HAPPY MOTHER HAPPY BABY

The Duchess of Cambridge at Stockwell Gardens Nursery and Pre-SchoolThe duchess appeared on the podcast after visiting children at a nursery in south London

The Duchess of Cambridge has said her parenting inspiration is her “amazing granny” who involved her as a child in arts and crafts, gardening and cooking. In her first podcast interview, she said she wants to replicate experiences with Prince George, Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis. The episode of Five Big Questions On The Under Fives is survey launched by Catherine starts debate on early childhood has 200,000 responses so far. Speaking on Happy Mum, Happy Baby podcast, Catherine told author and host Giovanna Fletcher the survey aims to ask people “what is it that matters for them in raising their children today.” I had amazing granny who devoted a lot of time to us, playing with us, doing arts and crafts and going to the greenhouse to do gardening, and cooking with us,” she said. I incorporate lot of experiences she gave us at the time into experiences I give my children now.” The duchess said her priorities include providing her children with a “happy home” and “safe environment” she enjoyed as a child. So she is “passionate” about the children spending a lot of time outside is “great for physical and mental wellbeing to lay foundations for a healthy development. The Duchess of Cambridge and Giovanna FletcherIt is the first timeIt’s a great environment to spend time in, building quality relationship without distraction of ‘I’ve got to cook’ or ‘I’ve got to do this’. And actually, it’s so simple,” she said. A generational change starts from seeds sown in early years throughout family. Even if not ‘highly educated,’ one can invest time and resources in simple way to help children to be happy. Its possible to help children to progress beyond the parents by preparing them in the early years. Choices and priorities of focus to include learning materials from nature found free outdoors on walks to create opportunities for children. So it is the responsibility of the parents to help the children early not to depend entirely on schools for all learning experiences in life. A month-long online poll conducted by Ipsos Mori on behalf of Catherine’s Royal Foundation is to “spark a national conversation” on early childhood as the Kensington Palace has said. Launched in January, it is thought to be the biggest survey of its kind and the results are intended to guide duchess’ future workIMG-20200307-WA0002Its the first time duchess is interviewed on a podcast. “It takes family a long time for generational change but hopefully is a first small step: to start a conversation around importance of early childhood development,” Catherine said. “It’s not just about happy, healthy children. This has lifelong consequences of outcomes.” Ms Fletcher, married to Tom Fletcher from McFly has said Kate is “passionate” about the subject. Its ‘beyond wonderful to sit and talk further about the survey, and her work for she has so much real knowledge, and her own experiences of being a mother.” “It doesn’t matter who you are, what you have, or where you come from we’re all try to do our best with our children while continuously learning from decisions and wondering if we get it right. Talking helps unite us all,” she said on the ‘five big questions.’The Duchess of Cambridge at Stockwell Gardens Nursery and Pre-School1. What do you believe is most important for children growing up in UK today to live a happy adult life? Rank from most important to least important:

  • Good physical and mental health
  • Good friendships & relationships
  • Access to opportunities
  • Access to a good education

2. Which of these statements is closest to your opinion?

  • It is primarily the responsibility of parents to give children aged 0-5 best chance of health & happiness
  • Primarily responsibility of others in society to give children aged 0-5 best chance of health & happiness
  • Shared responsibility of parents or others in society to give children aged 0-5 best chance of health and happiness
  • Don’t know

3. How much do you agree or disagree with this statement? Mental health or wellbeing of parents, carers has a great impact on development of child(ren).

  • Strongly agree
  • Tend to agree
  • Neither agree nor disagree
  • Tend to disagree
  • Strongly disagree

4. Which of the following is closest to your opinion of what influences how children develop from the start of pregnancy to age five?

  • Traits child is born with (nature)
  • Experiences of a child in the early years (i.e. nurture)
  • Both nature and nurture equally
  • Don’t know

5. Which period of a child and young person’s life do you think is the most important for health and happiness in adulthood?

  • Start of pregnancy to five years
  • 5-11 years (primary school)
  • 11-16 years (secondary school)
  • 16-18 years (further education)
  • 18-24 years (young adulthood)
  • Don’t know
  • All equally important

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A VIRGINITY CLOTH IN BIBLE

f5dc2606acdd56b91ff20ab382d4b558.jpgIn Deuteronomy 22:13-21 in Bible father presents evidence his daughter is virgin on her wedding night. This evidence is proved by “virginity cloth” shown to all elders and is kept by bride’s family. God instructed all families to do so to protect their daughters. The Bible says if after a man marries a virgin but in future tries to berate her virginity cloth is brought to REMIND him their virgin daughter was deflowered by him. The public sees cloth on wedding night as witnesses to testify if the husband tries to insult her family their daughter was not pure. In oral tradition societies the elders see it as proof so virginity cloth token testifies against the husband trying to put away his wife on the grounds she was not a virgin. They also fine that husband for blackmailing his wife and his in laws. In such communities if the man gets rid of  his wife with/out children they are seen as “second hand damaged” goods. Most men want only virgins to marry though they sow their wild oats creating double standards. These are men allowed to run wild but their women must be virgins. It is such double standards that makes those men want young children as wives considered pure and so young, not slept around. In communities where marriage was often the only way out for women to become productive members of society a father watches daughters 24/7 chaperoned by family to maintain the dignity of family not to disgrace the family honour. bible-ancient-jewish-marriage-chuppah-proof-of-virginity-cloth-canopy-bed-modern-jewish-wedding-ceremony.jpgTraditional societies DO NOT DATE they marry. Liberal societies promote right to sex from 16 years onwards by a mutual consent without MARRIAGE strange to traditional communities. Sex education in schools or social media culture online of people in different places have their opposing views. Liberals feel traditional societies deprive people of the freedom of choice to enjoy sex without strings. To traditional societies liberals seem as promiscuous so treating people as their objects of sexual gratification disposed of for another. So fathers watching their daughters seem cruel kill joy depriving daughter from exploring the varities of men to chose the right one as husband. Without understanding of this Biblical origin of virginity cloth token its easy to condemn or judge those exercising their Godly duty of care required to protect virgin daughters. Liberal secular society views it invasion of privacy of women but don’t realise it is a sound Biblical doctrine of God to protect all societies. Women not wanted after husbands take a younger trophy wives are abandoned. Children from families suffer neglect as consequence but society promotes free sex but does not support children born out of wedlock. Inadequately provided for and treated as second class citizens. Liberal promote indulgence free sex but not same zeal dedicated to taking care of the children treated as commodities.downloadfile-26.jpgA woman violated is forgiven by God so to be married to perpetrator because in such cultures nobody wants to marry her if her past is known. It was to teach men they could not get away from their trespassing to get married to another virgin. This was the case of Dina Jacob’s daughter when they tried to marry her but the family felt disrespected. Sought revenge instead in Genesis for rape and killed the men, destroyed whole village. Her violation by Shechem, Canaanite or Hivite prince is subsequent vengeance of her brothers Simeon and Levi. Rape of Dinah in Genesis 34:1-34 echoes the revenge killing by Absalom for rape of his sister Tamar by King David’s son her half brother Ammon. Tamar, tricked to bring food to eat was not married by him. Tamar raped in 2 Samuel 13:1-22 in Bible is daughter of King David. And Absalom killed Ammon in 2 Samuel 13-23-38 for rape by half-brother Amnon two years later. Absalom at Baal Hazor near border of Ephraim invited all the king’s sons to come there with Ammon killed at the party. Absalom Hebrew: אַבְשָלוֹם, Avshalom, “father of peace,” in Bible, was third son of David, King of Israel with Maacah, daughter of Talmai, King of Geshur. 2 Samuel 14:25 says he is most handsome man in the kingdom. Societies that practice the virginity cloth Biblical tradition exist today so keep the cloth just in case its needed as proof. ca676458e30c312f3641b8f343900764.jpgIn Deuteronomy 22:17 it’s evidence used to challenge a husband discrediting her family. When he goes around saying she is not a virgin so wants to divorce her a family brings the tokens of a daughter’s virginity. And spreads the cloth before elders of the city. The words in verses 14, 17 and 18 bətûlîm “is an evidence of virginity” is from bətûlâ, “virgin” in 19 describing woman as evidenced. These custom retains their blood-stained sheet cloth from bed marriage consummated. The blood dam betulim “proves” bride’s virginity breaking hymen. When the groom accuses his bride of not being a virgin at time of marriage responsibility for defending her is her parent’s giving her in marriage. If family claims she is a virgin then blood-stained sheet bətûlîm  is their evidence of defense. Traditional societies, where girls do not do rigorous activities of riding a bicycle or sports of horseriding expects girls to be virgins so practice virginity cloth token. Some men demand that only the virgin wives good for kings or specific religious leaders. Since everybody is born a virgin its practiced by betrothed children so both families work together until both old enough to marry later as adults. Liberals find practice revolting as abuse of human rights but works for the societies that maintain tradition to marry not to date. Liberal or traditional stance against challenges of marriages works for each society’s own context.downloadfile-52.jpgGlobalised enforced liberal secular view contradict God’s laws practiced in some traditional regions of the world. Despite their freedom of choice to have free sex as one pleases, whenever one wants, by any person chosen, its not Biblical. And there’s in NO SET AGE BY GOD IN BIBLE to indulge in free sex without marriage. God is the author and the originator of marriage although the world had own views, opinions and its ways. It is very important to educate people God treats human body as HIS Holy Holy Temple for HIS Spirit to dwell in. God demands keeping HIS laws though secular people do not feel bound by Godly laws. But a day will come God will demand sccojbt whether one is religious or secular God the creator of all human beings is going to huff all people one day. Alhough the human laws enable people to indulge freely in sex to break hymen of virgins as they please,  girls are God’s property so God will judge abuse of children for fun and freshly gratification. Virgins are mocked or treated as weirdos for being righteous but that is how God created all people. Bible says there will come a time people will ridicule others calling evil ‘good’ and calling good ‘evil.’  The young people must be taught to know and understand God’s laws not just one sided laws enabling perverts to take the advantage of such naive children in the Name of love. Some take delight hurting children to rape them as a sign of power but this is not Biblical from God’s point view. Sin is like a credit card, enjoy now pay later. God sees secret things and HE is Judge to account to in future one day.downloadfile-55.jpg

Leviticus 21:13: ‘He shall take a wife in her virginity.

Deuteronomy 22:15: The girl’s father and mother must bring proof of a girl’s virginity to elders of the city at the gate.

1 Corinthians 7:37: He who stands firm in his heart has authority over his own will to decide in his heart to keep his  own virgin daughter virgin, does well.
Exodus 22:16:If a man seduces a virgin not engaged and has sex with her he must pay a dowry for her to be his wife.
Deuteronomy 22:23:If a girl is a virgin not engaged to a man and another man in city lies with her, he must marry her.
Revelation 14:4: These virgins undefiled by women kept themselves chaste and follow the Lamb where He goes. Are the redeemed first fruits to God and Lamb.
1 Corinthians 7:38 He who gives his own virgin daughter in marriage does well, he who does not give her in marriage does better to keep give her to God.
Deuteronomy 22:29: The man who lays with her must give the girl’s father fifty shekels of silver and she becomes his wife because he violated her; he cannot divorce her all his days.
1 Corinthians 7:28, If you marry, you do not sin and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But have such trouble in this life and I am trying to spare you.
1 Corinthians 7:25: Virgin is a command of the LORD, but opinion is by one who by the mercy of the Lord is trustworthy.
Deuteronomy 22:13:If any man takes a virgin wife and goes in to her and then turns against her, the family must bring her virginity cloth token as proof.
Deuteronomy 22:28:If he finds girl who is a virgin not engaged, seizes her and lies with her he must marry her for life.downloadfile-46.jpgDeuteronomy 22:21:The girl in doorway of her father’s house the men of her city shall stone her to death because she has committed act of folly in Israel playing harlot in her father’s house; Purge the evil from among you. (Pressure on girls to RESIST rape not to expose themselves to opportunistic vultures waiting to take advantage of them. Fathers feel need to protect her from bad company because her presence misinterpreted as consent)
Deuteronomy 22:17: If he accuses her of with shameful deeds, saying, “I did not find your daughter a virgin.” Use this evidence of your daughter’s virginity to spread garment before elders of the city.

1 Corinthians 7:36: If a man acts toward his virgin FIANCEE PAST HER YOUTH as an adult let them marry. For deliberate delays of parent’s demands of dowry to cause to fall into sin of fornication by a father or guardian fiance can do what he wants but not sinned. If he thinks he is being sabotaged delayed to suffer MARRY her neither breaks law of God. Parents to support couples not frustrate them by lavish unnecessary competition to show off wealth. The word of God on advice of the apostle is its much better to marry than burn to be exposed to any snare and temptations to break up. This is not a licensed excuse to fornicate.deut22.jpgJeremiah 31:21: Set up guideposts direct your mind to highway you went. Return O virgin of Israel, Return to your cities.

Leviticus 21:14: A widow or a divorced woman profaned by harlotry he must not take but marry virgin of his people.
Matthew 1:23: A VIRGIN CONCEIVE A CHILD TO BEAR A SON AND CALL HIS NAME IMMANUEL GOD WITH US.”
Judges 11:37: She said to her father, “Let this be done to me after two months in mountain to weep for my virginity I and my companions.”
Jeremiah 31:4: I will build you and you will be rebuilt, O virgin of Israel! Again you will take up your tambourines, And go forth to dances of the merrymakers.
Isaiah 7:14:The LORD HIMSELF will give you a sign: Behold, a virgin will be with child and bear a son called Emmanuel.
Luke 2:36: Prophetess Anna daughter of Phanuel of tribe of Asher advanced in years and had lived with her husband seven years after marriage saw Jesus.
Leviticus 21:3: The virgin sister without a husband must not be defiled. God told Moses:“Tell priests, sons of Aaron not ritually contaminate himself by raping virgins in the Temple. It was the reason Hophni and Phinehas sons of Eli, High priest were killed in battle defeated by Philistines for practicing idol Temple prostitution with disregard for God’s portion of sacrifices from worshippers.13327785574_ab0ec56cc4_z.jpgc48f918cbc9d109bdc98e1bb46b46339.jpg
Judges 11:38 He said, “Go.” So sent her away for two months; and she left with her companions and wept on mountain because of her virginity and loss of life.
Isaiah 62:5: As a young man marries a virgin your sons will marry you; As the bridegroom rejoices over bride, So God will rejoice over you.
Amos 5:2: She has fallen, will not rise as virgin Israel lies neglected on her land; There is none to raise her up until later.
Deuteronomy 22:20: If the charge is true the girl was not virgin as claimed by her divorce her.
Proverbs 30:19: The way of eagle in sky, a serpent on a rock or ship in middle of the sea so is way of man with a virgin.IMG-20191125-WA0000.jpg
Psalm 45:14: Like virgin wife to King in embroidered garments her companions following her your wife brought to you.
Judges 19:24: Take my virgin daughter and his concubine. Let me bring them to you to do what you wish. Do not commit act of folly against this holy man of God.
1 Kings 1:1: King David, old advanced in age covered him with clothes but virgin  brought to keep him warm.
Ezekiel 23:3: Played harlot in Egypt and played harlot in their youth so breasts pressed and virgin bosom was handled.
Matthew 1:18: Birth of Jesus Christ by mother Mary betrothed to Joseph before found with child by the Holy Spirit.

2 Samuel 13:18: She wore a long-sleeved garment as a virgin daughter of a king dressed in robes. His attendant took her out and locked the door behind her. So Tamar raped is rejected by Ammon and this infuriates Absalom to kill Ammon.5493.jpg

SITUATIONS+AND+REGULATIONS.jpgJeremiah 46:11: Go to Gilead for balm, O virgin daughter of Egypt, you multiplied remedies but your healing is from God.
2 Corinthians 11:2: I am jealous for you with Godly jealousy; for I betrothed you to one husband, Christ as a pure virgin.(Those  feeling defiled YOU ARE A PURE VIRGIN TO GOD JESUS BLOOD CLEANS.
Jeremiah 18:13: The LORD, ‘Asks among the nations, Who ever heard? The virgin of Israel did appalling thing of idolatory.
Isaiah 37:22 The word the LORD spoke against him: “She despised and mocked virgin daughter of Zion shaken her head behind you, daughter of Jerusalem.
Job 31:1: I made covenant with my eyes not to gaze and lust after virgins.
1 Corinthians 7:34: Married’s interest is divided but unmarried virgin concerns her life with things of the LORD. Is holy in body and spirit married is concerned about things of the world to please her husband.

 

MARRIED 45 GAVE BIRTH 47

God’s Time is the best to fulfil the plans and purpose for your life to Glorify God as Gifty Anti’s testimony shows. This is the Lords doing and it is marvellous in our eyes. Wait on GOD ALMIGHTY and do not lean on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge God, HE WILL BRING TO PASS IN JESUS NAME. This powerful message is to encourage all people to Seek God’s Face especially for marriage. Do not marry because you feel it’s too late so rush into relationship to destroy you in the end. So many fear they may not get married after a certain age, convince themselves so share the husband of another woman. They miss their own husband due to impatience so regretted later and wished they waited for God. Delay is not denial so better to build up good character and reputation to wait as a virtuous woman. The same goes for men marrying the children too young with undeveloped body to bear a weight of children or be a matured wife. GLORY to God for matured women that are fully grown and to handle marriage better. Those miserable and lonely who think marriage solves all problems must love themselves first to bring good vibes into the marriage. Spend quality time to enjoy the single years dedicated to God and busy minding your own business. It is true marriage is beautiful, wonderful and fulfilling because God created the first marriage in Garden of Eden. God said, it is not good to be alone so made Eve out of Adam’s rib to join one flesh.

Marriage ordained by God so important to organise marriage as God planned and intends. Adam and Eve are created as fully grown adults with all available resources before their marriage was created by God. Time of singlenesss is time preparation towards marriage because such precious times cannot be regained after marriage. The single person is married to God in Christ so devoted to things of God Bible says. A popular saying is that marriage is like a woollen blanket itches when covered by it and cold without it. Those inside it are desperate to get out while those outside can’t wait to get in. Marriage is so great and wonderful because two better than one strengthening each other when the going gets tough. A real life marriage is not just like a fantasy drama of actors pretending to be couples on TV reciting written scripts and paid. Do not base a choice of a life partner on TV drama or Mills and Boons romantic fantasy novel although it contains elements of truth of real life. Marriage that endures lifetime is deeper than TV drama marriage takes the Grace, Mercy and Favour of God to endure the challenges and adversity of life together as a couple. And marriage is NOT HAPPILY EVER AFTER always as novels say it is practical real life matters of building family, relationship with the in-laws, humility, respect for people in the families, Honour, respect and never just the two couples involved. Be ready to become part of bigger family looking after interests of others not just yourself as God planned. Couples celebrate their wedding interact with family to support them in time of need. And never isolate yourselves to be in love to burn bridges because after the dust settles you need all those people to help the marriage to thrive. Isolated marriages are too close for comfort puts too much stress on each other to ruin marriage. A single person is WHOLE PERSON made in the IMAGE OF GOD. So stop thinking you are incomplete without marriage if not married yet or chooses not to marry marriage is not a competition of friends. Do not rush into marriage because you feel left behind by agemates. A real life journey is personal and individual, seek the face of God before marriage. 

Polyandry marriage of women married to more than one husband is common in India, Nigeria, China, Mountain tribes of Asia where there are more women than men. Similar words are polygyny, bigamy and deuterogamy. The Bible says 7 women will take hold of one man and say we are self-sufficient, so have everything already, we just want to be called by your name “Mrs.” Solomon and 700 wives and his 300 concubines, feminists now demand equal rights of polyandry to be like men. God allowed Abraham, Jacob, David among others to have many wives. Though God said, one man join one wife as ONE FLESH people are greedy so want more. After all God and Jesus are too HOLY without sexual needs, without a wife, so how on earth are they going to understand human needs of the flesh? The signs of end time debauchery and lasciviousness like the days of Noah and Sodom and Gomorrah Jesus has warned about will happen be before His coming again. Hope you are all well by the Grace of God. Pray with intense fasting intercession to break family covenant of spiritual marriage you are dedicated to fighting real life spouse. Secrets are not shared by parents so seek deliverance in Jesus Name for a breakthrough. Don’t consult psychics, necromancers, fortune tellers, native doctor herbalist, witch doctor for marriage because you will be initiated to satan and demons will marry you to prevent real life marriage. It may seem they gave you husband or wife but it is loaded with evil because satan does not give anything free without taking back a life of family members to kill, destroy or make them suffer in life. So may not realise your connection to idol shrine is the cause of all family sickness, poverty, and premature deaths. Ancestors sought ‘protection’ from: evil witchcraft, wars, land disputes, chieftaincy by sacrificing the family to shrines. Such generational covenants are known or unknown to family members suffering today. The LORD GOD ALMIGHTY is the source of life and giver of marriage so follow the plan if God for your life. Do not listen to those who ruined their life embarrassed by your virtuous life to deceive you to ruin your life. They may call you “an old maid” left on the shelf but GOD’S TIME is the BEST in Jesus Name. All laughing and mocking you now will see the Glory of God in your life and your testimony in Jesus Name. Others decide to do their own deceived by those who want their life destroyed to spur on to disgrace them. Beware and stand on the word of God for inspiration, hope, assurance in Christ and trust God in Spirit and Truth to beautify your life in His Own Time for you. You will enjoy your marriage because you are  faithful to God so HE WILL Make A WAY for you where there is no way in Jesus Name. The Bible in Exodus 21:10, says a man can marry an infinite amount of women without limits to how many to marry. And in 2 Samuel 5:13; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, and in 14:3, King David had six wives and his numerous concubines. Also in 1 Kings 11:3, King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Again in 2 Chronicles 11:21, King Solomon’s son Rehoboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines. And in Deuteronomy 21:15 A man with two wives loves one but not the other and both bear sons favours one more. The laws of each land dictate the number of spouse according to that culture.  

IMG_20180915_131117If you have Spiritual Father and Mother in Christ go and talk to them privately about your desire to get married. Study Biblical marriage to read good books on marriage from God to help understand marriage better. Ensure you are able to provide marital needs like rent, food, work to have money to pay the bills, to first take care of yourself before you go to add children’s needs into a marriage for more responsibility. Love alone is not enough because love does not pay bills or provide food just because you declare or flaunt how madly you are in love on social media. Be happy first in yourself, see marriage as bonus adding value to your life rather than depending on person to fulfil your life. Impossible to demand spouse totally fulfil all areas of your life needs because you love and married them. You demand they be God who is ONLY ONE Provider that way. Its misunderstanding to destroy marriage because of your assumption a partner will meets all your needs but you do not tell them what your need is. You insist they read your mind to do all you want from them without TALKING to them or doing good to them in return. Marriage is not a ONE WAY culdesac no return of favour done to you. Negotiate with family through the good servant of God with your family in partnership for a spouse. Even if church helps you find spouse include family or if family finds you spouse include the church if a born again believer. You need them along the journey of married life for sure honour family and stay in church in marriage ordained by God. Families give account to God on judgement day so remember God will deal with you as you deal with spouse and fam vily. Check your heart for motives of marriage to be sure you love, show kindness, peace, joy, so loyal, forgives, self-control, laughter help each other, family after honeymoon is over reality sets in. Marriage not for the fainthearted so treat it with respect, honesty, trust be transparent for your own good to help save to preserve your married life in peace. Continue to pray intensely as you did when seeking that life partner to defeat and conquer the onslaught of forces that contend with the marriage. Do not relax and think nobody fights over conquered fortress to settle down so ignore spouse. This is beginning of married life of challenges in relationship. With God all things are possible so be alert watch out pray, seek deliverance in Mighty Name of Jesus!!!

PRAY WITH YOUR CHILDREN

praying-family-featureJoin me to pray with and for all our children and please take a moment to say this prayer for your children: Heavenly Father God My children ……………………….(name them) are gifts and testimonies you gave me so for this reason, they shall be blessed in their Body, Mind, Spirit and Soul. Their bodies shall be full of the vitality from the LORD in Jesus Name. Their lives are garnished with wealth and abundance, as they experience the peace of God that passes all human understanding all the year round. We shall not mourn over our children, because they are satisfied with long life to live long to take care of their lives as God commands.christian-parenting-handbook They will eat the good of this land and any land they step the soles of their feet on in Jesus Name. Many things come against our children daily beyond human control that it is only the LORD God’s POWER and HIS MERCY that can keep them safe from harm. Train children to trust to depend and rely on God above all else although God uses people to Bless children. The Bible commands Christian parents to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. This commandment given you today is written to be on your hearts. And teach them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home, when you walk along the road and when you lie down and get up” Deuteronomy 6:5-7.f65d3dc952c20f6aabb7e191bd5b6f87The LORD God will not take them to the places where  there is no Grace of God. The LORD will keep us together a united family so our relationship more fruitful than ever before. Our prayer is essential over all our children and our families to stay alert and be aware to discern God’s Voice in their lives too.  Cover your children in prayer and plead the blood of Jesus daily to cover them to protect them from evil in Jesus Name. You must never be too busy to pray. We can intercede for our children, praying for Godly wisdom, protection, strength and joy of the LORD in their lives also. Pray for your children asking God to hear and answer prayers.3ded719a966c14c507b9ee5a870d3dccGod invites all parents to ask, to seek and knock with specific requests for their children in Jesus Name. God is pleased to answer prayer requests as Jesus said, which of you if your children ask for bread you will give them stones or for fish you give them serpents. So if earthly parents know how to give good gifts to your children how much more God is pleased to be asked to supply all your children’s spiritual, physical and emotional plus material needs through you as God’s stewards. Amen! Send this declaration to parents and watch God bless your family richly and even more abundantly. You will help more parents pray for their children. Please whether you have your own children or not does not matter, pray for all childrenThanks and God abundantly Bless you more.

BUILDING A BABY’S BRAINS

pastedImageTop 10 tips to building a baby’s brain as Blackpool Better Start believes, building a brain is a lot like building a house and so must have strong foundation. Strong foundation builds the stronger resilient communities to help parents, essential for healthy structure of child’s brain.”

1) Support

Get support to create a solid foundation by ensuring that parents and caregivers have the right information and support available to meet a baby’s needs. In UK, Blackpool and other parts of country, having parents attend their antenatal programme and being involved with your health visitor, midwife and other people are there to support you through your pregnancy is really important during that transition into parenthood.Reading_800x534

2) Positive nurturing interaction

Developing a brain is an interactive process. ‘Serve and return’ activities can help with this – that’s the “goo goo” and “gaa gaa”, when you respond to what your child is saying to you. It’s like a tennis match. Maybe your child gives you a tissue, you take is and say “thank you”. Embracing those ‘serve and return’ opportunities helps build those interactions.

3) Read, read, read

Research shows us how beneficial reading is to a child’s development. The evidence we have proves children who are read to, by parents or caregivers do better in school. The have higher self-esteem, develop better relationships with other children and are better behaved. We recommend reading 15 minutes a day to your child – that does make a difference to their development.

4) Talk to Babies Early

When adults interact and elaborate what the child is saying to them – like asking questions, sharing rhymes and songs – then children start to develop those cognitive skills and the tools they need to succeed. Even when the child is saying something that’s not particularly intelligible, start a conversation with your child and let them recognise that you will interact with them in that way.

5) Managing stresses

We know that some stress is considered to be good – like meeting a new person, that can be good for a child. It’s for children who grow up in chronically stressful environments, they might be subject to violence, abuse and neglect. Those children experience ‘toxic stress’ and we talk with families about what toxic stress looks like and the impact is has on that child. Caregivers should be aware of the environment a child is in, be able to comfort them when they’re upset and calm their emotions. Helping a child’s stress response system come back to normal levels is really, really important.Family_Singing

6) Be attuned, responsive

The relationship between the main caregiver allows the baby to grow physically, emotionally, intellectually. We know that babies and children need to feel safe, protected and nurtured by caregivers, to identify responds to the child’s needs. Unresponsiveness lead to difficulties socially, behaviourally and emotionally which may affect the child’s physical and emotional development.

7) Outdoors

Remember the importance of outdoor play by using open spaces, parks and other outdoor settings. Look for outdoor opportunities which are vital for brain development and we know that play is essential for a child’s learning and well-being. It can help the parents too. Being outside as a family, particularly if you live in a small house or don’t have much space, getting outside and doing some activity can make you feel better, is good for the child and it’s free!

8) Nutrition and diet

A poor diet can negatively affect a child’s brain development and nervous system. But for us, it’s supporting parents getting their child into solid food. We know breastfeeding is really good for nutrition, because the milk in a mum’s body changes everyday to give the child what they need. We also know that once you move on to solid food, it’s about looking at what kind and how you serve the food to a child. There needs to be a good range of foods that will address their nutrition and diet.

9) Mum & dad take care

Obviously a expectant mother needs to be taken care of during pregnancy, because that vital for the wellbeing of the baby, but that continues well after birth. Establishing regular routines for sleep helps with brain development and stress, as does physical activity. Being physically active for 60 – 90 minutes a day helps strengthen brain connection with motor skills, balance, vision and other abilities. It also helps combat stress for mum. We think mums who have good nutirion, who are acitive during pregnancy are able to have a healthier birth.4-ways-to-nurture-your-childrens-growing-brain-2

10) Communities

We talk about communities a lot, because it’s not just the parents that help grow the child, it’s the whole community and extended family. Studies have shown that children tend to do better from strong, supportive communities. Everything we do is based around gearing up communities and parents to do more for themselves, by giving the community members skills, making them more understanding about child development and what they can do to support that. Children centres, peer supporters and trained volunteers can offset poverty and other risk factors in early development.

A GIRL’S PUBERTY & PERIODS

maximum-win-when-puberty-goes-right_o_4965805Girls of puberty age face discrimination in society as the news says again. Some banned from crossing rivers because of monthly periods. Interestingly, God put period in girls for reproductive cycle to be fruitful, multiply to replenish earth according to Bible. Functions of human body are God’s creation so people need proper education to learn to understand these female conditions. Modern times show a detailed scientific knowledge on menstruation. So schoolchildren learn biology to know scientific explanations of periods. Period means a girl’s womb is prepared for child-birth each month. The girl’s body waits through ovulation cycle when egg is released to receive the seed/s to become pregnant and to have children. But since girls are too young to bear children and still in education they are not ready to give birth yet. So each month the egg from the fallopian tube is released waiting for conception in the womb. Since no pregnancy takes place, egg and womb linings are shed as the ‘period’ in preparation for repeat of this cycle each month. After birth a womb is still busy continuing monthly cycle until menopause when period stop. A natural of fertility cycle of girls is being used as religious discrimination against young innocent girls. The tradition of outhouse for periods exists in cultures all over the world to keep girls in a special hut but it is endured they are warm, safe and fed. hqdefault (1)The concept of sacred ground of homes and rivers is used to put girls in special huts exclusively during periods. Elderly women train girls in personal hygiene and after periods they go back to family compounds. The idea is found in Bible too as women are considered “unclean” from sacred spaces during periods. And must have purification baths and must abstain from intimacy during periods. In some places menstrual cups, pads or special cloth is used by women during periods. For those not going through the periods they are allowed to cook, clean and do chores. Those in periods cannot enter the family compounds until after periods. In such places the girls are safe, warm in the nearby period hut for time of a “break and rest” for the girls. Those isolated in places exposed to elements is unsafe, cold at risk from elements and animals roaming around is abuse. Girl’s education is interrupted so do not go to school if I  period. If they ask teachers to be excused from classroom to change in a school toilet, it can be embarrassing to tell a male teacher such details by girls. So it was concluded by some societies to exclude them during periods. Education does not continue then and school work lags behind when in the hut. No lessons or homework is given for missed classes and some assume they must not touch things to ‘contaminate’ them. This why girls in periods are banned from homes and school still an issue in some places. Other issues of sanitation or washing of cloth or disposing of used pads in home is of concern too. Often sight of blood is considered sacred so must not touch or taint a home or certain holy places. It is necessary to educate people in period to lead normal life of healthy experience. hqdefaultHomeschooling’ during period possibly set up by schools to ensure education of the girl is not compromised. Homework can be given but this idea is not popular so girls are affected. The elders making laws need to understand value of a girl’s education often misconstrued as waste of time or money. So say, after all a girl’s place is in the kitchen, lack of education is easy way to control girls. These issues have several underlying causes needing to be addressed as human rights of girls to have periods without attacks on their education. Societies to learn from others in other parts of the world on how girls’ periods does not interrupt education. To stop social stigma attached to periods as natural mood swings and mood changes or pain response ‘oh it’s that time again.’ On other occasions, even if a girl is not in her periods assumed they are always daily going through periodic cycle. Girls not allowed to touch certain objects in extreme cases even Bible considered too Holy to be touched by women in period.Talking-To-Boys-About-Puberty-Periods-And-GirlsPeriod matters need to be dealt with in a careful way in harmony with views of a community associating interpreting a lack of rain or food harvests is results of human actions and behaviours. People are aware and so notice changes in girls during periods feel it is inappropriate to socialize with them in that state. Its also awkward for some men unaware of real meaning of girl/women’s monthly cycle. Whatever method girls choose to use in their period must be suitable in society to ensure the well-being of girls/women. Organisations can support by donating essential personal hygiene items as too expensive to buy in some places. Their disposal must be done discreetly a used pad must not be dragged by dogs from a local damp sites. This needs are beyond young girls to meet by their own efforts. So discrimination against girls must be reconsidered to stop ‘gods’ harrassing girls. God ALMIGHTY creates women in HIS IMAGE to reproduce by giving birth to children through the menstrual cycle.Periods-in-Developing-Countries-Header-1Psalm 115:5 says gods have mouths, but cannot speak, eyes but do not see so are just man-made idols in Habakkuk 2:18, 1 Kings 18 :26. So God ALMIGHTY in the heavens demands veneration by people. Psalm 135:16 says gods have mouths but cannot speak or eyes but not see. A born again Christian believer in Christ must practice WORSHIP of God only. As Christ Shed His precious Blood to clean all His people including girls in their periods. Believers cannot partake in any idolatry of god’s heathen practice if saved. The 21st century women’s education brings awareness and relevant knowledge for all nations to resolve this issue properly to stop picking on girls going through a period. Its not the fault of girls to put up with natural cycle to tolerate a monthly period with no choice or control over a natural period issues created by God.2-infographic-education God’s plans and purpose for girls helps for birth of all mankind so celebrate the girls and not to punish girls for being in periods. Without women there is no life on earth. Community’s actions are also known and seen by God who will hold decision makers accountable. So read Revelations 19:15 about God’s dealings with leaders in society. Isaiah 44:18 says gods know nothing, understand nothing their eyes do not see. They do not know or understand anything. God shuts their eyes so they cannot see; and so have no knowledge. God says those who carry it about as their idols or pray to gods are like them. The Bible in Psalm 115:5 says those who are praying or praising gods of silver, gold, bronze, iron, wood, stone do not know Jehovah God. Its children’s right so traditional leaders banning girls from crossing river while menstruating from going to school is a human abuse._99558170_b239af05-8ed2-4257-8153-64b56e998a53Krobo girls in Somanya Ghana dressed in white are taken to the riversides for Dipo bath rites. Any girl who dresses in this way is identified as ‘dipo-yo.’ On the Saturday morning the girls have ritual bath (aya-pa) at the riverside. The girl’s calabash contain sponge so proceeds to Srendor (stream) for spiritual bath. The chief priest is told when girl has period for the first time and grouped together with other girls. They are checked to be ensure they are virgins. After that they have a ritual bath in the river and are dressed beautifully in expensive kente, beads on head and around body. The point here is the Dipo god seems to not mind puberty girls in river they literally are bathed in. Later paraded in town to celebrate them by the whole town. This great source of tourism and hospitality attracts people from all over the world. Books are written about Dipo practices. kroboIMG_20180112_103548In Central region Ghana girls have been banned from crossing the River Ofin by traditional leaders, who are enforcing what they call a “directive” from river-gods. Children have to cross the river to get to school in Kyekyewere, in Upper Denkyira East district in Central Region of Ghana. This means girls can’t attend school if they are in their periods. If not in period: a second order from the river gods bans all girls from crossing a river on Tuesdays. Jehovah created all rivers and oceans and so all are free to cross it. Unicef’s menstrual hygiene ambassador Shamima Muslim Alhassan told the BBC such directives violates the girl’s right to education and freedom of movement.

It seems gods are really powerful aren’t they? So I think that we need to ask for a form of accountability from the gods who continue to bar a lot of things from happening, to account for how they used power we have given them.”

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Picture4-300x247River Ofin serves as boundary between Ashanti and Central Region. So Central Regional Minister Kwamena Duncan is given indications to coordinate with the Ashanti regional minister to find proper solution. In Madagascar some females are told not to wash during periods and in Nepal women forced to sleep in huts away from the rest of the family. Girls in other cultures face these problems since education is now becoming compulsory in many countries. Many cultures have myths and taboos around menstruation globally. This must be demystified and debunked to intervene on behalf of the  young girls to benefit from education. As Kweggir Aggrey said if you educate a boy or man you educate an individual if you educate girl/woman YOU EDUCATE A NATION. Behind every successful man is woman so men must listen to women at home, the community or in corporate boardrooms for the greater good of the society and girls. Stop harrassing young girls all over the world men must study reproduction biology. Elijah told people to follow God only not idols in a Mount Carmel contest by calling fire down to burn sacrifice to Yahweh the real true God. God proves to people HE is greater and more powerful than idols. Gideon was told to cut down idol shrine groves to build new altar for God and sacrifice a cow to God on the new altar. Almighty God does not share His Glory with idols, demands complete total loyalty because HE IS A JEALOUS GOD. He wants to be the only one people worship not a bit of God and a bit of idols. Girls must attend school daily in their period, given pads, personal hygiene kit, discreet changing rooms facilities and water to wash with. Shaming girls and women is an abuse of power by ignorant people who belittle girls or women who carried them in the womb, breastfeed or bottle feed them so grow up now insult God’s birth process.  All people are born due to period cycles of girls and women so respect and value women. Nations are now paying women to bring forth more children due to the problem of underpopulation. Women or girls mistreated for a natural birth cycle period God provides for pregnancy and childbirth to take care of their family is used to harass women. Yet without girls or women’s period menstruation there will be no continuity of life for children by procreation on earth as God planned.

 

DEPRESSED MUMS SINGING

Mum singing to babySinging speeds up’ recovery from post-natal depression. Singing helps mothers recover from post-natal or post partum depression more quickly study suggests. Researchers found women who took part in group singing sessions with their babies experienced much faster improvement in their symptoms than those who did not. The study, published in the British Journal of Psychiatry, looked at 134 mothers with post-natal depression. Early recovery is seen to be crucial to limit effects on mother and baby. Post-natal depression is estimated to affect one in eight new mothers. And previous studies have indicated singing can help improve the mental health of older people and those with dementia, but this is the first controlled study of its effect on post-natal depression. The women were placed into three groups:Mother and baby music group
  • one took part in group singing
  • another took part in in creative play sessions
  • a third group received their usual care, which could include family support, antidepressants or mindfulness

The singing workshops saw the mothers learning lullabies and songs from around the world with their babies and creating new songs together about motherhood. And those with moderate to severe symptoms of post-natal depression reported a much faster improvement than mothers in the usual care and play groups. All the groups improved over the 10 weeks, but in the first six weeks, singing group already reported an average 35% decrease in depressive symptoms. The Principal investigator Dr Rosie Perkins said the study, although small, was significant because it was important to tackle the symptoms as quickly as possible. “Post-natal depression is debilitating for the mothers and their families. As research indicates some women think accessible singing with their baby helps speed up recovery at one of the most vulnerable times of their lives,” she said. The lead author Dr Daisy Fancourt at University College London, said singing is another useful therapy to offer women. babies with musical instrumentsMany mothers have concerns about taking depression medication whilst breast-feeding and uptake of psychological therapies with new mothers is relatively low,” she said. “These results are really exciting as suggests something as simple as referring mothers to this community activities could support their recovery.” Dr Trudi Seneviratne, who chairs the Royal College of Psychiatrists’ Perinatal Faculty, said: “It’s exciting to hear about the growing evidence base for novel psychosocial interventions like singing to facilitate a more rapid recovery for women with post-natal depression. “I look forward to more work in this area in the future, as it will be enjoyed by both mothers and their babies.”Since the study, Breathe Arts Health Research has started running singing workshops in partnership with the Guy’s and St Thomas’ NHS Foundation Trust for women with post-natal depression across the south London boroughs of Lambeth and Southwark. Community and socialising helps overcome isolation and loneliness of new mothers. The feel good factor of singing with the babies is definitely a win- win situation lifting the mood and going out of the home helps to lift their spirit too. Isolated mothers can organise own singing sessions with friends in communities and their babies benefit too from a calm, happy, relaxed mother. If child raising is recognised or considered as a valid hardwork and to celebrate mothers and carers the world will become a better and safer place. So families must be prioritised and to help mother’s like Finland pays both parents to raise their children. Depression is caused by loneliness, pressure, stress of modern living without extended family support and children become depressed too. So it is good news to help mother’s and also to improve motherhood as an honourable collaboration with God’s idea to multiply to replenish the earth.

MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS

mentalhealthmattersChristmas festive season triggers some mental health problems started in early childhood not recognised in adulthood. Mental health problems are particularly common in young people as the modern pressures placed on them by society is too much to bear alone. Most cannot play outdoors freely, confined indoors on computer, online games virtual life affected by gadget radiation, isolation, inability to communicate properly. And stuck indoors, virtual world impractical lifestyle, frustrated some decline into depression, anger, without motivation to go outdoors these cycles makes them the victims of technology. Mental health problems develop in early childhood when person is a young adult. Three quarters of problems are established by the age of 24.Chart showing mental health problems in children and young people

An emphasis at the moment addresses childhood mental illness. In 2015, the government promised funding for child and adolescent mental health services would increase. The problem is now so severe one in six adults have mental health problems. A sixth of population in England aged 16 to 64 have a mental health problem, according to statistics body NHS Digital. Whether its family or friends, neighbours or work colleagues, the chances are we all know someone who is affected. Bearing in mind figure leaves out less common conditions and is a snapshot in time, you could easily argue it is even more prevalent than that. Indeed suffer extreme poverty also compounded by isolation loneliness.Graphic

Prime Minister Theresa May expected to announce plans to improve care next week, these 10 charts show the extent of challenges. As hidden disability tends to be noticed during psychotic episodes of breakdown. This means hard to spot in normal times of functioning. Pressure to conform to be normal as those without mental health further exacerbates their frustration triggering psychotic crises. Many become homeless increasing the homeless to 65% due to privatisation so unable to maintain home properly lose it. There is housing policy support for regular visits to help them cook, clean take their medications, left on their own without understanding of mental health issues. Picked on by some neighbours ignorant of mental health issues abused and thrown or hurt by them.042b44ffdc007352d1e97402e08d392d

Problems on increase

It seems to be getting more common or at least among those with severe symptoms. While the proportion of people affected does not appear to have risen in the past few years, if you go back a little further there has certainly been a steady increase.

Mental health funding

Extra money has also been earmarked for adult services in England. Together with investment in children’s services it means by 2020-21 £1.28bn more should be spent in real terms than was in 2015-16. Ministers say the money will be used to put mental health services in A & E, more crisis teams in the community and a focus on helping new mothers, with one in five reporting problems in the first year after birth of their baby. An analysis last year by the King’s Fund health think tank found 40% of mental health trusts in England had budgets cut in 2015-16.

Chart on mental health budget

The government is adamant things will change. They have to. While 23% of NHS activity is taken up by mental illness, mental health trusts receive 11% of funding in recent years. Investment is being made in other parts of the world. Wales and Scotland recently unveiled new plans. Mental health remains the poor cousin compared to the spending on physical ailments.

A nation of pillpoppers

The promise of investment has also been accompanied by desire to reshape services to quickly to access them. The government established the first set of waiting time targets for NHS in England in 2016. This means the health service should be providing access to talking therapies in 18 weeks and treatment for those experiencing their first episode of psychosis within two weeks for at least half of people. Northern Ireland, Wales and Scotland all have their targets too. But drugs are still most common form of treatment. The number of medicines dispensed for anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder and panic attacks has more than doubled in the past 10 years.

Chart showing antidepressant prescriptions

An increase in the numbers of people getting antidepressants is clearly a factor. But so too is the fact prescribing patterns have changed. Doctors much more likely to keep people on drugs for longer with evidence suggesting it is a more effective way of treating patients. But as common as antidepressants are, the fact remains the majority of people with mental illness report they are not getting help. Only one in three of those polled said they are receiving treatment according to NHS Digital.

More people confined

Care in the community project has shut down mental health centres and respite homes for CPNs to support people. For the first after social care was privatised mental health people are seen roaming about in tattered unkempt clothes some without shoes in freezing winter. Their state of mind means they are incapable of looking after themselves. Yet most are required to sign on look for work in such conditions. An insane person has hidden disabilities measured by if they ‘can talk, walk, answer phone then fit for work.’ High rates of non-treatment there is upwards trend in England in number of people being detained under the Mental Health Act. 5004cf79e0826e43e5031f53e0b8076aCampaigners say patients in crisis have enough treatment to stabilise them but sent home too early to ease pressure on beds. Those forced to work, threatened by loss of universal credit, although on medication clearly incapable do turn up for work totally unprepared in the work environment. Expected to perform like their counterparts in an unpredictable sometimes hostile workplace. Pressure to deliver targets and earn more profit means they are may be unable to be the best salesman. So further crushes their confidence, regularly told its a business not a charity to man up or leave. These problems are swept under the carpet or treat mental health patients in work place as lazy, stupid, incomprehensible and incompetent. There seems to be an assault on mental health with an effort to present a perfect image of a society without mental health sufferers. Its egotistical status to pretend mental health issues addressed fully and well provided for.IMG_20171219_114601 Frontline services on the field working tirelessly day and night to the support mental health people see a different reality. The family members living with mental health people often experience trauma, sadness, helplessness inability to help loved ones. And mental health is treated by society as embarrassment to often society confines in the basements hidden away from public view. Biased people insult or attack them, blaming them without caring understanding of the conditions or about their needs. The story of rain man, as the brainiest most intelligent person on earth quotes data than encyclopaedia supported by family for practical living needs daily hour by hour. Too much focus on brain alone is not enough to be used to measure good success in life. All mental health people unable to be a superstar like rain man with films made about them do not benefit from their condition. The most genius talented person’s mental issues require family support, community care and workplace support. Those capable of working must have a mental health advocate in each company to help guide staff to allocate suitable jobs to them. To educate, bring awareness to staff and to customers, clients about their condition in advance. Pressure for statistics to be best company must not be transferred to mental health sufferers. The well-being department if each centre, church, work must be available at all times staffed for ongoing support. Medications alone are not enough to treat mental health as the side effects cause more problems that affect some people to be worse off. This Christmas season show kindness to mental health people you never know Jesus may disguise himself as the least of society to prove your faith so help. Remember mental health affects all people from all walks of life including kings, queens, doctors, lawyers, great people so respect and value mental health people.

THE MEN DON’T WANT KIDS?

Men don’t want to repeat mistakes

The biggest reason I don't want to be a father is because I don't want to be a failure as a dad to the child the same way my dad was to me

Lots of patience some men don’t have

I tell everyone I don't want to be a dad because I can't afford it. Truth is, I've been a surrogate father before, and I had really bad anger issues. I'm afraid that I'd be an abusive father.

Some men have different life plans.

I feel like all the girls my age who are into me, already have kids. I feel bad but I can't date someone with a child because I don't want to be a father figure. It's just not for me.
WAS ADOPTED SO FELT UNWANTED 
I never want kids because I'm  adopted and I know how hard it is to feel unwanted. I wouldn't make a good father.ABANDONED SO NOT WANT KIDS
I don't want to be a father because I think I'll end up hating it and abandoning my kids.

Apples not fall far away from trees.

My partner doesn't understand I never want kids because I never want to end up turning out like my father.

NOT REALLY A FAN OF CHILDREN

I'm glad I'm gay because i hate children. i really hate children and i don't want to be a dad.

MAY RAISE KIDS AS WAS RAISED

I'm thinking about getting a vasectomy when I'm older because I don't want to be a dad and wouldn't want to raise kids like the way my father did to me
AFRAID MIGHT HURT CHILDREN 
The reason I don't want to be a father is because I'm afraid I'll hurt my child.

You don’t want to take this chance.

I secretly don't want to be a father because I'm scared I will be a horrible one.

Kids aren’t everyone’s cup of tea.

I never want kids..  Because to be honest, I don't even like kids.

Not everyone wants to be like parents

I tell people I never want kids because I don't like them. Truth is I am afraid a part of my father will come out and I will be cursed to be a terrible dad.

Has Real fears so avoids children.

I never want to be a father because mine was a complete failure, like his father, and probably his father.

 A Person’s Individuality is important

I never want kids because I don't want my whole identity to become "daddy." Among other reasons of course.

LIKES HAVING TIME TO HIMSELF

I'm a 25 year old man and I never want kids because I love having time to myself.

Some couples do not want kids

I never want kids because I've basically raised my siblings and I'm over it

Raising children lot of responsibility.

I tell people I never want kids because I hate them. The truth is that I don't want to be responsible for ruining their childhood. I couldn't live with myself knowing I screwed up

Health issues are a serious thing.

I never want kids, because I don't want to pass down my mental illness

Child pain lifelong commitment gain

I never want kids because they hold you back. As a dad you have to watch family movies, eat up at your money, don't let you travel and that's only the beginning...

Some couples do not want kids which is fair if they can afford to pay others to care for them in old age. However, deliberately refusing to bear children due to inconvenience they cause then get support from those who sacrificed to have children is interesting. This is a lifelong commitment. The real reasons men these days do not want kids are given as to why they do no want kids and others want children. Everyone has own reasons so men are opening up about why they do not want children. Not every man has a paternal instinct and desire to start a family as some men show. So not holding back in the honest confessions about why they don’t want kids in life.

Comments:-

It is good to talk to the men again in the future to reassess their current mindset. Talk to other men to discuss if they had such feelings or any regrets later in old age when it was too late. Do their real fears merit not enjoying being a parent? How about needing loved ones to look after them when older? Do they know people who live without children and managed to be alright in life? Certain decisions made precortex may not be always reversible years later.
Haven Alexander Kincaid
Not everyone NEEDS to have children to be fulfilled. Children are not the sole purpose for existing, thanks.
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Haven Alexander Kincaid
Plus if you’re only having kids to have someone to “look after you” when you’re old, you’re having kids for the wrong damn reason.
Like · Reply · Mark as spam · 5 · Dec 12, 2017 5:16pm
Menno van Oosten
Haven Alexander Kincaid Actually, from a biological standpoint, it is. All animals except humans die as soon as they reach the age where they cannot reproduce anymore.
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There’s a lot of patience involved that some men don’t have.

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I tell everyone I don't want to be a dad because I can't afford it. Truth is, I've been a surrogate father before, and I had really bad anger issues. I'm afraid that I'd be an abusive father.

Some men have different life plans.

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I feel like all the girls my age who are into me, already have kids. I feel bad but I can't date someone with a child because I don't want to be a father figure. It's just not for me.

He’s experienced pain.

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I never want kids because I'm  adopted and I know how hard it is to feel unwanted. I wouldn't make a good father.

Whoah.

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I don't want to be a father because I think I'll end up hating it and abandoning my kids.

This apple wants to fall far away from the tree.

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My partner doesn't understand I never want kids because I never want to end up turning out like my father.

Fatherhood isn

FINDING TRUE LOVE AGAIN

BLOG-ARIS-CAVES-3Find true love again if your friends are all coupled up is possible. If one key New Year’s resolution is again find yourself a relationship, where to start can become daunting. We find ourselves deep in the party season, when even those who are antisocial rest of the year feel obliged to enter the fray. If at no other moment one is compelled to meet people so as to commune, converse often suggestion of intimacy hovers alluringly in the air as surely as mull and the pine. Christmas is time for encounters, social interaction opportunities for a stable romantic love.Valentines_beach_620

And I know of what I speak. Three years ago, at the age of 43, I met my beloved at a Christmas party after years of living solo dream, including writing a column about being single. Still thinks of myself  as ‘professionally single’, despite loved one’s protestations. ‘How,’ people often constantly ask me, ‘did you pull it off?’ given I defied conventional platitudes by relishing my lone life, having a ball, not being particularly bent on ending, it then meeting chap perfect other women refer to him as ‘illusion dream unicorn.’

To my mind, the answer is not only just mere luck but avoiding these platitudes in the first place. Smug I most certainly am not. My relationship hope embraces the new circumstances recommended. Neither do I believe coupledom is for everyone. Cue my first tip…

Work out if needs finding love

It’s not always self-evident as a lot of people assume merely because they are single they must desire partner. Yet the message of behaviour may be entirely the opposite. A friend once informed me I was ‘ideologically single’ so was right. My relationship status wasn’t going to change until this did. Relationships are hard work a different sort of hard work to keeping the show on the road on one’s tod. There can be an ease to single living: a briskness and knowing where one is with it. Despite ability to act as a salve to loneliness one is never more lonelir than in the most difficult flailing, relationship. There are many ways of having love, companionship, and/or sex in your life, and different approaches may be appropriate to different stages of existence. Consider whether it is a partner that you want if it is act on it.

Cultivate a dazzling social life

If you are determined to stay solo not to become conjoined your single or social life is your life; if seeking a relationship, socialising will be means of achieving it. In either case, new blood  is all. Plus, it’s terrific fun. The majority of my closest alliances were forged when  I became single in my mid-30s and I would take a bullet for each and every one of those friends. They are far more involved in my life than friends of yesteryear; what a pal refers to as‘heritage friends’ (like ‘heritage tomatoes’, only frequently  less palatable).Hannah snaps a selfie with her boyfriend, Terence Hannah snaps selfie with her boyfriend, Terence. A lawyer who unhappily single for 15 years, invariably barks, ‘I don’t need friends. I have enough friends. So what is needed is a boyfriend, wonders why she never meets someone, while spending time boring with the same two couples from her university days. The One, or even merely A.N. Other, is not going to appear on doorstep by way of some benevolent deus ex machina. If going to have to put the work in: meet people, risk vulnerability, put yourself out there. Falling back on the argument you ‘never meet anyone’ means you have only yourself to blame. What are you doing about it? Now? Tonight? I get it. I’m a closet introvert myself,  but introverts want to have intimacy. Take some responsibility and get off solo life.

Embrace change for partner

Not only do you have to work at it, you also have to work on yourself as we all do, single or enmeshed, at every age. In the main, single individuals know love is best if people considerably sane like coupled friends, active, self-sufficient, stay on their toes, without an ounce of co-dependency in them. In respect of a few situations, it is immediately obvious why someone is alone, despite repeated attempts to be otherwise. Personally, I needed to stop drinking after a lifetime of raucous carousing. I was 90 days sober the night I met my beloved, and he would have run a mile had this not been the case, as I would be in direction of the next inveterate party animal. So by removing drink blinkers allowed our eyes to meet mine in focus.Honeymoon-couple-romance-and-love-at-beach-1024x576

Finding myself non-plastered while all about me were revelling, I thought, ‘I’m going to talk to most handsome man in room,’ proceeded to do so. A friend said was ‘ideologically single’ so relationship status will not change until embraces compromise for change to include the partner in life. It turned out being hot, clever, kind, witty, generous, entirely sans baggage, and shared interest in literary theory. When another chap (my usual type, a lewd and lovable drunk) endeavoured to go home with me, I had wits to decline and to secure handsome ashing man’s number. Only by altering  the habits of a lifetime could this fateful encounter take place. Three chief single bleaters acquaintance driven away put frankly is exhausting maniac, a swivel-eyed neurotic, and a carping bitch. It’s difficult to be around them let alone as lover.  All badly need therapy; all refuse to countenance it. As it is often said, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.’ See yourself as others see you, consider doing things required differently to have good success.valentines-Image-by-Pexels-CC0

Don’t settle for less in life

As a woman, one is constantly being fed that bullshit about being more likely to be blown up in a terrorist attack than meet your partner over the age of 40 etc etc. And it is what it is. Moreover, later life has potential for far more satisfying relationships: you’ve been around the block, know who you are, and you’re 4,000 times more fascinating than you were at 25. Plus, 400,000 times better at sex. My ex-boyfriend and I could have settled not separated when in my 30s. Having the guts to call it a day meant both met people more compatible with. He got together with the love of his life shortly afterwards. Meanwhile, I got to have time of my life. By way of bonus we didn’t kill each other. When I was 40, met some bore at party, wine-fugged, unfaithful to his wife informed me I will only find someone broken as divorcé or some sort of failure’. I refer him to the hot Disney prince scored 3 fun-filled years later.shutterstock_105487772-557

Enjoy life daily though single!

For legions, going solo is a dream. Even those less enamoured will be forced to admit it has its moments. However,  the trouble with single life for those who aim to be out of it is that one never knows when it might end. If only it were akin to gardening leave: a few months’ dazzling hedonistic licence before getting stuck back into the old routine. I say ‘trouble’, but it is also its brilliance. For, really, there is nothing like setting  forth on a glacial December evening, not knowing where the night’s adventures will lead you, or with whom they will be hazarded. So, put your soul into it, to be sure, relax, uncoil, enjoy. If you happen to find love and entwined, single are the days you will look back on with nostalgia. So make the most of it and your life is not worth less because you are single. You are precious to God and Jesus Christ so love yourself first and other people until you find love.

Originally published in Telegraph