Parents of eldest daughter said she falls in love all the time but ends up disappointed and bitter. She is in her late thirties waiting her knight in a shining white armour and will he appear? Why can’t she settle down with the nice young men she meets? The time between her relationships seem to be growing longer parents worried she might end up without anyone. Is there anything they can do to help their daughter? Most of her generation seems to settle down with families. Her parents wondered if they could have done things differently to help her make better choice in her decision of looking for her dream spouse. They find themselves not getting through to her without seeming as putting her under pressure. They see her disappointed and disillusioned but unable to help her. She is a beautiful woman in a stable job and would make a good wife to any decent man looking for a stable family. Despite her good character and hardwork cannot focus on any of the men interested in her. The parents thinking is she investing time in unrealistic ideal romantic love? Are her standards too high and too demanding impossible to meet her needs? Parents seem to have more questions than any answers. They have their ups and downs but try to be good example as a couple raising siblings of three children. Prior to dating is a happy and a level headed woman with no concerns of her career. Is she too comfortable in her family not to let go to start her own? As older generations invested in their children support them to make wise choices to decide their future. Does she wants Mr Perfect perhaps? As God said its not good to be alone HE gave Eve to Adam as wife.
Despite God’s input the marriage had problems ended being thrown out of the Garden of Eden. They looked for a higher unrealistic standard to be like God. Is romantic fantasy love looking for potential spouse to be like God? Or encouraged by false images of romance selling distorts real life requirement of marriage? Does delusions of a perfect soul mate affect human’s challenging expectations some have. Does it create undue pressure on some men to feel they are not good enough. Some sophisticated women want men to behave in a certain way as if their happiness depends on them? Makes some lives miserable and sad despite great potential. Mindsets need to change with regard to the true meaning of a marriage in terms of expectation. Many modern relationships fall apart under such a pressure if romantic relationship is not what was expected. It seems no room for human frailty in ‘romantic’ love generation. So set themselves up to regret or resent if perfect mate turns is ‘human.’ Some may not recognize their true mate God intended for them because they are looking for a Mr/Mrs perfect who does not exist. Their daughter is an adult who needs their love, support, counsel not asked “why aren’t you still married it may sound like a criticism pray for her as Christian parents. 
The daughter’s relationship with God strengthen her in her inner Spirit to follow God’s will in her life. Its possible their daughter may choose not to marry. Parents support adult child’s feeling of what is best for them to help them look for their spouse. Hold your peace no matter what their future might hold be there for your daughter. At times younger siblings do marry before eldest ones so let go and let God bless your family. Let God’s will be done and not your own. Help your daughter to learn great wisdom in experiencing God’s PEACE in her life. If your daughter doesn’t talk with you about this subject let it go don’t bring it up. Love, celebrate her life don’t mention marriage sometimes its the best approach to help her. Pray diligently to God for her righteous prayers are VERY powerful. Bible says prayer of the righteous person reaches God in heaven. If appropriate pray with a trusted close friend/s or family member/s for her. Father God loves your daughter, remembers her HIS ways are higher than our ways HIS thoughts above our thoughts in Isaiah 58:8. God’s timing is the best so trust HIM! Pray with thanksgiving and bless your daughter you love even married or not. May our Heavenly Father answer prayer for the desires of your beloved daughter to come to pass. Lean on God in Christ in Jesus Name.
In Deuteronomy 22:13-21 in Bible father presents evidence his daughter is virgin on her wedding night. This evidence is proved by “virginity cloth” shown to all elders and is kept by bride’s family. God instructed all families to do so to protect their daughters. The Bible says if after a man marries a virgin but in future tries to berate her virginity cloth is brought to REMIND him their virgin daughter was deflowered by him. The public sees cloth on wedding night as witnesses to testify if the husband tries to insult her family their daughter was not pure. In oral tradition societies the elders see it as proof so virginity cloth token testifies against the husband trying to put away his wife on the grounds she was not a virgin. They also fine that husband for blackmailing his wife and his in laws. In such communities if the man gets rid of his wife with/out children they are seen as “second hand damaged” goods. Most men want only virgins to marry though they sow their wild oats creating double standards. These are men allowed to run wild but their women must be virgins. It is such double standards that makes those men want young children as wives considered pure and so young, not slept around. In communities where marriage was often the only way out for women to become productive members of society a father watches daughters 24/7 chaperoned by family to maintain the dignity of family not to disgrace the family honour. 
Traditional societies DO NOT DATE they marry. Liberal societies promote right to sex from 16 years onwards by a mutual consent without MARRIAGE strange to traditional communities. Sex education in schools or social media culture online of people in different places have their opposing views. Liberals feel traditional societies deprive people of the freedom of choice to enjoy sex without strings. To traditional societies liberals seem as promiscuous so treating people as their objects of sexual gratification disposed of for another. So fathers watching their daughters seem cruel kill joy depriving daughter from exploring the varities of men to chose the right one as husband. Without understanding of this Biblical origin of virginity cloth token its easy to condemn or judge those exercising their Godly duty of care required to protect virgin daughters. Liberal secular society views it invasion of privacy of women but don’t realise it is a sound Biblical doctrine of God to protect all societies. Women not wanted after husbands take a younger trophy wives are abandoned. Children from families suffer neglect as consequence but society promotes free sex but does not support children born out of wedlock. Inadequately provided for and treated as second class citizens. Liberal promote indulgence free sex but not same zeal dedicated to taking care of the children treated as commodities.
A woman violated is forgiven by God so to be married to perpetrator because in such cultures nobody wants to marry her if her past is known. It was to teach men they could not get away from their trespassing to get married to another virgin. This was the case of Dina Jacob’s daughter when they tried to marry her but the family felt disrespected. Sought revenge instead in Genesis for rape and killed the men, destroyed whole village. Her violation by Shechem, Canaanite or Hivite prince is subsequent vengeance of her brothers Simeon and Levi. Rape of Dinah in Genesis 34:1-34 echoes the revenge killing by Absalom for rape of his sister Tamar by King David’s son her half brother Ammon. Tamar, tricked to bring food to eat was not married by him. Tamar raped in 2 Samuel 13:1-22 in Bible is daughter of King David. And Absalom killed Ammon in 2 Samuel 13-23-38 for rape by half-brother Amnon two years later. 
In Deuteronomy 22:17 it’s evidence used to challenge a husband discrediting her family. When he goes around saying she is not a virgin so wants to divorce her a family brings the tokens of a daughter’s virginity. And spreads the cloth before elders of the city. 
Globalised enforced liberal secular view contradict God’s laws practiced in some traditional regions of the world. Despite their freedom of choice to have free sex as one pleases, whenever one wants, by any person chosen, its not Biblical. And there’s in NO SET AGE BY GOD IN BIBLE to indulge in free sex without marriage. God is the author and the originator of marriage although the world had own views, opinions and its ways. It is very important to educate people God treats human body as HIS Holy Holy Temple for HIS Spirit to dwell in. God demands keeping HIS laws though secular people do not feel bound by Godly laws. But a day will come God will demand sccojbt whether one is religious or secular God the creator of all human beings is going to huff all people one day. Alhough the human laws enable people to indulge freely in sex to break hymen of virgins as they please, girls are God’s property so God will judge abuse of children for fun and freshly gratification. Virgins are mocked or treated as weirdos for being righteous but that is how God created all people. Bible says there will come a time people will ridicule others calling evil ‘good’ and calling good ‘evil.’ The young people must be taught to know and understand God’s laws not just one sided laws enabling perverts to take the advantage of such naive children in the Name of love. Some take delight hurting children to rape them as a sign of power but this is not Biblical from God’s point view. Sin is like a credit card, enjoy now pay later. God sees secret things and HE is Judge to account to in future one day.
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