When sober, you know you won’t wake up in the morning with all-too-common feeling of shame, regret, and intense self-loathing. Nope you know if you’ve woken up with another person next to you, then they’re someone you would want to bone in the cold light of day. Success! Plus, it’ll generally be easier to tell if you’re boring someone senseless when you’re trying to talk to them. Yes, we’ve seen meme…There you have it fun time is possible without sauce if you know where to look, you can get all the good bits of uni life minus ‘being sick in a public toilet at 3am’ moment. Lasting impact on relationship or mental health caused by drunken assault is a serious matter. Remember not to take lightly a few moment’s passion damage for life. Its freewill choice to dress or drink as you like but sends the wrong message of “implied consent.” Body language or eye contact flirting, signals interest and the willingness to be involved with them. As actions speak louder than words before interaction with anyone ask yourself, be honest, what is your motive to be in the company of that person privately. Prior to going out into a discreet space out of sight of safety of group in premises ask yourself why you trust that person and want to be exclusively with them as a special friend. Is “coffee” in public cafe, bar, restaurant, drinks not good enough so want extra special time night alone with that person? Amos 3:3 says do two want to be together unless they have an agreement. Spending long hours in their company “implies” you enjoy being with them. Bible say avoid appearance of evil as Psalm 1:1 warns be NOT in company of, stand together with, listen to advise of others without you questioning how you feel about it? Is is loneliness, power struggle to please for job, promotion or status? Once in their company wrongly presumed you “subtly agreed” to their intentions. It’s difficult to know if they intend to spike your drink as they seem kind, friendly and charming. Don’t be fooled, charmed by special attention to groom, develop Stockholm syndrome attachment by their kindness. EXCUSE yourself to “lavatory” with your purse, bag and discreetly leave premises NOT IN THEIR CAR!!! If it means being fired your life mind and dignity intact. Your friendly polite compliant persona often mistaken its ‘OK to force’ you. So ‘rape’ or sexual assault is strange to them as prior actions signal wrongly ‘it’s okay’ to proceed further. It DOES matter what to wear, drink, drugs or pull because sexy clothes designed to taunt and stir horny feeling to indulge. Intent REINFORCED by such cumulative actions misleading ‘perpetrator.’ Its worse if alcohol, drugs blurs mind for consent confusing signal mixed message of ‘consent by default.’ It takes two to tango write these questions down and check yourself before going out what is your purpose and intentions for following friendly person to private space alone? If unsure take friends with you; Brandy protected her friend dating on show, took control, dragged a friend home to save her from attack. Don’t rely on exclusive responsibility perpetrator to mislead to ‘proceed.’ Get their written consent to avoid blackmail to save your reputation, do not comply under durex, SCREAM, SHOUT. Before going out, ask why follow a person to discreet private space? Get friends to drink PUBLICLY in cafe, restaurants, pubs etc. Meeting the person regularly influence you but does not mean YOU KNOW WHO THEY ARE so avoid BEING CATFISHED. Pray and cover yourself with BLOOD of Jesus, call on Jesus who loves you to protect and save you in Jesus Name.