses to lift up the stick already in his hands to part red sea safely with millions of people. This teaches us God uses whatever is at hand to deliver us from problems. Often people pray asking God to remove the challenges from their lives. So focus on removing issues rather asking God for wisdom to deal with the problem faced. The crossing of the red sea is a classic example of God at work through people to reveal HIS Miracle power. God could have shouted for the red sea to part but instead God Chose to use Moses stick to let Israel know God uses even imperfect humble people to do HIS real miracles. Praying in the garden of Gethsemane, Jesus asked Father God if it is possible to remove the cup of sorrow from Him but God sent angel to encourage, strengthen Jesus to go through His Mission on the earth. At times, the reality of challenges is so overwhelming we prefer removal of problems faced. God in HIS Infinite Wisdom Knows us better so helps deal with problems to overcome them. rh-mosescrossesredseaThe ‘red seas’ in life helps us to improve listening skills to follow Godly instructions. Other ‘red seas’ increase faith as we partake God’s Miracle power through us in Jesus Name. The credit and glory always goes to God as vessels of honour to demonstrate HIS POWER on earth to people. Testimony of Godly miracles defeat the devil through the blood of the Lamb Yeshua. This Miracle is well-known globally and today relics of chariots drowned in the red sea are seen and documented to highlight the Victory over enemies of God in history. Therefore, pray and ask God to reveal what is available for you to use for your red sea miracles. God is the same yesterday today and forever so is able to do similar miracles in your life and in your family. salvation-red-seaDo not get angry with God for not removing your ‘red sea’ from you. Instead seek God’s Face to direct you to use abilities, gifts, skills, talents, wisdom the right ‘stick’ at hand to defeat the devil in Jesus Name. Do not set a deadline for God to answer prayer or become restless if answer is delayed as you wish it to happen. God’s Plan for your life is always Higher than yours so depend on God and trust God to guide you to victory. Answers from God are at times different to ours but in long-run things become clearer to understand the thoughts of God for HIS Children. This lesson of Israel crossing the red sea has been disputed as high tide and low tide both of which are still God’s creation so Israel crossed safely but the chariots of horsemen of God’s enemies drowned. It is necessary to give God due Credit not to mock HIS miracles. Living history shows those who mock God’s power do not enjoy the benefits of miracles due to unbelief. Jesus did fewer miracles in the city of Nazareth due to their unbelief. God manifests HIS Presence and Power through Jesus and believers who trust God to do miracles in their lives. Though ‘red sea’ remained firmly in place it parted when God told Moses to lift stick and did so. In same way Israel’s eternal first position before God’s throne and among nations of the earth is forever. Despite red seas Israel graples with, God parts all in right time to resolve issues in life and will do so for you in Jesus Name with thanks and Glory to God Almighty Jehovah Nissi.

HEARING GOD’S VOICE

In 1 Samuel 3:1-19, Samuel a young child woke up, heard his name called by God. Samuel ran to Prophet Eli and said here I am but Eli did not call him it was God. Eli told Samuel to go to bed so Samuel heard God calling again 2 more times. Finally, Eli said to Samuel, you are hearing God’s Voice so answer God saying Here I am, Spreak LORD, your servant is listening. God gave messages to Samuel for whole nation due to the actions of Hophni Phinehas in the Temple against God. Prophet Eli was old retired and blind so his sons worked in Temple.19 They did not honour God and abused women. As a result God Spoke to a little boy to deliver message to whole nation so it happened. God was with Samuel as he grew up and so God let none of Samuel’s words fall to the ground all Samuel said came to pass exactly as God told him. 20 And all Israel, from Dan to Beersheba knew Samuel was a genuine man of God, attested prophet of the LORD. 21 The LORD God continued to appear at Shilo where HE revealed HIMSELF to Samuel through HIS WORD. Today one still clearly hears God’s Voice, recognize God’s VOICE as one knows the sound of various voices in family. God’s Voice is Poised, Soft, Gentle, Tender Loving, Handsome, Smiles  sometimes if Good News. Feelings of Joy is in Presence of God’s Holy Spirit, laughter, elation, deep inner peace accompanies the joyful moment encouraging a loving intimate happiness. Godly joy is calm mature joy composed heart deeply in love with God and Christ First LOVE. GOD’s gives great confidence and wonderful refreshing joy. In the Presence of God, revealed visions, and dreams are seen by knowing LORD God personally, enjoying genuine love, trust, hope in Christ. God’s Heavenly hosts, angels are with us with messages from God so listen to hear God’s VOICE.

God uses meaningful real dreams to Speak to people. In the last days people will dreams dreams speaking of real life events from God to the world through you. Dreams open way to receive God’s Grace into new realms of possibilities. Other dream destroy seeds of doubt and deception from enemies. In Genesis 37:9 Joseph dreams more dreams and told his family God showed him visions of family bowing to him. This came to pass in real life experiences after he dreamed many dreams. The Lord speaks through dreams to give instructions and gives Divine healing. In Numbers 12:6, as God said, Hear my words, if there a Prophet among you I the Lord God will make MYSELF known to him in vision, and speak to him in dreams. Pay serious attention to Hears GOD’S VOICE. The Spirit of the Lord reveals deep secrets of God but if the Holy Spirit is grieved God is silent. Yet uses another person like Samuel in the case of Eli and nation of Israel. God Visits for some assignments and God Feels Let down, Jesus Weeps, or Silent in Deep Thought if Disappointed. God changes HIS tone of Voice with deep sad impression revealing to prophets the sad secrets in advance. One may feel sorrowful, weeps intensely for days, shaking, spirit of heaviness interceding praying for days with prayers and supplications asking for GOD’S Mercy until feeling Holy Spirit uplifting by answered prayer for change. Others confirm messages you receive so noted down in writing or video diaries in line with God’s Messages to you. Word of God in Bible confirms God’s Voice, logos rhema word comes alive in a new light like never read verse before.

Above all, Praise, Sing and worship God privately to seek God’s Face sometimes with fasting prayer to ask Him to clarify messages. The human capacity does not immediately grasp full message ask God for further instructions. Ask God for sign of confirmation as Hezekiah told God to prove HIS WORD turning sun dial clock back in time by 40 degrees. Worship God write message down, date it, look out for more messages concerning first message when God manifests previous visions or messages comes to pass. Remember to thank God testify of God’s Goodness and Love as we defeat devil by our testimony. God’s Testimony in us by the Holy Spirit is through Christ God’s Lamb’s Blood in Jesus Name. Jesus speaks directly from heaven as He did to Saul / Paul on way to Damascus Syria to persecute  Christians. In the same way God speaks directly to people on earth as heard or seen during the baptism of Jesus by John the Baptist.

When Jesus was baptized by John the baptist God’s Voice descended as a dove to CONFIRM and APPROVE Jesus as the True Messiah and the Son of God. God’s Voice was heard and seen like a dove symbolizing the Holy Spirit. In Matthew 3: 16-17, after Jesus was baptized in river Jordan water the heavens opened and He saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove above Hin from heaven. Jesus saw the Spirit of God Our Heavenly Father and the Holy Ghost testified of Jesus by descending like a dove above Him. Then a voice from heaven, saying: This is my beloved Son, to Him I am well pleased, so hear and obey Him. John the Baptist told people repent of sins and be saved. “Jesus said His sheep hear His Voice.
Those who prefer ignoring GOD’S VOICE to only hear human voices cannot HEAR God. God REVEALS HIMSELF everyday one way or another to those who Know and HEAR HIS VOICE.  Those who doubt God can ask God to help their unbelief as God STILL SPEAKS today. Some refuse to hear GOD’S VOICE although HE Talks to them. The average Christian’s lifestyle is so busy not conducive to hearing God’s voice. God does not force, impose HIS WILL on people. Those who only prefer hearing human voices cannot hear God. Those who put their all their confidence and trust only in people cannot hear God. Those who doubt God can still speak today will never hear God even if He talks to them. For they shut their ears to God or they are too busy to call God directly or listen to God’s Voice. Those too busy on gadgets, computer, phone must switch it off to hear God.

Those with false humility reject God’s Voice but PREFER to HEAR only friends all day long. For instance typical answer to question, “How are you? responds with problems, illness, chaos. They cannot shut up long enough to be quiet in God’s Presence to hear God’s Voice. Some fear solitude as loneliness so miss out on practice of the Presence of God. Othets condemn humble dedicated God Lovers, disciplined enough to be silent for a few moments daily to hear God’s Voice as God fanatics. Such ridicule and mockery caused GOD’S WRATH to fall by rain and flood destroying some in days of Noah and fire of Sodom and Gomorrah. These actions prevent some people from hearing God’s Voice directly. Some say they are Moses hearing God’s Voice on other’s behalf. Also negative self- talk drives away God’s Presence. Reverence of God brings God’s Loving Presence. Some make lazy excuses with things of God but judge, criticize or jealous of those who fear God. God USES foolish things to confound the wise so miss God’s Voice misinterpreted as annoying, super-spiritual or fearful of God’s anger because of lifestyle choices. The humble Honour God and boldlly say, “God told me confidently knowing God performs His Word. Do not be molded, conditioned to be skeptical, critical and neagative falsely analytical or rebellious, challenging, doubtful never accepting God’s Truth. So seek traditions of men logical reasoning proof of God to their own hurt and destruction. God’s Words never returns void or change no matter how arrogant people feel above God Himself. God Surely Speaks to the humble who Listen, Love, Obey, Him.

Key to Hearing God’s voice

  • All people hear God’s Voice, including young children. People hear God’s Voice in different ways.  The issue is how many pay attention or take notice of God’s Voice. Some ignore Voice thinking its their own voice, thoughts or the devil speaking to them. It is important to write down thoughts, visions, dreams and check Bible examples.
  • People MUST LISTEN CAREFULLY, TO HEAR, KNOW GOD, AND PAY ATTENTION to detailed instruction.
  • Write Messages Down, Date, Pray about message. Listen for Follow up and manifestation of message.
  • The first key to hearing God’s voice is to go to a quiet place be still as own thoughts, emotions. affect hearing God Psalm 46:10 encourages us to be still, let go, cease striving, noise.
  • Start with Praising and worshiping God, By God’s Grace, worship talk to God with Psalms, Hymns.
  • Set time aside to talk, discuss God for where 2 or 3 are in God Presence, God is with them Speaks So Hear God. God Reveals Himself to those who welcome and celebrate God in Jesus Name.