Woman dumped by her husband-to-be because she was too late and missed her £12k wedding. Nichola Tuohy blames a nightmare list of disasters for missing her dream wedding and accidentally leaving her fiancé at the altar. The bride was so late that she missed her dream wedding. Mum of three accidentally jilted fiancé Darren Ferne at the altar and made it in time for the reception so where he stormed out on her. Nichola and fiancé Darren Ferne are no longer together because Nichola blames it on a catalogue of problems of the make-up disaster, forgetting daughter’s flower girl dress and bridesmaid drop out for missing £12,000 wedding planned for 17 months. She said: “I wish rehearsal the night before was the real thing. “It was perfect and now we’d be man and wife. “It was my fault. I got so overwhelmed with things to do on day so meltdown. I feel like I have lost everything.”Overwhelmed mother of three went to the reception, after missing ceremony, with her dress in the boot of the car. So Groom Darren, 40, a customer services adviser, said: “We would probably still be together now if our wedding hadn’t been ruined. “It’s not the kind of thing you can get over easily.” The couple met online in September 2014 and Darren proposed five weeks later. Nichola said: “I was in love and blown away, but it was too soon. So when he asked again three months later, on Valentine’s Day 2015, said yes. He was my perfect man.”The bridge panicked when she realised there were no seat belts in the vintage car she was supposed to ride to church in with youngest children. Her children Alexander, 20, Grace Isabella, eight, and seven-year- old Max. Both planned their wedding for 80 guests on July 9, 2016. So the day before wedding, care worker Nichola, from Hornchurch, Essex, took her place next to Darren at the church to rehearse ceremony. Nichola said: “When vicar said, ‘You may kiss the bride’ and Darren kissed me, I felt ecstatic. “It had gone perfectly and the best part was we got to do it all again for real the next day.” The make-up session booked at a local department store took longer than she accounted for. Nichola said: “The next morning I woke with a huge panic about how much I had to do.” First on her list was make-up, booked at a local department store but it took longer than she had allowed for. She said: “When it was done it didn’t look like me, wanted to cry. I felt like an extra from Towie.” With 90 minutes to go, she rushed home to wash it off and do it herself. When she got home she found her parents and two youngest children still there.Nichola accidentally left Darren at alter, after meeting online in September 2014. She said her parents, did not approve of the marriage so decided they were not going. She packed the kids into the car to drive them to the hotel to get ready with her. But a payment issue meant there was a delay getting into her room. Nichola said: “I was in tears at this stage as I could see the clock ticking so knew I didn’t have long to get myself and kids ready.” Finally inside the room, realised her daughter’s flower girl outfit was left at home. She said: “I started crying, had a bare face, no make-up on, no dress on, no flower girl dress and half an hour to get ready.” She got text her bridesmaid could not make it because her children were sick. She called Darren in tearsWhen she called Darren to tell him all the problems, he told her to hurry up and get to the church. Nichola said: “He was at the church with eldest son. “Our guests were already getting seated, and when he told me to hurry up so stressed me even more.” The bride-to-be took her dress outside, intending to put it on at the church, but realised the vintage wedding car waiting to transport her did not have any seat belts. She said: “It was supposed to be taking me, but had kids she couldn’t put in a car with no seat belts. I was in such a panic. Then realised she’d missed her wedding Nichola said her ‘heart sank’ “I knew I had to calm myself down before driving my Ford Focus. The church was 20 miles away and she had 30 minutes to get there. Nichola said: “I knew I didn’t have a hope in hell unless I drove like Lewis Hamilton. “I had a wave of panic and, exhausted, lay down defeated. “My heart sank when I realised I’d missed own wedding, jilted my groom without meaning to. Nichola drove home to get her daughter’s flower girl dress and made her way straight to reception with her wedding dress still in boot. Nichola said: “Darren was livid. He’d been left standing in front of the guests, pleading with the vicar to wait but there were more weddings taking place.”Nichola and Darren broke up, and she says they both know the split was about the wedding. The DJ asking for payment was the final straw and Darren walked out. She went to their honeymoon suite and texted Darren, begging him to talk it over. She said: “He did come but was quiet and distant. “He fell asleep and I spent the night crying.” They decided to stay together but disastrous wedding day hung over them like a dark cloud. Nichola said: “In the end, there was no big showdown we just drifted further apart and split up. “I knew it’s because of the wedding and so did he. I just hope that one day he can forgive me.” Always be ahead of time for all schedules with plenty of extra time to deal with any unforseen circumstances. Wedding is extremely stressful so needs support of friends and family. Although that day may be special particularly for a bride it does not give licence to be consumed by the occasion or become rude bridezilla. Remember, people met on the way to the altar are the same people met on the way down from the altar. So be very careful of how you treat people around you especially friends, family members, colleagues who often pick up the pieces of a broken heart. Marriage relationship extends beyond wedding day so do not be preoccupied with the dream fantasy of glamourised celebration for one day only. It is good to enjoy the day but you need vital witnesses present to support you so respect, value and include them too. Delegate tasks be humble enough to accept people’s best efforts perfectionist madness ruins day for all. And unless exclusively marrying yourself as some do then take into consideration all who sacrifice precious time and own money to spend the day with you. You will soon be needing them when the real marital life sets in, so don’t burn your bridges.