Briggs recollected in her landmark 1971 book “Never in Anger,” about how calm and collected everyone was jarcontrast that created against her own unruly emotions. Even when some truly rage-worthy things happened like a teapot falling and smashing against floor the Inuit never betrayed a hint of anger. An “Emotional control is highly valued among Eskimos,” she wrote in the book. Indeed, maintenance of emotions under trying circumstances is essential sign of maturity, of adulthood.” Why so calm, she wondered? And more importantly, how can the rest of us get there? For the answer, Briggs looked to how children responded in difficult circumstances appeared to be something they learned from their parents. An simple parenting technique of Inuit is “Never scold child.” It became clear to Briggs when a young boy threw rock at her, related in a CBC interview, she didn’t berate him angrily, rather told him calmly it hurt. Instead of rage she told him real consequences of his actions caused her pain. Decades later, the writer Michaeleen Doucleff followed in Briggs’ footsteps in visiting Iqaluit, Canada, “in search of parenting wisdom. Said that teaching children to control their emotions is very important she writes in NPR. Doucleff found that a common strand among Inuit parents is: Across the board all mothers mentioned One Golden Rule: Don’t shout or yell at small children.”Among Inuit Arctic community Doucleff found the people practiced the theory that screaming at a child only teaches the child to scream. It is a vicious circle, the University of Pittsburgh researcher Ming-Te Wang noted in a 2013 study. “It is tough call for parents because it goes both ways: the problem behaviours of children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline. That harsh discipline may push adolescents toward the same problem behaviours.” The Inuit society seems to have learned lessons long ago, and managed to break the cycle. And so “Traditional Inuit parenting incredibly is nurturing, gentle, tender,” as Doucleff writes. “If you took all parenting styles around the world and ranked them by their gentleness, Inuit approach would likely rank near the top.” What kind of children does that society produce? The kind who live harmoniously in world’s harshest climates often with threadbare resources. Survival hinges on making the most efficient use of natural world yet group still manages to be at peace with itself and with others. Maybe that’s because it’s also the kind of society that teaches kindness above all else. Jesus said do not let the sun radiate or set on your anger. Let it go for peace of mind.
A 5 years old Lina Marcela Medina de Jurado is the YOUNGEST MOTHER IN WORLD HISTORY. So talk to CHILDREN about pregnancy as a result of a sexual intercourse unaware of as too young to be told details of life. Boys and girls can be taught in a sensible way to educate them in advance. Born in 23 September 1933 the Peruvian CHILD is youngest confirmed mother in medical history at 5years, 7months, and 21 days. She later married spouse Raúl Jurado in 1970s so had 2 children. Was born and lived in Ticrapo, Castrovirreyna Province Peru. Her parents are a silversmith Tiburelo Medina and Victoria Losea. Taken to a hospital by her parents at the age of five years due to increasing abdominal size, thought is tumor but doctors confirmed she was in her seven months pregnant. Dr Gerardo Lozada took Medina to Lima specialists who confirmed pregnancy. It generated interest in case developed so girl’s expected visit to the U.S. university scientific facilities as San Antonio Light newspaper Texas reported 16 July, 1939.Peruvian national obstetrician/ midwife association wanted the girl to be transported to a national maternity hospital. Lozada made films of Medina for scientific research shown on the 21 April address, Peru’s National Academy of Medicine. A month and half later she gave birth by caesarean section to boy due to her small pelvis. The surgery was performed by Lozada, Dr Busalleu, with Dr Colareta providing anaesthesia. The doctors who performed caesarean to deliver her baby found she had mature sexual organs of a precocious puberty. Her case was reported by Dr. Edmundo Escomel in medical journal La Presse Médicale, including detailed menarche at eight months of age. Some said she had regular periods since three years old, according to others at two and half years old. Medina’s son weighed 2.7 kg (6.0 lb; 0.43 st) at birth, named Gerardo after her doctor. Gerardo was raised as Medina’s sister, but found out at the age of 10 she was his mother. Medina never reveals father of child or circumstances of her impregnation sits here with son.
Escomel said that she might not know as Medina ‘didn’t give precise response.’ Lina’s father was arrested on suspicion of child sexual abuse but released due to lack of evidence so biological father was never identified. Her son grew up healthy and died in 1979 at 40 years old. Medina worked as a secretary in Lima clinic of Lozada who gave her education and put her son through high school. Medina married Raúl Jurado, who fathered second son in 1972. In 2002, they lived in a district of Lima, “Chicago Chico refused interview with Reuters. A lot of doctors verified biopsies, X rays of fetal skeleton in utero, and photographs taken by doctors caring for her around beginning of April 1939 of Medina at 7-and-half months pregnant with left side standing naked published. In 1955, effects of a precocious puberty shows the five-year-old girl could conceive a child. Extreme precocious pregnancy in children aged five or under is not well documented as Medina. A study shows precocious children at four hormones acting sexually seductive but treated to keep them under control. The lesson is parents do not feel embarrassed to talk about sex to children or to assume they are too young to understand. The details of birth in documentaries on TV with so much information highway children are aware. Educate children early about the private body parts and prevent sexual ignorance and naive pregnancies of the children having children.
The Modern Bible Jonah, is the South African marine conservationist who has narrowly survived after being caught in the jaws of a whale. Rainer Schimpf, 51, was swept into the mouth of a large Bryde’s whale off the coast of the South African town of Port Elizabeth while snorkelling and filming a sardine run last month. Looming up out of darkness below came a Bryde’s whale shooting up into the ball of fish, gulping all in its path, as he told AFP, adding that his legs were hanging from mammal’s mouth during incident at end of February. And Rainer Schimpf, said he went back into the water straight after incident. Schimpf’s wife, Silke, a photographer watched on in horror from their boat, chartered to watch the sardines which creates a marine feeding frenzy off Africa’s southern coast. “I felt pressure around my waist and I immediately knew what happened. It accidentally included me in its mouth together with its main meal the sardines.” Schimpf, an award-winning conservationist with 20 years’ experience, said the ordeal lasted a “matter of seconds”rather than three nights Jonah spent in whale’s stomach, according to the Bible story.Whale realised mistake so opens mouth releasing me. I was washed out with what felt like tonnes of water from its mouth,” he said. Bryde’s whales can weigh up to 30 tons when mature and typically eat krill and fish. When he finally reached the surface he took a breath and rejoined fellow snorkelers who were unaware of the unfolding drama. “We swam back to the vessel, climbed up and checked if I and the camera were OK with no broken bones, no cracked ribs all was good,” he said. I was so “Pumped up with adrenaline and not wanting to miss the bait ball action, I went back into the sea this time looking for sharks,” he added with a smile. Schimpf extensively documented Orcas killing dolphins and their hunting behaviour. Is an authority on sardine tracking and predators that follow the sardine runs. Schimpf is undeterred following his narrow escape, telling AFP that “if I was to be reborn, I would like to come back as a whale.” Like Jonah’s miracle another story of modern event happened to this woman fished in sea. This miracle happened in Ghana when fishermen caught this woman alive in the sea trapped in the net while fishing. The woman said a stranger took her to a beach in a taxi so it’s a miracle that she survived three days in sea. She was free to go for refusing to turn to a mermaid. She is a modern-day Jonah found in the deep-sea waters and so survived human ritual sacrifice gone wrong. Said she met a stranger who took taxi and asked any nearby hotel with a seafront beach. In taxi to hotel nearby he administered substance to numb her senses she found herself inside the sea. Then a mermaid told her to join her in the sea but she refused so was told she must leave the sea. It was then she found herself in the net caught by the fishermen in Ghana. She was sacrificed by the stranger who thinks her life thrown away into the sea will be offering to gain the ritual money called sakawa. Lazy people want money for doing nothing deceived to murder innocent victims for ‘money’ rituals. Not knowing they are recruited by the devil to be destroyed by committing murder. God’s Creation will be given account for on judgement day and go to hell if they do not repent. Do hard work, live within your means it’s the best policy for your life not envy and jealousy to copy other people. The root of all evil is the greedy LOVE of money by those who do not love fellow human beings because evil spirits deceive them. Nobody brought anything into the world, no matter how rich they will take nothing out of world except your spirit soul back to God. So important to value all precious lives to preserve life not to kill for money. The Bible says in John 10:10 the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy but Jesus comes to give life to give life more abundantly in Jesus Name. The eternal life in God’s Kingdom is more precious than all gold, silver, diamonds and rubies. Why gain the whole world and lose your soul for material things of no value in heaven?
Paedophiles from word paedophilia in Greek παῖς, παιδός (paîs, paidós) means “child”and φιλία (philía) “friendly love” or “friendship.” Paedophile is a pervert with exclusive sexual interest in young children aged 15 or younger. Abuser misconstrues it as ‘love’ to rape children but its lust not love. A sexually abused child is innocent, too young, too naive, incapable of understanding the emotional damage consequences of abuser’s mind control manipulations. Stockholm syndrome grooming uses lies to deceive child as, “special” “chosen” told “family does” not love them by rogue priests or bishops and cardinals sworn to secrecy. Church goers molested by their trust in them to invest in their faith in God. The child rapist takes advantage of genuine agape love of the innocent children who don’t know about adult sexual abuse. In the name of “love” paedophiles wrongly think its “childlove.” Word Paedo, ‘child’ + philos ‘love’ is sexual abuse disguised as ‘love’ camouflages masquerading adult embedded in family wedged between innocent children and family. Pervert seduces children by stirring an unsuspecting sexual feeling preserved for adult legal age for sex. This addictive attachment misleads the child to “fall in love” with predator for abuse. Child lacks frontal brain cortex of logical reasoning skill to understand the risk or the full consequences of their actions. They mimic their molestor deceiving them and infused by distorted perception of “love” makes the innocent child loyal to the predator. But does not realise the deception is not normal. Join with impudence in secrecy of ignorance as it appears normalised by interaction in family feel guilty by association to let go of abuser. Truly think they “love” abuser but the child is unaware of damage so defends abuser even more seemingly ‘loved’ and adored by them and others. Abuser uses fear tactics and tears to lure a child to sympathise influencing their thought process by brainwashing. Their “love” is overshadowed by denial to protect each other from a perceived threat of society to ruin their exclusive ‘love’ attachment. Genuine, natural, caring agape affection of children is sound foundation of God’s LOVE but the pervert takes advantage of them. An innocent child is ignorant of sex, unaware of motives of child rapists. God’s LOVE if practiced in truth without perversion is the best gift child receives to grow in confidence and thrive. Sadly innocent naive child thinks their love is based on equal, sincere affection. They assume abuser’s exclusive love for them is unique, so special but ‘love’ interest is for sexual abuse. They exploit innocent children who know nothing about sex but love attention. Leads to intimacy as misled for selfish sexual gratification by abuser. Genuine love of child perceived by distorted twisted pervert as ‘consent’ for sex but its mere normal interaction of family. The caring, loving parent has implicit trust so expects genuine mutual affection of others for their children. Their sincere loving care is duly entrusted to ensure due diligence in the best interest of their child. But the dark web of sexual abuse predators use pornography, undermine seriousness of rape. The trivial attitude towards sexual abuse competition to exchange gross or daring inappropriate photos of sexual abuse perpetrates it.Fear of being exposed or consequences of declaring their evil actions makes an abuser to place guilt on the child to hide their evil deeds. But its a bad move to blackmail the child with the burden of secrets to hold the child to ransom by manipulations. This is a complex web of mixed messages of lust misinterpreted to the child as “love.” And so the children become emotionally attached to adult perpetrators as “good people” who ‘love’ them. Exclusive negative attention to them makes them think they are, “one and only one” in a perverts life unaware other children are told exact same lies to keep hold on them all. Pervert abuses children by their cunning brainwashing power of control due to the insecurity of their mind so not a mutual relationship of two consenting adults. The legal age requires minimum age of consent for sex between adults depending on a country. The child does not know laws forbid sex between adult and children under legal age. The legal sexual age for consent is 18 years in other countries 21 years. Then 5 years old girl is youngest mother in Guinness book of record to get pregnant is reason campaigners of sex education start from five years in primary schools to warn children about sexual abuse. So those children sexually molested knew nothing about sex or the grooming by a pervert who raped them. Adults force a child to keep their ‘little dirt secret’ because they know they will be jailed for raping children but a child must not carry burden of brainwashing.Its important to train the child to wash their own private body parts by three years old. Not touched inappropriately, and to teach them not to be in bedroom, bathroom, anywhere alone without the parent present. They deceive the child to deny allegation but they still continue perversion. The innocent child does not understand impact of abuse until after adulthood. Reed tells the BBC, he hopes his film makes all parents to think twice before entrusting child to strangers and make people think twice about idolising cult of celebrity.” Prepare children not to keep secrets or be a favourite special secret friend no matter how famous or generous. And Reed said, “Celebrity cult is so pernicious and leads people to go blind and parents to do stupid things,” says Dan Reed, the director of the new Michael Jackson documentary. Parents do not know motive of pervert so avoid even the appearance of evil entrusting your child to nobody. Be ruthless not to compromise control of your child by an expensive gifts to distract them from an alertness and their sharp focus. Abuse has occurred hundreds of hundreds of times to Mr Robson and Mr Safechuck as agreed in this case. Mr Robson told the programme: “Every time I was with him, every time I stayed the night with him, he abused me.” Jackson fondled him, “touching my entire body,” made him watch the singer performing a sex act, he said. And then, when he was 14, Jackson had tried to rape him. That was one of the last sexual abuse experiences we had,” Mr Robson told programme.Leaving Neverland, Wade Robson here says Jackson sexually abused him in the 1990s Jackson groomed him to believe they “loved each other as God approves how we show our love” he said. So why use “Jesus juice” laced by alcohol or God knows what, to influence their minds. A True love is public agreement including public approval by loved ones. Anyone taking advantage to rape a child knows they are breaking the law so conceal it. But deceives children to think they love them above all else in the world. “And then he would immediately follow-up with, ‘But If anybody else ever found out what we are doing, you and I would go to jail for the rest of our lives and our lives would fall apart,’ he so I would fall apart,” Mr Robson told programme. “All of this was terrifying to me. “The idea of being pulled away from Michael – this man, this other-worldly figure, this god to me who had become my best friend – no way was I going to do anything that would pull me away from him.” And Mr Robson said Jackson told him “I was his best friend and the only person he ever done these sexual acts with.” Out of all the boys in the world was chosen one, I thought,” he said. Mr Safechuck told the programme his abuse had begun with Jackson teaching him how to perform a sex act, at the age of 10. “Then you start French kissing he said taught him to do that,” Mr Safechuck said. Was followed by further abuse and other sex acts.Mr Safechuck told the program Jackson abused him over a sustained period of time because he successfully groomed his parents. There was a long grooming process where Michael inserts himself into your family and becomes a part of your family,” he said. “It takes him a while to build up the trust so it doesn’t happen overnight.” And he then “makes a wedge between you and your parents to isolate you from everybody else.”
“At the same time when you’re being abused also a part of you is dying,” Mr Safechuck added. Mr Robson described Jackson as a “master manipulator.” He had driven “this wedge between myself and my father, and my mother and my father” to make it easier for the abuse to occur, he told the programme. He also said part of responsibility for the abuse should fall “at the door of other people, all the employees around Michael and me and James [Safechuck] all the time who looked the other way.”‘Very innocent’ Is the response, Michael Jackson’s brothers Tito, Marlon, Jackie, and nephew Taj Jackson who reject the claims in Leaving Neverland broadcast in UK the singer abused children. Taj said his uncle’s behaviour seems odd to some is “very innocent,” adding: “its his naivety that was his downfall.” Marlon said, “not one piece of evidence” backs up allegations. Michael Jackson’s estate, said Mr Robson and Mr Safechuck had previously “testified under oath these events never occurred.” “They provided no independent evidence or absolutely no proof in support of their accusations, which means entire film hinges solely on the word of two perjurers,” it said. A crime of raping children is punished In prison and after release their identity is hidden from the public who may attack or want to kill them. In prison are killed by offenders because it’s most heinous crime against innocent vulnerable child. This is why abuser refuses to admit guilt to the public because they know it will destroy their reputation and relationships with friends and family. They lose status and are hated for molesting children, it is so difficult for sexual predators to admit guilt. Their distorted perception makes them feel rape is justified as a mutual “consent” by the child they raped. Their attitude is, by the parents allowing them to be with child it means they approved of their actions. Why would the grown adult would want to rape a child in the name of love. This is gross misconduct and lack of understanding of purpose of sexual intimacy in the context of loving relationship. The mutual consent of two people without substance abuse to bend the mind of vulnerable victims. The law forbids predators from forcing sex upon others without their permission. But the problem is predators do not understand the rights of other people. So they think they can have whatever they want any time whenever they want. They do not genuinely care about victims as long their selfish pervert actions take place. No pervert admits abuse unless caught red handed so its impossible to witness a concealed sexual abuse hidden from view. Those defending perverts have no clues about that side of their personality so shocked to hear of the horrific rapes by them. The victim is victimized too for daring to speak their truth so refuses to put perpetrators behind bars. They feel guilty for betraying sexual escapades in which they partook. Fearful, ashamed of their reputation being tarnished and unfairly wrongly judged as liars with an agenda of looking for money. Often too embarrassed to reveal the abuse, people do not understand the emotional abuse, nightmares haunting survivors for the rest of their lives. No amount of money of their instigators’ compensation can wipe out trauma of sexual abuse which affects marriage relationship intimacy in adulthood. Perpetrators do not know or realise they upset too many people so their damage destroys the life of victims and families including the perpetrator’s loved ones. This does not mean victims to be prevented from educating others to warn them to be more careful in life. Its wise to seek forgiveness on behalf of loved ones for inner healing and peace.Joyce Meyer, Oprah Winfrey and Maya Angelo, Billy Connelly and Dame Esther Rantzen, all spoke about their sexual abuses suffered, as she revealed for the first time in 2011, publicly talk about it and still manage to be successful in life. Don’t let abuse define your life to hurt yourself. Genesis 34:34 tells of the rape Dinah Jacob’s only daughter to visit Canaanite women. And Shechem son of Hamor, the Hivite and chief of region, saw her and raped her…Prince Shechem disgraced Dinah and Jacob’s sons killed Shechem and whole village for revenge. Shechem wants to marry Dinah, whole village told to circumcise to marry her. The circumcision ploy demobilised the village tricked for Dinah’s violation and brothers Simeon and Levi’s killed men. These brother’s extreme measures for vengeance for their sister Dinah’s rape is done by some people who practice it. The damage done by rape is violation of human rights and emotional damage is a lifetime of trauma. Be aware of consequences of pain for whole familyIn 2 Samuel 13-20, Amnon son of David raped his half-sister Tamar a virgin and Absalom’s sister. She said, do not force me; for such a thing is not done in Israel; do not do anything so vile. But he did not listen to her and stronger than her forced her and raped her. Absalom told Tamar, be quiet do not take it to heart…Tamar remained a desolate woman in brother Absalom’s house in 2 Samuel 13:11-12, 14, 20. Absalom later killed Ammon in revenge. In the past victims told to keep abuse secret because nobody will marry her and it brought shame to the family. In talk show TD Jake’s of Potters House said sexual abuse is so rampart that the question is there anyone not sexually abused? It shows many people dealing with rape and healing comes in Christ Jesus who came to heal broken heated. The Spirit of the LORD God is upon me, because the LORD anointed me and sent me to bring Good News to the oppressed, to heal the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to captives and release prisoners to provide for those who mourn in Zion to give them joy for ashes, oil of gladness for mourning, praise for the fainthearted. Are oaks of righteousness planted by the LORD to display HIS GLORY says Isaiah 61:1, 3. Survivors of rape sexual abuse carry wounds into adulthood but Jesus Christ heals the wounded. Isaiah 61:1,3 brings transformation healing through Redeemer Jesus Christ. God heals so breaks silence with HIS Light of hope to be joyful in life again in Jesus Name.
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Andy Shelley says his time on parental leave was “eye-opening.” Following the release of a poll which suggested 27% of mothers did not enjoy their maternity leave as much as they thought they would, parents have been sharing their experience of parental leave – both good and bad. Some people got in touch after following BBC Radio 5 Live presenter Emma Barnett’s open and honest account of her time away from work looking after her baby son, a time which she described as being “bloody hard and at times, lonely.” So what’s it like to be the one who stays at home and looks after the baby? Three parents share their very different experiences. The good, the bad and unexpected child care needs. ‘I thought my partner was just off work.’ Andy Shelley’s girlfriend gave birth to their daughter in March and the couple decided to take shared parental leave. Prior to making choice, Andy’s partner had been looking after their daughter while he worked 12-hour days. “It was difficult because I felt like I wasn’t doing enough,” he says. Thirty-year-old Andy took over full-time care for two months in July, but admits he was not aware just how much work was involved in staying home and looking after his daughter. “Initially I thought parental leave would be a nice break from work but it wasn’t easy. “Some days she would be upset and I just didn’t know what to do. Your entire day revolves around feeds. It becomes a full-time job in itself. “I would be happy when my partner came home from work as it meant I could have a break.” The Stoke-On-Trent resident says his experience of parental leave was important as he realised how much his girlfriend had been doing when he thought she was “just off work.” “It made me appreciate everything she had done and ultimately cemented my relationship with my daughter. “It’s a shame more fathers don’t take parental leave as it really opens your eyes and you realise what your partner deals with.”‘I made sure I kept busy’Sandrine Charpentier said “clear vision” for her maternity leave and made sure its “wonderful experience.” Sandrine Charpentier, from Hayes in Kent, says her maternity leave with both of her daughters, now aged six and nine, was a “really positive experience.” Despite not knowing many people where she lived, Sandrine made sure she wasn’t isolated by booking a different activity every day. “We would do baby swimming, yoga, singing and play groups. It motivated me to get dressed and get out of the house. “The whole time I was really tired but I thought that was just part of the job. “It was great to meet people, be social and talk about our experiences. I was really happy during that time and it was great for my daughters.” As much as she enjoyed her maternity leave, the mum-of-two admits it was nice to return to work. “Being at work was like a holiday because I was free to do what I wanted. I didn’t have somebody glued to me all the time. “It was good to do something different, to meet people and not talk about nappies and babies all the time.” ‘It’s difficult to be accepted as a stay-at-home dad’People were shocked when Craig Smith said he was going to be a stay-at-home father Craig Smith, 42 in Staffordshire became stay-at-home dad to daughter, Matilda, in January when she was eight months old. His wife has a high-level job so they decided that it would be best for him to give up work and focus on their daughter’s early years. “I was very up for the challenge as I’ve always wanted children, but I didn’t really think about what was involved in being a full-time dad. “Sometimes it’s hard because all Matilda wants is her mum.” Craig says his experience made him realise there is not enough support for stay-at-home dads. “I tried to integrate with local playgroups, but the mums can be quite cliquey and it’s very difficult for a dad to be accepted. “A lot of mum-and-baby groups say fathers are welcome but in reality it’s not like that – the mums can be quite cold.” Craig is planning on going back to work part-time when Matilda starts nursery, but says he feels anxious at the prospect of returning to normality. “It feels like my brain has been conditioned to sing to Peppa Pig or nursery rhymes. The thought of carrying out serious and responsible tasks within a role kind of scares me.
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