HAPPY MOTHER HAPPY BABY

The Duchess of Cambridge at Stockwell Gardens Nursery and Pre-SchoolThe duchess appeared on the podcast after visiting children at a nursery in south London

The Duchess of Cambridge has said her parenting inspiration is her “amazing granny” who involved her as a child in arts and crafts, gardening and cooking. In her first podcast interview, she said she wants to replicate experiences with Prince George, Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis. The episode of Five Big Questions On The Under Fives is survey launched by Catherine starts debate on early childhood has 200,000 responses so far. Speaking on Happy Mum, Happy Baby podcast, Catherine told author and host Giovanna Fletcher the survey aims to ask people “what is it that matters for them in raising their children today.” I had amazing granny who devoted a lot of time to us, playing with us, doing arts and crafts and going to the greenhouse to do gardening, and cooking with us,” she said. I incorporate lot of experiences she gave us at the time into experiences I give my children now.” The duchess said her priorities include providing her children with a “happy home” and “safe environment” she enjoyed as a child. So she is “passionate” about the children spending a lot of time outside is “great for physical and mental wellbeing to lay foundations for a healthy development. The Duchess of Cambridge and Giovanna FletcherIt is the first timeIt’s a great environment to spend time in, building quality relationship without distraction of ‘I’ve got to cook’ or ‘I’ve got to do this’. And actually, it’s so simple,” she said. A generational change starts from seeds sown in early years throughout family. Even if not ‘highly educated,’ one can invest time and resources in simple way to help children to be happy. Its possible to help children to progress beyond the parents by preparing them in the early years. Choices and priorities of focus to include learning materials from nature found free outdoors on walks to create opportunities for children. So it is the responsibility of the parents to help the children early not to depend entirely on schools for all learning experiences in life. A month-long online poll conducted by Ipsos Mori on behalf of Catherine’s Royal Foundation is to “spark a national conversation” on early childhood as the Kensington Palace has said. Launched in January, it is thought to be the biggest survey of its kind and the results are intended to guide duchess’ future workIMG-20200307-WA0002Its the first time duchess is interviewed on a podcast. “It takes family a long time for generational change but hopefully is a first small step: to start a conversation around importance of early childhood development,” Catherine said. “It’s not just about happy, healthy children. This has lifelong consequences of outcomes.” Ms Fletcher, married to Tom Fletcher from McFly has said Kate is “passionate” about the subject. Its ‘beyond wonderful to sit and talk further about the survey, and her work for she has so much real knowledge, and her own experiences of being a mother.” “It doesn’t matter who you are, what you have, or where you come from we’re all try to do our best with our children while continuously learning from decisions and wondering if we get it right. Talking helps unite us all,” she said on the ‘five big questions.’The Duchess of Cambridge at Stockwell Gardens Nursery and Pre-School1. What do you believe is most important for children growing up in UK today to live a happy adult life? Rank from most important to least important:

  • Good physical and mental health
  • Good friendships & relationships
  • Access to opportunities
  • Access to a good education

2. Which of these statements is closest to your opinion?

  • It is primarily the responsibility of parents to give children aged 0-5 best chance of health & happiness
  • Primarily responsibility of others in society to give children aged 0-5 best chance of health & happiness
  • Shared responsibility of parents or others in society to give children aged 0-5 best chance of health and happiness
  • Don’t know

3. How much do you agree or disagree with this statement? Mental health or wellbeing of parents, carers has a great impact on development of child(ren).

  • Strongly agree
  • Tend to agree
  • Neither agree nor disagree
  • Tend to disagree
  • Strongly disagree

4. Which of the following is closest to your opinion of what influences how children develop from the start of pregnancy to age five?

  • Traits child is born with (nature)
  • Experiences of a child in the early years (i.e. nurture)
  • Both nature and nurture equally
  • Don’t know

5. Which period of a child and young person’s life do you think is the most important for health and happiness in adulthood?

  • Start of pregnancy to five years
  • 5-11 years (primary school)
  • 11-16 years (secondary school)
  • 16-18 years (further education)
  • 18-24 years (young adulthood)
  • Don’t know
  • All equally important

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DEALING WITH LONELINESS

wp-1578499253965.jpgI lifted my windshield wiper to retrieve a frozen pink rose on a cold Valentine’s Day years ago. A freshman in college, I stopped by my car to eat a snack after a morning class. And excitedly wondered who sent me this surprise as my heart pounded in anticipation. Starting up the engine for warmth, I rubbed my palms together and opened the attached card. The rose was from my mother and her words in the card is kind, encouraging, so why did I still feel empty inside? The truth is, I wished the rose was from a secret admirer, a young man, not my mother. My last date spaced far after a previous one I longed for romance to fill me up. My loneliness combined into a frustrating mixture like a cup with no bottom. No matter what I put inside the cup, I didn’t feel full. Roses, chocolates, books, TV shows, fantasies relationships couldn’t fill it. Loneliness seemed to be the only thing filling a bottomless space, and I am weary of its constant haunting presence. My parents divorced when I was 4 years old, the day my daddy left was a day loneliness took up permanent residence in my heart and mind; though I wished it will go away I had no power to push it out the door loneliness lingers on every time I crave love and attention from people’s love its in short supply.wp-1578512659626.jpgIn high school, I developed resentment over flowers and gifts I saw lined up in the cafeteria every February 14. None of them were for me. I believed the devil’s whispered lie, None of them will ever be for you. You’ll always be lonely. About 15 years after that frozen-rose morning, I sat in a counselor’s office. Listening to my stories of constant loneliness, he said, “Relationships are very important to you, aren’t they?” It was his simple, judgment-free question that became a pivotal point in my spiritual journey. A few days after counseling session, God nudged me with a new idea: Perhaps its relationships too important to me yet I was a wife, mother of three and a friend to many, I still felt lonely. God showed me truth to learn from HIS Word: “It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in people” says Psalm 118:8. For far too long, I looked to people to fill me up. My husband, children, best friend, small group companions couldn’t remove my loneliness. They were never designed to completely fill my needs and I realized only God can be my refuge and my safe place and my salvation in lone times.wp-1577904684292.jpgThough people are wonderful, they are not infinite so are not always available when we need them, and none of them provide perfect understanding. God is infinite Revelation 1:8, everpresent says Deuteronomy 31:6 and all-knowing says 1 Chronicles 28:9. As we study His ways, we learn God is ready, able and willing to fill us with HIS LOVE. We learn this best by hiding in HIS place of refuge so the more time I spent in God’s presence, the less I depended on relationships to meet all my needs. My time with loved ones became bonuses on top of loving intimacy I enjoyed with Jesus. No longer required evident proof of a human love on Valentine’s Day or any other day. God is our refuge in lonely times so is more than enough proof He LOVES us. Some inherit loneliness from their mothers. Angel KissiAngel Kissi says she has struggled with loneliness since she was a child she has inherited loneliness from her mother. A parent in the same way affects emotions inherited like hair and eye colour. Two women explain loneliness played a part in their lives and relates to their parents as children. “Loneliness is constant. No matter where I it just does not go away. It’s like you feel it in your bones a deep feeling of wanting to fit in and wanting to be around people you know and love, but you can’t. “So thinks inherited it. It’s been passed says Angel Kissi from her mum Hayley who struggles with anxiety depression and loneliness. Her mum’s spark by severe post-natal depression in Angel started when she was a child. “My family stood out in Peterborough. They all knew who we were because we look different. I’m tall and mixed race and I stood out,” says the 20-year-old. “When I went to university, things were good but still felt didn’t fit in. I thought moving to London would change it but it didn’t. “I felt I was quiet and awkward, struggled to connect with people or make friends straight away. Some go out for drinks after class but never invited. I felt like I did something wrong. I stopped going to lectures, got up, ready to go but back to bed. Avoids going to shared areas of my flat, shut myself away isolated. I went into the loneliness and let it take over.”Angel and HayleyHayley struggle with anxiety depression and loneliness after Angel was born. So unable to cope, Angel left the university before first year was over. She felt then a strong desire to go home and be close to her mum rented a room close-by. “It’s good we don’t live together because we bring each other up, down all the time. She helped me with some aspects of my mental health but at times I didn’t want to speak to her because I didn’t want to make her worse. “If she was different, I will be different. I don’t blame her at all, she didn’t choose to be like this, it’s not her fault. It’s something I have got from her. Personality traits or attitudes I have learnt from her without meaning to.”Angel Kissi struggled with the loneliness from a young age According to Age UK, loneliness is defined as feeling a lack of affection, closeness or social interaction with others.The charity Mind says it is not a mental health issue but research says its associated with increased risk of depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and stress triggered by major life events of bereavement, relationship break-ups or retirement, changing jobs and moving. Dr Rebecca Nowland, who researched the subject of loneliness said it can be passed down in families. “I don’t think we will find a gene for loneliness but it’s response to an experience of loneliness that may be genetic,” she said. “There is a number of studies that loneliness is hereditary so runs in families and there might be associations between parent’s loneliness and a child’s loneliness. The parent who has been lonely for a time may transmit some the negative feelings happening share loneliness experience.”Kirsty and sonKirsty McGrath fears passing feelings of loneliness to her children too. So Kirsty McGrath said her loneliness problem is after her son was born five years ago. She tried going to the mother and baby groups to make new friends, struggled to organise play dates so found herself increasingly isolated. Her husband does support her in the evening but she finds daytimes difficult because she is alone with no-one to talk to. The 33-year-old teacher, lives in Eltham, south London says she is worried of not being able to socialise her children will have an effect on them. She might pass own feelings of loneliness of “grey cloud.“I am paranoid of passing it on to the kids, I wouldn’t be surprised if I did. I am aware so I want them to feel comfortable around others not to feel like they don’t fit in. “My son came home from school and said to me he didn’t have friends so hasn’t played with anyone. I’m worried he is like this because of me didn’t put him in enough social situations to know how to mix in with others.” Loneliness is the common experience among new parents finding groups with shared interests to focus on new parenting skill way to cope says Dr Nowland. Dr Faruq Fazal a GP worked in mental health services on loneliness sats people lack a support network and believes teaching coping skills in school could help. “Nobody really teaches you how to cope through life’s challenges if suffering from loneliness. Its not about physically having people around you, it is when you feel you’re not able to talk to people without an emotional support. People need a support network so their coping strategy is better.” Do not isolate yourself from family or friends unless it is absolutely necessary to prevent virus.Child and parent holding handsExperts say parents may transmit their feelings to their children. Mind suggests a number of ways to manage loneliness, includes peer support talking therapies. Dr Nowland says seeking professional advice can help those stuck in a cycle of behaviour brought about by loneliness. “Loneliness leaves you with emotional feeling quite painful and distressing. If someone is lonely and they felt it for a long time but realising it’s not ok helps overcome developed negative thought patterns. “You need help with cognitive behaviour therapy to help you think and reframe things.” Angel’s counselling helped with anxiety but not helped with her feelings of loneliness. She returned to university but decided to focus on her mental health, work, and learning to drive. “Loneliness is different from anxiety and it’s different from not being able to make friends,” she says. “Anxiety isolates but loneliness felt at university separate from people in your own little world. I’m in a relationship and close to my family but loneliness is still there. To overcome loneliness of Covid-19 in UK children drew rainbow picture put at a window to support each other. Its a fun idea but God is surrounded by rainbows so its appropriate to remind HIM of HIS BIBLE PROMISES to save HIS creation.Rourke and Quinn are seen with their rainbow in CoventryRourke and Quinn are seen with their rainbow in Coventry. Children in UK are placing rainbows in windows of their homed to help keep others entertained during the coronavirus outbreak. These youngsters have been asked to colour in templates of rainbows or to draw their own and display them by their schools. The rainbows are then used as a tool to entertain children as they go on their daily walks with their parents. So this movement dubbed “The Rainbow Trail” helps share common ground interest to deal with corona virus staying indoors.Cllr Adam Clarke, deputy city mayor for Leicester, has displayed two rainbows in his window.Cllr Adam Clarke, deputy city mayor for Leicester, has displayed two rainbows in his window. And Donna Corcoran, 40, from Coventry, praised this movement and said it was a real highlight for her sons, seven-year-old Rourke, six-year-old Quinn and two-year-old daughter, Pearl. So public is warned to respect the personal space to limit spreading virus. Most parts of the world is on lockdown to try to contain the virus. Things to get worse but improves a lot, don’t know if it’s going to go.” Mayor inundated with many lonely citizens appoints specialist councillor. ‘Bureaucracy dehumanises so becoming living robots,’ says a mayor of a small Italian town before the virus.Antonella Argenti, mayor of Villa del Conte in the Veneto region.The mayor of a small town in northern Italy appointed a loneliness councillor being overwhelmed by citizens calling to discuss their problems. So Antonella Argenti elected mayor of Villa del Conte, town of 5,400 people in Veneto region, in May last year noted some inhabitants struggling to cope “You wouldn’t believe it,” she told La Stampa. “In the first few months of my mandate, so many people came to see me. All, young, old, wo/men, complained about problems of the same type of loneliness, the lack of a support network. “Alone with phone take care of bills talk to the automated switchboard refers you to yet other recorded voices. Relationships are missing. Bureaucracy dehumanise all becoming living robots. The Pescueza village in Spain with 130 people with two thirds over 65 years old is adapted to care and provide for their needs. Rails attached to walls to hold on to while walking out and about, slipfree floor to ensure the don’t slip and fall. Its said they are given phones to press red button for emergency needs urgently attended to. They are fed, their clothes are washed for them and transport sent to those who find walking challenging. They meet at daycentre to socialise and a gym tailored to their needs to exercise daily but isolated during corona virus. 20200215_113722

A Facebook group had been set up for the people who want to help others and offer their services to neighbours who might be confined to their homes as a result of the outbreak of Covid-19. They volunteer to fetch their groceries, walk their dogs and pick up prescriptions or have a chat over the phone or Skype if they are feeling lonely or frightened. A young people’s chatroom also discusses people’s feelings and fears. And how to help prevent virus spreading by staying indoors at home. Not to meet in groups, or gather in large groups helps to deal with the virus to protect themselves and others. People are encouraged to try to be active indoors by being busy doing a favourite hobby or sing, dance, exercise write poems, be creative, draw, dribble use crayons, pens, paint with brushes to keep the mind occupied. Ask for help if in need, don’t be shy to suffer in silence people alone. Its said no one cares what you know but KNOW IF YOU CARE in a such a time as this. Actions speak louder than words so it is the time to be there for each other emotionally or physically in extreme cases for intervention by the experts. And for believers in God faith is shared to uplift with word of God in the Name of Jesus with texts, hymns, songs, music, prayer from Bible texts or verses.

Lord, thank You for never abandoning me in my lonely times. I confess I have tried too hard to fill up my lonely spaces with relationships or things that never fill me up. Remind me when I hide away in a safe place with You I will experience Your perfect peace. Meet me in loneliness with Your loving presence. In Jesus Name Amen. Thank you God as your words say I am not alone for Father God is always with me. Jesus you said I am with you in Spirit so will never leave or forsake me to the end of the age. Thank you God. Thank you Jesus. Thank you my comforter Holy Spirit. Thank you for your love and care for me, you supply all my needs in Jesus Name and through people helping bless them all and protect their families too. 

TRUTH FOR TODAY FROM THE BIBLE:

Psalm 118:8-9 Its better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in people so put your CONFIDENCE IN GOD.

Jeremiah 17:5-8, Thus says the LORD God cursed is a man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength so he heart departs from the LORD God.

Psalm 59:17, “O God my Strength, to you I sing praises, O God, my refuge, shows me unfailing love”

Psalm 142:5, “I pray to you, O LORD. I say, ‘You are my place of refuge. You are all I really want in life above all things”

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FAMINES IN BIBLE HISTORY

IMG-20200401-WA0002In 2 Chronicles 7:13-14 God says If I shut heaven so there is no rain, send locusts to devour the land or pestilence among my people; 14 If my people called by my name humble themselves, pray, seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; I will hear from heaven, forgive their sin and heal their land. Pray and ask God to have mercy to forgive you. Pray loudly: Dear Father, Creator of heavens, earth, and universe we come humbly before you LORD in your Majesty, Sovereignty over all creation. We repent of all sins against you or others by rejecting Godly truth, counsel, we walked in wicked and deceit. Almighty God of all creation we bow our heads and submit to you LORD in agreement with the whole world we pray forgive us all in the Name of Jesus your dear Son. LORD God have MERCY on us. Let your compassion flow to us in Jesus blood shed to cleanse us from sin  wash and heal us from plagues. Forgive us LORD, PLEASE SHORTEN evil days to send Jesus in cloud in Rapture. Draw us to you to eternity in Jesus’ Mighty Name, Amen. Thank you LORD for your Grace, Mercy and Covenant of Abraham to all nations. Jehovah Jireh provider of needs thank you for supplying all our needs.slide5-l15686371235835954419660177108723.jpgFamine in Canaan Israel led Abraham to Egypt in Genesis 12:8-13:2. Severe food  shortages caused hunger, lack of basic resources and hard times. Challenging circumstances affects people in history. In Proverbs 12:11; Proverbs 28:19, food harvested by working the land is ruined by bliss, drought pestilence, enemy raid, suffered by Gideon God intervened and saved his family. Current global events affects abundant food supply, resources and basic necessities. Those who chased fantasies to waste time produce nothing and are poor. Proverbs 12:11 says tilling land satisfies with food, so do not follow vain people, who lack understanding of real life chase worthless pursuit without sense to ruin lives. In Genesis 12:10, that famine sent Abram to Egypt as Genesis 12:8-13:2 says Abraham tried in vain to find solution. Genesis 12:8-9 economic conditions forced him to Egypt. On their way Abraham’s wife Sarai attracted the attention of kings who gave them great wealth. Abraham lived in Canaan from 2100 B.C.E.-1875 B.C.E with Isaac, Jacob. On return to Canaan in Genesis 15:1, the LORD appeared to Abraham in a vision said: ‘Ten years passed since you lived in Hara for two years and seven years in Egypt. Its one year since your return from Egypt after age 75 Abram left Iraq Ur to Canaan Israel. Then to Egypt back to Canaan Israel. In Genesis 26:1 second famine occurs in the days of Abraham. So Isaac in Gerar went to Abimelech the king of Philistines. The LORD appeared to Isaac and said, “Do not go into Egypt but live in this land I told you to live in so Isaac stayed in Gerar. After Abraham, for 430 years Israel is enslaved in Egypt from 1875 to 1445 B.C.E. Moses, Aaron in 1 Chronicles 5 are fourth-generation descendants of Levi son of Jacob. So 430 year’s slavery is generations of Isralites in Egypt new Pharaohs didn’t treat well.journeys_of_abraham_isaac_jacob-old_testament_map_1downloadfile-29In Genesis 26:12-33 Isaac sowed in the land in time of famine and same year he got hundredfold reward because the LORD blessed him. 13 He had riches so expanded his territory. 14. He possessed flocks, herds, servants Philistines envied him. 15 The wells his father’s servants dug in Abraham’s days the Philistines filled with earth. 16 And Abimelech told Isaac to leave as too strong in their land. 17 Isaac left pitched tent in the valley of Gerar and dwelt there. 18 So Isaac dug another well as Abraham’s was filled by Phillistines after the death of Abraham. Isaac called wells by name his father calls them. 19 Isaac’s servants found water in well 20 But herdsmen of Gerar told Isaac’s herdsmen, the water is theirs. So Isaac left Esek well, because they fought with him. 21 Isaac dug new well but Phillistines fought too so calls it Sitnah. 22 He moved to dig another well Rehoboth, the LORD made us fruitful in the land. 23 But moved to Beersheba 24 The LORD appears to him at night said, I AM God of Abraham your father so fear not I AM with you to bless and multiply your seed for Abraham’s sake. 25 Isaac built an altar to the LORD and pitched his tent there so his servants dug a well. 26 Abimelech went from Gerar to Isaac with Ahuzzath, Phichol chief captain of his army. 27 Isaac said to them Why did you come to me since you hate me and sent me away? 28 They said, The LORD is with you let us make an oath between us to make covenant with you 29 Do not hurt us for we have not touched you but did good by sending you away in peace. 30 You are blessed by LORD. Isaac made a feast so they ate and drunk together. 31 They left in the morning after oath so Isaac sent them away in peace. 32 Same day Isaac’s servants told him they found water in the sixth well dug. 33 Called city Sheba now Beersheba.jacob_map_15686470728505025652900209887770.jpgJacob took his family to Egypt in famine. Joseph interpreted famine of Pharaoh’s dream in Genesis 41:53-57 so promoted Prime Minister. Built silos in Egypt for harvests stored seven years to prepare for seven year’s famine God in a dream. Egypt tilled the land, stored grain, cured meat, prepared in advance. Egypt sold grains to nations and brought Joseph’s siblings to Egypt to buy grains despite jealousy hatred of his dreams and coat of many colours from Jacob their father. Jacob’s family moved into Egypt due to famine in 215 years after God’s promise to Abram. Israel descendants multiplied rapidly increasing their Jewish presence in Egypt, centuries. Toiled to built grand designs of Egypt, prospered at Goshen. Their hardwork built  nation but envy, jealousy of Pharaoh told midwives, kill boys. Some refused, blessed by God with houses in Egypt. Israel cried to God to save them sent Moses to deliver them. 1 Chronicles 7 Joshua is Moses’ successor is 12th generation descendant of Joseph Jacob’s son and Pharaoh’s vizier. And in 1 Chronicles 7 Israel’s 3rd to their 11th generations lived in Egypt since Abram, Isaac, Jacob left rich in Exodus of Moses and Joshua out of Egypt into wilderness. They borrowed gold and silver to repay them 430 years of slavery without pay, gave them abundant wealth to be used to build the tabernacle and provide for their families in a time of need. Instead, they made golden calf a god from gold God provided, many died except Levites who refused to join golden calf idolatry.20200402_224755bible-archeology-exodus-kadesh-barnea-water-from-rock-moses 20200329_123354In Exodus 15:22-17:7 the LORD God had to provide water in the desert for Israel at Shur after crossing the red sea. Moses was told to hit the rock after three days without water in the wilderness. Marah is bitter fountain of Israelites in Exodus 15:23, 24; Numbers 33:14 no water to drunk. Moses asked God Yahweh’s help shown piece of wood Moses threw into bitter in Exodus 15:23,24 to make water sweet and fit to drink. Moses by God’s divine direction made the water safe to drink. two times Moses threw stick into the water good to drink at Marah. The LORD in Exodus 17:6 said, Behold, I will stand before you by a rock in Bible and you will bring water from the rock to provide drink for the people and the livestock.” In Numbers 20:10 Moses  hit two rocks to produce water instead of doing what God asked him to do. Moses grieved loss of Miriam so in pain but the Israelites complained more instead of showing him compassion. His followers faced challenges of desert so not Moses fault but blamed him anyway. Its Moses who bore brunt of their anger of change of location after they CRIED TO GOD TO DELIVER them from slavery in Egypt. It was their choice to leave Egypt so God did exactly what they demanded. Forgot miracle of being spared in all plagues of Egypt, miracle crossing of red sea whine and moan about Moses not caring about them. Exodus 17 and Numbers 20 are  two separate events for water miracles. But people quarreled with Moses forgot the first time God provided water so can do so again. Told Moses, “Give us water to drink although Moses was thirsty too did not care or have any consideration it was life in dry desert. Israel’s journey  in stages from Egypt, told Moses to give them water. Moses cried out to God who told Moses to toss stick into some bitter water to make it good to drink. But  the congregation assembled against Moses and Aaron and grumbled. These people blamed Moses, and said they prefer to be in slavery in Egypt than die in desert. They complained of food shortages and craved, leeks, cucumbers, garlic, onions, old lifestyle as slaves of the rich to eat crumbs than own land to grow crops. fish_and_fruit_basketIn Numbers 11:4-28, craved fish eaten in Egypt with the leeks, cucumbers, onions garlic and watermelons. Told God they prefer to die by the hand of the LORD in the hands of Pharaoh than endure their eleven days journey into Canaan Israel. Instead of thanking God for answer to their prayer to be rescued from slavery complained and cried for scrumptious, comfort food while wandering in desert. Their timing lacked their reality check for a few days to reach Canaanland for fresh food. And focused on inhospitable environment murmured against Moses Aaron and God for nothing to eat but just manna collected everyday. God was so angry he told them they will perish to never reach Canaanland. God wanted to teach them to fish to have more food but preferred quick fix hand me down token of silve masters. And God delayed their journey each they complained God added extra years as punishment in the desert. Instead of enduring eleven days stayed 40 years longer for the insolence against. Forgot they brought a hardship on themselves by a disobedience to God agreed in Covenant warned in advance. Jeremiah 14:1-6 on LORD’S drought of “Judah mourns at her gates and sits on the ground in mourning and they cry in Jerusalem so are heard by God. “Nobles send servants for water, cisterns but no water return so vessels empty in shame cover their heads. In Jeremiah in 13th year of king Josiah in 626 BC to the fall of Jerusalem and destruction lived 570 BC in Egypt. Josiah’s difference to father reformed nation Jeremiah commended for doing justice and right thing for his people. Jehoahaz ruled three months in 2 Chronicles 36:2 reign marked turning point in king’s attitude toward Jeremiah prophet of God to the nation of Israel. In Israel another drought and famine that hit the people in search of food to eat.488929_ruth-and-boazRuth 1:1 says in the days judge’s ruled a famine in the land a man of Bethlehem in Judah, wife, two sons lived in Moab. 2. Elimelech’s wife Naomi and two son’s Mahlon and Kilion died. So Naomi and Ruth returned to Israel to glean fields of Boaz, collect wheat grains married Boaz bore Obed and Jesse, father of David is bloodline of Jesus. In 2 Samuel 21:1-14 a famine in days of David for three years David sought presence of the LORD. The LORD said, “Saul’s bloody house has put Gibeonites to death are not of Israel but survivors of Amorites. 2 Israel swore to spare them, Saul’s zeal for Israel, Judah tried to annihilate them. 3 David helped Gibeonites “made atonement so to bless the LORD’S  inheritance. 4 So Gibeonites didn’t want silver, gold from Saul or his family but right to Israel in death. 5 Saul destroyed and decimated so no place in Israel. 6 Let seven of male descendants be killed, bodies before the LORD God at Gibeah of Saul by you as LORD’S chosen 7 The king agreed spared Mephibosheth son of Jonathan, son of Saul due to oath before the LORD of David and Jonathan. The king chose Armoni, Mephibosheth two sons of Aiah’s daughter Rizpah son of Saul, five sons Saul’s daughter Merab bore to Adriel Barzillai son Meholathite. 8 Handed to Gibeonites who killed them and exposed bodies on a hill before the LORD in the first days of barley harvest. 10 Rizpah’s daughter, Aiah in sackcloth,  beginning of harvest till the rain poured from heavens with bodies. She didn’t let birds touch them day or wild animals by night. 11 David told Aiah’s daughter Rizpah did 12 He took bones of Saul and Jonathan from Jabesh Gilead who stole bodies from public square at Beth Shan as Philistines hung them after stricking Saul down on Gilboa. 13 David brought bones of Saul, Jonathan and all killed so 14 buried in tomb of Saul’s father Kish, at Zela in Benjamin. And God answered David’s prayer to heal the land of Israel. wp-1579942333083.jpgFamines in 1 Kings 17:1 Elijah a Tishbite settler in Gilead told Ahab, “The LORD, God of Israel who lives says, there will be no dew, rain, three years, except by my word.”Do drought punishment in 1 Kings 18 Jezebel abused nation held to ransom 2 So Ahab in famine in Samaria told Obadiah his governor of house who fears the LORD greatly to look for water and grass for animals. 4 Jezebel cut off the prophets of the LORD but Obadiah took hundred prophets hid fifty in two caves fed them with bread and water. 5 Obadiah told go search land, fountains of water, brooks to find grass to save horses and mules not lose all the beasts. 6 They divide the land between them, Ahab went one way Obadiah to another. 7 Obadiah met Elijah, fell on his face so Elijah sent him to call King Ahab, he did but feared Ahab will kill him if Elijah disappeared…18 The LORD told Elijah in the third year go show yourself to Ahab and tell I will send rain on the earth. To prove to Ahab God is fed up with pagan evil deeds of Jezebel, who took Naboth’s vineyard, abused whole nation a carmel contest set up to serve God only. Elijah pours water on altar but fire came from heaven so burnt offering God accepted.  Elijah took the pagan prophets to brook Kishon and slew them there… 41 Elijah told Ahab, Get up, eat and drink; there is a sound of abundance of rain coming. 42 Ahab to eat and to drink and Elijah went to the top of Carmel; cast himself upon the earth, put his face between his knees prayed to God. 43 Told servant Go look toward the sea he looked but saw nothing. He said, Go again seven times. 44 At the seventh time, saw a little cloud out of the sea, like a man’s hand. Elijah said, tell Ahab, Prepare your chariot to get home before the rain stops you. 45 It came heaven had clouds, wind, a great rain so Ahab rode and went to Jezreel. 46 The hand of the LORD on Elijah took him faster before Ahab into Jezreel.IMG-20200328-WA0004In 1 Kings 17:7-15 Elijah met a widow at Zarephath when brook dried in drought caused famine. 8 There was no rain in the land. 9 So the LORD told him, Go to Zarephath to Sidon, stay there. A widow will supply your food 10 In Zarephath a widow gathering sticks he asks to bring a little water to drink 11 And bring me a piece of bread 12 She said as the LORD God lives I have only a handful of flour in a jar and little oil collected few sticks to make a meal for myself and my son to eat it and die 13 Elijah said, “Don’t be afraid. Go home and do as you said but first make bread and bring it to me. 14 This is what the LORD, the God of Israel, says: ‘The jar of flour will not run out or jug of oil run dry until the day the LORD sends rain on the land.’” 15 So she did as Elijah told her and there was food every day for Elijah the woman and son. And Later God sent a golden chariot to Elijah alive into heaven gives a double portion anointing to Elisha. Elijah is expected as one of two witnesses to save this world, authorized by God send plagues of God’s wrath punishment. Bible says endtimes plagues of Egypt in Exodus 8:22; & 9:34 fall on the earth during Tribulation. In Revelation 2: 21 & 6:16 Revelation 22:18 prophecy of Bible says if anyone adds to them God will add plagues to those who distort the word of God. In 2 Kings 4:38 Elisha returned to Gilgal, during famine in the land. Told sons of prophets, “Put on a large pot and boil stew to eat.” The stew was ready but as bitter toxic leaves could not eat the food. Elisha sprinkled salt in the pot and food was eaten. In 2 Kings 6:24-25 Ben-hadad king of Aram’s army attacked Samaria. A great famine in Samaria so a donkey’s head sold for eighty shekels of silver, a fourth kab of dove’s dung sold five shekels of silver. A famine in Israel in dire times wildleaves food poison prophet cured with flour.20200328_193828 Children and babies died, some people ate grass, roots, abandoned infants died. Great famine in Samaria the LORD said the children eat a defiled bread among Gentile. Medieval Europe famines made some ate a dove or bird droppings, rats, cotton batting or kaolin clay. Their rich leaders abused powers to deny people meager rations. Some ate locust, insects, tree barks, mud, forage in Europe. Bible famine in Egypt and Canaan afflictions mean no food. Droppings of bird called ptarmigan delicacy parts of Greenland eat as haute cuisine. Dove dung “bird’s milk,”“bird’s dung” bulb roasted, boiled plant is “Star of Bethlehem” as Linnaeus botanist calls “dove’s dung. ” Parkinson, a British herbalist in 1800, said roasted bulb “sweeter than chestnut.”Is a white flower twelve-inch stem star-shape seed pods. New Jerusalem Bible says its wild onion Geneva Bible says dung used fuel for fire. Jewish historian Josephus it is dove’s dung salt substitute. Others say dove dung is falafel in Hebrew is locust-beans fruit of carob tree. 2 Kings 6-7:17 famine in Samaria attack by Ben-Hadad of Aram’s army so great famine in city. 26 King Jehoram passing on wall heard woman saying, “Help me my lord the king 27 The king said, “If the LORD does not help you how can I help you? All the threshing floors of winepress are empty. 28 What is the matter? So she said, “This woman told me, ‘share your son and so tomorrow we’ll eat mine.’ 29 We cooked my son and ate him and next day I told her, ‘Give your son to eat, she is hiding him.” 30 The king heard the woman’s words and tore his robes and the people saw under his robes a sackcloth. 31 He said, “God deal with me if head of Elisha son of Shaphat remain on his shoulders today.” 32 Elisha at home with elders as king’s word sent, Elisha told elders, “See he sent to cut off my head and when the messenger comes shut the door at the sound of his footsteps behind him. 33 A messenger of king said, “This disaster its only the LORD God who can rectify it to save the nation from the perilous times.20200328_192842Starving parents watch children die see no end of famine in sight cause of child eating of spiritual cause sin against God received punishment. Leviticus 26:22-29 says wild animals, people, eat children. In Deuteronomy 28:53 Ezekiel 5: 9-10 so parents eat children. Lamentations 2:20 &4 :10 says women cook children eaten. American skeleton of a 14 year teenage girl cannibalism in Jamestown colony is reconstructed by archaeologist of bones in 2017. Kelso took her remains of skull, tibia bone found in cave to Smithsonian. Dental analysis revealed her identity as Jane. Others use “ritual cults to get rich’ sacrifice children for wealth, plead with ‘gods’ during natural disasters to ‘avert’ tragedy of wars or gain evil “power” to rule the world. Or done for ‘fun’ online by a German. God deals with cannibals as HE created all the people attacked. To eat flesh is ‘normal’ to ‘imbibe’ power of their departed cooked to eat. American restaurants serve donated bodies eaten, reptilians eat human products. After the  seven years of famine in 2 Kings 7:1-11, Elisha said”tomorrow by this time there will be abundant food so the finest flour will sell for a shekel and two seahs of barley a shekel at gate of Samaria.”2 An officer of the king doubted, “If the LORD opens floodgates of heavens this cannot happen. Elisha said, “You will see it with your own eyes but you will not eat it.  3 Four lepers at city gate said, “Why stay here until we die? 4 ‘We’ll go to the city, if the famine is there, we will die if we stay here we will die let’s go to the camp of Arameans. 5 They went to the camp of Arameans but no one was there. 6 So the LORD caused the Arameans to hear sound of chariots and horses their army said, “The king of Israel hired the Hittite and Egyptian kings to kill us.” 7 Got up fled, abandoned tents, horses donkeys, left camp and ran for their lives. 8 Four lepers entered the tents, ate, drank, took silver, gold, clothes and hid them. They returned to city with abundant riches. 9 So shared good news with royal palace.” 20200328_200539KurtRose17566236432710 City gatekeepers in Aramean camps told king lepers collected gold, food, saw 11 tethered horses, donkeys, tents, left behind. 12 But the king said, “Arameans know we are starving left their camp to hide to come so they take us into their city.” 13 The officers sent five horses to the camp to confirm testimony 14 Two chariots of horses were sent out to go to check Aramean army. 15 They went far to Jordan but found on the road clothes, equipment Arameans threw in flight as messengers reported to the king. 16 The people went into plunder camp of spoil of Arameans so a seah finest flour sold a shekel, two seahs of barley sold a shekel as the LORD said 17 The king put officer in charge of gate but trampled on in the gateway. 18 He died as man of God said. 19 Man of God told king finest flour sold sold shekel, two seahs of barley a shekel at gate of Samaria.” 20 People trampled on officer who doubted as God said. In 2 Kings 8:1-3 in another Famine a widow whose son Elisha brought to life told to avoid the LORD’S decreed famine in the land for seven years. 2 The woman did as man of God said. 3 So her household went to live in land of Philistines seven years. After seven years she returned to appeall to the king for her house, fields, left behind. 4 The king asked Gehazi the servant of the man of God, “Tell me all the great things Elisha did.” 5 So he told the king Elisha brought a dead boy back to life and woman is coming to appeal to you for her house and fields. Gehazi said, My lord the king this is the woman and her son, Elisha brought back to life. 6 The king asked the woman who told him so the king appointed a high official to her case to “Return all things which are hers and produce of her fields since day she left the land.” She got her house and lands with interest 14 Elisha was in  Dothan and horses, chariots and a great army that came by night surrounding the city. 15 The servant of man of God saw the army, with horses and chariots. He said, “Alas, my master what shall we do?”16 So Elisha said, “Don’t fear, those with us are more than those with them.14886 17 Elisha prayed, “LORD open his eyes to see so The LORD his eyes and he saw the mountain was full of horses chariots of fire around Elisha. 18 Syrians came to attack but Elisha prayed to the LORD, Strike this people with blindness so God did according to the word of Elisha. 19 Elisha told them, Follow me, I will bring you to the man you seek.” He led them into Samaria. 20 At Samaria, Elisha said, “LORD, open their eyes to see The LORD opened their eyes and they were, inside Samaria! 21 When the king of Israel saw them, told Elisha, “My father, shall I kill them?”22 He said, “Don’t kill those taken captive without sword or bow give food to eat and water to drink and go to their master.” So they were set free by Elisha. In Chronicles 21:12 a three year famine  or three month’s destruction by enemy with sword or three day’s sword by the LORD, pestilence in the land by angel of the LORD destroying all coasts of Israel. “The days are coming,” says the LORD God, “I will send famine on the land not famine of bread, thirst, diseases. Famine of lack of knowledge of God people face pestilence locusts and insects destroying produce of earth. Droughts, diseases are part of endtime birthpang warnings. In Italy money is so useless its thrown on the streets seen in these pictures. Love of money is root of all evil so what shall it profit you to gain the whole world but lose your soul? Money can’t buy God or save you from hell fire punishments so repent, accept Jesus to go in the Rapture alive to heaven before great tribulation.IMG-20200402-WA0001 IMG-20200402-WA0000Take heed, ask God for mercy in Jesus  Name. In Isaiah 51:19 two things befall the nations, mourning, devastation and destruction, famine sword. Ask God to forgive nations and comforts all in Jesus Name  In Acts 11:28 Agabus said, by the Spirit of God there will be great famine all over the world which took place in reign of Claudius. In Matthew 24:7 Jesus said, nations will rise against nations so kingdom against kingdom and in many places famines, earthquakes. Luke 4:25-27 says in truth many widows in Israel in the days of Elijah. The sky was shut three years and six months in great famine over all the land. Jesus warns of events and comes in Clouds in Rapture. Things get worse before it gets better so trust God so no weapon formed against you will prosper in Jesus Name. God is in control of your life hidden in Christ. In God live, move and have your being. Thank and Praise the LORD, Give HIM GLORY in all situations of life. Be ready for God’s intervention, confident in God. Pray God SHORTENS evil days.

Pray for God’s Peace on earth for God’s help and GIVE HIM NO REST DAY AND NIGHT UNTIL HE MAKES JERUSALEM A PRAISE IN ALL THE EARTH. All nations are connected to Israel and so belong to God. Your body is God’s Temple Holy so God’s Spirit dwells in you to help, teach, comfort, lead you to God’s Bible Truth. Value your life and your precious body is priceless take care follow instruction to be safe in Jesus Name. Keep in touch, check on others or text, phone, email, skype, letters. Pray and worship God at home it is well with you ask God to save you in the Rapture in Jesus Name. God bless you. Jesus appeared again in my dream three times is ready for Rapture. He is calling you to accept Him repent to rescue you in Rapture before its too late. Jesus warned 2000 years ago that these things will happen on the earth. Call on God to save your life so your soul will go in eternity on passing before Rapture. A peak view of heaven shows blissful life of joy, no more pain, grief, sorrow so no more death but eternal joy with Christ,  God, saints, angels, family reunion with loved ones forever in heaven. Ensure to have your name written in God’s BOOK OF LIFE. All whose names are found in book of life are Children of God go into eternal life in heaven in Jesus Name. Be sure to ask God to save you in Christ.  

 

THIS PEOPLE NEVER ANGRY

15619803537592179922344463155949.jpgBriggs recollected in her landmark 1971 book “Never in Anger,” about how calm and collected everyone was jarcontrast that created against her own unruly emotions. Even when some truly rage-worthy things happened like a teapot falling and smashing against floor the Inuit never betrayed a hint of anger. An “Emotional control is highly valued among Eskimos,” she wrote in the book. Indeed, maintenance of emotions under trying circumstances is essential sign of maturity, of adulthood.” Why so calm, she wondered? And more importantly, how can the rest of us get there? For the answer, Briggs looked to how children responded in difficult circumstances appeared to be something they learned from their parents. An simple parenting technique of Inuit is “Never scold child.” It became clear to Briggs when a young boy threw rock at her, related in a CBC interview, she didn’t berate him angrily, rather told him calmly it hurt. Instead of rage she told him real consequences of his actions caused her pain. Decades later, the writer Michaeleen Doucleff followed in Briggs’ footsteps in visiting Iqaluit, Canada, “in search of parenting wisdom. Said that teaching children to control their emotions is very important she writes in NPR. Doucleff found that a common strand among Inuit parents is: Across the board all mothers mentioned One Golden Rule: Don’t shout or yell at small children.”20190701_130919.jpgAmong Inuit Arctic community Doucleff found the people practiced the theory that screaming at a child only teaches the child to scream. It is a vicious circle, the University of Pittsburgh researcher Ming-Te Wang noted in a 2013 study. “It is tough call for parents because it goes both ways: the problem behaviours of children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline. That harsh discipline may push adolescents toward the same problem behaviours.” The Inuit society seems to have learned lessons long ago, and managed to break the cycle. And so  “Traditional Inuit parenting incredibly is nurturing, gentle, tender,” as Doucleff writes. “If you took all parenting styles around the world and ranked them by their gentleness, Inuit approach would likely rank near the top.” What kind of children does that society produce? The kind who live harmoniously in world’s harshest climates often with threadbare resources. Survival hinges on making the most efficient use of natural world yet group still manages to be at peace with itself and with others. Maybe that’s because it’s also the kind of society that teaches kindness above all else. Jesus said do not let the sun radiate or set on your anger. Let it go for peace of mind.

Inuit simple way of teaching children to control anger

Christian Cotroneo

CHRISTIAN COTRONEO

Article from March 26, 2019, 2:08 p.m

NURSERY LOVERS MARRIED

Laura and Matt in preschool 20 years ago, a 3-year-old Matt Grodsky stood up in front of his entire preschool class, declaring he would one day marry classmate Laura Scheel. On a December 30th of 2016, he did. The two, now 23 years old, met in preschool in Phoenix, Arizona, and Grodsky was immediately drawn to Scheel. “I don’t remember the first time I saw her, but she was always a girl who let me follow her around,” Grodsky recalled, “Always impresses her reciting lines from movies like ‘The Lion King’ and stuff like that.” Grodsky often tried to impress Scheel by quoting “The Lion King.” Matt played with Laura Scheel always in the nursery. Grodsky’s and Scheel’s earliest memories about each other on play dates and trips to the movies with parent chaperones for the two little lovebirds. Grodsky, infatuated and Scheel felt the same way. “When you like someone, you just kind of stand up and say it,” he said, which is exactly what he did. He declared his love for Scheel before his 3 and 4 year old peers who burst into laughter. And Grodsky’s response was, “Just you wait.”Laura and MattGrodsky knew early on he would marry Scheel one day. Matt Grodsky and Laura Scheel were always together in nursery. So after announcing his love ended up taking quite a bit of waiting. The young couple went to two different elementary schools and lost touch, only watching each other grow up through the annual Christmas cards the two families would send to one another. Then in the fall of their freshman year of high school, once again at two different schools, Scheel was looking through a friend’s phone and saw Grodsky’s name. It turns out Scheel’s friend went into middle school with Grodsky and when a friend found out that they had been quite the item in preschool she offered to reconnect them “I was a freshman in high school so I was like, ‘I don’t think so!'” Scheel said. “But then she ended up giving him my number and he texted me and we hit it off ever since.” Two weeks later, Scheel and Grodsky were dating. Four years and 15 school dances (their high school dances combined) later, it was time for college – again at two separate schools, but this time in two separate states.Laura and Matt at the poolGrodsky and Scheel had play dates all the time in preschool. Matt Grodsky and Laura Scheel. “Right after we graduated from high school were hesitant. Were like, ‘Do we stay together? Do we try to make it work?'” Scheel explained. They made it work. Scheel went to Northern Arizona University, while Grodsky went to Columbia College Chicago, more than 1,600 miles away. It was not easy, but after some trial and error freshman year, they got a system down, figuring out a schedule for when they would visit each other and watching “Friends” on Netflix together when apart. Grodsky didn’t wait until they finished college to pop the question. On May 23, 2015, as the couple prepared to start their senior year, he brought her back to the place where it all began: their preschool.Laura and Matt get engagedScheel did not see it coming as Grodsky got down on one knee.Courtesy of Matt Grodsky and Laura Scheel. Grodsky had bought an engagement ring two months before this day and so already received her dad’s blessing. He had stationed his brother at the school before arrival so he could position himself in the perfect location to capture a photo of moment. On the way there, Grodsky repeatedly checked his pockets for the ring. When they arrived, he got down on one knee. I was like, Oh my gosh is this happening?Scheel said. “I saw the ring and was like, This is gorgeous I’m so happy with ring so the answer was resounding yes! And Grodsky’s brother brought out a picnic basket the very same one that Grodsky’s dad used when he proposed to his mom full of bridal magazines and sparkling cider, bowed out to give newly engaged couple a private picnic to celebrate.Matt and Laura get marriedAfter 20 years, the couple said “I do.” On December 30, 2016 these two preschool sweethearts said “I do.” Grodsky’s uncle, who officiated the marriage, put it best during their ceremony: “For most kids in preschool, its finding your snacks and your sleeping mats, but for them it was about finding their soulmates.” This shows that some three year old toddlers understand true love and romance from an early age. This wonderful testimony is an encounter of God’s LOVE between two innocent children who love each other without bias or any prejudices. It is encouraging the adults or the parents involved honoured them to support the love between them. Congratulations and happy wedding anniversary, enjoy your married lives together forever in Jesus Name.

 

DO TOYS DISTRACT FOCUS?

Children become distracted when they are surrounded by toys Too many toys are bad for children as a study suggests that the children become distracted when they are surrounded by too many toys. This is what the parents have suspected all along. Children who have too many toys are more also easily distracted so do not enjoy that quality playtime with other children as the new study suggest. Researchers at University of Toledo in Ohio, US, recruited some 36 toddlers and invited them to play in a room for half an hour, with either four toys, or 16 toys. They found youngsters were far more creative when they had fewer toys to play with. And they played with each for twice as long, thinking up more uses for each toy and lengthening and expanding their games. The authors conclude parents, schools and nurseries should pack away most of their toys and just rotate a small number regularly, to help encourage the children to become more creative to improve the attention spans of the children. This study sought to determine if the number of toys in a toddlers’ environments influences their quality of play,” said the lead author Dr Carly Dauch in journalInfant Behaviour and Development.“The higher number of incidences of play in 16 toy condition did interfere with duration and depth of play. Other toys present created their external distractions. “During toddler years, children develop but not master, higher levels of control over attention. And their attention plus their play was disrupted by factors in an environment present with distractions. The results of the present study suggest an abundance of toys create distractions. But provided with fewer toys in their environments the toddlers engaged in longer periods of play with single toy allowing better focus to explore, play more creatively.”Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, say researchers Getting rid of toys encourages children to read more or paint, says researchers. Britons spend more than £3 billion each year on toys and surveys shows that a typical child owns 238 toys in total but parents think they play with just the 12 ‘favourites’ on a daily basis making up just five per cent of their toys. It is not the first time research suggested that too many toys distract children. In the 1990s the German researchers, Elke Schubert and Rainer Strick conducted experiment where the toys were taken away from Munich nursery for three months. After a few weeks, the children re-adjusted and their play became far more creative and social. The published research of their findings in their book, called, The Toy-free Nursery. In another book, ClutterFree with Kids the author, Joshua Becker also argued fewer toys are better for children because a sparse playroom encourages creativity to help children develop attention span and to teach youngsters about taking care of their possessions. “A child will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when there countless options are still remaining on the shelf behind them,” he said. “When children have too many toys, they will naturally take less care of them. And they will not learn to value them if there is their replacement ready at hand. “Fewer toys causes these children to become more resourceful by solving problems with only materials at hand. And resourcefulness is a gift with unlimited practical uses in their futures.

The research is published in the journal Infant Behaviour and Development. The conflict of interest of the toy companies advertising children playing with many latest toys makes parents feel obliged to buy them for the children not to feel left out. Children display their toys online on social media to compare with each other including the addictive games that stop children learning, doing homework assignments later in college, university or focus at work. Lack attention span or focus from childhood affects the adults today unable concentrate for few hours to complete tasks at hand. Christmas is around and parents must not let a child manipulate them emotionally to buy a toy without teaching them first value of essential basic reading at level. Children can get a few educational toy to reward them to do exceptionally well in a field of academic achievement at school. The development steared towards a specific direction of any future career requires relevant toys to influence natural gifts, talents and abilities. Otherwise parents unintentionally make children victim of success by their ability to buy too many toys they can afford. Just because it is possible to buy things seen on the TV in adverts does not mean it enhances their specific development. Parent knows the children best, whether they are trained experts or not must help child learn not to depend only on school to learn. Early learning through practical play is now rapidly eroded by virtual reality keep children cocooned online. So important to carefully reflect before Christmas on piling up toys to “prove” your “love” of your children to the world overloading them with too many toys. Experience shows most children are just so happy playing with the box, not expensive toys boosting their parents ego. Millennium children are suffering from the lack of a social understanding or interaction due to isolated attachment to toys valued as more precious than engaging with each other. Time consumed worrying about their toy possessions makes them miss out on appreciating fellow human being as adults due to learned behaviour. The competition among children, teenagers over toys leads further to threats of the perceived anger of friends loving them only for their material possessions. The toys must not take over to babysit their children without adult supervision and input. One of the best ways to bond with children is play with them sometimes to help them value the adults in their lives.

ASHAMED OF POOR PARENT?

Mother with empty piggy bank

“Wondered what it’s like to live in poor area,” the girl from a posh part of town whispered across classroom table. Even at a small comprehensive in Yorkshire, the divide between the ‘haves’ and ‘have nots’ was clear. At 10 years that time we with two older brothers living in house with mum knew exactly what it was like but said nothing. That night after school burst into angry tears on the mum’s lap. Both parents from working class back grounds: one from family where seven siblings shared two beds; the other started out in one of Leeds’s roughest estates. They grew up wanting a better future, and gradually worked their way up together to become homeowners. At

five parents split up with siblings lived full-time with mum. Suddenly became very aware of money because we just didn’t have any. Our family home was sold to pay off debts. For my mum, the life she’d spent years piecing together, moving away from the estate she grew up on, crashed down around her and it all seemed to happen overnight. The first piece of furniture in council house living room was an old sofa bed that we all crammed ourselves on, given by a kind family friend. So with little money spent evenings by candlelight when the electricity meter ran out, borrow money to top up pre paid card next morning. If

it means poverty according to standard of the time were officially living below the poverty line as a child. By today’s measures, a couple with two children need to earn at least £18,900 (£363 a week) each to achieve the minimum income standard. Since I’m one of three and mum was on her own, this means if I was growing up now and my family was in the same situation, we would still be in poverty.Housing differencesWhen 13, mum started privately renting a house on more affluent side of town, in order to send us to a good secondary school an hour’s bus journey. Mum had a new job, which helped, but she was starting over again after several years of looking after us all at home and her wages barely covered our rent, bills and food for three young kids. Renting is unstable your landlord calls the shots – so lived with constant fear of losing our home if our landlord put the rent up or decided to sell up. It was difficult at my new school, I felt like I didn’t belong at first. I had one friend who had a similar background; she was the only person who I confided everything in. Everyone else received edited versions of my life – nobody knew my uniform was bought with tokens. I dreaded the obligatory McDonald’s pit stop when we went into town, because I just couldn’t afford it.

I remember feeling upset when one of my closest school friends said she was fed up of having to ask her mum to take us places and always inviting me round to their house. She wanted to know why my mum never gave us lifts anywhere and why she was hardly ever invited to mine after school. The truth was I was embarrassed. Despite living in the ‘nice’ side of town, never had enough petrol in car, and friendsallowed round on payday, when there was food in the fridge and enough electricity on the meter. How could I tell her the truth? I imagined my friend’s parents gossiping about my family “not pulling their weight” and looking down at us. The reality was my mum didn’t invite her own friends into the house because she couldn’t afford the extra food.Shabby school uniformFor a long time after leaving school, I continued to try to hide the truth about my background. I can dial my Yorkshire accent up or down depending on my audience. But, the fallout of being such a class chameleon is that I feel ashamed about not being proud of my roots. This follows me no matter where I go or what I do. And it seems I’m not alone in having grown up feeling like being from a poor background is something to be ashamed of. The number of children living in poverty is on the rise but conversely the number of kids claiming free school meals (excluding the universal infant free school meals) is in decline according to a government report. How does that work? Now, I’m ashamed to say that, despite being eligible, I never took free school meals and mum and I regularly rowed about it. I didn’t want to be shamed or, worse, pitied. I knew full well that it would have helped my mum out massively. Instead, she scrimped to put together a packed lunch or dish out the last 50 pence in her purse. Looking back, it makes me cringe. So may think I sound like an ungrateful brat who refused the help offered, just a kid who wanted to be like everyone else. As older, going to uni was something I never considered. At school, I felt like it was just assumed that most people would go but I was scared we couldn’t afford it. A teacher explained the grants and loans that were available and suddenly it seemed like a possibility. I liked studying – I dreamed of one day being a writer and my mum was really excited for me so I applied to study Journalism at Leeds Metropolitan University and got in.

I felt overwhelmed by the amount of money I could borrow from the Student Loan Company. I took loan of £24,000 to cover course and received a grant of just under £3,000 a year. Paying my loans back felt like a lifetime away, so it was easy to ignore the reality that I was getting into serious debt. It seemed like we were all on the same level in our student halls, regardless of where we’d come from. Every time holidays rolled around my new friends disappear back to their family homes or head down to London for exciting-sounding but did unpaid internships. By this point, my mum was renting a house that didn’t have a spare room. If I went back, I’d be on the sofa. I couldn’t afford to do an internship so instead I worked in the local branch of a shoe shop, selling trainers I could never afford, so I could keep paying rent on my student house.

After graduation, I got a lucky break. My shoe sales job led to a full-time role editing the company’s website at their head office in Edinburgh. I found a really cheap flat share and moved there. I was nervous about how I would pay my rent but I felt like I was, at least, making progress because I was getting away from my upbringing and all the stigma and shame that, in my mind, came with it. The sad truth, though, is that not everyone from a background like mine gets a break. A Prince’s Trust report from 2016 found 44% of young people from poorer backgrounds don’t know anyone who can help them find a job, compared to just 26% of their more advantaged peers. Anyway, if you do manage to go to uni and get a graduate job, your social class doesn’t change overnight. In fact, the advantages of other people’s privilege only become more apparent. I was so excited when I got my first job, but underlying that was a constant sense of unease that if something went wrong and I got fired or was made redundant I had no safety net. There was nothing to fall back on and that thought would often keep me awake at night.Bank of Mum and DadSoon after we graduated, some of my friends started buying their first flats, with help from their parents. Last year in the UK, for the lucky ones able to get on the property ladder two thirds (62%) of under-35s received help from family and friends to buy their first home. Around the same time that they were getting on the property ladder, I began earning a bigger salary than all my family members and even helped one of them to pay their rent. When my mates talked about raiding the fridge full of food when going home for Christmas, I quietly set aside money to pay for the supermarket shop and the repairs for my mum’s battered old car. Don’t get me wrong, I know I’m privileged in some ways. I’m white, for a start and I know that gives me certain advantages. But, conversation to start somewhere and, with 51% of journalists being part of the 6.5% of the nation who receive private education, it’s important to listen to anyone who doesn’t fit in that statistic. You see, being poor isn’t just having no money it’s lacking a basic confidence in who you are and what you deserve. Considered self ‘lucky’ to land a graduate job rather than putting it down to having talent and working hard. When I went into my first work meeting and felt like I knew less than the guy with 10 unpaid internships under his belt. When I met a nice guy who invited me to meet his posh parents and I cancelled because I was worried about what they might think of me. These days, I make a living doing a job I love. I rent a small but cute flat share with two friends and I can even afford the odd trip to the seaside.

I make sure I always have a little pot of money to fall back on, because my only alternative is sleeping on my mum’s sofa if things slip. After years of skirting the issue, I’m finally talking openly about our situation with my mum. I can’t imagine how horrible it must be to wipe tears away from daughter’s face after she’s told you how embarrassed she is of the life you’ve always worked so hard to make better for her. The real shame is neither of us will ever be able to gloss over. So do not let shame stop you to say  no to free school meals and starve or not invite friends over. Life is not made up material things according to Jesus it is your heart for loving others that counts most. 

 

Hollie Richardson

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This article was originally published on 2 October 2018.

BUILDING A BABY’S BRAINS

pastedImageTop 10 tips to building a baby’s brain as Blackpool Better Start believes, building a brain is a lot like building a house and so must have strong foundation. Strong foundation builds the stronger resilient communities to help parents, essential for healthy structure of child’s brain.”

1) Support

Get support to create a solid foundation by ensuring that parents and caregivers have the right information and support available to meet a baby’s needs. In UK, Blackpool and other parts of country, having parents attend their antenatal programme and being involved with your health visitor, midwife and other people are there to support you through your pregnancy is really important during that transition into parenthood.Reading_800x534

2) Positive nurturing interaction

Developing a brain is an interactive process. ‘Serve and return’ activities can help with this – that’s the “goo goo” and “gaa gaa”, when you respond to what your child is saying to you. It’s like a tennis match. Maybe your child gives you a tissue, you take is and say “thank you”. Embracing those ‘serve and return’ opportunities helps build those interactions.

3) Read, read, read

Research shows us how beneficial reading is to a child’s development. The evidence we have proves children who are read to, by parents or caregivers do better in school. The have higher self-esteem, develop better relationships with other children and are better behaved. We recommend reading 15 minutes a day to your child – that does make a difference to their development.

4) Talk to Babies Early

When adults interact and elaborate what the child is saying to them – like asking questions, sharing rhymes and songs – then children start to develop those cognitive skills and the tools they need to succeed. Even when the child is saying something that’s not particularly intelligible, start a conversation with your child and let them recognise that you will interact with them in that way.

5) Managing stresses

We know that some stress is considered to be good – like meeting a new person, that can be good for a child. It’s for children who grow up in chronically stressful environments, they might be subject to violence, abuse and neglect. Those children experience ‘toxic stress’ and we talk with families about what toxic stress looks like and the impact is has on that child. Caregivers should be aware of the environment a child is in, be able to comfort them when they’re upset and calm their emotions. Helping a child’s stress response system come back to normal levels is really, really important.Family_Singing

6) Be attuned, responsive

The relationship between the main caregiver allows the baby to grow physically, emotionally, intellectually. We know that babies and children need to feel safe, protected and nurtured by caregivers, to identify responds to the child’s needs. Unresponsiveness lead to difficulties socially, behaviourally and emotionally which may affect the child’s physical and emotional development.

7) Outdoors

Remember the importance of outdoor play by using open spaces, parks and other outdoor settings. Look for outdoor opportunities which are vital for brain development and we know that play is essential for a child’s learning and well-being. It can help the parents too. Being outside as a family, particularly if you live in a small house or don’t have much space, getting outside and doing some activity can make you feel better, is good for the child and it’s free!

8) Nutrition and diet

A poor diet can negatively affect a child’s brain development and nervous system. But for us, it’s supporting parents getting their child into solid food. We know breastfeeding is really good for nutrition, because the milk in a mum’s body changes everyday to give the child what they need. We also know that once you move on to solid food, it’s about looking at what kind and how you serve the food to a child. There needs to be a good range of foods that will address their nutrition and diet.

9) Mum & dad take care

Obviously a expectant mother needs to be taken care of during pregnancy, because that vital for the wellbeing of the baby, but that continues well after birth. Establishing regular routines for sleep helps with brain development and stress, as does physical activity. Being physically active for 60 – 90 minutes a day helps strengthen brain connection with motor skills, balance, vision and other abilities. It also helps combat stress for mum. We think mums who have good nutirion, who are acitive during pregnancy are able to have a healthier birth.4-ways-to-nurture-your-childrens-growing-brain-2

10) Communities

We talk about communities a lot, because it’s not just the parents that help grow the child, it’s the whole community and extended family. Studies have shown that children tend to do better from strong, supportive communities. Everything we do is based around gearing up communities and parents to do more for themselves, by giving the community members skills, making them more understanding about child development and what they can do to support that. Children centres, peer supporters and trained volunteers can offset poverty and other risk factors in early development.

COMMONWEALTH BRITAIN?

Queen Elizabeth II riding an elephant during her visit to India in 1961.A Professor of a Commonwealth institution discussed championing of multiculturalism changes after Brexit takes place. Global affiliated countries of colonial master colonies from 1965 elected heads after independence to be leaders. Some want a conferred leader by an automatic birth as empire head to change after Brexit. Some use ‘racism’ xenophobic anti immigration sentiment as reasons for complete separation of long term friendships. Intergenerational commonwealth nations tested querying the Commonwealth post-colonial club of nation’s relationships with past empire. Decolonising conversations around the world, from Rhodes Must Fall to Black Lives Matter, think the Commonwealth must “decolonise” their relationships to the former colonial ruler Great Britain. The divisive Commonwealth members question privileged leadership of a post colonial institution headed by a colonial master. Commonwealth inherited crown head from a single country they want to change. The Commonwealth headquarters in London shows history of empire’s best convenient geography. Commonwealth power flows through London conferred by the monarchy to former colonies. Centre of periphery of dynamics of empire is the Queen, head of Commonwealth’s power associated with monarchy’s friendship of nations. wp-1577967341474.jpgCommonwealth of Nations is a group of countries. Originally, called the British. Commonwealth of Nations founded in 1926 when the British Empire began to break-up. The 53 member countries of the Commonwealth of Nations except Mozambique were part of the British Empire. Changes have taken place many years in terms of these Commonwealth relations. The people’s Common wealth belong to colonial masters like natural resources drained by Western countries to survive. Though the West depends on Commonwealth resources the colonial nations do not prosper as their colonial masters for generations. So negotiations must be reconsidered for fair treatment.

Perhaps strong association with crown made sense in the early years, when the Commonwealth’s goal of bridging their economic gap between “developed” and “developing” countries as coloniser and colonised envisioned north-south flows. But is this the case? The world has more complicated needs of a Commonwealth secretariat established in 1965. Global economy flows emerging in economic power of members of Commonwealth nations supporting the Queen as head.wp-1577967353417.jpgCommonwealth nations led by a British Commonwealth Queen is symbolic of a relationship that endures to adjust to a postcolonial world of people. Real issue is Commonwealth countries completely interdepend on the West for economic development. Relationships developed need each other more as their natural resources flow from these post colonial regions to the Western world. Processed goods sold to nations are indispensable as manufactured goods, essential foods, medicine, services, computers, modern gadget lifestyles of postcolonial nations. Like Brexit, sentimental hatred of some people causes them to start “race wars” by a chaotic association. They want to detach for individualist selfish racist goals. No one is an island, people need to co-operate as nations for good success. Politics needs diplomacy and a deeper understanding of implication of consequences to build bridges of unity.wp-1577967329471.jpg

Refusal to contribute millions requested to EU triggered the Brexit but departure equally demands payment. Question is, is contributing to protect international interests abroad by union members as a united front better than paying without same privileges a new reality unforseen in advance? The complex set of Brexit is new grounds negotiated through trade deals with individual nations as part of consequences of Brexit. Some wonder if leaders realise that inciteful statements without proper research or homework makes their nations suffer. Their lack of understanding of practical issues of the basic necessities: food, water, medicines also hits the postcolonised nations most. Often the innocent women and children bear the brunt of macho policies flexing muscles to prove their point. No perfect alternative is possible to counteract the effect of policies imposed on all. Living history repeats itself showing 70 years of relentless wars of all past years linger on today causing more sufferings to all.  wp-1577967305023.jpg Peaceful long-term friendship is a better choice option than bitter vitriol hatreds of racism sown by the few. Ignorance is bliss so some who demand change lack knowledge of past history consequences of damaging effects on some nations. Its NOT WISE to get rid of the post colonial friends in need of each other. So its best Commonwealth headquarters REMAINS in London as the Queen is the life head. Interdependence of nations is essential to stop divisive worst alternatives. This is true as all nations on earth need each to learn to listen and value differences, God created nations for HIS GLORY. The former Canadian prime minister Lester Pearson remarked, the Commonwealth went from having an emperor to a king to a head by upheaval of decolonisation. The Queen is the best head as excellent leader of Britain, has best experience of Commonwealth nations for generations used to diversity in serving as head. The organisation’s diversity is represented by position of secretary-general, which provides the real leadership on a world stage. Shridath Ramphal of Guyana, the longest serve Commonwealth secretary general (1975-1990), championed these Commonwealth as the family of nations that fosters community relationships.wp-1577967290348.jpg Kings and Quuens are ordained by God by birthright as heads, so international aspiration of the Commonwealth must remain Supremacy of community above selfish greed and racism.” Sounds nice, but possibly not truthful in terms of the realities of all these members. Ramphal embraced Commonwealth represented by values of fairness and anti-racism. Its inherent contradiction: Commonwealth exploitation, violence, deeply ingrained racism makes such a perfect existence impossible. If Commonwealth members want change this opportunity to infuse institution with MATURED COMMITTED new leadership structure. Young naive are so impressionable in universities so the queen must ensure they are led by a stable emeritus experienced academics. Is United Kingdom’s extension of British crown capable of such moral leadership required to fulfil this role? Is monarchy facing current exploitation from former colonies using megawatt ‘racism’ liberal views try to undermine monarchy not aware of their underhand tactics? Since Brexit vote revealed Britain’s nationalist isolationist position in the world affairs, their leave sentiment campaigns fuelled by xenophobia impacts Commonwealth nations to force for change for control.wp-1577967277850.jpg Politicians campaigning for Brexit did so with imperial nostalgia mixed with the white man’s burden; the alternative proposed for Britain is special status in Commonwealth is first among equals. Is this questionable if Britain cannot be trusted to champion internationalism and fair multiculturalism? Cameroon’s struggles of relics of British colonialism as Eliza Anyangwe wrote in Guardian is this opportunity to reconsider rotating a democratic approach to Commonwealth leadership? Refreshing organisation for relevancy to the majority of members is an idea peddled to elect the titular head from outside Britain’s royal family? But look at OAU among others, did increase in international spirit of the “family” of Commonwealth nations without Britain as head succeed? Most nations lack the adequate resources or security to host a large gathering of nations consistently. wp-1577967252882.jpgSome divisive people want to capitalise on post colonial sentiments to use their own selfish agenda by using “racism” to incite a race war. Their evil motive is to spread hatred and division to portray the Commonwealth nations as “victims.” Some Commonwealth people are pliable trained to submit to authority so can be manipulated through universities. Most military coup de tats in the third world countries start on university campuses, in conjunction with naive students. The changes promised by using harsh forces maltreat people’s assets they take. They kill elected leaders, topple governments sponsored from abroad to gain access to natural resources. Nations remain poor and people suffer while military enjoy luxury. Structures of Commonwealth is not ideal but practical for the involved nations. Head of Commonwealth is best Royal and invest funds in modern states or reparations. History shows monarchs destroyed by tyrants who took over are worse than sovereign. Power shifts into hands of vying liberal maxist groups or military who enrich themselves in their offshore accounts. Naive young leaders influenced by powerful forces destroy monarchy. Beware, enthusiastic people demanding an “alternative progressive” Commonwealth flaunt themselves at the centre of photo opportunities, promote “soft Business” agendas. Commonwealth dedicated team of leaders committed to duty first help the poor get basic needs. Most villages need bicycles, motors for emergency health care workers, food or suitable walking shoes in hot climate. So stop the lavish waste jet flying in luxury hotel blocked off for exclusive use while depriving people. The rich enjoy as the people suffer. Royalty is more STABLE so unites people but the lavish excesses depriving hospitals, schools or essential lifeline services must change. Ensure a fair share of resources to many working people starving, dying in countries due greed of watching leaders flaunt wealth in their faces. Giving relentless speeches of meaningless word salad to common people. Commonwealth citizens under economic colonialism struggle to pay IMF loans borrowed from the colonial masters. Post colonial masters ensure a firm grip on resources to stunt growth of past colonised nations “institutionally racist” what would Jesus say about uses of resources provided by God freely for all mankind to enjoy?

Mankind cannot inherit bitter grudges of hatred injustice of perpetrators. They feel angry forced slavery or colonialism that built Western countries deprive the post colonial nations. Are forming their “alternative progressive” alliance of the Commonwealth of citing racism hatred to whip up dark emotions to members by “forces for change” agenda. Obsessed by dominance of the world feel entitled to rule because ancestor’s blood and toil built the West. Want “forces for change” of enmity hatred through envy jealousy to spread to 53 Commonwealth nations. Plan upheaval sentiments to whip anger rebellion to take place among nations to emerge as their head. This delusions of grandeur is driving them to portray the monarchy as “archaic” and irrelevant to modern generations. Descendants of the slaves want to rule the world because it is their ancestors who built it. Planning to incite hatred so naive people will join their agenda to destroy the royal family. So Commonwealth royal family head is targeted as their ‘enemy’ to achieve the liberal goals of perceived injustice for a future rule by them. British monarchy is seen as obstacle to achieving black head of the Commonwealth they feel entitled to rule because their ancestors earned it so must take over. Monarchy must wake up to underground liberal view of woke naive people who lack understanding of proper leadership protocol or decorum but strongly want to rule the world. The “forces for change” use racism hatred to recruit naive antimonarchy sentiments to create “alternative progressive” ruler. This is going on behind the scenes so as to incite Commonwealth Universities or academics for reparations of injustice of slavery and colonialism. Their error is a past generation of enmity hatred cannot be the excuse for selfish motives to rule. Commonwealth must be preserved and a transparent working agenda must not vilify any race war to promote divisions. Commonwealth community of nations must continue by mutual respect for all because rebellious mutinies never last. The toxic divisive people always destroy others to prove their superiority to rule but genuine people who care preserve Commonwealth as the only best option.

Reblogged & Updated Article By: Nalini Mohabir: – Nalini Mohabir is assistant professor of postcolonial geographies at Concordia University, Montreal, Canada

ARE YOU AN ONLY CHILD?

Last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked me the question Daddy and I have been half expecting. With a slight ripple across your brow and your blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister?’

Are you an only child and did you know why you became one literally? Perhaps it is a health or a financial circumstance beyond parent’s control or unfortunate situation of loss of parent making it not possible to have siblings. The parents of an only son have written a letter to him explaining their choice and decision to him alone. The letter stated that mother found out ‘last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked a question Daddy and was half expecting. With slight ripple across your brow and your blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister?’ I kissed the top of your head, squeezed you closer and momentarily panicked about how on earth to answer. At four years and four months, you are clearly starting to notice many of friends at nursery talk of siblings or babies. And thankfully this time, you gave me a reprieve turning your attention straight to dinosaur story read to you.’ Last night, as we snuggled up to read your bedtime story, you asked me the question Daddy and I half expected. With a slight ripple across your brow and blue eyes wide, you said: ‘Mummy, why don’t I have a brother or sister? But I know one day the ‘why’ will become more persistent. Daddy and I are far from alone in deciding to stop at one child. Apparently by 7years, half of all families in this country will only have one offspring. Not that it stops me from feeling occasional pang of guilt. I know there will be many positives to decision like our undivided attention for starters so you never know a prickly adjustment period when a new baby arrives. How about sibling rough and tumble you’ll miss out on? A constant companionship for better or worse? I cannot pretend it hasn’t been a real dilemma. Yes, there have been moments when my resolve wobbled particularly as you get closer to starting school so baby no more. Who doesn’t get broody when they see a tiny newborn enfolded in a mother’s arms. But deep down, I know we’ve made the most responsible choice. I just hope, as you grow older, you agree. The truth is Daddy and I would loved another child but quite simply are too old. We liked the idea of two or maybe more, Daddy even hoped for twins! We imagined you all together and nobody ever short of a playmate, bundling you all into the bath after a day at the beach or the park. Sometimes I do wonder if we left it too late to start our little family. After all, we’ve been together for 19 years. Will you wonder what we were doing all that time? know many positives to our decision of undivided attention, helps you thrive. But I turned 44 last year, a day you and Daddy helped me devour the birthday cake I’d made. ‘That’s REALLY old!’ you exclaimed. In terms of having another baby, you were right. More women are have babies well into 40s and beyond but risks proven to be grater for mum and baby not least Down’s Syndrome or other birth defects. I wonder if we left it too late to start family. After all, we’ve been together for 19 years so wondering what we were doing all this time? We met through mutual friends in our mid-20s, drawn together by similarities: we’re both driven, determined, sociable and aspire to wring the most from life. But like many of our generation, chose naively it turned out to let time slip by. Distracted by careers, Daddy as a chartered surveyor and board director, and me as a journalist, we saved like mad for our future, bought property, played hard and enjoyed exciting holidays all over the world. Sometimes I do wonder if we left it too late to start our little family. For 19 years prepared in advance for your arrival. Family and friends badgered us about settling down but we felt buying a home together was the greatest commitment. I know there will be many positives to our decision — all that undivided attention, for starters, and you’ll never know that prickly adjustment period when a new baby arrives There were the more important things paying off a mortgage, for example than a wedding to spend money on. As for having a family, conscious of getting older, of course, honestly didn’t think leaving it to late 30s was a problem. After all, many friends in a similar situation. And in February 2011 of 12 years together, finally married at a beautiful country house in North Yorkshire. By then we were financially secure, happy, had bought a spacious barn conversion and wanted nothing more than to have a little family. But three months after our wedding, early one cool, grey May morning, my own beautiful, adoring mummy your granny died. She’d had cancer for four agonising years, and in the end the doctors and nurses couldn’t do anything more to save her. If I had just one wish in life it was that Granny had lived to meet you. She would have been besotted by your mischievousness, love of being silly and making people smile traits you share with her. Losing her made me all the more desperate to become a mum. I wanted to love and nurture another little person the way she’d always loved my brother and me. I longed to watch her warmth, wisdom and trademark cheerfulness live on in her grandchild. Grief stricken, I barely ate or slept for months.Grief stricken, I barely ate or slept for months. I ran for miles at a time as a coping mechanism and lost a lot of weight despite being slim anyway 

I ran for miles at a time as a coping mechanism and lost a lot of weight despite being slim anyway. Perhaps we shouldn’t have been surprised when, after almost two years of trying to have a baby, doctors confirmed that the shock of losing Granny had caused my body to shut down. I was almost 40 by so we referred for IVF. That’s when something magical happened against all the odds. In late January 2013, I went to fertility clinic in outskirt of Nottingham for some initial scans before starting a treatment. After minutes, sonographer took off her glasses, wiped a tear from her eye and said: ‘You’re not going to believe this you are already pregnant!’ I was around five weeks, but there you were on the sonographer’s screen, a microscopic dot. I cried, and couldn’t wait to tell Daddy. We were elated you arrived in September that year by a planned Caesarean section. I adored you in an instant with your cute little face and love of a cuddle. When I delve into my handbag for a lipstick and instead pull out a toy car or a dirty twig from the park that you’ve put there, it makes me smile 

But I admit I struggled emotionally for a long time. Within a space of under two and a half years went through the two significant events in a woman’s life losing my mum and having a baby of my own. Not having Granny around at that time was heart-wrenching. During the three days that you and I were in hospital, I longed for my mum to walk in, beaming and saying: ‘Aren’t you a clever girl? He’s absolutely gorgeous!’ When Gramps came alone to meet you for the first time, he hadn’t seemed more solitary since Granny’s death. In the months that followed, I’d take you for seven-mile walks in pram along the canal paths and country trails close to our home and tears would roll down my cheeks as I daydreamed about Mum walking by my side. When I delve into my handbag for a lipstick and instead pull out a toy car or a dirty twig from the park that you’ve put there, it makes me smile  What I’d give to have just one photograph of her cuddled up cheek-to-cheek with you. Daddy was wonderfully sensitive and supportive. But at times I felt very alone, as many women do after having a baby. The impossible sadness was juxtaposed by the unrivalled joy you brought to Daddy and me.I know that watching you with a little brother or sister would be a delight. But another baby now? I was 40 by the time I had you. We quickly decided it was more important to enjoy you, rather than focus on trying for another simply because the clock was ticking 

You make us laugh uncontrollably often every day with your funny little ways and your constant chatter and wonder at the world around us. I was 40 by the time I had you. You’re as affectionate and loving as you are boisterous and wilful, destined to be strong-willed given our own personalities! And even when you’re throwing a tantrum we wouldn’t want it any other way. I know watching you with a little brother or sister would be a delight. But another baby now? I was 40 by the time I had you. We quickly decided it was more important to enjoy you, rather than focus on trying for another simply because the clock was ticking. After all, there are so many couples who’d give anything to have just one child. And who’s to say it would have happened a second time, given how long it took us to have you? Plus, at what point do you draw a line under the disappointment of trying and failing? Besides, we’d found being a family of three suits all of us. I am still able to do a job I love while you’re at nursery three days a week. More importantly, Daddy and I are able to focus our attention on you rather than feeling torn between more than one child. Your energy knows no bounds and I have to run you like a dog every day to expend it. I’m not sure I could cope with another little one fizzing with such effervescence. You have always loved your sleep, too: And imagine if you had a sibling who wailed all night for months. That said, I can’t deny the occasional well of sadness: the ‘what ifs’ and fear you’ll miss out on the fun of having a sibling. If I had just one wish in life it would be that Granny had lived to meet you. She would have been besotted by your mischievousness, love of being silly and making people smile — traits you share with her Since I’ve always been so close to my own little brother your uncle Robbie, 42, who loves to tickle and dangle you upside down. Daddy and I have often looked wistfully at our friends with four kids: they’re never without a ready-made playmate. On the other hand, we know siblings who fought terribly as children and barely speak as adults. We know lots of gloriously happy, and well grounded, sociable, selfless children including your brilliant cousin, Saffron, who’s five years older than you. It was adorable watching you playing together on the beach and in the pool on a recent family holiday in Spain. How I chuckled listening to the two of you animatedly discussing favourite or not vegetables in back of car. Nobody ever questioned our decision although there are friends who still tell us: ‘Go on, have another!’ Some people assume things of an only child that they are spoilt because they don’t learn to share. Or they miss out on so much. But Daddy and I will ensure you never feel isolated or become spoilt. Bracing ourselves to hosting lots of play dates sleepovers. We’ll do everything to encourage you to continue to be sociable caring confident little boy you already are. What I’ve realised more than anything is there is actuala much shorter answer to your question. Quite simply, Daddy and I feel enormously fortunate to have one healthy, happy, hilarious little boy who fills our lives with magic every day. We have never been left wanting more.